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Ii TIE Patis of Peace 



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LILY E. F. BAB BY 

WITH ILLUSTRATIONS BY 

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THE CANADA ENGRAVING 4 LITHO. CO. L. 

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INDEX. 



The Message ok Peace '■^" 



Real Joy of Christmas... 

" Yeab Before Us 

Be Noble 

Our Mark 

Sklf-Help ...'....." 

The Pow^r ok Kind Words. ' 

•' Secret of True Skili 

DcTv OF Resting 

"VaLUK OF COL'RTESV 

" DouBTi.vo Heart 

Love is All 

Mine E.vemv 

Contentment 

True Distinction 

Mental Dignity 

The Trie Values of Things '!! 

Intellectual Like 

God's Good Gifts 

Revenge 

The Child's First School-Room 

" Nearest Duty 

Cause and Effect 

Provocation 

A Rich Inheritance 

The Motive Power of Love . . . . . 

On the Heights 

Searching fob Pearls 

The Perfect Rose 

Mildew of Monotony .... 

Relative "Values 

Self-Complacency 

The Imperative Dutv 

JeaIX)U3Y 

Perseverance 

Nature's Healing Touch...... ... 

The Seeds We Scatter 

Greatest Names 

Enjoyme.vt of Virtue 

Great and the Small... 

Ik We Had But a Day 

Solitude 



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lNDEX-(a,«/,««^^.) 



The Skchet of Holiness.. 

iMOKtsa Ui'Wakd 
Thk Fokmatiov ok Cuhactkb . 
Want oi Motive... 
■■ TKar OK Kduc.atio.v 

JiNCOUKAOEMENT 

SVMI'ATHV IN Joy 

Hidden Beahtv 

Toleration \ 

KA.STER Thoiouts .... 

An Kastkh Mystery 

The Soul's Standard 

'■ Family 

" Best Way..... ..'.' 

■ Art ok E.njoyment 

J< LOWER or Fruit ... 

JuiwE Not 

SKLK-nKLIANCE.. . . . 

I'OTENTIAL VlHTUfiH 

riiK Tell-Tale Countenance. 

LTnpROKITAHLENESS ok Gripp 

Shining at Home ' 

Ix)OK Forward. ... 

Family Strike..... 

Artikioial Deeos. 

Benekhent A( tivity 

*»RA1ITUDE 

Hospitality 

The Value ok Great Ideas 

PeRKECTION IN TltlKLES . 

The Prior Claims ok Duty 

^VMPATHY IN Failure... 

Ked- Letter D.ws... 

The Silent Beacon. 
" Force of Example!. 

Wm, Hammer and Chisel.. 

iv Harvest Time. ... 

The Wrong Way 

Mistakes ok Altruism 

Just Cri. icism . . . 

Unmst Criticism. 

The HioHT Kind OF Rivalry.. 

ART. THE JiDlXWTOl! 

Weariness 

Sklk-Love 

A Firm Footiiold 

•TWIXTD..WN and Dark 

Orowino i.v Wisdom 



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COXVKTIOX OK CimOM 

HuivEss ,\xi> Faihre. 

TlIK PlIILOsOl'lllC Hl-IKIT 

OUK I)K8KKT.-< 

SSKUVINt; O.Ni: M ASTKK ■ ■ . . ....W.^. ., . 

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Dlti.Vn V Ol-' L ABOl R 

Mka Cui.i'a 

TlIK W'KAK Ml.NI) ...... 

■• DiCNITV OK KoOI. ,, ' 

I.V.VO<-KNCK 

Hkkoi.«m IX Smai.i, Tiiixos..!. 

.SOHKOW's SWEKT IsES 

TlIK Two Clas.ses of Hi.MA.vnv ... 

Limit ok Asi'iu.vnox 

Mv Oariikn 

The Highest Kn()Wi.ki>oe 

■■ BOKK 

i*Ei.K-RKSTKAIXT 

Uki.a.xatiox 

The Place ok i^iietxess 

CHAIN.S OK HAHIT 

The Ekkkacy ok Wokk 

Dkiktino 

.Sl'XNV SCOT.S 

JUriLDINO KOR KtkKMTV 

ACQlriESCKXCE 

Modesty 

The Pre(iol-!s.\e.ss ok Oi-couti xhy! 

SWEKT AXI> SeRVICEAIII.E ' 

Xatukk'8 i^cllOOI.. 



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TO MV FATHER. 

Across the years, I seen to see 
Mmelf, a chUd, upon thy knee, 

mth eager hand, close held in thine. 
Tracing the first laboHons line. 

Ah! loving teacher, patietU guifle. 
Long have I missed thee from my side, 

Grieving and grateful, let me come 
To lay this token on thy tomb. 

L. E, F. B. 



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THE MESSAGE OF PEACE. 

Peace on earth, good-will to men, 
Christ IS horn in Bethlehem. 

"5^E want no sweeter nie^.a^e for tl.e week of 

^ Christmas than the old, joyous refrain with 

angels "«^i ^^u T-'",' ^«"S' ^^hen the " herald 

tTwaitin. T'l"* '}^ ^'''\ "^ '^' ^°^«"t S«^'iour to 
the uaiting shepherds, on the first CMiristraas night 

How triumphantly its pure, unrestrained gladness 

refutes the theory that Christianity is a sad reli^on 

Those notes and words of cheer, ringing dol the a"es 

with undaminished clearness ever sin^, Zve liSd 

humanity, year afte. year, believers and unbel eve:^ 

abke from the depths of despair in which their own 

ha': fiTd he" ^1^^^^"^-- ^^^ Pl-^ed l.Z, Zl 
have failed them with sweet repentance, new hope and 

high aspirations Who shall calculate'the num'bl of 

mas. And it comes so graciously at the death of the 

W' "" ^.r""^^"^ ^"d silent nature must othenvise 
inspire us with sadness. ' umerwise 

But neither the frost bound, snow-sheeted landscane 

he spectral trees, the inclement skies, nor the wintry 

bias s, howling and shrieking like baffl;d spirits of evf 

avail when the spirt of Christmas is abroad let 

mcTvy A\ho cares for the cold and bleakness out of 



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<^roppod at the shnW f rn^T; r/'-rl "'•^•^'•^'' ^^^^ 



THK MKssa«;k ok l-y.M.K 



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A !.....« .. r„ HH...r <Ih. lo,H.y an.| poor u„.| nml ..t 
one ,N ».. .... ,1 , '"''^"' '"'loii^s jiH rime, t„ 

ll r» „ lillinc l«^li.'f ntHi „„., wl,i,.|, inM.t ■ .11 l,ri„„ 

f". h u frhul |„,,,t f,„ Chnsfmus .nornin^- ! 

-ks nr. . ,11 w;.t .1,1. toar. f.-on. ^^ne m-o^ | L^^l 
, ; -has. hearts am still son- with bitter disap- 

Zfv r /''''•'' ^'"' ^''^ '"•'^" ^'f ti.e littlo one. 
fo the sako of those who love nnd live with you Ts 
^vell as for .your own. I>„t off th. vesture of Ifef ind 
re yo h,ve worn so ion. and put on a holiday '^ 
mcnt lust for the day. You are not forgotten Z are 
not alone, even though you cannot see yo^paVt in t}^ 

?oTSnn:dlh?f;> ^^^" though t-Lgif^trind ; 

Toasting and the lights seem not for you There arr. 

"veet„e. set' ^o^^i^ ^: t:^ ::^TC!:. 



IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 

«<■ 1.0 „f ?owl n ' ""■ »P'»"<'»'"-- Whether 

Christinus." °* "^ -»^ Alorry 



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THE REAL JOY OP CHRISTMAS. 

Christmas comes but once a year, 
And to all it brings good cheer. ' 

'^ yc^IZT""" "ncommon, at this season of the 

fhev " t "'" Ti r "^^" ^"^"^^^ '^""^'^ that 
iney hate and " dread " Chrio ^ TKn 

oxpla„ar.on of this singular attitude tolTr;^, a festha 

^^l^ch, of all others, should be most favourable o a 

S in . I' T^ .'^""^ ^^« «««««" brings to the 
"^ V^^^^^S of b.towing^.luall^ 

bir if ^^r r edi, t^^„, ^r^oZ^ciet 

but It surely does not improve the situation to look 

afc t?^T"' "^'' ^^'^ ^'"^ ^^"«*™«« spirit i an 
affair of the heart, not of dollars and cents, and VI 

for Jho^ outade one'a immediate family. NoLe L 
from the „bi,vf,f •'■^.Pr/'^' '""ong us are not exempt 
way and at T^ttl. ^ ""^ "^™' '" ' ^<^ P-»<=efnl 

devces for proving . kind remembrance of^e.? 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



^vo possihiv can. 1^. or Poor 1 ? '' '"'""^^ P^"^P^« «« 

Jikeuise. Even i ' \2T ^T"" ""^ ^^ ^"^ ^^o 
'"^« -e not fill I to oZZ ""'^ '^' ''"'^^^^'« «*«^k- 
l^ar<l, v-e can a Jo Jt !»• of! T^ ,^"''""^^ *""«« ««•« 
co.la; and hollv Jive hf "' '^'' ^'""^^ ^^^^'^ ^^^s of 

--.y a Lapp, ShS:; ot p::t^ tijir t'' \1 

storj...., s neiiiff ,|,c ol,? ^„„, 1 , . •* ""'8 "'o »'' 

our ,],-.„■ ,„„., |,p,,|,,,„ „,„,,■ •" ","•" """'> "-0 liiiv,. 
'viti, „.. \o., v' tl" '''7 "'"'<"■ "'" '""'" ■■""*■ 

if o,„..n.„. ■ \:;;:;: • s - 

'•amiot make moro of ,> ^*' ''""'''•^ ''^^«"se yon 

I mi^ht I.avo done .o n" 1^^ "Vj^'V' !'^ '^''^ ^''^' 
;"any a I.eart nt tlK^reZ-onc. ' of t^'f ' ^* ''^'^'''' 
kept no more oa earth ill ' , ,^'''' ^''''^^ ^^'^^ be 
parent. Yon t i Xl 'V '"''"^ '^"'^'' '"'^^'>''nd, or 
Hn-ldren, C ^')j^ "Tl^^' ^^ to ,-ive ^nr 
dear and pre.W ZL 1 ' ^-^'r^ «" I^'"'^"^^ «>•- ^he 
an.l cdK-erf'!:" -VroTV ' ^^^^^^/'.'^ed by love 

tl.0 nnmher and natnre of thl' T T"" '" '«^^'- ''f^' 

dHfchtfnl nivsterie. . , d 1' '''"'' ^'^''^'^^'^ *he 

Eve, the earlV wak;,;'' 1 ^'"^'-Pat.ons of (^hristmas 

^lay toi; oC%-:^ZtT '""T'V''^ '^^-^'^"^ 
.voars after, and lend: Vot J'chr.';'"' ''""^ ''^'' ^^"^^ 
t>on and si,nifieanee wholl,'^^ rn::i.^nr«- 



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Ill 

THE YEAR BEFORE US. 

Discourage fanciful ideas, abstract notions, and all 
ttl-cons,dered attempts to reach ends, which, however 
desirahle ,n fhnmehrs, are not placed vithin the 

compass of your abilities or duties Perform those 

duties ivhich ore present, plain and positive. 

— Daniel "Webster. 
OWEVER little one may be jjiven to the habit 
ot introspection, a backward glance or two at 
the opening of a Xew Year is almost inevitable. 
Ihey are not agreeable, these backward glances Often 
thev make onr cheeks bum with shame, our brows 
darken with self-contempt. The vista they reveal lie. 
tlirough a long valley of humiliation, through wiiieh 
arc flitting, like accusing spirits, the ghosts of our dea.l 
sms. bo many for pride, so many for selfishness, f..r 
extravagance, malice, hatred, jealousy and covetousness, 
Jor impatience, anger and recrimination! So manv 
ala^, ! for wasted hours, and unheeded opportun.tico for 
niisapplied energies, unworthy ambitions, neglected 
duties, breaches of trust and it mav be, other lances 
from our ideal which we hardly .larc to na.ne, even to 
ourselves. 

Truly, a disheartening record which might well 
induce despair were it not for the white stone here and 
there marking a duty faithfully performed, a sorrow 
nol)ly borne, an injury forgiven, a temptation resisted 
a ministration of mercy, a soft answer, a word in season.' 
lliis much at least, remains— in the mid^t of the 

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IN THK I'ATir.S OF I'KAOE 



ano.l,er o^eal whiot L^" g ^rknl " ^ '"''' 

Kind of iWpS:i:^,'L"[Sv:':";rr ^'■"' 

surface i ^" "^ immaculate 

overlooking. i„ „, ,„ ™' ''"P"' '""' aspirations, 

tainnl,I.e,rds;, :''.■: Zt^iZ"'"" '° "='"^'' ""»'■ 
pnsifivo." It i. rio-l.t to? • , " P"^*"'- P'"'" and 

service. ' *^ "^""P'*" »PP»rt..nities of In.mUer 

.elf fro,; /;\.r7 ,f;'l™'nfion of freeing .y„„r. 
sniee yon ninst do it whv not nJ' "' ^°"' '"<> 

.-aH^cation. ,, p„.f„;„i;'^ i^tr^per jaT,:::-? 



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IV 




BE NOBLE. 

Better not he at all than not be noble. 

— Alfred Tennyson. 

OBILIT\ of ch^.acter and of purpose gives to 
the humblest life a dignity that raises it to the 
level of the highest. Not what we do, but how 
and why we do it, determines our rank and status in 
the order of true merit. To serve faithfully is more 
honoral.le than to command badly. True nobility 
adapts itself courteously to the exigencies of time, 
place, and circumstances, concerned not with what is 
due to itself, but intent rather on supplying the needs of 
others. In reading the lives of great men and women, 
one cannot fail to be impressed with at least this one 
point of resemblance in which they all met — namely, a 
readiness to accept existing conditions with equanimity, 
to submit cheerfully to hardships, limitations and 
hindrances, rising above them all eventually by sheer 
patience, steadfastness, and determination. With a 
great end in view, it is wonderful how quickly one can 
surmount the most threatening obstacles, counting as 
nothing the toil, pain, or privations that must be 
endured. But when the heart is set only on small 
selfish aims, when it is greedy of pain, pleasure, praise, 
and every little passing gratification, the merest trifle 
becomes a means to the end, and thus may prove a 
source of disappointment or irritation as well as of 
satisfaction. 

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^'"•"^^^ that to-nt>m.. .1 II Z '"'■'■'•'''. '•^' ""^^^^•'"•'1 
proves tho sUnU^:iJ^VZ:r rr'rr ^'^ ^"'' 
I'ovond thorn, to riso , ■ ^^'^^ "'•'''t.v to soe 

nnotod .houM help to din.h h ; L'.t t' I"*' "'"'^■•" 
^ '^^ "•l"M-ont woaknoss of tho ties . " ? ./ """''T 
«t all tlian not ho noble." ^^'"^^'"'' "^' 



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OUR MARK. 



Let our livcf hr purr ns snowfldda, where our foot- 
steps leove a iu<irk hut not a sluiu. 

— Miulaiiio Swotcliine. 

tS clear and iininistakcabk" as the prints of Iniiiian 
feet on tlie unsullied surface of new-fallen 
s: i-, is the impression left by the personality 
of each one of us on the minds of those with wiiom wo 
come in daily contact. All unconsciously, it may be, we 
reveal with extraordinary distinctness, the exact trend 
and limitations of our moral nature, the size and shajie, 
so to speak, of our souls, as well as the directir.n in 
which thev are travelling. 

It is well sometimes, by reflection, to retrace our 
steps and consider the character of these impressions. 

Stand for a moment, as it were, outside of yourself, 
and look dispassionately at your own life, as at that of 
a stranger, overlooking nothing, but regarding yourself 
with the same unbiassed and scientific curiosity as you 
w.aild an inhabitant of the planet Mars suddenly 
brought under your observation. How terrible the 
truth would seem to some of us, viewed in this cold and 
critical fashion, which, nevertheless, is the fashion of 
the world in which we live. W-^ are apt to credit our- 
selves with all the good intentions which we have never 
succeeded in carrying out, the generous impulses to 
which we have not yielded, the kind thoughts about 
others which have never found expression in words, the 
tenderness which has concealed itself beneath a coM 
exterior. We know all about our own secret emotions 
of gratitude, love, repentance, religious fervour, and we 



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p.'Hi u„„;, u r, I :r'''s ''r' '- ""' «"■ ""' 

"'"■'.vs ,„.i,h,T .n„r,. „.:'•„, '^:':;'' "" ;■'"■ •■• ■- - 

i«.«i,v un.i,iv ,,,",•■• ,. '"-y i'";-""«"i." •• .. I,,.,,,.. 

''•■'H'iir.iiur/;;.,.,j^,:::;::;'-:;;;;-p' f"..- 

.■as., mav I,,.. '■ '>""'• •■'".•lfi.l,"as(k, 

.lifllioiiw from willinnt „. I ■.■• ""'"<^- iMscvprv 

■■..<-.t,t! .rsr;:; ,„?"'• '"■™"''"'' "-■'■■■'"v 
'1..' citsido ;„ ,M ' i;^'°S"; "' "'" »"■" li™ tvo,;, 

le..!.,al crowtl, ,,,37^ ■„,;'■•""■ """••■'' ■■""' ""<•■■ 
accmlane. , ■ tl> ? ho " "/ ' •T"^" " P"''""''" *».• .>*. in 

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SELF-HELP. 



The ttnlif sound mid /iralllii/ (Icsrrivlinn nf tissisliinr<> 
is thitl V'liirh Icnrhrx l)nI('i)fii(lt'H(T avd srif-lirlp. 

— W. !-:. (Jlii.l-fonr.. 

nlp^KOM the time that a child Ix-f^iris to h-ani the ii-«- 
^K£ (if his fcf't, tlic tnolhcr gnuliially ;^ivi's up \\i<: 
)»ra(',ti('(' of carryiiif; him in her arms. 8h(; feel •: 
110 (h'crcaso of toiMlci'Ticss towards the littlo one that 
toddles l»y licr side, hut fllio knows lliat for his ri^'ht 
physical dovclopmcnt lu- needs to exercise the unused 
inuHclos that are called into play only wlien he is erect 
and active. Xo intellifient person would accuse her of 
unkindness when slie resists tlio appeal of the little out- 
stretched arms aii<l ^'cntly insists that " Bahy will 
walk." If she followed the inclination of hr-r own 
heart she woidd keep the child in her arms as lon^' as 
her stron,i?th permitted her to do so, but knowing this 
woidd n«»t 1)0 for his ultimate good she coaxes or evfu 
commands him to use his feet, and thereby teaches him 
his first lessons in independence and self-help. 

How much or how little we should, in later life, 
assist otliers weaker or more unfortunate than ourselves 
is a problem that confronts us all, and is by no means 
easy to solve. We have hasty impulses of genero>ity 
which move us to ^ive of our surplus wherever it 
appears to be needed, or we even deprive ourselves of 
some accustomed comfort in order to bestow food and 
raiment on a suffering' fellow-creature. We do not 
immediately perceive the liarm that is frrquf-ntiy 
wrought by the indiscriminate sharing of our substance 



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:''^""-'-' ''.v .1... .lis, .;',„;;" ""'^ i-" i^ n,.i..,v 

Vn-:;::jr:;!:;;;::\rrr^ n 

.•'(hrn,..I. II,,, , I,,,..,.' " ■^•""'•''' " ".n.v I„. ,,,-.|v 

^^'V'"^"''''- '",„v UMfor ,' / '""""•«•'•"■•'">.•.• who,,, 
'■'^••>'"v 1.0 n,..,v ho si , ';"" "'••'" '•'"••^"'v-s. WI..M, i, 

'^'^-r'"-'- ''-'"rlh.M. proof n.i, "'" •,ir'-<>'"ify tl.,,s 
. ^ ';" >'-- nil 1„, Ll of h :. '"""••^'"'-- '•« wi.nfo.1. 

'•'T^^"['^^" of his I,,,,,. I '';:•; '''^7'' J'opin,,^ f,>r a 
";f <^'' '^•vi,.^. ,11 tho hon , V o' ,/''''■' r''^''''^'-' ^"'<l I.o 

«'^^;<>i;p..n„nHosthnMj:;;v;;;--'<K^ 

^-"-o„si;;.o;;:;i,;;^|;,:;;";; i^-ons who ,ro o„<.o 
'^--'^ 'i'->. a„.i;i;oi'u:"r^--''--o..t..o„3>io 

^^•>tl. rho other wo do no '. "*^ ""^^ ''^"^ ^^ «^n-e that 

"^ "'^eoii.seiou8iy destroy. 



VII 
THE POWER OF KIND WORDS. 

ffnp,,i„rs. is „ ,,rrnl ,,n,rrr of /,n/inrss. ThuH, kind 
'""■.Is, In, /„•„• ,,o,rrr of ,u;.l„n,u, hnpplnr.s, ha,, also 
' /";"•'•'■ "/ pn.lann;, l,„linrss, ,n„l so of uuLhn, m.u 
'" '""'• ~~V. W. Fal..r. 

,^:Fin'r()nS ,„.,-o,H who ,,hhum,p ;, r,.„Horio,H or 
•,% n.|.iM,u.|ifi,l i,|ii(,„|,. (owi.nis (|„: vvcjik and 
<Tn.,;,r ,„,^. |„. ,H„„„..| l.y (|,„ |„,,f, i„f,.„fions, 
'"'< 1... MH.r,. „„«or(„„.,f.. „„,,„s co„l,| Ik. n.lopf,..] to 
-•-MT tlu. ,.,Hl flu-y l.av.. i„ vinw. TIm- firs,, nl„|,, of 
- v..n(.v or „„„„to,st ,|is..,p,,rovHl is ..nhappi,,,.., to its 
"''•'"'•' "•"' "'•/•'•'"'"'••■n is |c.sM fnvoun.M,. ,luu. thin fo 

......v. ln.|onn....,.,n. ()„,.'s |„n,H.M.o for , I over on.'s 

l.llmv-,.r..ntnr,.s IS ,„ a .hn..,, ratio to one's powr-r ..f 
«-"f.-rnM^r |M,pp„H.Hs o„ tin.ni. A ki.nl, ^.,,ij, .„„.„^. 
'"■^'" -'••""••<' »l-^ lov<-.s the si.uu.r whii; l.ati,,;ttl 
'.H ...any n.or,. cl.aneos of survoss i„ movin^r waywanl 
-r s to .j.p.,.t„nc. than tho aust.rHv n-H.^ionlTo 
<i.. has only a froNvn or a rehnk. for hnrnan frailtios. 
'"•I<'''<1, It rnn hm-.liy l,o donl.tr.j that amonrr tho 
H.rpn.s..s o the J„d^nu.nt Day, not iho h-a^t will 4 to 
'i.-«,vor- that n.Mlt.tnclfvs of sonis wr-ro driven haek 
fn.n. th. paths of virtne l.y .h. ropolh-nt aspect o t h^e 
who wont hoforo thojn. i -- ^J uiose 

The kind of porfoetion which makes anv man or 
wo,„an Hisa^Tooahlo to those uronrul them shonid ho 
roirardod with suspicion. Real virtue is not ]oJ)Z 
^•ven more allnrin^r than vice in any shape. Tho'holi- 
c.t man 1 have ever known was also the kindest and the 



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most ni;r«>(>ahIo OnN- ♦ . i • 

a« Ncrlal.lo .Ml.Mir of sanc-titv. Tl... ,„„«f, irr..|.Vio,H 
an. „oton,>..s .sinM.-rs i,. „... ,,,„, ,,,„ ,..„ ,,^ 
k oM.nu .av. win, -vsp,.., ,n<l a.ln.in„io„. , 
••f">r . Uu't, paf.nuv an.l p.Mtl.-.u.ss, h. ncvor ,.,., 
»"iH<Ml l.i.nsrlf to iiU.TfVro uifl. H ' ^ 

«innM, to I.„n «s to a ,„afru..t. II,. niti,.cl tlu- orrii l I . 

:;o:;:i;;;:, "':^^' '''\ I'r- r^''- --^-i it^-o; 

-nistrations l.a,l rcfl-osl..! and .^nf!^-,'! '" '"*' 

lovor'tvp o/ !r'"''" "" ^]'^^ ^'^•'"^' -^-'»P'«rs of this 
untu t\i)o of tho saviour of sonls. Most of us wiH, 

P.t. n, p,>s„nH.ion, rato o,„. own virtues shH. .r 

^^e hold oursolvos ah.of fro.u thos,. who falter ml f 1' 1 

m ho upward path or, wo n,ako thoir " ,! ' ' 

^Znf^^^t ''' ^^'' disapproval o. birds'" 
n gm^ rebuko. and ovon ooca..ionallv by nnoallod-for 
and thoroforo nnportinont ron.onstranoo. Thi. i' n 
our part m l.fo. Wo aro not tho jud:,os of on noth ' 
actions or niotivos. That is tho divi.io r;^ ' ^ 
Can wo doubt that it is safo in God's hand > K n . ' 
poor sinnors, and sorry failures that wo aro at tho bo ' 
1 IS most booonn-no: that wo should olos- ou ■ < vo. n i 

nr^uithl 1 TT""^ ^"^^" '''"-' ^'y '^-'"d words, and 

npl ft h„n l^v a noblo oxamplo, .vo o:m at least lot h 
jp l„s way ,n poaco. AVo can nohold tho hoj, 
dv^ni<.v and beauty and loveablono.s of true o i.: o 
by refraining from the slightest word or aot unwoPhv 
of one who aspires to tho name ox Christian ""''^'''^■^ 



VIII 



THE SECRET OF TRUE SKILL. 

I'jfirh mi,jhl his srrrral prnrhin- null. n„niii,n„L 
Would all h„l sl„„i, l„ whnl Hir,j umlnshnul. 
^^ — Alcxiiiuhr I'ojtc. 

'IpIIK (•on.s(-i...iHn.-ss of i,.,wcr i< ;„■ unfailing s.,nr,.... 
^ «>t plouHiin! to its poHscs^ur. Kimwlclj.,. is power, 
and theroforo wli(..so(,vcr jic(|uircs rojil kiiowlfdm! 
in any dop«r(„u.nt of Hrwun-, art or i.id.istrv, l,n<.o„„M 
ly m nmrii the inaHtcr of hi,,, who ivmairis J^aioraiit ..f 
the same suhjct. Thc-o is prolml.ly no livin- l„„„an 
bon.K who iH not fitted in .'xeel in .son.e partin.h.r kind 
of work, hut not all take the rijrht n,.-as,„-e fo,- aseer- 
tainin^r the real Lent of their natures, and the limit of 
their capacity for useful achievement. The avera-c 
girl lacks thoroughness in her methods of workin- and 
studying. Slu! ehoos(,s a calling often at random, or 
for the sake of some slight social or <,ther trivial 
advantage, which has n..thing whatever to do with her 
spcc-ial fitness for it. Then she strives for the kind of 
prornmeneo which is achieved l,y outward appearances 
and IS satisfied if she makes a decent living and wins a 
few agreeal.Ie friends. But she knows nothing of the 
sweet satisfaction that grows out of the conscious 
mastery of a subject, through serious and concentrated 
eflort to overcome its (linicltics. 0„e yirl thinks she will 
be a pianist, not l)ecause she is "moved l»v the concord of 
swot sounds," and becaus.. her love of "music surpasses 
every other love she has hitherto felt, but because a 
certain degree of proficiency in piano-plaving will 
ensure her popularity and bring her into prominence 
wherever she goes. She will not succeed, because one 
80 vain and shallow will never .nderstand the exquisite 



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-ir,.H„, i„„,,,„ti,v ,.,''''' ^\''«;/^';m'':% <- 

v;iiiitv iiii.l ..u: i" . ••i"«'<r iMiilf upon 

i"v„i,M i,„i„i„,iv ,„,„.,,; i"'' ';."'" "f " f'-,"'/"ii.-s 

"^'v.''X'::,,!;i,t:: """ ri", "-'■', "■"•""■•"' •■" "- 

.>!, .,11 '"""""' '" "I'K'li "n,. I,,,s iKvri l,„rn or 

o ■• ■ r"'T' ■■"■■■"-'"■"•- Ti„. i„„n, ', ,; 
"^-■>";i:.:;:!;:\:;,';:r':;'z:,:::'''^;'; -r' 

• • . -^' "-'^N ^^"on von do not i ii-r von rnfi...;,, 

:;:';:;;;r",'rf ' "'•::■"'■■"• '''•■ "- '^••^' '^i..' tin- ™ 

.1 S: ;, : Z'l-f : i"'^ "" f"-\ i-T'"-^ -rvc. like 
. »; o,„. ,.,.,.,, i, ,,„„„,,, ,,.!'::,";„;:;-- 

- -a.!. ..PP. to ..ppi.v It to liumble tasks. 



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THE DUTY OF RESTING. 

n/n„ yoH havr found a d,nj lu h, nl/r, hr Ulr [,„■ a 
day. , . ' 

^IVKN n favMural.N. op,K,rt„r.ity, iIh- ....jority of 
If^ ''."nkn,.! rc..,..in. littl., ,H.rs„asi,M. .,, ,ak.. a 
holMlay. I{y ,„a„v, in<|..,..|, tli.. li^^M.-sf, ,,n.|..xt 
f..r I,ll,.^,.s.^ ,.s ..../rcl „,,o„ all t..o .aK-rly ; |,„f, lluro 
arr o„ 11... ..(l,,.,. j,,,,,,!, ,„„„|„.,.s of won,..,, to ^vl,o,M f|.,. 
art, ot r...Hf„,^. a,.<| »ak,„K n.-natio,, i, a wholly 
nnk.HHvn Ho,„y,. of p|,,,s„r.. and profit. To huH. an 
.<-• tlM| w..nls of tl.„ Chin-s. p,.,,, ,„ay l.n approp,i- 
atcly atlilrcsscMl. « i i 

Ah a n,l<., it is tl,n wonia,, wl.o has tl,„ ^roatf-st n.-..| 
ot a nuh.la.y who is most avrs,. f,. ,akir.- one- TIm- 
^nsy |.o„s,.krrp..r, tlu, tin-.l ,„oth..,- of a yonn^ lamilv,' 
wor ...,. tl... t....a.l,n II of h.r „,...,..linK .lily tasks fr.,;,! 
«n..k.s .....I t., w....ks ,.,„|, ...o.v.s at, last to h.-liev.. th.t. 
for l,or, lM.yo„.l tl... „a,-,-.,w .-in-l.. of h.-r home, th., 
u-orl. no l..n^n.,. ..xists. S., ..fr....t„ally .I....s .sho ,.„t 
H-..s,.|f ofT from all .ntomsts not i.nn.o.liatdv afr....tin« 
!.«• ^^'v\Un■v .,t h.r fa,„i|v, that if you w..u'l,| .sn^r^ost 
t- l'«'r to ak.. a holi.h.y, sh,- w..nl.l I... at a loss to know 
vvhero or how t., .sp..n.l it. Sh., .,von takes mneh omiit 
o herself for h.,,,^. „o devote.l to her l.on.e ar..| family 
hat she ,s unal.lo to spare a n...ment from th.. labours 
her dov.,t.on nnp..ses. It .lo..s not oceur to her that 
>y thus wilfully shuttin^^ her eyes on the brightness and 
.oauty ^,at l,elon^..s to her as n.ueh as to any one else, 
sfie IS ofTerin- an aflFront to Provi.lenee who placed her 
here am surround.-d her with so many evid.u..es of 
watchful care and love. 



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JN' THE PATHS OF I'EACK 




plate but wifh 1 ^ '"^' '° ^"^"^^ ^'^ contem- 

heroine after a S^L ""t t '"'' "'" ''" ""» ••■ 
!.«• persistent reS tVre , ! f T"'*"" ''"^'""•y- 

nuu4 «ss,„„e "tl^ee 3 a"ebS.%Tr°*r'',"'''; 
.-.nd children, and tl.ev too LT ctn 11. T, f ""' 
...a".v „n innocent relaxation ,h„',d'''K'" ,^''8'' 
"."nent va „e to ti.eir bodies and ^Z ' ""■ 

aek otvW e "tlnl'VefZ '"-T"*"^ ^""O ""' ""- 

H... .-eas;U''tttTe\hoHS :? 1;.^ "^ -";?" 

_™nde,,r of the universe, her liWeTai.y ta ks are of.t 
, ^^orse, but a thousand t mes hcttar- if +u u ' 

s|K.ceed,ns honsehold cares, and filling Ae heartThi: 
fresh eom-ase to face ne«- difficulties. If !,,"?„ „' i 
only a ,lay to be idle, be idle, at leas, for a day 



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X 

THE VALUE OF COURTESY. 

Manners sometimes count for more than morals. 
Most of us would rather pass an evening with a well- 
hred highwayman, than an hour with a clownish saint. 

— From "Guesses at Truth." 

.»IK"'^^^7 courtesy, is so closely allied to real virtue 
^I that It IS well-nigh unpossible for the one to exist 
independently of the other. The foundation of 
good manners being an unselfish desire to please the 
practice of them necessarily entails the cultivation of 
<dl the most amiable virtues. The proud, the covetous, 
the envious, the malicious, the vindictive, the irritable, 
or the slovenly, never aftain perfection of manners. 
On the other hand, the truly upright, generous, modest, 
oan scarcely fail, be their means of education ever so 
iniitod to acquire a charm of manner which renders 
them eligible for companionship with the most culti- 
vated people. 

A "clownish saint," is therefore in reality a 
paradox. No one who has scaled the heights of 
Uinstian perfection can have failed to perceive that 
the great precept of charity, " love one another " 
('ujoms on all men the same gentleness, forbearance 
mid thoughtful consideration for their kind, as are 
<onimanded by the unwritten laws of politeness. There 
has never been a more perfect gentleman than the 
Pounder of Christianity. How, then, can any pretend 

i>e like Ilim. whose rude clownish manners inspire 
ineir fellow-creatures with abhorrence and contempt 



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r(m„ „„|,.s,.„,jj Cliris,,,,,,, „.|,„ ,,r,..e,„i,„.,„rv 

^^homoot. on tho snbim of J^^^^ 

affairs. Ilor visit, aro-c ovo K ,L t Jl"? ^"•■"•' 



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cfficiont, auxiliary of tlic zc-al.niH Christian. WitluMit 
it tho l)c.«^, directed efforts are likely to rcHiilt in more 
harm than good, but by its aid 'mountains may be 
mov<.d. Politeness, like tho lever Archimedes longed 
for, can move tho world. 



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THE DOUBTING HEART. 




At every irifk, scorn to take o/fence, 

I Hal always shows groat pride or little sense. 

— Pope. 
(UKL J kiunv lives in a i.crpott.al turmoil because 
j 1.0 «h,«I.ts sl.o in.a.^n-,u..s her friend, pnt upon 
li«i. Jl(>r egotism is jw-sitively a disease She 
.^ooms to tlnnu she o.eupies 'so large a lace in ^ In 

MiUo uord or perform a single action without the 
a oued or cover antc>ntion of wounding her feelinj 

ciiarit.% to harbour such unkmd and generally uniust 
suspicions of really woll-moaning persoi, , o ^ha her 
"mversa distrust of others is equivalent to rconfe Jon 
o ogregioiis ^^nity, which suffers unless cons antir ^d 

1 St "; "'T''^ '"'r''''''- ^ ^"«"^' '^^-orbed 
in thought, It may be, or perhaps deeply worried about 
^^ome private matter, passes hej on tL^treet wil 
seeing her, or bows with less than usual cordialiTy and 
straightway, she flushes ^nth indignation ; teZ'Joi 

Scrert;:^irrf •^'". ^7^^ ^'?^-^^ - " 

to .av " A V f "Vrf ^' ^'^"^^ "^* «^^"^ t« her 
to sa.v . .Afy friend looks anxious to-dav, I fear she 

n;ny have received bad news," and to pas^ ^n tmd 
turbed save by a kindly impulse of sympathy. ' 
far .T ''"''T ""^"^^'ered, a visit is not returned 
for a few weeks and the unconscious offende^ls 
bitterly accused of rudeness or inconstancy, while a 



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tlie titrio t\w. oiinHHiOn of the expenfed courtesy may ho 
due to illtirsa, pressing engagfimcnta, or other important 
causes not always easily exphiine<| to one outside tho 
family circle. 

Similarly, in countless ways, one who goes ahout 
seeking for causes of offence, may find them, real or 
imaginary, on every side. How more than foolish thus 
voluntarily to emhitter one's life with fancied griev- 
ances, when with a little less pride and a little more 
sense, one can readily learn to overlook trifling vexa- 
tions, and to suppress feelings unworthy of onesself 
and imjust to one's friends. 

The hahit of distrust, if suffered to take root in the 
heart is difficult to dislodge ; young girls should there- 
fore guard against it as one of the most formidable 
obstacles to their future happiness. It is better to bo 
generous and believing, even if we are sometimes 
deceived, than from too great caution, to go through 
life with doubt, like a canker worm for ever gnawing 
at our hearts. 



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LOVE IS ALL. 

The worldy amhiUom, empty cares, 
Its small disquietudes and insect stings 
DMed her neur. She was one m!de up 
Of feminine affections, and her life ^ 

^^as one full stream of love from fount to sea. 

, — Henrv Tavlor. 

.HE poet wlio.0 linos I have quoted has taken U- 
f then.o -V Perfect Wonmn," and even in t 

and tn:^^tr "' '' ''' ^'^'^ ^ « -'^ ^-tS 
^tlnsu repining, these are what make the ideal wom-m 

dormant, the most endearing trai^ of hpf.l? ' 

T-nsuspected imtn th^ *^, u J , ^^ character are 

them forth It it f^ '^' ^''^' ""^'^^^ ««"« 

be loved t th ;;;\rp"oe'riIkeV^^T \'''' ^"^ 
"aj' me poets like to write about, but 



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there are other ways hardly less swnet and satisfying, 
in which each of us may find an outlet for our 
** feminine affections." 

Perhaps it is an aged paront, or a helpless infant, or 
invalid, who leans upon our love. Be it husband, 
parent, child or friend, let our devotion be but unselfish 
enough, and it will prove the highest source of happi- 
ness to ourselves as well as to its object. Without this 
foundation, no woman can make a success of her life. 
She will build with cards upon shifting sands, and some 
day will sit weeping among the ruins, realizing when 
too late the cause of her failure. Let Lo, -, then, be our 
watchword, the end and aim of our existence here; as 
it also will be in the world to come. 



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MINE ENEMY. 

He who ha/h a /housnud friends 
llaih not a friend to spare, 

^^nd he who hath an enemy 
Wi/l meet him everywhere. 

— Omar Khavvani. 
. '"^'"^^fi^es on the immun tv thov hivo <fnur.^A 

m«ki„, ,„d keopi,,, «o„d. is'; oitd tr™;/ 

ombnrras^en^ 1 ei' fri nd"^: T'" J" ^T' °* 

-V"ht o„gcr,v'b,v alllho ™tt';L„'.™*^ ''^^"'^^•' ""<! 

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efforts to vin jukI retain tlio ostecm of (Ifsirablc 
ncciuuintanccH, and a hick less few jw^ver snecju'ci at all 
in really inspiring their fellows with sincj-re feelings of 
atfeetion. 

To make enemies is nn easier matter. It is <liffieult 
for the most amiahly disposed perso.i iti I he world U> go 
through life without ex«Mting jealousy in some rpiarter, 
and from this unhai)py viee, <piarrels and hitter hatreds 
spring all too readily. 

Great is the ])ower of an enemy to poison one's daily 
peace, for, as Omar says, we meet hitn everywhere, it 
is then^fore wf>rtl» while to exereise sonu; <;are and self- 
restraint in order to avoid giving offence to any with 
whom we may have dealings. lint for this, it is not 
m'eessary to take refuge in the ignohle safety of eom- 
])leto isolation, whieli must ultimately generate a 
narrow, selfish, suspicious nature. Tluf hotter plan is 
to meet one's fellow-creatures in an open, friendly 
spirit, making careful selection here and there of such 
as are worthy to grapple to one's soul with hooks of 
steel, and exercising tact and judgment in keeping at 
arm's length those who are likely to ^ rove troublesome 
or dangerous. 

True friendship, resting on a basis of mutual affec- 
tion and esteem, is inspired by individual worth alone, 
and thus is not susceptible of change ; but, if made to 
depend on outward circumstances, such as convenience 
or temporary' advantage, friendship is indeed but a 
name, and destined to vanish before the first real test 
put Tipon it. 

Enmity is often the fruit of a false friendship. Tf 
you would have no enemies, be hostile to none. Love 
begets love in the wide as well as in the more limited 



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CONTENTMENT. 

If the sun shines on me I mm ««/ / n 

^n me, I care not for the moon. 

—Italian Proverb. 

ouo ,„ „Wi„„<y devoid oilLl Y.tZy"""'' °" 
IS not, at timos miilti- nf „ i;i T ,• . ^"° ""'O'isst us 
'vilfu Iv in,„ri„^ ;, ' ° ''V" f'."*''""!«! How often, 
-ss, that?, "L't tf ,, "■"^". r"-« "f happi- 
<lo wo no, doliboratoTv .lM,t o "''«'" °" "^"--^ »'''<>. 
wondor l>ecau.c "me t . '' °-™' ""'' grieve and 
bevond onr roaol. '"■' ^ S™'ifi<'ation ,3 

thought, for in^fnnnn . *k ' ^^ ^^^® barely a 

tions of whid, »),„,. ™"et.v of ap^eable sensa- 

dailv t Jks/we foil rrelT L"*/"'"™""'^'' °f »" 
«ro ,,nablo ,0 find Uric ♦fd^ n ^?^"'. °^ ""•«■ '''■» 



idtiring family affect 



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tho moon of frmtitlrd vanity, of nn empty popularity, 
of passing social j)rominenco. There are women who 
take a far keener delight in exciting the admiration of 
strangers than in tightening the bonds of love and 
respect that unite them to husband or children. In a 
vain attempt to outdo a neighbour, they will spend time 
and money that they grudge to bestow in an effort to 
amuse a fractious little one or to increase the comfort 
of home. 

There is some streak r.f perversity in human nature 
which causes it to view with indifference the blessings 
actually within its reach, while attaching a quite ficti- 
tious value to those that appear to be inaccessible. This 
pecidiarity often develops into a real mania. There 
are women who cannot possibly feel contented while 
<k'nied any privilege or possession accorded to other 
women. The better fortune of a friend or neighbour 
is to them only a constant and mortifying reminder of 
the restrictions which prevent them from sharing in 
the coveted joy or gain. Such an unhappy disposition 
reveals a discreditably low mental and moral level, 
which, as long as the possessor makes no effort to rise 
above it, neither commands nor deserves sympathy. 

If, instead of counting up enviously the superior 
advantages enjoyed by those around us, we would give 
the same time to estimating at their true value the 
blessings vouchsafed to ourselves and denied to so 
many, we would not often be guilty of the absurdity of 
crying for the moon while the sun is shining brightly 
over our heads. 



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TRUE DISTINCTION. 

From lowest place where virtuous things proceed, 
The place ts dignified by the doer's deed. 

^v . — Shakospp^irt'. 

^O ITMANITV ,„av l,o divi,],,,! i.itu two cl .s.c.s 

Ci.,1 mnwW, those wl.o borrow ,,r.st,> from theif 
surroundiiip* an,l those who lend it to thom 

Ihe chstmction is plainly perceptible, whe eter me n 
and women conp-epue in any numbers, whether 

iny hamlet or in the erowded metropo is. There are 
a ways some who shine only in reflected li^h whi e 
ot .e. car-, the source of illunnnation witLn' tl^lt 
solves. , former are not greatlv to be envied 

because their temporary prominenc-e, 'beinff dependent' 

precanous. Tlie latter, on the contrarv suffer no 
depreciation in altered conditions or surro^i'ndi ^7 , ^ 
are welcomed wherever they po and in whatever i," 
being readily recognized a. valuable additions to f^^ 

mienor ty— or of mediocrity, at least,— to make one's 
ncco.^ in any direction, hinge on purelv exten al co„di 
tions or circumstances. What we are. not what wo do 
nor where and how we live, must ever be ?he mo't 
obvious and interesting fact concerning us. 

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improvcmont as am within our reach, wc cannot fail to 
achieve a kind of personal distinction tfuit will 
announce itself to all who meet us. 

If we arc nnabht to win admiration, cfltccm or popu- 
larity, in our native hamlet, it is extremely unlikely 
that prcater success will atten<l us, in that sensr-, in the 
crowded city. Iluiiian society, the world over, is 
comi)oscd of the same elements. Men and women of 
evei\y prade are subject to the; same emotions, the same 
passions, the same jealovmies and ambitions. The 
MUiiliticH that c.iikf Dw. \voikiM._r-^M,.i ,i favourite amoii" 
Imr liunihie .•niii|.iu.i(.i,.s. an, I.iu. sli-l.t.ly, if at iilF 
(lifler.:iit from iIkk,. that mmmit.- iinpiiJarity tr. th.- 
Avoman of rank and fashion. Personal dislikes in high 
life as well as low, si)rin^' from much the same cau.-^eH. 

The l.iuKraplii.'s ..f ^w.M uh-u and woiiic,, fiiniish 
numlH-rlesH mstann^s wlnCt, ,„uv<. »hat. inlicnMit 
nobility of character will proclaim itself, no matter how 
narrowly it is hedged in by unfavourable cirrvyristances. 
How many once obscun; villages and humble home- 
steads have won world-wide celebrity from the fact that 
this or that great poet or artist, statesman or philan- 
thropist once lived, or first saw the light within their 
limits ! And in the great capitals of the world to-dav, 
how often do visitors from distant countries pass coldly 
by the greatest triumphs of modem architecture, to 
penetrate to some obscure street where they pause 
reverently before some shabby house front which is 
pointed out to them as the birthplace or residence of 
a man of genius. 

It is plain enough that a place, however humble, mav 
be " dignified by the doer's deed." So, when we are 
tempted to carp at our surroundings and lay upon them 
the blame of an inferiority which chafes us, le<- us 
rather turn the searchlight' of criticism inwards, and 
with proper humility confess that the defect is one of 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



deTonr'/. *^'^ "^ opportunity. If there be any 
element of true greatness within us, we shall uncon- 
seiotisly nnpross it on our work, and reflect it in ox^r 
personality. When wo fail to do this, it is because of 
our own unfitness, a sense of which 'should suffice to 
keep us silent whenever the temptation to rail at our 
opportunities is uppermost in our hearts. 






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MENTAL DIGNITY. 



If any one should set your body at the mercy of every 
passer-by, you would be indignant. When, therefore, 
you set your own mind at the mercy of every chance, to 
be troubled and perturbed, have you no shame of this ? 

— Selected. 



?0 be vexed or disturbed over affairs that are 
entirely the concern of others is, we must regret- 
fully admit, a purely feminine characteristic, as 
harmful as it is ridiculous, and that is saying a good 
deal. Every woman will acknowledge that the 
startling piece of intelligence about a neighbour, which 
has filled her thoughts for a day to the exclusion of 
every other, is apt to be received with perfect stolidity 
by the men of the family who will probably dismiss 
the subject with a non-committal "Humph," and 
straightway plunge into the discussion of one quite 
foreign to it, but in which thoy take a more legitimate 
interest. This sensible attitude of the masculine mind 
to matters without its jurisdiction assumes the aspect 
of a fault in the eyes of the woman to whom gossip is 
as the breath of life. John's provoking indifference to 
the extravagances and eccentricities of his neighbours, 
instead of being a rebuke for her lack of sense and 
dignity, becomes merely a source of irritation that 
reacts to his prejudice in various wave. 

For the wrinkles and gray hairs produced by needless 



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patronzzes the most expensive milliner? or ufc' 
who has a young family, spends more time ouTof her 
house than m it ; or Miss Y., of uncertain age^^ assumes 
^le airs of sixteen. What, then ? Each of the el only 
pkying her part in the great human comedy, ryou 
and I are playing ours, all of us being equally unfus 
picious of the impression we are makinfon the disb er 
ested spectator. Shall I fret and fume or look sour 

matr' ""Vt"'' ^'' ""'' ^^^^ ^«ked as to Tar ous 
matter which are quite without the range of my 
interest or sympathy ? How obviously absurd to allow 
^.^equanimity to be disturbed b/such ir^LtnT 

" '-{^^^^^est flower of true courtesy as well as the rinest 
fruit of common sense is the tact which recognL7the 
prescriptiye right of every individual to manSrhis or 
her own peijonal affairs, free from interferenT d rect 
or tacit, on tlie part of mere outsiders. It may n^t beTn 
the power of all of us to command consideTaln of thS 

exercise it oureelves m favour of others. Not oJy 

hall we contribute largely by so doing to the happine^ 

of our family and friends, but we shaU also effect a vas^ 

eere'f^JlaT""" Z' ^^^"^"^^ ^^^ tot heVt 
reserve for later expenditure in a worthier cause A 

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tion to the exclusion of what is really fine, helpful and 
uplifting. If we be not as scrupulous in regard to our 
minds as to our bodies, our sense of modesty and 
dignity is but half developed. A commendable degree 
of fastidiousness in both directions is necessary to 
produce the perfect flower of true womanhood. 



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THE TRUE VALUES OF THINGS. 

To call things by their right names and to know 
their rtght value is half the science of life. Their Z 
names are the names God calls them by ; th7r true 
value ts the value He sets upon them. 

2.^ — F. W. Faber. 

OTHIN-G is more repugnant to us than the idea 

that v;e are being deceived bj others, though a 

very httle reflection will convince us that we 

7hfrZ/""' 7^?/^"b^« «^°tive is not hard to find at 
the root of nearly all our actions. The plausible, credit- 

secret, selfish ami which we would die rather than 
acknowledge. It has been well said that hypocrisy '^ 
the tribute vice pays to virtue. Most of us have the 
grace to be ashamed of our weaknesses, and we instinc- 
tively seek to cover them up with at least the appear- 
ance of a good intention. Unfortunately the habit of 
striving to seem better than we are becomes, in time a 
second nature and, at last, we find a difiiculty in deter- 
mining whether we have any sincerity in us at all. 
Until we are wihng to drop the mask of conscious 
virtue which It pleases us to wear, and to summon up 
sufficient courage to look at the true likeness of our 
souls m the mirror of absolute honesty, we shall not 
comprehend ever so faintly the nature of the obliga- 
tions iaid upon us as servants of Christ. 



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It is a mcK'kcry to mako our reli.i'ioii consist in certain 
formal acts of outward (iovotion, pc.-tornied at state<l 
times and in ways prescribed for us by rule or custom. 
It is in all the acts of our daily life th:it our faitli and 
love must show forth as ruling and guiding principles. 
If we truly love God and our neighbour as we profess 
to do in church, why that sudden pang of envy and 
resentment when we see another preferred Ixjfore lis ? 
If, indeed, our hearts are set on spiritual things, how 
can wo explain the passion of anger that invades them 
when some injury has bee!' done to our property ? We 
claim to bo humble, yet the merest shadow of a slight 
inflicted on us agitates us for days. We say, " What 
doth it profit a man to gain the whole world if he lose 
his own soul ?" Yet nothing delights us more than to 
see that we are growing rich or advaaciag to a position 
of greater prominence in the world. We are told 
" Judge not," and we cannot let the smallest short- 
coming of our neighbour pass unnoticed without 
presuming to censure him as though we were better 
than he. 

Had we the honesty and the courage to call all our 
sins by their right names, the names God calls them by, 
we would indeed often be humbled and horrified at the 
indictment drawn up against us by conscience. To 
avoid the species of self-deception which prevents us 
from seeing ourselves as God sees us, it behooves us to 
study the right values of things, to measure them by the 
divine standard only. So long as we are earnestly 
intent on the pursuit of all that is valuable in the sight 
of God, we cannot falter nor go astray. 



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XVII I 
THE INTELLECTUAL LIFE. 

bJilTn'r'^f"" ^{''K'^f'' ^^'« intellectual man, 

tauttful thinhmg, just as moral virtue delights in 
rigorous and beautiful conduct. ^ 

^ —Philip Gilbert Hamerton. 

F ,^„^.^^^"^7^,^^^^^^ whose oppor- 

t tumties of self-culture are limited, to excuse their 

in^s nf/r'-'i'; '^% P^ ^^ unfavourable surrounT 
boSs T.T''"l.^^ '\ ^^^^"^*^ «f «««««« to good 
.W • .• ^ "^'^^^"^ ^^^'^ i« certainly a severe 
depnvation, but not so severe as to involve thp TnT 
plete sacrifice of the intellectual li^e/ ^Jllurf heS 

f nes'''":V"'.Pt"^-^^^ ''' ^^- mind^-^eLonnn 
stones and "books in the running brooks "-that 
with eyes to see, and ears to hear, n!t one amonf i 

.?e::to^^- '' ''''''''''''' ''^-'- *^ - --^ 

-betoSerl^ ^"^ ■''"'''' ^'''^ '^ Shakespeare would 

St ^en t U f^^^^«P^«^^'« time, some of the 

rrnufaZ ^T'i^ ^''' "^'^ ^'""^^" ^^^"^^ immortal 
r^utat ons wh.ch have not suffered from comparison 

/ .• T , ^ '^''"^^^ 't"^ent of our time eniovs 

So^r^^atrpTaf '^'"ir^-^' ^"^^"^^ *^ *^- "^-^ 
the 3^.T l\ '^"-^^ command, yet how few take 
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as did the ancient philosophers at whose feet the world 
still sits to learn ^v^sdom. It is therefore no proof of 
a superior intellect to be familiar with the names and 
works of the greatest authors. 

Intellectual power may exist without any such know- 
ledge, and a refined taste can feed itself as well on the 
wonders of Mature, as on merely human masterpieces, 
and even, no doubt, a great deal better. 

Your intellectual status can be pretty accurately 
gauged by the degree of interest and attention which 
you bestow on the beauties of J^ature, and the workings 
of her laws. 

If the greatest scholar or poet in the world should 
come to visit you he would not care about any of your 
book-lore, which he would already have learned by 
heart, but he would be greatly interested in learning 
from you some facts about the natural history of your 
neighbourhood, and any romantic or historical associa- 
tions connected with it. If he should find you perfectly 
acquainted with every kind of flower and tree growing 
thereabouts, and with the habits of insects and birds, 
with the nature of the soil and the rQcks, with the 
origin of every stream, and knowing accurately the best 
seasons and localities for taking interesting observa- 
tions of various kinds, he would carry away with him 
a pleasant remembrance of every moment spent in your 
society, and a feeling of real respect for the resources 
of your mind. 

Metaphysical speculation also offers an unlimited 
field for the exercise of the mental faculties. Medita- 
tion on the great problems of existence elevates the 
thoughts above low and common things, and prepares 
the mind for the intelligent discussion of philosophical 
subjects. 

^ High thinking is generally the precursor of noble 
living, and this has frequently been exemplified within 



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tlioroforo, hhZfZt/^'''^'^r''''''- ^o not, 
ipnoranco of wL h v ^'*"' «"/"-«»ment for the 

before y^ur ey Id wl rll'? '^^''^^ ^''' «P«" 

von wiil find -onrso f '''" '•'"'" ''""^ 'mastered it 

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GOD'S GOOD GIFTS. 



God's gifts put man's best dreams to shame. 

— Mrs. Browning. 

jftyE find a singular satisfaction in counting our 
worldly possessions, and knowing, to the frac- 
tion of a cent, their precise value, whether 
intrinsic or relative. But we rarely think of the good 
gifts God has lavished on us, which are beyond price, 
and which, if we were rightjy constituted, would in a 
great measure, if not completely, satisfy our wants and 
provide us with a deep and unfailing source of happi- 
ness. Try to enumerate them all, and you will find the 
list practically endless. But if you had no more than 
your five senses to be grateful for, are not these alone 
incomparably more precious than all the wealth of the 
Indies ? What endless avenues of delight they open up 
to you! What a tremendous misfortune it would be 
to lose even one of them! Yet are we so much the 
slaves of habit and routine, that many of us cease to be 
conscious of the pure joy of living, and disregarding 
all real possibilities of happiness of which the germs 
are within us, waste our days pursuing shadows which 
we shall never overtake. As a powerful and pleasant 
antidote to the feelings of envy and jealousy which so 
frequontly assail those who are not favorites of fortune, 
I strontrly recommend the practice of counting up 
God's gifts. A little reflection will suffice to show that 
they do indeed " put man's best dreams to shame." 



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REVENGE. 
Wo,nania-e, ^"^«. «.„,. fo„ ,,,, ^„, „ „.^„^. „^ 
i,.„, . ''• -"Maud." 

or apparent °^:S^' ^a^^rj::' I^hS '*"~' 
average woman's breast »„J^ f^ and long in the 
tinitTfor "pavWoff'-t^ « freqnentl.y au oppor- 

of character, Ving a fn.it?,,? ""/""""ate defect 

well to its pcsessfr a tlln T''^ °^ -nhappiness as 
ler. It is of c™^r ^ "''!; """'' '" «»■""<" with 
of intel igence Ttewr"""",""" T* " '>■«'' '■^d^'' 
cannot faU tTperl^VZt^ ^"' J/^^ ""^ "^"^""^ 
effectual destroyer of 1.-. .1^ disposition is an 

'■r fntr?"r^^^^^^^^^^ -ae her hoth 

she kno.. that there a'eTh!rrf!'"^'"f"''? ^^ "'^""^^ 
of seeking an exnl»r,»«! ""disposal rational means 

How ofte^ ^e hsti„„ f " °f ,'^" ?»«™% attitude. 

and oali„"dTs:uS ^of r'^:','*;^;^'"!;" " ^"""^ 
nuarrp] f P„* j?* ,. ' ^'^ fancied cause of 

wholly nnpremedifated orTo trffliT tl T ""T' '.' 

notice : also, that life ;, J ., * ? ^ '™''"'y »* 

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wasted in strife or contention, and that real sorrows 
and irreparable losses being inevitable, it is childisji to 
expend on insignificant ones regrets disproportionate 
to their importance. 

If it is womanlike to take 

"revenge too deep for a transient wrong " 
we must strive to unsex ourselves to the extent of 
refuting the poet's accusation. Let us not be above 
appealing to masculine wisdom in cases open to doubt. 
The injury or affront which fails to impair the appetite 
or destroy the sleep of an affectionate parent, husband 
or brother can scarcely be as grievous as it at first 
appeared from a feminine point of view. It is wonder- 
ful how much happier and light-hearted one becomes 
as soon as the resolution is taken and acted upon of 
dismissing all thoughts of resentment and revenge, and 
betaking one's self in moments of mental perturbation 
to some useful occupation or agreeable pastime. It is 
not precisely easy at first, no more than it is to ride a 
wheel or paint a picture, but with practice, the difficul- 
ties quickly vanish, and the exercise becomes a positive 
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THE CHILD'S FIRST SCHOOL.ROOM. 

The molhcr^s heart is the child's school-room. 
"^,,, . —II- W. Beecher. 

heart, M-hosi rece^os vl 1^ T"'' "'^T^^'' ^^ y^^' 
i« .your child's Xorom Tho'T''' ^ -'^ .'^"' ^^^^ 
infuuny can ,,icTco t ,n , . i ^I''"''' ^tuitions of 
tlao soul. ^ *''" '"^'^^ fornndable barricade of 

meet, and wheu it is a ' 'ntr \ "'^^^rthj daro not 
pity of it! See the for"t Jtr",^ -worthy-the 
and garnished • thllT-' "" school-room is swept 

«lnno^; thatlh^ t" ^l^erTr ^e'et'lfd' ^^'^' 4 

in^irlious disf^'are lo^ Vl^ '^'' ^^^^« ^^ ^^n^e 
disinfect the scLorroZbor './"''*' '' ^""^.^ ««<! 
to the precious little one Ind ' ''""'^'"^ '^P^^«^« 
"lovhor , but Avho n.v T i""''? ^^" ^^''^ "^^ not 

lifted to to ho "ate ;i; ^'-i " ^'^"'^^ ^'^^^hy to be 
selves. ■ ^''^'- ^"^'" ^^'^-^ "»«tto also to your- 

in some Juay^n futi're tin^p'"-' ^^^^^e^'^^'^™ ^t will be 
PraL.e a„.l honour 2/ S,T /',"". ''"^ ''""''^'y ^^ "» 
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THE NEAREST DUTY. 

''Why look for duties Ihrough a telescope f" asked 
Conscience of a man consulting her. '7 wish to see 
only the one beyond my reach," he replied. 

— M. S. Beeson. 

jJJ^ I STANCE lends enchantment, truly. The fad- 
ing past has Its romance, the approaching 
future its mystery, but the present seems ever 
commonplace and irksome sometimes passing endur- 
ance. Who among us does not grow impatient at times, 
of the daily routine, the common task, the perpetual 
rolling of stones up-hill only to see them roll down 
a;;ain, calling for a fresh application of strength and 
energy. ^Ve sigh for change and cast envious glances 
over the boundaries of our own narrow existence into 
some wider and fairer provinces of human endeavour. 
We witness the triumphs of those who are prospering 
there, and are filled with the conviction of our own 
capai'ity for similar achievement. 

If only the way were open, we think, how we should 
astonish the world! And in secret, we grieve with a 
quite pathetic sincerity, over the meanness of oppor- 
tunity which supplies no adequate outlet for the slum- 
berinir heroism in our breasts. Alas ! when the aspiring 
mortal, humored by Fate, is transplanted to the desired 
sphere, wh.°.t happens? The glamour fades as he draws 
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to be Wider apart than they .oe.ned in the deceptive 

hstanre, and, t<.o often, a backward glance reveZ the 

tantahzuig certainty that the real chances for heroic 

aclnev.n.ent have been left behind in the pur^uiPof ^ 

adoLt.!cri.-f"V''° "•^'^^^^^""We opp<.rt„nitie8 of 

hn : • •: . * ''" J""""'^ i'^y' «^ childhood, aro bv 

the niajontv^ of human beings, recoinu.ed onlv in 

nd.vnlual to be able to see at the start, his tn"e place 
in the Creator's plan, an<l to shape his 1 f e accordiSv 
nchly content to work in hannony with the l3 
Iftt: ,;;!f '^--.tl-n l.is own. Let us not^^lsj 
any time, then, searching through a teh^scope for duties 
fitted to our capacity, but be satisfied to perform t^L^ 
winch ho nearest our hand, and to do them with all our 



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CAUSE AND EFFECT. 

Shallow men bclirvr in luck, hfJicve in circumslaiu-es. 
, . .strong men believe in cause and effect. 

• — Emei-oou. 

MONG the articles of fail ^ most essential to 
success in life is a belief in one's own power 
to control circnmstanees. Trusting to luck, in 
nine cjises out of ten, is deliberately to court failure. 
There are timid and indolent natures, to whom any- 
thing in the shape of an obsUicle is a not unw«'lconje 
signal to turn back, to relinquish all further effort in 
a given direction. Needless to say, it is not among such 
that one may look hopefully for useful or honourable 
achievement of any kind. The sturdy soul, on the con- 
trary, is ever prepared for opposition or hostility, and 
even enjoys having its own powers of determination and 
resistance put to the severest test. Like the skilful 
engineer who cuts his way through the very heart of 
the mountains, bridges the roaring torrent and treafh- 
erous chasm, hews down the forest and builds up the 
valley to make a short, sure road to his distant goal, so 
the valiant spirit meets the chances and changes of 
fortune with unmoved serenity, accepting each now 
rebuff or defeat as an invitation to still greater exertion. 
To attribute the successes of others to luck, is to 
accuse one's self either of a defect of intelligence, or of 
an envious reluctance to acknowledge their superior 



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merit or ability. With rare exceotion, fh. 

easily explicable if traced back LT „„rce t " 

otW de,i.b,i' i'SC'SSerTeTv::^'^ 

pWe "^ °^''' " "■' "^l" »"'' to fill the vae^ 

wolfwh?sh?,honw'r' r™"*"' »■"* ■"' fr--i« 

fbev? Ifc b7,!l J °™ ^^ ^ """=1' l"eiler than 

Al7l,./„ I u "'^ '"""' '"""« '■>«" «». heart-free 
All had equal chances in his eyes In tl.« JT t^' 

choice he m,„t have disco4Tsome specS „ha™ 
other he had h.tberto met. Give her the credit dueT 

5>:;ti„f:fi5i::,!r::^^r " "'"--• "'■- - - 

.entZnfe-bi^tS: X ^tilLf^r!'-^' '""""■ 
W. in life prove a'crcdil To tiSrl'ZaZC 

h^^l".;;^":^,'*"™-';"' "■" '?■"■" '">'' -™- ^^ 

_„ reared son= tu disnoiiuur their father's name. 



CAUSE AND EFFKCT 



She wonders despairingly why the first has had better 
luck than herself. Would it not be kinder and fairer 
to admit in all humility that the successful mother is 
the one who understood her duties best and applied her- 
self most strenuously to their fulfilment? 

Two girls are thrown penniless on the world. One 
becomes a burden to herself and her friends, forever 
bemoaning her fate, and making half-hearted, fruitless 
attempts to secure her independence. The other goes 
resolutely to work to find a secure foothold, and before 
long you hear of her filling some position of trust and 
quietly settling down into her new sphere of useful- 
ness with the determination to adorn it as best she can. 
One is not luckier than the other. She is simply braver, 
more steadfast and persevering. 

If we want luck," we may all have it if we are 
willing to work hard enough to secure and keep it. Let 
the world that knows nc;hing of our labours and self- 
denial mar\'el at our good fortune. "We shall personally 
have the deep satisfaction of recognizing in the measure 
of success we may achieve, the reward of our ability 
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PROVOCATION. 

To be able to bear provocation is an araumeni nf 
great reason, and to forgive it of a great ZZ ^ 

^ROVOCATIOX is regarded by the average 

■^ human being as a quite sufficient excuse forT 

ebullition of temper. One would like to a^k of 

the man or woman who reasons in this way : " Is^here 

;roU:rto^S"^ ''-' "°^^^^ ^'^- - ^« - 

but^ivThi'-^'T"' V?* ^^' i°in^"^ity from temptation 
attlc^ of tW "7'^' i^""' '' ^'^'^^ t« the fierces 
for !»,- f -^ "P*r\ ^ *"" ^°"^^ not praise a hermit 
for mamtammg an habitual serenity of mind sincT^o 
one comes to disturb or interfere Jth hTm 1 blind 
maji gets no credit for remaining unm^ed win an 
unfeehng person mocks him with an insulting Xre 

ne^er' rtlZf'"^. 1 '^ ^^'^''y bonestX ha^ 
never, m the moment of extreme need, been confronted 

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enemy is lying in wait, to torment and exasperate you, 
that you need to be most wary, to keep a cool head and 
to put a bridle on your tongue. To yield to a feeling 
of irritation caused by a thoughtless, or even a 
malicious word or act, is to abdicate the throne of 
reason and become the slave of ignoble passion. 

The true Christian attitude towards one who seeks to 
annoy us, is one of pity for a soul darkened by 
unworthy sentiments and warped by mean motives. 
Whenever we come in contact with an inferior nature, 
the obligation is laid on us of revealing by example the 
beauty and charm of a higher one. 

This end is easily secured by the "soft answer," or 
by a discreet silence, or an aJroit change of subject 
An effectual reply to a sneer, a taunt or a reproach may 
take the form of a good-natured admission that it is 
deserved. This removes the possibility of argument 
or recrimination, and affords an opportunity for divert- 
ing attention to some other topic. With practice one 
may become quite as expert in parrying a thrust as an 
ill-natured person is in dealing it. It is an art and an 
accomplishment well worth acquiring. 

While reason suffices to make provocation harmless, 
a great mind goes farther still, and freely forgives the 
author of it. This is not so difficult when we bear in 
mind that there are moral as well as physical infirmities 
and deformities. It is scarcely consistent to expend all 
our sjTupathies on the lame, the blind and the deaf, 
and keep none for the narrow-minded, the jealous, and 
those who are obviously incapable of noble, generous or 
refined sentiments. The eyes of the soul are often 
blinded in youth, by prejudice, or inherited predilec- 
tions. The heart contracted by selfishness, covetous- 
ness, or distrust is deaf to all appeals for affection, 
mercy, gentleness. We owe some consideration to 
those who are so afflicted, and when they falter or 






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Stumble on the way, it is our part to help them forward, 
by - 7ord or example, as we would lead a blind man from 
a threatened danger which his infirmity prevents him 
from suspecting. 

To forgive the mistakes of others, even though we 
have suffered from them becomes easy enough when 
we have learned to view them in the light of true 
charity. Readily enough then can we repeat the dying 
Saviour's prayer for His persecutors : " Lord, forgive 
them, for they know not what they do." 



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A RICH INHERITANCE. 

They are rich who possess God, hut they are richest 
v:ho possess nothing hut God. All creation helongs to 
him to whom God is his sole possession. 

— F. W. Faber. 

ROM the lips of a little child I learned a lesson 
once which has left an indelible impression on 
m^' mind. The passage above quoted recalls this 
incident. We were walking along one of the lovely 
paths that thread the more secluded portions of our 
beautiful Mount Royal. It was a day in early summer. 
There was a delicious mildness and freshness in the air. 
Spring's tender green was still on every leaf, and wild 
flowers blossomed about our feet in generous profusion. 
My little companion, though not yet five years old, was 
keenly alive to the charms of the surroundings, and 
clapped hei hands for joy as we penetrated further and 
further into the sweet solitudes of the mountain side. 
Suddenly she stopped and asked me eagerly : " Who 
does the Mountain belong to?" After a moment's 
pause, I answered : " To you, my darling." I shall 
never forget the look of rapturous incredulity on the 
baby face. " To me !" she repeated ; " is it my Moun- 
tain?" *• Yes, dear," I replied, " God gave it to you for 
a playground." " Oh, isn't He good?" she exclaimed 
impulsively, and with a wholly new interest in the fair 
scene before us, she silently studied the trees, the 
rocks, and the sweet flowers blooming at our feet. 
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I, too, was silent, aud asked myself if, indeed, I 
shared the love aud gratitude of the child towards the 
Creator for the great and wonderful possessions He had 
made mine. 

Alas! when we cease to be children, we cease, too 
often, to care about the gifts of God. The treasures of 
the fields and woods appeal to us no longer. Our hearts 
are filled so full of greed for the common things that 
pass away, there is no room in them for the sincere 
enjoyment of the eternally good and beautiful. We 
take no delight in the marvellous manifestations of 
dmne power and beneficence that enrich our great 
dwelhng-place and play-^ound, the earth, because we 
are too much occupied in cramming as many objects 
as we can lay hold of within the four walls we call our 
home. Our idea of contentment, of success in life, goes 
not much further than the possession of countless 
thmgs, which, once within our reach, we discover to 
be absolutely useless, if not cumbrous, appurtenances. 
It is m the crucial moments of life that our various 
belongings stand revealed at their true worth or worth- 
lessness. When the heart is swayed by any strong emo- 
tion, love, grief, resentment, pity or noble enthusiasm, 
the only influences that can attune themselves to the 
soul and fill it with peace, comfort, or serenity, are 
those that our Mother Nature wields in her own sanc- 
tuaries away from all the artificial restrictions and 
-complications of conventional life. But such influences 
are withheld from those who have habitually ignored or 
■despised them. We cannot " possess God " by a mere 
momentary impulse of will. We must first dispossess 
ourselves of all that is useless and unworthy of our 
solicitude. When we can truly say that we are satisfied 
with Him alone, we will realize with more than 
common thankfulness that all creation belongs to us. 



XXVI 



THE MOTIVE POWER OF LOVE. 



Love is a higher intellectual exercise than hatred. 

— ^Thackeray. 

!UST as the infinite love of the Creator for the 
works of His hands is a corollary of the divine 
omniscience, so the human capacity for loving cor- 
responds with the degree of knowledge attained by each 
incUvidual. So great a perfection resides in every 
created thing, however humble, so marvellous is the 
fitus-js of each for the functions assigned to it, so ines- 
timable its value in its relation to its surroundings, that 
a knowledge of the same cannot fail to inspire the intel- 
ligent observer with those mingled sentiments of deep 
admiration, interest, curiosity, and sympathy, which 
constitute love. 

Hatred, on the other hand, is equivalent to a confes- 
sion of ignorance. It is a senseless negation, a denial 
of the inherent good in persons and things ; a revela- 
tion of the contracted horizon which bounds the hater's 
mental vision. One feels the futility of appealing from 
the verdict of a hater. He hates because he knows no 
better, because of some blind instinct of self-defence 
which awakens within him w^hen he is brought in 
contact with superior strength or skill. Sometimes it 
is merely the sense of being baffled by the unknown or 
unknowable — someone or somewhat that he cannot 
understand, and therefore fears, dislikes or distrusts. 
Ignorant persons frankly confess to " hating " men and 






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women to whom they have never sp<.kcn a word, and 
who have never harmed them ever so slightly X"v 
on he grounds of some physical pecrdiarity or eccen- 
tZV- TT' '''^^''^' irrifntosby its L^larity. 
The trained observation is not similarly affected for 
he reason that it is accustomed to refer alMhin' to 

8 submerged in the interesting mental process of 
inquiring into its wherefore. ^ 

evid?nl*^^"'''^ "'''^^^'*^^' ^''""^' ^^^ ""'^t repellent 
evidence of disease, possess for the student of medicine 

aereTal • "'""* "i?'^'*' ^""^^''^^^'-^ effaces the X 

Se w'w r""i '"* .^"^'"^^^^ '^•>' *'^^ «I-«tacle. 
l^ero would Lo no horror in such sights for any of us 

we are'TJil ? T.T ^^-^^-^^-^V It is because 
we are ignorant of the reason of their being that we 
hudder at the mere mention of them. That le art Til 
Busceptible to the influence of knowledge to the exten 
of being made to love things that we once hated I 
proved by some part of the experience of nearly every 
human being. As our knowledge of things and per^S 

Wtlfr^rl*^ '7 'r-^ widens^and d~ 
^v ery wife and mother, for instance, learns to conquer 
old aversions and repugnances in the discharge of her 
domestic duties. The dainty maiden who onfe shr^k 
from contact .vith an unwashed child, marri^and e^ds 
by eheerfully performing the most iienial services ?or 
half a dozen little denizens of the nursery. Tnother 

8ing, the duties of a nurse unthinkable, ultimately 
finds her highest happiness in ministering to sufferW 
humanity m a hospital ward. suuering 

It is then sufficiently clear that whatever or whoever 
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This view Ls as consoling to a troubled heart as it is 
acceptable to a philosophic mind. It converts what 
was once an object of hatred into one of mystery, 
merely, from which the former element of irritation is 
removed. Even a declared enemy, who robs and 
despoils, persecutes and calumniates one, becomes a 
psycholofi^cal study of surpassing interest rather than 
a target for useless vituperation, or a subject for ignoble 
revenge. 

The sublime passion for knowledge, havin^, its source 
and ultimate end in the eternal and infinite, inevitably 
submerges every temporary or private interest, and 
lifts him who is possessed by it to a plane of thought 
and feeling in which no pettiness or selfishness can 
survive. All who attain this level enjoy a god-like 
immunity from common, trivial cares, a serene sense of 
lasting separation from whatever is base and ignobly 
disquieting. In knowing and loving, their noblest 
attributes find adequate expression, their most passion- 
ate desires, complete fulfilment. 

Into these rarified regions we are all privileged to 
penetrate, and there we may dwell our lives long at 
peace with ourselves and with every other. Yet there 
are always some who find the height too steep to scale, 
and who are weakly content to dwell in the darksome 
vale below where ignorance, contention and hatred 
abonnd, where true love, knowledge and joy are things 
unknown. 







XXVII 

ON THE HEIGHTS. 

Peopled and warm is the valley, lonely and chill the 
height, 

But the peak that is nearer the storm-cloud, is nearer 
the stars of light. . —Selected. 

ANY men and women, conscious of a call to a 
liiphcr life than the one they are leading, 
lack the necessary courage and firmness to 
break away from old habits and associations, to set their 
feet in new, untried paths, and, unsupported by the 
sympathy of human companionship, to attempt to scale 
the somewhat forbidding heights that lead to the 
desired goal. Looking at virtue in the abstract, it seems 
eminently beautiful, desirable and attainable by a mere 
effort of the vnll In hours of soUtude, meditation and 
prayer, it is easy enough to assume the mantle of holi- 
ness, to shudder at the thought of sin, to spurn tempta- 
tion and to draw up a rule of life which would not dis- 
credit an angel. But, in practice, the average human 
being finds that the pursuit of the higher life involves 
numerous and painful struggles with nature, separates 
bim more or less from others of his kind, and shuts off 
many comforting sources of sympathy and support. 

It is not given to every one to stand alone on the chill 
height of Duty without casting backward and regretful 
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Ploaae. Down thcro, familiar forms are gatheretl 
tofjethor in friendly comnuloship, eating, drinking and 
making merry. They seem to have no care for the 
lonely climber of the heights, or, if they look his way 
at all, it is with a oirious disdain. Few, even among 
those who loved him best, are willing to follow him into 
those cold upper regions. He must perforce press on 
alone. Sometimes, indeed, he turns and falters. A 
liand he loves beckons to him from below. It would be 
so easy and so swot-t to retrace his footiitcps, to seek tb- 
warm shelter that awaits him thtire, to relinquish . l' 
further effort, to be satisfied with the common level "♦" 
virtue attained by the great majority. But be ^; 
yielding to the fatal temptation, his eyes once moi»^ 
seek the heights, and lo! they are crowned with stars 
of light that shed a divine effulgence on the towerir.g 
peaks. Ilis heart quickens within him. The spell of 
common things is broken. The mystery, the grandeur 
of the eternal enthral his spirit anew and give wings to 
his feet. He is saved. 

But the same struggle repeats itself over and OTer 
to the end. Storm-clouds intervene between him and 
the heavenly vision that beckoned him on, and at such 
times his wistful glance strays down to the valley, and 
something within him urges him to go back. Many a 
traveller, weary and faint-hearted, thus returns to ri?e 
no more to the same heights. Only the dauntless few 
arrive at last on the Alpine summit known as Final 
Perseverance. And even from that glorious eminence, 
if they look with pity on the lower worlds they have 
forsaken, it is often with the pity that is akin to love. 
The merely human in us dies hard. "NVe are loth to kt 
go of hands that hold our own in a warm and friendly 
clasp — to forsake the companionable fireside, and set 
out alone on a dark and solitary road. 

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It Otherwise Happily, the hope siustains us, through 
the never-endmg struggle, that our earth is merely the 
> eshbule of heaven and that in the greater life beyond 
nl uncer amty shall be changed into certainty, promise 
into fulfilment, and mutability into the , .nnanence of 
everlastmg happmess. 



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SEARCHING FOR PEARLS. 

Errors, liJcr. straws, upon the surface floiv, 
lie who would scare., for pearls must dive below. 

— Addison. 

r^EC^AUKE of a certain <]ni('knpss in dotoctins; flaws 
^ and shortcomings where others diseern perfec- 
tion, or a near approach to it, there are persons 
who flatter themselves that they are endowed with 
pnpcrior wisdom, which it is their pleasure and duty to 
disseminate among their too trusting neighhours. 
They delight in pointing out the clay feel of otlier 
folks' idols ; they shake their heads and smile pityingly 
when anyone ventures, in their presence, to exy)res8 
unstinted admiration, or enthuriasm for any object, 
cause or T)er8on whatever. To them, nothing or no one 
is wholly good or worthy of resi)ect. In this nil 
admirari attitude they go through life, deriving little 
pleasure or benefit from any source, and grudging the 
satisfaction which more generous natures reap from a 
willingness to give honour and credit where both are 
due. 

As a matter of fact, it is the superficial observer who 
sees only the defective side of an object or of human 
character, and fails to discern the true value that lies 
hidden beneath a deceptive exterior. No remarkable 
degree of insight is required to detect errors that float 
like straws on the surface of a stream. But he whose 



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mental gaze penetrates to the deep below, and who— 
like a diver— can discern pearls in the very slime of 
the nver-bed is the one whose judgment of men and 
tilings IS to be respected. 

r^'"". "u" /^'°^"»^«'- tl»at beautiful legend of the 
Uinst which relates how, one day, a dead dog lying in 
the street m Judea evoked expressions of contempt and 
disgust from aU the passers-by. One called attention 
to his draggled coat, another to his sightless eyes, 
another to the flies that swarmed round his open mouth 
a fourth to the stench that arose from his decaying 
body. Suddenly One stood in their midst, who, looking 
with compassion on the offending beast, said with 
infimte gentleness, in a voice divinely sweet, "Pearls 
are not equal to the whiteness of his teeth." 

The carping crowd was silenced, and each man went 
his way musing on the lesson that had been conveyed 
m those simple words pronounced by Jesus of Nazareth, 
for all knew that none other could have spoken them. 
Ihe habt of criticising and fault-finding is easier to 
acqmre than that of bestowing a just appreciation where 
It IS due ; but with the right dispositions, the latter 
may be cultvated until it becomes a second nature. 
Once acquired, it becomes to the possessor a source of 
positive happiness of a kind which remains for ever 
unknown to the captious critic who has eyes only for 
errors and flaws, and who thereby misses all the beauty 
and goodness that exist in the world. It also becomes 
a power for good, by diffusing hope and courage in 
timid breasts, and inspiring affection and gratitude in 
hearts that would, failing such help, be heavy with mis- 
givings or resentment. No weapon is more effectual 
for the disarming of hostility than a word of praise or 
appreciation judiciously bestowed. No moral stimulus 
acta more powerfully on the human soul than the desire 
to live up to the high estimate formed of it bv others 



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When you think little of a fellow-creature and his 
work, and permit him to sec i , you thereby diminish 
hia incentive to improvement, and relegate him, perhaps 
permanently, to an inferior status. Show him, on the 
contrary, that you respect his motives, that you believe 
in his capacity to overcome the difficulties lying in l>is 
path, that you recognize the good that is in him, and 
you have helped him to brace himself for a fresh effort, 
you have brightened his outlook, and perhaps given him 
a foothold that will ultimately lead him to the highest 
point of success. 

When we are tempted to repine because we lack the 
means to relieve the material necessities of our poorer 
neighbours, it is well to pause and ask ourselves how 
we are dispensing that richer store of love, sympathy 
and kindly encouragement which is locked up in our 
own breasts. There is always somebody quite clwe to 
us — sister, brother, husband, parent, child or friend, 
who needs them. 



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THE PERFECT ROSE. 

A hundred different and sweet smelling leaves are 
needed to form a rose, and the hundreds of pu ous no 
to make up perfect happiness. — Cannea Svlva. 

wr ^'^^^^'*^l^ P'«J^ F'tal lies in your path. Only one. 
It was dropr>t>,l from a ro.se that some one 
earned ean-les.ly. Do you pass it by, unhoed- 
in?. trampling: ,t nithlesslyumler foot, perhaps, or do 
.vou stoop to pick It up, lay it tenderly in your palm, 
and contemplate its exquisite beautv. Surely you can 
spare a moment to feast your eyes on the lovelv deli- 
ca e colour ; to note the fine curving outline, the 
velvety, cool surface, the heavenly fragrance it exhales. 
Ao human hand ever fashioned anything so rarely 
perfect as this. As you gaze you are filled with wondeV 
and ^leMt. with humility and rev.rence. This little 
piece of CmkIs hundnvork brings you so close to Ilim ! 
lou wonder how any one could ever doubt His infinite 
power, His love, His very existence 

tK '^T T/'f' P^**' **'«^ '^'»" "^^^^'^ ^>« "'isscd from 
the hundred that make up the perfect rose, but to you 
who look upon It with seeing eyes, it comes as a message 
straight from Him who made it, and you will go your 
jay cheered and strengthened because of that fragment 
of beauty, of divmity-nlmost-which you picked out 
of the dust because you knew its value and did not 
despise the chance of pure joy which a moment's atten- 
tion to It could not fail to bring you. 

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gleaming like a ray of liglit here, radiant like a rose 
there ; now emitting a delicious perfume, again salut- 
ing our ears with a sweet sound, caressing our cheek 
with a touch of divine tenderness or irradiating our 
heart with an unlooked-for happiness. It mav be the 
glory of a sunset or the unfolding of a leaf, the song 
of a bird or the freshness of a breeze ; the light of love 
in the eyes of a friend ; a word of prai.-*.' from one 
placed over us ; it may be a task accomplished, a doubt 
removed, a prayer answered. For, Proteus-lik.s joy is 
ever changing its shape, and has as many varying 
aspects as there are moments in time or moods in human 
hearts. But one thing we know beyond all peradven- 
ture. It is ever with us and do wo but choose to look 
for it we can not fail to find it. 

Yet there are malcontent?^ who car<> nothing for the 
petal, and are ever clamouring for tlie perfect rose. 
Their eyes see only the joys that dazzle, their hearts 
take no account of happiness save such as makes them 
objects of envy to the whole world. How poor is the 
life that rejects all the minor chances of happiness 
while watching and waiting for the great pri/^es of 
earthly existence. To lose these, then, is to lose every- 
thing. ^ But no kind or degree of sorrow, suffering, 
deprivation or disappointment has power to overwhelm 
the soul that is wont to accept in glad and thankful 
spirit, the "hundred pure joys that go to make up 
perfect happiness." 

This is what we must strive for, therefore, the 
superior insight, the trust, the love that will help 'us to 
recognize the beneficent designs of Providence, and to 
rejoice in all the manifestations of Divine love and 
power that enrich the world. This is the only way in 
which we can secure to ourselves a lasting immunity 
from the disquiet and endless longings of dissatisfied 
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THE MILDEW OF MONOTONY. 

The mildew of monotony destroys the keenest pleasure. 

— Sir Herbert Maxwell. 

JO the hungry and sick and sorrowing ones of earth 
it must appear well-n gh incredible that the 
conditions which woul< bring them permanent 
relief from their troubles, be .me, at times, so irksome 
to those with whom they art )rmal, as to appear well- 
nigh intolerable. The stan ng wretch at the palace 
gate cannot conceive the satiety of the prince ; the 
helpless cripple believes that earth would be a paradise 
indeed, if he could but walk a be strong ; the pale 
mourner beside the grave of a k nfi one feels passionate 
envy of the lot of her whose ircleof beloved ones 
remains unbroken ; yet, so curiously constituted is 
human nature that possession of a coveted object, or 
fulfilment of the most ardently desired hope, soon 
converts the most intense longing into a placid, if not 
indifferent acceptance of the greatest favours and 
blessings. 

The most discontented persons in the world are found 
among those who have never experienced the sensation 
of hunger, who are in full possession of their health 
and faculties, and whom the greater sorrows of life have 
passed by untouched. The cause of their dissatisfac- 
tion is simply a weariness of what, in the estimation of 
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mildew of monotony has fallen upon their pleasures 
and destroyed them. 

It i3 useless to blame or denounce this universal 
human liability to chafe under too long a continuance 
of even the greatest blessings. It is there and it cannot 
be disposed of by words of censure or remonstrance. 

The wiser plan is to regard its signs as symptoms of 
a diseased condition of the mind, calling for tender care 
and judicious treatment. 

As in the case of oth^r maladies, prevention is better 
than cure, but oftenest, the eflfects of monotony on the 
human subject are not apprehended or suspected until 
they have made inroads on the patient's mental con- 
stitution which only the most suramarj' and powerful 
measiires can effectually resist. 

The "mildew of monotony" is responsible for a 
greater number of wrecked souls and desolate homes 
than may be traced to any other malign influence that 
militates against the security of individual or domestic 
happiness. No power is more insidiously effectual in 
alienating the affections of husbands from their wves, 
of children from their parents. To escape from its 
influence how many young men and maidens yearly 
take the broad and flowery path that leads to destruc- 
tion, how many husbands and wives forget the solemn 
vo"^ made at the altar, how many rash unions are 
formed, and loving ties thoughtlessly sundered? 

The magic prescription for the malady produced by 
monotony is "change." It is wonderful how persist- 
ently some persons set their faces against the merest 
suggestion of change in the home. They insist on the 
same programme, week in, week out. They keep the 
same hours, eat the same food, wear the same kind of 
clothes, express the same opinions year after year. The 
slightest attempt to introduce an innovation on the part 
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should we bepin now?" is supposed to settle the ques- 
tion beyond all dispute. 

The world would soon come to a standstill if peopled 
entirely by such narrow-minded, unprogrcssive and 
selfish tyrants. 

In a hundred little ways it is possible to vary the 
monotony of home life without upsetting the estab- 
lished order of things to any serious extent. The 
mse woman, perceiving little signs of dissatisfaction 
in her husband or children, makes a duty of planning 
some pleasant diversion or change of routine which 
awakens new interest and* distracts attention from 
recognized causes of irritation. 

In one family that I know, the annoimcement that 
every one may sleep late the next morning, if so 
inclined, put.s the whole household in the highest good 
humour. Of course a holiday is chosen for this little 
indulgence. 

Special privileges granted now to one, now to another 
child, " just for a change," have a wonderful effect in 
brightening up the spirits of the 3'oung people, and 
reconciling them to the disagreeable tasks of life. To 
promote the general comfort of the home, it is neces- 
sary that certain restraints be put upon the individual 
inclinations of separate members of the family, but it 
is of equal importance that sxich restrictions be removed 
at intervals to counteract the cramping influence they 
would otherwise exercise on the mind and character. 

A man, especially, is apt to feel at times, a strong 
desire, almost a need, to break away from his usual 
routine and enlarge bis experience of life by eontaefc 
with some of its less familiar aspecTs. There are wives 
who deeply resent such a di>ipos.ition on the part of their 
husband? and wiio take no pains To eoneoal their dis- 
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hand, there are not a few husbands of the crank 
species who are intolerant of change, declining to recog- 
nize that the average woman's natural cravings for a 
little pleasurable excitement now and then, are not 
wholly satisfied by her daily privilege of ordering his 
dinner, sewing on his buttons, and studying the back 
of his head while he peruses the evening papers. 

An occasional effort of unselfishness all around is 
needed to keep the mildew of monotony from settling 
on the pleasures of the home. 



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RELATIVE VALUES. 

May no one be able io say of us that tre are too busy 
io be kind. — Selected. 

T'l/'JIATEVER be our limitations in other direc- 
tions, there are few among us who have not 
acquired a fatal facility in the art of excusuig 
ourselves from the perforniimcc of certain im|)ortant 
duties. The validity of our excuses is, as a rule, less 
obvious to others than to ourselves. When we say, in 
explanation of some regrettable omission of an expected 
kindness or courtesy, " 1 was too busy to attend to the 
matter," we may, in a measure, salve our own con- 
science with the conventional plea, but we seldom 
succeed in impressing our hearers with the sincerity of 
our statement. The weakness of the argument lies in 
the fact that, too often, when we believe ourselves very 
" busy," we are expending time and energy on objects 
less worthy of our attention than those we j> ^lect- 

inrr. The relative importance of the varion as on 

ou}' affection and interest that arise from day to day, 
should be carefully weighed in our mind before any are 
dismissed on the plea that we lack tlie time to consider 
them. Unhappily we are often so much the slaves of 
eircumstancea, so blinded by vanity, selfishness, and 
foolish ambition, that wo fail to discern the true values 
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devote ourselves to those of lesser importance, while the 
greater ones suffer neglect at our hands. Some day 
we are sharply awakened to the truth by the sudden 
snatching from us of th- opportunities we so long failed 
to profit by. Thenceforth we are haunted by bitter 
regrets and self-accusings that come too late to bear 
useful fnut. How cruelly do our empty excuses mock 
us, for mstance, in the hour of bereavement, when one 
whom we dearly loved has passed for ever bevond the 
reach of our help or sympathy! We had not time to 
be kmd— to pay the expected visit, or write the 
promised letter— alas ! we have time enough, when too 
late to weep useless tears and upbraid our own hearts 
with ceaseless sclf-reproaehings. 

h is well, then, when tempted to evade the claims 
of any who love and trust us, with the excuse that we 
are ' too busy " to question ourselves seriously as to 
the true value of tlie efforts we are engaired in, and to 
ascertain whether our eagerness to sueoe'ed in certain 
directions is prompted by an unworthv or a legitimate 
ambition. Are we striving for great and pennancnt 
result^ or only for those that are in their nature triflimr 
and transitory? Are we sufferinsr our hearts to ho 
dmyn away from the sacred and beautiful obligations 
of kinship or old affection, in the emptv pursuit of some 
wiil-o-the-wisp of success, pleasure or fame? 

This life is indeed too short to permit the accom- 
plishment of all that we would do for ourselves and 
others, and there must be times when superior obli.-a- 
tions hinder us from assuming oth^r^ of less importnum 
J he solemn duty laid on us is to learn to distimrnish 
between the real and the apparent claims on our time 
and energies, to dismiss as idle those which have their 
tonndation in vanity and seltlshness, to apply ourselves 
«'>riuu«ly and steadfastly to the secnrinir of such aims 
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reflect honour on our own hearts, and be to us a comfort 
in days of sorrow and trial. With this lofty purposo 
before us, we shall indeed lead useful and busy live?, 
but they shall be so well-ordered that time will always 
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SELF-COMPLACENCY. 

A man who cannot mind his own business is not to 
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:, and anomalies to see men and women who have 
been notoriously unsuccessful in the management 
of their own affairs, assuming, without hesitation and 
even with alacrity, responsibilities of the most serious 
character, which, neither by experience, education nor 
inherent ability, they are in any sense fitted to 
discharge in a manner profitable to others or creditable 
to themselves. 

There are practically no limits to the self-complac- 
ency which is the usual accompaniment of certain kinds 
of ignorance, of which the worst is probably that which 
results from a superficial knowledge of things. The 
spectacle of fools rushing in where angels fear to tread, 
appeals in a good many instances, to one's sense of 
humoiir, but often, too, by reason of the earnest though 
misguided zeal of those who insist on playing such a 
sorry part, it becomes pathetic. In any case, the conse- 
quences are wholly mischievous if not positively disas- 
trous to all concerned. 

The injury that is constantly worked to good causes 
by the mistakes of fervent but ill-advised champions of 
the same, is simply incalculable. Of course, only a 
rare degree of modesty will reveal to a man his own 
unfitness for particular roles, or will persuade him that 
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fying himself with it in any way. Women, too, as a 
rule, are lacking in the commendable diffidence which 
arises from a recognition of their own shortcomings. 

The fi edom which is now enjoyed by our sex in the 
matter of participation in affairs outside the home has 
multiplied the temptations that delude mediocrity with 
their dazzling promises of easily-won triumphs in one 
or another province of effort hitherto untried. We 
must needs be on our guard against the flattering iiJu- 
sions through which we see ourselves occupying a 
position of prominence in some sphere outside our own 
accustomed one. Especially should we cultivate 
humility with regard to our special fitness for work that 
has a professedly religious or philanthropic object. A 
sudden access of zeal counts for nothing in the matter 
of equipment for a new function. Enthusiasm is the 
first lamp that goes out on a 'difficult road. Before 
presuming to teach, exhort, guide or govern others, let 
us ask ourselves a few questions. Am I Avorthy ? Does 
my own life bear testimony to the sincerity of my con- 
victions? Have I earned the respect, the admiration, 
the affection of those who know me best, and therefore 
most truly? Are my own personal affairs in such a 
successful condition as to inspire confidence in my 
ability to accomplish greater things? 

Honest replies to questions like these should deter- 
mine the course one ought to pursue when in doubt as 
to the wisdom of launching into a new field of effort. 
And if the verdict of conscience is unfavourable to 
one's self, the only rational and dignified course open 
to one is humbly and faithfully to apply one's self to 
the performance of the modest duties of one's station, 
content to achieve perfection in small things rather 
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THE IMPERATIVE DUTY. 

ire viusi ever he Injing to know more and more wl^t. 
are the things to he helieved and done. 
^ — W. E. Gladstone. 

f,F one would live a well-ordered and happy life, it 
. is of primary importance to realize exactly Avliat 
one'-s place is in the world, and how best one can 
fit one's self for the duties one is expected to perform 
in it. Many women waste valuable years between their 
youth and maturity, waiting, like Mr. 3ilicawber, for 
something to turn up. Others, even when their life 
work has been plainly marked out for them, put no 
heart into their tasks, because their lines have not fallen 
in pleasant places. Their eyes are always wistfully 
straying into paths which their feet can never tread. 
Happily, examples are not rare, of the really sensible 
and capable woman who determines to make her life a 
success, no matter how scanty the materials at her com- 
mand. If she can be no more than an instrument in 
the hands of others, she sees to it that the instrument is 
well constructed, always in order, and warranted to give 
perfect satisfaction. 

If she is placed in authority, she makes tho?c und^r 
her glad of her sway, so wisely, yet so gently, does she 
exercise it for the good of all. ' One definite aim is 
always before her eyes, and she moves straight for it, 
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Every year of her life is represented by some useful 
achievement, some forward step in the direction of 
knowledge or virtue, or philanthropic effort. For her 
there are no regrets over golden opportunities missed, 
and, better still, so deep is the satisfaction that springs 
from the consciousness of duties faithfully performed, 
that she feels no jealousy of the performances or 
rewards of othei-s. There is no room for envy or any 
kind of bitterness in a heart that is filled with the joy 
of doing, and doing well. There may be, — indeed, in a 
noble-minded woman's soul there must be — some long- 
ings that will ever remain unsatisfied, some lofty ideals 
unattained, but these only prve as a beacon of hope 
and an inspiration, not as an excuse for vain repinings, 
and unfaithfulness to other claims. They keep alive in 
her breast a laudable ambition to prove worthy of the 
highest honour that may come to her, but pending the 
happy time that may mean release from irksome condi- 
tions, she is bravely determined to make the best of 
those conditions, and is often astonishpd to find how 
much real satisfaction they can De made to yield her. 
So, though she may be neither lucky nor rich, in the 
common acceptance of those terms, she is envied by 
many who come under both categories, because she is 
busier, happier, and more resourceful than they. If 
young girls could realize the importance of discovering 
early in life, " what are the things to be believed and 
done," they would suffer no temptation to come 
between them and the faithful performance of their 
plain duty. The fruits of perseverance, after a short 
trial, will convince them that this is one of the simplest 
and surest methods of attaining happiness, and, of 
earning the respect and good-will of their fellow- 
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JEALOUSY. 

— trifles, light as air. 
Are to the jealous confirmation strong 
As proofs of Holy Writ. 

^ —Othello. 

j^jT. EALOUS Y is the thom on the rose of love. Even 
<(^i while the the beauty and perfume of the flower 
are filling the eyes and the heart with gladness 
the unsuspected thorn pierces the tender flesh and 
leaves it bleeding, and quivering with pain unspeakable. 
The wound is one that heals slowly, if at all. Some- 
times the soreness remains through life, and oh, the pain 
of it! It is like the torment of a lost soul that has 
gained a glimpse of Heaven and then been hurled into 
outer darkness. The radiant and triumphant happiness 
of a heart revelling in undisturbed possession of a love 
most highly prized is on a sudden changed t • bitter 
disappointment, to an overwhelming sense oi injury, 
defeat and humiliation. Under the influence of 
jealousy the gentlest souls become the most implacable, 
and in an undisciplined nature its effects are indeed 
terrible. The daily press teems with the tragedies 
brought about by the workings of this devouring 
passion. Few are safe from its ravages, for if some 
escape its actual pangs, they are all the more likelv to 
be objects of jealousy on the part of others and thus 
voluntarily or not to be drawn into complications more 
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It is useless to reason with a jealous person. The 
feeling is too deeply rooted in the heart to yield to 
argument. Pride and generosity may help to conceal 
and control it, but no power on earth can wholly eradi- 
cate it. Therefore we should be very kind and patient 
with the jealous, not severe or scornful. Because of 
their weakness we should show them an increasing ten- 
derness and refrain from the least word or act that 
might disturb their trust in a beloved one. Is it not 
better to sacrifice an hour's amusement or the vanity of 
some idle conquest, than, for the sake of such an empty 
satisfaction, to inflict lasting pain on the loving and 
faithful heart of a wife, husband or lover ? 

In the less serious relations of life, however, jealousy 
is a purely detestable fault, and one which may and 
must be corrected if one would win the respect and 
good-will of one's fellow-creatures. The woman who 
hates another merely because that other is her superior, 
morally, socially or intellectually ; who is irritated by 
the prosperity or popularity of her neighbours ; who 
perpetually accuses her acquaintances and friends of 
neglecting and slighting her ; who even attributes 
their proiTcu-cd hospitalities to a spirit of ostentation ; 
who is never thankful for a small kindness, but alwavs 
covetous of greater ones — such a woman is less a 
subject for pity than contempt and dislike. 

There is nothing more ridiculous and undignified 
than an attitude of resentment towards the society of 
which one is a member. If one is lovable, one will be 
loved, and if the contrary is true, the fault is in one's 
self, not in those who have a perfect right to avoid 
disagreeable or tiresome persons. The less one adver- 
tises one's owm unpopularity, the better. Instead, 
therefo-"e, of looking for causes of offence in " trifles 
light as air," a sensible woman, recognizing the 



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her position, accepts the fact that she was not born to 
shine like those who are more fortunately situated. 
Having reached this point of view she \vill be a thous- 
and times happier than if she allows her existence to 
be soured by constantly reflecting on the superior 
Jii vantages of her neighbour. The double resolution 
to refrain from exciting jealousy in loving hearts, and 
to reject its suggestions in the ordinary relations of life, 
is one that, faithfully followed, wilfbe productive of 
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From the mighty arena where all that is grand 

And devoted and pure and adorning in life. 

Is for high-hearted spirits like thine to command f 

— ^Moore. 

jPj^ UCH has been written about the isolation of 
44$^ royalty and of genius, that terrible loneliness 
which falls to one who has no equals among his 
fellows, none with whom he can speak familiarly, who 
are competent to counsel him in difficulties, or to 
sympathise with his high aspirations. This condition is 
not confined to royalty ; it governs to a certain extent 
the life of every man or woman whose ideals are loftier 
and motives purer than those of his or her daily asso- 
ciates. When we are young, enthusiasm keeps the 
heart warm and strengthens the soul for its constant 
warfare against the impulses of our lower nature. It 
is not hard m the darkest hour of temptation to follow 
the pillar of fire that faith and hope sends on before us 
to light the way, but after some years of conflict and 
many disenchantments, our hold on our ideal, our belief 
in human goodness, grows weaker. Some day, we 
droop and faint beneath the burden we once so joyfully 
assumed, and ask ourselves, " Is it worth while to carry 
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fnendly remonstrance like the one quoted above is 
recalled to our mind. Shall we be faint-hearted and 
turn from " aU tb-* is grand," because on every side 
we see others too wev : or too cowardly to keep up the 

f al-"^? T^^^^ ^® * P°°^ ^®*^^°' «"'ely, and unworthy 
of high-hearted spirits, fit to command." Rather 
iJt us keep in view the power it is given us to wield 
and the responsibilty that goes wth power. Every 
individual, however humble, exercises power in a certain 
degree over some other, who in a particular sense is 
his or her mferior. The cook and the kitchen-maid 
queen it over their respective realms as surely as the 
lady in her drawing-room, or the sovereign on the 
throne. The highest ambition of each should be to 
know her kingdom and to rule it wisely that she may 
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of the natural earth tvilh mind unagitated and rightly 
poised, without receiving strength from some stone, 
flower, leaf, or sound, nor without a sense as of a dew 
falling on you out of the sky. 

— Samuel Johnson. 

"XjJK^T'E arc for the most part unresponsive to the 
^^r influences that bear upon us uncea8inj!;iy 
through the medium of the external worhl. 
'Hm is because wo seldom walk abroad '* with mind 
unagitated and rightly poised." We are vexed with 
trivial care^. elated over some petty triumph, apathetic 
becau?e of the dull monotony of our existence, con- 
sumed with restless ambition, or absorbed in some great 
gratificatioi. Fnder theae conditions, we walk with 
unseeing eyts amidst the loveliest scones, or seeing, we 
are not moved, discovering no relation between these 
things and the subject uppermost in our tlioxights. AVe 
are wrapped in a mantle of selfishness which is imper- 
vious to all sweetness, beauty and lig'^t. 

Y>.t, by a slight et?ort, it is possible to detach the 
mind from purely personal concerns, and to leave it 
I'pon to the blessed influence of nature. No one can 
feel poor in the sense of possession that comes from 
looljinjr at mountain, sky, tree, and river, with appre- 
ointive eves. The beautv of them is ours : while we 



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arc free to gazo upon thoir loveliness, no one can rob 
U8 of that inehtimablc lurtlirij-lit. We uovil no bit of 
yellow parchment lockc.l awa.v in a strong box to prove 
our ownership ; a man may culicct titlo-.k-eds hy th.j 
-xcore, but he can never have more tlian one pair of 
e.yo3 ; therefore, he receives no richer impressions from 
Nature's splendid panoramas than do I who, having no 
l''gal rii,'ht to a r.x.d, claim ihf uliol,; ,,arth as niv 
inheritance. 

looking back over past years have wo not all cause 
to regret the time we have wasted planning for idle 
ends, and grieving over ephemeral troubles. Hut who 
ever repents of the days spent near the heart of nature, 
m the woods, on the mountain-top. or by the sea i 

These are almost the only golden lioiirs, entirely free 
from bitterness or self-reproach, that are entered on 
the tablets of memory. AH the rest are streaked with 
>elfishness or sordidness, tinged with sadness or disap- 
pomtment ; a reflection to incite us to more frc(pi<>nt 
• ommunion with nature, and v^iut our desire to under- 
-fand her in iier most beautiful, solemn, and mysterious 
aspects. Before suffering ourselves to be caught inex- 
tricably in a network of small cares and worries, or even 
"verwhelmed and disheartened by groat ones, it will 
I'o profitable to keep the mind open and roadv to receive 
-tretigth from any stone, flower, leaf, or sound, ave, 
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THE SEEDS WE SCATTER. 

So live, that when the sun, 

Of your existence sinhs in night, 

Memories sweet of mercies done 

May shrine your name in memory's light 

And the blest seeds you scattered hloom 

A hundred fold in days to come. 

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5t OMMON charity ordains that we speak kindly of 




the dead. However little a man or a woman has 
been loved in life, no words of criticism are 
spoken over the grave that imposes eternal silence on 
its victim. But often, a secret feeling of relief is expe- 
rienced in a household, when one who, by excessive 
severity, ill-temper, or other unamiable trait of char- 
acter, habitually disturbed the peace of the rest, is 
called to a last account. 

Few of us, however self-willed and dominant we may 
be by nature, like to think that our removal from the 
earthly scene will be a subject of rejoicing to those who 
are now compelled to live with us. There is one way 
of discovering whether this contingency is likely to 
occur. It might be profitable to all of us to have 
recourse to it, with a view of increasing our amiability, 
and adding materially to the happiness of others. 
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individually and collectively, and if you find that your 
presence, under any circumstances, imposes an uncom- 
fortable restraint on the others, resolve, in future, to 
correct your tendency to be over-critical, or severe. 
Respect for the rights of others, and a proper sense of 
the fallibility of private judgment, (especially as 
applied to matters that do not concern us), should help 
us to overcome the temptation to interfere in matters 
outside our jurisdiction. I would especially recom- 
mend this suggestion to sisters and brothers'^who are 
too ready to frown down and ridicule any proposals one 
of their number may make, forgetting that all are 
equally entitled to their own opinions, and subject only 
to parental authority, in matters calling for supervision. 
Those families are happiest in which the parents accord 
to each child a fair hearing, and equal oi>portunities of 
advancing their separate interest*. ITnfortunately, 
much injustice is habitually done to younger members 
of families, by the selfishness of older ones, who assume 
the role of censor to their juniors, thus making them- 
selves feared and disliked, where they ought to be loved 
and trusted. 

Much of the pleasure of life is forfeited by persons 
of a carping or overbearing disposition, because as soon 
as their unamiable weakness is discovered, they are shut 
out from the confidences of those who would otherwise 
naturally turn to them, when they have anything of 
interest to communicate. " Don't tell Agnes, she 
would be sure to make such a fuss," or " For goodness' 
sake, don't mention it to Edward, or we'll never hear 
the end of it," are little injunctions that frequently 
form the peroration of some interesting story, confided 
to one whose discretion has been tried and not found 
wanting. How eloquent they are of the small domestic 
tyrannies jiractiscd by Agnes aiul Edward in their 
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We cannot all achieve greatness of a kind that 
will bring us fame and honour, but with a little patience 
and good-will, we can so live, that when the time comes 
for us to bid a last farewell to our life-companions here, 
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THE GREATEST NAMFS. 

The greatest names are %ose which wen have made 
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[HE conquest of the world is not reserved alone for 
those who sit in high places, enjoying a heritage 
of power or great renown, bequeathed to them 
by illustrious ancestors. It is open to every individual 
who is willing and able to give the best that is in hirn 
to the service of humanity. There are endless avenues 
leading to the same glorious pinnacle of fame and 
honour. The scholar, the soldier, the statesman, the 
poet, the inventor, the scientist, the explorer, the 
orator, the philanthropist, the artist, the priest, the 
physician, each in his own time and way by 

" endless toil and endeavour," 
makes the long and diflScult ascent that leads to rest 
and glorious reward. According to the measure of his 
earnestness, fidelity, perseverance and unselfishness of 
purpose, is his progress upwards. Every word and act 
bom of pride, or vain self-seeking is a false step that 
causes him to slide back from the height already 
attained, and while he painfully recommences his 
journey, those who faithfully resisted the same tempta- 
tions are steadily rising far above him. 

We are too fond of calling by the name of genius the 
collective force of qualities which would not be denied 



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to any of us were we only willing to cultivate them by 
constant and patient effort. Absolute sincerity and 
singleness of purpose, a conscientious and thorough 
performance of the tasks assigned to us, the concentra- 
tion of attention and energy on one worthy object, a 
wholesome contempt of trivial and temporary successes, 
or cheap applause, of small rivalries and jealousies, of 
criticism or censure from unimportant sources — these 
are not characteristics peculiar to genius alone — they 
are the fruit of honesty, fidelity, moral courage and the 
sense of personal dignity whicli is enjoined by the 
famous motto of the true aristdcrat: NohlcHtie oblige. 

In the ranks of our owi^ sex we find a bright array 
of names which shine with no borrowed lustre, but 
only with the radiance of a justly acquired renown. 
The fame of the brilliant Sappho survives even the 
fruit of her wonderful pen, of which only a few frag 
ments remain to establish her claims to literary 
celebrity. Cornelia, after the Virgin Mary, stands as 
the highest type of motherhood, and will so stand till 
the end of time ; Joan of Arc emerged from the 
humblest obscurity to save her country; Florence 
Nightingale had never a thought of fame before the 
Crimean war; the depths of her wotranly compassion 
were stirred on reading of the terrible sufferings of the 
British soldiers. '\ girding on the invisible armour 
of a wonderfu^ -rag^j strength and sweetness, she 
went nobl_\ to the rescue of her wounded countrymen, 
with results the world still stands amazed to see ! Grace 
Darling found a mission of heroic usefulness in the 
isolation of a lighthouse. Frances Willard began her 
career as a school-mistress. How many of us are more 
favourably conditioned than any of these for gi-eat 
achievement ! "VVe fail to emulate their efforts, not 
because we cannot, but because we will not do as much 
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as patient, as self-denying, as high-minded as they. 
Our hearts are set on smaller things, and we shrink 
from encountering ol)stacles of serious dimensions. It 
is easier and pleasanter to turn back and drift along 
with the crowd. 

But there are times when we cannot but pause and 
ask ourselves, with heart-searching scrutiny that hum- 
bles us to the dust : "What kind of a name am I 
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THE ENJOYMENT OF VIRTUE. 

TJie entire object of true education is to make people 
not do the right things, but enjoy the right things. 

— Kuskin. 

, O do what is right, unless a proper motive inspires 
the action, is after all no such difficult nor intrin- 
sically creditable achievement. Any intelligent 
person having a certain force of will may acquire the 
habit of conforming to certain standards of conduct, or 
may occasionally do violence to his or her natural incli- 
nations with a view of earning public applause, or 
furthering some other selfish and private ends. Others 
may, '"'om a blind sense of duty, follow, "like dumb, 
driven cattle," where they are led, never asking them- 
selves why such and such actions are right and others 
wrong, assuming that their teachers and leaders must 
know, and rather stupidly accepting as inevitable the 
most distasteful conditions imposed on them as essential 
to a right life. Others again, moved only by a craven 
fear of punishment, the " whip to keep the coward to 
his track," are easily reduced to the kind of moral 
subjection which removes even the temptation to inde- 
pendent thought or action. There is, of course, no 
real merit either in a conventional conformity to 
accepted standards for selfish reasons, nor in the sheep- 
like submission which precludes an intelligent appre- 
ciation of the logical necessity of right living, nor in 
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future suffering. Xo man can appreciably grow in 
virtue until he has arrived at the point of view whicli 
reveals to him the ultimate desirability of virtuous 
action, for its own sake, wdthout regard to prospective 
rewards or punishments. 

Many persons, aiming at moral perfection (while 
ignoring its true nature), experience a certain gratifica- 
tion, not to say self-glorification, from the conscious- 
ness of having achieved a victory over the flesh in an 
endeavour to obey a higher impulse. But, in fact, the 
struggle that has taken place over a comparatively 
trifling matter, is but a humiliating indication of the 
distance yet to be traversed before the soul can attain 
the heights of spiritual perfection. The philosopher 
often reaches this altitude before the saint — so-called — 
the former being in reality, more entitletl to the appel- 
lation. For the philosopher, indeed, temptations of the 
ordinary kind at least, soon cease to exist. He is not 
compelled to wage a pitched battle with the powers of 
darkness every time he becomes aware that his senses 
and his soul are at variance. He brings a calm and 
judicial spirit to the consideration of the case. If ho 
chooses the wiser part, he does not become unduly 
elated over what, after all, was merely the prudent 
exercise of his reason ; nor would he dare to exagger- 
ate the importance of such a choice by ascribing it to 
a direct manifestation of divine participation in human 
affairs. When he errs, he does it consciously, accept- 
ing the blame and the risks, with a full knowledge of 
his fault and its probable consequences. If repent- 
ance comes later, it is not of the ignoble kind which 
shields itself behind the plea of the weakness of the 
fiesh and the violence of temptation. It is a frank 
"onfession of wrong-doing, an honest regret that sense 
prevailed over reason, a serious determination to avoid 
a similar pitfall in the future. 



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Education can do this much for us all. A great deal 
of what IS called religious instruction is either utterl- 
wasted or has a pernicious effect on immature minds. 
Instead of developing noble qualities, it encourages the 
growth of selfishness, cowardice and superstition. The 
niind must first be opened before salutary and fruitful 
Ideas can be mstilled into it. Learning moral law by 
rote and practi.^ing it as a matter of habit or discipline 
will never save a single human soul. We must first 
learn to grasp its meaning, to comprehend its beauty, 
and then we shall need no spur to urge us to do our 
duty, because we shall have found our keenest enjoy- 
ment m the pursuit of the loftiest ideals. 

As the distinguished writoi- and thinker above quoted 
(and now, alas ! no more), has wisely said, this is the 
entire object of true education. He or she must be 
accounted a false teacher who works Avith anv other end 
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THE GREAT AND THE SMALL. 

/J. ^"^^j ^'*^ ^"^^^ surprises of existence seems to be 
that of discovering in the power of doing a difficult 
thing well, a developed grace for doing lesser thinqs 
^'^^''' -Annie Fields. 

JN Objection not infrequently raised against the 

higher education of women is that in the 

majority of cases, it is likely to unfit them 

lor the ordinary domestic duties which are imposed on 

tnem by marriage. 

At first sight the objection would seem to be well 
lounded. It is, of course, vastly more important that 
the prospective ^vife and mother should possess a prac- 
tical knowledge of cookery, be proficient with her 
needle, and understand the care of children, than that 
she should become a brilliant mathematician or an 
accomplished linguist. But on the other hand, it has 
ben abundantly proven, in many well-kno%vn instances 
that the women who make the most perfect house- 
keepers are those who are most diligent and successful 
in following what are commonly called the higher 
pursuits of art, literature, or science. The domestic 
experiences of George Eliot, Miss Martineau, Harriet 
lieecher Stowe, Mrs. Oliphant, and many other women 
no less distmguished on the intellectual side, may be 
cited as affording satisfactory evidence in favour of the 
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than hor heart, is a factor to be reckoned with 
determining the limit of her lioi:sewifely cajuicity. 

It is true that the Mrs. Jelljbys of real life are by 
no means an extinct species, but the degree of inca- 
pacity which assigns any woman to this category is 
more often inherent, than the result of injudicious 
training. There will always be some hopelessly 
incompetent housekeepers among both the educated and 
ignorant classes. 

But given two women of equal intelligence and 
general aptitude, the one whose mind has been devel- 
oped and trained by study or wide reading, almost 
invariably administers her housohold affairs with 
greater success than the other whose experience is 
limited to purely domestic matters. 

The reason of the educated woman's supremacy is 
plain. To the trained intelligence, all, even the com- 
monest tasks of life, come within the domain of art or 
science. They present desired opportunities for testing 
the practical value of favourite theories, for the appli- 
cation of great principles, and the observation of 
immutable laws. Viewed in this light, the ordinary 
household duties which an uneducated woman performs 
mechanically and with a dreary sense of the endless 
drudgery they entail, become in the eyes of her think- 
ing sister so many interesting experiments through 
which the theoretic knowledge gained from books or 
in the lecture hall is supplemented by the more valu- 
able experience of actual practice. 

The enlightened woman looks at her life as a whole, 
and plans its arrangement and government in conform- 
ity with a certain ideal which, as a result of her superior 
mental training is naturally a high one. Having ascer- 
tained her true place in the world, and the precise 
nature of the responsibilities which rest upon her, and 
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with intclligenco and foresight. Ohstaolos she sees i„ 
plenty, but she regard, them as mere temporary, 
though often vexatious oKstnu-tions, which must finally 
yield before her invincible detennination to .succeed. 

U all know how easy c.tf„rt becomes when inspired 
by an eager <lesire t(» attain a particular object. No 
amount of discomfort or inconveni.nco deters us from 
toliowing a favourite pursuit, though we grumble 
nnceasingly at the far easier conditions impost on m 
by obligations not of our own seeking. Have vou 
ever watched an amateur photographer at work and 
noticed how she washes l^er negatives and prints over 
and oyer again to secur the desired degree of perfect 
cleanhness She is so i .ent on producing a good result 
that she esteems the i .ost laborious process leadin- n 
to It a mere detail. In the joy of succeeding, 3 
scarcely perceives that her fingers are stained tdu y 
brown ; she forgets the cost of plates and solutions, 
and has no regrets for the time spent on preliminarv 
experiments Having produced a good picture, hev 
joy is complete. ' 

The woman of education follows the same plan in 
the direction of her household aflFairs. In her mind's 
eye there is always that perfect picture of the ideal 
home which she is earnestly striving to produce. She 
knows that time and patience and money must be 
expended before her experiments can ripen into success- 
ful achievement. In the dark room of doubt and 
perplexity she must often sit alone developing by a 
single red ray of love the sensitive negatives that 
require such delicate manipulation. She is never dis- 
heartened by small failures nor satisfied with small 
siiccesses. There may seem to be overmuch washing 
of dishes or dirty little faces to do ; it may not always 
be_ clear to her tired brain how the scheme of the 
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ing socks and making jam. But the conviction that 
through those small things she will yet reach the goal 
she is striving for infallibly sustainss her. She moves 
steadily forward, with ever increasing ease and 
rapidity, and evt-ry step gained is its own reward. She 
experiences a subtle sen.se of pleasure in the knowledge 
that uj)on the successful discharge of her particular 
duties hinge far-reachin; consequences of tremendous 
iniportanc(! to future gene tions. For her, 

" Joy's soul lies in the doing," 
and when the time comes at last to lay do\vn her tasks, 
she does it not gUidly but regretfully, as we close a book 
whose pages we have perusec^ with pleasure. 

This is the, secret of the highest human happiness, 
of true union with God. It is to realize the divine out- 
look which embraces all time and space. In such a 
mighty sweep of vision all things pfreat and small 
assume their true proportions, and there is no longer 
any danger of mistaking the trivial and transient for 
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IF WE HAD BUT A DAY. 

We should fill the hours with the sweetest things, 

If we had but a day ; 
We should drink alone at the purest springs 

In our u^j. d vay ; 
We should love with ^ lifetime's love in an hour, 

If the hours were few ; 
We should rest, not for dreams, hut for fresher power 

To be and to do. 

^ — Mary Lowe Dickinson. 

Ji,F we had but a day ! Standing on the very threshold 
:, of Eternity, with what piercing insight we should 
see through the shams and delusions which sur- 
round us in ordinary life, and of which, in the expecta- 
tion of a long term of existence we are only too willing 
to become the dupes. With what unerring instinct we 
would range ourselves on the side of duty, of love, of 
justice, of useful toil and honourable achievement! 
Who could tempt us during the few precious hours 
remaining to us to stray into the primrose paths of 
dalliance, to occupy our minds with petty thoughts of 
personal gain, to grovel in envy or jealousy, or to 
breathe a blighting word of slander concerning a 
fellow-creature. AVith ears alert for the fast approach 
ing summons, how eagerly we would seek to fill our last 
moments on earth with deeds of mercv! How 
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liow gently we would speak to them, gladly overlooking 
such slight offences as tliey might have committed 
against us, in our vehement desire to be at peace with 
them, to bu remembered by them with love, and to be 
spoken of by them praisefully when we should no longer 
be in their midst. It would not be difficult at ^11. Nay, 
we si ould marvel at ourselves that we ever spoke or 
acted otherwise, and we would think in our hearts : 
" Could I but live this life over again, it would be oh ! 
so different!" 

Yet consider. There is no day that, but for the 
providence of God would not be the last for each one 
of us. We walk perilously near the edge of the 
precipice that divides us from the unseen world. The 
instruments of Death are many, and they take un- 
dreamed-of shapes. They threaten us continually. It 
is a miracle that we are saved. Others fall to right and 
left of us, smitten by sickness or sorrow, by lightning, 
sword, or plague, by whirlwind, accident or a treacher- 
ous hand. Our turn will come — when? "We cannot 
say, we only know for a certainty that it must come. 
To-morrow! Why not? The thought is not, or should 
not be one to terrify or sadden us. It need not shut 
out the sunshine from our hearts. Eather should it 
urge us to diffuse what light and warmth is in us, while 
we may, to 

" fill our hours with the sweetest things," 
and to 

" love with a lifetime's love in an hour," 

thus making every passing moment yield us a full 
harvest of lasting happiness. 

We are so constituted, however, that the majority of 
us would prove unequal to the strain involved by 
constant fidelity to such a high ideal. It is a humiliat- 
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he cannot maintain the maximum of virtuous living 
for any considerable period of time. The occasional 

apses mto selfishness, indolence, materialism, appear 
to be mevitable. Well, even supposing this to be so, 
It u-ould still be a profitable exercise, and one which 
would immensely increaBe the sum of human happiness 
It only from time to time we could awake from the 
spiritual apathy which seems to be largely our normal 
condition, and realizing the unceasing imminence of 

hat last dread call, exeit ourselves to live the hours 
between one sunrise and sunset as if, indeed, it was the 
only day remaining to us on earth. 






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Every life should havp i background of solitude. 

— Selected. 

^T is not good for either man or woman to be con- 
stantly alone, but occasional opportunities for 
solitude are precious privileges which too often 
are misused or entirely thrown away. The social 
instinct is so strongly developed in some natures that to 
be deprived of human company for a single day, or 
even a few hours, appears to them an affliction hardly 
to be endured. 

This would indicate a poverty of individual 
resources by no means flattering to the mental calibre 
of a person so affected. There is something abject and 
pitiful in the habitual dependence on others for ideas of 
entertainment. Surely, we should all carry within us a 
sufficient store of memories, experiences, and predilec- 
tions, to supply us in hours of leisure with material for 
thought or motives for action. The old saw runs : 
" Tell me who your company is and I'll tell you who 
you are." "With equal point one might say, " Tell me 
what you do mth your solitude and I'll tell you what 
you are." 

Our real nature asserts itself much more strongly 
when we are alone, than when we are on our guard in 
the presence of others. If solitude induces in one a 
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sense of liberation from the irksome necessity of keep- 
ing lip appearance., and a tendency to indulge in selfiX 
gravelling, or otherwise unworthy thoughts or actions 
one IS thereby convicted of a weak and shallow or even 
VICIOUS nature, and all one's .eeming virtues become so 
many hypocnsies which have only this merit, that thev 
make one endural;le to those who would shrink from 
contact with one's real self. 

A truly noble individuality, on the contrary, appears 
at Its best m solitude. This is its time for reflection 
for retrospection, for that calm scrutiny and impartial 
judgmeiit of self which is essential to the right develop- 
ment of character. Or, it isthe time for communing 
with nature, who reveals her secrets only to those who 
approach her as they would approach a shrine, in silence 
and reverence ; or, it may be, the hour of solitude is 
•esen-ed for that sweet and satisfying intimacv with 
the greatest minds which is accessible to us all throu-h 
the medium of books. 

The richer one's nature, the more numerous and 
pleasant the by-ways which invite one to stray from the 
dusty road of routine in the golden hours of solitude. 
A brush and box of colours for one, a needle and bit 
of embroidery for another, a horse or a wheel for the 
more active and exuberant, supply the desired occupa- 
tion for solitary moments. Each in it^ way, becomes 
to Its vota^, a source of serene and abiding happiness, 
imdisturbed by those doubts and misgivings that often 
wTtherT ^^'^''*^^ ^^^ memories of pleasures shared 

« o^loT-^ ^^ S'^'T f.^^'* ^' ^^ ^^^^"^ that, without 
a background of solitude " in one's life to encourage 
reflection, one never can penetrate below the surface 
of things. The deeps of experience, the highest aspira- 
Uons, the sweetest raptures, the sacredness of sorrow, 
the sublimity of the imiverse, will forever be to one as 

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so many scaled volumos. On the other hand, every 
hour of solitude well spent, is a distinct step forward in 
tho direction of intellectual and spiritual progress. 

Not only does it deepen the character and strengthen 
the heart, hut it eunohlos the countenance to a degree 
that is obvious to all. It lends a light to the forehead 
and eyes, and a beauty to the curves of the lips, that 
you may look for in vain among the frivolous and 
shallow-minded, who are incapable of reflection. 

There is every reason, therefore, for cultivating the 
precious opportunities for solitude that occur in daily 
life. ;Make provision for them beforehand, if you 
^\•ould not, when they come, be found aimlessly asking, 
" AVhat shall I do with myself?" and manifesting an 
undignified readiness to fall in witli any proposal, how- 
ever foolish, for killing time. 

Walk, sew, read poetry, look at pictures, copy a 
beautiful passage from a favourite author, or learn it 
by heart, make an imaginary journey ^vith the help 
of a map to some place of interest, put yourself through 
an examination in contemporary history or literature, 
and note your deficiencies. These are but a few of the 
countless interesting occupations that may beguile a 
solitary hour and leave you the better for it. You may 
discover many more, by giving a little thought to the 
subject, and thus learn to put a value upon your hours 
of solitude far above that of the time spent in the 
society of ordinary men and women among whom your 
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THE SECRET OF HOLINESS. 

hJ!l '1"^' f ^;^ «*^'^ ^/'« did less than other people, 
hut who d,d what they had to do a thousand times betir. 

^^^ — F. W. Faber. 

,NE is constantly surprised, in reading tlie lives 
oi the saints, to discover how many trifles, so to 
_ speak, went to compose the saintlincss that left 
Its impress on an entire world. We are apt to imagine 
that m order to become a saint a certain background 
and conditions favourable to such an intention are 
essential conditions to success. A good many of us 
have a secret conviction that it would not be at all 
difficult to live a samtly life provided we might choose 
the desired setting and opportunities. This is of 
course, an entirely erroneous impression. Holiness' is a 
positive attribute that exists independently of chances 
or changes, and that asserts itself unconsciously and 
inevitably m the most unlooked-for ways, times and 
places. It has its seat in the heart alone, not in the 
habit one assumes, nor the house that shelters one. 
ihe substitution of broadcloth for tweed, of a veil for 
a bonnet, of a cell for an ordinary sleeping room, though 
of apparently great significance in the eyes of the 
world,, IS of surprisingly small account in the spiritual 
balance sheet. 

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inclination to nin away from all the irksome and dis- 
agreeable conditions of one state in life, with a view 
of arriving at perfection in another, is an extremely 
doubtful indication of sincerity. The girl who has 
failed to exercise any influence for good in her own 
home imagines that if she could go to China as a mis- 
sionary she would be on the high road to perfection 
and canonization. In her complete lack of experience, 
she is unable to realize that she will encounter the same 
stumbling-blocks in an Eastern mission as beset her feet 
in her native village or under her father's roof. There 
will be the same little disappointments, discomforts, 
trials of temper, rivalries, temptations and humiliations. 
Wherever grown men and women are forced to live 
together and come in daily contact with one another, 
a certain amount of unpleasant friction is inevitable. 
The exception is when they are actuated by the spirit 
of Christian charity ; when they have attained that 
nobility of character which is proof against all petty 
temptations and weaknesses of the flesh. To reach 
such a high level, it is not necessary to cut adrift from 
one's ordinary surroundings. The patient practice of 
the common virtues of modesty, charity, loving-kind- 
ness and fidelity in all things great and small leads more 
surely and directly to the heights of spiritual life than 
a violent sundering of old ties and uprooting of con- 
firmed habits. 

One who earnestly desires to lead a holy life has no 
excuse for putting off the first step. The place is Here, 
the time is Now. However light or trivial, however 
onerous or distasteful the tasks of to-day, assume them 
with the resolution of performing them as a Saint 
Teresa or a Saint Frances would have done, without 
complaint, without complacency, working not for the 
applause of the world nor for private gain, but as a 
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labour in His vineyard. Greater victories await you 
here than you would ever secure in distant places. 
Accept your allotted tasks not only with willingness, 
but with gratitude, as those which offer the best oppor- 
tunity for proving ycur devotion. In time the hardest 

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Thnr Is uolhing so great as to he capable of happi- 
vrss, to pluci,- it out of " each moment and whatever 
happens:' to find that one ean ride as gay and Itwupint 
on the angnj, menacing, tumuli anus waves of life as 
on those that glide and glitter under a dear s/cg ; that 
xt ts not defeat and wretchedness which come out of the 
storms of adrersity, hut strength and calmness. 
^ — Anne Gilchrist. 

f, KNOW wonion who, with nil their material wanta 
, s;iti<^fic'(l, enjoyiiu;: perfect health, and Hurr.Minded 
h.v kind friends an.l relatives, are in a iiionic 
state of discontent and ill-hunionr. They are unhappy, 
not because of any hard conditions or unfavourable 
circumstances governing' their lives, but simply because 
they are incapable of feel i no; happy. Their hearts are 
obstinately clo.-=ed against all the most beautiful, joyous 
and gracious influences surrounding thorn, while their 
eyes arc ever perversely seeking out the most disagree- 
able and unsatisfactory asj)ects of things. Other wo"nien 
I know, who have been forced to endure every kind 
and degree of sorrow, pain, privation, disappointment. 
But an inherent nobility of character, an intelligent 
apprehension of the real value of a hard experience, an 
indomitable courage, a rare sweetness of disposition, 
combine to counteract in them the effects of the 
severest trials of love, faith or patience. 



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11.0 cnpnrify f.,r Im- pi,„.s., which Is insoparnhlo 
fnm. th.. n,|f,vat,.,l n.i>..| aii.l -...mtoih lu,,rt, ...av 1... 
tnMpuranlv ucakrno.l by the l.h.svs of adversity; !>..< 
■ f M not ,h.tn,y,.,l. Lnh.,,), i,. ^ .ni,..! ri^^htlv .on.ti- 
tuto.l, pam ha.s tho cinrt „f sharppni,,^. th,- in'n-.utluu. 
and o.nphasizin^r tho pm-iou-sn.-s of all that plras... 
<-'.'n.f..rls nr .ustaluH th<. h.uI. Tho.o who hav HNircn..! 
«'.ost.h..pyhuv.. (!,.■ k...,...M.,,.,..v,.iatio,. ul tn,. In,.,,, 
ness III whali'viT form it prcsiil- it.-df. 

A fatal ohstad.. to the happiness of h'linian Iumiu-s i,, 
perhaps tho majority of ,,,m.s, is tho fooli.j, and fa!.,, 
oonviction that it cannot vxUt in.l.p, n.hntlv of certain 
precoiuTivi.l conditions and coveted possessions Tho 
man or woman who starts out in pm-snit of happines^ 
iu-hufr on such helief, is fore(h.ome<l to irrievons disi,,- 
p...ntment._ D.-.-anse you are presently wei^d.ed down 
with financial cares, or are physically overtaxed, or dis- 
eournffod by protracted iilne.s, you are apt to imagine 
that ho removal of any of these irksr.ine co„<|itions 
would spell TFappiness in I.ij^ letters. This is a delusion 
lis you may easily prove l>v (|nestio.r:;'; any numbor'of 
persona who actually enjoy complete imn.unitv from 
the woes that oppress you. Those only are happy who 
want to be ho, who apply themselves to tho art of 'learn- 
inp: how to be so, an<l who discover in the process, that 
tho sources of true happiness, are not without, but 
witliin us. A sweet reasonableness is the first essential 
mpurement of a contented min<l. A dignified attitude 
in the face of contradiction, loss, or disappointment, 
helps powerfully to pn>serve the seronitv of one's dis- 

Tfr7- ^? ^'''*' ^""'^ ^"'""^' '^"•^ •''"'^"i^ ^^^l>Je ami 
cliildisli. The grain of common sense which informs us 



that it is useless to 



cry over spilt milk should also check 



many a fit of ill-t(miper or disappointment 

. ,.^* ? ^'"* ^^^^ "P '^"i* ""nds that our chief business 

m life IS to be happy, and it will soon become a matter 



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of pride to sec with what scanty materials we can 
.'iuccessfully reach that result. It is far from a selfish 
ami, because the happy person alone knows how to 
<iitfuse happmess, while the melancholy or discontented 
one casts a gloomy shadow over many other lives besides 
his or her o^vn. It is, therefore, distinctly wrong and 
unfair to yield to the depression of spirits that is 
brought on by some unexpected or unavoidable stroke 
of adversity, and we should bo as much ashamed of 
pivmg way to that tem})tation as to any other that 
incites to wrong-doing. To admit one's unhappiness is 
tantamount to a confession that one has neither Faith, 
Hope, nor Love, that— in short— one is not a Christian. 



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LOOKING UPWARD. 



^ vniy unen our lliouo/ifs no ni) that n,ir i;fo i 
erect .■'. ' "'" '"^^ ''/^ becomes 

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%, ,y„„„o,r,v de.,ero,v,,I .ad >„«v lf„ So d ,4v 

stoop. The cLst con ral' f "/"^^;'*"='^ ^^"'^^"^y to 

n„t ;f ,11 ' "'^''' "■■ "'<' next- 
"""*' «l.<-n,Mvos onlv wi, „„„„„ ,„„»;,;„, ™ 



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st'ltish interests and cares ; seeing in life only an oppor- 
tunity for personal indulgence or advancement ; recog- 
nizing as good only those attainments or possessions that 
havo^ a commercial value ; ready at all times to barter 
the intellectual or the spiritual for tlie material, the 
eternal for tlie temporal. 

When the thoughts ''go up" on the other hand, 
"our life becomes erect." AV'^e need no other stay 
nor brace than this to counteract the fatal tendency to 
3toop. 

The study of what is intrinsically high, noble and 
beautiful, lifts us effeetually out of*^the commonplace, 
the mean and sordid ruts of life. "We no longer grovel, 
we soar. The things that occupy vulgar minds are 
henceforth beneath our notice. From a narrow world 
of dull fact and prose we emerge into a boundless uni- 
verse made glorious with countless and sublime mani- 
festations of divine power. We feel ourselves related 
to all times, all persons, all places. The finite loses 
itself in the infinite. Oiu sense of proportion is read- 
justed. AVhat was once important in our eyes now 
stands revealed as utterly insignificant — unworthy of 
thought or effort. And what we formerly despised or 
neglected as unnecessary, superfluous, we now recog- 
nize and assiduously cultivate as the highest desiderata 
of our earthlv existence. 

This nuich cannot be acomplished for us by religion 
alone, in the ordinary sense attached to the word, that 
is, the purely devotional spirit. The real knowledge 
of God, which comes to us as well through a study of 
His works as of His word is the lever that lifts the soul 
to its true altitude, and keeps it erect. In the pursuit 
of every branch of science, art, or industry, this know- 
ledge may be, in part, acquired and made our own. 

As it grows, it changes for us the whole aspect of life. 
"We learn, by degrees, to refer everything to God, to 



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Thm V. r„ r"'" "'r'"'""'y ''^"■- '"■n.ar, affair,, 

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THE FORMATION OF CHARACTER. 

You cannot dream yourself into a character ; you 
must hammer and forge yourself one. 

— Froude. 

,HE habit of dreaming — ^witli the eyes open — is 
one to which most young girls and even women, 
incline both by nature, and as a result of the 
secluded and sedentary lives which the majority of 
tliem lead. There is virtue in beautiful dreams, when 
they are kept within proper bounds and not allowed to 
usurp the mind to the exclusion of the more serious 
aifairs of life. They serve to foster our ideals, and to 
keep idle, frivolous, or other unworthy thoughts, at bay. 
They are also a sweeo panacea against pain, disappoint- 
ment, and other troubles that may thicken around our 
path. Many a dull and sordid life is gilded for patient, 
struggling souls, by dreams of what might be, under 
less adverse conditions. These are some of the legi- 
timate uses of dreams. 

But it is against the abuse of the lovely and beguiling 
thoughts and visions that haunt the mind persistently 
in hours of solitude, that I would warn the growing girl 
or the young wife and mother. Even when day-dreams 
are not positively harmful, they are at best barren of 
good results to ourselves or others, and thus the time 
given to them is diverted from some more useful 
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of what you would likp tl kI j ""inkmg constantjy 

you arc." If co„^iot%t %"r":Zl"''''^' J^""' 
character, rouse yourself ,J Ijrfrom an id™ 

and "hammer an~ ^US " a „f O^^^^""'-' 
When the ronn.1 r.-e ~j .f""f ^it a new one. 

pens, includes rn/whz'hL?r"^' ^^ '^^^^^^^ ^«P- 
I can think of no belter 1 J , ''^^*"^" «°^ «il^"-^> 

than the habit of efrn^^^^^^^^^^^^^ «g-"«t idle dream.^ 
passages from the worb ^f i"f .*^ ^^"^^^^ favourite 
exercise which conTribnte, ^^^^Poets. This is an 

other to the adoZent of I ™''' f ^^«*"^"y ^han anv 
of a sound liter^Haste '"'"^' '"^ *^^ «^^^*^^«tion 

t- ^^T^t^SpSt:^: r ^^ ^"^^^^^ ^^^- 

educated men and Tomen T.v IT T'"^^* *^« ^est 
is easil,. acquired! Td hat T ^ f f^^'t^' " ^"^ *'^* 
possessor with a PAv^+ai.i i ^"^ *^ invest the 

be compa^d ^.rr" ,?r """^/i^'"""™. not to 
V ordinary profici" ^^f .f '"'-« i-pired 
but one-half of the timf „ .j 1 ' f"^ or science. If 

ao piano, the tndr„?.t'' ^ 1^' «'"■' "^ '"-J^? "n 
devoted to the sS „f ^^ '*''*''» of novels, was 

>» a very'^noSbe'ttonVr™'"'''-" 
rtandard of taste and condtT "" •'"•'™'''''» 

of many. It ™ thereW „" ™1'"'*'=^' knowledge 
to become a tSe„T ofsrA '™" *" f°P°^ ^ oneself 
Wordsworth, Dante of f''''T' ^"'°"' ^rownina, 

■"dtodevot^onesegl^Wvand" *'™""'' ™"'" 
self-appointed task ^ ^ '"'^ perseveringly to this 

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from one's attention or affections, but merely implies 
a particular devotion to one whom it will be a matter 
of pride and honour to make one's very own. 

Young girls often write to me for advice on the 
subject of home study. To none can I make a more 
valuable suggestion than this : Eead and study the 
best authors. This is education in the highest sense 
of the word ; it costs little or nothing to acquire it, and 
your o\\Ti conscientious application is the only essential 
factor of success. All the professors and universities 
in the world cannot do as much for you. 



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XLVII 
THE WANT OF MOTIVE. 

^nat makes life dreary is tke .ant of motive. 
VtX -r. — George Eliot. 

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talk fo,. 1^7' ^tfr''™ T ""' "-"'^ " «"le 

'ife, I am JraW is " ITM" "'" ™'"' »'■<' "hose 
one. There ie m.^^^ °- ?™ °™ '''"'^' " dreary 
similar ofrlmstaTeef Tt'*""' "'■'"'S "y ^^''<J'='-. ™ 
what eouragHnd sSn J'7 "" "™SgHi.g on, with 

their ^^^ypi':izt^^::::t7i::z ^'' 

theirVrronS'at^ h!' '°'"?''T' "'" °' *""''■> ^i* 
I fear al™™ Tn??'* the people they meet, dreaming, 

wbieh\hiXit fthe'rn,rfi'n?i;?r'-=°""\ 

now seems ever to elude thTm tW-e^ that 

self rs'rc'tett' -7 you^« girl who finds her- 

towards them alCTf -^ J ^ ?"!;''' '=" ''' ^J ^"ty 
fr„„ ..„■",""' as a fr'end and adviser, if X refnii,.:? 



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tions which thej are apt to regard as the determining 
forces of their lives. 

First of all, they must cease thinking of themselves. 
A young girl is too apt to look at life from a purely 
perso >dl point of view. She craves love, sympathy, 
appreciation. In her estimate of human beings, no one 
counts who does not, in some way, exercise a direct and 
agreeable influence- over her own life. '' What good is 
that to mef is the test she applies to any beautiful or 
good thing, or interesting fact brought before her 
notice. 

Surely this is an extremely narrow and ungenerous 
attitude to assume towards the world she lives in, witli 
its teeming interests, its inexhaustible resources ; or 
towards her fellow-creatures, each of whom has the 
same feelings, longings, hopes and need of sympathy 
as she. 

Another fault of youth is its impatience. Before 
she is well out of her teens, a girl expects to have 
reached the great turning-point in her life which is to 
give definite aim and shape to her future. Such a 
feeling of unrest is fatal to serious effort, or concentra- 
tion of purpose in any direction. I should like every 
girl to repeat often to herself the line above quoted : 

" "What makes life dreary is the want of motive." 

Have you a motive in life? or are you just drifting 
along this way or that, as every breeze and current 
may drive or lead you? Is your motive a good one, 
worthy, unselfish, stimulating? If not, make haste to 
provide yourself with one which wall furnish you with 
a constant incentive to improve yourself and do good 
to others. 

Let us suppose you live among dull, unresponsive, 
wholly uncongenial people. You feel that your 
superior talent or education, your fine feelings and 



THK WANT 01- MOTIVE ^ j ,, 

your sleepy Lulo tuwnV Vo^.Uof ' '"T ^J-'^^^^ ^" 

^lup with one whose everT word ^ '\^ ^'^'"P-'i-" 
and inspiring ; ^-Jio innLZ ^ "^"^^ '''''' 8''»^'ious 

.satisfied your deal ^f 1,^ ^ r'"'"' ^'"^^^ ^"^ ^'^^'n^^v, 
woman? a4 tl j/otr^'r' ^"^"' ^'^ ^'^ I'-'^-t 
such an inflnen e ov t o " T" '""^ '° ^^'^^'^^ J"^^ 
meet every dav^T; H^f' ^^'.'"'"^ ^^ '^ .^our lot to 

it clccplv intere^^iini'^^B mirrd'^"' ^'^1^ '''' «"'' 
work, stndv, hnprove vo u elf f '"'"'"^ ^'"^^ '""^^ 
the smalle t detlilT of .t. , ''''''•>' ^^'-^^^ ^^-^'n t^ 
Above all, von 'ntt 1 ' '^''Tf '"'^ surrouiulings. 

thotie, not^nl :V tht ^ ;S:tn VlS'^^''^ r ^- 
above you, but to the hunZst of vn'' %'n *^'' ^"'^ 
tures as well. They are .1? J. f ' , "' ^^'^^^w-crea- 
'-1-bere is a divine spark if tfT '"'''''*' «"^ '^'^^^r- 
them. They haT TL 7 ""i ^'''^* ^"^ "^^'^^ ^"^ of 
:ou have to the sylX "^^' '' ^^"/^ ^^^^P^^^-' -^ 

i- full of hope and 41, ' ^'^ " ^'°"'''<= "•'»<■!■ 

of your strons: vouno- Kfp .,, X' .\^ ^"^^^ o^ two- 

<i T " J"-"'")^ Jiic to the service of r»fli«v. o 

I am younff. T n^-n oflF...^ x. _. • i °^ ^*"^''^- Say. 



tunity." Indulg, 



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sinijjly to enrich by your help and sympathy, the lives 
of ^oiiio more wretched than yourself. If you carry out 
these suggestions as I should wish you to do, you will 
soo:: find that you have no time to bo lonely or sad. 
What right have you to be mooning when there is one 
who needs your cheerful company ; wiien you can be 
storing your mind with beautifid, helpful thoua'lits ; 
when your fingers might be fashioning some simple 
garments for the poor, when a bright sky invites you 
to an invigorating walk? rorno, you are not the sort 
of girl who is going to mope or shed idle tears when 
things go wrong. You are going to brace up and make 
tlicm go right again, or if that is hopeless, you will i)ut 
them out of your tliought^ altogether, and address your- 
self to some more promising tasks. There is too much 
work waitiro" to be done to permit of useless grieving 
over failure- "!• disappointuuMiIs. 

'My promised Here it i.s. You will find in working 
thus for otliers a secret of happiness which no one can 
ever wrest from yon again. Your nature will be so 
purified, strengthened, enriched, thnt love and appre- 
ciation will be poured out on you witliout the seeking, 
from the most unexpected sources. You will become a 
power in whatever sphere of life you may be called to 
occupy. Everybody will be glad tliat you have lived. 
In the exercise of this power you will find a sweetness 
which no words can describe. You will learn to regard 
yourself, not as the centre of a little universe in which 
you expect all rays from witliout to converge, but just 
as a humble instrument of the Omnipotent Father, in 
wliose hands tlio destinies of all are safe. You Avill 
realize the wickedness of doubt, dissatisfaction, and 
desiiair: the joy of faith, of hope, of charity. In short, 
you will l)p happy in a decree that has never yet been 
attained by any who build on the insecure foundation 
of exterior conditiot''? and circumstances. 






XLXlli 
THE TEST OF EDUCATION. 

successful manayvmtnl of a family. 

— JJurinip. 
HE family- i, tJ,o nation in epiton.e. Tl.o snecoss- 

lac oi in the strengtii, ^.rcatnes. and prosperity 
of tl e nation to which it boion^s. An u.^ncS 
faa.% IS a point of weakne.. in the social structure 
lable at any moment to crumble away and brined S 

ireZ^i rrt """'"'-r '''^'•^^'^^^' ^^ -''^ -^ ^ -f 
familv' '"'i^^^'""^^^" -' ^^^^'y than that of managing a 

It is a difficult and complicated business, the numer- 
ous ranufications of which can hardly be ^pprel ended 

doubt'itt"., " "' P"^^"^^ ''^^^^•^^■^^•« thereof Xo 
doubt t IS sheer ignorance of the extreme gravity of 

the task_ before them that enable, so many women t 
assume it with light hearts and without he smaHeS 
at empt at preparation. Surely no one could gT.^p 1 e 
r^ii iTnmo'T, '' 1'^'""' "^^ motherhood^^ 
aZZd" o" het L^r^^'^t^ ^ "' the responsibility 
;^oss the fatefi^ 5?ubLn'5 ^^^^IT^:^ 

m^on'thr/'r' '"^ 1 ^-tified^anity or ^hatw 
ambition that looks not beyond tl dav of small 

nnmphs good only to excite the admiration :L^ 
•'x -.i-.e invulous and vain. 






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^loic and more dear is it becoming every day 
tliat the rock on vhicli domestic liappiiiet*!* most 
fre<.iientl_y founders k that fatal lack of preparation for 
the werions duties of life tlial is the result of the wrong 
educational mefliod.s adopted in the bringing up of the 
modern girl. So firmly am 1 persuaded of this that I 
would almost he tempted to advocate the substitution 
of manual training in the useful arts in all the schools 
for the ordinary curriculum of "studies" that do no 
good to the students nor to any one else. Let a child 
be taught to read and write, "indeed, and t<. cast up 
figures, but instead of stufling the poor little brains 
^yith (jueer facts and hard dates, with rules aiul excep- 
tions ,vhich to the infant mind must appear so utterly 
meaningless ; in>tead of making th" poor little arms 
ache with ''practicing" useless accomplishments, 
would it not be infinitely wiser, kinder and ultiimUely 
more beneficial to all concerned, to give the same time 
and attention to the training of the future head of a 
family in those arts wliieh make for comfort, peace and 
well-being in the home. 

Is it not in the highest degree inconsistent, not to 
Pay cruel, to set a growing gir! to accomplish certain 
tiresome and difTicnlt mental feats which are held up to 
lier, through the formative years of her life as the end 
and aim towards which she must bend all her energies, 
direct all her aspirations ; then wb.en the tasks are all 
accomplished, the medals won, the certificates duly 
framed and hung up on the wall, to place her at the 
head of a household and expect her, at the risk of being 
severely blamed, criticised and rendered generally 
miserable, to develop a suddcni genius for domesticity 
to exhibit a perfect familiarity with kitchen utensils' 
to bake, and boil, and brew like an expert, to direct 
inexperienced servants, to know the danger that lurks 
in a defective drain pipe or a dirty dish cloth ; to cope 



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TIIK TKsr or EIH-(;atI(i.\ j.... 

of .r„o o,„K.a„-,„', i,: ,1 :; :; r;;:.;, '" 'f '■'■''^''1' 

li""cJ, when .h,. sl.onM f,,.! ^ "' "^ ^^"^ ^'"'l- 

i^ now co,„pI,.te]v fo...;;;',;'''' "^^'^"^^ ■'^^^'^ I^^-*^^ that 
anv souse i.rofif.,blo l-m ' ;.' ?'""" '^ ^^''" '^^' '» 

family (lepcn.l.. This aftor mII ; \. • "^ ''"' 

.;»« of t,,e ,i.„«,.„,.:',.t:- . "«•:;,;.":;; ™':"'r' 

tile nursery witl. Im.. ,mi < i '* ""* ••'»o ih still in 

she i„vc. bi ;; ' . ,:^': i !:, r k'^T f", '"' "'? '"^-^ 

show l„.r tl„. ,„.,.,„. "■ , '"'"■ ''"• "•'"•I'l" I" 

it^ lit. / ward I , ■ ■ 'i" "T '"' '■" " '«'I'J' " «"'! 

Z!:^^ .ni;o",;::;:. ;;^'„;",;;.;r •^-i'"' -^- "-''^ 

W ffradnal stem ll [ l" "* T"^"''"?? them. Thus, 
-t ore.., her ri^i^rdoln ' ^'"^"^"^^ '^"^ ''""'^^- 

commit faynnrit. n.LTe '- ''' P^"'''-^'' ""^ ^^ 

Of great men an //If '.'' ^"™^^^'.>'' to rea.l the lives 

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nings the inventions and enterprises that have most 
benefited the world. Teaeh her to observe and admire 
the handiwork of God, and encourage in her a whole- 
some curiosity regarding the wonders and beauties and 
secrets of nature. Let her take daily exercise and 
recreation in the open air, that she may be both healthy 
and happy. Teach her to be gentle, modest, truthful, 
kind. This is the sort of education that produces a 
woman fit for any calling or position in life, the 
capable, intelligent, sympathetic, sensible woman, who 
is faithful in small things and in great, whoso hands, 
heart and head have been equally cultivated. Educa- 
tors the world over are waking up to the truth at last, 
and in many directions systematic efforts arc being 
made to do away with various fads and follies sanc- 
tioned or encouraged by modern educational methods. 
It is not too much to hope that radical reforms will be 
carried out within the next few years. Common-sense 
is destined to triumph over foolish vanity. There is 
room for hope that the growing girl of to-day may be 
given a fair chance to perfect lierself in those arts and 
accomplishments that will render her indispensable to 
the happiness and comfort of her family, instead of 
being the expensive bunlen and ceaseless cause of 
anxiety she is in too many households as a result of 
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XLIX 
ENCOURAGEMENT. 

When we lake people mrrrbj as the,, are we make 
them worse; when we treat them as if they were what 
they shonld be, we improve them as far as they can be 
""P"'''^- -Goetho. 

fllE defects or liniifations of those who live uikIit 
, ,. the same roof with us are apt to excite in us a 
_ cortflin iiDpatieiK e, which, if we yiei.i to it, must 

inevitably warp our ju.lcrment in all matters relating 
to them. Wo seldom stop to enquire to what extent 
we ourselves are responsil,l,> for those same defect^ 
We are oeoasionally hurprised to discover that they 
entirely escape the observation of stranirers, an(i that 
outsi.le the family oird,., tho one whom we have accus- 
tomed ourselves to regar.l as hopeles.sly stupid, awk- 
ward or "provokinn:" ^in any sense it" may please ua 
to attiich to that word), enjoys a certain degree of popu- 
larity and esteem. 

The tnie explanation of the surprising fact is so 
iinflattenng to our self-esteem that not every one of 
IIS IS willing to accept it with a good grace. It is simply 
that our pr(.sence has an irritating effect on others, 
bringing out the worst that is in them and suppressing 
the very qualities we blame them for not possessing 

(.racous and gentle attributes are the flowers of the 
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atmosplicre of H«rlit and warmth. It is impossihlo tc 
?eo or know, at his or her best, a follow-crcaturc with 
whom one docs uot sympathise. "When we assume a 
censorious or fault-findinir attitude towards othcr«, we 
instantly raise barriers between them and ourselves, 
which make mutual aprcciatioii impossible. What 
is the secret of the happiness of lovers if it is not their 
fond,^ unshakable belief in one another's good and 
pleasing qualities, and their persistent and loyal refusal 
to believe ill of one another. Could we be eciually 
generous with our friends and relatives, the world 
would indeed be converted into a paradise for all. 

There is no more powerful stimulant to self-improve- 
ment than tlie knowledge that those who live with ns 
have formed high expectations in regard to us ; but 
the cotiviction that our best efforts Avill remain unap- 
preciated is a profound source of discouragement and a 
frequent Cf^nse of failure. - 

In many large families there is a regrettable tend- 
ency to poke fun at its individual members avIio make 
efforts at self-improvement. By mimicry, satirical com- 
ments, or openly nnkind allusions the aspirations of the 
growing girl or boy towards something better than the 
existing standard of manners and attainments in the 
home are often rudely checked, if not altogether 
cupprossed. 

In the former case, the foundation is laid for antag- 
onisms that must graduall.\ increase, and that will 
eventually undermine the affection that binds together 
even the most closely nnited families. In the latter 
case a spiritual murder is committed, for which an 
account must one day be rendered before the judgment 
seat. 

If tlic cliild who is sulky or nnruly at home is happy 
and Avell-liehaA-ed among strangers ; if the silent, 
reserved son or datighter is invnrinbly agreeable and 



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to dis,.over in thrw ^ "' , ''^ '''•^^""^' ''"ther 
the cause whicl prevc L T^'if '"^ surroundings 
from blossomint into S-^." "' -^ "'""'' ^'^^"^^^^'^^ 
the retarding S^^^^t^^^ '' '''''' '^^^ ^^^- 

oi^!;:i^^Z%^^ -" fi"^ the canker worn. 

ing at thc'^JooIf: S;'ctSr r"^.*->— ^ ^aw- 
forn.ation. Perhaps fi't ^'^ '' ^^ P^^^^^s of 

frank enon^^h to ow^'if iM " "'' ''"'"^''^ ^"'^"^li and 
blame for the state of iv ^r' ^'''"'^''^^^' ^^'^'^ ^''^^ ^^ 
anee Changel-^rL^r.^tl^^^^^^ 

spoech, slower to find fault swifelv '-' ^'^^' "^ 
courage, Ie«s rpn.lv J •, ^^^"^'^ to praise and en- 

..m4<'t :S„ts voS7*^ "f '■^■^' "- ■ 

Miracles can oe wroiiffirfn ti ™ '" ""= "»ng- 

seem a l.ar-i ZTlTt, • T"^' ""<• "'»"Kh !' may 



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SYMPATHY IN JOY. 

Grief can take care of itself, hut to get the full value 
of joy you must have somebody to divide it with. 

— Mark Twain. 

[HE truest test of a generous nature is its capacity 
for sharing the joys of others. It requires little 
or no effort to sympathize by word or act with 
sad or suffering humanity: Even when the' heart is not 
deeply stirred, the lips are ready enough to utter con- 
ventional expressions of condolence. But it is quite 
otherwise when sympathy is claimed in the hour of 
success. Too often, then, the demon of envy and 
jealousy takes possession of the heart, making sincere 
participation in the happiness of others impossible. 
We have all experienced the chilling effect of a curt 
"Eeally," or "Oh, indeed!" following the announce- 
ment of some piece of good fortune that has come our 
way, and this even from old friends or near relatives 
to whom we naturally looked for the warmest 
sympathy. 

The ungenerous attitude which thus throws one back 
on one's self, forbidding the anticipated pleasant discus- 
sion of the various aspects of a joyful event, hurts far 
more cruelly than a manifestation of indifference in the 
hour of bereavement. In the latter case, a sensitive 
nature craves solitude, and scarcely misses the word or 
token of kindly sympathy withheld from any quarter. 



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nns'hS" ""^'^"'' "■"' '°'^' '«'« i'^ «'«tnes, when 
sorrow, ^fJu' ^ convinced that we pity the 

nation o?the M^^XTSow'^Atr '"^'^ "T^ 

::trwt:trh^^^ 

let h Veier^Jh^ T ^"''" .'"™P''^? Dote 

-lightly, even con* ity°S°J ™ -'°' '""'f'-- 
which we fear mav rf„,„i'f ^^ " Prominence 

fullT must we admit th»t TlTr ! •^;- '^"'^ "■oR^ot- 
sirter, or even a^o,h„ """', '""""'^ ^"oid, » 

upon 'for ^:i:LX^:rz:^^^ ,'''"' f'. 

.0 complete one. happiness .n"Thrhr ^f' tc™:'':^ 



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triumph. "Were all known, the history of many fami- 
lies would reveal sad stories of bright prospects marred 
and fond hopes blighted by just this defect of sympathy 
on the part of near and dear ones. The opportunity 
that to one, would have been the turning-point leading 
to love or distinction, was, by the selfishness of another, 
cruelly denied or appropriated to other uses. 

Such selfishness is indefensible. A proper sense of 
dignity and independence should preserve us from 
coveting pleasures and advantages which we have not 
personally earned or otherwise secured by our own 
unaided efforts. "We should be generous enough to let 
every one else be happy in his or her own way, and if 
we cannot actually hasten the process, at least we 
should scorn to take a shabby advantage of our propin- 
quity or kinship to frustrate the kind intentions of more 
liberal-minded persons. 

Let us then beware of a too complacent belief in the 
tenderness of our hearts until we have indisjiutably 
proven ourselves sincerely sympathetic towards our 
family and friends, not only in time of sickness and 
sorrow, but more particularly when success, fortune, 
or preferment has lifted them a degree or two above 
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HIDDEN BEAUTY. 



Things looked at mtienthi f^^ 
another, qenerall,, .J T 1 '"'''' ''"' *'^« «//"'• 
heantiful '^ '"^ *^' ^/^o»...^ a side that is 

Iv. L. Stevenson. 

ting themselves to definite^ extension 7 ''"^"^*- 
regarding matters coanin^. within H?.? ""P^"^^" 

od as peculiarly their owS. ^ 1 tetrreri^rT^'^ 
or circumstances are presented fnlV f ' ^'^^J^^tions 
must be carefullv wpEr V ^'" ^'''" ^-^amination, 

factor, concSnTan't ;el:r^^^^^ "^f""'' ^ ^^^^^'- 
mind, impatient oi Jnl '^^'''' \®^: ^"^ the untrained 
absurdly sX;;fil^^^"to';;J-;"^^ -P^^^^^'-' -^ 
value of indisputable JnT J '* ^-^ipressions the 
allv on theSnes orTl k"";^ Pronounces dictatori- 
^'giiness, the worth or tl^' i""'"'' '^' ^^'^"^.^' °^ the 

or^erso^ahder.^ n ;£T.^^^^^^^^^ '\''''^T' ''^^ 

moments been lightV Wsed Sn J"" ^T ^'' ' ^^^" 
of course hav« focussed. feuch rash utterances 

fhe Zwt'of rivi^: Z«'"."'"' "™«"g P«»ns, b„ 

able iW^r/to he LrnT''"" .'° ,""'."' '"""-^ ™''»'<-"l- 

habit of ,1% I ^ °"' "■''"'> ""ev proMm] The 

"M of ..reful observation, the faculty for seriom 



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criticism, are of course, incompatible witli this grave 
defect of superficiality, to all who may be accused of 
which, the fountains of true knowledge must remain 
forever sealed. 

Perhaps nowhere is the truth of the lines quoted 
above more strikingly illustrated, as regards material 
objects, than in the studio. To the eye of an artist, 
beauty appears in a thousand shapes that elude the 
observation o an ordinary spectator. Forni and colour, 
light and shadow, arrangement and expression in their 
innumerable variations and gradations offer well-nigh 
inexhaustible sources of enjoyment to one who perceives 
their artistic value or possibilities. Such ])ower of per- 
ception may be inherent tp some, but it is susceptible 
of cultivation in all. A course of serious study at an 
art school wonderfully dcvclo))s in an apt pupil the 
faculty of recogiviziug beauty in the m'uht of tlio most 
connnon-place surroundings. It teaches him that whai at 
first sight appear to be uninteresting features are in 
reality so expressive of ])ower, pathos, or sweetness as 
to ji..<iify the most loving and painstaking reproduction 
on canvas. It reveals to him the worthlessness of much 
that was formerly admired, and inevitably establishes 
in his mind a sense of the infinite superiority of natural 
over artificial efl^ects. Soon he begins to manifest an 
impatience of superfluous detail, as for instance, in por- 
traiture, he rejects unnecessary draperies, and frivolous 
ornaments as being unworthy subjects for a noble art. 
The uninformed in nH will suspect him of lax morality, 
because in some ii;s unces he appears to carry this 
process of elimination beyond the bounds of modesty. 
But in reality he is more often urged by an innate love 
of beauty wliicli informs liim that the exquisite curves 
of a woman's arm and shoulders are incomparably more 
lovely than the meaningless puffs and furbelows of satin 
or eliiffon with which the dressmaker disguises them 



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into shapes that are often CTotesnuo ««.! 

Ioveli„c». of created th!"^ ««„■„,„..„„„ „i,h the 
The artistic temperament, more tljnn nn» „.i, 

before tt'^WJei": fl^ST'thMir^fT- ™V " 

arfiV it ic f sianation. To become a groat 

oxtraordina^v gifts h it to n " i "^ ?^^'''"^' ^^''^^' 

person is denied the !hH.. ""^''''-'H^ intelh>nt 

nsio-ht into ho .1 \^' *^ ""'J'"'^ ^ ^"ffi^-'*«"t 

entire^r t;r:^;^ir.^ ^^-^ - 

of purest pleasure. The first "LTn ! V^ T'"'"'. 
this most desirahle goal i. toTe^ .^e tll'.^ht'Tf 'Tj/ 
ing patiently at things from o\e side S \1ot "" 
until the beatity of them lies ro.vo.UA t^,..-. J .'^ 



alphabet of art and the rest follow: 



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TOLERATION. 

So many Gnds, sn many creeds, 
So many paths that n'ind and wind ; 
While just the ad of being kind 
Is what the sad world needs. 

< — Selected. 

^^>1 ORE harm is done, perhaps, to the cause of 
a^L religion every day throughout the world by 
the attitude which profcosing CliristiLius 
assume towards those who differ from them in belief, 
than even by the callousness of tepid souls, or the hostil- 
ity of the avowed enemies of the Church. Indeed, it 
is more than probable that the Church would have no 
enemies at all if its sacred character were not so often 
used as a shield for the most deplorable human weak- 
nesses and passions. 

In our day, it is true, sectional strife is less violent 
and bitter than it used to be, and the methods once 
resorted to by religious bodies to secure conformity to 
their forms of belief, would not now, thank Heaven, 
be tolerated in any civilized community. But deep- 
rooted prejudices and a dormant hostility still linger 
in the breasts of many so-called Christians, inclining 
them to regard with siispicion and even positive hatred 
the followers of doctrines different from theirs. Worse 
still it is made a part of the religious (?) education of 
innocent little children, to plant the seeds and foster 



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the growth in tlieir voiinf^ hoarf., nf ih^ . • 

"epfon. of fulelltv ,„ an inherited ejeed ^ ^ "'"" 

tLe oh.Wren of such parent, „s tl.ese who forfo nil 1 
-veet attract veness of childiiood l,y learn n-,^ der ' 
".d m,n,.e ,„ p„|,li.. ,|,o ,„i„isl„s or ";, .iJrT f 
ehiirehes other than their o«ii Tl,„ '"'""<''*."' 

s..o':r.^t»i!;,;:L:,'-„';;'-^";-.arh.np„ 

'And tliesp are Chri^Hnno?" ,*= *u 
i« forPP.1 t« ^„ V nrihtians? is the eonunontarv one 
1^ lorccd to make on witnessinrr this freonentJv Ln..r^ 
""f ^Poctaclo of religious, or father rS^ "rife 
Biit no mdeed, these are not Christians ; tty have no 
claim to the title of true followers of the lent^e 
^ zarene who loved all sinners, Jew or Gentile wUh 

llnZV ''T *-^— to which treteaW 
effort of human love can but faintly approach The.e 
^-.ind.^ed, narrow sectarians, who ehoo'e ?o plav the 
Phar see's part, have nothing in common w Y he 
1 road chanty and cenerous zeal for sonl. thll r 
tmguishes the real disciples of the Master ^ ''''' '''- 
\ ast sums of money are expended yearly to snnnnrt 
fore,^ missions in distant countries,^ and it is to I 
eared that many contributors to this enorl^ous f„n^ 

ihZ %"'"'^^''T T'^ ""^ ^"*^ ^"*fi"ed which absolve; 
them from^^all further obligation to their neighbourl 



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They tlLsdain to work in the missionary field at thoir 
own door. 1'liey profcst* to lovo tho heathen — who is 
at a safe distance, and doea not expect to bo invited to 
dinner — but thoy frankly hate, and avoid all contact 
with the non-conforniinji^ multitude at their doors. The 
Epiacopalian despises and ignores his Methodist neigh- 
bour ; tho Presbyterian harbours suspicion and dislike 
against the Koman Catholic element of the community; 
tlie Unitarian is shunned by all members of orthodox 
churches, and so on. Yet all are children of one 
Father, and the soul of one is not a whit more precious 
in His sight than the soul of another. 

Especially in small towns and country places are 
these lines of demarcation rigidly drawn, and held to 
be sufficient justification for many i grave lapse from 
charity, justice and trvth. In larger cities, circum- 
stances often conspire to bring together under one roof, 
or in daily business or social relations, men and women 
professing a variety of beliefs, and invariably the 
honesty of facts wins the day over inherited animosities, 
and a more liberal, tolerant spirit is bred iu those who 
had previously hated and distrusted one another. They 
gradually learn that it is " just the art of being kind " 
that " the sad world needs." Truly, there is no surer 
indication of real spiritual progress than daily practice 
of the religion of kindness. Its principles rest securely 
on the golden rule. Its followers do not ask of every 
new-comer " What belief do you profess?" before com- 
mitting themselves to a friendly attitude, but rather, 
'' In what way can I help you over the rough places of 
life, my brother?" And whether by speech or silence, 
by thoughtful action or the tactful "letting alone" 
which is a more powerful agent for good than many sus- 
pect, the generous heart is always ready to love and 
-assist any fellow-creature according to his needs. 

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where aortional differencos probably run h rr. £„ch 

"& rt ofT' '"^" •--^'- «' hand to cultfvate 
bevonHl ^'"^ ^'"^'. "^*""'^'"« ^«^ i^^d influence 
beyond the narrow precincts of her own particular fold 

"peitflr'it^Tr^n r'""^ *»'°^ wfthout it with 

Let rlf^^ ^ ""/u^ well-meaning members of any 
7sl'r^T ""l V "'. ^"'^^ ^^«"«^'« °^ ««Jvation are 

•eii a Christian, nor presume to thank the Lord that 
she 18 not like other women. *' 



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EASTER THOUGHTS. 

/ liold it truth, with him who sings 
To one clear harp in divers tones, 
That men may rise on stepping-stones 
Of their dead selves to higher things. 

— In Memoriam. 

j^IIE joyful season of Kcsurrection is at hand. J a 
the natural as well as in the spiritual world, the 
time has come for the quicivcniiij; of new life in 
all things, for the shedding of old garments, for emerg- 
ing from darkness, cold and gloom, into brilliant sun- 
shine and genial air. The most hardened heart is not 
proof against the subtle tenderness and riant glad- 
ness of Easter. We may or may not feel a desire \o be 
clothed anew, like the flowers, l)ut even if we ciiurlisidy 
resist for a time, the influences at work all around us, 
we must eventually be shamed into doing our part, 
when we see ourselves such sorry exceptions to the 
universal law. It is better then, to recognize at once, 
the necessity of a personal resurrection and to prepare 
ourselves in humble sincerity to ''rise on stepping- 
stones of our dead selves to higher things." 

A sudden and radical conversion is an experience 
not to be hoped for by the many. Human vices and 
weaknesses have their roots too'^deep in the character 
to be weeded out by a single day's work. We are apt, 
on great occasions, to over-estimate our own moral 



KASTKK THOUGHTS 



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Strength, to let ourselves ho carried away hv a kind of 

iture looks all serene and impcrvions to temptation. 
It Ks easy „„dc... s„,.h an inlhH.n..e, to nmko fine resolu- 
tions. Alas ! ^^■o have harely crossed the threshohl of 
our own peaeelul chan.her, when we are brought into 
iH-hn.de contact with the workaday world that all onr 
biautiful resolves vanish into thin air, and all the hate- 
f old passions we thought wo had suhjugatcl com- 
plo tely arc rampant onco nu.re. In the humiliation 
hat fo lows a se,.so of <lofeat, we are apt to give up 
trying to do hettr-r. W,- would he nmre successful if 
^^•o could schoo ourselves to realize that the conditions 
<.f yesterday will repeat themselves to-,norrow, and that 
religious fervour is one thing and moral discipline 
another . ong prayer in the solitude of one's cham- 
ber IS of less avad than a l.rief invocation for help in 
the moment of ten.p.a. .on. The most heroic res^lvo 
has not a fraction of the vah... of the smallest as-surcd 
victory over self. To bear one's self patiently when 
n-buked or criticized ; to relin.,uish some cherished 
purpose even a devout ,>r charitable one, with a good 
grace If so re(,u,red ; to forbear from commenting on 
an unkind act or spce.-h ; to perform a distasteful task 
with simple courage and without hope of praise ; to 
suffer others, less worthy, to be commended while one's 
self IS forgotten or ignored ; these are surer proofs of 
a new spirit than any of what might bo called the 
professional pieties which, in the imagination of many 
women, constitute the higher life. This process of 
attaining perfection is necessarilv slow, but it is the 
oiuy sure one. 

"Heaven is not gained at a single bound." 

We must beware then, of exaggerated religioin 
fervour which blinds us to our real moral status, and 



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retards, instead of forwarding our spiritual growth, 
and rather strive in calm humilitj to determine what 
shall be the first stepping-stone on which we may rise 
to higher things. From stone to stone, we must be 
content to advance year by year, until haply, we shall 
have reached the summit of our aspirations before the 
last call comes. The grave shall have no terrors for us 
then, for our eyes shall see beyond it and discern only 
the joy and glory of a happy resurrection. 



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AN EASTER MYSTERY. 

Now when Jesus was risen early the first day of 
the week, he appeared first to Mary Magdalene, out of 
whom he had cast seven devils. 

— St. Mark, xvi., 9. 

F surpassing interest to women is the fact set 
down without comment in the Gospels, that 
the glorious and stupendous miracle of the 
Eesurrection was first revealed to one of their sex. A 
subject for deep meditation, truly. Had it even been 
the Virgin Mother, so loving and patient, so deeply 
tried by suffering, or the other Mary, her faithful com- 
panion and comforter, for whom this signal honour had 
been reserved, there would be less matter for surprise. 
But that of all women, the risen Saviour's choice of a 
first confidante should have fallen on Mary Magdalene, 
whose name had been a by-word among men, whose 
only title to distinction was that she had " loved much " 
and repented sincerely of sins which, to this day, the 
worid never forgives in a woman — this other mystery 
of Easter morning, subverted the social order no less 
effectually than the Resurrection subverted the order 
of nature. 

These are things to ponder deeply in our hearta. Xo 
doubt there were women in Judea who, having lived 
blameless lives in the eyes of the worid, held them- 
selves far above the converted courtesan ; who would 



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c TsneaS' ?'"' "'^"'^' ^^^^'*' covetousuLs and 
1 «n ^ !? ^'l'^"'«^ "' "^•^^^ effectually from Ilhn 

in? as the only unpardonable ones? " 

lor oacu o± us to try and measure accurately our own 

o th: S ir'-?'. r'' '^^'^^"^' not'accoXg 
vvorhLw „ f P"deful standard of a mammon 

humble «T,T X I ^'^^^our, who recognizes the 
immble and contrite heart under hoxyevor lowly an 
exterior it is concealed. " ^ ^ 



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THE SOUL'S STANDARD. 



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This is to live in iruth, 
To plant against the passion's dark control 
The sp^r^ts birthright of immortal yZth 
The simple standard of the soul ^ ' 

, —Archibald Lampman. 

y t^if ^ P'^T«^'"^«tly the festival of all others 

a happ, ti^eT VXC ^Tfeil^^ 't\'' 
have found out that a generous i7r. T^' .?^^ "^^"^ 
Vretty, but generall/Sir^uW^^^^^^^^ L t" '' 
affect our haDDinp«w h»f *^ ^""^^-s can, m the main 

nient which the mere name „f ri ° ! °* ''=""*■ 
power to produce rurBufl.?^™' """^ ''"' 
spiritnal significance Tr^T " "^ " ''"'P" 

»«nal appeal to S if L We ". """! '""■""»' I^'" 
o^nd our every thought ^odXtTl""^"-'" 

-ching our^cfj^el-'L^rs: C rd-^""'=' 

fnl living. We ZIZT^'"'"""^'"- ^"^ P'"^^ 
»»ls which we jirink fZ, '"™ .''''* P'^ra in onr 
I.- an uneas^l™' tT 0^;:?"^ MXtr "" 
»ho,e, compare, ,„,t sorri,, «,th IXUnl-^^t^J^ 



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of unselfishness and noble achievement that we know 
of. The round in which we have been moving may 
look pitifully narrow and mean beside the broader orbit 
of a more generous and earnest life. 

But is it not better to face the unflattering com- 
parison, to acknowledge our vanity, our selfishness, our 
usclessness, and for once, humbly realize that we have 
sadly misused the splendid gift of existence, than to go 
on forever shirking an obvious duty, perpetually excus- 
ing ourselves on one plea or another from an effort at 
sincere reformation, and so letting the years slip by 
irretrievably without doing anything to prove ourselves 
worthy of the priceless favours bestowed upon us ? 
Shall we not, in this beautiful season of re-creation, 
help our aspiring soul to' burst through the outer shell 
of indifference, of conventionality, of bondage to habit 
and custom, of servile fear of criticism, that has so long 
cramped and confined it as in a narrow prison-house? 
The spirit clamours for its " birthright of immortal 
youth." The sap of a new season is rising in our veins, 
and tender little buds of lovely new virtues are swelling 
under the tough bark of our old habits and callous- 
ness. Shall they not be permitted to blossom and bear 
fruit? 

" The simple standard of the soul," is, indeed, the 
only one worth living by. Cease, then, to fret over the 
complexities of laws which you are in no sense bound 
to obey. Be nobly independent of those who would 
seek to abridge your liberty of spirit by imposing arti- 
ficial conditions or obligations upon you. Seek only 
those things that fill the heart with enduring joy, and 
leave the mind at peace with itself. The re«t is all 
vanity. Let it go without a pang of useless regret. 
Thus may the Eastertide be rendered glorious by a 
new miracle of resurrection for each one of us ! 



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THE FAMILY. 

n/j'i^- '''^''^''J'^ f^^^ly is the most beautiful piece 

tmportant. There xs nothing in the world thai renuires 
more erecutrve ability and exquisite tact, andZlZZ 
that IS more worthy of being well done. ^ 

— Selected. 

^t3^^J '! ^ °^I^°" ^" ^P^*°°^«- I^ the virtue 
and he s rength of families, lies the virtue 
and the strength of the nation. When we 
remember that the entire human race has sprung from 
one single family, an approximate idea of the^mmer 
importance of the family can be formed. The Tv^rage 
mother does not realize this importance, nor the weight 

mon to hear a wife and mother say that she has no life 
of her o^vn, that she is cut off from participation In he 
occupations and pastimes which make other women's 
hves so interesting, by the fact that she has a frmSy 
which absorbs all her time and attention. This sSS^ 

lortune, or a gnevance. 

To the woman who has missed the high honour and 
holy joy of motherhood, this attitude%f her more 
fortunate sister must ever be a profound mysterv 
ne^/rt "" "" «ot happy in her own familyVould 
never be happy anvwhere. Her nature does not go 
enough for rea happiness. She is unable to gralp 
IS, to regard her life as a whole, as a something 



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whereby she is related to all mankind, of past and 
future ages. In her children she sees, alas! only so 
many oktacles to the gratification of her own personal, 
trivial, selfish aims. She loves them best when they 
become instruments that minister to her vanitv, when 
they attract notice in high quarters, or when they begin 
to reveal the pos.se.-sion of powers and attainments that 
will ensure them an honourable, or, in any sense, 
prommciit place in the world. But in their society as 
her children, simply, she takes no delight. It is her 
pleasure rather to delegate as many of her maternal 
functions as possible to hired strangers, or to any other 
substitute who may be available. 

The dawning of the infant mind, the gradual devel- 
opment of the physical and moral peculiarities whic^h go 
to produce a new individuality, somehow fail to inspire 
her ^vith the absorbing interest they possess for the 
woman who thinks and feels. A sense of the plastic 
nature of a child, and of her own power and duty to 
mould it in the loveliest shapes, is unfelt by her, ^r if 
vaguely apprehended, it is seldom made a subject of 
earnest thought or heartfelt prayer. The extent of her 
influence in the home, the far-reaching results of her 
educational methods, or her neglect of them, the won- 
derful possibilities which the future holds for her off- 
spring, or which it shall withhold, according to the 
degree of their fitness, as they leave their mother's side, 
these are not the considerations that occupy her 
thoughts and exercise her judgment, and guide her 
ambitions from day to day. 

Obviously, it is little short of a crime for any woman 
to assume maternal responsibilities unless she is pre- 
pared to disci ,irge them in a conscientious manner ; 
unless she can estimate the full value of the privileges 
attached to the high office of maternity ; unless she 
proposes to create a home and to found a familv which 



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THE BEST WAY. 



jTArre is always a best way of doing everything, if 
tt be but to boil an egg. —Emerson. 

** Mp ^^^' *« ** gi'ea^ bundle of little things," as the 
i^ Artocrat of the Breakfast-Table wisely 



..-sely 
remark.>4. AVo are all apt, however, to grow 
impatient over the very littleness of the things that go 
to make up our separate lives, forgetting that the 
measure of our faithfulness in small things is the surest 
proof of our capacity for greater endeavour. The 
girl who does not know how to boil an egg properly, 
or make a good cup of coffee, though these simple 
tasks are a fwrtion of her daily duty, sighs for wider 
spheres wherein to exercise the latent talents of which 
she believes herself possessed. She does not realise 
that almost every function in life, however exalted, 
calls for the identical qualities of exactness, thorough- 
ness and method which make a well-ordered kitchen a 
source of conifort and even happiness to the family 
depending ok its operations. If a woman believes her- 
self to be superior in intelligence to those around her, 
lot her demonstrate the fact not by looking for impo» 
sible worlds to conquer, but by doing those things that 
lie nearest her hand in such a way that she becomes a 
guide and an inspiration to others. We have nearly 
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wrought in tho homo as a result of noglectod or care- 
lesaly performed domestic dutien. If it bo only that the 
porridKo w burned or the toa«t cold at breakfast, even 
•o littlo a thing will get on tho nerves of an entire 
tamiy, and often lead to most grievous results, all of 
which would have been obviated by the neeessary 
Hegreo of attention on tho part of the cook. 

It should therefore be our ambition to do everything 
well, however trifling it may bo, remembering that life 
.s made up of lit^'o things and that to prodtce a fair 
whole all the parts must be perfect of their kind, and 
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THE ART OF ENJOYMENT. 

Educailon is needed nol only h help us do our 

work ; it is also needed to help us to enjoy our leisure. 

^ — \V. E. jr. L('<;ky. 

OTUN" a wc'll-ordorcd life a considornl.h' portion of timo 

(§^ IS always »vt aparf for pure onjoymcnt. Aiiioiiir 

the educated classes especial! j/ some form of 

healthy recreation is recoj-nized as a daily nccessitv, 

and provision for the same is made witli as much 

pavitj as attends the ordering: of moaU or other lion«e- 

hold matters of equal moment. 

Pleasure, to be all that the name implies, must, in a 
certain sense be taken seriously, that is, it should he 
raised to the dignity of an art, and pursued with love 
and pride. In the matter of the selection of particular 
pleasures individuals must be guided by personal tastes, 
qualifications, means and opportunities, but no man or 
woman, in however straitened circumstances, is com- 
pletely debarred from all sources of pure, healthy 
enjoyment. An endless variety offers itself to those 
who desire to make choice of a favourite pastime. The 
regrettable fact, in this connection, is not the scarcitv 
of materials or opportunities so much as the dulness 
and apathy of the many who refuse to avail themselves 
of either, and who are content to lead work-a-day, com- 
mon-place lives, in which positive enjoyment, in anv 
shape, is an absolutely unknown quantity. Men are 
less open to reproach on this score than women. Out- 



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<loor sports iuul irjinif^ ,,f ,.ll i ; i i 

votaries amouK ti^ roni OS TI "■•' "" '""'^' ''^ 
well-to-do classes Ir f , ^ ';* '"'•'""" ^'f ^''« 

di>iifvof plnv I ' ] '■' r"''*"">' '•"""^'"''^^- t»'"^ 

i><^M-.:^:!7ar.';;:,;:^::;/^lj'''"''^-''<-- 

reonrrin,. elain.H on tlu^ir tin.. '"""^ "'"' «"'^'" 

J>fr ami iirpeney tlie dvumv.. 

housekeeper, contrive to ntt d 

proHelenry in ri.jin^r, skatir •■ ,. 
J'asket-I.Hll, rowin^^ pr.lT ,., 
healthy recreation ex.-it , 

Of lato years the hic' ', nn. 
much to widen the ^ , .ILjliiU, 
women who are more or les -r ^V . i 

-joyod I,y „„.ir ,,o„l, i ,,;,:' jZ "-""vantnKo, 

lars-c number, „„ t|,e fa^s „, , ',?''? """ 

who lc«,l hop,Ios,lv ,1„|, liv« b „„.„ , i ."'"1"""' 
how to cniov tlmmaoKr^. I'liuu.e iney do not know 
to learn -^^ t'^'n^^'Ivc, and apparently, do not care 

tern,.' ^''ieei^iZlZtr^'^JZ'Tt .T"^'T" 

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Some mothers need to realize that a sound and vigor- 
ous physical constitution is a much more valuable 
possession to the young than an abnormal development 
of the intellect, or a surprising degiee of manual skill. 
So both boys and girls should have their due allowance 
of play-t* )e, and this should not bo suboendel as they 
develop into young men and maids, nor even after they 
have crossed the Rubicon of matrimony. 

The frequent and melancholy cases of insanity that 
occur among farmers' waves would soon diminish if 
pleasant recreation was made a regular feature rvf life 
on the farm. Some form of active exercise is most 
highly to be recommended to those who need a whole- 
some stimulus to enjoyment. This is the real invigora- 
tor and rejuvenator. The woman who habitually plays 
tennis or golf, who takes long rides or walks, or other- 
wise spends much time in out-door exercise invariably 
keeps her youth till long past the period which rele- 
gates other women to the ranks of the middle-aged or 
the old. And it is when this period is reached that 
many a woman is found bitterly reproaching herself for 
having nitLlessly sacrificed her most precious posses- 
sions of health and comeliness to what, when too late, 
she perceives to have been a mistaken idea of duty. 

While there is yet time, let all who can do so, learn 
to enjoy their leisure, and, if necessary, create leisure 
where none has hitherto existed. This is the precious 
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FLOWER OR FRUIT. 

/a5J/ "''"'* ""^ ''f'''^ "'^^^'^ *^«^> ^**^« i^ bee only 
nature, /jfcg /Ae oras;,, seek only fruit. 

—Jean Paul Richter. 
JHE various opportunitios and experiences of life 
have different value, for all to whom they come 
The estimate placed on them, individually, by 
men and women, are a nearly infallible indicat on of 
wM tT^ u ^ intelligence, education and refinement 
wh^h they have attained. The occasion which, to one 

!r^- T'f ^°^ P^"''°^« ^^°°i« convertible ter^s 
according to the tastes or moods of participante iH 
particular occupation or pastime t^'^^^^P^^ ^n a 

Some women fail to reap satisfaction or enjoyment 
from any source which is not one of palpable Si^e 
gam to themselves. These, like the w^ aS Cw 

fragrant buds and blossoms of life. For the sake of « 
material advantage, to assist at a fashional^e enterta „ 
ment, to make the acquaintance of some person socially 

SesTfot '"'^^ 1'^""^^''^' '^ '''^^y *h'^' «- 

Dreoi2\ '! * ^''^*'"' *^"^ ^'^^ «««"fi«e many 

precious hours, undergo any nmounf of inconvenience 
But ask them to walk half a mile to see a splendid view 
to purchase a new book of poems, to attend an art exhl 



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bition, or a /?ood concert, or even to read a thoughtful 
editorial in tlie daily paper, and you are told they have 
no tune, they have no money, they are tired, they are 
busy— always some excuse, unless they are frank 
enough to own tlie truth— namely, that all these things 
are to natures like theirs only a weariness. 

There is something pitiful in a condition of mind 
which recognizes no good in anvthing that does not 
increase one's earthly possessions, or importance. To 
keep out of such a fatal slough, one needs only to 
observe all the beautiful sights and benign influenceb 
that surround us in daily life, and to weigh the perma- 
nence of the joy they yield us against the fleeting satis- 
factions derived from the pursuit of purely temporal 
and selfish ends. A woman to whom wealth, position, 
and worldly pleasures are the sole objects in life — when 
these fail her— is left truly destitute ; but she who has 
learned to love and take her chief pleasure in nature, 
art, music, poetry,- who shall deprive her of the thingi^ 
that make life in the highest sense rich, beautiful and 
happy ? 

It is well to keep this test of the real value of things 
m mind from day to day, and apply it as it becomes 
necessary to choose between two opportunities, one of 
which offers a material, the other a purely educational 
or spiritual gain. The former cannot always be 
despised, more's the pity, but let us at least be on our 
guard against a too constant readiness to barter per- 
manent possessions and pleasures for those that are 
merely temporary. Our real worth, remember, is 
appraised not by what we have, but by what we are. 



LX 

JUDGE NOT. 

Judge nol your fellowman^s condition 
Until you he in Ins position. 

tf^ . — Talmud. 

ttkV'fr''"' *^^ ^ ^"^"^ «»• neighbour is a 
task liiffh V conireni-il f^ fi h'-'^^nr is a 

One mat trnvellS a d ^uU /7"'^' ^""^*"^- 
less, I fear a Vomnn f i • *° ^""^ " "^a"' m»ch 

a v^rdi"^ rrncta'o;"'' f '' *^ P^^^"— 
refrain from exnresW In •""^^'"'' '''" "^'^^'««t^^' 

she is scarcolv qmn^^^^^^ "^V""'.\ "'•^'"^ that he or 
a matter. tL^"^^^^^^^^ ''''^' "".^hority i„ such 

fo earn a reputatS '^^ ^ Sim ^r^"'"'-' '''• ^"' 
18 too Strong for nio^t of n« U-fi • 'vr"''' '''"^"^ 
^ve are readv to nn«= ) '*^' incredible rashness, 

prisoner at the larCl . f'^'-'''^"^ ^^"*^"^^^ -" the 

at the evfdVnt Tol ^[/e'Snt"^' ^^ ""^' "^ ^>--^ 

ohristLs wi^ :,;:;:; retdv tThr ""^^' r^^-^-^'"^^ 

in horror at the merelt him of lol ' "^ *^^'"" '"^"^^ 
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of a friend or neigbbour. It is not the Christ-like 
prayer, " Lord, forgive them, for they know not what 
they do," that comes most readily to their lips, but the 
Pharisee's " Lord, I thank thee that I am not like unto 
these." They quite forget that He whom they profess 
to imitate, loved sinners and wept over them, but never 
slandered or spumed them. How far removed from 
this divine eh y is the attitude assumed towards an 
erring sister h^, .he woman who holds herself, or thinks 
she does, above reproach ! Let us, who have all our 
lives been safe-guarded by the sweetest and holiest 
influences against all knowledge of or contact with evil, 
let us not be too stern in our judgments of our less 
fortunate sisters. What do we know of the force of 
temptation, of the hatefulness of some lives, from 
which any kind of escape is dearly welcome? As we 
are thankful for our own mercies, let us be pitiful 
towards those unacquainted with similar favours. 
However little, or however great, the fault cited to us, 
can not we at least be charitably silent if we have not 
the prayer or the tear ready that should rise to the lips 
and eyes of perfect Christians at the thought of sin, 
at the sight of a sinner. Taking the wise maxim from 
the Talmud well to heart, let us resolve to practise that 
beautiful discretion in speech, and eren in thought, 
which respects the feelings and reputations of others 
too sincerely to consent to inflict the least hurt on 
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SELF-RELIANCE. 

God has not created us to throw us away as a failure. 
^ —George Macdonald. 

m ^^^^^ i"- T^.' '^^^' ^" ^^^^^''^ ««P«<^'ty for doing 

better than any one eL«e can do it, is the surest 
foundation for 8ucce.s« in life. Any moderately ^te 
hgent man or woman, «ur^•eying the whole broad M 

resource Thl ''/'"'' f f ^^^' attainment, and 

resources. Ihis pomt settled, ultimate success or 
failure hmges largely on the amount of concentration 
energy, enthusiasm and perseverance brought to £ 
on the work attempted The reason so f'w rise above 
mediocrity, that .so many end in failure, is simplv that 

11 Ihey are too eager to be done with it to cla'm 
the promised reward. They do not realize that 

" Joy's soul lies in the doing." 

frJn\°*/''^-^'^.I ''"*"*'^^ ^ boot-black plying his 
trade at a fashionable boot-maker'.. A humble catlinT 
surely, and at first T folt a kind of pan.™ see such a 
stalwart young fellow on his knees'bntshinrth dirt 
of the streets from the shoes of his fellow-men. Bu 
as I watched him perform his lowly task, systematic- 
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ingly, the kind of contempt I had felt for his avocation 
yielded to a feeling of interest and admiration, and 
when I saw that because he detected one little dull spot 
on the shming surface of the boot he had so carefully 
polished, he of his o^vn accord, began the task all over 
again, applying fresh blacking and wielding his 
brushes and polishing rag with a light and dexterous 
touch that told of the pleasure ho took in his work, 
I conceived for him the kind of respect which one 
always fools for those from whom one has learned 
a valuable lesson. Th)is it is that the faithful perform- 
ance of even the lowliest task may become a power for 
goo<l m the world and an example to many who, with 
all the advantages of superior ed.ication and oppor- 
uuities, need ju.t such a^ object lesson to bring home 
to them the innate beauty ami sacreduess of work and 
tiie intrinsic value of the faithful worker. One would 
^.joner trust a successful boot-black in an emergency 
^ ling for care and conscience in work than the 
bbler ,n art, music or letters who has attempted 
iuipossibilities and failed miserablv. We all have it 
m us to succeed. God has not created us to throw us 
av • as a failure, but we must learn the measure of 
on ipacity «ud be content with the success that comes 
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LXII 
POTENTIAL VIRTUES. 

^, *:«tf .ran':';" '"' - ^°"'- "tt'/^- »/ 

pih mere fact that certain qualities and virtues in 
^ otlaers excite your admiration,' prm-os W tb^ 

least i'T r"r .^^ ^""^^*^- oxi;t^n emtl a 

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earch of tl ^'''" "^"^^ ^^^"^^ « "«t»re like her in 

.gentleness, patience ?"X ^"^';^' •"'/^^"'^' 
dealin<r hnnLt! 7' ^^^^a'^.S straightforwardness in 

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WHAT MAKES LIFE INTERESTING. 

He never has a good time that lives only that he may 
have a good time. —Lyman Abbott 



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!• i* * 7 ^"^^" ^*^^ *^** ^"«y people are never 
J^ bored ; only those who have an abundance of 
leisure and are free to choose their own occupa- 
tions and pleasures ever suflFer from the distressing 
malady of ennui, or not knowing what to do with them- 
selves and their opportunities. 

The majority of the women who are compelled to 
live m the small towns and country places complain of 
the mtolerable dulness of their surroundings, and long 
to make their life more varied and interesting. Much, 
1 fear, that the greater number of these discontented 
ones lack energy and ambition to strike out in new 
patlw that would broaden their mental horizon and 
yield them high and lasting pleasure. They have a 
vague longing for " a good time," as if all time were 
not good, the better, because the more precious as we 
grow older. We have only to bestir ourselves, and we 
can have a good time all the year round. The reason 
small towns are so dull is because the people are so 
uninteresting, but the reason they are uninteresting is 
because they are not interested in what is going on in 
the world, and which should be of as miich concern to 
them aa to the denizens of the largest cities. Eemote- 
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WHAT MAKES LIFE INTEnESTIN.; Id 

Mtisfactory. Some of the most di.tingiiishod writers 
and^ists of our daj have volnntarily elected TlTve 

wo^fd "^^^ *^' ^'** *^'°^^»"g heart of the 

thJ!!""^' w ^^J' *^\"^' ^h*'^'^'^' ^^^'•k, there jo„ have 

othe« C • . '""''^ -^^'^ "°* ^"J.V intero;ting to 

^ieTv till :"**'''^f "^ t« ^^"rself, «o 'that your ow^ 
jociety will never bore you, and no day or eveni,,.. will 
be 80 long aa to exhaust the resources you will find a 

lu8 wf^inL V t'* V ""'' T"'^^' "'^ «'™^^«« «» J Envi- 
ous watching of other lives that seem more varied and 

ncher m pleasant experiences than your own-this ^ 

ttatio^ "J"' '''!;''' '"^ ^"^ ^-' *-^«' t -t." 
aspirations, and give them all a chance. Road what 

others even more heavily handicapped than you have 

done by industry and perseverance'"^ Then, on ti yZ 

goal with a steady determination to win, ,^d you^" 

be surprised some day to discover how much you Tre 

enjoying your life and how little time you have to 

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LXIV 
THE TELL-TALE COUNTENANCE. 

hel^! '^"'^ '^ '''^ ^'"' *'""^^ ** *'' ^y "'' ^'«' of % 

TT^VERY human boinpr carries about with him an 
' open letter of recommendation— or of condem- 
fin,-,n "f ""-^^-'"'^^ observant eyes are quick to scni- 
tmizo before aceeptm^ any other credentials he may 
have to ofrer. The charaet.^rs inscribed in it are so plain 
hat a child, nay, even a dog, may read them. The 
human face, especially when in repose, is indeed nearly, 
if not quite, an infallible index to the soul. Each 
separate feature reveals some inner grace and virtue or 
accuses the owner of weakness or 'vicious propensity 
IWver closely we may think w guard the secrets of 
our heart, wo are, in fact, at the mercv of those too 
h^ffible hues and tell-tale expressions of countenance 
^^luch turn traitor to us in the very moments when we 
most strenuously desire concealment. 

»«1? w '\ ''"^ ?^ '''*^ *° «^^'*^ ^»ch embarrassing 
self-betrayals, and that is to refuse to harbour senti^ 
ments or encourage tendencies in the secrecy of our 
souls, which we would blush to acknowledge before a 
censorious world. 

In our youth we are much gi^^en to complain of the 
niggardly enu '^nt of beauty which nature has 
bestowed upon We think, could we but have 

chosen our own lorm and features, how different the 
result would have been ! We fail to realize, often until 
It IS too late, that it is indeed in the power of each indi- 
vidual to make his or her face beautiful or otherwise 






Ti«K TKLL-TALK CcrNTKNANCE igy 

nioutb have plain v" .IJ T """""' '''^' ^•>-^'^ «"^' 
unrestrained anger "r^aTrv ^ ''''' . "^^^ ""'«'» 
sorrow, or delLZlt'^^'J::',';^^^^^ 
unwelcome marks represent! P ' ''^ ""^ ^''^^^ 

because of a covetour«n ' '^'^ '^'"" "^ ^'»«™ 

selfish and Lqms .Ve or «f •'^•'"f . ^^'^^P^^^t'-^ of a 
one. There il nivb; „ ?f '''" «"^ vindictive 

which lends the f^ce a di « "m ' "'""' ""^ ^^« ^'P. too, 
disguised even .' r^m^^:^^^^^^^^^ ^^r--"" not to bJ 
xnaj have acquir S T abft of Trf''- ^'^ °"'- «^- 
quickly from one oMect to «n. '"^ """"^"•>' ""^ 

Pieious or dishonest nat' re Or i^^'"' ?'"°'' "^ " "" 
self-complacency, the affo;.n? f"^ ^' ^'^^ ^""'''^ of 

or the obliteratL of alfLelli ""'"'". '^ '^^'P^"«^-' 
the face, the result of guW^r ""^ T^-'"*^ ^'•^™ 
betrays us. In one fnfr? ^ ^"^ '''''''^'' ^'^'"ff which 

past life will aur"; be ^-Httrf "'' ''" '^^^^^ ^^ °«^ 
Fortunate, indeed is tl^? " our countenance. 

age of maturity a face tht Ttt'T "^' ^""^ *« *h« 
tiful girihood. ^ The un Hnl^?^ ^ .'^'^^^"^ «nd beau- 
eyes, the tender mouth he noV''"^' '^' '^'^^ *"^thful 
ness that are stamped upon TllT/T^ ^"^ «^^*- 
a kind of beauty before Thlh ^'*^"''^' constitute 

of Physical Peictf Uetto^g^S^^^^^ ^^^ 
-nd STaf rt? ttt^?^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ com- 

the formative period o^hri^T'irr '"""^ 
be beautiful, let all th^ir. 2 IT' ^^ ^^^^ would 

be beautifu , and let tJ . "^ ' T''^' ""^' ^^^^« 
influence othe« ?o foUoi I ' ' "" /"'* *" P^^'^^Ie, 
following this^dvic: thev^^^^^ ^^ ^«'*^^""^ 

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LXV 
THE UNPROFITABLENESS OF GRIEF. 

A life without joy passes away unprofitably, shed- 
ding around it only gloom and sorrow. 

— Gold Dust. 

^T is the privilege of those who are visited by some 
great affliction, loss or disappointment, to retire 
for a time into seclusion, and give themselves up 

to the full realization of the misfortune that has 

befallen them. 

True sympathy will not intrude on them in those first 
dark hours, when the soul must needs wrestle alone 
mth its sorrow, but holds reverently aloof awaiting the 
propitious time to offer its gentle ministrations to the 
suffering spirit. No one of feeling will deny this much 
kindly consideration to a brother or sister chastised by 
pain or humbled by defeat. But when the night of 
affliction threatens to prolong itself into a settled gloom 
of months and even years ; when, regardless of other 
claims, the grieving heart gives itself up to the contem- 
plation of its own bereavement or deprivation, and 
refuses to look above or beyond it for comfort and 
cheer, then no longer does it appeal to the active sym- 
pathy and forbearance of even the most faithful friend. 
The most generous among us have not so much love 
and sympathy to spare that we can lavish it incessantly 
on one obieco, to the exclusion of others no less dear 
and worthy. We must give now to one, now to another, 



THE UNPROFITABLENESS OF GRIEF Igg 

mt t'V'u '^"^P"*^^ °^ '"^^'^ a« ^'^" as of tears • 

The mourner should not take it amis, when the 

Tl°°T !f/* '^"P-^y •'^e'"^ "> ebl>:!ra her tu' 
sign should be construed as a reminder that the' ti™„ 
for useless grieving is past, and that ht's Tnri tat.U™ 
be happy onee more should not be disregardrd " LiJ" 
without joy passes away nnprofltably, sheddiW around 
t only g:loom and sorrow." Who a^ng us wl cCe 

s^rTni^Tth!.'" "v '"=5"'^ ^^ """""^^ f'-"t.W 
sereemng the sunshine from other lives. Come wh.t 

sz'^z'--'- - - "- ^'-t '; ft: 

JtrhLSn^siSi^lttShrdt-aL" 

to gave colour and zest to every life. There is the W 

o beang, of doing of havingfof knowing, o loviig^ 

f being loved, of giving and receiving even S 

renouncxng and denying one's self for othfs. There 

Td of'th7;ofiJT\^?.' '' ^^' ^^ *^^ «-p^- fi-S 

c^untrv « J f 1 r*'"'"' "°^ "^ ^''^^^' '^ ti^e swee 
renol^ mV^" ^k'^ metropolis, of obscurity and of 
renown We have but to claim our own and take it 
our hearts and make the most of it,Towever Httle 
It may seem compared with what is assigned rothe^ 
In this way only shall we live profitaWy, impartS 
cheer and courage to hearts that look to us f orTenSh 
and ^idance. Let it be said of us at l^t wK 



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pass out of this life that, though we had neither gold 
nor silver, yet of such as we had we gave generouslv 
to all, scattering freely on our path the greater riches 
ol joy and good cheor, the superabi;ndant sunshine that 



warmed and brigLtened our own lives, 



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LXVI 



SHINING AT HOME. 




sh^::h:oZ!''' '^ ^^^^ - P-^^- ^aa UUer ,y far 

— Spurgeon. 

'"^^i^:;^ 7--Kof all tribunal. 

found wanting. It is in thl • " sometimes be 
moral fibres most readily r^l^^TT "^ ^""^^ *^«t the 
of the individual assert ^t .f/.f '^'' '^^ *"^^ ^^ture 
the acquired virtues Tnl ua^ies'T\''^ ^^"^^ ^^ 
almost unconsciouslv to CT ^'f °^^ P^^s on, 

applause. To " shine'at home' ' t'th'1^ ^"^ "^" ^^« 
ment which calls for thp !^ • ^J^^^^^re an achieve- 
which have their seat deen 7/'^^^ *^^"^^ ^^^t"«« only 
stitute a noble na ure IV^ '^" ^T' ^"^ ^^^^<^^ ^on"^ 
Public, bj merely asiumini n' TI- ^ '''^"' *° ^^^ in 

not, the temptation to do soto"^^ "'^''^'''' ^^^'« 
enjoy immum'ty. But it is th. """^ ^-^^^^ ^^^ ^^ "« 
should struggle most prstemiv'^LT"'^ "^'^^^ ^^^ 
It, means to undermin-J^tJi? /^ ^' *^ ^^^^ way to 

ing foundations oflLce^M '"'P"'*^"* ^^^ «"^»- 
and unsparing critS 'f ^K T '"^'^^ *^« ^^^^stant 
truth to tell,lXrLri , to ""'Z ''''''' -^-h, 
than exasperating ; yet that th' ^'^ ''^'^* ^^^^^ ^^^s 
school for the fom^tn of u"'^ '' °^ "^^^« valuable 

admitted by all whTwe undetoTetel" '^- ^"^^^•^' 
good-humouredly swallow JT^t*^^ discipline, and 
tionate relatives hive II^ ^^^ ^^^^s which their iffec- 
Better, however, thl a dete^il'."'' "^^^ *^^"^- 
^?m and rebukes wiTpLtc™'"^ *" '^^^P* «"tic- 
-ns whicMead up ^1:^%^^ ::^o...- 



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LXVII 

LOOK FORWARD. 

Your real life is not behind, hut before you. 

— Lyman Abbott. 

^O err is human— so, it is not surprising that, for 
the majority of mankind, the past becomes a 
bugbear, a melancholy, humiliating record of 
failures, disapointments, and blunders, the contempla- 
tion of which induces the deepest despondency and 
self-contempt. What comfort, then, lies in the thought 
that our real life is not behind, but before us. We are 
all born anew every day in the clean, pure atmosphere 
of an untried future, teeming with possibilities of hap- 
piness, of useful achievement, of honourable =>uccess» 
But how many of us realize this important fact, and 
take advantage of it to cast off the chains and shackles 
of our old foibles and vices, to avoid the old tempta- 
tions, and choose new paths, higher aims, and purer 
pleasures? Try to think of it on waking and rising in 
the morning. Life is just beginning for you. Yester- 
day, with Its pains and sorrows is dead and gone 
Banish the remembrance of all that was sad and dis- 
couraging. Buckle on a fresh suit of moral armour 
hope, courage, and high resolve, and go out to meet 
what the day has in store for you, stout-hearted and 
strong-handed, like Arthur's knights of old, determined 
to wm, even through fire and flood and over the dead 
bodies of your enemies; the soul's enemies whom it is 



I-OOK FORWARD 



1G9 



more rea«>n for keeping a Zrnll?- ^ ™°'' 'h^ 
•to past take care of itsflf t2 ^^ "'"' ""i ''««g 
«-d sighs, for hopeleL bL J'" " °° ""«= *<>■• 'ea,? 
vain remote over 7^, Z^f'"? "^ST »" '""-ows, for 
fet there be new tWlTt^^?*- u^"' '"^'^ »«- day 
ment.. That is the waftf' T ,1°^' """ """^"^ 
and fascinating/ o eh J ,Tf ' ''^^ ™'' a"d fruitful 

-ow„ntssing,i„t:vrb:4p;;: ""*- ■-' 



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LXVIII 
FAMILY STRIFE. 

And will ye never know, till sleep shall see 
Your graves, how dreadful and how dark indeed 
Are pride, self-will and blind-voiced anger, greed. 
And mahce with its subtle cruelty ? 

— ^A. Lampman. 

JO one habitually gentle and kind-hearted, there is 
no spectacle at once more pitiful and incompre- 
hensible than that of a family in which, though 
all the elements of happiness are apparently assembled, 
Me IS made well-nigh unendurable by the perpetual 
strife and discord of its members. 

Dreadful and dark, indeed, are the consequences of 
even one ungovernable temper in a household, but 
when two or three come into collision, well may Dante's 
famous inscription be written over the portal : " Leave 
all hope, you who enter here." 

From the hour when the family assembles at break- 
fast, until night brings enforced rest and peace, the 
history of each day is a melancholy succession of bick- 
enngs, angry recriminations, or passionate outbreaks 
of temper, culminating too often in threats or deeds of 
violence. It is not easy to explain how things have 
come to such an unhappy pass, nor how intelligent 
rational beings can be satisfied to live in such horrid 
discord. Doub.;ess, each one, if questioned, would 
blame the others and hold him or herself guiltless, or 



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at most, plead that tJ 

"pset the most angelic tem^^ Provocation sufficient to 
^ust be traced back to the p«rl '"''' ^^ '^' ^''^^blo 
^I^en the parente, criminallv if /'^' °^ °^«"^^ "^o 
?nutual vows and so"emn 7 m ?' ""^« ^^ their 
infant childro the fitt 11^^"^^^"^*^'^^' S^^^ their 
tyranny. ''"'* ^^"^^ ^n domestic strife and 

;;nrsery within atten^foVlodelT^, '?''''^ ^'^ '^^ 
been a sufficient reproach to thl 'Z ^^^'^^ -^^'""'^ ^«^« 
^'hich, often as not, were L^L? f''''- "^^^^^' ^"t 
smartness and precocit B ' H '] "' ^"^^^"«^« of 
evil habits sprouted quickly i " ^'^^^1«"^« ^own, the 
V degrees crowded on the to " ^^"'^^"^ ^^'^^''t^' and 
gentleness and forbea lee CW T^^ '' '^^^^'^y^ 
an affectionate interestTl Cheerfu conversation, o^ 
gradually became more '"V^^^^^^'^ l^eas and plans 
announcement made bv one 1 ^"1 •^'^^"^*- ^ny 
envious retorte from t£ others ^^.1"*l^ ^"^^"^^ '^r 
that should have bee7bound/ .i ^^ .^^ ^'^' ^^^^ts 
t^es of love and s^pathv K^^ ' ^^ *^" ^^««««* 
estranged, suspicious^/dr^rt r^TT "'''• ^"^ ^^- 
'sweet home," and any excuTe 1 1 °''.'' °^ ^^"^^^ 
welcomed. The mrpr,+. .r *° ^^^^^ it is eagerly 

and some day are^Lft l^^'''^"' '^'^' '^^rs too fate 

tree wtieh thlv I^ "bXnV \T ""'^^ *^^ -^f' 
to forsake. Eepentaip n I ^^^^ ^een only too glad 
a eold world ono'Z^lu' U^jtV ^^"^^'^ «"^ ^or^n 
once neglected an^d t pi e^^^^^ "'^"^. ^^ P^^^^eges 
of the family would no doubt I a ''""^^^ "^^"^^ers 
ened in spirit and shorn of ^1 "^ T '"^^^^^ chast- 
^th unfeeling str^gers but I angularities by contact 
permitted in this uncSn Se l^""-'"^ T '''^'"^ 
ojer again where we once eft off tV ^' ^'^"°'°^ 



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set of duties and cares. We can aflFord to lose no t-rao 
therefore in setting things right that have gone awry. 
i^ven this very day, each one of us mav offer a shining 
example in her own household of that gentleness whose 
grace 

" Smooths out so soon the tangled knots of pain." 
The soft answer, the discreet silence, the tactful 
direction of conversation into pleasant channels, the 
httle word of sympathy or approbation instead of use- 
less lault-findmg, the unexpected service quietly 
rendered, these are the secrets of a good woman's influ- 
ence m her o^vn home, these the simple means by which 
she may successfully combat the spirit of strife and dis- 
cord threatening to undermine the happiness of the 
household To graduate in such an art as this brings 
incomparably greater and more real distinction on a girl 
ban the highest honours achieved in class or studio 



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LXIX 
ARTIFICIAL DEEDS. 

^AH^cial a.as^ UL. artificial flo^ers^ ,,, ^,^^,,^ ,^^ 

LAVFQ t — Selected. 

, . then imni'^tZ'Z:T \" '""^ ^"^^ «"^i 
doing what others^^j and ^ ^1 T'' ^"^'^"-^ ^^^^ 
secretly cherished eonvictions '/ ^^^^'^ ^^ ^^^^i" 
earthly reason saveTn obe h" ^/"' ^^^' «"J for "o 
tendency of hu^n Ltf ."I n^ -^r^-ep-like 
do so many of us lead «rHfi • i , •"' '*' ^'°d- ^^enco 
we have not, pretendL tf ^- '''' '''""^^°^ ^^^"es 

for us that we would die i^i ^'i^''^ ^ ^^^^^^^tion 
cultivating the sodetv of n '' *^^^" acknowledge; 

but who L. us todfath TndT ''""'r^ "^^''^^^'^^ 
wfao are actually the elect of ''^'''1 "^""^ ^^°™ t^«^« 
^th the usual'^eonLnW^^^^ 

somewhere without thp In ^^ ,r^^^ generally stand 
by social or otherobsetan^f orbit marked out for us 
borrow little mT\7.T^^\ "^ '^ °"- ^^e are, to 
refreshing se't'/rumb':^^^^^^^^ ^-^ ''a 

of us are dull and unint!^"p«t,- ? ""^ '' "^^^ '"> "^^"7 






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ha[)p.v nature, and refreshed by the dews of sweet, 
human sympathy, make fragrant the atmosphere in 
which the doer lives, and cause others to long for her 
society and presence. 

If you would be truly loved and appreciated in thi.s 
world you have only to be natural, .spontaneous, sincere. 
I hai)pen to know a young married '"jman who appar- 
ently possesses all the attractions and advantages a 
woman could desire. She is beautiful, healthy, rich, 
suitably married, and a happy mother. She has a 
charming home and mixes freely in the best society of 
the i)lace she lives in. Yet, though she is, in a way, 
beyond criticism, she seems unable to inspire any of her 
friends with real affection. I have frequently heard 
her character discussed by those who know her best, 
and though it is impossible to say anything unkind 
about her, the verdict is always, " she is pretty and 
charming and all that, but not foveable somehow." 

The explanation lies in the fact that she is artificial 
in manner and conduct. She never seems to be stirred 
by real feeling, you cannot get a glimpse of her soul, 
if she has any. You can always foretell exactly what 
she will say and do under given circumstances. The 
typo is not infre.,aent. We nearly all have met the 
well-nigh perfect woman whose very perfections pro- 
duce a feeling of irritation wherever she goes. It is 
because she wears them on her sleeve, flaunts them in 
your face, and soems always to invite comparison 
favourable to herself and unfavourable to every one 
else. 

Goodness that springs from the heart i?, on the 
contrary, modest and humble ; like the hidden violet 
its presence is only betrayed by its exquisite perfume, 
and it is all the more loved because it is only found out 
hy accident. 



LXX 

BENEFICENT ACTIVITY. 

It is heiter to fight for the good than to rail at the ill. 

— Tennyson. 
HERE are some delightful people in the worW- 

and give a shining example to us all— who are so 
mtich occupied in doing goo<l and pleasant things from 
day to day, that they really have not time to notice the 

W«"Tr-^^.*^"^^ "^^^^^--' nor to gamble 
b cause life IS disappointing and others are bf^er off 

uZ ,'^'TfT-. According to their wholesome and 
hgl t-hoar ed philosophy, if this world is really a vale 

hZtrolK 'T\ °^ "'"'' ^^^«"' sweet-smelling 
handkerchiefs ready for prompt application whenever 

Ho V m"! '*^r '' '''''' ^ "^^^ V the wayside 

exerciSn? T" ^"^^T' '' ^^"^ «"^ ^«*^^^^d by the 

rXllf 1 /r""* ^'"^""^"^ 'P^"t' ^^^^ by holding 

Tin. 1 2/'"^, °"' ^ ^^"^ ^^ ««°"^ «^d bitterness! 

eTamnlot/ •" "1"* '^' "^'" ^°^' ^ a depressing 
example, irducmg others to sink into the same hopeless 

nature linds grim satisfaction. 

is IheVrr^^ T'^-^ .^"^ ^ *^^^^^«.^ t« P^«i°^i«m 
vm r ^ beneficent activity in works of love Put off 

naW^T .^.^ T'^ ""*^^"^ ^f ^ ^^^ or pleasant 
nature is left to do, and it will be so long before you 



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have a chance to indulge in it that you will forget the 

u7J xt. . .^ ^'*''''' ^" ^^^ ^ w^ll as bad ones, and 
half the battle of life is won when high thinking and 
noble living become, through habit, a second nature. 
Ihe process by which one attains this moral altitude, 
does not involve, as some imagine, the sacrifice of one's 
individuality. True goodness is not negative in char- 
acter and neutral in shade. On the contrary, it is 
instinct with life, colour, motion and poetry. It is 
militant in the highest sense, and wears its colours 
openly, and presents a sturdy front to its enemies. It 
IS bold and picturesqu ; and carries a shining light upon 
Its forehead before which the false glamour of sin and 
error pales away like a candle in the noon-day sunshine 
Cant and maudlin sentiment have nothing to do with 
It. It dwells in the heart, not on the lips, and hypocrisy 
^ even more hateful to it than vices openly practised, 
bo do not be afraid to be " merely good," and do not 
conclude that an attitude of criticism towards your 
fellow-man and lifu in general indicates mental superi- 
ority. Quite the contrary, as the study of the greatest 
and wisest men's lives will show. " Goodness is great- 
ness wheresoever found." 



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Lxxr 

GRATITUDE. 

tufuture!'"'^" ^" ''" ^"' '""'P'"' 2/o^. rvith trust for 

^E grateful and you will bo happy. The preserip- 
%4 tioa IS simple enough, but son.ehow the majority 

wy face ZZT '" "™,"°" 't ^^^ P"*" '<> ""ke a 
wiy taoe, turn away, and go baek to our grumbling 

sit doL" ""^ T'"' *""S ■"•" "" ^" SliberS 
sit do™ and gloat over o,ir misfortunes, tell the^ 

recourse to the most ingenious arguments to prove that 
no other person in the wide world is ,uite as m°™rable 

ttem or if tlT" 't'"*''^'"' ^^ ^'^^"^ tWnk of 
.S ' ,ll ■ ?°' ■"" '°™ '» •"'i'ttle them ; nay wo 

their "rue'li^M X'^'^''^ 1" T"* "'^"' ">" *» "^ »' 
ineir true light. It 13 a kind of mania that we have to 

r.^S a^dT r'"""'' ?" P"'"'^«»' °" "pV.^ 

tl^l • ' r i? H ''■" «n"»"s'y looking away from 
f^l teteighrr Ihe-T "' "" 4>'^ "o- 
have moved f^^rand"otr.:^acTuirtrot^ 
t SeZfTiS •"''•^'-<='«"y «-<iV and to-morrT; 

race, might be le.„ aggravating if it were not for tho 



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luduTous uu-oi.si8toiu'.y with which WO fnlniinato 
against tlioso who havo hocn ungrateful towards our- 
solves. Our inemory is singularly tenacious of the 
least favour hostowo.l on a follow-creatnro, and if our 
unlortunato l.cneliciarics appear f,>r a moment to forgot 
their indel.tedness to us, wo throw up our hands in 
Horror and denounce them as monsters of ingratitude. 
It IS not merely hy attending a Thanksgiving Day 
service once a year that w,> are going to wipe out all our 
obllgatlol^s to an all-bountiful Providence. It i. moot 
of course, that w,> should unite on spe.-ial occasions, and 
vith due solemnity offer formal praise and thanksgiv- 
ing to the Civer of all good gifts. Hut it is in tho 
heart, not on the lip.., that the searching eve of Cod 
l(>oks for gratitude, and it is only iu the jovful heart 
that the virtue is found, the heart which is' kept -lad 
every day and all day long by the remembrance of'tho 
infinite love and mercy of Ilim in whom we live and 
move and have our being. A little fruitful medit^ition 
every morning on the various blessings bestowed on us 
should suffice to induce a deep and sustaining sense of 
gratitude, as well as to inspire us with an unwavering 
trust for the future. Thus safeguarded, tho demons of 
envy and jealousy shall have no power over us, and 
when misfortune comes— as come it must, to one and 
all— our deep-seated serenity will not be moved. There 
can be no doubt whatever about it, a grateful spirit 
must eventually make a happy heart. 



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HOSPITALITY. 

The meal unshared is food unblesL 

— Wiiittier. 

f o n cx.ms,ng the princely virtue of no.mtality 
ui the degree that would please us best " Hut 

ine Character of a host to the friend or strancer whom 
chance may lead to his door. There is a 3e in he 
kindly offer of a shelter and an invitatioTto break 

nean whether it beats under the royal purnle or thn t«f 
tared garments of the mendicant. "^CouX of .pe ^h 
and i^anner count for far more in such opportuS 
than he quality of the viands laid before one A 
morsel of bread and a cup of water from the sprint 

taZtoTLl f ^."'^^r^^'--^ -ile, have a sXtef 
taste to a guest than the greatest triumphs of cookery 

LTonfei^rcf ™^^' '-'' -^ --^ -^^^ obtu^ 
.Ja^ ^hospitality of the farm house is proverbial The 
residents of towns and large cities are very far behind 

^uJr^lr ' ""I*"' "^ ^""^^^ *^^* *be farmer's 
Tk the LT Tu""^ .^'.f ^"^ ^^« ^«^ts at her door to 

n^r wT' ir ^' ^T^'^" "^ "^^*^"g ^^ ^ «hady spot 
near her dwelling, with a cordial smUe and an offer of 



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refreshment The glass of rich milk or home-made 
vnnc, the dish of berries, or cup of tea is always forth- 
coming. *' 

In town it is the exceptional housekeeper who wel- 
comes an unexpected guest with a similar display of 
friendliness. And the idea of offering refreshment to 
a complete stranger would not be entertained for a 
moment. 

It is a pity that the good old custom of freely offering 
hospitality to friends, at least, should be suffered so 
frequently to fall into abeyance. There are homes in 
which a guest at the table is a positively unknown 
quantity, and in which it were vain to expect in any 
emergency as much as the simple offer of a cup of tea. 
^ Ihe inference is, of course, enther that the hostess 
IS o on extremely niggardly disposition, or that her 
iiou!.. n Id is administered in such a slovenly fashion 
that sne is at all times unprepared to invite possible 
criticism from strangers. 

The simple family dinner which is considered good 
enoiigh for those who are nearest and dearest on earth 
to the provider, should surely be good enough for the 
chance visitor or the stranger within her gates. 

It is a false pride which makes any woman shrink 
from revealing to one outside her family the fact that 
her larder is not stocked with the best foods in season, 
or lier table furnished with -he finest linen and china. 
U± all foolish pretences su one is more foolish than 

that of greater wealth than one actually possesses. 

When reluctance to admit a guest 'to the table is 
founded on the consciousness of deficiencies in respect 
of the cleanliness of table appointments or of careless 
ness in the preparation of food, then indeed is the 
house-mistress self-convicted of a most serious derelic- 
tion from duty. 

The fact that a daintily laid table and the prepara- 



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repasts a" i^M Ltr'T"' '" T'"'"'' ""= "■'''"•'y 

a»d children for whom .Lcv".r^ """^."^ *^ '""">"^ 
then necessariJy bl fl^fl. P™"''''.'' *"^ """y "ust 

fuss or ceremTny Stra^l^hTr'' ""''°"" '«'''"'""«'' 

bo ^minded of L dm"r tJisXV"""" "^* '" 

oJ:r:fe Tn.!LiTs^re r »-- « •'» 

more general. **'® ''^^^^^ comer were 

poet's word Cit Z ''°'P"«'"y' ^^'^^ taking the 
" The meal unsha-ed is food unblest" 



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LXXIII 

THE VALUE OF GREAT IDEAS. 

Little ideas and big successes never go together. 
,^ — Selected. 

Hi- ^47^^ ^ praised for it, there is no tax on 
^^^ ideas! We may not all dwell in marble halls, 
wear purple and ' fine Unen, and live on 
princely fare, but however "cribb'd, cabin'd and con- 
tm d we may be by outward circumstances, we have 
as a glorious inheritance and birthright, the accumu- 
lated wisdom of ages on which to draw without stint 
whenever it pleases us to do so. No power on earth 
can prevent our minds from soaring to the loftiest 
heights and kr ning company with the choicest spirits. 
JSo poT.er except our own will. If we choose to 
grovel, that is another story. So it is well to bear in 
mind that " little ideas and big successes never go to- 
gether," and that when we barter awav our spiritual 
birthright for an ignoble Jiess of pottage, we cut our- 
selv^ off irrevocably from all chances of future dis- 
tinction in the honourable walks of life. 

There are many cramping influences in a woman's 
life, which, unless she is watchful and active, tend 
inevitably to contract her mental horizon, and to con- 
centrate her interest on trivial things. 

It is perhaps the custom of those among whom she 
lives to give anxious thought and eager discussion to 
matters of the most ephemeral character. How Mrs. 



THE VALUE OF GREAT IDEAS ^gg 

last party who tl^^ ""* ^^ ^^« ^^^ite to her 

-g interest that agitat^^^^^^^^^^ <>^ absorb- 

munity for days af « strTi ?>"' ''^ ^ ^™«11 ^om- 
thougilt and research St h'' 'I^'^ '"^^ «^ -"<^^ 
genesis of a grearpoem ^ r"^^* *° ^^"^ °^ the 

colours, or ef n the be^; I f P^f^^^^^^ of the sunset 

-ending, how effLtiLlt wTu d 'l^ °' t ^^^^^^^ 
and action of women be .ZJ i ^^^"^ ^^ thought 
more interestin^S ?u„ T^' ^*^^^ "^"^h richer and 
lives become '^ themselves and others would their 

^ittten^e?S Toughl te^ry^f ^^ ^ *^ ^^^^ ^" 
and beyond the nettv W . ""'^T' *^ ^^^k above 
would hem us in f ro "^ ! ''^' ^°^ prejudices that 
ideas ; t^ la^n T T*'^* ^"^*^ '^« ^^''^d ^^ g^ea 
transi;nt and Ben., f^^'^"'^ ^^^^^^^ thing 
Vanity Fa'r«r,r^!"*' ^'^''''''^ the illusions of 

l^eep i"n fZl ^1 wLtrhth t^^f ^' r ^ ^^ > ^^ 
reading good books, fmUtbg^eValr'^^^^ '^ 
pure and beautiful Hfe Onl? U^X ^''^'^^^^^> ^'"^^S a 
to attain real and greai succl " "'^ "^^ "^ ^^^^ 



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LXXIV 




PERFECTION IN TRIFLES. 

Trifles make perfection^ hut perfection is no trifle. 

— Michael Angelo. 
'ELL did the great builder know, who had him- 
self brought three noble arts to their highest 
perfection, by what methods man is com- 
pelled to work in order to attain the object of a great 
ambition. Contemplate the monuments of his genius, 
examine carefully their composition, and even more 
astonishing than the splendour of his conceptions and 
the sublimity of hia finished master-pieces, is the care, 
the minuteness, the exquisite attention to detail, which 
stamped the most seemingly trifling portion of his work 
with the seal of a mighty genius. He was never 
blmded by the vision of an ultimate triumph, to the 
impoi ance of fidelity and exactness in the execution of 
the separate parts destined to make up the perfect 
whole. Xot the least fragment of his famous frescoes, 
his colossal statues, his magnificent paintings but, if 
alone left to testify to his powers, is richly qualified 
to fulfil that function. 

We may not share his genius nor emulate his brilliant 
achievements, but there is nothing to hinder us from 
being actuated by the same spirit which ever urged him 
on to a perfection which his superior insight enabled 
him to see was made up of trifles. With equal deter- 
mination and perseverance we can put the best tliat is 



PBRFECTION IN TRIFLES jgg 

«tall be on it, and men ahdl k„T k^ '" ^'P^"°« '^»<>. 
we are made, and whether he 'um^ '' f ^^«t ^t"ff 
,»^aBe or noble. We must nof I^ ^'^^ -^ °"' "^^ '« 
littleness of things. ^ ^^' "»P«tient with the 

" On e.t.;he broken ares; in noaven^ 

waS' nc^S:? ;;:,r|S^; - ^^^rt win seem to be 
reach its perfect devel^^^^^^^^^ «« ^^Ser to 

the hot-house or the t^^^^^ "^gl \l "^"T\ ^^°°°^ ^^ 
o«s towards our Creator hJ ''''' ^'^ ^^'^ ^^^e^" 

siglited to perceive lit LT"'" '"", ''' *°^ ^^^ort- 
we are ? ^ ^^'' intention m placing us where 



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LXXV 

THE PRIOR CLAIMS OF DUTY. 

Knowledge is a steep that few may climb, hut duty 
ts a path that all may tread. 

t WOMAN who sincerely loves what is good and 
right for Its own sake, should be richly content 
to feel that she faithfully fulfils from day to 
day the duties and requirements of her particular state 
m life But vanity, with a very big V, is ever whisper- 
ing m her ear that she shoidd seek some larger and niore 
public career than the one which ties her to the narrow 
precincts of the home circle. In her idle moments she 
loves to dream of other possible spheres of action in 
which aa the central figure of an admiring group of 
spectators, she would shine by the exercise of talents 
Which, under existing circumstances, she feels are hid- 
den under a biishel. She does not realize that beyond 
the threshold of her home lies a cold, indifferent world, 
ready to carp at and criticise, and condemn, and push 
aside, all who are so unwise as to attempt tasks beyond 
their strength or talent ; that failure in the eyes of 
unsympathetic fellow-beings means a terrible isolation, 
which all the more bitter for having been wilfullv 
courteu. 

It is true the prizes of life must be fought for and 
many are worthy of keen struggle against the most 
despairing odds ; but the race is to the swift and the 



Tim .■lUOIl clAIMfi OP UUTV ,37 

the woHurdust, aid";':it: fX.r'"° '""'■ °" 

•traced bo^„„d ^./frC rnrwenP "°"' °"° •- 
over one's deflections f^' P"«»">''«to teare 

Wight, Wtherto „" ,e5°' ITk?' '•'"^ /» ,■'"-4 

purpose and relHzer;ir""'-°"' """""«'« '" '"mo 
in 11.0 con,pIex "e enee „f ,1.-" " ■'"^"" P"' " Play^ 
n-ake earefnl con™ of our Z'" ^ ^""" "'"' "" ""«' 
and onr dntie,, soe)ii„„ bv »? '<'»onrce,, onr aims 

a multiplication of otlfe,^ .„ uT ^"T'"^ "' '<""'' »"<! 
ledger „f life. When !«","? "'" ™'"'""« 'n "'-' 
P%-.ical force ^^Z2y t ,"^°r'^'"^'"'"-'>f 
retrenchment in the meTtS' ?, "^ ''"iKraent dictates 

i» no cause ofrepro^h t i °^ ^^' '"^ """"'"ely- I' 
one of regret to hT™J '."""""n. 'hough it may be 

beyond ZlC L whTcH °,!?''"''^ "'""'•»' <="eer 
shame to all To V^'ltt' 'u Z", '"'"' *"« '* « » 
.hem, failed to .^afe^lTfnC^e It '^^""' 



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LXXVI 

SYMPATHY IN FAILURE. 

^Ve are nof. much bound to t se that do succeed 
But m a more pathetic sense are bound to such as fail 
>j — Selected. 

P^Lf '?*'°" ^^^^'"'■" '' °^ «" ^"™«« trial8 the 

17V ^T""^^^- ^""^ °"^y i« the spirit 
weiphed down with the sense of loss, disapnoin 
ment or ma.pa..ity. but it writhes und r Zam 

J^ho wil not fail to use this knowledge for the futuro 

pathy with failure ; even the ties of blood are not 
always s„ffle,.ntly strong to safeguard the unsucceJu 
against the pitiless criticism of waited efforts. Brothel 
and sasters will not spare their sarcasms when commen" 
mg on one another's unlucky ventures. A husband 

meet the eye of his wife. It requires a good stock of 

SSL: T": T^'r^ ^" ^"^'« -'^ a^nd fac^one' 
be wh r^ when from the very lips that should 

be whispering words of comfort and hope there fall 

e^Lt n? .r'''?'^^ of contempt and derision. The 
extent of the mjuiy mflicted is probably not appre- 

rli? ? T \" 1 '^' '''^''''- ^' ^ fr^uentlyTht 
result of thoughtlessness rather than of a deliberate 
desire to wound, but thoughtlessness that entails such 
painful consequences becomes a grave fault, which 
must be zealously guarded against. 



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189 



hoar, when .h;"dX '■ wi.i^L'rT"'""'"'' '" '"™ 
hwomcs nptual S^r^ , " '''"''>'= imminent, 

vanquished. ^ ° ^^ ^'^^'''•s antl 

diarwhich'mSL'r"*^!'^ V'"' ?"<'°' »' f»"-« or 
friend , and evd"e th:r™^ "". '""'"'"'''' "' ker 
» j"« in such cUn^tlL'^'ih:;''', """"'!"/'• ^"' '' 
meet nff adverm'tv hn. "'"^'ves. uur manner of 

impression fS t I'T ll'^'K'"'- ^« ^^'*^ ^^o 
When we canTheerfnL / f^- °^ '^ seriousness, 
to be snuffXut b^^^^^^ 'T^'f^^, ^-"-"^ 

that assails us, and fore'tamn^ 1\^ '^ '^^^"^*^ 

dignified refi,.«l *« /^'^f tailing unkind comment by a 

its belief in us. ^ ^ *^^ ^'"* «"^ '^new 

^n^rny^r/XrHe^;-:- fi-. we .ha,, 



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LXXVII 

RED-LETTER DAYS. 

No valley life hut hath some mountain days, 
Bright summits in the retrospective view, 
And toil-won passes to glad prospects new, 
-hair sunlit memories of joy and praise. 

— F. R. Ilavergal. 
J HE value of a beautiful experience is not always 
understood or appreciated at the time that it 
takes place. As a memory it often becomes 
immeasurably dear and precious, though mingled with 
the emotion that stirs the heart while dwelling on cer- 
tain past events that made red-letter days in an ordi- 
narily uneventful life, there are apt to be keen regrets 
awakened by the consciousness that the full beauty and 
surpassing interest of the occasions in question were at 
the time, more or less obscured by some trifling and 
untoward accident, provoking an ungracious mood that 
hindered a complete realization and enjoyment of the 
moment's possibilities. 

It is important, therefore, that one should be to a 
<3ertain extent prepared for the joys that come, alas ! 
«o seldom, and that by wise foresight, one should be 
enabled in the supreme moments that approach us, 
freighted with some great happiness, to set aside all 
minor considerations, and give one's self up wholly to 
the e Wment of what may easily rank among the most 
ijeautitul and soul-satisfying experiences of one's life. 




RED-LETTER DAYS 



191 



?o'^:'in%7ir^^^^^^^ which are, of 

ing the fact that there arP^.n.''^' °' ^^ '^^"^Sniz- 
tarian values in life and ?hat "'''*'^ '' ^'^" ^ ^^^^i- 
treasured recollections of jf ^ "'""''''•^ ^™^«^ ^th 
precious possession than a n?^^ "^T^""'' '' ^ ^^re 
account which ha' been inc'reStv tf^ " '. '^"^- 
rare opportunities of pure e";?;;!'^ *^^ ^^^^"^^^ -f 

Ttere are those who will not W. 
gaze on the splendour nf o c ^^"^ ^ moment to 

forsooth-it Tso near t^ ?^"''' 'r^"*' because- 
mightbecold^ A walk, I l!T' tou^the soup 
an hour's ramble on'tbe/^t *'' "'"^^'^ -°^^^' - 
^oman who likes to sit ' ''*'. attraction for the 

l^er muslin ruffles and d i ^il^ St? T^^^^*-^ 
even at the altar is {\]iJi •!? ^f*' ^"^^ an one, 
thoughts about her annpT '''*^ ^^^^ ^"^ ^"^oIoub 
she i^ making on otWsr'atr '.l^ ^^^ ^^^P^ession that 
emotions thaf besneak «'/ *^'^ "^'"'^ *^« reverent 

n^arriage and dUhat iL k' ''T-'^ *^^ ^^^^^^^^ss of 
there afe no lf\Z' " bTst h af " ',f ' ^"^-^' 
of vanity and selfishness IW T I, ''''" ''^"^"P^^ 
of enjoyment falls to one who 2 • ^''*? " "^^^^"^« 
ness of an opportunity that. o ^""1"^^^°^ the precious- 

-If gladly afd genet/s^^VpTth'e"L ^^^ Y 
moment, even if hv «n ^/ ^ happiness of the 

venience's in other dLr^ ''"'' '"'"^'^^ ^^^ ^^«^«- 
In her eve^.r '^'''Pf'''''^ are mevitable. 

o«P, or'a^CkiTd'emaTk' fro'" ^^^' ^ ^^^^'^ *- 
person is far too triflinr !T 'T^ "nsympathising 

the beauty o^an ofe W^W^^^^ ''''^'''l^ '^ -- 
world weighed in the baT nce^wkh h. 'I' ^^' ^^^^^^ 
a feather, which she p.1^^ J x ^"^ ^^PP^^ess is but 
In this spirit we should r.'f^.^/ '•'' ""''' ^^ ^'^ way. 
portion. Keerthem 11 H* *^,' ^^^^ *^^* ^all to our 

^on-places and pett^trS^^ 'Y ^''""^ '^^ '^' ^<>ni- 
and petty trivialities of everyday life. Take 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



them up on our mountain top and extract from them all 
the pleasure they hold for us. Then, looking back on 
the dear red-letter days, we shall constantly re-live the 
happmess that lent them that character. We shall not 
have to reproach ourselves with having squandered 
precious opportunities that return no more. 



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THE SILENT BEACON. 




willing to (\n nprwi if • xi_ , . persons are un 
admiration of appIaST^^'.;" ""^ ^T*' ""y »""> «"= 
reason or another ,C,)°- "■»»» ^'t whom, for one 

fa a prospect of 1 „if3 '"^'^"^ ''"" ' "' « tk^e 
a resnit of the r effoS tZ"^ 'S*-"'"™ » ««>". «^ 
to find willing workS Jl' °''u'"-«J' ^'« 'h'» 

thropie cause, prXweTitLT ■.""."''''' " P"'"- 
womcn of wealth ~2.' ^T "» advocates, men or 

are the,tlTL°"XrSa.'^\"^"^r<'.- ^™» «>«" 
popularity, or to acquir? "^elitU ^"^"^ ^ '""'«™ 

Kom^ aati:£ "t~ --» 

degreeV™^al":l?Uln^S V:''f "'•'° *"' 
great actions solely from rJl Performance of 

-r^i to «he ptobaMe eff«t^ it'^:,^ "'i-'^' '^«""'« 
mnds of observers W -T?" V«>Awe on the 

of devotionTu^r'n^ -T ^*^^- S"'='' ™'ances 
are probaSy nofe aSS L"".™"' '""'Sh, yet there 
'ea^t a fe/notabrZ^^ -—inUVt: 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



faithful workers, who walk straight and steadfastly 
along the path of duty, neither taking nor desiring 
credit for the accomplishment of what they regard 
merely as their personal share in the world's work, not 
to be shirked on to other shoulders, nor left undone to 
be a reproach to them through life. They do not ring 
bells, nor fire off cannon to attract attention to their 
achievements, but are amply content to shine modestly 
m their own appointed time and place and way, as 
unconscious, indeed, as the lamp in the lonely tower of 
the strength and brilliancy of the rays they diffuse 
through the darkness that surrounds them, or of the 
many m sore stress who are cheered in moments of 
diftculty by the comforting presence of such a beacon. 
JXumberless little occasions arise in daily life for 
exercising charity or dispensing sympathy in quiet ways 
unkno%vn to any but those immediately benefited. 
Willingness to profit by these humble opportunities for 
doing good IS the surest indication of Christian sincerity, 
if you would know just what progress you have made 
as a good and faithful servant of One Master only, 
count up what you have done for love of Him alone, 
unmixed with human motives. Alas I the total will 
be so small, it will be rather a source of confusion than 
of satisfaction to any honest soul. How many women, 
for instance, regulate their attendance at the church 
services by the condition of their wardrobes ? How 
often is the strict observance of Sunday a mere conces- 
sion to public opinion ; the reading of the Bible an act 
of ostentation ; total abstinence, purely a matter of 
economy, or habit ; long devotions, an expadient for 
passing time easily ? We deceive ourselves readily on 
many of these points, taking a complacent view of 
actions which in reality are an offence in the sight of 
Him who is Truth itself, and who, therefore, abhors 
hypocrisy and double-dealing. 



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THE SILENT LEACON ,nr 

actions. A too LTt i ? *^"^ • '°'P^'« °"r " good " 

inevitably undernkfthi';''^^^ ^°/^^^ ^''''^'^ ^" 
and charitj "'^''* foundations of faith 



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LXXIX 

THE FORCE OF EXAMPLE. 

No woman can be so insignificant as to he sure that 
her example can do no harm. 

— Lord Clarendon. 

!HE influence of the spoken or written word is as 
nothing beside the force of the living example. 
The good books we read, the sermons and admo- 
nitions we hear, no doubt affect the mind and character 
to a certain extent, but it is for the most part with a 
sense of effort, of unwelcome restraint that we accept 
the suggestions conveyed to us through these channels. 
The force of example, on the contrary, carries us along 
irresistibly, gladly. What we see done by others, we 
like to do, if only to test our powers and capacity for 
similar achievement. 

Unhappily, an evil example invites imitation no less 
persuasively than a good one. Each individual is there- 
fore burdened \vith a great responsibility in this regard. 
Whatever we say or do while under observation by our 
fellow-creatures, becomes a factor in determining their 
moral standpoint. An intelligent mistress learns 
lessons of honesty and fidelity in the performance of 
difficult duties by watching a conscientious charwoman 
or laundress at her day's toil. The humble boot-black 
contributes his quota to the comfort and peace of 
hundreds of his fellow-creatures by the thoroughness 
with which he accomplishes his lowly task. Even the 



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197 



beggar at the rich man's imt 
acceptance of a stern ^Z XkeT', ^^ ^''^ P^*'«"' 
who despised his povertv Won . ^ ^'""''»««« of him 
is the power of examp e ihat^ ^ "' ""^ far-reaehing 
A weU-bred vourl^^o^^^^^^^^^ '"''^ «"« «f "« 

forced to live S a Wl ^''"""^ ^'"'"^'^ ^'^'^ « t™e 
couth, and who^^l;'^ l^,r,t:nl """"7 "^^^ "- 
repugnant to one of rcfiTr 1 % 7 ^ !"u^ ^"^'"^^ "^O'^t 
admirable tact sho .nn i , ?*''' "°*^ ^^^^^s. With 

eiscd the greaH oo2n f''^' ?^ P«'-«everingly exer- 

her belongings daintilv r. . ^T ' ^''''^ ^'"'''"^^^ «"<! 
time the ifll enol o \" ""^ ""T'*'^^"' ^^ « ^^ort 
The men treated her wJr/J""^^ ^^^^" *^ b« f«It. 
"ever bestowed on thdrmothr"'!^ '"'''' '' *''^^ ^^^^ 
unwilling to soorn inferior to tr 'h "'"'T '^^'''' 
^ciouslj to move or ritiS. '^'"V^"'^* ""««"- 
and to pay more atfpn'fr . A • ^'''''**^'' gentleness, 
she permitU W,f To eri".! • '""" .^H-rance. Had 
dictate to them ir?nor.onnl !f "'^ ''^'""^« ^^'^^ or to 
p% have ant^ni^Ttrem"^--^^^^^^^^^ 

example ineTtedtTem?;l'"^"f^/^^P^«*' «°d then by 
attainments! She hTdlr^^f ^'' ^^^^ ^^^'^t^e^ and 

order and b;auty in a ho^ ' ^'"' "^ ''^°°''^ '^ ^''''^ 
hitherto been unknown T ""^''^ *^'"^^ conditions had 

the standard Z'TaT.l^ rZd 1 1 '^^^^^T 
remained permanently fixed n T. - f ^^^'^ample 

sciouslj instrument, of II •' ^ ,^''^ ''^*^" "ncon- 
and alii it m^y be th«. r "^ '^^°^"*^ ^*^^«gcrs, 

first downwlTLp of morTth '' ^'^ *^ "^^^ ^^ ^^^^ 
«-a btep 01 more than one who too willingly 



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IN THE PATHS OF I'KACE 



followed us when we had forsaken the straight path. 
This is a thought to give us pause. 

We cannot shield ourselves from blame by claiming' 
that what we do or say is of no importance. One of the 
overwhelming surprises of the Judgment Day will, no 
doubt, be the revelation of the sum of our influence 
for good and ill over all who have ever come in contact 
with us. 



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LXXX 

WITH HAMMER AND CHISEL. 

There is no .culpturl„, Uke that of character. 

"^I^ni-y Ward Beeclur. 

SpS""" "'^^' ^"'" ^^'' ^« ^^« °Ot POSSO.S but 

block of m^bloTnto . .1 *' '^'"''•' '' "''•^P^^^^^ 

envy on the sculDtor . ?""""? '''*"'• ^" ^'^'^ ^^'•>'' 

achievement. Ye wea ' "r^'^T^^'ty ^or sinnlur 
of unyielding stone but of ".afn? r ^' '"''^^"^^' ^"^' 
touch and which mnv l.» j^eaaily to the ljp:hte8t 

young personTin whTr' • *'""' <^''"''^<'". •■"■■I 

pains to surround E ? ''' "" """^ '«*» «« 

Yet why should we ex-nof.*- vo „i* -<• 
lessness of youth th^ ^ w th" l,^" ''''■ ^'""^''^- 
wisdom are <^o slow t« T i ' ^-^'Penence au.l 

ourselves ometfmel IZ "I '""f'"'' ^^' »« ^J^' 
that has iusr;lrd Vt :;^:,^-^^^^ in the year 

new beauty we have added ';; ^^" .^''"^"^red ; what 
of u« .eem to h^vr "'' ^'»«^«eter? Manv 

-tLin lu lia^e come to a full stnn o. .v u • ' 
14 *'^"P> as if, having" 



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IN THK PATHS OF PEACE 



reacliod our fullest pliy-ical stature, the spiritual part 
of us likewise refused to j^jrow any more. 

But indeed, it is only after the body has attained its 
perfect development that the soul is free to aspire to 
the loftiest heights. It is when the hot blood of youth 
has cooled somewhat, and the illusions that beckoned to 
us in the spring-time of life have melted away in the 
clear atmosphere of maturity that we begin to see 
mental and moral vistas hitherto undreamed of. The 
lives of many great men furnish us with convincing 
proofs that intellectual activity may be prolonged far 
beyond that of the body. 

It is only mediocrity that remains satisfied with 
itself on attaining manhpod or womanhood, recognizing 
no necessity for further efforts at improvement. But 
mediocrity is terribly widespread, and we must be on 
our guard lest we, too, fall into its ranks. We have but 
to keep an eye — the eye of the sculptor — on our char- 
acter, and chisel in hand, be always ready to chip off 
here or there, the useless material that hides the 
imprisoned beauty. 

It is an engrossing as well as an ennobling task. The 
process is necessarily slow, but the result is sure. And 
though the work will never seem quite complete it will 
be fair enough, perhaps, some day, to earn for the 
worker that praise, than which none can be sweeter or 
more precious to human ears, ""Well done, thou good 
and faithful servant." 



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I.XXXI 

IN HARVEST TIME. 

O favoun c,rn, y,.„. „,„^„ „„,,,, 

77,, f * ■"•'•'■'■''"*■ our dm, 

ll'c f nines. ./»„„„, „„, ,,.;^,,^^^^ 

course of tl,e year, h ?l"™K .^ ''"""S the whole 
J'Sht of tl,e ioaflcs tree "L r^°'"J.'?: '^''^'^ " *''» 
frost, recalls tl.o sweet ™m,^" ^"'^T '''«'"o<i with 
beyond our reach CtcranT'" ^°^'' ","='' ^"^^ P-'^d 
-or have felt discouraged o, iZ°f"l 'T ""= -"W 
ahone so fair above us ^„H °, *'.™"'"='>'«i while skies 
our feet. '' "™ " ™'ling earth was under 

theXrrLV^Ji'rlri tS" '■•"«or regretfully on 
recognise the In^;; th™T™-;' « »-' not f.fl to 

promises of good chee nd halv W, ',''"'T'" "■= 
autumn in one sense, tl,o rich?5 '''""'"^'"P that make 

We should not need ,11 ™'°" °' ""= y^'- 
Ri™^ Day is net, nor wait fo"'".?'"'''"' "■»' Thanks- 
'o loan, the reasen's ":: wltr I'uT '" '^'"'-'' 
are written large all nm,,,,?! T '''""'<f»lness. They 
"'now then " b^ i:':?;r''"' "f .aWut u.. We should' 



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But we are curiously reluctant to dwell on the 
brighter side of our lives. Of our troubles, our needs, 
our grievances, we could prate forever and a day, could 
we find a willing listener. The theme appears to be 
inexhaustible. But, when reminded of our compensa- 
tions, how grudgingly we admit their existence ! How 
readily we accuse those who enumerate them for us, of 
a lack of sympathy for our misfortunes. And we are 
ah\'ays firmly convinced that our trials are of a pecu- 
liar severity which the unfeeling world shall never 
understand. 

One, who is tortured 
health, only health, and 



with pain, cries. 



" Give me 
I shall be happy." Are the 
healthv then so fortunate, so passionatelv to bo envied? 
If so, why do they ceaselessly grumble because other 
things are denied them? 

One who lives in luxury, yet leads a loveless life, 
yearns, in the loneliness of her heart, for a crust in the 
wilderness shared with one who vould be kind. And 
another, who is tenderh' loved and cared for, is filled 
with envy and discontent, because she cannot fare 
daintily, wear purple and fine linen, and live a life of 
ease and pleasure. 

If we would keep the spirit of the Thanksgiving 
festival in our heai-ts, not only for a day, but through- 
out our lives, w^e have but to keep in mind the full 
value of the blessings we are permitted to enjoy, and 
which are denied to so many more worthy than we. It 
will then be easy to accept with courage and dignity our 
share of the rials of humanity. It ill becomes us to 
question whether that share is a just one or not. The 
very thought is blasphemous, when we know there is 
One who fits the back to the burden and tempers the 
Avind to the shorn lamb. How shall we excuse our- 
selves then, for repining under every cloud of misfor- 
tune that temporarily excludes the sunshine from our 



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LXXXU 

THE WRONG WAY. 

We often do riyht Ihings in the luroiig ic<iy. 

— Selected. 

'* ^^ OOD " people are not always loveable. Many 
^^iJ of them, to tell the truth, are quite the 
reverse. They have a faculty of making 
those who live with them thoroughly uncomfortable. 
Consciously or not, they develop a sanctimonious, or 
censorious manner, which creates a feeling of restraint 
wherever they appear. To live np to their standard 
seems a hopelessly difficult undertaking. They fairly 
bristle with virtues, chiefly of the self-denying order, to 
emulate which the average human sinner feels com- 
pelled to forego all the ordinary comforts and pleasures 
of life. These are the people who do right things the 
wrong way. The end they propose to themselves is a 
good one. The fault lies in the means they take to 
reach it. But they are not clever enough to discover 
their own limitations. A defective sense of humour 
prevents them from suspecting the excess and futility 
of their zeal in many directions. Entirely satisfied 
that their own little theory of life and the narrow ideal 
they have proposed to themselves are before and above 
those of all the rest of humanity, they are absolutely 
iijipervioiis to new impressions, broader views, or any 
salutary influence that might disturb their complacent 
belief in their o\\'n infallibility. 



'illK ni!ON(; WAV .,,,- 

have <«seovorodt^^o ™:S,; r'''"''T' "'"''^ ""■->■ 
suffering, some tali„n.,rf ??"'"" *°'' *°™"- »■• 

from the iZan w/ ™''''''''«''"^''' '<">dencie3 
tl.ey are in halt V e",':,- ,rC,1 ''T'"'""" "'""'' 
the benefit of hnmnnftra larfe T "• ''°''?t',°'" ^" 
many and Rrievon. Th! 2^' ^ m'sfak's are 

Sratitude and praTsf^l™ '""'' """^ '""I"-"! f»r 

thus miscarry it i« ti , 1 , ^^ ^°°^ intentions 

-Ives. T ?'c„t ti « Z'?, *''T '''''?^' "" "■""'■ 
thin, sustains thll' Tl, i H 'Z, 't,;:; '^^i "'^ ">l" 
never occurs to tl,™ Uiat tliev m v ''"I""-*- It 

wrong way ^ '^ ''■■'™ '''>''>■ " '<<' ti,e 

enlisting their svmnTw^ "^ ''''®'' '"^"^^^^ ^^ 

nnl^ 4; XI ^•>"^P^tnies in any cause. "We Ipnm 

cannot do that, stand aside ond w ^'""^ 

s;Tnr*:rv:f^!!r''^^^^^^^^^^^^ 

diS.-r V • '^'^'°™"'ff yourself. It only Lrings 

and unloveaWe pe's!;::. "'"" "■■^"■'™'«' ^^ '""'■'•-"^'^ 



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LXXXIII 
MISTAKES OF ALTRUISM. 






We are alt islands shouting lies to one another across 
sens of misunderstanding. 

— Rudyard Kipling. 

'HERE is infinite pathos — as well as infinite 
humour — in the fact that however close the con- 
tact, however near the relationship which binds 
liiiiutiu beings together, no single one of us ever did or 
ever can truly know the other. Consciously or not, we 
cloak our real selves in a disguise which is more or less 
impenetrable. We have our reserves, our private 
opinions of things and people ; (sur secret longings and 
ambitions ; our unacknowledged sympathies and anti- 
pathies ; also, that wonderful adaptability to circum- 
stances, which, perhaps, oftener than any other cause, 
makes us assume the virtues that we have not. In 
daily life, our actions constantly belie our wishes, our 
feelings, yet it is by the first Ave are judged in a world 
wliieli takes no account of what it does not see. We 
ourselves, though so well taught by personal experi- 
ence that deeds often do violence to the desires of the 
])('i-fornier, are nevertheless ready to form our opinions 
of others from our observation of their actions, or inac- 
tion, under given circumstances, 

"J'o quote a familiar instance, a husband believes his 
wife to be a quiet, sensible little woman, because she 
coiiiiiiits none of the extravagances he is fond of 



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MISTAKES OF ALTRUISM 207 

'" lord's illusions conccmiL^r' *'"'"« •" "i"'"^!' 
■armless l„„gi„g, for tirof.L 'bfro?.' ^'"""« ""^ 
some mnoccnt Measure on Z-h;T>, ^ '"'">■• <"• for 
ft. The two will dooeive on^ i" "'°™°''' ''""' '' 
I' « the .„,„e with Serfrie » r '" "" ^'"'■^ »''■ 
l>arent and child, jill are "*!??' , '"'"^' "■<■" '"th 
.cross seas of misnnd'^anding "'"^ '""' '" °"'' '"■°"'" 

portronrfaeti^Sndl^ '"'/ '^'^'"=™"- "^ «- 
elusive and dis urbinT your ^, ':>1r«»«. mysterious, 

fHlow^eaturcs taVef akeenert^" """""''"» ^o" 
reluctant to iudRo them w! ^^' ' -^O'' "x^ome 

"lining up IZ yt a^rideTrT ""'' ^ ^^ «« 
the hidden rirtues and ,r i. " °* "^Pocn'ation as to 

and livewitl, ; rtoXr ■''1 °^ "■"''' y"" '"vo, 
restraining influence on the rtrn T"' o'-™"^ ""^ 
•Tour responsibilities towan ^^11 t '^"'"'"^'^ i "s to 
'>.v .your propinqui,;. tothet ° "'■"' """ '^"''^^ 

wLo°HvedIgeTher 'manff "' *^'" ■"»«- -'ors 
One liked erfs. andTothriir.''"'' ""^ ''^™»y- 
I'ave been easy enouri ,^ 5- -i^*"^ """""• I' ™'W 
«tisfy both, h^d thevten SleT ■'"' 'f' ^° "' '» 
who liked erust, assuminTfp!!f i ."""S"' ■"" ""e one 
'hat portion, habittX 1 " ■' '"'" "''» P^'erred 
chose the crU Th'e otlL''":'; °' '^"-''"egation, 
sacrifleing, swaUowed the e u5 T-t^- ^^'T"^ "'^^- 
her sister coyeted) Jth » T "'""^'"•^he hated and 
men.. At last onU^^^JZZtClr "' "''"^■ 
nnder the necessity of deniil he t ^''I' "" '""S^"- 
•nuch consolation in heln^® ^ ''fi "" ''•"''" f™"'l 
favourite portion of "heS* bT" ^'"^'-^ "^ l"" 
■n the confidence of th 1 f ""^ ""^ '^''« ™s 

-1 preference, could nottfi^rm S^^t^,^ 



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to the survivor, whose feelings on learning the futility 
of her self-denial of years, may be better imagined than 
described. 

And this is how we are all playing at cross purposes 
and deceiving one another our whole lives long. 

If only each of us dared to be absolutely true to our- 
selves for a single day, the world would be revolution- 
ized. Such a sweeping consummation is perhaps, not 
to be wished, yet there is no doubt that we habitually 
defer too much to public and private opinion, and that 
a more frank and fearless policy on the part of every 
individual, would ultimately result in a sturdier moral- 
ity, and afford a more solid and enduring basis for the 
real content and happiness of all. 




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LXXXIV 



JUST CRITICISM. 

ill?' "' '''" ^^'^^^^ ^^ - ^'^^^^ ^naiier said agaln.t 

— Thomas-a-JCempis. 

or physical,' tat :^n S ^ "i'" ^*'="°"> ■»"™' 
«t least, the existenn» „f " f ' '" " S™oral wav, 
limitations. Slr,v I '''•'." ^■'"""'^ •'°*«'^ "-d 
we know we ^4 tal ■ h!,'""" '"":'='■», "''«» ^^ ^V 
bear to have thL f. u ""^'^ " "'"« ^'o <^»™ot 
other, ? Ifl L a Do^l""' r "r'' "^ """"ioned by 

because some candirl f^L i' . , ■"■ ™^ furious 

simple statement tola^^'e'Scct^Hr^^'T'™^ '""^'^ ' 
committed a similar Xnce t ,^7/,""'"' ""y^"^'^' 

ph™ a.,-, :/i:4trr' stn i °£ 

<'an 1 e.^p]ain tiie resentment X fee^ towarrlo fi, t 

-r.-e „e i„ like banner? By wS't ^^htta^TdS 



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IX niE PATHS OF PKACE 



tlif freedom to discuss whom and what I will, while 
sternly forbidding others to make me or mine a subject 
of conversation? 

A very Utile reflection suffices to show one the 
egregious folly and unreasonableness of the anger that 
surges in our breast whenever an uncomplimentary 
remark made about us out of our hearing is repeated 
to us by some officious friend. How much more consis- 
tent and sensible it would be to say calmly : " Indeed, 
it ir, quite true, I regret to say," and then dismiss the 
matter from our thoughts, or retain it merely as a 
wholesome reminder of a fault that must be promptly 
cured. 

Instead of indulging in bitter and revengeful feeling 
against one who has discovered our weakness, we 
siioiild, if we sincerelj desire to improve ourselves, feel 
indebted to the frankra .^j which opens our eyes to fail- 
ings we had not perhaps perceived, and certainly did 
not imagine were perceived by others. It is naturally 
depressing and humiliating to be confronted with an 
image of ourselves totaily different from the one we 
fondly believed we were presenting to the world ; but 
surely, it is better to be undeceived and given a chance 
to improve, than to be allowed to go on to the end, 
hugging a delusion which only makes us ridiculous in 
the eyes of all. Undoubtedly, if it were not for the 
disagreeable truths that sometimes come to our ears, we 
should all be victims of a colossal conceit, foolishly 
imagining that everybody was delighted with us, and 
seeing no necessity to restrain any of our caprices, or 
to acquire any new virtues. 

The best of us are only "children of a lai^er 
growth," apt to run wild unless subjected to corrective 
influences, more or less drastic. We no longer submit 
to the rod, but we cannot hope to escape the rebuffs 
that lie in wait for all who make themselves in any way 






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obnoxious to othcis; Tf ;wi 

;o our „„.„ pS, X', tZ'""T' '" """ "'^■" 

immiinitv in tho fntnil • "'■'' "■'■'■ '" '«•"» 



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LXXXV 

UNJUST CRITICISM. 

In our relations with others we forgive them more 
nndily for what they do which they can help than for 
what they are, which they cannot help. 

— Selected. 

T^TIIETIIER we are conscious of it or not, it is 
\^r a fact that in our social relations, our attitude 
to one anotlicr is habitually critical and we 
are apt to arrogate to ourselves the function of an 
umpire, from whose decisions dissent is regarded as an 
affront. Viewed from without, the situation is full of 
humourous aspects, but the victims of it are not likely 
to see so clearly where the fun comes ii^- 

Bravely to bear the brunt of constant daily criticism 
of one's every word and action, especially when the 
criticism is for the most part unkind, supposes an 
endowment of patience, pluck, and lofty indifference 
to trifles, which not one man or woman in twenty can 
truly claim to possess. 

The disposition to retaliate grows on weaker natures 
with fearful rapidity and the result is that we are 
mostly a discontented, carping, cavilling lot, finding 
little good in any one but ourselves. 

Even if we confined our strictures to peoples' actions 
which they can help, we might be justified by an appar- 
ent desire to keep up a high standard of conduct, but 
when we ungenerously extend our criticism to the 



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in the last degree ' "^ ^"^ ^'^"^"«^ blameworthy 

habits of the lower order nf'' -^'^ ^^^^''^'^ ^h^ 
process would yield us a inm.l. "^'^f^'^"' ^^e mental 
«nd no one would ^.ffo frl 7 "'*'"^.° ^"i«^°^<'"t, 
curious and constant. As f\Z^ scrutiny, however 

untold sufferings from a con«^' ^'^' "'^"^' ^^ "« ^n^ure 

-•I ""f--dly%spi: ay eSTr '' ^'" ^"^^"-^ 
«n'ong whom we live ^"^^'^^'^'-d over u. by those 

far they may go without ton • "^ T"'*^''*^ i^-^ how 
in the oxposed%uX U o ;r^ the sensitive places 
attribute as rare as kt ende "^'^^^ ^'^^^' '^ «" 
our own business, and let n" ^^ ■\l^''^'^ *« ™ind 
a one, is too hard a lesson f or I ""'?^^°"r's severely 
like to umpire every game ttV^ "^'•''"*-^' "^ "^^- ^^o 
the flaws in every lltZ to ; •^'•"§ ^"' *" P^'"* <>«* 
luckless feJIow-creature ' '" Judgment on every 

provean'yeftivtanti-d^oteTor" ^^.^^^^^''^'^^^^ should 
able meddlesomeness working ^°'''° °^ unwarrant- 
we that we should Tetour^"fJ° """^ ''''^'^- ^o are 
own life such a shiZ^Z^TiZ "' ""'^'^'^ ^' ^"^ 
put on superior airs tLaTotfe'r ?" a'^' ^"^"^^^ '^ 
conscious of many miserab^ f.Vl ^'^ '^^ "«* ^» 

knows nothing about and wM/^-7f' '^^"^^ ^'^^ ^orld 
!^s, perhaps, to bang^^^is ^^^^ "^"^^ --« 
incompetency to the end niT r o^^"^^ «* our own 

enough, Hea^ven ^z::^:zi'::t ^^"^ ^"^ ^^««- 

^-ng.ithoneanotiie,;::^^^P^-«^^ 



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1\ TUK PATHS OK PEACE 



tunes, incapacity, or whatever other limitation ditfercn- 
tiates mere men from angels. Would we but praotisti 
the golden rule faithfully, instead of breaking it a 
hundred times a day, as we now habitually do, all the 
cares and vexations that presejitly afflict our spirits 
would 

" fold their tents like the Arabs, 
And silently steal away." 



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LXXAVI 

THE RIGHT KIND OF RIVALRY. 

The silualion thai has not //,• ,luf>j if, :,h. ,j 
never yd occupied by man. ^' ^'"^' ''""' 

v-N ^ —Thomas CavlyhK 

that mere,, l^ » off .rofX" ^Wl/T:' "'" r,^' 

iiineamc ot the aims, interogts. voxatinn« nnd tri»mnl . 
m >vl,u.., „„„.» „on„„l life i, bound" ..p;"''l['rit;; 



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IN THK I'ATIIS OF I'KACK 



I 




enough to match one's own temperament among those 
of the greatest women. Charlotte Bronte, Mrs. Stowe, 
Florence Nightingale, Frances Willard, and others 
even greater who preceded them, have shown, the way 
to reach as many ideals, and in ways equally diverse. 
Better than all is she who was " blessed among women," 
and in whom were combined in their highest perfection, 
every sweetest and most desirable attribute of maid, 
wife, and mother. Xo one need feel the lack of a suit- 
able prototype who has not given some thought to the 
Virgin Mother, whom Tennyson has so beautifully 
described as 

" Our tainted nature's solitary boast." 

A woman who has a marked individuality, with great 
force of character, may feel a reluctance to accept any 
other as a model, but the average woman cannot fail to 
appreciate the moral stimulus furnished by the contem- 
plation of a loftier nature than her own. It keeps alive 
in her heart the wish and determination to attain the 
same high levels of thought and achievements as those 
in which the elect of her sex habitually dwelt — and 
brings her into honourable emulation with them. How 
much nobler to engage in a contest of this nature than 
in a pitiful rivalry \vith one's neighbours in the matter 
of vulgar display or passing popularity! Mere material 
or worldly satisfactions are necessarily of a superficial 
and ephemeral nature, whereas, a gain in mental or 
moral power is a permanent and fruitful source of hap- 
piness and distinction. 



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LXXXVIl 
TRAINING FOR A GREAT CAREER. 

In Ws small things he resolute and great 

I find thee worthy ; do this deed firneP 
J ■ — Lowell. 

dn M ix }'T^ "■ ^^S^'^ '^ tliose public 
care Ja^^cluZ^n^^^^^^ '''V" P^^-- wit^ 
down to Seritv witr f, -^^^ ^'' ^"™« ^^' ««™e 
attached to i U W . ' ^^'^^'^^ ' " ^he Unready " 
"SiiS^tlln IS fortunate for many of us that fhe 

fierce iigjit wlueh beats upon a thrnnr. '' a^ j. i • 
on our lowly lives for if iV rL ^? ''''* '^'"^ 

a great army of "unreal^?! -J^?"^^ ^"'"^'•^^ ^' 
of women tLuglZ t^f/lorr"""' '"" *'^ ^^^^^ 

-.. ^^nen called upon to asawt, but it is in a slip- 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



ebod, get-it-over-and-bc-done-with-it manner which 
gives little joy to herself or others. 

There can be no hannony, no dignity, nor useful 
purpose in such a life. A wise woman uses reflection 
and judgment even in the lea^^t important affairs, for 
the smallest act often has wide-reaching consequences. 
By being " resolute and great " in small things, keep- 
ing her nuiscle trained she is ever ready for the highest 
decrees of fate, and there is little fear that a call will 
not come, soon or late, bidding her do some noble deed 
for which she has been found v/orthy. 



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LXXXVIII 



ART, THE EDUCATOR. 



^-1^ — John P. Weir. 

lum 01 tlie lower scholastic trrado^ Th^ ^„_*i i , 

oir public schools are incompetent to instruct their 

S^i' "' ft," '•'"' *""' P™"'?'"- "f «rt, b W them 
selves woefully .gnorant in this respect ^ 

„»I?'7, ■■ '>°'-»°«'' i' not so reprehensible as the 
tterly false conception of art enferta ned by tl>e ma,"r! 

»d°v '£?"■*•;'','' ''"",""•" ">•")" " a^„bj« of 

P acfnoy ,viM, 'I, ■' f ™" "^ '"<"'=™''' '» »'=^ ^e com- 
placency with which some persons, otherwise fairly 

educated, exhibit for the admirationof their friend, a 



220 



IN TIIX, PATHS 01- PEACE 



ffe 



Staring chroitio, or p:liastly crayon portrait, a *' Storm at 
Sea," done in oils by tlie daugliter of tlie house, who 
has never seen the ocean, but who in " so clever " that 
she can reproduce tho most difficult subject from u 
Christmas card, or a handkerchief box! The same 
type of young woman is responsible for the impossible 
" hand-painted " satin panels, that disgrace the parlour 
walls, the " decorated " drain-pipe in the hall doing 
duty as an umbrella stand, the sofa pillows fearfully 
and wonderfully daubed with "scenes," or floral 
designs. These and similar horrors only too common 
in the average home, proclaim to all comers in what 
depths of Cimmerian darkness, as far as knowledge of 
art is concerned, the perpetrators, their aiders and abet- 
tors, are plunged. 

Some will say, " If we like these things, why should 
we not have them ? Why not, indeed, just as the 
Indians have their war-paint and feathers and glass 
beads. Xo doubt one would find it diflicnlt to prove 
to the savage intelligence that these are not things of 
beauty. Similarly, there are degrees of barbarism in 
taste, even among civilized nations ; there are persons 
who live and die happily enough in the most benighted 
condition. But those who are in the light cannot hel[) 
feeling a benevolent wish to extend their privilege to 
others less fortunate. Every tnie lover of art is a born 
missionary. 

It is regrettable that parents and teachers display <o 
much indifference in a matter which is really of prime 
importance. By a slight effort, they might open uj) to 
the children undo'- their care, the endless avenues of 
purest pleasure which can be reached through a know- 
ledge of the elements of art. They should at least cor- 
rect every tendency to admire vulgar eflfects, and endea- 
vour to train the tastes of the little ones by educating 
their eyes to the close observation of beauty in every 



AKT, TIIK KIUCATOR 



221 



for,,,, ^o aftcmpf, at pictorial rrpro(l„otion sl.o„M ho 
praiso,! or oxl„l,ite,l to stran-or. unless if .li... ? 
-rk.l m,,y to tl.o roul ol^ct ; ^^ s^e o '^H,: 
brst modolH sho„M l.o rcffanhnl n.orely a^ uJnlV - 
CHOH or Bt„<lio.s, },avi„.. i„ ,o sense the value of ,n 
ori^nnal piece of work. 

Onl.y one in a Ihousan.l ehihlren, perhaps fewer will 
sl-ow a n,ark<.,l talent for drawin,:, an,l nedioer v o 
porforn.anee is hy no n.c-ans to he eneonraj- ' h" 

;s< • ;'' tor"''''^ ^^-''^ ^^ -■*»" ^ ^'- ---' 

er"o;Zod work '"'""" ^^ -o.^-C appreeiate, and 
Oood taste, which eomes with a knowled^.e of art 
. a mnversal passport to the society of the n.o^t enliH.t: 
ene,l a,.d charnnn^ p(>o,,lo the wo,-ld over ; l,v ren'der- 
nff sele..t,on easy it surrounds us in our homes with 
tho e evidences of culture which are a source of 1 ' 
hip:hest pleasure to others as well as to ourselves V 

lea^e ,t without a suspicion of your i^^norance of Jo- 
Sraphy mus,c, or mathematics, hut a^^lance at ^ u. 
surroundings enahles hin. to determine whether vou re 
a person of taste and eultivafion. To those who bv 
tra.nm^- and assocation have become fastidious in sn,), 
matters, notlung can .p,ite compensate for an u^lv or 
vulvar environment There a,-e blunders in furniture 
and interior decoration that afflic-t the educated eve 
quite as painfully as a fla-ant violation of the rule« of 

odour affects the sensitive olfactorv nerve. All three 
are nqually serious interruptions 'to a.irreeable inter- 
course and should be ,^uarded a.i^ain.t with equal c-ai-e. 
The cultivation of a fine taste is an object worthy of the 

be followed than a con«eientinu. study of the pn-p.-iple.. 



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LXXXIX 





WEARINESS. 

It must oft fa I ovt 

That one whose labour perfects any work 
Shall rise from it ivith eye so worn that he. 
Of all men, least can measure the extent 
Of u'hat he has accomplished. 

— Robert Browning. 

?]IE tnitli of the poet's words will come vividly 
home to every woman who knows the meaning 
of work. In the freshness of the morning, when 
the sun is shining and the pride of strength and skill 
is strong within us ; when we are warmed with love, 
and cheere._ by the vision of success, how hopefully, 
how fearlessly we undertake our daily stent of toil and 
trouble, how alert are brain and hand to meet the 
exigencies of the hour, however numerous or perplex- 
ing ! In the evening, we say, we shall rest, looking 
back Avith triumph on the difficulties vanquished, on 
the fine results we shall have achieved ; a blessed 
idleness, riciily earned, shall be our portion until the 
dawning of another day. 

Alas ! long before the setting of the sun, our strength 
and spirits begin to flag, wo grow listless, and lose heart 
for the tasks we engaged to accomplish. We labour 
on, perhaps, but no longer with love, or pride. The 
elation of the volunteer has subsided, and our progress 
is that of the treadmill. When the wheel stops we 



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stop, but mechanicallv ; too tiror] tn L-,,^,. 
much we have achievo.l Ila X 1 7 ?' '^'" ^'"'^^ 
our release. Others mlV mnsl "l ,''' ^'' ""^ •'"•^^ ^'^ 
our labours, to ZlZJT ? ""'"'^ ^^^'^^ "^^"^^ ^^ 

our faithfukl: "Tu l: as^isT r",f ^P' ^ P^^^^^ 
our eves anrl n..^ J i^ • i " *^ ^''' allowed to shut 

undS, bed "to Zf:^''' '^"^ """^^^' *« »>^ «Jone, 

tI^e..HdJp^-^,^-tastret^^^ 

of nKr^t"ant;i'';l "'''''' '"^ l'^ ^^ ^^^ *--' ^^-T 
a-day M^rld ' ^'""^'^ ^'^^ ^"'^^^^^ this work- 

tiJp 'ir'*^' "'''""• Thi.s is a question which from all 
time the earnest, ^reat-sonl^d wo-lc-n-- ha V-Mfn S ! 
consider. The work of fl.^ , i j V ' ^''^"'^^^ ^o 

it alwavs ^vill be done bv tL "^ ^'i "^^'^^ ^'^^°' «« 
the salt of the earth t iL tt "'''' ?^ '^'''^^^ ''^"^ ^'^ 
«it in iVllnJ ! ' . * *^® eumberers thereof may 

TT. ^1 ^ attempt, or powerless to accomnli^li 

tr;; thetrof f,'!' If"" '"^ ""'' '"'" - '» 

ow„ secret thi^, ,«'""'«''« poneration, is tlieir 

ever hop^l fa't,r"' "" "'^•- ""'^ *"' '<»<' <•» 

to ^rltriorit''" """' ^'<'" *°°Rl' it impels thorn 
4ht iSv L i'- -"f""-"™ I'd by the reward that 



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SELF-LOVE. 

Self-lore is not so vile a thing as self-neglect. 

— Shakespeare. 

[E(!LECT is one of the first symptoms of decay. 
It has naturally a depreasing effect on the 
beholder. A neglected garden o/ house is 
always a sad spectacle. What then shall be said of a 
neglected human being? In the case of a child, the 
sight inspires pity for the sufferer, and indignation 
against those who are responsible fur its well-being: 
But when neglect becomes self-neglect, as in the case 
of men and women fallen from their high estate of 
beings made in the likeness of the Deity to one more 
nearly resembling that of the lower animals, the only 
meed they receive is contempt, sometimes aggravated 
into extreme repulsion. 

Self-neglect is therefore not only a crime against the 
individual, but also a serious offence against society, 
wliich justly condemns and ostracises those who are 
found guilty of the indictment. In an enlightened age 
like ours there is no excuse for an intelligent adult who 
fails to bring both mind and body up to those standards 
of cultivation to which the majority of educated people 
conform. A man or woman is a sorry failure indeed, 
who, with health and strength to draw upon, lacks the 
energy and self-respect to keep him or herself in good 
condition, in everv sense of the wor*!. 



.SELF-LOVE .>.,- 

The danger of self-nogloot increases with a^^o and 

and progrcive of hircon. ^^-^o^frifs rTt^uTf 
preserved a wonderfnilv ercctXure . L i ? " 
clear iia . n.;,i>. J ngure, a complexion a3 

v«on>«, b^Lg T /°tS V "S'.'lar and 
clothes of tl,« m^.! ^onthtul octogenarian wore 

ciotnes 01 the most approved cnt, and was evidentiv not 

Wv cleanshaven. hL'lL'n^a^lract:-: bTrr 
L dl"l i t°* ""'""^ ""^ "•'=""■>■'' Proprietv in™ I 

companion, being well abreast of the times and ,lw 
opinions „^rth hearing „„ „n topics of genml ;nS«^ 

.nnnf r? '"^ ^'^^'^' ^"^^ ^^'^^n finally, his well- 
spent life came to a close, he was univer«iv anZ^i 
cerely mourned as on^ who., lii,. "rnl 1 7f T 
again in a generation. °"^^ ''"^ ^' ^^*'^" 



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IN TIIK I'ATHs OK I'KACK 



T«) take care of one's liealtli, appearance and facnl- 
ties, with a view of reachin/^ u beantifiil and honourable 
old a<,'e, is an entirely praiseworthy object, and one 
which shonhl never be made the subject t»f ridicuhf or 
reproach. It is, of course, possibh- to overdo the thin^, 
and become tiresome and fussy about one's self, but 
witlioiit exceeding the bounds of good taste or infring- 
ing the rights of others, it is easy enough, in a (piiet 
way, to bestow a reasonable amount of care on one's 
self. 



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XC'I 
A FIRM FOOTHOLD. 

And thereby cleared firm fooling for to-dau 
Whoever clouds make darktoJJroVssln 
Thou shall nol miss Ihy solitary way. ' 

,• — Goethe. 

retrS'r' '"""V -"l"' "'>^'"' "PP-l-nsions 

us, for irood or ;il io • '"*''• ♦>"atis to befall 

consequences ThlT ?^i^",.*""g« the weightiest 

P^ve, a step toward, an inet.irabTe b S ' TLU 
IS the history which reoeate it.»lf ; "'*'"'«■ J"'* 



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IN TIIK I'ATIIS (IK I'KACK 




nil gotxl gifts of (3<k1 to iimii, is the most hcuiitiful and 
valuahjo. 

Mvt'M if tho worst nuist ooine to pass, is thoro not all 
tlu) nioro urj^ont rcaaon to fill tho intcrvcninjj; time with 
all tho gladness that nin Ix! crowded into hi At least 
then wlu'ii the dark eloiid lowers, thcsn? will be 8W<'et 
memories to begiiile the spirit and fortify it against the 
sombre inlliienee of nntoward eireumstanees. But be 
these ever so unfavourable, they will not avail to crush 
the spirit of one who has "cleared firm footing for to- 
<lav " l»v the faithful performance of duty vesterdav. 
She nujy have to travel far and painfully along a weary 
roail; but she " shall not miss her solitary way." 



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Xcil 
•TWIXT DAWN AND DARK. 

L.-fm, lo.nighl look hack across the span 

JvHxt iawn and dark and (o my conscience vr/,/-- 
yWvc ./ son,r good act lo bcasl o'r man, '' 

J he world is heller that I lived to-day:^ 
(-.^ , —VWa. \Vhool(T VViI<!()x. 

(.i^X So,,,,., ot HU..I, apparent iimi^rnifi^an.u,, that 
llioy an, „<,t ,.aMil.v .Jo.scrib,.cl i„ words. II„t 
ono ^renora tern. „.ay l,, „.a.l. to covor theni all 
u.-Hympa hy. Give, every other goo<l th ngto a 
hu„,an bon.« „n,l take this away-he n.u.st anZvi l.o 

i ve h^ H,ir 'T"'"' 7'^'^' "^"^•^^'"■"« ^''- "-.>•' «- 
Few f "-T ^'^"■""' "'"^ '^'"^'•^ ^''l '^'"vy him. 

nnf 1 1 ' "'^ T'' '" ^'"''' ""^1 «'>^«'', hut if wo are 
not neh ,„ sympathy it is heeause wo do not cho<..so to 

pa Heal ^T''? V' '7 '""^^' ^''^ ^--"*- «"'"- 

in bau T T '•" '^'^"r^ ""'• ••^"««»'-the w<,nn,le,l 
111. r .^ ' f«"»no-«tr.ekon, the widow and the 

o 'writer " ''l.V'*«^^"«^)' f'- f "^^'Hn,. artist, nn^ielln 
or writer. J ho second ia what we owe to those who 
djreeUy anrronnd us, who«e claims upon us are s ron^ 
est, whoso need w greatest. For the first, wo have no 
morit whatever. It is a simple emotion, 'not a virtue 

Lteeni P™ r' T""^' ^f ''^f'^ ^ '««*^ '^"^ with self- 
esteem. 1 raeti.al synipnthy, on the other hand, ia tho 



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greatest of all virtues. It is true charity. It enables 
us to enter into the hearts of our nearest and dearest, 
of those who serve us, or in any tapacity come in con- 
tact with us every day ; it reveals to us their sorrows, 
their deprivations, their hopes and needs, and prompts 
us in the right time and place to bestow on them the 
cheering word, or smile of encouragement, to champion 
their cause, when others are hostile to it, to praise their 
efforts when no one else observes them. This is what 
helps and heartens a fellow-creature more than all the 
gifts you might bestow upon him. You have not far 
to look for an object for sympathy of this kind. Under 
your own roof you will probably lind one. Lately, a 
sweet young girl confided . to me the secret of her 
unhappiness. She has a luxurious home, and no doubt 
is an object of envy to many of her friends. But she 
is oppressed with loneliness. Her father is immersed in 
the cares of a great business. Her mother and elder 
sisters are " advanced women." They belong to about 
fourteen clubs," the poor child said to me pathetically, 
" and they are always so busy writing lectures that they 
have no time to make visits with me, or to let me enter- 
tain my friends, and I am not allowed to go out alone." 
So the younger daughter is left to her own devices 
during many long days and evenings, craving for com- 
panionship, for sympathy, while her elders occupy 
themselves with the welfare of humanity at large — 
they are philanthropists ! 

If we want to make the world better, let us at least 
begin to work in the world at our elbow. If we would 
do this, there would be no further need of missionaries 
and philanthropists. 



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GROWING IN WISDOM. 



The 




a 



« mlw^'Ci'.W."' ''" ""' "'""• "■'■'" ""■"', .Ve»r. ; 

:i'K popi.lar i.npnvssi,,,, (!,„, v,„,fl, :. ,1 ,■ 

'<■-,., «n.l tl,„, «.,,e„ school L'\'; '7,,'" 

attract atten.iot ^-es I •?„,""' '° '•'™* »'' '" 
fault, of „a„,„, ;.'■;" "nl Tfi ? ''"■■"'"' '° «""■«••' 
their minds a„,l «<■ lire ,7 l„ ? '"^ '" '■"'"''■'"« 
>.seful and cnterta nin?'. ''"^'.',"'P"'-fii--iall.y, certain 

n.arri.Ko, how manv "!,'''"''""'"•''• '*'" "''er 
e.lucatio„? W;l%V"'""!"','""=f"» "f ""■ir own 

have nothing Zre tol'T"'""^' r'""'"" """ "'".^ 

im-h their !ar., alijfor, '„ ^ ^.f^.X a'''"^' T'T" 
ments as thev har? hor.n of f . ' a^'eomplish- 

h. gradual ^epr'th'rr'aeir'frneSnnhr;-""'' 

fene™'] inje" iCCoTo"":;; T" ^ """' "' 
.n.on.he.,,fare„nheUe::drettiS^ 



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of parents. Later, when their children grow up and go 
to sohool, ihe fathers and mothers who have failed to 
keep their eyes and ears open to what was going on in 
the world are likely often to be put to shame by their 
inability to answer the eager questionings of their 
youthful ofJspring, who, in time, are forced to consider 
themselves as superiors in intelligence to their elders — 
a conclusion which rapidly undermines the respect, and 
even the aftection, in which, up to that time, their 
parents were held. 

So many and so easily accessible to all are the present 
facilities for acquiring knowledge and for keeping well 
abreast of the progress of the world, that no one, how- 
ever poor, may be held ex^v.ised from this imperative 
duty. The modern newspaper is the poor man's uni- 
versity The diligent and faithful perusal of even one 
good publication is a liberal education for the intelli- 
gent human being deprived of other sources of infor- 
mation. Then there is the actual world that surrounds 
us, the beauties of nature, the wonderfiil inventions of 
science, contact with our fellow-creatures, our daily 
observations and experiences, from all of which we may 
learn and accumulate wisdom, if we but keep our minds 
in a proper state of receptivity. 

A parent is dissatisfied with a child, who, in a year's 
time, makes no visible progress in any direction. But 
what of the parent? Has he, or she, improved or devel- 
oped to a noticeable degree m the same period of time? 
Why should the grown man or woman, in full posses- 
sion of his or her faculties, be allowed to remain station- 
ary, or perhaps to take a step backward, when the child, 
but half-formed and always mon? eager for pleasure 
than work, is expected to stride rapidly forward? Does 
the mere fact of adolescence excuse ignorance, stupid- 
ity or indolence ? Does it not rather increase the obli- 
gation of the individual towards himself and towards 



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233 



society to improve, to adorn the sphere in which he 

man or wo^ '"" '^^ '" ^T' ^^^''' ^«^ never been a 
man or woman so wise or learned that it could be said • 
His or her education is finished. We must all b!rHn f^ 
learn something every day. It rests ^^o' rse^fes t^ 
determme with what degree of eamestne^ we Thdl 
apply ourselves to our studies. The labour rnvolved 
will be much lightened for us if we keep in mind th« 



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XCIV 
CONVICTION OR CUSTOM ? 



It makes all the difference tvhelhcr we pui-ftuc a 
certain course, because we judge it right ; or judge 
it to be right because we pursue it. 

— Archbishop Whately. 

JLF, for a single day, every individual person in the 
[ world would live strictly up to his or her idead 
of right and justice, society would be revolu- 
tionized. 

The most upright and fair-minded among us arc 
governed to a certain extent by influences which are 
entirely independent of our convictions, and even some- 
times antagonistic to them. We obey custom, we yield 
to prejudices of race and creed and class. We humour 
those we love, and fear, or whose favour and esteem 
we are anxious to secure. 

The man or woman who walks straightly and securely 
in the path of righteousness, unmoved by any consid- 
eration of gain or policy is indeed difficult to find. 

Since this charge can be refuted by none, it is not easy 
to defend the very common practice of trying to impose 
on others opinions and standards which have a purely 
selfish origin. The rule of life that appears to me satis- 
factory cannot possibly be adjusted exactly to the needs 
and aspirations of my neighbour. My conscience, 
trained along certain lines with which he is utterly 
unfamiliar, advises or perjnits me to follow a course 



CONVICTION OR CUSTOM ? oyr 

whieli to him appears to make for error and iniustice 
meut to err, and tlie diffip,.I« J i • • '"*'' J"'^^' 

"° ^-ncdo wth our own, especially when wrhavo 
not l,eo„ able to determine " „l' etl>er-we pur^ra 'e7 

1 . pursue It, or because our fnmilv tu^ 

pursued It. A little wholesome suspicion of one's own 
. hon^y to speak will effectively check the mis^W^ 

the HW?e7„r '".'"""''k ™"""°"' '" !"«=■<"" "th 
me iiDerties of one's neighbour. 



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xcv 

SUCCESS AND FAILURE. 

Not failure, hut loiv aim, is crime. 

— Selected. 

UCCESS in life, to the majority of human beings, 
has but one meaning, namely, the acquisition 
of wealth. This idea has come to be so com- 
monly accepted, that few, in our day, have either the 
wit or the courage to dispute it. The one great aim 
of all is to become rich, and to this they ruthlessly 
sacrifice any others, however desirable, which may 
stand between them and the cherished goal. Health, 
youth, friendship, family joys, even honour and reputa- 
tion, in some instances, are held to be trifling considera- 
tions weighed against the chances of a short and success- 
ful race for wealth. Often, when it is too late, do men 
discover the extent and irretrievableness of the error 
into which they have fallen. The treasure for which 
they have laboured so unceasingly, perhaps unscrupul- 
ously, is found to be of no value comp tied with those 
that have been bartered for it. 

The richest old man in the world is poorer than the 
poorest young one, and would be glad to change places 
^ with the latter if the possibility were within his reach. 
Money cannot purchase health, or youth, with its enthus- 
iasm and almost endless capacity for enjoyment. With 
years comes inevitably a diminished interest in the uses 
to which money can be put, and the question ^^Cxii 



SUCCESS AND FAILLHK 



237 



hono? 18 the one which confronts and humihates the 
possessor. More than one famous millionaire has had 
bitter moments of illumination in which his real self 
was revealed to him with startling distinctne:^ as a 
meJanchol.y failure. 

The truly successful man is he whose hands are the 
cleanest, whose record of usefulness to others is the 
ongest, and whose mental and moral powers have been 
the most highly developed. It is he who has enjoved 
his life to the utmost, in a sense that places him bevond 
reproach. Success, viewed from this standpoint, is 
withm the reach of all. In no sphere of life, however 
narrow, is a man or woman debarred from reaching out 
towards the higher life in which alone, the pure heart 
the aspiring mind, is content to dwell. Outward 
circumstances are no cause of reproach to those who are 
shut oif from the greater comforts and amenities of 
iilo ; It IS the bareness and barrenness of the soul that 
disgrace the human individual. One mav live in a hut 
and yet be the peer of a prince or a poet. One mav 
live m a palace, and be fit onlv for the society of the 
stable or the pot-house. Failure is therefore a' relative 
term to be applied with discrimination. So is crime. 
Ihe fact that the one is often mistaken for the other 
merely proves the shortsightedness of men. To succeed 
ma low aim is an entirely discreditable achievement, 
whereas to fail in a high one detracts nothing from the 
honour of a man, but often leaves the impress of a 
greater nobility on his character. 



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XCVI 

THE PHILOSOPHIC SPIRIT. 

To rule onr\s antjcr it* weU ; to prevent it Is hdtcr. 

— Edwards. 

JHE most childish of all defects is ill-temper. It 
■^ is a fault }>eculiar to the undeveloped intellig- 
ence. Many persons grow to manhood and 
womanhood physically, while mentally remaining mere 
children. Their reasoning facultios lie forever in abey- 
ance. To attain the most serious ends of life they have 
recourse to the tactics and tantrums of the nursery. 
Give them what they want, they are pleased and quiet. 
Deny them anything, circumvent, or disappoint them 
i I the least or the greatest matter, and they fly into a 
rage. The thought of the unpleasant effects on others 
of this favourite proceeding never deters them. Even 
their vanity is not disturbed by the reflection that they 
are making themselves ridiculous;, that, while perhaps 
outwardly appearing to be awed or subdued by their 
display of temper, those on whom it is vented, or who 
are simply witnesses of the scene, are secretly laughing 
at and despising them. Nor do they ever suspect from 
how much pleasant participation in the affairs of others 
they shut themselves out by the indulgence of an irrit- 
able disposition. 

Some persons say they cannot help being angry. 
This is the common excuse — which is no excuse at all 
— given by every class of sinners when exhorted to for- 



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239 



mip urinkmg , the profane ono "cannot liein » hi. 
irrevercno., and so o... Others again by d^nt .? 
earnest and persistent ertWt. at self^nt 'ol Jucc ed fn 
obtannng a partial or complete n.a.tery of their temper" 
^ tha few .suspect the turmoil excited in tl^^ir S 
by untoward happenings. This, however ^ not a r^al 
liioral victory, since the tem,)er is still ther^- a, d onTv 
m outward signs are supprcLed. The act^l t^ph 
of reason over passion come, only when ca2 of 

trrST T" '%' r'' '^^'^^"'^ viewed rthdr 
TvLS'of ni-l" r'^, ^""'''^^'^ ^"^ '^^y' 'o attain 
"hatrbvlv^ f .r"7' '"'•'"'*^ which 'cannot be 
frictns of Zv r ' '?^"'"'^' contradictions, losses or 
ir ctions of dady hie. An impartial analysis of a situa- 
tion, a frank recognition of the inevitable oi a slvinir 

nLri «li ■'' '"'"P^" "'"^ difficulties of others 

nearly always excite smiles or laughter, while onJs 
own merely provoke one to ill-temper? Is'it not merely 
hat one's sense of humour is outweighed by h^Sr^ 
ona discomfort or annoyance consequent J aVovZ'n 
aocident or emergency? teriain 

This need not be if a childish regard for one's own 

t?lr roreT^'-V'i 'T '''''' ^' -^eXrvS 
Tu the more dignified determination to take thimrs 
coolly, quietly and with the certain knowledge that an^ 
teinporai,^ loss or inconvenience will be f frg^n in 

The physical eflfects of anger constantly indulged are 
llrTct^cT''"""^^ '^^" ''' "'^^'^^ -- Sa.s '?Po;u! 

"Every time a man becomes 'White' or rA,l »!»i. , . 

danger of his life. The heart and l.Tiin „r« « *^ ""^^ *'^" '" '" 

when fitH of passion are in, ^ Jed in Not on v'.W^""' "'""" "^''''^ 
paralysis of the «man h!o«d vessel ,„f °* ^'^ J' ^<>«« an^er can., nartial 

termittent; that is, every noJand then it .To "^"k '^''''° ^*^*"""'' «"• 
thing as is e^perie^ced^yex^e^ste smoke?:"'''' " """'' '""^'^ '""^ «««»• 



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240 



IN THE PATHS OP PEACE 



There is every good reason, then, for controlling a 
disposition to irritability. Controlling it does not 
suffice. The complete cure is effected only by acquiring 
a modicum of philosophy which enables one to perceive 
the relation of causes and effects, and which hinders 
one from over-valuing the trifling and transient things 
of life, while attaching little or no value to what alone 
is precious and worth seeking from afar. 



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XCVII 



r , 




OUR DESEriT?. 

We may be pretty certain iJuit »■ /v <. ivh<nn the 
world tnats til deserve ent'^pi - rnab- •/ c ^V get 
The world is a looking glo .'anr ,ru. \> ' h every 
man the reflection of his t w fn. > .„. ^ at d and 

/•./'?. '"'"'* '*'''*' *''"^'2, 0' ,,. , l,unh at it 
and mth tt and it is a jolly, kmd o^n n^n, . • and so 
let all young persons take their choi, 

— Vanity Fair. 

;HE majority of us find an extraordinary degree of 

satisfaction in fastening the blame for our mis- 

♦;, * *v.- !1^^/''. '*^^"- ^^® ««l^on^ stop to think 
that this attitude is childish and undignified. It is of 

course, equivalent to a confession of weakness, or utter 
incapacity. If we cannot direct our o^vn affairs succe.s- 
luilj, If we have not suflicient intelligence and fore- 
sight to steer clear of the diflSculties that beset our path, 
If we lack the firmness and tact necessary to keep 
intruders out of our way while we attend to our affairs, 
then indeed, we are but sorrily equipped for the battle 
of life, and it is high time we bestirred ourselves to 
effect the necessary improvement in our character and 
disposition. Nothing is more fatal to independent and 
effective action than the habit of leaning on and look- 
ing to others for assistance and support in the trials of 
Me We must learn to stand on our own feet, to accept 
with equanimity the consequences of our own actioi ., 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



and to govern our lives without reference to the suc- 
cesses or failures of those who may be more or less for- 
tunate than we. There are persons who court poverty 
by extravagance or wastefulness, who invite rebuffs by 
their presumption, who earn contempt by their selfish- 
ness, or inspire repu^, '^.ance by slovenly habits. But 
while thus deliberately violating accepted canons of 
taste and prin3iples of right living, they openly resent 
the infliction of the punishment that suits their crime. 
They demand, as a right, that the world shall treat them 
with the same distinction accorded to the prudent, the 
modest, the generous and the conscientious man or 
woman, whom none can fail to admire and love. 

There are always good grounds for suspicion regard- 
ing the alleged grievances of the person who calls him 
or herself misunderstood. A really loveable man or 
woman is always beloved. A tiresome, exacting, dis- 
agreeable one is disliked and avoided. So when we 
meet with rebuffs, coldness, neglect or asperity on the 
part of others, let us not be in haste to charge them 
with ingratitude, unkindness or severity. Let us, first, 
hold up the looking-giass to ourselves and ascertain 
wherein we have displeased. Be sure, if wc look well 
enough, we shall not fail to find that what we have had 
to endiire has justly been merited by our own offences 
or ."liortvjomings. 



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XCVllI 
SERVING ONE MASTER. 

— Selected. 

«, however, „„,cl, dimi„i,l„.,l l,v the di^ovTrv ! in 
mS t h r"'"' '''""''l"". -nd •■"f"«.' to bo 

a" S-' i"J',:""lfiT'^ -.--iWli-y. T Jt "L«"L 
a virtiit in unsolfiglmcas no one will .lenv. but tbnf if 

perionn. To attempt tiisks bevond your atren^h or 

^t nV«-/n- 1 "" ''^"'^'"^ task-master. It docs 
not please n.m to see .vou toiling ineeasantly and to the 
point of ntter exhaustion. You are doing more th a 



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244 



IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



He wants you to do when you refrain from taking 
needed rest and recreation. He has placed you in a 
beautiful world that you may enjoy it. He has 
ordained that you shall work, but He has placed the 
seal of dignity upon labour. If you permit it to degen- 
erate into slavery and degradation, it is because you are 
straining after a false ideal, because you are consumed 
by a misplaced ambition. Do we not see mothers on all 
sides of us wearing themselves out in pitiably futile 
efforts to compete with others more highly favoured 
by circumstances? Does God want them to do that? 
Think how many useless burdens would slip from 
wearied shoulders if that single question were asked 
of one's self over and over through the day, " Does God 
want me to do it?" instead of , " What will the neigh- 
bours think?" which is the criterion the average woman 
seems feverishly anxioiis to live by. 

Let us not complain too bitterly therefore when we 
are weary and heavy-laden. We know the gracious 
invitation, " Come to Me .... and I will refresh you." 
It is our own fault if we do not lay down our burdens 
at the feet of the Master, and pursue our way with a 
lightened heart, freed from the distracting problems 
that confront all who substitute worldly ambition for 
the pure and earnest desire of serving one Master and 
Him alone. 

If we are satisfied to do what He wants us to do we 
shall find strength enough for the divinely imposed 
tasks. But if we persist in struggling to serve other 
masters as well, let us be careful not to add to the 
offence of a divided allegiance the still greater one of 
blaming our Maker for misfortunes of our own deliber- 
ate creation. 






XCIX 
THE UNREFORMED REFORMER. 

We have no gratitude for those reformers who would 
twn tC "^ " ^'^'T "''"■^^ ^«* ^'^ sweetened Zfr 

w. ji,. Chaumng. 
JO say we have no gratitude for those who would 
like to reform us before reforming themselves 
expresses very mildly the feeling excited n the 

rJwd ^'^-^^--^ by the kind ^of int^^^rente 
referred to. An uncommon amount of patience is 
required to enable one to put up with the too ob^oi^ 

own moral deficiencies persistently loom large before 
our eyes We are, perhaps, restrained by aVbIt of 
cmhty from reminding the would-be reformer of his 

ZolZ A T'^"'^"' *"^' '' '^ b«''« ^hat he envoys a 
decided advantage over us. He has none of the delicate 

of others. He is possessed with the idea that to be 
virtuous means to keep a strict watch on his fellow- 
creatures, and to let them know that his eye is on them 

•''J.""'"^u'^''"^ "P ^b"P'-^ ^^he^e^er they sa^ or d" 
anything that excites his disapproval. Xeedless to say 
he (sometimes he is a she) is the most unpopular person 
in an3, commumty and the least likely of all to accom- 
plish any good work in the world. 

The most effectual rebuke that can be administered 



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IN TIIK TATIIS OK I'KACK 



to a .sinner is the " white flower of a blameless lite," 
growing daily in beauty under bis eyes. With this 
before him, there will be no need to admonish or 
reprove him. Actions sj^Mik IoikUt than words, and 
are longer riineml>ered. 

A liiunan life, goo<l or bad, is so nianv-sided, thut it 
is not for the wisest of us to judge of the whole from one 
or more of the facets turned towards us. A hypocrite 
often passes for a sair nd goml men who have never 
done a wrong or meai» action arc often scored as tin- 
worst of sinners for failing to conform to some little 
village standard of morality. A devout person fetls 
troubled about another who h;is loss fre<]ueiit recourse 
to prayer, yet it may well be that the latter leads the 
larger, nobler life of the two. 1'here are women who 
would not mish a singh* church service, week-day or 
Sunday, yet who are known to be morbidly inciuisitive, 
idle, greedy, given to gt)S8ip, worldlincss, and other 
weaknesses of the Hesh. Those who have not the tem- 
perament to enjoy or profit by conventional forms of 
worship, may have a deeper sense of reverence for holy 
things, and pursue ;i loftier ideal with far greater 
earnestness. 

But bounded as we all are by limitations that arc 
onl}^ too obvious to the least observing, we should not 
dare to assume the censorship of another's life. To 
speak in the plainest terms, it is not our business to 
improve our neighbours, but ourselves. Good sense, 
good manners, and true charity should all combine to 
restrain us from assuming a prerogative which belongs 
to the Creator alone. 




c 

THE DIGNITY OP LABOUR. 

Who sweeps a room as for Thy laws 
Makes that and the action fine. 

—George Herbert. 
.0 bo able to dicmify and even ennoble the com 
monest tasks by dedicafin.^ tl.„ * !. . 

ni fi.„ Tir /' ^^"'^»""Pr them to the service 

ChH.i.1 wo ,a,ru\'ier„:l£T'- °' "^^ 

n, cooking, washing dish« and floors, sweepinr d ist 

spmtual v,d„e of over^ task faithfully aocompShS 
.nd .h>s ^vos then, inrinciUe patieni to Tilt the 



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constant demands on their time and strength. Yet they 
cannot be called drudges or menials, because they are at 
all times neat and dignified in appearance, and are 
treated with kindness and respect by their superiors, 
who call them " sisters," and see that, however onerous 
their tasks, a certain part of their busiest days is allotted 
to prayer and recreation. 

What a contrast to their peaceful and happy livet, 
are those of many housekeepers, who grumble at the 
least as well as the greatest task imposed on them, who 
for want of system, are always behindhand with their 
work, and, therefore, unable to take needed rest and 
recreation, who make their occupations an excuse for 
personal neglect and untidiness, and who deeply resent 
the immunity enjoyed by others from the cares that 
press 1 their shoulders. 

It if= possible to make all our actions fine if only we 
have ifficient r^pect for ourselves and for the One we 
serve Common work may degrade common people, 
but a voman of native refinement, instea'l of being a 
sla 'e to circumstances, rises superior t«' them, and 
leaves ^^o stamp of taste and individual charm on 
everytli • touched by her hands. 



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MEA CULPA. 

JJjp ^T'"' ? ^''^ "^ f''^ carelessly, you do not 
•xpect Providence to make it palatable. 

— John Ru&kin. 

■^ "r^"'* T °^'"'^ ^"^^°g °^ blasphemy 
when we dare to attribute to the will of ¥vo- 
vidence, results that have been brought about 

Sr^ to"' '"" ^^"^^""^^ «^ deliberatf wrong* 
doing. Women are mveterate sinners in this respect 

quences of their mistakes. It is a purely feminine 
prerogative to wring one's hands in presence^ of a cZ- 

t?tlrnlaee""hT '^" ^^' ^^^ ^^^ -^VtC 
to take place, whde a moment's reflection would suffice 
to trace the seeming "accident" to grave n^gligrce 

being. The mtervention of Providence, under the cir- 
cumstances, would be equivalent to an iivitetlon to L 

f^'lalti^?"' ^\T^r^- ^-° the ml dt' 
ful penalties incurred by human rashness and incom- 
petence do not always suffice to compel prudenceTd 
fore bought. What then would be^theTmTt of our 
recklessness if Providence stood ever beside us for the 
pun>ose of saving us from its consequences ? ' 

failure loss and disaster, viewed logically, are in 
reality valuable lessons permitted by Providence o 
teach us humility, discretion, patience^ and [he proper 



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exercise of our reasoning and administrative faculties. 
We need just such rebukes to check our overweening 
self-confidence and complacency. Our helplessness in 
the face of a great catastrophe or irretrievable loss 
reveals to us with startling clearness the limitations of 
human power, and the urgent necessity of bringing all 
the intelligence and conscience we are endowed with to 
bear on the work we have in hand. 

It is only when we have exhausted all the legitimate 
means of helping ourselves at our disposal, that we are 
entitled to look to Providence for a gracious intervention 
in our behalf. It would be the highest presumption to 
assume that the Creator should do the work assigned to 
us, be it easy or difficult. ^Neither in the preparation of 
a dish nor in the management of the affairs of a nation 
have we any right to expect a manifestation of Divine 
favour. When we have been furnished with the means 
and the strength to accomplish our appointed tasks, the 
part of Providence has been fully and perfectly per- 
formed. It remains for us to do the rest. 

There is such a thing as being ungenerous in our 
relations towards God To avoid such an ungrateful 
attitude we have but to refrain from shirking the blame 
incurred by our own misdoing and throwing it on 
Providence Let us have the honesty to own ourselves 
at fault and to recognize the fact that Divine justice 
is unalterable and unassailable 



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CII 
THE WEAK MIND. 

be llTJf^^' v"'' "'' ^»<^icative of a weak mind, to 
be sxlent when tt rs proper to speak, and to apeak when 
ttjs proper to he silent. ^ 

JHK proper exercise and government of the rift of 
speech 13 an art susceptible of a high deirree of 

DPrsnn-'l r*'"""- T ^^ ", ""' *^^ '"^^^ ^^ ^^e highest 

peraonal charm. It is, besides, the readiest and most 
effective instrument for promoting good feeHng, and 
diffusing happiness wherever its influence is felt. \me 
pem>ns, like Tainmas Mitchell, of Drumtochty, labour 
under a perpetual disability of speech, and when forced 
by some dire emergency to give utterance to a mono- 
syllable or two, convey the impression of being thor- 
ougHy frightene<l at the sound of their own ^voices 

]U^Ty.\^'''' ^''^T *''^-^' ^^^ ^ 8peak,--like the 
ittle babbling brook-- go on for ever," so that peace- 
loving mortals who are not indifferent to the value of 
silence and repose at reasonable intervals, flee away in 

iity and taciturnity, which are the Scylla and Charybdis 
of oouversatiou, flows the silver stream of tactful 

Ssilence '' '"'"'"'^' ^^ '^'' ^^'^^^ ^'"'^ '^ ^^ 

Fluency and versatility in conversation are not com- 

mon, even where a certain degree of culture has been 

attained ; yet one may entirely lack education and stiU 



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be a most interesting and agreeable speaker. To this 
end, it is only necessary to speak with conviction of the 
things whereof one knows, leaving carefully untouched 
those subjects which are beyond one's ken, To confess 
ignorance of a subject introduced in conversation is a 
proof of honesty and courage, but to plunge into a dis- 
cussion for which one is disqualified, by previous educa- 
tion and training, affecting a knowledge one has never 
acquired, is to convict one's self of shallowness and 
deceit. 

" Conversation," says Anne Jameson, " may be com- 
pared to a lyre with seven chords — philosophy, art, 
poetry, politics, love, scandal, and the weather. There 
are some professors, who, like Paganini, ' can discourse 
most eloquent music,' upon one string only ; and some 
who can grasp the whole instrument, and with a 
master's hand sound it from the top to the bottom of its 
compass." 

Without aspiring to achieve distinction of this kind, 
the average mortal may be content with acquiring a 
certain ease in his ordinary conversational intercourse 
with his fellows. Bo not be niggardly of speech. Say 
as many pleasant words as you can in the day In many 
families, words are spared to such an extent that con- 
versation is never indulged in, except when strictly 
necessary. The friendly morning salutation is omitted, 
and breakfast proceeds in silence. If an announce- 
ment of general interest is made, it is received with 
grunts of approval or disapproval, but elicits no com- 
ment. The varioi " tJembers disperse to attend to their 
daily tasks withou; anging a word with one another. 
How different frt j; ,ui8 gloomy silence and unsociable- 
ness is the atmosphere of the home where pleasant 
speech circulates freely, and where a nod, or a grunt, 
is never permitted to do duty for a polite request or 
expression of thanks I It is surprising how much good 



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feeling ig promoted in families by the free use of juit 
the ordinary courteous phrases prescribed by politeness. 
As regards intercourse with strangers, a kind, unsel- 
fish interest in them and a desire to please, will greatly 
facilitate pleasant conversation. Most persons are 
responsive to a little sympathy, when it does not take 
the form of impertinent curiosity. On the other hand, 
discretion bids us be silent when a companion is 
plainly disinclined for speech, or disposed to be argu- 
mentative, sarcastic, or domineering. One must not 
talk much in the presence of one's elders or superiors, 
nor in a sick room, nor in the presence of great sorrow. 
With a little reflection, it is easy to determine when to 
speak and when to be silent, so as to avoid those mis- 
takes of tact and judgment which, according to the 
Persian sage, are indicative of a wedc mind. 






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THE DIGNITY OF FOOD. 

There is nothing better for a man than that he should 
eat and drink. — Ecclesiastes ii., 24. 

ISTORY repeats itself. " The woman gave me 
and I did eat," was Adam's explanation of his 
first sin. How many times since the fall might 
not the same words have been used to palliate various 
transgressions of the sons of men ! 

Philosophers and moralists have not hesitated to trace 
an incalculable amount of the misery and wickedness 
that darken the earth to the imperfect digestion, or 
empty stomachs, of their perpetrators. A man is what 
he eats, and in the majority of cases, he eats what some 
woman gives him. Great, therefore, is the responsi- 
bility that rests on the provider of meals, and strictly 
shoidd she examine her conscience from time to time on 
the subject of the dishes she prepares for the delectation 
of her lord and master. 

No woman should be allowed to marry who does not 
understand the properties of different kinds of food, 
and hov/ best to preserve them in the ordinary culinary 
processes. Whether she expects to have many servants 
or not, it is a shame to her if she cannot, in an emerg- 
ency, take possession of her own kitchen, and prepare 
such appetizing aad nourishing dishes for her husband 
as shall make him rise up and call her blessed. 



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iJ^' ^i'^^"f°*^7 ^^PPe^. a girl is promoted to wife- 
Wd without having received any previous traininrTn 
domestic science, it is her solemn duty tnpply Self 
mmedia ely and earnestly to the tas/of niSnrthe 
secrets of good cookery. She is not a wife in the true 

Unfortunately, many women have such a depraved 
sen.e of taste that they are themselves unable to dTcIm 
between well and ill-cooked food 

wonderf^rL"'"^'' T^ '^^PP^ vegetables, fearful and 
wonderful soups and gravies, messy puddings and sod 
den cake, boiled tea and half-baked bread afe some of 
the delicacies regularly found upon their tables Even 

TthesSrf """" '' ^''''^^ and tot 'appeal 
m the strangest guise, generally burnt or cold, or both 
The unhappy man who is expected to thrive on such a 
diet grumbles, perhaps until he is weary of it but 
finally resigns himself to the inevitable, with ^he 

irneHr ^i>t:^twi tV"^^^^ "^'-^ -^ 

and he does eat! ' *^' """"^^ ^^'' ^^' 

But every man is not in such evil case. The good 
wife IS not rare who makes it a point of honour to place 
on her table only the soundest and most carefully pre- 
pared food. She knows how to keep the ju'ces in^e 

m all, until the moment of serving. Her gravies and 

the palate. She believes in an honest pudding of good 

r^tW S H •' ' V "^'e *l!^^^ ''' ^''^^^' do- without 
rather than dignify with that name a wishy-washy com- 

crusf H?;. ) I ' %^^'^ol-<^"^e prejudice against pie 
crust that IS fork-proof, and cake that is sodden, and tea 



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of an hour's standing. In short, she knows that it is 
good not only for man, but equally for woman, to eat 
and drink only what is pleasant and wholesome, and, 
acting on that convic an, she makes the providing of 
meals the most serious business of life. Does it con- 
sume all her time and energies? By no means. Good 
judgment and system aiding, the task appears more and 
more simple as experience grows, and ultimately it 
becomes almost impossible for her to make mistakes. 
She has leisure for lighter and more congenial labours, 
and is never grudged the pleasures they yield her. Her 
reward is in the health and contentment of her husband, 
and the beauty of her children, as well as in the love 
and pride with which they regard her. 

It is in the power of almost every woman to achieve 
this kind of success and popularity. That there should 
be any without the ambition to secure it is a mystery 
inexplicable save on the grounds of defective 
intelligence. 



CIV 




INNOCENCE. 

Know thou nothing that is base. 

— Owen Meredith. 

" ^ esTtTthl^^^^^-*^' '°" ^^^^^ ^""g« "« near- 
est to the angels is innocence. A soul that has 

«nn,.t>,-"'^'' ^-".^ '"^^'^ ^y *^« knowledge of e^li^ 
ST ^^^"^«^*«I^ l>eamiful to contemplate To 
^d such an one, outside the ranks of childhood is a 

but ST;- ^""^ '' °^^' ^°* ^^' ^ mothers would 
but guard the precious innocence of their daughters 
more jealously training them to close eve^ avenue o1 
o hLTsf rf '" '^"°^* *^^ ^-^^^«"« poi^n that ;ry 
apparently the most harmless. A girl also mt, Ac. 

?'„^,^- "'^ »=?"«« of pride to her that she knows 

STevfr „a!^f °'"™' 't" ""'^' P°'»' "tt™=«o^ *« 
cm ever make her own. Bnt it is of all her treaai,rp« 

t\TL^^:' -' ''- -'^ -^ whicCon^rt: 

m,y^^'''*"f ^*^^^' ^"^ ^^ ^ ^^*^1 attraction for young 
mmds and as it is impossible to screen it, in dHtf 
manifold aspects, from their observation the task of 
preserving the innocence of children be omes one ^ 
well-mgh msuperable difficulty. The most Dowerf^ 
counter-agent of unfavourable WencesTa moThS^s 



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r. 



love ami syminitliy. Constant vigilnnco I'casos Ut Im< a 
nooo8sitv when thorc exists botwcon parent and cliild 
that sweet and perfeet intiniaey which eonies of nintual 
love nn«l trnst. I'ndne severity cheeks the confidenco 
a child wonid like t<i repose in lier mother, and the 
doubts and perplexities which have been awakened in 
her mind by some s])e(>ch or action snijixestive of evil, 
instead of beinj; explained and banished by discreet 
coiuisel and pni<lance, stick jiertinacionsly in her 
thoughts, to her ultinuite injury. A careful mother 
will read in her child's face what is passing in her heart, 
and at the first intimation of danger to perfect inno- 
cence will take loving means to eflface any injurious 
impressions received, and will endeavour to substitute 
for them an increased interest in what is pure and 
beautiful. 

Teach a growing girl to love useful occupation, 
healthy pastimes, goo<l books, flowers, trees, birds, 
unisic, fill her with a desire to make other lives happy 
and beautiful, and she will find so much fo interest her 
mind and employ her energies, that she will be in little 
if any danger of coming under evil intluences. 



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("V 
HEROISM IN SMALL THINGS. 

uiey rosl /nr more, blond and arjornj. 

— I'll il lips iJrooks. 

JIIK horo of a laiiHln.l IniitU-H whon., bravory in tli.. 

hour of dan«_er is HtU.stc,.! |.y „« umny Hears fro,,; 

noH8 It condemned to (.ndure tl„, ,s,i,„o numUr 

bardMh.ps ,H hk.ly to be the b-ant tolerant of small Zo. 
J he aamc ,s not untn.o of our sox, but illustrations a7o 
W frec,ucnt, n.ncc t in our usual Jot to be exposed orl 
to he p,n-pr,ek.s, while duly safe-guarded a Jinst swo d 
and cannon-ball. .N<, gl.ry attaches to tt7L7Zd 
conquests of s.-lf made every day by the wf^l and 
mother intent on the fulfilment o^f her "to hor 

suffer ,n silence, knowing that only by a lapse from 
duty on her part are others brought to realise the great^ 
ne^ of the demands made daily upon her time, strer gt. 
and patience. It would not become her to spek of he 
ever-recurnng trials and difficulties, she wo, Id, at best 

wTff rt"' r. "'''^''•'"' ''^^""^ -^ -^ the' fruit of 
for hp^ft" K r'/ 7''"^'' •^"^""'•- ^«<^hing remains 

the rill 7 . '" ^'r "P ^'' "^•^^ «-i ^P'nts to 
the point of heroic endurance in little thinL.s. tnistina 

that one day the grand aggregate of all her efforts will 



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I 



be roproscntcd by a woll-rounded life, free from hatint- 
inp doubts or bitter sclf-accusings. 

This is real heroism in woman, more real than that 
which sends the trained nurso to the battUifield or the 
missionary to the land of the unfriendly heathen. 
Indeed, without seeking to detract from the merits of 
such as undertake these dangerous offices, it is not un- 
fair to say, that often the exciting prospect of change, 
travel, and adventure, is so much more attractive to a 
restless woman than the alternative of staying at homo 
under distasteful conditions, that her choice of the first 
is less a prix)f of devotion or heroism than the selfish 
jidoption of a desperate measure to retlecra a life unen- 
durably circumscribed by thq common-place. The world 
calls her a heroine, but the verdict finds no echo in her 
own heart, for often, in the midst of her most brilliant 
successes, the still small voice of conscience upbraids 
her as a deserter, from the real post of duty. The 
blame, however, is not wholly on such as are goaded by 
intolerable conditions of life ai, home to seek new and 
broader fields for their energies and enthusiasms. 
Family life is often a species of purgatory for sensitive 
women. They crave the light and warmth of love and 
appreciation, but look for it vainly in a home where, 
through the selfishness and tyranny of a parent or other 
relative, all the sweet amenities of life are rudely 
ignored. It is hard for anyone to stand alone in this 
world. The forces that govern our separate lives are so 
inextricablv intertwined, that to each of us falls a cer- 
tain share of responsibility for the happiness of all. It 
may not be in our power to avert great misfortunes that 
Threaten our near and dear ones, but from the little 
cares that eat the heart out we may lovingly shield 
them in many a da k and crucial hour. How eagerly 
we nish to the rescue of one who is physically hurtl 
Shall we be less tender to those who are crushed in 



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261 



ooopor than a kinfo, and draws more h\nn,\ T, . • i 

;..p wound, uuo t.,„»„, „„a .ii„yT.r«u^ ;,.„[' ;;:: 



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SORROW'S SWEET USES. 

We cannol understand what we li'irii never experi- 
enced; ti'c need pain, were it only to leyich us sympathy. 

— L E. L. 

JT^ ET a woman possess ovfry other gruee and virtue 
^^^ she is capable of acquiring, but lack sympathy, 
and she will never know the true meaning of 
friendship. That subtle power which enables one to 
enter into the soul of another, divining its most secret 
sorrows and conflicts, belongs only to those Avho have 
been tried in the furnace of affliction, and who have 
con ! forth chastened, purified, with clearer vision, 
larger patience, and a more tender charity for all 
fellow-sufferers. 

This is one of the sweetest uses of sorrow, that it 
joins in one great brotherhood all the hearts that have 
ever been buried beneath its weight. In the first dark 
hour one does not realize this truth, nor appreciate its 
beauty and value. But with the healing influences of 
time comes the enlarged perception which lends to life 
an entirely new aspect, and to our relations with others 
a kind of intimacy which would have been impossible 
before. 

The veil of selfishness, of indifference, has been 
removed from our eyes. We see our own affairs in 
their true proportion to the affairs of others. Many 
matters, which had formerly seemed to us of transcend- 
ent interest and importance, now shrink into their real 
insignificance, and we marvel at the childishness 
which made us expend time and enthusiasm on them. 
Now that the iron has entered into our soul, we are no 



Nouifow's .s\vki:t iscs 



::h:; 



po\v«r 



tlioughts of «|.|f u-,. I. .. ""« 'tVSH occiipu.,1 with 

to look all ;: J r;,;: T ^"^.•"■'" ""-^ ^'•'-•••""'y 

side Hour fi. , •^"'^'^"w ot flio world on cvrrv 

"et; „ ,i /pi .,'■;;;" "" "•"■ '-t'.""' "■'"' "-•■■ -i-- 

trouWc. ' wTi, I ,! 'l "';';r''™' ""■"'""<y fro,,, 

When other Jhomtrj'"'^''''''^-" ^"'"P^''*^- 

«t life u„,„„XdX ;.fn '" """ ''^ '" ""^ '""8- 
fruit of sympathy. -'^"'^ ^«.S bear golden 

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evil 

THE TWO CLASSES OF HUMANITY. 

The human race is div'uh'd info tiro claam's, those 
who go ahead and do something, and those who sit and 
inquire. " Why wasn't it done the other way f* 

— Oliver Wendell Holmes. 

i 

j^J^lTH a glib tongue and a drop or two of envy, 
malice or iincharitableness, any woman who 
has a mind to, may, with very litle practice, 
become an expert fault-finder. The recipe is so simple, 
and the ingredients so common, that it is less a matter 
for wonder than regret, that the number who choose to 
place themselves under this category, so greatly exceed 
that of their more progressive and practical sisters, 
" who go ahead and do something." 

These latter may not be unqualified successes in the 
various lines of work they have taken up, nor can it be 
pretended that thc'r are wholly free from the unami- 
able weakness which makes the self -constituted critic 
(of every one but lierself) such a delightful person to 
get away from, but the mere fact of being intent on the 
performance of their chosen task, however humble, 
removes from them both the opportunity and the 
temptation \o " sit and inquire " v/hy their neighbours 
do not do their work another way. 

One would think that a sense of pride and dignity 
would preserve women from betraying too curious an 
interest in the affairs of others, in no wav related to 



THE TWO rr.ASSE« Of IIIMANITV 26J 

rS tZ t :f """"..^ »l'.-»"''.v, tl,„ tl,ci.. own 

it develop" info ? *'"f,.'"'^^^"«3^ '^ «''ecked in time, 

/ t^i(t.>, btji i.s shut out from the confidence fri..,,,! 
ship and even society, of all the best peop e h;'kno 
and once having: incurred the penaltv of t?l ^ i' 

Seit?, tl"'° ^^^^'^^' "-'''"^ °* '^^^"'"t 
nnaers will have no power to diaturb our sorenitv 

Wo cannot .To.d making mistakes, but when we S 

e^^ bnti "'.r'-T"^ *^ ''^"« spectators of ^u' 
t^A ' J ! , * ™'*'"" '""J «Perience of our master. 



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CVIII 



THE LIMIT OF ASPIRATION. 

A friend ichose friend t<^'ip bids us cume up kUjher ; 
A wife who wears Iter wifehood as a cvoivn ; 
A mother whose home love no cares can down ; 
To v:hat more coidd one himan life asinre ! 

— Selected. 

J HERE is something pathetic in the blindness 
which hinders most of us from seeing the 
beaiitiful possibilities of happiness and praise- 
worthy achievement that lie just within our reach. 
The trouble is, they are too near us. It is only when 
we are transplanted from our ordinary daily environ- 
ment into one wholly different that we realize the value 
of the opportunities we have lost. In perspective their 
full dimensions stand revealed. Yet we used to feel 
impatient when others tried to remind us of the high 
prerogatives and sweet privileges attached to the state 
that we despised and barely endured. We used to 
think, " What can they know about it ; they see only 
from the outside." Ah, but this critical survey from 
without, is exactly what is needed to help us to a just 
perception of things. Have you ever tried to look at 
your own life from the point of view of an unprejudiced 
spectator — one who would be strictly impartial in his 
judgments and logical in all his inferences ? Or sup- 
pose that a novelist was asked to depict your character 
with absolute fidelity to life. Suppose that all your 



THE LIMIT OF ASWIiATIOX 0157 

oonTersation was to be printed and made Dublie ■ tl,„, 
the changes of e.,pre.»ion in yonr face, and' the vary' " 

for all that is good in jour life. <t"Kiuiness 

According to some theologians it is a n«rt «^ *». 

kind of earthly happiness, as thereby we learn to W 

cwS t ^'r'^- ^"* ^^ -- tot?a*higre? 

.nTT ^ '^^"^ ^ generous appreciation of the 
good things we are permitted to enjoy in this Hfe I 
confess I have never bppn nWo t« -f / , 
for the wiff ^r 1 ^"^ ^^^^ "^"^^ s:^rapatliv 

Wi ! • , '^^'''^ ^^^^:^ tenderness towards her 
husband IS replaced, in less than a year perhaps by fho 
habit of ceaseless nagging ; nor for the young mother 

acnuisitinn n^ f l,^ ''^'''^''"' "''^^ ^''^^ «"dden 

aM satietv tfof.r^'^^ ^""^'^^' degenerates into 
T?„ In fi "tI * ^^"'''''' ^^'^ ^"«h self-indulgence 

ca" So if ' 'T "T^^^"^-^ ^^^ - --% the^ ame 
ease. So, if you have been chosen from among many 



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others to fill the office of a friend, a wife, or a mother, 
do not forget that there is matter for lasting joy and 
pride in the fact. Before you complain of an empty 
and colourless life, before casting wistful eyes in the 
direction of forbidden or inaccessible joys, be sure that 
you have extracted all the sweetness possible from one 
or other of those privileges which make you an object 
of envy to many another woman. Study those heroines 
of history or fiction whose circumstances bore any 
resemblance to yours, and see in what respect you fall 
short of their excellence. This kind of comparison is 
not calculated to increase one's self-esteem, but it is 
valuable in aiding one to detect certain blemishes of 
character that otherwise might never have been per- 
ceived, and in stimulating the determination to render 
one's self more worthy of the free gifts one has received 
at the hands of Providence. 



14J^ 



CIX 

MY GARDEN. 

Go, muhe thy garden as fair as thou canst, 

Thou workest never alone; 
Perchance he whose plot h next to thine 
Will see it and mend his own. 
,_«^ — Selected. 

H ^^^ ^.^*i^'' '^''"'^ ^° "^^ ^'•<^«^ y<>«"g girls and 
4^ married women who reside in small towns, or 
m the country, bewailinj^ the diilnees of their 
surroimdmgs and the apathy of the people among whom 
they hye. Sometimes, strange to say, two or three 
let ers m this strain will come from one place, each 
making the same complaint that there is no one of anv 
taste or refinement in the neighbourhood, that to organ- 
ize any kmd of club or awaken the interest of even half 
a dozen people in any scheme making for mutual enter- 
tainment and improvement would be a hopeless task. 

-P'ow, I cannot help wishing to ask each of these 
correspondents, "What do you, r^ersonallv, do, to rais. 
the tone of your community, or to varv the monotony 
of life m your village? Have you ever reallv tried to 
improve the conditions of your own existence, and 
shown others, by example, how to profit bv the oppor- 
tunities and advantages within their roach? Have vou 
not rather, folded your hands and contented vour^self 
with idly protesting against the Fate that nlar^d von 
where you are? You may fancy yourself hardly u=ed 



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lii'ciujsp no one aniotii;' the firole of your nccinaintanccs 
is quulilied to coutributo to your cntertainniont, or to 
make your life in any sense, more interestiiij^. 

Xow, suppose tliat instead of looking to others for 
distraction and inspiration, you made up your mind to 
be yourself a source of liplit and leading to the com- 
munity, not in any vain desire to outshine tlie rest, but 
with the sincere liope of setting the wheels of jirogress 
in motion, would not this lend a new zest and meaning 
to your life? 

Tlie right way to set about it is to concentrate your 
time, thoughts and energies on some worth}-^ object, 
until through all hindrances and discouragements, you 
attain success. The choice of an object will, of course, 
be restricted to those which you have the greatest facili- 
ties ' • pursuing. If you live on a farm, and have a 
little - jure, and a plot of groimd at your disposal, you 
might, for instance, cultivate roses, chrysanthemums, 
or violets. Make a study of the conditions necessary for 
]->roducing the best results, and aim as high as possible. 
Send your choicest flowers to the local exhibition, and 
if they arc not the finest in the show, inquire into the 
reasons, and redouble your care and attention, until 
your efforts are crowned with the highest success. Con- 
sider the effect of this achievement alone, on all who 
may witness it. The example of a refined taste and of 
perseverance under difficult'-"* will excite many others 
to similar endeavour. Y( rden Avill be a source of 

local pride, and a new topic of conversation. Here, 
then, is one break in the hopeless dulness, and there is 
room for many more. 

A young wife's forte may be the neatness of her 
house and the completeness of all her domestic arrange- 
ments. By continual attention to these details, she 
may become a pattern to all her neighbours, and incite 
thorn to a wholesome rivalry. A mother, by exercising 



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v^Jnch all o horwiil .' ' "";'^'"«<-'0"sly, a stau.lard 

for her offorT Tl n '"""'"'.^^a^' «"J a worthy fi.ld 
oriKinali y b^^; «! Iv T ^'""r ^> ""' *" «^nvo after 

nchor lif,. would I. u, , , „ f. ''r'f'^' '"'^ ""«<^l' 
eminent in one lino of ^.l.e " "n" '"'"' 'T" 
called dull or stunid wl.^ ^ , .^"^ ^"^^ ««" '>« 

thogromd """''' "'"' ""=™ c<"nl«rers of 

any commnnifv J», t^ • i valuable member of 
inff herself an nnfli^r.-f • -y* ^°^ ^^ P^ov- 

works of ovon o„/f™ • "^^'""'■■""y »"!, H,n 

ShakcspoarrT„„ ko„ rCr' t' ""■' " ''''^''™^' 
a covetablc in.o of 3' ■""■ ^""V*". Pvcs ono 

ooe's self Ld'ftc/ "■■' """' " " """"' "^ '■''"'"■•o '» 

™t note, a„ f,„ .„„.. ;x,a^ !:;™".l:; "^s 



self 



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from the favourite operas, ordinary dance music, and 
the accompaniments of well known songs. To know by 
heart the words of favourite songs and hymns is also a 
very useful accomplishment. 

The next time any one is tempted to -complain of the 
stupidity of her neighbours I hope she will iirst ques- 
tion herself as to whether she has "made her own 
garden as fair as she can." Until satisfied that our own 
personality is interesting and stimulating to others, it 
will become us better to be silent about the shortcom- 
ings of our neighbours. 



^v.v*yiu^ 



ex 

THE HIGHEST KNOWLEDGE. 

/ do not hunger for a well-stored mind; 
I only wish to live my life, and find 
My heart m unison luith all mankind. 

— Edmund Gosse. 

:iIE most precious truths are not found in books. 

Ihe greatest intellectual profit is not acquired 

learned "thaTwe: ''^ ""' ^^^ '^' '^'^ ^' ^^^^ -- 

miv l!""^ ''i^"^"* *^^ *° '^^^ ^^°"t life, though to 

Ss airier v'* *'^ "^^"^ '' *^-^ -tual expe- 
riences and opportumties never becomes apparent until 
they have been taught to see it through the eve of 
some thoughtful writer. Therefore it is good to b1 
acquainted with books, and with the opinions If lit 
men, not wi h a view merely of becoming learned but 

degref that r^ T? ^^T'^' f^^ perceptions to a 
obTrvatiom """'''" *'^ "^^' ^^ independent 

minds" thiT«^' ' relative term which conveys to no two 
Sfpd w\. I impression. Some men are well-edu- 
cated who have never entered a school, and others who 
can display certificates by the score will rema n SvTne- 

Lno^wST'r {'7"'- ^' '' *^^ P«-- ^f assimilating 

in er!.v^- 7t ,^^^^^'"^^"^^ ti^^ degree of educatioS 
m every individual. 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



Not what you learn by rote and rule gives you superi- 
ority over the untrained mind, but the great principles 
you have grasped and learned to apply to the practical 
affairs of life. 

To suspend a rule often argues a greater intelligence 
than to observe it. To dismiss needless details and data 
from the memory is a truer intellectual economy than 
to retain them. Science is mighty, but there are times 
when sentiment is of superior importance. Unless the 
heart is " in unison with all mankind," one's conception 
of life will necessarily be narrowed, one's relations to 
one's kind restricted. It is easy to measure one's intel- 
lectual and spiritual progress by this test. The man 
or woman who looks with spom or indifference on any 
class of humanity, thereby proclaims a defect in his or 
her education. There is plainly a failure to perceive 
the divine plan, to sympathize with the objects of crea- 
tion, to apprehend ever so faintly, the relation of the 
Creator to His creatures. As soon, however, as the 
mind is capable of grasping these conceptions there is 
a distinct advance in the direction of true knowledge, 
the value of which is far above that contained * all the 
books that were ever written. 

The 'anity of those who dabble in arts and sciences 
and deem themselves thereby the superiors of their 
fellows, who are honestly ignorant of such high matters, 
is a sorry sight compared with the humility of the truly 
ripe scholar who knows that the end of human know- 
ledge is but the beginning of that which is to come. 
He, like the poet, learns, soon or late, that the " well- 
stored mind " avails little or naught unless the heart be 

" in unison with all mankind." 



CXI 
THE BORE. 

ar7Hr7onf/'''':f'''' '" ^^"'^ "^'•^^' <^^^ ^^t of us 

z t:z. to t!z^^^'- ''^^^y '^^ -- ^0 •: 

^ — W. Pctt Ridge. 

I^IVILIZATIO.^^ h,, i,s disadvantages. Not the 
f«t;± these is the doom of being bored wh eh 
nations.""''^'^^ ''''''' *^^ ^^'^^ of dl ages and 
Deprived by the laws of civilized stnfp^ ^^.. 

01 speech and manner in which the ladia^ of fh^E^ 

perseoution,, in plain parlance, TZ ^t'JZo^l 
toes when even this «ndignified-but effectual- 



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Considering the numerical strength of the bore and 
the unceasing imminence of his descent upon the just 
and unjust alike, his facilities for poisoning the peace 
of his fellow-mortals are indeed of a formidable char- 
acter. Yet, evil as is the case of any one exposed to 
his onslaughts, the situation in at least not wholly 
desperate, since there is always an ultimate hope of 
respite. The infliction must necessarily be of a 
temporary character. 

Not so, however, in the case of the man who is tire- 
some to himself. Could any fate be more discouraging? 
From this worst of all bores. Self, even the alternative 
of running away is denied one. A craving for constant 
companionship, good or bad,^ for any kind of excitement 
that may temporarily obliterate the opjjressive self- 
consciousness of the victim is the surest symptom of this 
unhappy condition. Under its influence, every diver- 
sion and change, even sorrows and reverses, are welcome 
as preferable to the unendurable monotony of an exist- 
ence which no effort of will appears to be able to 
brighten or dignify. 

The persoiu:! feelings, experiences, affairs, of the 
man who is a bore to himself, appear to him always pro- 
foundly uninteresting, while those of his neighbours, 
or acquaintances, are invested in his eyes with a distinc- 
tion, a character of novelty, which excite his curiosity 
and compel his attention to an extraordinary degree. 
Unfortunately, the disgust he entertains towards him- 
self occasionally communicates itself to others, and his 
too eager interest in his neighbour's affairs is liable to 
be met vith coldness or suspicion. Thus gradually he 
becomfcd a bore, not only to himself but to everybody 
else, and truly the last state of that man shall be worse 
than the first. 

To avoid such an unpleasant fate, it is only necessary 
to bestow a proper degree of attention on one's self. 



THK IIOKK 



277 



by the world', apprii";' »*'°"=^' "' '"'^ '"sttly .„, 

or her „™ tho>,gh^t=e„na^ 1°?^'''''''°'^'? '" >■« 
who fail to rwilfe7;ir T J^' ""oemonea. Any 

remain iZlr„f°'r,'''°'"'^ °* ™"^»<»' »d 
ae.ee to thrh^pilTri,,!--^"^-' 



*^.^^^ 



ex 1 1 




SELF-RESTj VINT. 

A good memory knows how to forget, a well-managed 
tongue knows how to keep still, disciplined ears know 
how to be deaf on occasions, and skilful hands can hang 
idle, if necessary. One-half of knowledge consists in 
not knowing; one-half of beneficial action in resting. 

— Selected. 

VEKY common and serious defect in Ui embers 
of our sex who are striving to lead exemplary 
lives, is the excess of energy, of zeal and of 
nervous forco they bring to bear on the accomplishment 
of ordinary duties. They acquire the habit of incessant 
activity, and an alertness to improve every opportunity, 
which may be eminently satisfying to their own con- 
science, but which is apt to make them extremely im- 
patient, exacting, and occasionally unjust towards 
others. 

Undoubtedly, much has been gained when one has 
acquired a habit of industry, and brought all one's 
faculties to a high degree of cultivation, but there is 
such a thing as becoming a slave to one's perfections," 
and thus converting them into stimibling-blocks to our- 
selves and to our neighbour. 

The ideal life is the one which is kept unhampered 
by conditions or customs not essential to its highest pur- 
poses, so that the mind is free, at any moment, to exer- 
cise a choice dictated by friendship or judgment. 



mmm 



HKF.r-ljfiSTKAINT 



L':i» 



«ven pvo nn^r,,.W„.i '^''^ ; "'" '^ ^\'"^-'' ^l^e will not 

elan., , ,.^ -:;.;^; ^^^i';-. ;;;;;.. .m. . ., 

d^^nt, nmv nt.n,, ; .V"! "^'M'ortune vi.it, an ac-ei- 

obvicKsly inevitable cnlo; Zi^'7TT7'^ '" ^"^^'' 
unchristian. Tii.v ^honM " ' '"^Z'' ^''"'^'•^f' "''^' 

which onr soparato 1 vp« „,. ''\'^^'^?f<^r '^ great plan, of 

«ive Hio tl^ wo'nnn ./ ,"' "'^'^'^^^'^nt derails 
when she ki^Z^al^l^^i 'T "'^ ^^^«"^-' -'"^> 
attention to anothc am, "' "^"'7^'""' '''^^^y ^"rns ho- 
rdes, makes H^C^'Z '""^'''"^'''^^'^'^^^^ 
needed rest or an opLtun k";'" ^^;. ^«king a much 
of the higher nieanin^lfU ^"'^''''^°" °" '^^'^- 

to forget in W\ndthl1rr '■''''''^' ^' P^-Pt 
In its compan we Jn ^^ J^^tcoxnings of neighbonrs. 

tongne, vvhicnefrl'ns^J '"^ ^"^ '^^ well-govemed 

pains o bri„j;:fSotTnrtri^^^^^^ r ''n 

malice lurks under an o^f Pn ^;i f ^ •" "^^ ^ '^^^P of 

in season" to Te^nTS:^'' t^ '' T '' ' "^''^ 
ouslj ont of season when f' I ' ^ "^^"^ conspicu- 
ber feelings. That Tin h "'^'n ', *"°^^^ P'«^^ in 

-l^ose profLion t to "a "7 "' 1 H ^^^* ^'^ ^^o^e 
and friends be "i L conee' f ^'- "^^^'^^bours 

^-^^ are sincere OhSr^—r^^ 



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pied in correcting their own. In this respect, indeed, 
" one-half of knowledge consists in not knowing," 
because such ignorance saves one from many sins of 
the tongue ; therefore, it is profitable, in the highest 
sense, " to be deaf on occasions." 

A complacent belief in one's OAvn goodness is one of 
the most fatal hindrances to spiritual progress ; those 
who are in danger of laying such flattering unction to 
their souls will find food for thought in the lines above 
(iuoted. It might perhaps surprise tliem greatly to 
discover that by suspending for a time some of their 
imaginary virtues, including a self-imposed censorship 
of their neighbour's conduct, and a passion for work 
which admits of no consideration for the rights and 
comforts of others, they would be making a distinct 
step forward in moral jirogress as well as in the estima- 
tion of tlieir long-sufforing friends and acquaintances. 




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mt.^rMif^^m. 



ex II I 
RELAXATION. 

— R. L. Stevenson. 

,N one respect, if in no other, do men habitually 

domonsti^ate then- superiority over our sex, and 

that ,s in their readiness to take the fullest 

measure of enjoyment out of every favourable oppor 

tunity that presents itself. ^^ 

Outside of the Avorld that lives for amusement it is 

let 1'' 1 ''''^''"* ^ '""^•^^ ^''^''''S ^f ^^"^«rse for 
nLl T- , "^^"«^^' «P«"t on what seems to her a 

urely frivolous purpose. Many even take credit to 
themselves for tins attitude of mind, as if it were a 

"t rint- ";• '^ "'^'^^' ? ^^ ^ ^^-- defect of Char- 
acter indicating a warped and one-sided sense of duty 

as wdl as a narrow and unjust conception of the Deity! 

it IS not a hard, exacting task-master whom we serve 

^^ ;t "''^r\ ^^'"^' '^''^ ^^^ surrounded ron 
every .ide, with abundant material for the purest 

e.,o,,nent To ignore this provision of Ilis lov'to 

TZZ i'a- "^ '"^ '• ''^' "''^"''^ ^^'^ ™»«^'^ll 0"r duty, 
and to look disapprovingly ou those who include happi- 
ness among the auns of existence, is to announce our- 

indeed, m the true religious instinct. 



ms'mtw 



ww?^?rii»m^;- 



282 



IX Tin: i-ATiis (»i' I'KAti: 



To live a rijiht life wo amst work, it is true, hut in 
Avork, as in pleasure, we must practice lenipi ranee, 
rcnieinberiiifj; that tlio worker is greater than her task 
and should never therefore he enshived by it. An over- 
conseientions M'oniau iisually falls into this erri»r of 
servile devotion to what she ignoranlly believi's to he 
her duty, to the detrinieJit of all those sweet and joy- 
ous instincts of the heart that plead for rest, refresh- 
nient, and agreeable diversion from (oil and daily cares. 
From long and systematic repression of these God-given 
instincts, innny wives and moth, -a, in time, completely 
lose the faculty of personal enjoyment, and when the 
burden of their responsibility is at last lifted fn.m theii- 
shoulders, they are be\v;ildered and even nnhappv, 
being without inclination for the pleasures which their 
new-fonnd leisure has placed within their reach. 

The saddest part about a life thus i)erverted from its 
noblest uses, is, that the husband and children whom a 
wonnm falsely imagines can best be served by a kind of 
slavery, are more often than not jiaijied and'humiliated 
by the knowledge of her perpetual sacrifices to their 
comfort. They would be more genuinely hapi>y if she, 
too, were happy, and willing to enter generously now 
and then into their plan for a holiday which might 
include one for her. 

Do not then grudge a day's postponement of some 
common domestic diity, when there is a (juestion of au 
excursion to the woods or on the river ; and even, from 
day to day, do not deny yourself the little harmless 
relaxations and pleasures that come in your way, that 
will leave smiles instead of wrinkles on "your face, and 
lend a cheerful, instead of a querulous note to your 
voice. 

You are sometimes disappointed, after a laborious 
day, wlien your husband and sons fail to notice any 
improvement in the rooms on which 3'ou have expended 



Iti:i-A.\ATI()N- 



L'8;! 



so innch work. Loan, from (his fli-.f o. • i 
c.\pi ri, noo, Tiii.y ihrw ,m„-\, l,|.,n.fi, fro,,, r<-ll,.,.fi„„ 

Ze.:X^nZ':r f ''-''' ^^^ '-^^^^^^^^^ 

a amy of bem^- l,i,p„v a. often and a^ lor.c^ ".s fj.plr 
tlie poet : "" '"•>' ^^'"^'^'"i^-^ with 

"O gift of Cod! Operfm. dav! 
Whereon shall no man work, but plav 
Whereon if, i.s enough for me 
Not to be doing, but to be." 



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(JXIV 




THE PLACE OF QUIETNESS. 

Bread is good and knoioJcdge is hetlcry but best of 
all is peace, and ihe place of qnictness has ever been 
and ever will be a garden. 

— Ian Maclaren. 

HEN skios are fair on a summer day, what 
bettor company oan be found anywhere than 
awaits every comer in a beautiful garden? 
The restful verdure of grass and shrub and vine, the 
fragrant blooms in bed and border, the sheltering trees, 
the fleecy, wandering clouds, the refreshing breeze, the 
soothing hum of insect life, the sweet notes of birds, 
the bees and butterflies chasing one another from 
honeyed calyx to calyx, the mysterious and incessant 
whispering and nodding of the leaves — where else can 
one discover a scene so full of variety, animation, 
beauty and surpassing interest? 

Yet there are men and women so incredibly blind, 
lazy, stupid or sordid, that they are content to go 
through life without making the slighte&t attempt to 
procure for themselves or their children th's pleasure, 
which is scarcely surpassed by any other, and which is 
within reach of all but the very poor. 

It takes so little space and trouble to make a garden ! 
Not a formally laid-out and trimly-kept incl^sure with 
showy beds of expensive annuals, such - ne looks for 
around the stately homes of the rich, '.,..t a simple plot 



THE PLACK OK t^UIKINKKS 285 

inadf! swcot with old-faHhioiicd porcnninls, that .yciir 
after .year come up with tho first hroath of Spring, 'hko 
old frionds roturninpr from a lonp ahsoncc in a forei^Ti 
Iniid. In some of tht^so favoured spots, each tree and 
shrub has a history ; some wore planted by handB now 
folded away forever ; some by the littlf. ojie.s who have 
since grown to manhood or womanhood, nnfl gone to 
distant homes of their own ; one stands for friendship, 
one for love ; one marks the advent of a new life in 
the homo, another the beginning of some important 
onterpriae. 

But even without this association of ideas which links 
them to the fortunes of the owners, all these growing 
things are beautiful and restful to the eye, full of con- 
solation and peace for the heart. Tinder their soothing 
mfluences, it is wonderful how (piickly the common 
worries and vexations inseparable from indoor life melt 
away and disappear. An hour of solitude that would 
seem intolerably long in the house, is magically short- 
ened to half its duration amid the delights of the 
garden. 

The first provision made for the perfect happiness of 
man was a beautiful garden. The i>enalty infli(rted on 
him for sin was expulsion from the garden. His chief 
care thereafter was the cultivation of the wilderness 
into which he wiis driven that it might become a sem- 
blance at least, of the lost Paradise. Surely no further 
argument is needed to prove that a garden is the ideal 
/etreat, whether for rest, recreation, or prayer. 

The garden should be close to the house, since the 
exigencies of climate compel us to live under a roof 
made with hands. However small, even if confined 
within the cramped dimensions of a city back-yard, it 
can easily be made a thing of beauty. A few slips' of 
ivy or Virginia creeper Avill, in a short time, cover all 
unsightliness of blank wall or unpainted fc.ice. Two 






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IN TlIF PATHS OF I'KACE 



It 7^\"?j/^^™ tl;« ^^^'^^ will provide for future 
sliade. A trifling outlay on seeds and cuttings will 
vie d golden returns of bloom and fragrance. Sueh a 
little breathing-plaee as this, where the tired house- 
keeper or restless children can betake themselves for 
rest and recreation, or for the lighter tasks that cannot 
be put off excretes a most beneficent influence in the 
fiome. Monotonous occupations, such as sowing, darn- 
ng or ironing, when pursued out-of-doors, lose half 
their wearisonieness and become almost a pleasure. 
-The favourite book, road in a shadj arbour, leaves on 
tlie mind an impression which is indelibly associated 
^ihtho place and season, thus becon.ing a doubly 
dehghtful memory. Yes, by all means, let us have a 




cxv 

CHAINS OF HABIT. 

- — I^r- Johnson. 

otTa's"„r/7o''; "'!r"»<'°>« force of habit, 
■ awav frZ f, f'^ "" "P<^"">ent of breaking 

>o the Sis i utinl^f ^rdinrSe"'^^"";™ 

for' ;orS„T'''r™Sr f't T^ ""-'"f "» °"'™ 
Before permitting onr^e ve. L ,u' 'T ""'''™"™ ' 

we have habit, SZ o^^SZiZ:tJ^ 

««f I. ^'^ "<^ ~^^ and succeeded it dopq 

not become ns to lav dnwn ti!« i r ^^^^^^i, it aoes 

brethren. ' '^ ^^"^ ^°^ o"^ weaker 

Among the most reprehensible habits common to 



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IN THE PATHS OF PEACE 



young girls, and even married women, is that of 
dawdling. An incredible amount of time is wasted 
every day doing absolutely nothing, or pretending to be 
busy with some trifling occupation. The idle girl or 
woman spends an hour or two hours over her toilet, 
takes a whole morning to go to the dressmaker's, or the 
dentist's, needs to rest an hour or so after luncheon, 
pays a visit or two befoi'e dinner, and considers that she 
has had an exhausting day. A woman of aflFaii's makes 
a complete toilet before breakfast, does a full day's 
work at her office, calls at the dressmaker's or dentist's 
on her way to or from luncheon, pays a few visits on 
her way home before dinner, and is none the worse for 
having utilized every minute of a truly busy day. She 
has learned the value of time and of system, and can 
stretch a day to meet any exigencies ; she acquires the 
habit of useful activity, and reaps more enjoyment 
from the consciousness of having performed many 
things well and quickly than is ever experienced by one 
who is free to enjoy her time exactly as she pleases, 
and who generally pleases to waste it. A sense of 
personal dignity and of the preciousness of time should 
surely suffice to prevent any intelligent girl or woman 
from wantonly wasting the hours that might be given 
to work, study, or healthful recreation. A strenuous 
effort should be made by any who are so tempted, to 
conquer the pernicious habit of dawdling. There are 
literally no end of useful occupations and interesting 
pastimes with which the longest days can be agreeably 
filled up by any one who cares to exercise a little fore- 
thought and discrimination in the matter. 

To become enslaved by any habit is to lose the high- 
est of all human prerogatives, the exercise of one's free 
will. The habit may be harmless enough, yet we are 
not less its slaves than the drunkard is to his intemper- 
ance, or the miser to his avarice. We cannot speak of 



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289 



these Without asperity, yet we are no more successful 
Uian they in resisting the temptations that beset us. 
We do not care for wine or cards, and we have no means 
of accumulating money, but we do take an inordinate 
pleasure m eating, in dress, in pleasant excitement, in 
gadding about, in prying into the aflfairs of others or 
making aspersions on their characters. Whatever our 
favourite vice may be, we are just as much addicted to 
It aa another is to the wine cup, the dice box, or the 
secret hoard. If we were sincerely desirous of seeing 
the world made better than it is we should be so intent 
on correcting our own evil tendencies, that we should 
have little time to observe the peccadilloes of our 
neighbours. It will take all our vigilance to watch for 
those dimmutive chains of habit ever forming around 

Tifi 7°™ T^'""^' """^^'^ ^« ^^^^^ them in time, we 
shall find It almost impossible in the future to wrench 
ourselves free. 



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(XVJ 



THE EFFICACY OF WORK. 

Thank God rvn-i/ morning that ynu have something 
to do that daij, which must be done whether you like it 
or not. Being forced to work and do your best wilt 
breed ui you a hundrrd virtues which the idle never 
^■"««'- ' —Charles Kingsloy. 



fIRLD of our evcr-r^currin,:,^ ucvor-cnding daily 
tasks, liow many tiiiios do not we women 
fervently echo the poet's wish : 

" O for a life of leisure and broad honrg, 
To think and dream and put away small things," 

AVe believe that if time was our slave instead of our 
master, life would bo an uninterrupted dream of happi- 
ness. And so it might and should be, if we could bo 
trusted to order our o\vn days in a manner that would 
be worthy of, and beneficial to us. But looking around 
us, we have not far to seek for instances of the dele- 
terious, even completely demoralising influence of idle- 
ness upon the majority of those women whose circum- 
stances relieve thera from the necessity of working. 
There is no truer proverb than that " Satan finds mis- 
chief for idle hands to do." The girl or Avoman who 
feels no call on the higher qualities of her nature, who 
has not been trained to suffer and endure and deny her- 
self for others ; whose sole aim in life is the gratifica- 



Tin: Kill. ACV ,,!• \v,,|;k 



L':»i 



,■ , , ; '" ""■ "■'"■W wliidi .imk.s iUi,iH,.„i,.„i II,:. 

~,r;i'''' ^™'; ';^, "'" ""■■""' "■'— i'H'-'' 

.1 n,L^f '" '■"'"'" '■'"""■''' '" "illi"!..!!.! 11,0 

.».,mU, of .ov,.r,. to„,pf„li„„ „„lp„ ,,,. ,„.„ ',''' 

.i.j.pi,,,,^ ,„ „,o ,..,,„„„„„,„ „,. ,,„,,.„„ , -,.;;'-i7 

houit'oS,;:! 1:1,":" "'r ''"""•"■' '■■ '-'• ''""■•- f- 

ulh, „.cl.y .„d, a weakening „f „„„, «(, j ,,,™;|;^ 
worth are happ,ly by no means rare, but invaHab v 

wo^ea ,rt,o bclon„. ,o neither of he™ wo c^^ Z 

bn is not hill. r " ■ """"■ ■J"'-"'- '""i"! posi- 

tion is not higli enough to impose on them tlic .em! 

P«bl.e duties which fill so imwrtane a n, " of ' f a h 

lonalle woman's day, and the major part^f ti;eir hout 



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IN THK PATHS OF VKACK 



hold and maternal dutios aro iwrformod hy scrvantB. 
TTnloss tlu'.v carcftjil.v plan some usefid dirtposition of 
their plentifid leisuro, ono of two thing's is likely to 
happen ; either they will develop auch a profound 
interest in their own health that every little indisposi- 
tion beeoines exa^'f^enited into a dangerous illness, 8^ 
that half their time is spent in hed, or reelining on u 
eouch, where they like to consider themselveti objects of 
romantic interest to others, or if an exuberant vitality 
removes this contingeju-y, they become inveterate 
gossips and padabouts, always keenly alert to hear 
a('«'ounts of their nciirhbonrs' doitigs and sayings, an«l 
having a mischievous tendency to scatter broadcast the 
fruits of their insatiable curiosity. 

In what noble contrast to such a shallow, purposeless 
existence star is forth the life of the busy wife and 
mother who is occupied daily with those loving tasks 
which, faithfully p('rf<irmed, make her home a sanctu- 
ary of rest and liaven of happiness for her husband and 
children. Her hands may not be as white, nor he 
gowns as modish, as those of her more fashionable sister, 
but her heart is incom]iarably purer and nobler, and 
those who live with her ,instead of being slaves to her 
caprices, and disedified witnesses of her uselessness, 
leani to admire, while they also reap the benefit of those 
" hundred virtues which the idle never know." 






*.**'i 



CXVII 
DRIFTING. 

No young persons drift into an achieving numhood 
or womanhood. j nnnnnoa 

— >V. iioyt. 

:iIK teiuptation to take life as it comes, to let Fate 
have Its way with one, and to acc(*pt good 
lortuno and reverses merely as tl..,> inevitable 
chances of existence, is one to whi.h wo.nm are 
pecuharly liable. Whether it is that we arc naturally 
indolent, or that the traditional dependence of our sex 
since the days when a woman could do nothing else but 
stay at homo and «pin while :.er lord hunted and fo,.ght, 
has unfitted 1,3 to take an active part in the battle of 

+ :/, •/"f^"'^'""'"' ^'^"^ "^•''":^ a™o"ff "3 are content 
to (iritt into womanhood, without anv particular 
aim or purpose in view except to avoid fatigue or dis- 
comfort. Probably another reason why girls are so 
averse to_ making plans for the improvement of their 
time, which would cover any extended period, is the 
pleasant possibility of marriage, always looming in the 
background of their thoughts. But the waiting policy 
IS a very poor one, and I think the unexpected lover 
who breaks m on a busy life and draws a woman away 
in spite of herself from the most engrossing interests 
or pursuits is apt to be much more appreciated than 
the one whose approach has been eagerly looked for 
and counted upon, perhaps, for years. Without ffoin- 
to extremes and giving yourself airs about your mis- 



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Pion m hfe, set quietly and systematically about achiev- 
ing something, however small, so that it be useful or 
productive of pleasure to others. In doing so your 
matrimonial prospects will not be injured, but if anv- 
thuig mcreased, and you will be saved many a pang of 
envy and disappointment. 



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ex VI J I 
SUNNY SPOTS. 

•-iM^'r^. — Haliburtoii. 

tEKY few lives are all sunshine, but there will 
be sunny spots " in all our hearts, if wo tike 

in to themTri ')' '1 ''f-''^''' '' '^^^-^ P--^tza1. 
trmg cloud of doubt disappointment or sorrow. One 
ot the mysteries of feminine nature is its tendency to 
-agmfy and brood over trouble, one might a W'al 
a preference for tears and melancholy. Quire yourfc: 

I hey are 1 ke the people whom Mrs. Browning writes 
of who " always sigh in thanking God." From coTtac 
nth all such poor spirited, narrow-minded creature' 
nay a kind heaven defend us ! Give us rather for our 

s ngs and finds m the general contrariness of persons 
and thmgs matter for harmless merriment rathHh n 
for sepulchral views of life. The dulness of exi tence 
IS, to thousands of women in towns and countrv places 
a favourite peg on which to hang complaint. Biftwhy 

ot: iitl 7^ '""' '^'^ most%ontLted lifniS 
exquisitely humourous aspects, lying right on the 

nna ujiuse others tn Inno-ii 0= ,..„iiv -n... • " , 



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{ible to see them the " sunny spots " in the heart must 
be kept open to the light. 

" It isn't worth wliile," I hear some moody girl 
exclaim ; yet the same young person reads with delight 
the annals of Drumtochty or Thrums or some other 
httle hum-drum village, containing, if anything, fewer 
elements of human interest, romance or passion than 
her own, and yet never realises that the atmosphere of 
cliarm which a cunning writer has succeeded in throw- 
ing over the village in the book, is less the result of 
tortunate circumstances or a poetic imagination than 
of the author's superior insight, which has revealed to 
him the under side of life, and opened up a world 
undreamed of by many of those who moved with dull, 
nnsiving eyes, in the very midst of it. 

I recom.aend to those who are looking for an object 
in life that of cultivating the sunny spots in their own 
hearts for the benefit not only of themselves, but of 
those with whom they live and who perhaps look up to 
and depend upon them. It will be found an exceed- 
ingly pleasant and interesting pursuit, and one which, 
among other desirable results, will insure the wide- 
spread personal popularity of the one who succeeds 
in it. 



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ex IX 
BUILDING FOR ETERNITY. 

When we build, lei us think that we huUd for ever. 

— liiiskin. 

ac nevoment which calls for this' tribute,\ow weak and 
valueless do oiir own humble perfoman'ces appear how 

o stand" V^: T'' f '""^^ "^^"* ^^ wf'not 'seel 
to standi Yet, if we but pause to reflect upon it we 
shall see that we are all building for eternity hole 

wS^r -r ^""^a* processes of construction by 

ir^ ^n"'\ ^^"^^""ities and nations are formed 
and held together. True, and it is an infinite S^l 
vast amount of work is wasted, and leayes no See 

u efS^^r """J' "" ''' ill-performed to serye an" 
useful or agreeable purpose, and worse still, a great deal 

re^mattf rf '^ ""''''' destro,ed,\ruse i 
Dears marks of haste, mcompetence and sloyenliness 
that constitute a standing reproach to the worker and 
h^tlZr ^ --^- - ^^^ true loye. ^^^r: 
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to build With the slow and sure touch that ensures per- 
manence, to leave our mark upon whatever we do and 
to let It be a mark of which we are not ashamed. ' In 
this way our whole pathway through life can be traced 
by the good Ave have wrought and our persistent fidelity 
Avill not only yield a rich reward to ourselves, but will 
also be of incalculable benefit to those who follow in 
our footsteps and who may read the lesson of our lives 
in the solid achievements that endure after us. 



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ACQUIESCENCE. 

Order is Heaven's first Jaw ; and this confest 
Some are and must he, greater than the res 
More nch more wise; but who infers fom fence 
That such are happier, shocks all common sense 
- — Pope. 

J.J.HE hardest riJdle life holds for some of us and 

-^ that t: " "■"" "'"""'"^ ^0 '"-"^ f»' ^ u"n 

»weetertrro„ro7,l?e -rthr tr ""/,"" f' 
tunato than others? m'/h^sVch'ItlJ ^JZ 

questioning goesLi/tea^a/dbSssSpiri:: 

al)"ness beL 7 ' 5 '^=«'^P!--«'"g secret, its inscmt- 
attitude „fT ""' " ™'""<'°' J-s'ifi^ation for an 

to this in,penet™ble ly^tV "' '""^ '"" "'"^ 

To solve the riddle for "yon, dear reader is quite 

entirety^Me!" ^^""^ '° '° '°- ^''^ «"»« ^^ »» 

2Zf T 7^ """' ''"' S^'"*^"- *» ">e rest,' 
casting out all corroding envy and discontent from vour 



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heart once for all— those you envy being indeed, often 
less happy than yourself, set about considering, not 
what you might do, in more favourable circumstances, 
but what you can do with your present opportunities. 
Mind. your arithmetic. This is really the most 
important point of all. 

So many hours in the day. So many tasks to be per- 
formed. If the tasks are too many for your strength 
and }our temper, then in the name of common sense, 
lea-e some undone, and don't worry about them. If 
you ,"re a struggling young mother with a husband and 
five or sLx little ones to care for, single-handed, feed 
and clothe your dear ones as well and as lovingly as 
you can, and then be happy. Don't distress yourself 
needlessly because the parlour has not been dusted, nor 
the pantry shelves put in order, and don't suffer agonies 
of shame if some fashionable friend comes in in the 
midst of your toil and finds you a trifle disheveled, and 
sees the hole in Johnny's stocking, and perhaps three 
or four little unwashed faces peeping out from the 
ambush of your apron. Be brave and independent 
enough to feel that, having done your best, no more can 
be expected of you. 

A great many beautiful theories are always being 
written up by people who have nothing else to do, on 
the ease with which home can be made clean and 
orderly by a woman of taste and intelligence, no matter 
how heavily she may be handicapped as to means, time, 
etc. But I have had occasion to see how absolutely 
impossible it is for one woman to do the work of three 
or ^ four servants, and yet always appear neat and 
smiling ; so far from being shocked when I see signs 
of neglect and disorder in a house > here a young 
mother is trying to bring up a large family, my heart 
goes out in sympathy to the mother, and I only wonder 
if she ever finds time for the needed recreation to keep 



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her health and spirits up under the great strain that is 
put upon ner. 

AVhat she can do however, is to simplify and minim 
i^e her tasks as much as possible. If she has to do her 
own dusting let her put away all unnecessary' orna- 
ments and dust traps about the house that call for a 
daily expenditure of time and care. If she cannot spare 
tune to dress the children more than once or at most 
twice a day let her put dark frocks on them that will 
not too readily proclaim their lapse from perfect clean- 
mess ; if she must do all the cooking, let her avoid 
the preparation of troublesome dishes, and the multi- 
plication of pots anJ pans ; and if a thoughtless neigh- 
bour or friend drops in at an inopportune moment, let 
her have the courage to tell her so, just as men and 
women engaged in business would do in similar circum- 
stances. 

Above all, I would ask her to be hopeful and cheer- 
ful, remembering that kindness and love in the home 
surpass all the benefits accruing from the greatest 



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ex XI 

MODESTY. 

Do you wish men to believe good of you? Then say 

— Blaise Pascal. 

fHE charm of perfect modesty is as rare as it is 
resistless. The temptation to speak about one's 
self, assuming tlie subject to be full of interest 
to others, is one which assails the best of us in weak 
moments. Our likes and our dislikes, our joys and our 
pains, our successes, and our failures, are so manv end- 
less themes on which we love to hold forth whenever 
we can find a listener to victimize. Almost invariably, 
the view we present of our case is flattering to ourselves. 
We are always in the right. Every one else is selfish, 
contrary, obstinate or stupid. The absurdity of our 
self-deception becomes most apparent when, after 
unburdening ourselves to some patient confidant, the 
same person is compelled to listen to the other side of 
the story, which makes us appear in a far less amiable 
light. 

The gift of seeing ourselves as others see us, has been 
bestowed on few of us, and therefore wisdom cautions 
us to be modestly silent about ourselves, being especiallv 
careful not to plume ourselves on the possession of 
virtues in which others may have reason to think us 
lacking. Self-interest alone, apart from anv higher 
motive, forbids the indulgence of a vain and"boa?tful 



MODESTY 



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spirit, because tliere i. no surer means than this of earn- 
ing a wide-spread unpopularity. Empty vessels, we 

nature is never more successfully revealed, than by the 
process of blo^vmff one's own trumpet. While sdl ' 
mere prl a ve:y salutary impression was left on mv 

n e nn I f ^ ^^i! ''^''' '' '^''' *^"^«' represented to 
me all that was be.t and highest in human nature 
He Avas greatly beloved by his flock, and on his appear- 

onthu^aL' 7 '""' '^"■'•^'^ ^'"'''"^ ''^'^^ afFectionate 
enthusiasm. I soon remarked that he invariably 

shoumg the most wonderful tact and fertility of 
resource in directing the conversation to some wholly 
mpersonal subject, ^^o matter how many times you 
t led to praise his sermons or to extol his charity he 
always most adroitly turned your remarks to the adWn- 

n upon all who knew him that the surest way to please 
him was not to flatter him or in any way make peLnal 
allusions His .^nmple, in this respect; proved a more 
powerful sermon than many I have heard from pulpits, 
as I have never been able to forget the lesson of perfect 
modesty he taught us, and the memory of it often acts 
as a wholesome check in too expansive moments. This 

entire flock thus proving the value of the French phil- 
osopher s advice. It is not enough to refrain from 
praising one's self, one must even refrain from too 
willingly lendmg an ear to the praises of others. 

Une can always remember enough faults to keep 
one humb.e, and without humility there can be no true 
greatness or real amiability of character. 



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CXXII 
THE PRECIOUSNESS OF OPPORTUNITY. 

When we look hack at close of clay, 
Whether it close in sun or rain, 

We yet can say, "It is a way 
We shall not have to walk again." 

— C. H. Crandall. 

JHERE is something very solemn in the thougiit 
that each new day on which we enter may bo 
fraught with most important conseqiiences. 
How many dramas, bright or tragic, are enacted daily, 
between the rising and the setting of the 8un, for men 
and women who live m our very midst! Our turn 
ir-ist come, though we know not the day nor the hour. 

" The veil of the future our breath fitfully flaps, 
And behind it sits ever the mighty Perhaps." 

It would not be wise to indulge in too manv fore- 
bodings about the future, but neither is it becoming to 
be of those light-headed mortals who ignore all possi- 
bility of momentous happenings, and who are 
frequently overtaken by the most painful or solemn 
crises in their lives, at a time, and in a mood least suited 
to such deep experience. So it is worth while to 
reflect, not at the close, but better still at the opening 
of a day, that we are entering on a way we shall not 
Lave to walk again. It would be well if, in the glow 
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THE l-RECIOUSNESS OK OPI'OKTUNITV 305 

our opportunity might be borne in upon us. AVhatevcr 
we are permitted to do for others will .e done with 
more love if we keep m mind the possibility that wo 
may be doing it for the last time. Indeed, every actiln 
we perform is truly performed for the last time, fo 
never sha 1 we do just such a thing in just the same\va> 
aga^n. Ao two days are ever exactly alike, nor do our 

rTlv n "'^^T''''''! '''.'' ''^^^' themselves accu- 
rately. How often and vainly have we not counted on 

to^l^r^TT ^'^ ''^'^' '^'"^ ""S^^«* °' nnkindness of 
lur W ■r\-" ^ P^'-^.^f ^3^ ^^ fate which frowns on 
our best intentions. The most unforeseen circum- 
stances come between us and the execution of our plans 
bometimes we are even denied the opportunitv of ofFer^ 
ing excuses for ourselves. All which points 'the moral 
that the present only belongs to us, that it is of ines- 
timable value, and that to squander it wilfully is to 
prove ourselves destitute of sense or conscience. 
(.TO den words and deeds make golden days. Let us try 
to live so that at close of day," it will not be in self- 
reproach for lost opportunities, but with the glad con- 
sciousness of diiBcult duties faithfully perfomed that 
we shall say to ourselves : 

It is a way 
We shall not have to walk again." 



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CXXIII 



SWEET AND SERVICEABLE. 

The gcnllcr-hnrn the maiden, Ihe more hound 
to be sweet and serviceable. 

— Laiu'clot and Elaine. 

fllK popular idea of a " hij^Wi-born lady" seems to 
^^_^ be of one in silk attiro avIio does little the live- 
long; da,v save preen herself in the presence of 
imnierons adnurers, or give haughty commands to her 
hired deiieiidents. You will often see her thus imper- 
ponated by the little children in the street, who love to 
])lay that they are " rich ladies." An assumption of 
vanity, idlencf's, and a disdainful air, is supposed to give 
the proper cachet to the actor of this favourite part. 

This erroneous impression of the character of a lady 
of high degree is no doubt due to the fact that youthful 
ajid other inexperienced observers readily mistake the 
vulgar ostentation of the newly-enriched — who most 
frequently come under their notice — for the real 
dignity and stateliness of the well-born, with whom 
they are seldom, if ever, brought into actual contact. It 
is a revelation to many, on their first introduction into 
the higher social altitudes to find that life, here, is taken, 
if anything, more seriously than by the toilers of the 
earth, with the difference that the rich and great volun- 
tarily assume the most onerous tasks, and discharge 
them with a fidelity that is rarely surpassed, if even 
approached, by workers in humble spheres. 



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As a rilo, also, it ,s ,,,nto oxcoptim.al to hoar tho.o 
n ugh phu-cs coniphnuing of the ch.,nan.Js nuulo on 
t he. uiie and energies. They labour eheerfnljy and 
stoad. V, with no thought of shirking their ta.ks often 

Wr'n'/ >'"",? ^'^ •"•'^■'r "^ '''''^y' '•«^'-'' tl'an through 
lack of ,t. Jiut, ,n the case of a well-born woman 
espee.ally, whatever the work «he «ets lierself to do she 

iTciiil^'toT'' t;"" t'"' ""' ''-' --'- -^' '^*-- 

peculiar to herself. She never ceases to be '' sweet " 
while striving to be " servieenble." She di.tinguish<.. 
b ween honourable toil and ignoble drudgery, and 

winch compels them to respect her 

A omen who are content to sit idly and contemplate 
^leir own white bejewelled hands while the work o he 

They are the immediate descendants of poor and 
hard-working parents, who, having eome into sudden 
possession of wealth, are unacquainted with its useT 
beyond those of supplying the material ne ds wh ch 

nized. You find women of this type thronging the 
summer hotels, sitting aimlessly aboift'in drawifg-Lms 
and piazzas, usually over-dressed, and consumed with 
curiosity concerning their fellow-boarders 
^ Can any more dreary and undignified pastime be 
^magined than this deliberate "loafing?" iTthinl 
farther from the ideal Tennyson sets before us of hf 

Unfortunately, sometimes, the mother of growing 
prls sets them an example of indolence which ifCnd 

trzr:zz ^^'^rvr *'! ^^^^^^^^^ ^^ 

• 11 ", "^^'"a^J nouacbnld tasks, she will even 
res.gn all the comforts of a home in order to Tape "he 



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attendant responsibilites. In a hotel or boarding- 
house she finds absolute immunity from work of every 
kind, and, without counting the cost, accepts this sorry 
makeshift for a home. She neither reads, knits, sews, 
nor indulges in healthy exercise, but is ignobly content 
to sit with folded hands accumulating flesh and gossip 
as if no other object in life existed for her, and appar- 
ently unaware that her happiness and dignity would be 
inestimably enhanced if she would only bestir herself 
to learn some new accomplishment or usefiil art, to see 
some new siglits or identify herself with some move- 
ment of a progressive or benevolent character. 

But if the habit of exercising all the faculties and 
the desire of living to some purpose are not cultivated 
in youth, it is almost impossible to acquire them in later 
years. 

Therefore it is imperative for the young to keep alive 
and alert to all opportunities of self-improvement, not 
striving for vain distinctions that depend on outward 
appearances only, but with the ^vish to become " sweet 
and serviceable " in their own homes, and of preserving 
those attributes through life in whatever position they 
may be called to fill. 



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NATURE'S SCHOOL. 

^ Tune your ear 

1 all the wordless music of the stars 
And to the voice of nature, and your heart 
Miall turn to truth and goodness as tJ^ plant 
I urns to the sun. 

^^ —Ella Wheeler Wilcox. 

^TgETTERS come to me often from mothers in 

^ remote country districts, on the lonely ranclie 
or m the heart of the mountains, deploring the 
impossibility of securing a good education for their 
ciuidren, there being no schools within a radius of manv 
mUes of the secluded farmhouse. I must confess that, 
far from feeling sorry for those children, I alwavs 
expenence a certain satisfaction in knowing that th^y 
are quite safe from all the mischievous influences which 
in too many public and private schools more than 
oounterbalance the educational advantages enjoyed bv 
those in attendance. Many a time, passing by one of 
our city school buildings and seeing a crowd of rude 
noi^y and untidy children swarming out, pushing and 
jostling each other, calling each other ;ulgar names, 
m loud, disagreeable tones, I have wondered if it would 
not have been better for more than one among them to 
have been brought up in the peaceful country, or 
hidden aniong the mountains, with only a mother's love 
to teach them the wonders of the glorious universe. It 
IS a noteworthy fact that the country-bred girls and 
young men who come to the city to earn a livelihood," 
are invariably many degrees more refined in their tastes 
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Loner and close contact with nature has alwavs tliis 
effect on human character. It uplifts, purifies and 
broadens the mind. A man or woman who enjoys tlie 
beauty of lake, wood or meadow, who is affected by tlie 
splendour of the sunset, or the glory of the dawn, who 
sees in the majestic ocean and the everlasting hills the 
sign manual of a power greater than human, who feels 
him or herself in a manner related to every living thii)g 
that grows or walks upon the earth, will never be 
izreedy, selfish, untruthful, cruel, vidgar, or iu any 
imworthy sense passionate. What higher education 
than this should we hope to secure for any child ? 
Whatever his future destiny, only let the background 
of bis infancy be great nature herself, and his mother, 
with the aid of a few good books, can give him a finer 
training than any to be obtained in the best ecpiipped 
schools or colleges. 

the strength of England to-day, and the pre-emin- 
ence of her sons in every part of the world to which 
tliey have penetrated, is largely due to the fact that 
country life is, according to the British conception of 
comfort and happiness, the ideal one. With rare excep- 
tions, every English gentleman is a practical farmer, 
and his children are brought up for the most part out 
of doors, Iu this country, there is an unfortunate 
tendency to crowd into the cities, for the sake of the so- 
called advantages, which in too many cases only cramp 
and vulgarize the minds of the growing generation. 
Any mother who has the true welfare of her children 
at heart will keep them as near as possible to the great- 
est of all teachers, Nature herself. Upon the founda- 
tion laid in this model school it will be easy enough in 
later years to lay a siiperstructure of special training 
for any chosen art, profession or other calling. 



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