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SEXUAL SCIENCE:
OR
MANHOOD, WOMANHOOD,
AND
THEIR MUTUAL INTERRELATIONS;
LOVE, ITS LAWS, POAVER, ETC.;
SELECTION, OR MUTUAL ADAPTATION;
COURTSHIP, MARRIED LIFE,
AND
PERFECT CHILDREN;
THEIR
GENERATION, ENDOWMENT, PATERNITY, MATERNITY, BEARING,
NURSING AND REARING; TOGETHER WITH PUBERTY, BOY-
HOOD, GIRLHOOD, ETC.; SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS
RESTORED, MALE VIGOR AND FEMALE
HEALTH AND BEAUTY PERPETUATED
AND AUGMENTED, ETC.,
AS TAUGHT BT
PHRENOLOGY AND PHYSIOLOGY.
By prof. 0. S. FOWLER,
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In the Office of the LibrsriMti of Coiifiress, at Washington, D. C.
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O. S. FOW LER,
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Preface.
TJEPRODUCTION is Nature's paramount work; because
-^^ to all else what foundation is to house — its sine qua 7ion,
It has its science, or natural laws, prescribed modus
operandi, and instrumentalitie^s.
Gender is its master workman, and Nature's "male
and female" arrangement, with its governing laws, her
chosen "ways and means" of originating all life: which
growth completes.
Sexuality, its laws, facts, conditions, right action, im-
j)rovement, &c., thus becomes the master problem, as yet un-
solved, of every individual of the whole family of man ;
because on it depend the number, and the prim«il attributes,
of all human beings, throughout all time and eternity; and
of all other terrestrial productions.
To originate life, and predetermine character, and
thereby govern whatever appertains to man and Nature, is its
infinitely exalted mission. This renders it the great motor
wheel of all mundane productions, throughout all their func-
tions.
" Males and females," with all their specialties and in-
ter-relations, it creates, and employs in executing all these
mighty results.
Love, their mutual attraction, that liighest and holiest,
most sacred and fervent human emotion, religion scarcely
(excepted, is its all potential means, and just as antecedent
and prerequisite to it as morning to noon.
Conjugality, husbands and wives, to create which this
whole male and female ordinance of Nature is alone insti-
IV PREFACE.
tuteti, including all their mutual duties and relations, with
home, and whatever appertains to the sexes superadded, con-
stitute its delicious outworkings. Of course, all domestic
happiness and virtue flow from its right action, while from
its wrong emanate all marital discords and miseries, all sexual
errors and vices, ailments and sufferings.
The original Nature of each sex, with its governing
laws, is that supreme tribunal which adjudicates whatever
appertains to each separately, their love and marriage, and
all their mutual rights and inter-relations. These laws, with
their imposed duties, all who marry or are sexed are sacredly
bound to learn and fulfil.
The scientific exposition of this entire affectional and
sexual department of Nature, therefore, supplies a human
want of the very first magnitude. Such a supply this work
attempts.
Parentage, or offspring, is the only all-glorious natural
end sought and attained by sexuality, manhood, womanhood,
love, marriage, and whatever appertains to this whole male
and female department, mental and physical. This, of
course, involves that infinitely important subject —
The hereditary endowment, the congenital tendencies
of their joint progeny, whose inborn elements predetermine
their tastes and talents, virtues and vices, health and ailments,
enjoyments and sufferings, and whatever goes to make up
their existence, a thousand-fold more than their education.
Nature's creative ordinances thus become the all-im-
portant subject of human inquiry. To learn just what 'paren-
tal conditions confer superior and what inferior bodies and
minds, what the most and best talents and virtues, and what
particular kinds, as well as what preclude and what pro-
mote physical diseases and sinful proclivities, should be the
paramount study of all prospective parents, all students of
Nature, and of man. Though all know that all parents
transmit all their specialties, diseases included, to their issue,
yet who has ever shown precisely what parental conditions
PREFACE. V
entail longevity or consumption, these constitutional excesses
and those defects? And yet these a7i^€-natal causes affect
all they say, do, and are a thousand-fold more than all post-
natid influences combined.
Astounding that sensible marital candidates ignore, even
taboo, this only rationale of marriage ! How cruelly recreant
to self-interest and progenital welfare !
Must humanity forever ignore a subject thus infinitely
eventful to all parents and children, communities and the
race I
No, thunders out this volume.
No ONE section of this creative department of Nature can
be discussed scientifically or practically by itself, nor except
in connection with* all its co-ordinate themes, any more than
could one branch of a great tree without reference to its trunk,
other branches, roots, fruit, &c. How could the eyes be
analyzed irrespective of light and its laws, and the rest of that
body for which it sees? Then can man independently of
woman? or she of him? or either apart from their only
specific ends, conjugality and offspring? or of those parental
adaptations, loves, hates, &c., which literally control progenal
nature? Preposterous and fragmentary all such attempts.
In short
Nature's creative department is a system of inter-
lacing part3 and agencies, alli)f which must be investigated
collectively f throughout all their mutual co- relations and
dependencies.
This united exposition of gender, man, woman, love, mar-
riage, reproduction, and all the family and sexual relations
this work presents. Does not this pioneer attempt merit
attention ?
Love, its natural history, laws, and facts, that chit from
which whatever concerns procreation is derived, constitutes
its stand-point, and perfect children its goal. This love ele-
ment Phrenology analyzes; and in a manner most masterly
and complete. For all the valuable creative and sexual les-
VI PREFACE.
sons it reveals, and individual good it may do, thank this
kingly science, in studying which the Author has grown gray.
These all-glorious truths it has taught him, he here teachea
readers. Find their echoes away down throughout all the
interior recesses of human nature.
Its subject-matter subdivides itself naturally into nine
Parts, as follows :
PART I. — Gender, or sexuality — Nature's creative
workman, analyzes the male and female entities, attributes,
offices, forms, characteristics, signs, &c. ; expounds the part it
plays throughout the human constitution, along with Nature's
transmitting facts ; and shows its effects, regal power over all,
value, &c. Its critical readers will see men and women
through new optics, and scrutinize all their manifestations
from a new and superb stand-point.
PAET II. — Love. — Analyzes the mutual attractions
of the sexes ; shows what magic power all its various states
wield over human character, conduct, virtues, vices, enjoy-
ments, sufferings, and all the out- workings of all individuals
and nations ; unfolds its natural laws and facts, right and
wrong action, &c. ; and expounds this master human pas-
won scientifically and thoroughly, to its final consummation
in marriage, along with its perversions and abuses.
PART III. — Conjugal and parental adaptations,
discusses selection or mating ; shows just what qualities in
each sex instinctively attract and repel ; enamor and alienate
what in the opposite, and thereby who can and cannot, love
whom, and why ; what unions produce good and what poor
offspring ; and what these and those progenal results, and of
course who are, and are not, mutually adapted to whom in
marriage and parentage, with their whys and wherefores; in-
cluding the true times and best modes of forming these sacred
affectional relations.
PART IV. — Courtship — love-making, its laws, con-
ditions, and requirements, shows all who may ever love or be
loved how to love scleniijically , To be able to **play well*'
PREFACE. Vll
on heart-strings is a mucli finer art than music, and accom-
plishment than painting. The marital miseries of millions
of unhappy pairs are consequent chiefly on a wrong courtship,
whom a right would have rendered perfectly happy. Love-
making, like all else, has its right ways and its wrong, which
this Part unfolds ; showing all how to begin and conduct this
most eventful life-work just right. The very finest of all the
lost arts is here restored.
PART V. — Married life — shows what always and ne-
cessarily increases and deadens love, and why ; and thereby
wherein so many make such miserable affectional shipwreck
by applying Nature*s love-making principles to wedlock;
thereby showing how all marriages can be rendered happier
tlian their preceding courtships ; — quite happy that — and
every married year happier than any of its predecessors ;
besides giving conjugal rules and discussing divorce from its
first principles.
PART VI. — Generation — analyzes Nature's creative
function ; reveals those sexual laws and parental conditions
which govern the initiation of life, and applies them to pa-
rental pleasure and progenal endowment ; shows those newly
and about to be married how to so commence and continue
their most intimate and sacred conjugal relations as to re-
enamour each other ad infinitum ; and all married discordants,
the chief cause and cure of their alienations; gives a scientific
exposition of the oriyin of being, its ways and means, phi-
losophies and facts, structural and other adaptations and
ordinances, barrenness, &c., included — thereby imparting
knowledge the most interesting and valuable possible to al!
prospective parents, and all who are sexod; besides summing
up all previous Parts.
PART VII. — Maternity — teaches the prospective mother
what maternal states, before their birth, confer on her unlwrn
children robust constitutions, sweet tempers, vigorous intel-
lects and exalted morals; thus showing how she can modify
and improve them at her own and husband's pleasure; b&>
Vlll PREFACE.
sides containing a vast amount of just that kind of knowledge
needed by all wives, mothers, and maidens.
PAET VIII. — Rearing a.nd governing children —
treats their nursing, feeding, habits, health, education, moral
culture, &c., from birth till after puberty, and is a mother's
family manual.
PART IX. — Sexual ailments and restorations —
treats their causes, preventions, and cures, in both sexes,
without doctors, including the perpetuity and promotion of
male vigor and power, and of female beauty and bloom, to-
gether with merging through puberty into manhood and
womanhood, with girlhood superadded, — knowledge how in-
finitely useful to all ?
All these subjects, O readers, go straight home to the
very heart's core of your inner life / Have you no masculine
or feminine nature to study, direct, nurture, enjoy, or recu-
perate? Have you no conjugal mate, nor any tender yearn-
ings for some loved one to inspire hope, incite to effort, share
life's joys and sorrows with you, and tread the pathways of
earth and heaven ? Have you no children, nor wish for any,
to inherit your mentality and physiology, as well as patri-
mony ? to do and care for, and to care and do for you ? to
close your eyes in death, and after it to repeat your virtues?
In fine, are you listless, aimless, forlorn driftwood, left by
the surging current of time sinking and decaying in the
mire of inanity, none caring for you, and you for none? For
if not, then should the subject-matter of this volume stir
your souls throughout their innermost depths, sweeping what-
ever life-chords remain unpalsied within you. Nothing else
lies quite as near the focal centre of human existence as do
its affections, and this treatise shows all how to derive from
them the most enjoyment possible, and suffer least.
Its three fundamental principles — the magic power
love and the sexual states wield over all ; the great cause and
prevention of sexual impairments and vices, including resto-
ration therefrom ; and the endowment of offspring, each in-
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finitely important, this work grapples. To make many of
its now tiioughtless readers literally tremble in view of their
past sexual errors, and imploringly inquire, " How can I be
saved therefrom ? " teach all how to carry their sexual per-
fection and enjoyments up to the highest point attainable ;
and show all how to so form and conduct their love and mar-
riage as to ripen up into perfect conjugal and parental felicity,
are its most exalted objects.
As A PHILOSOPHY, too, a subject for study and research,
it has no equal ; because it embraces Nature's very highest,
deepest, grandest, and richest economies — her creative and
sexual. The scientific analysis of her male and female, love
and reproductive laws and ordinances, furnishes knowledge
more profound in philosophy, and more promotive of human
happiness, individual and general, than any other whatever.
Such, O man, and especially woman, is the dignity and sur-
passing utility of its subject-matter.
A EIGHT SEXUAL PHILOSOPHY, the great want of all ages,
it alone propounds. It assumes all the dignities and immu-
nities of a thoroughly scientific, yet practical, treatise on this
whole subject of man's creative, sexual, and domestic consti-
tution and relations. When before have they been discussed
tlius collectively and completely ? It asks no favors. It gives
no quarters. It rests its claims on its own naked merils, and
appeals to the good sense and self-interest of mankind.
8TATESMEX, DIVINES, PHILANTHROPISTS, PHILOSOPHERS, all
who think or care about human weal or woe, and especially
refined woman, ripened by conjugal and maternal experiefiee,
examine these doctrines and attest: Are they not true, impor-
tant, and calculated to purify love, and improve every reader?
Would not their earlier perusal have greatly enhanced
your oion aflfectional and domestic enjoyments, and dimin-
ished your sufferings? Cannot you, parents, elders, business
men, relatives, and others, instruct and improve your children,
wards, clerks, and young friends, by recommending or put-
ting into their hands this volume, with its lessons of warning
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and virtue taught nowhere else, better than by any other
means ; your own sad experience attesting that they should
be known early in life. Does it not enforce a vast amount
of those Aear^-truths calculated to j)romote pure, virtuous
love and connubial concord ? richly merit public apprecia-
tion for unfolding those natural laws and first principles
which govern man's domestic relations from their Alpha to
their Omega? and all so plainly that he that runs cannot
fail to read and profit? Let time and human experience
answer.
Parents, present it to your children seasonably to
guide their love element from its incipiencyy and to v/arn them
against youthlul errors in time.
What affectional or Christmas present is equally
appropriate or useful from and to those betrothed, or just
married, and even from and to incipient lovers, as furnishing
their true love and marital platform ?
It embraces "Sexual Science" remodeled, with "Matri-
mony," " Hereditary Descent," " Maternity," " Love and Pa-
rentage," culled, boiled down, re-arranged, unitized, enlarged,
and immeasurably improved in all respects; together with
all the Author's subsequent observations, aided by all those
heart experiences readers were inspired to communicate ; this
revision having received more labor by far than they all, and
deserving ten times more patronage.
Creative Science added, as a stand-point greatly sur-
passes Sexual Science alone, because both together exactly
express the real thought, drift, subject-matter of both — the
creation of " perfect children " — besides being more dignified,
while " Sexual Science " expresses only their instrumentali-
ties. Far better than any of its co temporaries, all of which
begin to build without any foundation ; one beginning
with marriage — yet on what does marriage rest ? — some
with the physical woman — only one foundation stone, &c. ;
yet behold in its first page on what basis "Creative and Sexual
Science " rests, and how triumphantly it surpasses all its peers
PREFACE. XJ
in lis foundation and superstructure ; first principles and de-
taiis; totality and minuteness; variety and range of subject-
matter. Please note the vast number of points presented, and
rapidly adjudicated. What does it omit?
It would not tighten any cruel chains now galling —
O, how many! — nor loosen any good ones; but gives a true
" natural laws " aspect of all the sexual relations, for the
guidance of all.
Its mode of treating its subject presupposes that what-
ever God has incorporated into human nature, men and women
properly may, should, will, MUST learn ; and far better here
philosophically than vulgarly from low associates, or self-
destructive "sad experience." Sexual Science omitted some
hard words, lest they might offend ; yet its hearty approval,
especially by women and mothers of culture, emboldens the
Author to omit here scarcely anything on the score of pro-
priety. It is philosoi^hical, while Mr. and Miss Proper are
foolish. Public opinion is fast changing for the better from
ignorant squeamishness to informed purity.
Brevity is the soul of authorship even more than
of wit. Hence, it packs the greatest possible amount of ideoA
into the fewest words ; often using the " ablative absolute,"
which abridges brevity itself by omitting " understood **
nouns and verbs, retaining only adjectives, — a most expres-
sive classical style improperly ignored by moderns. Cater-
ing little to epicurean literary fastidiousness, it presents its
thoughts, principles, arguments, and facts as clearly and for-
cibly, yet succinctly, as possible ; seeking mainly to be fully
understood, reach the head, probe the heart, and improve
the life of every reader, and adopts a plain, straightforward,
business-like style, without mincing, using those Saxon words
which exactly express the meaning intended.
An imperious mandamus, issued fifty years ago from the
Supreme Court of Truth, hereby discharged, compels all
these utterances. Humanity, receive or stifle them as you
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will. Its beneficiaries, please gratefully remember your
benefactor.
May it benefit every reader, and enhance the num-
ber and inborn capacities and excellencies of " God's noblest
work."
Explanation.
The first words, in small caps, of every paragraph express its sub-
ject-matter and specific idea, which enables readers to "thumb" the work,
glean its main thoughts in an hour, besides facilitating its review.
Supj^iiiOKS, or raised figures above lines, referring to its numbered head-
ings, enable the Author to refer readers to any idea, thought, topic, and
principle previously presented ; thereby saving repetition, yet enforcing
the subject in hand. Thus, the " Dignity and utility of Creative Science,"
is numbered 500, and referred to thus, ^.
Its Ni'Mr.iciis ijiocun, engravings included, with 500, because Human
Science pre-occupies prior ones, the numbered hoa(]in!j:s of which are
^Hven after Contents. Those who like tins work will find that better, and
more useful. These two works embrace all the Author's writings re-
modeled. Either work will be sent to any address, postage paid, on
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w<»rk. See the title-page of this book for name and address of the pub-
lishers.
COISTTEIN^TS,
mTRODUCTION.
WO. Creative Science : its Definition, Utility, and Dignity
oOl. Creative Science gives good vs. poor family Jewels
502. Sexual Science helps Parents create Superb Children
603. Generation vastly more important than Education .
504. All should study and obey these creative Laws
505. Mothers and Maidens must study Creative Science .
50G. Sexual Science expounds Manhood, and its Perfection
507. Womanhood analyzed by " Sexual Science " ....
508. Sexual Science promotes Esteem and Love, between Opposite
Sexes
509. "Creative Science " analyzes Love, and guides it arigh
610. Sexual Science expounds Nature's Family Institutes
511. The Importance of Making a right Conjugal Selection
512. Creative Science shows how to treat one selected .
513. Sexual vigor the great marital and life Prerequisite .
514. Improving Gender is Man's Summum i3onum
515. Creative knowledge will prevent and cure all sexual Errors and
Ailments
510. Right Love and Generation the great Regenerators of the Race
517. Phrenology teaches "Creative Science." Its Organs
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PART I. GENDER.
CHAPTER 1.
ITS EXISTENCE, ANALYSIS, AND OFFICE.
Section I.
THE DESCENT OF PHTSICAL SPECIALTIES THROUOHOUT RACES, NATIONS,
AND FA3IILIE8.
518. Creation God's Crowning Attribute ; Nature « (trc'iioflt Work . (Jl
519. All things classified by " Each after its own Kind " . . . (VJ
620. All Instincts, Proclivities, Ac, hereditary tt6
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PAGB
621. All National and Family Specialties, Likenesses, «fec., descend. 66
622. Longevity is transmitted and inherited 69
623. Tendencies to Diseases hereditary 71
524. Prolificality, Twins, Stature, Strength, &c., entailed ... 72
625. The twelve-legged pristine Horse, and other Aniniais . . 74
526. Marks, Deformities, Idiosyncracies, &c., often descend ... 74
527. Specialties often skip several Generations 76
Section II.
MENTAL SPECIALTIES OF RACES, NATIONS, AND FAMILIES TRANSlkUTTED.
528. All Jews inherit Abraham's Mental Traits 77
529. Family Idiosyncracies transmitted and inherited ... 79
530. Combined Parental Gifts redouble Progenal 80
531. Talented Persons from long-lived Parentage .... 81
632. Value of this Creative Capacity 82
Section III.
SEXUALITY NATURE'S TRANSMITTING "WAYS AND MEANS."
633. Gender adapted to Create and Transmit 84
634. Male and female created H6 all that Lives 85
635. Tlieir mutual Love Nature's Creative Incentive ... 88
636. Gender originates in the Mind, not Body 89
Section IV.
love: its analysis and functions.
637. Its Definition, Location, Philosophy, and History ... 90
638. Description of Love, Large and Small .91
539. The Sexual Passion its Incentive to Action .... 97
640. Stronger or Weaker in DiflTerent Persons 98
641. Love confers this Conjugal Talent or Knack .... 100
642. Preciousness of a hearty Love-Nature over a passive . . . 102
CHAPTER II.
THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
Section I.
the creative office of each sex gives its analysis.
543. Male and female Science defined 104
544. Analysis of Sexual Attraction and Perfection .... 105
545. Their Love must be Mutual and Powerful 106
546. Just what Loves, and is loved ; Attracts, and is attracted . . 107
547. Male and Female Heads and Attributes 109
548. Hybrids show what Traits descend from each Sex . . . 110
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Section II.
ICANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOVE IN MEN.
549. "Women love Male Strength, Size, and a Fine Physique
550. Tlie True Masculine Form of Body
651. Women love Courage, Force, and Firmness in Men
552. Women love Dignity, but hate Trifling, in Men
553. Women dearly love Gallantry and Generosity in Men
554. Man originates Life, and all things Human . . . .
555. Women love Originality and Talents most in Men
556. Women love Sexual Vigor and Passion in Men
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129
WOMAN'S CREATIVE OFFICE
Section III.
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN
WOMEN.
557.
558.
659.
500.
561.
562.
563.
564.
565.
566.
567.
568.
569.
570.
671.
572.
Value of Female Beauty . . . .
Value of its Scientific Analysis
Maternal Capacities alone beautify Women
Men love a good Female Body
A large Pelvis AVoman's Great Beautifier .
A Prominent Mons Veneris the most admired by Men
Ovarian or Groin fulness very Beautifying .
Why Large Waists deform ; small beautify .
The best Size, Weight, Height, and Color of Women .
Broad Backs and Panier.s explained . . .
Embonpoint ; or a Plump vs. a Spare Form
Why a full Bust and well-developed Mammaries beautify
Full Breasts beautify : why Men admire them .
Why Men admire large Female Thighs with small feet
The two types of Female Beauty — Rotund and Faun-Shaped
CrinoUne, Extra Skirts, "Breast Works," &c., explained .
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Section IV.
what mental traits in women men admire, and why.
573. Why Men love Emotional, Exquisite, SpiHtual Women
574. Love of Young a Female Specialty
575. Men love devoted Affection in Women
576. Men love Piety and ReHgion in Women
577. Women most Perceptive and Talkative, Men Reflective .
578. Reputation, Aristocracy, and Ton Female Specialties .
679. Caution and Gratitude Female Specialties . " .
680. Secrecy, Tact, and Artifice natural to Women
681. Perfect Women unite all these Physical and Mental Aunuui* -.
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Section V.
THE MUTUAL RIGHTS, DUTIES, AND RELATIONS OF THE SEXES.
PAOR
582. Males and Females should co-operate in All Things . . . J 05
583. "Women's Rights" antagonize the Sexes, and hinder Offspring . 108
584. Loved Dependence better than Unloved Independence . 10{>
585. How all Women can obtain more than their Rights . . . 170
586. Men's Legal Wrongs and Disabilities 171
Section VI.
8EZUAL etiquette, OR HOW LADIES AND GENTLEMEN SHOULD TREAT
EACH OTHER.
687. Importance and Promotion of well-sexed Manners . . . 172
588. How Men should Feel and Behave towards Women . . . 174
589. What is proper from Ladies to Gentlemen 178
590. Men, Women, Ladies, and Gentlemen defined .... 181
591. Female Fashions : their Injury and Rectification .... 183
592. What AVomen Require, and should do 186
CHAPTER III.
GENDER: ITS SIGNS, AND POWER OYER BODY AND MIND, &c.
Section I.
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES UPON THE BODY.
593. The transmitting Element in sympathy with all Parts . . . 187
594. The transmitting Agent a Spirit Entity 188
595. A Male and a Female Magnetism is the Loving and Creating
Agent 191
596. Signs of existing Sexual States in each Person .... 192
597. Love located near the Seat of Physical Life 195
698. The Voice as indicating existing Sexual States .... 197
599. Walk, Motions, &c., as affected by Sexual States .... 201
600. Existing Sexual States proclaimed by Forms .... 204
601. Fat and Ruddy, Poor and Pale Men 205
602. Face, Eyes, Complexion, &c., modified by Gender States . . 207
603. Posture, and kindred Signs of present Sexual States . . . 210
(504. Odor, Breath, &c., indicate Sexual States : Perfumery . . 214
Section II.
mind as influenced by different sexual states.
605. Love located at the Ai^ex of every Organ 216
606. Active Sexuality redoubles, Dormant deadens, Courage, Pride,
Ambition, &c 218
607. Different Sexual States as affecting Talents . . . . .220
CONTENTS.
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PAOB
222
008. Sexual Purity promotes all the Virtues, Impurity, all the Vices.
609. Temper changed by opposite Sexual States 227
010. Sexual Vigor causes Buoyancy, Disease, Melancholy . . 230
611. Effects of Puberty on both Sexes 233
(512. Value of a Healthy and Vigorous Sexuality .... 234
PART II. LOVE.
CHAPTER L
ANALYSIS OF LOVE: AND ITS POWER OVER THE ENTIRE
BEING.
Section I.
WHAT LOYE IS BY WHAT IT ACHIEVES.
613. Love analyzed by its Office 238
014. The blending op fusing Power inherent in Love .... 241
015. Parental Fusion improves Young ; Idiosyncrasies .... 244
Section n.
POWEB WIELDED BY LOVE OVER THE ENTIRA PHYSICAL BEING.
610. Opposite Effects of the two Aspects of Love .... 24B
617. Active Love promotes Muscular Action and Power . . . 247
018. Love doubles or deadens Circulation, Warmth, Sleep, &c. . . 249
019. Love redoubles Health, Disappointment Diseases .... 251
020. Intonations modified by Love States 252
621. Love beautifies. Disappointment saddens, the Face . . . 254
622. Active Love as affecting the Eyes and Color .... 255
623. The Manners immeasurably improved by Love .... 256
624. Happy Love makes all ten years Younger ; Unhappy, Older . 2A7
Section IIL
love enkindles, and deadens, every mental facvltt.
625. Active Love electrifies the entire Social Group .... 25y
626. Active Love quickens Force and Destruction .... 25«
627. Happy Love doubles, unhappy halves. Longevity .... 201
028. Love promotes and impairs Appetite and Digestion . . . 202
629. Industry and Economy redoubled by Love 203
030. Love enhances or deadens Secretion and Caution 265
631. Active Love inspires, dormant deadens, Ambition 260
632. Love revives or kills Self-respect, and Firmness .... 267
633. Conscience elevated or demoralized by Love ..... 968
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C34. Influence of Love over Hope and Despair .
635. Love elicits or deadens Spirituality and Worship .
636. Normal Love develops, reversed hardens. Kindness .
637. Love enhances Construction, Beauty, and Sublimity
638. Imitation and Mirth doubled, or halved, by Love
639. Love sharpens up all the Perceptive Faculties
640. Order, Time, and Tune re-increased by Love
641. Love redoubles pleasurable and painful Reminiscences
642. Love awakens and blunts Language and Reason
%43. Urbanity and Intuition enhanced, and killed by Love
644. Love builds up or breaks down the whole Being .
645. Love controls the Destinies of the Race, both "Ways
646. Why and How Nature effects all these Love Marvels
TAOS
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272
273
275
276
276
278
278
280
281
285
286
CHAPTER XL
MARRIAGE THE TRUE SPHERE OF LOVE : ITS DUTY, ADVAN-
TAGES, OBJECTIONS, ETC.
Section I. .
LOVE AN IMPERIOUS NECESSITY.
647. Action a first Law of Love. All must Love .
648. Love one of Man's most powerful Emotions
649. Duty of All to supply this natural Love Want
650. Nature rewards its Exercise, but punishes its Inertia
Section IT.
288
289
290
291
PAIRING THE PRIMAL LAW OF LOVE.
651. Monogamy vs. Polygamy. A Mating Faculty Necessary . . 292
652. Love instinctively Dual, not Promiscuous 299
653. Love Self-perpetuating, and Self-augmenting 302
664. The Mine-and-thine Intuition of Love 305
655. First Love always sacred, and exclusive 307
656. Public Opinion demands one Love, and Fidelity . . . 308
657. Variety is not the Spice of Love, or Life 309
658. Jealousy presupposes one Love, and prevents more . . . 311
659. What I saw and heard of Mormon Polygamy .... 312
Section III.
MATRIMONY : ITS DIVINITY, MISSION, ETC.
660. Marriage the only true Sphere of Love
661. Promise of Mutual Cohabitation constitutes Marriage .
662. Marriage a Divine, not Human, Institution
663. Marriage embodies mankind into Families, Groups, &c.
664. Gender fully developed in, and only by, Marriage
317
318
319
321
322
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PAOR
0C5. A Love Marriage a Sacred Self-Duty, binding on All . . . 32:i
6CC. Each Sex owes a Marriage Duty to the other .... 325
067. All are in Duty bound to Create 32(5
068. Appeal to Anglo-Saxons to Multiply 327
Section IV.
CELIBACY : ITS CAUSES, EVILS, EXCUSES, ETC. OLD MAIDS.
fi69. It deadens and perverts Love, and prevents Offspring .
670. The Causes and Excuses of Celibacy canvassed .
671. Responsibilities and Expenses of Modern Families
672. Sexual Mates indispensable to all Life's Enjoyments .
673. I can get none I will have, nor have any I can get
674. Excuses and Suggestions for Elderly Maidens .
675. All old Loves prevent new. No two can coexist .
676. Females taking the Lead in Courtship, proper .
677. No Substitute for Marriage
329
330
331
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337
338
341
341
Section V.
ITS AVERTED, INFLAMED, DEADENED, AND OTHER STATES.
678. The averted and disgusted Phases of Love 342
679. Its hardened, hating, hateful, vindictive Aspect .... 843
680. Its Violent, Insane Aspect infuriates all the Passions . . . 345
681. The inane, paralyzed, or deadened State of Sexuality . . . 346
682. Wrong Love causes, Right cures, most Nervous Diseases . . . 349
Section VI.
SECOND MARRIAGES, MIXED FAMILIES, MOURNING, ETC.
683. Second Marriages rarely necessary 350
684. Second Marriages are generally desirable 352
686. Step-parents and Children 357
686. Mourning for the Dead and Absent 358
PART III. SELECTION.
CONJUGAL AND PARENTAL ADAPTATIONS.
CHAPTER L
THE TIME, UMPIRES, PREREQUISITES, ETC., OF MARRIAGE.
Section I.
THE BEOT AGE POR LOVING AVi> ui nniNO.
687. Founding a Family among men ... .... 868
688. What is Nature's True Timeto GbooM and Wed ? ... 366
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PACK
689. Great Men come from Mature Parents 368
690. The Female determines the True Period 369
691. The Eighteen- Year-Old Fever 370
692. Important Difference in Ages • . 372
Section II.
IMPORTANCE OF MAKING A RIGHT CONJUGAL CHOICE.
693. It is a Man's Casting Die of Life 374
694. Whom she Marries, controls every Woman's Destiny . . . 378
695. Mutual Rights of Parents, Children, and Relatives respecting their
own and each other's Selections 381
%%. Parents should promote their Children's Selections .... 384
697. The first Stage of Courtship. Asking Consent .... 887
698. Self the only and final Umpire 390
Section III.
GENERAL MATRIMONIAL PREREQUISITES.
699. The Constitution, Organism, Parentage, &c.
700. Robust Husbands vs. Dandy Clerks ....
701. Healthy Wives and Children vs. Sickly
702. Industry, Housekeeping Qualities, Ingenuity, &c. .
703. Marrying for Money, a Home, &c
704. Handsome, Plain, Belles, "Society Girls," Beaux, &c.
705. Communicating Talents, Music, Scholarship, &c.
706. Moral Stamina Indispensable
707. Disposition ; or Temper, Kindness, &c.
708. Normal and Abnormal States, other Signs, &c.
709. Personal Habits, Neatness, Intemperance, &c. .
710. The Marriage of Cousins Deteriorates Offspring
711. A right Sexuality the great Requisite
712. Select the greatest Aggregate Combination of Excellences
391
392
394
396
399
404
405
408
409
411
412
415
417
418
CHAPTER II.
WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER; AND
WHY.
De Gustibtis, non Disputandum.
Section I.
THE GOVERNING LAW OF PARENTAL ASSIMILATION AND REPULSION, AND
OF PROGENAL ENDOWMENT.
713. "Many Men have many Minds." "One's Meat's another's
Poison." 419
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714. Superior Children the Determining Condition 421
715. Adaptation and Love mutual Concomitants 423
716. Similarity the Cardinal Prerequisite 424
Section II.
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE.
717. Parental Balance indispensable to Progenal Perfection . . , 430
718. When Physical Dissimilarities are best: Dummies, Dwarfs, &c. . 432
719. Nature prevents poor Children by Parental Repulsions . . . 434
720. Should those tainted with Insanity, Consumption, &c., Marry, and
Whom 435
721. What Deformities are, and are not, objectionable .... 440
722. What Temperaments, Forms, Noses, &c., should and should not
Marry ; copiously illustrated 440
Section III.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE,
723. When and why Similarity is required 450
724. When Mental Differences improve Love, and Young . . . 451
725. Improving the Race by combining Excellences 459
726. These seeming Self-Contradictions made Self-Consistent . . 463
Section IV.
PHRENOLOGY SHOWS WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, MUTUALLY ADAPTED.
727. Self-Knowledge the First Step in a Right Choice . . . .464
728. Phrenology tells when you have found Congeniality . . . 465
729. A Matrimonial Intelligence Office 469
730. Intuition, or " the Light within," the Final Umpire ... 472
PART IV. COURTSHIP.
CHAPTER L
ITS FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Sbction I.
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERROBS.
731. Courtship has its Science 477
732. Wrong Courtships spoil most MarriuL'-cs 478
733. Flirting; Courting "just for Fun;" (o.iuctry .... 479
734. Trifling with another's Aflcctions, most Wicked .... 480
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735. Loving is Marrying; and Involyes Cohabiting . ... . . 484
736. Liberties during Courtship. They kill Love 487
737. Waste no Mating Time. " Sorter Courting " 491
738. Love-Spats ; Testing Each Other's Love, &c 492
739. Faults, Every-day Appearances, Disguises, &c 496
740. Making and Receiving Presents before Engaging .... 498
74L Courting Sunday Evenings and Nights 499
742. Sudden Loves ; and Chance Marriages 601
743. Dismissing Suitors, undue Encouragement, &c 502
744. Breaches of Promise demand Punishment, &c 504
Section II.
JUST HOW LOVE-MAKING SHOULD BE CONDUCTED.
745. Its Pleasures ; and what it can Achieve 606
746. The great Secret — how to Elicit Love 608
747. An Exalted Estimate of the One Courted 609
748. Affection begets Love 609
749. Parental Consent, Elopements, &c. 510
750. How long should Courtship continue? 512
751. The Proposal, Acceptance, and Vow 513
752. Sexual Freedoms between Mating and Marrying. Keep Love Pure 516
753. Assimilation, and Preparation 619
PART V. MARRIED LIFE.
CHAPTER L
HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
Section I.
THE MARRIAGE, HONEY-MOON, AND RELATIVES.
754. The Wedding 62S
755. Sons and Daughters-in-law, Relations, &c 525
756. The first Married Year ; A Honey-Annum 629
757. Home ; Keeping House vs. Boarding, &c. 631
758. Conjugal Concord «;«. Discord: The Difference 634
Section II.
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULES AND DIRECTIONS.
75t). 1. Be the Perfect Man or Woman to your Consort .... 535
760. 2. Be the Perfect Gentleman and Lady to Each Other . . , 537
761. Praise v». Blame. Love-spats. All Scolds are Fools. . . . 541
762. Property in a Wife's Name. Mere Duty Consorts ... 644
CONTENTS. XXm
rAOB
763. 3. Sharing Interests, Purse, Knowledge, Everything . . . 545
764. Sharing Domitories vs. Separate Apartments 650
765. Disadvantages inherent in not Co-operating 552
766. 4. Moiflding and Improving Each Other 556
767. 5. Promote Each Other's Enjoyments 565
768. 6. Redoubling Love by its Redeclaration 569
769. Cherishing each other's Love a moral Duty 573
770. Love vs. Business 574
771. Love Seasons, Family Amusements, &c. 573
772. Model Husbands and Wives; a Perfect Union 582
CHAPTER IL
DISCORDS; THEIR CAUSES AND CURES; DIVORCE.
Section I.
THEIR EXTENT AND CURABILITY.
T73. The existing Amount of Nuptial Misery incalculable .... 584
774. How far is Discord curable, and Concord attainable? . . . 587
775. Indulge each other ; Agree to Disagree 591
776. Mutually bury all old Bones of Contention 592
Section II.
DIVORCES: WHEN, AND WHEN NOT, ALLOWABLE, AND BEST.
777. Infidelity deserves Divorce. Diseasing a Consort .... 592
778. Jealousy, Drink, and Other Grounds of Divorce .... 594
779. A Jury of both Sexes should decide Divorces 697
PART VI. GENERATION,
CHAPTER I.
COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONa
Section I.
ITS 8ACRBDNE88, POWER, SCIENCE, AND STUDY.
780. IteSacredness; All should Hallow it WS
781. Love is Desire to Cohabit with the Ix)ved One 599
782. Intercourse the Soul of Gender, Love, and Marriage ... 601
783. Its Powers for Good and Evil, Pleasures, and Opposite Effects in
its Two Aspects <>03
784. Its Science, or Ends and Means <>0i»
785. All existing Parental States stamped on Offspring .... CW
786. Value of Knowing what Parental States are liest .... G18
XXIV CX)NTENT8.
Secttion II.
WHAT CREATIVE CONDITIONS PROMOTE, AND WHAT IMPAIR, PARENTAL
PLEASURE, AND PROGENAL ENDOWMENT?
787. Platonic Love the Great Creative Prerequisite.
788. Cohabiting in Love gives more Pleasure than in Lust
789. Spiritual Love overcomes Passion, and Passion it .
790. Love and the Sexual Organs in Mutual Sympathy
79L Potency with those Loved, Impotency with Disliked
792. Love and Cohabitation are universal Concomitants .
793. Cohabiting with One while Loving Another is Double Adultery
794. Preparation, Habits, Drink, Time, Surroundings, &c.
795. Intercourse Stimulates every Physical Function
796. A Love Intercourse Exalts every Mental Faculty
797. Intercourse out of Wedlock : Between whom is it Eight ?
PAOS
624
626
631
638
635
637
638
640
644
646
647
Section III.
PHYSICAL love: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC.
798. Passion indispensable : Who should cultivate it? .... 654
799. Participancy indispensable, and Due from and to Both . . . 656
800. Passion Absolutely Necessary in Woman 657
801. It begins the Creative Work by Impassioning Man . . . 659
802. Female Passivity Hurts him, and Ulcerates her .... 661
803. Woman Man's Passional Governess : Should Learn How . . 663
804. Woman's Rightful Control over her own Person .... 6Q5
805. Female Non-participancy Infuriates the Male 665
806. Plain Talk to Amorous Husbands. What shall they do? . . . 669
807. Causes and Cures of Feeble Passion in Women .... 670
808. Woman's Love and Passion always go Together .... 673
809. Fondling Kindles, Scolding Kills Female Passion .... 676
810. Wife-Scolding Husbands are Fools and Lunatics. How to Develop
a Wife .... 677
811. Frequency. .... 679
812. Advice to all newly-married Couples 681
8X3. Producing Boys or Girls, as Parents prefer ; Twins, &c. . . . 686
CHAPTER II.
COHABITING ERRORS; PREVENTIONS; BARRENNESS, ETC.
Section I.
false excitement, haste, promiscuity, kept mistresses, etc.
814. Excitement, Embarrassment, Haste, Prematurity, &c. . . . 690
815. Is Continence necessarily Injurious? 692
816. Promiscuous Intercourse wrong, and Self- Punishing .... 694
817. A. Kept Mistress. Anglp-Saxon Sexual Customs best . . . 697
CONTENTS. XXV
Section II.
PREVENTINQ CONCEPTION, AND ITS MEANS CANVASSED.
PAGI
«18. Large Families ; Tainted Children ; " Few but Good," Ac. . . 698
819. Terrible Effects of Withdrawals, or Conjugal Frauds ... 700
820. Platonic Love a sure yet harmless Preventive 703
Section IIL
barrenness; its causes and obviation.
821. Sexual Inertia, Obstructions, Displacements, &c 706
822. Mutual Sexual Aversion 708
828. Nervousness, Sexual Inflammation, Nymphomania, &c . . . 709
CHAPTER in.
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATION.
Section L
the male structure: its parts, and their uses.
824. Need of Popularizing the Study of Sexual Anatomy .
825. The Life-Germ ; its Structure, Office, and Wonders
826. The Testicles : Their Office, Structure, Effects, &c.
827. Female Magnetism creates Testal Action, and Semen
828. How Semen is vivified, and transferred to the Female
829. The Penis: Its Office and Structure: Illustrated
830. Structures of the Urethra, and Prostate Gland .
831. The Penal Gland, Foreskin, &c., what they are, and do
832. Collective Position and Action of all these Parts
711
712
716
718
719
721
723
726
727
Section II.
THE FEMALE ORGANS : THEIR FUNCTIONS, IMPREGNATION, ETC.
833. Office, Sacredness, &c., of Womb and Woman .... 728
834. Description and Office of the Womb: Illustrated .... 730
836. The Vagina: Its Uses, Structure, &c 732
836. The Ovaries, Ova, Fallopian Tubes, Ac. ; and their Uses . . . 738
837. The Co-operative Action of them all : How effected . . . 736
Section III.
THE MUTUAL ADAPTATIONS AND CONJOINT ACTION OP THB TWO 8EXB8.
838. The Organisms of each Counterparts of the Others .... 786
839. Their mutual Friction rouses all Parts of Both .... 738
840. Pressure as Promoting Coition and Generation 739
841. The Pathic, Indian, and other Positions 741
842. Nature's Means and Mode of effecting Conception . .741
JtXVl CONTENTS.
PARTVII. MATERNITY.
CHAPTER I.
BEARING: OR ANTE-NATAL STATES AS AFFECTING POST-NATAL
CHARACTER ; AND WHAT ARE BEST.
Section I.
NOURISHMENT OF THE LIFE-GERM, THE FEMALE COURSES.
PAGB
843. Everything has its Mother. Her Value 745
844. How Germinal Life is Fed : Albumen: the Placenta . . . 746
845. Woman's Courses : they are her Test Barometer .... 749
Section II.
ALL existing MATERNAL STATES STAMPED ON OFFSPRING: MARKS, FURY,
GOODNESS, ETC.
846. Like Mother, like Child 750
8 17. All Maternal States affect Progenal Character .... 751
848. Opposite Dispositions in Large Families 752
849. Maternal Marks, Deformities, &c. ; their Causes and Cures . . 754
850. Ishmael, Samuel, Christ, James I., Bonaparte, &c 761
851. Bad-tempered Children deserve only Pity 765
Section III.
DIRECTIONS TO PROSPECTIVE MOTHERS ; OR WHAT PHYSICO-MATERNAL STATES
ARE BEST ; AND HOW TO SECURE THEM.
852. Vitality ; its Importance and Promotion 767
853. Maternal Sleep, Recreation, Nursing the Sick, &c 768
854. What Bearing Women should Eat ; Unleavened Bread . . . 769
855. Diaphragm-breathing, Tight Lacing, &c. 771
856. Importance of Muscle, Exercise, Clothing, Bathing, &c. . . . 774
857. Maternal Culture can Obviate Progenal Defects .... 776
858. Pregnancy Promotes Health : Bearing Often 777
859. Maternity should take Precedence over all else . . . . . 778
Section IV.
WHAT MATERNAL STATES OF MIND ARE MOST FAVORABLE FOR OFFSPRING;
AND THEIR PROMOTION.
860. The Propensities and Perceptive Organs stamped the First Six
Months, the Reflective and Moral the First Three . . . 782
861. How to produce Orators, Poets, Writers, &c 784
862. Producing Arithmetical Talents. Zerah Colburn .... 786
CONTENTS. XXVll
PAOB
86S. How to render Children Moral and Religious 787
864. Loving vs. Hating Children before their Birth .... 788
865. Fortitude; a Crushed Spirit; Fear, Worriment, &c 789
866. Dropsy on the Brain. Its Cause and Treatment .... 791
867. Intercourse during Pregnancy and Nursing 794
868. Mutual Counsel, and Paternal Co-operation 794
869. Appeal to Prospective Mothers. Their Vast Power .... 796
870. Appeal to Fathers ; Pregnant Women need Sympathy . . . 800
CHAPTER II.
CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
Section I.
LABOR-PAINS. WHAT INCREASES AND LESSENS THEM.
871. Signs of Pregnancy, and near Labor; Preparation, &c. . . . 80S
872. Severe Labor unnatural and avoidable 804
873. Natural Delivery easy 806
874. Causes of Severe and Dangerous Labor 807
875. Easing Labor-Pains. Strong Muscles. Boneless Babes . . . 808
876. What Forms should Marry. What Others? 809
877. Resolution vs. Midwifery ; Attendants, &c 810
878. Water-cure in Childbirth ; Flooding, &c. . . . . . 811
Section II.
RECOVERY from CONFINEMENT.
879. Drugging, Bleeding, &c., most Pernicious 813
880. Relapses, Milk Sickness, Preserving the Form, Ac ... 816
881. The Diet of the Recently-confined Mother 816
882. How to Promote Lactation ; Sore Nipples, Ac 818
PART Vm. THE REARING OF CHILDREN.
CHAPTER I.
THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
Section I.
THE NATURAL LAWS OP INFANTILE REARING.
883. The Value and Preciousness of Babes 9W
884. Right educational Principles vs. Empiricism 82*
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CONTENTS.
Secttion II.
THE NURSINQ AND FEEDING OP tJHILLREN,
885. The Mother's Milk the Infant's Natural Aliment
886. Regulating the Bowels, Summer Complaints, &c.
887. Medicines, Worms, Scarlet Fever, Crying, &c. .
888. The Best Time for Nursing, Weaning, &c.
889. What Children should and should not Eat .
890. Right Habits vs. Wrong : Regularity, Sleep, &c.
891. Ablution, Skin-action, Apparel, Bare Feet, &c. .
892. The First Month and Year ....
893. The First, or Nutritive Epoch of Seven Years .
894. The Second Period, or Muscular Exercise
895. Confinement in School below Fourteen injurious
896. The Third Stage, or Growth and Puberty
897. Precocity : its Extent and Counteraction ; Play, &c.
PAGB
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823
824
828
829
834
835
838
838
839
841
842
843
CHAPTER II.
JUVENILE GOVERNMENT.
Section I.
MORAL SUASION VS. CGilPOSAL PUNISHMENT.
898. Shall Children be Chastised? Never 845
899. Moral Suasion : Appeals to Conscience 847
900. How to keep Children from learnins; Evil 850
901. Cultivating vs. Repressing Self-reliance and Force . , . . 851
902. Train Children in accordance with iheir Characters . . . 852
903. Directing Will, instead of Crusbinir it. Pomeroy .... 853
904. Example better than Precept. Parental Lying .... 854
Section II.
MATERNAL LOVE THE CHIEF GOVERNMENTAL MEANS.
905. The law of Ix)ve governs all Things 855
90G. The Mother Nature's educational Prime Minister . . . • 856
907. Maternal Love the Mother's magic Wand ..... 858
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PART IX. SEXUAL RESTORATION.
CHAPTER I.
ABNORMAL LOVE: ITS EXTENT, KINDS, PREVENTIONS, AND
CAUSES.
Section I.
AMOUNT OP SEXUAL DECLINE AND DISEASE.
PACK
908. Sexual poverty of both Sexes, and All Ages 851)
909. The Physical Degeneracy of Christian Natibns, compared with
Heathen 860
910. Sexual Ailments ; their Number and Aggravation .... 862
911. The existing Amount of Sexual Vice and Misery .... 864
912. Abortion the Commonest yet Worst of Crimes .... 868
913. Venereal Diseases the most loathsome, agonizing, and fearful of
all others 872
Section II.
SECRET sins: OK WAENINO AND ADVICE TO YOUTH.
914. Personal Fornication the worst of Sexual Vices 873
915. Its Practice almost Universal in Civic Life 875
916. Its Prevalence among Females is Appalling 878
Section III.
ITS TERRIBLE EFFECTS ON BODY AND MIND.
917. It is most Inflammatory, and Exhausting 882
918. It impairs Digestion, Circulation, Excretion, &c 884
919. It benumbs the Brain, Nerves, and Mind 885
920. It unsexes, and unfits for Marriage, which it impairs .... 888
921. It causes Seminal Losses, and Enfeebles Oflspring .... 889
922. Self-Pollution as sinful as Fornication 892
923. Signs of Self- Pollution and Sensuality 898
924. Abstain totally, and forever 896
Section IV.
PREVENTIONS OF SELF-ABUSE BY KNOWLEDGE.
926. Knowledge is its sure Preventive 897
926. When and how should Youth learn Sexual Truths? .... 900
927. Clergymen in Duty bound to Protest against it ... . 902
928. Conscience is its great Preventive 904
929. Quenching boys* and girls' Ivoves originates their Self-Defilement . 90r>
930. Affiliating of Elders and Juniors of Opposite Sezet . . . .908
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Section V.
INTEBEUPTED LOVE THE CHIEF CAUSE OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND WOES.
PAGK
931. What does not cause all these sexual Vices and Woes . . .911
932. Every Iota of Sexual Evil has its Adequate Cause .... 912
933. All Facts prove that Blighted Love creates Lust .... 914
934. Reciprocated Love will forestall " the great evil " . . . . 918
935. Man the Special Guardian of Female Virtue 921
936. Seducers the very Worst Beings on Earth 924
Section VI.
INTERRUPTED LOVE CAUSES SEXUAL AILMENTS.
937. Happy Ldve promotes, unhappy retards, the Monthlies . . . 927
938. Painful Love causes. Pleasurable cures, Prolapsus .... 928
939. Ovarian Dropsy, Inertia, and other Ailments caused by wrong, and
cured by right, Love 929
CHAPTER II.
THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
Section I.
RIGHT LOVE NATURE'S GREAT SEXUAL PANACEA.
940. Are all Sexual Evils curable ? Yes ; even beneficial . . . 930
941. Aching and Broken Hearts ; and how to make them better than ever 932
942. Crucify your old Love, and seek Diversion 935
943. Love again : All new Loves kill all old ones 938
944. What shall Married Love Disappointees do ? 942
Section II.
RESTORATION OF THOSE SEXUALLY DEMORALIZED.
945. Repentance and Reformation Indispensable 946
946. Penitence presupposes Forgiveness 947
947. A Sinning, Repentant Husband, and Forgiving, Happy Wife . . 950
948. Love the only Salvation and Restorative 952
949. Personal Salvation possible, easy, and sure 953
Section III.
nature's provisions for love's right action and nurture.
950. Mingling of the Sexes as a Substitute for Marriage . . . . 954
951. A Plea for Dances, Parties, Picnics, Sociables, &c 956
952. Uncovered Female Arms and Shoulders ; its Pros and Cons . . 957
953. Female Society the sole Moralizer of our Young Men . . . 958
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954. Cheap Public and Parlor Amusements, Lectures, &c. . . . 561
9C6. Educating the Sexes together: Their Commingling, &C. . . . 963
1^66. Brotherly and Sisterly Affections 966
9o7. Fathers and Daughters loving each other 967
958. Mothers loving their Sons, and Sons their Mothers .... 970
Section IV.
THE CULTIVATION W. THE CRUCIFIXION OF LOVE.
959. Love irrepressible, because innate in all 976
960. Its Right Action with Culture vs. its Wrong with Restraint . . 977
961. Spies, Snoups, Eavesdroppers, Watch-Crows, Tattlers, Scandal . . 980
962. Sexual Individuality vs. Straight-Jacket Conformity . . . 982
963. Conversatories, always open to Both Sexes 983
Section V.
girlhood: its dangers, and a right ushering into womanhood.
964. An accomplished, " Female Educated " Ruination .... 985
965. A wrong merging into Womanhood 987
966. Sexual Inertia, induced by starving Love 989
967. How to preserve virgin Propriety and Chastity .... 991
Section VI.
the cures of male sexual disorders.
968. A Right love Cohabitation the infallible cure . ... 993
969. How Marital Intercourse cures Seminal Losses .... 995
970. Objections. — Impotency Explained and Obviated .... 998
971. Sexual Nausea and Aversions; and their Treatment . . . 999
972. 973. Prematurity : Ita Evils, Causes, and Complete Cure . . .1001
974. Lust dwarfs. Love enlarges, the Penis and Testicles . . . 1008
W76. Veuereal Victims fully cured by Themselves. How ? . . . 1006
Section VII.
promoting health restores sexualitt.
976. Right Hygienic Habita, Faith, Ac 1007
977. The Mind Cure : Taking nice care of the Sexual Organism . . 1008
978. Exercise, as toning up all the other Functions .... 1009
979. Spirits, Sleep, Bowel-action, meat Food, Ac 1010
980. Local Applicationa of Water, Electricity, &c 1011
Section VIII.
THE cure of female COMPLAINTB.
981. ProlapsuB Uteri.— Peautries.— The Bed Exercite 1016
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PAor
982. Visceral Manipulation, Electricity, &c. . . . . . 1019
983. Fluor Albus, Dorsal Pains, &c 1020
984. Miscarriages Prevented 1021
985. Evil Effects of suppressed Menstruation . . . . , . . 1022
986. Promoting and Preventing Menstruation, Flooding, &c. . . 1023
987. Analysis of Extra Fat, Immense Bosoms, Labored Breathing, <Slc. . 1024
988. How can extra fat Women lessen this Surplus ? . . . . 1026
989. What Forms of Breasts, Abdomen, «&c., indicate Female Health and
Disease 1027
990. Nymphomania: Its Causes and Cures 1029
991. The Female Term of Life: Advice concerning it . . . .1031
992. Changing Climates: California: Your own best .... 1033
993. Female Apparel ruinous : Its Revolution imperious .... 1035
CHAPTER in.
FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM: AND HOW TO PROLONG AND
REGAIN BOTH.
Section I.
FEMALE CHARMS AND GLOW WAX AND WANE WITH THE LOVE -STATES.
994. Female Beauty Perennial, not Ephemeral 1037
995. Sexuality the Creator and Prolonger of Female Beauty and Bloom . 1041
996. Love and the Womb in Reciprocal Sympathy .... 1042
997. All right Love-states improve, all wrong impair the Womb . . 1043
Section II.
A luscious BOSOM: HOW LOST AND HOW REGAINED.
998. Breasts and Womb in reciprocal Sympathy 1044
999. All pleasurable Love fills out, painful flattens, the Breasts . . 1047
1000. Husbands can " Develop " and lessen their Wives' Bosoms . . 1049
1001. Love Nurtured, Beautifies ; Abraded, Deforms the entire Form . 1049
Section III.
HOW TO PROMOTE BEAUTY OF MIND AND SOUL.
1002. Mental Loveliness the great Female Beautifier .... 1050
1003. Power of Love over Man not exaggerated 1064
Section IV.
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO OBTAIN IT.
1004. Rules and Directions for attaining Sexual Vigor .... - 1056
1005. A Perfect Sexual Life; Personal and Collective .... 1058
1006. Concluding Summary, and Appeal ...... 1061
TABLE OF ILLUSTRATIONS.
/lO. NAMB. SHOWING WHAT. PAR. PAO«
500. Phrenology Location, Number, and Definition of its Organs...... 517 67
501. A Jewish Likeness National and Family Likene.sses Transmitted 521 6T
502. Benjamin Franklin Family Likenesses Hereditary 521 68
503. Lucretia Mott *' '* " 521 68
.VM. Aairon Burr. During Life Love very Large - 537 90
50j. Aaron Burr, after Death.. " "* " 538 92
506. Infant- Love very Small 538 92
607. Gottfried Love very Large 538 98
508. Skull of a Maiden at 60 Love Small 638 92
509. Sherman The Prominent and Athletic Male Form 550 IM
5ia Scott , " " 550 114
511. Farragut " " " " " " 550 lU
512. A.Lincoln Too Spare 550 U4
513. R. E. Lee About Right 550 114
514. Stonewall Jackson Extreme Vigor 550 114
515. Caldwell Ma-sculluity with Prominence 650 115
510. Sidney Smith. Reviewer Ma.sculinity with Balance ~ 550 U^.
617. Edward Everett Stocky Manhood - 5oC Jir
618. Bismarck Stocky Men — Too Fleshy Manhood ouu Ut
519. Daniel Webster Premium Manhood xf. .17
520. Brigham Young ^ Nearly Perfect Manhood J5C 117
521. Caesar Augustus A Perfect Man /oO 117
5*2. Henry CI ay Nearly Perfect « 550 118
5-2:{. Baron Cuvier Perfect 550 its
524. George Washington The Perfect Male F!^^ !!.....!,"!!!!]1"! 550 118
525. Tliomas Jefferson '* " •• • .,.....!!!!!!!!!!! 560 119
52r.. Hercules - Perfect Physical Man' v' ^''''Z''''Z1Z''Z1Z''''" 661 130
527. MlasOtta. More Repellent than .nvltlng i.iL......*....... 659 IM
** -— '^ Male and Female Forms Contrasted 6r.l 15W
^'•' " " " " 661 138
5:w. The Goddess Ona A Perfect Female Pelvis and Form throughout 661 139
Vll. Menken 1"he Perfect Female Figure, from Life 662 140
" ' f •'>ng Deep che.«<ted 56.'-, 142
I ks; D. D, Ducts Internal Structure of the Brea«t.. 66S 14.^
A Perfect Female Bosom „« 668 146
n.. Minerva. ^ ^ ., Oval Type of Female Beauty 671 140
536. Emily R I gal. the Actress The Faun or Slim Female Flgur« ^ 671 l.V)
537. MI.HS Short ^ „ Extreme Rotundity 671 160
'AH. The Unice-H ^ The Faun Form in Perfection ^ 671 161
.539. Km |.r..ss Eugenie The Tn ion of Both Forms 671 161
MO. I'ow<r.sH" Greek Slave" The Perfect Female Form 671 \S2
Ml. Fan I. y Forester Beauty very lArge. with the Spiritual Tempera-
ment 673 156
612. The Devoted Mother, but Parcnul Love very Large. Amativenem Defl-
'•■""^ - It Wife ~ clent ....^« „ ^ 674 167
^*^- ' — The Childless Lover of Children « ^ ^ 674 166
^»* ' 0 Full. Parental
' ' is'<^ «. The Devoted Wife and Mother ^ -..- 674 IM
U.'s Mls~ W 1 um Rights „ „ ««....,^ 661 IMk
616. Head of Spinal Cord, and
<)rlgin of the ••'entlent
Ncrvcd ....^ All the Nerves Centring at Love ~-. -«-. M7 Wf
517. The Stallion In June Active SexualUy In Animals .^ ^ 699 XT
3 xxxiii
XXXI V TABLE OP ILLUSTRATIONS.
no. NAMK. SHOWING WHAT. PAR. PAOR
Ma Rooster A Courting Attitude 599 202
M9. Bull vs. Ox Difference between tlie Heads of Bulls and Oxen... 600 206
K>0. Bacchus Fat, with Amorous Excitability 601 206
Ml. The Kissing Lover The Natural Language of Love • 603 210
3&2. Miss Straight A Well-sexed Chest Posture 603 211
063. Helen J. Mansfield Breadth of Chest as Indicating Gender 603 212
VA. Love in its Anatoiaical Con-
nections Love Located near the Seat of the Soul 605 217
^55. Rubens. Masculinity Powerful 607 220
S66. Bull on the Rampage Sexual Action Ecstasizes all 610 2:^0
ft57. Caddie, the Look of Love Maiden in Love 621 254
558. Miss Gay " " 621 254
359. The Laugh of Love The Hardened Frown of Reversed Ijove 621 255
560. " " " " " " " '• 621 255
661 Emerson, the Idiot. The Offspring of two Sluggish Parents 718 432
662. Granville Mellen A Consumptive Victim 720 438
563 Miss Chubby The Consumptive's Wife 720 4:«
564. Miss Slim Slightly Consumptive 720 438
SeT). Stella A Weil-Balanced Form 722 442
666. Elia5 Hicks The Motive Temperament 722 448
667. Miss Harmon A Harmonious Organism 722 443
668. Mrs. McFarland Perfectly Adapted to Dr. Livingstone 7'22 444
669. John Adams ~ A Pattern Husband 722 445
670. Mios Exquisite Adapted to Mr. Powers .'..... 722 446
671. Miss Plump Adapted to Mr. Long 722 446
672. Miss Muse Adapted to Mr. Strong 722 446
673. John Tyler Mr. Crane adapted to Miss Partridge 722 447
674. Addie Fosbenner A Straight Profile, adapted to a New Moon 722 447
675. Dr. Livingstone The New Moon Profile, adapted to a Straight 722 448
576. Mr. and Mrs. Bibbs An Inferior Man and a Superior Woman 722 449
677. Governor Dix Adapted to Miss Square 724 466
578. Miss Square Adapted to Mr. Cram 724 456
579. Robert Bonner Adapted to one Tall, Prominent-Featured, and
Quiet , 724 4r»7
NX). The Marriage Ceremony 754 523
681. The Spermatozoa Structure of a Spermatozoon 825 712
682 The Human Bones and Muscles as contained in
" Semen 825 713
583. Shln-BoneofaHorse. (Hind The Rudimental Bones of the Extra Legs of the
Side) Primeval Horse 8-2.5 714
684 Structure of the Testes and Ducts 826 716
685 Testes and Epididymis in situ, and Tunica Vagin-
alis laid open 826 718
686 Appearance of the Seminal Granules 8'28 719
687! Appearance of the Seminal Liquor 828 719
wi. The Spermatozoa Darting 828 720
689 The Prostate Gland, Bladder, and Vesiculse Sem-
inales 828 721
690 Structure of the Corpora Cavernosa 829 728
591 Interior Renal Structure 830 724
692. Vertical Section of Bladder, Testicle, Penis, Ure-
thra, etc 832 727
693 Stnicture of the Womb, and its Appendages 834 731
594' The Ovum, and its Vital Centre 836 734
695 Diagram of the Female Pelvis and its Organs 837 73C
696. Papilla of the Skin. (After Gerber) 839 739
697. The Nervou.H System 839 739
69a The Child, Placenta, and Umbilical Cord. (After
Auzoux) 844 748
699 ••• Miss Normal : Unlaced 855 771
000 Miss Cramp; Laced 855 771
£9L ~ Water on Benevolence 866 708
INTRODUCnOK
500. — Creative Science : its Definition, Utility, and Dignity.
SCIEXCE IS THE embodiment of truth ; the sovereign fiat of
the Almighty Ruler of the universe ; the Creator's hand-
writing upon all His works ; and Hift divine mandates, issued to
all His creatures, which all are solemnly bound to learn, and obey.
Science consists in its ends, and those " ways and means "
which eiFect them. To guarantee results, and thereby enable each
and all to treat themselves to desired things and pleasures by
employing those means which cause them, is its exalted mission.
If chaos reigned supreme, how could any promote their own
pleasures? Yet this institution of science, by ordaining this
natural-laws or cause-and-eftect arrangement, enables all to bring
to pass any desired results by employing their specific means.
An invention how infinitely beneficent and useful !
Creative and Sexual Science consists in those natural laws
which govern N'ature's reproductive department. N'atural laws
govern all things, and attain all ends, the creation of all life in-
cluded. Only by their means are all forms of life begun and
consuminatecl. Its sole rationale is to establish the greatest amount,
and the highest order of life possible. By the superlative value
of that life it originates,'* and of its superior over its inferior
quality and amount,*" is the value of creative science. What ha«
not science achieved for man? — geology in discovering ores,
coals, Ac. ; cliemistry in manufacturing creature comforts ny bil-
lions ; arithmetic in aiding commerce ; and other scientific. discov-
eries innumerable; yet creative science surpasses them all com-
bined as much as that life it originates surpasses inorganic matter.
Pray how can any beings or things put forth even any one of all
their multifarious organs and functions till they are hrst created f
What but these laws, apnlied, sufjply materials for food, housea,
niiment, and whatever else is used in all kinds of manufacto-
ries? Must not trees be created before we can use their wood in
making all wooden productions? And in proportion as thefte
creative laws are allowed their perfect work, the more life will
they originate, and the higher its order. As farmers produce the
better crops and finer stock in ]»roportion as they apply Nature *8
85
y6 INTRODUCTIOIN'.
growth conditions in their grounds and yards; so equally in the
production of superior oftspnng. As breeding line horses consists
in applying equine creative laws ; so producing perfect children,
infinitely earth's most glorious product, involves the a})plication
of these identical creative laws to humanity. ' How mucli bcnelit
does man actually derive from the former? Then how immeas-
urably more could he from the latter ! As much more as " per-
fect children " surpass pigs and calves. Yet what untold time
and money are well expended on the former, while the latter is
ignored, even tabooed ?*
The utility of sexuo-creative science, therefore, surpasses that
of all the other sciences as infinitely as superb human beings ex-
ceed line fruits and animals ! Other .kinds of science need no
lauding: they laud themselves ; but creative science is their Em-
press : they are her serfs. All comparisons utterly fail to describe
its greatness, its utility. And
Its dignity is commensurate. What nobleness, what power
inhere in all science ! Then what transcendent regal grandeur
and majesty, in creative science I Ye angels who would study
all God's attributes, His infinite Wisdom, Goodness, Power, In-
vention, &c., united, find them all here, and in their most exalted
aspect. Mortals, what personal stulticity, what cruelty to chil-
dren, to thus ignore, even interdict, its study ! Accursed, all
progenitors who do.
This work expounds this creative science :
501. — Creative Science gives good vs. poor family Jewels.
Perfect articles are incalculably more valuable than imper-
fect. A fine horse, by losing an ear, an eye, loses half its value,
by breaking a leg, becomes worthless. A good garment torn,
good fruits compared with poor, a good man made a cripple, fur-
nish like illustrations. A child has all the human excellences
but one — lacks health, or sense, or conscience, or lies, or steals, or
is lazy, or cowardly, or heartless, let parental hearts say how
much less he is worth with, or more he w^ould be, without.
Many faults mar in proportion. How much less still if he
is both sickly and vicious, simple and thievish ? In short, how
much does every excellence add to, fault take from, his commer-
cial value, to himself and fellows? Yet what folly to try thus
to compute the value of perfect children over imperfect I Let
parental sense and alfection " foot up profits and losses," by this
measuring principle —
Pleasure measures values, pain loses. A good child is more
*In 1841, I paid in advance for the lectii re-room of Rutger's Seminary, N. Y., for a
lecture on marriage, and on entering was forewarned that if I applied ni^ snhject to
the production of fine children, its gai^-lights wcjnid be tnrned ofl", and I imprisoned.
I dared tiiem, and liave continued to dare their kindred till lo-day, as this book
attests.
INTRODUCTION. 6 1
valuable than a poor in proportion as it takes and gives the more
enjoyment, and a bad one is as much worse than none as it causes
more pain than pleasure. Let maternal agony over a dead dar-
ling attest its value; and let all the actual and possible enjoy-
ments experienced by a superb child throughout this world and
the next admeasure its inherent value to itself: and let all the
ecstatic pleasures taken in a splendid boy bounding in and out,
ruddy, merry, overflowing with joy, and scattering sunshine
wherever he goes, over a poor, scrawny, miserable imp, mad half
his time, and sniveling the rest, or keeping his parents in per-
petual fear lest any atmospheric change might endanger his death,
or his rage or depravity do irreparable mischief, attest the almost
infinitely greater value of perfect over faulty children. Kot that
poor ones are not worth having — " half a musty loaf better than
no bread "—but that all should do their utmost to provide them-
selves with jusd the very best family idols possible.
502. — Sexual Science helps Parents create Superb Children.
God lets parents "foreordain "the qualities and values of their
future little ones. He might have arrogated their entire forma-
tion to Himself; but, having guaranteed their general qualities
by His hereditary laws. He mercifully allows us all to say practi-
cally, each for ourselves, what shall be the detailed fashionins^
of our own young. A provision how infinitely beneficial I As
we can enjoy a house we have planned and built, the fruit of a
tree we selected, planted, trimmed, a horse we reared, after pre-
arranging his hereditary qualities, far the better than if we had
not ; so now much more lovely and precious our darlings are
rendered to us by our having flexed them into these and those
forms, augmented these virtues and lessened those faults, than if
they had been thrust upon us without any fashioning influencen
from us?
Shout hosannahs all mankind that a power thus infinitely
great, extending throughout all eternity, is thus j)laced by Infi-
nite Goodness at our disposal I A boon ansjels might covet ! A
l)ehest all mortals should [)rize above all price; learn throughout
all its details; and apply to the utmost progenal improvement
|)08sible. I
This knowledge, thus applied, this work furnishes.
503. — Generation vastly more important than Education.
How children are created mainly predetermines whatever they
Hay, do, and are. Why are all things what they are but becauH©
l,)rn — no ENOKNDERnD — this way or that ? Why do these leaves,
vegetables, trees, fruits, Ac, assume these shapes, and have these
qualities, and those those, but bec^iuse crcatm thus? What but
I'miffrnilal conditions rencler man human, and impress all their
ipecitic instincts uiK)n each individual creature and thing? Why
38 INTRODUCTION.
do cats love mice, and know how to catch them; ducks and frogs
seek the water and know how to swim ; kangaroos jump and
rabbits burrow but because of their constitutional tendencies ? The
adage, '' 'Tis education forms the common mind," belies and is
belied by all Nature, for generation alone gives all innate special-
ties and instincts. True, " Just as the twig is bent, the tree's
inclined," yet can a hemlock twig be bent into an oak-tree? or
anything but a hemlock ? Dogs bark and horses eat grass with-
out education, " for 'tis their nature to." Can education teach
tigers to eat grass, or chickens to swim? All education, to take
enect, nmst first have primal elements upon which to work, and
in forminoj character and moulding conduct is only a floating
mote. " filood " is mainly what "tells;" while all education
without primal powers to be educated, is utterly nugatory. Rate
education as high as you please, yet as forming and controling
character, conduct, and all there is in and of existence, here and
hereafter, it becomes utterly insignificant. Children well born
though left wholly uneducated are infinitely superior to those
poorly constituted yet well educated. What ? Why those poorly
begotten can't be educated, any more than a house can be built
without materials, or a silk purse made without the silk; while
those well-begotten will educate themselves, by business or books.
Therefore
Parents, provide yourselves children naturally ^ooc? not poor,
strong not weak, long-lived'"'^ not short, talented not simple, for
your educational expenditures. Since you are to make so large an
" investment " of dollars, of time, of soul, in your children, your
own sense, quickened by the greater value of good over poor^°\
forewarns you to provide yourselves beforehand with soul dar-
lings every way worthy all this educational outlay ; so that you
can have something to show for all these pains, as well as worthy
to inherit that patrimony all your incessant herculean struggles are
atoring up for them. To expend all this on natural born dolts,
churls, ingrates, or sensualists, is far more senseless than to till
barren soil, or invest in '' wild-cat " speculations: especially since,
by learning and fulfilling Nature's creative laws, you can secure
those both easily educated, and every way worthy of parental toil
and love. 0 prospective parents, do first think out this problem
of creative endowment vs. education.
Find it fully expounded in this volume.
504. All should study and obey these creative Laws.
God instituted them to be obeyed not trampled on ; learned
not ignored. What meant He by ordaining that all progeny
must inherit all the traits of both their parents but that all con-
jugal selections sliould be made with specific reference to the best
)>rogenal endowment possible? liis causing all existing parental
Btates to be inborn in offspring is His imperious edict ^ based m
INTRODUCTION. 39
aU the intensity of parental affection, and backed by all the
i^reater happiness and less suffering to parents and children in
t^ood over poor,'*' that parents learn and fulfil His creative insti-
tutes. Wicked beyond all others are those who neglect, but
blessed over all those who fulfil them : because it is not possible
for mortal to injure mortal as effectually as do parents children
by entailing vices or diseases; nor for mortals to bless mortals
as surpassingly as can parents their own darlings by observing
these creative ordinances. What crime as bad as for parents to
neglect a sick child 'i yet how immeasurably worse to render it
sickly by constitution when they could have created it too robust
to need nursing? The parents of a lying thief would feel and be
most guilty before God and society unless they did all in their
power to eradicate educationally what they had implanted con-
stitutionally ; yet how immeasurably worse their vicious hnprec^
nation itself? when fulfilling God's creative requirements would
have conferred exalted talents and virtues instead! Doubly ac-
cursed forever all ye who even ignorantly thus mar, spoil, de-
prave, God's pitiable children ! If your ignorance excuses you,
does it lessen their entailed vices? Prospective parents, have you
any conscience, any sense, about anything ? Then use both in
learning God's child-endowing ordinances.
Strange, heathenish, damnable, this neglect. Especially
since God rewards obedience. with man's richest, most luxurious
earthly' possession " perfect children ;" while it is applied to im-
proving fruits, animals, everything else! This cannot long continue.
Men, and especially women will soon make a literal rush for this
Bpecies of knowledge; brushing aside like cobwebs that squeam-
ishncss which has thus far successfully resisted it. Human na-
ture must always remain true to its strong instinctive love of
young, and will not let a fruit so Paradisiacal as perfect children
hang in full view unplucked. "How long, O Lord," shall men
apply Thy fruit and boast, yet neglect thy child-perfecting ordi-
nances! iSoon all will implorini^ly inquire —
How CAN WE START our souls' idols upon the highest attainable
plane of all the human excellences? Wait but little longer, and
Anglo-Saxon sagacity, sharpened by parental affection, will see
and feet that these <realice conditions tower in practi(^al import-
ance far above all others; that educiition is nowhere in compari-
son; that all human enjoyments, talents, virtues, and interests
converge and inhere in Nature's ante-natul laws.
Behold that splendidly endowed man ! Almost fit for heaven.
As a work, a commodity, a production, an end of liuman eit'ort.
what other bears any comparison ? What honor equals that of
his j)arentage! Yet destined to surpass his present self as much
as angels do mortals! Ilow all-glorious is human life! Yet all
its structural and functional marvels only measure the imi)ort.
ance of understanding its right initiation.
All this is expounded in this volume, but nowhere else.
40 INTRODUCTION.
505. — Mothers and Maidens must study Creative Science.
Mothers love own children better than fathers, '^^ ^^^, because
their natural nurse. What inspires a woman's hope, nerves her
every effort, develops every capacity, and makes her liome a
heaven equally with these family cherubs ? Her greater hajipi-
ness in good and misery in poor children than man's, make lar
knowing these creative laws more important than his. Igno-
rance of them punishes men much, but wxunen most.
Girls must learn them. Why your '' sweet sixteen " charms,
and toilet expenditures? To promote your marriage. Why
vour instinctive desire and half crazy efforts " to get 'married ?
'riiat you may properly become mothers. Yet slK)uld you not
learn how to have the best children possible before you begin f
take the lirst courtship step?
" Because it is improper, immodest, impure, corrupting, and prema-
turely provokes those passions which should slumber till marriage."
What ? Proper to he a female, yet improper to learn Nature's
feminine ordinances ? What 1 Knowivg your own selfhood, and
God's specific commandments to you^ corrupting ? What ! Modest
to have a female organism, and yet immodest to learn its laws ?
Pure to bear children, yet impure to learn how to have perfed
ones? Must prudery mar progeny 1 Must your ignorance of
these matters spoil yourselves and babes, as that of millions has
themselves and theirs 1 No, maidens; You and your future
darlings are worth too nmch to be " offered up as live burnt-offer-
ings " on this squeamish altar. By endowing you with maternal
capacity God commands you to observe its laws, which are His
edicts that you learn them before you begin. " Promotes })as-
sion?" Chastens and directs it instead. Attest all ye whom
Fccret sins have nearly ruined, did not sexual ignorance ruin, and
would not its timely hiowkdge have saved you ?
Women love this knowledge. The Author's fifty years' ex-
perience in lecturing to them attests this fact by their ahcags
apyiroving and thanking him more the more freely he treats these
subjects: which all female readers of "8exual Science " confirm.
He almost spoiled thirty years of lecturing to them by being too
modest, afraid of offending; and expected Sexual Science would
madden " the ladies," whereas it has delighted them by supplying
this feinale need and thirst for this particular kind of knowledge
here imparted.
All Nature's instincts are God's commands incorporated into
us. This inherent feminine appetite for sexmil and creative
knowledge thus becomes a divine mandate, issued to all females,
to learn and apply it; while this ignorance punishes them ter-
ribly.
A VERITABLE GoD-SKND this work tlius bccomes to all wives, all
INTKODUCTION. 41
maidens; one hundred thousiind of whom rate "Sexual Science,"
tliough not half as good as " thin work," next to their Bibles, and
above all other family helps. It is a fExMALE manual telling all
prospective wives, mothers, and maidens, just what they require
to know and do in entering on their most sacred and eventful
relations — tells them all about menstruation and gestation ; what
they should and must not do while carrying their children in order
to give them the best minds and bodies possible ; all about " con-
tini^ment," nursing, rearing, and governing them, and how to
render them naturally meclianicju, literary, poetic, oratorical,
artistical, mercantile, intellectual, musical, noble, aifectionate,
&c., at pleasure ; besides superadding the preservation of female
health and beauty ; the causes, i)reventions, and cures of " female
complaints;" passing into, through, and out of womanhood, and
all about themselves" as females : including how to captivate and
enamor the beaux, retain and regain a husband's atfections, —
thereby becoming a great female behest and vade ynccuw^ worth
more than all dresses, diamonds, education, everything besides.
This kxowledqe is your sacred right, your solemn duty.
How can you look upon any child your ignomnce of these truths
has marred for time and eternity? Flout that " public ojnnion"
by which "society" interdicts this knowledge, and here learn
how not to need for yourselves or daughters a doctor's expense or
exposure. Female readers, scan and proclaim its merits. Man
never wrote on any subject a tithe as intrinsically interesting or
momentous to all women, nor from a stand-point half as advan-
tageous. It will, it must soon challenge command, and receive
all-absorbing public attention.
To have been a persecuted pioneer in forcing this subject
upon human attention nolens volens^ will then be more honorable
and honored by women, than wearing crowns.
This work is this pioneer in imparting this identical kind of
knowledge.
506. — Sexual Science expounds Manhood, and its Perfection.
Masculinity exists, and therefore has its science and governing
laws, or ends and their means. This presupposes its riglit action,
any departure from which is wrong. Its exalted mission — to
originate and plant the life-germs'^ — of course analyzes it, by
showing whjit feelings and actions are manly, and what not: tliertv
bv furnishing a perfect touchstone to all men by which to govern
all their masculine feelings and actions. Pray how much is such
a tribunal worth to all men, throughout all time? What could
ft young man well afford to give for a pocket-guide to assure
him whether, wherein, and wherefore this, tliat, and the other
throughout all his minutest actions and feelings, are not manly?
All this, "Sexual Science" teaches by so analyzing male nature
42 INTRODUCTION.
as to show precisely what conforms to and departs from its per-
fect standard of masculinity."^
Ambition is a powerful human sentiment.^^ All instinctively
aspire to excel in whatever they attempt, be it farming, mer-
chandise, law, preaching, even cobbling. Then what ambition an
exalted, what aspiration as soul-inspiring as to become a perfect
man? Clay once uttered this sublime sentiment, "I had rather
be light than president," yet a sublimer is — "I had rather be a
perfect man than king or president ; " for they are man-serving
and man-made — often out of poor materials — whilst " A per-
fect man's the noblest work of God." Then strive, masculine
readers, with ''might and main," to become just as perfect a man
as possible. Yet this requires that you iirst
Know what is manly, and what not. A specific understanding
of the true attributes of manhood *is the first and most necessary
means of its improvement. This identical knowledge " Sexual
Science " alone furnishes.
To ENAMOR ANY PARTICULAR WOMAN, know just what to do, and
what not, so as to make your best possible impression — perhaps, too
good — carry her heart by storm over a hated rival, and render
her completely devoted to you and your interests, may yet become
your greatest life desire ; to achieve which you would give your
all, besides mortgaging future earnings. Gaining and keeping
the whole-souled affections and help-mate co-operation of a superb
woman is a loving man's greatest achievement. Its full value
no words can describe. He who has them, though poor, need not
envy any rich man who lacks them. God never made anything
more precious. Therefore
The art and nack of enamoring the female sex, or any woman
selected, is indeed the art of all arts. Compared with it, what is
knowing any commercial art, the languages, &c. ? What other
can contribute equally to your life enjoyments ? Or want of what
rob you of as much pleasure ? or cause equal pain ?
Gallantry is but a branch of this art. Pray what is it worth
to know just how so to treat " the ladies " as to be " popular,"
"admired," become " a ladies' man?" "A finished gentleman"
is the highest of compliments,^^®, as " ungentlemanly " is of
stigmas. Now know that
Manliness alone enamors, attracts, captivates, women ; alone
gains and retains female love, individual and collective: so that
lie is most admired, and loved by wife, sweetheart, and the sex,
who manifests the most of it in the best manner. Whenever
any woman loves any man, it is because he has manifested towards
her masculine attributes; but if she subsequently dislikes him,
it is because he has violated some masculine natural law towards
her; and vice versa as to women. Now knowing in what it con-
sists and how to manifest it, shows any and all just how to gain,
and retain female affection. What as worthy of masculine study ?
Find this knowledge only in this work.
INTRODUCTION. 43
Male science teaches woman also just how she should comport
herself towards all men in general, and any one man she desires
to " captivate," or live with affectionately ; as also how to avoid
causing alienations. What "accomplishment" as desirable as
being able to render the man she likes so completely, dotingly
devoted to her that, bowed with cap in hand, he virtually keeps
saying perpetually —
" Please allow me to promote your happiness to my utmost My
purse, head, hands, heart, with all I can get, do, become, are at your
service."
This analysis op manhood teaches her all this, and thus
enables any well-sexed woman to do just what she pleases^ with
whatever man once begins to love her.
To all men, all women of all ages and pursuits, for both in-
vestigation and utility, the study of manhood, its nature and
office, attributes and improvement, &c., as unfolded in this work,
has only this peer —
507. — Womanhood analyzed by " Sexual Science."
Femininity,* another of Nature's creative instrumentalities, is
likewise analyzed by " Sexual Science." All just said about the
analysis of manhood applies equally to that of womanhood. It
concerns you, ladies, to know yourselves, not as human beings
merely, but as women per se ; your special anatomy, physiologv,
adaptations, functions, offices, requirements, &c., scicniijically.
You, too, are ambitious to be handsome, well dressed, accom-
plished, courted, loved, married, &c. ; yet to become a perfect
woman should be your all-absorbing desire and pursuit ; because
this embraces and creates all other feminine excellences. What
but femininity renders you attractive, admired, courted, lovable,
loving, loved, selected, or hanpy in UKirriage ? *^ Every woman
who 18 true to her own sexual nature, thereby compels all men to
love her; and her own lover the most. Sexuality creates all lovo
between the sexes; so that only by knowing ,aiid riirhtly mani-
festing^ it can you attain all truly feminine "ends. This 8[)ecific
knowledge is imparted only here ; and with uuequaled clearnoes,
unction, and power.
Men should understand peminink science, as much as women
inasculine.** Those are wise who study, foolish who ignore, the
inexpressibly valuable lessons therein taught.
Thls book is complete touching this whole subject, concerning
wliich every other is silent.
* The P'.nglwh Lanfninw needs a word which ih to woman what maeculiuily U to
man; which, without Webster's leate, we "coin" femininily.
44 INTRODUCTION.
508. — Sexual Science promotes Esteem and Love, between
Opposite Sexes.
Intellectual perception of excellences is indispensable to their
full appreciation and admiration.*-^^ A jockey who understands all
equine points, prizes a superior, but deprecates an inferior horse as
much more than an equine ignoramus, however learned in other
things, as he knows more about horses. This law of mind pre-
vents all men from duly appreciating or lovins: any women, or
woman men, without first knowing their masculine or feminine
attributes: while all such knowledge deepens love. As many a
farmer, ignorant of its " points," wears out a most excellent
hoi*se, whereas knowing these indices of its worth would enable
him to derive much more good from it; so many a husband
having a first-class wife, lives on without duly loving, because he
does not understand her: as for a like reason do many un-
loving beciiuse unappreciative wives, of their husbands ; whereas
8imi)ly perceiving each other's excellences would redouble each
other's love.
As AN intellectual repast, too, no other equals that imparted
by this knowledge ; because it enables its possessors everywhere
to enjoy sexual excellences which others do not perceive.
" Sexual Science" reveals these signs of male and female attri-
butes and conditions, and thereby furnishes a perpetual " feast of
fat things " to its students. It likewise
Forewarns against poor and unworthy sexual associates and
partnero. What is it worth to any man to be able to discern which
woman is good, poor, medium, &c. ? and thus of women as re-
gards men ? This would nip many a miserable love affair in its
bud.
To enable its readers correctly to admeasure all the sexual
FAULTS and virtues of the opposite sex, is a cardinal object of this
work.
609. — "Creative Science" analyzes Love, and guides it
aright.
Love is Nature's chief creative agent. Its mutual male and
female attraction to and by the opposite sex is to reproduction what
chit is to vegetable growth — that from which emanate all roots
and rootlets, trunks and branches, leaves and fruit. Its power fcr
good or evil over every function of mind and body is absolutely
supreme, and literally magical.®"®^® Readers, how many of youi
own life joys and soirows, virtues and vices, has your love element
created? and how many agonies has its wrong action inflicted?
None at all realize either.
Love has its natural laws. This establishes a love science ^]\if^t
as mathematical laws establish a mathematical science. Obeying
them makes happy; '^ violating them causes suffering." None
INTRODUCTION. 45
can obey them without being happy in it, nor happy without
obeying; nor king or peasant be miserable in it without viohiting
them, nor violate them without sutfering in it, item by item.
Hence their fulfilment renders j)ertect love felicity as sure as
causation itself.
Knowing love's laws is indispensable to their observance. To
live a riglit love life one must begin with right love doctrines.
All individuals, all communities suffer inexpressibly from wrong
love,"* because they break its laws; and this because they know
no better. Ignorance, not evil intentions, inflicts most of this
misery. Has it not inflicted i/ours ? O what months and years
of aftectional agony, reader, has j/owr ignorance of this subject cost
you? would your knowledge of it have saved you? Teaching
Nature's love requirementswill substitute their obedience and
consequent enjoyment for their violation and sufferings. None
can at all afford to begin to love till they first learn how to ]5egin
to love just right.
SuFFERiNQ HUMANITY uceds many things much, but nothing half
as much as a scientific exposition of man's love nature, relations,
right and wrong exercise, treatment of lovers and consorts, &c.
An almost total dearth of this k^iowledge exists. All is
silent concerning it. The press exposes love's delinquents, infi-
delities, elopements, "scandals," &c., which the bar arraigns and
bench punishes, vet neither point out their causes nor remedies.
Even mental philosophy, pulpit, college, school-room, family, all
are silent here. Man gropes on in " thick darkness " concerning
this whole section of his nature. Suppose an intelligent, loving
youth should soliloquize thus:
" I must soon form my eventful relations of love and marriage. I would
fain begin and conduct them just right. Where can I find reliable guid-
ance, by following which I cannot err? I find instruction in grammar,
arithmetic, all the arts and sciences, everything else, but no school, no hook,
no line, nothing, touching this whole subject of the human aflTections. Must
I then grope in the dark in a matter thus injiniiely important?"
No 1 0, noble youth.
" But many, ay, most, actually do make complete shipwreck on this love-
coast. Then must I also run so fearful a risk ? Can it be so navigated ns
to always render this marital voyage perfectly hapny? Exist there »ure
preventives and cures of all these aggravated marital ills?"
Yes. And they are perfect, and perfectly adapted to all.
'• Then how f By what means ? "
By reading this book and following its directions.
Parents teach your children these truths as much as geogra-
phy. Are they not as useful and promotive of liaj)pine88 as arith-
46 INTRODUCTION.
metic? Then put this volume into their hands seasonably to
become their atfectional guide. What would it have done for
you? Then bestow this boon on them.
Ye who suffer love's shipwreck tind here wherein you erred,
and how to convert your very sufTerings into enjoyments, llo 1
all ye who have a love Nature, learn in these pages, what you
can learn nowhere else, how to begin and conduct your love aft'airs
aright.
510. — Sexual Science expounds ITature's Family Institutes.
The family, one of Nature's creative agents, is engraven into
man and therefore has its science^ laws, rights, wrongs, and true
mode of formation and management, from beginning to end. To
found and conduct a family is one of the greatest of human achieve-
ments, and must not be bungled. A very sharp two-edged
eworS, it cuts fearfully for evil, unless for good. Than a right
family nothing is better; than a wrong, nothing worse.
As a power among men likewise, it has no peer. It is the
foundation of all human society and institutions; the fountain of
all laws and customs ; the crowned head of all governments ; the
instructor of all nations; the vestibule of all religions; the great
motor-wheel of all industries and commerce; the heart's core of
humanity ; and Nature's prime instrumentality of all the powers
and virtues, joys and hopes, and very existence even of the race
itself! All human interests, throughout all their ramifications,
spring from it as their fountain-head and all-determining condition.
A right or wrong family among all the nations and peoples
over the face of this whole earth, makes right or wrong nations
and peoples. Of this the Jews and Gentiles, Picts and Turks,
English and Indian, savage and civilized, furnish contrasted ex-
amples. Though ranged oy cold bleak hills, yet Scotland 's/a?7i%
institutes are among the best on earth : and behold her sons and
daughters ! Is hard work anywhere to be done and rewarded,
some shrewd Pict stands ever ready for the toil and its gold.
Seek 3'ou any fat office, be supple, or some shrewd Scotchman
will snatch it from your grasp. Who is better to study, investi-
gate, write, or accomplish ? Or does true piety glow anywhere
on earth more brightly than on the family altars of " Highland
Heathers " and the *' Sea-girt Isle" ? Where is human nature less
faulty and more perfect than in "Merry Old England"?
" In progressive New England."
Granted ; but where else are both family customs and humanity
equally perfect? Yet springs not her mighty power, throughout
our great nation and the world, from her firesides ? Thank God
for Puritanical /am?7y habits. Wherever she goes she transplants
rhem, and they carry her moral power along pari passu with them ;
INTRODUCrrON. 4/
and have done for her and all the vast regions she has peopled,
whatever Puritanism has done. Her very religion is due mainly
to her devout family altars. Demolish them, and where wouhl
soon he her institutions of learning, her energy, talents, virtues,
everything good ? But for her family religion, how long would
her "common schools," colleges, or churches stand, except as me-
mentos of her fall ? And if they were gone, how great the hiatus?
How little, how worthless the remainder!
Blot out the family, and what hecoraes of the state? This
grand trunk of our great Republic, with all its branches, foliage,
and fruit, our glorious battle-fields included, grew up from this
family tap-root and rootlets. 0 mv country, be entreated to pause
in thy giddy race, and ponder well at least this one lesson : that,
as a riglit family bequeathed all these blessings in which we luxu-
riate, even revel ; so thy future greatness, glory, and power de-
jiend mainly on the domestic education thy sons and daughters
receive. Preserve the family, and you preserve all ; but dete-
riorate it, and you deteriorate all. And should it ever decline
and die, as when the heart of yon great oak perishes, its trunk,
roots, branches, leaves, fruit, all must soon rot ; so all our national
and social institutes and joys must necessarily wither and die
with it.
Missionaries and savans, patriots and politicians, writers and
lecturers, conservatives and progressives, one and all any way
interested £o improve man, set about improving the family as the
one means of improving our country's industry and commerce,
schools and colleges, civil and moral institutions, and all her
interests whatsoever. I would not turn ahirmist, but, O my dear
country, be entreated to take timely warning and guidance, for
obviously thy family discipline is waning throughout all thy
borders, while hundreds of canker-worms — celibacy, preventions,
abortions, sexual degeneracy, Ac. — are perpetually gnawing at its
very tap-root. Yet rectify this key-stone of thy colossal arch, and
the towering grandeur of thy prospective superstructure, like yon
whirlwind, enlarging as it rises, will soon spread out into bound-
less, endless space. Only keep thy domestic core *' all right," and
no limits can contract thy future greatness and power. Thou
Hhalt soon surpass the whole world in arts, letters, inventions, and
progress; and govern it politically and financially, by sea and on
land, in ethics and in morals; besides covering it all over with
thy people and institutions. Even imagination cannot stretch
high and far enough to conceive thy destined elevation and
power. Yet be not intoxicated therewith ; but learn from all
jKjrsons, peoples, and nations, past and present, that all errors and
improvements, goods and evils, right and wrong usages engrafted
upon the family, work themselves out, like sap, throughout all
human institutions. Then
Let this work, in true patriotic philanthropy, hold before thy
48 INTRODUCTION.
face Nature's mirror of a perfect family ; and teach her domestic
mandates and principles, hiws and details : for it goes clear down to
the very heart's core of tliis whole subject, as nothing else doe*
or can do. It shows how to take its first step just right by
511. The Importancb of Making a right Conjugal Selection.
A PERFECTLY HAPPY MARRIAGE 13 the greatest end, work, dbject,
men are permitted to achieve: and this is doubly true of women.
Bungle what else you will, but don't bungle this.
Starting out just right on this marital voyage, is all-important.
No words can tell how infinitely ramified the difference between
marrying this one or that. This one may be best per se, yet a
poor conjugal partner for ?/o?/, though precisely adapted to another;
while that one, poorer as such, may make you much the best hus-
band or wife. ''One's meat is another's poison." Hence each
should learn which is meat, and which is poison, to each. Many
make, or afterwards think they have made, a poor choice: and
if no obstacles, such as children, reproach, property, &c., hindered,
get divorced, and select others. Then are you so much more
''knowing" than they as to be in no like danger? Nature's laws
of male and female attraction and repulsion are just as absolute
as those of gravity. Be entreated, then, by selecting in accord-
ance with them, to make home happy and children perfect,
instead of, by a wrong choice, making home a purgatory, with
poor children, or none.
This work shows who are and are not thus mutually adapted ;
and that so plainly and fully that none need ever be in doubt as
to whether this, that, or the other one is or is not specifically
adapted to his or her own individual requirements: rendering
this eventful matter just as lucid as noon-day; unfolding it from
first to last, by giving both its governing laws, and their detailed
applications, general and specific ; besides unfolding a species of
knowledge entirely new, found nowhere else, applicable and use-
ful to all, and n public good of the very highest individual
moment.
512. Creative Science shows how to treat one selected.
Husbands and wives by millions set sail on this marital voyage
with the very best intentions, each resolved to do every possible
thing to perpetuate love, and avoid discord; yet before they have
sailed far, both have unwittingly alienated and spoiled each other;
thus rendering their lives a marital penance; whereas the same
efforts, guided by knowing beforehand what must inevitably
enamor and what alienate, would have rendered both perfectly
happy throughout their married lives.
Husbands, to enamor your wife, and redouble her love concerns
every interest of yOur entire life, every fiber of your whole being,
more than anything else whatever; because her love is your per-
INTRODUCTION. 49
petual bliss, her indifference your chronic disappointment, her
antagonism or hate your unrelieved agony. Kow being the true
man towards her, both secures this bliss, and precludes that
agony .^^ And, wives, all this, and much more, is doubly true of
you.-^
Your marriage, by being a mutual agreement to. execute IS'a-
ture's creative function together,^'^^ puts all your mutual inter-re-
lations under the creative laws, thereby re(:[ui ring you to treat each
other in accord with them, or suffer nmtual alienation. Keither
may treat the other just as you individually j»lease, but both are
morally bound to conduct towards each other as these laws com-
mand. As far as you do, you enamor ;^ wherein you fail, you
alienate. You coju/Mi each other to love you in exact proportion
as you treat each other on this sexual plane; and to hate wherein
you fail. Neither of you loves nor hates the other by chance,
out only because, and as far as, you treat each as your creative
partner; irrespective of your intentions. All conjugal discords
can therefore be j>revented, and perfect felicity rendered sure,
simply by each fullilling these creative requirements which under-
lie your marriage. Knowing them is therefore as important as
are your nmtual affections, and good children.
This work expounds tuese creative laws, and thereby teaches
all husbands and wives just whnt treatment of each other, item
by item, in fulfilling these creative requirements, enamors, and
what alienates by their violation ; including just what is right, and
what wrong, and why, throughout all their mutual inter-rela-
tions; thereby becoming a perfectly reliable quhfr to conjugal
lelicity, and antidote to all discords: completely cultivating tliia
whole field of human inquiry; and all so plainly, practically,
fully, that even the unlettered need not err.
Young lovers, incorporate its teachings into your courtship
and married life, and attest whether they do not immeasurably
enhance your life-long affectional enjoyments.
Ye married, who love less tban you could and would, the more
you practice these directions, the more you will love, and jar the
less; for it certainly does show the hidden causes of discord, and
means of promoting concord.
" Ye disconsolate," who are married yet unmatched ; who
love some yet wrangle more; who pine for congeniality only to
be tantalized by want of it ; who enjoy however little, and suffer
however much; whose alienation is even complete; and who
loathe instead of loving; if you really desire to live affection-
ately witli each other, read these pages each sepanitely, and then
both together, commenting as you "read, both putting its teach-
ings into practice, and they will gradually melt down your aui
mosities, re-enkindle love, and regenerate both.
4
r»<> INTRODUCTION.
613. — Sexual vigor the great marital and Life Prerequisite.
Gender is to marriage and offspring what seed and soil are to
crops, and the paramount attribute of all men, all women, with-
out which all else is nugatory. A good sexual constitution is
the specific marrying, marriageable, and creative requisite. Ah
a good stomach is necessary to a hearty appetite and good diges-
tion ; so a vigorous love elanent is the first condition of conjugal
felicity, and fine children. And as a miserable dys|)ei)tic can
neither relish nor digest even good food; so a sexually impaired
Imsband can neither love nor produce good children with ever so
good a wife and bearer; nor can a sexually feeble or ailing wife
love or bear good children by a husband and father however
good. Manhood and womanhood are to marriage and offspring
what motive power is to machinery ; all moving slowly when
this is weak, but rapidly and powerfully when it is vigorous.^'
Millions are dissatisfied with their husbands and wives for pre-
cisely the same reason that dyspeptics are with their dinners:
namely, because their own sexual deficiency has rendered them
sexually dainty and qualmish. Even the very excellences of
their conjugal mates nauseate them. Nor could they love an
angel husband or v/ife, nor have children worth having, till they
get themselves into a good sexual condition. The unhappy mar-
riages of these degenerate days are due chiefly to sexual degen-
eracies, not disadaptations, and can be cured not by divorce, but
by sexual hijgiene.
Children by millions are DOOMED*by this same degeneracy to
premature graves ; agonizing mourners by scores of millions, and
forestalling their own productions and enjoyments if they had
lived, and of their descendants forever. And many who do live,
have barely life force enough not to die. One child from ])arents
in sexual health and vigor is to itself, parents, and mankind,
worth a score from the srime parents impaired sexually, though
the same in all other respects. Hence.
Improving this sexual origin of all life, improves its entire
issues forever'. It full, all human interests overflow with burst-
ing capacities and exultant enjoyments: it low, all the springs
and rivulets of all things human, throughout all their meandcr-
ings, are sluggish. Whatever poisons it, poisons all human
capacities and enjoyments forever; blighting all they should
nourish; aggravating the thirst they were created to assuage;
and jioisoning all partakers.
Our xMAGnificent world, created to endure *' till time shall be
no longer," is destined to be filledand kept packed full, clear uji
the habitable sides of all mountains, and down to all crooked
shores, with untold myriads living on water, up to its utmost
capacities, immeasurably augmented, for sui)])lying the necessaries
of life — all now an<l ever on earth being but a droj» in the bucket,
compared wit ii tho-c yet to be.
IXTUODUCTION. i>\
CrBNDER ALONE must Originate all this infinitude of all earth's
f.ioducts. And as rivers can never rise higher than their souivos ;
sf» neither intlividuals nor tlie race can ever exceed in quality'
or quantity that sexual fountain-head in which thoy originate.
Therefore
514. — Improving Gender is Man's Summum Bonum.
Parental capacity is the great want of the race. " More popu-
lation " is the deafening cry from prairie and mountain, east and
west, north and south, north-west and south-west, railroads and
farms. States send out emigration agents and pamphlets, yet all
omit their home prod'inthn.^ as to both numbers and quality. More
population, and better, is our nation's great want. ISome cry more
cotton, others more cereals, others more manufacturing produc-
tion, but more and better f^exual production is the world's para-
mount requirement. As he is a public benefactor who makes two
blades of grass grow where only one grew before ; so he is man's
greatest who produces or guides others in producing two to one hu-
man beings ; and saves from premature death those already produced.
These august objects '' Creative Science " kiscribes on its hoisted
banner ! Behold you any other on any other book a thousandth
part as useful? Or any other as much needed? Behold Mr. and
Miss Young America, and young Albions, too, as prospective
parents! What kind of " pappies and mammies" will they
make? Half of them miserably poor ones; the rest none. Be-
hold the mushroom babes of to-day ! Few at best ; and those
"upper story" ones, either toppling over into little graves, or
wilting in life's morning sun! Half our population unmarried!
CeUbfici/ becominfi the rule! Barely a couple of precocious chihlren
per family! Harlotage supplanting marriage, and mistresses
wives! Boys and girls by tlie million unsexing themselves and
forestalling their reproductive capacities ! 0 tempora ! 0 mores!
And old-fogy grannies, mostly in sensual breeches, with hands up,
eyes bulging, mouths stretched, yelling — " O don't — for decen-
cy's sake, for God's sake, don't, don't., 0 don't say one word about
sexuality, lest you shock public modesty — lest young folk learn
Bomething! We'll kill yon if you <Yo/iV hush up."
This B()ok nails its flag fast. It may be killed, but it don't
surrender. It proffers sexual knowledge to old and young, mar-
ried and single, maidens included, and defies all its opponents to
their teeth. Propagation, and whatever concerns it, is its theme.
To show men and women how to " multiply, and replenish, and
fill the earth" — fultil God's first command to man — is ile
exalted work. Criticise its mannerisms if you like. To pro-
mote creation^ and prom u locate God's creative command mrnts is \tf*
holy mission. Criticise that you who dare. This should have
beet* done before. Yet " better now tlmn never."
52 INTRODUCTION.
515. — "Creative knowledge will prevent and cure all sex-
ual Errors and Ailments."
Universal Humanity is now withering or rotting from one
or anotlier form of personul or parental sexual impairments. Old
and young, boy and man, matron and maiden, eaeli and all are
surtering throughout their entire beings from weaknesses or ail-
ments consequent thereon ; v^hilst most are literally perishing by
slow yet agonizing inclies from sexual misery of some kind.
Many of the fairest daughters and noblest sons of humanity are
moaning in secret over blighted love, preferring death to life, and
hastening their demise by suppressing their silent griefs. Others
by millions, married, suiter still more from sexual aversions or
loathings. Perhaps they attend djurch together, appear loving
enough, even smiling, yet the canker-worm of mutual disgust
gnaws night and day at their soul-centre. Others quarrel out-
right, perpetually venting their malice in mutual invectives.
Compelled by law, respectability, or children to live together,
each pours forth volcanoes of fire and brimstone upon the other.
Their entire beings are embittered towards each other, and every-
body, everything besides.^^ Their worst enemies need not wish
them in a worse jiurgatory. How awful ! yet alas, how common !
Behold nervous diseases, in frightful amount, half paralyzing
most we meet 1 How many young men, so excitable that they
can scarcely do business, — memory blurred, in perpetual trepida-
tion, violent -tempered, all their passions set on fire by this nerv-
ousness, and ]irovoked by this half-crazed false excitement to ten
thousand vices otherwise repulsive to them. Their constitutions
and morals complete wrecks ! Perfect viciousncss supplants per-
fect virtue. Some sexual errors at some time the chief cause.
Superadd that vast army of self-acknowledged sensualists of
both sexes, reveling together, and seducing all they can. Forty
thousand courtesans in a single city 1 though short-lived after
their self-abandonment ! And thrice as many paramours ! How
many ! yet alas liow bad ! Nor all enumerated yet 1
All sufferers from impairments, seminal losses, impotence,
obstructions, prolapsus, and all other forms and degrees of sexual
dilapidations. Few of either sex escape premature decline, or loss
of vigor, or else downright disease.
Behold lads and lasses by teeming myriads, half unsexed
before puberty by secret vice! thereby searing and undermining
their own and future children's constitutions, intellects, and
morals by wholesale ! The very nursery infected with this loath-
some leprosy ! Is it not hkih time some strong hand seized by
his horns this juvenile -slaughtering monster, all reeking with
the gore of perishing m^-riads, to stay his ravages? Must males
and females be rendered inexpressibly miserable by this sexual
element, ordained to make all superlatively happy?
INTRODUCTION. 53
Is THERE NO " BALM IN GiLEAD, DO physician " anywhere to pre-
vent, mitigate, or cure thsc miseries*^ Must all perish who iguo-
rantly err? For other ills Nature kindly provides panaceas.
Provides she any for these? Aye. And like all her others they
are simple, yet efticient. Sexual sufferers little realize how far
they are restorable.^ Yet they seek relief in wrong directions.
Millions consult doctors, and expend billions, without benelit, to
the manifest injury of their constitutions, and the aggravation of
those very ailments they seek to palliate. How can all such be
restored ?
By learning and obeying those sexual ordinances the breach
of which caused them. Every iota of such impairment, past,
present, and future, has, must have, this for its only cause, meas-
ure, and cure. But underlying all is another moral, still deeper,
broader, mightier, than all the others —
Saving our dear children. Are all these treasures of our
hearts, these cherub babes doomed to pass through this slough of
sexual demoralization, and become corrupted and impaired like
their elders? '' God forbid ! " The mere possibility should make
every parent shudderingly inquire, "How can mine be saved?
To /jnccnf is far more important than to restore. Can their sexual
purity be preserved^ and impairments prevented? "
Yes, ** glory to God."
How?
By promulgating sexual knowledge. By expounding those
first principles wiiich teach a right sexual life. To forewarn,
is to forearm and prevent. Sexual knowledge is sexual salva-
tion. Want of knowledge causes most of these errors, and there-
fore ailments. Header, were not your own sexual errors and con-
sequent diseases caused mainly by ignorance of these matters?
Would you have thus incurred existing ills if you had only known
beforehand what would certainly induce and what avoid them?
No words can [jortray what all of all ages are now suffering in
consequence of this very want of sexual information, unfolded
only by "Creative Science." That suppression of this knowledge
attempted by many well-meaning but i)rcjudicod persons, finds iio
justification whatever. Amaziiig that they cling to this error »n
spite of both facts and philosophy. Ignorance on no other sulv
ject is eciually faUil. Light on none is equally import^mt. For
want of it men and woman, lads and hisses, are unsexing them-
selves by millions I It is hiph time, O man and woman, inter-
ested in personal or miblic virtue and happiness, that this love
element, thus |K)werful for liuman wesil and woe, be scientifiwilly
analyzed, its natural history expounded, its laws, and right and
wrong exercise pointed out, and above all, the cause.'* of its im-
pairments and mciins of its restoration det4iiled. Wiiy should
this department of human science, second in practical importance
to no other, be longer condemned ? Have not men suffered long,
o4 INTRODUCTION.
awfully, and in ways enoucrh already ? Then, is not our subject-
>uatter, sexual facts, laws, and science, of infinite practical import-
ance to every sexed being 'i
516. — Right Love and Generation the great Regenerators
OF THE Race.
Man's future is destined to be as infinitely happy and glori-
ous as all the combined attributes of his loving ''Father in
Heaven," could render this the master work of His divine hands.
About as bad as he can be, he has been, and is. Nearly long
enough has he sinned and suffered. Shout ! for a millennium is
written into his constitution. All the evils and miseries, indi-
vidual and collective, over this whole earth, are sure to be obvi-
ated ; and a variety and amount of enjoyments more universal
and ecstatic than all human imaginations combined could con-
ceive, substituted. All vices, all diseases are to be unknown,
except historically, and his physical vigor and moral excellences
carried to inconceivable perfection.
A WORK HOW STUPENDOUS ! And how infinitely ramified
throughout every usage, every fiber of humanity. Who can
conceive its magnitude, its minutisel
Adequate ways and means, specifically adapted thereto, must
obviate all existing evils, and effect all this good. They must bo
simple, yet all-powerful ; created by God, yet employed by man;
for Divinity requires human sagacity to perceive, and agency to
hel]) himself to all His luxuries. Then by what means?
jS'one now used. Neither present temjierance, nor health, nor
moral, nor political reforms ; nor education, nor republicanism, nor
printing, nor preaching, nor revivals, nor all united, nor any-
thing like either: because they all merely echo exis tiv g ^'' ^uhViG
opinion," yet reform it no more than echoing rocks their echoed
sounds. Only some great fimdamcntal^ all-potential agent, by
seizing the core of man's being itself, and converting that chit in
which public opinion and all else liuman originate, can ever
effect this stupendous reformation. Then what alone can?
A right Love and Generation is man's great regenerator.
Morbid Love causes a large proportion of existing depravities,
which purified love would both obviate, and proportionally de-
velop all the virtues instead. Part IL shows that and why love
holds every function of mind and body in its regal gripe, to viti-
ate all when it is vicious, purify all when it is pure. Readers,
please put this sweei)ing declaration alongside of your own ex-
jK)rience and observation. Those who love in purity work like
rxiavers, and spend all their spare time with family always, never
in beer and billiard saloons, gambling hells, and brothels; besides
loving all that is moral and good, but hating whatever is wron ;
or vicious. Morbid love makes demons out of all men r.:i.J
INTRODUCTION. 55
women, Iiowever naturally good ; while pure love purities the
worst — will convert rakes, rowdies, drunkards, brigands even,
into good husbands, wives, citizens, saints. Behold all individual
histories as continuing this great truth. What but morbid love
makes or patronizes harlots V That monster evil, sexual vice, is
easily torestalled and cured by this means alone, bat by no other.
So is secret vice. All sexual ailments, as we shall prove^ grow
out of love perverted. Right love will sweep with the besom of
destruction into the ocean of oblivion all these, with all their
kindred depravities and s utter i ngs ; and they gone, what would
be left 'i Then superadd that good, pure, moral, normal action
of all the Faculties imparted by '' love pure and undefiled," and
we /ijwe a millennium, individual and universal.
TUIS BOOK SURELY WILL GUIDE AND KEEP LOVE RIGHT. NoW
superadd its other great thought that —
Creative conditiOxVS mainly '' foreordain " whatever appertains
to every individual and thing.'^^' ^^^ Seeds, not soil, govern all
they produce. Good or poor soil may make them grow faster or
slower, and training flex them this way or that ; yet the parental
nature of each is the great predeterminer of all qualities, all
functions. All this is doubly true of man. Children created by
drinking parents must be constitutional drinkers; begotten in lust,
must needs be sensualists "dyed in the wool," consuming thom^
selves and others during their short lives with erotic desires and
diseases; "begotten in sin and conceived in iniquity," will sin
on, sulfer on, till stopped by death ; and thus of all other parental
depravities; yet those created while their parents are cultivating
their talents and excellences will possess more than did thoir
parents. Those created in purity and goodness will " take to "
goodness as ducks to water: and so of badness. Fighting intem-
perance as now is like fighting firo with l)rooms, spreading moro
than quenching. Preaching now ailects few, little : but only let it
ehow the damnable wickedness of imjrrccjnatinfi children witb lust,
with alcoholic and narcotic cravinfz;s, with nervous violence, with
ram[»ant mercenary rascalities, with venereal poisons, with fei'i)le-
ness, with inflammations, &c. ; let it pound fathers for neglecting
or abusing their bearing wives, besides showing mothers how to
manage themselves during this sacred period; lot Doctors cut
their own professionr.l throats by te^iching their patients how to
Lwp themselves free from sexual ailments ; let the press propagate
these creative truths in pa[>crs, magazines, and volumes; let tliis
and kindred works be circulated by millions, put by i)arent8 into
cliildren's hands, studied and followed in choosing and living
with conjugal juirtncrs, and in the creation, carriage, and rehiring
of children ; and society will need .10 more penal laws, lawyers,
judges, jailers, " fiolicemen," or " lock-ups ; ' because there will
be n<» more tramps, burglars, drunkards, cheats, salary-grabber"*,
corrupt oGcials, Vwccds, rin;;s, l.arlots or their patrons, or d;>-
56 INTRODUCTION.
pravod classes of any kind ; no sexual diseases ; no celibates or
intidelities, or uncon2:cnial marriages ; no doctors, because no need
of any ; and no wicKedness ; because all will be ^' a law unto
tbeniselves." Nor is all this even half. Right generation, in
addition, will
Develop all man's capacities and virtues beyond all human
description and conception. Man is as good by Nature as God
could make him ; and right generation will yet render him prac-
tically angelic in goodness and talents ; as wrong now does stupid
and devilish.
These truths will yet triumph; because parents, especially
mothers, love their children, and take pride in having perfect
ones : and these two powerful sentiments will cornpel mankind to
perceive and practise these truths, and emulate each other in try-
ing to have premium offspring.
In the name, tljen, of the surpassing dignity and utility of
*' Creative Science ;" ^"^ of the value of perfect children ;^^ of the
eacredness of love and the potency of the family aftections;^"
of a right conjugal selection ^^' and treatment ;^'^ of the value of
sexual perfection ^^^ and restoration, ^^^ and of the regeneration of
the very race itself ;^'^ what unfolds Creative Science, and applies
its laws and facts in practice ?
517. — Phrenology teaches " Creative Science." Its Organs.
Its Faculty of Love constitutes that chit from which emanate
man's masculine and feminine constitution, the roots and rootlets
of pure conjugal devotion, the trunk of marriage, the limbs of
kindred, the twigs of all our family enjoyments and virtues, and
that richest and "sweetest of all blossoms andfruits, darling chil-
dren. The phrenological analysis of Love, and that social group
of which it forms the master spirit, dissects every social tie and
domestic shred of humanity ; discloses their laws and right and
wrong action, together with whatever appertains to them ; and
thereby unfolds all the causes of all sexual ills, and their remedies.
As its\analysis of Conscience teaches whatever appertains to all
rights and wrongs, of Worship to ''God in Nature," &c. ; so its
analysis of man's social Faculties discloses their ? aiionale., teachings,
and whatever appertains to them ; because they cnale all social,
affectional, and sexual emotions and actions.
Its social department is its most useful ; because it certainly
does teach conjugal lessons surpassing all others in richness, value,
and philosophy, including all man's sexual relations: in addition
to the origination of the highest order of life possible.
Scan this volume THOROT^(UfLY, and attest whether it does not
more than fulfil all these |).-omist.'s ; go right to your inner con-
sciousness; and benefit and instruct you above all your other
readings. Is not its QVi^Ty l*art, Chapter, Section, paragraph,
and sentence 6nm/^^/f/ of most practically important truths? Did
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67
as many niiglity morals or those as self- and race-improving, ever
underlie any work as underlie this?
It assumes, what Human Science proves, that Phrenology is
true, and applies its analysis of Lovc^ which originates gender
and ofl'spring, to the creation of the most and the best children,
and the improvement of sexuality.
Wherein it succeeds, accredit Phrenology; wherein it fails,
discredit its authorship. May divine influences assist Author
and readers. Ye whom it benefits, turn ''home missionaries"
unequalled, by talking it rifjht into your fellows ^and turning its agents.
Location, Number, and Definition of its Organs.
Fio. 500.
Its Faculties nrc suluiividrd into ninr group'*: ihc Animal, Domeatic;
Mor^i, Self-pcrfccting, Senses, Perccptives, Literary, Eeflcctivcs, and Aspiring.
58 IxNTKODUCTION.
Class 1. The Feelings, located in that part of the head covered by hair.
I. The Animal Propensities, whicii supply bodily wants by the instincts.
1. VlTATiVENESS — The Doctor ; longevity; love and tenacity of life; resistiug
disease; clinging to existence; toughness; constitution; hardihood, &c.
2. Appetite — The Feeder; "alimentiveness;" hunger; relish; greed, &c.
3. BiBATiON — The Drinker; love of liquids; fondness for water, washing,
bathing, swimming, sailing, yachting, rowing, stimulants, water scenery, <&c.
4. AcQUisniON — The Economist; thrift; industry; frugality ; the acquiring,
saving, and laying up instinct; desire to own, possess, trade, and amass property,
the claiming, mine-and-tliine feeling; husbandry; sharpness; shrewdness.
5. SccKECY — The Concealer; self-restraint; reserve; policy; tnct; cunning;
management; evasion; double-dealing; art; trickery; finesse; scheming.
G. DESTiiUCTiON — The Exterminator; executiveness; severity; sternness:
harshness; love of tearing down, destroying, causing pain, teasing, &c. ; violent
wratii; endurance of pain; revenge; roughness; cruelty; hatred.
7. Force — The Defender; "combativeness;" courage; snap; vim; efficiency;
boldness; defiance; determination; love of opposition, encounter, arguing, &c.
II. The Social Group, which creates the family ties, and domestic aifcctions.
8. Love — The Creator; "amativeness;" sexuality; gender; desire to love, be
loved, and fondled; sexual admiration, courtesy, and blending; passion.
9. Constancy —Fidelity; conjugality; mating; one love; marriage; trueness.
10. Parental Love — The Nurse; philoprogenitiveness; attachment to own
oflspring; love of children, young, pets, &c. ; that which cuddles, and babies.
11. Friendship — The Confider; fondness; sociability; love of society; desire
to congregate, associate, visit, make, cling to, and entertain friends, &c.
12. Inhabitiveness — The Patriot; love of home, domicile, building,
planting, &c. ; loving country, the place where one lives, or has lived; pa-
triotism, &c.
13. Continuity — The Finisher; application; consecutiveness; connected-
ness; poring over one thing till it is done; prolixity; unity; finishing as wo
go, &c. ; steadiness; diligence.
III. The Aspiring Sentiments, which dignify, elevate, and ennoble man.
14. Caution — The Sentinel; fear; making sure; carefulness; prudence; soli-
citude; anxiety; wiftch fulness; apprehension; securing; protecting; providing
against want and danger; foreseeing and avoiding prospective evils; discretion;
care; vigilance; hesitation; procrastination; indecision; changeableness from
fear.
16. Ambition — The Aristocrat; approbativeness; pride of character; love of
publicity, popularity, office, praise, display, fame, a good name, esteem, fiishion,
social position, ; sense of honor; boasttulness; brag; shame; forwardness.
16. Dignity — The Ruler; "self-esteem;" self-respect, trust, reliance, appre-
ciation, satisfaction, and complacency; independence; nobleness; love of liberty
and power; the self-elevating, commanding instinct; manliness; authority,'
domination; self-importance; hauteur; imperativeness; assumption; majesty.
J 7. Firmness — Stability; decision; perseverance; pertinacity; fixedness of
purpose; aversion to change; indomitability; will-power; obstinacy; reliability.
iV. The Moral Sentiments, which render men moral, pious, and good.
18. Devotion — The Woishipper; veneration; piety; churchism; adoration
INTKODUCTION. 59
of God; reverence for religion and things sacred; love of prayer, religious nb-
servances, &c. ; obedience; respect; deference; awe; humility; conservatism.
19. Spirituality ^The Prophet; intuition; prescience; prophetic guidance;
the "light within ; " foreseeing what will be and is; second sight; meditation.
20. Hope — The Expectant; anticipation of future success and happiness;
that which looks on the bright side, builds fairy castles, magnifies prospects, and
speculates; buoyancy; light-heartedness ; enterprise; promising; Col. Sellers.
21. CONSCIEN'CE — The Jurist ; integrity; moral rectitude and principle; love of
right and truth ; regard for duty, moral i)urity, promij-es, and obligations; peni-
tence; contrition; approval of right; condemnation of wrong; obedience to laws,
rules; confession; forgiveness; love of justice, truth, &c.
22. Kindness — The Good Samaritan; " benevolence;" sympathy ; goodness;
humanity; philanthropy; generosity; the neighborly, accommodating, humane,
gelf-sacrificiug, missionary spirit; hospitality ; caring for others, &c.
V. The Perfecting Group, which ornaments, refines, and creates the arts.
23. Construction — The Mechanic; ingenuity; sleight of hand in using
tools; invention; love of machinery ; manual skill ; dexterity; mechanism.
24. Beauty — The Poet; "ideality;" taste; refinement; imagination; love
of perfection, purity, poetry, flowers, beauty, elegance, propriety, gentility, the
fiuc arts, «&c. ; personal neatness; finish; style; eloquence; fastidiousness, &c.
25. Sublimity — Perception and love of grandeur, infinity, vastness, illimita-
bility, omnipotence, eternity, boundlessness, and endlessness.
26. Imitation — The Mimic; conformity; ability and desire to copy, take
pattern, imitate, do, make, and become like, mock, act out; theatrical talent, &c
27. Mirth — The Laugher; wit; facetiousness ; ridicule; sarcasm; lovo of
fun; disposition to joke, and laugh at what is improper, ill-timed, or'unbecoin-
ing; perception of the absurd and ridiculous; merriment; hilarity, &c.
Class 2. The Intellectual Faculties, located in the forehead.
VI. The Senses, or Hearing, Seeing, Feeling, Tjvsting, and Smelling.
VII. The Perceptives, which relate man to the material properties of thingSt
28. Observation — The Looker; cognizance of individual objects; desire to
see and examine; minuteness; scrutiny; looking; gazing; quickness of sight.
29. Form — The Speller; configuration; cognizance and memory of persons
by their forma, shapes, faces, countenances, and looks; perception of like-
nesses.
30. Size — Measurement by eye; cognizance and memory of magnitude,
quantity, bulk, distance, proportion, weight by size, height, fineness, Ac.
31. Weight — The Sailor; muscular control ; balancing capacity ; marksman-
Ahip; intuitive perception and application of the laws of gravity, motion, Ac;
ability to keep one's balance in walking aloft, riding, climbing, sailing, &c.
32. Color — The Painter; perception, love, and recollection of colors.
33. Order — The Arranger; method; system; having places for things, and
tilings in their places; observing business and other rules, laws, canons, disci-
pline; regularity; " law and order ; " doing and keeping every little thing just
•o, Ac.
34. Computation — The Mental Arithmetician; numerical calculaiion;
ability to reckon figure's in the head ; memory of numbers ; the accountant, ice
35. Location — The Traveller; cognizance and recollection of places, road^
60 INTRODUCTION.
scenery, position ; desire to see places, and ability to find any place ever seen be-
fore; the geographical Faculty; keeping the points of compass in the head, &c.
VIII. The Literary, or knowing Faculties, which learn and remember.
3G. Eventuality — The Historian; memory of facts; recollection of circum-
Btances, news, occurrences, events, and what one has seen, done, heard, said, and
known; love of history; knowledge; smartness; practicality; scholarship, &c.
37. Time — The Innate Time-keeper; periodicity; punctuality; ability to
guess what time it is, keep time in music, tell when, how long since, dates, &c.
38. Tune — The Natural Musician; tone; ability to learn tunes by ear, and
repeat them by rote; the musical inspiration, knack, and genius; memory of
sounds ; whistling talent.
39. Expression — The Talker; "language;" communicating by natural lan-
guage, looks, gestures, actions, written or spoken words, intonations, signs, &c.
IX, The Reflective Faculties, which reason, think, plan, and understand.
40. Causalty — The Thinker and Planner; reason; sense; causation;
deduction; originality; thought; forethought; depth and comprehensiveness of
mind; adapting ways and means to ends; invention ; creating resources; reason-
ing from causes to effects; profundity; judgment; sagacity; foresight, «&c.
41. Comparison — The Critic; analysis; induction; classification; ability
and desire to compare, draw inferences, illustrate, use figures, &c. ; perspicacity.
42. Intuition — The Physiognomist; perception of truth ; discernment of
character and motives; intuitive reading of men by minor signs; appro-
priateness.
43. Urbanity — " Agreeableness ; " blandness ; persuasiveness ; pleasantness ;
complaisance; suavity; palaver; that which compliments; politeness, &c.
Their relative power can be indicated by numbers, in a scale of 1 to 5, by
letting 5 signify Large ; 4, Full ; 3, Average ; 2, Moderate ; and 1, Small.
CREATIVE SCIENCE.
Pi^RT I.
GENDER.
CHAPTER I.
ITS EXISTENCE, ANALYSIS, AND OFFICE.
Section L
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES THROUGHOUT RA« !E8,
NATIONS, AND FAMILIES.
518. — Creation God's Crowning Attribute; Nature's
Greatest Work.
GOD the Father," " Creator of all," express His most adorable
and lovable attribute: for unless He first put forth His
creative capacity, how could He manifest any other? And in
exact proportion as He creates, does He thereby express all His
other excellences. How could He " show forth " His Goodness
in making His creatures happy, or His Justice in ruling then) by
self-executive natural laws, or His Wisdom, Power, Love, Per-
fection, Majesty, &c., or any of His other Divine attributes, with-
out first rrraft*/?^ beings upon whom to exercise them? And the
more He exercises this does He thereby express them all: for is
not this the embodiment and the only instrumentality of all His
others? But for it there could be no life, no functions, nothing.
From it alone all that is issues forth upon the boundless oceans of
Time, Space, and Existence!
Nature's creative department is equally paramount ; and for
the same reason. Some of her functions are relatively more abso-
lutely indispensable than the others — those of head than feet,
sun than glow-worm, kc. Then what one of all her o|x»rations
fronts right out as paramount in practical imiKjrtanco? Obviously
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62 GKNDER: ITS ANALYSIS AND OFFICE.
that wliich initiates life — that one great ultimate end of all
things terrestrial. And in proportion as she thereby multiplies
all her various forms of life, does the shining of her glorious sun
become the more all-glorious, because the more are lighted and
warmed by his rays ; and thus of earth, air, water, all terrestrial
provisions for all sentient enjoyments. And you and I, 0 man,
woman, with all our powers, immortality even superadded, along
with whatever exists, has existed, may yet exist all over the earth
throughout the infinite cycles of all her past, all her future, and
even thou Life thyself, with all thy wondrous workings and most
ecxalted capacities, are but its triumphal achievements !
"Multiply, and replenish, and fill the whole earth," God's
first and thrice-repeated command to man, was likewise written
deepest into universal instinct ; because God in ITature will not he
thwarted, but will have all His dominions — universal space — for-
ever crowded with being. All the happiness ever experienced,
all the functions ever put forth by insect, reptile, bird, beast, all
men, all angels, throughout all the infinite cycles of eternity,
barely admeasure the potency, the practical utility of this crea-
tive institute. But
Death is life's mortal antagonist. Both are forever was-insr
desperate war for supremacy. Remorseless dissolution, in ten
thousand forms, is a primal ordinance of IN^ature, both beneficial,
and absolutely necessary. Yet in one generation, unless check-
mated by reproduction, it would sweep every vestige of life from
off the face of this whole earth, leaving it one vast, silent sepul-
chre; tlius forever forestalling all that happiness now provided
for throughout the entire economies of space and being, time
and eternity ! Against a calamity thus infinitely appalling,
Nature kindly provides by ordaining that Generation shall out-
strip Death in swiftness, and rise above him in might ; far more
than repairing his ravages, and crowding earth, air, water, with
all possible forms of life and enjoyment ; besides forever rcpeo-
])ling eternity itself! A work how infinitely great and glorious !
Reproduction is a fact, a department of Nature, and must there-
fore have its governing laws. Being paramount, because origi-
nating all else, obeying its laws must therefore confer superlative
happiness, and their infraction inflict corresponding suffering.
Hence their exposition, our subject-matter, stands par excellence
'primus inter pares.
the descent of physical stecialties. 63
519. — All things classified by " Each after its own Kind.*'
Life must be infp'ITEly diversified in order to carry out
Xiiture's benign and universal '* policy " of the highest enjoy-
ment of the greatest number of her creatures. If it were homo-
geneous— if all that lives loved the same kind of food, crowded
into one *' local habitation," preferred the same everything, but
few, comparatively, could enjoy the blessings of existence. In-
stead, some genera and species should and do love water, others
dry land, and still others intermediate marshes. Some must and
do crawl or swim ; others walk and run, and yet others fly.
Some should and do browse or graze, others each feed on roots,
grain, fruits, &c., and .still others on other animals, carrion, gar-
bage, &c. This is Nature's all-wise " policy."
Classification, homoqeneousness, is another natural requisite.
Each kind must be sui generis, kept distinct from all other kinds,
and yet just like all the others of " its own kind." Lions must
be oil lion, not part sheep, or serpent, lest the lion part spoil and
be spoiled by the sheep or serpent part. " Each after its own
kind " expresses a law as universal as that life it establishes: and
absolutely necessary. It transpires on a scale the grandest con-
<3eivable as to extent and duration, illustrated by every single
root and tree, grain and grass, weed and vegetable, leaf and fruit,
all creeping things and insects, millers and butterflies, sea-plants
and shell-fish, toads and turtles, worms and serpents, fish and
fowls, four-footed beasts and human beings ever created, through-
out all their species, generations, and crosses, from the beginning
of time to the final winding up of all things terrestrial. All
elephants and horses, cattle and swine, dogs and cats, monkeys
and gorillas, along with each race of man, throughout all climes
and ages, including all their progeny and crosses, bear a resem-
blance the minutest possible, in looks, movements, structures,
and qualities, down to every bone and shape of every bone, each
to all like specialties of their parentage. All acorns produce oak
trees, which bear other acorns, and these other oak-trees, every
leaf of all of which is like every leaf of its parent tree, and like
all the other leaves of all its ancestors, kindred, and descendant* ;
«nd thus of all other trees, their qualities, and productions: so
that, picking up scattering leaves by the wayside, wo know defi-
nitely not only that this one grew on an oak-tree, but on this,
that, or the other kind of oak ; and that leaf on a soft or a hard
64 gender: its analysis and office..
maple, and the other on a willow, apple, pear, or cherry tree, and
still another on a grape-vine, or rose-bush, or honeysuckle, «fec.,
(fee., throughout all leaves, seeds, fruits, and whatever grows.
The same ground, sun, air, rain, &c , supply exactly the same
materials to a huge bed of all kinds of flowers ; yet the original
nature of each kind gives its primogenital colors and forms of
flowers to each. The same orchard yields apples, pears, peaches,
cherries, grapes, berries, &c., according to the parental seeds of
each tree and fruit. And the identical shape, color, flavor, and
other qualities of each are like those of its parentage blended.
Yet that same ground once reared a forest.
All animal organisms are governed by this same law. How
comes it that every bone, organ, and part of the body of every
living thing in the offspring exactly resembles like bones, organs,
and parts in the parentage — has its bones outside or inside, or
lacks this or that, exactly like its progenitors ? How happens it
that all progeny has just as many bones as the parents, never
one more nor one less ; that each bone is shaped, crooked, and
fashioned exactly like the corresponding bones of their parents ;
and that each shaped bone is placed in the offspring just where
a like shaped bone exists in them. And thus of all the other
organs and parts of all organized beings. Indeed, this is what
renders the forms, textures, flavors, &c., of all offspring like those
of their parents.
All feathered progeny both have feathers, and just such lands;
shaped and even colored to their very tips like similar feathers in
their progenitors. Parents and offspring, throughout their every
minutiae, are exactly like each other. Or wherein they differ
from each other, their progeny are blendings of both. And thus
of their muscles, nerves, blood-vessels, lungs, skin, hair, eyes,
brains, and every other part and parcel. It is this primary phys-
iological fact which renders the anatomy of both man and of all
the various genera and species of the animal kingdom in accord-
ance each with that of its own class. Are not those planets of
which our solar system is composed as much alike in orbit, glow,
motion, everything, as if all were brothers and sisters of different
ages? And are not all like their solar parentage?
Man must needs be equally governed by this parental and
filial resemblance. He is; and throughout all his races, nations,
families, and individuals. Thus, why is each man, woman, child
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES. 65
bom with just two hands, feet, eyes, ears, hemispheres of body
and brain ; and each located and fashioned just like those of their
parents ? Why have all just thirty-two teeth, never more nor
less, coming, falling out, reappearing, &c., at about the same ages ;
and each shaped in the progeny like its corresponding tooth in
the parents, yet all differing in detail as did that of those parents
— in some sound down to a great age, in others decaying early,
aa did their parental ; even colored the same, and thus of each
and all their other bones, blood-vessels, nerves, nails, hair, as to
color and texture ; eyes, and their color and looks ; every single
part and parcel of their entire bodies ? Because each and all are
bom with this minutest parental resemblance. And by virtue of
this ordinance " each after its own kind " — a law executed ever
since the world began, throughout every human being, animal,
fish, fowl, insect, vegetable, and whatever multiplies ; and which
must continue thus throughout all coming time.
The various races of men and animals furnish diversified
illustrations of this universal fact on the grandest possible scale.
Not to specify the peculiarities of the several breeds of animals,
wild and tame, yet are not all negroes black and curly-haired, all
Indians copper-colored and straight-haired, all Caucasians white-
complexioned, &c., &c.? And do not all cross-breeds show by
these and other signs in exactly what proportions the blood of each
race flows in their veins ? The muscles of all colored persons are
inserted at points differing from the insertion of corresponding
muscles in whites. Why illustrate further a fact so palpable that
all who run may read ; since innumerable examples are found in
every individual of each race, and throughout all their races and
crosses ?
520.— All Instincts, Proclivities, Ac, hereditary.
All instinctive habits, modes of life, appetites, &c., are
equally transmitted. Why do all forms of life require, desire,
and experience sleep, appetite, and all the other staple functions ?
Wliy are all lions, tigers, vultures, sharks, Ac, ferocious and car-
nivorous? AVTiy are all cattle, sheep, deer, &c., amiable and
graminivorous? Whence the universality of all the ever-vary-
ing instincts of every single one of these species ? Are they not
obviously consequent on their hereditary descent through each
parental pair to their oftspring? And can we not predict the
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66 gender: its analysis and office.
peculiarities of all progeny before birth, just from like special-
ties in their parentage ? That ducklings and goslings will swim,
but chickens and robins not ; that dogs will bark and eat meat,
and lambs bleat and eat grass ; and so on throughout every in-
stinct of every animal and thing ?
All mankind have like fundamental Faculties. Every indi
vidual throughout all ages and peoples has loved, hated, feared,
remembered, worshipped, communicated, &c., throughout all the
human sentiments, propensities, and talents. All persons, com-
munities, masses, nations, and races, under similar circumstances,
feel, think, and act substantially like all others throughout all
times and places ; because all are born with fixed mental consti-
tutions, consequent on primal Faculties of mind in lixed propor-
tions in both parents and ofl'spring. Gravity itself is not more
uniform in all its functions than are the human mind and heart ;
because the same primal elements, these sources of all human
manifestations, are transmitted throughout all times and locali-
ties, from the beginning of the race through all its ramifications
and individuals. And this must continue wherever and as long
as propagation is continued. Please duly consider the wholesale
aspect of this law, the magnificence of its scope, and also the
minuteness of its outworkings. To it a day is as thousands of
ages, and each product like countless billions.
521. — All InTational and Family Specialties, Likenesses, &c.,
DESCEND.
Likenesses are transmitted. What practised eye but can select
any and all Jews from every crowd ? Why ? Because each and
all have a particular form of face and features, especially of nose
and chin, peculiar to this nation, well illustrated in the accom-
panying likeness of one. Fig. 501. All Jews look like each other^
and therefore like all the other descendants, past, present, and of
course future, of Abraham ; because descended from a powerful,
pure stock, unadulterated by intermarriage. Abraham sent down
bis physiognomical specialties throughout every one of all the
countless myriads of his descendants as long as Jews inhabit
the earth ! Sharp eyes detect Irishmen, Germans, Scotchmen,
Welshmen, Spaniards, &c., but not Americans, because inter-
mixed with all nations.
Similar likenesses obtain throughout all families as far up,
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES.
67
down, and out as they can be traced. Thus, John Rogers, the mar-
tyr, had bright auburn hair and whiskers, as shown by his portrait
in Harvard College; and most of his many descendants, down to
the tenth, eleventh, and twelfth generations, still have light or
sandy hair and whiskers.
The Hopkins family fol-
low suit. Col. Fitz Gib-
bon, ex-speaker of the Ca-
nadian Parliament, intro-
duced a new member to an
old, both named Hopkins,
and heard each trace his
separate ancestry back five
hundred years through Can-
ada, the States, and Eng-
land, to the same Hopkins
estate and progenitor ;
*'and yet," he added," they
looked as much alike as if
they had been brothers —
80 nearly that I was some-
times at a loss to say which
was the old member I had
long known, and which
the new;" showing that
the Hopkins blood had
sent this form of body and face, with all its specialties, tli rough-
out these fifteen or more generations. Who but looks like this,
that, or the other parent, grandparent, uncle, aunt, cousin, de-
scendant, or kinsman? What parents but can see in their
children likenesses of both their families? The first remark of
all observing ladies on first seeing any infant is, " This baby looks
Just like this, that, or the other parent or relation."
The Dwiohts closely resemble each other. Sereno E. Dwight,
on of Timothy Dwight, President of Yale College, riding on
horseback through New Hampshire, was overtaken by an old
man on horseback, who, eyeing him sharply, inquired:
" Are you not a son of Col. Dwight? Sixty years ago I worked for him,
and you resemble him so closely m face, voice, the way you sit in your
saddle, and in other respects, that I make free to aak.*'
Fio. 601. A Jewish Likenessi.
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GENDER: ITS ANALYSIS AND OFFICE.
" Col. Dwight was my grandfather, and his son, Timothy Dwight, my
father."
All these Dwights and their descendants, of wliom Pierpont
Edwards, of New York, is one, were large, tall, well-proportioned,
and noble-appearing men, like their grandfather ; and very talented.
like his wife's father, President Jonathan Edwards, the great
theologian.
Daniel Webster's sixteenth cousin called on me professionally
in 1840, and looked so much like Daniel Webster in stature, size,
looks, complexion, gait, organic coarseness with power, and ex-
traordinary muscular and vital " apparatus," as well as expres-
sion of countenance, that I mistook the cousin for the statesman.
Prof. Haddock, Webster's nephew, and Dr. Haddock, of Beverly,
and the Websters of New Hampshire and Maine, are blood rela-
tions of Daniel, and look quite like him.
Benjamin Franklin was peculiar in form and likeness, deep-
chested, tall, large, square-built, and easily recognized ; which he
Family Likenesses Hereditaby.
Ftg. 502. Benjamin Franklin.
Fig. 503. Lttcrfita Mott.
inherited from his mother, a Folger, most of whom have his general
make-up, of which Walter Folger, of Nantucket, grandson of
Franklin's sister, Wm. Holmes, Franklin's nephew, the Tappans,
and others, descended from Franklin's mother's sister, are illus-
trations ; as was Franklin's granddaughter, whom I saw in New
London, Ct., in 1837. Lucretia Mott, the Quaker preacher, looks
like Franklin, and is his blood relation through his mother. Sec
the same wide, high, bold forehead and square build in both.
THE DESCENT OP PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES. 69
The world is full of like cases, yet only powerful familiee thus
send down their likenesses.
Personal beauty is transmitted.
King David was " ruddy, and of a fair countenance," and his
grandmother, Ruth, was exceedingly comely ; his son, Absalom,
was the handsomest man in all Israel, — "from the soles of his feet
to the crown of his head there was no blemish in him ; " and
his daughter Tamar, and sister Tamar, were extremely beautiful
women. Many Jewesses are, and always have been, extremely
handsome, as were Sarai, Rachel, Rebecca, Judith, &c. The
beauty of Caucasian women is proverbial. Look around and see
everywhere the handsome children of handsome mothers.
Let these samples suffice for like cases innumerable.
Of motion, texture, and all other physical specialties, this is
equally true ; yet no further illustration is needed, because all are
perpetual examples in all analogous respects.
622. Longevity is transmitted and inherited.
Six Allens, whose parents died at 87 and 92, reached the aver-
age age of 84 ; and their ten nephews died at 67. 80, 80, 82, 84,
93, 94, 95, 96, 96, averaging, adding their over months, 88, those
exceeding 90 averaging 95.
Old Parr died aged 152, son 109, grandson 113, and great-
grandson 124. A Glasgow woman died at 130, her father at 120,
and grandfather 129.
John Alden, the first to leap on Plymouth Rock, died at 90,
one of his descendants preached 59 years, and died at 92, a grand-
son at 103, and his descendants 90, 80, 80, 79, 80, 75, 81, 80, 80,
70, 84, 91, 80, 80, 80, 81, 70, 83, 90, 80, 80, 84, 72, 88, 93 (who had
six generations alive at 07u;e), 73, 82, 79, 81, 79, 70, 91, 90, 70, 92, 92.
Bass, a pilgrim, died at 94, wife 93, and descendants at 84, 89,
97, 82, 98, 74, and 87. Copeland's children died at 90, 92, 74, 78,
86, and 83. Three Lewis sisters were 87, 82, and one alive at 94.
Three Tappans, father, son, and grandson, died at 80 each, and
the wife of the last died at 91 ; and not one of her twelve chil-
dren died till twenty years after. Seven of one family were alive
at the average age of 85, and well. Seven brothers Cobs, averaged
82 years. Their father died at 80, and mother at 98.
Benjamin Franklin's father died at 89, mother at 85, himself
at 84, and son at 82, and I saw a granddaughter very old. Walter
Folger, his grandnephew, died at 85.
70 gender: its analysis and office.
John Qxjincy Adams was most eloquent at 82. His father died
suddenly from temjK)rary excitement on Independence day, at 91,
and grandfather at 93.
TuE Author's great-grandfather died at 93, grandfather at
80 while heiilthy, of poison, father at 77 by an accident, grand-
uncle at 84, uncle at 90, grandmother at 84, her brother at 90, and
the Author himself at over 68 is sprightly, works harder than
can well be told, and writes this and reads ivithout glasses.
Jane Sanborne died at 119, leaving two daughters living at
over 100 each. A Prussian woman married when over 100, hav-
ing a son over 80. John Van Frost, living at 104, had children
living at 84, 79, 77, 71, 64. The Davises were 96, 88, 93, 88, 99,
91, 77, 79, 87, 89 ; and a Coffin at 83, and 10 children at 88, 90, 73,
88, 82, 90, 80, 75, 73, and 85. A family of Warrens, whose
l^irenta exceeded 80, were all alive in 1812, aged 81, 79, 77, 75,
73, 71, 69, and another alive at 80 in 1824. The Leonards lived
to be — 12 above 70, 13 averaging 74, 3 nearly 80, 17 above 80,
and 2 nearly 100. Of Clarke's 10 children, 4 exceeded 90, 3 over
80, and 3 over 70, the youngest died at 98, having 6 sons living
each over 50 years with his first wife. The Chases lived to be
80, 76, 73, 80, 82, 91, 98, 73, 70, 85, 92, and 84.
Daniel Webster's great-grandfather was 83, grandfather 83,
his father died aged, and he himself died over 70, and twenty
years sooner than he need to.
Joseph Eaton, able to mow and walk several miles at 95, had
brothers and sisters all living at once aged 93, 91, 88, 85, 83, 76,
73, 70, averaging 84, their father dying at 74, mother 86, and
two grandparents 97 each.
I have predicated correctly the ancestral ages of ten thou-
sand patrons with scarcely a failure, excepting deaths from acci-
dents. For example: I said to Rev. Jason Whitman, "Your
ancestors lived to be 90 to 95, and his grandfather was 107. His
Pilgrim ancestor lived to be 90, whose descendants reached 80,
82, 90, 85, 95— four brothers alive at 97, 94, 87, 81—80, 81, 82,
83, 83, 83, 88, 90, 95, 96, 92, 95, 98, 92, 80, 80, 80, 86, 87, 90, 94,
100, 80, 86, 83, 88, 95, 80, 90, 95, 75, 80, 80, 82, 107, who had a
brother living and very smart at 97. One Whitman had a son
when 80, who lived to be 80. I ascribed great age to the ancestry
of George Freeman, whose father was then alive and smart at 86,
grandmother died at 86, great-grandmother 94, mother 78, and
both ber parents at 90, and their brothers were 90."
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES. 71
I TOLD Mrs. S. Luddixgton, in 1840, that she and her relatives
were immensely long-lived, and she has just died at 87, and her
two triplet sisters are still alive, and smart.
The natural longevity of all can thus he correctly predicated
from their resemblance to their long, or short, or medium-lived
ancestors and relatives. Of course their real longevity will depend
something on their health habits, accidents, &c. See how in "",
523. — Tendencies to Diseases hereditary.
SHORT-gevity is even oftener transmitted than longevity, yet
less noticed. A mother dies young, children younger, and grand-
children in childhood, and all are unheralded and soon forgotten;
while old people's ages are " talked about."
Sudden deaths in perfect health occurred in four generations
of Livermores. Rev. Dr. Milnor died suddenly, as did his
father and brother. Many like cases transpire.
Consumption, scrofula, insanity, or rather tendencies to them,
Ac, are so obviously hereditary, and this fact is so generally con-
ceded as not to need any more than a mere mention. These dis-
eased proclivities, in all cases, can be staved off ;^' ^ yet the chil-
dren of weak-lunged parents inherit that lung-feebleness which
causes health-injuries to settle on their lungs; but by giving
Nature a fair chance, she will fortify their lungs, and stave oft*
this tendency: and thus of scrofula, and all other diseases.
" Human Science " shows how all those thus tainted with dis-
eases of any kind can both prevent their being developed, and
cure them when actually begun. ^' '^*'^' '*^
Dyspepsia, cancerous, kidney, sexual, and all other like pre-
dispositions, are also handed down. The children of dyspeptics
often die in August of " summer complaints.' Daughters of
weak-wombed mothers must expect female deliciicy and weakly
children unless extra careful ; and the sons of sexually inflamed
fathers are liable to be haunted with his inflammatory cravings.
Varicose veins are also transmitted.
Nervous, neuralgic, rheumatic, and other like tendencies, are
equally " handed down," and so of headache, cutaneous aft'ections, .
•salt-rheum, &c., &c.
Disordered nerves in parents render their children doubly
irritable, violent in all their manifestations, and hence liable to
die in a day ; because all their diseases work with peculiar vio*
72 GENDER: ITS ANALYSIS AND OFFICE.
lence; so that they must therefore be managed patiently and
tenderly ; yet never, on any account, given opiates, " Winslow's
soothing syrup," quinine, morphine, arsenic, or calomel.
624. — Prolific ALiTY, Twins, Stature, Strength, &c., entailed.
Five children in one year, triplets in January, and twins in
December, were borne by one Kentucky woman, whose mother had
triplets, sister three pairs of twins, and two daughters each tri[>
lets. Having twins often descends in both males and females.
Blundell mentions a lady who had four children at one birth,
three of whose sisters had twins or triplets.
BoYER AND HIS TWO SISTERS had Several pairs of twins each, and
his son triplets, and sister's son twins by his wife, for which ho
left her, and lived clandestinely with another woman, by whom
he had triplets. Some sheep and other animals often have twin-
bearing mothers, sisters, and descendants.
The Whitman, Chase, Coffin, Alden, and other families just
mentioned, had a great many children, as well as those long-lived.
Clarke had eleven children, and 1149 descendants at his death, of
whom 960 were then alive. Alden families numbered 13,12,11,
10, 9, 15, 9, 8, 8, 8, 9, 19, 9. Many other Puritans followed suit.
That giant size is inherited is apparent in whole families being
large, as in the Dwights.®^^ The Bible mentions a race of
giants. Patagonians, Camanches, Sioux, &c., are tall and large,
the Bushmen and Esquimaux small and short, Caucasians much
larger than Chinese and Japanese, &c.
Dixon II. Lewis, the ex-speaker, weighed 430 pounds, brother
400, and sister over 300. Mr. Sanborne weighed 400, and his
sister 300.
Frederick William's giant body-guards were quartered at
Potsdam, where they left numerous very large descendants. Two
brothers and three sisters weighed 1250 pounds. J. II. Reichart,
a German, was eight feet three inches tall, and had a gigantic
father and sister.
Dwarfness is hereditary. Tom Thumb has made hundreds
of thousands, in connection with his wife, wife's sister, and
Commodore Nutt, by exhibiting their smallness, and smartness.
Thumb's babe, by his little wife, whose height is twenty-two
inches, weighed two pounds at its birth, and her sister is equally
infinitesimal ; and several of these little sisters' relatives are di
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES. 73
minutive ; while " Commodore Nutts " uncle and grandfather are
very small, and brother is a dwarf.
A NATION OF DWARFS lias been discovered in Africa, and Mogul
Tartars are short and small. Barwlaski, a Polish nobleman, was
only twenty-eight inches tall, his brother thirty-six, and sister
twenty-one; and Mrs, Stoberin was a dwarf, as were her parents,
brothers, and sisters.
Little parents little children, is obviously a hereditary law.
The Scotch during their English wars, emulous to have
large, powerful, warlike sons, gave a marked preference to large,
athletic women, leaving small ones to " Ilobson's choice," or
celibacy — a custom Americans have reversed by preferring small
women ; and behold our pigmy children, with scarcely a good-
§ized one amongst them.
That qiant strength is entailed, is apparent. Goliath, the giant,
was the son of a giant, and from a giant race.
" The Belgian giant," Bihin, seven feet six inches high, fifty
inches around his chest, and twenty-two around his calf, could
straighten himself under two ions, and had a tremendously ath-
letic grandfather and great-grandfather.
The Fessenden family have always been very large and
very strong, as have the Douglases, all back through Scotch
history. So have also the Gerrishes, one of whom, in a cham-
pion trial of strength, pulled up six English contestants with
one hand. His sister donned man's clothes, and flung a prize-
wrestler who had come hundreds of miles to outwrestle her
brother, bidding him tell his friends " a woman flung you." The
Royal Family of Stuarts possessed giant strength,'^'' and many
in the Author's ancestry have had extraordinary muscular power.
Whole families are very large or small, fat or lean, tall or
short, robust or sickly, long-lived or short-lived, handsome or
homely, have good teeth or poor, become gray, or corpulent, or
bald, (fee, at about the same age, throughout all their other phys-
ical functions. Like facts are on all tongues, in all ages, and
universally admitted. The whole world is full, even made up
of them. Not a man, woman, child, or living thing but boars
f)erpetual testimony to this parwital and progenal similil ikU',
throughout all its minutest ramifications.
All geological specimens tell us that all the 8i>ecialties of all
etncient animals have descended from the remotest e[>och8 of the
organic formations till now.
74 gender: its analysis and office. .
525. — The twelve-legged pristine Horse, and other Animals.
That horses originally had twelve feet is proved by petrifao-
tions of them lately discovered under the lava which formed the
Rocky Mountains, when it flowed over marshes ; one leg being
attached to each side of each knee and gambol joint; and capable
of being spread out about a foot each side of each hoof; obvi-
ously to enable it to glean food and escape panthers by travers-
ing slanting rocks, where one foot would slide ; but these two
bracinsc each other ascainst different rocks.
As valleys widened by time these side feet lay unused, folded
against the main feet, and finally declined, till now there remain
only these rudiments. And yet this transmitting law, true to
itself, still hands down these rudimental bones now found attached
to the knee joints of all modern horses. Please think through
what millions of billions of ages Nature has handed down these
limbs and their rudiments, ever since they became useless.
All the other animals of that epoch corresponded with like
animals in this, except that they had relatively larger animal and
smaller moral and intellectual organs than modern. We reserve
important inferences from these facts.
The Indians about Austin, Nevada, have formed an extra
tooth between and behind their incisors, by cracking those pine
nuts on which they partly live, setting their ends at the junc-
tion of the gums with these incisors inside. This fact seemingly
goes to show that all organs were first formed by the requirements
of the spirit principle, and the twelve-legged horse shows how
they decline by disuse — a doctrine established by Human Science,
'^^ and quite appropriate for Darwin.
526. — Marks, Deformities, Idiosyncracies, &c., often descend.
The " Porcupine men" mentioned in several scientific works,
covered all over with bristly cutaneous bunches which looked and
rattled like porcupine quills cut oft' within an inch of the skin,
and slied annually, hand down this specialty, one of them having
six children and a parent thus marked.
The Anaks, the race of giants mentioned in the Old Testa-
ment as having "six fingers on each hand and six toes on each
foot," illustrate this hereditary descent. A like peculiarity is
mentioned by Pliny as existing in his day. Raumer traced a like
malformation in three generations, and Carlyle in four. One
THE DESCENT OF PHYSICAL SPECIALTIES. 75
was a mother, teu of whose eleven children had it, the other
having but one surplus. This one had four children, all
similarly deformed, and of his eight children, four had them,
while four had not. Two were twins; one deformed, the other
natural.
The Hobarts have five lingers and a thumb on each hand, and
six toes on each foot ; yet some escape. They trace this peculiar-
ity back in the Hobart lineage to England. In some they stick
right out, while in others they lie snugly ensconced by the side
of the little fingers and toes. Daughters often have and transmit
them.
Mr. Wright, his son, and ancestors, of Newark, N. J., have
them. Messrs. French, Butterfield, and Blanchard, each trace
like extra fingers and toes through several generations in their
relatives. Though cut off in some at birth, they reappear in
their offspring just as much as in those who undergo no amputa-
tion.
Zerah Colburn, the celebrated arithmetician, also had this
peculiarity, as had likewise his mother, from whom he derived
his wonderful calculating powers ; and so have some of his children
B. B. Newman, his father, and two of his three sons, furnish
Btill other like examples, as do many other families.
A PROFESSIONAL applicant in Manchester, N. H., had but one
finger, which tapered off from the place of the little finger to the
first, yet the rudiments of the others were perceptible. His
father, uncle, and two children of a sister were similarly de-
formed; though the sister was not.
A WHITE LOCK OF HAIR in Mrs. llorton, growing on the fore-
part of Kindness, is tniced, though all the rest was dark, up
and down for fire f/eri/raHons ; though sometimes omitted in
one generation only to reappear in its progeny. Two of her
daughters, both closely resembling her, had a kindred lock.
So had her father, and his mother, and also gnind father, and
thus on for seven generations; and probably farther. Of her
twelve uncles and aunts, eight had it, and four not ; and those
who had it lived the longest. The first ancestor died at one
hundred and four.
Mr. 1*. had several wens on his head, formed in the scalp, and
movable. His daughter has similar ones ; so had a parent ; and
one was just beginning to form on a granddaughter. Her cousin
76 gendeb: its analysis and oppicb.
has another. None appear in childhood. All began to develop
at about the same age.
Mr. J. B. Story, of the Belknap House, Lake Village, has a
cat with six feet, double sets on her forelegs. She has two kit-
tens which have six feet each, but are as lively as any of their
race. This cat and kittens have two feet on each foreleg, the
limbs being cleft for a short distance above the feet. This shows
that this range of facts extends equally to the animal kingdom.
527. — Specialties often skip several Generations.
Mrs. Hunt had bright red hair, yet all her eleven children
had dark, and also all her numerous grandchildren, except one.
''Every hair of its little head is worth a guinea," she said. But
a great proportion of her ^rea^-grandchildrenhave bright red hair.
The same facts appertain to Mr. W. Many who know these red-
haired descendants and their dark-haired parents and grand-
parents wonder whence this red hair. Their bright red-haired
^e«^grandparent8 know.
A VERY tall Mr. Hatch had a short wife and son, and he a
very tall daughter.
Two Randall Children have little holes under their ears, which
discharge during colds. Their father has only a little dent there,
and so has his father; but his father's mother Iislq these holes, as has
his sister, and her children.
Two virtuous white parents were amazed and chagrined at the
birth of a mulatto, to the discredit of its mother, who so solemnly
protested her innocence that the father visited France, the home
of his ancestors, and found h'm Ji/th ancestor was an African; yet
that no intermediate descendant was thus marked. Mrs. Horton's
flaxen locks, and those extra fingers and toes,^^ furnish like illus-
trations.
Consumption and other diseases, talents, and all other heredi-
tary entailments, often " run under ground,** as they say, one, two,
and even more generations, only to reappear in subsequent ones.
A servant girl had a cancer on her face. Her father had
none, but his mother died of one; and this girl resembled her.
Her uncle and she also resembled each other, and he died of a
cancer, as did two of his daughters, who resembled their cancerous
father, grandmother, and cousin. Hence
Those who do not resemble parents or ancestors tainted with
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consumption or other diseases need not apprehend them ; while
those who do, should be on their guard.
" The more a child resembles its parent in external lineaments, the more
certainly will the diseases of that parent prevail in that child." — Dr. Clark,
Physician to Queen Victoria,
Section II.
MENTAL SPECIALTIES OF KACES, NATIONS, AND FAMILIES
TRANSMITTED.
528. — All Jews inherit Abraham's Mental Traits.
Each and all the various races of animals and men retain
their specific instincts and mental characteristics, because they
are " handed down " from and to all their individual members
immemorially. Of this, African song and devotion, Indian re-
venge and deception, Malay sensuality and superstition, and Cau-
casian domination and invention, furnish contrasted illustrations.
This is equally true of Nations.
All Jews are like Abraham in his and their peculiar traits
of character. He became " the richest man of all the East," be-
cause he loved property, and knew how to acquire it ; that is,
had large Acquisition and sagacity, which he transmitted in pre-
dominance to all his descendants, and they to theirs, until now.
What other Nation could have amassed gold and silver enough
to build their magnificent temple, with its millions of vessels of
pure gold and silver, and one slab of gold sevenil inches thick
and feet wide and long, the largest ever made, which caused their
national overthrow. Why did Shakespeare choose a Jew to rep-
resent usury but because all Jews have inherited his financiering
and money-making talent from their parentage? and a Roths-
child, one of his descendants, died lately worth five hundred
million dollars in gold; and another, worth fifteen hundred
millionH.
Joseph, his great-gnindson, inherited both his giant intellect
and financial genius. Seeing immense quantities of grain going
to waste, this Faculty, with intellect, devised the gigantic sj>ecu-
lation of buying it all up at low rates, and selling it out at a
high " profit ;" which he executed in a masterly manner. The
more the famine raged, the greater hia extortions. He literally
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starved a whole nation into exchanging their last precious piece
of money, then their last pet domestic animal, their last article
of furniture and property, their last acre of land, and finally
compelled them to mortgage their very bones, muscles, and chil-
dren, body and soul, to this grasping, rapacious speculation. A
whole nation^ and that the richest then extant, bought up. Who
ever conceived as gigantic a pecuniary investment before, or
managed one as skilfully, as this great-grandson of '' the richest
man of all the East " ? Jewelry doubtless came from their Jewish
love of gold and silver ornaments.
Abram and the Jews were martial. He armed and led
his own household and routed five kings ; and see how bravely
his descendants fought under Joshua and David, in their intes-
tine wars against Benjamin, in the final destruction of Jeru-
salem.
Faith and Worship were and are the marked characteristics
of both. His devotion ''erected an altar to the Lord" wherever
he journeyed or slept ; and his implicit faith and obedience al-
most killed his only darling son : and behold and admire these traits
in his descendants hoping for their promised Messiah against hope
deferred over two thousand years, yet still keeping up their Sab-
batarian and other religious rights: though our institutions are
weakening both.
He had a commanding intellect, and were and are not his
descendants, throughout all their generations, far above medi-
ocrity in natural talents and sound, hard sense ? An excellent
stock, this Abrahamic.
Irishmen are irate, and perhaps were so named because their
irritable, excitable, impulsive ancestors were so ireish. English-
men are proud, persistent, and domineering ; Germans plodding
and honest ; Frenchmen ambitious and ornate ; Italians musical
and impassioned ; Spaniards proud and tyrannical ; Austrians
conservative and arbitrary ; Russians patient and pious ; Turks
voluptuous and religious ; Indians and Tartars fierce and cruel ;
Americans enterprising and sagacious; and thus of all other
national specialties. Why ? Because these and their other pecu-
liar traits have descended jfrom the beginning of their nationali-
ties, throughout all their generations and migrations: which
must continue till all are fused by their amalgamation.
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529. — Family Idiosyncracies transmitted and inherited.
John Rogers was a radical, and therefore selected for the lirst
martyrdom by Queen Mary, in order to make an example of their
pcreatest heretical innovator: and all his descendants, now in their
eleventh generation, are out-and-out radicals in religion, politics,
everything? Are not whole families, in all their generations,
talented or simple, good or bad, generous or selfish, whole-souled
or stoical, passionate or passive, liberal or miserly, industrious or
indolent, moody or jolly, talkative or taciturn, pious or profane,
honest or tricky, careless or Careful, temperate or intemperate,
musical or unmusical, ingenious or bungling, poetical or artistic,
or voracious, &c.,&c., through all the phases of human character?
And are not all children, all adults, perpetual illustrations of this
law, " like parents of like progeny," in all its possible diversifi-
cations? and on a scale commensurate with every individual
member of the whole race ? Look, parents, into the faces of
your own dear children. Note their ways and actions, desires
and passions, tastes and talents, and every mental and physical
peculiarity, and behold your own selves daguerrotyped in them,
line by line, and item by item, throughout.
A MAN ninety-five ELOPED with a known sensual woman about
1720, when he then had four living wives ; and one of his de-
scendants in the fifth generation, a statesman of commanding
talents, spent many thousands annually on mistresses ; even after
sixty, supported a disreputable establishment of his own most of
his life, besides other amours perpetually ; became a father before
fourteen, by his niece, yet only thirteen ; had several sisters, all
of whom became mothers before becoming wives ; and had ex-
cessively amorous ancestors, descendants, and relatives before and
after him. His grandson died in jail, burned up, he firing
the jail. Aaron Burr's ancestors and relatives were almost as
Rcnsual as himself."' Yet whole families up, down, and sidewise,
lack this gift. The former having large, latter small, families.
Byron's mother was often made sick by the violence of her
temper, and his father was sensual ; and their son more like both
than they were like themselves.*"
Nero, that worst of monsters, "came honestly" by his vices.
Caligula, almost as bad as himself, was his uncle; Cervius Do-
metius, one of the worst of men, was his father ; his grandfather,
Lucius Dometius Enohardas, was haughty, proud, cruel, and
80 GENDER: ITS ANALYSIS AND OFFICE.
revengeful ; Yitellius the glutton, whose table cost liim eight mil-
lions per month, was an ancestor ; Agrippina, his mother, mur-
dered two children to place him on the Caesarian throne ; besides
having all the passions in frenzied excess ; his mother's mother
was most implacable and violent ; and her mother, Julia, daughter
of Augustus Ceesar, was the obvious propagator, as Csesar was
the author, of all these vices. Nero inherited the same kmi of
passions with his ancestors, and looked like Cffisar.
David Brainard's piety, as evinced in his writings, was ex-
treme, yet ascetic, gloomy, and yearned to convert sinners ; and
the descendants of his grandfather, down till now, for six gen-
erations, evince this same kind of piety. I saw his grandson in
Boston in 1843, a religious lunatic.
530. — Combined Parental Gifts redouble Progenal.
Lord Bacon's Father and Mother were both distinguished: he
for power and depth of intellect, she for literary genius; and
their son for both.
Benjamin Franklin's Father had a strong, sensible intellect,
while his Folger mother was both deep and brilliant.
George Washington's paternal ancestors were pre-eminent,
through ages, for talents, kindness, and worth ; and his mother
was one of Nature's noblest of women.
Jonathan Edwards's Father was so good a scholar that he took
his degree of A. B. in the forenoon, and A. M. in the afternoon
of the same day, a mark of distinction scarcely ever conferred,
and had a powerful intellect ; while his mother was the daughter
of Rev. Mr. Stoddard, a very talented preacher ; and their son
was by far the greatest theologian of his age. Both the parents
of Timothy Dwught,"^ Edwards's grandson, were very talented.
Patrick Henry's ancestors were distinguished on both sides,
but especially on his mother's, who were England's most noted his-
torians, more especially for fluency of style: and Henry Clay's
ancestors distinguished themselves for speaking talents.
Daniel Webster's Father was a prominent public man, noted
for sound, hard sense ; and his maternal ancestors were among the
most noted men of their times. His brother was more talented
than himself.
Two BAD PARENTAL TRAITS make the children still worse. Patty
Cannov'p mother was amorous, and her father a murderer ; and shr
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inherited and transmitted both tliese traits redoubled. No word?
cjin describe her wickedness. Her sister Betsy was like her.
When diseases combine, one parent being consumptive, the
other dyspeptic, their children are both, and scarcely ever live long.
Extreme power in both dwarfs sometimes. Excessive Caus-
Tility, or Caution, or Love, or nmscle, or any either physical or
mental quality in both parents, sometimes leave their children
deficient in this excessiv<j attribute ; probably because extremes
unbalanced verge towards monstrosities, which Nature is bound
to interdict. Large heads and small bodies in both, augmented
in offspring, would not do.
531. — Talented Tersons from long-lived Parentage.
Great talents and longevity often accompany each other,
tfohn Wesley was related to Lord Wellington, all of whose
brothers ar.d sisters were active and healthy at the average age
of 75, but lived on much longer. Washington's mother died at
85, and at Judge Story's death his mother was smart at 90. Dr.
Nott wrote his " Sermons on Temperance " when past 80, and
had a brother then alive and well at 97. The mother of the
Rothschilds exceeded 100. Ovid's father exceeded 90. Commo-
dore Perry's grandfather was 83 at his grandson's victory cu
Lake Erie. Dr. Johnson's ancestors were aged ; so were Dr.
Bowditch's. O'Connell's ancestors exceeded 100, and President
Finney's father was 84, mother over 80, and uncle alive at 96.
Barns's mother, from whom mostly he inherited his poetic genius,
lived to be very aged. The Adamses, for five generations, have
been men noted for talents adapted to public life. The father of
President John Adams was a distinguished preacher sixty years;
his son a Revolutionary orator next to Patrick Henry, and an
executive officer sec^ond only to Washington ; his grandson, John
Q. Adams, was excelled as President only by his father, Wash-
fngton, and Jefferson ; and unequalled while in Congress for elo-
quence and varied knowledge; his great-grandson, Charles Francis
Adams, our able minister to England during our " rebellion,"
was surpassed in diplomacy only by Seward; and his son is now
ft prominent candidate for existing national offices. Many other
like cases could be cited. The obvious reason is this — That
same physical vigor wliich causes longevity is indispensable tc
that sustained brain action necessary to become and remain great
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82 gander: its analysis and office.
All parental traits and conditions are transmitted. Those
*'wa^8 aud means" which transfer any must needs transfer all^
good and bp.d, down to their minutest iota. None can possibly
he omitted, none interpolated. Bad children never come from
«rood parents, nor good from poor. *' Transmit all" is Nature's
edict ; and her laws have no exceptions ; seeming ones being
caused by other laws. But
Why amplify these entailments of qualities ? Many more can
be found in "Hereditary Descent," by the Author, from which
some of these are taken ; but this whole range of facts is as obvious
as daylight, and, like all Nature's other operations, both absolute
and universal. And we have dwelt thus long, not because any
doubt this doctrine itself, but to enforce its minuteness and uni-
versality, on which this volume rests; and the more fully to
impress those practical inferences which grow out of this great
natural principle. Our world is literally all mcde up of facts
illustrating this great natural law, that progeny resemble parent-
age, on a scale commensurate with all that procreates^ in all time,
and doubtless in universal space, and throughout the minutest as
well as greatest specialties of all that lives ! No facts in Nature
are surer, none more wonderful. You, 0 recipient of life, are
just what this law, "each after its own kind," has made you,
namely, the very " image and likeness" of your parents, mentally
and physically, from the soles of your feet to the crown of your
head. This is the infinitely great and glorious work parentage
is required to accomplish. Life is what is to be transmitted,
along with all its paraphernalia of organs and functions ! A work
how stupendous ! Such an one as only Divinity could conceive or
execute.
532. — Value of this Creative Capacity.
This ability to create is man's most valuable gift, talent,
function, because its mission is paramount, as is also its influence
over the entire being (Part II.) ^^' ^^^ A natural talent for mechan-
ism, teaching, preaching, art, poetry, music, writing, oratory,
&c., are worth more than money ; those who possess either, though
poor, being " better off" than those who lack them, though rich ;
yet who but would prefer splendid children with mediocrity in
these talents to medium children with superiority in either or all ?
She who sings or writes superbly, yet bears no, or only inferior,
young, is vastly inferior to her who can produce perfect children.-,
though poor in them. Children well created, yet left no money>
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have a thousand-fold more for which to thank and love their
parents than those badly created though left wealthy.
Suppose only a special permit could confer it, and on payment
of stipulated sums, how much could you well afford to 'pay for
it ? If you had amassed a fortune, or established a name among
men for anything meritorious, or become a king, and the possessor
of this transmitting secret should say, "Pay me well and I will
enable you to produce another human being, the very image of
yourself in every possible respect — bones, muscles, looks, w^ays,
desires, tastes, feelings, thoughts, even modes of speech, the very
counterpart of your own dear self, and permit you to superadd
the characteristics of that sexual mate you love as you do your
own life, making the product a perfect amalgam of you both ; "
and gave you ample proof; the more you reflected the more you
would be willing to give for such a capacity. You would reason
thus-: —
" I must die, and can carry with me nothing of all my wealth, social
position, or advantages. All must become utterly useless to me the mo-
ment I breathe my last ; which may be soon. I can therefore well afford
to give half I possess, yes, all hut a vioiety, if I can obtain it no cheaper,
just for this po\fcr to transmit this moiety, not to a stranger, but to one of
my own flesh and blood ; one whom I could not help loving as I love my-
self, because my own obvious counterpart throughout, so that self-love
must inspire love for it. The more so since it must also be the most {per-
fect souvenir or memento possible, and most delightful reminder of the
only one I love, in the constant outgushing of those qualities I so idolize.
How utterly insignificant are all other values in comparison with this!
Nay, if I must mortgage my best exertions for the balance of my life in
order to obtain so great a talent, I shall even then be an infinite gainer,
and could justly exult over childless kings."
Most precious and exalted, then, is this parental capacity and
sexual impulse, both in and of itself, in its vreative, and all its
other functions. Of all the phenomena, all the wonders of this
whole universe itself, this is the most wonderful in its certainty,
its minuteness, its means, its philosophy, everything connected
therewith. Well might angels ponder over its mysteries, and
exult forever in view of its beauties and beneflcence. Is life the
wonder of wonders, apd is not this its originator equally so? As
Nature's creative institutes are paramount,*'" and as this is their
only instrumentality, should it not be equally honored ? Shall we
venerate Washington, and not likewise his parents? Could he
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have been but for them ? Did he not inherit from them the talents
we prize in him ? His mother was one of Nature's noblest women
and admirably sexed ; and hence her son's genius. All honor
to her as well as him ! All honor to every true husband and
wife, father and mother. Does not the perfect wife and mother
who has borne and reared a large family of superior sons and
daughters to enjoy life and create happiness, deserve as much more
honor than he who has built a splendid steamboat, or achieved
any other great or good work, as children surpass machines?^*
Is life the one great staple production of earth and all its con-
trivances, and is not this its instrumentality equally great and
glorious? Is existence the embodied summiim bonum oi all that
is,'^ and is not that generative capacity which creates it equally
so ? What human gift is more desirable or useful, or what defi-
ciency as great a deficit ? Is reason, or conscience, or any other
Faculty ? What mockery all attempts at its valuation ! .How
great a life-boon is this parental capacity ! Great God ! we bless
Thy great name for it V It is a behest from on high angels might
glory in and covet ! Exultant thanks, adoration, and love for
it be to Thee, its Divine Giver. And 0, aid us in its right exer-
cise, and save us from its wrong ! •
Section III.
SEXUALITY nature's TRANSMITTING "WAYS AND MEANS."
533. — Gender adapted to Create and Transmit.
Cause and effect govern all things terrestrial, and effect all
ends ; which are brought about by " ways and means " exactly and
specifically adapted to produce these precise results, and no others.
All great results are effected by means correspondingly great, quick
results by quick-acting means, &c. Of course this natural prin-
ciple governs the creation of life, and effects this resemblance of
all progeny to its parentage, throughout all its minutest details.
Then, since human life is earth's greatest production, that for
wliich all else terrestrial was ordained, its creative "ways and
means" must needs exceed all others as much as sunlight excels
rushlight; besides being intricate, subtle, ramified, and potential
beyond all conception. How could man hope to ascertain more
than a mere inkling of a few of those causes of effects thus marvel-
lous in their extent and minuteness ? Can the finite explore th>^
SEXUALITY nature's TRANSMITTING '* MEANS." 86
infinite? or the made its Maker? Archangels, with all their
causation and research, might study this life-initiating prohlem
forever without exhausting it. And yet, thanks that we may
enter within its gates. Then let us learn all we can.
Sexuality is the great motor- wheel of this entire creative
achievement. Every vegetable, insect, creeping thing, iish, fowl,
animal, and human being that ever has been, now lives, or will
exist forever, together with all their Faculties, organs, functions,
doings, enjoyments, &c., are but its stupendous outworkings.
What equally philosophical, appropriate, or useful subject can
man study ?
Gender exists : Therefore it is governed by natural laws, which
reduce it to an exact science. And as far as it is occult it is so
only because its eiFecting results thus complicated require that
its means be equally so. The greatness of life only admeasures
the greatness of its creative ways and means.
534. — Male and female created He all that lives.
Sex is a component ingredient of universal existence. Every
recipient of life, past and present, man, beast, fish, fowl, insect,
tree, flower, vegetable, grain, whatever lives, is created male or
female, or else embodies the elements of both.
The right side of the body, eye, ear, &c., corresponds with the
masculine element in both being strong, and the left side with the
feminine in both being sensitive ; and their co-operation in all
things is tantamount to their marriage, by which they carry for-
ward all their bodily functions.
The nerves of motion are also masculine or strong, and of sen-
sation feminine or sensitive ; and their marital union in one
sheath enables them to produce their conjoint functional results.
Electricity, magnetism, galvanism, is composed of two elec-
tric forces, the j)08itive corresponding with the male, and nega-
tive with the female, and their union carries forward most ter-
restrial and celestial operations thus — All bodies }x>sitively
charged repel each other, while all negatives and positivet^
attract, and this principle undoubtedly creates the revolution of
all the heavenly bodies thus. The sun's being {positive and earth
negative, causes their mutual attraction, hers chiefly because so
much the smaller, till her j^roximity to him makes her also posi-
tive, which repels her; and this tlieir oscillation, tantamount to
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their sexual intercourse, is perpetually generating that matter,
which comets are everywhere gathering up, ever embodying into
new-born worlds, and wheeling into orbits ; which this identical
sexual element is peopling with all their various forms of life.^"
Even
Causation itself, with all its mighty sweep and power, is ana-
lyzable on this male and female principle ; for all causes, when
scrutinized, are found to consist in the conjunction of two ante-
cedent conditions, which in uniting generate their effects ; which
are the progeny of their parental union. That entire floral pro-
cess which passes in annual review over the whole earth, and
throughout all time, is but that intercourse of these male and
female entities which impregnates the seeds of life then and
thereby commenced ; for all seeds, to germinate, must first be
fructified by male pollen. The ultimate of all blossoms is fruit,
and of fruit seeds, and it is this male and female union in the
flowering process which originates all seeds, all fruits, all vege-
table productions.
The blood itself is sexed ; female blood being always contra-
distinguishable from male by its containing a greater amount of
albumen than male. The very globules of the blood which color
it red, propagate, create new globules. Does not this prove that
they too are sexed? How could they "multiply" unless they
themselves are male and female ?
Those rudiment al cells are paired in and by which all organic
forms always commence and enlarge or grow. They appear in
even numbers, two, four, eight, &c., never in odd. Where do we
find this pairing except male with female ? This male and female
principle may yet be found to be employed in effecting the growth
of all things, as we know it is in their initiation. There is
even a male and female apparel, head-dress, foot-dress, saddle,
riding-whip, &c. Do we not call earth, ship, &c., feminine,
"she"?
Each sex has its own specialties. Thus all the males of each
species have one set of traits, and all its females a very different
get. And the characteristics of the males of all the ever- varying
species resemble those of all the other species ; and thus of all
females. These differences between the sexes are fundamental,
reaching throughout their entire physiologies and mentalities.
Thus, who cannot contradistinguish one from the other throughout
SEXUALITY nature's TRANSMITTING "MEANS." 87
all forms of life, and all the specialties of each sex ? How patent
the difference between geese and ganders, ducks and drakes, hens
and roosters, peacocks and peahens, bucks and does, rams and
ewee, bulls and cows, horses and mares, boys and girls, men and
women, throughout all their functions I What but gender causes
the marked difference between peacock and peahen in stature,
voice, and even the forms and colors of every feather, as compared
with its mate, tail feathers especially ? What but this male entity
gives large combs to roosters, but small ones to hens, or makes
the former crow and the latter cackle, &c., throughout all the spe-
cialties of each sex ? Why are all boys boisterous and fond of
rough sports, while all girls are fond of doll-babies and pretty
dresses ? To show in what their differences consist is not our
present purpose, but only to point out the fact of such difference,
its universality, and its ramification throughout every shred and
fibre of the bodies and instincts of both sexes. Please duly
jid measure the height and depth, length and breadth, minuteness
and power, of this male and female problem under discussion.
Would Infinite Wisdom take all this special pains to create all
this difterence without ample reasons ? Does He ever make or do
anything for naught, or without commensurate ends in view?
Those who have not fully investigated this subject can form no
adequate conception of its ramifications. It pervades and sexes
every part and parcel of each person and thing, impregnating
the entire physiology and mentality of every organ and function
of every male and female: and those the most who are the best
eexed. Boys weigh a pound more than girls at birth.
This sexual arrangement, like sun, air, and water, is no trifle.
Gender, so far from being a dead letter, or a useless apixjndage, or
a thing of chance, is, like light, a most active, efficient, and all-
pervading principle.
The Hermaphrodite union of both sexes, as in lamprey eel,
angle-worm, &c., each impregnating and ]>eing impregnated at the
same time, is economically employed in all the lower forms of life,
where but little life-force is to be imparted, and their progeny is
3xactly like the parentage in all things: but in all the higher
forms of life, so great is this creative work that Nature summons
two to her initiative altar, which, by amalgamating parent^il difier-
ences in their progeny, as in mulattoes,*^ causes all those different
talents, tastes, desires, modes of thought, everything, so promo.
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tive of progress and the common weal. Then let our having
been made to differ thus, teach all to agree to disagree, and sub-
stitute charity for bigotry. AVho would wish to be exactly like
everybody else ? have one monotonous sameness ?
535. — Their mutual Love Nature's Creative Incentive.
Male and female must co-operate in their joint creative mis-
sion : therefore some powerful mutual atb^action becomes necessary
in order to bring and keep them together. "Whatever moves
must have its commensurate motive power. Since neither can
establish life except by co-operating with the other, each must
have some all-powerful incentive to unite in their mutual repro-
ductive work, which must needs inhere in this sexual entity
itself, precisely adapted to fulfil its uniting mission, and as
powerful as its work is imperious ; ^^^ for without it this whole
male and female arrangement must remain forever inert, virtu-
ally dead. It must be powerful enough, if they have opposite
tastes and dispositions, to harmonize all differences ; override all
antagonisms; and unite them in reproduction in spite of difficul-
ties however numerous and great. No minor, light, fitful crea-
tive incentive, but only some sentiment sufliciently powerful to
grasp and control the very essence of parental existence itself,
could surmount all obstacles, and so draw them together as to
compel them to participate in creating and then rearing their
young.
Their mutual attraction is this creative agent. Throughout
all Kature all males and females are mutually drawn to each
other by what we will call sexual magnetism,'^®* as are the positive
and negative electric forces. If the sexes mutually repelled each
other, or were even indifferent, how would or could they unite
together in creating life ? Nor if drawn by the common attrac-
tion of matter to matter, life to life, or man to man. All are
attracted to inert matter some, vegetables more, animals more jQt^
and still more to human beings; but how incomparably more
does each sex mutually attract and is it attracted by its opposite!
Men treat men, and women women, upon the human plan merely ;
whereas males feel and act towards females, and females towards
males, upon a sexual plan superadded to this human.^^^ How
else could they unite in their creative work ? Indeed, this mu-
tual affinity inheres in gender itself, is its universal concomitant
SEXUALITY nature's TRANSMITTING "MEANS." 89
and 8}>ecific function, its very constituent, and to it what motive
power is to machinery — the sine qua non of its action.
536. — Gender originates in the Mind, not Body.
Love is an emotion, a feeling, a mental sentiment. Males are
males and females are females in person because first so in soul.
The male organism is created by the masculine mentality, and the
female anatomy by the feminine spirit principle, as is virtually
proved in '^-^o^.
This doctrine is a corner-stone in both works. Of course, the
more one is a male or female mentally, the more they are so phys-
ically. Indeed, this sexual entity appertains as much more to
the mind than body as mind is superior to body. Else how could
it transmit this mind? Specific traits of mind appertain to all
males, and other traits to all females. The difference is heaven-
wide between male and female temper, disposition, conversation,
spirit, cast of character, ways of viewing and treating subjects,
modes of thought and expression, everything. ^ Any practised
eye can say, " That page was written by a man, and this by a
woman." Let any number of unseen men and woman play the
same pieces of music promiscuously on any instrument, and prac-
tised judges can say each time which sex is performing. Con-
trast Daniel Webster's cast of thought and modes of expression
with those of Miss Anna E. Dickinson. All speakers and writers
illustrate this patent fact. Even the religious sentiment is sexed ;
for how diff'erent are all female prayers, exhortations, sermons,
&c., from those of men ? As well argue that the sun gives light jis
that this masculine mentality appertains to all male, and femi-
nine to all female birds, beasts, and human beings ever created.
And this difference is everywhere recognized, yet not traced to
its source — this mental sexuality.
Love is a feelinq. It inheres in n blending together of two
minds. It consists in an emotion. Say, all ye who have exix'ri-
enced thiH divine sentiment, does not its main feature consist
in a desire for mental affiliation, not physical ? You take, an
amount of enjoyment together actually immeasurable, yet it is
consequent on the commerce of male and female yuinds with each
other. At least is any religious emotion, any intellectual action
of your whole lives any more purely mental than is love?
Only some primitive Faculty of the mind could eitlier create
90 gender: its analysis and office.
love, or that mentality in which all life inheres.^^ Please duly
realize what a mental Faculty is — its indispensability to its respec-
tive functions, and that paraphernalia of laws and functions con-
nected therewith, — seeing, for example.
Every mental Faculty has its cerebral organ, by means of
which alone it can manifest itself,^ just as we can see only hy
eyes. Phrenology shows that the mind is composed of Facul-
ties,***"^ each of which works only through its own organ in the
brain.^ Of course this mental Faculty of Love has its organ in the
brain.
Section IV.
love: its analysis and functions.
637. Its Definition, Location, Philosophy, and History.
The Creator — Gender ; sexuality ; the procreative and tran&.
mitting capacity and instinct ; generative power and energy ; esti-
mation and love of the opposite sex ; desire to love and be loved ;
sexual admiration and courtesy ; gallantry in men, ladyism in
women, and sexual politeness in both ; conjugal devotion ; pa-
rentage ; physical love ; passion. Its excess and perversion create
libertinism, sensuality, obscenity, lasciviousness, nymphomania,
lust, seduction, prostitution, &c.
Love VERY Labge. PHRENOLOGY LOCATES LoVE in the
back and lower part of the brain,
at^ in engraving.^^ It lies just above
and on each side of the nape of the
neck, and is the organ lowest down
and farthest back in the head. In
proportion as it is large it renders the
head and neck straight at their junc-
tion, as in Aaron Burr during life ;
yet they curve inwardly the more as it
is the smaller, as in the infant head.
Its natural language is very ap-
parent, and cants the head directly
back upon the nape of the neck. All
lovers can tell by this sign whether
ty « Kr^r \ . ^"^^''''^™.„^ fiiid how much they are beloved.
Fig. 504. Aaron Burr, during . ^^
Life. Note that affectionate or backwanl
LOVE: ITS ANALYSIS AND FUNCTIONS. 91
reclining or drooping of the heads of all loving brides during their
lioneymoon, and learn therefrom to diagnose its active state in all
others. This language is still more apparent in its ultimate exercise.
Its facial pole is in the lips, near their middle portions, which
its full development thickens and projects ; so that large lips at
their centres, as in Byron, indicate a warm, glowing, gushing
love element. This shows both why love always kisses its object,
and only with the middle of the lips; while Friendship and Pla-
tonic Love kiss about half way between the corners of the mouth
and middle of the lips, and Parental Love with one corner of the
mouth. *
Gall discovered it early, by accident, in a young widow patient
who was the victim of periodical nymphomania, by often observ-
ing, while holding up the back of her head in his open hand,
that it was both very thick at the nape of her neck, and very
hot, and drawn back by its natural language, while she was suf-
fering from its paroxysms. His knowledge of her inordinate
passion, along with this thickness and heat, suggested the exists
ence and location of this Faculty and organ, which have been
verified extensively.
538. — Description of Love,* Large and Small.
" It is situated at the top of the neck, and its size is proportionate to the
space between the mastoid process, immediately behind the ears, and the
occipital spine, in the middle of the hind head." — iSpurzheim,
It is immense in Aaron Burr, in whom this passion, with the
power it gives over the opposite sex, exceeded anything often
found ; but it is small in that of the infant, as it is in all infants,
and in a maiden at sixty ; yet it is very large in Gottfried, who
poisoned her father, mother, all her children, and seveml lius-
bands, fourteen in all, because they objected to new loves.
"The size of the cerebellum is indicated by the extension of
the occipital bone backwards and downwards, or by the thickness
of the neck at these parts between the ears. In some these lobes
descend or droop, increasing the convexity of the occipital bone
either than its expansion between the ears. Tn such cases, the
* LovK wlien hoppin mth a capital thus, Love, signifieft iIih itunuoiotrK ,ii i-nnitiu, thin
love element or capacity, formerly called Amativencm; but when uncd without a capi-
tal thus, love, moans this sentiment or fefling of love, except when it commenoes a sea
tence ; whil« Amativenesa is employed to denignate it« aeuauoius animal action.
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projection may be felt during life by the hand firmly pressed on
the neck.
Love very Large.
Love very Small.
Fig. 505. — Aaron Burr, after Death.
Love very Large.
Fig. 506.— Infant.
Love vSmall.
Fig. 508. — Skull of a Maiden at six-
TTt, who died in the poor-liouse, was taken
to the dissecting-room, and found to be a
virgin ; obviously from sexual indifi'er-
ence. This organ is scarcely perceptible.
Fig. 507. — Gottfried.
" This faculty creates the sexual feeling. In newly-born children
the cerebellum is the least developed of all the cerebral parts. At this
period the upper and posterior parts of the neck, or cerebellum, appear?*
attached almost to the middle of the base of the skull. The weight of the
cerebellum is then to that of the brain as one to thirteen, fifteen, or twenty.
In adults it is as one to six, seven, or eight. The cerebellum enlarges
much at puberty, and attains its full size between the ages of eighteen and
twenty-six. The neck then appears greatly more expanded behind. In
general, the cerebellum is less in females than in males. In old age it fre-
quently diminishes. Tiiere is no constant proportion between the brain
LOVE: ITS ANALYSIS AND FUNCTIONS. 93
and it in all individuals; just as there is no invariable proportion between
this feeling and the other powers of the mind. •
" The nerves of sight can be traced into the nates lying very near these
parts, while the nerves of hearing spring from the medullary streak on the
surface of the fourth ventricle, lying .immediately under the cerebellum,
thereby corresponding with the fact that the eyes express most powerfully the
passion of love ; that abuses of the amatory propensity produce blindness
and deafness ; and that this feeling subsequently excites Friendship, Force,
and Destruction into vivid action. Spurzheim says: * It is impossible to
unite a greater number of facts in proof of any one truth than those which
determine that the cerebellum is the seat of the amatory propensity;'
and in this I agree with him. Those who have not read Gall's section on
this organ can form no adequate conception of the force of the evidence
he has collected." — Combe.
" In its quiet and unobtrusive state, there is nothing in the least gross, or
offensive to the most refined delicacy ; while its deficiency is a very palpable
defect, and a most unamiable trait of character. It softens all proud, iras-
cible, and anti-social feelings and conduct towards the opposite sex, and
augments all the kindly and benevolent affections. This shows why men
are more generous and kind, more charitable and benevolent towards
women than men, or than women are towards each other." — Scott
Those in whom it is large are admirably sexed, and wellnigh
perfect as males or females ; literally idolize the opposite sex ;
love almost to insanity ; treat them with the utmost considera-
tion ; cherish for them the most exalted feelings of regard and
esteem, as if they were superior beings ; have the instincts and
true spirit and tone of the male or female in a pre-eminent de-
gree ; must love and be beloved ; are sure to elicit a return of
love, because intuitively winning, attractive, and attracted ; kiss
heartily and love dearly to kiss and be kissed, fondle and be
fondled ; almost worship parents, brothers, or sisters, and chil-
dren of the opposite sex ; with organic quality and the other
social organs large, have the conjugal intuition in a pre-eminent
degree ; assimilate and conform to those loved, and become per-
fectly united ; and with Constancy large, manifest the most
clinging fondness and utmost devotion, and are made or unmade
for life hy the state of the affections ; have many warm friends
and admirers among the other sex ; love young and most in-
tensely, and are powerfully influenced by the love element for
good or evil, according as it is well or ill placed ; with Friend-
ship and Constancy large, will mingle pure friendship with de-
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voted love; cannot flourish alone, but must have a inatrimonia\
mate, with whom 'to become perfectly identified, and whom to
invest with almost superhuman perfections ; with large Beauty
and the mental Temperament added, will experience a fervor and
intensity of love, amounting almost to ecstasy or romance ;* can
marry those only who combine refinement of manners with cor-
respondingly strong attachments ; with Parental love and Kind-
ness also large, are eminently qualified to enjoy the domestic
relations, and be happy in home, as well as to render home happy ;
ivith Inhabitiveness also large, will set a high value on house
And place ; long to return home when absent, and consider family
and children as the greatest of life's treasures ; with large. Con-
science added, will keep the marriage relations inviolate, and
regard unfaithfulness as the greatest of sins ; with Force large,
will defend the object of love with great spirit, and resent pow-
erfully any indignity ofiTered them ; with Appetite large, will
enjoy eating with loved one and family dearly ; with Ambition
large, cannot endure to be blamed by those beloved ; with Cau-
tion and Secretion large, will express love guardedly, and much
less than is experienced ; but with Secretion small, will show in
every look and action the full unveiled love of the soul ; with
Firmness, Dignity, and Constancy large, will sustain interrupted
love with fortitude, yet suffer much damage of mind and health
therefrom ; but with Dignity moderate, will feel crushed and
broken down by disappointment ; with the moral Faculti^ pre-
dominant, can love those only whose moral tone is pure and ele-
vated ; with predominant Beauty, and only average intellectual
Faculties, will prefer those who are showy and gay to those who
are sensible, yet less beautiful ; with Mirth, Time, and Tune, will
love dancing, lively company, &c.
Full — Possess quite strong susceptibilities of love for a con-
genial spirit ; are capable of much purity, intensity, and cordiality
of love, if its object is about right ; with Friendship and Kind-
ness large, will be kind and affectionate in the family ; with a
highly susceptible Temperament, will experience great intensity
of love, and evince a good degree of masculine or feminine ex-
cellence, &c.
Average — Are capable of fair conjugal attachments, and cal-
culated to feel and exhibit a good degree of love, provided it is
properly placed and fully called out, but not otherwise ; experi-
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pp.oe ft greater or less degree of love in proportion to its activity;
as a man, are quite attached to mother, daughters, and sisters,
and fond of female society, and endowed with a fair share of the
masculine element, yet not remarkable for its perfection ; as a
woman, fairly winning and attractive, yet not particularly sus-
ceptible to love ; as a daughter, fond of father and brothers, and
desirous of the society of men, yet not e8|>ecially so ; and capable
of a fair share of conjugal devotedness under favorable circum-
stances; combined with an ardent Temperament, and large
Friendship and Beauty, have a pure and platonic cast of love, yet
t^annot assimilate with a coarse Temperament, nor a dissimilar
phrenology ; are refined and faithful, yet have more friendship
than passion ; can love those only who are just to the liking ;
with Caution and Secretion large, will express less love than is
felt, and that equivocally, and by piecemeal, nor then till the
loved one is fully committed ; with Caution, Ambition, and
Worship large, and Dignity small, are difiident in promiscuous
society, yet enjoy the company of a select few of the opposite
sex, &c.
Moderate — Are rather deficient, though not palpably so, in
the love element, and averse to the other sex ; love their mental
excellences more than personal charms ; love dearly to caress or
be caressed, but nothing farther ; find it difiicult to sympathize
with a conjugal partner, unless the natural harmony between
both is wellnigh perfect ; care less for marriage, and can live
unmarried without inconvenience; are quite fastidious and
squeamish, even prudish ; with Constancy large, can love but
once, and should marry the first lovcf because the love-principle
will not be sufficiently strong to overcome the difficulties inci-
dent to its transfer, or the want of congeniality; and find more
pleasure in other things than in the matrimonial relations; with
an excitable Temperament, will experience greater warmth and
ardor than depth and uniformity of love; with Beauty and
organic quality large, are fastidious and over-modest, and terribly
shocked by allusions to love ; pronounce love a silly farce, only
fit for crack-brained poets; with Ambition large, will soon be-
come alienated by rebukes and' fault-finding; with Friendship
and the moral and intellectual Faculties large, can become strongly
attached to those who are highly moral and intellectual, yet ex-
perience no affinity for any other, and, to bo happy in marriage,
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must base it in the higher Faculties; are but poorly sexcd-, have
comparatively little of either love or the traits peculiar to their
sex; are welhiiirh barren as to this sexual sentiment and its
various outwork i ngs ; see the faults of the opposite sex before
becoming enamoured of their virtues; dislike, repel, and distrust
them, and refuse to affiliate with them ; feel little sexual love, or
desire to marry ; are cold, coy, distant, indifterent, and reserved
towards the other sex ; manifest but little of the beautifying and
elevating influence of love; should not marry, because incapable
of appreciating its relations, and making a companion happy;
are passively continent, and virtually unsexed, and almost desti-
tute of love, manliness or womanliness, and sexual electricity.
Its SIZE, " other things being equal," indicates its " power of
function," and yet these " other things " greatly increase or di-
minish its manifestations. Since its office is to transmit the entire
bodily and mental capacities of parents, all their various states af-
fect its vigor. Since i^ature transmits most during the most ex-
alted parental states, she renders this Faculty the more vigorous
when all the other parental Faculties are so, and vice versd. It
may be large, yet rendered inert by inertia, or physical impotency.
Or it may be preternaturally excited for the time being, so as to
render it virtually insane, whilst all the others are normal. In
such cases it is sometimes apparently small, on the recognized
principle that inflammation reduces the size of all organs. As
the exhaustive exercise of the muscles diminishes their size yet
redoubles their efficiency, rendering them spry and strong though
small, and as mental insanity diminishes the volume of the brain ;
of course the inflammation of this organ and the frenzied state
of this Faculty frequently diminish its size but redouble its
manifestations.
Or IT MAY BE DROPSICAL, or large in size, yet weak in function ;
of which many fleshy persons furnish practical illustrations.
We shall explain those principles which account scientifically
for these seeming discrepancies between its phrenological devel-
opments and manifestations.
" But this invalidates Phrenology, by preventing our admeasuring iU?
strength from its size."
If it consisted sokl}/ in size as the only measure of power, this
Dbjection would be valid ; but its doctrine is that quality, activity^
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caltivation, incentives to action, and many other like conditions,
rtftect manifestations even far more than size of organs alone.
LovB, then, takes its dignified rank among the original Facul-
ties of the human mind, and the organs of the hrain, into wliiclj
nothing not absolutely indispensable could ever gain admission,
ijove, gender, amativeness, sexuality, parental capacity, manhood,
womanhood, interblending, &c., all emanate from this primal
Faculty, and are virtually synonymous terms ; each proportion-
ate to all, and all to each ; and all admeasured by the relative
size and other conditions of this phrenological organ. The only
ultimate natural function of this whole male and female arrange-
ment ; of their mutual attraction and love ; of Love, passion,
marriage, and whatever appertains to either sex separately, and
to both throughout all their interrelations, is to bring them
together and incite them to participate together in that inter-
course of the sexes which Xature has ordained as the initiatof
of all forms of life.
539.— The Sexual Passion its Incentive to Action.
Desire to love, be loved, and unite with the opposite sex in
Nature's creative relations, constitutes its expression, and the
rnoihis operandi of its action, but for which it must have remained
forever inert — a dead le^er. The ancients called this desire
" passion," and that religious sect devoted to its promotion
*' Pathics " It is a universal and a necessary concomitant of this
clement throughout all that propagates, without which life would
never be transmitted, just as we should never eat without ap-
IKJtite.
Its gratification yields pleasure ; yet as the pleasures inci-
dent to eating are not its primal object, but merely incentive
thereto; so all the varied and exquisite pleasures incident to
love, marriage, and parentage, are Nature's powerful, practical
persuasives and rewards for its exercise. This transmitting
(»jiacity, coupled with this instinctive passion, embodies ber
^'ways and means" of this creative function, in all its jihaseii
and ramifications.
Parental capacity is one thing, however, and mere passion
(juite another. Though always concomitants, they are by no
means always coequals. Either may be strong and the other
weak in the same person, at the same time. As appetite may be
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ravenous while digestion is weak, because the stomach is inflamed ;
f>o tliis organ may be inflamed, and passion craving, whilst gen-
erative power is weak ; perhaps in consequence of this very in-
flammation. But concerning the various causes and conditions
of this difference, the inflamed, passive, exhausted, and other
manifestations of its bodily organs, as well as concerning the
difl'erent states of personal health, age, &c., as affecting it, its
restraint, cultivation, Ac, see Part VI.
540. — Stronger or Weaker in Different Persons.
Love is many times stronger in each and all its various phases
of creative capacity, interblending, passion, &c., in some than in
others. Some parents transmit every line and lineament of their
own natures, reincreased, to their ott'spring, whilst others are but
poorly represented in them. How often is one child " all father,"
or " all mother," or has its father's body and mother's mind ?
Some are far superior, others quite inferior to their parents.
Some overflow perpetually with life, joy, emotion, capacity, &c.,
whilst others are lax in texture, tame in their desires and feel-
ings, dull in intellect, and but' poorly constituted throughout.
Some stamp themselves vigorously upon their progeny by one
conjugal partner, but poorly on those by another, because the
former f)Owerfully calls out this Faculty, while the other does
not.
Progenal resemblance is the greater, other things being equal,
the stronger this Faculty and larger this organ in parents. Or
thus: those who have a given amount of capacity, with but weak
Love, will transfer less to their progeny than their own amount ;
whereas those having a vigorous sexuality, or Love large, though
they may have less to transmit, will impart much more of their
qualities to their children in proportion to the amount possessed.
For example, those who have it only three in a scale of seven, along
with their other Faculties six or seven, will transmit only four or
Ave of their endowments to offspring; whereas if they had Love
nix, they would transmit seven of their endowments — would
transmit in even a greater degree than they themselves possesi^
them. Or, if Love is six or seven, and their other endowments
only three or four, they will transmit five or six of these endow
ments • •- in short, will render their children better endowed thap
themselves.
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As if two speakers possess an equal amount of thouglit and
sentiment, but differ in Expression, one having it large and the
other small, the former will impress much more of his thoughts
and feelings on his listeners than the latter ; so if two parents
are equal in all other respects except Love, and the father has this
Faculty strong, but the mother weak, their children will *' take
after " him almost entirely, while she will be but poorly repre-
sented in them. Or, if physical gender is strong in him but weak
in her, while mental is strong in her but w^eak in him, they will
resemble him most in form, constitution, looks, motion, &c., but
her most in mind, character, sentiment, and intellect. Or, if both
phases of gender are weak in both parents, their children will be
far their inferiors ; yet their superiors throughout if both its
phases are strong in both. Of course those children are incom-
parably the best whose parents superadd great sexual vigor to
superior natural endowments. Hence suf)erior parents sometimes
have inferior children, and commonplace parents fine ones. Or
it may be stronger or weaker when either of the Faculties are
stronger or weaker.
Its passional phase, too, becomes the master passion of some ;
IS violent and hot-blooded ; thrills throughout every fibre of their
whole beings ; constituting their impassioned life emotion ; and,
like Aaron's rod, swallowing up every other desire. All their
powers are only its vassals, whilst it is their inexorable tyrant.
Yet in others it is but tame, subservient, even passive. In some
It is easily and powerfully excited, as well as raf)acious; w^hilst in
others it is slow and diflicult, easily turned, and feeble at best.
Of its fusing aspect this is equally true. Some natunilly blend
and afliliate easily and fully with their sexual mate; become one
amalgam, interfusing and losing their own identity by merging
it with that of their loved one; whilst in others this blending
Bjurit is difl[icult and imperfect. It might aptly be compared to
the welding of irons ; those red-hot welding completely, but the
cooler they are, the more imperfect is their union; or to the melt-
ing together of different metals, as in German silver, all the \n\r-
tides of each metal flowing and packing themselves together into
R perfect amalgam. Some maintain their identity almost as much
after loving as before, whilst others lose it completely. Some
enjov eating, walking, and life's various pleasures, almost as
much alone as with the one they love; whilst others again can do
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nothing, enjoy nothing, except with their loved one. Some can
love heartily, even if the object is not exactly to their liking;
whilst the love of othei-s is easily chilled by any dissimilaritie.-^.
Some clino- to their h)vod one, even though abused and deeply
wn'>n^ed,like the spaniel which loves though beaten; while minor
wrouijs com[)letely alienate the affections of others. And thus
throughout tlie entire chapter of this blending influence of love.
This difference is fundamental, like the differences in talents,
music, ficrures, poetry, &c. It has its cause, and this cause is the
different degrees of strength in this amatory sentiment. It is
this element which loves, blends, awakens love, and both attracts
and is attracted. It blends in order to transmit ; and the stronger
this Faculty, the more perfect both the blending and the progeny.
541. — Love confers this Conjugal Talent or Knack.
Capacity to lovf and awaken this tender passion, is as much a
grift, a real genius, as any other; and the basis of all conjugal ex-
cellence. On it rests the entire superstructure of wedlock. Out
of it, like limbs and fruit from their trunk, grow all marital
virtues and enjoyments. Its full and perfect action perfectly ful-
fils them all. They are complete when its action is perfect, but
incomplete when it is weak. Those in whom it is vigorous and
normal, cannot make poor husbands or wives, though faulty in
rtther respects; nor those good ones in whom it is deficient,
however many or great their other excellences. The former are
always extra fond, loving, doting, devoted, and happy in wedlock
when fond at all, yet when antagonistic, become the more so the
better it is developed ; for, like a two-edged sword, it cuts fear-
fully, the wrong way when it does not cut the right. As large
Causality predisposes to reason, and gives reasoning talent, and
large Order both loves method and keeps all things in their places ;
FO large Love both predisposes to marriage, and confers the real
conjugal, loving, lovable gift, instinct, "knack."
LovB IS stronger in some, and weaker in others. As some
excel in one gift, yet lack another, are good in music but poor in
figures, &c. ; so this loving, lovable capacity is strong in some
but weak in others. The difference between different persons in
Jiis respect is indeed hoaven-wide. Those in whom it is larg(3
and normal, instinctively make good husbands and wives without
effort ; yet those who kck it make poor ones, though they try
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^heir best. A man ever so industrious, steady, provident, liberal,
pious, moral, intelligent, &c., if this Faculty is weak, is only a poor,
commonplace husband, unloving and unloved ; comparatively
soulless, withered, barren, inditt'ereut, . cold-hearted, rigid, un-
couth, and cares little for woman in general, or wife \m partic-
ular, and is cared little for by either; while he in whom it is
hearty and normal, is like a perpetually overHowing fountain,
constiintly bubbling up with the sparkling waters of con jugality.
He. loves woman in general, and wife in particular, which both
awakens their love, and teaches him instinctively just how to
comport himself toward both. He is all warmth, glowing, gush-
ing, and rich in all the masculine attributes ; .while he in whom
it is deficient is unmanned, emasculated in soul and body, and
proportionally worthless as a husband.
A WOMAN whose Love is weak, is cold, sfjiritless, passive, tamo,
and barren in all the feminine attractions and virtues ; half dead
and alive; like leather as compared with skin, having the female
groundwork^ but lacking its life and soul ; may indeed be a
great worker and a good housekeeper ; the kindest and best of
neighbors; refined, pro[)er, and much besides; but will be barren
in womanliness, and therefore lack this ''one thins: needful " in
conjugality, this very heart's core of female nature, and the lov-
able wife. Though good in all other respects, yet as a wife
proper she is proportionally good for nothing. " I would as
soon marry a post as her," said a wcll-soxed man of an extra nice,
refined, intellectual, squeamish, unmarried woman of thirty, in
whom this Faculty was wanting. Let the following fact illus-
trate. A well-sexed husband on hearing these views said, —
" Prof. F., you really must apply your phrenological skill to determine
^iiy I and my wife disagree thus. I lived in perfect conjugal happiness
with my first wife, and came to my second marriage with the very best of
intentions; planted, built, and did everything just as she desired, hut
everything displeases. We live together on tolerance merely. Say scien-
tifi(;ally what and where our trouble lies."
Her love element was weak. Tlerein consisted her defect
She was ^incapable of appreciating masculine excellence, or mani-
festing feminine ; of loving, or awakening love. Her sister, simi-
larly constituted, when advised not to marry, replie<l, ** I never
want to." In all who are indiflferent to marriage it is feeble, and
vice vcrsd. It may be naturally strong, yet temporarily weakened
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by physical debility, or sexual impairments, or surfeited or dead
ened by early errors, by disappointed love, &c., of which here-
after. Yet this alone is the marrying and marriageable element,
all else being subservient to this great prerequisite.
Expect an insipid marriage if it is feeble in yourself or com-
f)anion ; and that minor ditferences will alienate you, where hearty
love would harmonize. Yet to those who marry for station,
home, money, &c., it is less important.
All HAIL THIS LOVE ELEMENT, this coujugal inspiration and gift.
So far from being mean, low-lived, sensualizing, it takes its dig-
nified rank among the human capacities. Its 'perversion alone is
despicable ; yet so is that of all the others. As Secrecy, good in
itself, is wicked only when perverted to lying; as Worship is
self-exalting when rightly exercised, yet degrades when perverted
to idolatry ; so perverted Love creates the vilest of the vices ; yet
no human virtue is more praiseworthy, purifying, or elevating
than its proper exercise ; and when powerful and normal, becomes
a real genius, and as much to be prized and cultivated as a talent
for invention, poetry, oratory, logic. As we honor a gifted mu-
sician much, why not a prime husband or wife more? Is not
Love as great a human endowment as reason, and as useful ? Then
why not honor and nurture it as much more as its end is more
indispensable? *^*
542. — Preciousnkss of a hearty Love-Kature over a Passive.
How INFINITELY GLORIOUS this loving, lovable capacity! What
sacrifices for its object it inspires ! What faults it hides ! What
virtues it develops I What other felicity equals it ! What ec-
stasy as ecstatic! What a zest it imparts to every other life
function and enjoyment! What joy in being loved! Girl, you
little realize the intrinsic worth of that tender regard for you
existing in your lover's soul, or you would not trifle with it.
No emotion, not even worship, is any more sacred. Ye who have
never loved stand aside, for novices are counted out ; as are yQ
who have loved only indiiFerently. But all ye who have loved
heartily^ was not that love-season your most sacred life-epoch?
Were you not regenerated by it ? Not sprinkled, but* baptized
nU over. To love and be loved tamely, passively, is something •,
but to love and be loved with a whole-souled and a poioerful affec-
tion, is life's most luxurious and delicious feast perpetually served
LOVE: ITS ANALYSIS AND FUNCTIONS. lOtJ
Up. Have and prize musical gift, poetical talent, or any other
you may possess ; but to whatsoever other gift I possess let me
superadd an intense, a dotingly-devoted love-nature, and a lovable
object. Be rich, yet unloving, if you will, but let 7ne be affec-
tionate though poor. Give me a clear head along with a warm
heart, yet if but one, the warm, doting, loving heart first.
Say all ye who lovb, in wedlock and out, man and woman,
crave ye, prize ye, a tame, cool, listless, passive, inert, lazy, " luke-
warm " lover, or one who fairly boils over with an enraptured devo-
tion ? Choose ye, for you can find both Miss Proper, and Miss
Hearty.
Take that dashing, heartless beauty to your home, your arms,
ye who will, but let nie take one brimful of love, even though
plain. Take that rich, soulless Miss, but give me one whose devo-
tion knows no bounds. Take that " accomplished " society girl,
whose flirtations have worn threadbare or frittered away or wilted
her power to love, but give a fond, clinging, doting Miss. Take
that classical face, but give those lips which can bestow a genuine,
hearty kiss. Take that insipid lover, yet give one to love who
loves to actual idolatry, and let me love almost to frenzy. And
if I must be delicious, let it be as a lover. Let memory decline,
finance, ambition, Ac, wane, but 0 let affection die last, and '' livd
again " first, and be forever completely intertwined with one who
\oYi\s> with celestial fervor.
CHAPTER II.
THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
Section L
THE CREATIVE OFFICE OF EACH SEX GIVES ITS ANALYSIS.
543. — Male and female Science defined.
rjlIIE male entity exists : therefore it has its governing laws,
J- which reduce it to a science. This is equally true of the
female. The science of each sex centres in the ends each was cre-
ated to accomplish, and the means used therefor.'^
To ORIGINATE LIFE TOGETHER wcrc they Created : therefore there
must be a system of laws governing their co-operative action. This
re(|uires and presupposes their mutual adaptation to each otJier^ a^
well as to their conjoint creative work; and this a science of their
correlations. The science of each must therefore be interlaced
with that of the other; which necessitates their being studied
together. Then how almost useless are all isolated demonstra-
tions of the anatomy of either sex, except as it is adapted to act
with that of the other, for which all parts of each are mutually
created? And yet anatomical works make scarcely one single
allusion to their mutual adaptations; nor many to the specific
office of each part of each, and its adaptation thereto, — an omis-
sion we supply.
Everything masculine impinges on its adaptation to the femi-
nine, and feminine to the masculine, and both to'each other, their
respective male and female mentalities included.
Their creative co-operation of course has also its " natural
laws," which command the male to fulfil whatever appertains to
his creative department in the particular manner they prescribe,
which thereby becomes right; but in no other, which by vio-
lating them becomes wrong; and vice versd of whatever apper-
tains to the female. Each should therefore study the science or
requirement of their mutual action.
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CREATIVE OFFICE OF THE SEXES. 105
To EXPOUND THEIR CONJOINT relations, thoughtful reader, is that
august subject we now approacli. And this volume '' stands soli-
tary and alone," in seizing this problem by its creative honiSy and
discussing it ironx first principles,
544. — Analysis of Sexual Attraction and Perfection.
To effect some SPECIFIC END was everything created, as were all
its parts, llence that is obviously the most perfect of its kind
which is the best adapted to fullil its express mission. This is
a universal definition of all perfection, applicable alike to every-
thing whatever. Therefore —
He is THE MOST PERFECT MAN AND SHE WOMAN who is the bcst
adapted to fulfil the masculine or feminine ofiice, or that end
each was created to execute. This principle furnishes a scien-
tific crucible by which to test the perfections and imperfections
of each sex per se, and all the relations of each to the other. The
ijcientific answer, then, to this question — What is the oftice of the
male, and what of the female "^ is infinitely important to every
member of each sex. And this same answer shows each just
what attracts and what repels the other.
To INITIATE LIFE by impregnating woman alone was man created
a male. Building and working railroads, ships, factories, &c.,
swaying armies and governments, making great inventions and
gnjater speeches, &c., are human ends, instead of masculine as
8U(h. Whatever is requisite to establish the most and best life-
germs constitutes and defines a man. And all his conduct
towards woman must be governed by this his male office, and
promotive of it.
To BECOME A MOTHER, Fcceive, nurturc, and bring forth ofispring
alone was every woman created a female. To this sole end
is every iota of her specific feminine constitution created, and
adapted : therefore she is the queen among women, the pattern
female as such, who is capacitated to bring forth and bring up
the most and best young. She must receive the life-germ, and
\herefore be attentive to man, that she may be selected and
occepted by him. This is the sole end and object attained by
every female charm and accomplishment as such. And she must
be attrackd as well as attract. They must somehow be brought
together. Each sex must attract and be attracted to the other, el8#
how could they unite in creatinjj ?
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545. — Their Lovb must be Mutual, and Powerful.
Both must create together: therefore each must love th»>
other. Love on only one side could not create; therefore desiro
to be loved accomj>anies love, and is proportionate to it.**' Love
strong on one side but weak on the other might give children ;
yet much poorer than if both loved heartily. Hence intense Love
unreciprocated creates disappointment and chagrin; and if re-
pulsed, becomes morbid, and turns to hatred as tierce as it was
fervid.
Each must love heartily. All antagonisms must be sur-
mounted. Many require to become parents together who differ
so widely in tastes, opinions, likes, &c., that only some all-power-
ful attractive force could unite them sufficiently for mutual
parentage. Tame Love must give only tame children,*** so that
their mutual attraction must be sufficient to create intense pa-
tental desire despite their opposing traits.
Man's love must be powerful enough to make him gladly over-
look her fiiults ; bind him to her alone for life ; assume all the ob-
ligations of providing and caring for wife and children ; inspire
him to work early and late for them; unloose his purse-strings;"*
overlook their faults ; and do with real zest and pleasure all
required of a husband and father.
Woman's love must be stronger still ; because the mother has
most to do and sacrifice. She must be drawn and inspired to her
creative work by a whole-souled enthusiasm commensurate to its
paramount importance and magnitude ; *^^ and with a surplus
am[)ly sufficient to cast into the background all the pains incident
to carriage and delivery, and undertake with joy all the labors,
cures, watching, &c., of nursing. Only some oveiivhelfning senti-
ment could effect all this. She must be ''dead in love," almost
love-crazed, infatuated, bewitched, "smashed," and literally
'- love-cracked." Then
Don't blame lovesick girls, for they were made thus loving
because only this almost affectional insanity could guarantee that
maternity for which alone they were created females. Teach them
to sanctify Love, and guide it by sense, but not to crucify, nor even
stifle it. A handsome girl is something; one real good, willing,
Relf-sacrificing, more; but one who loves almost to distraction is
transcendently the most. Take those "lukewarm," passive,
indifferent, loveless beauties, you who would become marital
CREATIVE OFFICE OF THE SEXES. 107
martyrs; but she is the premium wife whose fervid, glowing,
doting, devoted, enthusiastic, whole-souled Love knows no bounds:
who is spellbound, magnetized, entranced ; beside herself when
beside her lover ; whose Love, torrent-like, sweeps all before it ;
allowing nothing to flex or stifle it.
" Be careful how you thus compliment indiscreet girb and illegitimate
inothers."
God made this principle, had to make it in order to carry out
His greatest work; so go settle your hash with Him. Whom this
God-made principle condemns or commends, concerns its divine
Author, not its human scribe. Men often condemn what they
ought to prize and patronize.
Then let her be loved with a like passionate enthusiasm, and
wfuU cfdldren as well as what perpetual conjugal ecstasy I
"But such violence of Love might make her love another equally."
Not WHILE IT IS reciprocated. Love is the more constant the
stronger it is, till interrupted."*
546. — Just what Loves, and is loved ; Attracts, and is at-
tracted.
The practical importance of this problem is almost infinite,
because the lessons it teaches are proportionally valuable. None
more so. It teaches men how to render themselves acceptable to
women, and women to men; any given man how to fascinate the
woman he selects, and any woman just what to do and how to
feel and act, what traits to manifest and what not, in order to
make herself lovely and lov^cd, selectable and selected in marriage
— girls, old maids, how much is all that worth? — the married
how to retain each other's aftections ; and by converse what dis-
pleases and alienates ; and many other like invaluable lessons.
Manly attributes enamour women."^*** Then what attributes
are manly ? Those which endow offspring — confer those qualities
Nature made the male to impart. What are these attributes? Our
next section answers. We are now stating the problem. So, too
Womanly qualities alonb attract men, those which mothers
confer on children. This is proved by the very philosophy of
this attractive Love itself. The entire rationale of their mutual
attraction is to bring them together in parentage.^ For thi#
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alone were they sexed, and made loving and lovely to each other.
Tins is patent. The inference then is philosophical, is absolute,
that each sex will love in the opposite what and all that this
loved other sex oonfere on offspring, — that patermd attributes art"
alone lovely to women, and maternal to men. Eunuchs lack Love
because they lack paternity ; men have either because they have
the other; and each is the stronger or weaker as the other is
either. Woman, too, loves the more the more maternal or child-
endowing capacity she possesses. The loving, lovable attributes
of each sex centre in, grow out of, their parental capacities.
What could be clearer ?
All individual loves, attractions, admirations, aiFections,
spring from and are governed by this trunk principle. Any,
every man will love that woman best by whonti he can have the
most and best offspring; and any and all women love that man,
those men best who are adapted to give tliem tlie best young ; and
in that proportion. Thus one man is powerfully drawn to and
draws Miss A., but not Miss B. ; while another is powerfully
drawn to and draws Miss B., but not Miss A. ; because those thus
Uidtually drawn are better adapted to mutual parentage than
those not. Any given man will love that particular woman the
most devoutly, and she him, who, taking her as she is in conjaw-
tion with him as he is, will together parent the most and best young.
That is: man loves in woman whatever she brings to the crea-
tive altar, and woman that in man which he brings ; and both
because of and in proportion thereto : each sex thereby paying
the greatest possible bonus to the other to cultivate them. Na-
ture thereby secures the best children.
What women love in men, therefore becomes an infallible defi-
nition and test of manhood ; as what men love in women doevi
of womanhood.
The vast importance of this sexual talisman cannot be over-
estimated. Men, it concerns you to know a woman at first sight,
so as to be able to select for a wife or female friend a genuine
woman; one who will develop your manliness, and make the
most out of you ; as well as who can love best and awaken the
most Love ; and above all, give you the best children to love and
care for.
Women, you, too, n^ed to discern men on sight, so as to select
an object worthy of your whole-souled affections, who can call it
CREATIVE OFFICE OF THE SEXES. lUS
all out, develop you as a woman, and give you cliildren every way
wortliy all the pains, care, lite-furce, everything you are to bestow
on them. A question of equal life-long moment to all of both
sexes cannot well be propounded. We should tremble as we advance
to its solution, but that our landmarks are both clear and positive.
547. — Male and Female Heads and Attributes.
Phrenology always designates the male head from the fe-
male by their forms and developments ; even to telling mascu-
line from feminine skulls. The Author, many thousand times
before large audiences, and tens of thonsands in private practice,
has told after which parent this man, chat woman, and this or
that child^ inherit this, that, and the other quality ; saying posi-
tively, " This one is from a consumptive parentage on the father's
side, that on the mother's;" and ''this person's /a/A^r's ancestors
lived to be thus old f^ while his mother's died thus young, or
vice versd;'' and describes each parent, just from the progeny.
Here is a veritable /ar^^, capable of inductive demonstration. The
inquiry, then, is curious, By what means can all this be phrenolog-
ically predicated ? In what 1/jw are these prognostications founded ?
In this —
Male heads have one set of organs predominant, with another
set deficient ; while female heads show another set predominant,
with still another deficient. Then what organs, when predomi-
nant, signify male heads, and what female? The answer is really
very important. The Author, asked how he determines this
point more than any other, answers : —
" A Woman who has several of the masculine organs well de-
veloped, inherits this and that trait of mind and physical quality
from her father, who was thus and so, because his daughter is."
Yon are predisposed to consumption, which you therefore " inlierit
from him," or "you resemble your mother because you have the
female phrenology well develo|>ed, and are long-lived ; therefore
your mother's father lived to be about eighty or ninety, or ninety-
five, or over a hundred," as the case may be.
He makes >o mistakes, except one case in hundreds, when a
female resembles father, and he his mother, if not quite sharp
enough to spell out the modification exerted by his father, he
might say " mother," when it should be " father's morther," and
always predicates correctly whether the inheritance came from a
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vigorous male, or a powerful female; which is the determining
question.
Some say fathers, others mothers, impress offspring the
most; but a long and large observation of facts bearing directly
upon this point proves that while some children are nearly all
fathers', and others mostly mothers',**^ yet in the great average
they usually resemble each sex about equally. Fathers, however,
more frequently impart the form, bones, muscles, propensities, and
reflectives; while children oftener resemble their mothers in their
aiFections, moral sentiments, nervous Temperament, tastes, and
literary Faculties. Obviously all each has, they transmit ; so that
both should love their children as indeed bone of their bone, and
flesh of their flesh. Yet the child's inheriting however much
from either parent, does not hinder its inheriting just as much
from the other. As in compounding lemonade, all the sour and
all the sweet put in are there, however much or little there is of
either or both ; so paternal qualities in nowise expel or smother
maternal, nor maternal paternal. His may be strongest, yet all
of hers, whether much or little, will be there. Then
What are the phrenological specialties of male heads? that
is: what trait in men do women love? We shall answer both
questions together, because precisely the same principles answer
both.
648. — Hybrids show what Traits descend from each Sex.
Mules furnish our best example. They derive their ears,
bones, constitution, hardihood, gait, bray, intelligence, obstinacy,
disposition to kick, rear, follow, &c.,and usually their color, from
the ass father. Size again depends much on the mother ; for the
hinny, produced by the horse father and ass mother, is too small
to be of any practical account, because its mother does not furnish
sufficient materials for its growth ; and large mules are from largo
mares, because they furnish plenty of growth material ; though
size also depends somewhat on fathers.
Rogers Hybrid grapes give an instructive example from the
vegetable kingdom. All had a large, purple, hardy wild grape
for their mother, with greenhouse varieties for their father, and
" inherit" their hardihood and early maturity from their mother,
but their rampant growth, prolificality, and flavor from theii
paternal side ; and are thus better than either, because they em-
body the excellence of both.
^REATIVE OFFICE OF THE SEXES. Ill
Human and animal hybrids are denounced most terribly in the
fVible : obviously because the mixing up of man with beast, or
one beast species with another, deteriorates. Universal amalgiv^
mation would be disastrous.
MuLATTCES FURNISH ANOTHER hybrid example. They are gen-
erally the product of Caucasian fathers with African mothers ;
rarely the converse. Many of them are remarkably intelligent.
** Fred. Douglass " in his prime had few equals as a speaker for
clearness, force, fervor, sarcasm, argument, and long-headed sagac-
ity, his enemies even being judges ; yet all his distinguishing
specialties are masculine traits, showing that they are paternal.
Similar remarks apply to other colored celebrities. John Ran-
dolph boasted of his descent from Pocahontas. Generally
MuLATTOES ARE WEAKLY in constitution, and soon " run out ; "
each generation growing the weaker the more white blood they
receive. Their children are often brilliant, yet lack strength ;
and are unfit for labor, though negroes have wonderful muscular
I)Ower.
Octoroons are often very beautiful, refined, genteel, mannerly,
and proud-spirited. How wicked thus to humble Caucasian pride
of character with African inferiority of position ! Octoroons
should either not be created, or else not considered degraded b}^
their color, but be rated by their merits. Mixing races, forbidden
by Nature, should not be perpetrated by man. Caucasian com-
merce with negresses is inherently vulgar, as are white and black
marriages.
A Southern wife incidentally illustrated this, when asked how
Southern wives could endure to see mulatto children running in
and out bearing all the hereditary marks of their husbands, by
replying —
" A WENCH 18 A CHATTEL I therefore our white husbands can't love her ;
yet she relieves their merely animal cravings, which leaves their purer,
hi;,'her aspect of Love for us, besides saving Southern wives from those
excesses imposed by Northern husbands; bad-white women included."
Half-bred squaws are feeble sexually, as are most mulatto
females, a fact confirmed by all observation. They menstruate
late, sparsely, and with pain, and become disordered easily ;
besides having little passion, in which negresses superabound ;
doubtless because their white fathers, partly nauseated by their
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paramour's odor and color, beget mainly in lust instead of Love,
and with diminished zest and inspiration; besides the imperfect
blending of parental bkxxl. Tlie cause is at least most instructive.
Yet
Simply pointing this telescope of observation towards that part
of the heavens of creative philosophy where remain to be dis-
covered stars of truth of the first magnitude, we turn to another
absolute determiner of the creative offices of the male, in the
loves of the female.
Section II.
MANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOYE IN MEN.
549. — Women love Male Strength, Size, and a Fine Physique.
Fathers impart more of the physical to their children than
mothers ; as is proved by more looking, moving, acting, and being
in complexion like their fathers than mothers ; which universal
observation attests. Accordingly women love tall, large, and
strong men much better than those who are small, short, and
weak. True, better small fathers and children than neither ; yet
those good-sized; other things being equal, are much the most
acceptable. Try this experiment. Promenade some fashionable
street at tlie fashionable hour, thronged by fashionable women,
who have learned to *' take the measure " of men at sight, walk-
ing a few feet behind a large, tall, dark-haired, prominent-featured,
athletic man, so that, as these ladies pass him, you can read in
their faces what they think of him, and you will find their cheeks
flushed, mouths and eyes dilated, and faces all aglow with admi-
ration of him ; yet follow a little, short, brisk Mr. Bantam, and
you will read in their faces a petting, babying expression, mingled
with a derisive smile, as if thinking —
" What a little bit of a husband that bantam fellow would make. I
would n't mind kissing him, though after all he 's too large for the cradle,
yet too small for the bed."
" This is really awful on us little fellows^ who can't make our-
selves grow."
By Fulfilling Nature's growth laws, up to twenty-two^
parents can reijder children, and young folks themselves, the
MANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOVE IN MEN. 113
larger, just as farmers produce larger crops and stock by fur-
nishing a surplus of organic material for growth ; whereas, sup-
plying them but little, or their consuming on study or labor or
the passions the materials needed for growth, necessarily dwarfs
tham. See Part VIII. on this point.
Youthful sexual excitement dwarfs more effectually than
anything else. Note this, lads and lasses, young men and women,
and especially parents as regards your children.
Weakly men awaken female pity, just as do sickly children;
which is unfavorable to Love. A nursed man may love his female
nurse from his gratitude awakening his Love, and his hers ; yet
women love those men best who need no nursing, are robust not
sickly ; red-faced not " white-livered," hearty feeders not dainty ;
more muscular than exquisite ; springy in walk not tottering ;
and masculine not effeminate, in mind and body.
550. — The True Masculine Form of Body.
All forms proclaim character, existing states included. As
all animals, vegetables, things, tell all about both their general
characteristics, and whether now in a good or poor condition ; so
one general conformation always accompanies and indicates males,
and another females. Then what forms accompany each sex, and
indicate their present states ?
Our Apollo Belvidere is itot a good representation of physical
manhood, because too handsome. Powers's Greek Slave proves
fchat moderns can excel ancients in modelling the female figure ;
then why not also the male ? Yet their model of him is probably
lost.
Physical power, brawn, large bones and strong muscles, are
masculine prerequisites. These create prominent and strongly-
marked features, a large and projecting nose, chin, and cheek-
bones; a bold, abrupt outline; along with distinct lacial linefl;
as in Generals Sherman and Scott, and Admiral Farragut.
Lincoln furnishes an illustration of an originally powerful
male though temporarily exhausted, worked out ; while Lcc mani-
fests potential masculinity in good condition. Lincoln lacks
what Lee possesses — the vitality to sustain his manhood.
Stonewall Jackson evinces the highest order of virility and
masculine potentiality. He is neither too large nor too small, and
Beems all tightened up with manhood in its high-preseure state.
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The Prominent and Athletic Male Form.
Fio. 509.— Sherman.
Fig. 511.— Farraqut.
About Eight.
Fig. 510.— Scott.
Too Spare.
Fig. 512.— a. Lincoln.
Extreme Vigor.
Fig. 513.— R. E. Lee.
Fig. 514.— Stonewall Jackson.
MANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOVE IX MEN. 11^
Masculinity with Balance.
Masculinity with Prominence
17
Fio. 515. — Caldwell.
Fig. 516. — Sydney Smith, the Reviewbb.
Stocky Manhood.
ITto K1 7 V
116 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
Dr. Caldwell and Sydney Smith, the Reviewer, both powerful
philosophical writers, furnish samples of two male forms in con-
trast: Caldwell, of the prominent and ani^ular form, and Smith,
of the prominent and full. Yet, all things considered, the spare
is preferable. Virility superabounds more with this form than
any other but one, namely, —
There are two general male figures, either good, the one tad,
stocky, stout-built, deei>chested from breastbone to shoulder-
blades, like Edward Everett and Bismarck.
Stocky Men. — Too Fleshy Manhood.
Fig. 518. — Bismarck.
This style of males is powerful, yet less brisk and rather
unwieldy. Thomas Benton belonged to this class, yet had great
vigor and a superbly-sexed voice, and Brigham Young is betweer
MANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOVE IN MEN. 117
it and the next, and comes very near being a premium male,
though not quite prominent enough for his breadth. Few men
equal him as a man.
C^SAR is admirably Premium Manhood.
masculinized, equalling
Washington as a pre-
mium man.
The other type is tall,
and icidc from shoulder
to shoulder, and long-
waistcd, the lungs run-
ning far down into the
body, instead of bulging
out. Henry Clay, John
C. Calhoun, Dr. Cald-
well, and Elias Hicks
are samples of this form.
Henry Clay came
very near being a model
man. He was over six
feet tall, weighed near
two hundred pounds,
was broad- and w^iic^-shouldered, and also sharp-featured, yet not
Fio. 619.— Daniel Webster.
A Perfect Man.
Nearly Perfect Manhood.
Fio. 520.— Brioham Youno.
Fio. 521.— Cjbiab Auoustub.
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fat, while Baron Cuvier belongs to the first rank, with Washing-
ton, Jefferson, and Webster.
The higuest type of manhood unites both forms, by being both
broad from shoulder to shoulder, and deep from sternum to
Fekfect.
Nearly Perfect.
Fio. 522.— Henry Clay.
Fig. 523.— Babon Cuvier.
scapula. Of this form George Washington, Thomas Jefferson,
John llancock, and Daniel Webster, furnish perfect types.
Great, giant men are often poor males — always when flabby,
The Perfect Male Figure.
Fig. 524.— George Washington.
MANHOOD DEFINED BY WHAT WOMEN LOVE IN MEN. 119
or obese, or logy ; men undersized, but highly electric,^ are
far better than those large, yet stag-like. Size with a low organi.
zation is far inferior to medium stature with a snappy organism.
Of theae Stonewall Jackson furnishes a premium specimen.
The Perfect Male Figure.
Fig. 525.— TnoMAs Jefferson.
Hercules gives probably the very best model of the physical
man extant. Tall, yet not spindling ; all muscle and brawn ;
broad, but not rotund ; as perfect a representation as could be
desired.
Ladies, study your intuitional tastes and think out and tell
us what 'male figures you like best ; for, in selecting husbande,
you need to be able to tell a man from a thing whenever you sec
either. Yet, of course, some prefer one form, others another,
according to their oxon forma.
551. — Women love Courage, Force, and Firmness in Men.
Males are the natural protectors of females and offspring.
Mothers protect children, and fathers both. Threatened swine
instantly form with their pigs in the centre, sows next outside,
and boars outside of all, heads to the front, tierce in defence of
bath ; while roosters heroically defend hens and chickens against
PjERPBCT PHYMCAIi MaNHOOD.
Fig. 526.— Hercules.
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hawks. The very etymology of hero signifies that it originates
in this male entity.
Geese gather and chatter approvingly around the conquering
gander, without one item of sympathy for the " whiped-out '*
flunky.
All WOMEN love heroic and brave soldiers who return from
war clothed with martial renown, but despise cowards. All
history proves and illustrates this truth ; as did knight-errantry.
All novels describe their heroes as doing some bold, daring
feat, which carries the heroine's heart by a coup de mam ; yet
never represent heroines as thus rescuing or daring ; for this is
not feminine, except in absolute emergencies. Men love amiable-
ness in women ; but women love prowess in men ; because brave
sons come mostly from brave fathers, or else energetic mothers
who derived their Force from brave fathers. So all ye men who
court, never give up beat, but at least show game and pluck.
Never confess yourself worsted. Threaten if you like, but never
snivel, nor crave sympathy of any woman, unless you are willing
she should despise you.
Bashfulness, women abominate ; because it is a phase of cow-
ardice mingled with humility and awe. Women love to look up
to their natural " lord and master," but not to be looked up to.
Women love stability, but hate fickleness in men, both be-
cause offspring derive perseverance, decision, backbone, rigidity,
mainly from their father, or mother's father ; and because paternal
duties demand life-long, persistent attention; yet men love plia-
bility in women. And the less firm a womau is the more she
admires firm and loathes fickle men. She requires one on whom
she can depend, rely, but hates a putty man. It is singular, but
true, that women who hate desperately to be overruled, often
admire men who overrule them. So all ye who court or love female
appreciation, never " back down " from any position once taken.
Much better take right ground at first, but stick well to whatever
you do assume ; for singular, but true, any genuine woman had
rather see her favorite stick to his text, though he, slie, and all
know liim to be in the wrong, than to own up fallible. A
Southern lady once said of a man who perfectly worsliipped hen
and almost died of a broken heart in consequence of her di»'
missal, —
" I refused him because he coincided with whatever I said, and had nt
independent mind and will of hia own."
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Firmness, Force, and . Destruction, are, 'par excellence^ mascu-
line traits, and transmitted most through fathers ; and therefore
the special object of female appreciation and love.
552. —Women love Dignity, but hate Trifling, in Men.
Male heads are highest at the crown, where female heads are
flattened. This Phrenology demonstrates, and all our engravings
of men illustrate —Caldwell, Fig. 515, at 17, contrasted with
Fannie Forester, Fig. 541.
The natural language of all males, that highest test of char-
acteristics, indicates nobleness, majesty, magnanimity, and self-
esteem ; of which all bulls, stallions, lions, tigers, roosters, gobblers,
and all other males compared with their females, furnish perpetual
examples; and all highly masculinized men are the impersona-
tion of Dignity and self-trust. And how mean are sneaking,
cringing, sheepish, walk and looks in males.
Leadership is indispensable in all things. As every army,
however courageous, must have its commander, every government
its king or president, every corporation and assemblage its chair-
man, and every body its head ; so some one member of every fam-
ily must assume its control. Obviously the husband is the right-
ful author of what it is to do ; its committee of ways and moans ;
and the one especially responsible, pecuniarily and generally. Its
leadership is eventful, and requires one able and willing to "as-
sume responsibilities," and be its final umpire and arbiter. God
in Nature obviously assigns this position to the husband and
father. All nations and people, civilized, semi-barbarous, and
savage, have acted out this human instinct by incorporating it
into all marital ceremonies in their requiring every bride to
swear to obey and reverence her husband, not him her; which
Paul illustrates by commanding "Wives, obey your husbands in
all things." "Man is the head of the woman." Proof that he is
the natural family sovereign is no more necessary than that the
sun gives light. All genuine men naturally assume the command,
which all true women willingly accord; glad to be relieved from
its concomitant responsibilities. Man, stronger, bolder, begins,
while women naturally "fall in" as his ally and "helpmeet,"
which implies dependence.
All women must respect, look up to, depend upon, a man as a
condition precedent to her loving him. Her nature is clinging.
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vinelike, dependant. Hence she naturally takes Aw arm, not he
liers, and loves to hang on it in walking the more in proportion
as she is the more feminine. And obviously for this reason: she
needs support, some strong arm on which to lean, while carrying
and nursing children.
All women despise men who let themselves down, trifle, be-
little themselves, appear humbled or subdued ; but admire to see
their favorite put himself on his dignity, appear proud, self-
respectful, and take high ground, and then maintain it '' like a
man." Respect yourselves, all ye men who want woman to love
you, for she can love only whom she respects; and resj)ect8and
confides in only those who respect and trust themselves. She will
pardon conceit, but not humility. Let all women consult their
instincts, and attest.
Women despise all men they can henpeck, manage, order, over-
rule, cow-down, subdue.
Woman is man's privy councillor. The true husband should,
and always will, consult his intuitional wife when both love.
Everything between them should be mutual and co-operative, like
their creative office,**^ yet he at their head ; but commanding only
in emergencies, and always in tenderness and love. A stern,
domineering tone and bearing towards her, as if she were his
menial, is anything but conjugal or manly.
All landladies, milliners, storekeepers, and women who carry
on any business — masculinized women excepted — must lean on
some masculine advisers, because to command is not feminine.
They govern far more absolutely through their aflfections than
force or fear^ or else lead by inspiring men, as did Joan of Arc.
"Why are women so blindly furiously wilful then, and obsti-
nately bent on carrying their points, despite consequences?"
Because of their emotionality,*" not Firmness. Feelings rule.
Woman is made to crave everything with resistless intensity, so
that her maternal cravings may overcome all prudential consider-
ations.***
658. — Women dearly love Gallantry and Generosity in Men.
Attention from men is a strong female desire, passion even,
because it is a great feminine need. Gallantry is a powerful mas-
culine impulse, and just as spontaneous && breathing. Behold all
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gentlemen pouring forth one steady stream of courtesy to ah
ladies ! not in lavishing compliments and civilities merely, but
also in making real genuine self-sacrifices of money, comforts, and
giving the very best of every thi ng going, &c. Nor grudgingly, but
gladly^ as if it were a great privilege. Knight-errantry consisted
chiefly in this identical gallantry. The forms it assumes are
innumerable, and seen everywhere, in king and peasant, and both
a mark and the test and measure of civilization itself I
Gallantry prompted Captain Hernden, as it has many others,
to save all the icomen and children from his wrecked ship first,
though he thereby imperilled and lost his own life. Eternal honor
to his manly head and heart. Let the whole female sex raise
a fitting monument of perpetual gratitude to one, to all, thus
nobly true to manly instinct ; and men everywhere imitate his
glorious example by saving women from all danger, and doing
her no evil. Lack of gallantry is due to lack of manliness.
What originates a result thus powerful and universal? It
must be based in some great female necessity. What?
Generosity is a branch of this gallantry, and might even be
called its twin trunk, both springing from one tap-root. How
much money, how many gifts, men bestow on women, no words
(•an tell. Religion absorbs great amounts of money in temples of
worship, ministerial salaries, "• livings," church apparel, &c., and
ambition and appetite each other untold sums, and war still
others ; and yet woman, in one way or another, as wife, daughter,
mistress, and acquaintance, receives over half of all man's time,
attentions, money, and expenditures. How many husbands and
fathers allow their liberality to wives and daughters to min them,
financially ? And how many millions let it keep them " hard up "
all their lives? This identical principle enables blood-sucking
harlots by millions to gorge themselves on masculine earnings.
" The Lord loveth the generous giver : " so do women ; along
with large purses, untied,
. Gallantry and generosity to women thus become genuine mas-
culine attributes.
They were created for a purpose. They fulfil some necessary
ofl&ce, and are adapted to some genuine female necessity ; for God
creates nothing not absolutely essential in executing His wise
plans. What, then, is their rationale ?
Bearing woman's need of man's aid. Carrying and nursing
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her young consume all her organic materials and vital energies ;
thus leaving her really unable to provide herself with required
creative comforts. Yet all-provident Nature must see her amply
j»rovided for. By whom ? Obviously by the father of her chil-
dren. He must care for her, that she may give the more care
to their children. He must bestow liberally on her, that she
may have the more to bestow on them. Her exhaustion by toil
leaves them " all tired out " all their short, weary lives ; whilst
his gallant attentions to her wants help her endow them, mentally
and physically, before their birth.
Behold the reason why men love to bestow, and women to
receive, attentions and presents. Behold and note further the
proof of this theory in the universal fact that
Love alone prompts both these bestowals and receptions. Men
give to women they love^ not promiscuously. Men are as stingy
towards those females they dislike as generous to those they
like. This is a fact patent and universal. Now
Love is the precursor and prompter of both children and
that gallantry and generosity towards their mother needed for
her 'and their support. How wise, how beautiful !
This 'complimentary fact is equally apparent, that women do
hate stinginess in men above all else. Attentions and presents
from men delight and tickle them to death, though unnoticed if
bestowed by women ; because they indicate and pro'^laim Love ;
while they scorn neglect, despise stinginess, and hate those who
evince either. This principle teaches these impor^^nt lessons —
1. Go with full purses, all ye who " go a-courting." All men
are naturally flush to their lady-love, and all courted women
naturally expect their beaux to "launch out" liberally for ice-
creams, candies, rides, presents, &c. : and you can well aiFord to
jHiy for this courting luxury. Love-making implies children in
prospect, and being libenil in courtship proclaims greater in ma-
ternity, and vice versd. Nothing melts a woman*fl lieart like lib-
erality, nor hardens it like meanness. Attest all.
2. Husbands must be as much more liberal to wives tlian
beaux to sweethearts, as they should love more, and are actually,
instead of prospectively, bearing. A husband niggardly towardB
the mother of his children, is no man, nor even brute; for lion
hunts for lioness, and male birds for female. But to be cruel U>
wife during maternity is perfectly outrageous. Nothing equally.
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3. Wives who will not bear deserve no more masculine atten-
tion than men do ; for this gallantry is based in maternity. She
who refuses that to husband without reasons the most weighty,
deserves to be let alone severely.
4. A woman's receiving presents and attentions from a man im-
plies that she will pay him back in Love, and then in bearing him
children. And all genuine women decline all presents and atten-
tions, slight ones excepted, unless they mean to pay thus for them.
5. For a woman to misuse a man after receiving his presents —
to take from and then kick him, is double-distilled outrage.
554. — Man originates Life, and all things Human.
Human life, how infinitely great ! Its origination, how com-
mensurately exalted ! Yet God has not arrogated all this crea-
tive glory to Himself, but graciously summons man to be His
co-worker in this the master-work of His almighty hands. An
honor in achieving which Gabriel might exultingly abandon his
celestial estates, and assume our terrestrial surroundings, with
their woes.*^ Thank God for conferring on man so great an honor,
and delegating to him so great a work. Let all men learn in what
it consists, and consecrate themselves to its perfect fulfilment.
The human mind originates every single feeling, desire, action,
instinct, capacity, and function of man. Even eating, breathing,
moving, &c., spring from this mind. Thinking readers will find
that exposition of the life constituents in Human Science most
profitable here, as giving the primal elements of existence.^- ^
The mental Powers, with their organs, constitute lifb ; its anat-
omy being but its means of action, not itself. All these mental
powers are created in and by the father. Thus power to think,
love, hate, remember, reckon, sing, talk, worship, &c. ; all the
Faculties analyzed in"^ originate in the male, and inhere in
that life-chit he furnishes.
All the physical organs of life are likewise derived from him.
Sight proves that the life-germ has a mouth, a chest, a motive
apparatus, &c. ; and this proves that it has all the other bodily
organs. Thus its having a mouth, which we can see, proves that
it has whatever goes along with it, — chest, stomach, &c. Why
mouth alone? It has muscles ; for we see it move. This proves
that it has the rudiments of all the other organs of the future being ;
and this that it has those mental Faculties which work them ;
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and this that it has all the other mental Faculties. We might
compare it to a framed house, with all its foundation-stones shaped
and in their places ; all its timbei-s framed, raised, and ready to be
finished up. Not that it has each bone actually formed, but its
micleus^ its initial point where growth begins, and that mental
entity which begins to grow. Ilave we not proved that the male
oriirinates life ?
Man originates all else human. All great thoughts, all me-
chanical and other inventions, all original devices and discov-
eries of first principles and fundamental laws and truths, all far-
reaching plans and great human undertakings and works, together
with all great strategetic movements, ever have had, must have, a
masculine origin ; saving slight seeming exceptions from strongly
masculine women, who take after their fathers. Woman might
be expected to invent at least the sewing-machine. Not so : nor
has she added even its single improvement 1 What woman ever
took out a " patent-right," except for patterning after something?
or made one astronomical, or philosophical, or any other great
discovery? or even originated any great poem, like the "^neid*'
or '* Iliad ? " or composed any great song, like the " Marseillaise ? ^
Her creative office is to receive the life-germs already created from
the masculine altar, and feed and rear them ; and hence to help
man complete whatever else he begins ; but not to begin any-
thing.
Mark now perfectly this principle is confirmed by w^hat women
admire in men.
555. — Women love Originality and Talents most in Men.
Ask one hundred pattern women what one quality they admire
above all others — they medium, it potential — in lover or husband^
and ninety-nine will promptly answer, Intellectuality, com-
manding talents, breadth, scope, and strength of understanding.
We rest this case on its facts. Let women be judge, and their
own hearts the only witnesses. The Author lias asked so many,
and received an answer so imiO^rni, tlinf ho puts it forth without
any fear of contradiction.
Hard sense is man's woman-captivating card. You men who
think to enamour women mainly by clean linen, cologne, fashion-
dble clothes, nicely-combed hair,&c., mistake women's appreciating
basis. Show her that you kiww something, and can think, aM
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give her seed-thoughts and original ideas, if you would melt her
heart into yours soon and effectually. Say, women, do you not
love talents, miiui^ in men above beauty, neatness, and everything
else ? Ilence
Intellectual and public men, and those well educated, "take *'
with women much more than those common-place, however nice
or handsome. A magnificent prize-woman, endowed with the
very highest order of feminine nature, instinct — a widow — on
hearing a remarkably clear-headed original lecturer, full of new
and impressive ideas, said to her mother :
" I could love and work with and for that man always. I never before
saw one I really admired."
She was fastidiously neat in person, while he had on stogy
shoes tied with leather strings, and apparel to match ; with hair
unslicked, and manners careless, and no beau about him ; yet his
grand thoughts went right through her head to her heart. Noth-
ing else would have won her. She associated much with law-
yers, judges, politicians, gentlemen of taste, neatness, urbanity,
but his seed ideas " took " with her.
An English aIimy officer, betrothed in marriage to a beautiful,
loving heiress, summoned to India, wrote back to her :
" I HAVE LOST AN EYE, a leg, an arm, and been so badly marred and
begrimed besides, that you never could love this poor maimed soldier.
Yet I love you too well to make your life wretched by requiring you to
keep your marriage-vow with me, from which I hereby release you. Find
among English peers one physically more perfect, whom you can love
better."
She answered, as all genuine women must answer :
' Your noble mind, your splendid talents, your martial prowess which
maimed you, are what I love. As long as you retain sufficient body to
contain the casket of your soul, which alone is what I admire, I love you
all the same, and long to make you mine forever.**
Homely men take best with women, because prominent, out-
landish features signify a powerful organism, which gives com-
manding talents. Hence, men noted for impressing, captivating,
even desperately enamouring and seducing women, are uf^ually
"awful-looking;" while handsome, tidy men stand no chance.
Mere girls, not old enough to know what they do like or dislike,
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are sometimes " smitten " with a " good-looking '' man ; yet is it
not singular that when man sets so much by personal female
beauty, women are so regardless of it in him ? But
All women despise soft men, more than any, all other defects ;
because this would make their children flats. Let facts drawn
from the female heart attest. A dentist wrote in substance thus :
" I WOULD GIVE THE WORLD to regain my wife's lost affections. Please do
me this greatest favor by ascertaining from her what I have done to alien-
ate her Love, and can do and suffer, for I will do and suffer anything, to
regain it."
"He L.A.CKS «ENSE, yet is forward in society, and says and does many
ridiculous things which raise a laugh at his expense ; and I will not, I
cannot, appear in company or live as a wife with a blockhead-laughing-
stock."
"No RECONCILING EFFORTS Were made. His was " a gone case." She
spoke for her sex.
Courting men, all men who seek woman's appreciations or Love,
" take heed " how you show any weak, soft spots. Make no fool-
ish speeches to or before your lady-love, lest you turn her admi-
ration into disgust. Instead, read books, inform yourself; show
her that you know something ; give her some ideas worth con-
sidering, to impress her understanding ; for all women must think
H man smart before they can love him. And the more so the less
their passion.
556. — Women love Sexual Vigor and Passion in Men.
Life must be begun in power, or remain weakly, inert in all
its functions, throughout this life and the next. To be complete,
it must be begotten with that immense cnerg)/ sufficient not only
to impart the greatest possible momentum to all its functions,
but also to impress, impregnate, set apart to its father and it
every pliysical and mental part and parcel of its mother's being.
To achieve all this requires potential virility. He must start off
all its bodily organs and functions, along with all its animal pro-
jjensities, with all possible vim and vigor. Platonic Love creates
sentiment, and should abound in its mother; hut pht/sical hove
is Nature's instrumentality for establishing this its material and
animal department.^ The former must be powerful in the father
that the latter may be vigorous in his offspring. Hence weakly
0
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and declining fathers have weaker children than weakly mothers,
even often by a robust mother ; because, though she may supply
plenty of organic materials, it has too little life-force to appropri-
ate them ; while a weak mother often bears strong children by u
virile father, because she robs herself to supply them. Consump-
tion is oftenest transmitted from fathers, because they furnish
the body f*^ yet more wOmen die with it because of female obstruc-
tions.^
All paternal endowments are impressed at the creative altar
in a short time, while all maternal influences are prolonged
through nine months ; so that, for the time being, his power must
be far the greatest, since each endows about equally.^ Obviously,
Nature would not set apart an entire male for impregnation,
which requires the merest fraction of his life, unless that frac-
tion required tremendous energy at this special time, and an im-
mense proportion of his time in gathering this condensed force ;
like a gun long in loading for a short yet powerful discharge.
Accordingly
All males are bursting with passion during their sexual sea-
son. They seem brimful and running over with it throughout
every avenue for its expression. Of this, bulls in July by paw-
ing and bellowing, and stallions in neighing, yelling, and pranc-
ing, lions in roaring, and gobblers and peacocks in strutting,
furnish perpetual illustrations ; while true men should and do
furnish the highest in their incessant gallantry, which originates
in and expresses this identical passion.*^
Women love passion in men because it impregnates them with
power, and endows their offspring with functional vigor. This
princifjle explains completely this puzzling yet obvious anomaly,
that whilst men esteem virtue in women so much as to utterly
discard for wives those who lack it.
Virtuous women prefer sensual men to pure. Thus, Aaron
Burr,^ one of the greatest of sexual reprobates, completely and
most desperately infatuated a great number of the " first," most
aristocratic, refined, intelligent, and pious ladies ; rendering them
literally beside themselves, and always enamoured every lady he
met. His biographer has more than once advertised to publish
the love-letters Burr received from these ladies, which were the
most melting and loving imaginable, but was each time deterred
by threats that if he did he would be murdered. They well
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remembered how spellbound Burr had rendered them, and how
ecstatic their expressions of Love. Why ? Simply because the
extreme intensity and power of this passion in him enamoured
them. Ilere is a masculo - feminine law. We have given it8
rationale.
A SUPERIOR LADY illustrated this same principle by the follow-
ing chapter from her own history. When asked why pure, vir-
tuous ladies often so manifestly prefer men of known sensual
habits, but discard those of regular ones, answered:
" I KNOWINGLY MARRIED, I know not why, a notorious rake, then under
arrest. I answered a loud rap at my father's door. A large, tall, fine-
looking Burlington steamboat captain, with a very gracious bow, said :
" * You ARE THE VERY ONE I Came to SCO. I havc lived an irregular
life, as all know, but have determined to reform ; and know of no better
way than to put my virtue into the keeping of some good and pure woman.
I have long regarded and admired you as such ; and come this morning,
in this business-like manner, to offer you my hand and heart, and solicit
yours in return. I formally propose myself in marriage ; but do not wish
an answer till you have thought this whole matter all over ; and if favor-
ably, a line from you will gixe me real pleasure. Good-morning.'
" Though at his entrance I felt just like shutting the door in his
face, yet the more I reflected the more I thought favorably, and married
him in preference to several religious and virtuous young men who had
proffered me marriage."
An elderly and most excellent physician incidentally \llu8.
t rated this same truth thus : —
" I HAVE observed THIS SINGULAR FACT in my practice, for which I
cannot account on any known law of mind. My books and practice for
over thirty years show that I stand far above any other doctor here, and
especially in ' the first families.' I am thoroughly educated ; keep read up;
have been remarkably successful ; enjoy the perfect confidence, especially
of all our first mothers of families, having made female practice a spe-
cialty ; and yet here is a little six-weeks upstart of a doctor, who has n't
brains enough to last him over night, without hygienic knowledge, and
whose medical success bears no comparison with mine, who is taking the
medical wind right out of my sails, and working me out of my best fami-
lies, except in serious cases, when they always call me. Unmarried, none
blame all the young ladies for trying to captivate him. He is a known
and notorious rake, and yet, mirabile dictUy what provokes and astounds
me is, that our modest and virtuous girls will be seen accompanying him
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to theatres and concerts, which their mothers allow and seem to like, and
appear so animated and gay when with him. 1 remonstratingly ask
them, —
" ' Why do you patronize that sensual upstart but neglect me, whose
i^kill you have so long tested and commended? Why let your daughters
go with this acknowledged libertine?' They answer that they are not
afraid he will seduce them or their daughters ; but they really like his
bold, brave, cavalier, dashing, amorous style and manner. Now, can it
possibly be that these ladies, that the female sex generally, not only cai'o
naught for virtue in men, but actually court, pet, and patronize licentious
men, solely because they are loose ? "
Our subject answers. The doctor was becoming senile, which
the ladies intuitively perceived, while his rival was full of sex
and passion, and magnetized them. So
Keep a sharp eye on those public men who are especially popu-
lar among the ladies, for this is their trump card.
The less passion any woman possesses, the more she prizes, and
is attracted to men of strong passion ; because, if she married one
equally passionless, their children would be few, or none, and but
poorly endowed. She therefore gravitates to one who counterbal-
ances this deficiency ; while this same principle makes very amor-
ous men prefer passive, proper, prudent women. Of others they
would be jealous, obviously because " they know how it is them-
selves.^* Mark this illustration of this law.
A SPLENDID WOMAN, physically, intellectually, morally, but sex-
ually passive, brought her dwarf son of fourteen to ascertain
whether he really was underwitted or not. I could not tell her
he was not. He could not learn ; would not even play ; was small
and languid ; had only a twenty-inch head — no larger than a
babe's — and was feeble throughout in rnind and body. Inquiry
showed that this inertia was not caused by any ante-natal trouble
or sickness of hers, for she was remarkably robust ; nor by pater-
nal inferiority, for his father was a lawyer of commanding tal-
ents, had amassed a large fortune in his profession, been in the
legislature, and had great endurance ; nor by infantile sickness
or doctoring with calomel, opiates, &c., but his Phrenology showed
small Love, as did hers ; and his father's was also weak from sexual
exhaustion, he being one of the " used up " has beens.^^ It was
also weak in her mother, yet powerful in her father. Hence her
own superiority. Now, if, like her mother, she had married a
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highly amorous man, he would have imparted to their son talents
and bodily power, and she exalted morals and aftections, and had
as magnificent sons and daughters to be proud of as did her
mother, instead of this one dwarfed idiot, and that in their palm-
iest sexual period, who would not look at any girl. IsTature will
have animal Love in one at least, or punish its parental absence
by poor progeny or none.
' Why men demand virtue in women, is found in "^, discussed
hereafter.
This analysis op masculinity by what traits women love in
man, because he confers them on offspring, need not be prosecuted
further ; because these examples put inquiring readers upon the
track of both its facts and philosophy. Have we not stated that
fundamental principle which, when applied, completely defines
manhood ? Follow it out at pleasure by men catechizing women,
and women noting just what they do love men for, and why this
one more than that.
Section III.
woman's creative office: what physical qualities
men love in women.
557. — Value of Female Beauty.
Female perfection is also analyzed by this same principle. The
scientific answer, then, to the questions. What do men love
in women ? what is woman's creative oflBce ? is really most im-
portant. We proceed to give it. •
Beautiful women are immeasurably earth's highest type of
beauty. Beautiful flowers, insects, birds, beasts, are nowhere in
comparison.
All beauty implies utility. Why was woman's created, and
man made to love it ? So as to induce him to appropriate it, and
thus enjoy its accompanying good. Fruits were made beautiful
that the more might be eaten than if they were loathsome ii,
looks ; for then how would men ever have begun to use them?
Female beauty accompanies specific feminine utility as such,
namely, maternity."* This woman is handsomer than that, because
she ]X)88esses more child-bearing capacities; and those are the
handsomest who have the most. Does Nature hoist false colors
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by making what is inherently bad look inviting ? Never. More
beauty inheres in woman than in all else created, because she ful-
fils the most exalted office of all.
Man loves female beauty to distraction. Throughout ali
ages and histories he attests in action that he sacrifices more for
handsome women than for anything else ; neither religion nor
even selfhood excepted. Why thus love it? Solely to inspire
him to invite her to his paternal embrace — help him fulfil his
only male destiny. It brings masculine admiration, Love, '' pro-
posals " — how much are they worth to women ? Its commercial
value cannot be estimated. Handsome women need no diamonds,
which adorn them the most; while plain, obese, dull, homely ones
look worse with them than without.*^^ Brilliant faces outshine
diamonds. A beautiful girl in calico looks a hundred-fold better
than a plain one in the richest toilet. Man's Love of female
beauty surpasses all his other loves : therefore, it is worth to its
possessors all those creature comforts, presents, praises, marriages,
and fine children it brings her. All toilet beautifiers compared
with it are beautiless, and are worn only to promote it. Be-
side it crowns and diadems are insignificant. Did it not bring
Eugenie her crown ?
How easy to ornament a handsome woman? How hard a
homely ? Impossible one ugly-looking ? Don't try. Least done,
best off.
A HANDSOME vs, HOMELY WIFE is worth,pray, how much the more
to her husband, other things the same ? Of course he must orna-
ment her. How much do shrewd financiers spend to make their
wives " look the \)e8t " at church, party ? and get their money's
worth.
It SURPASSES ALL OTHER TERRESTRIAL VALUES, becausc it brings
the most — to unmarried beauties, admiration and proposals ; to
married, a husband's Love and fine children. It is woman's fin-
ishing-touch. And how glorious this touch! But for it this
whole sexual and reproductive department must have remained
inert, and earth tenantless.
558. — Value of its Scientific Analysis.
Knowing its elemental constituents, and thereby how to aug-
ment and prolong it, becomes proportionally valuable.
Beautiful daughters are worth to parents, to themselves, pray^
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE Ilf WOMEN. 135
how much more than homely ? Then how much 18 it worth to
know how to render them handsomer than they otherwise could be?
Its perpetuation is worth how much by prolonging female
bloom and the mating period ? Its early decline is a loss, oh,
how great !
Wives, worth now much to you ? Your good looks extorted
your husband's proposal by awakening his Love. Then must it
not wax and wane as they do either ? Charming girls cannot
aftbrd to become charmless wives. Better have been always plain.
Then, wives, how much is knowing what constitutes beauty, and
how to preserve and enhance it, worth to you ?
Husbands, you canaot afford to let your wives' personal charmfl
decline on your hands ; for they are your perpetual feast ; mar-
riage being the only sphere for their full enjoyment, as well as
natural use.
Wife seekers, beaux, you especially need this analysis, so as
to know which women are handsomest, and why and wherein
any are so.
To ALL, BUT MOST TO WOMAN, SO analyzing the elements of female
beauty as to show how to promote and continue " sweet sixteen "
oloom to sweeter " fair and forty " is worth as much as any other
knowledge. These yet unanswered proble^is —
In just what does female beauty inhere, consist ?
What are its elements ?
What in this woman renders her handsomer than that ?
How can it be perpetuated and redoubled ?
We propose to answer from first principles. Note well our ani^
lytical basis and its value.
Female beauty is subdivided into two quite different parts —
one physical, personal ; the other mental, sentimental.
659. — Maternal Capacities alone beautify Women.
What beauty does, shows what it is; for all ends expound
their procuring means. To enamour man, and tliereby promote
marriage and children alone is it created. It provokes "desire "
in him. Its natural effect is to enkindle his passion. It prompts
him to sexual intercourse; heightens its pleasure; and promotes
both impregnation and fine children. This is proved by amorous
men tempting handsome women so much the most, and paying
so much more for indulgence with a beautiful courtesan than 0
136 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD
MoBE Repellent tiiax Inviting.
plain or ugly looking woman? All mythology, quite true to
human Nature, represents Yenus and Una as setting all the men
wild with a phrenzy of pas-
sion ; yet do homely women
provoke this desire ? What
man would give anything
to lie with Miss Otta, whose
likeness we subjoin ?
Yet why do beautiful wo-
men enkindle, but homely
allay, desire ? Please think
what this beauty is for^ and
what it actually does. Why
do men wait on, court, com-
pliment, fawn around a
handsome woman, and not
around one common look-
ing ? Because the personal
beauty of the former inspires
physical Love ; while the lack
of it in the latter leaves it
inert. What mean these facts? Spell out their underlying prin-
ciple. Nature makes those handsomest who can have the best chil-
dren, that they may be selected first, and then makes this beauty
passion-inspiring to men. All masculine instinct, all human expe-
rience, prove that every iota of female charms awakens male desire,
and promotes intercourse. Offspring is its rationale. Whatever
contributes to maternity awakens man's Love, yet nothing else
does. Women were created females solely to become mothers;
their wifehood being only the means of their motherhood. Every-
thing feminine centres solely in bearing, which is also the
only rationale of man's Love ; for their Maternal excellences alone
attract, captivate, magnetize him with Love ; which becomes the
greater or less in proportion to their child-bearing capacities. The
following analysis of the ^' points" oi female beauty proves that
every one of them indicates and contributes to maternity.
660. — Men love a good Female Body.
Feeding the life-germ is woman's paramount mission. Organ-
ism embodies Nature's only way to manifest functions. This life-
Fig. 527.— Miss Otta.
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 137
germ, when it leaves its father's loins, is too infinitesimally
small even to live alone, and must enlarge a great many million
times over before it can accomplish anything. This renders or-
ganic materials for growth its paramount prerequisite. With
them it cannot possibly furnish itself. !N'ature provides that its
mother shall furnish them, by putting them in her food for it ;
dissolving, assorting, and carrying them to it ; and keeping it
comfortably warm while it puts them up into the organs it
requires to cai\ry on life's ends. All this demands in her a surplus
of vital force for it, over and above what she herself needs for
executing her own life desires. She must warm up, breathe,
iligest, &c., for two, and sometimes for three, four, even five. This
no weakly, poor-bodied woman could do. Muscles in her are less
important than vitality, because its father furnishes them ; but
her digestion must be extra, which gives her a round, plump
figure, with an overflow of animal life for it.
She must manufacture that ovarian pabulum requisite for first
starting the life-germ ; must feed it with all its materials while
residing in its uterine tabernacle ; and nourish and nurse it after
birth till it gets teeth and can eat for itself.
This requires a good body, and in good working order, or vigor-
ous health ; which thereby becomes an indispensable condition
of female beauty. We shall apply this principle hereafter.
661. — A LARGE Pelvis Woman's great Beautifier.
Size is one means and measure of power. Large organs are
necessary to powerful functions. Extra quality, as in "Tom
Thumb," may offset deficiency in size, yet the greater utility of a
good-sized body over a small is apparent. This organic machinery
must form in some domicil. To furnish it a comfortable home
while it is becoming large enough to sustain independent life, is
the physical woman's firat ofiice. Nature ordains the female pel-
vis as its foetal " tabernacle " for commencing its organic struc-
ture. It should weigh from eight to twelve pounds, in order to
" start out well in life." This requires a large maternal pelvis,
and a great amount of energy centred near there to be furnished
to the developing child. But
A small, narrow pelvis could carry and support only a small,
|)Oor child, and hence gives its possessor an inferior, insignificant
appearance, by indicating a weak sexuality. This principle showB
irhy
138 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
All ARTISTS make a large pelvis the paramount condition of a
beautiful woman in all ages. How would Venus de Medici look
Malb and Female Foems Conteasted.
Fig. 528.
Fig. 629.
with small and narrow hips and sunken bowels ! The Artistic rule
is to make woman always widest and deepest from hip to hip,
and naval to spine, and tapering each way, laterally, anteriorly,
posteriorly from pelvis to head and feet, as seen in Fig. 529,
while the male figure is broadest and deepest at the shoulders,
from which it tapers both ways and from both sides to heaJ
and feet, as in Fig. 628.
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 139
The OVERPOWERING BEAUTY OF Una, whose form this engraving
H3preseuts, not only set all men who beheld her wild to distrac-
tion, but 80 enamoured even the beasts, that the fierce lion was so
tamed and charmed
by it as to gladly A perfect Female Pelvis and Form throuohoux
let her ride around
everywhere on his
back, looking up at
her kindly, smiling-
ly, lovingly, fairly
smashed by her
charms. Her robust,
vigorous body in first
best condition,*^
large pelvis, broad
and deep, full yet
not obese bowels,
and well proportion-
ed physique, are here
most admirably indi-
cated. The ancients
'•epresented their
model women, like Una, with superb and vigorous bodies, in
perfect health. See their Aurora going forth to meet the sun.
562. — A Prominent Mons Veneris thb most admired by Men.
" Mount op Love," its very name, signifies that a large and
well formed pubis is appropriately man's greatest passion-inspirer;
because it, more than all else, indicates maternal capacity for
receiving, carrying, and delivering children. It signifies ease of
parturition by furnishing a large passage-way, which a retiring
j)ubis renders necessarily small ; thus signifying severe labor,
considering the infant's size. Nothing about a woman's person
is equally voluptuous or enticing to men. Of nothing may its
possessor be as justly proud as of depth from pubis to os coccyx, or
through the bottom of her body.
All these " points " are most admirably illustrated in the sub-
joined figure, taken from life, of the actress Menken, considered
one of the handsomest formed of women, face excepted ; though
we think it more robust and masculine than spiritual.^ II or
-imiiitiiA'iWA^iiiiiiiiiiKiniMBP'
Fig. 530. — The Goddess Una,
l40 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
exhibiting it to public inspection renders its introduction and
criticism here proper, by her making it public property. It is
also a little too full in the middle of the abdomen. It merits
future reference, as illustrating other
The perfect Female Figure, points.
FROM LIFE.
563. — Ovarian or Groin fulness
VERY Beautifying.
Food for beginning is absolutely
indispensable to the life given. Its
mother is its commissary. She keeps
food-sacks, called eggs, on hand about
one-third of her time, prepared for its
advent. These eggs must be manu-
factured somewhere within her, and
by their own express organs, which
are called ovaries, and located in
the female groins. They are repre-
sented as very finely developed in
Una. Their anatomy is not now in
point, yet will be hereafter, but only
their efiects on the female form.
When large from vigor they fill out
the lower lateral parts of her body in
front of the middle third of her hips,
thus rendering her form full all
along her groins, and flat across from hip to hip ; while small
ovaries leave two upright valleys along down in front of the
lower half of her hips, with flat, shrunken bowels, or else full
or protruding at and below the navel, yet caving in at its sides
in these valleys. Menken illustrates this groin fulness.
664. — Why Large Waists deform; small beautify.
Womb dormancy and impairment diminish its monthly evacua-
tions. Of their causes and cure hereafter ; here only of their
efl*ects on the female form, especially as modifying our last point.
The manufacture of embryotic nutrition proceeds all the same,
whether it is evacuated, retained, or consumed in bearing or
nursing. When retained, some disposition of it becomes neces-
sary within the system ; which Nature effects partly by turning it
Fig. 531. — Menken.
WRA.T PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 141
into fat right around its uterine exit. This adipose causes th«
middle of the abdomen to fill out along at first, but it pushes
itself out and back farther and farther towards its rim above,
below, and on each side, till it reaches and finally fills out both
groins, and distends the abdomen of its victim more and more,
till it renders her " pot-bellied." !N"or stops then.
Between hips and ribs, and along around the waist^ is a con-
tiguous locality where it can be packed away without interfering
seriously with locomotion ; because it yields before the lower ribs
in turning the shoulders downwards at the sides.
This creates large, fat waists, in connection with a puffy
abdomen, and fills out the groins. This point shows why men
like small, and dislike large waists, which indicate sparse men-
struation, and ladies and girls corset themselves.
565. — The best Size, Weight, Height, and Color of Women.
The general outline and shape of women tell us much more
about them than we discern. Their first lesson is that —
All extremes are unfavorable. Very short, dowdy women
are usually poorly sexed ; while those rather short are often
most admirable females, and very warm and loving. Extra tall,
spindling women are the poorer females for their height, but
those tall and well proportioned^ yet more tall than large, come
near being premium women in general figure. Length of body,
chest, and pelvis is very important ; that of chest signifying
length and depth of lungs, which is more than width, and that
of pelvis, easy carriage and delivery. The chapter in '* Human
Science " on Temperaments will be read with profit in this con-
nection, as also in that of the male form.**^
Large, tall, stately, fleshy, portly, stalwart, masculinb-
looking women, who take mostly after their fathers, are usually
poor bearers, quite often barren, and not the best of wives. They
are stronger and coarser grained, yet lack delicacy, exquisiteness,
the spiritual.*^' Let common sense say whether a majestic,
queenly, portly bearing and mien are or are not feminine,
lovely.
Diana, the ancients' goddess of deficient gender, was repre
rtcnted as a small, short, fat, dowdy-looking miss, while Venui
was modelled rather tall and good-sized, and Minerva, thei(
pattern woman, as slightly above the medium stature.
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A STEER-LOOKING HEIFER, fat, fine appearing, my farmer advised
Belling for beef, " because she looks more like a steer than heifer,
and these steer-looking heifers make poor cows." I overruled
him, and she made, as he predicted, a good-for-nothing cow,
bnnging poor calves, and giving but little blue milk.
Mi/vi Lucy Long, whose likeness we subjoin, comes very near
presenting us with a standard
Deep-chested. f^^^^l^ g^^j.^^ jj^^ ^^^^ -^ j^^^
yet large — a most excellent
sign ; and its being largest at
its base, or spreading, indicates
that depth of lungs and chest
above justly recommended. She
has an excellent bust and post-
Dark-haired women have a
great amount of character for
good or evil, and magnetize
and influence powerfully ; yet
blondes are more tender, soft,
pliable, sweet, good, loving,-
and lovely, yet less efficient.*^
Drooping shoulders capti-
vate, probably because they in-
dicate this depth of chest, along
>fith that rounding behind the shoulders so much admired.
Fig. 532. — Lucy Long.
566. — Broad Backs and Paniers explained.
Bearing Women are universally pronounced, " vnteresting " to
behold. Common proverb mentions three beautiful sights — ships
under full sail, women with child, &c. This " interesting condi-
tion '.' naturally draws in the abdomen, partly to balance the
child, and to restrict unseemly frontal projection. This pushes
the back proportionally backwards below, besides broadening it.
There, ladies^ is why your
Grecian bend and paniers beautify, yet deform you — beautify
by making lookers-on think you are about to become mothers,
and deform by being carried to a vulgarizing excess, by " too
much being worse than none." The " Venus de Medici" assumes
this posture for a kindred reason — modestly to " hide her
nakedness."
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 143
Paniers are a TOILET ABOMINATION. Bcsides making a great
postal bag, which shakes around with every quick motion, it
iunglingly imitates the form of her seat, the cleaving of tha
back at the bottom of the spine, the bulging out on each side of
the seat, and — Sha, sha, fashionable ladies. You outrage taste ic
nausea. For shame !
" Professor, all these expositions of all our shortcomings are truly
awful."
1. Knowing their origin makes them no shorter or worse.
2. Their diagnosis is the first step towards their prevention.
3. Curable patients should know their precise condition themselves,
4. All knowledge is useful and interesting ; this, both, preemi-
nently. 5. When I spare the truths curse me ; when I record it,
bless me, and profit by it. 6. Does not this herculean boldness
deserve woman's very highest admiration and gratitude, which
true women will render, though mortified thereby ? If
Shame on this explanation of the fashions, what of wearing
them ? Soon they will be hooted at. They should be now.
567. — Embonpoint ; or a Plump vs, a Spare Form.
Albumen embodies the maternal material ; abundance of which
tills and rounds out the person. Women, to be " fair,'* must be
moderately "fat." A full, plump figure, with all its hollows
levelled up and projections smoothed ofiP, beautifies, because it sig-
nifies surplus material for maternity ; while a lean, lank, scrawny,
angular form looks badly, on account of both its abruptness and
sparseness of this material. Superb maternity implies superior
animality,'^ because superior children must be superb animals.
Yet
Surplus womb vigor impoverishes sometimes, by withdrawing
from blood naturally rich so much material by menstruation,
maternity, and nursing, as to leave some superior women rather
thin ; while womb dormancy may excrete so little by deficient
menstruation or poor maternity as lo leave eome inferior women
too obese ;^ of which hereafter.
The difference BETWEEN»the forms of women who are lean
from deficient vitality and superior maternity, is that the former
have a cadaverous, hungry, exhausted, spent, tired, used-up, and
repellent look; while the latter are peculiarly charming, attioo-
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tive, impressing, inspiring, loveable in look. Women who are
spare from superb maternity are fresh and healthy-looking ; while
those who are fat from womb inertia look dull, clogged, heavy,
and uncomfortably full.
568. — Why a full Bust and well - developed Mammaries
beautify.
Infants need nutrition after birth as much as before ; else all
previously done must prove nugatory. Without teeth, and witli
weak digestion, so that they cannot eat solid' food, they yet require
a great amount of aliment, so that they can grow rapidly, and
the sooner take care of themselves. They have yet barely life-
force enough to assimilate the best of materials when supplied
by the mother. After parturition this surplus albumen is turned
into milk for her babes. This milk is nutritious ; rich in all the
organic materials ; as near blood as possible, requiring only that
breath material they supply ; soluble, and easily digested ; for
they require that the least possible digestive force shall yield the
most nutrition ; delicious, that they may love, not loathe, and
cry for^ not against it, when hungry ; always fresh, lest stale
might vitiate their blood ; portable, and always with her, where
!N'ature, by maternal Love, provides that they shall be ; and easily
administered. How are all these ends, each indispensable requi-
sites for infantile nutrition, effected ?
Her Breasts create this milk, besides transporting and admin-
istering it.
Some women supply more and richer milk than others. Since
blood is sexed,'^ by female blood containing more of this albu-
men from which milk is formed than male, of course the better
sexed a woman is herself, the better sexed her blood, and richer
her milk ; and the better her children will thrive after they are
born, as well as before.
The breasts consist of glands, easily felt in all good healthy
female bosoms. These glands are composed of minute sacks, called
follicles, which extract this albumen from maternal blood, and
turn it into milk. Each sack has its duct, which, along with
other ducts, empty into and form larger, and these still larger
glands, till all of these breast-glands finally create from fifteen to
twenty ducts, all of which converge to the c'3ntre of each breast,
where they collectively form
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 145
THE Breast.
Nipples, projecting from the middle of both breasts, adapted
to be taken into babes' mouths, by and Internal Structure of
into which this milk is drawn, and
passed down into their little stomachs.
In shape
Breasts resemble a globe cut into
through its middle, the flat sides placed
upon, growing out of, and forming, the
female bosom ; their inner edges about
half an inch from each other at their o;
nearest points, and their upper edges ex-
tending slightly below the armpits. The
accompanying engraving of Psyche, cop-
ied from an ancient chiselling repre-
senting a perfect female bust, is pro-
nounced the most voluptuous extant.
They report their appearance and pro-
gress jyari passu along as puberty ushers
females from girlhood into womanhood.
TiiEY are located on the chest, commencing on the third rU:
above, and extendins: down to
Fig. 533.
S, S, Sacks ; D, D, Ducts,
the sixth or seventh, and up-
wards as far as the armpits,
and covering, when large, the
whole chest opposite the fibu-
lae, or upper arm bones ; so
that the mother can easily
press and hold her babes, de-
signed to be carried in her
arms, snugly to her breasts and
nipples.
IIOW INEXPRESSIBLY APPRO-
PRIATE these breasts in posi-
tion, in form, and in the child-
nourishing ends they are cre-
ated to achieve?
A Perfect Femai^ Bosom.
Fio. 634.— PsTCHiK.
569. — Full Breasts beautify: why Men admire them.
As A female ornament nothing else equals them, a prominent
•* mount of Love " excepted. All who have them, other thingf.
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being equal, are much more marriageable, much sooner selected,
than those who lack them. Many husbands would and might
" launch out largely " to " develop " them in a wife, and parents
to retain or regain them in daughters ; and many women would
and might gladly forego every other toilet ornament for this one ;
because it "sets off" its possessors a hundred-fold the most. Men
turn from a flat chest disappointed, as if it lacked something
essential. As a face looks badly without a nose, so does the
female chest when narrow and flat. Those are poorly ornamented,
however rich their toilets, whose breasts are small and flat; while
all who have them large, plump, and naturally elevated, are
beautiful to behold, though dressed in calico ; for bountiful
IsTature has already ornamented them beyond all power of art to
equal. A country maid in homespun, with them, need not envy
a jewelled princess without. A good female face with a poor bust
lacks an indispensable accompaniment.
Cotton and all other false forms practically confess the orna-
mental value of natural ones. Why all these paddings and puf-
fings, even imitating the nipple as if it showed through the
dress, but acknowledgments of their indispensability . " Society "
ladies often make Love behind what Gen. Jackson fought behind
— "co^oTi breastworks." Yet all false forms look badly, because
large natural breasts quiver gently at every step ; false ones never
any. This quivering is inexpressibly "lovely," and its omis-
sion in false ones fatal to good looks.
We have stoutly opposed all false forms till lately ; but since
women without artificial or real look so very badly, we waive
our objection. Yet, ladies, take care lest artificial ones unduly
repress, flatten, heat, or injure the "remnants" of your natural
ones. See how large and luscious they appear in Una and Men-
ken, Figs. 530 and 531.
Man's admiration of large, luscious bosoms, throughout all
climes and ages, is unbounded — amounting to a real passion.
Women practically acknowledge this in dressing them up so in-
vitingly, if they are deficient, and exhibiting them so coyly, if
well developed, whenever they "set off " their personal charms
in full dress. We ask not whether this male breast - loving
instinct is right or wrong, sensible or sensual ; but simply state
this universal fact^ which must needs have its origin. That the
infantile pleasures of nursing do not account for it is proved b^
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 147
chose fed from the bottle admiring them quite as much as those
from the breasts ; and by girl-babes taking as much pleasure in
nursing as boy-babes, yet men admiring them the most. For thi»
male mammal admiration, our great principle that men admire
maternal attributes in woman"® accounts completely thus —
Men love luscious bosoms because they promote maternity,
by feeding infants, besides indicating child-bearing capacity, as
we show*^. i^ot that those having them largest will bear the best,
and smallest the poorest children ; for other qualities contribute,
and more than compensate; but that any given woman is a much
better mother with them good than poor, as we shall yet prove,
])y showing whi/ good breasts indicate maternal excellence, besides
accounting for their decline, and showing how to retain and
redevelop them. Ladies, how much is all this knowledge
worth ? Yet
Extra large bosoms indicate maternal deficiency. Quality
immeasurably surpasses mere size. Smaller breasts often furnish
far more nutrition than those over-grown. Yet all these and
kindred points will be discussed in their order.
570. — Why Men admire large Female Thighs with small
Feet.
Tapering limbs are also a conceded " point " in handsome
women ; because large thighs necessarily accompany a large pel-
vis.'^' The female form could not merge from large hips into
small thighs without deformity. That all men admire large
thighs as well as hips let all men attest experimentally, and is
evinced in the rage for ballet-girls, in whom such thighs are
their chief attraction, as they were rarely equalled in "Menken,"
and still larger and better in Una. Those with small ones
never " appear."
Small female feet and ankles are equally attractive to all
men; because they signify that agile, sprightly cast of light-
footed motion natural to females ; to which also large thighs and
calves, as in Una, contribute. This form also implies and con-
summates that tapering below the hips, already shown to belong
to the female figure.*** Large feet and ankles indicate strength
with coarseness, and accompany physical power. In proportion
as a given female is well sexed will her feet and ankles be the
smaller, as con^)ared with her general size. This priDcipla
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shows why men instinctively admire and prefer women having
small feet and hands ; why women wear tight shoes and boots to
make their feet seem and become small ; and the origin of the
Chinese custom of dwarfing the feet of all their future ladies by
wearing little slippers from infancy. All Cbinamen go into
ecstasies over small-footed females, and pay extra high prices
for them as wives.
Fine female arms, the complements of fine thighs, beautify
even more, because more observed, yet about equally ornamental.
All women, when they put on style, must exhibit tliem, except
those so poor or homely as to detract from the " charming " eflfect.
Inferior arms look better covered; but since a fashionable toilet
even requires their exhibition, and women naturally so dearly
love to exhibit them, she who has handsome ones may be almost
as proud of them and their display as of a fine bust.**^ They
help hold and nurse children ; besides signifying that prime
maternal quality, a good muscle.
Their shape is more than size. Very large, fat, obese arma
look badly for the same reason that very large waists do,^*^* and
very small slim ones poor as do small thighs and a scrawny
body.'*^ Emily Rigal's, Fig. 536, are altogether too slim, as in-
deed is her whole figure.
Modern female arms are miserably slim ; because modern
ladies are so miserably " shiftless." They are too pesky genteel
to be of any earthly service except to glitter in parlor or party.
They rarely ever use their arms except for light motion. They
rarely lay out much strength, because they have little, and are too
lazy to use that little. To see at Presidential and other receptions
ladies arrayed in the height of style, showing their pipe-stem
arms and deficient breasts, looks utterly pitiable and mean.
Go home, girls, and cultivate arm-muscle, and work with them
bare. Your washing-maids are your superiors. Help them.
Beaux, just see how much better the arms of Una, Menken, and
Powers's Greek Slave, than those of Emily Eigal.'^^^
Rowing is the best of all arm-developing exercises. It is
genteel, and precisely adapted to enlarge the arms above th.
elbows, which is the essential part for beauty. A good arnf
below corresponds with the calves, both of which are very
beautifying, yet forearms and thighs are far more so.
Ladies row, to develop the latter, and dance, walk, sweep,
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 149
wash, &c., to develop all parts of all your limbs. All lazy girls
have slim, straight, small forearms, and most with them small are
lazy. Come, help your mothers, and don't "wait for the car-
riage," but show your fellows that you are able and willing to
walk to church, theatre, picnic, anywhere you need to go ; and
they '11 invite you oftener.
571. — The two types of Female Beauty — Rotund and Faun-
Shaped.
Minerva illustrates one type of female beauty of form. She
represents the ancients' idea of a model woman ; Venus of the per-
fect physical woman ; but Minerva, both mental and physical.
They had two Minervas, one of which is here given — good
sized, oval in her general outline, robust, florid, and full of soul,
sentiment, and delicate emotion,*^^ yet pure and classical ; the
other more long than round, more slim than oval, faun-shaped,
prominent featured, and only moderately fleshy, yet no approach
to being scrawny. This shows that they had observed
Two TYPES OF perfect WOMEN. We havc just analyzed and
long observed two types of model men — one rounder and fuller,
the other broader and taller;"® and also observed, many years
ago, two types of model women, ignorant that the ancients had
noted and embodied both, till, in searching for an ancient Minerva
for a model woman, we saw that they had " stolen our thunder,*'
and booked a point we thought an
• . 1 X .. mi • 1 Oval Type of Female Beauty.
original observation. This shows
that both had correctly interpreted
Nature. Yet they seem not to have
discriminated between them, nor
even noticed that they had two dif-
ferent forms. We note and account
for both.
Menken and Una illustrate one
KIND— the rotund, broad-built, robust,
wide between their armpits ; breasts fM/jfl'i^^^l^^^ ^if?^ ^
in both large at their base, and 'H^M //\,'^^ ' il M\
plump;"* a heavy, roomy, broad, v /' J^a / ivo'
deep iKjlvis;'** immense thichs and
1,1 , ^ FlO. 536.— MiNHRVA.
(jalvcs, and large necks.
Minerva, rival of Venus for the champion girdle of beauty,
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US here represented, had a like broad, plump, rotund form, with
much more delicacy and less animality, and furnishes an excel-
lent sample of this type of female beauty.
Emily Rigal illustrates the FAUN-shaped type, and Minerva
the rotund. ^ This shape indicates extreme agility, lightn^s
The Faun ob Sum Female Figure.
Extreme Eotundity.
Fig. 536. — Emily Rigal, the New York Actress.
and sprightliness of motion, elasticity and rapidity with power
of action ; besides having that trim, tapering form already dis-
cussed.^^ Yet she is too slim and thin to represent a perfect
form.
Miss Short, Fig. 537, is an excellent sam-
ple of the opposite, or full-moon figure, car-
ried altogether too far for good looks or util-
ity, as wife or mother. Girls thus formed
will suffer in childbirth.
The other ancient Minerva had this faun-
shaped type of beauty, doubtless because this
form prevails in writers ;^^ and she was the
patron goddess of poetry, eloquence, paint-
ing, statuary, and elegance and refinement generally.
The Graces, Fig. 538, furnish our very best illustration
of this deer-shaped figure, without, like Miss Rigal, carrying
Fig. 537. — Miss Short.
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 1/51
it too far. Her calves,
thighs, and arms are al-
together too slim. Most
modern ladies have very
poor arms, especially above
their el bows. They have not
swept, rowed, and washed
enough. " The Graces,"
however, are tall and slim,
without being spindling,
have superb limbs, and a
tine pelvis, the left-hand
one too slim, and right,
with more back than looks
well, a little too much
scringe, and are as good an
illustration of this faun-
shaped, clean - limbed
style of female beauty
as can well be desired.
Eugenie is midway
between both forms, a
comi)Ound of both, and
in our opinion repre-
sents the perfect female
figure still more per-
fectly. It is without
fault throughout. Jo-
sephine was quite her
equal, both in illustrat-
ing this union of both
forms, and having much
more character and
strengtii of body and
mind; and was not
merely Queen of France,
but the queen of her sex
in all the physical, all
the mental elements of
the jKirfect woman.
The f'AUN Form in Perfection.
Fio. 538.— The Graces.
The Union of Both Forms.
Fio. 639.— Empiudbb Luokku.
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The Perfect Female Form.
Modern fashionable ladies, and those drawn in fashion-plates,
have this faun form carried to an undue extreme ; besides evinc-
ing that excessive excitability, nervousness, susceptibility, inten-
aitj of feeling, love of poetry, writing, reading thrilling sensa-
tional novels, literature, &c., shown to accompany it in^^ ; which
readers will lind instructive in this connection.
PowERs's Greek Slave, here well represented, by common human
consent the great master model of all female figures, to which
all ancient and modern attempts bow
in acknowledged inferiority, shows her
whole pelvic region large and full, broad
from hip to hip, and deep through ; be-
sides showing just the kind of breasts,
thighs, and limbs here described.
The Venus de Medici, or best an-
cient model, has these two marked
faults: its Grecian bend, representing
modesty by one hand screening her
breasts, the other hiding her pubis,
both of which Powers obviates by dis-
daining to heed the former, and cov-
ering the latter with her chained
hand.
The Study of Statuary was highly
recommended by George Combe while
lecturing on Phrenology in Philadel-
phia in 1839, when treating Beauty as
promoting public taste. This idea the
conservative press strongly censured as
indecent. His practical answer was
announcing its repetition; appealing to
the public to approve or condemn his views. Its answer was
an overwhelming and dite house.
A LIKE PRUDERY, fifteen years later, attempted to exclude all
nude paintings and statuary from the ISTew York " Crystal Palace "
Exhibition, which met a like public rebufi*. Prudery and purity
are not twin sisters, but in the inverse ratio to each other.''^** l*la-
tonic love generates })urity, while prudery is clearly the out-
growth of sensuality ; on the acknowledged principle " evil is to
Fia. 540. — PowERs's "Greek
Slave."
WHAT PHYSICAL QUALITIES MEN LOVE IN WOMEN. 163
him who evil thinks." This truth governs the composition of
this hook, which, unlike some of its peers, does not boast of
being too modest to be both useful and scientific ; and introduces
Powers's Greek Slave, Menken, and some of its preceding -^nd
succeeding engravings, on the principle that ''Beauty unadorned
is adorned the most." Whatever God has written into the cou-
fititution of man or woman, is therefore in '' good taste."
572. — Crinoline, Kxtra Skirts, "Breast Works," &c.,
explained.
A CLASP ON SOME POWERFUL SENTIMENT alone could enable the
supernumerary skirts of past fashions and the crinoline of present,
both attaining the same end by different means, to maintain their
grip on public favor, despite their ridiculousness and expense.
On what?
Both beautify by enlarging the pelvis apparently. Both in
effect say — " See here, gents, how large, how fine babies we can
bear;" ''what a large, roomy female form and apparatus, breasts
included, we possess." Of course their wearers little realize that
they actually do say exactly this, or they would not say it thus
emphatically by piling on so much extra, yet this is just what,
and all that, they do say practically. They say it poorly when
quick motions shak: their toggeries around loosely ; yet this is
their only natural language. What else can account for both, with
all other fashionable appendages, attaining the same identical .en-
largement of pelvis, hips, and back? the antiquated bustle being
superseded by the modern panier. Our i)rinciple that a large pelvis
beautifies,"*' furnishes a complete, and the only, solution of these
fashions, and of every single iota of the female toilet. They beau-
tify by making wearers seem to be large just where maternity
requires that they be large.^**
Tight lacing and corseting beautify on this same principle of
making the pelvis, breasts, and back seem the larger by and in
connection with small waists. Mark their extension down to the
very point enlarged by early maternity. The "bodice waist"
I)eautifie8 this same region on this principle.
To the middle of the abdomen fasliion usually directs particu-
lar attention, by placing some beautiful figure, or something els©
to attract observation to it especially.
Why must voluptuous Paris originate all civic fashions?
154 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
Because her entire study is to represent women the most vo-
luptuous and pafesion-inspiring possible. Blush, O American
mothers and daughters, in following them !
The true female costume, one of the most important of all the
problems our century has to solve, would be appropriate here, but
more so hereafter. "We pronounce the present actually barbarous,
and propose to show how women can and should dress so as to
ai>pear charming, yet be healthy.^
Let UNIVERSAL OBSERVATION ATTEST whcthcr this section does
or does not give a correct, and the only true exposition of the
feminine form ever propounded, with its rationale; and also
whether it is not pre-eminently instructive and useful to all
of both sexes.
Section IV.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS IN WOMEN MEN ADMIRE, AND WHY.
573. — Why Men love Emotional, Exquisite, Spiritual Women.
Mentality is man's great attribute. "The mind 's the meas^
ure of the man."^^ A good body is good chiefly because it aids
as well as indicates a superior spirit. Indeed, it is good, medium,
or poor mentalities which create good, medium, or poor bodies.
Please note fully and comprehend this great organic principle here
referred to.^*^^^ Hence men love a fine female body much, but mind
much more ; else most modern ladies would slide unnoticed into
celibacy for want of admirers, whereas cultivated, accomplished
women, with poor bodies, stand a much better chance in the mar-
ital market than fine physiques without mental culture. Hence
this crowding of girls into school from the cradle, though it ob-
viously ruins their health. The existing rage to make girls
musicians, a mental talent, is but a section of this law. Men's
obvious preference for " society " girls, despite their poor, scrawny
bodies, over good bodies without this style, puzzled me till
accounted for by this principle ; namely, fathers give ofiTspring
their physical attributes,*^^ mothers their sentimental. Hence
women love "able-bodied" men best, who in turn love senti-
mental women. Behold how beaiitifully these creative first
principles account for the loves of the sexes ! What better proof
that they are laws? Let us see what specific mental traits \rx
women men especially love.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS IN WOMEN MEN ADMIBE. 155
Mental pabulum is even more important than material, be-
cause humanity inheres far more in the mind than body.
Woman receives from the male only the rudiments of life, its
frame-work, anatomy, organs, and mental Faculties,*** as it were
the warp of their joint fabric, while its manufacturing, weaving,
drying, figuring, &c., are hers.
The vegetable kingdom illustrates this principle. All seeds,
soaked, subdivide into chit, the great predeterminer of qualities,
habits, modes of growth, products, &c., from which spring tap-
root and rootlets, stalk, leaves, and fruit, corresponding to the
male element ; and the kernel proper, which corresponds to the
female function of supplying this chit with the nutritive material
requisite to establish growth.
Its spirit nature, that which creates its instincts, flavors,
habits, (fee, must be fed with spirit pabulum. Chestnut food
would not feed corn chit, nor corn chestnut ; for lack of the spirit
Bustenance required by each. This the maternal stalk of each
must supply. And thus of all animal and human mothers.
Mothers must possess this spirit pabulum in order to impart it.
It accompanies a fine-grained, delicate, and exquisitely susceptible
organism. Pure and intense feelings and emotions, the sentimen-
tal and ethereal, that called " the angelic," and in French " Ui
spiritueUe,'' expresses it. So does ecstasy, rapture, and also " soul; "
thus, "She is all soul." Exquisite taste and purity come very
near expressing it. Novels always describe it in their heroines.
But its manifestations can be seen and influences felt better than
described. Strange that language has not yet named and described
this chit of female nature. We will call it " the spiritual.'*
Only a very fine-grained organism can manifest it ; and hence
the skin, hair, texture, &c., of females are finer, softer, and more
sensitive and susceptible, than those of males. Fastidiousness is
one of its outgrowths, as is also " nervousness." " Sensational
stories" appeal to it;* and hence woman's greater fondness for
them than man's. It produces and appreciates eloquence. The
fashions attempt its expression. Female style and ornament are
its products! It constitutes the chief feather in the cap of " ton,"
and the recherchS party. If it did not lie at the very foundation
of female attraction, plain men by millions, who care little for
their own personal appearance, would not freely spend such un-
counted sums in its promotion. It is the soul and inspiration of
156 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
Beauty very large, with the
Spiritual Temperament.
music, and of all female accomplishments. This entire fashion-
able paraphernalia is its outgrowth.
Beauty is its phrenological medium of expression, in concert
with a highly susceptible organism, and much larger in females
tlian males, obviously in order to prompt it in husbands, and trans-
mit it to children. Its greater development in woman renders
female heads broader, fuller, and more rounded out at the upper
part of the temples, and the hair move
curving, than in males, as in Fanny
Forester, Fig. 641, at 24. It makes the
head broad on top, and full where it
rounds from its horizontal to the per-
pendicular form.
Women love exquisiteness and orna-
ment, men utility and practicality,
both together being far better than
either alone. So, men, indulge the
" tastes " of wife and daughters as far
as you can, because it is your best means
of refining, purifying, and sanctifying
your own selves. Squaws are practical
examples of its deficiency.
Love of flowers furnishes one of its best incentives. Then let
woman cultivate them within doors and without, in order both
to promote refinement, and to break up a withering monotony.
Fig. 541. — Fanny Forester.
574. — Love of Young a Female Specialty.
Devotion to offspring is another of the very strongest of all the
female instincts. Occasionally a woman will forsake her children
for her lover ; but the great majority, if they must forsake either,
cling to their children. Love is an all-powerful female sentiment ;
and yet nine women in every ten worship at the shrine of their
dear babes far more devoutly than at that of husband.
Behold that doting mother's sacrifices for her dear child!
How many sleepless nights of agonizing anxieties ! See how fer-
vently she worships at its shrine. Even self-interest Is forgotten,
or absorbed chiefly in it. 'No other slave ever toils as slavishly
as she for it. She even starves herself to feed it. If it dies,
what agony wrings her poor soul. Mortals suficr not its equal.
Thank God for maternal Love. " Can a mother forsake her suck-
V/HAT MENTAL TRAITS IN WOMEN MEN ADMIRE. loT
iiig child ? " Oh, how much are all indebted to " mother " for it ?
And mothers to it ; for what else can develop and inspire equal
pride, kindness, intellect, energy, &c. ? Does pride in her new
dress at all equal that taken in her fine boy ? It fades ; he im-
proves. Or what pain or shame equals that bad children give
their mothers?
As A MOTIVE POWER of human life and conduct, maternal love
as far transcends ambition, love of money, all life's other loves,
hopes, fears, and ends, as noonday exceeds twilight. Humanity
works and sacrifices for nothing as mothers for children. !N'either
man nor beast has any passion more impassioned. Injuring any
child makes its mother a tigress. Let a fact speak.
A DRUNKEN HUSBAND coming home late one terribly stormy
night, maddened because he could not open his own door, when
his retired wife, her babe in her arms, opened it for him, seized
and thrust her and it out into the pitiless cold, bolted them out, and
tumbled into bed, and on opening it in the morning they rolled
in together, frozen to death ! But before she froze she had torn
every rag of her night apparel olF from herself, baring her own
back to the snow as it melted and froze to her, to wrap around it,
and crouching on her bare thighs over it, folding it tightly,
vainly hoping to save her babe, though she perish !
The REASON why mother loves her infants thus, is, that in
requiring her to nurse them, Nature commands her to supply all
their other cardinal wants. This imperiously demands that con-
stant attention which only the most intense and sustained affec-
tion could secure.
Phrenology shows that Parental Love ^^"^^l^^^^^Zl^^
o*' , ^ Amativeness deficient.
is much larger in female than male
heads.*'' This the accompanying en-
graving of a most devoted mother but
indifferent wife, illustrates, by being
email at 8, but large at 10. Many a lo^
husband might justly be jealous of their
wives doing so much the most for tlieir
children, if they were not also his idols.
This all-powerful maternal passion ,,
must have its fulcrum in woman b -^5,^^^ .
strongest sentiment. Self-Love is the p,^ 542.-THE m^ : i.th.
main-spring of all human feelings and xb but mDnrrsBniT Wifb.
i58 THE SOIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
actions,^^ which conjugal Love nearly equals, and it is in these
two that maternal Love is based. Thus all mothers love them-
selves supremely. Their children are precisely like themselves.*"
Therefore, their love of their own qualities makes them love
these same traits in them. They should also love husband, and
liis children, because like him. If they bore a monster, they
would throttle it as quickly as they could reach it ; and they
care less for the children of hated fathers, and the more for
children the more they love their father.
Figure 543 faithfully represents a wife who had too little
gender and passion to become a mother, but who was passionately
fond of children ; while 544 represents one who was both a good
wife, and a most devoted mother. Both together are better than
either separately.
The childless Lover op Children. Thk devoted Wife and Mother.
FiG._543. — Love Small. Fig. 544. — Conjijgal Love Full,
9
What sight is as beautiful as a mother ministering to the
wants of her children ? Woman may look brilliantly in the giddy
dance and fashionable soiree, but bears no comparison with the
mother in the nursery caring for her babes, putting them to sleep,
feeding, watching over and moulding their morals, and evinc-
ing a true mother's whole-souled devotion to their improvement.
This renders mothers, ipso facto ^ more beautiful than maidens.
575. — Men love devoted Affection in Women.
All sample men, asked what one female quality they prize
most, will answer, —
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS IN WOMEN MEN ADMIRE. 159
" Companionship. Give me the woman who affiliates with, dotes on and
befriends me, and makes me her friend ; discloses to me her whole heart,
and becomes one with me ; makes common cause, and works with me for
our mutual good ; identifies herself completely with me and our mutual
interests, and makes herself my boon companion in everything."
We have shown why."* Love and Friendship are contiguous
organs; therefore their Faculties should work together. They
are destined to cooperate in the production and rearing of their
young, which requires mutuality in everything else ; of which a
pure, intimate, and lasting friendship is the chief means •, but most
on her part, because she requires to cling to him more than he to
her. That wife is not worth much to any man who does not thus
assimilate and identify herself with him ; cordially receive him
right into the innermost recesses of her whole being ; and nestle
herself right into his affections, and him into her own. No wall
should separate either their hearts or persons. In Part V. we
shall base some very important directions to husbands and wives
on this principle.
The extreme difficulty of shaking off women whose affec-
tions once fasten, is fully illustrated and accounted for by this
principle. Either prevent their concentration, or else consum-
mate them in marriage.
576. — Men love Piety and Religion in Women.
Female heads are higher, longer, and broader on top, as com-
pared with their basilar width, than male, as is strikingly illus-
trated by Fanny Forester's, Fig. 541. Accordingly, from the
beginning of time women have been most noted for religious
devotion. Hence virgins were selected to keep the holy fires per-
jKJtually burning on vestal altars. They were last at the cross, and
tirs^t at the sepulchre; and always tliink most of their church.
Catholic women are much more devout than men; and many
more turn nuns than men monks. The ancients had more god-
desses than gods ; and two-thirds of modern church members are
females; who support prayer-meetings, and help their pastors
by far the most. But for them religious ordinances would be
but poorly eust^ined. Labors of love are carried forward most
by theia No modern missionary has equalled Mrs. Judson in
self-sacrificing eflbrts for the heathen ; and the Sanitary Commis-
sion was aided most by women. So was " sanitary " hospital
drudi^ery. In yellow fever, cholera %Dd aU public jAiamlties,
160 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
they always excel men in self-sacrificing devotion to the com-
mon good. In " revivals of religion " they show the most " love
for souls." As nurses at the sick bed men bear no comparison
with them. Indeed, their distinctive office is to bestow. Espe-
cially have they the most of that feeling of holy awe of things sa-
-Tcd, and "spirit of prophecy" and inspiration which foresees and
foretells, called Spirituality. This renders them spiritual guides,
to warn and direct those individual men each may love. Loving
women will forewarn against prospective dangers, and advise as to
what course they had better pursue touching this, that, and the
other measure. While men arrive at conclusions through reason,
women jump at them through intuitional impressions.
The reason of this higher moral development in them obviously
is, that every great function must be carried forward by some
specilic means. Morality and religion constitute man's highest
functions, ^^ and must therefore be guaranteed by some special
and potential instrumentality. Women are constituted more
moral and religious than men, in order both to transmit the most
of the moral sentiments to children, and then to educate them
religiously, and supervise their moral conduct, as well as that of
man, and keep herself, husband, and children " straight." Hence
even immoral and irreligious men prefer moral, religious, and
church-loving wives, and impious men often select those extra
pious. If no women attended church, few men would go.
577. — Women most Perceptive and Talkative, Men REFLECTiva
Female foreheads are fullest over the eyes, but generally
narrow and retiring in their upper and lateral portions, as in
Venus and Psyche; in both of whom the perceptives * greatly
predominate over the reflectives ; yet occasionally women have
high, wide, bold foreheads, like Lucretia Mott,*^^ inherited from
her father Folger. Hence women reach their conclusions more
by perception than reflection, and evince more tact than pro-
fundity.
Expression is relatively largest in women, which, with their
extreme emotion and Eventuality, renders them natural and ele-
gant talkers, — a female "accomplishment" incomparably superior
ro any and all toilet ornaments, and one which will some day be
appreciated, but it is not now. Hence natural orators, like Pat-
rick Henry, derive their eloquence more from their mothers than
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS IN WOMEN MEN ADMIRE. 161
fathers. And since piety also comes mainly from women,*^' the
two give pulpit eloquence, which is usually inherited most from
talented and prayerful mothers. The opinion obtains that
talents descend most from mothers. Pulpit talents, brilliancy,
I oetry, imagination, &c., do. ; yet depth and power of intellect,
j-hilosophy and originality, come oftenest from superior fathers.'^^
Gifted men usually descend from sires who generally possess
great strength and power of intellect, though evinced mainly in
" strong common sense." Of course literary gifts descend most
from mothers.
678. — Reputation, Aristocracy, and Ton Female Specialties.
A woman's character is her all. Few men, however bad them-
selves, will deign to marry any woman tainted morally. She
must be like Csesar's wife, far above even suspicion ; virtuous, and
moral in all other respects — must neither steal nor cheat, quarrel,
gamble, nor carouse. Men love to sport with " fast women," but
utterly refuse to marry them. The reason is that mothers con-
fer the moral virtues,*"* and this love of appreciation keeps her
morals good. Her spotless reputation is her moral recommen-
dation.
Aristocracy, pride of character, exclusiveness, love of show, dis-
play, style, gentility, &c., — all outgrowths of Ambition, — origi-
nate from this same rationale. Emulation, strife for "social
position," has supplanted that for war, and is now all the rage,
having splendid furniture, dresses, parties, &c., as but yesterday
it had the number of " cotton bales " produced.
Display is now the mark of ton. Obviously she is the genteel
lady who can dress the most stylishly, and wear the most fash-
ionable apparel. To appear to be, is now the measure of one's
" social position." That is. Ambition has left war, Bourbonism,
and in this country " the first families," and fastened on millinery
furbelows, fulsome furniture, and outside gewgaws. It matters
less how smart, even how good a woman is, than how superbly
she dresses,'*^
Women fbel social position, and manifest exclusiveness many
fold more than men ; who, however rich, rarely " put on airs,**
save a few effeminates, who have only gold trinkets of which to
be proud ; wisely leaving ton to their " female household," because
so much more " indigenous " to them. How many rich men
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162 THE SCIENCE OF MANHOOD AND WOMANHOOD.
dress and appear plain and common, but how few women 1 Ac-
cordingly
Male heads are fuller at Dignity than Ambition, and
female at Ambition than Dignity, which explains her greater
love of display, style, ton; his of fame, renown, power, command.'^''
This law requires women to be much more particular about their
characters and conduct than men. Public opinion allows men
to retain their " social position " though they may not live just
so; yet woe unto that woman who departs a hair's breadth from
what is considered genteel and proper. Men will not accept as
wives any who have committed " one false step ; " while a man's
prospects are no way impaired by ten times as grave derelictions.
Our subject shows why this is and should be thus.'^
579. — CautIon and Gratitude Female Specialties.
Infants require incessant care, which !N"ature demands of
their mother. Her Love for them compels her to guard and pro-
tect them perpetually against all possible dangers. Hence female
heads are widest at the middle of the parietal bones. If dangers
threaten, as fire or foes, she seizes them and flees ; while the
father stands at bay. Men fight, women run.
Perpetual fear and terror are often caused by Caution in
excess, combined with morbid nerves. Many women are in »
state of perpetual insanity from fright. The rustling of a leaf
alarms, and the jolting of carriage or shying of horse frightens
them; thus rendering themselves and all around them miserable.
If their " darlings " fall sick they " call the doctor ; " do this and
that in a half frenzy of fear; and thus often kill their children
by the very means taken to save them. This is " too much of a
good thing." Such should offset this tendency by their sense;
and remember that they are always more " scared than hurt ; "
and had by far better leave their sick child's room at once, till
they become quiet ; for nothing is so fatal to it as this terrified
state of attendants. It unmans patients old and young ; whereas
their own internal mental resistance to disease is far more restora-
tive than all doctor's medicines, and all other curative agents.^*^
Fine women are naturally grateful ; obviously, because they
feel dependent. Gratitude sets off a woman's character, and
beautifies her spirit and appearance more even than music; whilst
few things deform both equally with ingratitude.*^
what mental tbaits in women men admire. 168
580. — Secrecy, Tact, and Artifice natural to Women.
Deception, cunning, hypocrisy, intrigue, falsehood are boldlj
pronounced indigenous in women. These and like accusations
are false, yet are based in this shadow of truth : man protect*
liimself and family by bold, manly attack and defence;"^ womau
by artifice, stratagem, tact, policy, concealment, and subterfuge.
Her Maker understood Himself in creating her thus reserved,
decretive, discreet, guarded, self-governed, and politic. These
traits in her are equally valuable to him, by enabling them con-
jointly to work two cards — he force, she shrewdness and art —
thereby accomplishing much more than if both had either alone.
8he sometimes perverts it in using false appearances, even du-
plicity and hypocrisy, yet her larger Conscience usually does, and
always should, prevent her wronging others while accomplishing
ends attainable only by tortuous measures.
Men love reserved, coy, proper, discreet women much more
than abrupt and blunt ; while women like outspoken bluntness
and frankness in men, yet hate subterfuges. Our principle shows
why, and also explains those practical *' falsehoods " so largely
practised in the female toilet, and by " society " ladies ; such
as "false hair," "false curls," "false forms," "false bosoms,"
" false colors," pencilling eyebrows, painting cheeks, &c., includ-
ing false pretences, even downright deceptions in pretending to
be glad to see those they hate, imploring those to " call often "
whom they desire never to see again, &c., of which "society
ladiegy" seem more proud than ashamed.
A TiiREE-YEAR OLD BOY, vcry fond of kissing little girls, on
ascertaining that a little girl was very fond of kissing and being
kissed by him, would not, could n't be persuaded or driven to kiss
her. She was too frank. He wanted one more shy and reserved.
Phrenology proves this summary of woman's characteristics
to be scientific and correct, and all men wlio catechize their
own instinctive tastes must admit its coincidence therewith.
We claim to have here propounded a most important truth.
581. — l^iM^iMv-T Women unite all these Physical and Mentav.
Attributes.
All axoibnt female models indicate robustness. See Una,
Ceres, Liberty, Aurora, Minerva, Venus the least so, uu<i
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most delicate. Masculine passion was then tremendous, really
frightful, and it needed and had vigorously animalized women
to match, and to produce powerful warriors. Men then esteemed
and treated women mainly as passion-gratifying serfs, and wor-
shipped her most who was the most voluptuous. What one
allusion in mythology to " the spiritual "?*^^ Kote in our future
quotation from Sallust, the style of women then in vogue. They
wanted such for bacchanalian revels.®"
Moderns run to the opposite extreme, by preferring those
chiefly emotional. A robust woman is therefore neglected, and
delicate prized. Ladies even boast of their weaknesses, headaches,
sideaches, backaches, nervousness, sleeplessness, " complaints "
here, there, everywhere, — boasting that they don't know enough
to get and keep well, and are all nerve !
Nervousness is their paramount ailment. How common, how
almost universal. Why? Because pushed right from cradle
into school, and kept there till too late to develop physically.
What martyrdom ? IN'ovels, feverish Love, late parties, self-abuse,
with an in-door life, and many other like educational causes,
complete the ruin of their sensory systems, and make all ladies
nervous wrecks. Of course their precocious children are few,
and die by millions, while those that live are weakly. And
this evil redoubles apace.
ExQUisiTENESS AND STRENGTH UNITED constitute female perfection.
For bearing were they primarily created, and are they wanted.
Perfect maternity is the touch-stone of perfect women.^* What
impairs it impairs them. Robust bodies with strong animal pas-
sion make children more animal than sentimental. I^ature
prefers such to none, but desires mentality in predominance.
Modern ladies supply this, yet lack animal vigor.
Perfect children require both " strong minds in strong bodies."
Therefore perfect women require this union. Modern children
must be few and poor till modern women become more robust.
Female vigor is the want of the age, because robust children are.
Well-balanced mothers bear the most and best children.
Extremely robust women have neither the most children nor the
best;*^"^ nor extremely delicate. To bear well, a woman must be
well balanced up throughout all her functions. Only much study
can duly impress the importance of this balance. See its utility
demonstrated in Human Science.®^- ^ I^ature will have proportion.
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or cat oft' those who lack it by forestalling issue, or by their early
death. We touch a kindred point under Selection.
Robustness and exquisiteness are compatible. Nothing in
either conflicts with anything in the other. People think other
wise, but mistake. Excellent muscles, digestion, circulation, &c.,
rather promote than prevent refinement. So does a hearty sex-
uality, passion included. Indeed, a sexless passive woman can-
not be exquisite, yet may be morbid. To create and augment
this exquisiteness, so as to transmit it, is the specific office of sex-
uality.
Ladies, cultivate robustness ; for you are too nervous now.
Save yourselves the future agonies of burying your darlings by
present physical culture.
So great a good, individual and public, as this union, is too good
for this century; but Nature holds it in reserve. Good Lord,
what a luxury their union I Pray hasten its advent. But
Wife-trainers and seekers, you alone can hasten its advent.
But the time is coming when all wives and mothers will combine
in each all the robustness of ancient women, with all the delicacy
and sentiment of modern, with both immeasurably redoubled.
Oh, what will it then be to have such wives, and be born of such
mothers I
Section V.
THE MUTUAL RIGHTS, DUTIES, AND RELATIONS OF THE SEXES.
582. — Males and Females should co-operate in All Things.
These male and female first principles just presented solve
this whole problem of women's rights, sphere, franchise, treat-
ment, everything in dispute. Nature leaves nothing unsettled
or dubious, but has preadjusted all their minutire by this sexual
tribunal, that the nature of each sex, and its ofiice at the creative
altar, determine the status of each, and assign to each as regards
the other its resi)ectivo " rights," " sphere," duties, social and
political status, and whatever appertains to either singly, and
both collectively.
Man is to woman what husband is to wife, and woman to man
what wife is to husband. That is : men maintain towards women
in community relations corresponding precisely throughout with
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those maintained by the individual husband in the family towards
his wife ; and women to men with those of wife to husband.
The sexes should co-operate in all things, just as should lius-
bflnd and wife in creating and rearing children ; which compels
them to work with each other in everything else. As woman
must be man's helpmeet, completing what he commences f^ so
women in general should be men's. As neither can parent or
rear children except conjointly with the other; so both should
participate in all the labors and pleasures of either. Mutuality in
all things, isolation in none, is the natural law. '' Woman's
rights" conventions and efforts are precisely like old maids'
parties. What is wanted is a mutual convention of both sexes to
ferret out and right up the wrongs of both.
Theatricals adopt this co-operative principle by both sexes
performing and witnessing together. How long would they
" draw " or " pay " if they did not ? How debasing are all male
amusements ?
The rostrum and lecture-room are appropriately beginning to
practise it, and it is just as ^tr se proj)er for women to speak in
public as for men ; and more luxurious for men to listen to good
female speakers than to male; while women love to hear men
the best. Yet thus far women have the advantage in listening
to more good male speakers than men to female.
Some religious denominations do, others do not, conform to
this law ; and those which do not are retrograding. Allowing
women to exhort, pray, tell their experiences, lead off in camp-
meetings and love - feasts, everything but preach, prospers
Methodism more than any other thing. And it is inherently as
proper for them to preach as for men; and in every other
denomination as in this. Quakers practise it.
Periodicals make money by employing it, in both sexes aid-
ing in editing, contributing to and patronizing them; and all
volumes should be the "joint" production of a man and woman.
Good Templars and Grangers obey this law by summoning
women to their meetings, and must prosper ; while Masons, Odd
Fellows, Y. M. C. A., clubs, &c., violate it. How ungallant.
Ladies, fight them. Do not young women need associational aid
equally with men ? What women do not help do is miserably
done; what they may not, should not he done. Those institutions
which practically insult the whole female sex, by excluding
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them because they are women, must run out, or change. Shame on
them ! Those excluded are every whit as good as their excluders.
All institutions of learning — collegiate, theological, medical, &c. —
should adopt it by inviting both sexes.*" Heathen saturnalia
separated them, yet how loathsomely vulgar ? "It is not good
tor man to be alone in anything."
Politics violate this law. Republicanism is right : therefore
women governed and assessed by laws, have inherent rights to
be represented in their framing. They have as " inalienable " a
right to vote as men. And this would redound as much to man's
good as to woman's. Her political card is necessary to play
against these shoulder-hitting repeaters, salary grabbers, credit
mobilians, corruptionists, and ring swindlers everywhere. A
thirty-miUion swindle per year^ in one city ! What but " female suf-
frage " can save our republic ? For our own and children's sakes
we should bestow it soon, and beg her to use it. In Wyoming
it has banished rowdyism from elections, and must purify all
voting, all legislation. All governments in which she has no lot,
must needs be bunglingly conducted.
This danger awaits female voting. Those of high culture
might be loth to encounter " these men " at the polls, and leave
mainly those uncultivated, and of foreign birth, to vote; thus
actually doubling the unintelligent and plebeian vote.
Women's sphere of industry should also be enlarged till it
equals that of men. In whatever either engages, both should
participate. Neither should work alone, but both affiliate and
co-operate in all avocations. Printing, architecture, drawing^
engraving, all the arts, all kinds of storekeeping and manufac-
turing, all departments of literature, telegraphing, law, legisla-
tion, public offices and clerkships of all kinds, post-offices in
particular, &c., should be shared and filled equally by both,
governeil only by fitness. In teaching and doctoring, women are
naturally men's superiors. All the avenues of industry should
be opened to her, and she invited to fill them by praise, not
rebuffed.
Women's wages should equal men's for the same work ; or else
made greater Uy gallantry,"* never less. This is sheer palpable
justice. The kitchen maid, who begins work first and ends last,
should be paid at least equal wages with the hired man ; because
her work is more irksome and less healthy.
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583. — " Women's Rights " antagonize the Sexes, and hinder
Offspring.
Three outrageous wrongs seem to sum up this whole women's
rights movement.
1. They antagonize the sexes, whereas the best good of both
demands their harmony.^ Whatever injures or benefits either,
tliereby equally injures or benefits both. Men lose quite as
much by women's wrongs as women, and would gain as much by
righting them. But this can be done only by unitizing, not
antagonizing, them. Yet its great, outrageous wrong consists in
its proclaiming and maintaining
2. Women's rights not to have children, even in wedlock, and
to have them outside of it, just as they please. One of tliem, rich,
masculine looking, consulting me, with several of her clique, on
preventing conception, more characteristically of her sect than
modestly, used these precise words :
" I won't bear all the young ones my lustful husband chooses to chuck
into me"
Marriage is a mutual contract to have children only
together.^^ Women who have once voluntarily consented to tliis,
as they do in and by marriage,
have no more moral right to
withdraw from it, and thereby
rob their husbands of their
very dearest earthly right —
legal and honorable children —
than other partners have to
wilfully violate any other ver-
tebral condition of their " en-
gagements." Either not con-
tract, or else fulfil. Worse yet.
3." It encourages abortions
AND preventions, both utterly
accursed. But we shall yet
discuss these and many like
points bearing on this move-
ment.
Fig. 545.— Miss Woman's Rights. DISSATISFIED CONJUGAL OK
RIGHTS, DUTIES, AND RELATIONS OP THE SEXES. 169
UNMARRIED GRUMBLERS are the chief agitators. Their looks and
whole aspect indicate affectional disappointment, and a consequent
fault-finding mood. " Public scolds " is their label. What one
of them all is in a loving, genial, attractive, womanly, bearing
mood ? Only those who are, have any right to croak. But they
have nothing to say. Laying hens alone should cackle. When
loving loved wives and prime mothers protest, we will listen. If
petted American women *^ have just cause to agitate, surely abused
foreign might justly make the welkin ring with their outcries.
584. — Loved Dependence better than Unloved Independence.
Maternity renders woman dependent on man.*^ Her indepen-
dence of him would leave her to struggle on alone through
maternity and nursing. She at least cannot afford to advocate
or practise woman's rights doctrines. Let the following dialogue
show from this one instance how much she owes, in ten thousand
other things, to this complained of dependence. The adjourn-
ment of a woman's rights convention so filled the cars that a
standing conventionist complained that men were ungentlemanly
in not proffering their seats, when a Quaker asked her,
" Does thee belong to this * Woman's Rights Convention?"*
" I do, and contend for her equal rights in all things."
" Stand, then, on thy equal rights."
Choose ye between a state of loved dependenpe on man, and
independent indifference. Isolation and Love are incompatible.
Man's gallantry and generosity presuppose a dependent woman
to be waited upon.*"
Do MEN love these women's rights croakers all the more, or less,
for their independent spirit^ and admiringly flock around such
beseeching matrimonial acceptances, or pass them by? This is
the dcUrminiruj question. Arguing " women's rights " is the surest
jKissible way effectually to disgust all except a few negative men,
who require positive wives, whereas nine hundred and ninety-nine
in every thousand feel all over
" A WAT with all these women's rights praters. Let them support and
enjoy their independence, for all I care. I want none of them for viy wife.
They disgust me."
YouNQ WOMEN, all womcn w^ho value masculine appreciation, or
desire marriage, take fair warning that this clamor drives men
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frtfm you always^ attracts never any. Beware how you allow it
to blast your marital and maternal prospects — that only " sphere '*
in which you can ever be happy. Does not this movement array
itself against this only end of the female creation? How much
are such independent women loved^ and do they love ? Do they
produce more and better, or fewer and poorer children f are the test
questions. Let those answer theni who dare, and all stop and think
685. — How ALL Women can obtain more than their Rights,
Masculine gallantry, properly appealed to, will give all
women double what belongs to them in everything. Men will
not be driven by men, much less by women ; but can be coaxed
by women into almost anything, as was Samson by Delila. Get
a man's Love and you can do with him what you will. Nestle
yourself right into his affections, entwine yourself around his
hearij^'^^ and he will work his fingers' ends off, every day, just for
the fun of letting his darling pet pick his pockets every night.
What is loved, is cared for. A man selling a favorite horse,
expressed solicitude that it be well treated ; but on learning that
it had become a pet, said :
" I am satisfied now, because men care well for what they pet."
Women's rights advocates tack ship. Showing men the female
excellences gives woman both all her rights, and all man can do
for her besides. Come, try coaxing " these men," instead of be-
rating them. Make yourselves lovable, and men will stand, cap
in hand, perpetually saying in action :
" Most cheerfully. Allow me to do this and that besides. You do me
the greatest possible favor by letting me serve you."
Get men's affections by manifesting the female attributes, "*•
and they will bestow all your rights, and redress all your wrongs ;
besides loading you down with every good and luxury within
their power, as Boas did Ruth ; but this " women's rights" club-
bing men with " Give us our rights, you heathen," takes their
treatment of you off from the sexual plane, and puts it on the
human, to your great disadvantage.
Some feudal laws and customs still retained, do injustice to
women as such ; yet all modern legislation discriminates against
men, in their partiality for women. Female legislatures could not
have the " cheek " to enact laws as " advantageous " to women a&
those men are enacting for women.
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686. — Men's Legal Wrongs and Disabilities.
Men SUFFER many more legal wrongs than women. For ex-
ample: A man of property is responsible for whatever debts a
vain, foolish, or extravagant wife may be coaxed to contract ; yet
no wife of means is liable for any of her husband's debts,
though he is penniless, she worth millions. While he cannot sell
his real estate without her voluntary and sworn written consent,
she may sell all of hers, at full prices, without the civility of noti-
fying him. While she may turn him out of her house without
any warning or provocation, he cannot deprive her of his home
without proving her infidelity, even though she is a perfect ter-
magant. She can even compel him to pay the expense of a
divorce suit, and obtain separation and alimony, for many causes
not available to him in a like case. While no man who regards
public opinion would dare forsake his wife, save for the gravest
causes, few men would coerce an unwilling wife to live with
them, although they might have the clearest right on their side.
The laws of most of the States, especially the newer, instead of
oppressing her, make her a special favorite; allow her to marry,
and make a valid will, two years earlier than men, — a double
advantage, one on each end of life, — and compel eider brothers to
.share equally with a younger sister ; allow her to retain all her
property at marriage in her own right, but compel a rich man,
by the very act of marrying a poor girl, to donate to her one-third
of his real estate, that very best of property, besides preventing his
getting anything like its full value without her voluntary sig-
nature ; allow her to acquire and hold money and property in her
own right, yet oblige him, however poor, to support her, however
rich ; to pay all costs if she is indicted, yet she need pay none of
his; and thus of many other like legal provisions to her advan-
tage, but to his perpetual and serious disadvantage. A million-
nairc in real estate, marries a poor girl to-day, and dies to-mor-
row, "the law'* takes one-third of it right out of his sons'
hands to enrich her, without her having earned one cent; yet if
a poor man marries a rich woman, and she dies, all goes to her
heirs, but none to his children.
No MARRIED MAN OWNS ONE CENT ; for, howcvcr long or hard he
may have worked for it, even while she was flirting, any hour,
with provocation or without, she can make him a bankrupt, and
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oblige him to suspend business in paying her debts contracted
against his remonstrance.
If woman is arraigned for crime, lawyers, judges, bailiffs,
and turnkeys, to a man, favor her by virtue of her sex, but deal
rigorously with her husband ; because partial to the ladies, but
prejudiced against their own sex. How rarely is any woman ar-
raigned, though known to be criminal ! How seldom convicted,
even when proved guilty I How leniently punished, if convicted ;
and then how often "pardoned out"? If " testimony" equally
convicts a man and a woman of murder, he is " hung," but she
discharged. A husband and wife " go to law ; " judge, lawyer,
jury, favor her most, and give him no show of even-handed jus-
tice. Divorce suits always favor her, but oppress him. Impar-
tial justice calls much the loudest for "man's rights" conventions.
You " strong-minded," stop agitating till you answer.
In war, this gallantry is still more apparent. Women known
to be aiding the enemy most effectually, are allowed to keep on
repeating the offence with perfect impunity, thus causing the loss
of many brave soldiers ; whereas a man who does a tithe as much
is shot down by drumhead court-martial. We beg to ask the sex
whether, since war treats them as neutrals, they should not be neu-
trals ; and whether aiding the enemy, while protected bytheir
sex, is not unladylike, treacherous even ?
Section YI.
SEXUAL ETIQUETTE, OR HOW LADIES AND GENTLEMEN SHOULD
TREAT EACH OTHER.
587. — Importance and Promotion of well-sexed Manners.
A gentlemanly and lady-like deportment towards the oppo-
site sex, is the very highest type of human manners. Though
all owe a genuine human treatment to all, juniors* to seniors,
adults to children, and all to all, yet another and far higher is
due between ladies and gentlemen. As that comportment proper
enough from men to men, or boys to boys, would be rude from
boys to men, or men to boys ; so a style of manners proper enough
from men to men, or women to women, would be improper, even
rude, from men to women, or women to men. Of course sexual
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laws govern sexual etiquette, which command each sex to learn
und conform to them. Indifference in either to the other is
abominable.
Eight treatment pays largely ; so does wrong, " over the
left." Female indifference to a man costs him all the pleasures
their appreciation can give him ; while their aversion inflicts on
him positive loss and suffering. Scarcely anything affects his
happiness as much as women^s feelings towards him ; while women
are more dependent on men's good feelings and offices than on
anything else whatever, and work harder to gain them. No
lady can afford to incur any man's neglect or odium.
Whether either prizes, ignores, or hates the other, depends
mainly on this very treatment.**^ It therefore concerns all of
both sexes to leajrn and practise a right style of manners towards
the other. Gallantry and lady ism should be taught, should con-
stitute a part of education, as much as chirography, grammar, or
anything else. !N'othing taught in school, academy, or college
contributes equally to your life-long enjoyments. Is not a gentle-
manly ignoramus as good as a literary boor ? Talented clowns
would gain by exchanging some of their learning for good man-
ners to ladies. If talents are preferable to gallantry alone, how
desirable are both united? Does not politeness to ladies sharpen
up the intellect and refine the soul? To be able always to escort
and entertain ladies in a truly refined, finished style, is an art as
fine, ornamental, valuable, and self-perfecting as any other. Let
men be emulous in its culture.
Ladylike manners towards gentlemen are still more " becom-
ing," *'pay " better, and ornament infinitely more than laces and
diamonds. No woman can afford to treat men rudely. Then what
prompts and guides to a perfectly gentlemanly and ladylike eti-
quette ?
KiGHT feelings. Our behavior emanates from our minds. As
good manners towards all spring from a true human regard for
them ; so he who would treat woman appropriately must be in-
spired by true manly sentiments towards the sex in general, and
the lady in question. Gallantry springs neither from study, nor
travel, nor culture, but from a high appreciation of woman. He
who feels right will behave right, with or without culture;
while a boor at heart will be boorish, though all his life in gen-
teel society. As the ass ensconced in the lion's skin shows his
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tars, and when he tries to roar only brays ; so no rudeness is as
rude as fashionable impertinence. Those who would learn to
treat women properly, must begin with their inner man. " First
make the tree good ; " then alone can its productions be right.
Men poorly sexed treat women on the merely human plane,
whereas a hearty sexuality demands that you superadd the
sexual one, and inspires both a right estimation, and therefore
comportment. Yet
Perverted Love maltreats and perpetrates sins of commis-
sion. Men with sensual feelings virtually insult, and thereby
disgust and repel, every female they meet. Their entire natural
language proclaims their inherent vulgarity, and presupposes her
degradation, from which the pure recoil. ^N'othing renders men's
manners to women as utterly odious as lustful feelings. Those
who treat women as if faithless, are so themselves. Of course
such can reform their manners only by reforming their spirit —
that great fountain of all action.
This principle applies equally to woman. She who pro-
nounces all men odious, or bad, or hateful, is so herself, and
insults all she approaches. Let her rustle in silks, glisten in
diamonds, and try to be agreeable, her every attempt proclaims
her hypocrisy, and engenders their dislike ; whereas those act
the lady who feel as women should feel towards men. Ladylike
courtesy emanates from the heart
588. — How Men should Feel and Behave towards Women.
A GOOD BOY teaches TRUE GALLANTRY. Note how he plays with
girls. In parlor, in play-grounds, he edges wistfully towards her,
and treats her never rudely, but always blandly and tenderly.
If they snowball, he tries to miss, not hit ; or hits softly, just to
show what he could do. He scuffles with her not rudely, as
with his equal, but as with some delicate being he must not hurt.
In "sledding down hill," he gladly draws the sled up, and on level
ground draws her, not she him. The older and better sexed lie
is the more considerate and pleasant his behavior towards licr
becomes. This is Nature, and shows men that they should trout
women just so, only more so.
A FREEZING BOY WRAPPED HIS OWN COAT AROUND HIS FREEZING
sister! Lost near Mount Ayr, 0., and overtaken by cold and
dark, seeing her suffer, he deliberately took his own coat off from
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his own shivering back, carefully tucked it snugly all arourid
her, laid her down in the snow, laid himself down in his shirt-
sleeves by her side, and died clasping her in his cold embrace ! Just
what did this? Gallantry, not yet ripe.
All humanity should exult in a deed thus noble, sublime
angelic, divine 1
Woman is man's choicest treasure. That is the most pre
eious which confers the most happiness. She is adapted to render
him incomparably happier than any other terrestrial possession.
He can enjoy luscious peaches, melting pears, crack horses, dollars,
:ind other things innumerable ; but a well-sexed man can enjoy
woman most of all. He is poor indeed, and takes little pleasure
in this life, be his possessions and social position what they may,
who takes no pleasure with her. All description utterly fails
to express the varied and exultant enjoyments God has engrafted
into a right sexual state. Only few experiences can attest how
many and great, from infancy to death, and throughout eternity
itself. All God could do He has done to render each sex super-
latively happy in the other. Of all His beautiful and perfect
works this is the most beautiful and perfect. Of all his benig-
nant devices this is His most benign. All the divine attributes,
ail human happiness converge in male and female adaptations to
mutual enjoyments together.
Each is correspondingly precious to the other. Man should
prize many things, yet woman is his pearl of greatest price. He
siiould preserve, cherish, husband many life possessions, but wo-
man the most. He has many jewels in his crown of glory, but
she is his gem-jewel, his diadem. What masculine luxury equals
making women in general, and loved one in special, happy?
The law governing man's treatment to woman is that all
things should be treated in accord with their own natures. As in
handling cannon-balls we may pitch and pound, because they
are hard, but in handling watches we must treat them gingerly,
because they are delicate ; so men may bang men about as the}''
would rough boxes — yet as those who use the sword must exjiect
some time to perisli by the sword, so those who will bang must
cxfjcct to be banged, and served them right — so since woman is
exquisitely sensitive and delicately organized,^ every genuine
man should and will treat her kindly, and in a delicate, consider-
ate, refined, polite manner ; avoiding whatever can give her pain,
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gnd doing what contributes to her pleasure. He must not judge
her by himself; because his coarse, strong organism would not
heed, would contemn, what would torture' her delicate suscepti-
bilities with real agony.
Speak gently to woman, oh, man. Command men if you like
and can, but let all your tones to her be soft ; for harsh ones grate
terribly on her sensitive nature. Look at her as if beholding a
being highly etherealized. Her natural protector, and she reposing
in you for safety, see that you keep sentry around her, to guard her
against all evil : much less inflict any. Make her as safe under your
guardianship as your superior prowess and strength can render
her.^^ JSTot merely pick up her glove and evince Frenchified eti-
quette, but yield her your seat in crowded assembly and wher-
ever she needs it, obliging yourself to stand if either ; and keep
both eyes wide open to discern and supply her rising wants. Kor
grudgingly, but as if making her happy made yourself more so.
How FAR ANY MAN SHOULD bcstow these attentions on any
woman, depends on how much of a man he is who bestows, and
woman she who receives. The lower the sexuality of either, the
more indifferent they may, should, will be towards each other,
and adopt merely the human instead of sexual line of conduct ;
for they could adopt no other. A man in the cars, on buying
apples, offered one to a lady passenger, which she accepted. See-
ing her vainly trying to find a resting-place for her own and
child's weary heads, he proftered and she accepted his shoulder,
and slept for hours. Were his profters manly, her acceptances
womanly? They are not customary, but are they inherently
proper? in accord with high-toned masculinity and femininity ?
What says human Nature^ not custom ? Is or is not " society "
over-strict, prudish, liable to strangle many bubbling attentions,
lest they might be misconstrued ? Normal Love feels and hence
suspects no wrong ; but when unclean itself, it jealously charges
others with its own pruriency.
Many men smother their gallant spirit from bashfulness, or a
deferential awe of women as superior beings, or want of practice,
or conscious awkwardness, &c. Let all such remember that "a
faint heart never wins ; " that women love courage in men, yet
hate bashfulness as a species of cowardice,*^^ and infinitely pre-
fer well-meant forwardness to shrinking diffidence ; and doing
poorly to doing nothing. Neglect is worse than bungling.
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Break the ice. Do your best, but do something. Note how gen-
tlemen behave towards ladies, and take pattern after them. All
true women will accept pleasantly, overlook imperfections, and
help you along besides.
Gallant attentions deserve praise. To see a stalwart man,
whose brawn could get the lion's share, so blandly profier his
comfortable seat to a standing woman, which he would hardly
yield to a prince, preferring to stand for hours to promote her
comfort, is an act so generous, an oasis on the barren desert of
the human virtues so green and refreshing, as to deserve the
highest encomiums. I have a thousand times felt proud that I am
a man, to see in my crowded lecture-rooms and office men prolier
their seats to ladies th^y never saw before, never expect to see
again, as if right glad to thus martyrize themselves to promote
female comfort. All honor to him, in rags or broadcloth, who
manifests this premium manly attribute ; and so willingly as not
to oppress the receiver, but as if she obliged him by accepting.
Than gallantry what attribute is more self-perfecting ? What
defect is as defective, what vulgarity as vulgar, or what wrong
as wrong as man's wrong treatment to woman ? Let men wrong
men if any, but treat all women tenderly and courteously, by vir-
tue of their sex, whether found in velvet or rags, parlor or hovel.
Gallantry refines men, and measures their civilization. Women
j>osse8s more taste, style, refinement, exquisiteness, than men,*'^
whom they purify and spiritualize, as does and can nothing else ;
so that every individual man shows, by his boorishness or breeding,
coarseness or polish, vulgarity or purity, roughness or finish, just
how much or little he has associated in female society ; and
whether with coarser or refined females ; the latter adding a
finishing touch to his manners and character nothing else can
give. How the women of any or all nations or places are treated
admeasures their civil status in morals, in all things. Good breed-
ing consists more in natural sexual etiquette than in everything
else. He alone is genteel, whether courtier or ploughman, who
behaves properly towards women. He need not read Chesterfield,
for his gentility is perfect.
Tuouan associatinq with ladies is a very expensive luxury,
in these days of fashionable furbelows, yet it certainly does ele-
vate, refine, sanctify, moralize, purify, sharpen up, and improve
afl can nothing else. Still, could we not get ten times more gooJ
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with a tithe this cost? Do not these artificialities distort and
pervert the true feminine virtues, smother and crucify female
nature, and leave men only a bundle of dry-goods fandangoes and
"falsities" to admire, instead of the true woman?
American men are more gallant than any others. IsTowhere
olse is woman treated as considerately or tenderly as under the
star-spangled banner. Frenchmen, more polished, are less hearty
and sincere. Here she is petted, everywhere else scolded ; here
asked, there ordered ; here prized, there despised ; here treated as
superiors, there as inferiors ; here kissed, there cuffed. Accord-
ingly, American gentlemen are more polished, dignified, cour-
teous, gentlemanly, advanced, civilized, than any others. And
Southern gentlemen are especially polished, finished, and well-
bred towards ladies; while Southern ladies are more elegant and
refined in manners, more free and ladylike than any others.
And Southern society is higher toned and less restrained and
artificial than Northern, or any other; these attentions being
proffered and received in a more elevated and gentlemanly style
tlian anywhere else. Wait a little, and Republicanism will show
''far greater things" than now.
589. — What is proper from Ladies to Gentlemen.
Gratitude is due from all receivers to all givers, as much as
wages for work. All should pay somehow for all they get.
Woman's natural dependence on man consequent on maternity ,'"^
demands that she " return thanks " for whatever she receives
from him. And here payment is deserved.
No WOMAN IS entitled to any more masculine attentions than
her feminine loveliness extorts as a " free-will offering." Those
who earn the most will receive the most ; while only those are
neglected who are sexually uninteresting. Those who desire
more must inspire more. Men have gallantry enough for those
who elicit and reward it. Improving sexuality will increase
masculine admiration, and therefore courtesies. Cultivate love-
liness, or go without them. But your cold, thankless indif-
ference throws a wet blanket all over him, and stifles all future
attempts. He cares less for his own sacrifices, than for your
non-appreciation.
As A LADYLIKE ACCOMPLISHMENT, boarding-school mannerism
b€iars no comparison with " I 'm very much obliged." She is the
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j)erfect lady, though plainly attired, who winningly receiver
masculine proiFers with "You're extremely kind, sir," while she
is no lady, though dressed in rich embroidery, who accepts in-
differently with a practical —
" No thanks are due, for you ought to ; because you *re a man and I 'ni
a woman."
"Woman's thank-offering is man's most aromatic frankincensa
Two not exactly ladies, entering a full car, a gentlemanly judge,
^eing them standing, beckoning out his friend, proffered them
his comfortable seat, into which they thanklessly slid. Remain^
ing there awhile, his friend asked :
" Judge, what are you standing there for ? "
"Waiting for these — hem — females to thank me."
" Will you play the agreeable to a young lady bound North ? Planter***
" With all my heart. My handsomest attentions are at her service."
Naturally gallant, he took charge of her baggage, paid her
fare, waited upon her to, at, and from table, did his best to pro-
mote her comfort, and when the passengers were composing
themselves to sleep, fixed her a nice pillow out of overcoat and
muff, when she called out, —
" Conductor, help I This man is taking liberties with me."
Of course this turned all eyes on our hero, who, standing at tho
head of the slip, replied with dignity, —
" Substantiate your charge by saying definitely just what liberties I
have attempted. Have I touched your person ? "
" I don't know as you have."
" Have I attempted to kiss you, taken your hand, or done anything a gen-
tleman should not do to a lady? Have not all lookers seen all I have
done or attempted ? Just whai familiarities have I proffered ? "
" I don't know as you have done anything in particular, only I thought
you made very free with me in a general way. "
" Humph ! Only a Mise Prude, who don't know what polite trea^
mcnt from gentlemen is," roplicd a gallant Southron, who saw that all the
trouble lay in her prurient imagination.
"MiSH N.," our hero continued, "you were put under my escort, wit^
special charge to promote your comfort. I have looked after your baggage,
waited on you m handsomely as I knew how, made you the best pillow I
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could, and even paid your fare and supper, without thinking to ask you tti
reimburse even them ; and this utterly groundless accusation is my reward !
Fortunately, I am too well known to have this aspersion injure me. I
attribute your conduct more to inexperience and false notions than to
wrong motives. Though I would be justified in returning your checks, and
letting the 'conductor' protect you, yet I will see you safely in Washing-
ton, and your baggage rechecked, and you reseated, but no farther."
A GENTLEMAN, Smashed with a selfish, heartless beauty, presented
her, among many other things before, with an extra brilliant
diamond ring, which she clutched with haughty disdain, and
scolded him roundly that day, and literally pounded him in rage
the next, alternately wheedling and demanding favors, yet abusing.
She picked the berries, then trod on the bush. Give them my com-
pliments, w^ith "he's a fool, and she a virago." Better marry
prussic acid.
Woman's gratitude prompts additional gifts, whilst her indif-
ferent reception forestalls them. Her pleasant " Thank you, sir,"
so much more than repays him that, delighted with his " specu-
lation," he turns right round and proffers another like " invest-
ment," while no thankless woman will long receive attentions from
any one man ; for ingratitude soon crucifies that regard which in-
spires them. Sometimes, in crowded omnibus, church, assembly,
two or more gentlemen proifer all their seats to one, not lady,
nor woman, but only thing, who selfishly spreads herself and
crinoline over both seats, making more stand than need to ; while
genuine women use the least space possible, and make no more
stand than must. Women's selfishness towards men is worse
than towards her own sex.
American ladies thank less than they should, and much less
than English and French ; perhaps because praised, dressed, and
petted so much ; on the principle of a child spoiled by excessive
indulgence. Republican ladies should not omit to thank. Their
remissness merits reproof, if only to put them on their " good
behavior " hereafter. My countrywomen, consider, and if needs
be, reform.
Those who can sing or play should do so cheerfully whe»
requested, instead of declining persistently till urging becomes
painful, as many now do, even though emulous to show their
skill. Those are unladylike who can but refuse to contribute to
masculine enjoyment. They should come right forward on invi'
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tetion, as Spanish ladies do, without waiting to be urged till im-
patience annuls expectation, and gladly do their best to entertain.
A WOMAN SHOULD NOT ALWAYS TAKE all gentlemen may proffer,
lest she thereby robs them ; and young women should hardly
receive seats from an old man, but by pleasantly declining vir-
tually say, " I am youngest, and can stand best. Keep it your-
self." Ladies who accept seats should, after a time, offer to
return them, and he, if fatigued, should sit a little and reprof-
fer. All should presuppose that all proffers are made in good
faith, and that acceptance will please the giver ; yet she who is
offered the only peach, or anything else, should accept, yet return
a part.
Receiving favors obligates recipients. This implication un-
derlies, and necessarily accompanies, every reception of every mas-
culine attention. They have maternity for their only base and
rationale,^ either by this or some other giver. They imply grati-
tude, and this, aff'ection, and their proffer and reception, if con-
tinued, Love, and this maternity.
Take care, girls, how you receive many presents from the same
man. Only your bearing children makes them protferable oraccept-
able. We have made this point too clear to need amplifying.*^"^
No definite rules can always govern, because '' circumstances
alter cases," except this —
Let each feel and express that exalted regard God has
implanted in all of each sex for all of the other ; and then follow
their sexual intuitions ; and their sexual etiquette will be perfect.
Let this Section put all its readers on this exalted sexual plat-
form, and teach every man just how to treat the female sex, and
«very woman how to behave towards the masculine ; and it will
incomparably adorn the manners of both, make both happy iu each
other, and mutually develop each other's sexuality and humanity.
690. — Men, Women, Ladies, and Gentlemen deigned.
Our subject defines the above words, at* well as male and
female, so exactly that we stop to apply it to them : tin* more so
because we must use them so often.
Woman, derived from womb-man, is exactly descriptivu of the
human female, and a good old Saxon word we very much admire.
It implies not alone her physical structure, but those exalted
virtues and feminine instincts which constitute her mental sexa-
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allty.*" Stop to adore whenever you use it. Only God deserves
more worship than does a genuine normal woman.
Lady should, but does not, mean still more, the cultivated
woman, and really means the wife of a lord, one having all
the attributes of the genuine woman, with the superaddition
of those feminine graces and charms imparted by mingling
in society ; yet, as generally used, its woman idea is dropped,
and the mere fulsome, tawdy, gewgaw idea of the outside orna-
ments of a useless but very expensive piece of parlor furniture,
alone retained. It should mean much more than woman ;
we use it, as others do, to signify — nothing — but the ornate
department of the sex. We have faint, yet very faint, hopes of
living to see genuine ladies by thousands who combine all the
adorable attributes of the true woman with all the elegance and
enamel of character (not face) of the genuine lady ; and both,
with bodily vigor.*^^ In these degenerate days the woman and
lady are incompatible. Becoming a lady now implies unbecom-
ing a woman, l^o genuine woman can be a genuine lady, nor
lady woman ; because ladyism implies those practical shams,
hypocrisies, deceptions, artificialities, and mere pretences which
every true woman must despise and disdain to practise. A
modern lady is all " made up " for the occasion ; inside by pes-
saries, false teeth, &c., and outside by cotton paddings, false hair,
dead people's curls, fabrics and laces by the hundreds of yards,
and God only knows how many things besides ^^^ — please think
how many — whereas a genuine woman needs nothing false about
her, because she has enough that is natural.
All nobbily dressed ladies carry this flag, " Family neglected '*
— " A bundle of shams." All long dresses are public nuisances.
Ilarlots are often perfect ladies. Women love, ladies hate, to bear
children. Women have, ladies lack, soul and female inspiration;
excepting young ladies not yet fashionably demoralized. Take
ladies to your arms, your bed, your heart, ye who like everything
false, made up for the marital market by milliners, but give for my
'' bed and board," and the mother of my children, a genuine God-
made wornan, not milliner-made show-case. Pet cotton breast-
works, but give a good, natural, luscious bosom. Take that bundl«
of lies, but give one who has and needs no " false " anything,
mental or physical. Praising a lady is only praising her milliner.
Shame this dragging bride's trousers and ball-dresses into print.
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Men and aENTLEMEN need less discrimination. Gentleman
means a genuine man polished and refined ; yet " sports " ar^
oeginning to distort its meaning by being as well dressed and
polished outside as any.
Males and females apply to all animals equally with mas,
yet we shall generally apply it to human.
591. — Female Fashions: their Injury and Rectification.
Certain modes and customs always have been, must be, fiaah-
ionable, honorable ; and others disgraceful. Ambition to excel
is a primal human attribute, and always has approbated some
things, and disapprobated others.'*^ It always should work under
man's intellectual and moral Faculties in approving only what is
useful, and censure whatever is injurious ; yet often does the con-
verse. If women's Ambition, much the strongest, fastened only
■>n female excellences, it would improve as immeasurably as it
?>ow injures, every individual of the entire sex and race.
What gives this fulsome goddess fashion her power among
men? What all-controlling human motive enables her to lord it
thus imperiously over all civilization ? Behold the untold bil-
lions expended at her gaudy shrine ! How many loving husbands,
in this form and that, bankrupted by her sovereign mandates ?
Hundreds of billions worse than wasted ! Ten thousand dollars
squandered on a single dress 1 Women by millions toil on in
untold agony, with little food or sleep, to obtain the means of
following her requirements ! Behold what pride, envy, rivalry,
agonize her devotees! Behold women by millions oiFering up
their chastity — about as many " in society " as in prostitution —
to acquire her trumperies! Behold all "society," all "respect-
ables," all " social positions," all aristocrats, even all pietarians
kneeling at her feet, begging to kiss her great toe ! for does sho
not defile, even control^ every religious " service," all Sunday and
week-day prayer and revival meetings ? By what sceptre wields
jihe all this sovereign tyranny ?
By padding pelvis, breasts, and back,"" and painting face and
(•yebrows. If all this were mere pastime, it might be indulged,
but
This pelvic load displaces her maternal organs, which it
thereby inflames and disorders ; and thus both stabs her beauty,
her utility, her very selfhood in its most vital parts, and roba her
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future darlings of vitality ; strangles them by millions, so that
tbey die a lingering death ; and leaves the remnant too puny to
any more than barely live! Wliat lovers of either women or
children can witness all this suicide and infanticide on a scale
commensurate with civic life, and not cry aloud, and "spare not"?
Be entreated, fashion lovers, not to immolate the dearest ties ol
humanity on this *•' make-believe "altar, but learn to be what you
thus appear to be, or at least suspend your pelvic loads from your
shoulders, not hips.
Utterly accursed this whole fashionable paraphernalia. As a
total waste of human time, money, and energy, it has no equal ;
but its great evil is that
It perverts female character from its pristine purity and
sweetness to a vain, coquettish artificiality. If it merely ruined
the female physiology, and prevented and killed offspring by
millions, all civilization should arouse and arm against it ; but
when, in addition, it distorts female loveliness into a bundle of
mental as well as physical '' false pretences," leaving man's
noble heart desolate for want of genuine women to love and
live for ; when it profanes the temple of female chastity, most
who sacrifice it offering it up on this altar of shams ; when it
distorts woman's inexpressible loveliness of soul into practical
falsehoods; what words can adequately condemn it? Where will
such folly lead? When will such murderous wickedness cease?
0 Fashion, thou shouldst not thus outrage every single com-
mandment. Oh, when will genuine men be able to find genuine
women to love and cherish ! When will all concerned learn that
Nature excels art ? that realities are infinitely preferable to ap-
pearances ? that being is better than merely seeming to be ? and
that false appearances prevent realities ?
" Ungallant, even shameful, thus to expose female faults."
It can be made most beneficial. Ladies, these disclosures are
expressly designed and calculated to improve, not ridicule you.
God forbid making game of your follies or errors except to ob-
viate them. Motliers are hereby taught how to enhance their
own and daughters' charms. Every living woman can derive
incalculable benefits therefrom.
Working round on our blind side by complimenting us, is your own
true policy. Why thus sacrifice, why not redouble, your own popularity
and dollars by praisin? us?"
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Truth is as far above persons as God is above man. Sparing
it, for self 8 sake, is a sin against humanity may I never commit.
Let others pander to popularity and seek dollars by sweetening
milk and water with palaver ; but " let my right liand forget its
cunning" before I abate one jot of truth, or write one word of
error, to please or avoid displeasing anybody. What ? Science
play toady to this most ridiculous foolery and greatest evil on
earth but one I Must truth " bow the knee " I Let her be
worshipped always, toady never any. She is mighty, and will
some day prevail. For that great day, let me *' invest," and wait.
592. — "What Women Require, and should do.
" All women must keep up appearances,"® or be neglected. Society
ostracizes all who neglect their toilet, be they ever so refined, religious, in-
telligent, and good. As well be out of the world as out of fashion."
No ONE WOMAN OR MAN can form or stem " public opinion ;" any
more than one swallow make a summer. Hence, we advise fol-
lowing just far enough behiiid the fashions not to be especially
ashamed for delinquency, nor noticeable for conformity ; relying
on your personal charms and mental excellences.
Men alone are blameworthy for fashion ; while women are its
pitiable victim sufferers. God has made them conform to man's
requirements, in dress as in other things.*** Are all ye who dance
attendance on finified toilets half eunuchs, that you admire dress
80 much, and female excellences so little ? Out upon you for court-
ing and "popping questions " to those fashionables who have little
else to recommend them, yet neglecting genuine female excel-
lence. Devotees to fashion will make you poorer wives and
children. " Society ladies " may do to flirt with, but their utility
begins and ends there. What real " profit " are they to anybody ?
Yet, O how expensive !
Laying off dress kills Love, in exact proportion as dressing
up awakens it. As far as a false form captivates a husband, so
f:ir must he be both disgusted on seeing your lack, and feel "sold
dog-cheap " by your practical deceptions. Wlien a falsd bosom,
for example, does not enamor, it is useless ; yet as far as it does,
it becomes disastrous, and " j)ays fearfully the icronf^ way,^'
A man's heart, ladies, is what you require — his devotion to
your selfhood^ not your artificialities ; and your spirit nature*" fiir
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more than laces. Then seek it less in fashion, but more in cultl-
vating and manifesting the feminine attributes, especially of soul.
The whole-souled devotion of a genuine man to yourself is a mil-
lionfold more to you than his admiration of your wardrobe. She
who has thus thoroughly magnetized a man ^^^ need concern her-
self only about neatness, not fashion.
None can serve two masters. A wife and mother cannot pos-
sibly be devoted to fashion and family. She must necessarily
neglect husband and children in order to become fashionable ;
besides compelling others to neglect theirs to serve her. Choos-
ing fashion obliges her to neglect family ; for only one can
have her souVs worship. Every gay, fashionable matron is a
standing reproach, a living disgrace to her sex, for leaving her
educational vineyard and duty to glitter in those fashionable fur-
belows of which monkeys should be ashamed ; unless her husband
is silly enough to love her toilet more than herself. About as
well not 6e, as spend life on such baubles. She was made for
something infinitely higher. All married fashionables carry a
flag inscribed on one side, " A family neglected," and "A bundle
OF SHAMS," on the other. Devote yourself to rearing a family, if
you have one ; to producing one, if you have not. This is genu-
ine female instinct.
When will women learn that only female excellences well
manifested fascinate men, or give women any power over them ; ^
that a hearty sexuality alone captivates and appreciates, and that
those alone admire a woman's toilet who have too little manhood
left to appreciate her selfhood ? When will this gaudy age of fuss
and feathers, of shows and shams, of practical hypocrisies and
lies, of artificialities without realities, have an end? Oh, if wo-
men would only turn a tithe of the expense and attention to
improving their womanhood, health included, now spent on fash-
ionable apparel, how inconceivably lovable and charming they
would thus become 1
Let all grapple resolutely this master human evil, to stay its
ravages, and strip off its hypocrisies. The opening of the next
century proffers a fitting time for reforming female apparel. By
that time " society " will be prepared for this most beneficial of
all modern reforms. " May I be there to see ! "
CHAPTER III.
GENDER: ITS SIGNS, AND POWER OVER BODY AND MIND, Aa
Section L
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES UPON THE BODY.
593. — The transmitting Element in sympathy with all Parts.
SOME ADEQUATE CAUSES must iieeds effect this progenal reaem-
blance to parentage already stated."®'^^ By what means are
all these paraphernalia of marvels wrought out ? IIow come pro-
geny to have heads, limbs, organs, instincts, &c., at all, as did
their progenitors ? Especially, how come they to be precisely like
theirs, unless some cause and effect relationship exists between
those of both ? For instance : How could every minute iota of
all progeny be precisely like similar iotas in their parents, unless
every part and parcel of this progeny were somehow interlaced
with those of their parents ? Or how could children take after
father in disposition, appetites, tastes, talent, and entire mentality,
unless, by some occult means, most powerful and perfect, their
whole mental constitution had been created in sympathy, the
minutest possible, with that of their father ? and vice versd of chil-
dren like their mother? What begins and consummates this
mighty work of resemblance ?
A RED-HAIRED FATHER bcgets a Fcd-haired daughter.**^ Now,
how comes she to have hair at all? and how on like parts with
his? What renders it coarse or fine, straight or curly, causes it
to turn gray, or fall off at a like age, or in like places, as did his?
What thus minutely interrelates and interweaves his and her hair
together? And thus of all other parental and progenal qualities.
Human parents and progeny have nails, feline claws, bovine
hoofs, &c. Now, what causes these bony excrescences of each at the
ends of like parts at all? and to differ thus, as do those of the
j«rent8 of each ? Or how could those sixth fingers and toes descend
from parents to progeny, though cut off and decayed fifty years
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before ? Or reappear after having missed two or more genera-
tions ? besides having been amputated at birth in ten or more
ancestors.*^ And how come progeny to have just such kinds of
linger- and toe-nails as did their ancestors hundreds of years
before ?
A MAN BEGETS A CHILD IN THE DARK, SO that its mother ncvcr
once sees his face — never even hears him utter a sound. He
in laughing wrinkles the skin on his nose, or " laughs through
his nose ;" and in every laugh from infancy to death, his child
draws the skin over its nose exactly as its father did. If he
" laughs through his eyes," his child laughs through its eyes,
from cradle to grave; or, if he puts on a peculiar look when
pleased, or angry, or turned up his lip in scorn, or was wont to
wink his eye in any peculiar way in any expression, his child
expresses like passions or feelings by like means, every single
time. Or if he had a peculiar tone, mode of speaking, or any
other idiosyncrasy, it manifests the same all through life. Behold
in his dark-begotten child just such specialties. And equally of
maternal.
How are these and billions of like transfers effected ?
To THE LENGTH, BREADTH, AND IMPORT of this great problem — how
and why oftspring are created like their parents — the reader's
special attention is now invited. No ordinary answers will suf-
fice. Only several fundamental natural laws in concerted action,
could cause and account therefor. Their causes must needs pene-
trate and permeate clear down to the very rootlets the minutest
fibres and recesses of whatever procreates. Adequate means alone
can eft'ect these transmitting results — means precisely adapted
to efl:ect just these and no others. Then what ?
Mark well our answer as given in this chapter, and see
whether it does not disclose the specific cause-andreffect condi-
tions required.
694. — The transmitting Agent a Spirit Entity.
Only something ethereal, interior, spiritual, could possibly
cause or account for all the phenomena of gender, or anything
like all of J^ature's transmitting facts. Life is mainly mental,
not physical ; spiritual, not anatomical.^^ Electricity is its chief
organic agent and motor. '^ Let two classes of facts illustrate :
1. Amputated parental limbs are transmitted. These extra
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sixth fingers and toes descend, though kept amputated at birth in
ten or. more generations. Parental teeth, eyes, limbs, &c., cut off
or extracted in childhood, are complete in offspring created forty
years after. A humpback has straight-backed children. How are
those parental "crooked places" made straight in their offspring,
and parental losses supplied to progeny ? Some absolute pro-
vision must be made, and law ordained, to meet these and like
cases ; else who but must inherit these deformities, or those de-
ficits ? Mark well our answer.
A SPIRIT ENTITY is that anatomical architect which first makes
the body and its organs ; makes such a body and organs as if
requires for its specific use ; makes claws and tusks in felines and
carnivora, where it wants them for apprehending and consuming
its prey ; miakes lions largest before and kangaroos behind,
where each needs its power located ; makes just such organs as its
own spirit instincts demand for carrying out its life " policy ; "
and keeps them alive till it has no further use for them, when it
lets them die and dissolve. Readers who love to think will find
the fundamental principle of all organic formations — why each
creature and thing is shaped and made just as it is — fully ex-
plained in " Human Science." '^^^
Gender is of the mind.^ The male spirit entity creates the
masculine organs, and female the feminine ; and then makes them
larger or smaller, weaker or stronger, and creates all the peculi-
arities of the shapes of each — these specialties to this woman's
limbs, pelvis, thighs, breasts, face, &c., and those different in
others ; thereby making this woman handsome and that homely,
this tall and that short,***"*" and so of man — his face bearded,
hers beardless ; this man's beard heavy, that one's light ; this walk
noble, that sheepish ; this splendid man's voice well masculin-
ized, that poor one's quackling and eunuch-like, &c., throughout
all those signs of sexuality already given — this male and female
spirit entity making and shaping all these male and female forms
to its needs.
This spirit-gender entity transmits amputated limbs and
parts thus. A workman in the upper story of a woollen factory
had his leg so badly mangled in the machinery, that a fellow-
workman cut it off with a hand-saw, and so placed it on the
mantle-piece that its thigh part lay right under and near a
stove-pipe, while its foot hung over the end of the mantle-
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piece ; he taken below ; where he presently complained that his
amputated thigh was scorching, but foot freezing. Said the
operator — ;-
"Its obvious cause was the stove-pipe heating his thigh, and the
cold February winds freezing his foot. I changed it, and every time
he 'told which part was under the stove-pipe, and which towards the
door. Bound to make assurance doubly sure, I thrust a pin into his
amputated thigh above, and that moment he screamed below, swearing
that they were pricking his amputated leg. I know it was cruel, but I
wanted to test it, and three successive times, the moment I pricked above,
he screamed and swore below."
A RELATION OF SENSATION, therefore, existed between his cut-off
leg above and him below, which sent down through floors, ceil-
ings, and stories something which told him below those changer
that instant transpiring in his leg above. How told him ?
Through this spirit leg. His leg must die. Its spirit leg
must leave its material ; which it can no longer use. This sever-
ing process takes six or more hours ; during which this spirit leg,
— which is the real leg, its bones and muscles being mainly its
agents, — uncut by knife and saw, must needs hold double connec-
tion with both dying leg above, and living man below ; thereby
telling him its changing states. This spirit leg remains still
united to him, still maintains its spirit connection with his spirit
sexuality, and thereby impresses on those life germs he afterwards
creates this spirit-leg, toes, nails, and all, which brings out in his
issue material leg, toes, and nails ; and just such ones as preexisted
in him. And if this original parent leg had its sixth toe and
toe-nail, this spirit sixth toe still lives, still holds its connection
with his sexual structure, which brings out a sixth material toe,
nail and all, and precisely the same shaped sixth toe and nail as
preexisted forty years before in him. But for this spirit prin-
ciple, or some kindred means, how could lost parental parts be
handed down to descendants? and all must needs be born de-
formed ; for whose ancestors have not, in the long past, lost some
bodily organ ? A calamity thus appalling must be prevented by
some adequate means. What as simple, as effective, as rational, as
this spiritual rapport between all parts and spirit gender. This
view is confirmed by the fact that
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595. — A Male and a Female Magnetism is the Loving and
Creating Agent.
Love's messenger is magnetic, because Love itself is ; as is also
that life it initiates. Cupid's darts are not material forms, faces,
eyes, tones, &c., because its work is not. Electricity is the more
immediate instrument of life, and its two positive and negative
forces obviously embrace its modus operandi of both its creation,
and all its functions thus: —
Two BODIES positively CHARGED REPEL cacli Other, as do two
negatively ; while one positive and the other negative, mutually
attract. The male is positive, and female negative ; and their
Love consists in their mutual attraction, which is the greater or
less as each is more or less magnetically charged, absolutely, and
as regards each other. Two men may love each other, so may
two women, when one is strongly masculinized, takes mostly after
father, and the other strongly femininized. A man and a woman,
both strongly masculine or feminine, may dislike each other, at
least feel no magnetic attraction, because both are positive to each
other, or both negative; but one fully masculine and the other
feminine, will be powerfully attracted to each other, generally,
and in the creative function, and together create superb children ;
while those similars just mentioned would create poor, becausi*
of their mutual sameness.
Falling in Lovb is perfectly explainable on this magnetic
theory, but on no other. Two meet at party, in church, on steani-
hoat, and instantly, on sight, mutually become perfectly " smit-
ten," " smashed," " electrified," " enamoured," " Love-struck,"
"dead-in-Love." Mutually " delighted" is too tame to express
their passion ; for their delight in each other is ecstatic. Each
electrifies the other from head to feet, physically and spiritually.
Neither ever before felt anything like it. Their two entities
rush together and blend like positive and negative galvanic forces,
enrapturing both. Their very proximity thrills each other, because
their electricities are interchanged through air. Each sjMjll-binds
and is spell-bound by the other. Both embarrass and are em-
barrassed by the other, perhaps too much for utterance. Both
were full of this sexual electricity, which both gave off to and
received from the other. Life then and there has its focus. They
" part to meet no more." How different both 1 Wherein ? Be-
c'ausehe hasgivenoff of his male electricity, which she has imbibed.
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and she given oiF of her female magnetism, which he has imbibed,
so that both have taken with them the other's sexual entity,
which remains till dispelled, perhaps for life! Or
They meet again : every meeting reenamours, because it remag-
netizes both. They dance together. An electric shock, palpa-
ble to both, accompanies all their personal touches. All Love-
making interchanges this male and female magnetism. This it is
which originates Love, and measures its amount ; which draws
them together in Nature's creative embrace, and then creates their
offspring ; which have the more or the less of life-snap and vigor
of functions through life, as their parents brought the more or
less of this sexual electricity to the creative altar of each.
All men, all women have some of this galvanic current — the
more or less the better or poorer sexed they are. Yet some have ten
to a hundred times more than others. And some who have a great
amount of it, interchange but little with one, yet much with
another. Two who abound in it, and are positive and negative
towards each other, experience, when in the same room, a quiet,
happy, genial, comfortable feeling while together, and some-
thing wanting when apart. Or if both are well charged, and take
hands, each can distinctly feel a magnetic current streaming up
their own arms and shoulders ; each giving and receiving it, to
their mutual benefit. This male and female magnetism is the
soul of gender, and its interchange, in which loving consists, is
Nature's creative instrumentality.
This principle claims, ho ! all ye who possess the sacred cre-
ative element of gender, to go to its very " bed-rock ; " to have
dug out its chit; disclosed its marrow; and revealed its essen-
tial constituent. Place it alongside of your own experiences
and observations, and say whether this analysis of it does not
meet all its requirements, and cause and explain all its ever-vary-
ing phenomena. Novels describe it ; but what predecessor or
cotemporary has ever before touched its analysis? Mark how
many love facts it explains, and lessons it teaches. After stating
its value, we shall proceed with its eiFects when in an active state.
This chapter reveals another range of transcendently im-
portant truths, by disclosing the
696. — Signs of existing Sexual States in each Person.
Nature always proclaims her whole truths to those who can read
her signs. As some trees grow well but bear poorly, and others grow
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slowly yet bear freely, while others neither grow nor bear, and still
others both grow fast andhear abundantly ; as some domestic ani-
mals remain always poor yet bear fat, fine young and lactate freely ;
while others are fleshy yet bring poor young, and give but little
poor milk ; so some weakly women bear large, fine children, while
other robust ones bear none, or only small, puny, poor ones.^ And
since infallible signs tell whether this animal will produce superior
or inferior young, and give much or little rich or poor milk ; and
similarly as to the offspring of this and that male, why should not
like signs proclaim like human creative capacities? They do,
only that men and women have not yet learned to read and apply
them. Nature puts us all before her confessional tribunal, and
makes all " own up." One scrutinizing glance of a knowing ob-
server reveals far more of these sexual conditions than words can
convey. Men and women should and will learn to read each other's
creating capacities and sexual conditions. What kind of children
this woman or that man will parent — healthy or sickly, good or
bad, moral or vicious — is too practically important not to be
scanned by nineteenth century utilitarians.*^ This is the very chit
of sexuality ; so that whatever discloses either, thereby reveals
the other. Such revelations are both important per se, and due
from all to all. He who contemplates proposing marriage to any
given woman, has an inherent right to know beforehand whether
she is healthy or sickly in general, and as a female in particular ;
and she has an equal right to a like knowledge concerning him ;
because their conjugal and parental capabilities, their amiableness
and lovableness, depend chiefly on this single condition.®** Men
and women have as good a right to this kind of knowledge, and
are as much benefited by it, as any other. As if A. is honest and
B. dishonest, their fellows have a natural right to know who is
which, that each may trust, employ, discard each other accord-
ingly, and thus of all other traits ; so all have a greater right to
know the sexual states and habits of all. Marital candidates
should expect and desire conjoint children,^* and select each other
in view of good, and to avoid bad ones."* Think how great the
difference ; and therefore need of knowing beforehand how much
better or poorer a father or mother, as such, this one will make
than that; along with all the detailed parental qualities of this one
H8 compared with that.
Nature tells all all about all. How could she tell any one
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anything about anybody without thereby telling the whole to all
about everybody? At least she does make all proclaim their own
honor and shame, by labelling all men, all women, somewhat as
follows: "Fairly sexed," "well sexed," "poorly sexed," "a
.splendid male," "a magnificent female," "abnormal," "normal,"
" pure," " impure," " sexual health," " sexual ailments," " vigor-
ous," " weakly," &c., besides telling about the ratio of each condi-
tion, according as they actually are. Or, rather, each selects his
and her own label by their conduct, and is obliged to wear it till
truth requires it to be changed. Yet, fortunately for many, in
these days of dilapidated sexuality, few know how to read these
signs. No other knowledge is more important or useful. Think
what it is worth to be able to say, with certainty, according as
each may be the one or the other,
" This man's conjugal and parental excellences are three, and that one's
six, in a scale of seven ; while this woman's are only two, but that one's
seven."
The pleasure, too, is really inexpressible of being able to read
with absolute certainty at a glance the existing amount of gender,
and all its states, in all we meet. Please think. The Author
claims to be " expert " here, and will try to put his readers on the
road of observation. Still, to see these signs is easy, but to de-
scribe them, very difficult. Merely directing attention to this
subject will prove most beneficial.
A CORRECT .HOME TOUCH-STONE, by which each person can test
and measure his and her own creative capacities and sexual condi-
tions— know whether and wherein they are improving or retro-
grading, their sterility or virility included, — is likewise of the
utmost personal importance.
How MUCH OF A MAN or how little, how good or how poor a
female, am I, both absolutely and relatively, are questions every
man and woman should ask, and learn the answers with breath-
less interest. And all do ask them internally. How far, and
wherein do I excel or am I deficient, how good, how poor, a form
have I, are appropriate and instinctive questions indigenous to all
females. All this is given in this chapter, taken in connection
with the last.
To KNOW WHO LOVES WHOM — whether or not your beau or giri
loves you, whether your daughter, or son, or acquaintance loves
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this one or the other, or does not love at all — is at least interesting,
and to some very important. All this is told by and to all within
observing distance. Anger "will out;" so will Love. Many who
are transparent tell far too much for their own good, and than
they suppose they do. All this, with much more like it, is
revealed in this most important chapter, ^o other ever con-
tained truths as many or as practically useful to mankind, and
promotive of human interests. Please scrutinize it sufficiently to
perceive and imbibe its self-instructive revelations.
597. — Love located near the Seat of Physical Life.
Contiguous organs work together in executing kindred func-
tions. Of this heart and lungs, liver and stomach, tongue and
pallet, eyes and optic nerves, furnish practical illustrations; as
do all the phrenological organs of each group. This principle is
assumed here, but proved elsewhere.
Love, this transmitting organ, is located right in the focal
centre of all those life-organs it transmits; in order that their
juxtaposition may aid their conjoint function. Life must have
its seat, its head-quarters, its common centre, to which all its parts
report, and from which all receive mandates: which must needs
be in the brain, and centrally located ; and also in its base ; and as
near as possible to the top of the spinal marrow, which embodies
all the nerves from all the organs of the entire body. See all
these points demonstrated, and the precise seat of the soul proved,
in "Human Science."^
The Cerebellum, or little brain, separated from the cerebrum,
or brain proper, by a bony plate called the tentorium, receives this
spinal cord, and all these nerves from every part and fibre of the
body. And most of the cerebral organs of the bpdily organs are
located in it.
The accompanying engraving. Fig. 646, exhibits the position of
the cerebellum, and of Love, in that leaf-like structure just above
the back of the neck.
The internal structure of this cerebellum resembles a tree
in having its trunk, branches, and sub-branches ; and hence was
christened arbor vitce, or "tree of life," long before Phrenology
proved incontestably that in it is located that organ of Love
from the action of which all life originates. This figure shows
that all those nerves, from the first pair to the 8', originate right
196 gender: its signs, pcwer over body and mind.
Fig. 546.-
around both this life centre and the organ of Love; while th»
other four pairs originate but little below it. Mark well these
ANATOMICAL FACTS demonstrated in this engraving :
1. Every organ
ALL THE Nerves CENTRING AT Love. ^^^ ^^^^ ^^ ^^^
** j^
body lives and acts
solely by means of
its being connected
with the brain. 2.
All these nerves,
from all parts of
the body, enter
the spinal column
thro'-igh apertures
in its joints ; thus
•«^ forming the spinal
marrow. 3. The
cerebellum grows
out of the hack part
of the top of this
spinal cord. 4. Love
is located in this cerebellum ; which puts it into the most perfect
sympathy and rapport structurally with every organ, portion, even
fibre of the body ; that it may reach and control them all. 5.
All the nerves of all the senses — sight, touch, smell, audition, &c. —
originate just as closely as possible to this transmitting organ.
This anatomical structure and location of Love put it in perfect
sympathy with every part and parcel, organ and fibre, nerve and
life-force, of the entire body. Mark further that
The optic nerve runs from the eye, that round ball seen under
the fore part of the brain, back around and then flexes downward
so as to join the brain right where the cerebellum and Love unite
with it ! The same is equally true of the nerves of taste, sensa-
tion, smell, hearing, &c.
The great sympathetic nerve, or 8' pair, 8' in Fig. 546, which
connects the heart, lungs, stomach, liver, pancreas, bowels, and
other visceral organs with the brain, likewise unites with this
great nervous centre right where Love also joins it. In short,
nerve, that great instrumentality of life, connects every organic iota
^^ parents with their brain at that identical point where Love^ the
8 8 J
-Head of Spinal Cord, and origin of the
Sentient Nerves.
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cerebral organ of gender, connects with it ; thereby establishing
a 'perfect reciprocal syvi-pathy between all parts and this procreative
elemait. We showed that every, bone, muscle, organ, iota of
parental man, beast, bear, tiger, bird, reptile, every thing that
reproduces, transmit like-shaped bones, organs, &c., to their pro-
geny."^ Behold in these anatomical connections Nature's specific,
adequate, and perfectly adapted " ways and means " of effecting
this wonderful minuteness of transfer. Need we wonder that she
effects all this minutiae of resemblance, when we scan this her
transferring modus operandi ? Would it not be the wonder if she
did not ? In addition
Behold the magic power wielded by different states of this
gender element and its sexual organs, over every bodily organ,
and all its states. How could it transfer all parental states to
progeny without first controlling them? or thus control them
without also transmitting them ? For example, how could Love
transmit the eyes, along with all their minutest states^ to progeny,
unless it held an iron sceptre over these parental eyes ? Behold,
as we proceed, every organ and function of the body, every Fac-
ulty and operation of the mind, bound hands and feet, handed over,
and bowed in slavish, obedient subjection to this arbitrary sov-
ereign. Love, the creative autocrat ! A few examples chosen from
among multitudes equally pertinent.
598. — The Voice as indicating existing Sexual States.
Every vocal utterance of every man, woman, child, beast, fowl,
reptile, even insect, is both sexed, and reveals the sexual status
then existing in its utterer. All men and women, boys and girls,
proclaim their gender, in their every word, every lisp. Are not
lion's roar and tiger's yell, stud's neigh and mare's squeal, bull's
bellow and cow's low, cock's crow and hen's cluck and cackle,
crow's kaw and eagle's scream, gobbler's gobble and mad kike, pea-
cock's yaw, the songs of birds and pipings of frogs, bullfrogs' roll
included, down to the hummings of insects and chirpings of
crickets and katydids, both sexed, and the direct outworkings and
expressions of their several sexual ities ? Who cannot tell, us far as
they can hear any sjKjaker's or singer's faintest vocal vanishes,
whether a man or a woman speaks, sings, even whisj^ei's?
All existing sexual states are likewise proclaimed in each by
each. Who cannot contradistinguish, just as far as they can hear
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either, the deep heavy bass bellowings of bulls, rolling over plains
and booming over hills, from the weak quackling lowings of
oxen ? Yet the only difference between them consists in their
different sexual states — integrity in bulls, and loss in oxen.
Oxen low little, bulls bellow almost incessantly during their sex-
ual season, and chiefly as their means of expressing existing
sexual excitement ; while cows proclaim theirs by a peculiar man-
ner of lowing. Studs neigh and snort during their creative period,
in order to express their existing sexual desire ; while mares
squeal only during heat, and to express and provoke passion. Anal-
ogous love-screams are often made by vigorously sexed and im-
passioned women and girls, at parties, and when animated by the
beaux, which their hearty laughters and gigglings resemble : than
which no sounds wafted by air are equally enchanting. So give
me laughing women, because those well-sexed are natural laughers.
Cupid was called " the laughing god," because active Love creates
that ecstasy which begets laughter and life. Doves coo, roosters
and hens court, and all male and female animals and fowls pro-
claim existing sexual excitement by these and those vocal ejacu-
lations. How could all this be done unless the vocality is in
perfect sympathy with the sexuality ? What but different sexual
states could cause all these corresponding vocal differences ?
Vocal changes announce puberty in both boys and girls, which
consists in sexual development from its chrysalis state into its
perfect. Accordingly, it changes the high-keyed, insipid voice of
boys into the deep, rich bass voice of men, and the girlish voice into
the womanly. And if any boy's voice " hangs fire," or fails in fully
changing into a man^s, it is only when and because some wrong-
sexual conditions or habits are impairing his sexuality. And
those who become old enough to change, yet retain this puerile
boy's voice, have failed to develop, and are virtually boys yet in
size, appearance, and mentality, as well as sexuality.
All girls' voices change equally, though less palpably, as they
merge from girlhood into womanhood. Contrast the indifferent,
insipid singing of all undeveloped girls with the rich, thrilling
voices of the fully developed women of the choir, and behold the
cause of all this difference in the incipient sexuality of all girls,
and the complete sexual maturity of women. But let a girl catch
a hard cold soon after her monthlies commence, say at fourteen,
which stops them, it thereby chills and palsies her whole sexual
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 199
nature, and arrests her female development and sexual growth,
holding all in statu quo^ voice included ; so that, as we can tell an
old rooster's crow from a young, so this poor girl's voice remains
just where it was when this cold struck her. She becomes eigh-
teen, twenty, even twenty-five, and yet you or she behind a screen,
60 that you must guess her age by her voice, you would declare
her's to be that of a girl of fourteen. Marriage may start up
this sexual growth ; but she will find herself, and be found, to
be ungrown sexually, and quite too small for the practical pur-
poses of marriage. To avoid wedding such would be hard on
millions thus impaired, and leave the great body of modern
girls unmarriageable, yet save many bridegrooms now ignorant
of this fact sad disappointment. Such girls will make poor
wives. Mothers ! are you stupid fools ? or crazy, thus to allow
your victim daughters and sons to reach and pass this life
crisis ignorant of endangered conditions and results like these !
Too modest, ha ! Then accursed you I Most wretched they !
All sexual states existing in all men and women, are equally
announced in their vocalities. How could the voice proclaim
manhood, womanhood, boyhood, girlhood, or tell any one thing
about the gender, without thereby telling all about it ? It does.
The sexual impairments of all men, all women, equally impair
their every vocal utterance.
Why do all bulls bellow, cows low, horses neigh, mares
squeal, roosters crow, turkeys gobble, male mocking and other
birds sing, bullfrogs thum, toads and frogs pipe, insects make
their various noises, Ac, mainly In their sexual season ? Ob-
viously, merely to proclaim to the opposite sex their where-
abouts, and sexual desires. A hen expresses "desire" by her
amorous klucking. A rooster, behind intervening hillock, hears,
yet uncertain where his invitress is, darts around this way and
that, till he sights her. But human vocalities, in ])oth sexes,
furnish by far our best illustrations of this point.
All men who sufier from sexual exhaustions or diseases pro-
claim their deterioration to all listeners by their voices becoming
dry, husky, thin, weak, piping, grating, broken, and quackling.
Every utterance of every man tells both how much original man-
hood he possessed, and how much and how it has become im-
paired or improved. So, gentlemen, be careful how you abuse
this sacred element ; for Nature compels you to procb^im all your
sexual errors to all knowing listeners.**
200 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
Look out, ye whose voices are beginning to be piping and
kusky. If old, your virility is fast waning ; if not old, some
sexual impairments are creeping on you.
Girls say "Yes" to all questions " popped " in a deep, rich,
strong, rumbling, powerful male voice ; but " No," much as you
want and need to marry, to all " popped " in a weak, quackling,
piping, thin, squeak-mouse, gelding voice ; for only those can
love, or awaken or satisfy Love, who are in a good sexual condi-
tion ; just as appetite is hearty or dainty according as the stomach
is vigorous or disordered ; both being perfectly analogous.*"
How TO DISTINGUISH A GOOD MALE VOICE from a poor, thus becomes
very important, especially to females. Male animals furnish the
required diagnosis. There are two male vocal types, both of
which bull illustrates ; one in his deep bass rumbling, booming
bellow, which lion, tomcat, bullfrog, also illustrate ; the other in
his -high, sharp, piercing, clear, ringing muah, muah. Tenor
singers show it, and good speakers often thrill listeners with it.
A WELL SEXED FEMALE VOICE, how inexpressibly exquisite and
enchanting! Yet its chief excellences consist in its feminine
attributes as such. How exquisitely musical, fascinating, bewitch-
ing her tones and vanishes ! They all emanate from womb vigor ;
and all female utterances disclose the sexual statii of all their
utterers.
Every woman's voice is more or less femininized or else
unsexed, in exact proportion as she is well or poorly sexed, and
healthy or diseased in this special department. Gentlemen who
attune their ears to these differences will be delighted beyond
measure with the tones of those well sexed, yet equally disgusted
with the quacklings of those poorly sexed and diseased.
The chief charm op female song is imparted by this very
gender. That thrill, those exquisite touches which delight aJl
listeners, especially men, emanate almost wholly from the sexu-
ality ; and fail her whenever female complaints impair her sexual
organism. As soon expect music from a cornstalk fiddle as from
any woman either poorly sexed, or suffering from these ailments.
They necessarily spoil the vocal charms of all they attack. No
girl poorly sexed or diseased, however great her musical advan-
tages or natural talents, can sing worth hearing. Her voice
fthereby necessarily becomes dry, husky, quackling, broken, and
destitute of that softness, sweetness, richness, and charm, which
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 201
Impress so wonderfully. It undergoes the same deterioration in
kind, though of course less in degree, as that caused by emas-
culation. Strange, when so many wealthy, fashionable parents
spend so much money and effort to render their daughters charm-
ing singers, that they wholly overlook this sine qua non musical
prerequisite. This shows why
Women cannot sing well after they pass their bearing period.
Nor can men excel after virility ceases ; for their voices then be-
come piping, and lose their distinctive male characteristics.
The voices of all courtesans equally illustrate our subject, by
their all being coarse, harsh, boisterous, grating, loud, and ex-
tremely ugly. Ears trained to it can tell harlots' voices in parlors
and streets, public and private, and tell all the stages of their
declension. Please duly consider how great, how important, the
practical lessons hereby taught.
599. — "Walk, Motions, &c., as affected by Sexual States.
Every single motion of all males, all females, is both sexed,
Active Sexuauty in Akimaia
Flo. 647. — Thz Stalliom ix Juh*
202 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
A Courting Attitude.
and proclaims existing sexual conditions. How totally different
the walks and movements of all bulls from cows ? and stags from
both? and more dignified and majestic of bulls during their sex-
ual from non-sexual seasons? obviously caused by their sexual
perfection and imperfection. A stallion, in his proud, prancing,
masculine gait, the moment he catches sight of a mare, arches his
proud neck into a still prouder bow, and dances and prances in a
more masculine style, because his proximity to her quickens his
sexuality, and throws additional masculinity into his already
well-sexed gait. Koosters, turkey - gobblers, peacocks, equally
illustrate this law, and put on
their gayest, proudest motions
and walks — that is, crowing, gob-
bling, strutting, &c. — while court-
ing. Who but could discern a
man, though dressed in female
apparel, just by his noble, digni-
fied, manly bearing and carriage,
from a woman in man's clothes,
by her light, blithe, sylphlike,
pretty agile cast of motion ? And
the more easily the better sexed
either. Therefore
All existing sexual states
equally report themselves in the
motions of all men and women, boys and girls. All bull, stag, and
ox motions prove this. "What means the difference between the
movements of all men as compared with those of all boys, and of
all girls as compared with all women, and of all of each sex as com-
pared with the other, and of the same one's cast of motion before
puberty and after, but that all changed sexual states correspond-
ingly change all the movements of all ? It is the quickened sex-
ualities of boys and girls wrought by puberty which thus changes
all their motions as well as voices.*^* And the more virile any
man, and better sexed any woman, the more this element sexes
every single step and motion. IS'ature will neither falsify, nor
let you, but makes you " own up " all past errors, all existing
states. Behold how all
Sexual impairments report themselves in the walk and mo-
tions of all men, all women. Self-abuse in youth mars or spoils
Fig. 548. — Rooster.
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 203
chi3 sexual movement of all men, all women who perpetrate it,
ever after — by those of men becoming weak-kneed, loose-jointed,
sheepish, humbled, cowed, craven ; and of females in losing their
grace and poetry of motion. " I should think he felt like a sheep,
ior surely he walks and acts just like one," said a well-sexed woman
if a poorly-sexed, meeching man.
All women in walking up-stairs tell all knowing lookers-on
all about tlieir sexual conditions ; and all men sexually poisoned
become affected in their groins, for reasons yet to be given, which
make them sway or swing their hips forward instead of moving
them straight forward, because more or less stiff in the groins.
Women, learn this sign.
Tc EXHIBIT FEMALE CHARMS and sexual beauties and attractions
of person alone is the entire end sought and attained by the
female toilet, whether put on for church or party ;^^^ and hence
all women show how much and how little gender they possess
when fashionably arrayed. Scanning the motions of all ladies
when walking to, into, out of church, and when promenading or
dancing, behold what a difference between the light, fanciful,
stylish, agile, graceful, finished, elegant, spirited, springy, gen-
teel, tetery, dainty, poetic, scrumptious, queenly, snappy walk of
this well-sexed woman, in contrast with the heavy, slack, insipid,
slatternly, common-place, flat-footed, weak-kneed, tame, slom-
ocky, snapless walk of that one poorly sexed ; and know that all
thib " poetry of motion " and want of it depend on, proceed from,
and manifest their different sexual states. And she who has
no snap in her walk, has none anywhere else. Or contrast the
careless, indifferent, homespun, loose walk of all girls before,
with their prettied-up, nippy, try-to-be-genteel walk of the same
girl after puberty throws in its fancy touches to all her motions.
Or contrast the gay, sprightly walk of " sweet sixteen," with that
of any and all women suffering from female complaints, and learn
from all these differences that all the ever-varying states of the
sexuality vibrate throughout every motion of all men, all women*
The rap at the door is sexed, for all can tell whether a man op
a woman raps without : and the more easily the more a man or
woman the rapper, by male being louder, quicker, positive, and
female light, delicate, lie who raps softly is a poor male, and
she a poor but strong-minded female who raps hard and d'uk
tiinetly. unless obliged to.
204 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
Chirography reveals the gender, its amount, and conditions: for,
is there not a marked difference between a man's and a woman's
** hand-write " ? The more a man one is, the more, like John
Hancock's, will his bold, heavy, manly hand-writing show itself
in every stroke of his virile pen ; and the less any given woman,
:he poorer a female hand she writes.
Young folks, all folks, learn to scan every lady's walk, dance,
movement, chirography, in order to read their sexual conditions,
eligibility in marriage, and joint paternity. Girls, if a half-man,
with a rickety, shackling, loose-jointed walk asks you, tell hina
" no ; " but when a whole man, evinced in his proud, lordly, majes-
tic, straight, powerful bearing asks you, say " yes " before he has
done asking. And wife-seekers, note the way this girl dances,
and that woman walks up-stairs; and ask her who bounds up
with a spring, or whose muscles fling her body around lightly
in dancing ; but if she dances loggily, heavily, as if with effort,
or walks up-stairs as though it were hard work, or leans over
apon the rising leg, or stops to take breath, say "good-by." If
a wife, be alarmed.
600. — Existing Sexual States proclaimed by Forms.
All shapes change along with changing sexual conditions.
That is : This male has the more or less of this masculine form,
according as he has the more or less gender ; and thus as regards
all females. Further: Any and all individual men and women
will change from year to year in their forms, for better or worse,
just as their gender states may meanwhile change. The general
law and fact of male and female forms ^ makes this specific phase
or variation of it an absolute necessity. Gender, in affecting the
form at all, compels all forms to change for the time being as
this gender meanwhile changes. Let us catechize ISTature on
this point.
Bull form contrasted with ox, both proves and illustrates
this law; as does the best sexed bull's having the most bull
shape. Why do bovine judges pay a hundred-fold more for this
bull than that ? Because he is that much a better male, more
virile, will engender better stock. By what signs do these stock-
connoisseurs measure, estimate their virility ? By that one which
will originate the best stock having the most bull form. Just
think out the meaning of this, and then apply it to men and
women.
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 205
I^ATURE WANTS HER STRONGEST MALES to beget the most — an
fill-wise contrivance for improving all non-mating species. Bulls
test their strength, bottom, prowess, all their male attributes, by
pushing with head, horns, and neck. Oxen, having lost their
procreative capacity, have little occasion to test their masculinity
thus, and hence have long, slim, crooked, weak horns, thin
heads, slim necks, and smaller fore-quarters ; while bulls, their
unmutilated masters, as shown in this ac-
companying figure of a bull's head, have I>iJterence between
1 ^ ^1 • 1 1 1 1 THE Heads of BuLUi
Strong, short, thick, sharp horns ; heavy ^^^ q^^^^
heads and pates, and deep and powerful fore-
quarters; while stags are intermediate in
form ; and the more sexual vigor a given bull
possesses, as compared with another, the more
masculine his form. Behold the sexual im-
pairment of all oxen as marring their entire
forms, from the ends of their horns through-
out all their limbs, down to the very ends of
tlieir hoofs and tails. ^ F^^ 549 _ ^^^^ ^ ^
All perfect ones stand in striking con-
trast to all that are emasculated. See how very different bulls*
eyes from oxen. All perfect, as contrasted with all mutilated
horses, sheep, swine, &c., furnish like examples of the sovereign
power wielded by gender, throughout all its various conditions,
over the entire conformation.
All boys compared with men, and all girls with women,
furnish a like illustration. Boy-babes' arms could hardly be
contradistinguished from girl. Up to puberty their shapes are
quite alike, because little sexed ; whereas, at and because of their
puberty developing their sexualities, all boys' forms shoot right
off into those of men, and girls into those of women ; and the
better sexed any given boys or girls, the more manly or womanly
their respective forms become.
Women, please note this principle, because future directions
for preserving and regaining beauty, and retaining and redevelop-
ing the female breasts, and form generally, impinge on it. It
also teaches you men's existing sexual conditions.
601. — ^Fat Am> Ruddy, Poor and Pale, Mkn.
Extra fat accompanies sexual inertia of some kind. This
fact is patent to all, that oxen always fatten easier than bulls,
206 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
geldings tlian stallions, wethers than rams, barrows than boars,
caprons than roosters, and old men and women than those in
their prime ; obviously because sexual vigor throws so much ac-
tion into all their functions as to consume all surplus mat'srial ;
while sexual dormancy
Fat, with Amorous Excitability. |^,^^^g ^|| ^^^^ ^^^^^^ f^^^^.
tions too tame to work
up this organic material ;
which compels I^ature to
stow it away in fat. Right
hard workers are rarely
fat. " A lean horse for a
long pull." Shakespeare
was true, to Nature in
representing fat men as
easy, good-natured, and
jolly ; but lean as ambi-
tious, and surging with
powerful passions ; their
sexual vigor throwing
such tremendous energy
into all their functions
as to keep their fat down.
That Pathic, elsewhere
mentioned, was repre-
sented as spare, yet with tremendous bones and muscles, nose
and shoulders. Fat, united with dark-red complexions, is doubly
objectionable.
Fat men and women are often extra amatory ; yet sexual excite-
ment is one thing, and procreative power quite another; and often
in an inverse ratio to each other ; their passion fierce and quick for
the moment, but short-lived. Fat stock bring poor young, if
any ; fat males being less sure to impregnate, and females to be
impregnated ; besides giving poorer, smaller young.^ " Fat, fair,
and forty," probably means more passion, with less liability to ma-
ternity. Bacchus, Fig. 550, becomes very fat because "used up.''
Large bellies are doubly objectionable. We show why, further
on. Genuine men taper inwardly from the chest downward, like
Hercules. Women, discard those men who, as Bacchus, fxiper the
wrong way. And men those women, for like reasons to be given.
Fig. 550. — Bacchus.
EPFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 207
If old and fat, they are too old; if young and fat, they are
too excitable and animal, or else exhausted sexually.
Those too poor are so from exhaustion, overwork, probably due
to more virility than stamina. And yet such are often very
tough and enduring.
602. — Face, Eyes, Complexion, Ac, modified by Gender Stathb.
Male and female faces differ totally. Are there not mascu-
line and feminine physiognomies, chins, noses, eyes, countenances,
and inter-facial aspects ? Do not those of men owe their bold,
manly outline, and of women their sweetness, softness, and beauty,
to each being modified by their respective genders? What else
gives beard to men, but none to women and boys ? Well and
poorly bearded men are so because well or poorly sexed; yet well
sexed women never have any while bearing, though it sometimes
appears afterwards. And a fuzz or slight mustache upon any and
all women's and girls' upper lips indicates sexual inertia or im-
pairment — a return towards the neuter gender state. Only well
sexed women can ever have beautiful faces ; while those who lose
their sexual vigor thereby also lose their facial beauty.
Why were female faces made beautiful ? Solely to enamour
men, and extort marriage and offspring. Nature must needs pro-
claim the superior maternal capacities of this female, and inferior
of that, in order thereby to enamour men most of the former, so
that they may select the best bearers first, and leave the poorer,
if any, unchosen.*'' But why beautify the face most ? Because
it is the most conspicuous, and seen first and most. Then
What facial items indicate these coveted maternal excellences?
Bright, sparkling eyes are the first prerequisites of any, every
woman's beauty. Their power over men is often irresistible,
even magical. "Neither let her take them with her eyelids."'
What are classical features along with soulless, dead-looking,
sunken eyes ? Far better good eyes with poor features, than per-
fect features with poor eyes. Good ones amply compensate for
homely features ; yet bad-looking ones spoil all faces that have
them. Ladies, at least, hardly need be told how important a
part bright ones play in all handsome faces. Mark this anatom-
ical reason.
The optic nerve terminates at Lovb. Follow it in Fig. 646,
from the eyeball backwards, upwards, winding around, and theu
208 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
flexing downwards till it terminates in the closest possible prox-
imity to Love,*^ the transmitter, which w^e hereafter prove to be
in perfect rapport with both the sexual structure and the eyes ;
80 that they correctly report all its states, thereby indicating all
its conditions.
The eyes indicate sexual ailments. All the world knows that
reddish, livid spots under the inner corners of the eyes indicate
the beginning of sexual complaints ; and that, as these ailments
augment, this discoloration deepens and extends ; so that black
and blue semicircles under the eyes indicate sexual impairments.
Let these complaints redouble, and this discoloration still deepens,
and extends all around and above the eyes, which become sunken,
dark-looking, yellowish, brownish, and have a bad, awful, dull
expression. Wives thus tell tales on their husbands sexual ex-
cesses.
All false sexual excitements, causing seminal losses in males
and undue passion in females, report themselves in the eyes.
Those who know can pick out such ; and also those husbands and
wives who prevent issue by premature withdrawals, as far as they
can get a good look into their eyes. Girls, those beaux whose eyes
have a dull, sleepy, listless, downcast, vacant, glaring, glazed,
leaden, spiritless, or a lascivious, learing, vulgar, lustful look
out of them, will be much less satisfactory as husbands than
those who have bright, sunny, clear, pure, loving eyes. The former
may be better than none, but are " poor critters."
" Red ribbons " around eyelids indicate sexual inflammatix)n
and passion in its more animal, sensuous aspect ; while a bluish,
azure, leaden-colored white of the eyes indicates sexual exhaus*
uon — impotence in the male, barrenness and passivity in the female.
Seminal losses in men, and fluor albus in women, are indicated by
this white of the eyes having a pale, yellowish, greasy aspect.
The complexion especially indicates existing sexual conditions,
and therefore maternal excellences and defects. Those of both sexes
who are vigorous and perfectly healthy sexually, have a bright,
scarlet red in the middle of their cheeks, which vanishes off into
pink, and then into a pure lily-white ; yet those sexually feeble
or impaired, are either too pale or red, too dark or livid, or have
a brownish, bluish, "bloody-muddy red,"^ as Brigham Young's
eldest, wno ought to know, expressed it. Girls, look out for these
tawny, blackish-and-bluish, brownish reds ; for they signi^ false
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 209
sexual excitement, along with exhaustion — lust with weakness.
They will be perpetually scolding or ravishing you, mostly scold-
ing. And the bluer they are, look out the more.
The maiden's blush is caused by this very sympathy betweet
the sexuality and the face thus : Joking her about her beau ex
cites Love pleasurably^ or else in reverse, and this Faculty, being
in sympathy with her cheeks, sends blood to them, which instantly
paints them more beautifully than anything on earth is painted.
And it is prized thus because it signifies sexual susceptibility.
Those having dormant sexuality never manifest it.
Rosy cheeks, without which none can be handsome, ladies
now manufacture to order by painting. Yet remember, the Deity
is the best Painter. Then beautify yourselves by giving Him a
chance to paint you up in His glowing, exquisite pink and white,
instead of deforming yourselves with your own miserable daubs.
Facing winds, both furnishes excellent paint, and then puts it
on ; besides giving you "/o^^ colors " that bear washing.
Pallor looks badly, because it signifies feebleness. Pale
mothers either manufacture too little vital force, or else expend
too much, or both. Still intense emotionality causes pallor, which
is therefore allowed. Ladies, other things being equal, the
healthier, more robust you are, the handsomer you look.
An ancient painting of a Pathic, a sect to the worship of
Venus what the clergy are to modern worship, whose " calling "
was to provoke and exercise this amatory passion, and teach it
as an art, was painted as full of blue veins, and blue-black in the
face ; obviously because ancient artists saw this complexion in
those who made the grossest, most excessive lust their very live-
lihood. I observed a like blueness of face in an old member of the
Oneida community, and again in a pliilosophical sensualist in
Baltimore, who kept one fresh, young, amorous mistress after
another till each became used up, only to be discarded for another
fresh one. This passion in him both inflamed and robbed all his
other parts to satiate its ravenous greed. To woman this lesson
is instructive, and to both women and sensualists, a warning.
Facial humors, red blotches, pimples having a black speck in
their centres, along with otlier comjjlexional faults, arc caused by
and indicate sexual errors and dilapidations; whilst ashy pallor
and whiteness in a woman accompany extreme sexual weakness
and disease, and in girls menstrual difficulties, or else self-abuse
U
210 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
We here disclose no new truths, only give the whys and where-
fores of those long observed, on our staminate principle that
every iota of the entire body of all males, all females, is in per-
fect rapport, and under the tyrannic sway of gender, that the
latter may transmit the former : else how could it transfer all ?
603. — Posture, and kindred Siqns op present Sexual States.
A reading, impressible mood is a first prerequisite for discerning
character ; just as a recipient mood is necessary in a good listener.
Natural Language is the great revelator. 'AD the Facultiei
express themselves through the tones, looks, actions, &c. As
Force, Worship, &c., have each their modes of expression, so
Love has its : else how could lovers make Love ?
Head posture is its most declarative sign. All the crgans
when in action throw the head into line with themselves ; the
intellectual being in front, and throwing the head forward, ,fec.®*
Of course Love, located in the back and lower part of the
brain, *^ when in action, cants the head backward on itself. Kiss-
ing, one of its most impressive expressions, thus throws thti head
right back on this organ, as in the kissing lover. Fig. 551- See
The Natural Language of Love.
Fig. 5ol. — The Kissing Lover.
his head turned back, but not hers. Suppose she were returning
his kiss, her head would also be turned back on her neck, l^o
Lovers can well kiss without thus canting their heads backward.
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES.
211
Its ultimate action turns the heads of both still farther back,
»nd farther under.
The POSITION of the chest and shoulders is almost equally
expressive of every one's amount of sexuality, and also of its
existing action. Men powerfully sexed always throw their
shoulders clear back, never forward, and carry them high up,
never drooping ; and those who move and sit thus are well sexed
Per contra, seniles both walk stooping, and pitch their shoul-
ders inward and downward ; except printers and others whoso
steady vocation bends their shoulders forward. Girls, eschew
Messrs. Stoops, but accept those with straight, military walks.
Well -sexed women set their breasts forward always,
whether walking, sitting, or standing, by carrying their shoulders
clear back as far as possible ; and every woman, all women, when
in Love with a man, set their shoulders farther back, and chest
forward, than usual, and so present and hold them that, if in low
dress, they would exhibit their breasts. Women's love of dress-
ing low in breast and back is based in this law — the exhibition of
their maternal signs.'" During impassioned intercourse this ten-
dency is greatly increased ;
because this is Nature's
means of provoking his
passion so as to endow
their young.
Miss Straight furnishes
an excellent illustration
of this chest natural lan-
guage of superb woman-
hood. Miss Lucy Long,
Fig, 532 in ««, also illus-
trates this shoulder pos-
ture. Beaux " pop ques-
tions " to girls who carry
themselves thus, much
sooner than to those who
lotch forward.
Breadth between the
armpits, by showing a
place for a large bosom
by Nature, even though fig. 602. — Mlw Sthajoht.
A Well-sexed Chest Posture.
212 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
now flattened, signifies proportional sexual vigor ; while breadth
and mammal fulness, as in Helen J. Mansfield, of Fisk-Stokes
notoriety, evince both sexual activity with power: and she
Bbeadth of Chest as indicatino Gjsndeb.
^fTiG. 553. — Helen J. Mansfield.
fiPPECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 213
illustrates equally that supreme power over men conferred by her
extraordinary amount of gender, as is indicated by .this sign.
Her perverting this powerful element militates against her^ not
it. Her possessing it in such extraordinary vigor, and having its
chest sign, alone concerns our subject. N'arrow-chested women
«an never wield this power over men, for good or evil.
Narrow chests with large paniers look horribly. A slim,
spindling woman, short and shrunken from collar-bone to pubis,
with it small and set back, stomach and bowels shrivelled, and
hence warping forward from head to feet, and shoulders warping
inwardly, yet projecting anteriorly, and all " set off" with a large
panier, a shawl gathered in front by hands, and a put-on Gre-
cian bend, appears a little meaner and more insignificant than any
other. Keglect these caved -in, new- moon -shaped ladies. A
straight housemaid in greasy calico looks well in comparison.
Those who see how much better the expression of the same woman
is when erect than stooping, shoulders setting backward than for-
ward, would never sit or walk bending ; so girls, cultivate erect-
ness. And this posture is by far the most healthy.
Shawls are a physiological abomination, because they confine
the hands in front, folded across the stomach to keep them on ;
produce a stooping posture ; and afford little warmth, espe-
cially across the chest, where it is mainly needed. Let them be
abolished, and any required warmth secured by some close-fitting
garment.
Bodily posture is equally expressive of both the original gen-
der, and all its existing states. The " mount of Love " as a beau-
tifier has been shown.*^ Its development must needs, and always
does, proportionally set the lower portion of the female body well
forward. All vigorous females involuntarily carry this pelvic
portion at least straight, or more projecting than retiring ; and
presenting it thus, naturally inspires Love and passion in men
and themselves. See its presentation, modestly restrained, in all
waltzes and round dances. This gives them their great attraction
to dancers and observers ; and objections to them impinge on this
very point. Any woman's walk is inferior with it retiring, mag-
nificent with it well presented.
Hips rolled back accompany this presentation. The reception
of the life-germ must precede its carriage and delivery, and be
absolutely provided for ; and is in this pubic presentation. Be-
214 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
hold its necessity and its provision, in superb mother having a
large " mount of Love," and setting it forward by rolling back
their hips, whenever in the life-receiving mood !
Maternity is provided against by advancing the hips and
I'etiring the mount ; thus precluding access.
Men equally illustrate and practise this principle, and for the
«ame reason.
Both sexes in laughing proclaim their sexual states to a dot ;
by those strongly sexed throwing this same part forward the
more, the more amorous they are. Note this peculiarly vulgar
feature in the laugh of all sensual men having precisely the same
motion as in its ultimate action. This forward pubic motion is
especially apparent in " kissing with an appetite."
These signs tell lovers all about each other. Wliat are
these lessons worth ? Disguising Love is simply impossible. All
necessary is to learn to read its signs. You are here plainly told
just how.
604. — Odor, Breath, &c., indicate Sexual States: Perfumery.
Odors appertain to most things, and tell their different condi-
tions. Lions "scent their prey afar off," and many aniraals
detect hunters miles away by it. Africans have their peculiar
odor, and each fruit and flgwer its own ; and smell very differently
when sound from rotten.
Different sexual states have their odors. All know that
flowers are fragrant ; yet the flowering process is their sexual in-
tercourse ; and their odor then is only one among millions of
illustrations of this fundamental law, that all sexual states emit
corresponding odors. In the case of animals, its utility is very
apparent as promoting their multiplication by proclaiming their
whereabouts, and sexual "desire." All animals manifest it
during heat.
This aura is sexed'^ as much as voice, walk,*^* magnetism,^^^ Ac-
And the odor of each sex is peculiarly fascinating to the other,
when both are in sexual health ; yet most nauseating and dis-
gusting when in disease, so as to repel those unfit to procreate.
Please note this fact, and its reason.
The stench from all harlots is horrible. Mrs. Tyndale, in
1848, rich and philanthropic, tried to reform twenty or more, to
whom she gave a home, and desired me to tell her their characters
EFFECTS OF DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 216
Every one of them smelled most awfully. A like terrible Btench
obtains in all male sexual reprobates ; whilst that emitted by
venereal patients is the worst known.
Women suffering from suppressions smell badly, for reasons as
self-apparent to sense as is the smell itself to the nose, namely,
that which should be promptly evacuated being retained till it
decays. It also makes its escape through the skin in the perspi-
ration. We say this not to "spot " them, but with unmitigated
pain, and only because we have to, in order to instruct. Such
may use cologne, rose-water, musk, anything, thereby counteract-
ing one bad smell by another ; but
Those in sexual health emit earth's most delicious per-
fume. And doubly when ,in Love. Those poorly sexed emit
but little ; and the less, the less they love ; while those dis-
seminate the more the better sexed they are ; and those superbly
sexed and thoroughly in Love, fill the whole room with the most
wholesome and luscious aroma mortals can quaff. Here descrip-
tion fails. Only experience and close observation can at all
realize this fact, or its practical value as a sexual diagnosis.
Ladies, do without cologne, and all other aromatics ; for their
use proclaims your need of them ; and this either sexual inertia,
or else impairment. And you who do need them, restore your-
selves to sexual vigor, and you will then smell much better with-
out cologne than now with.
Oh, girls, if you will only keep up your sexual vigor, go
wherever you may, you will spread broadcast an aura so " lovely,"
a perfume surpassing flowers in paradise, " smashing " the beaux
right and left, and captivating any lover you may select. Wliy
won't you learn ? But others will some day, if you don't now.
Yet do, oh, do avoid " female complaints," and their pestiferous,
sickening stench, as you would the deadly serpent's bite.
** A rotten, stinking breath " signifies stomach and general
disorder, as well as sexual ; and all other bad smells indicate the
corruptness of their fountain: and in men quite as much aa
women. A fetid-breatlied companion is better than celibacy,
yet poor enough. S^ill, to reject all on this score would leave
most Unmarried. And you who cannot bestow a sweet breath,
and a naturally *' sweet-scented" and perfumed person, do not
deserve to marry them ; and will cheat somebody if you do.
Telling how to presbbve ai^d restore sexual health uud vigo
316 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
tells how to preserve and restore this sexual perfume. You who
have it are rich.
Behold in these examples the entire physiology of man and beast
at the mercy of this sexual entity! Have we not demonstrated
the principle, by facts on the largest scale, that different sexual
•tates similarly affect the voice, motion, form, face, eyes, com-
plexion, posture, odor, and therefore the whole body ? For if
they thus powerfully affect these organs, they equally affect all
the others. We little realize how much we owe to this sexual
department of our being. This sexual sympathy with all parts
mitst be complete ; else how could it transmit every iota apper-
taining to every part ?"^ We do not, we cannot realize how much
sexual ailments damage all parts, and sexual improvement im-
proves all, to the very ends of the entire physical system. Oh,
when will men and women learn to appreciate the incalculable
value of sex, both for what it brings, and especially for what
it is!
Yet this principle does not end, it barely begins, with the
body, and affects its organs and functions far less relatively than
it does the mind, and all its operations, l^o pen can do justice
to, ours can only bungle, this all- important subject next in
order.
Section II.
MIND AS n^LUENCED BY DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES.
605. — Love located at the Apex of every Organ.
The mentality must be transmitted even more surely and fully
than the physiology ; because " the mind 's the man." ^^ This
identical principle of the sympathy of Love with every part it
transmits, accounts for the equally minute transfer of that larger,
more important, and wonderful segment of all the mental paren-
tal specialties, instincts, and habits, to offspring, thus —
Love is mental, proceeds from a Faculty of the mind,"^^ not
bodily organ ; and is to the sexual organism what sight is to
eyes. Be they ever so perfect, they are useless unless used by a
mental power called vision; they being only its tools. How could
Love transmit the parental mentality to progeny unless it con-
fltituted a part and parcel of the mind ? Or how transfer all the
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minutest instincts and shadings of parental character to progenal
unless this transferring entity is somehow interwoven with every
mental iota of all parents? It is thus —
Love is located near the apex op all the mental organs.
Phrenology proves that those convolutions in Fig. 554, marked
LOVB LOCATED NEAR THE SeAT OF THE SOUI^
Fio. 654. — LovB IN ITS Anatomical Connections.
1,2, Ac, to 14, are the organs of corresponding mental Faculties j
each having its apex — that which is to it what tendon is to
muscle, in which its function centres. Now each apex points
muxirdly^ from above downward, below upward, before backward,
behind forward, and each side inward, all their radii converging
to and centring in the corpus caUosum^ m in Fig. 554, which con-
sists of bundles of criss-cross nerves uniting the two cerebral
hemispheres with each other, and each part of the brain with
all the other parts, and of the brain with the body ; so that this
rorpxcs callssum embodies every part, parcel, and iota of the entire
being, mind, and body, into a one grand whole; giving to all
thus embodied that collective action in which life or consciouBnesa
inhere.**
The seat op the Soul is right under this corpus callosum at o,
218 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
Fig. 554,*** in the ventricle or open space formed by this dome-
shaped corpus caUosum, See this seat-of-the-soul point demon-
strated in *^ Human Science." ^^^
Love is located right under this seat of the soul, and runs
up towards it; which thus puts this transmitting instrumentality
just as near as possible to the focal centre of that physical and
menfal life entity it transmits.
Behold with amazement this marvellous problem — these ways
and means by which Nature sends along down all the great, all
the minutest characteristics of all parents to their offspring ;°i9-»3>
namely, the most perfect anatomical and mental sympathy thus
established between this transmitting element, and all the parental
items it entails on their issue. A principle thus fundamental,
and of such vast practical importance to all, deserves a more ex-
tended illustration, which we proceed to give.
606. — Active Sexuality redoubles. Dormant deadens, CouRAaB
Pride, Ambition, &c.
The very etymology of he-ro, used to signify all that is bold,
brave, he-roic, daring, cool, determined, valiant, dauntless, mas-
culine, &c., shows that this male element originates this whole
range of attributes ; while emasculated is used in opposition to
masculine.
All perfect male animals are bold, but all emasculated, tame.
Little bull calf, though hooked around the yard all winter by old
ox, becomes plucky just so soon as his sexual organs begin to
grow ; shaking his head defiantly at old ox, as if saying, " Old
fellow, I '11 not submit to this much longer," till their additional
growth infuses into his whole being a vim, resolution, bold-
ness, strength, and snap, which make him tackle right in with
old ox ; and if overborne by mere ponderosity, he pluckily grap-
ples right in day after day till he finally conquers. Are not all
oxen, all geldings, tamer, more easily subdued and managed, than
bulls and stallions ? Do not even immature males conquer Iheir
mature eunuchs ? And those bulls, studs, rams, boars, th^ beet
sexed, conquer their inferior males, so as to parent the mos^
young.*^
The stronger males among all roosters, ganders, gobblera, &c.,
always whip out all the weaker ones, till finally these two
strongest fight each other so long, so desperately, that rhe poores*
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MIND INFLUENCED BY DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 219
one surrenders barely in season to save his life. The males of all
fisrhtins: animals and fowls fiorht each other much more, and more
fiercely during their short sexual season than all the balance of
the year ; indeed, rarely fight except then, and for sexual suprem-
acy. How plain that this increased courage is due to sexual
excitement? In phrenological language — Love, when excited,
excites to entail its contiguous organs of Force, Dignity, Ac.
Sexual action redoubles strength, bottom, endurance, animal
power, and hardihood wonderfully; as all emasculated animals
and feeble eunuchs practically attest, in comparison with all per-
fect males; and mares can endure and accomplish much more,
and are hardier, and less subject to disease than geldings, because
emasculation impairs the constitution and "bottom" of its
victims.
Sexual impairments diminish human courage and force even
more than brute. Courage is man's paramount prerequisite for
success, which sexual vigor greatly augments. No man ever yet
achieved anything great or worthy unless endowed with all the
indices of a pow^erful male ; while he who loses sexual vigor, pro.
portionally loses his interest in life and all its ends, and pros-
ecutes his plans leisurely and tamely, as if glad enough to suc^
ceed, yet it matters little if he does not. Could Eastern eunuchs
be kept in their abject servility, but that their courage is emas-
culated along with their gender ? Surprising that travellers have
not described the practical outworkings of this system.
All sexually impaired men suffer a like loss of snap, courage,
and efiiciency. Many men will recollect that, when they were
budding into manhood, they were full to overflowing with vim,
force, power, resolution, determination, and animation, who are
now "toned down," careless, listless, inert, and subdued, like
oxen, and see by our subject its cause in sexual dilapidation, and
the cure in sexual restoration.
Self-respect, nobleness, pride of character, aspiration to do
and become something great and worthy, magnanimity, and this
whole range of characteristics, belong to this same category with
courage, and suffer a like deterioration by sexual impairments ;
which make one feel bumbled, tvhipped out, mean, shiftless,
good-for-nothing, cowardly, dastardly, afraid of own shadow!
whereas those abounding in sexuality are bold, fearless, cour-
ageous, spirited, efficient, determined, lion-hearted, plucky, en-
220 GENDER : ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
during, strong, athletic, and all strung up ready for any emer-
gency ! Masculinity always conquers its deficiency.
Men, you cannot aftbrd to lose sexual vigor. If life is worth
anything to you, then is that sexuality which inimeasurabjy tones
up every single one of all its functions, capacities, and enjoy-
ments, worth as much. Men ? Women, too.
What anger equals that fierce frown, that withering scowl,
that terrible indignation those virtuous women, however amiable,
even tame, manifest toward men who insult them — enkindled
solely by sexual aversion. Reversed Love reverses Force. Or,
impose on any man beloved by any true woman, and you incur
her wrath and fury ten times more than if you imposed equally
on her. Why ? Because her Love is enlisted for him, so that
injuring him outrages it, and thereby rouses all her anger, hate,
and fury to their highest pitch. And her fierce hatred and
revenge toward the man she once loved, but who has wronged
her, are but the legitimate outworkings of this gender element
reversed. What will not a loving woman do in behalf of the man
she loves ? Earth has never witnessed more cool determination,
more personal bravery, more force to defy all obstacles, more
dauntless heroism and insensibility to pain and danger, than in
delicate loving women for men beloved ; of which our war fur-
nished many noteworthy examples. Our principle, that Love is
in rapport with Force, shows why.
607. — Different Sexual States as affecting Talents.
That genius and passion are concomitants, is the general
observation of mankind, and most great men illustrate; as.
Masculinity Powerful. Webster, Clay, Judge Marshall,
Franklin, Byron, Burns, Pitt, Bona-
parte, Bacon, Socrates, Michael An-
gelo, Powers, and many other ancient
and modern celebrities. See in the
great artist, Rubens, all the indices
of powerful masculinity, to which
his matchless paintings, especially of
the female figure, owe much of their
^^ character," Our principle shows
why. !N'o man can ever become ex-
Fio. 555. — Rubens. tra great, or even good, witnout the
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aid of powerful sexual ity. This alone so sexes his ideas and feel-
ings that they impregnate the mentalities of their fellow-men.
Every intellectual genius on record evinces every sign of power-
ful manhood ; while the ideas of those poorly sexed are tame,
insipid, emasculated, and utterly fail to awaken enthusiasm.
Every sign of manhood shows that Daniel Webster was a most
powerful male, and a recent Atlantic critic of him actually,
though . not seemingly, ascribes his great power over men
mainly and justly to his powerful gender. Lord Bacon, Ben-
jamin Franklin, George Washington, Wellington, Scott, Bona-
parte, Sherman, &c., all the great inventors, in short, all who
have evinced superior powers in authorship, oratory, poetry, or
any department of humanity whatever, evince all the physical
indices of powerful manhood. Women equally illustrate this
law. All actresses, distinguished female writers and speakers
bear all the marks of superior femininity in form, walk, voice,
every attribute of the female sex. Charlotte Cushman and Grace
Greenwood are specially pertinent examples. So were Mrs. Sig-
ourney, Josephine, Mrs. Judson, and many others. Sex is the
paramount sine qua non condition of all readable female writings.
Whatever may have been their other capacities, without the
incentives and inspirations of powerful sexuality, all their concep-
tions and expressions would have been tame, insipid, flat, and soft.
Any and all good speakers, preachers, lawyers, judges, politicians,
editors, business men, everybody, everywhere, of any note for any-
thing, furnish a like illustration that vigorous sexuality is abso-
lutely indisf)ensable to excellence in any and every pursuit w^hat-
Boever. Every actor and actress any way distinguished bears
all the marks o^ superabundant sexuality, — Forrest, Scott, the
Booths, Proctor, Mrs. Siddons, Laura Keene, and Mrs. Bowers,
now our leading tragedienne. But why weaken our subject by
naming a few, when any and every other one of eminence is
equally pertinent?
All good singers furnish like examples. Gender confers th«
female voice prerequisite for good singing,** and true female
bust.** Now put these two things together and apply them to
any fine female operatic singer. Has not every single queen of
song a very fine bust, with full mammse ? Why ? Because power-
ful gender confers both a fine female voice** and bust, arms and
form,** which they usually take much pains and pride in exhib-
iting.
222 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
Per contra, all youth, and every man and woman, young and
old, who have impaired their gender, are more or less aimless,
incoherent, incongruous, blunted, paralyzed, tame, flat, silly, ill-
timed, inappropriate, and ridiculous in expressions and actions ;
80 that listeners laugh with disgust, while these self-emasculated
simpletons mistake it for a laughter of admiration at their smart-
ness, whereas they are laughed at for their want of it.*^ Ladies,
mark this, and learn its cause — impaired sexuality.
608. — Sexual Purity promotes all the Virtues, Impurity, all
the Vices.
All maidens, contrasted with all self-abandoned, furnish a
most palpable yet fearful illustration, that a pure sexual state
sanctities and purities every feeling and action ; whilst all corrupt
sexual states corrupt every thought, word, and deed. Sun shines
on none quite as pure, sweet, good, spiritual, innocent, even an-
gelic, as pure virgins budding into womanhood. Say or do any-
thing coarse or gross in their sacred presence, and they live in a
moral atmosphere too ethereal and exalted to comprehend your
meaning. Yet if they do, how disgusted ! All history, all
humanity, Bible included, invariably associate with virginity
all that is spotless, pure, and angelic on earth. Yet
Harlots are earth's worst tenants. Laura D. Fair shoots
Crittenden down like a dog, after he gives her seventy-five thousand
dollars^ while sitting with his family, whom she would horrify and
bereave, solely because he would not abandon family and all good,
and hopelessly disgrace himself by escorting her to church, thea-
tres, boulevards ! Only a premium courtesan could ever perpetrate
a crime so horrid, actuated by a motive thus fiendish. And goes
unhung. Yet depravity like hers is the rule among prostitutes, not
its exception. As a class, lewd women are gross, low-lived, debased,
wicked, and totally depraved throughout. By nature, and as long
as they remained pure sexually, they were as spotless as other vir-
gins ; but it was sexual impurity alone which changed them from
angels into demons. Up to the hour of their fall, they too were
pure in all other respects. They all were once good, innocent,
lovable, and spotless, morally ; and would have remained so as
long as they retained their chastity. Before they sinned sexually,
they were perfectly conscientious ; but this sin alone makes them
perfectly remorseless. Before, they would not touch a pin not
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theirs ; now they rob not their enemies merely, but their admir-
ers; not only their rivals, but their ^^07i5, by false pretences, by
direct falsehoods, and downright stealing. They extort money
by blackmailing ; by threatening to disgrace their paramours ; by
every species of art and wickedness, to which no others would deign
to resort. i^Tor do they ever leave a victim till they have wrung
his last dollar, and beggared his innocent family besides. Who
ever heard swearing as foul-mouthed, oaths as profane, vulgarity
as vulgar, or ribaldry as obscene as theirs ? Can any one plan or
execute even murder with equal cold-blooded hardiness, or per-
f)etrate any and every species of crime with as deliberate sangfroid
as they ? Take it for granted that all robbers of banks, brokers,
expresses, and individuals, all defaulters and forgers, all " tramps "
and great and little villains, are inspired and set on by lewd
women, or rob so as to obtain the means of sensuality. No won-
der pure woman shrinks from all contact with them, as if their
very presence polluted. Even all who keep their sensualities and
vices private, kept mistresses, all degraded and all genteel harlots,
are alike rotten with moral leprosies of all other kinds, from the
crowns of their heads to the soles of their feet.®**
" This excoriation is outrageous. You could not speak worse of
devils incarnate. You describe them as the embodiment of all the human
crimes and vices, without one redeeming feature. But granting all, shame
on you for adding to their odium, and increasing that public prejudice
against them which precludes their reform and salvation. You should
excuse their faults, throw the blame on their seducers, where it belongs,
and create in the public mind sympathy for their misery, and pity and
pardon for their errors, but berate most unmercifully their seducers, the
chief sinners.*^ They are far more sinned agauist than sinning. At least,
emblazoning their wickedness augments it."
The facts alone concern our present subject, not their causes
or cure. We are not now inquiring how much, or how little,
they are to blame ; nor how they became thus ; nor who are
more guHty, or most ; nor how they can be saved. Will any deny
these FACTS? Who but must admit that they actually are the
very worst, wickedest, hardest -hearted beings on earth — the
summary of all terrestrial depravity? That alone is germane to
our subject ; and those who deny tltaty know little of them. Or
who will deny that
224 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
Their sexual depravity alone caused their total depravity ?
If they had but retained their sexual purity, they would thereby
and therefore have retained their moral excellence, conscience,
love of religion, everything good, as they were before they fell.
Or if by any chemical process, physical or mental, their sexuality
could be purified, their moral purity and goodness would like-
wise return. They are not beyond hope, but this is clear ; as
their sexual demoralization alone caused their other immoralities ;
so their salvation must come through their sexual restoration.
That cancer must be burnt out and seared over, or else cleansed,
first.***
Merciful Father ! Is their restoration possible ? Must the
very flower, naturally, of the female sex live on and die thus
polluted ? Must those naturally adapted to become our very best
wives and mothers,"^ and the greatest of all terrestrial blessings,
by only this one condition, thus become the worst harpies on
earth ? And in such vast numbers ! Appalling to contemplate !
We shudder as we write ! Every one of all these teeming mil-
lions was some one's daughter ; and most of them would have
been some one's wife and mother ! Oh, gracious Saviour ! Is no
salvation in store for them ? Worst of all
Must their places be filled with virgin victims by the
hundred thousand annually ? Yet we are moralizing. To return
to the hard, dry facts of our subject — that sexual purity purifies
all, while sexual corruption corrupts all.
Depraved men equally illustrate this principle. Do not all
instances of masculine sexual depravity equally deprave their
victims in all other respects ? What made Deacon Andrews
murder his best friend? He was twenty years a deacon. Ilie
victim was his cosiest companion, and perpetual benefactor ;
giving him constantly and bountifully ! He had no pecuniary
temptation, no old grudge. How often had they walked together
to and from church, and prayed, and sung, and exhorted while
there ! Bosom friends even ; each telling the other all his little
privacies ! His was a deliberate plan to murder, not carried out
at first, but replanned and followed up ; and most inhumanly
and relentlessly executed. Taking all the facts together, the
annals of brutality scarcely furnish as atrocious a parallel. What
was Its cause f
They defiled each other sexually ; which inflamed Lov^
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and spread to the neighboring propensities, Destruction included,
and this killed its victim. Aniativeness perpetrated that murder ;
and most others. Keep it right, and we shall have no murderers,
nor any other crimes, for that matter. Youth coming pure and
virtuous from country to city, remain perfectly honest, will not
take one farthing, nor knowingly do one wrong act while remain-
ing chaste, till, just as soon and sure as they become enamoured
by some lewd woman, they will steal, lie, make false entries, and
rob employers and mates in every way possible, with wicked wits
amazingly sharpened up thereby. Employer, if your employees
run after strange women, your coffers are in imminent danger.
Nor can you watch them sufficiently to be safe. All men and
women who indulge in this sin, though they " pray three times
daily, with their windows open toward Jerusalem," will delib-
erately perpetrate any and all other sins. We shall presently
see why.
Even Solomon, that wisest of men, who warned all civilization,
" Give not thy strength unto strange women," and lauded a vir-
tuous woman's price as far above rubies ; so great, rich, devout,
Heaven's special favorite ; in his old age forgot all his wisdom,
goodness, and piety, and became a perfect reprobate. And that
just when we should expect him to be the wisest, best, and most
devout. And all consequent on the bad influences wielded over
him by lustful women. His heathen wives led him astray.
" But Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter
of Pharaoh," . . . "women of the Moabites, Ammonites, Edomites, Zi-
donians, and Hittites." ..." And he had seven hundred wives, princesses,
and three hundred concubines. And his wives turned away his heart after
other gods." . . . " He went after Ashtoreth, the goddess" (mark, it was
goddesses) " of the Zidonians, and aft^r Milcom, the abomination of the
Ammonites." ..." And Solomon did evil in the sight of the Lord." . . .
" He built an high place" (religious brothel) " for Chemosh, the abomina-
tion of Moab, and for Molech, the abomination of the children of Ammon.
And likewise for all his strange wives^ which burnt incense, and sacrificed
unto their gods." — 1 Kings xi. 1-9.
What means all this? Heathen piety then consisted mainly
in the most excessive and obscene sexual practices imaginable or
possible. Those amatory excesses into which they enticed him
inflamed his Amativeness; and this inflamed his surrounding
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organs, set him stark mad with a frenzy of passion, prompted
him to keep a harem of seven hundred wives and three hundred
concubines, and converted him from the best of men into the
worst of reprobates. Lust converts any and all other men and
women, however good, into bad, and bad into devils incarnate :
made Nero Nero ; and the better they were before, the worse they
become thereafter. Even confining their sensualities to one law-
ful wife hardly mends this matter ; for the wickedness inheres
in the sexual excess itself. One other illustration, on a large
scale.
Behold the inductive confirmation of this principle in the
absolutely universal fact, that throughout all those portions of
our cities, villages, and towns surrendered to sexual vice, as " The
Five Points," all other sins, vices, crimes, and wickedness run
riot. Let the criminal records of all our courts attest. Let all
penitentiaries give their testimony. All wicked men and women,
young and old, everywhere, are both sensual, and their wicked-
ness is consequent on sexual depravity ; and all sensual men and
women are wicked in all other respects. Mark this Phrenological
reason.
Love is located among the propensities. Lust inflames it,
and that spreads this inflammation to its surrounding organs and
Faculties. "Why should not sexual inflammation inflame the
moral or intellectual Faculties, and thereby increase piety, good-
ness, and talents? Because, situated in another section of the
head, its inflammation both inflames those other propensities
which breed vice, and also withdraws energy from parts unin-
flamed to feed this devouring flame ; on the well-known physi-
ological principle that an overloaded stomach withdraws blood
from the head, muscles, and all other parts, to aid the laboring
one ; just as a hot head causes cold hands and feet. In short
Sexual vice breeds all these whelps of every human iniquity,
vice, and misery; so that those who would rid themselves of these
whelps, must hunt down and crucify this their great progenitor.
Then
Pause, 0 man and woman, especially, 0 innocent, darling youth,
and duly consider whether, by opening the floodgates to this
sexual passion, you are willing to let in with it every other form
of sin and vice, and consequent misery. Can you afford itt
Will it pay^ financially, pleasurably, morally, or in any other
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way ? Far better shut out all the other vices by shutting out
lust ? Soliloquize thus :
" Am I WILLING FOREVER to abandon myself to each and ail the other
human vices and passions, by abandoning myself to lust? Had I better
give up my good name, my earnings, and the sacred bequests of my dear
parents, and become unprincipled, besides turning a business sharper, and
brutalize all the rest of my nature, just for this one passion? No! This
game is not worth all this sacrifice. I cannot afford to offer up all my
other sources of pleasure and enjoyments on this self-debasing altar. My
conscience, my aspirations, my talents, all that is good within me, are too
high a price to pay for this one pleasure."
Ho, YOUTH ! YOU CANNOT AFFORD to uuchain this tiger passion.
Ho, maiden ! chastity is worth more than gold.®^ When you
lose it, better lose life too. Society does not unduly condemn its
loss.
Ho, REFORMER ! by reforming this vice you reform every other.
yet do little good till you lessen this.
Ho, financier! save your coffers, not by double-entry, safes,
bolts, &c. ; but by inculcating lessons of moral purity in your
employees, yourself leading a life of virtue.
Ho, ALL ! surround yourselves and families with every possible
safeguard against sexual vices, lest they breed all the others.
Even jealously- watchful eyes may be needed, and prove your sal-
vation.
609. — Temper changed by opposite Sexual States.
Pregnancy and menstruation furnish kindred contrasts. Natu-
rally amiable women, during carriage, arc often extremely cross-
grained and ugly-tempered ; while menstruation renders those
women sexually healthy and vigorous much sweeter, pleasanter,
softer, fonder, fondling ; but those sexually impaired, often inex-
pressibly hateful, — facts observable by all, and both caused and
accounted for by this principle.
Healthy maidens furnish a kindred illustration. What other
human beings are equally amiable, patient, content, forgiving, or
forbearing ? Why ? Because gender, retarded up to puberty, must
develop much faster from thirteen to seventeen, relatively, than
at any other period ; which, therefore, throws correspondingly
more of its legitimate influences, which moralize and purify,**
228 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
over their whole systems. They are likewise quieting to the
passions, and produce patience, goodness, and forbearance. You
can hardly provoke a sexually healthy maiden. Her right sexual
state throws her into a mood so amiable that she meekly turns
the other cheek every time. But boys and girls, men and women,
who become inflamed sexually, always evince the utmost cross-
ness and hatefulness. Impatience, irritability, and fretfulnesfi
are sure signs that lads or lasses are secretly abusing themselvee.**'
Till then they bear everything ; afterwards, nothing. Any boy
who loves to tease and plague his little brothers and sisters, or
torment the girls, except in fun, has induced this mental mood by
sexual abuse, unless possibly cross from sickness.
Hysterics cause hatefulness. What means it that Mrs. A. is
" spleeny," but that she is so easily provoked, so cross-grained
and sour, so evil-minded, putting wrong and bad constructions
on everything said and done, so jealous and spiteful, that there is
no living with her? Yet do not all doctors, by common consent,
attribute this gangrened temper to female complaints? Who
ever heard that Venus was bad-tempered ? Instead, she was the
very pink of sweetness, because so vigorous and normal sexually.
Was Diana thus amiable and genial? Any woman diseased
sexually, though an angel naturally, will fret, tew, and scold at
everybody, everything, perpetually venting bile ; because this
sexual reversal reverses all, and this throws her into a scolding
mood. Many a woman is just as hateful as a fury, because
dilapidated sexually. Perhaps her husband's fault. He took
her an angel, because well sexually, but has made her a fiend by
diseasing her. Served him right. Or she may have lost both
her female health and serenity of temper by childbirth, or by
other causes, and now rivals Xantippe in scolding. Let one case
serve as a sample of millions.
Miss P. was the handsomest woman in Connecticut in 1838,
and as amiable, sweet-tempered, patient, and lovable as beautiful ;
so that all who knew her loved her. Her piety was as marked
as her beauty. She was as devoted an Episcopalian as ever
lived; and beyond all comparison the kindest to the poor and
sick possible. And as just and scrupulous as kind ; and refined
and ladylike as either. But she married out of rivalry, and
where she did not love ; lived an awful life with her drinking
husband, because she loved another ; and of all the tattlers and
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mischief-makers that ever tormented a neighborhood, she was the
premium pest. No one could listen any one minute without
hearing some scandal, something told to somebody's disadvan-
tage. She had the smoothest tongue, a manner so ladylike that
you would expect to hear no ill, yet none ever heard anything
else. Every young man's and woman's character she scandalized
and blackened. She represented all as depraved, because sexual
aversions and diseases had soured everything in her own nature.
She looked at and heard everything through her jaundiced
glasses of spleen ; and though she no more intended to falsify
than an infant, yet she never did nor could tell the truth. She
meant to tell things just as she saw and heard them, but saw and
heard all only through her spleeny glasses ; and in telling, added
her spleen, which made all she said a slanderous falsehood.
None of our tea-table gossipers ever intend to falsify, or kniDw
that they do, but they cannot see right. Their sexual ailments
distort all they see and tell. Millions of women, with really
splendid Phrenological heads, are rendered practically perfect
termagants and viragoes by sexual ailments souring and distort-
ing every sentence and feeling. Poor women ! The amiableness
and hatefulness of the very same woman at different periods even
more forcibly illustrates our point.
Concordant and discordant wedlock furnishes pertinent
illustrations of this law " by millions." While courting and ia
Love, though both parties are naturally bad-tempered, they are as
tender, forbearing, patient, kind, and good as two cooing doves;
but reversed Love reverses all, and makes both perfectly infernal
in their treatment of each other. While in Love nothing could
anger them ; when in hate, nothing can please ; nor ain they
talk one minute about the kittens or pigs without breeding
antagonism. And yet, towards some other woman with whom
he is in sexual rapport, he is most patient and amiable, as is she
towards some other man. Any courted girl who is cross Mon-
day, had a " Love-spat " Sunday night. Stop and duly considei
whether wo are, or are not, expounding a natural law. Is it not
so beyond all possibility of dispute? Then please think how
infinitely important.
It concerns you, then, 0 man and woman, whether you arc and
keep yourself in a healthy sexual state ; or fall into ouo diseased
Thh evil you cannot aflbrd to incur.
230 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
(510. — Sexual Vigor causes Buoyancy ; Disease, Melancholy.
The spirits sympathize with different sexual states most per-
fectly. That satisfied, exultant, ecstatic, buoyant, bounding,
happy influence imparted by vigorous sexuality over every other
physical and mental function, is perhaps its greatest good ; whilst
that moody, sad, forlorn, despondent, crying, blue, awful feeling
created by its impairment, is probably its worst evil. Take first
the entire animal kingdom as practical illustrations. Their sex-
ual seasons throw every single one into the most exalted mood.
Bulls in July contrasted with Oxen show how absolute the
power wielded by different sexual states over the disposition.
Sexuai, AcrioH ecstasize all. ^xen then loll lazily in the shade,
barely crawling out enough morn-
ings and evenings to eat sufiicient
to keep alive ; while bulls are then
"on the rampage," with heads up,
" eyes in fine frenzy rolling," stalk-
ing forth so proudly, gayly, fierce-
ly, pawing and throwing dirt all
around, plunging head into dirt-
piles and bellowing, which is only
the belching forth of a good, hap-
py, ecstatic feeling they cannot
Fio. 556. — Bull in July, on the contain. All obviously due to sex-
AMPAGE. ^^^ action. Every single animal
follows suit. During their sexual season every stallion and jack
neigh, bray, prance, rear, snort, paw, bite, kick, everything indi-
cating life and ecstasy, as if they could not contain their rapture.
Peacocks and turkey gobblers furnish other illustrations ex-
actly analogous. They never spread their wing- and tail-feathers,
nor exhibit their glowing personal beauties, except when in their
amorous moods. Passion alone clothes them with this natural
language and feeling of gayety and glory. All fowls, even but-
terflies, furnish like illustrations ; as do all animals. The fine
feelings of deer during this season have passed into this proverb:
'* As fine as a buck in running time." All dogs illustrate it, aa
do all beasts of the field, fowls of the air, and even all insects
and creeping things. Toads and frogs sing and pipe only then,
and because sexual excitement renders them too happy to contain
themselves.
MIND INFLUENCED BY DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 23l
We faithfully interpret a universal fact in natural histc^ry.
Let your own eyes, ears, and experience, attest. Apply this
principle to every living animal and thing, fly included, and say
whether we are not merely reporting a natural fact as universal
as lite, applicable to every race, genus, species, and individual,
throughout earth's ever-varying myriads ? Then
Why not man most? Does sexual action give exaltation to
beast and bird, fish and insect, and not even more to man? Look
once more at these ranges of facts.
All " sweet sixteens," in full sexual glory, speak for them-
selves. Those who are budding and blossoming into glorious
womanhood, how brimful, how overflowing with the gay, lively,
sparkling, queenly, gushing, glowing, rapturous, enthusiastic,
and ecstatic ! and always smiling, pleasant, happy, serene, jubi-
lant, joyous, and in perpetual rapture. The least thing sets them
off* into convulsive roar after roar of laughter. Peal on peal
burst forth in rapid, hearty succession, as if so full of fun that
the least thing ignites them. Look at their beaming faces,
sparkling eyes, glcwing cheeks, red lips, springy steps, sylph-
like movements, bounding dances, and their every emanation
betokening irrepressible merriment and happiness. Why? Be-
cause their sexuality, retarded till puberty, now superabounding,
throws more of its special legitimate influence — that ecstasy we
have just seen it creates in all animals and insects — over their
whole being. Quickened sexuality creates all this. These and
like facts tell their own story.
YouNQ MEN EQUALLY. All wcll-scxed young men, from puberty
onward, are full of life, mischief, fun, frolic, raillery, roguery,
tricks, as if they really could not restrain their frolicsome spirit.
And the more so the better sexed they are ; which coUegiates
illustrate.
Why instance young men and women? Surely not because
they alone illustrate this natural law. All wcll-sexed men and
women equally. Thrown into a pleasurable, rollicksome, jolly
mood by right sexuality, they take everything — good, bad, and
indifferent — pleasantly. In a jubilant mood themselves, every-
thing is all sunshine to them. They make the most of life's joys,
and the least of its ills. Nothing " puts them out." They
laugh oflf what those in a reversed sexual mood would chafe
over. Rendered genial and happy by this overflowing sexuality,
232 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
they are genial and pleasant to servants, equals, and strangers.
And how superlatively happy are all young people while
together, because the presence of each sex provokes amatory
action in the other. A right sexuality turns all the pictures of
life merry side up, while sexual impairments turn them moody
side up.
All women who are prolapsed, suffer a like falling
throughout all their feelings. All the world looks dark and
dreary to them. In a sunken, relaxed mental mood, they look
upon everybody and everything through their forlorn, hopeless
glasses. They fancy everybody turned against them ; that all de-
spise and make fan of them ; and that everything is threatening
*' evil, only evil, and that continually." Words can but poorly
portray the purely imaginary ills they suffer, because, like the
skittish horse, they are in a perpetually terrified state. They are
literally afraid of their own shadows, fussy, fidgety, in constant
dread and apprehension, and keep themselves and all around them
in a perpetual stew, scolding husbands and children, right and
left, night and day, simply because of their own womb impair-
ments of one kind or another. Poor women 1 Pity them.
Every reader will know one or more such, and may fill out this
description from real life. Many miserable women will see in
this principle why they feel so wretchedly, whereas they were once
80 inexpressibly happy. Restoring your sexuality will restore
your light-heartedness. Many husbands will see in it why their
wives, so ineffably pleasing and charming when courted, are now
80 listless, sad, fidgety, dolorous, and repellant ; as well as how
to restore their sweetness, namely, by restoring their sexual
vigor.
All men sexually disordered superadd other illustrations.
All lads and men who abuse themselves sexually, become moody,
apprehensive, frightened by mere shadows, think their state ten
times worse and harder to cure than it really is, are awfully
haunted by " the blues," irritable, dissatisfied, restless, and inex-
pressibly miserable. " The blues " may have other causes ; yet
sexual errors and dilapidations are their main cause. One right
sexually cannot have them ; whilst those who are ailing here
cannot help having them. So you who feel blue don't tell of
it, or knowing listeners will spell out the cause. At least seem
lively.
I
mind influenced by different sexual. states. 233
611. — Effects of Puberty on both Sexes.
Puberty gives further proof and illustration of the magic
power wielded by different sexual states over the entire being.
Besides changing the voices of boys into those of men, and of
girls into those of women,*® and superadding the true male and
female forms,** it changes the mind and character still more.
Whence that dignified, stately walk, now first observed ? From
that inherent dignity of character and manliness of tone puberty
develops."^ We little realize how great the difference between
the boy and man. How subduable before, how indomitable after!
Has puberty no influence in causing his rapid bodily growth ?
Yet his mind grows still faster. All his feelings shoot into ram-
pant growth and vigor. Before, half asleep; after, how much
animation and the highest phase of human vigor he evinces?
Desires before tame, now become almost resistless. A new set of
life motives and emotions burst upon him. "Old things pass
away. Behold all things become new." How much higher his
aims and nobler his aspirations ! Desire to do and become some-
thing worthy of himself, swells his heaving bosom. His ideas
matured, his courage redoubled. He aches with surplus strength,
and for a comrade with whom to test supremacy. How changed
for the better his behavior towards the other sex, because his
feelings have been " converted " from indifference into admira-
tion!"^ Every single attribute of body, feeling, morals, intellect,
how wonderfully improved. A mere moiety of this " conversion "
is perceivable, and only a tithe of that, describable.
Puberty changes (jirls equally, and more perceptibly. It
transforms their walk from their careless, slipshod, indifferent,
merely "go-ahead " cast of motion before puberty, to their light,
fantastic, affected, nippy, spruce, scrumptious, try-to-be prettified,
after. True, their prettying-up attempts are rather awkward, yet
their mere attempt is the indispensable precursor of their futurt»
queenly " poetry of motion ; " all of which is due to gender.**
Study blooming girls with artistic eye. Living beauties,
ruiming beauties, talking beauties, loving beauties, and immortal
beauties besides! No cold marble beauty of mere form; but their
mental and moral charms incomparably surpassing their personal.
Celestial stars in the firmament of eternity ! Wonder you that
fathers dote on and humor them, and mothers compress quivering
lipe in exultant pride ? How much are they worth "/w dozen*^ f
234 gender: its signs, power over body and mind.
Put down the figures. Would we had more of them. They are
few at best, and many, alas, dead !
Behold them ushered by puberty from glowing girlhood into
glorious womanhood! In "what per cent." does this ushering
improve? Ten? Not less than ten hundred. A maiden coyness,
a modest bashfulness,a sweet smile, a sentimental reverie, a queenly
grace of motion, because a queenly inspiration^ gush out through
every look, lisp, and act. Behold them transformed from chrysalis
girlhood into perfect womanhood 1 Who can help loving them,
because so lovable, and loving ? We may thank our Creator for
many and great mercies ; but for none greater than for this mental,
moral, and physical transfiguration. None begin duly to prize or
praise it. Note the touches of its magic wand, and admire and
worship at its Creator's shrine. Loving, lovely maidens are in-
finitely man's most soul-inspiring shrine before which to kneel,
and through which to thank and love their Creator. Worse than
heathen all who do not thus love and worship the Divine Work-
man through this His most perfect production ! Thank Him for
furnishing a shrine thus holy, and an altar thus inspiring ! Yet
modern girls bear no comparison with what they could and will
yet become. Preposterous all attempts to portray their natural ex-
cellences. Earth has no adequate language. Stretch imagination
to its utmost in conceiving the embodied summary of all terrestrial
perfection ; a fair to middling maiden surpasses all as noonday out-
ehines twilight. All description is but mockery. A loving parental
heart comes nearest the trr ; estimate, a devoted lover excepted.
Doting father, idolizing molLer, put your united estimates of your
daughter together, and they still fall infinitely below her intrinsic
value. We have seen why. God forgive those \/ho love and
worship too devoutly at this virgin shrine. A large proportion
of all this is due to puberty. She is of little use before its
advent. Her entire feminine and maternal utility is due to it
alone.
612. — Value of a Healthy and Yigorous Sexuality.
The sovereign power gender wields over the entire body and
mind of all males and females admeasures its value, absolute and
relative, when normal and abundant, over its deficiency and
dilapidation. Though as well try to measure the ocean with a
spoon, yet we may show how much more it is worth than other
MIND INFLUENCED BY DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 236
things considered valuable, and how valueless all else in com-
parison, without it. How much could you afford to take, and
allow the painless extraction of this entire section, physical and
mental, from your being ; leaving not one sexual attribute, feel-
ing, or capacity remaining within you? Those are very poor
males or females, indeed, who would take all earthly good.
A YOUTH OFFERED MILLIONS with a poor sexual organism, or
nothing with a good one, would be foolish to choose the millions.
Bestowing on offspring a superb sexual constitution, without
a dollar, leaves them an incomparably better fortune than leaving
them untold gold, along with sexual poverty. Those leave their
darlings poorly off, indeed, who leave them weakly or sickly in
this department of their beings; those "rich enough," who en-
dow them with a good sexual nature, well regulated.
Cover your sexually impaired daughter all over with the
most superb toilet and jewelry for the ball or party ; all knowing
ones pity, not admire her ; feel bad that a toilet so gay should
outshine a female so deficient.
Parental solicitude should first seek to confer on children a
hearty and healthy sexuality, and then take more pains to train
and develop it aright than to educate memory, or even morals ;
for what is all else without this? And with this vigorous and
normal in them, expect many superior grandchildren; but with it
poor, few and feeble ones.
If your wife is vigorous and healthy sexually, and therefore
full of normal feminine nature and inspiration, you are inex-
pressibly fortunate. But anon, by some error at her confine-
ment, or some other cause, she both loses this vigor and contracts
female comp^ints; you cannot measure your loss by dollars, and
could well afford not only to pay your " bottom dollar,'* but to
mortgage your best life exertions, if you could thereby secure
her restoration. God grant that few may ever know how great
this loss. Yet none ever begin to realize how great, until it is
lost.
No well-sexed girl in calico need envy any stylish but poorly
flexed lady, with her livery and fashionable pai*aphernalia, who
deserves pity, not envy. Tale, or haggard, or badly discolored
around her eyes, poor in complexion,*" insignificant in address,
unsatisfactory as a wife, her clothes only admired, not herself;
there are none poor enough to envy her, except those both poor,
and poorly sexed together.
236 GENDER: ITS SIGNS, POWER OVER BODY AND MIND.
Pile up all United States Bonds upon all her greenbacks, and
upon both the gold and silver of California, and then superadd
all earth's jewelry and diamonds, England's great crown diamond
included ; and offer all, along with sexual impairment, to one
superbly sexed, and the taker would be consummately foolish.
A prince, heir to the throne of a great nation, with all the
wealth, honor, prestige, and privileges of his birthright, if sex-
ually dilapidated and diseased, is poorer than his humblest well-
sexed subject. The latter would be foolish to exchange condi-
tions with any poorly-sexed king.
This is Nature's pearl of greatest price, and to life what the
great Kohinoor diamond is to England's royal diadem. Earth has no
other treasure as rich, nor any poverty as " dreary," as its poverty.
All else is worthless without it, yet infinitely the more valuable
with it good than poor. Oh, how glorious to be a powerful, perfect
man, a superb woman ! Angels might almost envy them. Oh,
man, woman, do stop and think !
This Part is transcendently important. That ultimate tribu-
nal which adjudicates whatever appertains to men and women,
ladies and gentlemen, males and females, women's and men's rights,
wrongs, spheres, education, and whatever involves sex, consists
in this identical analysis of male and female which it gives. Does
it not base its foundation, that most important part of book as
of house, and lay its four corner-stones — transmission, masculinity,
femininity, and Love — on the "bed-rock" of philosophical first
principles, and thus prepare the way for erecting a grand and
most useful superstructure in subsequent Parts. Pardon another
comj)arison.
The crown of every vegetable and tree is at its junction with
the ground, where tap-root begins to shoot down, and stalk or
trunk up, and constitutes its life centre ; besides being the abso-
lute predeterminer of all its qualities and functions. In con-
cluding this Part, we appeal —
Does it not seize and exppund this crown of this work and
subject, and follow it along down deeper and deeper, noting
where its side-subjects or roots branch ofi*, and just how they
spring from their tap-root of gender, and dig deeper and lower
down to the end of this tap-root, and thus prepare the way for fol-
lowing out these roots to their rootlets and very filaments, and
thereby "clear the coast " for following it, in Part II., along up its
MIND INFLUENCED BY DIFFERENT SEXUAL STATES. 237
trunk Love, to its branqhes, and in subsequent Parts to its pro-
genal fruit, twigs, and leaves. The entire superstructure of all
human interests rests on this sexual base it grapples and discusses.
Man can consider no points of equal practical importance. Strange
that it has not been analyzed before ; yet it has not. Let readers
in search of useful truths say how well or ill it is handled ; but
it claims to stand at the head of all ancient and modern produc-
tions in point of deep philosophy, and personal value.
Many important problems now demand public and individual
attention ; yet " how can I restore and augment my sexual vigor and
perfection to the highest point attainable," concerns every living
man, woman, child, all future generations, more than all else
combined. The improvement of gender profters the very best
investment possible. All can grow richer, because happier, faster
by curing its ailments and restoring its vigor, than by any other
means. How infinitely important to those who have little that
they obtain more, and that all make the most of all they possess'
How to make ourselves and children, and to start out in marriage
" perfect men and women," is that august work to which we next
address ourselves.
P^RT II.
LOVE.
"All thoughts, all passions, all dssiroe,
Whatever stirs this mortal frame.
Are ministers of Love,
And feed his sacred flame."
CHAPTER I.
ANALYSIS OF LOVE: AND ITS POWER OVER THE ENTIRE BEING.
Section I.
WHAT LOVE IS BY WHAT IT ACHIEVES.
613. — Love analyzed by its Office.
ALL ENDS EXPOUND THEIR MEANS. Love declares its nature in
and by its works. The objects it seeks and attains disclose
its inherent elements. Its outworkings and rationale accord with
each other. Is not this a reliable corner-stone ? Then what results
was it ordained to effect ?
Everything was created to attain its specific end, and every
work is executed by its own workman. Propagation, Nature's
master-work,*^® must needs be carried forward by its own instru-
ment. And that as wonderful as are its results.**^^"*^ And those
precisely adapted to achieve them, but no others. What, then, is
her great reproductive agent ? What inspires and enables gen-
der to create offspring ; and those precisely like their parents ?
Love. Only for this was it created. To this alone is it adapted,
Whatever appertains to it converges to this its focal centre. It
alone incites gender to propagate ; therefore, it as well as gender
must ramify itself upon and throughout all the minutest rootlets of
parentage ; for it can transmit only what it permeates and com-
mands. It must transmit every bodily organ and function, and all
238
WHAT LOVE IS BY WHAT IT ACHIEVES. 239
their existing states, with the utmost minuteness and perfection.
Parents having strong or weak lungs must have strong- or weak-
lunged children."^*^ Therefore, Love must somehow be interrelated
to parental lungs, and likewise to every other bodily organ, by some
most subtle yet all-powerful connection; must seize all their
parts, infuse itself upon all, magnetize, and hold all spellbound
within its iron grasp ; take general and minute pattern after all
parental organs, so as to fashion each progenal part precisely like
them ; permeate each parental bone and part of bone, nerve and
portion of nerve, muscle and shred of muscle ; else how could it
fashion the progenal just like them? How could a dyspeptic
parent infuse his dyspepsia into his children unless this Love
element were in perfect sympathy with the parental stomach?
And so of all the states of all the organs, and their functions.
This shows why Love necessarily must most powerfully affect
the entire physical man and woman. Our next sections show
that it actually does ; indeed, that its power over them is absolute
and supreme ; in fact, that it is a petty tyrant over every bodily
organ and function.
Mind must also be transmitted as much more than body, as
it embodies the very essence of being more.^** Since, in order to
transmit its animal department, Love must be in minute sympathy
with its every iota,*^ it must and does likewise sympathize with
every single mental Faculty.^ Yet all this is by no means enough.
It MUST BE INTERLACED WITH THEIR INTERIOR SPIRIT, and all their
manifestations. Not only must Causality be large in son as well
as sire, but the son's must work in the same identical modes with
his father's. Both must originate similar thoughts, and then
present them in a like manner. Not only must the son naturally
"take to" the forum, if his sire did, but when in it, his mirth
must bubble up and burst forth as did his father's. And this
must be true of all his other traits, at all other times. If either
parent loves and can make music, Love must be so related to this
musical Faculty as to entail on the progeny both love of music,
and ability to sing and play with the same kinds of voice and
tones, as well as love the same class of tunes, and manifest every
parental musical iota. Abram loved flocks and herds, gold and
precious stones, and all his descendants naturally " take to " deal-
ing in woollen fabrics, gold, jewelry, diamonds, Ac. He was
extra pious, so are they ; and they possess his same cast of reli^-
240 ANALYSIS AND POWER OP LOVE.
ion — trust in the Lord. His Love must be so interwoven with
his love of property, with his piety, that in creating them he im-
pressed every shade and phase of his own intellectual and moral
specialties on them. As the sixth finger and toe, though cut off at
birth for ten generations, must be transmitted f^ so all the minut-
est parental shadings and phases of feeling and talents must be
written as with -the point of a diamond into the progenal tablet,
only to become more conspicuous with time. Not one line or shade
of anything must be omitted. Not only must memory be tranS'
mitted, but likewise memory of the very same things ; nor me-
chanical genius merely, but love and talent for the same class of
mechanism, whether engineering, inventive, drawing, or artistic
skill, i&c.
Are parents tender, genial, and fond, or the reverse, so must
be their child. If a parent loved wine, or beer, or brandy, it
must love the same kind of " strong drinks." Has either parent
any hidden feeling of murder lurking in his soul, even though
he never injured a hair of any mortal head, yet it must also have
this murderous feeling branded into its innermost nature. If a
parent sees " fun " written in all he beholds, his progeny must
look through like mirthful glasses, and be naturally predisposed
to make merry over all passing events. And so of theft, deceit,
knavery, fear, ambition, honor, authority, goodness, taste, mathe-
matics, mimicry, in fact everything. Please try to form some
adequate conception of the greatness and minuteness of this pa-
rental and progenal resemblance, and its interrelations with Love.
Some cause-and-effect system must somehow relate every
parental line and shade of both body and mind with those of the
progeny. As every wrinkle, speck, and mark, even the very
texture of the face to be daguerrotyped, must first be thrown
upon the transferring lens ; so every parental iota must first be
thrown upon Love. How could the parental casts of thought
and modes of expression be thrown upon the offspring's mind,
unless first thrown upon the transmitting element ? How could
a child-poet be born of poetical parents, unless this ingrained
parental poetry was first interwoven with the parental creative
element ? What relates the special tones of parentage to those of
progeny ? Surely the doer of all this must be infinite, and work
by agencies infinitely potential and minute. No finite mind can
conceive the subtleness and efficiency of this execu^iv^ agent —
Love. Yet
WHAT LOVE IS BY WHAT IT ACHIEVES. 241
A WORK FAR GREATER ; far more difficult, still remains to be
achieved. To transmit the lung states of only one parent is far
less difficult than to unite the two lung states of both parents in
their progeny. Not only must each mental Faculty of efich
parent be transmitted, but all the mental Faculties of both
parents must be blended in their progeny. By what " master
workman " is all this master work achieved ? By
614. — The blending or fusing Power inherent in Love.
Two MUST WORK TOGETHER in achieving this common result,
Each must participate only with the other, and all parts of each
must co-operate with all parts of the other. This transfer agent
must render them as inseparable as " two drops of water," in
order that their children may be like both^ so that they may be
loved and reared by both. " They twain " must first be embodied
into one single entity compounded of both, before their united
progeny can resemble each. How could their joint issue resemble
each unless Love first fused them both into one ?
Love effects this parental amalgamation. Unity of feeling,
desire, efibrt, everything, is its one specific effect. All who
mutually love, naturally become one. Let all those who have
ever loved analyze this sentiment, and answer: Did it not produce
and consist in a flowing together of thought, feeling, soul ? As
straws show which way the wind blows, so little things, like the
walk, show the outworkings of Love. If a tall man, who natu-
rally takes long steps, loves and walks with a little woman, who
takes short ones, he will step the shorter, but she the longer, till
both move exactly alike, as if one common volition controlled
the motions of both. Coming to the curb, where it is doubtful
whether they shall take one long step or two short ones, both in-
stinctively step in concert. And the one who loves the most,
will conform most to the step of the other. This oneness is what
renders the walk of lovers so beautiful, and discernible just as
far as they can be distinctly seen. Mutual Love may be aptly
compared to different colored liquids poured together, when a
perfect amalgam of both takes place ; every particle of each in-
termingling perfectly with every particle of the other. No
longer two colors, they now become the united compound of both.
Those who love often find theraselvea actually thinking upon the
same subjects at the same instant, and speaking the same worde
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242 ANALYSIS AND POWER OF LOVE.
at the same time. They desire to be always together, and when
separated, feel restless and lonely, as if a part of their own beings
had been torn from them, whilst a portion of that of their loved
one remains ever present with tliem.'*^* And how delightful is
their reunion ! However far their bodies may be separated, per-
fect Love keeps their spirits in rapport. Let either at any time
fall into a love reverie, musing of the other, the other is thereby
thrown into a like Love reverie at the same time. True lovers, on
comparing notes, will find that both are often meditating upon
each other at the same hour and moment. Goethe beautifully
symbolizes this Love-sympathy by the dials of two friendly phi-
losophers, both the hands of whose dials moved together and
alike; which enabled them to commune together thougli in
distant* lands. When two well sexed experience the highest
phase of Love, what though she is on the Western prairie, and
he in busy, bustling 'New York ; if she falls sick, so as to really
need his presence, her spirit holds that perfect intercommunion
with his which draws on his till he feels that he really must
break from pressing business, and rush home, half-crazed to be at
her side.
A DEVOTED Jewish couple converted to Methodism ; she fell
dangerously sick in Philadelphia, while he was on a circuit,
preaching in Tennessee. Unwilling to alarm him, her letters did
not mention her sickness, till her doctor announced, " Madam,
you must soon die. If you have any message for your husband,
dictate it now." " Oh, doctor," she exclaimed, " I cannot die till
I see my husband ! " The day, hour, and minute of this exclama-
tion were noted and recorded. Ko letter could reach him season-
ably ; but her spirit did, and so impressed him, that, half-frenzied,
he exclaimed at that same hour and minute to a brother preacher
away down in Tennessee, " I must start for home by the next
train, for I ' feel it in my bones ' that my wife is sick, and nigh
unto death."
" What I Break all your appointments on account of a whim ? "
He rushed to her side, while she clung tenaciously to life by
mere will-power^ till he arrived, and applied those restoratives
which saved her life.
A Methodist minister in Carbondale, Pa., in 1846, narrated
this instance, of what he considered supernatural guidance, but
WHAT LOVE IS BY WHAT IT ACHIEVES. 243
which our subject shows was but the normal effects of genuine
Love.
" My Friday evening appointment was in one direction, and Sabbatlx
service in another. If I had taken a Saturday morning train I could
have gone home before going to my Sabbath appointment, but I did not.
Taking the afternoon train, without intending to go home, and coming to
a junction where one train would take me to my appointment, the other
home, just as both trains began to move, something 'came over me,' and,
as it were, drew me out of my train, and impelled me to spring upon the
other. I obeyed this ' still, small voice within,' and reached home to find
that a sudden sickness had that day struck down my poor wife, and laid
her at the point of death ; but my coming saved her life."
Just what drew him out of this train, and pushed him into
that ? Love. It had previously fused them into a united one-
ness. Both were in sympathetic rapport with each other. As
in the Siamese Twins, hurting Chang instantly hurt Eng in the
same place and way; so this sympathy made him in the csLVs/ed
her state at their home. Her spirit drew on his, and drew him
to her bedside. Their mutual sympathy, so far from being at all
remarkable, is but the every-day operation of all true lovers. All
who love each other feel it ; all who feel it love each other. Love
is composed of their two sexual magnetisms blcnded^^ which thus
establish a spirituo- telegraphic rapport between them. This
oneness of soul is but the legitimate product of Love ; though it
is thus apparent only in the highest aspects of mutual atfeotion.
Similar cases without number abound everywhere; but in a like
degree only when it is mutually perfect, and both are highly
magnetic ; yet this sympathy, fusing, blending, attractability
and attractive power, this oneness of soul and body which makes
them no longer two but one, is but the legitimate product and
natural outworkings of Love, and proportionate thereto. It both
blends them into a oneness, and prompts them, thus blended, to
enter conjointly into the parental relations. It fuses and amalga-
mates together all the elements of both, in order to transmit their
united natures to their mutual offspring ; and then prompts that
conjoint transmission. Since they are to enter together upon
their creative mission, they require this fusion in all their other
functions in order that it may be the more perfect in this. All
the notes of their natures must needs accord, in order that this
creative concord may be perfect. All their thoughts, feelingi,
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and actions must vibrate in unison, in order that their creative
vibration may be complete. Concord in other respects promotes
this creative concord ; and this augments the number, and im-
jwoves the quality of their offspring. Other things being equal,
the more perfect their Love, and therefore union, the more perfect
and highly endowed their mutual offspring. Accordingly
615. — Parental Fusion improves Young: Idiosyncrasies.
Harmony among one's faculties is indispensable to perfection
of character.** They must work together. JS'ow the
Children op loving parents are harmonious and homogeneous,
and better than their parents, because they inherit the excellences
of both ; while those of imperfect blending, are both inferior to
their parents, and self-contradictory ; like a compound made by
fusing two metals, only partially melted, so that they fail to
amalgamate ; which leaves all one metal in one place, but all the
other in another. Passion on his side, with passivity on hers,
renders their progeny mostly like him, while she is but poorly
represented in them ; and this leaves them odd, queer, unlike
everybody else, idiosyncratic, ungainly, crude, disjointed, like
the speckled hen, antagonistic, unmalleable, unfinished, poorly
balanced, uncongenial, unlovable, unloving, outlandish in their
views and actions, out of tune with themselves and everybody
else, like a house divided against itself, and therefore unpopular,
and unhappy. Better such than none ; but far better those created
by a Love fusing.
Two commonplace parents brought their children, every way
so far superior to themselves, that I even doubted whether such
average parents had really produced such superb children. My
wife, enraptured with their lovableness, took down their address,
that she might re-feast her eyes on their sweetness, and then learned
this its obvious cause: that both had married their first and
only Love ; that no unkind words or discordant feelings had ever
passed between them ; and that their conjugal union was perfect.
The son op discordant parents preaches. Since they fail to
blend, of course he must take after the one or the other ; because
their disunion prevents his taking after both. If he inherits
mainly from his father, he is perhaps talented and original,*^ but
not emotional, and more gifted than good ; and hence preaches
more to his hearers' heads than hearts : whereas, if he resembles
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liis mother mainly, he will evince fervor, glow, emotion, and
pathos,^^^ but lack power and depth ; and reach their hearts, but
fail to carry their heads: whereas, the son of loving parents will
blend the talents of the male with the virtues of the female ; be
both great flncZ good ; and carry both heads and hearts together.
But since this great principle underlies this entire work, enough
that we simply state it here, that it may be amplified hereafter.
Is this analysis of Love, by the work it accomplishes, scien-
tific ? Where before, throughout all human writings or speech,
has its rationale been given, and its one distinctive funo^^ion
unfolded ?
Do ITS FACTS agree with this analysis ? Do its phenomena cally
with this its philosophy? What are its effects on character and
conduct ? We must explain its two aspects in order to answer.
Section n.
power wielded by love over the entire physical being.
616. — Opposite Effects op the two Aspects of Love.
Two RANGES OF FUNCTIONS appertain to each primal Faculty ; one
normal, natural, right, virtuous, in conformity to the creative in-
tention, and therefore happy; the other abnormal, in violation
of its laws, wrong, sinful, and therefore painful.* The difference
between the two is heaven-wide. All " comparisons " fall far
below realities. Still, let us try.
Those same nerves whose normal action gives most exquisite
pleasure, torture with equally intense agony when abnormal.
Health is normal physical action ; while sickness is the action
of this same system when abnormalized.
That same appetite and stomach which, in healthy action,
enjoy food beyond measure, when reversed loathe and eject it with
utter disgust. One state produces relish, the other nausea.
Normal Kindness delights to see and lielp others enjoy ; but
when reversed, is agonized by witnessing unmitigated pain.
Conscience commends our good deeds when it is normal, but
when reversed, lashes us terribly for our bad ; and both persecutes,
and suffers persecution, for the same cause.
Normal Caution pleasurably provides against prospective want
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and danger ; but when reversed, inflicts the terrible agonies of
dread and foreboded evils, creating panic.
Reason argues plausibly for and against the same truths.
Normal Hope " builds castles in the air," while abnormal ere
fttes despair ; and memory recalls both the most soul-ravishing
and soul-harrowing scenes of the past.
Kormal Parental Love takes inexpressible delight in a child's
life, which its death reverses into inconsolable grief.
That same Love element, whose normal action renders its par-
ticipants so superlatively happy and good that words beggar all
description, when reversed, makes its victims correspondingly
miserable and vicious. That identical Faculty which makes the
true wife all but an angel, when perverted, renders harlots the
worst of harpies.^ All that is pure, holy, and virtuous in Love
flows from that same fountain when sweet, which, when poisoned
by sensuality, boils over with all that is vile and loathsome in all
forms of sexual vice. Virtue and vice, sin and holiness, happiness
and misery, are but these opposite actions of the very same mental
Faculties. Not our Faculties themselves, but their right or wrong
exercise^ renders us sinless or sinful, just as the same voice prays
and blasphemes. Let us apply to Love the same principle already
applied to gender.^"^^
Normal Love begets all that exalted estimation, regard, and
almost worship, which each sex feels towards the other when bud-
ding into manhood or womanhood. Well-sexed young ladies
think young gentlemen almost superhuman, till their own reversed
Love considers them bad and depraved ; and so of young men.
As daintiness accompanies dyspepsia, so this sexual qualmishness
indicates sexual deterioration. Those bachelors who denounce
women as deceitful or false-hearted, thereby prove how deceptive
they themselves are to the female sex. She who exclaimed, —
"I do hate all these men in general, and my own husband in par-
ticular "
thereby proclaimed her own utterly heathenish state of feeling
towards them. Reversed Love is to true, exactly what vertigo is
to Appetite.
All true men speak only well of women, and all true women
praise men. And the higher, truer either sex, the more exalted
their estimation of the other. Good wives are forever praising
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all " the men," in general much, and their own husbands in par-
ticular the most, and good husbands women and wife ; whilst
bad ones always berate the opposite sex ; and those who berate
are bad. For a man to dislike men, or woman women, is bad
enough ; but for either sex to loathe the opposite, is the essence
of total depravity. Be careful, then, how you speak against the
other sex ; yet read in this law the sexual states of others by what
they say. And those in this totally depraved sexual mood should
convert themselves into a normal state by banishing all such feel-
ings and expressions, and cultivating appreciation. May this anal-
ysis "convert'' many sexual sinners into true manly and womanly
moods.
That utter loneliness and desolation of soul consequent on
unrequited, discordant, or disappointed Love, constitutes another
phase of this reversal ; as does also a cold, hardened, scornful dis-
dain still another. But we return to the physical power of Love.
617. — Active Love promotes Muscular Action and Power.
Those in Love are stronger than before. All strong animals,
and all that propagates, are much stronger and spryer during their
sexual season than at any other time.*** Then should not devoted
human Love increase muscular strength ? And all chivalry attests
that it actually does. Gallantry was inspired mainly by it. No
knight^errant could ever be nerved up with physical power unless
in Love, and actually thinking of his loved one just before the
contest. During the Middle Ages all tournaments which tested
muscular power to its utmost, must have lady inspectors ; and all
contestants must contend for the appreciation of some woman.
All ancient, all modern history illustrates this natuml truth, that
active Love increases strength : which every person actually in
Love practically confirms. Note a few sample facts. A man pats
a half-grown girl's cheek, with some flattering remark, when off
she bounds as briskly and sprightly as the lark. Active Love
imparts to the walk an elasticity and grace otherwise unattain-
able, because its states, with those of the sexual organs, pow-
erfully affect the muscles of the loins. This creates that " natu-
ral language" of it which beautifies every step and motion;*"
rendering that of a well-sexcd woman when in Love much more
queenly, elastic, graceful, proud, and beautiful, and that of a man
more noble, dignified, portly, and commanding, than they are
248 ANALYSIS AND POWER OF LOVE.
when not in Love."* All loving damsels, however elegant their
general movements, become incompambly more so when in the
Love-inspiring presence of their lovers. All lovers' promenades
are much more graceful and perfect than their walks are at all
other times. A practised eye can always tell whether two walk-
ing together love, or dislike, each other. Note the walk of all
brides in illustration. And those in Love can walk so much
longer and faster with their loved one than without. Thus let
a man take a given walk till completely tired out, and a woman
the same, before either loves the other, and then after they have
become thoroughly enamoured, and a walk which was long and
tiresome before, has now become so short and delightful that
they could walk it over and over again without any thought of
fatigue. If they start out on a picnic or excursion, though either
or both are weakly, they walk on and on, for miles, so gayly,
lively, easily, as to be wholly unconscious of time, distance, fatigue,
or weather. But let them afterwards dislike each other, and
though just as strong now as before, the road, distance, weather,
all the same ; how great the contrast ! What was then so short,
is now so long, then so charming, now so dull, that they return
soured, fatigued, disgusted. Reversed Love renders all muscular
exertion most irksome. Men engaged in any kind of labor or
trials of strength, become vastly spryer, smarter, stronger, and more
enduring when appreciated by women looking on approvingly ;
yet how their disdain palsies ! Unloved wives, though strong,
delve on in pain and fatigue when scolded by depreciating hus-
bands, jaded, listless, spiritless, little realizing how much they
suffer — alas, how many thus doomed deserve the heartfelt pity
of all: — yet even weakly ones work on, wear on, enduring and
accompHshing wonders, because their loving and being appre-
ciated by husbands amazingly strengthens female muscle. What
wonders of exhausting toil and privation loving and loved wives
often undergo in nursing sick husbands ! How marvellously
weakly ones work on for years after doctors and all expect them
to die ? because kept alive and strengthened by conjugal affection
in both. The same woman, all women, can do and endure many
times more when liked than disliked, and from affection than
duty. Oh, if husbands could only realize how inexpressibly pet-
ting and praising a wife redoubles her power and will to do, and
how neglect and blame dishearten and palsy her, and would ajv
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predate always, depreciate never, they would not have to hire
half as much help, because their wives would be able and willing
to work ; nor pay half as heavy doctors' bills, because this would
keep them well.
The merry dance still more forcibly illustrates this great truth.
"Women dancing alone, with only female spectators, dance with
nothing like the grace or perfection they naturally assume when
dancing with and before gentlemen ; while active Love renders
their motions peculiarly beautiful, almost angelic. To be appre-
ciated, it must be seen or felt. It can never be described. But
this same dance is irksome, beyond description, to those whose
Love has been blasted. Does not awakened Love stimulate, and
disappointed deaden, the whole muscular system ?
Active Love throws the shoulder-blades back upon the spine,
because it straightens up the person and sets the bust forward;**
while those in disappointment lotch forward, stoop, round out
posteriorly, which causes the shoulder-blades to stand out from
the body. This posture in sitting and )valking both looks badly,
"shockingly," and is unhealthy, by perpetually cramping the
vital organs. Girls in Love never sit and walk with projecting
•houlder-blades, but always lay them back close upon the spine.
Few realize the fact of this power of Love, yet both observation
and memory attest that it is perfectly wonderful.
618. — Love doubles or deadens Circulation, Warmth,
Sleep, &o.
Affairs of the heart appropriately designate Love matters,
because active Love sends the warm blood rushing and foaming
throughout every shred of the entire system to its very nails.
Let all who love attest that nothing equally agitates the heart.
Knowing persons can even tell who are in Love, and who have
been disappointed, just from their pulsations; those of Love
being fuller and stronger, but of di8af>pointment either languid,
or fluttering, or both by turns ; while heart ailments are causecl
mainly by wrong sexual or Love states.
All breathe, when thoroughly in Love, deeper, fuller,
faster, then when in disappointment. Even the meeting of one
who loves you, instantly accelerates your breathing, almost to
panting. Of the ultimate exercise of Love, this is most strik-
ingly true.
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RECiPROCATiNa Love creates warmth. Hence no fire is oTer
needed to court by, even in long, cold nights. This has been so
generally noted experimentally as to have passed into a proverb.
Our electrical theory shows why. Reciprocating Love consists
in intermingling male and female magnetisms.^^ Magnetism
carries on all the life functions.^" Two in sexual sympathy, by
holding each other's hands, give and take this sexual electricity;
that of the other in each combining with their own, starts up
the circulation and perspiration, first in the hands and arms
taken, making them all warm and glowing. This any two can
test by experiment. If this personal contact continues long,
the magnetism of each difi'uses itself all over the other, redoub-
ling the entire bodily warmth of both, and imparting a glow, a
rapture, an ecstasy often experienced, seldom identified, never
before explained.
A WELL-SEXED LADY, cold and weary, entered a car. A re-
turned soldier gave her half his slip. Soon she felt a delight-
ful warmth pervading her side next to him, and anon all over,
which she innocently, almost verdantly, often mentions as some-
thing remarkable. He, too, was probably warmed and benefited
equally. They interchanged their sexual magnetisms. But
In Love disappointed, how cold the hands, how cold the feet,
how cold the heart ! [N^othing occasions so many diseases as
colds, nor colds as Love reversed ; because it withdraws blood
from limbs and surface, only to concentrate it in the head, which
induces colds, and especially consumption ; which hearty Love
prevents. And its revival restores dilapidated constitutions by
untold thousands, which " broken hearts " have broken down.
The sleep of Love, how inexpressibly sweet and refreshing !
that of unrequited Love, how restless, how wearisome ! Those
disappointed lie awake hour after hour, rolling and tossing upon
the heated couch, in a wild delirium of painful, aggravating
reminiscences and emotions, till finally imperfect sleep, mingled
with fitful dreams, more painful than wakefulness, supervenes to
relieve, but not refresh.
Stomach, liver, viscera, the entire body, are similarly af-
fected by these difierent Love states. One law governs all.
How could it transmit them all in all their existing moods,
unless it were in perfect sympathy with each ? Every Love
affiair demonstrates this existing rapport. Its power is wonder-
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ful, magical. None at all realize how much the health and entire
physical being are affected, from the soles of the feet to the crown
of the head, by different Love states.
619. — Love redoubles Health, Disappointment Diseases.
Health is controlled by Love. Its value exceeds all earthly
values, because the base of all ;® its loss, all other losses united.
Whatever promotes it, is life's sumrnum bonum; what impairs it,
the consummate evil. Now
Love controls the health both ways, as if by magic. A pure,
hearty Love state will regenerate anybody's health ; while vitiated
Love will break down everybody's. Ninety-nine hundredths of
our strong conslitutioned men in physical ruin, wrecked them-
selves on the breakers of abnormal Love. We shall soon show
how ; while broken-down men by thousands have been, can be,
completely restored by a right Love and marriage. Let all
fairly happily married men think back how much their health
improved within two years from the beginning of their court-
ship ; and those who have lost a loved wife, how much poorer
after her loss ; while, per contra, many improve their health by
losing an uncongenial wife. And let all men note how much
better they feel for '' going a-courting," provided they court
purely. Yet nothing tears the life right out of any, all men, aa
does lust Note these facts, and spell out their purport.
" Old baches," a right Love and marriage would probably im-
prove your broken-down health one hundred per cent. ; and all ye
who marry, make this an era for regenerating your constitutions,
and taking out " a new lease on life."
Female Health is still more renewed by right, and de-
stroyed by wrong. Love states. We show why in ^-^, How
many disabled women become rejuvenated, and snatched from
consumption, nervousness, &c., by a happy marriage ? and, oh,
how many break right down from one unhappy ! Few note
these facts. None trace them to their causes. Readers, look for
yourselves. Women by millions attest: Did not your health,
|x;rfect till then, begin to fail within a year after your soul-
crushing disappointment?*'* and other millions attest that it
began to revive soon after you began to love again. And all
readers, now unloving and unloved, who establish a future
affection, note what a perfect health revolution supervenes.
ANALYSIS AND POWER OF LOVE.
Amazing that doctors have failed to note this, and make it a
medical point
Several causes create these facts : 1. The health depends
mainly on the mind.^ 2. Love puts this mind into a deliglitful
state, and this the body. 3. Love quickens every single human
function, as we are now showing. 4. The nerves control the
body, and the sexuality the nerves, and Love the sexuality.^
6. Love states control menstruation,®^ and this female health.®^'*
6. Future principles demonstrate and enforce this point. 7. Our
magnetic principle ^ shows by what means these good and bad
results are effected.
620. — Intonations modified by Love States.
All Love's everchanging phases are proclaimed through the
intonations. Each phrenological Faculty impresses itself audibly
upon them. Force chops the words off short, and Destruction
renders them rough and grating, while Worship solemnizes and
prolongs the tones which Love softens and sweetens. As if some
were praying in one adjoining room while others were swear-
ing in another, a practised ear tells, just from their tones, which
party prays and which swears ; so the mere tones of animated
conversation, where not a word is heard, proclaim correctly the
affectional states existing in each speaker. Active Love renders
them peculiarly soft, winning, tender, and elongated. Said a
fellow car-passenger, " Day has dawned : " a remark no way calcu-
lated to reveal his Love disappointment. Reading which in his
tones, since no others were near, I inquired, —
" Sir, will you allow a stranger to ask a strange question ? "
" Oh, no harm in the asking, surely."
" Then have you not recently been sadly disappointed in
Love ? "
" You startle me ! Who told you all about me ? I came right through
by rail from the South, where, teaching, I formed a strong attachment for
a young lady just left, whose social position precludes all possibility of
our marriage. But who told you? I was not aware that another live
mortal besides myself and her knew it."
•*' Your vocal intonations tell all ; " meanwhile showing that
the softness and tenderness of his last tones told gushing affection,
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and their plaintive vanishings his recent disappointment. From
like tone-signs any practised ear can read the existing Love states
of all talkers. Would you know how ? Go back to those halcyon
days of your own young Love. Recall those " thoughts which
breathed and words that burned " with Love. Were they not low
and soft? Hark ! how melting and tender! You listened spell-
bound. As Love rises, the voice falls. Those who talk loudly,
do not love ; for the more intense the Love, the lower its vocal
utterances. Hence poets use "whispering" as expressive of its
most intense action. But as this sentiment rises still higher,
words and tones beggar description, and both fall so far below
its full expression, that lovers breathe out their mutual affections
l)y a peculiarity of exhalation better observed than described ; so
utterly insignificant is the voice to express their deepest, tenderest
emotions. Doubtless
Woman's voice is pitched an octave above man's for the very
purpose of expressing this Love the better — very high, sharp,
shrill, thrilling notes being most enamouring, because created by
Love. Her vocal expression is far more charming than that of
man, because she is more loving than he. Let all her affections be
fully called out and perfected, from the cradle onward, and our
whole air would reverberate with intonations in conversation, in
song, infinitely sweet and touching, far above anything we now
hear. Air wafts no sounds as touching and tender as those of a
well-sexed woman thoroughly in Love. A Love state also won-
derfully improves the voice in singing.*^ Would that husbands
and fathers but understood this point, and developed this per-
fecting feature in their wives and daughters, by rendering them
perfectly happy affectionally.
A Love state is indispensable to all good speakers, and ren-
ders their voices so soothing and melodious, that they win their
way at once to the heads of listeners by first captivating their
liearts ; whereas, those in an unhappy affect ional mood, use
grating, sharp tones, and seem as if pounding their ideas into
people as with sledge-hammer tones. But the voices of those
who break down under disappointment seem to come from no-
where, and mean nothing, and their tones are plaintive and woe-
begone, as if their whole beings were crushed ; while those who
fight against this crushing influence have sharp, shrill, husky^
and startling tones, full of ^wang and bitterness.
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The laugh of Love, in contrast with that of disappointment,
equally illustnites this point. Awakened Love renders it so full,
hearty, merry, ecstatic, and delightful to listener, as if the whole
soul went along with it ; both bursting forth from the full heart
of the speaker, and going down deep into that of hearers. Ana
lyze the laugh of well-sexed maidens when thoroughly in Love.
Well may it intoxicate their lovers' hearts, and turn their heads.
The laugh of Love is far more touching than its tones, and for
the same reason. Those in Love also laugh much more, as well
as more joyously ; while those whose Love is reversed, rarely ever
laugh, and then only tamely, as if forced.
621. — Love beautifies. Disappointment saddens, the Face.
Facial beauty consists in expression chiefly, which active Love
redoubles, by increasing the action of all the Faculties, and this
Maidens in Love.
Fig. 557. — Caddie, the Look op Love.
Fig. 558. — Miss Gay.
lights up even plain features with a glow, a warmth, a flush,
which loving eyes in beholders still magnify ;^-^^ so that those in
Love always think their loved one charming; while reversed Love
renders even handsome features either sad and pitiable, or else
hardened ; which pains and repels. A hearty sexuality beauti-
fies form and face,*'*^- to which Love superadds a radiance really
captivating. No face is ever worth at second look when saddened
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256
by disappointment. Active Love draws all the facial lines up-
ward, disappointment downward; the former irradiating the
whole face with its sweetest smiles, and suffusing the loving
maiden's cheeks with a blush most adorning and captivating,
even angelic, and far beyond all art to imitate, as seen in the
preceding engraving of well-sexed Caddie in a loving mood;
though just beginning to be saddened by Love deferred. Just
pee how bright, smiling, happy, buoyant, lively. Miss Gay looks
while tying on her bonnet to promenade with her sweetheart.
Reversed Love chases away all smiles, and leaves a painful blank,
or that care-worn, disconsolate, forlorn, pensive look, as if every
friend were dead, and death was coveted as a boon. Contrast the
cheek of that blooming maiden, thoroughly in Love, with the
bloodless cheek of " Love deferred," or Fig. 558 with 545. Para-
dise and purgatory are not more opposite. In Love, the full lipa
quiver with gushing affection, but these same lips, after disap-
pointment, become parched, shrivelled, and inexpressive.
This engraving
SPEAKS to the eye. See aAcxi oasHaAa^ •JO k^oh^ oaNaaarH anx
that merry, laughing,
jubilant face, with
Love side up. Just
turn these same faces
upside down, and see
how cross and fierce
the same noses, mouths,
cheeks, chins, and ex-
pressions, after the af-
fections have been re-
versed 1
Fioe. 559, 560. — The Lauoh of Love.
622. — AcTivB LovB as afpbctinq the Eyes and Color.
Love and the optic nerves are close together.'*' This shows that
and why all the states of Love report themselves through the eyes.
Facts fully confirm this theory. The eyes are perfect Love tattlem.
Active Love renders them large,open, glowing, radiant, brilliant,
and luscious ; but reversed, leaden and dead, or else fierce, and burst-
ing with indignation. The difference is heaven-wide between the
same eyes in affection, and disappointment. All the world knows
that lovers make Love moro through their eyes than by any other
266 ANALYSIS AND POWER OF LOVE.
means, not excepting speech and action. How often in church or
theatre, when lovers look at each other, do they find return looks ?
Love prompts oglings, which express and inspire Love. The
look of well-sexed woman, thoroughly in Love, furnishes a sight
more beautiful and grateful than any other ; which, when it is
turned, becomes either soulless or hateful ; and sensual men and
women tell and read each other's lewdness perfectly by their eyes.
Love affects sight. A surpassingly beautiful country girl
fascinated and tenderly loved a Cincinnati millionnaire, who prof-
fered marriage ; but she declined, from bashful fear lest she could
not sustain the aristocratic dignities of his proud circle. This
painful state of her Love gradually but completely destroyed her
vision, which added to her declining argument. But refusing
to be negatived, he finally gained her " consent," and married ;
when her happy afiectional state restored her vision,
'Near sight, premature long sight, visual dimness, sore eyes,
blindness, &c., often have this origin; as does also impaired hear-
ing. Failing sight is often due to sexual decline or disease.
623. — The Manners immeasurably improved by Love.
Active Love adorns the manners of gentlemen and ladies
towards the opposite sex much more than does mere sexuality.
A man and woman meeting in the ordinary walks and thorough-
fares of life, treat each other much more pleasantly than either
would treat those of their own sex.^ Are not gallantry and
ladylike behavior beautiful? Their mutual regard — that which
renders their manners pleasing — ripens into mutual friendship,
which causes them to treat each other still more charmingly.
Active Love supervening on friendship, makes him treat her still
more kindly, tenderly, gallantly, ever ready to profifer his ser-
vices ; while she thanks him more prettily, and behaves more
agreeably than before. Humanity is by far the most beautiful
when reciprocating Love. Sun shines on nothing as perfect, or
perfectly lovely, as on the proper comportment of lovers towards
each other ; excepting that of affectionate husbands and wives,
which is the most perfect of all, because prompted by the very
highest phase of this sexual element ; but
Ex-lovers, who now dislike each other, are more unkind and
uncongenial, more downright hateful and ugly towards each
other, than any other human beings to their fellow-men. l^eed
r^e multiply examples ? Is not our subject patent without ?
power wielded by love. 26v
624. — Happy Love makes all ten years Younger; Unhappy.
Older.
Love determines the feelings, and they, not years, the age
All are the younger or older, as thej feel either ; and active Love
makes any and all its subjects feel from ten to twenty years
younger than they felt before : and the more so, the more they
love ; whilst reversed Love makes all its victims feel ten, fifteen,
twenty years older than if they had not loved at all — a practical
difference of from twenty to thirty years ! All this in addition
to Love's actually lengthening life from twenty to fifty percent."^
Look at facts.
An elderly husband loses a disliked wife he wants to lose,
loves and marries one he wants to kcep^ and just see how young
and spruce, joyous and buxom, he becomes by his loss and gain —
rather two gains: whereas a man loses a good, loved, and gains
a poor, disliked wife, and how much older he looks for both
losses. All his young sap congeals.
Just see now much younger all, young and old, are at partiee
and balls, which are only Love feasts. Old maids and bachelors
always look older than they are; and flirting widows younger
than old maids of like ages.
A WOMAN OF THIRTY, Well courted, looks to be only about
twenty ; but a girl of nineteen has a serious " falling out " with
her lover ; and within a year looks, acts, and feels as if thirty :
and all women look and appear to be ten years older the next
day after a love-spat or scold. So do wives.
A Kentucky family moved to Indiana. One from their old
place calling, they asked how of this neighbor (I heard this) :
" What of Miae Joy ? Is she as lively, jolly, talkative, laughing, merry,
oharraiug, genial, since her marriage as before?"
"Just the reverse throughout — 3edat€, taciturn, demure, reserved,
distant, uncongenial, low-spirited, disheartened, pale, and looks for all the
world twenty years older than she did a year ago."
Oh, how many such ! Look. Yet you '11 see plenty without.
A loved, loving wife and mother, over twenty years ago,
brought her son for examination, when the following dialogue
occurred :
" Madam, you can't cheat me this way. This is n't your son ; for a
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woman of ooly sixteen, as you appear, can't be the mother of a boy of
five.*'
" This is my veritable son."
" Then you 're the most loving and the best loved woman in Provi-
dence."
" That I am. I have never felt one spark of regard for any other man
but my own dear husband, nor he for any other woman but me. Nor has
one unkind word ever transpired between us — nothing but perfect affec-
tion."
Eighteen years later this same woman brought this same son,
now large and tall, neither of whom I remembered, saying :
" Your other examination of this, my son, then five, did me and him
?o much good that —
" Your son, madam ? You can't cheat me this way. You don't your-
self look to be over twenty-five, and can't be the mother of a man twenty-
three."
" I AM NEARLY FORTY." ^
" Then you are the best loved woman in Providence."
" You used that same expression eighteen years ago at my other visit."
" Then your love since has been absolutely perfect."
" That it has. Nothing but the most complete affection has ever trans-
pired between us from youth, all the way up till now."
There, old maids, young maids, women, all, is your "perpetual-
youth elixir." There, husband, is the way to keep your wife
young — prevent her growing old and ugly. People think bear-
ing is what makes married women look so much older than
before. No such thing. It is healthy.*^ Their affections have
been blighted or reversed. " That 's what 's the matter," and
what makes most women look, feel, and be old in spirit while
yet young in years.
Attest, observe, all, how much younger you and " every-
body" act, and feel, and are, when in Love than when not, and
how much older by Love deferred, or blasted, or soured.
Lbt the whole world observe, experience, and then attest the
truth of this entire section. Truth ? Not its half, not its tithe,
is here told, or ever can be.
Thus it is, 0 man and woman, that the states of Love reign
supreme over every physical function, and all their outworking
expressions ; acting like magic both ways, upon all the bodily
manifestations of men, and doubly of women.
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Section in.
LOVE ENKINDLES, AND DEADENS, EVERY MENTAL FACULTY.
625. — Active Love electrifies the entire Social Group.
All organs located together naturally act in concert. Love,
located in this propagating group, might he expected to, and
doe8, rouse to intense action its every other member. It should
and does electrify Friendship, which thus becomes its natural
concomitant. Say, you who love, is not your dear one also your
nearest, dearest, and best friend f Indeed, most women mistake
the dawnings of Love for Friendship merely. All lovers are
friends because lovers ; for Friendship is the fast ally of Love.
Unloving maids and bachelors are generally cold, distant, cheer-
^less, and repellent till a hearty Love affair renders them genial.
Love of children is enhanced by Love. Young men, when
courting, instinctively make friends with all the boys, and draw
all the little girls cosily to them when waiting for their elder
sister ; while she is rendered much fonder of them by being
well courted. All those parents who love each other at all, love
incomparably the more because both love the same children ;
while many parents love each other quite well solely because both
love and live for the same dear children, who would otherwise
hate each other.
Love of home is intensified by conjugal Love. A home, tempo-
rary or permanent, becomes necessary soon after, and in conse-
quence of, marriage. As birds build their nests soon after they
mate, but never before ; so home, with all its joys, all its virtues,^
is the natural product of Love. How cheerless, how awful, all
abodes — homes they cannot he — are rendered by conjugal discord :
whilst married concord converts a hovel into a paradise. And
how much cherub children adorn home! but how deficient all
homes which lack them I
626. — Active Love quickens Force and Destruction.
Resolution and snap are toned up to their highest possible
pitch of nonnal action by a happy "Love affair;** yet less in
fierce conflict and ungovernable temper than in determined
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energy and unflinching valor. Men heartily in Love will do and
dare, endure and encounter, attempt and execute, to a degree
which nothing else could prompt. ^ While the hands of the
unloving and unloved hang inertly at their sides, those of the
lovins: and loved are taxed to their utmost, x^o stone is left
unturned, no efforts are too great, or obstacles too gigantic, for
them to grapple. While the former do nothing, care for nothing,
hut laxly let time hang heavily on their hands, and slide care-
lessly through them, living merely a vacuitive, objectless, inane
life, or if they essay to do at all, do tamely, as if they neither
expected nor desired success ; the latter take right hold with both
hands, rush right on with might and main, defying dangers, and
tussling right in with difficulties, as if to do, dare, and suffer for
Love's sake were a real luxury ; and throw a zest and power into
effort which accomplish their ends. No man can ever become a
hero, morally or physically, except under its inspirations. Let
those who would ever do or become anything noble and worthy,
learn this practical lesson from the records of chivalry ; that as
no knight-errant ever did or could do any bold, heroic deed of
valor or humanity unless inspired thereto by Love for some
woman, and incited by desire to gain her affections for whom he
lived; so no man, from the beginning of time to its end, ever
has done, can do, anything great, noble, humane, or worthy,
unless inspired by desire to gain or reawaken female affection.
What stimulates young Indians to their loftiest deeds of warlike
valor, but to enkindle this tender passion in idolized squaws ?
Two lately ran thernselves to death in a race, the winner to have a
squaw both wanted. Is not this principle quite as applicable to
intellectual attainments and moral excellence as to martial ex-
ploits? It is applicable everywhere, in everything. Those who
ever wish to attain or maintain any honorable position among
men, must first looe. And the more intensely and longer, the more
a hero in every sphere and pursuit. All are but tame poltroons
who do not love ; while Love renders even poltroons heroes.
All lovers are amiable. A happy Love state renders natural
churls and shrews pleasant towards each other, however cross-
grained they may be. Nothing whatever sweetens the temper
as does affection ; while nothing sours it as effectually as its dis-
appointment. No coarse, rough, blustering, threatening churl
Ban duly love ; for, if he did, he would look at everything
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through pleasant glasses, make the best of what transpires, enjoy
what he can, but bear patiently what he must, and always wear
a smile.®" A woman, ever so sweet-tempered by nature, when
disappointed in her affections, becomes soured in disposition,
looks cross-grained at everybody and thing, and is both hating
and hateful; while those naturally bad-tempered become real
Zantippes — fretting at every little thing, and storming at every
mishap, unless they break down under it, and merely live out a
mechanical life, trying to bless others, while desolate within.
Are not " old bachelors " proverbially notional and cross, hard to
please, and as peevish as sick children ? and old maids often real
shrews ? There are exceptions, consequent on another law, to be
explained hereafter; but is not this true of the majority? for
the happy state of Love throws all the surrounding animal organs
into a like state ; while its reversed action reverses them all.**- *•
Let those men, then, who have cross wives, here learn that they
have failed to satisfy their wives' Love, and try to obviate their
crossness by re-awakening affection; and let women who have
churlish husbands apply Love as the great panacea for their
irritability.
627. — Happy Love doubles, unhappy halves, Longevity.
Desire to live, including fighting off imminent sickness and
death, are by far the most efficient of all means of prolonging
life, and reinvigorating all its functions.^^ Testify, then, you who
have ever loved, if this Love did not intensify your desire to
live, both for life's own sake, and for that of him or her yon
loved. This is its legitimate, universal effect. But those disap-
pointed, care little for life or its pleasures, perhaps even crave
death, or commit suicide, as a deliverance from the agonies of
affectional despair, which produces sickness and hastens death ;
while satisfied Love repels disease, and lengthens life by mere
force of will. How many invalid women, so weakly that every
day would seem to be their last, live on surprisingly and uimc-
countably; clinging to life that they may do and live for loved
husbands and children! A happy state of the affections length-
ens, unhappy shortens, any life many years, besides having a like
effect on the states of health during life.***
Mrs. Gunn, in consumption, tried hard to induce her hus-
band to pledge himself to keep their family together ; knowing
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if he said he would, he would : but he would promise only to try.
Her disease progressed. All hopes of her recovery abandoned.
Her extremities cold and clammy. She began to die^ aiid knew it.
Failing, in her last attempt, while struggling with death, to ex-
tort his final promise, she resolutely exclaimed, " If you won't, I
WILL," and putting forth her mightiest effort of will, drove hack
the life-current to her surface; arrested the death process itself;
induced a crisis; recovered; kept her children together till all
got married ; and procuring a manikin, lectured for years on
female health.
A Love marriage is your best Life Insurance Company,
because it keeps alive the longer; while every other "policy"
merely promises to pay a bonus after death.
Statistics demonstrate that the married, on the average, out-
live celibates by several years ; yet even they would live much
longer if all loved each other.
628. — Love promotes and impairs Appetite and Digestion.
Good things eaten in Love alone can relish: and the more
affection, the richer their flavors. Even a dry crust becomes deli-
cious by being fondly shared with one beloved ; while " a stalled
ox eaten in contention," fails to satisfy. Affection is the best and
cheapest, yet rarest, table-sauce; and often renders the poor man's
scanty meal more luxurious to him than the dainty dishes and
costly viands of wealthy discordants ; while good food, mingled
with Love, yields the highest epicurean relish mortals can enjoy.
Eat ice-creams, candies, peaches, pears, grapes, with one you love,
you who would eat the most possible, with the highest zest ; yet,
old baches, board at the best hotels, call on the daintiest dishes
and choicest drinks, as regards fine flavors you might about as
well eat boiled chips ; for only boys who eat from greed, not flavor,
can ever really enjoy table luxuries unless eaten with or in sweet
remembrance of one beloved. All can eat several times more,
and digest it, too, when in Love than when not ; and the best
anti-bilious pills are those "sugar-coated" with affection. And
easy to take. Love happy, always cures dyspepsia; unhappy, causes
it. Many an unloving l^usband is dissatisfied with his dmners
because he dislikes his wife, who w^ould like it if he loved her ;
and many a loving loved wife waits for her meals till her hus-
band returns ; because she relishes and digests a cold dinner eaten
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in affection far better than a warm alone. All who would know
how good good things can taste, must eat in Love.
Husbands who dine down town lose more than they know
by rushing from business to dinner, and dinner to business ;
whereas if, dismissing what they cannot transact, they would
quietly enjoy their meals with their families, dyspepsia would
neither curtail their business labors, nor sour their tempers.
Eating " down town " makes them careless of their families, and
families of them. And how much better vegetables, fruits, all
edibles, relish when loving loved family pluck and serve them ?
Children at table are indispensable to every good meal ; and
instead of saying, "Let your victuals stop your mouths," encour-
age them to talk and make merry, while eating. !N^o cross words
should ever mar perfect table harmony. In discordant families
each snatches a bite and eats alone on the run ; while in con-
cordant, all eat together. Which is best ?
629. — Industry and Economy redoubled by Love.
Conjugal affection gets all it can, and keeps all it gets, not
needed for family use. Those married and betrothed prosper
best because they ask more and work better, besides being more
frugal, and laying up faster; while bachelors must pay more
for poorer fare, live from hand to mouth, and rarely become
wealthy. Considered merely as a pecuniary investment, a happy
marriage furnishes the highest incentive to lay up for a home ;
gather the means of creature comforts, and faxjilitates personal
luxury at a trifling cost ; and gives an excellent excuse for econ-
omy; while those who have no "dependencies," are expected to
launch out freely. Celibates must have some society, which they
seek in club-rooms, dances, theatres, &c. Thus thrown among
spendthrifts, they too must spend freely, or appear mean. Nothing
promotes late hours and bad habits equally with celibacy, nor
regularity as does affectionate wedlock. Bachelors can hardly
help escorting this lady and that to this party and that play,
which costs about as much as marriage. Bestowing on only one
woman will cost less than on several, and pay bactk her Love in
place of their ingratitude. Or what holds the plough, swings
the hammer, drives bargains, sails ships, works machinery, and
does up the industry of civilization, throughout all its ramifica-
tions, but Love combined with the £iimily affections? See that
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toiling laborer work all day, winter and summer, year in and
year out, and throw every dollar, as fast as earned, into the
family treasury, saying, " There, wife, get something for yourself
and the children." Strike it to-day from the soul of man, and
to-morrow hardly a plough would disturb the overgrown earth,
OT tool or machinery manufacture comforts for the race, or store
open, or hum of human industry break in on that universal
stagnation, industrial and mental, which must inevitably ensue.
We little realize how much our national prosperity is promoted
by Love, and its requirements.
Loving husbands spend lavishly on loved wife and daughters,^
though parsimonious towards others, and work hard to save their
need of working ; support them in a style far above their means ;
and work like slaves to pay for their rich dresses, stylish parties,
Ac, and in consequence often fail.
Love renders women industrious and frugal. How many ex-
travagant girls become economical housekeepers? Before they
love, they refuse to work ; whereas, prompted and ins.tructed by
affection, they easily learn to cook and sew, wash and bake, and
do gladly ten thousand things which nothing else could induce
them to attempt ; while industrious girls, by over-work and
pinching economy, often procure housekeeping articles — a good
way to inspire proposals. Yet
Blighted Love makes economical women lavish. What care
they for husband's money, except to squander on dress and style?
Or how hard he has to work for it? This culpable female extrav-
agance of fashion is due chiefly to heartlessness. Loving wives
will economize, if necessary, not waste. Said a woman, who could
not marry the man she loved,
" If I COULD LIVE IN LovE with the man I love, I would not care
how humble the style or hard the work ; but, denied that, I will captivate
and marry any man, though old, just to get the means of gayety and
display."
Describing a woman who had large Acquisition as economical
and industrious, her husband responded : " Perfectly correct in
all but her economy. Instead, she is really extravagant and
wasteful." She did not love him. His money was nothing to
her, except to spend. What incentive to economy had she?
" Support me," is the practical language of discordant wedlock ;
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•' Let us lay up something to enjoy together hereafter," that of
affection. The difference is amazing.
630. — LOVB ENHANCES OR DEADENS SECRETION AND CaUTION.
Love creates reserve ? How recluse young lovers are !
Struggling with intense emotion, they yet strive to hide their
passion. Women especially often conceal, sometimes deny,
rising attachment; and say and do what would indicate aversion,
instead of preference. And how often is a bashful man utterly
unable to express or manifest what he feels ? But when lovers
come to understand each other, and begin to reciprocate Love, do
they not desire to be together alone, in groves and by-paths ? Or,
if they tell their Love to outsiders, is it not always with an in-
junction of secrecy ? Who ever exchange the vows of betrothal
before folks ?
Love awakens Caution to its highest pitch. How intensely
anxious each loving party is to please and gain the other's Love ?
How agonizingly fearful lest they displease, and intense the
anxieties consequent on making a final choice 1 You have had
many anxious thoughts and hours ; but what solicitude as deep
as that to awaken Love in return, and decide whether you will
choose this one, or that ? If damsels ever need advice, it is in
deciding the resting-place for their affections. Add parental ex-
perience and counsel to youthful affection: and, parents, see that
you advise in wisdom, not prejudice.
How CAREFUL ARE ALL of lovcd oucs? sayiug :
" You 'll get wet, dear girl, and catch cold. Let me throw my coat
around you."
" No, dear, you need it most, for your health is the more important"
How TENDER, carcful, watchful, and solicitous are all men in
l^ove of the women they idolize ; while loving women are always
advising and cautioning, " Take care, dear," " Now do be care-
fi! * These fears evince not distrust, but affection. Caution
always accompanies Love.
How AGONIZING ARE FEARS that sick loved ones might diet
Young lovers or wives often literally quake perpetually with
foar lest affections, gained, be lost; lest they might unconsciously
offend or alienate ; yet such fear only redoubles danger. The
affections awaken more intense solicitude, as in wives when bus-
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bauds are absent over time, than anything else whatever ; yet
those wlio cease to love cease to care for. He who takes more
care of his horse than wife, loves it best.
631. — Active Love inspires, dormant deadens, Ambition.
Active Love always praises, reversed, blames. All are
prouder of those beloved than of everything else. How vain are
girls of their beaux, and all women of attentions and com-
pliments before folks from men they idolize? Why do all lovers
involuntarily compliment each other? Why do beaux always
praise, even flatter, their sweethearts, but because Love always
both praises, and loves to be praised ? She who takes pride in
rich dresses, sparkling diamonds, accomplishments, and even
beauty, knotvs not what pride means compared with her who is
proud of the man she loves, his manners, talents, morals, and
attentions to herself. Pride in dress indicates affectional barren-
ness ; because she whose Love for husband is complete, loves to
dress only to please him. Dissatisfied Love causes most of this
fashionable extravagance. Women dress mainly to gain men's
admiration. Therefore those satisfied with one man's praises,
rarely seek that of other men by fashionable display. The world
is challenged to invalidate this premise, or conclusion.
How proud is every man of the woman he loves ; practically
saying —
" See how fine the face and figure, how genteel and much admired this
lady I can escort, and who leans tenderly on my arm ! "
Nothing feasts any man's Ambition equally with praises
lavished on and from the woman he idolizes. For nothing else
will he work as for this. Yet nothing so mortifies and
humbles a man as his wife's disreputable conduct. He can bear
reproach heaped on his own head ; but her errors render him
downcast, crestfallen, and utterly unable to hold up his head
among men, at home or abroad. Or, reproaching his loved wife,
however justly, rouses his wrath into a frenzy ; while disparaging
Q, loved husband infuriates his wife with rage ; except, when
deserved, it kills her Love, and perhaps herself.
Love always hides faults. Let a man, loved by a wife, come
home drunk every night, she will stoutly protest "he don't
drink ; " or, if obliged to own that he does, always throws tho
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blame on others, even takes it on herself, to screen him. Those
who love are always excusing and extenuating ; while those who
unmask or magnity a consort's foibles, do not love.
KOTHINQ KILLS LoVE AS DOES BLAME. It 18 tO it what frOSt is tO
tender vegetation, and as instinctively shrinks from both giving
and taking otfence as from fire; because reversed Ambition re-
verses Love.
All fault-finding blights affection. One talented curtain-
lecture shoots Cupid right through the heart. Reproach makes
the blamed worse always, better never. Attest, all ye discord-
ants, did not blame thrust the first thorn into your hearts ? It
causes a large proportion of conjugal alienations. Whatever im-
plies censure, maddens and hardens. Both sexes were ordained
to obviate each other's errors, and develop each other's virtues,
by praise always, blame, never any. Express no censure by word
or deed, all ye who would retain afiection. Beware lest one shot
of reproach kill Love dead instantly.
632. — LovB revives or kills Self-respect, and Firmness.
Dignity and self-trust, so essential to life's successes and enjoy-
ments, are inspired by right, paralyzed by wrong, Love states. All
involuntarily reason, "I must be more than I thought I was, since
the one I esteem so much estimates me so highly." Jane's valuing
John makes him value himself. She tells him he can do this and
that ; he believes her, and tries ; which otherwise he would not
attempt. With what increased dignity and power he steps off
after he offers and she accepts his arm? because an idolized woman
puts herself under his martial protection.
No MAN IS DULY ESTEEMED in socicty till married or engaged ;
"old bachelor" being a stigma; while praise from a. consort won-
derfull}; improves any man's style, maimers, respectiibility ; yet
nothing creates a feeling of self-degradation, as if he were good
for nothing, and cared nought what becomes of himself, a will-
ingness even to tlirow himself away on any sensuous plciisure,
3<iually with Love blighted ; and the recklessness of many a dis-
appointed youth and married man is consequent on blasted Love
blasting self-valuation. The woman on whose favor he doted casts
him off, and he now casts off himself. Women little realize the
absolute power they wield over men, to build up or break down
their self-respect, that basis of all respect. No small |mrt of tke
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low-lived sensuality and self-abandonment of men and women,
married and single, is caused by a prior blight of their affections.
Nothing on earth does so much to elevate individuals and society,
and raise humanity upon a higher, loftier moral and intellectual
olane, as a r'lsht state of the affections.
Love increases or deadens Firmness. Even gray hairs still
muse tenderly over first Love. Attest all ye who have had occa-
sion to change your affection from one object to another, was
ever any other task half as hard, or feeling as persistent? And
many, alas, after vainly trying many years, are compelled to
abandon the attempt, though demanded by reason, morality, &c.
To gain the affections of a woman he idolizes, a man will perse-
vere more untiringly, surmount obstacles with more fortitude,
and labor more assiduously and persistently, than to attain any
other end of life. Let those who have defied the difficulties and
dangers of the briny deep; gone abroad to make their fortunes
in the face of all the diseases and prostrations of climate ; dug
California gold by the year, half-starved, half-clad, and bereft of
most civilized comforts and all luxuries ; and by a thousand like
ways attested their Love in almost superhuman determination
and sacrifice, that they might marry and bless the object of their
Love, attest how potent the stimulant it furnishes to Firmness.
But there is a point beyond which he may not properly press his
suit, when Firmness must yield. Yet
Love unnerved, unmans decision. Those disappointed drift
listlessly onward, they care little where or how ; and can be easily
persuaded into and out of almost anything, by anybody.
633. — Conscience elevated or demoralized by Love.
Lovers, all, married and single, bear this sacred witness — Did
not every loving emotion augment your desire to do right, and
loathing of wrong ; assuage all your grovelling passions ; cleanse
all desires ; enkindle aspirations for purity and goodness ; and
place you on a far higher moral platform than you occupied before?
How often do Love and marriage make bad men good, and good
better? Even religion is no more moralizing. No bad man
is in a happy affectional mood ; for this would render the worst
good, and convert brigands into excellent citizens. Most crim-
inals are single, or else badly married. The only loving criminal
I ever knew robbed a post-office to gratify his wife's love of display.
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If all were perfectly happy in marriage, no criminal lawyers,
judges, juries, jailers, states' prisons, or gallows, would ever
be required ; for scarcely a crime would be perpetrated. What
causes drinking equally with unsettled Love? for it throws all the
Faculties into that hankering, voracious, half-crazed state which
craves alcohol. Those who love, trip lightly homeward the mo-
ment their day's task is done, away from temptation. But ever
60 good men and women, if unhappy in their affections, even
though they do not stray, are desperately tempted. All honor
to all those who resist, yet pity, more than blame, all those who
fall ; for blighted Love deteriorates their moral tone, and rein-
flames their animal passions,^ besides irritating the nervous
system, and thus begetting passional cravings.^ Even all the
mighty moralizing influences wielded by the family over man-
kind,'^*^ originate in Love, and wax and wane with it.
Love must imbue Conscience as well as all the other Faculties,
in order to entail them on progeny.
634. — Influence of Love over Hope and Despair.
" Man never «, but always to be blessed." — PoPB.
What pleasures equal hope, or pains, despair ! Yet hope of
what literally transports expectant youth as do anticipations of
affectional felicities ? Humanity anticipates no other pleasures
with a tithe as much rapture of delight as Love consummated.
" Oh, if I can only win that dear girl's affections, my fortune is
made." " How inexpressibly blissful our future union will ren-
der us," and kindred feelings always accompany affection. Hopes
of neither property nor fame, of nothing, elate the soul as does
anticipating marriage with one beloved. Let all present lovers
testify from experience, and all past from memory. A young
woman, talking of her lover, exclaimed, speaking for all lovers ;
"Oh, if I only marry my G^eorge, which I hope to do, I shall be so
superlatively happy tliat I sha'n't want to go to heaven, because happy
enough on earth."
"Who but prefers success here with disappointment everywhere
else, to disappointment here with success in all other directions?
Adversity with Love is better than prosperity with hatred. Let
loss follow loss in quick succession, till all other hopes are stricken
down, lovers console each other with, —
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" Since our Love remains, and we are spared to love on, struggle on
together, what matters it ?
But blighted affection blights all. Ye who have suffered
disappointment in both Love and other cherished desires and
speculations, did not your Love blight crush you into the very
earth far the most ? Said one of iN'ature's noblemen, opening,
his large, moist eyes —
" You graphically described in myself and wife those traits which
render it impossible for me to live in affection with her. I married in
ecstatic hopes of conjugal felicity, only to awaken, ten days after, as from
a dream, to the terrible consciousness that there existed between us only
mutual disgust ; and have been good for nothing ever since. Before, life
was all buoyancy ; since, it has been all one sullen gloom. Before, I was
rising among men ; since, I have been sinking. Before, all my plans and
prospects exhilarated me; but this blight blasted them all. I have no
heart left even to try. I cannot go into company, because I can neither
play the hypocrite, nor bear to disclose my misfortune. Before, I strug-
gled for a furnished home, surrounded with life's comforts and luxuries ;
but since, a cold, chilling, mental palsy supervenes, and I have done barely
business enough to live along ; nor care to do more. Ambition fled with
hope. My former strong desires for these things and those, are now
quenched. Intensely desirous of having a happy group of my own chil-
dren growing up, yet religiously believing eternal damnation ' preordained '
for almost all human souls, I would not create any under so fearful a
risk. Thus passed ten years of life's parental heyday. My Calvinistic
doctrines changed ; yet what but poor children could I expect from so very
poor a mother ? Your examination said they were inferior, and I own
they are ; for such disunion could not produce mediocrity. I have vainly
tried my best to develop something in her, if only a straw, to save my
drowning hopes. I asked her in my happiest manner to go to our
children's school examination, to which she reluctantly consented. ' Now,'
thought I, * we will have one happy family jubilee;' but she soon began
to object, then refused to go. They kept saying, 'Pa, why didn't ma
come?' You ascribed to me great energy and power to think, plan, and
accomplish, which I know I possess ; but I have ever since let my hands
hang in listless indifference. Before, I longed to live ; since, I crave to
die; and, but for disgracing my children and relatives, would gladly throw
myself on the track before that ponderous engine, and be crushed to
death. I am undone I What shall I, can I do — struggle on, or give up,
lie down, and await a welcome death ? "
Poor man! A noble ship without her rigging! A soaring
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eagle with clipped wings ! and lead tied to his claws. A
splendid wreck! "good for nothing" to himself, family, fellows!
Has he no sorrowing brethren and sisters in blighted Love ?
The sad, woe-begone looks and aspects of oh, hx>w many, pro-
claim a like vacuity, inanity, such as only frost-bitten Love can.
cause. Few realize this origin of their own and others' inanity.
But
Disappointed woman suffers far the most. Let her possess
fortune, luxuries, honors, everything else heart can wish, yet
when the frosts of disappointment nip the opening buds of her
affections, she yields to unmitigated despair. This hope gone,
all is gone. And, oh, how cheerless and hopeless, how utterly
crushed out, that wife, who, married unhappily, looks forward
only to a life of unrequited Love ! She feels as if the last bud
had now been plucked from the rose-bush of her future anticipa-
tions, and to her there remain only the sear and yellow leaf of
autumn, and the leaflessness and dreariness of dread winter!
Fortunately, however
The majority of men drown their connubial disappointments in
business ; which accounts for that incessant drive, early and late,
year after year, which many evince. If happy at home, they
would spend fewer hours in the counting-house, and have less
business to do nights. They must do something, or die ; and
better business than nothing, or vicious amusements. This heart-
desolation often renders them all the more indomitable and
grasping, stern and obstinate, cold and selfish ; perhaps increas-
ing their power, and redoubling their rapacity. And are there
no wives who, desolate at heart, attempt to supply the place of
blighted love-hopes by the frivolities and splendors of fashion?
Yet how futile the effort! Still, better this than despairing
inanity. But if this affectional despair induced only fashion
and business, its evil would be comparatively slight. It also
induces many masculine vices and feminine frailties besides.**
Disappointed Love makes them seek its poor substitutes outiaide
of wedlock, which a happy home-love would forestall.
Love must control Hope; else, how could it transmit it?
635. — LOVB ELICITS OR DEADENS SPIRITUALITY AND WORSHIP.
Love creates an ethereal, elated, ecstatic feeling, as if not
of this world, but of another. Testify, ye who have ever loved,
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whether it did not spiritualize every exercise of all your Facul-
ties ? A very- highly organized woman becomes, as it were, a
prophetess to him she loves. If any course is likely to prove
disastrous, she foresees it by a spiritual intuition,^* and sounds
her notes of alarm. Or, if she is impressed that a given course
is best, best it is ; so that he who has a fine-grained and loving
wife, has a sure guide in all the little and great affairs of life.
8he is his guardian angel, to forewarn against dangers, and point
out the paths of safety — a possession truly invaluable ! But
those who hate, never experience either these ecstatic feelings, or
internal premonitions. And that union of spirit, though sepa-
rated in body, already described,^^* is due mainly to Spirituality
being re-increased by Love, in order to its transmission. So too
Love elicits or deadens Worship. Even atheists, who truly
love, will involuntarily invoke Divine guardianship on those
loved ; and it is when devout worshippers bow before the family
altar, thanking God for past blessings, and supplicating their
continuance, that Worship rises to its highest orisons of gratitude,
prayer, and praise. Phrenology sanctions " family prayers " — the
confluent action of Worship with the loves. Ko small part of
the church-going of mankind is due to it. Men would not con-
tribute a tithe as much to religion as now, but that they would
fain provide a place where they can go to meeting with their
families.^^^ You who have ever loved, testify, did not Love create
a prayerful spirit ? But does not despair in Love breed infidel
feelings, and a " curse-God-and-die " spirit ?
636. — Normal Love develops, reversed hardens. Kindness.
Mutual lovers never can do enough for each other ; and do all
with the utmost pleasure. What superhuman endurance of fatigue
and suffering, greater than any other motive could inspire or en-
dure, do fond husbands and wives manifest towards each other
in suffering ? — only Love's spontaneous free-will offering. What
want of either but is gratified by the other, at whatever cost and
sacrifice ? Love keeps practically saying —
" Wife, I am delighted by seeing you enjoy this and that. Can I help
you to anything else ? "
" Husbandf what table tit-bit can I provide you to-day?"
" Wife, you Ve been confined all day : come, rest or recreate, while I
mind our child."
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Indulgence is its natural language, and sympathy its universal
concomitant. How every loving man enjoys bringing home some
dainty luxury for his wife's palate, some nice acquisition to her
wardrobe, some article needed about house ! Sun lights up no
sacrifices as incessant, as spontaneous, as those proffered by affec-
tion. All loving wives are perpetually offering themselves up
veritable live-burnt sacrifices on the altar of their husbands' inter-
ests. And kindness elicits Love most effectually. Yet
Love reversed hardens beyond expression ; while unkind neas
kills it. Indifferent husbands often enjoy seeing their wives
struggling on to their utmost, sinking while the}^ struggle under
burdens and sufferings amounting to real agony, thinking, " good
enough for you, old jade." The most cold-blooded cruelties ever
inflicted by human being on humanity, torturing out their very
life by slow but agonizing inches, murders included, are often per-
petrated by hating husbands on hated wives, or hating wives on
hated husbands. Poetry has crystallized this fact thus :
" Earth hath no fiend like Love to hatred turned,
Nor hell a fury like a tooman scorned."
Neglect of those pretended to be loved, proves hypocrisy and
kills their Love. Said a stricken woman, before him, —
" I LOVED my husband with my whole soul. All my interests were
only to promote his. To him I consecrated every particle of ray strength,
my very being. He fell sick. I nursed him till he began to recover, when
exhaustion, consequent on over-devotion to him, made me sick. But how
great the change I I could not tear myself from his sick-bed night or day .
he could not stay an hour by mine. His work must needs be done, though
I suffered from neglect Finally, the truth flashed across my mind that
he did not love me, else he could not thus sacrifice my relief to his work.
My Love perished, and became hardened. Desolate in spirit, another man's
kindness involuntarily drew it forth. I confessed all to my husband, and
tried again to love him, but all in vain. Unkindness turned my devotion
into loathing. Is he, or am I, the most blamable?*'
637. — LOVB BNHANOBS CONSTRUCTION, BkaUTY, AND SUBLIMITY.
Mated birds build their nests together during their honey-
moon. Could they build thus ingeniously unless inspired by
Love? How many domiciles do old bachelors or maids rear?
Blot out Love, and only rookeries would be made. But no sooner
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do two settle their Love than, if able, they together plan and
build their future home ; often spending more on it than they
can well afford. Does not Love incite and increase his mechan-
ical skill ? and prompt and guide her hand to execute many articles
of ornament and use which only it would conceive or attempt?
Unloving and unloved, she will not work ; whereas, loving and
beloved, she becomes able and willing to cut and make, work and
mend, draw and paint, and do anything to " help along."
All lovers are proverbially sentimental. Is not Love always
poetical ? and poetry Love's natural channel of expression ? All
versifying youth are in Love, and all in Love versify, while disap-
pointment writes mournful poetry. Byron's Love effusions are his
most poetical. Burns's are more. Sappho's most. Lovers love
to commune together by rippling streams, in shaded groves, by
silvery moonlight, plucking pretty flowers, weaving them into
each other's hair or dress, admiring together beautiful sunsets
and landscapes. They become almost too dreamy and unreal for
this gross earth, and its material surroundings. The best way to
promote affection and reenlist drooping Love, is to adore God in
!N'ature. If the married would but establish a habit of mutually
enjoying together the pure and beautiful, they would thereby
both assimilate and intensify their Love. Those who admire
bird, tree, flower, Nature, and art together, thereby reenlist a
higher order of Love than ever before existed, or than they can
by any other means.
Love polishes. Just as soon as that careless country lass begins
to love, she begins to wash and comb, mend and make, slick up and
look tidy. Female society polishes men, and male women. Par-
lors, with all their beautiful furniture and vases, refined manners
and amusements,^ originate in Love, and are redoubled by it.
In fact, most of the amenities, civilities, courtesies, elegancies, and
refinements of civic society grow out of that intermingling of the
sexes prompted by Love. It alone, actual or prospective, or else
female society, keeps men tidy ; while fond wives make and mend,
wash and iron, comb and brush, to make loved husbands look nice
and clean. Love alone, aided by religion, brought " society " out
of barbarism, and keeps it out ; which but for it, would relapse
into heathenism.
Disappointment benumbs taste and creates vulgarity, and de-
bases throughout. What else renders so many tidy girls such
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slatternly housekeepers ? See that disappointed swain. His hat
is slouched, and linen dirty. His boots are old, and clothes seedy.
Pins or nails fasten on what few buttons remain. His hair ia
uncombed, and face unshorn. He is shabby throughout, unless
he dresses up to visit the ladies. To the disappointed, all Xature
seems dressed in mourning. Her beauties have become defor-
mities. Her flowers now seem dingy. Her charining prospects
charm no more. Her gay songsters have lost their thrilling notes.
The plumage of her warblers is unheeded, or retroverts the dis-
satisfied eye. Her glory has departed. Her very sun rises and sets
in gloom. Even life itself becomes a stale monotony ! Eclipsed
Love eclipses all.
A VELVETY BLOOM covcrs many luscious fruits. Now Love im-
parts this bloom to everything beheld. All Nature looks as if
covered with it. But as when these fruits begin to decay, this
beautiful bloom gives place to a green, loathsome mould ; so disap-
pointed Love makes everything appear as if covered all over with
this nauseating mould. To enjoy Nature, one must first be in
Love.
638. — Imitation and Mirth doubled, or halved, by Lovb.
We naturally become like those we love, but refuse to pat-
tern after those disliked. Children are forever doing like father,
teacher, uncle, or whoever they fancy ; but never imitate those
they hate. Is not this human nature ? How forcibly this apper-
tains to Love ? How involuntarily lovers fall into each other's
habits, and conform and assimilate in everything?"* Neither will
dispute as to which shall set, and which follow, the examples ;
for the one which loves the most will conform the most. To do
and become like, is the natural prompting of Love. How beauti-
ful is this provision !
Lovers are always merry. Was not Cupid justly called " the
laughing god"? Does not Love bedeck the countenance with its
sweetest smiles? How 'naturally we joke those just beginning
to love! And they like it. Wliat provokes laughter in refined
and vulgar equally with love allusions? How merry and light-
hearted, how sportive and gay, lively and frolicsome, all who are
in Love ! But
Disappointment banishes laughter, and renders its victiDM
( erious and sober, sad and solemn, as though they had lost every
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friend, and been bereft of every earthly good. How spiritless
those become who are uncongenial 1 How strangely sad that once
lively woman has become since her unhappy marriage !^ Before,
how full of fun ; since, scarcely one smile enlivens her sunken
oheeks. Or, if occasion prompts a laugh, she chokes it back as if
it were ill-timed, and mirth sacrilegious. She says in action, —
" Gambol on, and laugh away, you who can, while I must remain forever
cast down."
639. — Love sharpens up all the Perceptive Faculties.
Each sex scans the opposite much more closely than its own.
Does not Love observe their every look and motion in general, and
those of loved ones in particular ? and make them seem to the
loving more beautiful than they really are, or would otherwise
look ? To all in Love all objects seem more highly colored than
before, or after. Landscapes appear richer and more varied in
hues ; flowers are tinted with more gorgeous colors ; green becomes
greener, and yellow yellower, when inspected through glasses of
Love ; but less than the reality to the disappointed.
Love reddens the cheeks and lips of both, besides making each
look still more rosy to the other.^^ Behold in that maiden's
blush the most beautiful bloom on earth ! Is it not due solely to
incipient Love? But when it dies, ashy pallor supervenes. Those
in Love never need to paint. All the beautiful colors of all flowers
originate in Love ; for their blooming period is simply their sex-
ual season. Hence all lovers are passionately fond of flowers.
640. — Order, Time, and Tune re-increased by Love.
Love makes slatterns methodical, spruce, painstaking, neat in
person, and good housekeepers. How many women at marriage,
ignorant of method and housekeeping, whom no motive but to
please those they love could induce to touch household matters,
become first-rate housewives ! Yet what disorder and confusion,
without time or place for anything, meals out of season, every-
thing out of joint, naturally result from discord! Love naturally
enkindles Order so as to entail it. Yet
Disappointment sometimes increases Order. Many married
women, unloving and unloved, revert to method and neatness as
a diversion or hobby ; because they have nothing else on which
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to expend their energies, or relieve enyiui. Such become exces-
sively particular. Are not " old maids " proverbially " old-maid-
ish " as to Order? And do we not find advancing bachelors par-
ticular as to the fit and cleanliness of their apparel ?
Sometimes the unmarried are as good scholars, possibly, as if
in imperfect Love, while conjugal discord often so irritates the
married as to push them out into more energetic efforts than if
in a passable state of Love ; but to the best life-long application
of either and all the mental Faculties, a Love mood is indispen-
sable. Thus say both fact and philosophy.
Love redoubles Time. The dance owes its chief attractions to
its perfection. Both sexes are necessary to dancing well- That
brisk, lively, genteel, gallant style, prompted by Love,"^ also pro-
motes it. Yet those who have lost their Love, care little ft)r
balls. Their dancing days are over. Active Love begets, crushed
Love crushes, both the desire and ability to shake gayly **thG
light, fantastic toe." Those who love each other keep step in
walking, while those who do not love, rarely step together.^"
Family regularity in eating, retiring, rising, everything, both
prolongs life, and renders it by far the happier; whilst irregularity
is practical suicide.^ Now,* Love promotes the former, its disap-
pointment the latter. Those who truly love will be at home in
time, keep good hours, and be regular in all their daily habits.
In short, nothing promotes health, longevity, scholarship, morals,
happiness, and progress as effectually as periodicity, or periodicity
as conjugal affection.
Love inspires song. Do not all singing birds sing most and
sweetest in their mating season? Mocking-birds, kings among
feathered songsters, singing only then; obviously because awa-
kened Love throws them into an ecstatic mood, of which music ib
the best expression ; and because singing naturally attnicts and
enamours mates. But for Love, their melodious strains would
cease.
Love renders the human voice sweeter and softer, far mon
melodious and impassioned,**' besides begetting that exhilaration
of spirit which naturally expresses itself in lively music."® On]j
the music of those who love is truly musical. None can sing or
play charmingly till they have loved ; nor any in disappointment
Why are so much pains taken to render girls accomplished in
music, but because it awakens and expresses Love? Not only
does sexuality give that deep bass voice to the nmn, and fine tenor
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voice to the woman, but active Love softens, sweetens, and enriches
the vocal i ties of both.*^ How superlatively enchanting the music
of fully-matured women would be, if brought up and kept in
an atiectionato mood, from childhood, cannot be imagined. Yet,
alas ! rarely indeed is female Love completely developed, while the
great majority have cither that mongrel voice, or that tameness
and goneness, which disappointment always causes. In short
Love controls parental Tune, so as to impress it on progeny.
641. — Love redoubles pleasurable and painful Eeminiscences.
Love vivifies all recollections associated with it. Review
your own past. Some scenes strike your retrospection in bolder
prominence, in clearer outline, than others, like mountain peaks
on a day's journey. How old hearts throb as memory lights on
this, that, the other young Love season ! Age remembers nothing
so clearly. How distinctly Locality recalls the winding path-
ways, the rippling streams, the little mounds, the green-leaved
trees, the exact places and looks of every object associated with
Love ? even the very conversation and words interchanged, and
writes every look and act imperishably, as with the point of a
diamond, upon the tablet of memory, in characters which grow
larger and brighter with time. And nurtured Love in husbands
and wives through life, would consecrate all their walks and rides,
all their delicious fruits and meals shared together, all their mu-
tual kindnesses and amenities, and consecrate, hallow, sanctify,
and embalm whatever scenes and seasons are associated with it.
What human reminiscences are as dear as those it consecrates,
especially its acknowledgment, proposal, and acceptance ? Yet
What memories are as painful or soul-harrowing as those
of broken Love ? The first " love spat " never is, can be, for-
gotten. All its little aggravating circumstances remain sunken
right into the disk of memory in imperishable characters, there
to stand right out in bold, glaring, hideous relief, painful to be-
hold, yet forever staring in the face, undying till you die. So be
extra careful, all ye who love, to associate with Love only pleas-
urable, never painful memories.
642. — Love awakens and blunts Language and Reason.
Lovers always talk, and express themselves elegantly. Won-
dering beforehand what they can find to say all these long hours,
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Love inspires both matter and raauner. They talk on, hour after
hour, incessantly and beautifully ; always using the right words
in the right places. Love furnishes classical ideas and language
to those plain, stolid lovers, whom nothing else could raise to
mediocrity. • Young man, think how glibly your tongue rattled
away while you were courting. And girls who do not talk when
well courted, will never talk. Yet there 's no trouble about that.
Separated lovers write each other sheet after sheet, with post-
scripts, yet cannot then tell all they would ; for the more they love
the more they have to say, and the more elegantly, beautifully, even
eloquently they say it. How full of meaning is every sentence ! How
intensitied every expression ! How delicately they express their in-
terchange of compliments ! How full of thought and sentiment !
What creates this increased fiow of ideas and arguments, reflection
and philosophy, depth and brilliancy, sense and discrimination,
as does Love ? It also quickens Causality to devise the very best
ways and means for accomplishing ends, and escaping danger in
emergencies. How much richer and deeper the flow of ideas with
Love than is possible without 1 Are not love-letters, besides being
long, beautifully composed and writterl, glowing, descriptive, full
of elevated sentiments, better in every single characteristic of fine
composition than writings prompted by any other mental stimulus?
A volume of the select love-letters of gifted minds would be the
most readable, instructive, poetical, philosophical, and really bril-
liant book ever penned. See " Loves of the Poets." Re-read
your own love-letters. The conjugal correspondence of both the
Adamses illustrates this point. The love-letters written to Aaron
Burr are said to surpass anything ever written for intensity and
beauty of expression. Wliat imparts to novels their chief attrac-
tion but the love nvood in which they are generally composed?
Is not every sentence literally inspired ? Is it in you otherwise
to write thus well? Yet if you had continued to love, you
would have continued to write still better. Yet
A DEAD stupor supervencs on Love blighted. What palsy has
seized both flow of thought and felicity of expression? Th6«e
in sexual aversion say little, and reply mainly in monosyllables
and truncated sentences ; are averse to conversation on any sub-
ject; have nothing to say, and come and go in silence; besidei
being lost and absent-minded, as if an intellectual vacuity had
deadened their intellects, and muzzled their tongues. Love
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reversed causes weariness the most weary, monotony the most
monotonous, repugnance the most repugnant. The treadmill
and dungeon are preferable. How pitiable such ; yet how many !
Let universal experience and observation attest how true this is.
643. — Urbanity and Intuition enhanced, and killed, by Love.
Lovers are always bland and winning, complimentary and
courteous, charming and taking; non-lovers the converse. Those
in a loving mood are always fascinating; those in aversion, repel
all they meet. The former have a " sweet, pretty " way of saying
and doing things which invariaby draws others around them ;
while those in disappointment, involuntarily displease. The for-
mer are lovely, the latter hateful. All feel drawn to the former,
driven from the latter. Love throws its votaries into the '''•honey
mood," from its first dawn as long as it continues. What else
gives the coquette her coquettishness ? All the Faculties take
on that insinuating action which throws an indescribable charm
around whatever emanates from them. This is perceptible to all.
Then
How MUCH MORE to Its 'participants ? How spellbound and fasci-
nated each is by the other I Words only mock our subject. Let
their actions and memories bear witness, not merely that this is
true, but say hoio true. Yet
Disappointment changes all ! The whole cast of action, then so
attractive, now becomes repulsive. Those very Faculties then in
a mood so lovely, are now in one so hateful. Those fascinating
little sayings and doings then smooth, now rough. What fiend
has plucked that wheat, and sown these tares ? Disappointment,
In describing character phrenologically, I need two charts and
descriptions for the very same Faculties and combinations — one
for those in a Love mood, the other for those in a disappointed :
so effectually does reversed Love reverse the entire tone, cast,
and practical workings of all the Faculties, in all their manifes-
tations.<^'«
Ex-lovers are doubly repugnant to each other. Actions agree-
able to others are odious to them ; partly from the disagreeable
mood of the acting party, but more from the jaundiced eyes of
the hating observer. You in this mood please recall the heaven-
wide difference between your feelings and actions then and now,
and appreciate this double cause; much in the different moods
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of each, most in thie eyes through which each looks ; and then
try to restore your former charms by restoring your former affec-
tional and therefore captivating mood. You little realize how
perfectly repugnant this mood renders you ; as those in Love are
unconscious how inexpressibly fascinating they are.
Intuitive perception of character is also quickened by Love.
Do not men instinctively discern the beauties and deformities of
female character, and women those of men, sooner than either sex
those of its own? Cannot knowing women read men through
much quicker and better than women women, or men men ? Do
not men scrutinize, scent out the characteristics of women, espe-
cially of those they love, with more instinctive correctness than
those of men? Hence when a loving wife warns her husband
against certain male acquaintances or customers, he had better
take heed ; and likewise wives, when warned by loving husbands.
Here is a beautiful and useful fact in the natural history of Love.
Yet reversed Love blinds this discernment, at least of the excel-
lences of those once loved, yet doubles their deformities.
644. — Love builds up or breaks down the whole Being.
The destinies of all lie at the footstool of Love. Its normal
exercise kindles a new flame to light, warm, intensify, exhilarate,
and intoxicate, almost to delirium, each individual Faculty, and all
combined. A right Love state exalts, ennobles, and electrifies be-
yond all computation ; and doubly women. Words are powerless
to portray its beneficial effects. No other motive begins to wield
over human life and destiny, anything like the quickening, elating,
even ecstatic influence wielded by reciprocal afl:ection. It efl\3Ct8
a complete physical and mental regeneration. Its subjects seem
to themselves and others like new beings. Another world has
opened upon their enlarged vision ; so wonderfully does it quicken
and intensify every life-function. Since exercise strengthens all
physical and mental Faculties,** and Love warms, elicits, and
excites them all, it cultivates, expands, improves each singly, and
all collectively. And the more and longer one loves, the more it
disciplines and develops the whole being; physical, social, pas-
sional, aspiring, intellectual, and moral. Nothing equally. It
evolves a thousand virtues and powers which otherwise must
lie dormant, doing for humanity what good farming does for
rich land — crowns it with magnificent crops. Of course it
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improves those most who are best sexed: and our description
presupposes not mere spiritless things, but love - subjects fully
endowed with this element ; and its bestowment upon one who
completely develops it. Yet
Disappointment depresses all as far below their natural plane
as perfect Love exalts them above. Testify, you who have ex-
perienced both. Bear faithful witness, though against your own
selves, you who to-day lie prostrate, withering in its scorching
rays, or seething in its boiling caldron. Shrink not from the pain-
ful reminiscence ; it may save you. Go back first to your youth-
ful, light-hearted seasons before you loved. Then re-read, in Mem-
ory's hallowed page, that delightful bloom your first young Love
spread throughout your entire being. How beautiful, how glow-
ing its lambent fiame ! This sacred life-spell, re-increased with
Love ! But
Alas ! your bright love-morning became first clouded, next
darkened. Then Passion's winds began to blow. Then arose the
billows of sensuality ; and its roaring waves ran mountain high.
The tempest blew a perfect hurricane. The pouring deluge soiled
and drenched your spotless moral habiliments. Did you walk as
proudly, or feel as purely, or care as much for yourself after as
before ? Well done, if you so steered your shattered bark before
its howling winds as to escape a complete wreck, physical and
moral. Was not every seam in your noble vessel self-strained ?
Has she not sailed poorly and leaked badly ever since, and been
in imminent danger of foundering? Possibly a patched-up Love
saved you from final wreck ; stopped some of the largest leaks
of passion ; re-set some of the flapping sails of good resolutions ;
supplied a temporary mast of determination, much better than
nothing; and saved the fragments of the rudder of will. Yet
just compare yourself since, with what you were before. Life's
ideal bloom eftaced. Its glowing colors faded. Its exalted aims
lowered. Your entire selfhood partly benumbed, and partly cor-
rupted. You are not the same person. Your life is efiectually
crippled throughout. Then your ambition was boundless, now
it is inert.^^ Then you loved and aspired to moral purity and ex-
cellence, and shrank from vulgarity and sensuality ; now, though
you mean to live a medium life, you experience nothing like
your former abhorrence of the very appearance of evil.^ Your
intellect, love of knowledge, and capacity to acquire it, have cor-
T^OVE ENKINDLES, AND DEADENS, EVERY FACULTY. 283
respondinglj declined. How marked your deterioration through-
out!
Declining Love caused all. You may not fully realize thia
decline, much less its extent or cause; but there it is. While
those who have never loved are yet in a chrysalis state of hu-
manity, as worm compared with butterfly, on a low human plane;
those in disappointment have been lifted above, only to be dashed
below, their normal state. And the longer and deeper their Love,
the more destructive their fall ; bones broken, spirits crushed,
intellects and morals blunted, and whole entity almost wrecked.
Phrenology portrays man's pristine beauties and capacities in
exalted colors ; yet also discloses everywhere its most lamentable
deterioration and perversion, along with its one great cause, not
in tobacco nor alcohol, &c., but disappointed Love. Even his uni-
versal and appalling physical degeneracy and diseases are due
chiefly to this same cause. Hear, all philosophers and poeta,
learned and laborer, and especially ordained moralists, this my
deliberate proclamation to all Christendom, all Heathendom, as
a conclusion thrust upon me by the largest, most varied, most
scrutinizing observation, aided by the best of all facilities for
observation, that the great bulk of human misery and deteriora-
tion, of enfeebled bodies and wrecked minds, of depressed morals
and palsied intellects, of the fallen state of man in every aspect,
its total depravity included, is consequent chiefly on disappointed
Love. Few escape shipwreck on this deadly shoal.
A HAPPY PAIR occasionally manifests perfect Love. How per-
fectly lady-like is such a wife! Hers is not the afl:ected lady ism
of "society," but the outgushings of perfect humanity, beauti-
fully expressed. All her words are " fitly spoken," all her actions
and motions classical and perfect. Every intonation is the music
of the spheres, and all the emanations of her moral and social
being are truly angelic; because prompted by a hearty sexuality,
inspired by Love.
Her kind, tender husband, too, whose perfect conjugal aflfeo-
tion has enhanced every virtuous and smothered every vicious
proclivity, whose goodness beams forth in every look, act, and
expression, only shows how pure and good all might become, if all
the loves had been duly develoi>ed from childhood, through youth,
up to mature manhood, and through a ripe old age to a peaceful
death. Loving a little, a little while, improves a little; loving
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intensely a little while, benefits more ; but the longer and more
intense that Love, the more it ripens its subjects up into perfect
men and women. No human beings can attain their full stature
of humanity, except by loving long, and perfectly.
Behold that venerable man! So mature in judgment, per-
fect in every action and expression, and saintly in goodness, that
you almost worship as you behold, because thus perfected in his
virtues, and rounded ofiT and moulded up in his asperities, mainly
by Love, which permeated every pore, and seasoned every fibre
of his soul, as could nothing else.
Scan that matronly woman, in the bosom of her family. All
her looks and actions express the overflowings of some or all
the human virtues. To know her is to love her. She became
thus perfect not in a day or year, but by a long series of appro-
priate means. By what? Chiefly Love, which is specifically
adapted to this maturity. Nothing else could effect it. Then go
and perfect thyself likewise, by cultivating a like perfect Love
state. But
Disappointed Love sours and crushes all; rendering women,
however good their heads and hearts by nature, repellent. They
feel awfully, and this diffuses a like feeling over all around them.
They dislike, and this renders them disliked. Those who hate,
are hateful ; while those who love, are always lovely. Those who
fight off its crushing eft'ects, become repulsive Xantippes ; and are
repulsed by all. Those who break down under it, take on the air
and natural language of " injured innocence," and become so
melancholy as to throw all around them into mourning. They
speak sadl}^ as if heart-broken and abused ; thereby practically
telling observers how shamefully they have been injured. And
this implied condemnation of husband provokes and sours his
temper. Nothing is the matter really, only both have been thus
thrown into a hateful mood by reversed Love "'^ reversing every
other Faculty ; thus rendering all their actions and expressions
repellent. Two who love each other, feel and behave pleasantly
to, and bear much from, each other; yet when their Love is re-
versed, each becomes cross-grained towards the other, though
amiable to others. They cannot talk together one minute, on
the commonest subject, without disputing, and live in perpetual
antagonism. Yet he is amiable and patient towards another
woman with whom he is in sexual harmony ; as is she with some
LOVE ENKINDLES, AND DEADENS, EVERY FACULTY. 28/5
other concordant man. Their amiableness at first, subsequent
antagonism, and lovableness towards another in sexual sympathy,
is consequent solely on the effects of different sexual states upon
the temper.^ The world is full of just such living examples of
this great truth. Our proposition is that —
Reversed Love reverses especially the surrounding propensi-
ties, which renders the lovely hateful,*^^* the lively sad,^^'' the bright
dull, the smart inert, the careful careless, the good good for noth-
ing, even bad, and the virtuous vicious. Or thus : All virtue,
happiness, morality, and goodness consist in the normal or right,
and all badness in the reverse or abnormal exercise, of the human
Faculties ; ^' *^® and the right state of Love both intensifies and
normalizes every other human function ; while its wrong state
withers, sours, perverts, abnormalizes, and vitiates all the others.
645. — Love controls the Destinies of the Race, both Ways.
Does Love wield all this power over human nature ? Are
these delineations too intensified or sweeping? Instead, not half
is or can be told. The more one observes and experiences, the
more deeply will these truths sink into the innermost recesses of
the soul, as the most potential realities of life. Ten thousand
virtues and vices, beauties and deformities, talents and inanities,
are traceable directly to affectional states. How great the num-
ber of those naturally excellent and lovely, rendered bad and hate-
ful by desolate hearts!^ But they are easily restored, for their
good qualities are yet there, though eclipsed. They need only a
true Love conversion. A right Love perfectly developed from the
first, would change the entire aspect of mankind, individual and
collective; convert our moral desert into one great garden of
Eden, inexpressibly beautiful and perfect ; and make Humanity
but little lower than angels. Do devils love? Or if they did,
would not perfect Love convert even them ? It is the perfection
of the law of humanity, goodness, and happiness, as disappoint-
ment is of sin and misery. That great " social evil," in all itfl
forms and phases, public and private, of which the Richardson
tragedy is but one of millions, has disappointed and perverted
Love for its cause.
Right and wrong Love does for the race what it does for each ;
moralizing or vitiating, building up and breaking down the
human family as a whole. If, commissioned from the court of
286 ANALYSIS AND POWER OF LOVE.
Heaven to accomplish for man the greatest possible good, even
to usher in the latter-day glory, I were allowed to choose but one
single instrumentality, that one would be perfect conjugal Love.
Give to man but one generation of happy marriages, and you give
him a millennium, in greater glory and perfection than prophet
ever foretold ; take off the raw edge from all his passions ; forestall
all public crimes and vices; purify parentage; and people the
earth with a race most exalted. Children of affectionate wedlock
are higher, purer, more amiable and affectionate, more intellec-
tual and moral, than those of discordant.^ Perfect Love and a
right physical state will usher in and constitute a millennium.
Nor can this long-expected, this glorious era transpire without
both. Hence, whatever is calculated to promote conjugal Love,
therein and thereby ushers in this long-looked-for glory .*^^
646. — Why and How Kature effects all these Love Marvels.
Love transmits. In this consists its entire rationale.
The mind constitutes the man.^^ Therefore Mature must make
her most perfect and absolute provision for its entailment.
The bkain and nerves constitute her organic means for theii
manifestation ; and must then be somehow *put into sympathetic
rapport the most absolutely perfect with this transmitting agent,
so that its every action shall rouse the entire brain and nerves,
or mental and sentient apparatus, to its very highest pitch of
action, in order to transmit it. How else could she entail this
mutual life-chit on offspring ? So much for the work to be done.
Next, just how, by what ingenious contrivance, does Love rouse
this mentality ? We have already explained that anatomical means
by which they are interwoven.^ But this dry anatomy is only
its machinery. Some motive power must set and keep it in action.
What is it ? This
Love electrifies the nerves and brain. Electricity is the life
agent.^" It effects their action thus : Mentality, including sensa-
tion, originates in and by the action of their gelatinous portion.^
This jelly is on the outside of the hrain^ and inside of the nerves^
the balance of both simply transferring what it originates. This
outside of each nerve forms a sheath for this inside 'pith to work
in. Electricity applied at either end of this gelatinous pith jars,
agitates, oscillates, undulates, that end of this jelly where it is
applied, which instantly agitates it throughout its course to the
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other end ; thus causing sensations of pleasure whenever this
touch is beneficial, of pain when it is injurious ; as when fire
touches the skin.
Sexual electricity*^ applied at the brain end by Love, instantl/
flashes throughout the entire brain and nervous system, and ere- •
ates that action, undulation, oscillation, throughout both, which
thrills with pleasure. This electricity is sexed.®** Reciprocating
Love interchanges that of both ; he giving oiF his and imbibing
hers, and vice versd. All love-making thus interchanges it, and
delightfully aviates this gelatinous, nervous, pulpy pith, which mob-
ilizes it, and thereby disciplines and cultivates it. See how cul-
ture develops all functional activity, power, and efficiency in^**.
This Love making, this incessant delicious agitation of this nerv-
ous pith in each, by the sexual electricity of the other, explains
that modus operandi by means of which the action of all the
physical and mental functions are thus wrought up, excited, ex-
hilarated, intoxicated, disciplined, mobilized, thrilled in both.
And all this in parents, in order to transmit all to their offspring !
Behold how completely this theory coincides with and explains
all the phenomena of Love. We beg readers to put together
those FIRST PRINCIPLES which begin the last chapter, and finish
this ; and say whether they do not furnish the only rational anal-
ysis of Love and its outworkings ever propounded.
This volume has Sexuality for its first corner-stone, and this
magic power of Love for its second. Are they not well laid, and
worth building on ; and would not a structure well reared on
them be worth enjoying ? What superb vantage-ground is thus
furnished for expounding and enforcing that most practically
important problem next in order —
The PROPER DIRECTION of this all-potent human sentiment, by
answering scientifically this inquiry, most eventful to parents
touching their children, and every sexed being for his and her-
self?—
How CAN THIS LovE BE GUIDED SO as to derive from it all these
virtues and enjoyments, and escape all those sins and miseries?
None ever asked, ever answered any question of equally practical
moment to all. Note well our answer.
CHAPTER IL
MARRIAGE THE TRUE SPHERE OF LOVE: ITS DUTY, AD VAN
TAGES, OBJECTIONS, ETC.
Section I.
LOVE AN IMPERIOUS NECESSITY.
647. — Action a first Law of Love. All must Love.
Love constitutes as integral a part of every human being ae
bones, or reason.'^ As air cannot be air without all its ingre-
dients ; 80 man cannot be human without Love.^
Action is ]S"ature's paramount law, and the only end of all
she creates. As well not be, as remain inert. Whatever God
makes, He makes for use, nothing else. Every one of all His
works was devised and executed solely to fulfil some necessary
mission. What superlative folly, what waste of precious time
and materials, to expend such vast pains in making an element
with its laws, and inserting them into all, only to be laid aside
as so much useless lumber 1 Does He ever make eyes, feet, brains,
or anything else, "just for fun," or for anything but action ? As
well argue that ice is cold, as that exercise in carrying forward its
natural functions is the one object of everything created. Love
is, of course, governed by this law of action.
Its mission is paramount ;"^ therefore its action is preeminently
important. In making it, God commands its use. Action is its
very nature, and only object. This renders its exercise a divine
command. Our being born with this ingredient is Heaven's im-
perious mandamus, enjoining its perpetual action on all. As oui
being created with Appetite, Reason, &c., puts us under divine
bonds to fulfil these functions ; so incorporating this Love ele-
ment into our innermost beings puts all under solemn bonds to
exercise it in loving the opposite sex. If Nature had intended
to excuse any therefrom, she would have created such without
gender. Would you be thus excused ? In and by creating eacli
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and all male or female,*** she renders it imperiously obligatory on
all who are sexed to love. In this war, as in that with death,
"there is no discharge." God's having engraven it right into the
selfhood of all, compels its action, as much as eating.
Love, thus divinely incorporated into the bodies and mindi
of all, becomes an absolute necessity to all. God will not permit
this sexual segment to lie dormant, but renders its action conn-
pvbnry^ not optional, by accompanying it with an inherent prin-
ciple of action. As by creating all with nerves lie obliges all to
feel ; so by implanting all with Love, He necessitates its action in
some form, ^id impresses all nolens volens into its service. Only
those who can put fire to their flesh, yet annul its smart, can help
loving. Nature will not permit any delinquency. As well resist
gravity as this or any other Faculty.*^ Then
. Say not I HAVE NOT LOVED. You kno\^ better. God compels
it equally with the descent of water.
tf48. — Love one of Man's most powerful Emotions.
Love surpasses all the other human passions. All ages prove
this, by having justly christened it " the one grand master-passion."
Though it is stronger or weaker in proportion to the sexuality,
and yields those most pleasure who are best sexed, conform most
to its laws, and have the most love-inspiring objects;**^ yet, in
the great aggregate, no human pleasures, enjoyments, or luxuries
bear any comparison with Love.^ Other things awaken enthu-
siasm, this rises to a passion, and renders many fairly mad. Even
sharp commercial men, who know how to get over one hundred
cents' worth out of every dollar used, often literally squander money
on women they love.*^ What consumes as much of human time
and means? Men spend freely on religion, politics, vanities,
drink, Ac, but on what half as freely as on Love, and its collat-
erals? Even the untold sums lavished on the female toilet and
fashions"** are only so much spent to make woman captivating
and enamouring to man. Love, or desire to awaken it, prompts
all. How many men, women, farmers, mechanics, workmen, mer-
chants, literati, adventurers, &c., work with might and main,
suffering untold pains and privations, to make money solely to
expend on Love in some form — on wives, daughters, husbands,
Bons, " mistresses," balls, parties, or their pan^phernalia, Ac. Men
spend most freely on what yields them most pleasure, and the
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290 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, A D VANTAGES, ETC.
amount spent on this sentiment, throughout all its forms — conju-
gal, illicit, and the family — fairly admeasures its relative power
over them. Then what human Faculty consumes equal " means " ?
Church-goers go to see and be seen by the opposite sex more than
to worship. Let each sex worship separately, and few would go
at all, and those soon return disappointed. The untold sums
spent on church toilets have for their chief object not increased
Worship, for one can pray as fervently in homespun as in brocade,
and without jewelry as with, but to appear charming and capti-
vating to the other sex. Not that we oppose Love going to
church ; for it has as good a right there as Worship ; and young
folks to court going home from meeting Sunday evening, as from
singing-school or party ; yet Ijoyq goes there the most.
What one life emotion ever took a hold as deep, or wielded a
power half as magical over your whole soul, or permeated the
very rootlets of your entire being, as did your Love ?^ Wherever
you went it followed you. Whatever you did it haunted you,
and compelled you, willing or unwilling, to succumb to its power,
and muse night and day on your loved one ? What equally revolu-
tionized your whole life? or ever made you half as happy? How
infatuated, spellbound, and perfectly beside themselves, it always
renders its " love-sick " victims ! To enforce its necessity by
repeating its rationale.
Propagation is paramount."^ Sexuality is its only means.*^
Love is the ultimate of both.^ It must transmit all parts in
minuteness ;*^^ therefore, it must permeate and control every part
of the parentage.*^ Its action is as powerful as its function is
important.*^ Of this merciful provision of !N'ature, her true chil-
dren will avail themselves.
649. — Duty op All to supply this natural Love Want.
Our first duty is to ourselves.^^^ God has put all His crea-
tures in special charge of themselves, and imperiously commands
each instinctively to take good care of precious self. " Self-protec-
tion is the first law of nature," " Every man for himself," and like
proverbs are but its laconic expressions. Every living thing is a
kingdom to itself. Our selfhood is as sacred as that life it em-
bodies.^* Our highest allegiance is due to it ; because from this
tap-root spring all our other relations. Even our divine alle-
giance centres in taking good care of ourselves first ; else how
could we love, worship, or do anything?
LOVE AN IMPERIOUS NECESSITY. 291
Self- PROVISION for all our natural wants is as imperious as
Belf-preservation, of which it forms a part. God in our nature
enjoins on us to supply ourselves with whatever is necessary for
self-development and perfection. After furnishing abundant ma-
terials for supplying all the wants of all His creatures, He enjoina
on each to search out, prepare, and partake thereof. Having fur-
nished abundant and varied raw materials for food, houses, gar-
ments, making needed articles, keeping warm, &c., He requires
that we find, prepare, and use, or else go without them. Wood
grows and ores abound ; but we must cut, mine, smelt, invent,
and work them into such articles as we desire.
By creating Love, and objects enough of opposite sexes from
among whom to make our selections, and so diversified that
plenty are adapted to our specific tastes and requirements, God
commands all to make choice of some sexual mate. Is it not
as much our duty to supply this God-created sexual want, by
choosing one, as to provide food for Appetite? Would it not be
wicked to make no provision for raiment, shelter, intellectual cul-
ture, &c. ? Then is it not equally so to omit all provision for the
legitimate supply of this equally imperious Love want?
All who do not love abuse their own sacred selfhood.
650. — Nature rewards its Exercise, but punishes its Inertia.
Nature pays for all she orders by making happy — all in life
that does pay. She commands all who have lungs to breathe,^
and pays all obedients by its enjoyments ; but punishes terribly
those who refuse to breathe. She rewards Love, equally inherent,
yet punishes non-lovers with virtual self-emasculation. Wliat is
it to be born a man or woman, instead of unsexed ? Yet its stifling
is tantamount to its non-existence. None can afford to rob them-
selves of this magical electric stimulus.*** To rob others of paltry
dollars is criminal enough, worse to rob one's self of them, yet far
the worst of all to rob ourselves of this divinely proflTered blessing.
Its advantages are too transcendantly great to be ignored. Throw-
ing your own gold into the sea instead of using it is compara-
tive wisdom. As it rejoices or suflTers, all else rejoices or suffers
with it. Its electricity electrifies all ; its dormancy benumbs all ;
its irritability irritates all. As inertia breeds disease, so dormant
Love diseases both itself, and the entire body and mind.** Self-
perfection is as impossible without Love as without eyes. None
292 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, ADVANTAGES, ETC.
can perfect intellect, morals, the affections, any of the other
Faculties, without or except through it. Without it, like hiber-
nating animals, we can merely exist, but not live.
Its vigorous action is also demanded. Though as crumbs are
better than starvation, and a little action than none, yet its hearty
life-long exercise can alone fulfil its requirements. All portions
of mature life not lighted up by this sun of the human soul are
enshrouded in Egyptian darkness ; while its full exercise is per-
petual spring, summer, and autumn united. Then, 0 man and
woman, cultivate Love as assiduously as intellect or devotion.
As not a day should pass without exercising reason, justice, &c. ;
so let no sun set without a full, hearty, soul-inspiring love-feast.
Not a few days of courtship or honeymoon Love, but its complet-
est life-long exercise alone should suffice. So, delinquents, "make
up lost time." Fight off this precious boon no longer. Avail
yourselves at once of its incomparable blessings.
Section II.
PAIRING THE PRIMAL LAW OF LOVE.
651. — Monogamy vs. Polygamy. A Mating Faculty ITecessary.
Does Nature restrict Love to one, or allow and require many ?
Does polygamy fulfil, or outrage, its laws? Has virtue a merely
imaginary value, like a smoker's meerschaum, valueless of itself,
and valuable only because its user prizes it ; or has it, like food,
a substantial value, because it fulfils a natural human want ? Is
it valuable in a husband or wife only because the other thinks it
so, or because it is so ? If it is not most valuable, it is much
worse than valueless, by breaking Love's laws. It is very wrong,
unless it is very right. Which is it, a marked defect, like ir-
reverence, or a priceless jewel, like honesty ?
Has Nature left this matter undetermined? Or does she
require exclusive Love of some, yet allow " free Love " to others ?
Has she not regulated this whole matter, throughout its minutest
details, by unalterable laws ? She would not leave this, the most
important part of her domain,^^^ chaotic ; but regulates single or
plural Love by natural laws. And they are as imperious as those of
gravity. She thereby either requires and rewards one Love, bu''
PAIRING THE PRIMAL LAW OP LOVE. 293
punishes free Love; or requires and rewards many loves, but
punishes one Love. If she enjoins promiscuous, let all the world
know, and reduce it to practice ; but if she commands Love of
only one at a time, let all the world know and practise that She
is right. Her requirements are God's edicts, and eternally oblig-
atory on all. In these days of " free Love," Mormonism, &c., it
becomes those interested for themselves or others to determine
this problem from its underlying ^r5^ ^rac'?pfe5, and make its
observance a matter of conscience, as it is of self-interest. Then
what say these natural laws about one Love and " free Love " ?
Declamation and argument are good, but what says Science ? Is
one Love, or are many loves, incorporated into humanity ?
A PAIRING Faculty has been not engraven, but incorporated into
it, and forms as integral a paxt of its mentality as backbone of
body. Phrenology points out an organ and Faculty of sexual
mating, called Conjugality, which creates duality, exclusiveness,
and fidelity in Love, and monogamy or matrimony : from matrix^
receptacle, and monos, one, or when translated literally, one icomb.
It is located above Love, below Friendship, between them, and
on each side of Parental Love, exactly where its office requires it
should be placed.
Rearing young is its specific rationale. To carry on one distinct
work is every part of everything created and adapted. Every
Faculty of the mind, like sight, is a great affair, and executes
some absolutely necessary end.** None are, ever can be, created
without liaving all the Faculties, any more than without a head.
Of course all have Conjugality.
When it is large, it selects one of the opposite sex as its sole
object, and longs to be always with that one; possesses this flow-
ing together of spirit in the highest degree;"* becomes broken-
hearted and comparatively worthless if disappointed ; regards
this union as life's greatest gem, and its loss as worse than death ;
is perfectly satisfied with only one, whose excellences it magnifies,
and faults overlooks ; is faithful and constant, and requires a like
fidelity ; and allows nothing to interrupt affection once formed.
But
When deficient, especially if Amativeness is large, it is fickle,
coquettish, and untrue, loving a little here, there, everywhere,
and the last pretty face best ; easily forgets one for another, and
that for a third; is more ardent than constant; and naturally
inclined to flirtations.^
294 marriage: its duty, advantages, etc.
Its existence and functions are predicated on these primal
reproductive necessities.
1. All incipient life is infinitesimally small. Otherwise, how
could it be created without robbing its parents beyond what any
would suffer? Its growth thus becomes an absolute necessity. It
must grow a great many billion per cent, before it can accomplish
anything, or even take care of itself. In fulfilling the necessary
conditions of growth
It needs parental care. Without some absolute provision
for its rearing, its creation would be nugatory. If, like the fabled
Minerva, children were ushered into being in the full possession
of all their Faculties, capable from birth of caring for themselves,
no rearing provision would have been needed ; whereas their being
born small, feeble, helpless, ignorant, not even knowing that fire
will burn, necessitates some absolute provision for infantile food,
raiment, domicile, warmth, education, &c. ; else all babes must die,
and our race soon perish. This provision must take some tangible
form. Only a primal mental Faculty could guarantee it.
2. Parental Love constitutes this provision ; and is one of the
strongest instincts, human and animal.*^^ A cow driven with her
young calf into the yard, when a great, savage, terrible bulldog
jumped in, "went for him" so fiercely that he jumped right back,
though he could have thrown and throttled her any minute.
Monkeys evince more of it than any other animal, and men than
monkeys, and the higher human subjects the most ; because most
care is needed. Adults have already acquired a surplus of strength,
which Parental Love prompts them to bestow on children. But
B. ITature must command specifically just which adults shall
care for just what children ; else all would be neglected. As if
she left all hens in general to care alike for all chickens, even the
most industrious, seeing so many idlers, would naturally say, in
action, " I scratch, scratch, all day, for these peepers, and brood
them all night, while you sit there doing nothing? No, indeed,
I '11 let them starve first ; " so if she had ordained, a la Fourier^ that
all adults should care for all children in the aggregate, few would
ever be reared ; whereas she allots each infant to the care of par-
ticular adults, by ordaining that parents shall love and care for
their own young. All adults are ordained to love all children
some, but their own most. This ordinance obtains throughout
all the kingdoms of Nature. Every seed is the child of its paren-
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tal stock, which alone can nurture and mature it. Each ani-
mal loves its own young most intensely, yet cares for no others.
Though a hen has but one chicken, and could just as well scratch
for a full dozen, yet she instantly peels the pate of every intruder.
This provision benefits parents as much as offspring. Pos-
sessed of surplus strength, they must expend it on something, or
die of plethora or mnuL In what could they employ it as profit-
ably as in rearing their own young ? which overpays a thousand-
fold in the varied pleasures they create. It is quite as luxurious
for parents to have children to love, do for, and receive their name,
fortune, affections, and characteristics, as for children to inherit
them, or be loved. Parents owe quite as much gratitude to chil-
dren, as children to parents.
4. Each parental pair is best adapted to rear their own
children. As elephants are better adapted to bring up their own
young than chickens, while hens are better adapted to care for
chickens than young elephants, and thus of all animals ; so not
only can human parents train human young the best, but each
particular parent has a natural aptitude for training his and her
own young far morq specific than those of other parents. This
likewise feasts parental pride and self-love. All forms of exist-
ence love their own form the best. Self-love inheres in all.
Parents love themselves, and therefore their children, because
they here find their " own image and likeness," faults included.
Thus a conceited parent loves his own conceit, which he trans-
mits, and then loves his child for that very conceit, though a fault
in both ; and hence rears it far better than if they were unlike.
Parents should love their mates, with all their traits, which,
blended in with their own in their mutual children, doubly en-
dears children to them."*
6. The father, too, is almost as requisite to their complete
rearing as in their production. Though the mother can preserve
their lives and supply cardinal wants, yet they imj>eriou8ly re-
quire him to provide food, raiment, domicile, Ac, her to admin-
ister; him to judge and counsel, her to persuade and stimulate;
him to guide the head and hands, her to mould the heart and
manners; and both to round up and {XJrfect their characters.
Pity that child brought up by its mother only, because therefore
poorly reared. Accordingly, in all those tribes of animals where
the male can help feed h'lB own young, we Had both this pair-
296 marriage: its duty, advantages, etc.
ing and fidelity ; yet in none where he cannCt ; because they are
not needed. Lions and tigers can hunt for their young quite
as well as lionesses and tigresses ; and so of birds ; and they
pair ; yet in the bovine, equine, susine, and other like species,
where fathers cannot thus contribute, no such pairing is needed,
op exists. This is both a universal fact, and based in a philo-
sophical necessity.
Can human fathers, then, help rear their young ? Can they
not ? Then why not help bring up what they helped produce i
Some argue that
" The mother can and should take all necessary care of her children
till they are seven, after which they should care for themselves ; thereby
developing that self-reliance and support so necessary through life."
The great American " Free-Love " apostle literally practises
it, by allowing his little babe, after its mother's death, to be
cared for by another; who, on requesting a childless pair to
adopt it, when they objected, —
" We do not wish, after we have trained it to our liking, to have its
father influence it," —
Answered, " IsTever fear his ever looking after it I"
His two sons, eleven and seven, begged my friend to allow
them to stay in her cheerless garret, and the elder, barefoot and
ragged, carried bundles, did anything to earn bread for both.
Abominable! Deliver me from such fathers! How cruel to
impose on mothers all the labor and pains of bearing and nurs-
ing, housing, feeding, and educating their young ?
On what could men, then, expend their surplus acquisitions and
pent-up energies and affections ? They must needs live inane,
listless, or dissipated lives, uninspired to effort by those powerful
parental stimulants by which Nature's arrangement of rearing our
own young now inspires them. Far be the day when you shall have
no children or grandchildren to live for and love, and be lived for
and loved by ; but blessed that day in which they were born.
6. Each father must know certainly which are his. He obvi-
ously cannot rely on j)liysiognomical and other resemblances ;
because his father's, brothers', cousins', &c., might so nearly re-
semble his own as to preclude their certain identification, at least
at birth. By the importance, therefore, of paternal aid in caring
PAIRING THE PRIMAL LAW OF LOVE. 297
for children, it is important that each father shall know^ not
guess, that this is in very deed his own lineal child.
7. Maternal constancy to the father of any one of her children
is his " guarantee deed " that all of hers are also his. Nature
couples Fidelity with Love by placing both organs side by side
in all heads, and both alongside of Parental Love and Friendship;
thereby comfeUing them all to work together^ by each thus exciting
all, and all each. Behold and marvel ! This identical Love ele-
ment which prompts her to unite with him, binds her indissolu-
bly to him alone. Nature makes him impregnate her mind in
and by his first impregnation of her body ; thereby setting apart
and consecrating her whole being to him and his children alone,
from her first conception till after their last child is born, by
creating that exclusiveness in her Love which assures him that
all her children are in very deed "bone of his bone, and flesh of
his flesh." Every woman rightly impregnated thereby becomes
so electrized, magnetized, spellbound, devoted, infatuated by the
father of her child, that only his very wrong treatment of her
can ever sever her feelings from him. Let the experience of
every woman who has ever enjoyed one completely satisfactory
sexual interview with, and been impregnated by any one man,
attest this truth ; and all virgins take warning not to endanger
this electric interchange, unless it can be continued till long after
their bearing period ceases.
8. Paternal constancy also becomes necessary, so as to embody
his child-rearing means and eflbrts ; because the same father, in
bringing up his children by different mothers, must scatter his
eflbrts and divide his time between this child by this mother to-
day, and that by that to-morrow; compelling him and them to
undergo his absence from all but one, all his and their time,
unless all live together, which they never would do harmoni-
ously, till human nature is made over.
9. All the children op each should be by the other, and all
live in one family.^" The best good of all concerned and of
society imf>eriou8ly demand exclusiveness. Mating secures it.
Its being a mental Faculty makes it a natural law ; obeying
which renders all concerned happy ; violating it, miserable^
Beneficial even for animals, how much more for man ?
10. Plurality children must quarrel, if together. Two In-
dian boys of two friendly tribes, encamj>ed on opposite sides of n
298 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, ADVANTAGES, ETC.
Bmall stream in Pennsylvania, in rival pursuit of a butterfly,
caught it, and quarrelled over its ownership. The other boys
sided each with his tribe boy, and mother with her sons, and
fathers, returning from hunting, took part each with his squaw
and sons. War followed, and waxed more and more desperate.
t\i\ nearly all on both sides were exterminated, and buried in two
mounds, each on its own river-side. Brothers and sisters often
quarrel. Then how much more half-brothers forced into per-
petual contact ?
11. Plurality wives would not, could not live together with-
out incessant contention, unless both were either angels, or else
completely cowed. Yet if either, their children would be worth-
less for this world. They must needs be natural-born fighting-
cock Ishmaelites, if their mothers contended, they against all,
and all against them; otherwise poltroons.
12. The greatest number of the best children is the govern-
ing principle of whatever appertains to the sexes. Then will
one Love, or many loves, produce the most and best ? One, m-
finitely. Does it not ripen up this Love sentiment, and fit it for
its creative office, much earlier and better than diversity ? Is it not
especially adapted to enable mothers to fill up their entire mater-
nal period with bearing or nursing ? Does it not naturally secure
all the progeny the female can produce, or both rear ? What
more is desired ? Does not promiscuity greatly diminish their
number^ besides vitiating their quality^ as compared with matri-
mony ? Do " women of pleasure " make the best mothers, and
furnish the world with the most or best sons of genius, and
daughters of moral purity and loveliness ? Would you prefer to
have been born of one? Instead, how few, how inferior and
depraved, their children! Let facts attest.
13. One Love promotes impregnation ; which promiscuous in'
tercourse prevents; on the well-known physiological principle
that continued replanting the seeds of life is fatal to all. It is
most repugnant to every bearing female, because already thor-
oughly imbued with devotion to the father of her unborn. This
one-paternity argument in favor of one Love, and against pro-
miscuous, is absolutely final. " One such is amply 8.ufficient," as
the judge said to the twenty-one reasons why a witness was not
present, the first being that he w^s dead. '' That one will do.*^
Even among unraating animals, the female is true to her tern
porary spouse until his progeny is matured.
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Continuity environs Constancy. Coutiguous organs work
together. Continuity thus compels Constancy to cling to one
object. Does not this demonstrate one Love?
Promiscuity sensualizes Love, always necessarily corrupts the
parents, and deteriorates their offspring; while one Love pro-
motes that purity of aifection which exults and ennobles both,
as shown in Part VL
652. — Love instinctively Dual, not Promiscuous.
Spontaneous action adjudicates all functions. Kature unper-
verted is always just right. Love instinctively follows out its
own destiny, flows in its allotted channels. If, then, men and
women of the highest type instinctively prefer promiscuous
Love to dual, such preference renders it " the voice of God ;"
whereas, if they voluntarily confine their Love to one, then one
is "the voice Divine." Which, then, do they prefer? Espe-
cially female instinct is Love's infallible test. Since woman is
naturally more aftectionate and loving than man, if she naturally
prefers many loves and lovers to one, then many is the law ; but
if she chooses to devote herself to only one, and prefers the
entire devotions of this one to the partial and fitful loves of
many, who also love other females, then one Love is a Divine
decree. Nature expresses her Love laws in and by her own Love
intuitions, and therefore justly punishes all who break them. An
innocent girl, kept in ignorance of Love matters, has an infal-
lible guide within her own nature, violating which renders her
retribution as just as sure. All are bound to obey this "still,
small voice " within. Then do superior men and women in-
stinctively prefer to love one, or many, at the same time ? Eepo-
cially since woman's first Love is its final umpire, which does
unsophisticated maidenhood prefer? We speak not of that
friendship which obtains between those of opposite sexes, even
though intimate ; for that can appertain to many ; nor of sensu-
ality, which is ipso facto promiscuous; but of that deep interior
soul union already described."* Is that single or plural? Tho
answer is important. Let experience attest. Then
Did you, man, love all females, as such, about equally well,
and woman all " tho men ;" or involuntarily single out some one
aa your particular heart's idol, to the exclusion of all others?
Memory puts this question right home to your interior conscious
800 marriage: its duty
ness: Did you intermingle exclusiveness with this holy sentiment?
Did you, or did you not, both virtually say, in substance, —
" I LOVE YOU ALONE of all Others, and gladly give up all for you. Do
you give up all for me ? "
" I ABSOLUTELY DO. Others may be good, but you are best. I have
friendship for others, but Love for no7ie but you. And if anything pre-
vents my marrying you, I never will marry another. Do you reciprocate,
this sacred pledge ? "
" I DO, WITH ALL MY HEART, mind, soul, and strength. On mountain
top, in valley deep, on barren rock, in fertile plain, by streams, in woods,
by waysides, around firesides, on land and sea, near by and afar off, in
prosperity and adversity, by night and day, during youth, life's meridian,
and decline, down to death, and beyond, I will love you alone ; and if I
die first, will become your guardian spirit till death brings you to my
angel arms ; and throughout eternal ages, I will Ibve God first, and yoii
next, forever! Do you reciprocate this solemn vow of eternal Love? "
" I DO. By all that is beautiful and perfect on the earth and in the
sky ; by this lovely flower I now pluck on this sacred spot and place on
your breast ; by the air I breathe and food and fruits I eat ; by the earth
beneath and the heavens above ; by sun, moon, and stars ; by yon bright
star we both now select to preside over our life-destiny ; by my own very
being itself and yours, and the great God who gave it to us both ; by the
eternity of His years and ours, I here solemnly consecrate my whole being
to you, and you alone, for life, in death, and forevermore. Amen."
Horace Gibbs shot himself on the grave of his young wife the
next day after her burial, leaving this letter :
" Mother, I love Bell. She is dearer to me than every tie I have, and
my all." " I know she would not have lived a day had I died first." " I
do not care to live without Bell, and 'know I shall join her in the other
world." " Bell and I have often promised each other not to live after
either died. Ma, I don't believe two persons ever loved each other as
Bell and I do, and we'll soon be happy in each other's eternal Love.
To-morrow I shall be with her. I love my darling better than all the
world. I have loved her from the first time I knew her. Take good care
of our boy. Good-bye."
Just what tore this young life from all his strong terrestrial
ties and joys ? One Love. Billions of like facts speak volumes.
Even harlots always have one lover with whom to enjoy; the
balance being professional. And men sometimes get so be-
witched after one prostitute as to marry her; and how many
contine themselves of choice to one mistress.
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One Love is indigenous in all genuine Love. If not always
expressed, is it not always felt? and so fully implied as not to
need utterance ? As a crushed finger presupposes pain, though
not declared ; so this wholly thine is as inherent in 'Love as
heat in fire, its sine qua non^ its necessary and inseparable con-
comitant, its integral and ma'in constituent. None ever make
Love without expressing or implying it, except children of lust.
The very fact that a loved one is not exclusive, but bestows
favors on others too, breaks its sacred spell, and disgusts always,
attracts never. Who but involuntarily loathes frailty ? Let
universal humanity attest. It always has been, must be, de-
spised and kept secret ; and the more as man advances. Virtue
was prized by the ancients some, is esteemed by the moderns
more, and will be worshipped the more as the race advances, for
it is innate ; because, since mind is to be transmitted first,"^ Love
must unite parental minds the most, which guarantees constancy.
Their mental affiliation is the very heart's core of Love, and
renders them perfectly faithful to each other; because so per-
fectly happy while it continues uninterrupted, and completely
enchains, because it enchants, both with each other.
" Your one-Love argument, drawn from instinct, cuts both ways, yet
fevors promiscuity most. Though exclusiveness forms a poetic episode in
some romantic loves, yet the instinctive workings of this element, from
the days when the * sons of God saw the daughters of men that they were
fair,* all along down to our own day, from the least to the greatest of men
and women, have favored promiscuity. Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and other
holy men of old, had many loves, yet talked with God. Venus, who per-
sonified promiscuity, and whose worship actually consisted therein, waa the
most loved and worshipped of all the ancient deities ; whereas Diana, who
personified virtue, had but a single temple, with few worshippers. None
of the other ancient gods or goddesses confined themselves to one Love ;
and the§e deities were the examples and creations of their votaries. Waa
and is not virtue practically unknown throughout Egypt, China, and ail
the nations of the East ? Do not the Mohammedans limit the number of
their loved ones only by their means of purchase and support ? And are
not they considered happiest and honored most who can obtain and sus-
tain the greatest number? Why does the harem need its eunuchs, and all
eastern females require watching, but because promiscuity is indigenous
to the sex, that touchstone of Love? If woman is naturally exclusive,
why does she need watching? Where was or is virtue the rule? True,
Christianity preaches it, but how few of even its few professors are * with-
302 marriage: its duty, advantages, etc.
out this sin ?* Though Anglo-Saxon law and public sentiment throw their
whole weight into its scales, yet did not one of England's noble peers de-
clare in Parliament, when discussing the clause in their new divorce bill,
whether a husband's infidelity should entitle a wife to divorce, * it would
unmarry most of the members of Parliament, and practically annul the
marriage contract ' ? And is not this declaration as true here as there ?
How few would be stoned, if those who have committed this sin were
stoned only by those who have not ? Do not all the sons of shame and
daughters of frailty, including all who have broken their marital vows,
give the practical negative to your argument from instinct, and leave
almost the whole race arrayed against it? Even its great men and noted
women, ancient and modern ; the dignitaries of Greece in visiting Aspasia,
prove that human instinct, in its broadest range and noblest specimens,
ignores this exclusiveness of Love, and practically declares for promis-
cuity.'*
These facts are indisputable, and inferences plausible. Find
their explanation farther on.
653. — Love Self-perpetuating and Self-augmenting.
What could demonstrate the perpetuity of Love equally with
its being 5e{/-perpetuating ? that the earth will continue its revo-
lutions than that their causes are self-acting ? that a tree is long-
lived than that it is so by constitution? and that Love is peren-
nial, than that its very action naturally redoubles itself? It
does this
1. By its Happiness. All sentient beings involuntarily love
whatever promotes their enjoyment, because of, and in propor-
tion thereto ; yet hate what renders them miserable. This is
the only cause and measure of all likes, all dislikes, animal and
human. Therefore, if, and in proportion as, reciprocating Love
renders its participants happy, it must necessarily perpetuate
itself. "What then are its facts? Does its deliciousness natu-
rally cloy, then sicken, only to extinguish itself in nausea ? or
can we relish it the more, the longer it is participated ? Is it a
" Jonah's gourd " or a " cedar of Lebanon " ? the more perfect the
longer, or shorter, its duration ? a summer fruit soon gone ; or
perpetually ripening, and more luscious as it grows older ?
The latter, always, because it renders its participants so in-
expressibly happy.
Various things make happy ; yet what one thing, in the eager-
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ness of youth or the enthusiasms of mature life, ever rendered
you as ecstatically happy as reciprocating Love ? Fully developed
humanity enjoys nothing any more.^ This fact renders it accu-
mulative. Thus the amount of love-pleasure taken by two dur-
ing their first interview, renders their second still happier, and.
every subsequent happier than its predecessor; so that their
second decade can and should be incomparably happier than
their first, their golden wedding than their silver, and their diar
mond than golden. This is as true in practice as theory. There-
fore, wherever sufficient natural affinity exists between two to
initiate Love, cherishing it will continue to re-unite, re-enamour,
and re-infatuate each other, more and more, and re-bind them
more indissolubly together, the longer they live in its natural
spirit.
2. By ASSOCIATION Love is still further re-increased and perpet-
uated. Even antagonistic cats and dogs, by daily commingling,
come to play together. Becoming habituated to noxious sub-
stances — alcohol, tobacco, &c. — diminishes their injurious effects.
Accustoming ourselves to the same room, furniture, and sur-
roundings, renders them the more agreeable the longer the asso-
ciation. This well-known law of mind applies equally to Love,
with redoubled force, because its associations are infinitely the
most pleasurable. Why do we love the associations of childhood's
home but because of the happiness experienced there ? Then why
not love the more the more pleasure we experience together ?
Take a musing walk, when departing day veils Nature in a
halo of beauty and loveliness favorable to meditation, and lapse
into a sentimental mood. Memory recalls past times and seasons.
Yet what come back as vividly as those of young Love? Your
soul and eyes fill with their reminiscences. What would you
give for a leaf, a flower, from the pathway you then trod, or the
mound on which you sat together? or for apples from that old
tree under whose boughs you both talked and feasted on fruit
and Love together? or a flower plucked from your loved one's
grave ? Now, if your entire life had been filled with these de-
lightful love experiences, all centring in the same conjugal object,
but intermingled with no painful ones; would you be willing to
surrender this long-tried object for some new, untried stranger?
Would (ken the newest broom sweep cleanest ? If so, take it, bot
let me keep the old. Love both " giveth yet increaseth."
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3. By sympathy we come to love those for whom we do, and
on whom we take pity. Thus the nursing mother loves her sick-
liest child best. Even novels often originate Love in one nursing
or saving the life of the other. Beneficiaries gratefully love
donors, the poor the benevolent ; but givers experience more affec-
tion than receivers, and parents than children ; because doing
awakens more than receiving. This law of mind naturally reia-
creases the Love of both conjugal partners for each other. In a
true Love state, each is constantly doing — he in his daily toils and
business, she in her domestic sphere — for the other, and their mu-
tual young ; thereby perpetually reincreasing their own and each
other's Love ; and doubly so if either is sick. This principle
shows why wives should personally superintend the creati^re com-
forts of husband and children.
4. Community of labor and interest also naturally promotes
affection, and between those of opposite sexes. Love. Thus, old
soldiers, copartners, colaborers in any department of human effort,
muscular, pecuniary, humanitarian, intellectual, or moral, bv vir-
tue of their very community of effort and interest, naturally form
strong social affinities for each other. This applies forciMy to
wedlock. In true Love all their efforts and struggles are mutual.^
They naturally share their feelings, property, everything, meals
included, together ; and each sharing increases Love. How pleas-
urable for old friends to sup together ! Then how much more
for those who have grown old in conjugal Love ! Meeting my
college classmates the twentieth year after our graduation, and
still more the thirtieth, and much more yet in the fortieth, in
all-night suppers, recalling college scenes, and intercommuniMg
together, so delighted me as to form an era in my life. Though
we graduated with some friendships but more heart-burnings, yet
time had softened off its college asperities and redoubled its
attachments. Then how much more in a true conjugal state ?
6. Mutual children are Love's great perpetuators. Parents
lOve their own children, with the utmost fervor and intensity.*^*
All description is utterly inadequate. Then does not each loving
and caring together for the same darling objects promote Love
for each other ? Does not Parental Love naturally promote and
practically aid conjugal ? By all the sacredness and perpetuity
of the parental sentiment itself, is the conjugal both deepened
and perpetuated thereby. This law of mind is absolute, and
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almost compels the parents of the same children to love each
other. This alone, but for very strong counter-irritants, would
guarantee to all parents a continuance of that Love in and by
which they became parents. How could jN'ature point more
clearly to any one principle than she points by all these radii to
the self-perpetuity of Love as its great focal centre ?
6. Their pairing rationale, the rearing of their children, per-
petuates their union from before the creation of their first child,
until after their last is old enough to take ample care of itself,
which would render either too old to form a second Love.
Love does not naturally wane with its honeymoon, nor is its
youngest its most fervent and devoted. Its natural history is not
first to sate, tlien cloy, and finally die, or go astray. Instead, only
those who have loved each other loiig^ ascended the hills of pros-
perity and descended into the vales of adversity together, long
labored and suffered with and for each other, and, if need be,
watched round each other's bedside, and produced, cared for,
watched over, and perhaps buried, children together, and grown
old in Love as in years, can manifest it in its fullest perfection,
and become perfectly united in its deepest, holiest, most indis-
soluble ties. It often does decline with years; but this is neither
necessary, nor even natural, but consequent on various breaches
of it6 laws, rather than on anything inherent in itself.
654. — The Mine-and-thine Intuition of Love.
Nature implants a ** mine-and-thine" sentiment in every hu-
man being, even animal. " This is my bone," say dogs ; " my
nest," say birds ; " my clothes, house, and property," say men.
Some things do belong to one, others to others, and are oiciitd by
those who make or get them lawfully. This feeling is created by
Acquisition, which both inspires us to get and keep, and assures
us that things rightly earned are ours. It is necessary, for with-
out it not even our own eyes, teeth, hands, clothos, houses, noth-
ing, could belong to either us or any one else ; for all idea of proj*-
erty would be unknown. Blotting it out would paralyze all kinds
of business and industry. It is the great motor-wheel of human
acquisition and effort. It gives and respects ownership. It in-
stinctively feels, " This is mine, that yours ; let each have our
own." Theft is but its violation.
It appertains to talbnts, ideas, inventions, mental acquiei-
20
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tions, honor, shame, health, life, and a thousand other things
equally with property. Then does this exclusive ownership natu-
rally accompany Love ? Does each individual member of each
sex love each and all the members of the other as common prop-
erty ? or each some one as " mine^^ not ours ?
Yes, answer all lovers. Who that loves but feels " this is my
own dear one, and mine alone to love," just as much as any laborer
ever felt " this is my own dollar for my own work" ? This own
feeling is as inseparable from Love as even sexuality itself. No
high, honorable, conscientious person can love one known to
belong to another. Love can fasten only where others' claims are
virtually cancelled. Did not you who have ever loved, do not
all who now love, feel this "my own" sentiment, as appertaining
to your loved one, quite as effectually as to any dollar or article
you ever possessed ? even more ? It appertains to nothing else on
earth as effectually as to loved ones ; is indigenous ; and the natu-
ral outworking of consciousness, that highest possible evidence.
As the consciousness that we see is the strongest possible proof
that we do see ; so this internal consciousness that this loved one
is mine, all mine, and mine alone, to love ; that another's interfer-
ence is despicable robbery ; that " he who steals my purse steals
trash" in comparison with robbing me of my loved one; is
demonstration "strong as holy writ," that this "my own" feel-
ing legitimately belongs to Love. This argument is absolute, fatal
to a community of Love, and conclusive in favor of exclusive-
ness.
I OWN myself. My title to do whatever I please with myself
is even higher than landed titles, because derived directly " from
on high." My right is absolute, either to give or sell either my
time, or each or all my powers, to whom I please, and for any
specified price or period; of which all labor is an illustration.
Now
I CHOOSE TO GIVE OR SELL MYSELF to love a particular female, and
take my pay in her Love for me. I get a quid pro quo, because
hers renders me immeasurably happy — the end of all pay. I
" lieed " away my Love Faculty to her, and take pay in her deed
of hers to me, as long as we live. Have we not a sovereign right
to make this contract, and seal it, as we do in and by a public
marriage ? Then is she not mine, and am I not hers, to love and
cherish till separated by death ? If this does not give me a clear
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" titk " to her, and her to me, pray what can give any title to
an}i;hing? It is in this inalienable human right that this in-
stinctive feeling of mine, as appertaining to Love and offspring,
consists, and of which marriage is but its public acknowledgment
and record. Therefore matrimony is an ordinance of JS^ature.
" Yet this does not prevent one Mormon from owning many wives."
Ay, but it effectually estops every wife from owning a husband,
because each of his other wives has an equal claim on him. Wo-
man's experiencing this " my own " husband sentiment the most,
demonstrates that Mormonism, by conflicting with this Love in-
stinct, is contrary to Nature.
656. — First Love always sacred, and exclusive.
All first experiences carry along with them a zest and fresh-
ness unknown to subsequent, and incomparaj^ly the most memorar
ble. How much more life-inspiring is our first breath than any
other! How their first walk tickles tottering babes! His first
pair of pants delights the little boy more than a score of others.
Our first dollar earned pleases us more than thousands afterwards.
This holds true of our first ride on horseback, any successful
achievement, "first-born" included. Does this unmistakable law
apply to first Love?
It does, and with far more power than to all else, because its
memories are more vivid.^* It opens up a train of sensations so
new, so delightful, as to overshadow all others, and write itself
as " first," throughout our entire being. This same law also ap-
plies to the first marriage ceremony.
First Love is infinitely sacred. "Were the shrines of Diana
and the vestal fires sacred to their worshippers ? and is not first
Love more holy, its altar more inviolable, its pledges more
plighted, its vows more devoted, than all other human emotions?
Does it not consecrate the very ground they tread together, as
well as all the little incidents in which they mutually partici-
pate?"* What relics are as sacred as those it consecrates? It i8»
that "within the veil " of "the inner temple" of the human soul 1
its "ark of the covenant," its " holy of holies," and the "sacrea
incense offered up" on the holiest altar of humanity. You who
make Love to a second, feel that you are perpetrating sacrilege,
forswearing yourselves, committing perjury, and swearing awaj
that Love to a second already plighted to another?*"
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Broken Love induces real agony of soul. Let those who have
sutlered from other disappointments, and from this, attest whether
all the others combined caused a tithe as much heart-crushing
agony, or withering of spirit, or stifling of hope, as did this?*-^
You endure losses of property, even honor, but for this loss you
"• refuse to be comforted." You remember this as the first green
spot in life's pathway, while all since has become a moving sand
heath. How wonderfully it enhanced all youthful susceptibilities !
How keenly ecstatic all your feelings! Everything vibrated
throughout your entire being, and swept all the well-tuned chords
of life, making all resonant with the sweetest music.^
656. — Public Opinion demands one Love, and Fidelity.
"The people's voice is divine," because, though not always
just right, yet it expresses some great truth, some human ele-
ment. " Good and bad names " are its verdicts.
It demands female virtue absolutely, in America and England,
though less in France, Germany, and other parts of the world ;
consigning all women of " easy virtue," married and single, to
oblivion. Only those are at all " respected " who, if married, are
true to husband, if unmarried, chaste. Kone, no matter Low
rich, handsome, refined, can attain or retain " social position "
unless accounted virtuous. All watch each other most sharply,
and invariably condemn any approach to frailty. All young
ladies must avoid all appearance of it, or forego all marital pros-
pects. "Owe false step" known, however bitterly repented, or
blameless her after life, even though she yielded to seduciive
wiles the most artful, and promises of marriage the most saci-ed,
blasts her ever after. " Society " takes no more notice of her.
It mil have exclusiveness in women, or crucify them ; because vir-
tue is the natural law, promiscuosity its violation, and "society'*
its watchman and executor.
It enjoins virtue on men, by expelling delinquents from church,
genteel society, &c. Women sometimes invite noted libertines
to recherche parties, even lionize them, as they would grizzly
bears or Fejee cannibals, for reasons given in*^; yet they would
pay them more court, and smile more winningly on them, if they
superadded virtue to their other excellences. Say, iu reference
to business men, churchmen, ministers, literary men, politicians,
men esteemed for this, that, and the other gifts, throughout the
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various walks of life, is not trueness to one woman a prerequisite
to aristocratic social position, and real male respectability?
" No. Webster was honored in the great Republic and out of it, at
home and abroad, bj plowman and savan, rich and poor, and set all th«
women just crazy to see and worship him ; and yet was more known and
notorious for sensuality than any other, Aaron Burr excepted; and hia
admirers knew it, for he made no secret of it. Marshall, the head of
American jurisprudence, and unequalled abroad, was a noted libertine.
Burns and Byron were liw.ntious, yet are still honored. Bacon, Pitt, John-
son, all kings, emperors, noblemen, those arbiters of aristocracy, are known
as notorious rakes ; and loose politicians run as well as strict. All this
and much more like it make your public opinion argument bosh."
Men lionize genius wherever tbey find it — those remarkable for
anything ; but for commanding talents tbe most, because first on
the list of praiseworthy excellences. Nothing but bis great in-
tellect could have given Webster bis bonors; yet tbey honored
him in spite of his sensuality, not because of it. Would tbey
not have bonored bim, and all tbeir '* heroes " all the more, if to
equally great intellect they had added virtue ? He was notori-
ously dishonest, yet they honored him; though ordinary men,
to be respected, must be just. All honored him in spite of his
known dishonesty, sensuality, and drunkenness together; because
they esteem intellectual capacity so very highly. But they would
have esteemed him far more if he had been temperate, upright,
and pure besides. This is the simple question — Did they honor
him for^ or despite^ his sensuality ? All in spite of, none for it.
Therefore public opinion demands masculine virtue. Society
bonors those who, loithout anything else especially praiseworthy,
marry and are constant ; soon '* turn out " those who lack virtue.
657. — Variety is not the Spice op Love, or Life.
" As NO ONE KIND of food can nourish as well as a varied diet, and no
tfingle study as effectually discipline or enlarge the mind as several studit^;
as journeying over a hilly country is more beautiful than through a savan-
nah ; and diversity more pleasant than monotony ; so of Love. As artists
perfect their female model by combining in it the face of this, bust of
that, body of another, and liml)8 of still another; so one man finds one
excellence in this woman, and another in that, adapted to attract him, and
draw out his Love; as docs a woman in different men. Loving thus eclee-
Ucally the charms of the different ones, naturally develops his and her Lots
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much more effectually thau if each confined him or hef^elf to any one,
however perfect. Therefore this variety of Love develops it, and perfects
the character the more fully than its restriction. No man can completely
fill any one woman's beau ideal of a perfect man ; nor one woman any
naan's. Instead, a woman sees, and therefore must love, the nobleness of
those who are more noble than talented, and the talents of those who are
more talented than noble ; the oratory of this man, the logic of that, the
form or manners of the other, and so on to the end of this whole chapter
of whatever a first-class woman admires in a man. And vice versd of men
as regards women."
This reasoning is specious. Is variety the spice of life? Does
th« rolling stone gather the most moss ? Is love of home better
satisfied with getting up and living in this house to-day, that to-
morrow, and another the next ? or in this country one year, and
that the next ? on " Greenland's icy mountains " one season, and
" India's burning plains " another, and so on through life ? Is
Parental Love better developed by fondling and teaching a Cau-
casian child to-day, Malay to-morrow, and mulatto the day after?
or by loving and caring for the same children, from birth to ma-
turity ? Which is be^t for children, different teachers, governors,
&c., or the same continued? Is Friendship best developed by
forgetting the friends and neighbors of yesterday in those of to-
day? or by intercommuning through life with the same? is tran-
sitory friendship best for the befriended? Rather, is not Friend-
ship like wine, growing stronger with age, and found best in
those cemented by a long series of uninterrupted cordialities?
Or is Appetite better satisfied by eating Vitellius' forty thousand
different dishes at once, or by making a full meal off one sub-
stantial dish ? All physiologists testify that a homogeneous meal
promotes, and admixtures retard, digestion. None are ever as
well satisfied at a table loaded with everything imaginable as
with a single substantial kind. The very variety of our first-
class hotels cloys. And does not the old man relish his accus-
tomed dishes better than new ones, though intrinsically better ?
Would a lion's or elephant's diet be better by each eating meat»
herbs, and grain at the same meal ? Or is Acquisition made hap-
pier by selling dry-goods to-day, hardware to-morrow, groceries
next day, lands and houses the fourth, &c. ; that is, by variety
than continuity ? The whole business world practically refutes
this variety argument. Or is Construction better skilled by
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building steam-engines to-day, toys to-morrow, and watches the
day after; or by working steadily on one thing? Or shall a man
seek honor in traffic to-day, in oratory to-morrow, in politics the
next, and the pulpit the fourth ; that is, in difterent callings, or
in one business ? Is the mind better disciplined by thinking and
learning a little about many things, or much about some one
thing ? Are not old people remarkable for sameness, not variety,
in everything ? When old Parr broke in upon his regular habits,
he died. In short, this doctrine of variety, when applied to each
and all the other Faculties and human eiforts, becomes too utterly
ridiculous and futile to be argued. All facts, theory, and expe-
rience sustain continuity, and ignore variety. If it were " the
spice of life," why not better for an oak to be an oak to-day, pine
to-morrow, and poplar the next ; and a man, a man to-day, dog to-
morrow, and fish the third, instead of each being the same
through life ? Universal Nature sustains continuity in opposi-
tion to variety.
658.— Jealousy presupposes one Love, and prevents more.
Its existence and power are apparent. It is no fungus, but
expressly adapted to keep Love at home. If it were naturally
promiscuous, every husband would delight in his wife's liaisons^
and she in his ; and lover love his sweetheart all the better the
more lovers she had, and she him the more women he loved and
loved him ; because each sex loves the attributes of the other.**
If promiscuosity is inherent, it must, like talents, morals, &c.,
attract and be attracted, honored, prized, praised ; but what are
the facts ? Say, women, do or can you love him most who lovee
all " the women," or only you ? Even Mormons punish terribly
those who tamper with their wives. Brigham Young's eldest,
asked if Mormon wives were not jealous, admitted that this waa
their sorest cross; but continued —
" Woman's piety exceeds her Love. She loves husband much, but
3od more. Therefore, when her Saviour commandH her to bear His cross
of seeing her loved husband caressed by and caress other women, perhaps
the most, her love of God overrules her Love of man, hushes jealousy, and
enables her to endure all, * for Christ's sake.' "
A Warm Spring Indian killed another from jealousy. The
Jaj)anes6 ambassadors averred that jealousy was their national
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failing ; that they allowed their wives to bathe unclothed with
men, beaiuse all watched all, which kept all straight; yet that
they would on no account permit any wife to be alone with any
man; that nothing delighted them as much as clandestine in-
trigues with others' wives, &c. Mahomet had liis favorite wife.
Jealousy is universal, not local ; inherent, not educational ;
find belongs to .all times, climes, peoples, and persons — even
animals and birds.
In the mere existence of this green-eyed monster in Utah,
in all men, all women, consists our argument. A tender-hearted
swain said :
" I HAVE COURTED TWO youDg ladies, one handsome, the other good —
in doubt which to select, till the good one said : ' George, I have this espe-
cial favor to ask — that you make choijce between Jane and me. If you pre-
fer her, I have nothing to say ; but if you contiuue your addresses to her,
please discontinue them to me."
Universal humanity said that. If any lover should say, " Jane,
I love you for this, that, the other qualities, but I also love Har-
riet for still others;" "Then away with your Love for me. I
want the whole, or none,'' would be the answer of all maidens.
Cutting out others is justly considered despicable. In short
One Love is the universal law of Love, and jealousy its uni-
versal executrix, expressly created and adapted to prevent pro-
miscuosity and secure exclusiveness.
659. — What I saw and heard op Mormon Polygamy.
Experiment is a final test of all truth. On inductive resulta
we may safely rely. The Jews tried polygamy on a long, large
scale, only to have practically abandoned it, undoubtedly because
of their advancement. It at least worked badly with Solomon
and David. Mahometans have long practised it, yet their women
are slaves, and so regarded — their abject condition suppressing all
remonstrance. As a people they retrogade. Eunuchism is its out-
growth ; and the most barbarous barbarity under the sun. Yet
its victims little realize how great their loss. Civilization should
stop it more than the slave-trade; for it is worse.
The Mormons have tried plurality on a large scale, and under
auspices peculiarly favorable to its perpetuity : namely, a scrupu-
lous religious belief that it is imperiously commanded by God
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himself — revealed. As pious, Godly, devout, faithful, and re-
ligious a people, I have never seen. If it wilts under their culture,
it must be for want of inherent vitality. It has other aids —
Tempenmce, &c. Does it prosper ?
N'o. A STRONG MONOGAMic SCHISM, Under the leadership of its
founder's son, has sprung up in their midst, and spreads. Other
schismatics denounce it.
What say their women ? They are its crucible. Mohammedan
women are brought up to it. All their independence is crushed
out from girlhood, and they are trained to humor their lord hus-
band in every whim. Mormon women are par excellence pious,
but have sufficient independence to remonstrate, if they really
must ; yet their piety will make them submit to it, if they pos-
sibly can. Then what is their verdict touching it?
Antagonistic, " tooth and nail." Several intelligent Mormon
women told me personally, and most emphatically, that every
woman in Utah was " down on it " at heart, and submitted to it
only as a divine fiat, and because God and Mormon prosperity
demand it; though the bitterest mental pill that could possibly
be forced down them. Though they scrupulously believe their
husband will be glorified in heaven in proportion to the number
of his children, and that their own soul's eternal salvation depends
on their pious acquiescence in it ; though their laws and customs
are terrible on those who resist it ; though every possible human
motive is forced into its support; yet literally hundreds of them —
every single one I questioned concerning it — declared that their
whole natures revolt against it, as did that of every plurality
woman they ever knew; except one old granny of seventy, almost
insanely devout, who expressed delight in having her husband
take more and younger wives, and rear Mormon children. Mark
the following expressions of the wife of one of their high-priest
leaders :
" My husband has four wives. I have been compelled to live with
my children in the same house with all of them, and room with one, cook
with the same uteDsiis and fire, and endure perpetual insults and wrongs ;
and tried in vain for years' to get a separate room, spider, and \x)i ; and,
thank God, finally succeeded. I have myself to earn almost all of my own
and children's food and clothing I
" It does seem as if God had tried His level best just to see how
heavy a cross he could compel us poor Mormon wives to bear up under.
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But I suppose it is all right ; because * the greater the cross the greater
its crowu.'
" When his other wives impose on me, which they keep doing all the
time, I say little to thefiriy but go for him."
Don't he have " a good time " though ? This is not incidental
to, but inheres in^ polygamy. I heard a prominent Mormon official
say, in my office, before a dozen listeners —
" I HAVE TO BE VERY JUDICIOUS and careful how I side with either of
my seven wives as against any other, or I get myself right into hot water ;
for one wife pours her envious complaints into my ear the night I give to
her, and another fills my other ear with her bitter invectives against Mrs.
No. 1 the night I give to her; and each really insists that I hoar and side
with her as against all the others. I muist say something, and what I say
to either about the other is magnified and distorted in being repeated, and
goes right straight to the others. I have had seven wives, but lost my
favorite, whom I doted on and loved far the most." ^'^
" I hai'nt piety enough to stand that (her husband's marrying any
other woman). He dast'nt do it. And he knows it, too,"
said another, in her husband's presence, and with a v^oman's
peculiar emphasis, who means more than she says. She had taken
lessons.
Three sisters, cotemporary wives of one man, deceased, with
their children, came all together under my professional hands;
these mothers having superb heads, extra pious and loving to
each other, who meekly submitted to polygamy as a divinely im-
posed cross, had namby-pamby children, with little Force, while
it was great in them ; their sons' pusillanimity being obviously
consequent on their mothers' meek but pious submission to their
hard polygamic fate. And I found Force deficient in the great
majority of their children ; undoubtedly from the same cause.
A first wife said :
" We married before polygamy was promulgated, and lived most
happily. My husband was ordered to take a second wife against his will ;
told me ; refused to obey ; was threatened with death if so prominent a
Mormon withheld his practical sanction ; took a second wife, which broke
my heart, and laid me on a six months' sick bed ; I recovered ; could have
borne even all that if he had chosen a refined, decent woman, but he chose
a low, vulgar, coarse one ; and then another, giving a night to each of us
in turn, till I told him to give my nights to them ; was left with my chil-
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dren in winter destitute of wood and food ; had to keep in bed to keep
from freezing ; waa literally starving ; he refused me food and fuel, which
he wanted for his bearing wives ; I was ordered to Southern Utah, where
my children mostly grew up, not one of whom will marry in polygamy, so
terrible is my and their experience of it"
A MERCHANT ill Ogden told me, as did many others, that all
Mormon girls, however strictly reared, would always jilt Mor-
mon beaux for Gentile, which he illustrated thus :
"A Mormon having two wives took his girl, whom he intended to
marry, to a ball last night. I asked her to dance with me and accept my
fescort home, both of which she did, with the utmost satisfaction."
She had probably learned something from her mother's ex-
perience.
Scolded Mormon husbands take their hats and say :
" Next time I call, madam, I hope to find your ladyship in bet-
ter humor ;" implying that the more he was scolded the less he
should call, and visit those most who scolded him least. Wives,
how would you like being lashed with that " cat-o '-nine-tails " ?
Utah women think God likes men the best, by His command-
ing them to pluck and enjoy so many women, whom He dooms
to a fraction of a man.
The number of Mormon children is certainly extraordinary,
and I judge more girls than boys, and seemingly robust.
" This sanctions polygamy, then, by your own fundamental principle
of its increasing offspring, that paramount end."
By INCREASING Utah children it withdraws bearing women
from other places. It offsets celibacy and masculine emigration,
two great wrongs, which leave excellent bearers by scores of
thousands unable, though most anxious, to marry. If any de>
liberately prefer a fraction of a man's heart and person to noth-
ing— a half or quarter loaf to no bread — they will find it in
polygamy ; as also all who intensely desire maternity, per se.
What multiplies good children fulfils nature's economies.
Kindred polyoamio facts will be adduced in illustration of
other points. Suflice it here that ray observations of its practical
outwork ings condemn it out and out.
Mormon women's votes, they say, favor polygamy. Then their
tongues and hands tell different stories. I was told that all ofiered
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up thanks when the railroad was opened. " Creative Science **
could not ignore this subject, nor bear any different witness.
As AN EXPERIMENT, it is an utter, downright, shabby, rotten
failure; self-destructive instead of self-sustaining; whereas, in
case it were inherent in man, it would have no "huts" or draw-
backs, no " outs " or repulsions ; but be loved, even clutched by
man, and especially woman, as a God-send. The race is working
itself out of free Love into one Love, despite all the allurements
of passion.
A POWERFUL INSTINCT, based in a fundamental human necessity,
is arrayed against plurality, and in favor of monogamy. The
human mind, and especially female instinct, must be remodelled
before plurality can be accepted.
" Why thus multiply proofs that one Love is the natural law of Love,
when either of these nine render it conclusive ? "
To DEMONSTRATE IT. To make assurance tenfold sure. To put
a final quietus on this vexed question. To give it the elevated
rank of a scientific truth, instead of leaving it declaratory. To
establish a principle thus vitally important to the well-being,
even existence, of the race as an ordinance of Nature, that all
mankind may hear and heed its authoritative edict. This one
Love doctrine is the focal centre of " Creative Science." On it
all else impinges. Its opponents are hereby boldly challenged to
overthrow any one of these arguments, either of which estab-
lishes it completely. Which did God incorporate into human-
ity, and which condemn ? " one Love," or " free Love " ? Every
single fact and principle in the natural history of man sanctions
one Love, but condemns promiscuous.
Man's mating Faculty, or instinct, and its necessity in rear-
ing children ;^^ the foreswearings and mutual pledgings of all
lovers ; ^^ the inherent self-perpetuation and augmenting of the
Love element itself,^ its " mine and thine " intuition,^ its inhe-
rent sacredness and inviolability,^^ its public requirement,^^ Na-
ture's demand for continuity vs. variety,"^ and her enforcement
of it by Jealousy,^ as well as its utter failure experimentally,^'
either separately, much more all collectively, redouble the accu-
mulative demonstration that one man and woman should continue
to love each other, after they begin, till parted by death, aye,
forever ; that the natural law of Love is pairing and fidelity.
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Section III.
MATRIMONY I ITS DIVINITY, MISSION, ETC.
1 660. — Marriage the only true Sphere op Love.
A NATURAL place FOR ITS ACTION accompanies every divine
creation. Everything, Love included, was made solely to be
exercised. This necessitates some place for this action. God
creates a legitimate sphere for the right exercise of everything
He makes. As in creating a river He makes along with it a
valley for its flow ; a tongue, a mouth and cognate organs in
and with which alone it can work, so
Love has its natural sphere in marriage, specifically fitted for
its action, and expressly adapted to its completest development.
This is as apparent as that eye-sockets were made for eyes.
No OTHER sphere for its action exists. As there is no other place
for lingual exercise except within the mouth, and with its group
of organs ; so what other legitimate one but marriage remains
to Love ? To exercise it outside of marriage is like exercising
the eyes outside of their sockets, and disconnected from the
brain and nerves ; which could be only illegitimate, fitful, and
abortive.
Marriage is precisely adapted, in every possible respect, to
its exercise ; and specifically provides for its fullest, most varied
and perfect culture, throughout all its various phases of blending,
cooperation, Platonic Love, and passion.** It omits nothing
requisite t<i render its development absolutely complete through-
out. Nature is perfect ; but nothing in Nature is any more per-
fectly adapted to fulfil its prerequisite function than is marriage
to fulfil every requirement of Love.
Marriaob IS MADE A DIVINE COMMAND by its adaptation to
action in this specific place and manner. No other will meet
the requirements of Nature or individuals, just as nothing but
valleys will " fulfil the bill " of rivers. God made it to be exercised
in marriage, and nowhere else. You who love outside of wedlock
break its laws, and incur their dire penalties; from which you can-
not escape till you can " flee from the presence of the Almighty."
Therefore love ;"• but love only where and as its Creator com-
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raands — in wedlock. Those who do not love are condemned for
its non-exercise, and those who love outside of wedlock are con-
demned for its wrong exercise. The former sin by omission, the
latter by commission.
A PARTIAL supply of this sexual element can be had outside,
but it is of necessity imperfect, fitful, and utterly inadequate to
fulfil its requisitions ; because irregular, whereas Nature requires
its " day-by-day " exercise ; crude and irritating, whereas Nature
demands that it shall be, what a true marriage really is, soothing
and balmy ; and like feeding on husks when we can have grain ;
like eating hard, sour, bitter crab-apples, when one can easily
procure luscious Baldwin and noble King apples ; besides being
sensualizing. And those who do, know little of either the sweets
or advantages of Love in marriage ; which fills its participants
clear up to the brim, throughout every part of their whole being,
with just the most healthful sexual aliment and delicious viands
mortals can enjoy. Marriage was not ordained for nought, and
can be ignored only at a fearful loss. Then
Say not you never want or mean to marry. You talk like
a fool. As well say you never intend to eat, or talk, or think.
Such twaddle is excusable as a make-believe, and to call out addi-
tional persuasions, just as musicians half decline to perform, only
to re-increase invitation ; but as an honest declaration of pur-
pose, every man and woman should say, " I want and mean to
love and marry just as soon as I can find a right object; and
shall look most assiduously."
661. — Promise of Mutual Cohabitation constitutes Marriage.
Some one thing is to marriage what cloth is to ga|;ments, and
chit to seeds, and their products. What then is this its constit-
uent, its all -controlling condition? Strange,, but true, it has
never yet been specifically analyzed.
Popping the question means just and only what? When a
loving swain asks his sweetheart to marry him, just what does he
ask her to do with and for him? Keep his house ? Be his cook,
laundress, valet? And when she says ^^yea" just what does she
say yes to ? When he profi*ers his hand in marriage, and she
accepts his by proffering her own, what else does he proffer and
she accept, and she proffer and ho accept? When they invite
their friends to see them married, exactly what do they invite
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them to witness? When they make a great public splurge, orna-
ment the church, spread new carj»et between carriage and chureli,
stand up " before folks " to " get married," over precisely what
do they " get up " all this " fuss and feathers " ? When brides
make their wedding " trousseaus," which reporters describe elabo .
rately to the girls, over exactly what do brides and bridegrooms
make all this wedding " ado " and "blow out " ? It is high time
you young folks, all folks, hiow what you are about in " marrying
and giving in marriage," and girls especially.
In just what one identical thing, then, does betrothal, the
marriage ceremony, and marriage itself, consist and inhere? This
one word — girls, take warning and notice —
Cohabitation alone answers all, constitutes all. They do all
this solely to say, " !N"eighbors, we propose and agree to cohabit
together." Whatever appertains to gender and the sexes, man
and woman. Love and marriage, was created and is adapted ex-
pressly and only to enable and induce them to procreate together.
Every part and parcel of man as such, of his masculine organism
and mentality, and of woman's mind and body as such, adapt
and prompt them to participate with each other in this creative
act, of which marriage is only its public proclamation. All this
is too palpably apparent to need any more than its declaration.
Both expect and demand copulation in order to impregnation
of, with, and by each other; and law virtually legalizes this in
the wording of the marriage ceremony, and in granting divorce
for its incompetency ai\d refusal. Its immediate participancy is
neither necessary nor best, but its prospective is. And any bride
who finally refuses, after due time for preparation, thereby breaks
her marriage vow, forcibly divorces herself, and absolves her bus-
band morally; as do either by copulating with another.
All marital law is predicated on this its underlying princi-
ple. Marriage is based in own children to rear.
662. — Marriage a Divine, not Human, Institution.
LoVB is a divine creation."* In and by creating it, God de-
mands its exercise.*** He ordained marriage as its only proper
sphere;** therefore it is a divine institution. As His creating
tongues to be used only in mouths renders each a divine insti-
tution; so His creating the male and female entities to be ex-
ercised only in marriage *** renders it a divine institution.
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" No. Human laws make marriage : hence its origin is human."
Its materials, a male and female, which alone render it possi-
ble, are God-made, and therefore divine ; as is also that Love
element, which alone inspires them to marry, cohabit, and create
life together. Those who promise to love each other, therein
promise to marry each other, and whoever do love each other,
thereby marry each other ; whether with or without a promise ;
for constancy inheres in Love.^^'*^ WAen, then, did all who are
married, marry ?
" When the legally authorized officer pronounced them hus-
band and wife."
No. They married themselves when and by plighting their
troth to love each other ; their formal marriage being only its
public acknowledgment, to legitimatize its products.^^ To illus-
trate by a case precisely analogous throughout : Farmer F. prom-
ises to sell, and citizen C. to buy, land, on these and those speci-
fied terms.
Their agreement constitutes said sale. Their scribe does not
make it by reducing its terms to writing, and making out and
recording its deed ; nor the justice who merely takes and attests
their oath to it ; nor even their signing it ; but they themselves
make it at and by their mutual verbal agreement to sell and pur-
chase. Precisely so throughout, in marriage.
The contracting parties marry themselves when and by en-
gaging to love only each other, which involves its progenal results.
They summon a legalized officer to attest their oath before their
invited witnesses, and make out its certificate ; yet he no more
marries them than the scribe and justice make said land sale.
Marriage ceremonies difi'er in different States and countries, as do
the forms of deeds ; yet its promise-to-love spirit alone is material
and constituent. And " public opinion " treats those engaged as
virtually married ; yet scandalizes all unengaged women closeted
with a man, unless courting in view of marriage, which it rightly
justifies.
As sun, air, man, breathing, sight, eating, self-defence, mechan-
ism, commerce, all natural creations and provisions are divine
institutions, reproduction included ; so is loving, and its marital
proclamation; its form alone being human. See that you fulfil
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its divine aspect bj choosing one of the opposite sex with whom
to reciprocate all the phases of this divine requirement ; and that
you publicly acknowledge that selection, and legitimatize its pro-
ducts, not scandalize them by bastardy.
Nowhere else, not even in the Bible, however often asserted,
has the divinity of marriage been established scientificalli/.
Would you debase this holy ordinance of Nature by thus hu-
manizing it ? Your own souls, even the very stones should pro-
test against such degradation. It should be legalized, that its
violators may be punished, and its rights protected ; but this is
one thing, and basing it in law, quite another. Law merely pro-
claims and regulates, but does not constitute it. Making it a
creature of law, renders it wellnigh nominal and nugatory, from
which society should seek deliverance ; while its divine origin
makes it a concomitant of being itself, infinitely sacred and ob~
ligatory, and a part of that " higher law " issued by the Supreme
Lawgiver to His universe. Laying stress on human law, detracts
just that much from its divinity. The almost universal senti-
ment, that " marriages are made in heaven," is based in our doc-
trine. Not that Divinity actually marries two parties, else He
bungles many marriages ; but that He has created the sexes, made
it possible for them to love, adapts this female specifically to that
male, mutually attracts those fit for each other, and then leaves
all to select for themselves.
663. — Marriage embodies mankind into Families, Groups, &c.
Matrimony has its science,*^ its end, its laws. This inheres
in its existence and divinity.^ "What, then, is its object, its
divine mission?
Embodying mankind into families. Society must have some
cohesive nucleii. What could isolated motes of matter, or indi-
vidual things or persons, do without combinations? One alone
could never manifest Friendship, Language, Kindness, Ac. ; nor
tiarry forward any of the great <^nd8 of the race. Religion, man-
ufactures, education, traffic, railroads, telegraph, navigation, gov-
ernments, Ac., require communis of efifort. That farm would
be but poorly worked whose owner was obliged to mine and
smelt the ore for his own tools, and then manufacture and use
them alone. Self-protection is good, but communitarian is better.
A government of one, by one, and for only one, would be a poor
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affair. In short, community of effort is a necessary means of
obtaining most human ends and pleasures.^^®
Love creates families out of husband, wife, and their chil-
dren ; which necessitates united action in everything else, and is
as direct a product of Love as light is of sun. Perfect Love
creates and compels the family.
Many families create villages, by naturally clustering around
sources which supply necessary wants ; afid these, towns, counties,
states, and governments, which are made up of families, with a
few unmarried " bricks " " thrown in." As rivers come from
springs ; so most human interests originate in the family, and it
in mating. Reader, what hut this began your own life, reared
you, and shaped your character ? But for it, you could never
have been.
The family needs no eulogy. It commends itself. As well
praise the fruitfulness of the seasons, or the "god of day."
Enough that it is "ordained of Q-od,"®^^ and, like all His other
works, necessary, and absolutely perfect. To compare it in value
with other divine provisions for human happiness, is like com-
paring that of sun with air. Without it how could man's
necessary wants of food, raiment, dormitory, property, educa-
tion, &c., possibly be supplied? Blot it out, and the race itself,
with all its multifarious ends, interests, and enjoyments, and
" society," religion included, must soon cease to be ! ^^^ It abro-
gated, all else would be of little account. God made it to be
appropriated by all, not to be spit upon by celibates. It is His
social sun. Warm and light your life centre in its divine rays ;
or else "prepare for judgment."
"Home, sweet home," with all its sacred joys and ties, is
created solely by the family. We will not descant on the utility
and necessity of the domiciliary principle, but simply ask how
many " homes " do celibates build, furnish, and sweeten ? Abol-
ishing matrimony would leave all our houses to rot down, build
only a few rookeries, and disband and extinguish society itself,
and all its interests. It alone creates real estate, and renders it
valuable.
664. — Gender fully developed in, and only by. Marriage.
All attempted estimates of the value of sexuality but mock
its fiubjeet.^^ Matrimony, with everything appertaining to it, is
matrimony: its divinity, mission, etc. 323
specifically adapted to develop, stimulate, sanctify, nurture, and
perfect this divine element. Love alone can develop it ; the only
sphere of which is marriage. It alone can convert boys into
men, and girls into women. Though forty years old, and weigh-
ing two hundred pounds, you are a boy or girl till Love convert*
you into a man or woman. All the manly and womanly char-
acteristics and virtues remain in their chrysalis state till it
develops them into the perfect ; while the more either sex loves
the other truly, the more men and women the}'' become. Xo
words can tell how much true Love ripens, and dormant deteri-
orates, all the sexual attributes. It alone can impart the true
feminine touch to all a loving woman says and does. Yet
behold its unsexed skeleton wrecks by millions ! When Nature
benignly ushered in their Love season, they allowed various
causes to waste it till it passed unimproved. Oh, how many thus
suffer ! Oh, how much ! Though their ignorance of how much
is bliss. Nature summoned them to the banquet of Love, they
disobeyed ; and a life-long Love-famine is their dreadful, yet
deserved doom. The very power of their Love monitions en-
forces the importance of fulfilling them.
This sacred season comes but once: make the most of it.
Yet it forms an epoch in every human life ; causes old things to
pass away, and renders all things new ; opens up a bright, a
glorious life-sun; and thoroughly revolutionizes the entire
being. Let your own halcyon experience attest, yet it cannot
attest the half, how fundamental its transfiguration. And let
this duly impress the practical importance of improving this
sacred era, big with momentous consequences. It is not a
** mountain laboring to bring forth a mouse," but is to life's
entire garner what soed-time is to harvest. No sacrilege equals
trifling therewith.*" God forbid that any reader should thus sin,
thus suffer; and inspire all to hearken to its demands. All you
who would make yourselves " perfect men and women,** abso-
lutely must mate and marry ; for sexuality can be developed only
by supplying it with its natural aliment in a pure Love union.
665. — A LovB Marriage a Sacred Self-Duty, binding on All,
Notb the accumulation of our subject. God compels all to
love,*** restricts them to one at a time,*'"** onlains matrimony
as its true sphere,**^ and thereby commands all who are sexed to
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mate, acknowledge their Love by marriage, and together raise its
products in honor. No arguments can be more conclusive, no
duties more binding. All delinquents break a divine command,
and incur inevitable punishment. All of a suitable age owe a
debt of marriage to their own divine selfhood. Those who neg^-
lect are like those who live from hand to mouth, eating bark to-
day, roots to-morrow, and but little ever, perpetually maltreating
their own sacred selves ; while those who live in married Love,
resemble those who seasonably fill their storehouses with all
needed edibles and fruits. The former are like those who pro-
vide no shelter from the burning sun or freezing blasts, or place
for their doomed heads, but sleep summer and winter wherever
night overtakes them ; while the latter are like those who pro-
vide themselves with domicile, raiment, and all needed comforts
and luxuries.
Only A LOVE marriage can supply this natural want. Those
who marry without loving are as guilty of sexual starvation and
immolation as those who do neither. Such marriage is its solemn
mockery and barrenness. Love is the main thing, and marriage
only its sphere. As poison is worse than starvation ; so few
things do equal damage with married hatred. Like stoning
wasps' nests, it gives only stings without honey. As nothing
promotes human weal equally with Love ; so nothing perverts all
as does conjugal hatred. Hand marriage, with hearts reversed,
is a living death, like being chained to a putrefying carcass; from
whose loathsome stench all should pray to be delivered ; or like
hugging a viper, from whose deadly fangs flee for dear life. An
uncongenial marriage is of all catastrophies to be most prayed
and provided against ; as a congenial one is of blessings to be
prayed and labored for. Those who thank at all, should offer up
their heartiest orisons of thanksgiving and praise that it has been
ingrafted into human nature. If allowed to approach the Dis-
penser of all good with but one petition, assured that it would
be granted, that one should be for its bestowment; while those
who curse at all, may justly curse " their stars," blindness, or
whatever else caused a union of hands with averted Love. Yet
since Nature provides that all marriages can be happy ,*'*'* ^" there^-
fore all are solemnly bound to mate and wed.
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666. — Each Sex owes a Marriage Duty to the other.
All owe mutual duties to our fellow-men. To let them starve
whea we can both supply them with food without personal sac-
rifice, and thereby supply ourselves, would be most wicked and
foolish. All have certain " inalienable rights," one of which is
to companionship, and oifspring. By creating about an equal
number of each sex, adapted to the wants of the other, and mak-
ing them necessary to each other, God has put every one of each
under divine bonds to select his or her love companion, made
non-compliance a double sin of omission by its starving two
sexual natures, and will not let such sinful sinners "go un-
whipj)ed of justice."
A genuine woman. How inexpressibly glorious to a man. God
has done all that Infinite Wisdom, Goodness, and Power could
do to render her incomparably his richest possession ; while a
genuine man is one equally valuable to woman. Neither sex at
all realizes how infinitely precious one of each is to the other.
God expressly adapts one to your specific requirements. Each
can have one wholly your own, soul and body. Those are most
foolish who do not appropriate one by marriage. What! have
you no relish for such angelic loveliness, or masculine nobleness
and power? Then are you indeed heartless, and " neuter gender,"
or worse. You must have the "dry rot." Out upon you. Aside.
" To the rear," or mate.
If males predominated over females, what force and violence,
what bloodshed and carnage, what superhuman efforts to obtaiu,
at whatever cost, some true woman to love and cherish ! Even
docile Chinese become frantic in a like struggle. The eagernesH
of the women of Benjamin to obtain at least nominal husbands,
after most of their men had been slaughtered, shows how eager all
true females should be to secure lovers, if females greatly predom-
inated. Indeed, for what are all this fashionable display, rivalry,
and expense but to awaken masculine admiration? Neither sex
at all realizes how precious is this equal supply of the other. Ilei
wardrobe, her diamonds may be precious to a true woman ; but
almost infinitely more so is a devoted lover. Let man, too, pos-
sess whatever else he may, all is comparatively worthless without
a woman with whom to enjoy all.*^ By thus diversifying them,
Nature creates some one specifically adapted to the particular
requirements of each. Those must be foolish indeed who do not
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find au api>ro[)riate one ; and poor, crooked, dry, barkless, dozj
sticks, who do not wiu one well worthy their whole-souled devo-
tion ; and should never boast of anything till they mate.
Emigrating men should first establish their affections, and
thus give themselves a sheet-anchor to prevent lurching ; a pole-
star to guide their journeyings and invite their return ; a life-
motive to work to ; a sweet remembrance in privation ; an object
to live for, in place of an objectless, drift-wood life; and the
greatest consolation in trials; besides making another happy.
This surplus of males South and West, and of females in most
'New England towns, especially seaport — 17,305 in Boston alone
— demoralizes both. Women highly educated and refined, and
rich in all the female attributes, are sexually starving by inches
in vain search for some one on whom to bestow that priceless
treasure — a woman's whole-souled devotion, yet perishing in the
search; while naturally excellent and wealthy men by millions
are corrupting one another just for want of this very female in-
fluence ; and seeking in the lower forms of vice, what a good wife
would furnish in the higher forms of virtue. Abounding in
superior natural gifts, they become either dormant or perverted
for want of this stimulant Love alone can furnish,*^ and as
necessary to each as is blood to body. So eager is their demand,
that school committees often require female teachers from the
East to pledge themselves in writing not to marry till their year
closes. Ladies, follow suit, and emigrate too. Mormonism is
fed solely by these local disproportions. ^N'o woman would thus
share a husband if she could have one all to herself. They prac-
tically argue, "• It is better that two love one, than that one re-
main wholly destitute."
667. — All are in Duty bound to Create.
Men acknowledge their mutual duties to each other, and parents
to their children, after they are born ; yet are not all who are sexed,
thereby placed under divine and human bonds to ci^eate offspring ?
and on the highest plane possible ? Why is this parental capac-
ity conferred thus universally, unless to be commensurately
employed ? Its very existence is its command to action.®^ Till
our world is packed full,*^^ it is the paramount duty of all whc
can, to help fill it. To let this glorious sun and earth, with all
these provisions for human happiness, go to waste, when our pw**
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dear children might be enjoying them, is a sin against their
Creator. As when a nation is attacked, it becomes the duty of
all to help defend it ; so it is a national duty to all " to raise up
seed " unto the body politic, if not for war, then for peace.
This procreativk period is precious to all,*^ and should be
filled up in producing and rearing the most and the best children.
Those books which teach a contrary doctrine are public curses,
and their authors amenable. Some ancient nations outlawed all
women who, at thirty, had borne the state no children. All are
sacredly bound to both make their own places good, and provide
themselves with offspring to love, nurse their declining years,
bury them, and inherit their property, bodies, and virtues.
The surplus strength of all in health ^N'ature requires should
be expended on something. How glorious that we can employ it
in rearing up our own flesh and blood to be and make happy !
To impose all this labor upon others is selfish. Each should
generously bear his and her proportion. Its married and single
shirks deserve rebuke. Those who have been tended, should also
tend. By all the pleasure parents can take in their children, and
they and their descendants in themselves forever, by all their
good deeds, thoughts, &c., included, is the bounden duty of all to
produce, and rear the most and best offspring possible. Behold
every tree and herb, every insect and animal, all created things,
perpetually obeying this great natural mandate ! God will not
hold delinquents guiltless. Celibates take notice.
668. — Appeal to Anglo-Saxons to Multiply.
Liberty of thought, speech, and the press needs no laudation.
It must not be crushed out from among men ; but must be
extended over the globe, and perpetuated forever.
Numbers rule herb. The majority is the final umpire. Yet
this invaluable birthright of freedom must/all^ unless maintained
by nwnbcrs. Add to this unquestionable truth our growing celi-
bacy, the few Anglo-Saxon "children to the manor born," and
the premature death of half these few, the appalling result is
inevitable that republican laws aiid customs must be crushed out
Our prolific grandmothers oftener exceeded eight robust children
than fell below six.*** Tluit gave " Plymouth Rock '* the numbers
rec[ui8itc for engraving itself into the laws and customs of this
continent. But " modern civilization " practises many abominft-
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tions, of which preventing offspring is the most utterly accursed.
Hardly half are married at thirty, and worst of all, large num-
bers are determined to remain single. Great God, to what is
republican liberty drifting! Only a few Puritanical children are
born ; about half of them die in childhood, and the balance are
puny, sickly dwarfs ; soft of texture, mostly brain and nerve, and
utterly incapable of enjoying or transmitting robust life. Read
Dr. Nathan Allen's statistics on this subject, and tremble at this
appalling result, that 'Hiberti/" of speech and worship must be sup-
planted^ and the ballot-box be abolished, or else used only as an
engine of extortion and oppression, to vote the rich man's money
into the rabbles' pocket. Its enemies already calculate, by their
increased productiveness, and the great diminution of births
belonging to the native New England stock, that in not more
than two generations those of foreign origin will outnumber the
descendants of the Puritans !
Theee Puritans, a husband and his two wives, produced
twenty-one grown children, nineteen of whom married, forty in
all ; who produced only tweniy-tiDO children, after all had passed
their productive period ! Ten children of one family married,
twenty in all, and produced only fourteen. New England fam-
ilies average less than three children each, many of which die
young. Add celibates, and say how long will it take, at this
rate, to run us out. Some others besides Indians and Sandwich
Islanders are fast becoming " extinct." Curse "the fashions."'*^
Too genteel, ah ! As things now tend
This great government, this most magnificent engine for good
to countless myriads throughout all time, must be turned into an
engine of commensurate oppression. The patriotic heart breaks,
pen falters, and eyes swim in tears. Yet all this is richly merited.
Non-production is as sinful as re-production is imperious.^^^ Nat-
ural law will snatch this goodly heritage from non-productive
drones, to bestow it on producers of " little ones." Justly, propa-
gators crush out non-producers.
All GREAT HUMAN STRUGGLES INDUCE WAR. All history proves
this. A new contest is visibly marshalling its hosts, in which
"Authority '' and " Inalienable Rights " are becoming contestants
for supremacy. Liberal ists, you cannot long remain indifferent
to its issues. The ballot-box, forms of law, and " sinews of war,"
are likely to be captured first, as just seen, and aid the wrong
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side. Patriots, and all who own homes and property, may well
tremble for the result ; and will then wish their own firesides
participated in that " greatest conflict op ideas and op ages."
Section IV.
celibacy : ITS causes, evils, excuses, etc. old maids.
669. — It deadens and perverts Love, and prevents Offspring.
It outrages Nature. No instance of voluntary celibacy exists
throughout insects, fish, fowls, or beasts, man excepted. What
efforts fish make to ascend rivers, simply for sexual union?
Without ridiculing celibates as persons, we yet arraign celibacy
itself for trial before this sexual tribunal. Its verdict is, " Abolish
it." Let there be no old bachelors or old maids in all our borders.
All who are sexed must marry. Those poorly sexed are less
drafted, enjoy less in marriage, and suffer less in "single blessed-
ne88,"(?)yet on this very account need marriage the most. As
action strengthens, while inertia weakens,^ so sexual dormancy
diminishes Love, and its benefits. As weak Memory, Worship,
&c., demand all the more culture than if strong, so weak Love
demands culture in marriage the more the weaker it is; just as
feeble children need nursing more than robust. As simpietons
deserve blame not for lacking sense, but for not exercising what
little they have; so feeble lovers should improve their single
Love talent the more assiduously the less of it they have. Those
who desire to marry least, need to most.
Celibacy unsexes, just as marriage develops gender.*** It im-
pairs gender by its inertia if unexercised ; by sensualizing it if
exercised. All unmated at twenty-three who exercise it are
libertines ; virtual eunuchs, those who do not. None can escape
this dilemma except in marriage.
" This excoriation is terrific. You handle us with feline claws. CSiU
us thieves, liars, swindlers, blacklegs, anything InU eunuchs."
This merely calls you what your celibacy makes you. It but
puts a plain fact plainly. You castrate yourselves by sexual
inertia if you do not love, or by sensuality if you do. Better
develop what gender remains by at once initiating a love mar-
330 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, ADVANTAGES, ETC.
riage.®" Every male requires his female, and every female her
male. " It is not good for either to live alone." Each was made
for the other, as much as eyes for light, and are about as useless
isolated. Paul meant you when he said, perhaps experimentally,
" It is better to marry than to burn."
Fathers of families, ever since " society " existed, have been
the aristocrats, dignitaries, and privileged classes, enjoying spe-
cial honors and immunities in civic life; while the unmarried
have always been looked down on, ridiculed, put off with " second-
class " fare, accounted nobodies, edged around, left out in the
cold, except when bated, or wanted as makeshifts. Do they ever
" lead off " in society ? Can they give select parties, or " entertain" 1
Only a married woman can ever administer style. Preposterous
all attempts. Society originates in the family, which embodies
humanity into one homogeneous sheaf, every kernel clinging to
its head, and all bound together into one golden bundle by the
magic girdle of marriage ; excepting those scattered celibates
" lying all around loose," as if not worth gathering.
670. — The Causes and Excuses of Celibacy canvassed.
Its causes make it all the worse ; of which self-abuse is the
greatest.^^ By sickening, nauseating, disgusting, and weakening
the Love element, it makes its victims so feasty, dainty, extra
particular, offish and repellent towards the opposite sex, seeing
their faults before appreciating their virtues,^® that, neglecting
these and discarding those opportunities, they drift along down
the current of time into the gulf of cross-grained celibacy ; be-
sides repelling the other sex. Yet some are born natural old
bachelors and old maids, through maternal sexual indifference
or disgust. This last and one other great cause, told to old
maids,^^^ deserves more pity than censure.
It has no valid excuse. Many say, " Its evils are great, but
those of marriage, much greater." Others say :
" I WOULD discipline my mind ; accomplish these and those desirable
ends ; go to college, &c., which marriage would prevent."
Does weakening feet strengthen hands, or starving stomach
develop muscle ? Improving and stunting either of the mental
powers similarly affects them all. Starving the social to strengthen
the intellectual is like stifling the lungs to improve the brain.
Atfectional culture promotes intellectual.^*^'^
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" Losing either of the senses surely quickens all the others, aa blindness
touch. Then why not love-inertia increase intellectual vigor ? "
Bli!1dnbss redoubles sensation by compelling its increased ac-
tion ; yet what prevents exercising touch even more with sight
than without ?
AcTiVB Love disciplines all the Faculties.*^*""* Engaged colle-
giates can study best, and married preachers preach, lecturers
lecture, writers write, naturalists study, better than- unmarried ;
and all others prosper better in all other pursuits. What I God
enjoin marriage on all,^®*"*^ yet punish obedience with inferiority I
The fact is, helpmeets help, not hinder.
" ^Iany of the best and most gifted in all ages and pursuits have re-
mained unmarried, or else married after having attained their celebrity.
Pope, Cowper, Watts, Addison, Whittier, Halleck, &c., among the poets;
Swift, the Johnsons, Irving, the most gifted and finished among authors ;
Newton, and both the Combes, among the philosophers ; * Queen Bess,' one
of the most distinguished among sovereigns ; Peabody, among the self-made
millionnaires ; and hosts of others, go to prove that celibacy rather pro-
motes than impairs human excellence. At least, celibates but pattern after
our Great Teacher and Exemplar; and the Catholic clergy piously and
properly forego marriage, that they may serve * The Virgin,' and her celi'
bate Son, the more completely than they could if trammelled with family
cares."
Are you sure Catholic " Fathers " were born without man-
hood, or crucify it, or exercise no passion in any way? At least
you liave no such pietarian excuse, nor any other. Irving loved
early and too devotedly to love another after his idol died f^ yet
late in life showed how much he craved and needed female sym-
pathy ; as did Peabody.
671. — Responsibilities and Expenses op Modern Families.
" Taking a wife necessitates her support, with that of children ;
and a clinging, dependent family b a serious responsibility."
What a poltroon, to let this prevent your marriage I Suppose
a young lion, shaking his head moodily, should say, "I can
hardly hunt for myself, and can't afford to obligate myself to
hunt for a lioness and parcel of blind, howling whelps besides,
lest they or I might come to want ; " would n't the other lions
reply—
332 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, ADVANTAGES, ETC.
" You FLUNKY ! Pretend to ro^r, hey I yet cannot catch extra game
enough to feed half a dozen little ones ? Why, you are dull as well as
lazy. You must catch a fresh beef every night for yourself, or starve, or
else eat carrion, and cannot eat the half of it before it spoils; and may
just as well carry the surplus home to your folks as not, and enjoy seeing
them clutch and devour it greedily, and look up with satisfied, grateful
eyes into your face ! Have you no pluck ? You are no genuine lion, only
a counterfeit. Mate, or quit our fraternity."
" Modern -families are very expensive. In these days one cannot
support a wife * decently' on less than twenty-five hundred per year. This
my income will not allow. Only fa^shionable wives are respected. One
had better be unnoticed, than noticed for poverty."
Supporting a family plainly costs little more than supporting
one's self. The necessaries of life, plain food, clothes, &c., better
than expensive, are cheap. Other people's eyes^ looks, fashion,
&c., are what mainly cost. Ambition erroneously says, " Better
no family than one not stylish;'^ whereas a plain family is infi-
nitely better than none. You incur the terrible doom of a
barren heart,^ which you also fasten on another, besides robbing
your race of the children you might and ought to rear, because,
forsooth, you cannot support as costly an establishment, buy as
many fine dresses and diamonds, and dasli out in as splendid
style, as this or that acquaintance. And our race is to-day minus
millions of superb specimens, minus all their happiness and pro-
ductions, just on account of these fashionable ideas. That is, you
place fashion above E^ature. Fashion is one of our greatest
modern curses.''^^ Mark, you are preparing your back for ligature's
lash.
"Young men rarely rise above the sphere in which they marry
and hence should postpone marriage till wealthy enough to marry into
some F. F V. family."
Your premises are wrong. Families are constantly rising and
sinking, according to their means and merits ; yet far more by " means "
than meiit. You will be respected in proportion to your dollars,
irrespective of whether you got them before marriage, or after, or even
how, for that matter. Yet your having five thousand might enable
you to marry fifty, whilst with but one, you could marry only a like
sum. Yet this makes marriage a mercenary speculation, of which
hereafter.
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"All cultivated, educated girls — and I want no other — are brought
up in a style of luxury far above my means. Putting such into a
common house, with the best surroundings I could afford, would wrong
her."
Not if she prefers plainness with you to celibacy. If she is
content with your best efforts, and you love each other, you bless
both by marrying, but curse both by not. Yet you want none
who prefer style to you.
Stylish ladies make the poorer, not better, wives as such.
Those who sacrifice marriage to style lose both ; for stylish
celibacy is impossible. You who prefer celibacy to a plain
marriage must take its dreadful concomitants of sexual inertia or
sensuality ,*'^^ childlessness, and a dreary, uncared for old age; but
complain not, in your dotage, when you find your punishment
greater than you can bear. Nature will not be crucified on the
altar of style, without inflicting a terrible retribution.
How MUCH HAPPIER, after all, do a stylish woman and fashion-
able surroundings render a husband and family, over good home-
spun affectionate plainness ?
Only poor and rich, who either disregard appearances, or else
are able to support them, can marry in this style-worshipping age;
leaving the great body of our well-to-do middling classes too
proud and poor to marry, though abundantly able to obtain mar-
ried competence and comfort.
672..— Sexual Mates indispensable to all Life's Enjoyments.
None can be happy alone. Created friendly, we Ve got to affil-
iate. Companionship is a primal law we must obey, or suffer.
Associating with our own sex is better than isolation, but poor
enough in all conscience; necessarily vulgarizes, and sensualizes;
and disseminates bad habits, such as smoking, drinking, swearing,
gambling, &c. ; besides each provoking all to harlotage, its natural
outlet. Men will and must intermingle with women, and women
with men, on some plane; a refined being the only antidote for
the illicit. Billiard, drinking, gambling, and other male saloons
and resorts are public curses; yet they grow out of celibacy, and
are sustained chiefly by it.
What will you bachelors do wHh yourselves and yours ? To
what ultimate use do you propose to put all the money you
are thus struggling to make, the honors you are acquiring, the
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intellectual and moral culture you are effecting, and other results
achieving? Must all die with you, or be "left" to others? Had
you not far better transmit them to your oicn flesh and blood ?
You will find some difference between working hard all your
life for nothing, and for own children. To accomplish or enjoy
much one must be spurred on by some great life objects, motives.
What others are half as soul and body inspiring a.^ loved wife aiid
little ones? Investments in that "stock" will pay the handsomest
dividend you can ever make and enjoy. Better avail yourself of
Nature's proffer, and found a family among men.^^ You will
find her transmitting capacity worth improving.*^
All men must pet, nurse, care for, play with, cuddle wife, chil-
dren, horses, dogs, birds, something. Dogs are better, than noth-
ing, horses better yet, because useful, but both are sticks, nowhere,
nothing, compared with own woman and children. He who
really loves them will rarely pet a horse, except to promote their
happiness. Dogs and fast horses would be less numerous and
petted if wives and children were more. Which is best?
" Dogs," say old bachelors practically ; " cats and birds," say old
maids ; " wife and children," say genuine men. Choose between
them. Yet is it not pitiful to waste on animals this divine pet-
ting, cuddling sentiment, created for rearing children ?^^^ What!
prefer a horse, a dog, to a woman, and babies ! You must be a
eunuch, sure.
Women will get most of your earnings, by hook or crook, per-
suasion or intimidation, fair means or foul, virtuously or viciously.
You were made thus.'*^ Men's greatest luxury consists in making
women happy. N'ow will you spend your time, money, affections,
soul, on one woman, or on many women ? On anybody's, every-
body's, nobody's women, or on your own woman?*** On wife, or
harlots ? You will find it much less expensive to devote all to
your own wife, who pays you back in fondness and kindnesses
innumerable, than to harlots, who regard you only as harpies their
prey, and love you only as one to " fleece." ^^ A wife and family
are even less expensive than clubs, &c. ; and you will then have
something to skow^ well worth showing, for all this life-labor and
expense, in place of misery and shame. Men can, do, and may
justly feel prouder of their fine wife and children than of any
and all other acquisitions whatsoever.®^^ You who have none
should feel humbled till you get some.
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Family associations double the value of all life's possessions.
How much more are horses, houses, lands, goods, avocations,
station, talents, any, every, all life's valuables worth with a family
to help use and enjoy them, than without? You own a splendid
turnout, and take a given amount of pleasure in riding alone ;.
more with a male friend ; much more with a female ; but im-
measurably the most with your OKm wife and little ones. Old
baches, club cronies, get up your very best picnic, fishing, or any
other expedition, with your spanking horses, robes, sandwiches,
champagne baskets, all you like ; without some female, all are
both insipid and gross ; with one or more ladies, vastly more
enjoyable; with a loved wife and children, superlatively so; and
the more the more affection all around.
A LOVELESS LIFE IS ALMOST woRTHLESS."^"*^ Those unmatcd are
like half a pair of scissors, only half a man or woman; and that
lialf about useless unless riveted to its partner. What is it to be
loved, and what to love ? Look at every family as a public bene-
faction. A human being is a great blessing to those around him.
Celibacy is wrong in every conceivable aspect, personal and public.
Is it not mean, cold, heartless, selfish, almost despicable, through-
out ? Let those who are men be men, not monkeys ; and assume
the duties and responsibilities of manhood.
Since men nurture intellect, morals, taste, music, various talents,
Ac. ; why not Love, and the rest of your social group as well ?
They need culture as much as any. Will you make them dead
wood within you by having no family, or your greatest life-in-
spiration by securing one? Exercise is Nature's great developer,
as inertia is its paralyzer. Which will you adopt ? If action, pray
how give it action, except in loving and providing for your oum
bosom life-companion *" and children? " What is home without
a mother? " What is home without wife, husband, children?
Celibacy don't pay considered in any, all its aspects. •
"Mt children will be tainted, if I marry and have any, with
consumption, dyspepsia, scrofula, insanity, sexual weakness, sick head-
ache, &c, as I am."
Find a scientific answer to this, the only serious, intellec-
tual objection to marriage, in Part III., with directions for its
complete obviation."^''"
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673. — i can gbt none i will have, nor have any i can get
" Marriage is a lottery, with few prizes, aud all the rest worse than
blanks. All girls who have culture, lack health ; have health, lack cul-
ture ; whereas I want no wife without both. All educated girls are * fixed
off* for the matrimonial market, with false hair, teeth, forms, and worse yet,
false manners, and cast of character ; whereas I must take a genuine womaii,
physical and mental, to wife,°®° or none. Others may put up with dry-goods
and falsehoods, but I prefer remaining single to taking all these chances."
Each sex is what the other makes it. Every fault of " these
girls " lies at the door of " these beaux ; " and every masculine
fault at that of women. Man's demands regulate woman's sup-
ply, and her demands his supply. Mothers rear their daughters
according to the matrimonial market, and men conform to female
tastes. False style, just now all the rage, is spoiling all but
drudges ; yet as soon as men flutter around genuine merit, women
will be found conformatory. "Served him just right " for thus
cursing them. Snobbery must run its course. May good sense
arrest it before it spoils the female sex.
"All these men are corrupt, and lack only opportunity. They are
not to be trusted out of sight, and make woman a mere slave of passion,
with little Love for her purity and goodness. Annie Dickinson gives
them — what they deserve." Many old maids.
All masculine faults lie at the door of women. Instead of
censuring men, make them what you would have them. When
the female sex bestows marked appreciation on those who are
moral and temperate, they will become such, if only "to please
the ladies." But the chief error of fault-finders lies in them-
selves. As the color of our own glasses gives the same seeming
color to what we behold ; so berating women is a sure sign of a
man's own sexual depravity, as deprecating " these men " is oi a
woman's:^^ Such little realize what " personal confessions " they
make by spleeny tirades. All men-hating women, and all women-
hating men, are themselves sexually demoralized,®^^ and will
therefore make miserable companions, unless " converted " into a
true sexual state.
Would you, grumblers, cheat, by getting' one so much better
than you give? Only those have a just right to be particular
who are themselves perfect ; whereas, your very grumbling proves
that you are in a dainty, because unsexed, state. Neither sex
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should throw stones, because both occupy glass houses, and are
growing no better. May '' Creative Science " mend matters.
" Facts are stubborn things. Among all my acquaintances, I know
scarcely one happy, affectional marriage. Every husband finds this, that,
the other fault with his wife, and she with him. The number of applicants
for divorce, despite its odium, tells the story. Most married women advise
others not to marry. What does this prove but their own misery ? Their
sad faces tell the same sad story, et cetera"
What else could be expected, since both sexes outrage the
dexual laws from their cradles ? " Creative Science," studied and
practised, will obviate every instance of discord, and make all
marriages happy. These admitted evils spring from sexual
ignorance, not from anything inherent in marriage ; or if inhe-
rent, its Divine Ordainer^ has made one grave mistake.
674. — Excuses and Suggestions for Elderly Maidens.
" We old maids at least are both excusable and pitiable. Forbidden
by * society' to select our beaux, what if they do not select us? When
modest, we are neglected ; forward, despised. What can plain women do
to attract men, and secure proffers ? "
Manifest the female attributes. Gender is what capti<
vates.** And it is in your own keeping. A vigorous sexual state
is what rounds out your form;®* reddens your cheeks and lips;**
fenders all your looks and tones, ways and expressions lovely,***"**
preserves your youthful looks,*^ gives elasticity and poetry to
your walk and dance,**^ and makes your person wholesome,*** ind
(out ensemble perfectly irresistible. Make yourselves lovable by
promoting womanliness, and beaux will swarm around you ini-
ploringly, and give you your pick, regardless of plain looks or
expense. Your chief trouble lies in your oum sickish, mockish,
unloving, dainty mood.^ Those run down sexually will and
Khould be neglected. You have allowed your Love element to
decline, or become sickly. As protracted hunger often begets
daintiness; so Love deferred often creivtes that disgust of the
op[)06ite sex which blights female charms, and misimproves all
chances it does not kill. Your isolated pinings have mildewed
your attractiveness; whereas cultivating a warm, genial, apprecia-
ting, cordial, inviting state of feeling towards the other sex,
would extort admiration, attentions, and "proposttls." You
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338 MARRIAGE: ITS DUTY, ADVANTAGES, ETC.
have yourselves mainly to blame. Men in abundance are in
earnest search of wives, who would, choose you if you possessed
and manifested conjugal excellences. Deserve " offers," and you
will have them. You retire, turtle-like, within yourselves, em-
boned on all sides; whereas, like the glowworm, you should
exhibit your excellences. Lovely women are courted ; and the
lomng are lovely, and unloving neglected. Let your female
"light shine," instead of hiding it under your prudish bushel,
an4 men will discern and court it. As pent-up springs burst
forth somewhere, flowers open out their beautiful petals and
disseminate their fragrance, and ripe fruits display their lus-
ciousness ; so keep your feminine excellences on exhibition.
Many are too squeamishly prudish to allow any man to become
sufliiciently familiar with them to judge of their merits and fitness
for companionship. Too modest and reserved to court when
they should have done, making their lover think they disliked
when they liked, they have fallen back into a cold, distant, sad,
misanthropic mood, which always repels. Come, be more free
and familiar. Don't be so precise and primped up. Take lessons
of girls. Surely, women may be the most " entertaining." Talk
and laugh more •/^'^•^ this will expose your womanly excellences,
and these awaken admiration and Love. Admire and compli-
ment men; this will provoke regards in return. Rely less on
dress, but more on womanhood well manifested.''*^ Reject no
offer because not precisely to your liking ; but calculate the main
chances,'^ and rely on moulding to your liking after marriage.
These exposures are awful. You cannot realize how terribly cut-
ting these strictures are, or surely your gallantry would spare us. Blame
" society," not us. False education, custom, each resistless as the tides,
have stifled and withered our womanhood. We deserve pity, not ridicule.
Change " society," not blame us.
This identical object we attempt in this expos'e. Rejoice that
your pitiable condition can be made to warn girls to avoid a like
fate by a like means. Mothers, at least, will learn how to save
their daughters from old-maidism.
675. — All old Loves prevent new. No two can coexist.
Sun obscures larger orbs. None can serve two masters, mis-
tresses, or anything else; because liking either generates dislike
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for the other. Enthusiasm for any business, or study, or thir^g,
proportionally deadens that for all others. Here is a veritable
law of mind, applicable to Love more than to everything ehe.
See why in ^\
Six old maid sisters examined professionally, all unusually
affectionate, wholesome, attractive, smart, good, maternal, and
conjugal, on all of whom I earnestly enjoined marriage, after
full discussion among themselves, appointed their eldest to
reconsult as to their difficulty in suiting themselves in marriage,
though pressed with excellent offers. They were told the cause —
daintiness induced by a previous Love affair — to which each
p'lCad guilty; yet all refused to crucify the old, while confess-
ing the fearful ravages Love deferred was inflicting on their
constitutions and minds. Poor creatures! Sacrificing their
lives for naught. Yet similar instances of like self-immolation
are constantly coming under my hands by the thousand. Let
all wuch learn how to save themselves.®*^"*^ Mark this instructive
dialogue with Eliza White, past fifty:
"Eliza, why didn't you marry young? One so pre-eminently
adapted to be and make happy as a wife and mother, should have had a
husband and family of your own."
"The real reason, Professor, has never yet passed my lips — hitherto
sealed on that subject — but I will tell you. When about twenty, I loved a
young divinity student, who loved me, both most fervently. But he post-
poned a formal proffer and marriage because he was poor, while I had been
reared in luxury, and had some money ; and he was unwilling to subjecf.
me to plain fare, and put me on a lower social position than I then occupied.
Yet / thought his * liberal education ' much more than offset my dollani.
He went South to make some money by teaching, that he might come back
and marry me, but died of yellow fever; and for thirty years I have felt
myself just as much his veritable wife as if we had been married by Ikw •
and intend to keep myself pure and true to him alone, for our eternal rtv
union beyond the grave, where I know he awaits me."
All such, though nominally single, are as much married, "■ in
spirit and in truth," as though Rev. E. H. Chapin had eloquently
and legally pronounced them husband and wife, and she become
a widow. Her cherishing his memory yielded her the advantages
of Love, and was virtual marriage. All similarly situated, a'
whom Irving was one, are anything but old bachelors or old maids.
WitA bad not the least taint of old-maidishness about her. All
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her actions, her very spirit, were those of the fully-developed
woman, not of the shrivelled-up, cross-grained old maid. She
was an angel of mercy wherever she went, motherly to children,
a nurse to the sick, most benevolent, and a pattern woman.
Horace Mann describes one such. Multitudes come under this
head.
Many a naturally excellent woman, who has a good head,
heart, and Temperament, is well-intentioned, and if happily mar-
ried, would make a prime wife, mother, and citizen, yet soured by
'' Love deferred," after all is more to be pitied than censured, be-
cause more unfortunate than faulty. She neglected to sow in the
spring-time of Love, and must now famish on through a cold,
dreary fall, and perish in the winter of discontent — a just penalty
for neglecting that first duty of all, to make due provisions at
Nature's appointed time for this Love element.^^ This punish-
ment increases with age. She may indeed stifle a Love affair at
eighteen, survive, and pass on comfortably till towards thirty,
when !N'ature begins to rebel and chastise. Life becomes either
objectless^"^ or distracted. Patient endurance of Love crucifixion
begins to crush out, or becomes like a perpetually aching corn.
The hiatus widens and gulfs yawn, as age advances. With none
to love and by whom to be caressed, but only friends, and they
married, so that she must not express even friendship to any
gentleman, she is neither pleasing, nor easily pleased. She grows
old, yet avoids all allusions to age, but assumes youthfulness.
Her marriageable period wanes, and is finally past. A withering
sense of loneliness and desolation gathers apace. She has no fon(?
partner with whom to while away life's tedious days and nights ;
talk, walk, ride, and visit ; on whom to lean, and with whom
" to live ; " nor any rosy children to amuse and wait on her: br''
is like a trailing vine, prostrate and unlinked to her fellows, in
stead of encircling some sturdy oak. Hers is indeed a dreary,
spiritless life; and a death still more dreary awaits her. Pity
her, but blame and reform " society.** " Verily, they that sleep in
seed-time shall want in harvest, and perish in winter." And
since this life is related to that to come, the childless here musk'
remain forever without own children to call them blessed, and
starve this strong parental Faculty eternally.
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676. — Females taking the Lead in Courtship, proper.
"Women over twenty-one may lead off in expressing their pref-
erences, which they know just how to do with perfect propriety ;
while girls before twenty may properly wait to be courted, or
court, as they prefer. Many a man remains single because over-
mting women, yet underrating himself makes him too bashful to
express his pent-up regards ; yet this very worship is the para-
mount prerequisite of a first-best husband. Needing a forward
wife, he naturally waits for women to advance first and most ;
whereas encouraging him by lady-like compliments and winning
ways, or signifj'ing that his advances would bring a ready response,
would draw out a proposal.
"Woman is the right one to initiate Love, because its terrestrial
angel and governess. See why in ****'^. Her greater love intui-
tion^ enables her to judge best whom she can love, and who can
love her. Why should not prospective mothers select fathers for
their hearts' darlings, as well as fathers mothers. And those
marriages initiated by true women " setting their caps " are sure
to eventuate happily, unless spoiled by drink, or something be-
sides uncongeniality. Three years should be given women to
make advances, and leap-year left for men ; and then observed.
This is correct, because scientific, and practised by some nations,
though condemned by Anglo-Saxons.
677. — No Substitute for Marriage.
All substitutes are poor, compared with originals. As fals^
hair may be better than none, so those means of feeding Love
detailed in ^ are far better than self-abuse or sexual starvation,
and consequent inanity, yet as inferior to marriage in supplying
man's, and especially woman's love-wants as stubble to wheat for
food. This living on sexual crumbs picked up here and there,
perhaps snatched from others* tables, often scant and always
fragmentary, is like famishing on poor musty crusts in place of
enjoying perpetually the soul-and-body satisfying love-banquet
of marriage. One may substitute cork limbs or false teeth for
natural, and artificial light for solar, with ease and benefit ; yet
this trying to supplant Love by other Faculties is quite like try-
ing to substitute something else in place of food or breath. Bet-
ter not make the self-crucifying attempt. Hunting around after
a substitute for marriage is quite like trying to devise something
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•Ise in place of eyes or stomach. Make up your minds to tkat^ all
ye who will not, do not, or cannot marry, or live in marital alien-
ation. When, but only when, you can find a substitute for sense,
honesty, courage, memory, tongue, heart, &c., you may find one
for matrimony; but hills will vanish and rivers find substitutes
for valleys first. In all conscience, why seek any for an institute,
a behest as infinitely glorious and luscious as Love in marriage?
Section V.
ITS AVERTED, INFLAMED, DEADENED, AND OTHER STATES.
678. — The averted and disgusted Phases of Love.
Excesses always inflame, then disgust. As night gormand
izing creates morning loathing; so sensuality begets sexual aver
sion. As a ravenous appetite, the first stage of dyspepsia, in-
duces nausea; so, and for a like reason, all sexual excesses beget
disgust of the opposite sex. As overtaxing the eyes, nerves,
muscles, brain, &c., yesterday, creates aversion to study, excite-
ment, work, &c., to-day, and those who once cloy themselves with
any kind of food reject it ever after ; so all wrong sexual action
arrests itself by generating an aversion to whatever appertains
to the opposite sex. Those who unsparingly denounce all sexual
errors in others, thereby proclaim their own. Extreme sexual
fastidiousness is self-conviction of personal uncleanness. Pru-
riency creates prudery. Those who have become mothers before
becoming wives, invariably manifest extreme disgust of all free-
doms ; besides being most censorious on all improprieties. It was
the lewd who desired to stone the erring woman. Those of
either sex who show extreme indignation against sexual liberties,
thereby proclaim their own. To those in this disgusted mood
everything sexual is immodest, and "sexual science" outrageous.
Squeamishness signifies uncleanness.
"Mock modesty" indicates amatory excesses, just as dainti-
ness is caused by prior over-eating. As things seem to us large
or small, far or near, blue or green, orange or red, &c., ac-
cording to the glasses through which they are viewed ; as " it
takes a rogue to catch a rogue," and as the suspicious may justly
be suspected ; as " evil is to him who evil thinks^'' while " to the
pure all things are pure ; " so those who are disgusted with sex'
343
ual subjects are themselves sexually demoralized. They look
through the glasses of their own corrupt feelings, and are there-
fore both the most suspicious and censorious — suspicious, because
they "judge others by themselves ; " censorious, because them-
selves censurable: whereas purity is unsuspecting, and virtue
tolerant and forgiving.
Love disgusted is to normal what panic is to Caution ; shame
to Ambition; seeing others in agony to Kindness; blasphemy to
Worship ; self-loathing to Self-Respect ; grief for a dearly loved
child to Parental Love; vulgarity to Beauty ; fear of imminent
death to love of life ; irritability to courage ; dyspepsia to diges-
tion; rheumatism to motion; nervousness to healthy nerves; and
racking pains to the ecstasies of overflowing life ; and consists in
the vitiated^ abnormal action of sexuality, mental and physical.'-^
It is Nature's punishment for past, and prevention of future
wrong amatory action. Yet most lamentable is the number of
its victims, because so many sin thus.
It perpetuates itself. As inertia is most self-destructive ; as
starvation impairs the stomach more than over-eating; as Nature
can do better with surpluses than deficiencies, and overwork than
inaction, while exercise is the best of cures ; as nothing weakens
conscience, memory, taste, &c., equally with their dormancy ; so
Love is governed by this paramount natural law, that this
averted state still further palsies it. Rest is another -law ; and
this comatose state is but a long rest, demanded by chronic excess;
but as "from him that hath not shall be taken away even that he
hath;" and as " the destruction of the poor is their poverty;" so
the less those in this state have, the less they care to have. We
shall discuss its cure hereafter.
679. — Its hardened, hating, hateful, vindictive Aspect.
This is an advanced station on the same road of sexual de-
cline, has precisely the same rationale redoubled,*^ and is its most
utterly heathenish j)hase. A grass widow coquette illustrates it
thus : —
" A sCHuOLrMATE couftod riH', solicited my hand and heart, which I gave,
with a whole-souled woman's completest devotion, and we married. The
next morning, looking me fully and fiercely io the face, he said, vi/idio-
tively, 'Julia, you know I always hated your father, and sought, and h«.ve
now got, my revenge on him, by spoiling your matrimonial proepeoUi 1
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never did or will love or live with you. We part here, now, and forever^
and left for parts unknown. This struck me as if I had been shot through
with forty bullets. I fainted, and remained long insensible. Returning
consciousness found me helplessly paralyzed with agony and brain fever,
bud completely crushed. For weeks my life hung as by a hair. I kept
soliloquizing, * Oh, how could he be so very, vei^y cruel ? What have I
done to make him?' At length revenge came to my rescue. I hated him
as I had loved, and only as one fiend can hate another ; and have cui*sed
him every waking hour since. This hatred turned the scales of disease in
my favor. Before, I wished to die ; I now determined to live, that I might
revenge myself on his sex. I thought if one man, and he my ideal, could
do an act thus fiendish, all men must be devils incarnate. I hate every
man because of his sex, and delight to tempt their passions until they com-
mit themselves, and then dally with, tantalize, and finally expose them."
" His wickedness words cannot measure ; yet because one mail
outraged you, will you debase yoMTOwn nature, just to avenge his
sex ? An Indian might revenge a wrong done by one of a hated
tribe, in killing any other of that tribe ; but why demoralize
yourself^ and throw your whole being into an eclipse, merely out
of spite to one man? It is bad enough for men to hate men, but
the direst human depravity for women to hate men, and doubly
those who have done you no wrong." She promised reform.
In the HATERS lics all the trouble in all like cases, not in those
hated. As in a neighborhood, those are always the worst who
are themselves continually finding fault, and bad in those very
respects in which they accuse others ; so these men-hating women
and women-hating men, by finding these, those, and the other
faults with the opposite sex, only thereby proclaim their own
depravity.*^® Men-hating women are the most utterly depraved
objects the sun shines on, except women-hating men ; because such
outrage their natures most. It is bad enough for a woman to
hate women, and man men ; but for either sex to hate the oppo-
site, is the climax of total depravity.
Averted Love in wedlock is still worse. Those in this mood
may get on smoothly during courtship, yet married contact dis-
closes latent antagonisms, due mainly to this hardened mood of
one or both. Inflamed Love attracts only to repel. They love
some, spar some, love on, quarrel on, till at length discord gains
the day. Each means well, but does badl}'-, and throws all the
blame on the other; whereas both are blamable. Both think
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themselves the most persecuted but patient creatures in the
world, and each really is both ; yet each is martyring the other, as
well as being martyred ; whereas if either, much more both,
understood that the true cause is this state of their own Love-
element, and applied the remedy hereafter prescribed, they
would restore harmony. They began wrong. They came to their
Love-banquet in a half-nauseated state, and reincreased this qualm-
ishness by putting it too much on the animal base, which only
still further averted it ; and eventually, by physical necessity,
induced that mutual repugnance which ultimately killed thig
Love element itself.
680. — Its Violent, Insane Aspect infuriates all the Passions.
All inflamed action begets insane mental manifestations ; and
all mental and moral insanity springs from inflamed brain action.
This necessarily results from the brain being the organ of the
mind.^^
Inflamed Love creates lust, which inflames all the surround-
ing organs, and this throws all the other passions into a state of
frenzy and fury. Such are like nitro-glycerine, ignited by the
least thing, and often by spontaneous combustion. Like a thin
glass bottle struck, flying into ten thousand fragments, the least
thing enrages them to desperation. Words can hardly describe
their irritability and teetotal depravity throughout. Love of
money is thrown into that grasping, rapacious, ravenous, insa-
tiable state which will have money, if only to squander on feeding
this very lust which begets it. Pride, Ambition, domination are
thrown into a like wild, fierce state; assuming all, driving and
dictating all, claiming all honor, and taking vengeance on all
who do not concede to all their unjust claims. Caution is thrown
and kept in a state of perpetual yet utterly groundless alarms ;f"
borrowing trouble; making it out of whole cloth; and enraged
at others because of their accused agency in causing them imagi-
nary prospective evils. Large monil organs, especially Conscience,
only make them much worse, by rendering them most censorious,
accusatory, condemnatory, and malignant.** Xantippe must haye
been in this mood, as are Mrs. Caudle, Widow Bidott, et id omne
gnvis. Having good heads only augments their spleen. Every-
thing said, done, all surroundings, throw them into paroxysms
of both rage and despair. Jealousy is its outgrowth. Wiyes in
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this state are infuriated termagants, snarling hyenas, tied-up
wild -cats, towards those husbands or men who have thus turned
this Faculty ; and a wife tied by law to such a husband, could be
no worse oif if caged with ravenous wild beasts. They are by far
the worst of all human beings. ItTo devils incarnate equal these
devils — such devilesses excepted. Old Solomon was thrown
into this identical condition by this identical cause.^ This prin-
ciple accounts for the depravity of harlots and their paramours ,
yet all kinds and degrees of sexual insanity create a proportion-
ate amount of this frenzied action of the entire mentality.
We have used and shall use this fundamental principle here-
tofore and hereafter, yet not stated it as a sexual law. The
number of those in this utterly heathenish mood, in its various
stages, is amazing. In its proper place we shall show how such
can be restored. Reader, catechise yourself to see whether you
too are not more or less tainted thus. Self-abuse produces just
this result ; as does lust proportionally, throughout all its kinds
and degrees.
681. — The inane, paralyzed, or deadened State of Sexuality.
Amatory excesses exhaust and reverse Love, and finally
induce that comatose sexual state, which is to a true what
lethargy is to life. It is the paralyzed wreck of the whole
sexual constitution, together with all its virtues and enjoyments;
causing complete indifference to the other sex in general, and to
its own companion in particular. Like the sick man, who suf-
fers terribly till so far gone that his pain ceases because he is
almost dead ; so a cold, leaden dormancy supervenes on that life
and warmth generated by a true sexuality. Its pitiable victims
have lost their distinctive sexual characteristics, and are practi-
cally neuter genders. JSTo longer men, as such, they have become
mere things. Such emasculated victims pay little attention to
females ; are prompted to none of those courteous attentions
which manliness always feels and manifests,*^^ and provoke none
in return ; regard wife with stoical indifference ; and may like
her for housekeeping, literary or other talents, piety, ingenuity,
economy, &c. ; but not as a wife. They go out and come in
without any love-smiles or expressions, because virtual eunuchf^ ;
though perhaps its animal phase still lingers. Impotent, yet
craving, they are to true manhood what leather is to skin.
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Tliey work, talk, and seem like men, but are anything else.
Tlieir heart's core of manhood, and with it most of its trunk, has
rotted out. The old hollow shell may still stand, making a
respectable outside appearance, perhaps showing here and there
a half-dead-and-alive twig, or partly green leaf only. Poor,
emasculated entities, and dried-up sticks. Intelligent, respect-
able, honest, perhaps sharp in business, they live good, every-day
lives, but are only automatic, mechanical, spiritless have-heens ;
and the more pitiable, because they erred ignorantly. Though
Nature taught them better, they ignored her instincts. Mosc
lamentable is the number of those in this deadened state of
gender, because the lust of so many kills their Love, and then
itself. How and why, we show hereafter.
Wives in this state are still worse yet, unless " like hus-
bands, like wives." Moody, automatic, dissatisfied with every-
body, everything ; barren plains of sand, unrelieved by one oasis
of female charm and pleasantry ; fretting, scolding, stewing,
tattling ; they are not women, nor even insipid, but " the poison
of asps is under their lips ; " and their former sexual sweetness
has become only gall and wormwood.*^ And oh, how many
such skeleton victims of parental or personal sensuality, in one
or another of its forms.
How THESE WALKING SEXUAL WRECKS, male and female, stalking
around everywhere, came to be thus, engrossed thirty years of
my professional inquiries. The answer came slowly, and by
piecemeal, but completely.
The PRINCIPLE which paralyzed them, namely, that intense
nervous action often suddenly benumbs, sometimes forever, yet,
like muscular paralysis, sometimes gradually restorable, I learned
about 1840, thus: An extremely sensitive and brilliant girl five
years old, in Danvers, Massachusetts, her first day in school, for
an ignorant breach of school rules, by talking aloud, was pun-
ished. She screamed terribly with fright, became an idiot
instantly, and still remains one. Her agonized nerves suddenly
gave way, became addled, never to be restored. A naturally
bright and smart lad in Bellville, Canada, was rendered foolish
in this same way. Many like cases occur, in which some sudden
agony produces instantaneous idiocy or inanity. By virtue of
this law—
Intbnsb sbxual bzcitembnt PARALTZI8 the sexual organism,
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benumbing it the more or less as this excitement is the more
violent, or oftener repeated. This application of this law was
taught me in 1861 by these facts. That magnificent woman
whose sexual organs were pulled out of her by pulling. out a
pessary ,^^ narrated :
" I HAD A FAIR SHARE OF PASSION from puberty to about eighteen, but
not remarkable. From eighteen to my marriage at twenty -two, an in-
crease, but always under complete moral and virtuous control ; with a
marked re-increase after marriage for a year, till at my first conception,
words utterly fail to express its ecstatic intensity and pleasure. Yet the
next moment it died, instantly and completely. I have not felt one par-
ticle since. Its absence during pregnancy did not surprise me, yet its
continued suspension, while nursing, did ; for I had expected its return.
But its still continued absence, now that I have weaned my child, takes
me completely aback. I fear it is irrecoverably dead forever. What can
i do to restore it ? "
" Spending an evening into the * small hours ' with my beau, after he
had left, my auimal passion overruled my judgment, and I indulged
in self-abuse ; the intensity of which suddenly killed it, so that I have
never had one iota .of this feeling since ; nor any children, though mar-
ried now twenty years." A barren wife.
A CHILDLESS WIFE, devoid of both passion and sexual electricity,
confessed that up to about seventeen her sexual cravings were
most intense, which she expressed thus: —
" I used to lie and think to myself, * Oh, if I were married, and could
only be with a man, I should enjoy it beyond description.' "
This intense sexual hankering over-taxed and prostrated her
•sexual organism ever after.^* She said she would gladly suiFer
all but death for a child, yet had no sexual life for conception.
California HAVE-beens, or used-up wrecks of men, furnish
another illustration on a vast scale. Those old miners, having
made piles of money, determined to enjoy it; and having been
long separated from women, and bound to " make up for lost time,"
yet even harlots being inadequate to supply their great demand,
imported from the Mexican and Chilian coasts, for mistresses,
robust work girls, whose climate and entire surroundings de-
veloped their sexual passion and endurance to the fullest extent
in its animal aspect. But they soon found they had got " too much
of a good thing," a great deal ynore than they wanted. Adding
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h powerful physique to sexual culture from girlhood, these lewd
girls provoked these male paramours to such extreme sexual ex-
cesses, as to leave them " played out " within a month, permanent-
ly " all used up." These appalling facta are their own logician.
There, ye sexually " foundered old stagers," is the cause of
your loss of pleasure, or your impotence. The great art and
secret of all sexual pleasure consists in sexual sensitiveness;
which all violent, iiery, animal, lustful sexual action hlunts the
more, the more you indulge it. Many thus blunted more or less,
little realize the cause, or even fact, that they are benumbed.
There, ye who enjoy so much less latterly than formerly, is
the p.'itent cause, and restorative principle, as far as you are
restorable. This cause is exactly adapted to produce just this
precise effect, aiid no other.
682. — Wrong Love causes. Right cures, most Nervous Diseases.
Love controls the nerves both ways ; its normal action im-
proving and morbid disordering them as can nothing else. Its
restless, craving, rampant, fitful action in all forms of lust inflames
the whole nervous system, infuriates the passions, and fairly
crazes the mind, which diseases the body ; both of which are
toned right up by the soothing, balmy, luxuriant exhilarance of
iw happy state ; thereby diseasing or curing every man's and wo-
man's nerves and mind as by magic. Lust tears nerve-life right
out, while pure Love is its sovereign panacea. Over forty years'
study has just revealed its why and how, and modus operandi,
thus: —
7^ life instrument is the gelatinous surface of the brain, and fith
of the nerves.*** All happy love-states electrify, agitate, oscillate,
mobilize, and thrill this brain and nerve jelly normally, which
quiets and improves; while all painful roughs up and diseases
them : the former being precisely like stroking pussy downwards,
zephyr-like, throwing the nerves into that balmy, soothing,
sparkling state which improves ;. while the latter is like stroking
her up, besides pulling her by the tail, only to make her bite and
scratch, in place of purring. Every hour either continues, the
former heals, the latter tfiflames and swells this nervous pith ;
which makes it act violently and painfully, on t'.\- pressure
principle stated in**. As striking a full hose makes ito water
rebound the more and quicker, and the greater this pr^^aure ; so
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the more the swelling of this jelly pith presses it within a>»d
against its nerve sheath ; so that the veriest trifle shocks them
more than a thunder-clap does healthy nerves.
Most nervous diseases have a sexual origin and cure.
Section YI
SECOND MARRIAGES, MIXED FAMILIES, MOURNING, ETC.
683. — Second Marriages rarely necessary.
These principles apply to second marriages. What says
" Creative Science " concerning a subject practically important to
many.
Nature's primal arrangement is for only one ; yet she has pro-
vided for more in emergencies. When two of similar ages live
affectionately together, even though one is naturally much longer
lived than the other, a law of Love causes the stronger to impart
surplus strength to the weaker till their common vital fund is
about exhausted f^^ so that the death of either is soon followed by
that of the other, often without any apparent cause. Yet where
one dies suddenly, or away, so that this vital transfer is precluded,
the survivor of even a most affectionate marriage may live on
many years. But
" Cholera, yellow fever, war, &c., leave many a widow and widower,
who must either marry again, or else live a life more lonely than if they
had never married. Who deserves more pity, whose hearts break more
hopelessly, than those who have lost a loved conjugal mate?" ;
Such bereavements are rarely necessary, though common.
Cholera prevails only in lime-water districts ; and using rain-
water, kept in deep underground cisterns,^^ will always prevent
it. Such water, with fair hygienic regulations, will keep off
cholera, and all other bowel difficulties ; and right water treat-
ment soon cure them.
All husbands are solemnly bound to their families to so observe
the health laws as not to become sick. Whether the unmarried
kill themselves or not, is less important ; but the first duty of a
husband and father is to preserve his life and health at all events.
To subject an affectionate wife to all the agonies of lacerated
affection; oblige her to break her heart by mourning his loss, or
SECOND MARRIAGES, MIXED FAMILIES, MOURNING, ETC. 551
starve affectionately, or else transfer it to another, and run all
this risk ; besides leaving his children orphans, without a father's
educational and advisory influence,*'* even though provided with
dollars enough for their comfortable maintenance, is just the
greatest wrong he can inflict upon them. All can and should liv( .
on till their children are grown up. Those who have constitu-
tional 3tamina enough to become parents, have enough to last
them, with proper care, till their youngest are fully able to take
care of themselves, and till their companion is too far advanced
to desire to marry again. This is an ordinance of Xature.
A LOVED WIFE is uuder equal obligations to make her health and
life paramount? What becomes of her family when she is sick?
She not only cannot do for them, but obliges them to do for her
instead. Merely in order to serve them she requires to preserve
her health first. Far worse for them if she dies.
Husbands should guard their wives' health, as well as their
own. What are business claims in comparative importance?
And yet how many see their wives' health sink under constant
over-exertions, vexatious cares, or one or another causes, till past
recovery ! They now call doctor after doctor, and make any and
every pecuniary sacrifice, after it is too late ; whereas a tithe of
the same effort, applied seasonably, would have saved the balance
of their money, and her health and life besides. All he has or
can get he can well afford to spend wisely to save a good wife's
life, or restore a sick one's health.
Every wife should guard her husband's health. To see him
toil on, early and late, in protracted business struggles, while she
draws from his strained purse all she well can, with which to
make a fine display of dress, parties, style, Ac, is both short-
sighted and cruel ; a wrong to herself and children as well as
him, which may yet cost his life. Each member of every family
ought to constitute a vigilance committee to watch over all the
other members' health, as well as his or her own. None can
allow themselves, or any other member, to fall sick without doing
palpable injustice to all. What right has either, by violating the
health laws, to impose on the others all the anxieties, sleepless-
ness, and additional labors required to nurse him or her through
a fit of self-induced sickness ? Disease is consequent only on the
violation of the health laws,^" and is a luxury (?) those only
have any right to vvl>r> r^n y.iy liberally for all the trouble they
362 ABNORMAL LOVE: ITS CAUSES AND CURES.
cause. And are not parents under equal moral obligations to
preserve their children's health ? and guilty if they are sick ? But
As SOCIETY NOW IS, as public disasters abound, and malignant
disease and premature death, in many forms, leave many a forlorn
widower, widow, and children, the practical question is, whether,
as a general thing,
684. — Second Marriages are generally desirable.
They can promote the happiness of all concerned. The old
adage, '^Experience is the best schoolmaster," shows that a for-
mer Love conduces to the happiness of a subsequent one. Second
Loves, by acting as salvoes in bereavement, render happy, and
thereby promote themselves. Let the following fact state and
illustrate the practical workings of this principle. A second
husband, criticising my lecture on marriage, asked why it
omitted so important a subject to so many as second marriages ?
and on being asked what his own experience had taught him
concerning it, replied, —
"Seventeen years myself and wife lived on this prairie, far fron
neighbors and market, where our isolation and mutual struggles but en-
deared us the more to each other, till just as the railroad train dashed past
our door, and the depot, located on our land, had rendered us rich, she
died of cholera in a day I The suddenness of the blow completely
paralyzed me. I wandered, listless and inane, through woods and fields,
till, six months afterwards, my mother, seeing how sadly my loss affected
me, said, * George, this will never do. You must not give up thus to grief.
Come, rally, and marry again.'
" * Oh, I NEVER COULD DO THAT ! It would be sacrilege to my EHza.*"
Besides, if a second wife should not prove fully equal to my first, which I
could hardly expect, for such wives are rare, I should only be perpetually
making invidious comparisons, to the detrimemt i all parties, and the
additional blighting of my own Love.'
" * Son, " there are yet as good fish in the sea as ever were caught."
Your having had one good wife in no way prechvles, rather faailitates,
your obtaining another. Try again : courage, my son.'
" ' I COULD never place MY DEAR CHILDREN uudsr a stcpdm Other. It
would be positively cruel.'
" * Are they not now under hirelings ? A step-mother could be no
worse, knd you could see them much better provided for if married, and
with them, than now, not married, and away ; for they would then be
under your more immediate supervision. And there are women calculated
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to make good step-mothers. Miss S. is one. She would be much better
as a wife for you, and mother for your children, than any hired girl could
be. And having this, that, and the other prerequisite for a good com-
panion and step-mother, you could keep your family together, and get
along much better every way by marrying her than remaining single.'
" I SAW THE FORCE of her reasoning, changed front, paid my addresses
to her" (she was then sitting on his lap, with her elbow resting on his shoul-
der, and her hand twirling his locks) ; " she accepted, takes just as good
care of my children as their own mother ever did, and they are as happy
in her, and know no (difference ; and I am just as happy in this wife as
that. It is as if a bright fire, long burning on the family hearth, had gone
out, and buried its live coals under its own ashes, while another fire had
been built above, and was burning brightly, yet neither interfering with,
but rather helping, the other. It is infinite happiness to me that I can
heal my wounded heart by sympathizing with, and receiving sympathy
from, a socond wife, who was my first wife's intimate friend, and recom-
mended by her as her successor. She herself can say whether she, too, is
happy in us." She here impressed a conjugal kiss upon his willing cheek,
while he added, " My second marriage has obviously contributed immeas-
urably to the happiness of all parties, my own especially.
" Yet this contravenes that one-Love doctrine, already proved so clear-
ly."*"
Only oke Love at a time, is the natural law, as there stated ;
/et the death of one modiiies it. The law just applied to second
loves applies here.^
pRosPEcnvE CHILDREN Constitute another Weighty incentive to
second marriages. A Quakeress, of the highest respectability
and plirenological endowments, married a second husband far
her inferior in every respect, and, as a natural consequence, open
discord had broken out between them. She consulted me, I
said — "A woman of your sagacity should have known better
than to marry a man so much your inferior."
" Mt motive was CHILDREN. From my youth I had looked forward
to at least one child of my own to love and be loved by, to nurse me in ray
dotage, close my eyes in death, bury me, and weep over my grave, as one
of the dearest hopes and most cherished heart-yearnings of my life. I
had borne six children by my first husband, but had seen them all die,
along with their father, of consumption. I could not bear the thought of
a childless old age. I knew from the first that my present husband was
not adapted to me ; but as his proffer held out the hope of an additional
child or two to comfort my decliniDg years, I accepted, fearing that I
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might not have another seasonable one. But our disparity has both frus-
trated my hopes, and borne me down with trouble. Still, was not my mo-
tive justifiable?"
Who but must approve ? The principle here involved deserves
universal adoption ; but with more judicious application. Yet
there are numerous cases in which second marriages are most
objectionable. Mrs. G. illustrates one among many thus :
" Will you ride along the banks of our beautiful Grand River? My
horse and carriage were willed me by my deceased husband, and I am my
own postilion ? I invite you more on my account than yours, to get your
advice on a matter of the utmost importance to me. My hand is besought
in marriage by a man I have known only favorably from childhood. He
even made Love to me before I knew my husband, and says he has never
married because he still hoped to marry me. Having property himself,
he does not need to marry me for my money, and all seems right. Friends
join in persuading me, and he promises me the most devoted affection, and
even begs me to marry him, if only * out of pity.' "
" N'ever marry out of pity, for this will soon place you too in
need of sympathy. I never knew one such happy. This alone
must necessarily render both miserable. Let this infallible test-
question decide the matter. Do you feel willing to admit another
to that sacred place your deceased husband occupied ? "
" Ah, you have struck the very point from which my innermost soul
recoils. I still feel that he is ever present with me, as much as when alive ;
that I commune with him daily ; that he is my guardian angel ; and that
I enjoy the sweet consciousness of his perpetual Love and union ; and that
a second marriage, however promising, would be a sacrilege from which I
instinctively revolt."* Besides, I feel perfectly contented as I now am, and
involuntarily dwell on the pleasant reminiscences of past Love, rather than
pine over our separation. This may seem strange, but is literally true."
" It is natural to a perfect Love in its highest state. It al-
ways might and should take on this pleasant phase. By no
means consent to a second marriage. Your premonitions are
right. To violate them would spoil your life. Remain single."
" Your advice accords perfectly with my own interior consciousness,
as well as better judgment. I will."
" If you feel like putting on fine feathers, turning gay again, attract-
ing the attention of gentlemen and being attracted, and courting, by all
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deans love and marry again ; but if not, avoid a second marriage. And
this advice is based in this principle, that whenever our system rejects
any special ailment it will do injury. Hence, since you positively loathe a
second marriage, decline his proffer. Do it as gently and handsomely as
you can, and wound his feelings as little as possible. Say no so sweetly,
and seemingly reluctantly, as to leave him your friend, yet save yourself."
Other things may justify a like declination ; but in ninety-nine
cases in every hundred, especially where their ages hold out
parental prospects, second marriages are desirable, because of the
happiness they can be made to yield to all concerned. Even
elderly people may marry. 'No mere whim, nor minor adverse
circumstances, only abundant reasons, should dictate a decline.
Especially if the first marriage was not absolutely perfect, a
second is all the more essential and auspicious. If a second Love
can only be initiated, as it usually can, unless reversed, or else per-
fectly satisfied, by all means reunite. Even when the feelings
rebel at first, they can and should be schooled to look at it fairly,
and on the favorable side ; because the unfavorable is naturally
uppermost.®*®
Second marriages, for convenience, even where the first has
been comparatively complete, may be advisable. Thus, a widower
has a family of chiUlren, who, besides all he can do for them,
need that care and training which only a woman can bestow,"'*
and which he is solemnly bound to provide. A step-mother is
by far its best form. An aunt, a stranger, would be better than
none ; but his wife would naturally do the best. Then is not he
justified in marrying again mainly to provide them with this
female nurture, and she in accepting so good an opportunity to
promote his, her, and their happiness? Besides, all women need
both husband and children to love and care for ; and may need
to marry in order to furnish the best proper sphere for the exer-
cise of the affections; thus supplying her with children to love,
and children with female care.
Why .may not a widower, advanced in years, by marrying a
woman younger than he is, provide himself prosjKJctively with
that care he is sure to need, and compensate her by a home, crea-
ture comforts, i>08ition, property, affection, &c.? "What objcetvon
to thus promoting the happiness of all parties? They can regu-
late their intimacies to suit themselves and circumstances. They
must not allow discord, of which Love is the great antidote. 0?
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thej can base their relations in Friendship, and the amenities duo
between the sexes,*^-*^ without infringing the least upon a former
Love, however sacred. First marriages should be based in Love
alone. Second ones are permissible on other grounds. Yet they
absolutely must observe the following common-sense rules: 1. On
no account whatever draw comparisons ; for favorable ones dis-
parage the dead, and unfavorable the living. About as well tell
them to their faces that you w^ish they were dead, as how much
better the former loved one was ; for it is the worst possible kind
of personal reflection, and much worse than ordinary conjugal
blames.®^^ A lawyer said —
" I WANT TO * RETAIN ' you as my counsellor. As I wish my clients to
tell me all about their case, I tell you all about mine. Spare no feelings,
but give a clear-headed, judicial decision.
" I CANNOT LIVE WITH MY WIFE. We differ constantly about every trifle,
and upbraid and wrangle continually when together ; which makes me cross
to clients, and is ruining my temper, business, everything ; to avoid which
I sent her to San Francisco, and intend to get a divorce ; but wish first to
learn from you whether any hope of reconciliation remains. With ray
first wife, truly angelic, whom I loved most tenderly, I never had any
discord, so I don't blame myself; but with this woman, nothing else; so I
blame her for it all. I keep telling her how totally different she is, and
how inferior, compared with my first wife, and — **
" You OLD FOOL ! Don't you know human nature any better
than to keep twitting one wife of her inferiority to another you
love, besides incessantly upbraiding her ? How could an angel
woman love such a heathen man ? Besides
" The whole fault is yours, and lies in your continuing to love
your first wife, after marrying your second.^^ Your old Love pre-
vents your loving any other woman,^* and makes you treat
your poor wife so captiously as to drive her from you. Your
first- wife Love antagcfriizes you towards all other women; which
makes your treatment of your second barbarous, and this arrays
her against you. It was wrong to marrj^ your second till weaned
from your first. Write her a contrite letter to-day, and begin to
make Love de novo, and treat her as you did your first ; and you
can and will be happier in your second than first." ^^ 2. Former
loves may be cherished somewhat, like live coals buried, but
must not come to the surface. If dissatisfied, make the best of
what is, but never aggravate it by reproach, or else abandon all
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/
hope of conjugal happiness. Instead, assiduously cherish Love
by little attentions.
How LONG SHOULD THEY WAIT ? Only just as long as they them-
selves please. In what law is the custom of waiting a year based ?
Of course, to transfer the affections takes time; but the sooner
the lesa damage by grief, arid better all around.
685. — Step-parents and Children.
Amalgamating different families usually occasions the great-
est evils incident to second marriages. Of course step-parents
naturally do and should love and care for their own in prefer-
ence to step-children, because younger and more needy. Yet
this obvious duty often creates hardness. A step-mother's task
is indeed trying. She deserv(.*s thanks for even undertaking it,
and doubly, if she does weli. It requires a superb woman to
become a good step-mother ; and such merit all praise.
Step-children are oftenest in fault. Outsiders ought to lighten her
burden by enlisting them in her behalf; yet frequently re-incroase
it by prejudicing them against her, till they actually regard her
as an intruder to be opposed, rather than a mother to be helped
and loved. They forget that it is her or nobody, or perhaps one
worse. Instead of being thankful for what she actually does,
they blame her for not doing more, besides misconstruing every-
thing; yet should regard all she does, little or muoh, more as
a gratuity than duty. What but her relations to their father
requires her to do anything? Then should they not praise and
help, instead of blaming and hindering her? Does she deserve
the odium usually heaped upon step-mothers? How many in
like circumstances would do better? Step-children's obvious
interest is, by complaisance, kind offices, and good feeling, to
coax out of her a thousand little favors they could never obtain
if at enmity. Gratitude for few and small favors is their best
known means for obtaining more and greater ones. Outsiders
should always promote peace, not stir up strife. Still, a godd,
kind, motherly woman can generally establish affectional and
filial relations, without which there is no living together; but
with which step-parents and children can live very happy. At
least, a meek, motherly spirit will greatly lighten her task.
Whether she or they are right or wrong, it is better for all to
forbear than contend.
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A STEP-FATHER, the dignified head of the family, its natural
umpire and regulator,*^^ should be an arbitrator and peacemaker
between all parties, and slow to decide directly for or against
either ; but show their faults to the erring, and obviate them by
appealing to their higher Faculties. By a firm, just, judicious,
and afiiectionate course towards all, he can generally assuage ani-
mosities, if not obviate them altogether. And this is unmis-
takably the true one for all parties, and will generally convert
the evils of second marriages into benefits ; besides enabling both
families to live together. Yet better scatter than quarrel.
686. — Mourning for the Dead and Absent.
All painful action, dead grief in special, sears ^ or inflames,®*
and inflicts like evils with interrupted love. " By their fruits
ye shall know them." Then since those of mourning " are only
evil " to the living, while they do no manner of good to the dead,
are they not inherently wrong ? and therefore to be buried, not
encouraged? Precisely the same principles govern here, just
shown to govern "broken hearts." Then banish all painful
reminiscences, and seek diversion.^ Mark
1. This grief is practical rebellion against an ordinance of
Kature, caused by violated natural law, or else " a dispensation
of divine Providence." If providential, weeping over God^s doing
is the very worst form of practical rebellion. You who believe
death to be providential, are the very last to mourn over what
your " heavenly Father " has seen fit to send you. Your grief is
filial love and obedience " with a vengeance,"'
2. Grief impairs health ; inflicts irreparable injury ; saps life
itself and all its powers and enjoyments at their very heart ; must
be most fatal to the nervous system ; induces colds, the direct
usher of most diseases,^^ by withdrawing circulation from surface
to centre, and deraijging all the physical functions, besides
diminishing the system's power of resistance ; and should by all
means be resisted, not indulged. Note when and where you
will, bad news, violent passions, sudden disappointment in Love,
all painful mental paroxysms, are followed by severe colds, and
often protracted and dangerous sickness, and sometimes death.
How frequently are mourners taken down sick immediately on
returning from a funeral, especially when they give way to
violent grief, and often die, — the death of one thereby causing
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that of several relatives ! A youth died of a fever caused bj a
cold. His brother, while attending his funeral, took a terrible
cold, which soon swept him into eternity. A sister, exhausted
by watching this brother, also took a severe cold while attending
his funeral, was soon bereft of reason, attacked by a scorching
fever, of which she died in a week ; all distinctly traceable to
colds caused by grief. Three or four other members of this self-
afflicted family were sick simultaneously from this cause.
Strange that a fact so common should not have been observed
and traced to this its cause. Those in grief should take extra
care of their health. Self-preservation is a first duty and
instinct, and injuring it by grief
3. Wrongs the living. All have parents, children, brothers,
sisters, relatives, friends, or business or other relations to their
fellow-men, to whom their life is a blessing, and sickness or
death an injury they have no right to inflict.®*^ Hence injuring
ourselves by grief injures others. Should the living injure
themselves and shorten their own lives because the dead have
shortened theirs? Why should a widow debilitate and frustrate
all her powers by grief, just when she most needs all her strength
and self-possession to care for herself and children, and save her
property from those harpies who now, vulture-like, hover around
the estate to grasp all .they can ? Does not this grief unnerve
and enfeeble her ? Yet do not herself, children, estate, and in-
creased cares require every item of strength she can command?
A BEREAVED MOTHER has husband, children, relatives, And
friends whose creature comforts and moral culture depend much
on her life and health, whom her debility or death would injure
in ways innumerable. Hence, whatever promotes her health is
to them a God-send ; what injures it, does them great wrong ; and
this is measurably true of relatives and friends. Now, by all
the value of her life to her family and friends, which neither
dollars nor words can measure, is her grief over her child's death
a curse to them, and wicked in her. What right has she to
intercept their happiness by indulging her own grief? Her own
hold on life may be but feeble. Nearly dead already, she requiroi
to become more attached to life, not weaned therefrom. Is it not
as virtual suicide — that worst of crimes against God and man —
to voluntarily hasten death by grief as by poison? The crime
consists in t])e fact of hastening U, not its means; and it ie her
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Baored, solemn duty to avoid it by either. God and Nature
punish mourning, and tliereby pronounce it wrong. Let those
whom these views shock, show wherein they are erroneous.
Take pattern from the widow described in ^■^•
4. "Their death enforces our own mortality, and tells us to pre-
pare ourselves to follow."
Would hastening our death by poison fit us for heaven?
Then will it by grief? Is not fulfilling our terrestrial duties
our best celestial preparation ? Are this world and the next
antipodes? Is not that but the continuation, not antithesis, of
this ? Did not the same God ordain both ? and does He not
govern both by the same set of laws and requisitions ? Must we
break the laws of this life to fit ourselves for that ? Injuring this
by grief unfits for that. The best preparation for a future life
is to live a perfect present one, including the care of our bodies,
in order that we may '^ be gathered in like a shock of corn fully
ripe ; " whereas grief, by plucking us prematurely from this,
ushers us immatured into that !
5. "We can no more help grieving, than smarting from fire."
Help it all you can. Assuage, not aggravate, it. Nervous-
ness reincreases grief, which redoubles nervousness, and thereby
itself. You grieve most when most unwell, and least when you
feel best. Then assuage it in part by hygienic means.
6. Remaining at home a year after the death of a near friend
is unqualifiedly wrong ; denies the body that exercise necessary
always, and doubly in bereavement ; begets a dead, dumb, monot-
onous state more fatal to health than grief itself; compels the
mind to pore perpetually over its loss by allowing nothing else
to engross attention ; redoubles sorrow by keeping clothes, toys,
sayings, doings, &c., perpetually before the grievers' minds ;
whereas they should /on/e^, not remember, and banish^ not revive,
all j)ainful reminiscences ; and had better pack up or give away
whatever renews grief, and go abroad all the more, not less ;
break away from the scene associated with the deceased ; journey,
read, converse, seek amusements, lectures, and do anything to
divert the mind.
7. Funerals are wrongly conducted. Their management is
directly calculated to ruin the constitutions of the living, with-
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out doing the least good to either living or dead. They generally
increase grief, whereas they should try to assuage it. They con-
dole too much. Nothing crushes sinking spirits as much as pity.
They should fortify^ not soften, and dwell more on the biography
and characteristics of the dead than horrors of death. Reason,
the best good of survivors, everything, require that they brace
mourners, not soften ; extract lessons of health to the living, by
pointing out the causes of this premature death, rather than
frighten the living. Does fear of death either fit for this life, or
prepare for the next ? Is it not constitutionally injurious to both
mind and body ?
8. Making death hideous arraigns the wisdom and goodness
of God, and belies facts. Nor only is it no curse, but, next to
life itself, one of God's greatest blessings.*^ Nor does it ever
transpire until the i)hy8ical organism is so far diseased, mutilated,
or worn out, that continued life would only cause more suffering
than happiness ; so that, come when it may, in darling infancy,
promising youth, mature manhood, or decrepit old age, it comes
always, and in the very nature of things, as a blessing. Then
let the dead be buried, and remembered only pleasurably. David
pursued a sensible course. While life and hope lingered, he did
all he could to save his child ; but, dead, instead of grieving, he
laid aside his sackcloth and ashes, washed, ordered and partook
of food, and said, practically, " Aly darling is dead, and cannot
be recalled. Why weep ? Let its death be among bygones, while
I dry my tears, and attend to ray duties."
9. Natural death is welcome to its subjects and relatives.
After life has had its perfect work we can bury our aged parents
without sorrow, feeling that they have lived out the full measure
of their days, finished their work, and died in peace, as the lamp
goes out for the want of sustenance, conscious that, with renewed
lives and reincreased powers and virtues, they await our coming.
Such lives let us live, that such deaths we may die.
10. Having friends " in the spirit,** may be quite as beneficial
to yourself as if they remained " in the flesh." Our deceased
friends " are not far from any one of us." Readers will find im-
mortality demonstrated as a fact in *'*, and also that we shall see.y
and know^ and commune with them after our death for sure ; that
they can and do aid us now far more effectually than when
here ;"^ that we conmiune with them after they, and before we.
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die ; that the widow mentioned in ^ advised not to marry, who
averred that she felt the sacred presence of her deceased husband
perpetually accompanying her, and communed with him, was not
visionary, but that such attendance of our spiritual friends on
us is possible and provided for ; and that good luck, and our good
"providential interpositions," are often due to their spiritual
agencies ; and much more of this sort. So cheer up, bereaved
mother, for you really can and shall again see and know your own
darling boy; your own beloved one departed — could now, if
yourself in a state sufficiently ethereal.
11. Mourning apparel is wrong ; because, if it reincreases our
sorrow, it is injurious, if not, it is unnecessary ; is expensive, and
often a heavy tax on the poor they can illy afford ; increases bustle
and confusion ; and saddens others. Then abolish it. Yet dress-
ing the graves of loved ones with flowers ia appropriate.
12. The sick should never be addressed in a sad, solemn, con-
dolent, pitying mood ; because this awakens their fears for the
worst, and weakens that will-power to resist disease and death,
which is their great restorative.^^ Instead, manifest a lively
spirit, by a cheerful, encouraging aspect, calculated to buoy up
their drooping feelings and quicken their circulation. Talk and
laugh, instead of sigh ; and, if possible, make ihem laugh : for
nothing equals mirth as a panacea for all diseases.^
In Part II., behold Love man's sovereign autocrat, and your
own entire selfhood chained captive to its triumphant car!
Struggle lustily to get free, ye who will, only to saw your own
flesh and bones with its lacerating cords ; you can escape its
sacred spell only by emasculating your soul's richest boon, and
dethroning your God ! ^^ Celibates, you know you love, and
belie your own consciousness, if you deny it. Why gnaw its cob
in celibacy, instead of feasting and fattening on its " bread and
water of life "in marriage ? Ho, all ye who lie prostrate, panting
and fainting in its seething rays, arise, and let Part III. pilot you
into its marital bowers, all redolent with paradisiacal flowers the
most fragrant, and fruits the most luscious and reviving mortals
can enjoy ! Ho, universal humanity, now swinishly wallowing in
lust's filthy slime, come, wash in the cleansing and healing " pool
of Siioam," quaff the delicious nectar, and luxuriate on the life-
reviving dainties of a pure love marriage.
P^RT III.
SELECTION:
CONJUGAL AND PARENTAL ADAPTATIONa
CHAPTER L
THE TIME, UMPIRES, PREREQUISITES, ETC., OF JdARRIAGK
Section I.
the best age for loving and wedding.
687. — Founding a Family among Men.
A FAMILY is a great affair. As a commodity, a production, a
life-work, an achievement, it has no peers. Its power over man
is supreme.*^*' As it is, so is all else human.^ As a '' specula-
tion," a "venture," if well conducted, it is the most ^^ paying
enterprise," yields better " dividends," and is every way more
" pro^fitable " than any other " line of business " in which mortals
can " invest." The principles and facts embodied in Part II.,
should induce those who possess the " capital " to procure a
" round-trip " ticket for this matrimonial excursion. It will
take you around and through the world in better style, and show
you finer " prospects " than any other. Who " goes " ? Female
" operators " are allowed on this " stock exchange." Of all the
achievements man can accomplish, all the works he can do, and
missions fulfil, this stands first. He who has founded a family
among men has done vastly more than he who has founded a
useful manufiictory, or established a "commercial house," or
amassed great wealth. To own broad acres, deeds, corner lot8,
bonds, &c., is something; but you childless millionuairea are
" poor critters," in comparison with those who own a superb
family. That is incomparably the very finest piece of " prop-
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erty " within human reach. He who " owns " a good wife, she
who " possesses " a good husband, and that married pair who
have a " clear title " to smart and rosy little ones,^ with a domi-
cile and necessaries " thrown in," may justly be prouder, carry
their heads higher, and " feel their oats " more than any other
occupants of this whole earth, childless kings not excepted. To
establish a family, which shall float along down the stream of
time, to originate human interests, and help create its natural
history, exceeds wearing childless crowns. What realm equals
the family kingdom ? What governor-general is as absolute as
its sovereign head? or what obedience as willing or complete,
because accorded by love ? Gardens filled with roses are beau-
tiful, and rich fruits luscious, yet paradise " was not arrayed like
one of these " families.
How SHOULD IT BE " GOTTEN-UP," and managed ? One poorly con-
ducted is a poor affair. Wisdom in nothing is as much needed or as
all-important as in starting and regulating a family " enterprise."
God ordained the family ,^^ and therefore its natural laws, and
thereby a family science, as much as a mathematical, or any
other; for which, exultant thanks to its Author. Obeying these
laws renders a happy family just as sure as to-morrow's sun ;
because both are equally induced by inflexible causation. The
only possible cause of domestic unhappiness is the breach of
these laws. Those who follow them, need have no more fear of
domestic unhappiness than that the sun will turn backwards.
Learning how is the first step. I^ovices should be careful how
they undertake it, just as children should not play carelessly
with sharp tools ; and all should learn how to use this " instru-
ment " of extreme weal or woe before they begin to tamper with
it ; which is often quite young. And yet
Where can men learn how a family should be founded and
conducted? Strange that, whilst every other department of
science has been explored, family science remains still en-
shrouded in Egyptian darkness. Scholars, where have you
been groping, that you have not discovered this field of human
research? Writers, where have been your pens? Clergymen,
where are your eyes and tongues that you thus ignore it ? Since
hum«in virtue and morality depend more on it, ten thousand-fold,
than on whether baptism by immersion is better than by sprink-
ling, und other '' dogmas," how singular that this despised " infi'
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del science of Plirenology " must pioneer and engineer this aspect
of progress. '' Rip Van Winkles " awake, or some domestic
apostle pilot inquirers into the delightful haven of "domestic
felicity."
" Creative Science " does just this. Has it not made a " good
beginning " ? It expounds matrimony and its right management
from before the first dawnings of Love, till its full-fledged pro-
ducts are ready to repeat the experiment. In short.
The family is the one grand focal centre of this whole para*
phernalia of sexuality. Love, and whatever appertains to malea
and females. It has its science and governing laws. Phrenology
expounds them in expounding this social group ; and " Creative
Science " executes this specific task, in true scientific style, from
its alpha to its omega. Every one who follows its teachings will
be rendered perfectly happy in companion and children, and may
" sue for damages " in case of failure ; provided they give due
credit in case of success. Let your own and children's memories
be the recording ledger.
Self-preparation is first, just as preparing the ground is the
first step towards obtaining a crop; and the next, selection of a
right sexual mate ; and this chapter has for its object to show
how to take this step just right.
688. — What is Nature's True Time to Choose and Wed?
Periodicity is a universal institute of Nature. It controls
every function of the universe ; and governs all the motions of
all the heavenly bodies, with all the functions of all that lives.
Sun, moon, stars, seasons, days, and nights come and go at their
appointed periods. There is a natural " time for everything under
the sun." All plants, animals, and human beings have their in-
fancy, adolescence, maturity, decline, and death. These periods
are inherent, and inwrought throughout all their respective func-
tions. There is a time to sow and reap, be born, grow, decay,
and die. And what is planted or done in its natural Beason,
prospers far better than out.
Love has its natural period, and prospers better when it ii
observed. And it has but one right time, which is exactly right, be-
cause appointed by Nature. She is perfect, so are all her works ;
her love-works included. To a complete Love, this observance of
her natural times and seasons is indispensable. True, though ono
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may make an excellent crop of cotton or corn, even if- planted
out of time, yet how much better that same crop if planted when
Xature ordains ? Then, when is Nature's best time for planting
the seeds of Love ?
" You SHOULD MARRY AT ONCE. You '11 need a family at forty."
" Fifty will be in season. I propose to marry then."
" That will be like planting corn in August. You had better
give it more time to grow.''
The sexual function matures later than the digestive or mus-
cular; because its earlier development would be useless, yet retard
growth. Boys and girls like each other some, but how much
stronger is appetite than Love, and Love years after than at
puberty ? Childhood's loves are ephemeral ; formed, forgotten,
and reformed in a day, and, like antenatal exercise, useless except
to strengthen the muscles for after-action. The sexuality slum-
bers on till quickened by puberty , which re-increases it till eighteen
or twenty, when the body is well grown and consolidated ; bones
become dense, and their gristly joints hardened up ; muscles full-
sized and tort ; and mental Faculties fully established. Love
now begins to assert sovereign control.'^*^ !N"o puppy love, no
"juvenile and tender" fancy, but a deep, strong, all-controlling
and mature affection inspires and electrifies the whole being, and
furnishes and inhabits the human structure, taking that helm
which governs every part.
Precocity is an American superfluity. Wrong physical habits,
tea, coffee, condiments, tobacco, want of exercise, our hot-house
school system, alcoholic stimulants, &c., make mere boys and girls
petit men and women, and prematurely light and fan the fires
of sexual excitement. Our boys must become young gentlemen
almost as soon as they cease to be babes ; must hurry into and
through college ; smoke, chew, drink, swear, carouse, &c., before
puberty ; have a Love affair, and practise all the vices while yet
mere boys ; make and lose a fortune during their teens ; and know
more evil at thirteen than their fathers did at thirty ; and there-
fore blight before twenty. This renders their Love-appetite vio-
lent yet dainty ,^^ so that straws turn it. Soon after it begins to
taste the sweets of Love, it fancies its lover neglectful, or partial
to another, &c., which a hearty Love would never have noticed.
Previous starvation also often induces both sudden and prema-
ture Love. If boys were duly loved and fondled by mother*'*
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and aunt, and girls made of by father and uncles,*^ and if
this Faculty were duly cultivated in lads, lasses, and young
folks,*" this, its partial exercise, would so far satisfy it in the bud
as to hold back Love proper a year or two longer, and mitigate
its violence; whereas its juvenile suppression renders it so rav-.
enous that it greedily devours whatever food is offered. Elders
consider this point, and compare it with your experience. By all
means
Let girls remain girls till Nature makes them women. Girl-
hood is quite as essentially antecedent, to womanhood as is the
growth of fruits to their ripening. A girl's weak, because imma-
ture. Love is easily reversed, which a riper would surmount.
Those very elements of discord which disgust her at sixteen,
might be tolerated, perhaps enjoyed' by the ripened instincts of
twenty. She is less in danger of contracting ailments by a mar-
riage at twenty than before eighteen ; besides being much less
shy, modest, and bashful. A right selection requires a fiilly
matured Love intuition and judgment. A thoughtless fancy is
one great cause of ill-assorted marriages. Many disappointed iu
marriage might say, —
" I MIGHT HAVE KNOWN better if I had thought. What now is so ob-
noxious was plain then, only that I did not stop to consider."
Intellect should govern every life movement, and especially
marriage. This step is too eventful to be taken by giddy youth.
Females just begin to come to their senses at sixteen, and males
about eighteen, some sooner, according as they ripen earlier or
later, yet it then requires a year or two for both the Love instinct
and judgment to become sufficiently matured to consummate this
eventful choice. The more so since earlier fancies change. One
who might exactly suit at sixteen, might not at twenty ; but one
who is all right at twenty, will please always ; because the Love
basis is now fully established for life ; which is rarely the case
before seventeen.
Looking for an object, will enable you to hold your Love in
check for years, if necessary, till you find a congenial spirit;
while not looking, endangers a sudden, if not senseless. Love.
Then, 0 youth! hold it back till eighteen, but put thy house in
order before twenty-two, and hospitably welcome this Love-guetit
as your most important life visitant, when it knocks at the door
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of your aflections. Be mated before twenty-four at furthest, and
then marry when you like.
689. — Great Men come from Mature Parents.
Nature's mating end, offspring, determines its true period.
Parental immaturity causes progenal weakliness.**^ Nature will
not let juveniles or seniles procreate, but reserves parentage only
for life's meridian, or after maturity, but before decline. " The
youngest children are the smartest " is a universal proverb ; obvi-
ously because the animal must pfecede the mental in formation
and decline. Man's intellectual and moral departments both
develop and decline after the animal ; so that children born
during the younger or animal period are relatively the more im-
pulsive and impassioned than those of the same parents born later,
under the parental intellectual and moral regimen. Yet when
parental health is declining, especially the mother's, the eldest are
the smartest. The reason is apparent. The following facts are
instructive :
Franklin was the youngest child of the youngest child for
FIVE successive GENERATIONS, and on his mother's side, from
whom, more than from his father, he inherited his talents. He
was the fifteenth child of his father and eighth of his mother.
Ben J. Johnson was born when his father was 70, and
mother 42.
Pitt, Fox, and Burke, were each the youngest child of their
families.
Daniel Webster was the youngest by a second marriage.
Lord Bacon was the youngest by a second marriage, born when
his father was 50 and mother 32.
Benjamin West was the tenth- child of his parents.
Washington's mother was 28 at his birth, and father much
older, and Thomas Campbell's father over 70 at his birth.
Sir Wm. Jones's father was QQ when this intellectual prodigy
first saw the light.
Doddridge was the twentieth child, by one father and mother,
and his mother's mother was very young when her father died,
aged 62, which would make his grandfather above '50 when his
mother was born. His father was at least 43 when his son was
born.
Judge Story's mother was about 44 at his birth.
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Alexander Hamilton was the youngest son by a second mar-
riage. K Lewis's mother was 33 at his birth.
Bar6n Cuvier's father was 50 at hia marriage, and of course
fiti]] older at the birth of his illustrious son.
All history abounds in similar facts. The Bible is especially
laden with them. The father of Abraham was 70, of Isaac 100,
and mother 90; and of Jacob, Joseph, David, and a host of others,
old people when these respective worthies were born. These
facts are only samples. Nor are there any exceptions. Where is
the distinguished man, born before both his parents had arrived
at full maturity ? The widest investigation proves that
The older the parents the more moral and intellectual the off-
spring.
The legal ages for contracting marriages in different Euro-
pean nations are as follows, the first number of each for males, and
second females : Austria and Hungary, Catholics 14, 12 ; Protest-
ants, 18, 16. Russia, 18, 16. Italy, 18, 15. Prussia, 18, 14 ; till
lately, 20, 16. France and Belgium, 18, 15. Greece, 14, 12 ; are
proposing to enact 15, 12. Spain, 14, 12. Portugal 14, 12 ; but
up to 21 they must get parental consent. Switzerland, some can-
tons, 20, 17 ; others down to 14, 12 ; but in Geneva parental con-
sent is necessary up to 25.
Females can marry about two years the youngest.
690. — The Female determines the True Period.
Males should be from two to four years her elder, because they
ripen later, and retain parental capacity longest ; and because a
woman, to love fully, must look up to her idol. Then, when is
she prepared ? Though she can conceive soon after pubert}- , yet
to fully fit her rajudly-growing female organism for so great a
work as maternity, " takes time."
Till she nearly completes her growth she requires a great
amount of both organic material and vital force for home con-
sumption ; so that as great a drain as offspring necessitates
would break down her constitution before it became consoli-
dated. The children of too young a mother must needs bo poorly
constituted ; besides exhausting her. City girls mature earlier
than country, and southern than northern, and excitable than
phlegmatic.
Nineteen is about the avemge for mating m females, and
twent\'-one in males. Yet
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The number of years is less material than matarity. Some,
like tlie Juneating, ripen early, while others do not become men
or women till nearly twenty ; yet, like the winter-apple, kfeep the
longer, and can bear later in life. Hence, many a woman is neg-
lected because on the wrong side of thirty, though younger in
constitution than others at twenty, and will continue not only to
bear, but to manifest all the elements of the woman long after
the " Early Annes " have become superannuated.
Nature may wait, if all her laws were fully observed, till
twenty-three in a woman, and twenty-four in a man, but no longer.
In all who wait longer, gender and Love become weakened and
averted by starvation, or demoralized by its taking on its animal
phase. Nature is a great economist ; and provides that no time
be lost. As every plant, tree, animal has its reproductive period,
80 has man. Hence, just as fast as she matures any of her pro-
ductions, she sets them to executing her greatest work, repro-
duction, commands all to " multiply," and obliges them to obey.
Young man and woman, you neglect her work only at your cost.
You both forego her reward of labor, and incur her penalties of
inertia. Then form your Love alliance just as soon as you find
yourself fully, fairly matured.
691. — The Eighteen- Year-Old Fever.
" This leaves the mating period undetermined, practically^ though
it embodies its governing principles. Does any law tell each particular
person at just what precise age he or she should marry? "
All instincts proclaim destinies. As natural hunger decides
when we should eat, and thus of sleep, warmth, &c. ; so Love
tells each one just when he or she should mate and marry by its
own intuitive monitions. Behold Cupid mantling the cheeks
of that well-sexed maiden thoroughly enamoured with the most
glowing blushes; flashing Love from every glance of her eyes,
bursting forth in every movement of her quivering lips, warbling
in inexpressibly soft, tender, touching tones and accents, and
immeasurably enhancing every excellence she possesses. How
completely fascinated and bewitched it renders her and her lover.
Wherever she goes, or whatever she does, she thinks only and
ever of her idol.
By all this instinctive Love fervor and power, does God, in
her nature, command her to fulfil it in marriage, to which alone
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it gravitates, and is adapted.^ By this " desire " God commands
her to marry then. She disobeys at her life-long peril ;^* and
brings down corresponding retribution by blunting and scarring
her sensory principle itself — her very power to enjoy and accom-
plish— just as looking at the sun paralyzes vision. By all means
save this censorium ; for its paralysis renders her thus far useless
to herself and others ever after. Resisting it is just what par-
alyzes, while its gratification in marriage saves it. Drowning it
in piety drowns her too, and leaves her a devout statue, a pious
automaton. Piety can only mitigate : nothing can avert the
deadening blow. Let other passages show why it works all this
damage. Suffice it here that it does the damage : the very thing to
be avoided. If she can so control this fever as to enjoy it, and
not chafe over it, let it run on for months or years. It is only
material that it be kept in a happy state.*" Only its painful state
makes this sad havoc with the nervous system. Girls not nerved
up by excessive study can thus take Love this " natural way." It
wrecks woman the most, because her Love is the most intense.
AVhen, therefore, this love-fever does set in, let it be directed, but
not quenched.
Nature lashes terribly, those who lag far behind this period.
" On time," is her universal motto. After twenty the female
organism manufactures a large surplus of organic material, and
unless she marries and bears, sexual starvation or else inflam-
mation inevitably supervenes. She may find partial salvation in
loving without marriage or maternity ; but feeds this element
only on husks, in place of the bread and fruits of love. Nature
commands woman to live for her husband and children, and she
who disobeys induces penalties she cannot afford to incur. Her
mating period is infinitely precious. By all means let her make
love-hay while her love-sun shines and bloom lasts. The younger
they are the longer they may court whilst love ripens ; but the
more mature it is the sooner they should marry.
This time-account sums up thus: Dating from puberty, which
hot-house customs, our climate, Ac, induce at about thirteen or
fourteen, girls should romp, grow, and study till seventeen or
eighteen. Neither judgment nor affection are sufficiently mature
to guarantee a right choice a day sooner. From eighteen to twenty
IS the true mating i^riod for girls, and from nineteen to twenty-
one for men. Courtship should now occupy about two yean.
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Only special circumstances should delay it any longer; while
those who begin later should hasten marriage. Twenty finds
every young lady fully matured for marriage, which she cannot
long postpone, unless happily mated, without either withering
sexually, or else becoming " impaired ; " both of which should by
all means be avoided.
692. — Important Difference in Ages.
Up to twenty-two, those who propose marriage should be
about the same age ; yet a aiiference of even fifteen years, after
the youngest is twenty-five, need not prevent a marriage, when
everything else is favorable. But a man of forty-five may marry
a woman of twenty-six or upwards much more safely than one of
thirty a girl below twenty ; for her natural coyness requires more
delicate treatment than his abruptness is likely to bestow. He
is apt to err fundamentally by precipitancy, presupposing that
her mental sexuality is as mature as his own. Though a man
upwards of forty must not marry one below twenty-two, yet a
man of fifty may venture to marry a woman of twenty-five, if he
is hale, and descended from a long-lived ancestry. Still no girl
under twenty should ever marry any man over twenty-six. The
Love of an elderly man for a girl is more parental than conjugal ;
while hers for him is like that of a daughter for a father, rather
than wife for husband. He loves her as a pet, and therefore his
inferior, instead of as a woman ; and is compelled to look down
upon her as inexperienced, below him in judgment, too often
impulsive and unwise; which obliges him to make too many
allowances to be compatible with a genuine union. And she is
compelled to look up to him more as one to bfe reverenced, per-
haps feared, and as more good and wise than companionable.
Their ideas and feelings must necessarily be dissimilar. He may
indeed pet, flatter, and indulge her as he would a grown daugh-
ter, and appreciate her artless innocence and girlish light-heart-
edness ; yet all this is not genuine masculine and feminine Love ;
nor can she exert over him the influence every man requires from
his wife. Besides,
A GRAY-HEADED husband's gallanting a girlish wife is incon-
gruous. Her assuming that juvenile gayety so natural to youth,
while he is as dignified and high-toned as becomes all elderly
gentlemen, is a little like uniting Fall with Rpring.
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All girls should laugh, play, be juvenile, and mingle in
young society,*"* and an elderly husband might not want to go to
as many parties as his girl-wife. Of course she must stifle her
love of company, or else be escorted by a younger, perhaps there-
fore more sympathizing beau, who must play the agreeable, whis-
per pleasant things, perhaps expressions of Love, in her willing
ear, while she prefers the young beau, and is quite liable to love
her husband rather as a father, yet another as a lover. At least
those elderly men who marry gifls must keep only half an eye
half open, and see little even with that. Not that their young
consorts are faithless, but that they are exposed to temptation.
Yet
A YOUNG WOMAN DEFICIENT in Amativcness naturally gravitates
towards elderly men ; because their greater age has put theirs on
about the same plane with hers. Such girls, therefore, greatly
prefer men from twenty to thirty years their seniors. In such
cases her preferences may safely be trusted. But
A YOUNGERLY WOMAN had far better marry an elderly man, who
is otherwise acceptable, than not to marry at all. If she is satisfied,
he should not object. Still, she must look one of these alterna-
tives fairly in the face — either to impart to him of her own life
stamina to sustain him longer than he could otherwise live, while
she dies sooner ; or see him die before her, only to break her
heart in case a genuine Love exists, or else be obliged to transfer it
to another ; from either of which she may well pray to, be delivered.
There are cases, however, in which girls may marry seniors.
One of seventeen fell desperately in Love with her teacher of
forty -two. Repelled by her cold, stern father,*^ and denied the
society of young men, her innate Love being strong, it must of
course perish, or else find some object. Her teacher, an excellent
man, without one thought of thereby eliciting her Love, nor
would he if her father had been affectionate to her, kindly aided
her in her studies, especially arithmetic, which masculine kind-
ness, to which she was unused, called forth her Love for him, on
whom it fastened with perfect desperation. Both parties con-
sulted me, and were answered, " The main objection to your
marriage lies on her side. But to break her heart by preventing
it, will do her far more injury than marrying her senior; there-
fore marry.*' But these are isolated cases.
Bhttkr om>kr men marry youngly women, than young men
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elderly women ; because paternity continues later in life than
maternity. Circumstances may justify the marriage of a young
man to an elderly woman. A wild, injudicious, imprudent youth
of twenty-two, who needed the influence of a mother united with
that of a wife, married and lived happily with a widow of thirty-
six, and found in her maternal with conjugal affections. An
elderly woman, possessing superior natural excellences, may com-
pensate for her age by her superiority ; but for a young man to
marry an elderly woman's wealth, and long for her death that he
may enjoy her money, "caps the climax" of "total depravity."
Still, an artful woman, who knows just how to play on the ama-
tory feelings of a young man, may so ingratiate herself into his
affections that, as with the girl just mentioned, their marriage is
best for him.
The determining question is, can a right Love be established
between them, and a fine family be produced and reared ? This
should ever be held sacred, irrespective of ages, circumstances,
position, everything.
Have we not stated those scientific principles which govern
!N'ature's mating and wedding periods ; as well as the absolute and
relative ages, of the parties ?
Section II.
importance of making a eight conjugal choice.
693. — It is a Man's Casting Die of Life.
All must choose, while passing through life, in many and im-
portant cases, between right ways and wrong ; paths leading to
happiness and misery, honor and shame, virtue and vice, and
their consequences ; yet of all the decisions man can ever make,
that respecting conjugal com.panionship is the most important, be-
cause the most eventful for prosperity and adversity, weal and
woe, virtue and vice, in this world and the next. By all the
power of a right and a wrong state of Love, by the very heart's
core of life itself, and all its interests, is it important that we
select just its very best possible object as regards general charac-
ter, and special adaptation to ourselves. We should select ac-
quaintances wisely, since their aggregate influence is great ; busi-
IMPORTANCE OF MAKING A RIGHT CONJUGAL CHOICE. 375
ness partners more so ; and intimate heart-friends still more, be-
cause all affect our entire future ; yet the effects of all combined
are utterly insignificant when compared with those of our con-
jugal partner. Are the consequences of other decisions far-
reaching, and are not these ramified throughout all the minutest
capillary affairs of life? Do other decisions affect our pecuniary
interests ; yet does not this far more than all others ? Would
you by industry and frugality acquire the means of future com-
fort, what will help or hinder equally with your wife ? If she is
naturally extravagant, she will worm dollars out of you by per-
suasion or intimidation, till by taking the very nest-egg, she fore-
stalls future investments ; or, if in sheer self-defence, you abso-
lutely interdict her extravagance by allowing her only so much,
you thereby increase your difficulty. Her indignant ladyship
takes perpetual revenge by thwarting you at every turn and corner
throughout all the little affairs of life. Indeed, unless you are
already so rich that you can surfeit all her whims, regardless of
thousands, your struggles will prove welluigh abortive. How-
ever great your income, heroic and continuous your efforts, and
well laid and executed your plans, if she works against your
pecuniary interests, you may about as well give up first as last ;
whereas, if she works /or them, saves while and what you make,
spends every dime to the best advantage, and as few dollars as
possible, and helps you both plan and execute, your success is
wellnigh certain, unless thwarted by some marked weakness, or
the failure of others. And her influence to encourage or dis-
courage is indeed wonderful.*^
Is FAME your goal? she is almost as important in this life-race
as yourself. If her comportment sheds honor on you, and builds
you up in the estimation of others, you will be honored beyond
your deserts; whereas, if she continually says and does those
trifling things which give rise to petty jokes or scandal at your
expense, you row against wind and tide. Of this, Sylvester Gra-
ham furnished a noted example. The world knows, for he told
it everywhere, that he and his wife quarrelled. But for that he
would now have been honored instead of neglected. He had two
faults, vanity and pugnacity, which conjugal contention aggra-
vated, and thereby turned even his beet friends against him ; but
which conjugal affection would have softened down, and thu«
allowed his talents to shine uneclipsed. How much a man in
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honored abroad, depends mainly on whether he is honored at
home. While the core remains sound, the tree rarely ever rots;
hut when its heart decays, the soundness of the rest is of little
account. It matters the world to a man whether his wife is con-
tinually building him up in his own estimation by praise, or
breaking him down, and causing self-distrust by constant dis-
paragements ; yet her affectionate, judicious criticism is even
more self-improving. Fortuitous circumstances may give a man
accidental position, even though clogged with a poor wife ; yet
it will prove temporary. Hence, if honor is your life-goal,
select one who will be your true helpmeet in its acquisition and
perpetuity.
Is MORAL ELEVATION your great life-motive? though you are
a saint, yet if you marry one who is perpetually souring your
temper, embittering your feelings, upbraiding and wounding your
conscientious scruples, or enticing, almost compelling you to do
wrong, only angel-goodness can even keep, much more make,
you good, ^ot that it is impossible, yet it is so very difficult
that you had better avoid the trial. But when a good, patient,
conscientious wife is perpetually enticing you from evil to good,
to-day inspiring in you this virtue, to-morrow teaching you to
obviate that fault ; a very Satan could almost become a virtual
saint.
Are INTELLECTUAL ATTAINMENTS, iu any art, science, or discovery,
your aim, a helpmeet wife is even a necessity.^^^ If she reads
while you listen or take notes; if, when some new idea flits
dimly across your hazy mental horizon, like some distant island
embedded in the misty ocean, she applies her quick, clear optics,
it at once assumes a bold, tangible reality. Her suggestions are
invaluable by way of tilling up and illustrating your outline
thoughts. If she criticises while you write, lops off" here, adds
there, and inspires everywhere, how much better your joint pro-
ductions than your own merely? But if she scolds while you
eat,, write, and sleep, or crosses you when going to or from study
or business, you may, indeed, think, write, trade, or do what you
please, but it will be almost in vain.
Is A COMFORTABLE HOME, and a happy, quiet fireside, with lov-
ing children, your life's aspiration? despair utterly, if she loves
tashion, parties, or amusements more than domestic enjoyments ;
or, if cross-grained herself, she sours your own temper, and that
IMPORTANCE OF MAKING A RIGHT CONJUGAL CHOICE. 377
of your children, and renders home a hedlara ; while an amiable
wife will make a hovel a paradise, and a comfortable domicile a
heaven indeed ! Words utterly fail to depict the difference
between different women in this particular; this one having so
many charming, loving ways and qualities, but the other so
many repellent and ugly ones. Even when both mean right and
do their best, the difference is world-wide.
The highest attainable self-improvement is life's paramount
duty and glory; and that woman alone can evolve masculina
excellences, and man feminine, underlies this whole work.
Please duly weigh the depth, breadth, and scope of this principle.
Then, young man, just launching out upon the great sea of
human life and destiny, anxious to make the most possible out
of yourself, consider well under what female influence you place
yourself. If married, yet unloving and unloved, you incur all
the evils of celibacy ^ with the cares of a family. Female influ-
ence outside of wedlock is mostly objectionable. It should
legitimately come mainly from a wife. !N^ow, it matters a
world whether you place yourself under the moulding influence
of this woman, or of that ; for one can make of you, and inspire
you to make of yourself, ten times more of the man than an-
other. Some have a peculiar " knack " of rousing, inspiring,
inspiriting, and bringing out whatever characteristics and capaci-
ties a man possesses."^ This is exemplified, though only in a
lower degree, in conversation with different females. With this
one you ciin talk on, as if ideas and feelings flowed spontaneously,
and she held ovei you an enchanting wand to raise you above
yourself, so that you wonder how you could converse thus bril-
liantly; yet while conversing with another, you fall proportion-
ately below yourself. Who but experiences this difference and its
magnitude? Then apply it to all you do, say, And are, through
life, and you have a glimpse oniy of that silent but resistless
force of the respective influences of different wives. Few realize
oven the fact, much less the extent, of this influence ; yet fully
to appreciate it is impossible.
Many a youno man, rising gradually but steadily in public
estimation, respected, prosperous, intelligent, and worthy, by
marrying an inferior wife, gradually sinks in property, position,
ftud character, till he becomes almost unobserved, leaving barely
head enough above water to prevent actual drowning;®* till, at
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length, fortunately, she dies ; when, marrying a superior woman,
she builds him up little by little, and gives him an air of respect-
ability, so that he becomes prosperous in business, is elevated to
office, and regains position and confidence, consequent upon the
silent but portentous influences these diflPerent wives exert over
him. Let those who have had two or more wives bear their
testimony ; yet even they do not, cannot, fully imagine or appre-
ciate this difference.
We become like those with whom we associate, and doubly
like those with whom we affiliate. As "evil communications
corrupt good manners," and good communications mend even bad
ones ; so many men, now respectable, are so mainly by virtue of
the influence a good wife exerts over them, by elevating them
above the temptations of depraved animality. Let your own
conscience decide how much of the good in your life is virtually
due to the purifying influence some good woman you love, or
have loved, still wields over you, and whose sacred memory even
now restrains you from evil, and persuades you to good. In short,
in a thousand numberless ways, and to an extent ramified almost
inimitably, does a wife make or break her husband, physically,
pecuniarily, intellectually, morally, and wholly.
694. — Whom she Marries, controls every Woman's Destiny.
The moulding influences of husband over wife are far greater.
How much more is all this true of woman ? Her marriasre affects
her more than his him. Has he high hopes and aspirations, and
has not she as high ? Are her visions of the future less ecstatic,
or air-castles less fairy ? Are they not generally more so ? Can
he not render her more happy, or miserable, in the family, than
she him ? *^* Is she not far the most affectionate, susceptible to
pleasure, especially domestic ?^^ Do his life-hopes and .success
depend so much on her character, and do not hers hang still more
on his ? If his pleasures are more diversified than hers, are not
hers more concentrated in marriage than his ? *^ It is possible
for him to pick up fragmentary happiness outside of marriage,
but she can find it only there. Despite Love disappointment, he
may render life passable by enjoying this and the other pleasures,
business, politics, the club-room, &c., &c., yet left open to him;
but when her conjugal cup is filled with gall, what remains for
her but to sip on her bitter draught the rest of her lonely,
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wretched life, and court grim death for relief? Is Love so much
to him, and is it not her very all f Is a good wife a man's greatest
blessing, and is not a good husband far greater to a woman ? In
her extravagance so ruinous to him, and is not his more to her ?
Is her industry so great a boon to him, and is not his a greater to
her ? Is her power so great over him to develop or becloud what-
ever natural excellences he may possess, and is not his over her
as much greater as she is more an angel of Love than he? Is a
fault in her so obnoxious to him, and is not one in him far more
so to her? Is her perfection so infinitely important to him, and
is not his as much more so to her as her Love does and should
exceed his? In proportion as woman's Love is stronger than
man's, are her happiness and destinies more interwoven with her
domestic affections than his, and her right and wrong marriage
more eventful and irrevocable for her happiness or misery. Love
is the only key which locks or unlocks those richest earthly
treasures of female character. No woman ever can be developed
except by the man she loves, and who loves her ; nor is there
any telling how deep, how rich, these feminine storehouses are,
now practically undeveloped in consequence of the stifling of
female affection.
Woman, you require not so much any husband as a good one.
Though perhaps a poor half-loaf is better than no bread, yet how
much better a good whole one I To select the very best out of
all you can command, is almost as important as your life itself!
True conjugal Love moulds each inimitably. By all the power
it wields over human life and destiny ,^^*'*'*** is the building-up and
breaking-down power of husband over wife, and wife over hus-
band. As the blood ramifies itself throughout every artery and
fibre of the entire system, to invigorate or disease, according as
it is vigorous or diseased ; so marriage enters into all the minut-
est ramifications of life, improving or corrupting all the physical
and mental functions, according as it is right or wrong.
The hereditary endowment of your children lies a little nearer
the very centre of your life than all other interests combined. It
concerns you to so order your selection as to secure offspring
who will comfort and honor you, and be a perpetual joy to them-
selves. In practical life-importance this towers far above all other
family and matrimonial considerations,"^^ because that for which
all others wcl-e ordained, and in which all culminate.*^ Let your
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own heads and hearts duly emphasize this subject, for our pen
cannot. A matrimonial selection throughout all its aspects is in-
deed infinitely important. And yet
Young folks perpetrate more and graver errors in choosing
husbands and wives than in all else. How often do young men,
smart enough in business to rise far above their fellows, and gifted
enough intellectually to shine in college, pulpit, editorial chair,
politics, at the bar, on the bench, &c., make utterly foolish con-'
jugal selections ? Many, overlooking young women endowed with
superb conjugal qualities, select some poor thing because of some
little fancy touches utterly insignificant in themselves, and un-
worthy of him or her, perhaps even faults, when they might just
as well have obtained the very best ; while others, only common-
place in business, nor at all brilliant intellectually, know enough
to select excellent conjugal partners? Women, too, profl:ered
hands and hearts in overflowing abundance, often fall blindly in
Love with the poorest, and ascertain their error only when it is
past all remedy ; having fairly thrown themselves away ! Worse,
have chained themselves to a putrefying carcass, rendering them-
selves inexpressibly miserable; whereas, they might just as well
have been inexpressibly happy for life ! Others select those well
adapted to another, yet not at all to themselves. Doctor Johnson,
the physiologist, wrote : " Put the names of men into one urn,
and women into another, and drawing at random from each, pair
them as you draw, and they will be quite as well adapted to each
other as now." [N'ot to dissatisfy any with their choice, yet could
you not have chosen better ? How little, if any, oneness exists
between you I How many points of unfitness now perfectly pal-
pable, were then wholly overlooked 1
. " This is the very best, and my beau-ideal of all those within
my reach," is what every husband declares of his wife. Then
to be ashamed of her, is indeed humiliating ! Wives, too, practi-
cally proclaim, whenever they appear with their husbands, "This
is my choice out of all the men J was able to win." Then how
doubly mortifying if they prove incompetent or depraved ;
because this evinces either want of sense to choose, or else pf
ability to obtain.
How vast the difference, how heaven-wide and life-long,
between taking this partner or that right home to your bosom,
to love and live witli, " for better or for worse." If you love this
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one, her inspiration is marvellous and perpetual; while another
may paralyze you. Trifle anywhere else, but laugh not, trifle
not, flirt not, on the verge of consequences thus eventful. You
cannot aftbrd it, for you have too much at stake. Be wise here,
however foolish elsewhere.
Words utterly fail to describe either how great, how diver-
sified, and how almost infinite the blessings consequent on a
right selection, or the untold miseries on a wrong 1 Only on the
furthest verge of a long life of experience is it possible for either
to measure the results of this choice. As only those whose warm
blood bounds throughout large hearts and arteries, carrying
ecstasy to every organ and fibre of their bodies, and imparting a
thrill of rapture to their every mental operation, can ever realize
how much they enjoy at the hands of this health ; as those who
sufler from perpetual weakness and aches, by becoming accus-
tomed thereto, little realize how much they do sufler, nor how
much enjoyment their disease prevents, yet the real difference is
quite as great as if it were correctly estimated : as drinking,
smoking, chewing, and other bad habits, render their victims
insensible to their deadly effects, yet this very insensibility only
re-increases the evil; so, verily, "marriage is indeed life's casting
die. No event from birth to death equally affects human weal
or woe."
Be not DISCOURAGED in view of these momentous results, nor
deterred from making any selection, but let all make it as serious
as it is important. Indeed, the boundless good consequent on a
right selection should encourage, much more than the dire results
possible discourage ; because all selections, guided by right princi-
ples, can and will eventuate happily.**'' A right selection is pos-
sible and easy. Then how can it be assured ?
695. — Mutual Rights of Parents, Children, and Relatives
RESPECTING THEIR OWN AND EACH OTHER's SELECTIONS.
Parents, children, and relatives obviously have rights, and
owe mutual duties respecting their own and each other's matri-
monial selection, because that of each materially affects the hap-
piness of all. Should a dutiful child do what goes to the very
core of parental happiness without conference? A perfect pa-
rental and filial state requires this even in minor matters ; then
how much more in marriage? Will filial children impose an
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obnoxious eon-or daughter-in-law upon unwilling parents with-
out asking ? and is it not impertinent for a man to take a girl
without saying, " May it please you," to those who have produced
one thus worthy of his Love ? And asking presupposes a right
to object. Yet
Parents have no more right to impose obnoxious life-com-
panions on their children than nauseating food ; nor to compel
them to become parents with those abhorred. And have chil-
dren no voice in a parent's second marriage? nor relatives in
each other's ? But
Whose shall rule when their rights clash ? And whose under
what circumstances? These questions deserve that scientific
answer, by which all are bound to abide. Each should inquire,
'' What is my duty ? " under given conditions, and do it. Mark
well our answer, and especiallj^ its reasons.
A DOTING PARENTAL PAIR have given being to a very dear daugh-
ter ; wept over her tender infancy ; nursed her in sickness ; fed,
clothed, educated, baptized, prayed over, loved, and done for her,
as only fond parents can do. She becomes old enough to marry.
Of course they feel the utmost solicitude, such as only parents can
experience, in her future. Her destinies centre in her husband,
and theirs somewhat in hers. She has two lovers, one is suitable,
while the other, by wily arts, serpent-like, has coiled himself
around her very heartstrings, preparatory to draining her life's
blood, and squandering that well-earned patrimony a life of pa-
rental to-il and industry has treasured up to promote her happi-
ness. Then have they no right to express their preference, and
its reason ? They have. And is she under no filial obligations
to hear and heed ? She is. The love they bear her, their life-toil
for her, and the prospective effects this one or that would have
on their happiness through her, confer this right on them, and
impose this obligation on her. And she who turns a deaf ear to
their counsels, and blindly follows her own will, too often learns,
when too late, the folly, even madness, of spurning parental
counsel. How many direful results of such unfilial conduct stare
beholders everywhere in the face 1 If your parents are even in-
ferior, at least ask, and duly consider their advice ; much more
if they love you, and are intelligent. You will never need pa-
rental counsel about any matter as much as in your Love affairs ;
and the more because your own feelings warp your judgment
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Each sex needs counsel from the opposite. Daughters require
a father's advice,**^ and sons that of their mothers;** and wher-
ever a true parental and filial state exists, every daughter will
hasten with her first love-letter to her father, and every son will
first ask his mother what she thinks of this girl or that, as.
adapted to become his wife, before making advances ; while all
true fathers will enter right heartily into their daughter's Love
aflTairs as if their own ; living their young Love over again in
liers, and mothers in sons'. Parents will take counsel together
respecting both sons and daughters, and all parties confer freely
touching this whole matter, like jurymen discussing the evidence
of a trial, each weighing the conclusions of all in the scale of
reason and right.
Brothers and sisters have mutual rights touching each other's
conjugal partners. Whom each marries afiects the interest of
the other. And will not every true sister consult her brother,
and brother ask his sister's opinion ? If they love each other as
they should,^ they can hardly help both asking and answering
in perfect freedom and aftectionate solicitude. In fact
Every marriage should be a family aftair, discussed in full
council, and both families should be bound together by ties of
perfect affection. Not a discordant note should be uttered by
either to mar the harmony of all. Parents should love each other
and their children with all their hearts, and children their parents
and each other, as well as each other's companions. All should
open wide the portals of their affections, and enlarge their fire-
side circles, so as to embrace the entire family relatives.^" Since
it is thus important that all should be friendly with all, therefore
all have a voice in the matrimonial selections of all. And ^hat
child who marries contrary to parental wishes, thereby obliges
them either to tolerate the choice, or else to banish both child
and consort from their hearts. May you never be driven to either!
May all your family connections be bound together in the bonds
of the closest cordiality ! Let none throw the apple of discord
into the sacred family circle, to chill its warmth, or quench its
fires; but instead, may each promote, not prevent, these holiest
of life's relations. Yet
NoNB should be captious. Should slight causes be allowed to
engender family alienations? If either decidedly prefers one to
wli.^in others object, shall either, by being refractory, make bad
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woree^? Shall a family quarrel ensue because some like, while
others dislike, a particular match ? Instead, all should " live
and let live.'' The flexible policy is the best for each and all.
Contention reacts on all, and renders all miserable. Persistency
in all cases injures all, but benefits none. Let all cultivate a sat-
isfied rather than a fault-finding spirit.
696. — Parents should promote their Children's Selections.
The parental duty is imperious of seeing their children set-
tled in marriage. Did not Abraham pursue a true parental course
in obtaining a wife for Isaac ? As parents are solemnly bound to
provide their children with creature comforts, and facilities for
their intellectual and moral culture, so they should provide social
aliment. Why should they not select male associates of a cor-
responding age for their daughters, and female ones for their
sons?. Not that they should force disagreeable acquaintances
upon them, nor restrict them to single associates, but that, by
making parties, introducing them, enlarging the circle of their
acquaintances, and other right means, they should throw them
into the society of young gentlemen, and furnish them abundant
opportunities for making a suitable conjugal selection.^^
Any girl is all the safer the more masculine acquaintances
she forms, partly because they enable and dispose her to select
the good but reject the bad, and partly by training and develop-
ing her whole nature — a result inherent in the very nature of
all associations. They may and should accompany and introduce
her to friends, and these to their children and friends, and these
to others, ad libitum.
Parental prevention by persuasion or dictation is outrageous.
To hinder their marriage is as inhuman, even wicked, as to
prevent their educating or clothing themselves. What greater
injury could they inflict? Yet how many inflict it, especially on
daughters ? If their motives are good, their conduct is despic-
able. How many not only make them no parties, but prevent
their going to any ? allow them very few acquaintances, and
those of only just such a stripe? What if they are introduced
to those unworthy of friendship, they need not form an alliance
with them, yet such might introduce those who are worthy.
Why all this fear lest they should talk with those not just fit for
heaven, and thereby oblige them to seek their consort from among
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only a dozen of tlie opposite sex ? Readers, has not this parental
course wellnigh 8p)oiled some of your. lives? Let a few facts
illustrate this parental error.
A LOVING BUT SELFISH FATHER, having sccu cycry child married
except his youngest daughter, induced her, by command and per-
suasion, to forego all matrimonial proiFers, in order to nurse him.
She dismissed her lover for her father, who lived till she was
fortyi when, he dying, she married, but too late to have children
to soothe her in her decline. The older she grows, the more she
almost curses him for thus robbing her of her greatest earthly
blessing, and blames herself for allowing it. May your children
never remember you as the cause of a like suffering !
A DUTIFUL DAUGHTER of twenty, loved most devotedly and
tenderly, her social lobe being very large ; but her parents
opposed her marriage, because she alone remained to nurse them
in sickness and old age. From pure filial devotion she dismissed
her lover, thereby breaking both hearts, and pined by day and
wept by night, sinking into a monotonous, woe-begone, forlorn,
listless, inane state.^ Her health gradually declined. A terrible
fit of sickness supervened. She now teaches some, and nurses her
jwirents when they are sick, but is a mere automaton, a walking
statue, and has the look and tone of inexpressible, heart-broken
sorrow. An indescribable melancholy broods over her face, and
gives the natural language of unmitigated grief to all she does
and says; awakening pity, almost anguish, in all scrutinizing
beholders. Dead sexually, she lives merely nominally, and wishes
she were in her grave ; desiring to live only tliat she may do some
more good on earth. Noble martyr on the altar of filial Love I
Cruel parents to exact such a sacrifice! They hod no right to ask it!
She was under no filial obligation to gnint it. Her rights and
duties to herself exceed those due to her parents.'*" She suffers
terribly because she has sinned grievously. They now see their
error, and wish she was married, but it is too late. She dislike*
men, shuns their society, and longs to die, because her Love is
reversed by disappointment.*^' What parent, by pursuing a like
course, is willing to incur like consequences?
An ENVIOUS FATHER DRIVES OFF all young men who sock the
. acquaintance of either of his four daughters ; alleging, doubtlens
truly, that he loves them too well to tmrt with them. He nevftr
allows them to go abroad, night or day, without him ; and as he
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dislikes young society, they pine, and gradually decline, from
pure inanition, two having died of consumption, and the other
sinking in a hopeless decline; while even the youngest, a lovely
girl of nineteen, js beginning to fall into their declining foot
steps, consequent on home seclusion.
A HIGHLY INTELLECTUAL pair, moral and affectionate, on their
son of seventeen falling deeply in Love with a country girl,
good though not accomplished, broke off their affections, because
fihe was lower born than he, yet virtuous, and full of true
womanly sentiments, very lovely, and as devoted to him as he to
her. There was no objectionable feature except her social posi-
tion. They argued that he might do better. She married, but
is miserable, while he fell into a morbid, misanthropic state ; and
though possessed of superior moral tone, business capacities, and
general talent, indulged some ruinous personal habits; dissipated,
loathed virtuous female society, kept company he should not,
neglected business, and fell into a dead-and-alive state, and a
hopeless decline. His fond parents, obliged to behold these
ruinous results of their well-meant but fatal interruption of his
Love, now see that his only salvation consists in marriage, and
requested me to make a suitable selection ; but, having become
a regular woman-hater,^* he absolutely refuses to make any ad-
vances. There remains but this single chance for his salvation,
— being courted and captivated by some lively but forward girl,
(vho is not afraid to make love.^^
A DAUGHTER OF FOURTEEN fell desperately in Love with a lad of
sixteen. Her mother brought both to me, to inquire concerning
their mutual adaptation, and what traits should be cultivated and
restrained in order to insure mutual assimilation, anxious to
learn and do her whole duty ; and was very happy when told that
they were unmistakably adapted to each other. Was not this
course both parental and politic ? Should not parents facilitate
and guide the loves of their children as much as their intellects ?
Yet
Many parents pursue the opposite course, especially with their
daughters, by hurrying them into company while mere girls ;
often hastening their womanhood that they may hasten their
match-making; actually exposing them to severe temptation,
if by any means they can secure proposals. Nor are they par-
ticular what company, if only rich. They do everything to
IMPORTANCE OP MAKING A RIGHT CONJUGAL CHOICE. 387
marry them off fashionably before their beauty fades, which we
shall yet show how to prolong. Should not parental duty con-
Bult their ultimate good rather than their early marriage ?
Other parents almost compel them to accept a poor offer, and
throw themselves away to get a home, by rendering their present
situation intolerable. Fathers should make their daughters com-
fortable till they can marry advantageously, and not allow them
to feel humbled, or that they are dependent, or burdensome. Still,
Many supported cheerfully by father, brother, or uncle, often
morbidly fancy they are regarded as burdensome when they are
not. All girls who have to work for a living should accept
thankfully any proffered aid without feeling mortified as if in a
position of dependence.*^ !N'o girl should ever marry for a home.
All marriages must eventuate miserably which are not contracted
from the true matrimonial motive of Love and offspring.
Nature requires all to supply their omn necessary wants. As
she requires all insects, birds, and animals to search assiduously till
each finds its individual food, shelter, &c.; so all men and women
are derelict to self who neglect any proper means of obtaining a
conjugal mate. None should loait, Micawber-like, for one to
"come along." Such things rarely Aappm. Appropriate means
are as indispensable in obtaining this end as any other. And
woman is under as much obligation to promote her own mar-
riage as man his. None should shut themselves up from com-
pany. All normal ladies love and seek society, introductions, &c.
" Company " fills as necessary a human want as food, and can no
more be ignored without causing mental and social starvation.
Those who rarely go abroad are necessarily undeveloped, because
unsocial. Those young men who go from their business to their
rooms, and rooms to business, thereby become morbid or stoical,
and, like hibernating animals, remain very poor, mentally and
physically. This same law governs correspondence. Let all both
write and visit.
697. — The first Stage of Courtship. Asking Consent.
Nature has divided coitrtship into two stages, each as distinct
from the other as seed-time is from liarvest, or sunrise from sun-
set, and bearing a like mutual relation. Selection is the first;
the second is love-makin^r. Each should be kept just as distinct
^m the other as sprinr; is from fall. Two should no more make
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Love till they have selected, been accepted, and are engaged, thau
enter a house till they have closed the bargain for it, and obtained
its keys. Is it not strange that a distinction thus obvious should
have wholly escaped public attention ? Reduce this distinction
to practice, and we shall have no more " broken hearts," nor even
sensualities. Postponing all Love till after engagement, will
preserve love inviolate, and thereby secure the virtue of all.*"
Every courted girl should know whether her beau comes as a
matrimonial canvasser, or just for fun, and to have a good time ;
and if for the latter, dismiss, rather expel him summarily, as if
he were an avowed seducer under the guise of courtship.'^
Parents, too, have a right to know in which capacity a young
man visits their daughter. And those who " go a-courting " are
sacredly bound to inform all parties in. what capacity they come,
what is their errand, and what they seek.
The true procedure is this : Before paying his addresses to a
young woman, a young man should ask, at the innermost shrine
of his being, " Will this one or that make me the best wife ? "
and let the " light within " first illumine this question.^^^ He
should next consult his mother ; then, whom else he pleases.
He should next make advances to the girl herself. By letter is
undoubtedly the best form ; not as a lover, but only mutually to
canvass their respective matrimonial qualifications and adapta-
tions.
She should now consider and answer, not whether she will
accept his Love, or become his wife, but only whether she will
receive him as a suitor, to consider their mutual fitness. Of
courses he should now consult her father and mother. If she ac-
cepts, their next step is to ask the consent of her parents. This
fully opens up the whole subject to a frank, intellectual discussion
between all the parties interested ; asking their leave being tanta-
mount to asking that of all concerned. But
Why ASK? On his o?/;ri account. His interests most demand
that they have an opportunity to express their opinions, " or ever
after hold their peace." This is equally her true policy. If
needs be, she should willingly forsake father and mother and
cleave to a husband ; yet how much better if she can cling to all
together ? They may marry in spite of parents and friends, yet
thus arraying all the members of both families against them
injures them the most ? His happiness and success in life, per-
IMPORTANCE OP MAKING A RIGHT CONJUGAL CHOICE. 389
haps in gaining her affections, will be seriously affected by their
friendly cooperation or warlike opposition. If he can marry
the one of his choice, and retain the affections of her parents,
merely by saying, "May it please you," had he not better ask?
Is he not impertinent to carry off* her heart and hand, wholly
regardless of parental wishes ? Those who have made her worth
his having, should surely be thaiiked, not robbed; consulted, not
plundered ; asked, not driven. If any object that this course
exposes sensitive young men to the disadvantages of negation,
pray what does not ? This matter cannot be kept secret. The
mere fact of secrecy has an objectionable aspect, while frankness ie
always commendable; and judicious parents, so far from necessa-
rily exposing him, would throw them together without awaken-
ing suspicion, whereas going expressly to see her, publicly com-
mits him. This form of decline renders it less public and unfa-
vorable to him than being refused in the usual way. No taint or
stigma attaches to him on account of their not finding theniselvep
adapted to each other, nor at all implies that he is unworthy
either of her, or another quite as good. This straightforward
course is also best calculated to secure success.
All interested parties should now talk this whole matter
over, with this express understanding, that they are only advisers^
not arbitrators; counsellors, but neither jurors nor judges; that
their prerogative is merely to suggest, not to dictate. For them
to interdict is ill-bred meddlesome interference with what is
none of their business, and downright impudence. As they
would indignantly repel all outside interference in their own
Love matrors, so they should be content with making their own
matches. They may introduce, recommend, and urge reasons;
yet even this only out of pure friendship, but stop there. Since
even parents may only advise, much less may others.
Her parents should state frankly, in accepting his addresses,
their objections, if any, and give him an opportunity to rebut
them ; and also tell him, as far as they deem best, her main
characteristics, excellences, defects, their opinion of their fitness,
and whatever else in their judgment bears on this matter. These
family secrets involved must come to life some time, and tho
earlier the better; and a decision as to their fitness requires thi«
knowledge. But all parties should deem them absolutely sacred,
and on no account ever to be divulged. Yet those who prefer a
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course more secretive aud politic, are quite welcome to its ofteo
injurious results.
698. — Shlf the only and final Umpire.
As A CHiEF-JUSTiCB is necessary to every State, every tribunal,
so selection must needs have its dernier ressort When all agree,
" all is right ;" but in case of difterence, whose will shall be
absolute ?
The matrimonial candidates themselves should give the cast,
ing vote. Others may advise, but it is their prerogative alone to
rule. Man's most sacred, inviolable, and God-conferred right is
that of choosing one's own matrimonial partner. As all men
are " endowed with certain inalienable rights to life, liberty, and
the pursuit of happiness," and as nothing affects this happiness
for life equally with a conjugal partner, it is the most sacred.
Have not all an undoubted right to select their own food ? But
is not their right to choose their own husband or wife quite as
indubitable? The happiness of others is affected much, but
theirs infinitely the most. Outside interference is a flagrant
wrong, wbich no excuses can either justify or palliate; not even
in parents, except where children are too young to marry. When
old enough to marry, they are old enough to decide to whom.
Neither party can decide for the other; but each must
choose voluntarily for his and her own self. As each must eat,
breathe, move, talk, think, and do many other things in jrropria
persona, so each must make his or her own conjugal selection.
Some things can be done by proxy, but choosing a husband or
wife is not one of them. Marriage is active, not passive. None
should either interfere, or allow any interference.
Personal selection is a solemn duty each must meet fully, and
in person. Notliing can excuse it. Allowing others to decide
it, always punishes the guilty parties. All who do must be mis-
erable. Even the other party has no right to unduly insist.
Those who do, perpetrate an unmitigated wrong on the yielding
party ; and those who allow themselves to be persuaded against
their own better judgment, will rue their pusillanimity the
remainder of their lives. Let those who make great efforts to
persuade a woman whom they love, but who does not love them,
remember that they will be much more miserable with her in
aversion than without her.^ Let all marry voluntarily and
GENEBAL MATRIMONIAL PBEREQUISITES. 391
asfiume this responsibility, great as it confessedly is, in person ;
and after taking due counsel, and fully weighing all argument*
and conditions on both sides, finally decide it according to the
best lights they themselves can command. Then
What first principles and facts shall guide their choice ?
Section III.
general matrimonial prerequisites.
699. — The Constitution, Organism, Parentage, &c.
Fitness is one of Nature's paramount institutes, and in general,
everything. How much, we will not stop here to say ; but a
hundred-fold is no comparison. Words cannot express how
much more valuable for a given purpose anything adapted
thereto is than something not thus adapted.
Op conjugal fitness this is doubly true, and the main requisite
in a husband or wife. One thus fitted is many times more suitable
than one not. Indeed, this adaptation is the very first point to
be considered, and that around which all centres. Then in what
does it consist? Is it natural or artificial, or both? To this
important inquiry, we next address ourselves. It is
First, general, because inherent in the very nature of the
marriage. relations themselves, constituting a necessary part and
parcel of all marriages, high and low, refined and common, old
and young ; and, secondly, those especially adapting particular
persons to each other. They might likewise be subdivided into
natural and acquired, natural being far the most valuable. First,
then, those general and indispensable.
A GOOD original organism lies at the base of all conjugal pre-
requisites, because it is the great determiner of character and
capacity.*"' It is called hereditary constitution in man, and
" blood " in stock. It vitalizes all functions, both niental and
physical, and is to all what motive j)Ower is to machinery. ltd
inlluence over the entire character is paramount* and absolute,
lying far below, and rising far above, all educational influences,
and constituting the grand sub-strata of the entire being.'" The
chapter on Temperaments in Human Science will be found most
instructive on this point. It embraces physical tendencies to Ion-
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gevity and disease, strength, stamina, and endurance, and also all
natunil proclivities, intellectual, moral, and dispositional ; includ-
ing the talents. Thus some are constitutionally predisposed to
consumption, rheumatism, &c. ; others to other hereditary infirmi-
ties, while others still are sound and hardy .**'*^' Other families
are ohstinate, or high-tempered, or amiable, or just, or intellectual^
or musical, &c. But as our next Section presents this subject
from another stand-point, we dismiss it here, remarking merely
that this condition will go far to control both the mentalities
•and physiologies of their children as well as themselves. Being
" dyed in the wool," or inborn, they " will out " in their descend-
ants. These are primal considerations with those prospecting for
a life-companion. Not that perfection should be expected, but
that all these facts should be duly weighed. Especially,
What of the mother ? If she scolds, and you marry her
daughter, beware, unless she resembles her father, and he is a
good, quiet, patient man. How much better if she is the guar-
dian angel and main stay of the family, and a sweet, good woman ?
because she does most to control the temper and disposition of her
children.^^^ Is she spry, blithe, and hardy, or tainted with any
hereditary maladies, remember that vital diseases descend through
mothers as well as fathers. Still she may be sickly now, though
naturally healthy, and her children have good constitutions.**^ Is
she frank or secretive, self-sacrificing or selfish, humble or high-
toned, just or partial, generous or close, intelligent or simple,
meek or haughty, talkative or demure, and what kind of talk ; a
downright good wife and mother, or only commonplace ; a gen-
uine woman, or deficient in the womanly traits, are vitally im-
portant questions.
Paternal qualities are also most important, especially as afifect-
ing daughters, who take after their father. But having put this
class of questions, we leave each to answer them in accordance
with these two conditions: the hereditary /(7rfe in each case; and
the specific likes and dislikes of the canvasser. Growing out of
this subject, and forming an almost integral part of it, is
700. — Robust Husbands vs. Dandy Clerks.
Animal power is the great base of all capacity, all functional
excellence. What is life without health? or what but health?
What are the sickly worth to themselves, families, or the world ?
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As a machine, however well adapted to execute the best of work,
is worthless without motive power; so animal stamina is the first
prerequisite for companionship.**^ A good physique is indispen-
sable even to mental power and moral excellence, which wax.
wane, or become vitiated, according to existing physical condi-
tions. Men always have worshipped, will worship, at the shrine
of female beauty ^^"^ and woman at that of masculine strength ;*" both
of which consist mainly in vigorous animal conditions. Let
those girls who know no better, choose little-faced, little-footed,
small-boned, shrivelled, soft-handed, soft-headed, nervous, white-
livered young men, wellnigh emasculated by their effeminating
habits ; but you do not want them. They may answer merely to
beau you into and out of a parlor or ball-room, or escort you to a
party or picnic, or for flirtation ; but they will make miserable
husbands, because they are not sick enough to nurse, nor well
enough to excite your whole-souled Love, and are so fidgety and
irritable that to please or Love them is impossible. Indoor
clerks and puny dandies are indeed more polite than sturdy
farmers and mechanics; but as conjugal partners, robust work-
men are altogether preferable. Men who remain much within
doors must exercise daily, or suffer the decline of their manliness.
Are not good, firm health and a hardy constitution quite as safe
» reliance for the support of a family as capital in business?
Does not ability to work exceed bank stock? Miss Young
America stands badly in her own light by refusing the hardy
farmer and resolute mechanic for the more accomplished but less
reliable clerk, or idle inheritor of a fortune. These anti-working
ideas of both sexes are rendering them almost unmarriageable
just from their muscular inertia, and ruining future generations.
At this rate of decline, what feeble, delicate mortals descendants
must be<;ome in the next generation ? And as few as weakly !•"
Yet individuals are not to blame. Our societarian customs are
thus fatal to our future. Our men rush from work to study, or
some sedentary employment, or else to business. Their minds
must be educated at the ex|>ense of their constitutions, to the
ruin of both. If they adopt business, they become so anxious,
and apply their minds so long and laboriously, as to sap the very
roots of animal power, and become poor and delicate before old
enough to marry. Our nation cannot long survive these enervat-
ing habits, except by renewed importations. Woman, patronixe
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muscle, not dandyism. Smile on strength, not delicacy. And,
youug man, indoors and out, make health paramount, both for
its own sake, and that of your prospective wife ; and also for its
indispensability to the matrimonial and parental relations.
701. — Healthy Wives and Children vs. Sickly.
Robust health in wife and mother is almost as indispensable
,aa in husband and father. He requires one who helps, not
hinders, and can take part in their mutual labors and interests.^
Animal vigor is the paramount prerequisite of everything terres-
trial. Without it none can think clearly, or love heartily. A
nervous woman may cry frantically when you leave her, but these
morbid tears are worse than none. Whether a wife is chosen to
love and be loved, to live with or help along, or even as a drudge,
a healthy one is a hundred times better than a sickly.
Rosy children constitute the great ultimate of marriage, and
are worth a thousand-fold more than sickly ones ; but their con-
stitutional health depends much on that of* their mother, whose
office is to impart vitality to her young. Yet how can she impart
what she does not possess ? Those who marry weakly girls may
expect their little, feeble, sickly children to cry night and day,
require continual nursing and doctoring, and then torture them
with fears lest any atmospheric change should blow them into a
premature grave, after parental heartstrings have become fully
entwined around them. But to crown all.
After bestowing a full manly soul on a poor delicate creature,
besides all the loss of her health and cost of her weakliness, to be
tortured by fit after fit of sickness, till her very helplessness and
sufferings have only redoubled your tender sympathy ; see her
torn from you by death ; inter her emaciated corpse by the side
of that of your darling babe, and return a heart-broken widower
to your now desolate home ; your life spoiled, because you married
that delicate Miss ; whereas, by marrying a healthy one, you could
just as well have raised a goodly family of brisk, blooming chil-
dren, and had a healthy, long-lived helpmeet, is indeed terrible.
Where is your sense, foresight, and business sagacity, that you lay
a train for these dreadful consequences, when you might just as
well lay one for felicitous ones instead ? Or perhaps she barely
lives along, feeble, full of aches and ailments; just able to go
about ; becomes unable to go with you to field or garden, lecture-
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room or concert, to a ride or walk, or take part with you in your
recreations or labors ; tame in character, because sickly ; languid
in all her pleasures, thoughts, and desires ; exact, exacting, and
difficult to please ; not able to relish the finest peach ; discon-
tented ; dissatisfied ; practically impeaching all you say and do
for her ; taking everything the cross-grained way ; censuring and
irritating all, because in a censuring mood ; her natural loveli-
ness turned into bitterness ; all her mental faculties retroverted ;
both awakening pity and provoking anger, because, like a sick
baby, always in a cross mood ; nothing like that sweet, soft, win-
ning, complaisant woman she once was, and would again be if
again healthy. Please figure out the profits and losses of a healthy
wife over a sickly. One exclaimed, after having buried a weakly
wife and all his children, " Well, next time, I '11 marry a healthy
girl, if I have to marry an Irish girl." How can sensible men
trifle with their dearest interests, pecuniary and affectional, as
those do who marry weakly women ? Still, marriage will often
restore themi
A FARMER, condoled for the loss of his wife, replied, " Oh, not
so very great a loss either, for she has not been down cellar these
five years!" while another, on losing one who made excellent
butter, said, " I had rather lost any two of my cows; because she
made such proper good butter." Though a sickly wife is better
than none, yet one medium in many other respects, but healthy,
is many fold preferable to one superior in most other respects,
yet sickly. Words cannot do justice to this subject. Yet
If only healthy girls marry, the majority of our young men
must remain bachelors. Few are marriageable, according to this
(lualification. Most lamentable and ruinous is the existing state
of female health 1 And its decline augurs worse for the future
than the present. To what is our country verging? When God
in Nature has done so much for female beauty and health, what
violation of these laws is bringing about all this physical degen-
eracy?
For women skating we hold up both hands, and go in with
might and main, {kju and tongue, for its continuance and univer-
sal adoption. Though fitful, it furnishes excellent female exercise,
and is every way calculated to benefit both sexes and posterity.
Would that every village and ftch<x)l district would but follow
this custom. And let the female dress be adapted to this excr-
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cise, and especially allow full lung inflation,^ Yet they should be
extra careful not to take cold ; walk home always, ride never.
Unused to much exercise they tire soon, then get chilly going
home, and often are sick, or die in a week.
Girls need some similar sport, participated in by both sexes,
for summer recreation, such as playing ball, calisthenic exercises,
croquet, anything, but something, which receives the approbation
of society. Would that our fashions could harmonize with true
human character, and promote its development. We would then
recommend more heartily than we now denounce them.
702. — Industry, Housekeeping Qualities, Ingenuity, &c.
Idleness begets inanity. A 11,^ however talented, require to be
inspired to ettbrt by some great life-object. Better labor to aug-
ment even unnecessary wealth, than do nothing. Those who live
on their income, should choose self-improvement, study, politics,
public business, reform, private or public improvements, or some
life-labor on which to spend their force. " Better wear out, than
rust out " by inertia ; for rust consumes faster than wear. Those
who do not need to work for a living, should at least work for
fun ; but work any how, at something. " He that will not work,
neither shall he eat." Kot that manual labor is absolutely neces-
sary, but that all must do something. Girls, by no means marry
drones.
Nature does not exempt women from this executive necessity.
They may choose what, but absolutely must do something. And
what comes as natural as housekeeping ? Not but that they can
be good wives yet poor housekeepers, or good housekeepers yet
poor wives ; but that good wives are far better for being also good
housekeepers. Houses must be kept, and wives do something,
then why not they keep houses ? Hirelings may answer, but how
much better are owners? No family is fit to live in unless its
wife and mother is at the head of its w\ardrobe, laundry, store-
room, and kitchen. Obviously she should prepare her children's
food with her own hands, for this trust is too important to be
delegated; then why not also that of her husband with it? In
the true family it is mother here, mother there, mother every-
where, and for everything. If a child hurts itself, or a bleeding
finger requires doing up, or any advice is needed, &c., all invol-
untarily run right to " mother." She is the great " sympathetic
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tierve" of the whole family, its natural indoor head and director,
because she should love husband and children devotedly ; and
Love always involuntarily does and keeps doing for those be-
loved.^ And this increases her and their affections. Educating
woman for ornament is a cardinal modern error ; whereas ]N'ature
requires her to become a helpmeet. A good wife must take right
hold, with head, heart, and hands, of whatever her husband
does ;^ yet the fashionable idea is that he must do aU^ while she
only glitters in fashionable attire. Not that she should not be
ornate. Her natural beauties require to be shown to the best ad-
vantage.*^ That which is best generally looks best, which fruits
illustrate. Whatever is ornamental is therefore useful. Use is
ornament, and ornament use, the world over. The two combine
in Nature, and should in a wife ; who is never as charming as
when doing something to render others happy .*^* Give me one
who can bake and wash, pick and cook esculents, make bread and
butter, cut and sew, and cater to family creature comforts. Not
that half the domestic work now required is at all necessary, nor
that a wife should be all ^ork ; but that she should unite the
housekeeper with the lady and wife. Yet
Cultivated American girls rarely ever do much about house,
and are mortally ashamed to be caught at work. If on calling
to see your lady-love you find her usefully employed, of which
there is little danger, she apologizes, and seems ashamed to do
anything useful, trouble her ladyship no more ; because she is
quite too much of a lady for any but dandies ; but if she seems
rather proud than ashamed of work, keep calling. Sheer lazi-
ness is the curse of American girls. Shop girls will make better
wives than fashionable.***
" Having lived in different English oastles and manor houses,
and seen the industrious habits of duchesses and countesses, I was utter} r
astonished at the idleness of American fine ladies. Few English women,
from the Queen downward, ever remain half an hour unemployed, or sit
in a rocking-chair, unless sick. Almost all copy the business letters of
their fathers, husbands, or brothers ; look afler the poor, schools, &c. ;
work in their own gardens ; see to their household concerns ; and keep up
a knowledge of literature, politics, and science."
England's glorious Queen shows her own daughters bow to
make pies and cakes, and cook meats and vegetables 1 All hoDor
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to one in so august a position, who sets all the ladies and wives
of her realm such excellent practical examples, besides* bearing
80 many fine children. Long live England's most worthy Queen.
" Leaving for college early Monday morning, in bidding acquaint-
ances good-bye, I called on a young woman I thought some of marrying,
and found her over the wash-tub; yet she received me just as pleasantly
as she had ever before done in her best dress, seemingly as proud of this
as that. This determined my choice; and she has indeed been a blessed
helpmeet, and made up, by her economy and excellent housekeeping quali-
ties, for the insufficiency of my salary ; besides relieving me of domestic
cares." — A Divine.
Houses must be kept, and idle hands must be kept out of mis-
chief; and this whole world over do-nothings are nobodies; be-
cause it is in and by doing something that we become somebodies.
Mechanical skill, manual dexterity with the needle and
scissors, in whatever requires cutting, mending, and making, is
also important. To be able to cut out and make up garments,
and get full ones out of scant patterns, besides buying economi-
cally, running a sewing-machine, and' saving millinery and other
bills, is quite as useful an accomplishment as painting, or French;
besides enabling a wife to adorn table and parlor, boudoir and
laundry with various ornamental and useful articles, which en-
hance home comforts.
Indolent girls sometimes make excellent housekeeping wives.
Loath to keep their father's house because not theirs, they yet
take excellent care of their own. The great requisite is, that they
have a right spirit^ a willing hand, and a loving heart, in case
occasion should require. Circumstances will then do the balance.
But
A Lord Blessington, having plenty of servants, and more
money than he can spend, sometimes requires some lovely, charm-
ing creature to help use up his income ; on whom to lavish all
that wealth ; who shall be the petted mother of his petted chil-
dren ; she giving her whole being to him and thejn, and he
reciprocating with his heart and purse. Yet need such a wife
necessarily be an idler? Is she not compelled, in nursing her
children, to do most of all? Do not they who do for her there-
by do mainly for them ? Such husbands require neither economi-
cal nor housekeeping wives, but only "a love of a woman."
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A MECHANIC, who was right glad to have his extra-industrious
wife save a hired girrs wages, by a ten-cent oil-well investment
became immensely rich ; bought dresses, and jewelry, and begged
his wife to change her style of life; but no, she was wedded to
her housekeeping idol. Unable to persuade her to cultivate that
style he so admired, he courted and gave dresses to one who
would ; and let his wife delve on.
Many wives overwork voluntarily, literally spoiling their
lives by assuming too much family care, and keeping themselvee
completely worn out with work. A wife is too precious to
become a drudge. American wives, generally, do too much
rather than too little, except among the upper classes. Many
women make themselves and family perfect slaves to order and
neatness. They work and worry day and night just to keep
things very nice. This overwork makes them fretful from per-
petual exhaustion, and keeps them about sick. As fast as they
get any strength they use it up on order. Wives, stop and
figure up the " profit and loss " of more health with less order,
or more order'with less health. Will you shorten your days and
torment your family just to keep everything just so nice ?
703. — Marrying for Money, a Home, &o.
Dollars bind no hearts. Love alone does or can ever become
the uniting motive of a hearty sexual union. Marrying for
money on either side breaks Mature *s conjugal laws, and punishes
every perpetrator. Though girls may look well to a family sup-
port, yet good health and a willing heart are a more reliable
support than ready money. Where industrious proposers have
any work or business, Love will provide the balance. Dismiss
any who have not. Yet
Marrying for an establishment is an outrageous swindle.
Many, rendered heartless by disappointment, turn fortune-hunt-
ers. That hypocrite, who said, " I married him for his money,
not himself," will make hi? money fly. Wherein do such difter
from "women of pleasure "? Do not both prostitute themselves
alike for money ? and attain precisely the same end by the same
means, save that harlots ruin but one ? Whoever marries more
from vanity than Love, prostitutes this most sacred human
sentiment, and will be punished accordingly. Men who have
money must keep a sharp lookout for such vixen deceivera.
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Fortune-hunting beau ! You sliameless hypocrite in thus pre-
tending to love a woman only to rob her of her patrimony ! If
money is your motive, say so, not lie outright in action : and a
lie of deeds is a hundred-fold worse than one merely spoken.
Spider, coiling your web around your unsuspecting victim, and
she a young lady, only that you may live on her money ! and
coax her to love you for it besides 1 Dastardly villain, ten times
more despicable than gamblers who profess to rob, while you rob
in the most hypocritical disguise a man can assume to woman.
Thieves and swindlers are comparative saints ; for they leave
some, while you grasp all. They rob men of only dollars, while
you rob a female of her heart ^ as well as purse ; they by night,
you by night and day ; they strangers, you an intimate ; they
under cover of darkness, you under that of Love ; they by false
keys, but you by false pretences. "Whoever marries a woman for
her money, swindles her by false pretences out of the patrimony
her doting parents have treasured up for her life-long support,
and then abuse her ; for all who thus marry, abuse thus. Break-
ing locks is innocence in comparison with breaking hearts ; for
this both shortens her life and spoils its remainder.^ If retribu-
tive Nature should let such transgression of her statutes go
" unwhipped of justice," '' the very stones would cry aloud for
vengeance." She visits iniquity in the day, and the wai/ of the
sin. Such sin causes its own suffering, by putting you in a mean,
dependent position. A Quaker worth two shillings married a
Quakeress worth three, who twitted him every little while thus :
" Anyhow, I was worth the most at our marriage I " One who
knows " by sad experience " says, " I would as soon cut off my
arms as again marry any woman with one dollar, or more than
one common dress."
A FELLOW married a woman's money, she being thrown in, —
and it sometimes takes piles of money to make the "thrown in"
even endurable, — with which a splendid riding-establishment
was procured, in which she wanted to ride with another man, to
which he objected, when she replied: —
" Know in the start, sir, that my money bought this establishment -,
80 I calculate to ride when, where, and mth whom I like ; and you, puppy,
must grin and bear it, patiently too."
''Your money bought me too," was his meeching reply. How
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must such feel, all "bought up," "owned," "supported," and by
a woman. And expected in return to " dance attendance." " I
bought you cheap ; see that you serve me well ; " yet she " paid
too dear for her whistle " then. She will thrust your dependence
into your face every hour by looks, words, and actions, and oblige
you, poor coot, to grin and bear whatever stripes she chooses to
impose. You will soon find yourself where the nether end of the
kite is — tacked on behind and below, and switched around briskly
during every blow. Served you right, you mercenary hypocrite.
Verily, poltroon, if you really must be supported, you will find
the coimti/ poor-house preferable to the matrimonial ; for she will
keep you under her harrow, and harrow you worse than any
other poor toady ever was harrowed ; but you deserve all. And
yet our highways and byways, even churches, are literally
thronged with these miserable, " shiftless," deceitful, scalliwag,
pilgrim geldings in search of a matrimonial poor-house. A woman
cannot have a paltry five hundred dollars without being literally
besieged for it.
Independence is an attribute of manliness."^ Let me make my
own fortune, rather ev^n than inherit it, and live by the sweat
of my own brow, in preference even to that of my father's.
Enough to derive from parents name, character, and support,
till barely able to support self. This venality of marriage in
aristocratic and rich families is outrageous ; yet is oflTset by
the wife having her " chh'c ami,** or lover, wholly irrespective
of her husband, who only possesses her dowry and fortune, while
another has her heart. Would this were all ! One of Eng-
land's richest heiresses, while glistening in diamonds, evinces the
most hopeless melancholy in the midst of the gayest assembly.
Religious herself, she loved a divine; but her proud family
insisted that she should marry wealth ; yet she paid them back,
by pertinaciously refusing to marry at all ; and is most miserable
in spite of untold riches, and more hopelessly wretched than her
penniless washerwoman. Nature always punishes such breaches
of her laws by spoiling the life of both victims. Did not the
world-renowned conjugal difficulties of Lady Norton originate in
a monetary alliance ? Do not derelictions from virtue naturally
result from marrying for money?"* Ilave we not proved that
Love alone is the guardian of virtue? A rich, proud, stern
father obliges his daughter to marry one she loathes. This com
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pels her either to die broken-hearted, or else to love outside of
wedlock ; the necessary consequence of which is either infidelity,
or else the starvation of her love-element.*'
Marrying above or below your own station involves different
habits, education, associations, &c. Though a poor, uneducated,
but right good staminate girl may indeed make a rich man a
better wife than a rich inferior one, yet her poverty rather unfitu
than fits her for her new station. Still, much more depends on
the girl than her station.
Where a rich girl loves a poor young man, and leads off in
courtship,^^ or readily seconds his advances, especially if her
parents desire their marriage, he grievously wrongs her, them,
and himself by declining ; provided he also loves her. A remark-
ably smart and good California young man, who dearly loved, and
was tenderly loved by, a rich but excellent young lady, whose
mother, her father being dead, both desii'ed their marriage and
offered to advance him capital to start in business, still declined,
though withering from Love deferred,^^ consulted me as to his
making money first, so as to be her pecuniary equal, and was told,
" You deserve pounding, and !N'ature will pound you, every day
you wait."
If a rich girl esteems his talents, education, and virtues as
an ample offset for her fortune, and loves him so well that she
is right glad to bestow her fortune along with herself on one
worthy of both, and consents either to place him on her social
position, or go herself to his, as was Eliza White,^® his refusal is
most wicked ; being almost tantamount to her murder and his
suicide. So far from being humbled, or becoming dependent
thereby, he but receives a complimentary present. If her parents
and relatives second her, she and they virtually saying, " We
furnish money, you mind ; we position, you brains ; we the
means, you the work ; and are even," by all means let them
marry, providing both truly love. His refusal outrages ITature, and
will punish him most terribl3\
Wealth, as such, should " have no part nor lot " whatever in
determining any matrimonial choice, though, perhaps, desirable
when genuine Love really exists. All depends on their Love,
nothing on dollars. Mutual affection is infinitely above all con-
siderations, and should be held by all parties as sacred and invio-
lable.
GENERAL MATRIMONIAL PREREQUISITES. 403
Many rich parents require mind in their daughter's hushand,
and the 'human capacities and excellences, rather than dollars.
They can easily lift him upon their social platform without
lowering themselves, and may stand in special need of his con-
stitution, vigor, ambition, talents, and soul, both to carry on
their business, and keep up the family talents. How infinitely
preferable that rich girls marry intellectual and noble poar men,
^han rich and brainless nobodies! How many really fine girls
are completely spoiled for life by being prevented from marrying
excellent young men whose only crime is their poverty ; but who
would have been God-sends to the whole family by sustaining their
business and standing, and transmitting human excellences to
their descendants!
How CRUEL TO disinherit a daughter for marrying contrary to
parental wishes ! Think a little before you sacrifice that charm-
ing girl on the altar of family pride. Is she not too precious?
Can you afford to throw away her life on a mere namef^^ Does
not love always indulge, not cross? Rupturing her affections
perpetrates an outrage too gross for any true parent to inflict.
To cast out a pampered delicate daughter upon the cold charities
of a cruel world, thereby stigmatizing her as too bad for even
parental indulgence to endure, thus forewarning all against her,
is a merciless persecution parents should not perpetrate. In this
matter they have no right to command, and she is under no
obligation to obey ;"* while obeying you would disobey ;N"ature.
" But she has disgraced us all by marrying one far below us."
In what? Dollars merely. Yet is he not as far above in
human excellence as below in station? It requires but little
humanity to outweigh much wealth. The fact that she loves him
is one of his strongest recommendations, unless you charge her
with loving badness. Even if he is bad, this renders your
darling daughter's lot hard enough without your adding to it
disinheritance, disgrace, and the loss of your affections besides.
Yet in most like cases he is conceded to be good, talented, and
every way worthy, only poor. Really, are dollars so much more
valuable in your eyes than the human excellences? We rarely
esteem what we do not possess, because sour grapes to us. Hence,
your estimating talents and morals so lightly, and dollars so
^ig^ly» proclaims your oum intellectual and moral inferiority;
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while your unsophisticated daughter recommends herself by
loving genuine human excellence, though found in humble life.
But
She who voluntarily forsakes relatives, station, affluence, and
fine prospects ; who sacrifices so much, and in so many difterent
ways, for the man she loves, deserves all the aifection he can return.
To abuse or even neglect her after all this, no matter if she is
faulty, is meanness a litth meaner, and wickedness a little more
wicked, than almost anything else a man can perpetrate upon a
woman.
Marrying for station, or for any or all motives other than
those of genuine affection, is governed by these identical first
principles.
704. — Handsome, Plain, Belles, "Society Girls," Beaux, &c.
Nature's externals always correspond with her internals.
Genuine beauty signifies excellence in fruits, animals, and woman,
and of course companionship, including a fine-grained organism,
as well as moral and intellectual excellence. Yet prettiness and
" fancy touches," often mistaken for beauty, are " only skin deep,"
and of little practical account. Such usually make plainer women
than plain girls. The practical question is. How will she look
after she has been a mother, and perhaps becomes thin and pale?
Marriage is for life, while mere prettiness soon fades. But
Homely women, though ever so good, kind, loving, industrious,
and much more, have some imperfection, or lack some female
attributes ; while those who have any objectionable feature, will
generally have some objectionable trait. Still beauties, again,
will do for flirtation with fops.
Style is desirable, if well sustained, and does not degenerate
into ostentation.*^^ Does she appear well in company ? Can you
introduce her proudly to your old comrades as your beau-ideal ?
A pleasing, " taking," attractive address which combines grace
with elegance, and charms while it sways, is a great recommen-
dation. Not that we attempt to analyze good manners, but only
call attention to them as very expressive of character; yet affected
artificiality, a constrained aping of gentility, indicates a make-
believe outside appearance, and want of genuineness ; while a
natural, unaffected simplicity in walk, speech, and manners be-
rtokens a truthfulness to Nature every way desirable.
GENERAL MATBIMONIAL PREREQUISITES. 405
Dandyism, foppery, broadcloth, &c., ladies, must not be allowed
to outweigh true manliness of manner, though perhaps eclipsed
by bashfulness or awkwardness.*^ Has he the rudiments of a good
address? Not is he, but ciin he became, polished? Often internal
coarseness assumes a sugar-coated, genteel impudence which pro-
vokes laughter, and passes off for the moment, yet discloses long
ears. Look below the surface. Women generally overrate for-
ward, but greatly underrate diffident young men. Undue for-
wardness discloses a familiarity which springs, if not from con-
tempt of the sex, at least a want of due respect for it ; while
awkwardness often originates in that exalted worship of it which
is indispensable in a husband.
705. — Communicating Talents, Music, Scholarship, &c.
The expression of talents and worth stands second only to
their possession. Conversational, speaking, and writing talent
can hardly be overrated, yet is almost wholly overlooked, olts
manifestation, in whichever form, justly challenges the admira-
tion of the world, past and present, savage and civilized, learned
and illiterate; yet wherein does conversational eloquence differ
from forensic, except in the number of its listeners? Is it not ji«
admirable in the cottage as on the rostrum ? Hence, what are
his talents for expressing himself? what of her conversational
powers ? are paramount questions, and the answers most signifi-
cant. If a plain girl's ideas flow readily, and she clothes them
in appropriate and beautiful language, this gift recommends her
more than all the boarding-school artificialities and millinery she
can exhibit. Does she warm up with her subject, and impart to
it a glow, an interest, which delights and inspires? Does she
choose words which expreps her precise meaning, and begin her
sentences at the right end ; or does she bungle both ? Is she
grammatical ; or does she murder the " King's English '* ? Not,
** Can she speak French," but can she talk elegantly ? It matters
little whether phe has studied grammar, for natunil conversa^
tional talent will evince itself irrespective of educational aida,
which Df course help. Does she spoil a good story by telling it
i)adly, or so tell every one as to make its point of applic;itian
emphatic? Is she suggestive? Does she make you think and
fed as she converses ? Many object to long female tongues, as
given to scandal ; whereas, whether one talks well or ill h;w
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absolutely nothing to do with backbiting. Scandal is conse-
quent on a malevolent spirit,^ not on a " long tongue." One
may say little, but misrepresent that ; or talk much, yet give a
true version. Neglect those girls who, looking through inverted
glasses, always represent things as worse than they really are ;
but patronize pleased and hopeful ones who paint whatever they
attempt to say or do in beautiful, handsome colors, and regard
things favorably.
Communicating talents in men are equally desirable. Should
not a wife exult in beholding her husband's superior conversa-
tional powers draw admiring and applauding crowds around him?
Much more, if in public he can pour forth those " thoughts
which breathe and words that burn," to edify and improve man-
kind. Woman always has been, will be, captivated by fine
speakers. If they are homely, awkward, even rough, yet if they
can speak effectively and eloquently, she admires and loves
such.^
Superior composing talents in both are even more valuable,
because the most potential form of this gift of expression. True/
good writers are sometimes poor speakers ; yet all speak as they
write, and good writers speak poorly only because prevented by
diffidence, or want of practice, or like causes, from manifesting this
same talent in speaking. Good corresponding talents should,
therefore, be highly prized by each sex in the other. Choose
one above all others who writes good letters, and does it easily ;
especially who composes poetry and essays worthy of publi-
cation, and during courtship writes extra -good Love letters.
Smile if you will, but this gift both presupposes clear heads and
warm hearts. And even those boarding-school misses who write
truly excellent compositions deserve great credit and good hus-
bands ; but neglect those who can think of but little to say or
write, and express that little bunglingly. Drop those girls who
in writing notes compose and spell poorly, omit capitals in the
right place, and insert them in the wrong, and say bunglingly
and inelegantly what little they do say ; but cultivate the
acquaintance of one who writes an elegant note or epistle. The
chirography, too, of an open, easy, elegant handwriting, or an
awkward, stiff, irregular, poor one, signifies similar character-
istics. Those who assume aristocratic airs, and make many pre-
tensions to standing in society, but who use coarse or common
GENEBAL MATRIMONIAL PREREQUISITES. 407
language, sometimes even "slang phrases," and an inelegant,
perhaps ungrammatical style of expression, may do for brainless
fops, but should be " let alone severely " by those in search of
companions worth having. Would that those who take such
extra pains to accomplish their exteriors, would instead take
more to accomplish their mentalities.
This " long tongue " stigma on women thus becomes most
creditable. " Blue stockings " are, therefore, superior women,
and desirable mothers, though often poor housekeepers, yet has
not Lucy Stone, despite her unpopular platform, been universally
admired by intelligent men ? even by those who dislike her doc-
trines? and does she not make as good a wife as speaker? Gen-
erally men really do love speaking talents in women, yet abomi-
nate scolds.
" Why lay such special stress on superior natural gifts?"
Because of their intrinsic merits. One with whom you must
spend a large part of your life, should be able to say and do well
Vhat will amuse and improve you ; besides giving you much to
think and talk about. Since Love subsists mainly on the mind,
this mind must both abound, and be well expressed, and is more
lovable in a companion than lover. Woman, do you not love
those men best whose conversation interests, gives you seed-
thoughts, and makes you think ; to whom you can listen by the
hour spellbound ; who talk much, and inspire you to talk ? or
those demures, who keep themselves to themselves ? Men, do
you like those girls best who barely say "yes," or " no," to what
ought to bring hearty responses ? who let ideas drop still-born,
and oblige you to start again ? or those who contribute to sustain
the conversation ? Conversing with whom is up-hill work? or easy ?
Parental talking talents render offspring eloquent. This
is their chief value. One Clay, Webster, Henry, &c., is worth an
army of common men ; and eloquence descends oftenest from
mothers.* Do Americans duly ap[)reciate elegance of expression ?
Frenchmen flock admiringly around Madame de Stael, and all
other fine conversationalists, however plain, as if they could not
pay them sufficient court; while American gallants flutter around
tawdry apparel, wholly irrespective of the wearer's sense or flu-
ency. Ts, then, dress above mindf No; but American men love
the physical woman more than the mental ! ArtiHcialitica are good
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as far as they go, which is not far in awakening Love, or endowing
offspring; while those who make yon feel what they sing and
play, who awaken soul because they express it, will not neglect
the one or the other soon after marriage.
Musical talent is one phase of eloquence, and deserves a like
encomium ; yet its intrinsic merits are now duly appreciated.
But musical inspiration is one thing, while running tandem after
foreign performers amounts to little. Concerts are good in their
places, yet " home-made music is preferable."
Scholarship deserves even greater appreciation. A well edu-
cated young man, though penniless, is far more eligible than an
uneducated rich one ; and one well read than one comparatively
ignorant ; while one who learns fast and easily, and remembers
well, though blessed with few advantages, far exceeds those who
learn w^ith difficulty, though well drilled.
Intelligence is still more valuable, and the most important
matrimonial endowment. Do his or her sayings and doings com-
mend themselves to good sense ? Which candidate thinks most
clearly, and lays the best plans ? Which devises the best means
for supplying what is required, accomplishes the most with the
least, makes one hand wash the other, and can manage best under
difficulties ? That is, which has the most intellect and Causality?
The difference between different persons in this respect is indeed
surprising. Staminate sense is the great attribute, and outweighs
many minor qualities. One who has this will be far the better
helper, provider, companion, and every way more desirable, than
one who has not ; besides being more easily cured of faults, and
inoculated with right doctrines and practices. How infinitely
better are intelligence and the reasoning Faculties than accomplish-
ments merely ; besides being the great governor of the feelings !
706. — Moral Stamina Indispensable.
A HIGH MORAL TONE, along with uncompromising integrity, is
preeminently demanded in the conjugal relations. JS^othing what-
ever averts Love as soon as this deficiency. Love must have un-
limited confidence, or perish. Moral principle naturally elicits
affection, while trickery and all wrong-doings are fatal to it.
Conscience, located on the top of the brain, must occupy a like
supreme place in the conjugal relations.^^ Worst of all,
This deficit transmits itself to those dear children on whom
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you are to dote. To see them grow up comparatively regardless
of the right, unrestrained from wrong-doing by a high sense of
(futy, and irresponsive to conscientious appeals, is indeed most
agonizing; and by all means to be prevented by marrying only
those endowed with large Conscience. A most excellent, pious,
patient, devout, moral, and perfect pattern wife and mother, who
would no more do wrong than pluck out a right eye, and who
regards integrity as the highest of human virtues, married a
smart but tricky man, just cunning enough to escape the clutches
of the law, who, being really talented, passes respectably. She
bore a son much more cunning than his father, and when told of
his dishonest tricks, which sent him to prison, and disgraced the
whole family, writhed in a perfect agony, saying, " My worst
fears are finally realized ! I did hope my prayers and counsels
would save him ; but he proves incorrigible. My own son, whom
I nursed, dandled, and baptized, is imprisoned ! Oh, I do wish
he had never been born, or was buried ! " What soul-harrowing
pangs must torture her by night and day, from his first boyish
roguery till he or she is buried ! Forestall an event so dreadful,
by marrying one endowed with good moral principles.
707. — Disposition; or Temper, Kindness, &c.
A NATURALLY GOOD temper, or a sweet, pleasant spirit vs. a cross-
grained, petulant, can hardly be overrated. It makes a world of
difference whether a conjugal companion construes everything in
the worst light or in the best ; takes things adversely and frets
over them, or smooths and makes the best of them ; is always in
a fluster and bustle, or quiet and even-tempered ; uniformly pa-
tient, or perpetually scolding; repelling, or attracting; irritating,
or calming; rough, or gentle; spiteful, or soft; continually cre-
ating disturbances, or making peace ; resentful, or forgiving ;
overbearing, or forbearing ; waiting on, or requiring to be waited
on ; claiming the best for self, or giving it to others ; sending off
this brother with a box on the ear, and that with a spiteful push,
"Then do as I l)id you," or asking them pleasantly for favors.
Let scolds alone. I sjiid in a lecture, "While admiring the ele-
gant manners, musical genius, -and conjugal and matrimonial
excellences of a woman, if you should hear her scold, however
justly, would her temjxjr raise or lower her in your estimation?"
A listener answered,
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" Lower. I know by this most painful experience ; I once loved and
was betrothed to a girl of whom I thought the world. Our wedding-day
was appointed, and her dress procured. I spent a summer Sunday evening
in her company, and having much to talk about, we protracted our con-
versation until, retiring, I found it too late to take my bed ; when, passing
around by the kitchen soon afterwards, on my way to the barn for my
horse, I heard my betrothed scolding her father ! ^^ A cold chill ran over
me ! I staggered to the barn ; was for a time insensible ; made up my
mind never to marry that girl ; and, to get my walking-papers as soon as
possible, I danced gayly soon after with the belle of the ball-room, which
offended her, and she flung at me the dismissal I craved ; and has since
scolded two men into their graves, and one foot of the third ; besides spoil-
ing wi€, too ; for I have been worthless ever since." ^^
Genuine practical kindness is also particularly important.
Especially should a wife be kind and self-sacrificing. And one
great test of this trait in children, is a like trait in their parents,
more especially mothers, and whether their parents live happily
or unhappily together.^^*^
"Girls, sweet during courtship, often become inveterate scolds.
How may we certainly know beforehand which will make an amiable
wife, and which a virago ? "
She who blames you during courtship will scold you after
marriage. Love brings out all the specialties of character in the
boldest relief. Straws* before marriage show which w^ay the
wind will blow after it. The loving party is likely to see only
the good, because Cupid is blind. Hence the necessity of select-
ing before you begin to love.^^^ Still, many naturally sweet and
amiable girls, and good-natured men, before marriage, become
morose, fault-finding, and utterly hateful afterwards, from causes
already mentioned.^"^ That doctrine will some day be appreci-
ated. Reversed Love will make an angel satanic ; while satisfied
affection will- render a natural virago amiable. Keeping up Love
will make each party more amiable, while reversing it, sours the
best of dispositio;is.
Trifling things reveal the temper. One of a half-dozen young
oouple, sitting down to dinner^ peremptorily ordered a certain
dish, which the waiter, returning, said was exhausted ; to which
he spitefully replied, " Why did n't you keep some for me, for you
know I love it? " This told his irirl that he was most irritable
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and unreasonable, and that he would manifest a like disposition
to her. If a lover proposes a ride, note how he manages his
horse. If he avoids this rock and that rut, and drives kindly
and considerately, all is right ; but if he lashes here and jerks
there, dashes through this rut and over that rock, or shows
temper or tyranny, especially swears, you may safely infer that
when he has you, too, fairly in the matrimonial harness, he will
drive you likewise. As " watched straws show which way the
wind blows," keep an eye to the windward, and loam from
mickles what muckles mean.
708. — !N'ORMAL AND ABNORMAL STATES, OTHER SiGNS, &C.
Original character often differs widely from its daily mani-
festations. Everything can be perverted,^* which then generally
becomes as much worse as it was better before. This perversion
is much greater in some than others, and extends to more or less
of the Faculties. ,
Normal action pleases and attracts always, while abnormal
displeases and repels. The practical difference is heaven- wide
between a conjugal companion thus normal, and always happy
and agreeable, or abnormal, miserable, and repellent. A slight
knowledge of the mental Faculties when perverted and when
natural, compared with their manifestations in given persons,
shows who are and are not thus perverted, and how far. This
point is immeasurably important. Insanity, with all its horrors,
is but this same abnormal condition conjoined with excessive
action ; while every mental excellence and beauty of every human
being is consequent on this normal action of some Faculty.
Poor health abnormalizes the mental functions.*'^ Hence the
disagreeableness, hatefulness, even sinfulness, of children and
adults just unwell enough to be always in a fret ; as well as their
attractiveness and happiness when healthy.
A normal love-state is the great normalizer, as perverted Love
is the great perverter, of all the faculties."* However pleasant
any may be when in a right love-state, reversing it reverses th*?
entire character.
Normal love perpetuates this normality ; and brings reversed
Faculties easily back to their right state. Uence, right manage-
ment after marriage can generally be made to obviato this objec-
tionable condition ; whereas conjugal alienation is certain to
induce it, and thereby engender mutual repulsions.
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A SWEET BREATH IS peculiarly significant of this normality,
besides being most desirable in itself; while a bad one indicates
abnormality, besides being really very objectionable.^ But this
depends mainly upon the health, and especially stomach, teeth
included. The breath is peculiarly significant, both ways.
A HEARTY CLASP In shaking hands, signifies a hearty affec-
tional and positive nature; while its passive tender indicates a
like passivity throughout. Those who let their hands be shaken
will be flexible, submissive, and receptive in everything ; those
who shake, positive. The walk is peculiarly significant of char-
acter. Find what walks signify what traits in^, which expounds
this point fully.
The kiss is peculiarly significant as to the aftectional traits.
Calculate that those who bestow good, loud, ringing kisses are
brimful of affection, while soft, sweet ones signify amiableness.
A genial atmosphere which draws, is infinitely preferable to a
distant, repelling one. A thousand other signs are equally sig-
nificant, yet belong and are given in " Human Science." These
are given mainly to direct attention to other similar ones.
709. — Personal Habits, Neatness, Intemperance, &c.
Personal habits have much to do with conjugal qualifications.
Rtaminate character is much more important ; but whether one
rises or retires late or early ; how one prefers to spend his or her
time, especially evenings ; whether one has, or lacks neatness of
person, &c., have material conjugal bearings. It is less impor-
tant whether man is tidy than woman. A slattern must neces-
sarily make a poor wife, for she lacks refinement.*^^ Is she
cleanly in apparel, and neat and tidy about head and feet ? or is
her hair dishevelled ? Does she know just where to find her
bonnet and gloves, and get ready to walk or ride in a trice; or
are her things often out of place, or lost? Is she luckless or
lucky, careful or careless? Does she tear or slat out her apparel,
or preserve it for a long time ?
Has your beau any bad habits ? Does he smoke or drink,
Bwear or chew? The commonness of such habits does not obvi-
ate their odiousness.^^ How would a truly refined woman revolt
on first seeing a man pufiT, chew, spit, if ever so genteelly. (?)
They are inherently disgusting and filthy. Their universal ban-
ishment from car, cabin, parlor, and the society of refined women,
GENERAL MATRIMONIAL PREREQUISITES. 413
except by permission, is a scathing practical condemnation, which
ought to make gentlemen abjure them altogether; for any habit
which unfits them for female society, is unfit for them at all
times and places ; besides their most fatal physiological ob-
jections. When proposing candidates are equally eligible in
other respects, if one chews, or smokes, or drinks, while the
other does not, by all means choose the latter! He must spend
many days and years perpetrating this repulsive habit out of
your society, or else compel you to endure the loathsome sight
of seeing the man you love smoke, chew, and spit, besides throw-
ing him among vulgarizing co-smokers. How can you love one
who is perpetually disgusting you with any repugnant practice ?
Besides, these habits necessarily impair the looks, by rendering
the teeth yellow, gums swollen, complexion fiery red or leaden
yellow, linen soiled, and breath most foul and fetid. Their
universality makes us loath to say how loathsome and injuri-
ous they really are. To their averting Love, we invite especial
attention. Yet " dipping '* is equally objectionable ?
Tippling habits augur drunken husbands; against which
every woman is solemnly bound to protect herself and prospec
tivejchildren, by marrying only those who are strictly temperate.
Young men are too hot-blooded ever to need alcoholic stimulants;
and occasional drinking is almost certain to eventuate in drunk-
enness ; so that no woman is justified in running so great a risk.
'' Woe to him who putteth the cup to his neighbor's lips," yet how
much worse to put it to those of our own children^ both by example
and entailment? What temptations equal those which are hered-
iiarf/f^^^ Drunkards from habit or association are much more easily
and permanently reformed than innate drinkers. A constitutional
alcoholic hankering is unquenchable. Though it may be resisted
for a time, yet, like the burning coalrpit, it still smoulders on,
perpetually fevering, and waiting only some slight temptation to
renew its consumption of body and soul together. Most pitiable
is that drunkard, perpetually haunted by hankerings within and
temptations without ; yet those whose hankerings are constitutional
are doubly to be commiserated ! What can make amends for
such an inherited thirst? The wealth of India? Not all worldly
goods superadded! Those who entail it deserve the perpetoal
execration of their descendants, and the curses of the commu-
nity, though only moderate drinkers. Leave your children poor,
414 CONJUGAL AND PARENTAL ADAPTATIONS.
if jou must, but leave them temperate by nature, and not " bring
down your own gray hairs in sorrow to the grave " by entailing
this alcoholic craving. Young woman, to curse yourself by
accepting a tippling lover, the precursor of a drunken husband,
is indeed awful ; yet to be obliged to behold this liquor-loving
stream flowing on to generations yet unborn, widening and deep-
ening as it descends, breaking out here and there as it flows on,
perhaps sweeping your very name and race from the earth, is
indeed woe unutterable and agony indescribable. Then insist
on "Total abstinence, or no hufebands," lest in marrying even
moderate drinkers, you endanger both blighting your own aflfee-
tions, and seeing your sons, otherwise your pride and support,
hopelessly ruined ; thus redoubling the indescribable misery of
a drunken husband, in this far deeper agony of besotted sons.
Even those who escape are less intellectual and moral, and more
cross-grained and animal, than if their parents had been tem-
pehite.
" Adopting this anti-tobacco and alcoholic rule would leave half our
young men unmarriageable, and women old maids ! "
It would reform them all. Men instinctively adapt them-
selves to female tastes, and women to those of men.^^^ Hence, as
long as women sanction smoking and drinking, and occasionally
sip wine, gentlemen will smoke on like coal-pits, and drink on
like fishes ; but when she frowns on these habits, masculine gal-
lantry will induce all men, young and old, to do and become
" anything to please the ladies." This beautiful feature not only
gives the female sex perfect control over the habits of men, but
also enables any individual woman to fashion the habits of her
particular admirer as she pleases. And a similar conformity of
women to men gives him a like control over female habits in
general, and the special habits of his wife in particular. Still,
if a girl can love a young man in spite of these habits, let her do
her utmost, by winning ways and affectionate persuasion, to ob-
viate them. And that man who really loves a woman well enough
to marry her, will cheerfully abandon chewing, smoking, drink-
ing, and whatever other habits she dislikes, not temporarily, but
permanently. No gentleman, much more lover, will persist in
any practice or indulgence which infringes on the happiness of
the woman he loves. And he who does not love a girl well
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enough to please her by reforming such habits before marriage,
will grow worse after, and lacks either the manliness or the Love
requisite for becoming a good husband. You don't want him.
710. — The Marriage of Cousins Deteriorates Offspring.
Consanguineous marriages deteriorate their issue. This ob-
servation is almost universal, through all ages and nations. Chris-
tianity, almost from its origin, has interdicted incest. A ques-
tion thus practically important deserves a scientific solution.
" The marriage of first cousins among the isolated valleys of Swit-
zerland, one generation after another, is of frequent occurrence, and in
these cantons dwarfness, cretinism, idiocy, &c., are disgustingly prevalent"
— Am. Journal of Insanity.
"In France, such marriages average two per cent., but the issue of
dwarf mutes by such marriages, averages twenty-eight per cent. ; and oc-
curs the oftener the nearer the parental relationship." — M. Bowdin.
"One-twentieth of the idiots were children of cousins, while their
marriage is in no such proportion, and all other defects are in like propor-
tion. Seventeen such marriages produced 95 children, of which 44 are
idiots, and 12 more puny, or nearly two-thirds in all." — Dr. S. G. Howe's
Report to }fass. Legislature.
"Of 121 marriages of cousins, 22 proved barren." — Dr. Devoy.
" Scarcely one among the royal families of Europe, who have married
in and in for generations, can write a page of consecutive sound sense on
any scientific, or literary, or moral subject." — Dr. J. O. Spurzheim.
" One cause of human deterioration is family marriages. It has al-
most extinguished most of the royal families of Europe, though at fiijst
they were the notables of the land for physical strength, and force of mind
and character." — Dr. Chas. Caldwell.
" From ten to twelve per cent, of our deaf mutes are the children
of cousins. In 170 consanguineous marriages were 269 deaf or dumb chil-
dren, and 7 in one family." — Dr. Buxton^ of Liverpool, Eng.
" In 54 such marriages, 14 were barren, 7 lost all in infancy, and 18
produced scrofulous, rickety, consumptive, deaf and dumb, or idiotic chil-
dren."—Z)r. Cadiot.
" Moses condemns it, even though he thereby practically censures his
national patriarchs; doubtless because of its palpably deteriorating effects.'*
— Dr. Allen, LL.D.
" Ye are forbidden to marry your mothers, and your daughters, and
your sisters, and your aunts, and your cousins, and your foster-sisters, and
your wives' mothers." — The Koran,
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" About ten per cent, of the idiocy in Scotland is caused by consan*
guineous marriages." — Dr. Mitchel.
"Of the children of cousins," Hereditary Descent gays: "'One is
elub-footed, another has but one eye, and all three are simple, small, and
have^eads shaped like a flat-iron.' * One daughter, nearly idiotic' ' Five
girls, two blind cripples, and almost idiots — one quite so.' 'Three unable
to walk.' * Only one child, and that deaf and dumb.' * Joints lapped,
and utterly helpless.' * Ten children, all fools.' * All under mediocrity.'
• Three daughters deranged, the rest feeble, and very nervous.' ' Four men
married cousins, and each had a foolish child, and all their children are
below par.' * In twenty families, not one of ordinary capacity ; five are
blind, thre^ heavy-minded, one an idiot, two feeble and irritable, one with
diseased eyes, some club-footed, others wry-necked,' &c. 'One a loath-
some idiot, two foolish, two weak, one simple and lame, one fair, but al-
ways unfortunate.' ' Many children, all crippled, none can walk.' ' Only
son, an idiot.' ' Several died idiots.' ' Only one has common sense.'
• Three deaf and dumb.' ' Two blind.' ' One small head and Causality,
as well as sluggish.' * All lame or disjointed.' ' Four helpless.' ' Two
large but hydrocephalic' ' Six idiots, and one mute.' ' Three mutes, and
two more mute idiots.' 'Two albinos.' 'Two deaf and dumb.' 'Two
deaf, dumb, and blind.' 'Two natural fools.' 'Three hermaphrodites.'
'Three natural fools, too low to eat.' 'Dwarfs, though smart.' 'Two
small-headed idiots, unable to feed themselves.' 'Dwarfed and wry-necked,
though talented.' ' Only daughter, a deformed cripple.' * Four simple-
tons, with one fairly smart.' "
The world is full of like inferior products of cousins. We
once heard a man curse his parents enough to chill one's blood,
because, bj marrying cousins, they had entailed upon him the
care of a lunatic brother, besides rendering him almost frantic
with false excitement. Be forewarned not to endanger a like
curse from a like source.
Some authors maintain that such marriages do not degenerate
oifspring, and cite '* breeding in and in " in proof. Occasionally
the children of cousins do indeed manifest superior vigor and
talents. How can these seemingly contradictory facts be ex-
plained? Thus —
Resemblance to the related parentage deteriorates offspring ;
while two cousins who do not resemble each other, that is, who
inherit mainly from those ancestors through which they are not
related, may marry with comparative assurance that their off-
spring will be normal.
GENERAL MATRIMONIAL PREREQUISITES. 417
A STRONG Love between two cousins is good evidence that they
are adapted to each other in parentage."* Yet there are plenty of
others quite as lovable as cousins, and the mere risk of impairing
offspring is fearful.
711. — A RIGHT Sexuality the great Requisite.
Some one staminate constituent — that which is to all what
foundation is to superstructure, spinal column to physical frame,
oxygen to air, head to body, and sun to solar system, must
govern marriage, as it does everything else. What is it ?
Sexuality, normal and abundant,*^^ alone creates whatever is
manly*** and womanly;**^ attracts and is attracted,^ loves and
awakens Love,*^^ inspirits and is inspirited, fuses and is fused,***
moulds and is moulded, and both confers life and predetermines
its amount. All other conjugal prerequisites sink into insignifi-
cance when compared with this, because it is the summary and
embodiment of all ; that which is to all what lime is to mortar,
or tendon to muscle. The answer to the questions, " How much
mental and physical manhood has this beau as compared with that ?
how much of a female is this woman as compared with that ? "
should mainly determine the choice. "Which is the most mag-
netic, and capable of the deepest, completest devotion, will inspire
the most Love in me, and call out my manly affections and attri-
butes?" is a man's great practical inquiry; while a woman's
should be, " Which is truest to masculine nature, and will be-
stow the most on me ? '* not which is the most polite or spruce ?
These are plain questions, but they go to the very core and root
of this whole matter. Gender is the base and measure of both
companionship and parentage. Those who have this, have " the
one thing needful " in marriage ; those who lack this, lack all.""
By its means, all other differences can readily be adjusted, though
unadjustable without it. Those in whom this staminate condi-
tion is "all right," however dissimilar in other respects, can live
happily together though full of faults; yet those who lack this
are unmarriageable, though possessed of every other excellence.
Its mere amount is by no means all, for its normal state is also
important. Better its abundance, though perverted, than defi-
ciency, though normal ; because it is far more easily sanctified
than reincreased ; yet how infinitely better that it be both hearty
and pure ! A knowing companion can always easily reform it in
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the other.^ How important that each knows how to correct its
wrong action in the other, and just how to manage the other by
its means. Some day this art of arts will bo studied.
712. — Select the greatest Aggregate Combination op Excel-
lences.
Similar general matrimonial prerequisites might be extended
indefinitely ; yet letting these put inquirers on the right track as
to all, please (July consider that all should select the greatest
aggregate good, but not reject one on account of minor defects.
You are now simply selecting the materials out of which you can
make a lovable companion. General heartiness or tameness, en-
ergy or passivity, a whole-souled interest in whatever interests at
all, or a good easy make, and a right hearty shake of the hand or
its mere tender, and all other like signs and functions, should
be thrown into one common matrimonial equation, and* general
and specific results deciphered therefrorii. One may have a minor
flaw, coupled with marked excellences, which increase his, or her
eligibility more than a score of such faults detracts therefrom.
All should choose the best one available, and then be satisfied.
Do not choose one too good, or too far above, for yourself, lest
the inferior, by dissatisfying the superior, breeds those discords
which are worse than mutual satisfaction with those not so highly
organized. Don't be too particular; for you might go farther
and fare worse. As far as you yourself are faulty, you should
put up with faults. Don't cheat a consort by getting one much
better than you can give. We are not in heaven yet, and must
put up with their imperfections, and instead of grumbling at
them be glad they are no worse ; remembering that a faulty one
is a great deal better than none.
Does this chapter state those principles which should govern
your matrimonial selection? Would not following them have
improved the choice of most who are married, and should they
not guide all the unmarried in making a right selection ? They
will bless those who follow, but punish those who ignore them ;
because they " are ordained of God " in iN'ature.
CHAPTER II.
WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER; AND WHY.
Be GustihuSj non Disputandum.
Section I.
THE GOVERNING LAW OF PARENTAL ASSIMILATION AND RE-
PULSION, AND OF PROGENAL ENDOWMENT.
713. — "Many Men have many Minds." "One's Meat's
another's Poison."
Men are created with different tastes and dispositions.*^
This diversity is the great instrumentality of progress and in-
vention, which similarity would render impossible. It apper-
tains to talents, feelings, religion, and everything ; but most to
matrimonial preferences. As some like one kind of friends, and
others another, even liking the very same traits disliked by
others ; so one man is captivated by this beauty, whom another
considers plain ; one admiring, the other disliking, the very same
features and specialties. Some men like large, others small, and
still others medium-sized women ; some this complexion, which
is odious to another; and thus of all the other physical qualities.
One woman admires, another dislikes, the very same men and
attributes. One can hardly tolerate what perfectly fascinates
another; and yet both are intelligent, and judge correctly and
alike in other respects. That same man who is perfectly adapted
to make one woman happy, and be happy with her, would bo
perfectly miserable with another, and render her so; while a
given woman who is perfectly adapted to become an excellent
wife to this man, would make a very poor one for that ; those
poor for some men being precisely what others require.
The specific adaptations of this chapter are immeasumblj'
more important than the general adaptations of the last. What
each requires, is one who superadds all the specific adaptationa
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of this to all the general traits of that. Love can yield its rich-
est delights and benefits only where the adaptation is as perfect
as possible, and marred by as few faults.
These likes and dislikes are not fitful, but governed by
primal laws. Hence, we can predicate with accuracy that this
one will like these traits, and that one other qualities. All af-
fectional likes and dislikes are as instinctive and inflexible as
those by which the lion craves raw meat, and the horse oats. Or
thus —
Nature adapts particular males and females to each other,
and creates a mutual attraction between those who are thus
adapted. This is one aspect of that great law that appetites are
as requirements ; or that we love what is best for us. Men and
women are diversified in character and tastes, so that while
" there 's a flower in the garden " adapted to the tastes of each,
yet it must be selected and plucked by the one who is attracted
by its quality, and loves its every petal and leaf. And yet no
rules have ever been promulgated, the application of which will
show who is adapted to whom, or what traits naturally assimL
late together.
Phrenology discloses, and the Author understands, and now
proceeds to expound, the laws which govern them. Hundreds
of thousands of times, in public and private, he has predicated
boldly, "This man's beau-ideal of a woman, or woman's of a man,
is tall or short, dark or light, plump or lean, large or small, has
a head shaped thus but not thus, is positive or negative, has these
traits but not those," &c., as the case may be, with infallible ac-
curacy. Let the case of Lawyer Poppleton, the first attorney in
Omaha, !N'ebraska, samplify untold numbers. Nominated as a
public test of Phrenology, after describing him correctly, I de-
scribed minutely the woman he had married, if married happily,
80 correctly in every particular that he afterwards said to me
and many friends, —
" Professor Fowler described my wife to a nicety, and told just her
height, weight, complexion, color of eyes, build, and precise traits of char-
acter, &c., with as perfect precision as I myself could have done ; yet how
he could do it is one of the greatest wonders of my life, for he never saw
her. How could my Phrenology describe my wife?"
As it reveals every one's character, and therefore tastes,
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likes, dislikes, and whether they love history, philosophy, poetry,
mechanics, &c.; and so likewise it tells all men, women, and even
children what qualities, mental and physical, they like and dis-
like in one of the opposite sex. Having made this a specialty,
the Author knows he understands this matter perfectly; and rarely
describes any one's Phrenology, young or old, without detailing
and marking in his chart their conjugal adaptations. No knowl-
edge imparted by man to man is more useful. Think what it is
worth to know this beforehand, scientifically, so that you can
safely choose accordingly; or that you have chosen wisely; or
that you need to guard these points, if married thus, and those
if thus, and make those allowances ; or that you can select those
for your children's associates to whom they are adapted in mar-
riage. To this eventful inquiry we next address ourselves.
714. — Superior Children the determining Condition.
Conjugal selection, like all other problems, must have some
one determining condition, some sovereign 'principle^ which is to
it what kings are to monarchical governments.
Superior offspring is this royal determiner. Creative science,
man, woman, selection. Love, marriage, including even horticul-
ture, pomology, animal reproduction, population, political econ-
omy, &c., all culminate in reproducing the most and best progeny ;
and the communicating gifts, talents, morals, and all the excel-
lences of the last chapter, as well as the special adaptations of
this, are valuable chiefly as endowing offspring. The determin-
ing question as to marrying this one or that is, not is he smart,
industrious, temperate, &c., or she a good housekeeper, sweet-
tempered, and all that ; but what, as a father or a mother for my
future children, will this one make as compared with that? The
answer to the question, " Will my children by this one or by
that, be the best endowed, physically and mentally ; or have any
marked defects; or be the most lovable and worth rearing?" ik
the one question. Even beauty has this same analysis. Those
who select this one over that, because the handsomer, really
prefer this because she will therefore produce the best offspring."*
Men and women involuntarily do govern their selection by these
parental capacities; then why not make that a philosophy ^\\\c\\
Nature has made an instinct ? As all should eat solely to accom-
plish Nature's ends of eating, and since sex. Love, and marriage
422 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
have fine children for their only end ; why should not all select
and marry chiefly with a view to that end ? That same law which
imposes Love ^ and marriage,^^ thereby imposes offspring ; and
commands us to so order our Love and marriages as to create the
best children possible.
Nature's creating hereditary laws, imperiously enjoin all
to fulfil them as much as any other ; and those who ignore them
in their choice curse their children with bad traits, and are
cursed in them. Thus, that consumptive, who, by marrying one
who is consumptive, " foreordains " the consumption and death
of his children, whereas, by marrying one well vitalized, he
might have secured robust oflspriug, is most guilty for thisvcon-
sumptive taint ; and for not entailing robustness. He has no
right to leave these eventful consequences "at loose ends." He
is solemnly bound to know beforehand that his wife is not con-
Bumptive. "What if he is honest, kind, devout, fatherly, and all
that, yet did he not cause their death ? And is not causing it
by hereditary entailment as wicked as by poison? What if he
knew no better ? He should have known. "What right has he
to subject them to the consequences of a broken hereditary law
any more than by throwing them down a precipice to subject
them to the broken law of gravity ? or casting them into the
fire to oblige them to suffer its penalties? Since offspring are
paramount, "^^^ and since their original endowments are the great
determiners of their characters ; ^ therefore those are most guilty
who so marry as to curse them with bad proclivities, but most
blessed who confer good ones.
" This looks ahead a great way."
Not VERY far ahead of marriage. Though the results of good
and of poor children continue as long as you or any of your
descendants exist, whether on this side of death or the other,
yet they naturally do and should begin soon after marriage.
" For young people thus to canvass each other's parental qualities
before or during courtship, is at least indelicate, if not improper."
Is Nature " improper " ? Is having children " indelicate " ?
Is providing for good children any more " immodest " than for
poor ? All depends on the manner, nothing on the fact. Nature
makes, and therefore you should make, children the specific
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object of all marriage."^ If this is " indelicate," then is being a
male or a female improper, and courting, loving, marrying, and
having children, immodest. She who looks this only legitimate
end of marriage fully in its philosophic face will make an im-
measurably better wife and mother than she could possibly make
if her " mock-modesty " ignored it ; for this puts her Love on
the pure, while that leaves it on the squeamish and therefore
immodest plane.*^ Those too delicate to ascertain their parental
adaptations to each other are but mockish prudes, and most in-
delicate. Those whose modesty ignores this kind of information,
are quite too modest to marry or have children at all; and to be
consistent, should never love, or look at the other sex, or even
be sexed ; and are welcome to the results of their fastidiousness.
Every stage of reproduction, from the first dawnings of Love,
through selection, marriage, paternity, and maternity, is no more
indelicate, per se^ than sleeping, except that " as a man thinketh in
his heart so is he." 'No ; so choosing, loving, and marrying as to
produce magnificent children, is modest ; while marrying for any
other motive is most decidedly " indecent."
715. — Adaptation and Lovb mutual CJoncomitants.
" Give me the poetry of Love, even if there is less adaptation. I
had rather marry one I can love, and who can love me, with perfect devo-
tion, even if this philosophical adaptation is less perfect. I decidedly
prefer a perfect union to fine children, or even to any ; and propose to
marry so as to render mijselfjust as happy as possible. Besides, I question
this bridling and reigning, curbing and driving, Love by reason."
" Magnificent children constitute the chief object of my marriage.
Others may sacrifice to leave them rich, while I propose to sacrifice myself
on the altar of their hereditary endowment, that great determiner of their
talents and happiness." *"*
Adaptation and poetry are necessary coNcoMiTANts, not
antagonists.*** One cannot possibly enjoy all tlie poetry of per-
fect Love, except in and by means of a perfect adaptation. This
poetry consists in this adaptation; and the more perfect the
physical and mental adaptation, the more perfect their mutual
aftection. This is guaranteed by this law of mind, that admira-
tion precedes and elicits Love. All involuntarily love whatever
they admire. Therefore, as he who admires pretty hands natu-
rally falls in Love with the one who has them, and becauiie of
424 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
them ; while as he who admires a small waist instinctively loves
only one who has this admired wasp-like waist — and the smaller
her waist the larger his Love — as she who admires nobleness, or
talent, or a good physique, loves only those who possess the quality
admired; so, by a law of mind, Love involuntarily follows admi-
ration, and this the intellectual perception of lovable qualities.
Only guide admiration by parental fitness, and spontaneous Love
involuntarily follows suit. In short, the intellectual perception
that two are adapted to each other in marriage, almost compels
those with clear heads and warm hearts to love each other.*^^
Though intellect cannot prevent loving any more than hungering,
yet it can and should guide Love to the most appropriate object.
Nature's entire sexual philosophy centres in offspring.*^
Therefore the laws of either are also those of the other. Love is
but the servant and instrument of transmission ;^' so that in the
very necessity of things the two must work in concert ; yet pro-
geny is the lord of Love, and of all things sexual. As he is the
model man and she woman who is adapted to produce the best
offspring ;*^^ so those are the best adapted to love each other, who,
taking him as he is in conjunction with her as she is, will together
produce the most and the best young. The one you can love the
best, is'the very one who will give you the best children to love ;
and that one who can give you the most lovable children, is the
most lovable. Are any of nature's requirements antagonistic?
Does sight make war on hearing, or one Faculty ever conflict
with another? Are parental and conjugal Love belli/ ^^erents, that
either must be thus offered up on the altar of the other? Were
not both created to subserve the same great end ? Both are co-
workers, not antagonists. All philosophy, all fact, establish this
conclusion. Therefore,
Men and women should study the laws of hereditary descent,
both as a means of choosing congenial partners, and of endowing
offspring; their two dearest human interests. Some day they
will be studied as much as geography. This subject is too infi-
nitely important, and lies too near the human heart, not to chal-
lenge and receive public attention.
716. — Similarity the Cardinal Prerequisite.
Both must be substantially alike. Like likes like, and
affiliates with it ; but dislikes unlike, and fails to intermingle
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tlierewith. Do not elephants associate and mate with elephants,
wolves with wolves, cattle with cattle, and all animals with those
of their own kind, instead of with other kinds ? " Birds of one
feather flock together." The very rocks affiliate with their own
kindred — all granite here, all slate there, all marble elsewhere,
Ac, And human- beings like their kind better than beasts, and
commune with each other better than with brutes. To argue a
point thus clear is superfluous.
Similarity is equally the attractive principle of all special likes
and friendships; as difference is the repelling of dislikes. Do not
the Malay, Ethiopian, Caucasian, and Indian races mingle each
with its oimi race more freely than with any other? Those who
love to chew, smoke, stimulate, swear, steal, think, pray, trade,
work, &c., love best to associate with those of similar proclivities,
not with those of opposite dispositions. Those of any religious
faith attract and are attracted to those of a like faith, as Catholics,
Baptists, Mohammedans, Progressives, Abolitionists, &c. dan-
ism is but the instinctive outworking of this principle. Is not
similarity the great bond of all affiliations, likes, and friendships;
and dissimilarity, of antagonisms ? Not only do philosophers fra-
ternize with philosophers, poets with poets, &c.; but individual men
and women choose for intimate friends those as nearly like them-
selves in tastes, doctrines, habits, likes, &c., as possible. Are not
those whom friendship's sacred ties bind together drav i to each
other by like traits ? They love each other because each ikes the
same things. Christians love Christians, but dislike Atheists;
while votaries of any science love students of the same science
best. Do you like to commune best with those who perpetually
agree with, or contradict you? Let facts, on the largest and
most ramified scale, attest. Those who dispute this palpable
fact are unworthy of notice.
Of Love this is especially true. Are not its laws identical
with those of Friendship, of which it is in part composed ? Does
not Love commence in, and consist in part of it? This proves
that the laws of either are those of the other. Do not men like
those women best, and women men, who are the most like them-
nelves? Do not those of special beliefs love best to commune
with those of the same belief? Do talented men love silly
women, and superior women weak-minded men, the most? In-
«tead, do not intellectual, pious, and refined men like thoM
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woraen best who have like characteristics ? Do lovers select each
other on account of similarities ? or dissimilarities ? Do not those
who are religious prefer those who love to worship at their own
altar ? Do alienations arise from similar, or opposite traits ? Two
finding themselves alike on certain points, too hastily infer simi-
larity on all points, hut soon find those differences which dis-
please and alienate both. If you were to choose again, would
tyou select one similar, or opposite ? As concordant notes delight,
but discordant pain ; so with concordant and discordant spirits.
Those who have more affection than religion can love in spite of
these differences; while the stronger the piety, the greater the
necessity that they be religiously alike. Even when sympathetic
at marriage, a change in either becomes a wall of separation
between them. Those alike in other respects may be able to
tolerate this difference ; yet one who has a low, short-top head,
can never satisfy one whose top head is high, wide, and long.
Paul well says, "Marry, but only in the Lord." Mark how
absolutely these three laws of mind demonstrate this point : —
1. We like what renders us happy, because thereof, and in
proportion thereto; but hate whatever makes us miserable,
because of this misery, and in its proportion. This is the only
cause and measure of all likes and dislikes, animal and human.
Indeed, by this involuntary shrinking from pain, and love of
enjoyment, Nature drives us from disobedience, and attracts us
to obedience, of her laws;^ and has therefore rendered it both
necessary in itself, and a universal concomitant of sensation.
2. All normal action of all our Faculties makes us happy, all
abnormal miserable ; and the more so the stronger they are.
This is a first law and condition of all happiness and misery, and
clearly established by Phrenology.
3. Similar and normal Faculties awaken each other agreeably,
but dissimilar and abnormal ones, disagreeably. Thus, large Ideal-
ity or taste delights large, and is delighted by it, but disgusted
by small ; and thus of each and all the others. To detail a point
thus basilar and important, and apply all three principles to Love.
One large in Beauty, and therefore delighted with perfection,
but disgusted with the coarse and slatternly, marries one who
has Beauty also large, and is therefore continually feasting his
taste with new manifestations of elegance and perfection in man-
ners, expression, and sentiment ; besides pointing out to his
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admiring tastes a constant succession of fresh beauties in Nature,
poetry, and character; thus perpetually reincreasing his happiness
by inciting this large Faculty ; his large Beauty meanwhile as
constantly delighting hers; so that their being alike in this
respect is a constant source of happiness, and therefore means
of Love to both. Whereas, if he marries one whose deficient
taste is constantly tormenting his refi.nement, while she sufters
constant practical reproof from his large Beauty, or vice versd,
their dissimilarity becomes a perpetual eyesore to both. The
practical difference is heaven-wide between marrying one who is
similar, and dissimilar.
A PIOUS WOMAN, whose large Worship gives her exquisite pleas-
ure in devotion, marries one who takes equal pleasure in the same
worship, both enjoying all the more pleasure in each other, be-
cause they love to worship the same God, " under the same vines
and fig-trees." Her Woi-ship reawakens his, which makes him
happy in her, and therefore love her ; while his, by reawakening
hers, continually renders her happy in him, and therefore in-
creases her Love for him ; whereas if he is an Atheist, this dif-
ference abrades and pains her Worship, makes her unhappy in
him, and compels her to dislike him ; while his, regarding her
piety as superstition, detracts from his happiness in, and there-
fore Love for, her ; and this religious discord impairs their union
in other respects. Hence, every sect enjoins marrying within
itself, as Mormons, Catholics, Quakers, &c.
If either loves to ride fast, and the other slow, how can they
possibly ride together without making one or the other unhappy?
When one loves dress, parties, style, gayety, or fashion, and
the other considers them foolish, or regards them with aversion,
can they be as happy in each other, and therefore love each other
as well as if both liked or disliked the same things? If both take
delight in pursuing the same studies together, will not this mu-
tual delight render them much happier in each other, and there-
fore more affectionate, than if one liked but the other disliked
the same books? Did not Milton's conjugal difiiculty grow out
of (/is-similarity ? He was talented, philosophical, poetical ; but
she despised what he liked, and liked those gayeties 'syhich he con-
temned. If one loves rural or city life the best, both should lov^
the same life ; but if either loves fruits, or flowers, or stock beet,
the other's loving the same will promote their union, while die-
428 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
liking it will alienate both. If one, having large Conscience,
scrupulously loves the right and hates the wrong, while the other,
having it small, cares little for either, and is constantly abrading
the moral sense of the other, how can they live as happily and
lovingly together as if both were either scrupulous or unscrupu-
lous ? Can he whose large Order is delighted by method, and
pained by disorder, be as happy in, or loving with, her whose
small Order is perpetually leaving everything in complete confu-
sion, as if both liked order, or cared little for it ? If one believes
in free Love, should not both give and take the largest liberties ?
And what is jealousy, with all its aggravated miseries,^ but dis-
similarity in this essential respect? Is not similarity, even in
the wrong, more promotive of conjugal concord, than if one is
right and the other wrong, or either condemns what the other
likes ? Do marked differences render the differing the more happy
when loving each other, or the less so ? Let all who love, attest.
Do you, who are unhappy, repel each other wherein you agree, or
(filagree? Do you love the more the more you differ, or the less?
Are you unhappy because alike, or unlike? Do not opposite views
always and necessarily engender alienations ? In a divorce suit,
in which a prominent actor acted a conspicuous part, did their
similarity, or t^/^similarity cause their collision ? Say, further,
you who are happily mated, does not your own blessed experience
attest that you are happy in, and therefore fond of, each other
wherein, because, and in proportion as, you are alike^ instead of
unlike ?
Of the social affections, this is doubly true. Let a public ex-
ample both prove and illustrate this point. Many years ago a
fair actress captivated a millionnaire, who followed her from city
to city, and continent to continent, strewing her stage with rich
bouquets and presents, and everywhere tendering her his hand,
heart, and immense fortune, till finally, to get rid of his importu-
nities, she married him ; and yet this very suitor sued for a di-
vorce, because, loving her with passionate fondness, he required a
like affectionate ardor in return ; yet her barely tolerating his
ardor, instead of reciprocating it, first chilled, then reversed his
Love, turning his ardor into animosity, till he hated her as pas-
sionately as he had before loved :*^ whereas, if she had loved
him as heartily as he her, their mutual happiness and Love would
have been proportionately complete. As well wed summer to
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winter, or *ice to fire, as those who are passionate to those pae-
sionless ; or those who love to caress and be caressed, to those
who are distant and reserved ; or one gushing and glowing, to
one who is stoical. Unite, they never can.
A LADY OF TWENTY-TWO, on receiving a fully written phreno-
logical description, modestly drew from her reticule a daguerrian
likeness, inquiring, " Arn I adapted to this man in marriage?"
When I answered negatively, she said,
" My gold-digging betrothed has let my affections perish by neglect,
and they cling to another. Now, sliall I spoil myself by marrying one I
do not love, or spoil my betrothed by marrying one I do ? "
" Marry where you love, else you spoil both." She begged
him to cancel their engagement; to which he replied, "No, in-
deed. Do you think I will give up as good a wife as you will
make me? Only tell me the day you will make me but too
happy by marrying me," and literally obliged her to marry him.
But they have lived miserably together ever since ; and he the
most so, because the most disappointed, and her children strongly
resemble his rival ; whose she said they were.
Nature's rationale of this similarity both crowns and stamps
it as her unalterable edict. Her universal motto is, *' Each after
its own kind.""* She absolutely must interdict hybridism, ex-
cept to a limited degree, so as to preserve each respective class
of her productions separate from all others. Universal amal-
gamation would spoil all. She both keeps her human produc-
tions separate from all others, and even forbids the intermixture
of the difierent races, by depriving mulattoes of both the Negro
stamina and Caucasian intelligence, besides running out their
progeny, and rendering the intermarriage of i^quaws with whites
always infelicitous, and cross-breeds weakly;"* and the children
of dissimilar parentage can almost always be designated by their
imperfect phrenologies and physiologies, and tendencies to hol)-
byisms and extremes, while those of similar parentage are homo-
geneous and harmonious."* What institute of Nature is more
obvious, and supported by a larger range of inductive facts, or
established by the very necessity of things, than tliat "like likes
like," while dissimilarity repels ? But
Why multiply examples, either in proof or illustration of this
cardinal doctrine? In phrenological language, similar develoi>-
430 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
mente promote mutual Love, by promoting their mutual happi-
ness; while opposite ones produce unhappiness, and therefore
alienations. Both this fact and principle are so perfectly appa-
rent as not to require even the amplification here given, but that
some, ignoring Phrenology, that great guide in all matters ap-
pertaining to human nature and life, have blindly led the blind
till both have stumbled into errors.
Section II.
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOYE.
717. — Parental Balance indispensable to Progenal Per-
fection.
" You certainly misrepresent that Nature you claim to enthrone ;
for contrasts really do affiliate. The grave frequently love the gay, and
gay the grave. How often do the stork-like prefer the dowdy ; spare,
fleshy ; positive, negative ; Hibernian, stoical ; determined, submissive ;
slovenly, tidy ; talkative, demure ; and talented men, affectionate women ;
common men, uncommon women, &c. Is not this acknowledged Anglo-
Saxon superiority traceable directly to the wholesale intermingling of the
ancient Britons, Picts, Celts, and Romans, both with each other, and the
Normans, Danes, and many more? Natiors not thus crossed, are* either
stationary or declining, like Spain, India, and all Eastern nations. Is not
this influx of foreigners from all Europe, Asia, and Africa into our
country its most auspicious omen of future development ? Has not this
very crossing law already effected all those recent astonishing improve-
ments attained throughout the animal kingdom, and even the floral and
pomal ? Did not Van Mons originate every one of his delicious kinds of
pears, now the pride of horticulture and diet of epicurean princes, by
judicious crossings, yet not one by similarity? Even your own quotation
from * Hereditary Descent' shows what astonishing improvements have
been, and may be, effected by this same union of opposites, instead of sim-
ilarities.^ Something is wrong somewhere." i
Parental balance is the great condition of progenal perfec-
tion. Proportion is a paramount natural law. Nature maintains
equilibriums throughout all her productions and functions. All
vegetable and sylvan roots and tops are and must be in propor-
tion to each other; because each produces the other. Cut oflp
either without also amputating the other, and you damage it that
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much. Cut down the top, and the root dies from self-gorging ;
or amputate roots, as in transplanting trees, without trimming
top equally, and they languish ; but cut oft* as much top in
resetting as root in digging up, and they scarcely mind the
change. Exercise, breathing, digestion, circulation, perspiration,,
excretion, sleep, &c., always are and must be in proportion to
each other. Increasing or diminishing exercise increases or
diminishes them all. Head and body must be equally balanced
as to each other ; else precocity or obesity ensue ; and all the
mental powers must be in equilibrio to all ; else a warped judg-
ment, and idiosyncrasy of character and conduct must follow.**^*
See this fundamental law demonstrated in " Human Science " and
applied to Self-Culture, and moulding out the faults, and balanc-
ing up the deficits of children.®^' ^ To fully appreciate the
necessity for balance will amply repay study. It is too deep to
be all seen at a glance.
!N'ature works wonders in maintaining this balance where it
exists, and establishing it where it does not ; which making all
strong organs foster all weak, causing weak ones during growth
to grow fastest, &c., illustrate. Nature will not let one part of
any of her productions greatly predominate over the other parts ;
but ordains that there shall be about as much strength in the
stomach as head, and in the heart and muscles as either, but no
more in either than in all the others ; and strives to bring what-
ever is seriously disproportionate back to equilibrium.*®
To CREATE IT ALONG WITH life is her great aim. And she begins
early — in and by Love's selecdons themselves ; causing those who
are in balance to choose those like themselves, and those not, to
select those who off*8et their extremes, mental and physical.
Both the law itself and its rationale, or end subserved, seem
almost too plain to need even illustration ; yet the superlative
importance of this law demands our giving enough examples of
it to make it fully understood. The more so, since it will show
many discordants that, and why, their very " bones of contention"
should be gnawed together amicaJbly, as having a great deal of
conjugal meat on them for their mutual relish and nourishment.
Both doctrines are substantially correct. That of simi-
larity is applicable to one set of cases, while that of dissimilarity
is the law of another. Principles thus important, and govern-
ing human interests as momentous as Love, selection, and off-
432 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER,
spring, deserve those copious illustrations which shall show pre-
cisely what qualities each one should select. From a task thus
critical, one might well shrink, unless guided by unmistakable
natural laws. To begin with bodily proportion :
718. — "When Physical Dissimilarities are best: Dummies,
Dwarfs, &c.
Nature has her inside and outside circles, which man must
no^ transcend, but within which she allows full liberty. Thus
those about average in height and weight may marry those
who are about average, or in either extreme ; while those in
either extreme should marry opposites, in order to average their
children. Thus very tall men love very short women, in order
that their children may be neither, as in the Hatch family;'^**
whereas, if very tall men should marry very tall women, this
doubling would render their children inconveniently spindling.
Coarse, powerful, loggy, and easy Temperaments must not
marry similar, lest their children be still lower. The accom-
panying engraving, of one of four
The Offspring OP TWO Sluggish -t* ,• i 'u o • t„ x* i
p idiotic children, turnishes a practical
illustration of the evils of the union
of two low ones. Though both his
parents passed tolerably well in so-
ciety, and were fairly sensible and
intelligent, yet all their children
were non compos mentis^ and this one
so very a fool that he could never
even feed himself; whereas, if- each
parent had married a more spicy
Temperament, their children would
doubtless have been brighter and
better than themselves, instead of
as now, lower.
How often are a strong, robust,
Fig. 561.- Emerson THE Idiot. ^^^^^^^ shaggy-locked, red-faced,
powerful man, and most exquisitely susceptible, fine-grained,
delicate, refined, and pure-minded woman, drawn together?
One would think her delicacy would revolt at his coarseness,
and his power despise her exquisiteness. What attracts them ?
Her need of animality. By presupposition her delicate organ
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ism has about exhausted her sparse fund of vitality, so that
she is perishing for want of this first requisite of life, and
naturally gravitates to one who eliminates sufficient animal
magnetism to support both ; so that she literally lives on his
surplus animal warmth and vitality, he being all the better for
this draft ; while she pays him back by refining and elevating
him ; and their children inherit his powerful animal organism,
along with her exquisite taste and moral tone ; and are therefore
far better than if both parents were powerfully animalized, or
both exquisitely emotional.
The FINEST Chicago child I saw was the son of a fine-grained,
rather small, and extremely susceptible father, and a large, broad-
built, athletic, prominent-featured, and highly-vitalized mother ;
he imparting his brain and nervous system, and she her abundant
vitality to sustain it ; whereas, if both had been very robust, or
very fine-grained, their children would have been either too pre-
cocious, or too animal.
Cold hands and feet in both leave the circulation of their chil-
dren still lower ; hence, warm and cold extremities should intei-
marry, that their children may be warm.
Size is x)ne measure of power, and nervous excitability, of its
expenditure. Hence those who are both large and excitable will
expend a double amount of energy over those who are either
small and excitable, or large and sluggish. Great size, along with
extreme susceptibility, expend too much power, and hence should
intermarry with those at least good-sized, in order to balance
their undue ardor with the other's coolness and power. If escort-
ing a woman of more commanding appearance than himself should
mortify a small man, he should feel proud that he could win one
his physical superior, and had better mortify himself a little, than
his children always. Yet she need not exceed him much in
stature, especially if prominent-featured and rather large framed ;
for a good-sized woman is but little larger than a small-sized
man. Yet the wife of a large man really must have a large
mouth, and a tough, enduring Temperament, with good muscles,
for reasons given under confinement.*'*
Tom Thumb,*" a dwarf himself, confesses to a most marked pref-
erence for good-sized women; and his child by his dwarf wife
weighed only two pounds at birth, lingered, and died. His co-
dwarf,
28
434 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
Commodore Nutt, literally despises little women ; said nothing
could tempt him to marry Minnie Warren, Thumb's wife's dwarf
sister; who paid him back and illustrated this law by expressing
her utter repugnance to dwarfs as such ; Avhile Commodore Nutt
confessed to an even violent Love for a good-sized woman, whom
he said he intended to marry. This holds true of all undersized
people.
" Little folks " must not marry little, unless they are w^illing
to have still littler children ; but must marry good-sized, and
their children will be medium.
719. — Nature prevents poor Children by Parental Repulsions.
Those dislike each other whose children would be any way
much out of balance. Thus, the children of two very high-strung
persons would be too furious-tempered to be endured. Jlence
the temper of both provokes that of the other every hour they are
together, which makes them dislike each other '' to kill;" thereby
driving them apart and cutting off both their power and desire
to cohabit.**
I, so VERY excitable that my surplus excitability becomes a
source of pain to me, marry a woman equally excitable. Of
<;ourse her excitability perpetually provokes mine, which thus
makes me miserable with her, which makes me dislike her;^'^
while mine redoubles hers, which makes her miserable in me,
which makes her dislike me ; while our children, if we had any,
besides being so extremely fiery-tempered that there is no doing
anything with them, would also be so irritable physically that
the first breath of disease would blow them into a premature
grave in a day. They would die almost before we knew they
were sick; whereas, per contra^ if I marry a calm, patient
woman, whose quiet, gentle, forbearing tones and spirit soothe
my excitability, this would make me happy in her, and therefore
love her ; while my surplus excitability would tone up her pas-
sivity, which would make her happy in me, and therefore love me ;
and both contribute greatly to our having children, render
them midway between both, well-balanced, and both likely to
live, and harmonious and excellent ; besides their soothing me.
and exhilarating her. Two very excitable persons rarely produce
children; that very fire which would render their issue poor,
cutting off their power to have any. Tom Thumb and Commo-
CA8BS IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIBB IMPROVE LOVE. 436
dore Nutt furnish like applications of this prevention as to size.^
This illustration expounds a law applicable to all the extremes of
all, which should govern all marital selections. You violate it at
your own, mate's, and children's peril. IIow beautiful nature's
plan for preventing poor children, and obviating the faults, and
promoting the excellences, of all future generations. Mark our
next point as bearing on this.
720. — Should those tainted with Insanity, Consumption, Ac.,
Maery, and Whom?
Shall those tainted with any diseases or deformities, physical
or mental, or those hereditarily predisposed to theft, lust, or any
other vices, be allowed, or allow themselves, to marry ?
" If we would have no monsters about us, let not idiots or insane
pair, or scrofulous or consumptives, those soaked in alcohol or conceived
in lust, entering the world diseased in body or mind, or overweighed with
any propensity or passion, be allowed to marry, any more than we would
have a nursery for wolves and bears, or cultivate poisonous ivy, deadly
night-shade, or apple-fern in the inclosures of our houses, our yards and
fields. Society, by righteous custom, if not by statute law, has a right to
prevent, to forbid the multiplication of monstrous specimens of humanity.
That mewling, puking, drooling, wailing baby ought not to exist; it is no
blessing, but a curse of nature and Grod on the misdoing of men and
women." — Rev. Dr. Bartolly in a sermon on that moral tnonder thePomeroy hoy.
George Combb takes like, though not equally extreme ground ;
and himself postponed marriage and married a wife after both
were too old to become parents. Thousands <)ntertain like
views, and abstain from marriage lest they entail diseases or
deformities on issue. Some go even further, and argue that
only the best should be allowed to procreate, as in animals. This
question is too personally important to too many not to be adju-
dicated on first principles. We differ from all. Mark why.
All who can, may multiply ; because, 1. Progeny is as natural
a birthright as eating. All our Faculties were created only to
act.**^ As a right to exercise lungs, stomach, muscles, eyes, &a,
accompanies their bestowal ; so a right to exercise every mental
Faculty inheres in their birthright possession. Shall human
authority forbid what divine more than permits — imperiously
commands^^'**^ and even necessitates ?"*
2. How CAN society prevent ? Those interdicted would rebel,
436 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
and seek clandestinely that intercourse forbidden them by law, and
leave illegitimate issue if denied legitimate. Shall society license
only those men and women sexually and morally vigorous ? or cas-
trate all inferior boy babes ? He who should castrate one man's
boy I know would not castrate another. Shall females be examined
as to fitness, and allowed or refused intercourse accordingly ? Or
who be the examiners ? Might they not even then be bribed ? Or
what their rules of allowing and interdicting ? Pshaw ! Phsaw !
3. God adjudicates this identical matter by His natural law, in
rendering childless all who cannot have children much better than
none.* Harlots rarely become mothers, because their depravities
would make their issue worthless. All infants endowed with
strength enough to be born, can, by proper regimen, attain a full
human life, and die of old age. ^N'ature will not begin what she
oannot consummate, provided she is allowed her own facilities ; and
hence interdicts parentage to those either too young, too old, too
debilitated, or diseased anywhere, or deformed, or depraved, &c.,
to impart sufficient of all the human functions to enable their
children, by a right hygiene, to live to a good age, and well worthy
to inhabit His " premises." By this simple arrangement she fore-
stalls all those diseases, deformities, and marked imperfections
which would otherwise impair, if not spoil, universal humanity.
"Passably good, or none; nothing, rather than bad," are her mot-
toes. When God thus speaks, let man silently acquiesce ; nor
human law interdict what natural law both licenses and enjoins.
Marrying opposites, the great point we are urging, will give
good children, if any ; or if none, at least the luxury of marriage.
4. Two EXTREMELY EXCITABLE pcrsons are not likely to become
parents together, especially if both are extra amorous ; whereas^
both could be fruitful with a calm, cool partner. Two predis-
posed to consumption might be barren, or have consumptive
children ; yet, by marrying robust partners, parent good children.
By a right application of this law, those predisposed to insanity
may even improve their children by this parental taint. Indeed,
talented men are often descended from a family so extremely sus-
ceptible on one side as to be almost crack-brained, but on the
other endowed with extreme physical hardihood ; their children
inheriting their mentality from the highly organized side, along
with the physiology of the hardy ; whereas, if both parents had
been thus gifted, their offspring would not have possessed suffi-
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE. 437
cient animal power to manifest their commanding talents, but
have died on the threshold of distinction ; so that even insane
proclivities may become a decided matrimonial recommendation
to the stoical.
Consumptives mat •marry, but only opposites. If a man thus
predisposed should marry a woman having extra good lungs, she
will both supply him with needed vitality, and also transmit
good lungs to their mutual children, who will inherit from him
that mentality which accompanies consumptive proclivities, super-
added to her abundant vitality, and thereby both escape all con-
sumptive proclivities, besides being actually improved by his con-
sumptive taint. By a judicious application of this law, all other
hereditary ailments can be both obviated, and even replaced with
excellent characteristics. All required is, that when either is
weakly or unsound in any particular respect, the other should be
sound and vigorous in this same respect. Like weaknesses in the
other party must by all means be scrupulously avoided. Or even
one parent may be predisposed to one disease, and the other to
another, yet their children escape both, provided the predispo-
sition in each is offset by opposite physical qualities in the other;
though when not thus offset, they are in great danger of inherit-
ing the diseases of both. But when both parents Are predisposed
to consumption, their children are still more so. A spare, thin-
chested, consumptive neighbor, who married into a consumptive
family, buried his wife of consumption after she had borne seven
children, and has buried his last child but one of this disease,
two lovely daughters on the eve of marriage, and expects every
spring to bury this remaining one, thus inflicting untold agony
on himself and his entire family ; whereas, if he had selected a
well-vitalized wife, all his children would have been born robust,
and. lived to bless themselves, him, and mankind. Meanwhile,
he piously regards this penalty of a broken natural law as a
"dispensation of divine Providence." What pious blasphemy !
What a' libel on the Divine government! To illustrate througl»
the eye :
Granville Mellen, a brilliant writer, died of consumption ;
and his subjoined likeness (Fig. 662) furnishes a good illustration
of those hereditarily tainted with this disease ; namely, spare,
slim, thin -faced and lipped, long-faced, sharp- featured, and
sunken below the eyes. 8ee description of consumptives, and
438 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
A Consumptive Victim.
their cure, in ^'^- l^ow, let him marry one having the general
outline form of Miss Chubby, Fig. 563, or Menken, Fig. 531,
or Miss Mansfield, Fig. 553,
and he and his children are
all right. Yet he must not
dare marry Miss Slim, Fig.
564, though much the smart-
est woman. Not that Miss
Chubby is the one for him,
but one of that general
form, though larger and
quiet, while Miss C. is too
impulsive.
George Combe is wrong,
therefore, in recommending
those consumptively tainted
not to marry. They may,
provided they unite with
those robust and well vital-
ized. Why could not George Combe himself, by following this
law, have given to posterity as splendid intellectual and moral
luminaries as* did his parents? If
they had been guided by his inter-
dictory doctrine, the loss to the
The CJonsumptive's Wife.
L ^'
Fig. 562. — Granville Mellen.
Slightly Consumptive.
Fig. 563. — Miss Chubby.
Miss Slim.
race would have equalled all the blessings the Combes have con-
ferred upon mankind I Though actuated by the best of motives,
yet their partial vieWs have prevented themselves and many
others from enjoying the domestic -relations ; who otherwise
might have been both happy in marriage, and the happy parents
of healthy and highly-endowed children. Besides,
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVB. 439
Far better be consumptive than not to be. " It is not all of
life to live " here — only its merest moiety. Another life stands
in waiting, which consumptives can enjoy as well as others I Dy-
ing while young, and living forever, is infinitely better than 710)1"
existence}^ Those born, however feeble, should olier up eternal
gratitude to their parents for endowing them with " life eter-
nal ! " What if manifold ailments do abridge this life's pleas-
ures, increase its sufterings, and hasten death, all possible evils
here are as nothing compared with those blessings conferred by
immortality ! "^ Of course all should be the more thankful the
better constituted they are ; yet those least endowed should exult
in possessing even the poorest constitutions, rather than none,
and make the best of what they have.
Nature never transmits disease, but only weakly organs.
Thus the children of parents however consumptive, are seldom
born with diseased lungs, but only with them small, or suscep-
tible ; so that if they generate disease by violating the health
laws, it settles on these weak organs, and superinduces disease.
The real cause of their death is not hereditary proclivities, but in-
fractions of the health laws, without which this hereditary ten-
dency would have remained dormant. Nature will not transmit
any actual disease, local or general, but only weakness or suscep-
tibility. And then
She counterbalances even these, by always obliging strong
organs to succor weak ones ; and likewise by causing the weakest
to grow the fastest; on the principle that over-eating induces
sleep, by withdrawing energy from the brain, nerves, and muscles
to aid the over-taxed stomach. And lingering diseases consume
all the strong and sound organs before death ensues. Weakly
organs, when the health-laws are fulfilled, grow stronger with
age ; thus both repelling disease, and completing a good, fair
human life. How often do feeble children, by virtue of this law
of growth, become stronger as they grow older, and make healthy
adults ? ,
This principle applies to all other diseased proclivities, yet ia
too obvious to need amplification in a physical direction. There-
fore
None need abstain from marriage lest they taint their issue ;
yet those thus tainted absolutely miisi marry opposites ; and then
cultivate both their own and children's tainted organB. Thoa^
440 WHO ARE, AND ABE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
two Bunple conditions, carried out, would rid the world, in the
very next generation, of all forms and degrees of hereditary dis-
eases. How beautiful is this natural provision, and how infi-
nitely important, yet almost wholly overlooked 1
721. — What Deformities are, and are not, objectionable.
Of looks we say nothing, because each can judge for him and
herself how far their tastes are disgusted by this deformity and
that. Their
Impairment of issue alone concerns our subject. Of this there
is little danger. The children of those whose teeth have been
extracted have just as good teeth as others ; and thus of ampu-
tated limbs, lost eyes, &c. Maimed soldiers will have just as
good children as if they had not been maimed. The children of
humpbacks, male and female, will be just as straight-backed as
if their parents were straight. The children of a woman with one
leg shortened by a sprain, or a white swelling, &c., are no more
likely to be similarly deformed than if both her limbs were alike.
See the reason in ^^^ : an understanding of which will show that
scarcely any parental amputations and deformities are entailed.
Birth-marks, such as facial and other blotches, club-feet, &c.,
rarely descend. Any girl is just as marriageable with them a^
without. Yet such poor girls are usually " let alone" by men,
for they love physical perfection in women ; who love those
men deformed about as well as if they were perfect.
These birth-marks are objectionable which penetrate the
grain, and injure the organism. That fiend boy whose mother's
rage at Lee's soldiers ^^ will father fiend children, if any. So
would this Pomeroy boy. Those whose mother's fright sapped
their brain and blunted their senses will parent flats, if any. But
a sexually healthy humpback girl will bear better children than
a straight one sexually impaired.
Those hereditary laws already stated, particularly in ^^*, may
Jje implicitly trusted ; especially that they will omit in children
every parental evil and error possible.
722. — What Temperaments, Forms, JSToses, &c., should and
should not Marry ; copiously illustrated.
Since few have well-balanced heads or bodies, most require
to marry their opposites in one or more respects. Almost all
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILABITIES IMPBOVE LOVE. 441
have too much brain for body, or body for brain ; or else too
much or too little respiration, or digestion, or circulation, or
muscle, for their other physical functions.
Those who are medium in complexion, stature, &c., who are
neither extra dark nor light, large nor small, tall nor short, lean
nor fat, &c., may marry those who are medium, or nearly like
themselves in these respects, or in either extreme, or a little more
or less so than themselves. Thus, those whose hair is neither
dark nor light, but about midway between both, may marry those
who are a shade darker, or lighter, than themselves, or a good
deal darker or lighter, or even jet black or bright red, as they
may fancy, or as other circumstances may favor most, the com-
plexion being not especially material ; yet the darker one is, the
lighter his or her companion should be.
Bright red hair should marry jet black, arid jet black auburn,
or bright red, &c. And the more red-faced and bearded or impul-
sive a man, the more dark, calm, cool, and quiet should his wife
be ; and vice versd. The florid should not marry the florid, but
those who are dark in proportion as they themselves are light.
Red-whiskered men should marry brunettes but not blondes ;
the color of the whiskers being more determinate of the Tempera-
ment than that of the hair.
The color of the eyes is still more important. Gray eyes must
marry some other color, almost any other, except gray ; and so
of blue, dark, hazel, &c.
Those very fleshy should not marry those equally so, but those
too spare and slim; and this is doubly true of females. A
spare man is nuicii better adapted to a fleshy woman than a round-
favored man. Two who are short, thick-set, and stocky, should
not unite in marriage, but should choose those diflferently consti-
tuted ; but on no account one of their own make. And, in gen-
eral, those predisposed to corpulence are therefore less inclined to
marriage.*'*
Those with little hair or beard should marry those whoso hair
is naturally abundant ; still, those who once had plenty, but who
have lost it, may marry those who are either bald or have but
little; for in this, as in all other cases, all depends on what one
is by Nature, little on present states.
Those whose MOiiVE-Temperament decidedly predominates, who
are bony, only moderately fleshy, quite prominent-featured, Ro-
442 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
man -nosed, and muscular, should not marry those similarly
formed, but those either sanguine or nervous, or a compound of
both ; for being more strong than susceptible or emotional, they
both require that their own emotions should be perpetually
prompted by an emotional companion, and that their children
also be endowed with the emotional from the other parent. That
is, those who are cool should marry those who are impulsive and
susceptible.
Small, nervous men must not marry little nervous or sanguine
women, lest both they and their children have quite too much
of the hot-headed and impulsive, and die suddenly. Generally,
ladies who are small are therefore more eagerly sought than large.
Of course this general fact has its exceptions. Some are small
hereditarily, others rendered so by extra action in some form,
over-study, over-work, or passional excitement ; because during
growth, their intense nervous systems consumed energy faster
than their weak vital could manufacture it ; which dwarfed their
stature.
Fannie Forrester, Fig. 541, is well adapted to Caldwell, Fig.
515, or Sir Sydney Smith, or Everett, for, being small-boned and
extra fine-grained herself, she
A Well-Balanced Form. must marry one extra promi-
nent-featured and large ; while
Caldwell and Stella would not
affiliate, because both are prom-
inent-featured, long-faced, and
formed upon the same general
model of potentiality. Cad-
die, Fig. 557, evenly balanced,
excepting in muscle, is adapt-
ed to any large, tall, promi-
nent-nosed man, but not to
one small and sharp-nosed, or
thin-lipped, like Mellen, Fig.
562, to whom Stella is well
adapted, as is Menken, Fig.
531, or Una, Fig. 530, or Miss
Woman's Rights, Fig. 545.
I^ature allows Eugenie, Fig.
639, perfectly balanced, to select from a wider range than most
Fig. 565. — Stella.
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE.
443
women. Webster preferred little women ; he coarse, thej fine ;
he powerful, thej susceptible ; his Love animal, theirs more senti-
mental ; he forcible, they pliant, &c. Short, rotund, small-boned
women, attract and are
attracted to tall and
gpare men ; while those
women like Miss Slim
(Fig. 564), absolutely
must wed stocky ,wide-
jowled, broad-shoul-
dered men.
Two VERY BEAUTIFUL
persons rarely do or
should marry ; nor two
extra homely. The
fact is a little singular
that very handsome
women, who of course
can have their pick,
rarely marry good-
looking men, but gen-
erally give preference
to those who are home-
ly ; because that ex-
quisiteness in which
beauty originates, naturally
blends with that i)Ower which
accompanies huge noses, and dis-
proportionate features.
Psyche (Fig. 534) loved Apol-
lo desperately, says Mythology,
on account of his beauty. Now
this must have been purely im-
aginary. No woman thus beau-
tiful ever loved a handsome man,
if she could find any other. Miss
P.,** a beauty herself, married
one of the finest-looking men,
but only out of rivalry, and
quarrelled. The Greek Slave
The Motive Temper a mkiit.
Fig. 566.— Elias Hicks, the Reform Quaker
Preacher.
A Harmonious Organism.
Fxa 567.— My« Harxov.
444 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
would choose not a tall, slim, but a thick-set, broad-shouldered
man, though perhaps tall if capacious-chested and prominent-
featured. Psyche would naturally choose a man of talents rather
than of a good physique ; and a right homely and even awkward
man need not fear a refusal, if he is only powerful, original,
logicalj, and smart.
Perfectly adapted to Dr. Livingstone.
Fio. 568.— Mrs. McFarland.
Bony, muscular Temperaments, and strongly-marked outlines,
like Elias Hicks, should marry a smooth, round, plump form,
like Fannie Forrester or Miss Harmon (Fig. 667).
Dr. L;.v;ngstone and Mrs. McFarland are most admirably
adapted, «i'id would naturally be powerfully attracted to each
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE. 445
other, after her Love had been reversed by McFarland's abuse
and drunkenness, for she must love some one."^ She has all the
indices of superior femininity, and he of masculinity ; she being
most exquisite, he most powerful.
Rapid movers, speakers, laughers, «fec., should marry those who
are calm and deliberate, and impulsives those who are stoical ;
while those who are medium, may marry those who are either
or neither, as they prefer.
Masculine Women, who inherit their father's looks, stature,
appearance, and physique mainly, should give preference to men
who take most after mother, physically ; whilst women cast
strongly after their mother, should marry those men in whom
the masculine form and physiology superabound.
Noses indicate characters by indicating the organisms and
Temperaments. Accordingly, those noses especially marked
either way, should marry those having opposite nasal character-
istics. Roman noses are adapted to those which turn up, and
pug noses, to those turning down ; while straight noses may
marry either.
Narrow nostrils indicate small lungs. Such are adapted to
those with broad nostrils, which accompany large lungs and
vital organs.
President John Adams lived in the most poetic affection with
his wife over half a century. Hfs subjoined likeness shows why.
He had all the signs of a vigorous sexu- ^ pattern Husband.
ality, along with that harmonious even-
ness which would neither give nor take
offence. He was so splendidly sexed that
any and all women would love him ; be-
sides being talented, moral, and most
appreciative of the sex. He was best
adapted to a woman rather tall, cer-
tainly not oval, but especially refined.
A little irritability was his only fault.
Heavy lower jaws, which signify
animal vigor, are adapted to light; but
two with heavy jowls would create too ^'®- 5«»- J^"^ ^dams.
animal offspring; and two thin ones, those too feeble physically
to become, accomplish, or enjoy much. Thus Miss Slim (Fig. 664)
may marry Young, Lee, Cuvier, or one shaped like either, but
44G WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
not Lincoln, who was well adapted to his wife ; he lantern-jawed,
slie rotund.
Large mouths and lips signify hearty sexualities.^^^ Small
mouths in females are poorly adapted to large-featured, bony,
broad-built, robust men, for reasons given in Part VIL®^®
No TWO WITH NARROW, RETREATING CHINS should marry ; but
such should pair off with those which are broad, prominent, and
projecting downward.
The names above and below these three young lady likenesses,
express their best marital adaptations. Miss Exquisite must on
Adapted to Mb. Powebs.
Fig. 570.— Miss Exquisite.
Adapted to Mr. Long.
Fig. 571.— Miss Plump.
Adapted to Mr. Strong, no account marry "a young man of tlie
period," slim, slight built, sprightly, all
nerve, the lower part of his face thin,
neck small, brilliant, and forehead high
and prominent ; for their nervousness
would engender mutual antagonisms in
a week ; and their children would not
survive a scarlet fever attack a day.
Only a large-featured, cool, strong man
is at all adapted to her.
Ko FAT, short husband would do for
Miss Plump. Oval and short herself,
only a long-faced, tall, spare man would draw her Love, or bestow
children on her worth raising.
Fig. 672.— Miss Muse.
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE.
447
Miss Muse is all soul, and must marry a good body ; for if
she chooses an exquisite, ornate, nice, finished, bright, senti-
mental man, their children, if they produced any, would be too
angelic for this coarse world, and leave it early. Nor could she
endure such a husband.
The Graces (Fig. 538) have a large range of adaptations, and
will blend very well with men like Bismarck, Scott, Lee, Adams,
Franklin, Everett, who was a very great ladies' man, &c., or
with athletic men like Jefferson ; who, in turn, is adapted to
Emily Rigal, Fannie Forrester, or the good wife and mother, or
Miss Straight, but not to Lucretia Mott, nor Miss Gay ; who will
make an excellent wife if treated very gingerly ; yet poor if
crossed or scolded much.
Ex-Presidext John Tyler, long-faced, thin-visaged, long-nosed,
Mr. Crane adapted to Miss A Straight Profile, adapted to a New Moon,
Partridge.
Fio. 673.— John Ttleb.
long-nccked, built on the
crane principle, should not
have married Stella, or
Lucy Long, or Emily Ri-
gal, or Miss Straight, but
Pio. 674.— Addtb FosBmnrmu
McFarland, or Miss Square, or Gay, or Plump ; for their form
indicates impulsiveness, his coolness; theirs flash, his power.
A TALL pair is rare; but a tall, elegant woman is often fouud
mated with a short, stocky man, and vice vcrsd.
448 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
A STRAIGHT PROFILE IS adapted to one which resembles the new
moon, with nose projecting, but forehead and chin retiring. This
Livingstone and Fosbenner illustrate — his forehead and chin
retiring, and nose projecting, while her forehead, chin, and
nose are on a line ; her retiectives and his perceptives predom-
inating; his Temperament motive, hers vital; he powerful, she
The New Moon Profile adapted to a Stbaight.
Fig. 575. — Dr. Livingstone, the African Explorer.
emotional ; he practical, she sentimental ; he patient, she cap-
tious. Yet he could live well with any woman, she with but
few men.
Two HAVING FINE SOFT HAIR AND SKIN are not as well adapted in
marriage as those having one the coarser, the other the finer; lest
their offspring should be too exquisitely organized for their
strength ; nor should two very coarse-haired, lest their children
CASES IN WHICH DISSIMILARITIES IMPROVE LOVE.
449
An Inferior Man anp a Superior Woman.
prove too coarse and animal ; yet those whose hair and skin are
average, may marry fine, or coarse, or medium.
Curls should not marry curls, — except those easily taken
off, — but should select those whose hair lies so close and smooth
:l^^ to fairly shine ; while wavy hair is adapted to either or
neither.
One like Minerva (Fig. 535) is best adapted to one like Liv-
ingstone or Caldwell, but not like Everett, or Bismarck, or
Young, or Scott ; yet is well adapted to one like Sherman, or
Farragut, or Lincoln, or Jackson ; but not Lee. Menken is mis-
erably adapted to fat, large, tall men, like Bismarck ; to whom
Emily Rigal is well adapted. It would never do for Una to
marry men like Scott, or Smith, or Cuvier; yet she is well
cidapted to Living-
stone, Dix, Jackson,
&c. Miss Gay and
Miss Short are well
adapted to tall,
prominent - featured
men like Lincoln,
Mrs. L. being just
this form. The
childless lover of
children is poorly
adapted to any one ;
while Bibbs is too
excitable, wild, hi-
larious, violent, and
tierce to live well
with any woman ; yet Mrs. B. can live well with any man, even
him, if he will let himself be toned down by her peculiarly win-
ning, amiable spirit. She is a magnificent woman. See how
enamouring her posture.*"
These cases ark instanced, among thousands of like ones, less
;^n their own account, than as illustrations of the law involved ;
which, once understood, becomes a guide in all other cases. Still,
none should be rejected because of some minor conditions, provided
the great outline characteristics are all right.
2U
Fio. 576. — Mr. and Mrs. Bibbs.
450 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
Section III.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE.
723. — When and why Similarity is required.
A RIGHT MENTAL adaptation is, however, as much more impor-
tant than a right physical, as the transmission of the mind is than
that of the body. Gender, too, inheres mainly in the mind.^
Then what laws govern mental affiliations ?
Those which govern physical. In their great outline they
must be substantially alike. Thus, a savage and a civilized do
not harmonize as well as two savages, or two who are civilized.
No instances of genuine affection obtain among all the marriages
of white men with squaws, or African, or Malay women, except
where the latter have been first civilized. Could a bigoted
heathen love a bigoted Christian ? The more either sets by their
religion, the less they would set by each other. Not only must a
Chinese marry a Chinese, a Turk a Turk, and a Christian a Chris-
tian, but those of the same Christian faith must marry those of
like tenets. Catholics naturally blend with Catholics, and Prot-
estants with Protestants, never with those of opposite faith.
That instance cannot be cited in which an extreme Catholic
lives happily with an extreme Protestant. Let all Catholics, all
Protestants, attest whether they are not instinctively drawn,
other things the same, to those of their own faith, but repelled
from those who differ from them. Each must attend their own
church, which initiates a religious divorce, and this breeds sepa-
ration on all other points ; besides each will persist that their
children shall be educated in their own faith, but not in that of
the other.
Protestants affiliate with their own sect the most rendily.
Presbyterians love Presbyterians, and Episcopalians attract and
are attracted to Episcopalians, Methodists to Methodists, Baptist?
to Baptists, and thus of Unitarians, Trinitarians, Arians, Noth-
ingarians, Universalists, Spiritualists, Deists, Atheists, &c. Lot
all who have ever loved, and are religious, attest whether similar
religious views did not become a bond of union, and dissimilar, of
antagonism.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 451
Conflicting beliefs can love each other when their sexual
attraction is sufficient to overcome religious differences; yet relig-
ious harmony increases, and differences diminish, their natural
assimilation. So great is this sexual attraction, that a savage
man and civilized woman can live happily together; yet how much
more cordially could savage live with savage, and one of his own
tribe, and civilized with civilized, and one of their own or like
mode of civilizatioi# Even those of different nationalities will
find their national differences a source of many more discords
than concords, and should marry only when Love is sufficiently
strong to overrule this national antagonism.
Political views are governed by this principle. If a violent
northerner, and as intense a southerner should marry, both must
lay aside, virtually surrender, turn Peter, and ignore their faith;
for the more it is discussed the more it antagonizes. Yet if they
will suborn politics to Love, they can live affectionately.
Lack of affection in both will render their marriage and off-
spring tame, even though both are talented and moral. At least
one should be affectionate, better if both are ; yet her lot is hard,
who, with warm, gushing affection, is repulsed when she ex-
presses it. She who dearly loves to be caressed and fondled,
should be;** and if she marries a cold, distant man, whose Love
is merely personal, she must expect to pine and starve, and dis-
pense, during maternity, with that sympathy and tenderness she
then so much needs and craves.^**
724. — When Mental Differences improve Love, and Youno.
Few are perfect, mentally and sentimentally : therefore most
require to offset their excesses and defects by marrying those
unlike themselves. They must be sufficiently alike, in the major-
ity of their great outline characteristics, to fuse their differences;
but since almost all have too much or little Caution, Kindness,
Selfishness, Taste, Justice, Ac, most need to marry those unlike
themselves, in one or more respects.
Evenly-balanced heads may marry cither those well or poorly
balanced, yet prefer those well balanced. Those who marry even,
may expect their children to be good, yet not remarkable ; those
who marry contrasts, may look for those of bolder outlines, who
462 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
will be noted for something special. Yet if these differences
are considerable, they produce miserably balanced children,^"
usually unfortunate and unhappy.
Strongly femininized men, who inherit after mother or grand-
mother, should marry strongly masculinized women, who take
chiefly after their fathers, so as to secure both the male and
female characteristics.^ Dependent and vine-like women are
always drawn most to positive, firm, wilful* authoritative men,
who love to command, and take the responsibility ; while strongly
femininized men need " strong-minded," forcible, women — those
related to the Amazons — to assume the responsibility, and spur
on to effort, like Miss Woman's Rights ; yet some of this class
require to marry men who are still firmer than themselves, and
forcible enough to create deference. A woman, to love a man
well, must look up to him with awe and respect ; yet all women
despise weak, vacillating men. I^o woman who has much
feminine intuition can possibly love a putty man.
Men who love to command, must be especially careful not to
marry imperious, women 's-rights women ; while those who will-
ingly " obey orders," need just such. Some men require a wife
who shall take their part ; yet all who do not need strong-willed
women, should be careful how they marry them. Unless you
love to be opposed, be careful not to marry one who often argues
and talks back ; for discussion before marriage becomes obstinacy
after.
A SENSIBLE woman should not marry an obstinate but inju-
dicious, unintelligent man ; because she cannot long endure to
see and help him blindly follow his poor, but spurn her good,
plans. Though such men need just such women to help lay out
their life-course, while such women could get on passably with
such husbands who heeded their suggestions ; yet such men plan
poorly, blindly follow their own wills, and authoritatively com-
pel their wives to help carry them out. Obstinate men must be
sensible, or else content with wives and children who are not.
If they could only realize that such women are just the very
ones they require, yet that they should always ask and heed their
advice, they would render their wives' position most agreeable
instead of painful, and every way most promotive of their
mutual happiness and success. How important a change would
be effected by this apparently trifling condition 1 Yet in most
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 453
like cases such men spoil sucli women. They are drawn together
at first because naturally adapted to each other ; yet their adapta-
tion is spoiled by denying her her natural place in their copart-
nership.
Two WHO PROPOSED marriage, applied to me to determine their
mutual adaptations, but received a discouraging answer, on the
ground that both were too firm and combative, while her Cau-
sality could submit to his authority only when sure that his
judgment was right. Yet they married. Years afterwards they
again consulted respecting the best means of obviating the very
evil i)reviously prophesied. She was sensible as well as wilful,
and could have been easily controlled by a husband who had a
strong mind as well as will, but not by one who had more will
with less judgment than herself.
A SUBMISSIVE BUT INTELLECTUAL woman may marry a man
whose will is stronger, even though his intellect is smaller, than
hers ; yet it is better for both if his intellect is still larger than
hers, so that she may repose in his superior judgment. Such a
woman feels inadequate to assume responsibilities or set herself
at work, and must have some guide. Naturally dependent, she
must lean, though even on a crooked stick. Fortunately, how-
ever, she can adapt herself to almost any man. Hence, if her
second husband should be totally diiferent from her first, and
third from either, she coulcl yet conform to each with equal ease;
and if Force is large, will work most efifectually and willingly
with and for him, however opposite their specialties ; besides
quietly adapting herself to extreme vicissitudes, by making the
best of what is. Such, especially if Love is large, make the very
best of wives, because efficient and sensible, yet affectionate and
conformable. And there are man}- such.
The reserved or secretive should marry the frank. A cunning
man cannot endure the least artifice in a wife. Those who are
non-committal must marry those who are demonstnitive ; else
however much they may love, neither will feel sure as to the
other's affections, and each will distrust the other, while their
children will be deceitful. Those who are fnuik and confiding
also need to be constantly forewarned by those who are suspicious.
A TIMID woman should never marry a hesitating man, lest, like
frightened children, each keep perpetually re-alarming the other
by imaginary fears ; nor yet a careless man, for he would commit
454 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACU OTHER.
just indiscretions enough to keep her in perpetual " fear and
trembling ; " but should marry one who is bold, yet judicious,
80 that her intellect, by reposing in his tried judgment, can feel
safe, and let her trust in him quiet her natural fearfulness.
A HOPELESS man should piarry a resolute, hopeful woman, who
is always telling how well things are going to turn out, and en-
couraging, and who has sufficient judgment to be allowed the
reins, lest the fears of both render him pusillanimous, and their
children cowards. Many men live tame lives, though abundantly
capable of accomplishing almost anything, because too irresolute
to once begin; whereas, with a judicious yet expectant wife to
prompt them to take initiatory steps, they would fill responsible
positions.
An industrious, thrifty, hard-working man should marry a
woman tolerably saving and industrious. As the " almighty dol-
lar" is now the great motor-wheel of humanity, and that to
which most husbands devote their entire lives, to delve alone is
uphill work. Much more if she indulges in extravagance. It is
doubly important, therefore, that both work together pecuniarily.
But if either has property enough to create in both a feeling of
contentment, large Acquisition in the other is less important ;
yet a difference here often engenders opposition elsewhere.
Good livers should marry — he to provide table luxuries, she
to serve them up, and both to enjoy them together. Indeed, a
good appetite in both can often be made to harmonize other dis-
cordant points, and promote concord.
Men large in Beauty should by no means marry women de-
ficient in it ; yet women in whom it is large may marry men in
whom it is only fair, provided other traits are favorable ; for a
man of taste can never endure a slattern, while a woman of taste
can bear with a man who is careless of appearances, and love him,
provided he has sufficient power and stamina of character to
eclipse this defect by his sterling characteristics; yet he must let
her " ^^ him up nicely."
A clergyman of commanding talents, superior eloquence, and
the highest moral worth, was publicly described as likely to marry
a woman of superior taste, refinement, personal neatness, beauty,
elegance of manners, poetry, and many other like expressions
denoting large Beauty; whereas she was the reverse ; but he lived
unhappily, and spent much of his time from home, because he
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 455
could not endure her coarseness and slatternly habits, and iiever
took her out He had married her money ,^ and was anything but
conjugally mated or happy ; so that the prediction was right in
principle. The rule was proved by the evils consequent on its
violation.
Animal Love excessive in both, prompts to that over-indul-
gence which breaks down the nervous systems of both,"^ and ren-
ders their children too impulsive, fiery, and animal ; whereas,
when one is passionate and the other passive, the former will
inspire passion in the latter, yet be toned down by the passive
one; while their children will unite the Platonic Love of the
latter with the impassioned of the former, and be better than
either; whereas, its deficiency in both renders progeny too tamely
constituted ever to enjoy or accomplish much. And yet such
absolutely must adapt themselves to each other in accordance
with directions in Part VI. Accordingly, passionate men always
take to Platonic women, who, again, love passionate men the best ;
for the more passive a woman is the more she requires, and there-
fore ci*aves, those incentives and inspirations furnished her by a
passionate man. The more amorous a man is the more he prizes
continence in woman, and the more jealous he is; while she is not
jealous. Only the passionate are jealous ; and they because they
"know by experience,'' and "judge others by themselves." Jeal-
ous persons cannot withstand much temptation. But Part VI.
will show how to harmonize passionate Love with Platonic.
The irritable, yet approbative, must by no means marry
those like themselves, lest the irritability of each, by blaming
the other, rouse mutual resentment. Yet if such are married,
both must be especially careful how they cast any reflections;
because the other party construes them to mean much more than
was intended. Probably more conjugal animosities originate in
this wounded Ambition than in any other Faculty."' Nothing
as effectually rouses and intensifies every existing antagonism.
Pride is a good thing, but must be respected and humored, at
least not upbraided, or mortified. Even if a man can gratify a
woman's love of style and display, he must not censure her in
private, unless he is willing to kindle her h^te, and spoil their
children.
Fault-pindino beaux and oiri^ during courtship, are sure to
scold intolerably after marriage. If your moderate Ambition can
456 WHO ARE, AKD ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
endure censure, marry ; but if not, take timely warning from
** straws." .One who is hard to please before marriage, will be
much harder after ; while one who patiently endures and forbears
during courtship, will be more so after marriage, if kept in a
Love mood ; and a beau who insists on having his way before
will be dogmatical if not domineering after ; and must marry a
meek, patient, accommodating woman.
This counterbalancing law also governs the intellectual Facul-
ties. If a man who has large perceptives with small reflectives,
marries a woman having large reflectives with small perceptives,
since both transmit what is strongest in themselves, their children
will inherit his large perceptives along with her large reflectives ;
thus possessing the perfections of both, unmarred by the imper-
fections of either. He can remember, but not think ; while she
can think, but not remember ; yet their children can both think
and remember. This likewise improves their copartnership. If
he, unable to plan, should marry one equally deficient in Causa-
tion, all their attempts must fail, because poorly devised ; where-
as prosperity now attends them, because her large Causality does
up the planning for both, and his perceptives the perceiving; so
that both prosper much better together than if alike, or either
separately. This is true of memory and judgment, of language
and sense, of poetry and philosophy, of each and all the intel-
lectual capacities ; so that these oti:settings can be made to inv
prove all marriages as well as offspring. To illustrate by
likenesses —
Adapted to Mr. Cram.
Adapted to Miss Square.
Fio. 677. — Governor Dix. Fig. 578. — Miss Square.
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 457
Governor Dix and Miss Square will affiliate, and their children
inherit his great perceptives, with her reflectives, and thus be
much better than if both were perceptive or reflective. For this
same reason Fosbenner is not adapted to Bonner, because both
Adapted to oke Tall, Prominemt-Featubsd, A2xd Quiet.
i}'^'
Robert Bonker.
I
have much the naino cast of forehead, and shape of heads, as well
as that impulsive Tem[)erament which would repel each other,
and render their offspring little pepper-and-salt spitfires, and
liable to sudden death. Yet he is adapted to Miss Straight, but
not to Miss Square, or Short, nor to Lucretia Mott; nor she to
Adams, but would to the Jew ; while Franklin would affiliate
with Lucy Long, Miss Straight, Helen Rigal, the Graces, A-c, but
not with Fosbenner, or Minerva, or Menken ; who in turn would
mate well with Dix, Livingstone, Sherman, Lincoln, or Granville
Mellen. And this same principle applies equally to the raora^
passional, affectional, and all the other human elements.
458 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
A Phrenologist, who had a high, long, and narrow head, with
predominant reflective and moral organs, with deficient perceptive
and selfish, married a woman large in, the perceptive and animal
region, yet no way remarkable for moral endowments. He knew
he lacked both energy and selfishness, yet judged that she pos-
sessed enough of both to make up for his want of them, and
selected her because so opposite to himself. She now takes his
part and that of their children, stoutly resists impositions, and
inspirits him to efl:brt, while their children inherit his excellence
and moral tone, along with her propelling powers, — their girls
taking the most after him, but boys after her, — thereby both
improving their matrimonial alliance, and counteracting his
extreme goodness and her selfishness, which must have resulted
from their marrying similarities. By cultivating her afifections
for him, he turns her combative arms for^ not against, him ;
whereas, but for Love, those organs would have been arrayed
against himself, and thus have converted her selfishness into
antagonism. Thus this same Phrenology which taught him whut
to select, also taught him how to manage after selection. There
must be sufiicient similarity to cement this Love, which, cher-
ished, can be made to harmonize almost any amount of other
differences. Hence, those excessively proud or vain, obstinate or
flexible, good or selfish, bold or timid, gloomy or visionary, judi-
cious or reckless, or anything else wrong or imperfect, have here
the perfect antidote for their own imperfections and those of
their prospective children, both delightful in its operation and
certain in its eflaciency. But, mark : the first cardinal condition
in all such cases is to establish^ and then to cherish affection ; other-
wise diversity will necessarily engender animosities.
Very large propensities must not marry. Patty Cannon's
mother was lewd and father a murderer, and she murdered vic-
tims by dozens, whom she attracted by her lewdness. Her sister
Betsey was about as bad, and son as bad as he could be ; for his
mother's vices dwarfed his intellect.
Unfavorable combinations deteriorate marriage and issue,
as much as favorable ones improve both. Thus, if one has pre-
dominant Secretion and the other excessive Acquisition, though
Conscience may suflace to keep both honest, yet their children,
inheriting the Secretion of the one sv^peradded to the Acquisition
of the other, may become thieves. Conscience could manage
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 459
either organ alone in the parents, but not both together in their
children. Hence, good parents sometimes produce bad children,
by combining two unfavorable qualities ; while bad parents some-
times produce good children, by uniting one excellent trait in one
with another predominate good quality in the other. Nature's
laws, like edged tools, are most useful when used right ; yet,
thoughtlessly handled, do irreparable damage. But an under-
standing of Phrenology renders this whole matter so clear, that
" a wayfaring man, though a fool, need not err therein."
All who do differ, mentally or physically, by education or
constitution, absolutely must not obtrude their differences upon
each other, but must suborn them to Love. If one possesses, and
the other lacks, taste, the tasty one must put up with the other's
want of it ; while the other must both cultivate it, and offend as
little as possible. If the wife loves to brush and " slick up " her
husband, he must be thankful that she is not like himself, and
conform to her tastes ; but at all events neither must try to con-
vince or argue with the other.
No ATTENTION has ever been paid to this vastly important sub-
ject. Only the Author has ever analyzed it; nor any other
applied it to marriage, and hereditary endowment. Where have
preachers and others been not to have seen and presented it ?
725. — Improving the Race by combining Excellences.
This general principle, modified by combining various talents
and excellences, in conjunction with the principle of improving
the Faculties by culture, can be employed illimitably to the
improvement of individuals and the very race itself. As the
Diana grape, a seedling of the Catawba, contains all the rich
flavor of the latter, and ripens two weeks earlier, and the Walter
grape, a seedling of the Diana and Delaware, embraces all the
excellences of aU four of its grandparents; as we unite speed,
bottom, draft, &c., in horses, by parental combinations, fine
fleece and carcass in sheep, and improve horned cattle by com-
bining the excellences of two superior breeds in their crossed
descendants; why not apply a like superadding law to human
improvement? Even the most sanguine can liave no adequate
idea of the extent to which this law can be applied to perfecting
humanity.. Yet we can present this subject best by quoting from
"Hereditary Descent:'*
460 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
"The confluence of this principle of illimitable improvement with
this law of the reincrease of organs by cultivation, constitutes Nature's top
stone of human hope, and divine wisdom and goodness. None of her pro-
visions are more promotive of human happiness than either separately.
Then how infinitely more are both in conjunction 1 Their united action
embodies her great deliverance of our race from its present low estate,
and grand instrumentality of placing it on its exalted principle of prospec-
tive perfection and happiness. A few examples.
" Longevity is both transmitted, and capable of being re-increased by
a rigid observance of the health-laws.'''^' " If two marry, each of whose
ancestors reached a hundred, an age often attained, they can both attain a
like age, and as their ancestors lived thus long in spite of numerous and
aggravated violations of the health-laws, their descendants, by obeying
these laws, can live to be a hundred and twenty as easily as their ancestors
a hundred ; besides imparting to their offspring sufficient constitution to
capacitate them also to live to reach a hundred and twenty, because of the
confluence of two long-lived parental conditions. If, then, these children
still further improve their original life-power, and also marry companions
equally long-lived, they can live to be a hundred and thirty as easily as
their parents a hundred and twenty, or grandparents a hundred; and
parent children capable of reaching a hundred and forty; because the
parental Pinion of those long-lived conditions renders their children still
longer lived. As, if children of the rich should intermarry only with
the wealthy, and then augment their patrimony by judicious efforts,
the riches of their descendants could be re-increased by every succeeding
generation, as in the Rothschilds ; so the marriage of the long-lived with
the long-lived will increase and re-increase the ages of every succeeding
generation ; while a rigid observance of the health-laws superadded, will
redouble this tenacity of life more and more every succeeding generation,
till the oldest now would be young compared with those who might be
made to inhabit our earth in future ages. Are we on doubtful ground ?
Does not the union of two long-lived parents produce offspring still longer
lived ? And cannot this longevity be still re-increased by obeying the
physical laws? Then what hinders mankind from redoubling his lon-
gevity? * What man has been, man can be.' * As the days of a tree shall
be the days of my people.' Who has set bounds to the improvement of
man ? Then why is not human longevity equally illimitable ? Since the
* child shall die a hundred years old,' pray how old must their aged men
and women be ? The seeds of all this, of * even greater things than these,'
are planted in the primitive constitution of humanity, and will yet bring
forth wonderfully, to the glory of God, and the infinite improvement and
happiness of His children !
•These principles apply equally to strengthening the muscles,
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 461
itomach, heart, lungs, and every other physical organ and function. All
physical excellences can be both retained, and re-combined and trans-
mitted with others, and our race perfected physically, as long as it con-
tinues, until the human physiology shall have become almost infinitely
perfect throughout. If a splendid-looking man should marry an exqui-
gitely beautiful woman, their children, still more beautiftil, can, by marry-
ing other types of beauty, endow their descendants again with both a higher
order and new combinations of beautiful elements, to be re-augmented,
generation after generation, till those most beautiful now will be homely
in comparison, and human vision regaled with almost angelic loveliness I
And thus of all other physical qualities.
" Intellectual and moral improvement is governed by this law ; for
each and all the mental Faculties and characteristics can be equally re-
improved inimitably by applying this combining law, already shown to
produce great men by combining physical stamina with intellectual
strength.*" Thus, Patrick Henry's oratorical genius was produced by
the confluence of three ancestral rivers of lingual and oratorical supe-
riority. Now, suppose he had married a daughter of Jonathan Edwards,
endowed with the transcendent metaphysical and moral capacities of both
lines of her illustrious parentage, the union of such gigantic powers of
intellect with such exalted moral sentiments, conjoined with the eloquence
of a Henry, must, in accordance with this hereditary law, have produced
an issue endowed with far greater and more diversified intellectual, moral,
and elocutionary gifts than any yet manifested by mortal man I Yet even
this would be only intellectual and moral mediocrity in comparison with
what the right and long-continued application of this law is capable of
producing !
" Franklin inherited his strong common sense and excellent physical
stamina from his father, along with superb mechanical and mathematical
srenius from his mother. Suppose, now, he had married one of those de-
dcendants of Henry and Edwards, would not their issue have retained and
re-increased all the gifts of all their ancestors, and produced specimens of
humanity more illustrious than mortals have ever yet beheld? Franklin's
transcendent genius was clogged by his inability to speak, and Henry's by
his inability to write ; but as children inherit the strongest functions of
both their parents, these descendants of all these illustrious lines would
have clothed richer thoughts and philosophies than Franklin's with
eloquence more transcendent than Henry's, and all sanctified by the pro-
portionally high order of the intellectual acumen and moral excellence of
liyiwards. How would such exalted beings instruct by their surpassing
wisdom, charm by their glowing eloquence, and almost transform by their
moral appeals !
" A LONO BERIE8 of well-assortcd intermarriages with others equally
462 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO EACH OTHER.
gifted in other directions, could be made to add one physical gift to an-
other, and all these to one intellectual capacity and moral excellence after
another ; each generation re-improving them all by self-cultivation, and all
observing that paramount law of well-balanced proportwn,''^^ * behold, 0
heavens ! and be astonished, O earth ! ' in view of the almost angelic gifte
and virtues of these veritable ' sons and daughters of the Lord Almighty '!
Behold our earth again the Garden of Eden, and man almost a race of
angels ! Yet even all this would be only the merest beginning of those
endowments of which humanity is capable, aiid which man will yet attain!
God did not create the race for nought. Physical contrivances thus wonder-
ful, and mental gifts thus God-like, will not always remain in their present
low estate, nor be marred by these moral deformities. God mercifully
* created man in His omi image and likeness,' and will not suffer this master-
work of His hands to remain forever trodden into its present * slough ' of
depravities. * He sJmll see of the travail of His soul, and be satisfied/
Thank God, this mighty hereditary fulcrum and self-cultivating lever will
raise it up out of the mire of corruption, and bear it aloft far above what
' eye hath yet seen, or ear heard, or it hath entered into the heart of man
to conceive.'
" These principles are not fables. Are not all well demonstrated
laws of Nature? Has a single point been left doubtful? Then is not
this perfecting result the legitimate and necessary product of these heredi-
tary laws? They are sure, even without this their special intellectual appli-
cation, to keep on improving the race. Having spontaneously produced
Bacons, Franklins, Websters, and a host of stars in the firmament of hu-
manity, will they stop here ? Even left to themselves they will, in the vast
future of the race, exceed our sanguine prognostications. But
" They will not be thus left. They are too apparent to lie unnoticed,
and too momentously important to be neglected. Our utilitarian age will
not suffer such rich mines of human happiness to remain long unworked.
If this generation does not apply these laws, the next will. In the next
decade, if not in this, matrimonial candidates will not thus blindly leap
in the dark; but will scrutinize well the ^aren^a^ and matrimonial excel-
lences and defects of every proposed companion. The traits of pros-
pective children — whether they will be naturally healthy or sickly, hand-
some or homely, talented or stupid, virtuous or vicious — can be predicated
with absolute certainty by like parental conditions, which can be fully seen
at a glance, and admeasured with tangibility and certainty. Knowledge
thus infinitely valuable will not long thus remain hidden under the bushel
of neglect. Shall principles already applied thus successfully to the im-
provement of stock long remain unapplied to that of man? Will he
long be content to improve children only by education, when a tithe of the
same effort employed in their hereditary endowment will yield intellectual
WHAT MENTAL TRAITS HARMONIZE AND ANTAGONIZE. 4G3
and moral harvests so infinitely greater ? "* Parents dearly love their off-
spring, and intensely desire their improvement; and this ruling passion will
soon compel them to learn and apply these laws of hereditary descent to
the production of as perfect specimens of humanity as possible, in order to
their perfection by education. The study of these hereditary laws is yef
to become the great study, and their application the great labor of man.
This 'day-star' of human promise is just rising above the mountains.
These momentous truths are just beginning, like distant thunder, to break
upon the human ear. Their voice will wax louder and louder till it rouses
and electrifies the race; for its interests q,tq paramount Then will a new
order of beings people our earth ! a race enfeebled by no defects, crippled
by no diseases, and corrupted by no vices ; but, instead, endowed with all
that is noble, great, and good in man, and virtuous, lovely, and perfect in
woman ! Then, but not till then, will the sun of millennium glory rise
and shine on humanity in all his morning beauty and noonday splendor.""*
726, — These seeming Self-Contradictions made Self-Consistent.
" You BEFOG us. You tell us similar qualities blend,^ and prove it by
analogies so plausible, facts so abundant, and appeals to consciousness so
effectual, as to produce complete conviction ; yet under the very next head,
argue the very converse, that opposites are best adapted both to marriage
and parentage,"* and prove it by precisely the same mode of reasoning.
How are we to harmonize this direct contradiction ? Especially, how can
we be guided by either, since it is refuted by the other ? Or, is there any
clear law, or set of well-defined conditions, one of which requires simi-
larity, and the other dissimilarity ? "
That principle of balance already stated,"^ answers, *' There
is," thus: " Wherein, and as far as you are what you ought to
be, marry one like yourself; but wherein and as far as you have
marked extremes, marry those wnlike yourself in these particulars."
And this answer is so perfectly applicable to both laws, and shows
just wherein and how far each separately and both together ai!i
be applied to your conjugal choice in order to the endowment of
offspring, as hardly to require argument, or even illustration. If
your children would be the better by having the more or the less
of this or that than you have, marry accordingly.
Reader, have we not shown wherein and wherefore both sinii
larities and differences are allowable and required in a happy
marriage ? Where before has it been expounded ?
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Section IV.
PHRENOLOGY SHOWS WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, MUTUALLY
ADAPTED.
727. — Self-Knowledge the First Step in a Right Choice.
Marriage has its first step ; and as in every journey no sulv
sequent one can be taken right without first taking this j?i8t
right, because all depends on this ; so starting out just right is of
paramount importance.
Self-Knowledge is this first step. What you require, depends
on what you yourself actually are ; yet, if you were diflerent, you
would require one different. Since those who have particular
characteristics attract and love each other, and since Phrenology
discloses these characteristics ; therefore it shows who naturally
affiliate with, and who mutually repel, each other. The inherent
reason why this one is, and that one is not, adapted to you, de-
pends on your own and the other's traits ; both of which this
science reveals.
This knowledge must be specific, not general, precise^ not sur-
mised. You require to know just what you are, and are not,
both hereditarily and practically. Like the base line of a survey,
this know^ledge must be exact^ because from this you are to work,
And to this adapt and adjust your conjugal choice. Knowledge
is the most valuable of all human acquisitions, and 5e{/-knowledge
the most valuable form of knowledge ; because it contributes in
so many ways to one's happiness and self-improvement. Yet
none of its applications are more practically useful than in
making a right conjugal selection. Men can learn themselves only
in and by their phrenologies. All are poorer judges of them-
selves than others are of them. The conceited are the last to
learn that they are conceited ; while the humble are the last to
know that they are humble ; and thus of all other traits. Well
does Burns exclaim, —
"O wad some power the giftie gie us,
To see oursels as itliers see us."
This identical " power " Phrenology imparts. It tells by
admeasurement, and scientifically, just how much or little, of
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Benevolence, justice, affection, (fee, you have; and thereby what
traits you require in a conjugal partner to meet your specific re-
quirements. Dollars cannot measure the practical value of such
self-knowledge. However much it is worth to a young person
before starting out in life to know in just what life-pursuit he
can and cannot succeed, thereby preventing a life-failure ; yet
its telling you who is, and is not, naturally adapted to your con-
jugal companionship, is far more so. One can w^ell afford to
labor ten years for such a guarantee; yet this science gives it
with infallible accuracy. As by weighing and measuring wheat
you know that you have just so mucji but no more ; so Phrenology
applies the same standard of quantity to each organ ; thereby
rendering your self-knowledge tangible and certain.
728. — Phrenology tells when you have pound Congeniality.
By a like admeasurement, it proffers a like absolute knowl-
edge of the primitive Faculties of this and that matrimonial
candidate; thereby telling you not only just what you are, and
therefore require, but also when you have found those qualities
needed to harmonize with your own ; and when not. It enables
you to figure out this whole problem with the same absolute pre-
cision with which, having the conditions of an equation, you can
decipher its results, and know^ not suppose, that your " answer "
is the veritable one sought, and no other. Then is not this
knowledge, and therefore science, the greatest God-send to every
matrimonial prospective ? It both tells John just what traits he
requires, and that Julia has them, but that Nancy has not ; besides
telling Julia what she needs in a husband, and that John is
adapted to her, while James is not ; and Nancy, that James is
adapted to her, but John is not — thus guiding each to the one
required, but warning against all others. Then
All are morally bound to bb guided by it. Nature requires
you to marry the right one,*** and has ordained phrenological
science as your sure guide: tlierefore it is your highest self-
interest to avail yourselves of all her aids in making this event-
ful selection; else you perpetrate a great sin of omission. Your
own self-improvement,*** your duty to that man or woman to
whom Nature has adapted you,** your paramount duty to endow
your posterity,*''** each and all command you to guide your
choice by the best lights at your command; and therefore by
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Phrenology. This is not optional, but obligatory . God ordained
♦.his science to be used^ not ignored ; and commands its use.
" But I KNOW little of it, cannot postpone my marriage till I can
learn it, and have not the time to spend, and perhaps not the required
capacity."
Consult its Practitioners. As you consult a lawyer on law, a
physician on physic, why not a phrenologist on your" marital
adaptation ? You need this kind of knowledge. By it you can
secure a vast amount of happiness, and avoid an equal amount
of misery. He can supply that need. Why not get it from
liim ? What question is more proper or important than " What
qualities should I seek in a coi\jugal partner?" because no in-
formation could be turned to equal practical account. We esteem
other kinds of useful knowledge much, why not this more ? It
may save you a life of misery, and confer on you one of happiness ;
besides highly endowing your children ; instead of cursing them
with bad proclivities.'^^ And do not women need to ask such
questions most, because their happiness is most entwined with
husband and children ? *^*
These questions are asked, everywhere, in serious earnest, by
the most intelligent and moral. One of the first merchants of
the largest city of the West, said,
" I WISH to bring a lady, to have you point out just wherein we are,
and are not, adapted to each other in marriage ; and request you to em-
ploy all your professional ability in rendering your verdict."
Many incongruities were pointed out, one of which was abso-
lutely fatal. The ordeal was most trying to both, but disclosed
a point of absolute incompatibility, which they had seen dimly
before, but now saw fully ; and both were most grateful for thia^
knowledge, because it saved them as from a precipice they were
about to leap. If they had applied earlier, the intense suffering
both experienced from the interruption of their Love, would
have been avoided. An eminently gifted clergyman said,
" I WANT your help in selecting a wife. As I would say to a lawyer,
*Is the deed of that property good? I put you on your profession ; * so
tell me scientifically whether the woman with whom I shall visit you tO'
morrow is adapted to me in marriage."
Full written descriptions of their general characters, and
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specific adaptations and incongenialities, were furnished ; after
which their marital adaptations were predicted thus: "You, sir,
being thus in this respect, require a wife who is thus and so.
This woman is thus, and therefore adapted to you in this respect;
but in that respect, you being thus and so, require one thus and
so ; which this woman is not, and therefore not adapted." By
this written out opinion, I am ready to stand or fall. I have
predicted in many thousands of like cases, and am willing that
all should rise up to confirm or condemn this selecting by
Phrenology.
An engaged couple in Providence consulting me as to their
mutual fitness, were told that they would find discord here, there,
almost everywhere ; and hence were not adapted. The girl, fear-
ing lest she might not have another oflTer, for which I could not
blame her, refused to relinquish her claim, which he cancelled by
marrying her. At my next visit they had been divorced! If
tliey had followed my advice, he would have saved his lawyer's
fee, and she stood a much better chance.
"Examining each other's Phrenology is so obviously indelicate
that no genteel person would ever adopt or allow it."
She who is too delicate to learn the characteristics of her
profjoser, is quite welcome to the consequences of her gentility ;
but all whose sense predominates, will take pains to learn them.
What greater indelicacy in inquiring of his Phrenology than
acquaintances? All seeming ridiculousness grows out of no
inherent impropriety, but only out of the errors of courtship, soon
to be shown. They arc now only selecting^ not loving.*' Then is
it not proper that they know each other's traits thoroughly?
If not, nothing is proper. Then why any more impropriety iu
ascertaining them by their Phrenologies than by their physiog-
nomies, manners, conversation, or anything else? Surely they
must canvass each other's traits thoroughly, as the only means of
judging whether and wherein they are adapted to each other.
This necessary information they can obtain from Phrenology,
but from no other source. All else is hypothetical ; this alone is
certain. How can a man choose any woman intelligibly without
first kmoirivg, not guesfiing, how much or little Order she poe-
scsses? or know from observation, since being courted makes her
more tidy than before?"' yet her Phrenology tells him with cer-
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taint J ; and thus of her other qualities. He is entitled to this
knowledge : then what objection to this mode of obtaining it !
He should not be left to guess from what he sees, because she
may practise deception, or, being in a Love mood, be more orderly
just then than by nature.^*^ He requires that captain knowledge
which her Phrenology gives him. He can judge of some things
tolerably well from their manifestations — whether she can make
good bread, use needle and scissors, nurse the sick, loves religion,
&c., but sees her too little to judge with sufficient accuracy for
his purpose. Her Phrenology answers all like questions reliably,
la it not right that she inform him by word or deed? Then why
not by her Phrenology ? This knowledge is the main thing. How
he obtains it is of little account, so that it is reliable.
One girl seems extravagant, because brought up in luxury,
yet may be economical, because she inherited full Acquisition
from a business father, but has had no incentive to its action ;
while another, brought up by a parsimonious mother, may seem
saving because drilled, though naturally extravagant from small
Acquisition, derived from an improvident father; and is sure to
be the more wasteful on account of her parsimonious training.
Yet their Phrenologies show that the former is constitutionally
saving, the latter improvident.
A TRULY RELIGIOUS girl, desiring to marry one in religious
sympathy, has two proposals ; one from a church member, who
has been driven to and from church and Sabbath-school like cattle
to water, yet has little devotion, being a Sunday-meeting autom-
aton ; while another rarely goes to church, yet is naturally
devout. I^ow the life and conversation of both mislead her,
while their Phrenologies tell the natural devotion of both. Then
is it so very " indelicate " for her to learn, in this way, just how
much of this religious sentiment each actually possesses?
" The WORLD always has got on well enough as to marriage without
Phrenology. Then why not do as well hereafter? "
How *' got on " ? Let the multitudes of matrimonial malcon-
tents attest what wretched work men have made ! The way the
world has hitherto " got on " proclaims its need of some better
mode. Here is just that right mode of which it stands in perish-
ing need. It got on, too, without printing, or steam, or tele-
graph, or railroad; yet how much better with? Then why cor>-
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tinue to go on without this science, when it can be made as
available in this department as they in theirs ? This is old-fogy
ism with a vengeance.
** I 'lx. RISK MYSELF. Nons Can take me in."
Many others, quite as shrewd, smart, and intelligent as youi^
gelf, have thought so before you, yet been deceived. If you do
not see and feel the practical value and importance of this kind
of knowledge, but choose to go on in the darkness of ignorance
instead of the light of science, rush on, stumble on like them,
live and die like them, and become a beacon to others. " Let him
alone."
729. — A Matrimonial Intelligence Office.
" I WOULD marry to-morrow if I could find one adapted to myself;
but prefer celibacy to a uuion with any one of the few I know."
A JUDICIOUSLY CONDUCTED MATRIMONIAL INTELLIGENCE office
would fill precisely the same want in the affectional world,
which stores, advertisements, markets, bazaars, &c., do in the
commercial. As, when farmers have produce to sell, and citizens
to buy, they institute a mart where both can meet and accommo-
date each other; so why not those who need conjugal partners
pursue some similar course in ascertaining and supplying each
others requisitions? This plan has not one single inherent objec-
tion, and could be made promotive only of good. How many
now stand in 'perishing need of some such institution? It could
at least facilitate introductions, and impart preliminary informa-
tion. Let \\q following conversation be its own logician. As I
broached this idea in a stage in 1836, only to* be ridiculed, an
elderly Quaker summed up thus :
"This is precisely what I need. I have seven daughters. Able
and willing, I gave them an education far above that of the young men of
our village, whom fear lest their deficient education might cause theii
rejection, has kept aloof, till every daughter has grown up uncourted, save
one, who accepted a proffer from a city coxcomb, and has been misorablo
ever since. They remaia on my hands for life, Bufroring for want of com-
panionship, while there are unmarried men in abundance just adapted to
make them the best of husbands, and they the best of wives, if they ha<i
been once introduced. Now such an institution, conducted with intelli-
gence and truth, and every way reliable, would have enabled me, by con-
•ulting its records, to have introduced my daughters to one and another,
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till just the right one for each was found, and these daughters, instead
of being doomed to die old maids, would have been happy as wives and
mothers, and made others happy, and blessed the world with families of
children."
Their respective Phrenologies must, of course, be taken into
account ; and the Fowlers ov^e it to the public and their own
position to lead or second some such movement. The progressive
spirit of the age will not long allow a human want thus pressing
to go unsupplied. All required to secure patronage is to propound
a judicious plan ; and its patrons could afford to pay well to be
thus enabled to select a better matrimonial partner than is other-
wise possible. Yet this need hinder no other modes of search.
Would not a young woman promote her own happiness more by
investing less in dry goods just to get lovers, and more in such
an institution ? But till one is established
Comparing the likenesses of two or more is a good substitute.
Obtaining one's own phrenological character shows what is re-
quired in a matrimonial partner, and photographs of this one and
that show fully whether or not two are adapted temperamentally,
along with their general phrenological adaptations.
I NEVER examine ANY PERSON, not even a child, professionally,
without describing the one to whom they are adapted in mar-
riage, and telling them whom they must not marry ; besides
writing it down for perpetual reference, whenever I write out the
character. Or a man, after being told, " You should marry one
thus and so, but not thus and so," shows one or more photo-
graphs of his lady acquaintances, asking, " How fai; and wherein
is this lady adapted to me or not suitable ? " or, " is this one
better? " And I always tell him which ; and why which. And
this why is more important than which ; because it gives the laws
which govern his specific adaptations. Or
A LADY, after receiving her description, being told whom to
marry and whom not, draws a likeness, inquiring, " How will
this one do for me ? " " Which of all these is the best suited ? "
and I tell her plainly, without fear or favor. Or a mother makes
a like inquiry respecting the marriage adaptation of her daughter
thus. One of the richest F. F. mothers in Wilmington, Del.,
brought her daughter for a phrenological examination, saying,
" This girl is our idol. A fortune awaits her. Whether she is happy
PHRENOLOGY SHOWS WHO ARE, AND ABE NOT, ADAPTED. 471
in herself, or her parents in her, depends mainly on whether she is happily
married. Please use all the science at your command in determining with
what kind of a man she is best adapted to live happily. Describe, in de-
tail, physically and mentally, the one she should marry."
After a minute predication of prerequisites had been reduces!
to writing, she showed several photographs, asking wherein and
wherefore each was and was not adapted? which, all things con
sidered, was the most available ? and the one was selected whom
the girl liked the best. Did not this mother pursue a truly
motherly and sensible course?
Men and women by thousands pursue one similar. Phrenology
certainly can predicate natural affinities and repulsions before and
after marriage with detailed certainty ; and those are foolish who
ignore its selecting aid. Though a phrenological examination at
least of one is desirable, and of both better, yet where these
cannot be had, a correct, if not as complete a predication can be
made from the photographs of two, taken from a profile of each ;
yet a three-quarter likeness of each will do. The fact is
All male and female attractions and repulsions are governed
by natural laws as fixed and well defined as those of gravity.
These are mutually attracted and those repelled because of their
respective mental specialties;^^ those being mutually drawn to-
gether who can parent good children together; but those repel-
ling each other whose mutual offspring would be poor."' Their
respective Phrenologies reveal their attracting and repelling men-
talities. I understand Phrenology, and can therefore predicate
before or after experimental trial, with infallible accuracy,
whether, wherein, and wherefore any two will attract or repel
each other. I can describe any and every one's " beau ideal ** to
the life and the dot — tell the color of their eyes and hair; their
height, weight, size, build, &c. ; their shaped head and individual
traits of character, just as correctly as if they were before me.
If you have married for money, station, or any motive other than
a genuine mutual attraction, I cannot describe your husband or
wife; but if you are courting or married to one naturally con-
genial to you, I can describe her or him physically, mentally, and
momlly to an iota. And wherein ho or she is not as I describe,
therein you find repulsion, or at least want of satisfaction.
Lawykr Popplkton, on being publicly dcBcribed, among (»tlier
things as splendidly sexed, and therefore likely instinctively to
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choose one thus and so, but not thus and so, looking up, in-
quired
" You ASTOUND me. Have you ever seen Mrs. Poppleton ?"
" No, sir ; nor have I ever heard one word about her."
•* How CAN YOU DESCRIBE, then, with such absolutely perfect accuracy,
her stature, complexion, peculiar traits of character, and everything else
thus minutely ? "
" Your Phrenology, sir, reveals your own traits of character, which
would naturally attract and be attracted by just such qualities as I have
described in her ; and your strong masculine relish, so to speak, would
affiliate with and select only such a woman for a wife, and then live hap-
pily with her."
" We do indeed live most happily together, but I can't yet see how
you get all this minuticd thus perfectly."
My consulting aid, in making selections, and indeed in all
other cases, can always be had op terras stated in my fly-leaf
advertisement, by addressing me. Box 1501, Boston, Mass. Man
does not, cannot give knowledge to his fellows as practically pro-
motive of human weal, or preventive of individual woes, as this.
730. — Intuition, OR "the Light within," the Final Umpire.
"There is an inspiration in man, and the breath of the Almighty is in him." — Job.
" You TANGLE MORE AND MORE as you procccd. You first make us
tremble in view of the influence Love necessarily wields over us,*** and
frighten us with the direst penalties if we neither love nor marry ;^ then
show how infinitely eventful for good a right, and for bad a wrong, mar-
riage;*®''*^ and crown all by demonstrating how exceedingly important
that we choose one exactly adapted to ourselves, and how many conditions
make up that adaptation ; ^'^'^ and cap this climax by culling in Phre-
nology and ita rules, with which few are familiar.'^ "* All this seems true,
but is enough to intimidate all but the reckless from even attempting so
difficult a task as a right selection. Pray, is there any swre, yet simpky
guide, neither elaborate nor doubtful, by which the illiterate and learned,
even * the wayfaring man, though a fool,' may be conducted to a right con-
jugal choice?"
Intuition answers "Yes." Instinct equally expresses it. All
instincts harmonize with the wants they were created to subserve.
As we instinctively crave food when we need it, and the partic-
ular kind then required,^^ and thus of sleep, &c. ; so every one car^
ries with him an intuitional standard of what is, and is not,
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adapted to conjugal companionship. The Quakers call this "the
light within," which they make the corner-stone of their relig-
ious faith, and their specific guide in this, and all other matters.
This great natural principle governs all men, even all animals
and vegetables. Spirituality is its phrenological base.^'* Though
reason is man's governing Faculty, yet he is often required to
choose in cases where the data requisite for its correct decision
has not yet transpired. He must " leap in the dark," unless
guided by this premonition, this " feeling it in the bones," this
"intuitive presentiment," or "waking clairvoyance;" which
becomes a guide more or less perceptible and reliable in propor-
tion as Spirituality is the larger, and the Temperament the more
fine-grained and mental ; both of which usually accompany each
other. Ignore this guide, you who will, by calling it too visionary
to be relied on in deciding matters thus eventful, but it consti-
tutes one of Nature's guides to her children, with which none
can aftbrJ to dispense. Having applied all your other Faculties
to their fullest extent, and all her other catechizing guides respect-
ing both general qualifications and special adaptations, and per-
haps found several who are eligible, you now wish to select the
very best one of all for yourself; retire within your own soul,
throw yourself into a musing, meditative mood, and consult this
interior oracle. As Habakkuk used means to induce the pro-
phetic spirit ; so you can and should induce a like mood in refer-
ence to whom you should marry. -Consult this interior guide for
. days and months. Ask yourself how this one or that, considered
absolutely and relatively, strikes on this inner sense, this deepest,
most interior recess of your soul ? How do you feel in view of
this marriage and that? Which seems the most desirable?
Wlien your mind is previously occu[)ied, and instantly recurs to
this one or that, which involuntarily strike you in the most pleas-
ing, inviting aspect? Or comes there along with either a repul-
sion, a cold shiver, as if you were about to take some fatal step?
Of several proposed candidates, which suddenly strikes this inner
sense as jmt the very one for you ? Above all, whenever you find
yourself musing over this or that proposed marriage, if you expe-
rience a certain indefinable shrinking therefrom, or
Ip a " COLD shudder'* comcs over you, as you contemplate it, as
if some guardian-spirit whispered, "No, there is death in that
pot," on no account consummate it. You will find salvation in
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heeding this premonitory warning; but destruction in disobeying
it. No matter bow apparently plausible everything seems, as if
all were just right, if the proposed party comes well recom-
mended, is wealthy, handsome, and much besides, yet if you
experience this internal repulsion, your marriage will prove dis-
astrous. Say, you who are uncongenial, whether you can not
even now remember this interior aversion, as if your soul sick-
ened at the thought, as if preparing for a funeral, or as if some
calamity impended? Perhaps it did not then fully arrest your
attention ; yet did it not make itself felt on your interior con-
sciousness, so that even till now you recollect its aversion to your
marriage more distinctly than any other event ? Say further, you
who married in spite thereof, whether you have not ever since
regretted that fatal day? Those who are miserably married can
almost always recall such premonitory forewarnings. Some feel
as if a dark cloud hung over their future; or as if they walked
on the verge of a precipice; or, when preparing for the marriage,
as if they were making preparations for something dreadful, in-
stead of desirable; or were startled in their sleep as if some awful
consequences impended ; or were about to sign their death-warrant ;
or lost, spellbound, and almost unconscious of where they were,
or what they were doing; or obliged to submit themselves to
some dreadful fate ; but all recognize this premonition in some
form, and to a greater or less degree. Those who thus " feel it
in their bones," but ignore this feeling, will have aching "bones"
the balance of their lives. But all happily marwed
Felt involuntarily drawn to this particular person. Attest,
did you not contemplate this marriage with a certain poetic
reverie, as if it seemed delightful ? Not with a wild, false ex-
citement, but with a calmness, along with involuntary attraction
thereto, as though it exactly met your specific wants, and har-
monized with your consciousness ; and was " precious, and every
way desirable." When a proposed marriage .seem/ thus, it is thus,
though circumstances make against it. If the one towards whom
you feel thus " impressed " is poor, if outside opposition inter-
poses, or if even quite serious intellectual objections exist, they
will generally be found, after all, only men of straw, which should
not be heeded. Such marriages are Nature's behests, and on no
account to be ignored. But,
This feeling must be mutual in order to be genuine. When
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Nature does thus assent, she attests her sanction by impressing
these delightful whisperings on the interior auditions of both.
One alone does not suffice. " It requires two to make this bar-
gain." Love must be mutual.**** *" Any sentiment not mutual
is not genuine Love. Both, or neither.
When sdch mutual inclination is instinctively felt by each
towards the other, neither should allow parental authority, nor
outside opposition, nor circumstances however untoward, nor
anything whatever, to prevent their marriage. If you cannot
marry to-day, bide your time ; but make your vows and wait till
time and circumstances bring you together ; and, if necessary,
bend circumstances.
Let nothing prevent. Strain every consummating effort
Ignoring or neglecting this light will prove fatal.
" You SAY PURE intellect and reason shall determine this point, and
give us, seemingly, excellent rules of selection, but practically ignore them
all by subjecting all other conditions to this one indefinite mythological
feeling, which often proves contrary to reason, yet which you make the
final arbiter."
Spiritual guidancb acts with reason, generally, never contrary
to it. Reason, intellect, judgment, all the Faculties, along with
all the directions already given, should be brought into full ac-
tion beforehand ; say all they have to say, with all their objec-
tions duly considered ; yet, after consulting all, and reasoning on
all, let this instinct or inner sense sum up all, instead of over-
ruling either: for it is based in the expressions and wants of all,
and never sanctions two. It may say yes to both, but loudest to
the best. Yet when everything makes against a proposed mar-
riage, pause, or else abandon.
Socrates was executed for preaching this same doctrine, that
a good spirit attends us to guide and instruct Wc do not now
enter into the philosophy which underlies this internal guiding,
only present its results. It consists in an inherent Faculty of
the mind;"* obtains most in those most highly endowed ; and is
applicable to all our other decisions; yet most to marriage. li
confers that instinctive perception of truth which is inherent in
mind, and assures all who read or hear it in an unbiased state,
that this is true, and that false. Yet it must not be confounded
with those morbid feelings consequent on disease or nervousness,
which, Jeremiah-like, " prophesy only evil continually."
476 WHO ARE, AND ARE NOT, ADAPTED TO BACH OTHER.
Thus much of Selection. Say, you who have made a good or
a poor choice, whether these directions are, or are not, worthy
of becoming mating landmarks for the young. What one but is
intrinsically adapted to promote the conjugal happiness of all
who follow it? Are none of you sulFering under the conse-
quences of their ignorant violation ? Does not its first chapter
tell you how to start out just right upon this greatest work of
life — getting up a family? besides virtually telling all what
conjugal attributes should be cultivated by those who would Jit
themselves for becoming ^ood husbands and wives, by telling
those in search of a companion what traits to select, and what to
reject ? ,
Where else are the governing laws of male and female
attraction and repulsion stated ? Wliere, before, throughout all
human history and science, have the underlying principles which
Govern and produce perfect offspring ever been propounded ?
Look at their sense. Test them by facts. They are infallible.
What are they worth to all who desire either a happy mar-
riage, or magnificent children ?
They are perfect, both as a whole and in detail. And the
more they are scanned and tested, the more their superlative
excellences and value will manifest themselves in perfect
families.
COURTSHIP.
CHAPTER I.
ITS FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Section L
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS.
731. — Courtship has its Science.
Natural laws govern all Nature, and reduce all they govern
to eternal right. Therefore Love, by being one of her depart-
ments, is reduced by its governing laws to the same scientific
'rules to which mathematical and all other natural laws reduce
whatsoever appertains to either.
Court scientifically then, all ye who court at all. Bungle
whatever else you will, but do not dare bungle courtship ; because
its right management will conduct all to that happiest issue of
life, a happy marriage; whilst its wrong is commensurately dis-
astrous. Its august mission is to establish between two that
eternal affiliation which will ever constitute them ''one flesh;"
cement each other's affections past all possibility of future rup-
ture; and render them one in object, doctrine, feeling, spirit,
everything.
Its bbqinninq is equally regulated by these laws ; so that all
the power wielded by Love over man barely admeasures the bless-
ings conferred by its right initiation, and the miseries inflicted
by its wrong. Indeed, its first stage is by far its most eventful,
for good and evil. When begun and conducted just right it
waxes better and better; but worse and worse when started
wrongly. So
Commence by rule, and learn how beforehand. To teach a right
l>eginning, and forewarn against a wrong, is the specific object of
this Part. As
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478 COURTSHfP's FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Tearing down an old rookery is often the first step in erecting
a magnificent villa, with all its appurtenances ; so before showing
how courtship should be conducted, we must expose its existing
errors. Upsetting Anglo-Saxon courting customs is a " labor of
love " as great as man can well do for man. Young folks, this
subject concerns you as much as does a happy marriage.^'-'^
Parents, you have a stake in this matter equal to all your
interests in your dear children's marital well-being.
732. — Wrong Courtships spoil most Marriages.
Some fundamental errors alone could blight the great ma-
jority of marriages as now. No minor superficial causes could
effect results thus terribly fatal. Only a very wrong beginning
very wrongly continued could even prevent all marriages from
being superlatively happy ; much less mar most of them, and
render even the majority of them wretched.^^ So great is the
power of Love to unite two of even opposite Temperaments, fuse
those naturally uncongenial, amalgamate those actually repellant,
and harmonize even civilized with savage, ^^ that only some mon-
ster wrong in its very beginning could eventuate thus disas-
trously to^the great proportion of matches. That a wrong selec-
tion is not this cause, is proved by the law already established,
that Love is both self-perpetuating, and self-augmenting;^ that ail
who once begin, naturally love more and better the longer they
live in Love. The number of divorces applied for by Anglo-
Saxons, despite their great unpopularity, even disgrace, children,
and all other ties and obstacles,^^^ proves that our marriages are
far the more unhappy than those of the bulk of mankind ; whereas
they should be as much the happiest as we are the most enlight-
ened.
Love miseries outside of marriage at least equal, probably sur-
pass, those within it. Ye celibates attest how inexpressibly you
have suffered in your affections. What miserable days I How
many agonizing nights! because made thus wretched through
Love disappointed, and this through errors in love-making ; but
for which you would have kept your sweetheart, and been as
happy as you have now been miserable.
Commensurate causes have effected all these losses of enjoy-
ment, and inflicted all these penalties. Then
What are our marital canker-worms? What wolves and
AVGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 479
tjgers perpetrate all this dreadful havoc? What love-making
ordinances, violated, inflict all th6se untold yet ever variegated
pangs on wretched millions, in wedlock and out?
All civilization is concerned in the answer, as much more
than in "the laws of tnide," as a fortunate marriage makes
happier than, fortunate speculations. First and foremost,
738. — Flirting; CJourting "just for Fun;" Coquetry.
TiiEY ARE UNIVERSAL, almost. Who ftan say I never made
Love, and bad none made to me, except to and by the one I mar-
ried? What means all this street gadding after dark, so com-
mon in i'jctory and other towns, but to see, be seen by, and flirt
with, tbrf "fellars"and "gals." "Big school boys and girls,"
answer: — Don't you cast sheep's eyes back and forth, and spend
more time in enamoring each other than in study? in loving
than mental culture? and give more soul to cultivating the more
sensuous aspect of Amativeness than to mental discipline ? Even
Sabbath-school and Bible-class scholars, don't you coquette back
and forth with much more thrilling interest than you study " the
Word of God " ? and your own soul's salvation ? Teachers, con-
fess whether you do not reciprocate much more Love with
scholars and each other than you would acknowledge, perhaps
yourselves realize? Or if not, my eyes badly deceive me. •
Church attendants, go ye not " to meeting " more to oggle
than pray, flirt than adore, worship Venus than Christ, go home
with a girl, or be going home with by "a fellar," than to
"Love the Lord"? Ladies, what induces you to dress thus
voluptuously, behave so fascinatingly, and comport yourselves
thus stylishly ? " To win the beaux, admire and be admired by
them," is your practical answer in most that you say and do there.
You do not " primp up " and " pretty oft'" thus for naught. Only
some great motive could inspire and prompt all this ; and that
this is Love, Ib attested in all your ways and actions. Come,
" own up," at least to yourselves.
Parties, balls, &c., are obviously and avowedly "got up,"
loved, and conducted to make conquests, " cut out " each otiier.
eiiamor and be enamored. I saw a Kentucky maiden rendered
just as furious, mad is too tame a word, as she could live, becaaae
another girl at a superb party had drawn oflf her escort. "8a.
ciety girls " proclaim in all their winning actions, their entire
480 COURTSHIP*8 FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Spirit and make-up, tliat captivating and being captivated en-
gross their whole souls, and inspire them throughout.
All coquettes equally illustrate our subject of " making Love
merely for the fun in the thing ; " as well as all encouragements
without a marriage purpose. '' I never am, intend never to be, not
if I can help it, without some fellow to keep company with,"
said a maiden of thirty.
Coxcombs, what are you after in all your compliments and gal-
lantries? Girls' heartH is the answer returned in all you say and
do. A dozen maids and widows consulted me as to their marriage
adaptation with the same man, a most desirable "catch," who
was courting and fooling them all, and doubtless other dozens
besides, with marital encouragements.
Nine per cent, of all who court do so chiefly to " have and
give a good time " with their virtual paramour, under pretence
of courting.
Broken hearts by millions were broken only by the flirtations
of their arch deceivers.
Many kindred illustrations of this almost universal flirtation
in civilized communities exist. It seems to be so inwrought into
the very frame-work of civic customs as to need no more, hardly
this much, amplification.
734. — Trifling with another's Affections, most "Wicked.
Inflicting pain is diabolical, except in doing good. All
mankind have justly cursed Nero's cruelty, the " Inquisition,"
&c. All wanton tortures of man by man are heinous in propor-
tion to their severity. Yet
Men who torture women cap the climax of human depravity.
Worst of all, how fiendish for young men to elicit only to blight
the afiections of young women I Attest, all ye who have suffered,
thus, what other life-misery was equally protracted or agonizing?
Women suft'er more than men ; and girls most of all. How fear-
iul the eftects of aft'ectional blight ! Only those who have suft'ered
thus can begin to realize how awful. And even they barely begin.
Yet you, flirting culprit, inflict all this on a fellow-being, a child
of our common Father. Men should promote the happiness, not
cause the misery even of beast, much more of man, most of all
of females. Let savage Indians torture captives to death by slow,
agonizing inches, but shall civilized men inflict years of mental
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 481
wretchedness on a woman till she becomes a mere wreck, in mind
and body ? Torturing the opposite sex is double-distilled bar-
barity. Yet
Young men agonizing young ladies thus, is cruelty the most
cold-blooded and desperate men or devils can perpetrate. And
that after you yourself, by proffering your own affections, solicited
hers in return. Even if she made the first advances, and you
tacitly assented, how cruel ! But since " society " allows her
only to accept men's proft'ers, for you then to select your confiding
victim, as the owl his sleeping bird, and prey on her ^ow^vitaLs
is a crime unequalled, except by her seduction. What intensity
of Divine wrath, here and hereafter, can duly punish so great a
sinner for so great a sin 1
Nature devises and executes adequate punishment. Leave that
to her. " The soul that sinneth, it shall surely die " a death com-
mensurate with the sin ; for God is infinitely just. He punishes
partly by that terrible tormentor, memory. Though no human
eye saw that murder, yet its very doing struck such terror into
the murderer's soul that, go where, do what he may, by night and
day, waking and sleeping, that awful vision haunts and horrifies
him perpetually. Calling out and blighting the affections of a
confiding woman, brands Cain's mark right into your own inner-
most soul. Her memory haunts you continually. You cannot
help recalling her sweet, happy looks as she drank in your expres-
sions of Love, her melting eyes and glowing cheeks, her tender,
thrilling love-tones while accepting and returning your caresses.
Yet now, 0 how changed, pale, sad, broken-hearted, and pitiable
to behold I Yet no eyes can read half her wretched visage tells, nor
face tell half her soul suffers ! " A wounded spirit^ who can bear ? '*
"Thou art the man," stares you ever in the face, " /did it,'*
haunts you continually. In vain you dash into business, seek
pleasure in club-rooms, in flowing bowls, and gambling hells.
There sticks your soul-struck brand for all. Yet even you little
realize its depth ; which all time redeepens. Then what must
eternity do? If this sin can be forgiven, in God's name seek
pardon first, for you need it most, yet deserve it least. And she,
poor despoiled mortal, perpetually exclaiming in spirit : —
"O HOW COULD he be so very cruel!" She may not seek
vengeance, yet her wounded soul is its own avenger. Isaac, in
saying, "I have blessed Jacob, and he shall be blessed, cursed
31
AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Esau, and he shall be cursed," expressed this eternal natural
law that all human blessings and cursings actually do bless and
curse their objects. The blood of Abel in crying for vengeance
avenged itself. Your wounded victim's spirit-agony curses you,
even though she intends it not. Iler distress of mind hangs a
millstone around your doomed neck. Better be Abel than Cain.
Yet how many miserable women and exorcised men throng our
streets, pack our churches, fill counting-rooms and parlors, club-
rooms and fashionable and political arenas ! "Who and where
are they not ?
Ye who have not thus cursed your own future by blighting
female Love, be entreated never to let any woman even begin to
love you unless willing to enshrine her queen of your heart and
life forever ! A woman's Love is your talisman, her heart-broken
moaning, your death dirge.
" I NEVER ASKED her to lovc me ; then how am I to blame ? *'
By often escorting her to church, concert, picnic, party ; by
looking so blandly and seeming so happy with her, as if you
could not bask enough in her affections ; by your actions, which
always " speak louder than w^ords ; " and many like means, you
solicited hers in return ; until, reluctantly, confidingly, she took
you at your act. By thus inviting her affections, you proffered
her your own far more than any words could proffer : else actions
are only farces. Your gallant attentions on their very face
assured her, that if she would reciprocate your Love, you would
continue to love her alone for life. How outrageous to solicit and
accept hers without returning your own.*^^ He is far less a robber
who asks a merchant his price for specified choice articles, seems
satisfied, and takes the goods^ but sneaks out with "I never
promised to pay."
" Your taking the goods implied and expressed your promise
of payment, and holds you thereto," is the only business answer ;
and is that woman's whose Love you solicit and accept. Paying
equal court to all by gentlemanly deportment only ,'^ does not
commit ; whereas singling out one^ proffering her your escort, and
expressing and reciprocating Love, constitutes the highest proffer
of marriage man can make to woman. Besides,
What business have you with any woman's Love except as
your wife^ actual or prospective ? It is her wifehood. 'And all
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 483
of it. Its entire rationale is to render her a wife, and thereby
mother.^ And the stronger it is the better a wife and mother
it renders her.**^"* Your blighting it de facto mars or spoils her
wifehood,*^* Or if not, no thanks to you ; for you did what is
precisely adapted to spoil it. Loving you unfits her for loving
and marrying another.**** ^* You either spoil both her and
thereby her future husband if she marries, or by sickening her
of marriage, render her an old maid,^* and thus rob some man of
all the happiness she would have enjoyed and conferred with
husband and children.
You INJURE HER RELATIVES. After her doting parents have
done their best to lit her to become a superb wife and mother,
you visit her as a suitor. They tolerate your visits only as such.
If they supposed you came merely to fritter away your and her
affections, they should and would bar their doors against you.
Their being her natural protectors makes it their bounden duty
to see that all her lovers come, not as wolves in sheep's clothing,
but only as genuine marriage candidates, or otherwise eject you
indignantly, even violently, just as if you assaulted her virtue.
In this false disguise you win only to break her heart, and then
turn traitor. Confidence between friends, should never be be-
trayed ; much less between the sexes ; last of all between lovers.
Wliat is breaking faith as to dollars, word of honor, veracity,
everything else, compared with betraying a woman in that holiest
relation, her afFectional ? Behold in the terrible consequences of
interrupted Love"" what damage you do her body and mind*
You reverse her gender — think what that means — and stifle her
sexuality, or else make her a harlot."** Robbing her of her
apparel, jewels, all she is worth, leaving her " pure in spirit," is
a crime as much less as she is worth more than tlioy. But
Female flirtation is almost as bad. After coquettishly in-
viting and allowing a man to love and caress you, how wicked to
agonize him by his causeless dismissal ? Be not so cruel. Inflict
not a wrong thus great on a young man who has paid you that
greatest practical compliment of loving you, after you have ex-
pressed for him that tender fondness and exalted regard inherent
in loving. Perpetrate almost any other sin, inflict any other
torture, but spare him this agony, yourself this crime. Yet
" Have we not the same right to leave off, we had to begin T "
484 COURTSHIP^S FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
No: because this would break Nature's iirst law of Love — con-
stancj,"'"^ and incurs its penalty. Perhaps better "pay up" now
than redouble this terrible account ; for all her bills must be paid ;
yet better not thus "gather up wrath against her day of wrath.*'
Nor does ignorance mitigate her penalties ; for all her instincts
forewarn all against all flirtations, all inconstancy.
Every girl should steel her heart against all aftectional
overtures, unless and until accompanied by proposals. Her Love
is her all ; so that she should " set her face as a flint " against all
forms of courtship, unless first certain that her affections can and
will be reciprocated, and eventuate in marriage.
Woman should guard man's Love likewise? Shall she allow
him to wait on, and proffer marks of special regard, when she
has no intention of marrying him?^^ She may not do him as
great a wrong by allowing his attentions as he her by proftering
his " just for fun ; " but does she not do him a wrong no true woman
should ever inflict on any man? The mere fact of receiving his
special attentions practically encourages their continuance, and
promises her own in return. Neither sex should allow any affec-
tional manifestations till aflianced. Mate first, then love.
None can choose wisely after beginning to love ; for Cupid is,
always has been, must be blind to the faults, while magnifying
the virtues of the one beloved.
Women never bestow aftection till solicited, in word or deed,
at least till after twenty-two; nor then without leave^ and a virtual
promise of its return ; for N^iture has thrown a wall of maidenly
modesty around female Love, which restrains undue forwardness.
Let the self-consciousness of all testify. But when it is once
drawn out, she clings as with the grasp of desperation to the man
who elicits it. To shake off either is wellnigh impossible.
"Why should, how do these youthful flirtations, conquests, &c., so
trifling in themselves, cause all these varied and aggravated evils of viti-
ated Love, and marital miseries ? " Because
735. — Loving is Marrying; and Involves Cohabiting.
Some one thing constitutes marriage. It does not inhere in
law, else it is human ; changes with legislative enactments ; is one
tiling one foot east, another west, of this state line, and that; and
differs toto coda in England, Turkey, China, and Africa ; whereas it
is divine,^^ permanent, and the same everywhere, and always.
AKOLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 485
Reciprocating Love throughout all its aspects is its only con-
stituent. Solely for this was it instituted. To this only is it
adapted. Love alone begins, consummates, and perpetuates mar-
riage. All marriages without Love are abortive, a seed without
a chit, a bodily carcass without life.
Love and marriage are necessary concomitants. Each con-
sists in the other, and was created specifically for the other, as
much as valleys and rivers, or the two halves of a bivalve ; and
cannot possibly be separated. Therefore those who reciprocate
Love together, thereby proportionally marry each other. Whether
their marriage is or is not mentioned, matters nothing. Loving
actions and expressions are marriage actions and expressions.
He who makes Love to any woman thereby makes marriage to
her ; and she, by allowing it, consents to marriage, and by recipro-
cating it marries herself to him. Nature has so linked Love and
marriage together that man can never separate them. And he
who, after having made Love to a woman, discards her, has
divorced himself; as she divorces herself who rejects a lover she
has allowed to make Love to her. How monstrous is this sin,
yet, alas, how common ! Those who perpetrate it " sow the
wind," and must " reap the whirlwind."
Loving is cohabiting in spirit. Love and person are necessary
concomitants.^ Both are created solely for each other, and con-
verge to the same focal centre, parentage, with a power almost
resistless. Water does not run down hill more naturally and in-
evitably than Love merges into cohabitation ; of which all billing
and cooing, kissing and cuddling, are only antecedents and incen-
tives. If not carried thus far in act, it is in spirit^ which is its
essence. Look at this conclusive proof: —
Reproduction is the only end, the sole rationale, the one dis-
tinctive mission of sexuality, Love, marriage, and whatever apper-
tains to either, and to the sexes as such;"* of all which inter-
course is the single centre, means, and ultimate. Therefore,
He who elicits a virgin^s Love thereby seduces her heart.
Getting her befiddled after him, "on the string," demoralizes,
debases, defiles, at least her soul. Her Love for him is desire to
have intercourse with him as much as her hunger is desire to eat;
the former being the natural craving of her stomach, the latter
of her sexual organs.^* All logic, all human exporieoce is defied
to invalidate this conclusion. In short,
486 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
Male Love consists in desire to impregnate, and females to
be impregnated by, tbe one beloved. A plain fact, plainly put.
Hence
The sin and punishment of seducers rest on all you wbo
call out only to blight a trusting, innocent, loving virgin's aflec-
tions, and then discard her. You deserve to be horsewhipped by
her father, cowhided by her brothers, branded villain by her
mother, cursed by herself, and sent to the whipping-post and
dungeon.
Kissing, fondling, caressing men, know that all this, and all
like it, is the natural, instinctive, and universal predecessor, com-
mencement and incentive of sexual intercourse. What man but
always involuntarily begins it with them ? prepares its way by
them ? and brings his participant into the desired passional or
reciprocating mood thereby ? Impassioned women return this
compliment. And the more the more amorous either. Let
universal humanity attest experimentally. Even all beasts '•'• do
likewise," as cooing doves and all fowls illustrate.
Kissing with an appetite * is all right where its participants
have a right to, and are preparing for, intercourse ; otherwise
wrong, except as a mere salutation, or of girls by elderly men, or
boys by matrons. And yet, marvellous.
Men who claim strict honesty, pay every dollar, and stand
high among men, make no scruples, even boast of getting this,
that, the other innocent girl dead in Love, only to take advan-
tage of this very passion they have thus wickedly provoked.
Love-making girls, know this : In and by the very act and fact
of making Love to any man you virtually offer to marry, cohabit,
and procreate with him. iN'ot that this is wrong, or even im-
modest, if you can and want to ; for you have just as good a right
to offer them to him by making Love to him as he to you, by
courting with you. In fact, Nature makes the female the true
one to lead off in mating.^'^'^^ We are simply analyzing, not con-
demning love making; are indeed commending you for thus
fulfilling your female mission, provided you desire and have a
right to.
Coquettes, society and conquest-making girls, all one, " know
ye " that all your fascinating ways, taking actions, loving smiles,
*A RELIGIOUS SOCIETY, whose lites allowed "brethren and sisters" to kiss eacl»
otlier as a part of their devotions, most strenuously forbade kissing "luUh cm appetite"
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING EBROBS. 487
bewitching winks and blinks, praises, kisses, caresses, &c., by try-
ing to elicit Love, proffer its consummation: else why begin
what you do not mean to complete? You are thereby actually
perpetrating mental sexual intercourse, and preparing and incit-
ing each other to physical. This " flirting with a fellow " will
bear to be called by some other name, and you with it. This is
not said to spoil your " fun," but to show you just what that
" fun " is and means. So flagrant a violation of her laws K'ature
must punish. Young folks, as you set by moral purity and
virtue, how dare you reciprocate Love till you have acquired this
right by betrothal ?
736. — Liberties during Courtship. They kill Love.
Whatever conditions create good children attract, poor,
repel, the opposite sex.**** "*
Platonic Love is Nature's great creative prerequisite, because
it initiates the mind — that great constituent of life.^^ Lust
can create only animality, whereas Nature requires mentality.
Hence purity always enamors, while sensuality disgusts the
opposite sex.
Purity in woman is doubly attractive, and sensuality repellant ;
because she transmits relatively more of the mental and senti-
mental than man;*^ he more of the animal than she.*** This
causes and accounts for the fact that men " let alone severely '*
very amorous women, and those whose passions are all on fire,
and easily excited. Nymphomaniacs, whose sexual inflammation,
mental and physical, unfits them for maternity, always drive
men from them, except those attracted by mere lust, just as they
Hoek harlots. This shows why liberties kill Love. Next,/acte.
A virtuous girl of nineteen was arrested by two policemen in
order that they might ravish her, which they did. This so
inflamed her feminine organs as to create a perpetual and intoler-
able sexual craving till her marriage, eleven years after. All
this time whenever any beau called to see her she shrank from
him, seemed provoked at him for calling, drove off all suitors,
and had to be scolded to induce her to treat men half-way
politely. The law wliich produces this and kindred phenomena
is stated in^**. This sliows why i>a8sionate girls rej)el men, and
love solitude, besides being so oflish and awkward in their society;
and applies equally to all victims of self-abuse."**
488 CX)URTSHIP^S FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
Let the experience of every courted woman attest whether
all kinds and degrees of sexual freedoms she ever permitted any
man to take with her, did not obviously deaden his Love for her.
What though she yielded reluctantly, just to oblige him, and
only at his most earnest solicitations — the more earnest the
better for our argument — what if her whole being shrank from
them, yet they killed his respect and aflection for her, however
great both. And he despised her more the more she tolerated,
even if they did not extend to intercourse ; and if they did, they
killed it, because of necessity mutually unsatisfactory.®^* All sex-
ual familiarities breed contempt.^^^ The observation and experience
of most women have taught them this fact by the loss of one or
more lovers if they have allowed freedoms, by instinct if they
have not. G iris note : —
" I TRIED TWO YEARS IN VAIN, while courting my wife, to get her to
kiss me ; but she would not, and I married her because she would n*t. I
would n't marry any girl who would. The more she would n't, the more
I wanted to marry her ; for I wanted kisses from one whose kisses were
exclusive." — The ablest criminal lawyer in III.
Love is exacting, and men unjustly jealous,^® often rendered
doubly so by physical inflammations. They seek freedoms, yet
despise her who merely tolerates them. And the worst the
most. Though J:hey have no claims on your exclusiveness till
engaged, yet they reason thus : —
" She WILL ALLOW IN OTHERS what she concedes to me. Since she lets
me kiss and caress her, she will let others ; and though I will keep calling
on her just to get her kisses, yet nothing would tempt me to marry one
thus free."
Liberties kill female love also.
"Does a man's and woman's kissing, fondling, sitting in laps, and
hugging each other ever kill her love for him ? I and the woman you saw
me escorting in California have indulged thus for several years, but with
no approach to intercourse, till lately she repels me with marked aversion.
Why?"
" Because thus provoking without gratifying her passion has
turned her whole sexual nature against you. See this result, with its
reason, given in *•*."
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Bear that lesson ever in mind, all ye who court, and tremble
whenever you violate this sexual law.
Young man, though you respect neither yourself nor virtue,
yet if you would get or keep any virtuous woman's regard or
affection — all others are worthless — manifest no passion j>er se,
lest by kindling her passion or resentment you kill your pros-
pects. Only those demoralized will endure you.
Courted females, make " Hands off " your motto. Say prac-
tically or literally : —
" Seal our love by engagement and marriage, and all I have and
am is yours to possess and enjoy ; but till then * touch not, taste not,
handle not,' lest our blissful affections perish by wrong usage."
Yielding girls be forewarned that all courting liberties both
gratify your fellow without marriage, and disgust him with you,
and you of him. Do you desire to marry ? Would you retain men's
respect? Freedoms cost you both, and self-respect besides ; yet
give in return only the lowest, poorest momentary indulgence —
an investment which pays fearfully in three great losses — your
admirer's Love (how much is that worth ?), a proffer of marriage
(pray how much more?), and your own self- valuation. The fact is,
" Right is right," and blesses, while wrong is wrong, and curses.
Men tell each other their amours, and say more by vague
insinuations than words. This is devilish in them ; so give them
no grounds. Pursue towards all who knock at the door of your
heart a course not merely virtuous, but almost prudish. To this
your innate modesty prompts, which you ignore at the peril of
alienating a lover, which none can afford. A man's Love is your
choicest life-profession, and too infinitely precious to be sacrificed
to your or his momentary indulgence.
Put and keep yourself on high ladylike ground. Show your
admirers that however freely you manifest your intellectual, lite-
rary, moral, religious,domestic,andall other qualitie8,yet that you
hold your Love too choice and sacred to he conferred, even in the
least, except on your affianced husband, and that no semblance
of passion can be extorted till after engagement ; and this " high-
toned" stand more than all else will exalt you in their estima-
tion, increase their admiration, extort proposals, and bring them
upon their bended knees in solicitation. All worth having will
**go and sell all " to obtain such women ; whereas, holding youf-
490 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
self cheap by reciprocating caresses before he proposes, and espe-
cially letting Love drop down upon its animal base, will make
him content, and breed his contempt of you, and yours of your-
self.
Sexual freedoms belong only to marriage — are marriage/^
They have no part nor lot in courtship, none till after betrothal ;
none even then till Love is sufficiently matured to justify and
prepare for the earlier steps of that parentage which constitutes
the only ultimate of sexuality,^ Love, and marriage. Nature
demands purity ,^®^ and punishes all departures from it, and all
merely animal indulgences, from first to last. It is your winning
card. Still,
Take no offence without ample cause. Fierce wrath is your
least efiective weapon; because it maddens without humbling.
When he lays hands on you, no amount of resentment is too
great. Yet gentle reproof is far more effective, and stuns with-
out maddening. The veriest debauchee quails before a virtuous
woman's rebuke, which petrifies male passion instantly whenever
administered, and compels repentance and reform. This renders
her, if self-possessed, perfectly safe with the worst of seducers ;
whilst she who dallies is lost. Yet, per contra^
Excessive coyness and distance sometimes repel. Love must be
mutual : ^^ hence bashful suitors often fear lest they obtrude
themselves on a reserved woman. Many a courted girl represses
all advancements, even manifests aversion, though bursting with
affection ; whereas showing him that she is approachable instead
of repellaut, would encourage his attentions. I myself have
learned from broken-hearted women by thousands that they lost
their lovers by extra reserve and apparent stoicism, whom a more
reciprocal course would have retained.
Womanly instinct, followed, will pilot you safely through these
courting straits between the Scylla of undue freedoms, and the
Charybdis of excessive prudery.
The purity and impurity of all males, all females, are pro>
claimed by this principle, that in exact proportion as Love is
sensuous and debasing is it fickle. Shun such as vipers; for
their lust will vanish with indulgence,^^^ and embrace any other
who feeds this flame of sensuality. On either their continence
or constancy no reliance can be ])laced. The very nature of
lust precludes both ; yet Love based on the higher Faculties
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kills sensuality as such, and remains satisfied with its spiritual
intercommunion.^ This unerring test applied to the conduct of
suitors, will reveal, in all their naked deformity, the designs of
many a villain, however solemn his protestation of true Love;
discover the tell-tale asses* ears projecting through the lion's skin;
and therehy save many a worthy and unsuspecting maiden from
all the miseries of unhappy wedlock ; besides telling most suitors
that their Love is mainly animal.
All ye who court, put yourselves on your own highest manly
and womanly deportment towards each other, and neither take
nor give any more freedoms in the most private apartment than
you would before all the world ; for what is improper " before
folks " is wrong jper se, and insures Nature's avenging rod.
Love lasts."* Passion is fitful, and wanes or perishes with
indulgence.
737. — Waste no Mating Time. "Sorter Courting."
" Do WITH YOUR might " what you undertake, is both a scrip-
tural and sensible injunction. " Whatever is worth doing at all,
is worth doing icell," is a good life motto. And applies to court-
ship more than to everything else.
Nature's mating period is short, lasting only from nineteen to
twenty-three : *** so make the most of it. Waste no more of your
own time, or that of the other sex, than is absolutely necessary
to a right selection and mating.
Young folks make a business of courting, or else let it alone.
A YOUNG HoosiER asked a young Hoosieress for her company,
and was answered thus : —
" Sall, aint nobody acourtin you now, nor niithin ? "
** Wall, Sam, there 's one fellar a sorter courtin, and a sorter not ; but I
reckon as its more sorter not^ than sorter : so come along/*
This "sorter and sorter not" mode of courting, this calling
every now and then on a girl, just often enough to encoumge her
and discourage all her other admirere, till her sexual bloom
wanes, and mating season passes, doee her an injury about as
great as any one can ever perpetrate ; and wrongs her as no man
Bhould wrong any woman. You sorter courters, hurry up.
Women, protect yourselves against all such outrages by vi^
tually saying, in words or deeds,
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" When you make a definite proposal, I will gladly confer with you
concerning it ; but till then, please excuse me."
This coursb will bring proffers, or else clear the coast, ready
for " the second advent.'' And she who fritters away her mating
season by such waiting, deserves to fitone for it by celibacy,^* or
a " Hobson's choice " marriage. Patient waiting here is a crime
against one's self no girl can at all afford.
Girls, keep suitors waiting no longer than is absolutely neces-
sary for a judicious decision.
Young folks, all, make love hay while the love sun shines.
738. — Love-Spats ; Testing Each Other's Love, &c.
" I must know for certain whether or not Jane really does love me,
and will find out by courting others, just to see what she '11 say and do."
Ascertain by asking the only one who knows, just as you
would anything else. How could she well assure 3^ou otherwise.
Must she disclose this delicate secret unsolicited? Custom
requires you to make known first. Read those love-signs already
given. ^' ^ Those are dummies who cannot tell by them.
Courting another lacerates 'her affections; turns against
you her pride, Conscience, all her Faculties ; and embitters both
her Love and life. Does she deserve all this agony ? or if so,
turn the other cheek, not smite a woman back. If she is in-
nocent, you thrust a barbed arrow right into her heart, which
will ache, fester, and perhaps break ; which you have no right to
do, and for which you must atone. What good does this course
accomplish ? Does it disclose the desired secret ? Instead, it re-
presses it, engenders her hatred, and bears her Love down deeper
under a mist of impenetrability. If you finally marry her, you
must either confess your guilt somehow, beg pardon, and be for-
given, which makes you a self-convicted criminal, pleading for
mercy, or else be hated. And this state of mind is almost cer-
tain to beget alienations on other points, which otherwise would
not have risen, and heal the harder.
Wounding each other's feelings is as if both were sipping
the most delicious and soul-inspiriting nectar together in over-
flowing abundance from one goblet, which Nature refills faster
than both can quaff, till your own accursed hands drop in a bitter
pill, which continues to dissolve and embitter, while you sip on
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING EBB0B8. 493
till you have drunk enough to fill thousands of goblets, yet the
bitterness still remains ; besides this pill's containing a chemical
element which, combining with some otherwise sweet ingredients
of the nectar, turns them also into bitter poison, and thereby
continues to reembitter and repoison this nectar the longer you
drink; while both are compelled to drink on through life. As
*' great oaks from little acorns grow" in the world of seeds; so
doubly in that of the human passions and emotions. As a small
crevasse in the levee of the great " Father of Waters " soon
widens and deepens, till it finally overflows " all the country
round about,'* doing millions of damage, from a beginning so
small that a single spade of earth, rightly applied, would have
prevented all ; so anything during courtship which causes pain,
endangers an irreparable breach between two who otherwise
would have remained perfectly happy together. And the earlier,
the more assiduously it should be guarded against, or arrested in
its very beginning. Till the affections have become so confirmed
that to sunder them is wellnigh impossible, but not till then, let
both stand sentinel, neither giving nor taking ofifence, nor causing
pain in this or any other way.
LovE-sPATS ARE HATE-SPATS. Though experienced by most
lovers, yet none realize how fatal they are to subsequent affection.
As well let a blighting " sirocco " sweep over a fertile plain teem-
ing with life, as any of these poisonous Love-blights cross your
flowery pathway. Their effects on future affection are almost
paralytic, and should on no account be allowed. What is settled
hatred in marriage but prolonged " spats " ? They are the more
fatal the oftener they recur ; are a hornet's sting thrust into the
eye of affection. " The poison of asps is under their lips.*' The
first spat is like a deep gash cut into a beautiful face, rendering
it ghastly, and leaving a frightful scar, which neither time nor
cosmetics can ever efface ; inducing that pain so fatal to Love, "•
and blotting that sacred Love-page with memory's most hideous
and imperishable visages. Cannot many now unhappy remember
them as the beginning of that alienation which embittered your
subsequent affectional cup, and spoiled your lives? With what
inherent repulsion do you look back upon them? Their memory
is horrid, and effect on Love most destructive.
Their analysis reveals their inherent deformity. They con-
sist wholly in mutual animosities and reproachee ; and imply or
494 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
express that each has done or is doing the other a wrong so deep
and wilful that justice, eelf- respect, and all the Faculties require
the positive resentment of even lovers. For acquaintances to
" fall out," is bad ; but for those who have lavished their mutual
affections upon each other, is perfectly abhorrent to all the higher,
liner feelings of human nature. Those who thus resent supposed
grievances thereby charge the accused with conduct too outra-
geous to be borne, and condemn in language and manner ; while
those who sulk, imply that their " grief is too deep for utterance,"
and anger too strong for speech. What condemnation could be
more condemnatory? What is this but the utmost disdain? How
contrary to the spirit of true Love! It is to Love what a
bl&ck frost is to vegetation, always, necessarily, and ipso facto.
Blaming acquaintances is wrong, unless their guilt is palpable ;
those of opposite sexes worse ; lovers by far the worst. " If mine
enemy had done this, I could have borne it, but it is my 'friend^
with whom I have taken sweet counsel." What are all lovers'
" spats " but disappointment in its very worst form ? They
necessarily and always produce all its terrible consequences.*^
Thunder-storms clear the atmosphere, and promote vegetation ; then
why not Love-spats promote Love, as they certainly often do ?
Their very nature blights it. They always might promote it,
because nature extorts good from evil ; "* yet " shall we therefore
do evil that good may come " ? Is that " wrath " less evil which
is made to " praise God " ? But as sickness, rightly managed,
clears the system of disease, and promotes subsequent health ; so
these " hate-spats " can be made to strengthen Love, provided the
wronging party confesses, begs pardon, and promises never to sin
thus again ; and both mutually do forgive, revow, and re-resolve
to do better ever afterwards; thus virtually remating. But re-
cherishing Love is what both staves off this dire alienating con-
sequence, and substitutes reincreased affection. When " spats "
work out their own legitimate effects, they always reverse and
destroy affection ; and mere snarls redouble them in proportion
to their frequency and intensity.
How DO they make you feel afterwards? As though a terrible
storm had chilled and drenched you, and a lightning flash came
near destroying roots and top ; as though snatched from the very
edge of a precipice, and saved from a yawning gulf; ashamed,
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humbled, and "extremely sorry this difficulty ever happened;"
"would have given the world if it had not;" as if renewed
efforts are required to repair its breach ; and "this never ought
to recur." It is a most dangerous experiment; and every new one
only reincreases their fatality. Even the strongest Love will
endure but few, nor any survive many. Their final impression
is, "I will overlook this one, but don't provoke me again."
They leave it on a plane far below that on which they find it ;
not on a familiar, but on a suspecting or hating one ; substitute
distrust for confidence ; and induce a feeling of commonness or
else contempt, in place of exalted admiration; and totally change
all your looks and actions. Both now eye each other like two
curs, each watching lest the other should gain some new vantage-
ground of assault. Before so tender, now so cold and hardened I
Before so coy and familiar, after, Jiow reserved, distant, hard, and
austere ! How talkative before demure after, as if attending to
something else, and trying to forget that each other is> present I
Your mutual platforms and stand-points respecting each other
how strangely altered, but only for the worse ! If you make up
by confession, the confessor feels mean and disgraced ; or if both
confess and forgive, both feel humbled; since forgiveness im-
plies inferiority and pity; from which whatever is manly and
womanly shrinks. Still, even this is better than continued
"spats."
" They are almost universal, and in the nature of our differences
cannot be helped. The more two love, the more they are aggrieved by
each other's faulta ; of which these spats are but the correction."
False, every sentence. Instead of being universal, they are
consequent on imperfect Love, and only aggravate, never correct
errors. Sexual storms never improve, whereas Love obviates,
faults by praising the opposite virtues."* Evei^y view of them,
practical and philosophical, condenms them as being to Love
what poison is to health, both before and after marriage : They
are nothing but married discords. Every law of mind and Love
condemns them. Shun them as you would deadly vii>er8, and
Prevent them by forestallment. Begin by vowing to each other
that neither will give nor take offence; because each knows the
other intends no wrong. Those who start their Love-career on
496 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
this platform will make the moat of all palliating circum8tance^,
and patiently endure the balance. Instead,
Many lovers assign the blackest motives to ordinary actions,
and take ofience where disinterested beholders see no wrong ;
because imperfect Love is exacting and censorious, while genuine
is forbearing, forgiving, and indulgent. Love partly reversed by
fear, or any other Faculty, produces that suspicious state which is
to genuine what jealousy is to conjugality, and tears the core
out of its pitiable victims. ,
Establishing a perfect Love in the beginning constitutes a
preventive. Fear that they are not duly loved, and morti-
fied pride, usually pave the way for these " spats," by reversing
Love. Then let all who make any pretension guard against all
beginnings of this reversal, and strangle these '* hate-spats " the
moment they arise. " Let not the sun go down upon thy wrath,"
not even an hour, but let the next sentence after they begin quench
them forever. And let those who cannot court without " spats,"
stop ; for those who spat before marriage, must quarrel after.
739. — Faults, Every-day Appearances, Disguises, &c.
Truth will out, surely after marriage. Both should, will,
must know each other. To decide wisely whether they can
love and will marry, each must ascertain the other's tastes, likes,
dislikes and specialties, faults included. Love can fasten only
on excellences, known or supposed ; and is proportionate thereto.
Frankness thus becomes indispensable, and the only faying
policy. All concealments before marriage are fatal ever after ;
for it reveals faults sometimes. If known before, each naturally
expects to tolerate them, yet Love for all ; which half obviates
them, by almost compelling allowances ; whereas the one deceived
feels "sold." Thus:-—
" George, you told me, before I consented to marry you, that you
-lever did or would chew or smoke tobacco, yet then did, still do, both.
I have married a liary
Making your beau think by millinery appearances that you
have a splendid form, when marriage reveals only padded shams,
throws a " wet blanket " over his Love, the more fatal the more
he is thus enamored. So equally of false teeth, making believe
younger by dyeing hair or whiskers, &c. The age should never
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 497
be concealed. Even reluctance to tell it virtually says, "I'm
ashamed to tell how old I really am." Yet Nature's infallible
age-marks unmask all.
A SPLENDID YOUNO MAN, whose Love was quite personal, on
Tiiarrying a supposed beauty, found she had a slight umbilical
V>lemish ; which so disgusted him of her that he abandoned her,
though enamored of her otherwise ; which agonized both beyond
description ; yet would have been prevented by its mere mention.
All deceptions react against their authors, and lay and fire
trains for nuptial explosions fatal to the marital enjoyments of
both, by putting the wronged, and thereby both, into a hating, hate-
ful mood."* Lies never pat/, but always punish, all liars. Through-
out all God's domains " honesty is polici/.^' Truth triumphs.
Nature punishes all who " bear false witness " in any form.
" Thou shalt not lie " is doubly imperative in marriage.
Both should make clean breasts of all their traits, good, bad,
and indifterent, before loving or engaging, and in order thereto.
But
This would prevent or break off most marriages.
Whenever it would, it should. When knowing faults before would
turn Love, learning them after will kill it ; and that after marriage pre-
vents placing it elsewhere. Yet candor only promotes them ; because boih
are in a loving, overlooking mood^ which is everything.
" This must disclose many fatal secrets. Who would willingly let
all the world know all their faults? The beet would be injured thereby,
and the balance ruined."
All should start with this understanding, that neither, on any
account whatever, shall ever divulge any such secrets ; and those
who do, thereby brand themselves with infamy. What could be
as mean, or detestable, or utterly contemptible and wicked ? The
parents, at least of the girl, should tell him her virtues and fail-
ings. All should know all about each other in some way ; and
those to whom reference is made, should conscientiously tell the
whole truth.
Court in every-day clothes. Having stated times when both
flee each other arrayed only in their best habiliments of character
md attire, is not adapted to reveal their genuine traits. After
ngagement, both should " put their best foot foremost," which
id natural to Love*/" but before it, they should see each other in
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498 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
their every-day apparel, about their daily avocations, and as they
are likely to appear after marriage ; each occasionally " popping
in *' upon the other informally, familiarly, and as an every-day
acquaintance, that each may see the other's habitual natural ap-
pearance and actions.
Men often court to get money. Any woman who has saved
up a few dollars by whatever of labor and self-denial is in danger
of being courted out of it, on the obvious principle that the
shortest way to her pocket is through her heart. Women,
Turn all men right out the moment they suggest your letting
them have one dollar, no matter how plausible their pretence.
Only the worst, meanest, cursedest villains will ever play that
card. In comparison, robbery is a virtue.^^
740. — Making and Receiving Presents before Engaging.
They obligate both parties, before either is ready to be obli-
gated, and embarrass their decisions. Is a scrupulous girl left
as free to decline his offer from whom she has received many or
costly presents as if she had not ? Is not their proffer by him at
least prefatory to his proffer of marriage ? As a delicate way of
*■' asking and granting consent to court," they are useful and
proper ; yet are justifiable only on this precise ground. If this
is what both really mean, all right ; otherwise, wrong.
They express and elicit Love, which should not be done till
after engagement.^*^ As long as a man makes presents to this,
that, and the other girl, all right ; yet by his proffering some one
girl gift after gift, he awakens her gratitude, and this her affec-
tions. She is highly susceptible to Love already, can hardly help
liestowing it on some one, much less on one so kind to and ob-
viously fond of her. N"ote this underlining law, all ye presents
receiving women ^ that
Maternity is the base op all gallantry,^ of which all
presents from men to women are an inherent part. All atten-
tions, regards, admiration, presents. Love, from man to woman
as such, have their sole rationale in her need of his aid in bearing,
and presuppose it ; for which they prepare the way. So
Take care and know what you do, all ye present makers and
takers. To keep on proffering rich presents implies proffering a
proposal ; and to continue to receive them implies the reception
of it, with oitspri ng. They are keepsake tokens of friendship.
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERR0K8. 499
and between joung folks of like ages, unmarried, imply and ex-
press an affection permissible only between lovers.
RECEivrNo PRESENTS ENCOURAGES and inspires affection in the
giver. To thus exalt his hopes, and then daeh them down by
declining marriage, besides draining his purse, is unladylike and
unjust. Young folks,
Wait till you acquire a right before making or receiving
many presents.
741. — Courting Sunday Evenings and Nights.
Sabbath evenings are devoted to courting, by Anglo-Saxoiw
generally, when all the beaux and girls, arrayed in their gayest
attire and lofeliest smiles, visit and expect their lover, if they
have any, and try to get them, if they have not. Many go to
church daytimes to see and be seen, and at night to " wait on '* or
be " waited on home," and some to stay " or to be stayed with."
" Holy time " is none too sacred for Love-making, the most
sacred of transactions, but this
Night courting is most objectionable, and courting all night
outrageous. Everything has its season ; and night is demanded
for sleep, with which the young must not interfere.
Its perversion of Love is its worst evil, and most fatal and
reprebensible. Interrupted sleep causes that false and abnormal
excitement of all the Faculties, Love included, which puts it
more on its animal base than day courting by pleasant talks,
walks, and enjoying the beauties of Nature together, which
purifies. All evil deeds, like evil beasts, naturally seek darkness,
and " hate the light, because their deeds are evil." Why thrust
courtship into this category ? Why not bring it "to the light,
that its good deeds may be made manifest"? Of all others, true
lovers are the very last to " hide their light under a bushel ;" for
nothing is more intrinsically beautiful than true Love-making.*
It need not be in private. As we express Conscience, Kind-
ness, Friendship, all the other Fnrulties before others, why not
also true Love? Why not intermingle it with them all as their
natural flavorer, by courting at picnic and party, in rural walks,
talks, rides, Ac, and express before others that mutual regard in
which Love-making consists? Especially why not court before
the ** old folks " ? Whatever is not proper to be said or done
600 CX)URT8HIP*8 FATAL ERRORS, AND RIGHT MANAGEMENT.
before them, should not be said or done at all. This chastena
and j)urilies its exercise, besides banishing its animal phase.
Take care, judicious parents, how you allow your susceptible
daughter to *'sit up" alone with a beau all night if they like,
with all but them asleep ! 9,nd with one who has expressed no
matrimonial intentions, but is apparently courting ''just for
fun."^^ Is that ''proper"? Then nothing is "indelicate."
Yet you require her to be even prudish at all other times. Pas-
sionate youth should not be thus tempted. Mothers, how can
you thus expose your daughter? especially since you watch
her every hour with lynx-like vigilance, but now expose her to
the severest temptation possible. If habitually thrown upon her
own Self-protection, she would be safe even here ; ^ but to ex-
clude her from all contact with the other sex at all other times,
yet now allow even artful and depraved men every possible
opportunity to tempt and repeat temptation, is a wicked exposure
to which she ought not to be exposed. If it were necessary it
might be justifiable, but it is neither. And she who can with-
s-tand this temptation, needs no watching. You proiFer her an
incentive to a life more free than virtuous.
What prevents sensual celibates from taking advantage of
this custom to turn all our dwellings into houses of illicit Love,
and gradually but effectually undermine * the virtue of all our
daughters; besides plying, under a guise the least suspected but
most dangerous, all those wily arts they know how so insinu-
atingly to employ, by first eliciting their Love, only thereby to
pervert it?^^ Parents, tremble not sleep over your daughter's
temptation ! or, rather, save her the disagreeable necessity of dis-
missing beaux, by asking them to leave before ten. They have
asked neither your nor her permission to court in view of mar-
riage,®^ but come "just to have a good time."^^ The natural
protectorate you exercise over a daughter protests against your
allowing her to be courted, unless with the implied and expressed
design of matrimony. You should stand sentry around her Love
as well as virtue, repel whatever endangers either, and know^ not
surmise, that her courtship is not a frolic on either side, but con-
ducted with serious marriage intentions, in case all proves favor-
3,ble ; and protect her against all others. If his intentions are
honest, his own common sense will show him that such a request
\^ proper, which, by awakening his admiration, will promote, not
ANGLO-eAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 501
prevent, the match. You want no son-in-law who could take
offence at a request thus reasonable ; for such would be too easily
offended after marriage. Drive oft* such " cattle " at the start,
and the sooner the better; for they are utterly unworthy a place
in either your family, or your daughter's affections.
An indulgent mother, wealthy, fashionable, and occupying a
high social position, took summer board for herself, beautiful
daughter of eighteen, and daughter's lover of twenty, choosing
contiguous dormitories for them, and allowing them the most per-
fect intimacy ; to which, since they were " engaged," none objected.
She even encouraged their familiarity by urging that "court-
ship " is the only genuine Love-season of life ; that marriage is
fatal to Love ^"^ that, therefore, lovers should make the mqst poe-
sible out of this only sunny gala-day of life; and that, as she
would indulge her daughter iu dress, jewelry, everything else to
please her, so she would treat her to one good, long, bright,
balmy, luxurious courtship, which she prolonged by postponing
their marriage. But a more " advantageous " offer made her
break off this match ; which spoiled that superior young man
whom she had encouraged to caress her daughter till his whole
being was bound up in Love for her, inflicting on him God only
knows how mudh misery, and vitiating his Love by interrupting
it,^ a wrong she had no right to inflict ; besides most effectually
demoralizing her daughter. What if she did make other con-
quests, and flirt on, which she did, was she therefore happy? Or
does she make a good. wife and mother? A sweet, innocent girl
then ; what is she now ?*" What are her ideas of virtue? Should
she not curse such a maternal education ? Let her example warn
other mothers not to tempt their daughters in like manner.
742. — Sudden Loves; and Chance Marriages.
" Marrt in haste and repent at leisure," is an experimental
truism worthy of res])cct. Gourd Love may be pure, but is quite
likely to be animal; because inspired by personal qualitit«*
Those denied all association with the opposite sex till this ele-
ment is almost starved, may j)ossibly conceive a pure mutual afteo-
tion "at first sight ;"^ yet spiritual Love is inspired mainly by
mental excellences, to appreciate which requifes time. Sudden-
ness is no objection to one prompted by mutual fitness; yet it re-
quires wjitchinir till its yjurity is undoubted. The more sudden it
502 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
is, the more deliberate should be the marriage. Genuine is con-
tent with being reciprocated, without hastening marriage. That
is best which grows gradually, "Early ripe, early rotten,'' applies
to it equally with fruits. Yet its purity is the main thing.
Chance marriages are most objectionable. Lord Byron let
the toss of a copper decide whether he should marry Miss Mil-
banke. A living English Duke wrote a friend : —
" You NEED NOT MEET me to-iuorrow, for I fancy, by a remark of my
father to-day, that I am to be married to-morrow."
" The Duke of Sutherland, the morning of his wedding-day, wa«
found by a friend leaning carelessly over the railing at the edge of the
water in St. James' Park, throwing crumbs of bread to ducks. Surprised
to see him at such a place, and so engaged, within two hours of the time
appointed for his marriage to one of the first women in England, in whose
veins the blood of the Howards flowed, this friend exclaimed, * What, you
here to-day ! I thought you were going to be married this morning ! '
' Yes,' was his answer, given with the most perfect nonchalance, and throw-
ing a few more crumbs to the ducks, without moving from the railing on
which he was leaning, — * yes, I believe I am.' " — London Society.
What ! No choice, no concern in his own marriage ? to
whom, or when? Americans, how would you like that? We
little realize what our freedom is worth, or even is.
743. — Dismissing Suitors, undue Encouragement, &o.
Women, you must sometimes decline, proffers. This must
wound a sensitive suitor's feelings keenly, blight his cherished
hopes, and impair his future chances. So sugar-coat this bitter
[)ill by dismissing him as pleasantly and affably as possible, with
thanks for that greatest practical compliment inherent in proffers.
Your negative itself is almost cruel ; so soften it all you can ; for
his bad feelings injure him proportionally. Only a giddy, vanity-
struck girl not worth having, will dismiss in a proud, haughty,
disdainful manner, as if he were inferior. His very proffer may
liave prompted her dismissal that she might boast of having
"given him the mittin."
Console yourself, discarded swain, for having escaped a life of
married misery with one thus unladylike and unfeeling. Yet it
may be fun for her.
Ample reasons are certainly due him. Showino- why your pro-
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posed match must needs injure both, will most effectually recon-
cile him to his fate. By all means
Part friends. Mutual respect marvellously softens the biow,
and may even turn it to the good account of both.
Let him down gradually. Note the moral in this dialogue
between an attractive daughter, her suitor, and father.
" Miss B., would you like to go with me to hear Rev. E. H. Chapin
lecture to-night?"
" I SHOULD ; for I desire to hear this eloquent speaker."
"Miss B., will you accompany me to the museum to-night?"
" I WILL, with pleasure, Sir."
•* Miss B., will you ride with me to-day around our city?"
" I will, and be much obliged."
" Miss B., the moon can be seen admirably to-night. Will you visit
our observatory, which has a first-class telescope, with me, and be intro-
duced to its managers ? "
" I WILL, with many, very many thanks, for I 've long desired to view
*the queen of night' through a telescope."
" Kate, do you think to make S. your husband, if he offers? "
'* No, indeed ! The fartliest possible from that"
"Then why accept all his invitations? If you keep saying yes, he
will soon ask your hand, and expect you to say yes, as usual. When will
you begin to say no ? "
" The next time. I '11 cut him off short."
" By no means. Let him down gently. Accept some, decline some,
and always in a pleasant, ladylike manner. As your encouragement by
action has been gradual and considerable, let your negation be as gradual,
by the same action. Hesitate a little the next time, decline as if reluc-
tantly, and lower his raised hopes by littles."
She dismissed him abruptly. This stung him to the quick.
He had been elated by his success, but was now humbled by her
"change of base." He had boasted over his rivals, who now
ridiculed him. His bad feelings induced a terrible sickness. ••
lie was really an injured man: yet both meant right. Call it
" the fortunes of war,** yet if she had stopped to think, she would
have dismissed him gnwlually and pleasantly. But sometimes
A man must dismiss. He should have less occasion, becauee
he had his pick, while woman is allowed only to say yes, or no !
This, with her far greater sensitiveness, re^juires him to be extra
careful to give her the least pain possible ; continue friendly ; and
504 courtship's fatal errors, and right management.
introduce others as substitutes if he can. Yet reluctance to dis-
iiiiss should never be allowed to incur a life or marital misery,
nor postpone the dismissed ; for her love-making hay-day is short,
and precious. ^
Subsequent changes may make it best to renew their court-
ship. If so, the dismissing party is the one to reopen it. Either
may at any time properly inquire whether the other has
changed; — there's no harm in asking — yet if the female has
dismissed, she is the proper one to recommence.
A LOVING GIRL DISMISSED an idolizing Doctor of commanding
talents, because her parents commanded her so to do. His heart
and constitution broke, yet were resuscitated by a long travel
abroad. Her affections still clung to him fondly. She made me
her confidant.
"Your dismissal precludes his making any further advances till
he is somehow informed of your change. Why should both perish in
disappointed Love for each other, when only one fond word or act from
you would bring you together? Will you spoil both, rather than inform
him that your sentiments have changed? Tell him frankly; or send
some friendly token, for Love is sacred. Do not let so very a trifle as
your coyness spoil both."
744. — Breaches of Promise demand Punishment.
Causelessly rupturing a Love elicited under promises of mar-
riage deserves legal penalties as much more severe than breaches
of other contracts as it surpasses them. Dollars poorly express
the amount of " damages " due. Yet
Discovering some marked flaw, some repellant trait, some
heart-sickening conduct which has killed Love, throws the 'dam-
ages on the one discarded. As a misinforming seller cannot
compel a cheated purchaser to fulfil a contract made under false
representations ; so those causes which reverse Love should be
allowed full weight, and might even throw the damages on the
complainant.
Fancy-smitten girls and love-struck boys artfully captivated,
l)rought to their senses by " sober second thought," deserve allow-
ances, release, perhaps even pity. Minority releases from other
contracts : then why not from marital ? ITo girl who " goes
back " on an " engagement " made before nineteen, should be
compelled to fulfil it. Whoever takes it should hold it subject
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to her ai^er reversal. Yet a man whose broken engagement has
prevented his affianced from having or accepting other offers,
doomed her to celibacy, and broken her heart besides, should at
least make her the poor compensation of dollars enough to sup-
{>ort her.
When either finds Love reversed by instinctive repugnance,
more mature reflection, one liked better, discovering repellant
traits, or any like cause, the disliked party should cheerfully
release the disliking, if not from magnanimity, at least from self-
interest and respect ; for all marriages repugnant to either must
prove fatal to the life-long happiness of both. Mutuality is
indispensable in Love."* Reluctance in either must needs spoil
the happiness of both.^ Those refused can do themselves no
greater damage than to compel one dissatisfied to fulfil a loathed
engagement. Their true policy lies in releasing the other, and
looking elsewhere; for the temporary pain of changing affec-
tional objects is far less than the life-long wretchedness of living
with a dissatisfied, or repellant, or merely tolerating or passive
companion ; or one simply duty-bound ^'^^ by an "engagement."
Either of these errors will prove fatal to any Love and
marriage, unless counteracted by some powerful antidote. Yet
most who court perpetrate nearly or quite all of them; and often
others besides. They are inwrought into the very customs and
liabits of Anglo-Saxon descendants. Of all the customary errors
of Young America, none are as fatally destructive or as blindly
senseless as those of courtship. But that they are habitual, their
every i>crpetrator would be "drummed and hooted out of town/*
or " tarred and feathered." Unperverted humanity would not
let them go "unwhipped of justice;" nor will Nature. These
are some of the breaches of her laws which she punishes with
terrible severity, in and by their eventuating in unhappy mar-
riages.
Are these directions true guiding landmarks for all who
court, and inherently adapted to promote the conjugal happinesh
of all who follow them ? Are no readers suffering from the evil
effects of their ignorant violation? Are they not eminently
reliable, because scientific?
We need not extend thbir list, because pomting out a more excel-
lent way obviates all wrongs much more effectually than exposing
their enormity ; and we have dwelt thus long chiefly to expound
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the underlining principles of this whole subject of Love, bj show,
ing the miseries entailed by their violation.
Showing the right course, to which we next proceed, most
effectually " shows up " and obviates the wrong.
Section IL
JUST HOW LOVE-MAKING SHOULD BE CONDUCTED.
745. — Its Pleasures ; and what it can Achieve.
Courtship! Its theme, how delightful! Its memories and
associations, how charming ! Its luxuries the most luxurious
proffered to mortals ! Its results how far reaching, and moment
tons ! No mere lover's fleeting bauble, but life's very greatest
work ! JS'one are equally portentous, for good and evil.
God's provisions for man's happiness are boundless and end-
Itsss. How great are the pleasures of sight, motion, breathing !
. How much greater those of mind ! Yet a right Love surpasses
them all ; and can render us all happier than our utmost imagi-
nations can depict ; and a wrong more miserable. Though it is
ordained to create offspring, not for pastime, yet as a luxury it
has no peer, but stands first ; so that mere self-interest com-
mands all to learn and fulfil i-ts right conditions, and avoid its
wrong.
Right love-making is more important than right selection;
because it affects conjugal life far the most. Men and women
need knowledge concerning it more than touching anything else.
Their fatal errors ^^^ show their almost universal ignorance con-
cerning it. That most married discords originate in wrong love-
making instead of selection, is proved by Love usually declining
•many hundred per cent. ; while adaptation remains the same.
Right courtship will harmonize natural discordants, much
more concordants, still more those already in Love ; which only
some serious causes can rupture. The whole power of this Love
element is enlisted in its perpetuity ,^^^ as are all the self-interests
of both. As ITature's health provisions are so perfect that only
its great and long-continued outrage can break it ; so her conju-
gal are so numerous and perfect that but for outrageous viola
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tions of her love laws all who once begin can and will grow more
and more affectionate and happy every day, year, decade.
Any MAN WHO can begin to elicit any woman's Love, can
perfectly infatuate here more and more, solely by courting her
right; and all women who once start a man's Love — no very
difficult achievement — can get out of him, and do with him,
anything possible she pleases. The charming and fascinating
power of serpents over birds is as nothing compared with that
a well-sexed woman can wield over a well-sexed man, and he over
her. Ladies, recall your Love heyday. You had your lover
perfectly spellbound, lie literally knew not what he did or would
do. With what alacrity he sprang to indulge your every wish,
at whatever cost, and do exactly as you desired ? If you had
only courted him just right, he would have continued to grow
still more so till now. This is equally true of a man's power
over every woman who once begins to love him. What would
you give to again wield that same bewitching wand? Learn
how in this Section, and the next. Parents who teach their chil-
dren to court right, need have no fears for their virtue. Fore-
stalling that monster vice sexual depravity throughout all its
forms, is just as easy as courting right ; which is just as easy as
breathing. Knowwg what is due between lovers is its chief
means. Young folks intend no wrong, but by following current
customs embitter and rupture each other's Love ; which drives
them into sensualities, if it does not crucify their gender. We
beg special attention to this declaration, and its vouchers.
The love-making art which can effect all this and much more,
thus becomes well worth knowing; yet is one of "the lost arts."
iSince the art of gallantry is thus valuable,*" how much more that
of Love-making? — only its perfection.
Disseminating scientific knowledge concerning this much-
joked-about subject of Love-making, thus becomes a work of
jihilanthropy and social reform far transcending all others. Yet
whoever teaches or learns anything concerning it, except in this
volume ? What wonder that nearly all thus ignorantly spoil their
marriage? Why not give and take lessons in courtship as much
as in music, or grammar ? Is it less important ? l*arcnts should
teach their children early ,"• and those taught " by sad experi-
ence " should instruct those not yet maritally spoiled. But
Intuition, our own selfhood, is Nature's highoat teacher, and
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infallible; and tells all, by her "still, small voice within," whether
and just wherein they are making Love right or wrong. Every
false step forewarns all against itself; and great is their fall who
stumble. Courtship has its own inherent consciousness, which
must be kept inviolate. Then
Throw yourself, O courting ^^outh, upon your own interior
sense of propriety and right, as to both the beginning and con-
ducting of courtship, after learning all you can frorn these pages,
and have no fears as to results, but quietly bide them, in the
most perfect assurance of their happy eventuality !
746. — The great Secret — How to Elicit Love.
"What can I do or omit to advance my suit? prevent dismissal?
make my very best impression ? guarantee acceptance ? touch my idol's
heart ? court just right ? " — All tnte Couriers.
Cultivate and manifest whatever qualities you would
AWAKEN. You inspire in the one you court the precise feelings
and traits you yourself experience.'^^^ This law effects this result.
Every Faculty in either awakens itself in the other. This is just
as sure as gravity itself. Hence your success must come from
within^ depends upon yourself, not the one courted. To be more
specific: —
Those five rules in Part Y., with all their concomitant direc-
tions, suggestions, and reasons, ^^^'^^^ apply to all stages of love-
making, and quite as much before marriage as after.
Men can learn in '^^'^^ just what attributes in them "take"
with women in general, and their own admired one in par-
ticular; while women are told in •''■'^^0572 ^^\^2it traits in them
awaken masculine appreciation and Love. Next,
Study the specialties, likes and dislikes in particular, of the
one courted, and humor and adapt yourself to them.
Be extra careful not to prejudice him or her against you by
awakening any Faculty in reverse. Thus whatever rouses the
other's resistance against you, antagonizes all the other Faculties,
and proportionally turns Love for you into hatred. Whatever
wounds Ambition reverses all the other feelings, to your injury ;
what delights it, turns them in your favor. '^^ All the Faculties
create, and their action constitutes human nature ; which lovers
will do right well to study. To give a few illustrations.
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747. — An Exalted Estimate of the One Courted.
A YOUNQ BACKWOODSMAN, Starting out to obtain an education,
unused to society, found himself, after a long journey, in the
family of a New England divine. Two highly-cultivated young
lady teachers, who arrived soon after, and were treated most cor-
dially, he revered as so near angels, that, when he saw them eat,
he wondered that beings so ethereal could descend to what was so
material ; yet rated them as angelic still. This almost worship-
ful admiration by each sex of the other, is just as spontaneous as
breathing ; swelling up in all who are well sexed as their strong-
est sentiment. In all genuine men's eyes all true women are
perfect : as are all men in women's. This is doubly true during
youth, and is reaugmented by Love, which sees only the good,
magnifies it tenfold, and admires in proportion. And the higher
and truer one's own sexual nature, the more exalted this estimate.
»^ay» y6 who have passed this poetic period, did you not fairly
idolize the opposite sex till your own love-nature became demoral-
ized ? And each sex is even better than the most poetic imagina-
tion of the other can estimate it. All comparisons utterly fail to
admeasure the intrinsic worth of each to the other ; because of
the happiness each can confer on and receive from the other.
The CHOOSING one should think the one chosen the most perfect
and best for them obtainable, and " thank God for having created
one thus perfectly adapted to their precise needs."
This worshipful appreciation never can or will give or take
offence till annulled ; re-enamors and is re-enamored more and
more perpetually ; inspires just those sayings and doings which
enamor the other; and renders all they say and do just right,
because their heart's-core promptings are so, like sweet water
bubbling up from a sweet fountain.
Esteem inspires esteem. Enamor yourself of the one you
would enamor. Admire, all ye who would be admired.
748. — Affection begets Love.
Friendship is Lovb's forbrunner and incentive.
All Love experiences, especially female, prove this. All
young women on beginning to Love, protest sincerely, " Why,
we 're only good friends^ not lovers at all." Bear witness, all ye
who have ever loved.
An elderly man, with points in his favor, having selected a
610 JUST HOW LOVE-MAKING SHOULD BE CONDUCTTED.
woman eighteen years younger, but most intelligent and femi-
nine, had two young rivals, each having more points in theirs,
and came to his linal test. She thought much of having plenty
of money. They saw they could "cut him out " by showing her
that he was poor ; she till then thinking his means ample. All
four met around her table, and proved his poverty. His rivals
retired, sure -that they had made " his cake dough," leaving him
with her. It was his turning-point. He addressed himself right
to her affections, saying little about money matters, but protesting
an amount of devotion for her to which she knew they were
strangers; and left his suit right on this one point ; adding: —
" You KNOW I CAN MAKE money ; know how intensely I esteem, admire,
idolize, and love you. Will not my admitted greater affection, with my
earnings, do more for you than they with more money, but less Love ? "
Her clear head saw the point. Her heart melted into his.
She said "yes." He triumphed by this affectional card alone
over their much greater availability.
Manifesting the domestic affections and virtues, a warm,
gushing friendly nature, fondness for children and home, in-
spires a man's Love most of all,*^^ while evincing talents by a man
peculiarly enamors woman.*^ In short.
The Love-inspiring art consists in manifesting lovable qualities,
particularly the domestic, those which promote Love's great end,
perfect children.
749. — Parental Consent, Elopements, &c.
Securing the benediction of all four parents is certainly most
desirable. Assenting to their courting,^^ implies acquiescence
in their marriage ; 3^et a formal one is desirable, and by letter
its best form. If either parent objects, both lovers should try all
possible means to win them over ; for their blessing and aid are
most desirable, and antagonism injurious. You cannot afford to
array your proposed family against their established one, if this
can be avoided. Indeed, getting the mother in Love may be a
first step for obtaining her daughter ; which her good-will greatly
promotes, but ill, retards. At least, asking is much more politic
than demanding. Establishing friendly relations all around is
worth much patient assiduity and perseverance. Both should be
loath to defy or provoke the antagonism of either. Yet
ANGLO-SAXON LOVE-MAKING ERRORS. 511
Some parents deserve defiance. Whilst affectionate intelliscent
ones merit only filial obedience, yet those prejudiced for their
own child and against the one chosen, especially who storm,
blurt, and command a daughter to marry here and not there,
deserve defiance, and to have Fremont's bold card played against,
them. He loves and is loved by Jessie. Benton, enraged, for-
bids Fremont his house, and locks Jessie up ; who escapes, elopes,
marries, and they return ; when Benton, finding himself 1 Jrly
out-general led, makes friends, and backs Fremont. Those old
enough to love and marry are old enough to decide to whom.
Their parents* rights are only advisory ; their own supreme.**
Our right to choose our own conjugal and parental partner
is more sacred and inalienable than any other human right what-
ever.
Your duty to yourself and each other is paramount to
parental authority, and all else. Those united to each other in
a genuine love sympathy are therefore divinely united :^^ and
'* Whom God hath joined together, let not man put asunder ; "
much less adverse circumstances. You now belong not to parents,
but to yourselves and each to the other.*" Fulfilling this Divine
mandate to love each other, and resisting all interference as you
would attempts on your life, rewards gloriously ; while letting
others break up a true Love, punishes terribly, without excep-
tion. Nature will neither be molested nor violated without
punishing. By the sacredness of Love*" and the evils of its
violation »»»«»» you are solemnly bound, each to yourself and the
other, to consummate it. Let neither adverse surroundings, nor
temper, nor wounded pride, nor fear of want, nor persecution,
nothing but utter impossibilities, prevent your marriage: else
you are a traitor to your highest natural obligations, and will
surely spoil yourself and each other. Defy all difficulties, even
dangers. If you must bide your time, watch it. Commune
with each other in spite of fate. Elope only as your last resort ;
yet when all other means fail, if she will jump into your open
arms, catch her, and, Priam like, scale all intervening battle-
ments. Of course she must be willing, glad, to " forsake father
and mother, and cleave to you ; " yet if thus willing, woe to
both if you do not thus carry her off** a willing captive." Be
wise, but determined. Plan well, and execute boldly. Have no
** faint hearts " here, but courage. Strong wills find sure ways,
and God speed you. Yet
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Eloping for notoriety is despicable. That girl was silly who
was sorry her father gave consent, " because she could not then
get into the papers by a romantic elopement."
A GIFTED LAW STUDENT became thoroughly enamored with an
excellent young lady attending the same school, who reciprocated
his affection ; each more than satisfied with, and both intending
to marry, each other. Yet her proud mother objected, that " he
was not good enough for her daughter." Though the girl
thought differently, and had done nothing to lessen his Love,
yet his pride made him ignore her altogether. He met and
passed her daily without recognition, till years afterward his
Love conquered pride, and he reprotfered his hand ; but she had
just engaged herself to another, while her heart still remained
true to him. A man pre-eminently talented and moral, a woman
most lovely and devoted, and both perfectly adapted to each other,
were spoiled because her mother's prizing her daughter highest
maddened him. For shame ! He did not take a lawyer's view
of that question. He should have cherished her Love, snappecj
his finger M all others, and let nothing in the heavens above oi-
earth beneath interrupt a fully established affection.
Relations, you shall not interfere, where even parents may
not. Make your own matches, and let others make theirs;
especially if you have bungled your own. One such bungle is
one too many. Learn just how far you may go in ^^' ^^' and stop
there. The parties are betrothed. Their marriage is " fore-
ordained " by themselves, its only rightful umpires, ^^^ which all
right-minded outsiders will try to promote, not prevent. How
despicable to separate husbands and wives ! Yet is not parting
those married by a LoYe-spirit, equally so ?^^ Its mere legal form
cannot increase its validity. Marriage is a divine institution, ^'^
and consists in their own personal betrothal. ^^ Hence breaking
up a true Love-union before its legal consummation, is just as
bad as parting loving husband and wife ; which is monstrous
A.11 lovers who allow it, are its wicked partakers.
750. — How LONG SHOULD COURTSHIP CONTINUE?
The SHORTER THE HIGHER THAT EIGHTEEN-YEAR-OLD FEVER runS.
Important business or other requirements might hasten or post-
pone it ; yet waiting till all is ready would cause undue delay.
Other things should yield to it, not it to them. If anything spe-
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cially requires its early consummation, hasten it ; yet cementing
the affections is the great work in hand, which to close intimacy
at first rather hinders than helps. As whatever grows has its
natural period for maturing, so has Love. At engagement you
have merely selected, so that your familiarity should he only in-
tellectual, not affectional.®'' You are yet more acquaintances than
companions. As sun changes from midnight darkness into noon-
day brilliancy, and heats, lights up, and warms gi'aduaUy^ and ad
summer " lingers in the lap of spring;" so marriage should dally
in the lap of courtship. Nature's adolescence of Love should
never be crowded into a premature marriage. The more personal,
the more impatient it is; yet to establish its Platonic aspect
takes more time than is usually given it ; so that undue haste
puts it upon the carnal plane, which soon cloys, then disgusts.*'^®
Coyness and modesty always accompany female Love, which
involuntarily shrink from close masculine contact until its mental
phase is sufficiently developed to overrule the antagonistic inti-
macies of marriage. Besides,
Why curtail the luxuries of courtship? Should haste to
enjoy the lusciousness of summer engulf the delights of spring?
The pleasures of courtship are unsurpassed throughout life, and
([uite too great to be curtailed by hurrying marriage. And
enhancing or diminishing them redoubles or curtails those of
marriage a hundred-fold more. A happy courtship promotes
conjugal felicity more than anything else whatever. A negresa,
asked why she did n't marry, since she had so many making Love
to her, replied "Because
"Being courted is too great a luxury to be spoilt by marrying.*'
No MAN SHOULD WAIT TO MAKE HIS PILE. Two must ocquirc a
competence conjointly, in order fully to really enjoy it together
This alone can give full gist to whatever pleasures it produces.
751. — The Proposal, Acceptance, and Vow.
A FORMAL PROFFER OF MARRIAGE naturally follows a man's
election and decision as to whom he will marry. Consent to
iinvass their mutual adaptations implies consent to marry, if
all is found satisfactory ; yet a final test and consummation now
become necessary, both to bring this whole matter to a focus, and
allow both to state, and obviate or waive, those objections which
must needs exist on both sides; including any improvements pes
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614 JUST HOW LOVE-MAKING SHOULD BE CONDUCTED.
Bible in either. The best time to state and waive or remove all
objections, seeming and real, not already adjusted, is at his pro-
posal, and her acceptance. A verbal will do, but a written is
much better, by facilitating future reference. A long future
awaits their marriage ; hence committing this its initial point
to writing, so that both can look back to it, is most desirable.
And he can propose, and she accept, much better when alone, and
each has all their Faculties under full control, than verbally,
perhaps when excited. Those same primal reasons for reducing
all other contracts to writing obtain doubly in reference to
marriage.
You WHO FEAR AWKWARDNESS on paper, remember that true
human nature always appears well, even when poorly dressed. A
diamond is no less brilliant because set in clay. Mode is nothing,
reality everything. All needed to appear well is to fed right,^^
and express naturally what is felt. Saying plainly what you
have to say, is all required. An unreserved tender, or dependant
conditions plainly stated, is sufficient.
The acceptance or rejection should also be unequivocal, or
any contingencies stated, and waved if minor, but if they can
neither be obviated nor compromised, should terminate their rela-
tions, that both may look elsewhere. If any bones of contention
exist, now is the time to inter them finally, and to take the initi-
atory steps for perfecting both in each other's eyes. Bear in
mind that as yet your relations are still those of business merely,
because neither has acquired or conceded any right to love or be
loved.^^ Without pretending to give model letters of proposal,
acceptance, or rejection, because varying circumstances will vary
each ad infinitum, the following may serve as samples from which
to work.
" Much Esteemed Friend : As we have agreed to canvass our mutual
adaptations for marriage, and my own mind is fully made up, a final de-
cision now becomes necessary."
" What I have learJ^ed of and from you confirms that high opinion
tii you which prompted my selection of you, and inspires a desire to con-
summate it. Your pleasing manner and mode of saying and doing things ;
your intelligence, taste, prudence, kindness, and many other excellences,
inspire my highest admiration." *
" Will you let me love what I so much admire ? " But
" My affections are sacred. I can bestow them only on one who
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reciprocates them ; will bestow them upon you, if you will bestow yours
on me ; not otherwise ; for only mxdtuU love can render either happy.*" I
can qnd will love you alone, with all my heart, provided you can and will
love only me, with all of yours. Do you accord me this privilege, on this
condition? for life? forever? I crave to make you my wife; to live with
and for you, and proffer you my whole being, with honest, assiduous toil,
fidelity to business, what talents I possess, and all I can do to contribute
to your creature comforts. Do you accord me this privilege, on this con-
dition? May I enshrine you as queen of my life?"
" Say wherein you find me faulty, or capable of improvement in
your eyes, and I will do my utmost, consistently with my conscience, to
render myself worthy and acceptable to you."
" I WISH SOME THINGS WERE DIFFERENT in you — that you had better
health, arose earlier, were less impulsive, knew more about keeping house,
&c.; yet these minor matters sink into insignificance in comparison with
your many excellences, and especially that whole-souled affection obviously
inherent in you."
" Deliberate fully, for this is a life affair, and if, in order to decide
judiciously, you require to know more of me, ask me, or and .
Please reply as soon as you can well decide."
" Decline unless you accept cordially, and can love me truly and
wholly ; but if you can and will reciprocate my proffered affection, say
yes, and indicate your own time and mode of our marriage. Meanwhile,
with the highest regards, I am, and hope ever to remain.
Yours truly, A. B."
A TRUE WOMAN could give a better answer than the following,
which does not claim to be a model. It is hardly time yet for a
gushing love-letter, or we would not profane this sacred subject
by making the attempt ; yet should like to receive one in spirit
somewhat as follows: —
" Dear Sir : Your proffer of your hand and heart in marriage has
been duly received, and its important contents fully considered."
" I accept your offer : and on its only condition, that I reciprocate
your Love, which I do completely ; and hereby both offer my own hand and
heart in return, and consecrate my entire being, soul and body, all I am
and can become, to you alone ; both according you the ' privilege * you
crave of loving me, and ' craving ' a like one in return. Since you ar9
now mine,
" Let me make the most of you, by obviating your faults, and develop-
ing your excellences, that I may love you the better."
" Abotaininq from tobacco will greatly enhance my esteem and affee-
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tion for you. I shall love you with, but much better without ; and if you
will relinquish it to please me, I will do even more to conform to your
wishes, and improve myself in those faults you mention. Yet I leav§ you
at full liberty to do as you like."
" Thank Heaven that this matter is settled ; that you are in very
deed mine, while I am yours, to love and be loved by, live and be lived
with and for ; and that my gushing affections have a final resting-place on
one every way so worthy of the fullest reciprocal sympathy and trust."
" The preliminaries of our marriage we will arrange whenever we
meet, which I hope may be soon. But whether sooner or later, or you are
present or absent, I now consider myself as wholly yours, and you all
mine ; and both give and take the fullest privilege of cherishing and ex-
pressing for you that whole-souled Love I find even now gushing up and
calling for expression. Fondly hoping to hear from and see you soon and
often, I remain wholly yours forever, C. D."
" Pleasing manners," " rising earlier," " using tobacco," &c.,
are only samples of other traits, and must be varied in both.
Their style and details must emanate from the head and heart of
each writer ; their two main constituents being his proffer, and
her acceptance, with or without conditions, according as either
may determine.
The vow and its tangible witnesses come next. All agree-
ments require to be attested ; and this as much more than others
as it is the most obligatory. Both need its unequivocal and
mutual mementos, to be cherished for all time to come as its
perpetual witnesses. This vow of each to the other can neither
be made too strong, nor held too sacred. If calling God to wit-
ness will strengthen your mutual adjuration, swear by Him and
His throne, or by whatever else will render it inviolable, and
Commit it to writing, each transcribing a copy for the other as
your most sacred relics, to be enshrined in your "holy of holies."
Two witnesses are required, one for each. A ring for her and
locket for him, containing the likeness of both, as always show-
ing how they now look, or any keepsake both may select, more
or less valuable, to be handed down to their posterity, will answer.
752. — Sexual Freedoms between Mating and Marrying. Keep
Love Pure.
Your Marriage is now complete, its legal proclamation alone
excepted ; which each telling their engagement to friends partially
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supplies. This entitles yoQ to all its rights and privileges as
concerns natural laws, yet not as concerns human. Then
"Is INTRRCOUKSE BEFORE MARRIAGE RIGHT?"
It is neither best nor wise ; because,
1. Love must be kept pure. See its almost infinite importance
in ^^. At first it is naturally, spontaneously, always Platonic.
For this, and its perpetuity, Nature has made ample provisions,
which neither can at all afford to despoil. FacUis est descensus
avemi. Easy is its debasement. Attest all who ever loved:
Were you not more than satisfied with being together, walking,
talking, singing in concert, without any thought or desire for
physical commerce ? Did it even enter into your cravings for some
time after you began to love ? Nature graduates all her opera-
tions. As daylight comes and goes slowly, and seasons wax and
wane into and out of each other gradually ; so Love, to become
complete, must grow and advance from incipient friendship into
complete sexual communion. Haste spoils it. Only its animal
aspect is ever impatient ; and when so, needs restraint.
Keeping it on this pure plane is easy ; so is its descent upon its
animal ; restoration from which is difficult.
2. Unsatisfactory intercourse kills the Love of both."* That
\t8 first should be enjoyed completely by both, as is immeasurably
important as is your marital felicity.^" This requires that all
N^iture's conditions for perfect children be fulfilled ;^" and this
that all surroundings be favorable.*® Anything, everything, in-
ternal and external, must promote, nothing antagonize its luxury.
Either feeling that it may not be exactly right, or fearing prema-
ture issue, or trying to prevent conception,"* or apprehending
detection, or anything else which mars it, will embitter your
conjugal enjoyments in this and all other respects.^** Conscience
is its powerful antagonist. Female modesty is another. There
are many others. 0 don^t array them against it 1 Neither can at
all afford it. Especially
The female must feel at perfect ease, and participate fully.
Please note its underlining principles detailed in"*, and their spe-
cific application to this jiarticular case. Complete isolation,
perfect secrecy, the absolute acquiescence of all the Faculties, and
all the conditions for initiating the highest order of life, and
many more, must be concomitant ; yet each is absolutely impossi-
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ble in all snatched, stolen, and chance conjunctions. Apparel im-
pediments are not least. Subsequent shame or self-reproach will
^poil \t, ex post facto.
Abstinence till sometime after marriage is the only policy^
•iiul best for both, the female especially .^^^
3. You might not marry, after all. Then what? "Many
.slips happen between cup and lips." Hundreds of heart-rending
cases of desertion after engagement have been told, are known
to all ; and usually caused by that disgust or dissatisfaction be-
gotten by these very intimacies being unsatisfactory.
A MOST excellent Canadian girl of twenty, betrothed, was to
be married Monday at 10 a. m. All her preparations were com-
pleted ; her affianced visited her Sunday evening, and by dint of
persuasion and entreaty, under solemn assurance that they were
to be married within ten hours, induced her to yield her person ;
hurt her terribly, without giving any pleasure ; and left her that
night for good. Monday morning, she, friends, minister, all but
her betrayer, were on hand for their marriage. He not only stayed
back, but scandalized her as not virtuous', alleging her dereliction
with him as proof. But, a church-member, she stood so high
that he was not believed. Yef
O WHAT heart-broken AGONY she sufFcrs I It has completely un-
strung her nerves. Yet she loves him still ! All the details of
her case are most heart-rending. Fool she. Devil he. And both
have many kindred.
Practise self-denial if necessary. Two, engaged, consulted,
alleging : —
" We love each other with inexpressible fervor, yet being together
intensely impassions both. What shall we do ? "
" Marry. And the sooner the better for both."
" But I must fit myself for civil engineering, and cannot get ready for
two years. Why not a clandestine marriage, with indulgence?"
" Because secrecy implies something wrong to be concealed. Issue
might follow, or its prevention would spoil your bliss."' Only marriage
will do. Make all else succumb to it."
Girls should be as pure when led to the hymeneal altar as
they were when they began to be courted.
Female modesty enamors, and passion disgusts men more than
anything else, except during intercourse. Coyness, bashful ness,.
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reserve, are yet due from and to both ; whilst manifesting pas-
eion begets a mutual commonness, a letting down in each other'i
eyes, which proves fatal to future Love. In fact,
Nature will have purity, or nothing. Lust kills Love.^
753. — Assimilation, and Preparation.
Getting ready to start out together on your life journey,
should now engross both. Though virtually married, you are
still only friends, and should now begin to make Love ; though
its full period has not yet quite arrived. Giving up to nothing
else, like eating honey alone, might cloy. Its gradual incipiency
favors its permanent continuance. Excessive growth, bursts.
Greed soon cloys.
Your mode op conducting your future affairs, should now
be arranged. Though implied in selection, yet it must be speci-
fied in detail. Both should arrange your marriage relations ; say
what each desires to do, and have done ; arid draw out a definite
outline plan of the various positions you desire to maintain to-
wards each other. Your future home must be discussed : whether
you will board, or live in your own house, rented, or owned, or
built, and after what pattern ; or with either or which of your
parents, &c. And it is vastly important that wives determine
most as to their domiciles ; their internal arrangements, rooms,
furniture, management, &c. ; respecting which they are consulted
quite too little, yet cannot well be too much.
Family rules, as well as national, state, corporate, financial,
Ac, must be established. They are most needed, yet least prac-
tised in marriage. Without them, all must be chaotic. Ignoring
them is a great but common marital error. The friends wisely
make family method cardinal.
Your general treatment of each other now especially requires
to be mutually agreed upon. Each should say, " I should like to
treat, and be treated by, you thus, but not so ; and let you do this
but not that;" and both mutually agree on a thousand like minor
points, better definitely arranged at first than left for future
contention ; each making requisitions, conceding privileges, and
stipulating for any fancies, idols, " reserved rights,'' Ac.
Differences must needs arise, which cannot be adjusted too
aoon. Those constitutionally inherent in eacli should be a<ljuated
in Love's early stages; it matters less how, thau whether to youi
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mutual satisfaction. Or if this is impossible, "agree to dis-
agree ;" but settle on something.
A coNCESSORY SPIRIT is indispensable, and inheres in Love.
Neither should insist, but both concede, in all things; each
making, not demanding sacrifices. The one who loves most will
yield to oblige most.
What course will make both happiest should overrule all
your mutual relations.
Write down and file all. Your present decisions, subject to mu-
tual changes and amendments, will become more and more impor-
tant for future reference, as time rolls on, by enabling each to cor-
rect both ; for our own changes make us think others have changed.
A MUTUAL diary is desirable ; for incidents now seemingly
trivial, may yet become important.
See or correspond with each other often. Love will not bear
neglect. I^othing kills it equally. In this it is most exacting.
It will not, should not, be second in anything. "First or
nothing," is its motto. Meet as often as possible. After its fires
have once been lit, they must be perpetually resupplied with
their natural fuel ; else they die down, go out, or go elsewhere ;
and are harder to rekindle than to light at first.
A SPLENDID YOUNG MAN, SOU of One of Kew England's most
talented and pious divines, endowed with one of the very best of
organisms, physical and phrenological, having selected his mate,
and plighted their mutual vows, being the business manager of a
large manufactory, and obliged to defend several consecutive law-
suits for patent-right infringements, neglected for weeks to write
to his betrothed, presupposing of course that all was right. This
oflfended her ladyship, and allowed evil-minded meddlers to sow
seeds of alienation in her mind ; persuade her to send him his
dismissal, and accept and consummate a marriage proposal from
another. As he told his bereaved story, he seemed like a sturdy
oak rived by lightning and torn by whirlwinds ; its foliage
scorched, bark stripped, limbs tattered, even its very rootlets
scathed ; yet standing, a stern, proud, defiant, resolute wreck. A
gushing tear he manfully tried but failed to suppress. His lips
quivered and voice faltered. Perceiving his impending fate, he
seemed to dread his future more than present ; and hesitated be-
tween self-abandonment, and a merely mechanical, objectless, busi-
ness life. In attempting his salvation, by profi[ering advice to
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the "broken-hearted,""* he respectfully but firmly declined ; de-
liberately preferring old-bachelorship, with all its dearths,^ of
which he seemed fully conscious. He felt as if he had been deeply
wronged, though more hurt than provoked. Yet was not he the
first practically to repudiate ? He suffered terribly, because he
had sinned grievously, not by commission, but omission. He
felt the deepest, fullest, manliest Love, and revelled in anticipa-
tions of their future union, but did not express \t'^^ which was to
her as if he had not felt it ; whereas, had he saved but one minute
per week to write lovingly, " I long to be with you, and love you
still,'* or, "Business does not, cannot' diminish my fondness,"
he would have saved her broken vows, and his broken heart.
Corresponding, or writing Love naturally puts and keeps it in
its Platonic mood, more than talking it ; besides enabling you to
discuss subjects like those just named in the best manner.
Mingling other enjoyments with Love, by going together to
picnics and parties, sleigh-rides and mayings, concerts, and lec-
tures, marvellously cements the affections.
Meet in your most attractive habiliments of mind and
person. French ladies will see their affianced only when arrayed
in their best toilet. Yet mental charms vastly surpass millinery.
Neither can render yourselves too lovely.
Express affectionate fondness in your visits and letters ; the
more the better, so that you keep it a sentiment,^*^ not debase it
by animal passion. It is still establishing its rootlets, like young
corn, instead of growing. Allow no amatory excitement, no fren-
zied, delirious intoxication with it; for its violence, like every
other, must react only to exhaust and paralyze itself by its own
cxce88e8.** Affianced young man.
Life has its epochs, which revolutionize it for good or bad.
You are now in one. You have heretofore affiliated much with
men ; formed habits of smoking or chewing tobacco ; indulged in
late suppers ; abused yourself in various ways ; perhaps been on
sprees, Ac, &c. Now is your time to
Takb a new departure from whatever is evil to all that is
good and pure. Break up most of your masculine associations;
and affiliate chiefly with your affianced. Be out no more nights.
Do quit the use of tobacco and spirituous and malt liquors, if
you have ever begun their use. They are vulgar and injurious;
will disgust your wife, and injure your issue ; and are unworthy
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of yourself. Let your new responsibilities and relations brace
you up against their temptations ; and if these are not sufficient,
Your prospective spouse will help. No other aid in resisting
temptation and inspiring to good equals that of a loving, loved
woman.^^
Break off from your cronyisms, clubs, societies, odd-fellow
and masonic included. Your new ties furnish an excellent
excuse. All your spare time and small change are wanted for
her. To give to them the time and money due to her and setting
up in life, is outrageous. Bend everything to your new rela-
tions, them to nothing. N'ow 's your time to turn over a new leaf,
and turn all the angles, corners, and right-about faces needed.
Affianced maiden, you have some departures to take and
corners to turn. Your life has till now been frivolous, but has
now become serious. You have no more need of toilet fineries ; for
" your market is made," and you have work on hand far more
important, namely, fitting yourself for your new duties. Find
)ut what they demand of you, and
Set right about making a premium wife and mother.^^
Both begin life anew. Forgetting the past, iMnt and sow now
what you would gather and become always.
Beginning and conducting courtship as this Part directs, avoid-
ing the errors and following the directions it specifies, will just
as surely render all superlatively happy as sun will rise to-mor-
row. Scan their sense. Are they not scientific? Do they hot
expound Nature's love-initiating and consummating ordinances ?
Are they not worthy of being put into practice ? Discordants,
can you not trace many of your antagonisms and miseries to
their ignorant violation ? Parents, what are they worth to put
into your children's hands, to forewarn them against carelessly,
ignorantly, spoiling their marriage ? Young ladies, what are
they worth to you, as showing you how to so treat your admirers
as to gain and redouble their heart's devotion? Young men,
what are its warnings and teachings worth to you ? God in his
natural laws will bless all who practise, curse all who violate
them. They prepare our way for our next and paramount theme
MARRIED LIFE.
CHAPTER I.
HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
Section I.
THE MARRIAGE, HONEY-MOON, AND RELATIVES.
754. — The Wedding.
All MANKIND PROCLAIM MARRIAGES BY SOME CEREMONY, USUally
religious. This custom is, must ever be, coextensive with the
race; because in-
herent in human
nature.
Marriage is a
iireat affair,
life's boldest pro-
montory, from
which are mostly
taken its latitudes
and longitudes.
Make the most of
it, by rendering it
the most impres- Fio. 580.— The Marriaue Ceremony.
^ive, pleasurable, and sacred possible. All mankind always have
(lone this; and each mating pair should follow this excellent
usage. " Custom is law," and should be obeyed except when it
contravenes Nature's "higher law."
"A POOR WEDDING FOR POOR FOLKS " must sufficc *, yct it can be
made impressive and delightful with little expense. Those most
rttylish and costly are usually therefore the less sacred. They
eclipse themselves. Extravagance in dress, refreshments, show,
numbers, &c., make them poor .commemorations of a true conju-
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624 HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
gal union. Some waste on them money needed for setting out in
life. Simplicity is far more appropriate than ostentation. Yet
each should accord with the tastes and means of its lord and lady,
under whose general directions its managers should conduct ats
details.
A PARENTAL ABODE, and if Convenient, hers, is its most suitable
place. Only those who hate their parents should marry " on the
sly." The "old folks" on both sides, are entitled to its joys;
should enter into it right heartily, as if repeating their own;
and regulate and defray its expenses. Its subjects should have
nothing to do but to enjoy it in full. Make it a season ever to
be remembered, and one on which both can look, from every
subsequent point of life, down to its very furthest verge, even
from " the life to come," with unalloyed pleasure. Not one dis-
cordant note should mar its perfect harmony. Of course
Witnesses and guests are indispensable, but a crowd is not
desirable. As general an invitation as its allotted apartments
will accommodate, is best ; while a marriage in chureh is quite
too showy and unsocial. The parties may say how few or many,
and whom, if they prefer, yet better, by throwing oiF all respon-
sibility upon parents or others, avoid giving personal offence to
any not invited. And all past and future heart-burnings of all
its participants should be scrupulously concealed or conciliated.
Those who hold grudges against either should have " no part nor
lot " in them, or bury all animosities for the present, and help,
not hinder, its delightful harmony. This is a good time and
way to bury old bones, and restore peace. After the marriage
ceremony is over, its administrator might appropriately say
to them : —
" You HAVE NOW entered TOGETHER upoH relations as sacred and
momentous as mortals can assume. Having pondered before taking this
eventful life-step, it has now become irretrievable. You have * put your
hands to the plough '.' ^ go forward,^ and make the most of it. Your life
destinies impinge mainly on your right or wrong fulfilment of its relations.
Let them not oppress you, yet duly consider their momentous importance;
and devote your entire beings to their fulfilnr.ent. Having now become an
integral part of your very life, they should be your paramount life-work.
Thank God that you are married, and pray Him to enable you to live a
perfect conjugal life."
A WEDDING-FEAST is indispensable ; for appetite affiliates with
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all our functions, and most with the social. Its edibles may
yet need not be rich nor expensive ; nor composed of many or
indigestible compounds. Guests need not gormandize, or get
intoxicated ; but should drink something delicious, yet not ex-
hilarating ; for the natural hilarity of the occasion is sufficiently
intoxicating.
The wedding apparel should correspond with the tastes and
means of the parties ; and be worthy of being consecrated by the
occasion ; and kept as a momento forever ; to be worn only on
special occasions, yet need not be gaudy. That of the bride should
set off her person to the best advantage ; since no more appropri-
ate occasion can occur.
Behold that charming bride, the central figure of the occa-
sion ! All she says, does, and wears should express female loveli-
ness, and conjugal affection. A confiding, loving expression to-
wards her lover-husband is her chief ornament, and most brilliant
jewel. As far as she manifests affection, all is beautiful and ap-
propriate ; yet if this is wanting, all is a soulless sham. If she
is happy in him, all else is complete ; if miserable there, all else
is lost. Angels might admire as they behold her forsaking girl-
ish associations, friends, even parents, to assume the duties and
responsibilities of a wife and mother ; and from having been
cared for, to care, and become a " helpmeet." A new heart's-core
motive is enthroned over the very chit of her' being. All her
dearest interests are embarked in this life-voyage.
Many cry at weddings whose own have proved fatal, yet all
should rejoice ; because, if conducted at all aright, nothing else is
as joyous as marriage. She has the good wishes of all friends.
Would that she knew what is requisite for rendering their wishes
prophetic.
The marital rites of different nations in various ages, are
appropriate here, and might please girls, but, teaching few prac-
tical lessons, are left to others.
755. — Sons and Daughters-in-law ; Relations, Ac.
All pour parents should embrace the married pair with open
arms in genuine parental affection, warmly expressed ; neither
sorrowing over the loss of their child, but all rejoicing in having
gained another ; taking their newly acquired sons and daughters-
in-law right home to their heart, and talking or writing some-
what thus : —
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"Dear Children: Your marriage renders you both equally our own
Bon and daughter ; and we shall feel and act towards you as if both were
' bone of our bone, and flesh of our flesh.' Call us father and mother, as
we shall you son and daughter, and make our house, your home, our table
and fireside yours, for a time at least ; and always consider us in spirit, as
as we are now in law and fact, your fond parents.
" Tell us frankly when you may think we wrong you, and we will tell
you ; that we may nip all hard feelings in their bud, adjust all differences
as they rise, and all live together cordially. Nor need you fear to ask our
aid.
"Be Lillie's protector, friend, and true husband, overlooking
her faults, or correcting them through her affections. That life we have
originated and £hus far nurtured, and you selected for your wife, we now
resign to you. Make the most of her: and dear Lillie, having chosen
Charles for life-companionship, make yourself the very best wife you are
capable of becoming.
" Let us all bear ever in mind that pure affection is alike our pleasing
duty, our glorious privilege, and the heart's-core of all our relations;
cherishing which will make all happy. Begging that neither may wound
the other's feelings, nor allow their own to be wounded, and bestowing on
both our parental benediction, we remain
Your ever Doting Parents, E. F."
" Dear Parents : With your request, that I will consider myself
your son, and call you father and mother, I comply with all my heart, and
will do my utmost to fulfil these filial relations ; besides doing all I can to
promote LilKe's happiness, and gratefully loving you who have provided
me with so choice an idol to love. Your affectionate Son, A. B."
Mr. and Mrs. R F. to Mr. and Mrs. H. I.
"Dear Sir and Madam: Our children's marriage imposes on us,
heretofore related only by ties merely human, the additional duties and
feelings due to and from relatives ; and we hereby proffer the right hand of
friendship due to our new family relationship. Let us bury all past dif-
ferences, cherish only a spirit of mutual aflSliation, frequently interchange
visits, frankly avow and speedily adjust dissatisfactions, and establish and
keep up genuine good feelings. Our latchstring is always out. Our
family joins in this tender of cordial sentiments, and promissory endeavors.
Hoping this new relationship may become more and more agreeable with
time, to all concerned, we remain yours in the spirit of true relatives,
Mb. and Mrs. C. B."
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Mr. and Mrs. H. I. to Mr, and Mrs. C. B.
" Dear Relatives and Friends : To every sentence of your grate-
ful tender of family friendship, we and our family respond in a right hearty
amen. We will do our best to meet you half-way in cherishing both true
hospitality, and genuine cordiality ; open wide our doors and hearts to wel-
come you and youre ; and will vie with you in manifesting those family
ties of which the marriage of our children is the heart's-core, and we the
corresponding members.
" Your cordial family relations, Mr. and Mrs. H. I."
Well-mated couples who begin married life under auspices
like these, could hardly wrangle if they tried.
Conjugal dissensions frequently commence about relations.
Hers have opposed their union, and said hard things against him,
which, magnified before reaching his ear, rouse his anger; and^
her natural sympathy with them initiates a difference. Doubt-
less he was more indignant, and she more defensive, than either
side required. Discord thus begun, the crevice now open, out
rush the waters of Love, only to drown the happiness of both ;
besides creating a loathsome pestilence, which poisons, maddens,
tortures both all their lives: whereas concord between their
families would forestall or at once obviate all causes of diifer-
ence, and redouble their Love. How many conjugal animosities
originate with outsiders? Their parents should be a self-con-
stituted " committee on the state of the union," to discern in-
cipient differences, obviate them at once, and be daysmen to
nurture, instead of interrupting, their children's affections.
But, often,
A brother asks his sister to help his new wife start house-
keeping. Rendered envious by seeing him lavish so much atten-
tion on his wife, and so little on herself, she prejudices liim
against his wife, by pointing out now this, then that fault. Such
sisters deserve, if not to be pitched headlong out at the window,
at least to be told, ** viper, there's the door." All good sisters
will try to heal, not begin or aggravate their differences. What
if he is her superior? Does his knowing her faults unmarr}'
them ? or do either three one iota of good ? or anything but un-
mitigated evil? How much better that, deceived, he should
enjoy her shortcomings than suffer inexpressibly from their dis-
covery ? His " ignorance is bliss." Her being perfect in his eyes
about equals her being perfect per se ; and is immeasurably better
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for him than her inherent perfection without his appreciatioik
As he thinks she is, she is to him.
Prejudice affects marvellously both ways.
Nature repays such sisterly deviltry in its own coin. Her
own spirit must make herself aflectionally wretched; because'
suspicious, hateful, and therefore hated by her own husband.
Such a married sister once consulted me thus : —
" I FILLED MY DECEASED mother's PLACE to my youDgest brother ; fed.
clothed, petted, loved, fitted him out for college, encouraged, sympathized
with him in his troubles, and triumphed when he graduated with honor;
only to be chagrined by seeing him fall in love with a beautiful * sewing-
girl ; ' good, and sweet indeed, but common born. To see the rising hope
of our proud family, on whom I doted, who could have commanded the
wealthiest heiress in Detroit, marry a mere seamstress, — intolerable I I
remonstrated, he persisted. Provoked, I finally said, * If you marry her,
she shall never be my company.' * Nor you mine, ever,' he replied, ban-
ished himself from my presence, and never even recognizes me when we
casually meet. Already has this coldness of one I have thus loved broken
my very heart. The more so because I live miserably with my own
husband. Before, loving my brother eased my aching heart ; but I am
now dying because I have no man on earth I can love."
Miserable victim of false pride ! " Your sin found you out."
Your sufferings, though great, deserve no pity ; for they were
self-inflicted by conduct actually diabolical. In attempting to
rifle your brother's heart, you broke your own. God is just, and
Nature inexorably retributive. You deserve all this, continued,
even aggravated. You should have said, " Brother, if you only
could have married one from our aristocratic circle, how glad I
should have been ? but since this is mainly your own affair, for
your sake I receive her as your wife into our proud ranks ; shall
treat her at least politely ; and will try to love and render her
worthy of my noble brother."
IN'ewly-married couples, be careful whom you admit into your
sacred domicile, for a time. If, to get the one you desire, you
must marry a whole family, which may sometimes " pay," — yet
better give preference to those unmortgaged, — see that they toe
your mark; and expel instantly any who try to prejudice you or
your wife against each other.
Young husband, if a feud should spring up between your
mother and wife, choose between them ; and either get a divorce
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from her and marry your mothei' ; or else get a divorce from your
mother, and marry your wife over again. Yet better " forsake
father and mother, and cleave to your wife.''
756. — The first Married Year: A Honey- Annum.
This is far the most eventful epoch of married life, and
withal, the hardest. Since beginning courtship just right is
thus important, ^ how much more marriage ? for whatever is
begun wrong, waxes worse, right, better.
A WEDDiNO-TOCR, begun right from the marital altar, is more
fashionable than sensible ; costly ; far less enjoyable now than if
postponed, and than home quiet ; and especially fatiguing and
injurious to the bride ; whose commencement of her specific
marriage relations ^'' ^^^ must needs exhaust all her strength :
besides inducing certain physiological changes which, superadded
to the exposures and fatigues of travelling, must injure all not
extra robust. But, going or staying,
Give yourselves up wholly to each other. Heretofore you
have made Love at arm's length : make it now in each other's arms.
Take it at its ebb, and waft on in conjugal felicity. Consecrate
your " honey-moon " wholly to it, and waive whatever interferes
with it. Yet why not
Make your honey-moon a honey-annum ? Why cut it short iu
thirty days? Love is now your most important life bitsiness :
then shape business to it, not it to business. That good old
Biblical custom which excused every young husband from war,
l>ublic service, Ac, the first married year, requiring hirn to " stay
at home," and " comfort his wife," should be modernized. After
your mutual affections are once well started, they will grow on
without special nurture.
This is your great life-labor. Think how great ; and how
infinitely important that it be commenced not about hwi just right;
which requires time. No great work can be finished up hastily ;
and the greater, the longer its incipiency. Neglect other things,
but take time enough to make this thorough. Surrender your-
selves wholly to it. Let it imbue and engross your whole beings.
YouNO husbands, note. Your doting, clinging, dependant young
wife has just forsiiken loved home, friends, and parents for you ;
torn herself from all her girlish associations ; thrown her entire
being confidingly into your arms; and is pouring out her whole
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soul into yours. Then should you not take ample time to recipro-
cate her Love, nestle her close to your bosom, and intertwine all
your and her heartstrings together? Forsaking all has softened,
perhaps melted, her soul : then fuse it the more perfectly with
your own. Be not so cruel as to shake her off just now for busi-
ness, or anything else'; spend your spare moments with her,
instead of old cronies ; and give her and yourself one long lovers'
holiday. You can find plenty of ways to enjoy the year together.
Attend church, picnics, parties, concerts, &c., and read, especially
this volume, together; for nothing as effectually deepens and per-
petuates Love as intermingling it with the moral and intellectual
Faculties.
Studying and admiring Nature together, her laws and facts,
beauties and wonders, is the great cementer of hearts, and means
of harmonizing differences ; because intellect is ordained to rule
And promote action in all our other Faculties.
" An Orthodox, Atheist, Skeptic, and I, a Radical, agreed to read
and discuss the Bible intellectually one hour every Sunday ; and though at
first as aotagonistic as possible, yet we soon found we differed but little,
entertained many similar views, and became warm personal friends." — Dr.
Elder.
This law of mind applies to husbands and wives with re-
doubled effect. Reading together furnishes its easiest and best
application. Any two, however unlike, who will read and dis-
(;uss this volume together intellectually and kindly, will soon
find a warm affectional sun melting their differences, and cement-
ing their affections. Of incipient Love this is surprisingly true.
Hence, take long lovers' walks, rides, and talks ; pick bouquets
and press choice flowers as memoranda of these and those pleasant
seasons ; and commune with each other as vesper's departing
twilight casts her mellow tinges over vales and mountains, till
'^ the queen of night " throws her silvery rays over your enchanted
pathway, or heaven's star-spangled dome deepens your mutual
Love by leading you "through I^ature up to I^ature's God;"
adoring whom together redoubles your Love for each other. You
should also now
Complete those life plans begun during courtship ;^^ stick
your stakes; draw your lines; establish your rules; lay off your
business course; decide what each shall and shall not do and
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become — whotlier you will eat, retire, rise, &c., together ; wait
or be waited on in these things and those ; furnish your domicile
this way or that ; open each other's letters ; go to this church or
that, and separately or together ; whether she shall go to parties
and he to clubs individually, or both visit entertainments to-
gether; Ac, Ac, and, in cases of disagreements, decide on its
conditions. As different fruits have differing flavors ; so deter-
mine how you will ftwor your marriage relations. Yet leave out
all bitters, and most acids ; adding saccharines to your liking.
The earlier and more completely all like details are set-
tled, the better for both ever after!
Numerous shoal§ and quicksands throng your Jirsl year's
marital voyage, easily avoided, even turned to good account, by
patient forbearance. They inhere in your differing constitutions,
educations, associations, and views of things ; and may be mu-
tually beneficial.^'*' ^^ Yet they chafe each other like an irritated
corn. Unless softened off somehow, they will become intolerable.
They often get calloused over the second year, or else break up
their affections. Time often compels patient endurance with: —
" It is so. I ca7i't obviate, and must patiently endure it, or
abandon all, which I can't afford to do." ^^ Endure what you
cannot cure."
Wives suffer most during this breaking-in process. 0
how many break douii in spirit, perhaps health, merely staying,
not living. Take care how you give up. Better summon tact,
shrewdness, sense, patience, affection, all your faculties, than de-
spair. You can't afford to be indifferent. An " uppish " >7^?r?7
will i>ay fearfully the wrong way.
Wedding anniversaries and presents can be made greatly to
promote mutual affection, just as we promote patriotism by ob-
serving Independence Day; and these perpetually accumulating
mementos should be brought forward at your tin, wooden, silver,
golden, and diamond weddings.
757. — Home; Keeping Housb vs. Boarding, Ac.
Marriage and home are each created and specifically adapted
to each other, and should not be separated. Birds build their
nests right after mating; which is their marriage. A rented
domicile is far better than none, yet own " home, though ever so
homely," is far the best.**
532 HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
Home comforts promote, discomforts weaken Love. Good
victuals nourish, poor starve, the atfections.^^® None can love well
on an empty stomach ; while feeding a husband well is the easiest
and surest winning-card a wife can pay.
Boarders' food and fare are poor, almost always; because
preparing it for many necessitates its neglect. Any and all who
compare home-cooked food with even the best hotel and boarding-
house will marvel that the family edibles should be so much the
best. Only home-raised fruits and vegetables are fully ripe,
fresh, and really good, while those got in the markets are picked
green, wilted, and scarcely worth eating.
Privacy belongs in with marriage,^ publicity contravenes it.
Being by yourselves cements you together, with others, satisfies
you apart. All must affiliate ; and affiliations /rom home deaden
those at home ; and vice versa.
Boarding at hotels is dangerous for both. Young accom-
plished wives, admired, praised, are apt to flirt, unless perfectly
satisfied with husbands; which many are not at first.'^^ They
meet men in parlors, at table, who have no one to love, crave fe-
male sympathy, perhaps are demoralized, even sensual, and " up to
intrigues ;" while he meets other ladies, loving, sympathetic, fond,
"gushing" for some one to commune with ; whereas at their own
home, no such temptations arise ; for they select responsible
acquaintances.
Being together promotes, apart, impairs Love.
Hotel life makes wives lazy, by giving them nothing to
do but dress. Inertia spoils. " Idleness is Satan's workshop."
Having nothing to do makes everybody a nobody. Something to
interest, some soul-engrossing work in hand, is indispensable to
self-development. An objectless life is a poor one. Besides,
A hotel is no place to bear or rear children. Yet
Housekeeping evils are great. Servants in this country are
badly demoralized. Scolded, abused by former fretful mistresses,
they have become hardened, antagonistic, towards all ; besides
their stealings, often enormous and incessant, and that inde-
pendence inhaled in our political atmosphere.
Wives must not be drudges, especially while bearing or
nursing. Then what can be done to get good food, and yet
avoid pestiferous domestics and wife drudgery?
1. Do with less kinds. That prepared plainly tastes and nour-
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ishes better than fancy cooked. We eat what is too rich to live
long, or be healthy. One substantial dish, as bread, potatoes, and
one kind of meat, is far better than several kinds of meat, cakee,
pies, &c. Seasonable fruits should be the chief desserts. Better
both agree to put up with a few and plain kinds, than be at so
great trouble and expense to " live high."
Two GOOD MEALS DAILY are ample for all dietetic purposes ; one
of which may consist chiefly of good bread*" and fruits. A
quarter of housekeeping is thus saved, and you are better off.
Excessive neatness and taste, with too little strength to
secure them, are the torment and destruction of most wives. How
can this evil.be obviated? 1. By their letting sense overrule,
and 2. by husband and all hands being as cleanly as possible.
Entertaining, parties included, chiefly necessitates servants,
variety in edibles, &c. Entertain more intellectually and socially,
less dietetically.
Want to show off is the rule. You '11 be happier with less
pride and more sociability. Let those stay away who come
mainly for good dinners.
2. Don't let hospitalities overload wives. Many husbands in-
vite friends to dine and stay, little realizing how much extra
worriment and work they thereby impose on wives ambitious for
a good housekeeping reputation. A superb wife, very enduring
and loving, said : —
" My husband and I live miserably together. I am dying for want
of sympathy and affection, but get none of either from my husband. He,
a banker and speculator, and a very hard worker, is kind and indulgent,
but neither fond nor considerate. One Sunday he required me to prepare
for a party of sixty guests, given in honor of his niece, to whom he is par-
tial. I told him I was really unable, from my monthly sickness, to undergo
itfi labor, and my only servant wa.s in a like state. He persisted. I com-
plied, and have never yet recovered from its exhaustion, nor has my girl."
Wives and daughters should do most of the work about house,
except chamber-work and kettle-washing, that too if possible, and
husbands put up with what they can do ; because, 1. Servants are
telltale slanderers in all families, 2. Things are done immeasu-
rably tlie best by those personally interested, 8. Antagonistic
servants curse and spoil all families. Only those that love the
family should stay in it even a day.
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All OCTAGON FAMILY PALACE, With forty or iiiore feet per side,
five, six, seven stories high, lighted by Ilyat's new invention for
lighting inner rooms through the roof, so arranged as to give a
family parlor, sitting-rooms, dormitories, closets, &c., on each
side, each story, their cooking and warmth supplied in common,
from its central court, built and owned by its occupants, and its
profits divided by shares, might be contrived so as to accommo-
date forty-eight families ; give such food as each likes at a nomi-
nal cost, because bought and prepared by wholesale, and middle-
men's profits saved ; unite society with isolation, and home with
hotel advantages ; and houses and living be more or less expen-
sive and varied, as different joint-stock company owners might
prefer. This hint will some day be applied to triple home com-
forts, while quartering its expenses.
758. — Conjugal Concord vs. Discord: the Difference.
The aggregate amount of perpetual pains and pleasures is
really incalculable ; such as incessant weariness vs. delight, an
aching corn or head vs. a pleasing picture or prospect ; &c. Far
more so a happy and unhappy affectional state ; with this almost
infinite additional difference, that a happy flavors all life's other
interests, possessions, and enjoyments delightfully, while a wrong
sours all else. Thus
A fine horse gives many times more delight to each one of a
loving family by all riding out often together in cordiality, than
if all were antagonistic and hateful to each other. Every meal,
night's rest, moment of the former, how pleasurable ; latter, un-
satisfactory. Every call of every friend, ever article of furniture,
even every apple, pear, cherry, berry, iota of everything else,
little and great, illustrates this heaven-and-hell-wide difterence
all through life, on our inner selfhood, of these two states.
How you begin married life mainly predetermines and creates
all this. All things grow, mentally and morally, pleasurably and
painfully, much more than organically, financially, &c. Of in-
cipient Love in wedlock all this is doubly true, a hundred-fold.
How to promote concord and prevent discord thus becomes
the one great problem for each to study individually and con-
jointly, in " theory and practice. " We proceed to show how.
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Section II.
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULES AND DIRECTIONS.
759. — 1. Be the perfect Man or Woman to your Consort.
" We have resolved to follow your directions to the letter, as far
as we can learn just what to do and avoid. Can you give rules to guide
us in all cases, by which to regulate our general and detailed treatment of
each other ? Most natural truths, like mathematics, have their governing
axiomatic /onnw/a: has marriage its? If so, what are they?" — Married
Pairs by MilUons.
" My wife loves me much less than she once did, and caq do again.
For my, her, our children's sakes, I would elicit all that wealth of affection
she posse^es. How can I engross her Love completely, and prevent its
straying ? " — Many Husbands.
" My husband's Love is my life. How can I make myself his idol,
and him my complete devotee, as he was during courtship ? We have
been very happy in each other : how can we become even happier ? " —
Wildes by Hundreds of Thousands.
"We are antagonistic: can we bo reconciled? If so, how? Our
mutual aversions make both perfectly wretched. How can we live with-
out contention ? " — Myriads of Married Haters.
" Our discords endanger entailing the faults of both aggravated,
with our virtues diminished, on our children ; thus enhancing their de-
pravities and misf ries.*'* How can we prevent thus cursing these idols of
our hearts? How, instead, endow them with talents and virtues?" —
Untold Numbers.
The power op Love is perfectly magical for happiness, when
its laws are obeyed ; for misery, when they are violated.'"* Not a
tithe of the Love inherent in all is ever called forth ; because
these laws are little observed ; and this because few understand
them; notwithstanding all the hecatombs of works and novels,
love stories included, written by both men and women, on this
love theme.
This Section answers scientifically, by giving six laws
which underlie and govern love-nmking, reduced to conjugal
formula or ndes ; observing which only one year will render all
who love each other ten times fonder at its end than beginning;
636 HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
re-enamor all who have loved hut become indifferent ; and recon-
cile all who are discordant, however antagonistic. Come, then,
all ye who would perfect yourselves as husbands and wives, and
learn hoio.
Marriage embodies all Nature's sexual laws and facts,
together with whatever appertains to men and wOnien as such,
throughout all their inter-relations.
Husbands and wives are to each other precisely what men and
women are to each other; and every individual husband is to his
wife just what a man is to a woman ; only as much more so as
the latter should love each other the better. Therefore,
Manifest normal male or female nature towards your mate.
Xo man ever did, does, or can express true manly attributes to
his wife without proportionally enamoring, or* unmanly without
alienating her. IIow much she loves him depends chiefly on how
much true manhood he evinces towards her ; though also on how
much love capacity she has, and its state. As if in eating one
dish supposed delicious you find something bitter and nauseating,
or another you suppose common, an inexpressibly luscious flavor,
though you know not just lohat you relish and loathe; so as far
as you feel and express true manly attributes, you enamor your
wife ; but as far as you depart therefrom, you excite her loathing
and disgust; even though she has no idea just what she likes and
dislikes.^^^ Hence,
Being the true man to her, attains two most glorious human
ends, — perfects your own manly nature, and enamors her. As
every man who does business should pride himself on doing it in
the best manner possible ;^ so every man should pride himself on
being true to manhood, and attaining its two ends, a wife's Love,
and fine offspring.
Being the true woman enamors a husband, and compels him to
love her in proportion; yet just as far as any wife departs from a
true feminine comportment towards him, she obliges him to taste
and loathe her unfemininc bitterness. Many waives take great
[)ains and pride in being " in fashion,-' yet none to be or act the
e^enuine woman ; whereas, being a mere fashionable in comparison
with a true woman, is like having only a farthing compared with a
fortune. One stylish observer of etiquette said, " I was so morti-
fied, last night, at that fashionable dinner-party, so shamed, that I
didn't know what to do or where to hide my head, for my breach
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULB8 AND DIRECmONS. 637
of etiquette, by being so rude as to speak to a gentleman across
(he table; " and yet she had doubtless done ten thousand things to
and before her husband each ten times ruder, without^ one tinge
of shame.
Creating offspring together is the only rationale or natural end
sought and attained by male, female, Love and marriage. Since
initiating life is the only office of the male as such, therefore
Husband, treat your wife as if she were bearing your chil-
dren. There 's the law, and its reason. Should you scold her
then ? No more than burn yourself. Then don't ever. Would
you not then cater to her creature comforts ; satisfy all her wants,
even whims; and be inexpressibly careful and tender of her?
Then be so w"r en she is not ; because she has borne, or is prepar-
ing to bear. Every
Wife, treat your husband as the father, actual or prospective,
of your children. Just think what a child is, and is worth ; and
love and treat him who gave it you accordingly ; and as if he were
to bestow others.
This ib the governing law of all conjugal feelings and treat-
ment, with its reason. This is the meat and marrow of this
matrimonial bone, bone and all. A law thus universal and im-
portant deserves additional illustration and enforcement.
760. — 2. Be the Perfect Gentleman and Lady to each Other.
This rule originates in the last, and has the same rationale ;
is that rule amplified. See its complete demonstration in "^ "**
Gallantry, polite attentions from gentlemen to ladies, in-
cluding their pleasant, grateful reception by ladies,*^ is another
primal law of Love having maternity for its base; and this
in bearing women's need of masculine aid in providing them
with creature comforts. Thus a man and a woman, a perfect
gentleman and lady, meet at table, on steamboat, in parlor, any-
where. Their sexual natures impose on each towards the other
a comportment quite unlike that due from either sox to its
own****' They mutually like, admire, each other: this prompts
still more gallant attentions from him to her, with their thank-
ful reception. This begets that mutual Love which inspires more
and more of this identical reciprocal treatment the more they
love. They marry : this requires and begets still more of this
«ame comportment; and their becoming parents together more
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yet ; because reproduction together is the rationale of all males,
all females ; and doubly in marriage. Therefore,
Think within yourselves just how a perfect gentleman should
treat a perfect lady, and she him ; and then be and do more so.
What is being a gentleman but expressing manly characteris-
tics"^"^ gently ? Think out just what that signifies. Analyze
gallantr}^ from gallus, rooster, and used to designate that courte-
ous, gallant way roosters evince towards hens ; or the way in
which all males naturally treat all females. Kote the atten-
tive, kind, generous, tender, sympathetic attentions all model
gentlemen bestow on model ladies, and treat your wife accord-
ingly; and you will soon find her "'dead in Love," literally in-
fatuated with you. Do gentlemen behave or speak rudely to
ladies? or frown, scowl, sulk, or swear, before them? or ever tease,
blame, scold, provoke, or satirize them? Are they not refined,
polite, attentive to their wants, and complimentary? Would one
angry frown distort their pleasant countenances, or rude act mar
their polished bearing ? Would they not watchfully discern and
commend every charm, draw the mantle of charity over all
faults, and tear out their tongues sooner than upbraid? Yet
how often do legal husbands commit improprieties and perpetrate
downright vulgarities to and before their wives of which they
would no more be guilty towards other ladies than forfeit their
reputation as gentlemen ? or if they did, they would be banished
from genteel female society : and yet wonder why their wives do
not love them ! For a husband to be ever so extra genteel, gal-
lant, spruce, talkative, gay, lively, complimentary, and much more
besides, to other ladies, yet dull, listless, commonplace, unap-
preciative and inattentive to his wife, is a conjugal outrage which
must forestall further Love, and kill existing. Yet no matter
how gallant to others, provided he is more so to her.
Wives are more ladylike, captivating, charming, lovely, neat,
tasty, fascinating, enamoring, and all that at parties than at
home, in drawing-room than boudoir, to other gentlemen than
own husband; yet wonder why they are not loved more by
husband, when these other gentlemen admire them so much.
Yet what can as thoroughly disgust any husband of his wife as
her slatternly habits, common, indifiVu-ent manners, violent tem-
per, or other unladylike comportment to him, with captivatinii:
ways towards other men ? Let the married apply this 'pr'uu-iplt tu
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULES AND DIRECTIONS. 539
their own home and dormitory manners and language towards
each other. Did that last sentence you uttered, and act you did,
emanate from a true gentlemanly or ladylike feeling and spirit?
Would the perfect lady or gentleman have said or done that in
that way? If so, it redoubled, if not, it deadened, the other's
affections; besides prompting the same spirit and cast of conduct
in the other. Would the most perfect husband or wife have said
or done what you have just said or done? How many husbands
are ungentlemanly, even rude and indecent, to their own wives,
and wives so ungenteel to their husbands that they would cut
any lady friend who would do the same before any gentleman,
and what they would not have done before a negro hostler ?
A STRONG woman's-rights ADVOCATE bccamc so thus : A widow
lady and daughter living next door to a man and his wife, each
dropping in and out without ceremony, often rode out with them.
One day, riding only with his wife, he became enraged at his
horse, whipping and swearing terribly. After being reseated,
his wife gently dropping her hand on his, asked him pleasantly
whether he thought he would have acted thus if Mrs. and Miss
had been along? to which he replied: —
" Of course not, because it would drive them away from me ; but
since we are married, you cannot help yourself, whatever I may do."
What a heathenish answer ! Who wonders that she turned
a woman's-rights apostle ? But if the married will simply fol-
low this rule, which those in Love cannot help observing, their
honey-moon will last a lifetime.
" Patherick, why can't we live as pacable and loving togither as that
cat and dog?"
" JisT tie 'm togither, and see how they '11 fight I "
A wife's thankful reception of her husband's attentions is as
inu(!h more due to him than a lady's to a gentleman's, as the
former should love more.**
A YOUNG MARRIED MAN treated his bride very gallantly at table,
waited on her liimsolf as far as possible, and had servants wait
on her in double-quick time, comix)rting himself towards her in
a true conjugal manner; while she received his gallant atteutiona
with indifference. Meeting them at another table a few week*
afterwards, he had discontinued them; and doubtless that forlOra
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woman is to-day pining in secret because he has ceased to treat
her as tenderly as of yore, and sighing over the difference between
yoiing lovers before marriage, and these same men after their
honey-moon has set; little realizing that she herself forestalled
and killed them by her passive reception of them. Wives, may
not the indifference of some of your husbands have a like origin ?
Every wife must repay by thankful pleasantness what atten-
tions she receives from husband more than ladies gentlemen,^
and thank the more the more she desires ; and deserves no more
than is thus paid for. Her passive indifference forestalls his
future proffers.
Kg thankless wipe deserves or will long receive attentions
and courtesies from her husband. Wives, remember that thank-
ing husband pleasantly, even coquettishly, for all the favors he
does grant, is your best way to inspire him to bestow more ;
while "you ought to, and no thanks either, because you 've mar-
ried me," will soon kill his Love and courtesy together.
A wife's GRATITUDE IS A HUSBAND's NECTAR.
Love can never co-exist with ungentlemanly or unladylike
treatment.
" This seems all right in theory, but imposes on us men a burden
too great for any to carry. No husbands do or can treat their wives
thus." — Most Husbands,
Those in Love cannot help it. So far from this treatment
being a task, it is a luxury. A deep, abiding affection will
prompt all this, and much more. Tliis mutual treatment actually
does and must proportionally obtain between all w^lio love ; yet
declines as Love wanes. Indifferent manners accompany indif-
ferent hearts ; while reversed Love renders behavior perfectly
liateful. Though he who dislikes his wife may try to and think
he really does do his whole duty to and treat her about right,. yet
all his actions towards her are abominable, and a perpetual insult;
because his feelings are so; though perhaps neither can specify,
exactly wherein.
" We wives have so many cares and vexations, the more aggravating
by their very insignificance, that we cannot always be as winning and
coquettish as careless girls ; cannot help feeling cross, and acting ugly.
None realize how much we have to sour, and little to sweeten, our tempers.'*
— Many Wives.
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Does fretting over troubles remove, does it not aggravate
them? And necessarily alienate a husband besides? He may
pity his irritable, irritating, fussy, fidgety wife as he would a sick
child ; yet such wives are an abomination to all husbands. Men
do love sweetness in women, cannot but hate crossness.
761. — Praise vs. Blame. Love-Spats. All Scolds are Fools.
Pride of character is one of man's best and woman's strongest
traits ; and in this country, enormous and inflated. All fashions,
respectability, society, &c., come from it. Honor, ambition to be
first, emulation to excel, love of display, &c., are its products.
Only Love surpasses it as an incentive to effort. Insults, by
reversing it, create the fiercest rage.
In all females it is excessive, and inflated — this being one
of two indices of the female head;*^^ — while its perpetual stimu-
lation by praise from cradle to marriage, usually renders it a real
female insanity.
Praise delights it ; and is due for every good deed. Blame
outrages it, and when not deserved, is most unjust. Stealing is
no worse than falsely accusing ; as is most scolding.
Praise kindles, blame kills. Love ; especially in woman. Noth-
ing equally. How very much she does set by tokens of masculine
appreciation, and is cut by depreciation ? On both she is indeed
a little soft. She was wisely created thus."^ This trait is in-
herent in her, and must be respected.
She deserves commendation for all her good, condemnation
for few bad, deeds. Why is not Ambition entitled to its pay for
good services rendered, as much as Acquisition for goods de-
livered ? Is not neglecting to pay its dues as disgraceful and pal-
pably wrong as not paying a monetary note? When a wife has
done her best to get up a good dinner, even though she fails, is
she not as justly entitled to her pay in praise as that grocer in
dollars for flour? Bestowing it will surprise you that she sets so
I'eri/ much by it, in its delighting her so that, unless her Love is
already chilled out by neglect, she can hardly contain herself.
Though so very easy to cancel these love dues by appreciation,
yet how seldom are they " honored "? But how cruelly aggrava-
ting, how vert/ wicked, to blame her after she lias done her beet
to please ? Scolded wives do ton times less, praised, twenty times
more, than blamed ones. A suj^erb wife, married two years, said : —
542 HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
" One whole year I tried my best to suit ray husband, avoid his
blame, and get his praise ; but the harder I tried the worse I fared. My
meat, too rare yesterday, was overdone to-day. I fretted, cried, prayed
over it till I found I must give up to die, or else fight it off. I chose the
latter, and steeled my heart against him and his eternal grumblings, even
scolded back ; and a wretched life we have lived. If required to choose
between another such marriage and death, I certainly prefer to die."
Such cases abound; yet are not all on one side, as many a hen-
pecked husband, who deserves only praise, can attest. As we
"praise God" for good received from Him; so appreciating favors
bestowed by husband or wife is their due.
Finding fault engenders more marital alienations than most
other causes combined ; stabs Love right under its fifth rib ;
spills its warm life-blood ; and must never on any account be in-
flicted by or on either. Blame from one's own sex is most provok-
ing and unendurable; but from the opposite, absolutely outra-
geous. Ko concatenation of circumstances can justify it. This is
not the way the sexes were ordained to lessen each other's faults,
or promote each other's virtues. All scolding is but driving and
threatening ; which makes even boys, much more men, defiant
and vindictive. Driving contrary mules is easy in comparison.
Most scolded wives deserve praise or pity.
Married Love-spats are worse than courting,^^ and inexcusa-
ble. Loving and spatting are absolutely incompatible and anti-
thetic; and can no more coexist than health with disease, fire
with water, heat with cold, or life with death. As disease must
conquer the constitution, or the constitution disease ; so either
Love must succumb to these "spats," or they to it. Though
"making up" by renewed love-pledges may turn their evil into
good a few times, yet frequency annuls its virtue. This is but
resinning and repenting ; which soon turn these new resolutions
into animosities.
Your first spat is worse than your house burning. Put it
right out, or it will consume your future conjugal bliss. Even
your first blame, if only by implication, and seemingly trifling, is
really horrible, in itself and its eftects. If you do not have the
first, you will never have any ; but the first is about sure to breed
multitudes of those " little foxes that spoil the vines " of Love.
All scolding wives are stupid. All men instinctively loathe
them,^°^ and husbands the most. The impregnating mood is the
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wifely one*/** yet angel and devil are not more antagonistic than
are scolding and cohabitation. There is the touchstone.
Curtain lectures are far the worst ; because spleen boiled
down ; and all on one side. Be fatigue, nervousness, female com-
plaints, or anything else their cause, they are utterly without
excuse, and absolutely heathenish.
All Mrs. Caudles are stark mad fools, and deserve to go to
both the lunatic and idiotic asylums. They cut off their noses
to spite their faces. They curtail their own supplies, and hurt
themselves ten, yes, a thousand-fold more tban their scolded hus-
l)and8. Every iota of censure, implied equally with expressed,
kills Love, and all those favors it bestows;"^ takes both off from
the male and female plane only to put them on one merely
human; and antagonistic at that. No scolded husband, unless
angelic, will do any more for his scolding wife than compelled
to. All Caudles, all scolds, even fault-finders, remember this: —
All blame makes your next dress much longer — in coming —
yet much shorter, when it does come; and poorer in quality; and
thus of everything else; because even stingy men give lavishly to
women they love, yet naturally generous ones are niggardly to
those they dislike.
All scolds, in every scold, proclaim their own inanity, stul-
ticity, insanity, haggishness, and devilishness. Alas how many!
Yet
They deserve more pity than blame. Sexual ailments and
reversed Love are the chief causes.
IIenpeckinq wives, what ! Love a cowed, humbled, meeching,
subdued husband ; or he you, after you have broken his spirits !
Or if so, shame on you and him.
What shall a henpecked husband do ? Let her peck away^ and
say nothing, because, 1. Fighting a woman^ however justly, is
mean, despicable: 2. Unsuccessful; for no fighting woman can
|)088ibly be conquered, ever: 3. Talking back only spills still
more fat into the fierce fire. She " will have the last word," and
use you up. Every woman % tongue is longer and sharper tfian
any man*s sword. Keeping her from beginning battle, is your only
resort ; for, once begun, you are worsted in advance. Surrender
at discretion.
" It don't hurt me much, but ft does do her such a prfuptr sight of
S^ood tliat I let her pound away." — A Brwm-etieked Husband,
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Put your ear-trumpet behind your ear. A patient husbanO,
married to a terrific scold, unable to hear except through an ear-
trumpet, knowing from her looks and manner whenever she was
scolding, always put his ear-trumpet behind his ears. Of course
when she scolded into it he could not hear a word she said, and
so never answered back.
Don't hear or notice when your wife scolds.
Does taming the shrew by being so much more violent and
abusive than she is as to frighten and subdue her, express a law,
applicable to the best way for managing high-strung wives ? Its
Shakespearian origin is high authorit3\ It might subdue some
merely pampered indulged women •, yet the experiment is dan-
gerous. Letting her distinctly understand that every scold lessens
her supplies; that the more scolding the less money, and less more,
will bring most shrews to time, by touching self-interest and their
purse^ that " apple of their eyes." Better
Avoid hostilities, keep mum, starve her out, " turn the other
cheek."
Your own moods, ye scolds, and scolded, are everything. All in
an ugly state of mind, will always find something, many things,
to be ugly about ; and the reverse.
" Now GIVE the men their deserts."
Find them \xi^^\
762. — Property in a Wife's Name. Merely Duty Consorts.
A wife's holding the homestead deed is a plan very good or
poor, according as she is either. If it is done to elude paying just
debts, think out its morality ; yet as guaranteeing a domicile in
cases of pecuniary reverses, its utility is obvious. But it is a two-
edged sword, and may cut the wrong way ; so be careful into
whose hands you put it. If she is good, doting, loving, unselfish,
and humble, all right; if proud, conceited, fashionable, selfish,
independent, " uppish," arbitrary, or tyrannical, this will make
her far more so ; and she may make it too hot for you in it.
Many are domineering enough without.
Deed real estate to a good wife, but not to a poor, or she '11
cane you with your own stick. Of course
Whatever a wife inherits should remain in her possession, un-
less she voluntarily gives or lends it to her husband. For him to
squander her patrimony, even lose it in speculation, is the cream
of meanness, and a monster wrong.
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Merely duty consorts are better than none, and a great deal
than antagonistic; but bear no more conjugal fruit than a bark-
lees, sapless tree.
" I ENDEAVOR TO DO MY WHOLE DUTY, HOW that I am married. Though
I do not love my husband, yet I try to be strictly conscientious in all my
relations, especially conjugal."
When " duty " alone can create offspring, it will suffice be-
tween parents ; but not before. Love^ not duty, creates, is " the
one thing needful ; " and to marriage what " faith " is to salva-
tion — its one great, all-determining condition. Better duty than
nothing ; but duty and Love, with kindness and all the other
human attributes, are required. The one paramount conjugal
duty is affection, and affection is a first duty. Being loved by
one belovad is the great luxury. As the " cup of cold water," to
be acceptable, must be proffered in the name of Love ; so rising
early and late, delving and drudging, and doing however much
without Love, makes the beneficiary the more unhappy ; but when
it beams in a wife's eyes, and flushes her cheek ; when, whether
she does little or much, there emanates from her that sacred aur.i,
charm, and halo, as indigenous to the loving woman as light to
sun, it sends a calm, quiet thrill of unspeakable delight through*
out his being, to animate all, inspirit all, enrapture all. IIow
Huperlatively blessed does she render him who basks in her divine
sunshine? and, by its little expressions, redoubles both its happi-
ness, and therefore Love I But a duty consort is only a legal one.
763. — 3. Sharing Interests, Purse, Knowledge, Everything.
Creating offspring together is the one natural end of Love
and marriage.*'* This requires that their entire beings, mental
and physical, blend into one homogeneous whole. See why in*'*,
behold in *'* the evils of not uniting.
A fusing principle inheres in sexuality itself. Male and female
instinctively assimilate, each with the other. For this blending
alone were they created. In it only do they consist. Both must
become like two confluent "droj>s of water, which cannot he
separated ; " every particle of each intercoinmingling with all the
particles of the other. As it is the nature of fish to swim, eagles
to fly, and appetite to relish food ; so the very nature of gender
is to amalgamate each sex with tlie other in Love and parentage.
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546 HOW TO ESTABLISH A PERFECT AFFECTION.
Those who have the most of it fuse the most perfectly."* Its
analysis in *" will bear reperusal as showing all just married, all
throughout all conjugal states and stages, precisely wliat each and
all must do in mating ; namely, melt themselves, and each other
into a one entity composed of both. Without this, everything
sexual becomes nugatory.
All Love-facts confirm and illustrate this theory. All who
have loved, attest : Was not desire to intermingle all your thoughts,
feelings, interests, everything, your paramount desire? Both
longed to be always together. Whenever either went to a picnic
or party, both must go. Whatever either had, both considered
common property. Both must know all either knows. Neither
could or desired to live without this mutual sharing, even in
matters the most trivial. And the more you loved, the more
you craved to share everything, all things together.. Indeed,
this oneness constitutes Love and marriage."*
Behold those mated birds. When one hops, the other hops,
and in the same direction ; when and whither one flies, then and
thither the other also flies; wherever either lights, the other
lights on the same tree ; what one eats, both eat ; and when one
sings, both sing together. This mutuality is equally true of all
other mating animals ; of which the deer, lion, tiger, &c., furnish
illustrations. Whenever the lioness begins to roar, her mate
chimes in, and roars still louder. All mating animals are always
together. Killing one serpent soon brings its mate.
When a fond wife is invited to ride, party, or any amusement,
how often docs she prefer not to go at all unless accompanied by
her husband; because she can enjoy nothing alone? Is it not
strange that when she can just as well go as not, and desires to
desperately, she should positively decline, however much urged,
even by her husband, simply because she instinctively feels that
it would be worthless to her without sharing it with him ? A
young wife" once cried as if her heart would break, just because
her husband had obtained a phrenological delineation alone, with-
out inviting her also; thus evincing this first and highest attes-
tation of a genuine Love. This probably oiFended him, yet was
true conjugality in her. All yoii who have experienced this
divine sentiment, please analyze its first instinctive workings, and
attest whether we are not expounding its very tap-root. Did you
not feel as if you had given ofl^" a part of your own very self, yet
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULES AND DIRECTIONS. 647
taken on a part of jour loved one's identical being ? that you
desired to live only in, and for, and ivith each other? that to be
separated was like tearing your very self in twain ?*®*
All the pleasures of wedlock cluster around and depend upon
this very sharing. Enjoy a given walk, ride, scenery, or luxury
of any kind separately, and then share it in the spirit of affection;
this sharing redoubles it many times. No old bachelors or di:*-
Batisfied husbands, none who have no woman with whom to enjoy
life's luxuries, can enjoy much.^* Let them " drive out " in the
finest livery, be served by the most servile servant, feast on
earth's choicest dainties, drink her costliest nectars, ensrasre in
labors intrinsically delightful, and have everything heart can
wish, unless a loved woman helps enjoy all, accomplish all, thej
can enjoy and accomplish little, and are almost nonentities ; white
prisons, shared with a loving woman, become palaces, tasks
pleasures, and all things delightful. You who know little of the
luxuries of this sharing, may think you enjoy much ; but a rich
sharing experience will prove that your former lonely habits
render everything insipid.^^
Of woman this is doubl}' true. Let her who has no husband
to love, or with whom to share her lot, dress gayly, sing sweetly,
do and be whatever she pleases, no life-pleasures really count
unless shared with the one she loves. Enjoying alone, like talk-
ing to one's self, is better than nothing; but how spiritless when
compared with this intermingling of two loves! Most insipid
are all things 7?o^ thus shared; and pitiable those, married and
single, who do not thus share. Let me make her whom I have
chosen and who has chosen me, my very bosom life-companion
and my privy counsellor in everything; confer with her as to
what to do, and how to do it; make her my "Aaron and Hur,
to hold up my hands," and entourage my heart; go with me
where I must go, and stay with me where I stay ; as well as help
me do what I must do, and enjoy everything in life together.
" And in death let us not be divided." Of course
The more perfectly the married establish this sharing in all
the other relations of life, the more perfect their Love, marriage,
and offspring."* And any failure in other respects will bring a
failure in this heart's-core of marriage. Hence,
Sharing or separating pecuniary interests is most effective id
uniting or separating them in all other respects. Ignoring h«T
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business counsek and aid initiates a practical divorce in all other
respects ; and is incompatible with a perfect Love.
Doling out given sums, at stated times, to a wife for " pin-
money," separates those pecuniary interests which should bo
shared in common. Are not her family struggles as heroic and
perpetual as his business? Should not their mutual earnings be
regarded and shared in coynmon ? No true wife will desire this
dress or that luxury, unless she knows her husband likes it; or
else leaves it wholly to her judgment. Both should plan, work,
and be interested together in whatever interests either. If woman
lacks man's planning power to forecast results, she has the more
tact and intuition, and a nicer sense of right; that most im-
portant means of ultimate business success.
Farmers and their wives probably come nearest to Nature's
conjugal co-operation as to pecuniary interests, and furnish the
best samples of affectionate wedlock, — husbands in ploughing,
sowing, driving, feeding; and wives in cooking, milking, churn-
ing, and saving ; both making common cause in everything. All
fthould follow their example.
Philadelphia merchants are pre-eminently successful; obviously
partly because many of their stores are in their dwellings; so that
when obliged to be absent, wife or daughter takes the place of
husl)and or father. They also employ many female clerks.
Man's mind must unite with woman's in order to take correct
views of things. He looks at them only from masculine, she
from feminine stand-points ; so that neither can take a complete
view of anything except in and by uniting both their views; by
which each completes the other's.
"In the multitude of counsel there is safety." All need advice
in most things ; and who is as proper to give it as a wife or hus-
band ? By presupposition, each is most deeply interested in the
other's welfare ; which is everything in a counsellor. What
an indescribable pleasure to both to talk over plans and pros-
pects, and consult together on anticipated results! The mere
pleasure of the conference doubly repays its trouble. What a
luxury to her to be consulted ! It gratifies her kindness that she
is serviceable, and pride that she is esteemed as a '•''helpmeet,^'
Her being required to help carry out plans, the very office of a
wife,^ gives her a right to have some say as to what she shall help
accomplish.
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Napoleon Bonaparte furnishes the best illustration on the
largest scale of the "aid and comfort/' and want of them, rendered
by a true wife. Josephine was a magnificent woman; accom-
panied him wherever she could ; and was his chief privy coun-
sellor in everything. Colonel Lehraanouski, a Pole, who entered
tlie military academy with him, fought one hundred and seven
battles under him, was his body servant, and knew all about his
family secrets, in a lecture on Josephine, one of a course on Bo-
naparte, said : —
" His success was due to her as much as to himself. He was often
rash in his boldness, and would sometimes devise plans sure to cause de-
feat. The remonstrances of all his generals and staff had no effect on him.
But he never finally acted on any measure without her approval. Her
quick instincts saw and pointed out any defects, which he perceived and
obviated ; and when his army knew that she had approved any measure,
they were sure of success. His divorce caused his downfall. His new
wife's jealousy prevented his visiting Josephine often ; so that, not under
her influence, he planned his expedition to Russia without her full sauo-
tion. She advised his wintering in Poland, and getting fully prepared to
strike a terrible blow in the spring. When on his lone isle he regretted
his divorce as the one fatal error of his life, saying, * If I had only clung to
Josephine, and taken her advice, I should have governed Europe.' "
A woman's co-operation is as indispensable to a man's success
as blood to life. Soon after the Canadian rebellion, all Canada
was convulsed with a proposition to unite church and state, as in
tlie mother country. Though this was a most unpopular measure,
e8i>ocially with the masses, yet it was almost carried by a series
of most powerful articles in its favor in the Pilot, Their author
was a man of genius, but full of thoso rough corners and glaring
imperfections calculated to injure his cause. Yet his wife, an
eminently gifted and literary woman, whose whole heart was in
the measure, by taking his undried manuscripts between his pen
and the press, rewrote this passage, erased that, and added the
other; thus pruning them of their objectionable points, and super-
adding her polish and persuasiveness to his virility, till together
they almost carried their point, and awakened the admiration
even of their opponents, that a cause so poor could be advocated
so ably.
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" My wife's long tongue would disclose my ruinous SECR3ST8, if
ihe knew all about my business." — Many Husbands.
Not if sue is personally interested. She will then both keep
them, and put others on the wrong track besides. Let a knowing
woman alone for keeping dark, and hiding your "fatal secrets"
in utter impenetrability. And when you have anything to do
requiring the utmost of art, policy, management, even downright
intrigue, you require an interested woman's head and hand in its
device and execution.^ Many men are not fit to manage any-
thing intricate or complicated without feminine co-operation. At
least, any man will prosper all the better for calling in the aid
of his wife in his business operations.
No MAN KNOWS TILL HE LOSES it how much a genuine helpmeet
woman does help. For want of it, many stumble and fall soon
after her death, or desertion. All ye who desire success in your
respective pursuits, consider this natural law, and avail yourselves
of its instrumentality of success. As your winning card of pros-
perity, it has no equal ; because, when a woman loves a man, her
6]:)iritual intuitions arc all quickened and called into action in
his behalf; so that she becomes, as it were, his guardian angel
against defeat, and a guide to success, — his "cloud by day, and
pillar of fire by night." ^
764. — Sharing Dormitories vs. Separate Apartments.
This co-operation approves the English custom of sharing
dormitories, but condemns the French, of occupying separate
ones. The main objection to the English, that it weakens the
stronger, yet strengthens the weaker, is its chief recommenda-
tion. As far as it does this, it does just what should be done;
yet where two really love each other, both get and give strength.
Even the stronger is improved more by what he gets, than
injured by what he imparts. It benefits all who love each other.
It interchanges their magnetisms; which marvellously vivifies
both throughout all their functions ;^^^ creates many a cosy chit-
chat; and facilitates all the other mutualities inherent in married
life ; those of caring and doing for their children included ;
wliereas separate dormitories rob each of a true God-created
luxury; besides separating all their other interests. It is a vir-
tual divorce in spirit. Either affiliate, or else separate.
A nursing monkey, when it craves rest, cuddles into its
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mother's folding arms, — both facing each other, and sitting on
their haunches, — with its head bent forward under her arms,
which lay along down its back; while the still larger fat)ier
takes the same relative position towards both ; he the external
protector of both her and it, while all sleep cosily together.
Woman, usually the "weaker vessel," should be the last to
complain; because she usually receives so much more vitality
than she bestows. Or if he is the weaker, this drawing on her
strength to prolong his life may be her own best investment.
"Strong-minded" women, be careful, lest by advociiting this
. doctrine you discourage even the few now matrimonially inclined.
Urge it, and fewer still will propose. Only those will advocate
it who are either poorly sexed, or else in a reversed sexual mood.
True sexuality and conjugality will reject that French, and adopt
this English " mode."
Many an excluded husband feels robbed of the preconceded
right and pleasures inherent in marriage of enjoying his wife's
pereonal charms and this luxurious interchange of magnetisms
so marvellously vivifying to both.®'^ Only poorly-formed wivea
should thus dcn3\
No excluded iiusBAND WILL DO A TITHE as much or willingly as
if admitted ; but will seek from other women that reciprocal
magnetism denied him at home. Her exclusion is his divorce.
Every such wife, know that
Ejecting a husband from your dormitory ejects yourself
FROM his HKART AND PURSE 1
Only tjiose who mutually repel each other should ever sleep
separately, unless for special reasons, and desired by both. Yet
such repellants should sleep, eat, and live as far ajmrt as possible.
The wife's bed-room, not the house in general, nor its parlor,
nor husband's room, nor ditiing-room, nor even kitchen, is the
real home-centre of every dwelling ; or if not, there is none.
The wife makes, rather i% the heart's-core centre of every family.
There children, husbands, servants, all, love most to congregate,
if she is good ; but if hateful, that family is homeless. " What
is home without a mother?"
Occupying separate apartments outrages every conjugal n>-
quiremcnt in spirit, and will soou alieuute both, oven though
demanded by both.
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765. — Disadvantages inherent in not Co-operating.
Separating interests induces evils as great as the good derived
from co-operation. Its pecuniary drawbacks equal the mone-
tary " profits " of co-operation.^® While male magazine writers
were charging " the hard times" to feminine extravagance, and
female to wines, cigars, and other masculine luxuries, one man
w rote : —
"A fifteen-hundred DOLLAR OUTFIT at marriage furnished our
house to the complete satisikction of my wife. By mutual consent I
drove right into business, while she received and returned calls, attended
parties, tfec. ; but wlien it came her turn to make them, complained that
parlor carpets, chairs, sofa, &c., good enough when we married, must be
moved back, and more stylish ones substituted. Now if I gratify her ex-
travagant ideas, I fail pecuniarily, and lose social position, and therefore
domestic happiness; but if I deny I offend her ladyship, and have no
domestic peace. What shall I do ? "
Interest her in your business. She supposes you are making
piles of money, and can spare fifties and hundreds without feeling
their loss: whereas, if you had consulted her as to this specula-
tion and that, knowing your straits, she would cheerfully put up
with the old, till long after you were able to get new.
When a husband dies or is absent, his wnfe requires to know
all about his pecuniary aftairs, in order to give right directions a8
to this and that, else things must take their course; and in case
he dies, to prevent rascally harpies from preying on the estate, by
showing them that she understands what he does and does not
own and owe. She must then take the helm, and bring debtors,
pretended creditors, administrators, and all, to time; which igno-
rance of liis bu8ine^Js affairs prevents her doing. Yet many hus-
bands operate in and of themselves from year to year, without
telling their wives one word about their affairs. " I know no
more about my husband's business than the dead," is a common
saying. Is this conjugal ? Has not a wife a right to know ? Do
not duty and policy require it?
An independent purse, and some business by which she can
earn and use her own pin-money, are directly contrary to all the
instincts and practices of those who love, in wedlock and out.
No courted girl who evinces it will be courted long. No genuine
wife ever desires it ; but only those who are in an unsexed state.
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All wbo are truly married make their purse, possessions, expendi-
tures, all their interests, like their children — ours, not mine.
Co-operation is marriage, while isolation in anything is propor-
tionate divorce. No man can love any woman who does not
depend on him ; nor any woman any man without feeling this
dependence. You who clamor for pecuniary independence, know
not what ye say.*^ Think how many things men bestow on
women."^ You need their arms to lean on, and they you to lean
on theirs. Neither sex can say to the other, " I have no need of
thee."
Many wives greatly need some means of self-support, as mar-
riage now is, but not as it should be. When a husband grudges
his wife every dollar; keeps her on the shortest allowance or
berates her for spending so much ; or when she squeezes out of him
all she can for Aer, not their use, they had better divorce them-
selves in all other respects, as they do pecuniarily. Y'et we are
now presupposing right marriages, instead of counselling about
wrong.
Diversified interests engender discords. If any husband de-
votes himself to business while his wife makes housekeeping, or
fashion, or doing good her hobby; or he politics but she religion;
or he is much from home while she is at home, &c. ; each going
to different places, loving difterent things, forming diverse asso-
ciations, falling into opposite lines of thought, &c. ; they finally
lose all mutual sympathy, and become no more to each other
than as though not married ; whereas, if the same chords of asso-
ciation and interest are kept vibrating throughout the beings of
both, the resultant harmony redoubles and even creates Love.
Exactly wherein and as far as they pursue different paths, they
stray /row, similar, dniw to each other.
Community of knowledge is equally re-enamoring, but di-
versity, estranging. Most who marry, having had a similar edu-
cation, and starting on a common plane, can talk in delightful
concert upon the same subjects, and are substantially alike ; yet
he dashes into business, the very struggles of which improve him;
reads the papers; k^ps up with current news and improvements;
comes in business and 8(x;ietary contact with men of mind and
experience; imbibes their advanced ideas and culture; and by
various like means becomes every way superior to what she is,
and he was at marriage ; whereas she, confined mostly at borne,
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and seeing few except servants, or those below her intellectual
and moral plane, perhaps declining in health, becomes cross-
grained and nervous ; till this relative change of stand-point has
destroyed their sympathy. To him her ideas are now so insipid
as to disgust as much as they once delighted. He wonders, is
ashamed, even provoked, that his loife should be so ignorant and
crude, actually foolish ; but, instead of remedying this evil, only
aggravates it by blaming her therefor. Yet what else could he
expect, or she become? If he had furnished her with papers, in-
tellectual associates, &c., he might justly have required more; but
cannot now. As everything in Mature grows, this diversity
soon merges into dislike or hatred; whereas, if she had known
most that he knows, and both could have grown, talked, and
kept along together^ their mutual sympathy and affection would
have reincreascd with time.
Two SIMILAR BROTHERS MARRIED TWIN SISTERS, but purSUCd thcse
two opposite courses : A, telUng his wife all he learned ; at dinner
what he had seen and done since breakfast, and at night, during
the day ; his heart yearning, after he had learned anything of
interest till he had imparted it to her;^*^ while B kept learning
without communicating any of his self-improvement or business
affairs to his wife, or talking to her except about some common-
place home affairs. A, by thus keeping his wife growing along
up with him in knowledge, spirit, and cultui^e, kept their mutual
affections warm and fresh ; w^iile B's wife declined till they lost
all affinity, because she had remained so far below him as to
compel him to look down on her with pity, and regret that he
was tied for life to one so obviously his inferior. Her condition
was indeed pitiable, but the blame was his. " His sin had found
him out." The next day after hearing this point enforced in a
lecture, a widow said: —
"It discloses the origin of my own and husband's difficulty. When
I married him I loved him some; yet as I lived on with him, my affections
reincreased, till my whole soul was wrapped up in complete devotion to
liim; when he one day received a letter in the parlor, which I wanted to
see, — Eve's curiosity, — which he refused, till, I persisting, he finally bluffed
me off; and that bluff stuck a cold dagger through my very soul. I found my
heartstrings breaking one after another, till the last tie that bound me to
him was severed. Then hatred supervened ; I was glad when he went to
his store, sorry when he returned ; glad when he went to New York for
goods, sorry when he came back ; glad wlien he died I "
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" He began it " by that incipient divorce of the letter, which
ettected a like divorce throughout all their other relations, and
linally broke the back of its instigator. As " gaping is catching,"
so divorce in this matter of the letter initiated a complete divorce
throughout, and spoiled both.
" My husband is off most of the time, and I 'm glad of it ; for I
don't know what I should do if he was n't." — A legal heaiJien Wife of a
heaiheniah HxLshaiid.
" Wife, that phrenologist who can describe our difficulties so accu-
rately, can also prescribe their remedy. Let us consult him again on thia
point." — A Judge.
" Come, each tell your own story, fully and frankly."
** My wife is freiful, and keeps complaining to me about this, that,
and the other thing, servants, and every little household vexation."
" My husband comes home surly and grum, combative and — "
"True, wife, yet, this is incidental to my business. I know it is wrong,
but I get heated in the struggles of the bar, and come home thoroughly
provoked. Never mind it. It is my business^ not me."
" I COULD excuse that ; but on entering he throws his head back, feet
up, and taking the last paper, reads on, says nothing about what he reads,
sometimes finds something to laugh at, — which I do so wish he would tell me,
along with his business, or any outside news, — till, dinner announced, he
eats in silence; when, putting on his hat he says, ' Wife, I shall not return
to tea to-night Do not wait for me, or even sit up ; for I may remain out
quite late.' He says : —
" ' Wife, here are garden and gardener. Manage both, and see that
garden truck enough b raised for winter ; ' whereas, if he would only once
a week show some interest in it, say, ' That is well, but this might be bet-
tered thus,' I should be so delighted. He says ; —
"/There are horses and groom. Ride out when and where you
please ; they will be the better for daily exercise ; ' whereas, if he would
only ride out with me once a week, the memory of that ride would so sanc-
tify the others as to render them also delightful ; yet, as it b, I take no
pleasure in them. He says : —
" * I furnish money enough for the education of our children, but you
must see to all its details, and say what studies and teachers they shall
have, for I cannot bother with them ; * whereas, if he would only go once
per quarter to their * examinations,' see their progress, and advise with me,
I and they would be so delighted ; but he b always too tired, or too Inuyl
He says : —
"'Get and discharob just such and as many servants as you please,
but do not trouble me with your petty household cares ; ' whereas, if h«
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would only hear my sad tale, and sympathize with me — but, no; I must
worry on all alone. I am perfectly lonely, and almost crazy for want of
some one with whom to sympathize.^*
That poor wife tells the heart-story of wives in untold num-
bers, if not in these particulars, at least in the general features
of their case. They are perishing by slow but agonizing inches
for want of some one, if only a colored servant, with whom to
talk over their pent-up heart-troubles."*
766. — 4. MouLDiNo and Improving Each Other.
Affection creates conformity. All children, all adults,
instinctively become like those they love. Each sex mutually
conforms to the tastes and habits of the other.^ If a courting
man says he admires small waists, his lady-love inflicts real
agony on herself in reducing her waist ; while conforming to
her tastes is his chief delight. This glorious natural provision
gives each sex perfect control over the other's habits, and re-
enamors both.*^^^
Lovers and the married conform more yet, and in proportion
as they love. Nature creates that oneness necessary for transmit-
ting their united qualities to their children. Loving without, is
impossible.
Each sex judges better respecting the other's excellences than
its own. As those who love horses better than dogs estimate
them most correctly ; while dog fanciers judge canines better
than equines; so woman discerns man's excellences and defects
better than he his or she her own. Love redoubles this judg-
ment. The more they love the more correctly he estimates hers,
and she his. And the more she loves him does she become what
he admires ; while he conforms to her standard in proportion as
he loves her. Therefore
Each should study the other's tastes and conform to them. Is
not this experimentally the first instinct of all in proportion to
their Love ? and inseparable therefrom ? Each should and does vie
with the other as to which conforms the most: each being like
potter's clay, fully tempered, all ready to be moulded into what-
ever pleases the other the best. And the one who loves most
will conform most completely, even to the other's very whims.
She is the best wife, other things the same, who conforms most,
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not to the tastes of other men, but of oitm husband. Did you not
at marriage soliloquize : —
" All I CAN, I WILL do to become just what, and all that, my dear
Charles desires. Though I dislike washing and cooking, yet I will do
anything to please him. Since he likes to have me go to his churchy I go,
and take real pleasure in complying with his wishes."
No MAN EVER EVOLVES HIS OWN talents or virtues : they must re-
main dormant till the magic moulding hand of some loved and
loving woman elicits them. In war, in college, in church, in
business, in everything, man's love for woman in general, and his
own loved one in special, can alone inspire and enable him to
exert all his capacities, and manifest all his excellences.^ This
principle underlies tliis volume, and all the sexual relations.
•Kto«4s So, too,
All FEMALE excellences must lie dormant till Love for some
man calls them forth, and renders what was before commonplace
now almost divine. Your wife's faults are yours, and yours hers.
It is not for her to obviate her own, as much as for you to obviate
them ; nor yours to overcome your own, as much as hers to over-
come yours. Each should help obviate their own, but the other's
most. Each should say, " How do you like this ? " and " How can
I improve that? for I would render myself just as perfect and
therefore lovable in your eyes as I can." Let all who are mar-
ried drink in its philosophy^ and then put in daily practice this
heart 's-co re conjugal principle,
" My wife has faults. If I yield myself passively to her moulding
hand, she will mould her foults into me; not mine ouU How then ? "
Mould hers out by this very law. By presupposition, you have
chosen one under whose influence you may so place yourself; or
if not, must take one of these consequences, go undeveloped,
or else be poorly moulded. Either horn is awful, but one is
inevitable.
Want op mutual moulding causes most of the discordance of
married life. At marriage each presupposes the other already
fashioned to their liking; whereas selection is as if, desiring a
beautiful piece of choice furniture for life-long use and admira-
tion, you merely choose the green-tree material; which must now
be felled, and in a particular way ; cut and sawed into special
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forms adapted to yonr required purpose ; and seasoned, worked
np, painted, and placed in accordance with your special likes.
In the very nature of things, this fashioning must be done after
marriage, by the other party. How can either safely mould or
he moulded before? Yet both may after. Selection is but the
untempered clay, which Love now sets about fashioning into its
beau-ideal conjugal pattern. Herein consists the very art of all
conjugal arts, the great labor of all married labors ; and yet the
one universally ignored.
When different views or feelings arise, which is almost a
necessity, instead of trying to mould out the bone of contention,
both become indignant, and have a " 6;pa^." ^" Perhaps this point
has never come up before. Neither knows the wishes of the
other concerning it. How could they be alike? An affectionate
discussion, but no other, might now obviate it. If they can
meet on any mutual phase of it, they by all means should; but
if not, come as near together as possible, and each concede to the
other that most sacred of all human rights — personal decision
and action. Yet each should vie with the other in both yielding
as far as judgment and conscience will permit, then leaving the
other his or her own master; that is, obviating their differences
as far as possible, and tolerating the rest. This mutual con-
formity will soon superinduce mutual similarity. Behold thib
triumph of conformity !
" When I married, only one point of similarity and sympathy existed
between myself and husband. I soon found that discussing our differences
only aggravated them; and adopted this inflexible rule; never to argue
points of dissimilarity, but simply to establish harmony on the one point
in which we agreed. This soon created concord on another key-note ;
cherishing which soon brought us into union upon third ; and so on, till
now every discordant note has become concordant, and we live most
happily." — Mrs. F,
The highest pleasure of each consists in thus moulding the
other. As in purchasing a homestead you take exquisite pleasure
in resetting this fence, planting out and nursing those trees,
making that flower-bed, and refitting these rooms; so what
greater task or pleasure is permitted to a doting husband than
daily to improve his darling wife ? or what greater pleasure can
she experience than in seeing him discontinue this bad habit,
adopt that good one, and grow better every way, under her
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tutelage ? Just try whether you ever experienced a greater
luxury. A wife, whose husband was described as improving, re-
sponded:—
" Nothing delights me equally. I had three proffers of marriage :
one from a lawyer, who was very smart, but not moral ; another from one
who was very moral, pious, and good, but commonplace intellectually;
a third from this man, who was smart and moral, but uncouth. I married
this because he had the real worth and talent in him, and by turning
/toj/ie-missionary, saw I could polish this genuine but rough diamond. To
have succeeded delights me immeasurably."
This moulding should begin with mating, of which it forms a
conspicuous part "*• Both should practically say, " Here I am :
make of me whatever you would love me the better for being."
Intelligent, affectionate reader, is not this obviously the outwork-
ing of true conjugality ; and the constituent of that parentage for
which you are preparing?
To BE moulded, liow delightful ! What greater pleasure can a
wife experience than in the feeling, " My husband has correct ideas
as to what will render me perfect in his eyes, and I will do and
become whatever he desires ? " A servant-girl, whose liand was
besought in marriage, replied: —
" Before I can say yes, Patrick, you must take the temperance pledge,
on the oath of the ' Holy Catholic Church.' "
"I drink only at * Christmas and St. Patrick's,' Kate, and then only
with a friend. You never have seen, will see, me drunk."
" My mind is made up, Patrick."
" OcH, Kate, since it 's you that asks it, and I love you so much mor>
than liquor, I will sign the pledge."
" I WILL NOT keep cleaning up after a tobacco chewer or smoker. You
must give up your pipe and quid."
" Faith, Kate, it 's a close bargain you *re driving with me, but as I
love you so much better than tobacco, I will quit both."
Another temperance girl, seeing her betrothed a little too
merry with wine at an evening party, sent him his dismissal the
next morning; and thereby broke both his heart and hers;
threw herself away on the first man who proposed ; lived a most
wretched married life, and got divorced ; after having sufiered
more than tongue can tell, just because she pursued this wrong
matrimonial course. They met afterwards, when he said, falter-
ingly : —
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"Julia, if you had asked me never to drink again, I would have
sworn, and kept my oath."
" Yet Julia saved herself doubtless thereby from the agonies of
being a drunkard's wife."
She who has and keeps a man's Love, can persuade him into
and out of almost anything she pleases ; and its strength meas-
ures her power over him to wean him from this vice, entice to
that virtue, and fashion him to her liking. Since Love is the
all-absorbing passion of those well-sexed,^® her power over him
becomes both mascical and absolute. Behold and wonder at the
power the fascinating coquette wields over her victim ! She picka
his pockets perpetually, only to give him additional pleasure in
refilling them for her; and makes a perfect fool of him, only
to reincrease her power to lead him spellbound and charmed
w^hithersoever she pleases. Then how much more can a genuine
settled Love be made to mould its participants ! When wielded
to its full extent it enables any loved woman to mould any
loving man into any image possible she desires. He becomes
her willing captive. '''I wanted to help him he good,''
No WOMAN NEED FEAR to marry any man, however bad his
habits, provided he loves her. She had better accept one with bad,
if he really loves her, than spoil him, and possibly herself, by
discarding him. No girl can afford to throw away so precious
a treasure as a man's Love because it is impaired by a slight
flaw. Since women can thus mould lovers,
How much MORE A LOVING, LOVED WIFE, her husband ? And the
more as they advance in life and Love together.^ Nature puts
unlimited power into every wife's hands over her husband's char-
acter. Let a fact show how much.
Col. J. J. PoiNDEXTER, described as idiotic in colors, endowed
with commanding talents, and downright obstinate ; yet so
superbly sexed and devoted to wife that she could turn and
mould him as she pleased, after affirming his utter absence of
color, continued : —
" I TOOK MY WIFE ON OUR WEDDING-TOUR to New York. Kcan being
then the theatrical star, I purchased tickets to a favorite play ; telling her
I was going over to the Long Island races, should return to supper, and
wished her to be all ready, in her best, to accompany me to the theatre.
But meeting several of my old Virginia college classmates at the races, a
dinner was proposed, partly in honor of my marriage, at which wine was
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drank freely ; so that, instead of returning at six, I was helped home at
eleven. Expecting a curtain lecture, yet all fortified wi^h my good excuses,
1 told my cronies to make no noise going up stairs, so that our first * spat *
might not occur ' before folks.' My wife soon followed, and on beholding
my plight, instead of reproaching me, said tenderly: —
" ' Husband, I am sorry to see you so ill.'
" ' Why not say "tight," and have done with it?'
" * Perhaps I can relieve you. Let me try that plantation dose ; *
and I was soon sound asleep, while she sat up most of the night to watch
over and wait on me. I woke first, and, reproviding my excuses, waited till
ahe awoke, exi)ecting she had waited only to be more emphatic ; when she
Kiid, fondly : —
" * Husband, I hope you are better this morning.'
" ' As WELL AS one OUGHT to be who went to bed drunk,' I replied,
determined to bring on the Candling then and there. Several times before
and after breakfast, I tried to edge in my excuses, but she pleasantly
turned the conversation ; I meanwhile deferring my morning cigar till I
had justified myself At length, thinking the storm was brewing only to
redouble its fury, I made up my mind to wait till it came ; but waited
eighteen years for her first allusion to that drunken spree ; and then, as I
was censuring a man for getting drunk so soon after marrying so fine a
wife, she playfully remarked, with a roguish twinkle in her eye, *True,
but are you just the one to throw the first stone?' I thought, since I had
a wife who could put up with my coming home drunk, and depriving her
of a theatric treat never again to be proffered, yet be just as kind and fond
for all, even without requiring any apology, or allowing me to humble my-
self by making one, she should never again see me in that sorry plight;
and I have yet to taf^te the first intoxicating drop since. Her loving course
alone savecl me from a drunkard's grave.
" Years after, having ordered my horse one Sunday morning for a
hunt, then a common practice in Mississippi, even for church-members, my
wife inquired, pleasantly : —
" ' Husband, does Charley know that to-day is Sunday ? *
" ' O, NO, NOT YET, he is too young. Charley, what day is to-day? *
" • Why, Sunday, father. Do you think I 'm such a fool as not to know
when Sunday comes ? '
" I SENT MY HORSE BACK, and have never hunted Sundays since.
"In many like ways she has obviated fault after fault, and cultivate<l
virtue af\cr virtue; but for which I should have been spoiled by those vices
which blight so many of our Southern young men; and, most men, for that
matter. Much of the good in me, which my fellow-men admire, I owe w
her."
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One set of MOTIVES moves this man, another that ; but all men
have some tender place, some " soft spot,'' which a knowing wife
(.•an learn and employ to incite his virtues, and soften down his
faults. To iind and use it a wife requires tact and knowledge
of a husband's specialties; which Nature bestows on her sex.
What an infinite pity that woman should spend on tawdry fash-
ion those precious energies required for moulding husband and
children? Nothing is as intrinsically appropriate or praise-
worthy in a wife and mother as to study out, and reduce to prac-
tice, this special mission of woman -^ the physical and moral inv-
provenumt of her family. Instead, many wives, by outraging
masculine character, aggravate a husband's faults; whereas, they
could have made good husbands out of them.
Wife, look your husband over, scan his traits, study him up,
in order to see what can be made of him, and how to turn your
acquisition to the best paying account. Set your wits to work to
devise and execute some means for improving him adapted to his
particular requirements. You complain that he has these bad
and lacks those good traits, so that you cannot love, can hardly
live with him: lies not the fault partly in your magnifying his
faults, and not evolving his virtues?
Compare him now with what he was at your marriage. Has
he not woefully declined on your hands? If a real knowing
woman had taken him when you did, and employed all those
little charming ways coquettish Delilahs often use wrongly, to
polish his manners, encourage his hopes, inspirit him to eiFort,
guide his judgment, and exert over him all those influences
Nature ordains a loved and knowing female shall wield over her
loving consort, how much more polished, accomplished, good,
loving, lovable, moral, and every way less faulty and better,
would he have become than he now is ! Perhaps some little flaw
you ought to perceive and mould out, now impairs both his lova-
bleness and success. Or he may need encouraging, inciting to
trust himself, and attempt more. Or perhaps some fault of
yours — temper, extravagance, low spirits, nervousness, &c., —
hangs like a millstone about his neck, and drives him to drink,
or bad company. Canvass this matter. Wives, if you under-
stood and practised this "knack" of persuading your husbands
from evil to good, they would have ten times more nobleness.
nuA-llueas, goodness, and talents, and less animality and debase-
ment, th? n now. How surprising that
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This specific wifely art, gift, duty, summiim honum to both,
has become nearly extinct ? and 3'oiir early instinctive yearnings
in this direction have since perished?
Marriage should improve, yet often deteriorates. Compare
married with single at kindred ages. They should always be
the most brisk and healthy ; yet often are the most broken-down,
plodding, mechanical, spiritless, slow-motioned, and sickly-look-
ing. Exceptions exist ; yet their general comparison should melt
hearts of stone. Let the inner consciousness of most attest your
decline in spirit, tone, memory, ambition, energy, ecstasy, aspi-
ration, everything desirable. Is your husband a tithe as spruce,
lively, blithe, genteel, inviting, gallant, noble, quick-witted,
smart, manly now as then ? Has he not become serious, dejected,
staid, forbidding, downcast, monotonous, mechanical, grum, glum,
and repellant ? But
Females illustrate this decline the most piteously. Com-
pare women with girls ; and if you do not weep, where are your
eyes and hearts? Contrast fresh-looking, blooming, bright-eyed,
rosy, luscious-cheeked, sweet girls of eighteen, with wasted,
dried-up, broken-down, pale, invalid wives of twenty-five and
upwards. The facial aspects of girls, how pleasant, inviting, and
sparkling; of wives how staid, forbidding, dissatisfied, dejected,
melancholy, and forlorn ! How patent yet painful the contrast!
The manners of maidens how pleasant, attractive, agreeable,
glowing, merry, fascinating, captivating; those of wives cold,
stifled, with ten sighs to one laugh ! Is your oxon wife half as
loving, tasty, gay, lively, charming, now as she was before mar-
riage? Then patient, kind, lovely ; now^, cross, fretful, hateful.
Words utterly fail to depict the difference. How disgraceful to
let your horse run down thus ! And how foolish, if he earns
your daily bread and shelter ? How great the loss of a good con-
sort? yet is not their decline a proportionate? All this when
Marriage naturally develops body, mind, virtues, every-
thing; and women the most. 0 rich and poor, one and all,
awake to discern and obviate these fatal results.
" We see and lament our oompanions* deterioration, but how can
it be prcveuted, and their improvement substituted ? "
Ascertain and Obviate its CAUSta. They may be little 8U§-
pected, even by their pitiable victims; yet arc none the less reai
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and filial. Tliey may be buried away down in tlie deepest re-
cesses of the soul, under the dire resolve never to disclose them.
And tliese internal cancers are the most deadly. Yet a kind, fond»
tender, sympathizing tone and manner will soften and extract
the festering thorn. Or protracted business or family cares, (w
excessive toil, or '' hope deferred," or sleepless vigils over sick
children, or family drudgery, without any diversion, year in and
year out, or fears, excessive order, &c., &c., may have paralyzed
a wife's life chit ;^^ or your stern, authoritative, domineering
manner, unnoticed by you because natural, or induced by your
driving business or help, may have crushed her spirits. At first
she trembled and wept ; bending gradually like a tall sapling
loaded with snow before the blast so long that she stays bent.
Or your prolonged indifference or eternal grumbling may have
quenched all her fond hopes of ever getting your Love ; while her
marriage precludes all others. More likely her very devotion to
you and your children, by disordering her nerves,^ renders her
peevish and almost useless till restored. Probably you unwit-
tingly induced, and can alone obviate them.
Ferret out these wife-crushing influences. Even if she
refuses to declare them by speech, she proclaims enough in
action for you to discern them. Be these causes what they may,
in the name of crushed and bleeding humanity, of her wounded
angel spirit, of your own impaired happiness, raise her drooping
head. Press it to your manly chest. Stroke her throbbing
temples. Revive her crest-fallen spirit. Retune its relaxed
strings. Pity instead of scolding her that she is this, or not that.
Quench that smoking flax, instead of rebreaking that broken
reed. She is sick in syirit^ perhaps love-sick, or rather \oYe-starved.
Love her into a loving, lovely mood. Probably her only needed
restorative is the anodyne of affection. Wives are often sick at
hearty and need only a love-tonic. Its reviving virtue is magical ;
and yet so easy for you, so grateful to her. Try it. Most wives
have a world of troubles, real or imaginary — and their imagi-
nary are real to them — and are often far more pitiable than
blamable. Though furnished with all that heart could wish,
and apparently without one cause of unhappiness, yet they deserve
pardon, even pity, though seemingly so utterly inexcusable in their
ugliness. As the horse is as terribly frightened by a buffalo-
skin as by a live buffalo ; so some very scarecrow terrifies some
women as effectually as if a lion crouched in their path.
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING RULES AND DIRECTIONS. 5(>.*»
Both improve yourselves. Love must progress; which re-
quires either the culture or discernment of new lovable qualities.
For your own and ea<?h other's sakes, each should improve daily.
On hei" husband's return from business, every wife should show
some new work begun, or old one advanced ; a new piece of
music coipmenced, or prior one perfected ; some new head work,
hand work, or heart work, with which t-o redelight him : while
he must be able to "report progress " in whatever he engages;
and especially in himself. How delightful to both, to see tliii
improvement in the other; how painful their decline?
Personal effort is its great instrumentality. Passivity fore-
stalls progress. Only active participancy can avail. Though a
husband's praise may inspire a wife to etfort, yet only she can put
her oum hands to the plough ; and so of him. Each can tone up
the other's will, but " the gods help only those who help theiu-
selves." We expect improvement in all we jK^ssess, much more
in a partner. The decline of either after marriage grossly wrongs
the other. Begin here now, and redouble the other's Love by
rendering yourselves daily the more lovable and worthy.
767. — 5. Promote Each Other's Enjoyments.
Love seeks the happiness of its object as uniformly as water
its level, and light diffusion. Kindness accompanies Love as
surely as gravity matter ; and always augments it. While it is
due from all to all, even beasts, and doubly between the sexes,
yet Love augments it as sun warmth. Let all who ever love
attest whether desire to make loved one happy was not your
paramount instinct. Since genuine gallants are naturally atten-
tive to ladies, never waiting to be asked to do this and not
that, but anticipating and supplying female wants, and lover*
more so; how much more a loving husband those of his idolized
wife? He will early learn just what she likes and dislike*^, and
provide the one, avoid the other. Indeed, kindness ia Nature's
great means of expressing and awakening Love.**
A septuaqenarian Quaker, visiting, when taking leave, ro-
que8te<l Deborah to l>e at the door in about five minutes.
Arrived, he turned the carriage-wheels so as to facilitate her
ingress, half clasped her in his arms, half lifted her in, and going
all around tucked in buffalo-robe and blanket tightly around her
fiet, with the utmost tenderness, as if she were his choicest
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jewel. Will not the loving husband treat his precious wife as
his darling pet, his idol, his other self, the mother of his angel
children, the partner of all his joys and sorrows, and as though
nothing he could do for her were good enough ; and by perpetual
attentions at table, in parlor, nursery, boudoir, and especially in
company, both manifest his Love for her, and re-enkindle hers
for him?
Such treatment is your duty. Your conjugal relations abso-
lutely require and demand it! As the inherent dependence of
a helpless child on parents obligates them to provide for its
creature comforts ; so a like dependence of a wife on her husband
imposes on him a like moral duty. He who does not fulfil it
perpetrates a sin of omission against her.
A MARRIED PAIR MAY BE KIND WITHOUT LOVING. He may Sup-
port her in style, furnish her plenty of money, even gratify her
very whims, and she do everything kindly, without loving ; but
they can no more love without being kind than live without
breath ; and their mutual tenderness waxes and wanes with their
affections. The more they love the more their kindness overflows
in all their minutest actions and feelings towards each other.
Love's eyes, lips, hands, and heart are brimful of desire to
make each other just as happy as possible ; always saying, "Please
let me do this and that for you." Neither can make self a tithe
as happy as each can the other. A loving wife can render her
husband, and she him, ten times happier than either can possrbly
render themselves. How infinitely and perfectly adapted arc all
the details of the conjugal state to this promotion of the other^s
enjoyment, and thereby their oion ! As " it is more blessed to
give than receive," even from strangers, how infinitely more so
to and from one beloved ! No human luxury at all equals thirs.
Happiness is the natural aliment of Love. That of each
is in the exact ratio of the happiness conferred by the other.^"
Hence, exactly in proportion as a wife renders her husband happy,
does she thereby compel him to love her. He cannot help him-
jielf, and will not desire to; but is " led a w'?Y/i«^- captive." Exactly
in proportion as he renders her happy, does he thereby oblige her
to love him, and seek his pleasure. Every thrill either occasions
the other, redoubles the other's Love ; and every twinge of pain
either gives the other, engenders dislike. These results are as
absolute and certain as those of gravity, because equally governed
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by a first natural law. Thus, if your wife makes you happy three,
or five, in the scale of seven, she thereby compels you to love her
three, or five; whereas, if she makes you miserable three, or five,
she thus compels you to hate her three, or five. Or if she makea
you happy five, but miserable three, you love her five, but hate
her three; whereas, if she renders you happy three, but miserable
five, she obliges you to hate her five, but love her only three.
80 she who makes husband perfectly miserable, without any hap-
piness, engenders perfect hatred ; whereas, she who makes hire
l^erfectly happy, without any alloy of misery, thereby renders hi»
Love absolutely perfect. Nature's mathematical equations are
wo more absolutely infallible than are these her Love equations.
Xo will-power of either can prevent these results, any more than
smarting at the touch of fire. Please, husbands and wives, learn
from the principle here involved, both the one generic cause and
remedy of most conjugal discords, and means of redoubling each
other's Love, to any desired extent.
Some pairs can live neither together, nor apart ; because certain
characteristics of each render the other so happy as involuntarily
to draw them together; and others so miserable that they cannot
stay together; and hence quarrel and separate to-day, only to
come together and make up to-morrow ; which they perpetually
repeat. An antagonistic husband, the second year after marriage,
taking his market-basket on his arm, said: —
" I MEAN TO GET A TURKEY for dinner to-day."
" Hadn't you as lief get a leg of lamb?"
" No — not exactly. I have got my mind set on turkey, though I sup-
pose I could do with lamb."
" I CAN DO WITH TURKEY, yet Very much prefer lamb."
"Come to think, I had much rather have turkey than lamb."
"Get your turkey, then ; I '11 cook it, but /doa't want iL"
He got turkey, which she cooked in spite, and of course not
very tenderly. More than one bone was growled over at that
dinner-table ; and they kept up their growling and snarling till ft
divorce broke up their marriage and family, only to aggravate
their mutual hatred, and spoil the happiness and lives of both; as
well as that of their children and relatives — a punishment none
too great for a sin so seemingly trivial : because whenever grctit
evils follow any wrong course, coniniciisurate good follows a right.
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This hatred grew where Love might just as well have grown^
Suppose he had said, tenderly : —
"Wife, can you go to market to-day with me to help select din-
ner?"
" I SHOULD DEARLY LIKE to, husband, but our babe prevents."
" Then what shall I get you for dinner ? "
" Anything you like. What suits you will please me."
" Can you not think of some dainty dish you prefer ? "
" Then get a leg of lamb, if you please ; unless you see something
blse you like better. If so, get what you prefer, and it will suit me."
By getting the lamb he would have made her grateful: and
a grateful ivoman returns and re-returns kindness for the thou-
sandth time, yet the grateful fountain still overflows; rendering
him a thousand times happier than by gratifying himself. The
only true way for each to secure merely their own happiness, is to
devote themselves to that of their companion. This is wedlock,
and rewards itself. "^
Which should serve ? The one who loves the most will take
the greatest delight in doing the most to promote the other's
happiness. Among savages, woman is man's slave ; but as hu-
manity rises, tlie male treats the female with more and still more
tenderness.
Mating should consist in the self-consecration of each to the
happiness of the other.^^' Let each live not at all for self, but
for tlie other. All that each can do to promote the creature com-
forts of the other, by indulging each other in dress, taste, appe-.
tite, fancies, even whims, anything, everything which gives the
other pleasure, reacts for the giver. Yet
Many husbands deny, instead of indulging, their wives. Is
not indulgence affection's greatest privilege? Does a doting
grandfather ever deny his darling grandson, even in trifles?
What if he sees that the boy is "pleased with a rattle, and
tickled with a straw," he gives rattle and straw ; not with, " You
fool, to want such trifles ! " but as if delighted to see him enjoy
t^hem. If a true husband really loves his wife, and she Phren-
ology, but he not, instead of saying, " What a fool to be running
after that humbug ! " he should say, " Wife, I am glad the phren-
ologist has come, so that you can enjo}^ his lectures, which make
you happy. I will even go myself, if only to see and help you
enjoy them."
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Indulging a wifb in some trifle often makes her inexpressibly
riappy, fond, and kind in return ; whereas, denying her some
little thing, sours and spoils her throughout. Husbands, by all
means, humor even their whims.
Herein consists your own greatest life-luxury. That million-
naire husband who takes all the pleasure he can in recounting his
millions, adding thereto, and sating all his other desires, is a
poor, unfortunate, happiness- wrecked mortal, if he either has no
wife on whom to lavish these little, hourly, momentary cour-
tesies, or else is too much alienated to proffer them, except with
a grudge; and may envy that laboring man who finds his own
highest happiness in toiling fo/ that woman who is nursing and
rearing their darlings. It requires a loving icife^ in addition to
dollars, to render a man happy. Of all the luxuries permitted
to mortal man, those of a well-sexed and loving as well as beloved
husband which are derived from promoting the happiness of his
dear wife, are " chiefest among ten thousand, and altogether "
richest. Talk about luxury without this, and you talk nonsense.
Have all other luxuries but this, you have only trash. Have
this, it hardly matters how few besides, and you have " all things
added thereunto."^ Yet you must do not for another man's
woman, or no one's, or everybody's, but for your ovni,^
768. — 6. Redoubling Love by its Redeclaration.
Expression is a first law of Nature. Her heat, cold, facts, laws,
and all her operations, mental included, declare themselves.
The expression of every Faculty in either, enkindles the same
one in those around.^** Anger in man and beast always provokes
Hnger. Revivals of religion proceed on this princii>le, and are
caiiPod by Worship in one or more, eliciting a like devout feeling
in others. Moody and Sankey get up their revivals solely by
this means. Seeing others eat makes us hungry; laughter
awakens laughter ; thought, thought ; taste, taste; music, music;
and thus of every other human function. Nothing can equally
intensify the action of each and all the Faculties.
This principle applies to Love; and can be employed to elicit
it to almost any desired extent.
All courtships provoke Love by its expression."* No known
means of promoting aflTection o<|ual8 that of declaration. One
cannot fe#l Love without showing it by words and deeds; which
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reincrease by redelighting. How simple a means of its promo-
tion! while omitting to express it leaves its fires unsupplied by
fuel. How intensely pleasurable is its first full declaration!
Then why not every new one re-enamor ? And yet most, after
having declared their affection, stow it away among the sacred
archives of the past, rarely to be repeated. Each feels Love, yet
doubts that of the. other; virtually arguing, "If she really loved
me she would show it." " He kissed me when he loved me, but
has stopped kissing, because he has stopped loving."
Many hard feelings, or open '' spats," ^°' have occurred, and been
mutually overlooked since its first declaration ; yet as neither
has expressed much since, both infer that the other's has ceased ;
which chills that of each, till both settle back into apparent in-
difference. They took lovers' walks once, take none now. They
were talkative then, are now demure. They part and meet many
times per day, go out, come in, retire, and rise, without one loving
word ; and though kind enough, friendly enough, and all that,
yet both seem as perfectly indifferent to each other as if unsexed.
What each desires of the other is asked for, and done freely
enough, but without any expressions of tenderness. They can and
do talk freely enough on all other subjects, but never one word
about their Love. They eat, work, and go to church together;
but if either should impress a genuine, hearty love-kiss upon the
other's cheek, the kissed one would be as perfectly amazed as if a
clap of thunder had startled them on a cloudless day. And yet
both, at the core of their hearts, really do love each other, though,
like buried fire, no "sparks" or heat come to the surfiice. And
thus their Love smoulders on, and often out. How many such!
Why ? Because both neglect to supply the other's Love with its
indispensable fuel, have burned out their first, buried its fires
under its own ashes, and just live along, neither hot nor cold, dead
nor alive.
*'MUST THE MARRIED BE ALWAYS BILLING AND COOING? Tllis may be
tolerated in young lovers, and during the honey-moon, but is perfectly
sickening, if not indelicate, even immodest, between the married, except in
private.^ Besides, those who appear so loving before folks always quarrel
behind the curtain."
Woman is Love's umpire. Hence, if she wants to be made
Love to, the man who has a right to should make it. If she
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wished to caress, and be caressed, he should help not hinder her.
She is the most loving ; then should not man pattern after her,
and follow suit ? A normally-sexed woman loves to be loved and
caressed by him who has her heart, and "that before folks,"
but that custom frowns thereon. Women, tell the world in
general, and your own husbands in special, just how you desiro
them to comport themselves towards you. I saw Black Hawk's
wife lean fondly on him in Barnum's Museum.
The married should love each other just as young lovers do,
only us much more as they are older.*^ Then, whatever it is
pro^)er to feel, it is equally proper to manifest "before folks."
It is manly for a man to love his wife. He was created a man
expressly for this. Then is it not as manly to express this Love?
and equally feminine in her both to tenderly love her husband,
and manifest her outgushing tenderness? Is Love loathsome,
that it must be stifled? It is the purest of emotions. Only
when it is perverted is it indelicate. And if husbands and wives
would but manifest more Love in purity, they would experience
far less of its animal aspect.^*^ These young lovers are true to
the mating instinct; but discontinuing these attentions proclaims
the paralysis of Love ; for they can no more help this its natural
language and manner, in proportion as they love, than help laugh-
ing when merry, or shivering when cold. But the real trouble
lies here.
LovB becomes carnalized soon after marriage,®^* and therefore^
from mere shame of its own deformity, shuns public gaze. The
purer and stronger it is, the more gushingly and frankly does it
express itself, " in season and out of season, at home and abroad,
alone and before beholders ;" because inherently conscious of its
innocence and appropriateness. And if husbands and wives
would manifest much more of these loving courtesies before
others, they would both inexpressibly enhance its Platonic form,
and diminish its animal manifestations. Woman, what say you
to this change? Husbands and wives.
Make recherishixo each other's affections your very first life-
business; and let your past remissness only render you the more
assiduous hereafter. You certainly ought to know by this time
bow to reawaken each other's deadened aft'ections. Think over
Just liow you would proceed if, to-day, unmarried, you had found
a conjugal mate exactly to your liking, and wci*o trying in your
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best style to gain his or her heart and hand ; and practise accord-
ingly in respect to each other. Begin by talking over with each
other the desirableness of this change, and best mode of effect-
ing it. Put it on an intellectual base. Read over this Section
together, and both vie with each other in getting up a new Love
affair between yourselves ; each making yourselves as lovely to
the other as possible. Take lovers' walks, talks, and rides ; be
happy together, and treat each other just as you used to in your
young Love, and as you now see young lovers.
Indifferent or repellant conjugal manners are odious. Lion
and lioness, tiger and tigress, are never indifferent, much less
spiteful, towards each other. Notwithstanding all their native
ferocity, all is kindness and gentleness towards each other. Not
one hostile or even indifferent animal pair is found, except among
human brutes ; who, when antagonistic, are as much more brutal
than savage beasts, as man should be a higher sample of conjugal-
ity than animal. Every woman whose husband is indifferent, is
entitled by Nature's laws to a divorce, is divorced jpractlcally ; for
this indifference '' puts her away ; " while her indifference to-
wards him is virtual abandonment. What ergot is to grain and
poison to food, conjugal neglect or coldness is to true conjugality ;
but what rich, luscious fruit is to eye and taste, are these turtle-
dove billings and cooings to Love — its very nature, embodiment,
and great promoter. To reciprocate it, woman was made feminine
and charming. And the conjugal state is the only legitimate
place for its exercise. Those are truest to manliness and woman-
liness who experience and act out the most, in the best manner.
Indifference causes alienations and infidelities. After Love
has been once awakened, it must continue, or starve. It should
be directed to its first object,®*^"^ but, becoming estranged from
it, must seek another, or perish. This law explains Mrs. Gur-
ney's sad fall. Her parliamentary husband, though kind to
her, and regaling her with country and city pleasures ad libitum^
was too busy to lavish on her those little attentions so agreeable^
to woman and promotive of Love; which, bestowed by her groom,
completely fascinated her, and induced her to abandon husband,
family, position, everything dear to her, that she might revel in
those little gallantries which, if they had been supplied from
their legitimate source, would doubtless have had no charms for
her.^
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Kissing each other is Love's most natural expression and in-
centive. Since they should love each other, they should express
this Love by this its most natural manifestation ; and that right
heartily. Mrs. Atherton, wife of a New Hampshire senator, on
perusing this idea, said : —
" He who penned that, deserves to be immortalized for urging the
very point of conjugal etiquette the most important, but least practised ;
and the want of which is the great extinguisher of Love after marriage."
Up to MARRIAGE, even through their honey-moon, they do recip-
rocate this its heartiest expression ; but soon settle back into
seeming indifference ; because the non-supply of this and other
like love-incentives starves it. Yet
Its resupply will re-enkindle it. Husbands, in six months
you could revive your wives' Love to more than pristine warmth,
just by reproffering these gallantries. And wives, try their
effects on your indifferent husbands. Thaw them out thereby.
Break the ice. Give and take a good, round, hearty, ringing
kiss, ''with an appetite." See that pleasant smile mantle her
face. Tell each other how much you love, and for what.
769. — Cherishing each Other's Love a Moral Duty.
Conjugal duties ark more obligatory than pecuniary, benevo-
lent, neighborly, or filial. As those who solemnly promise t()
■pay promptly for goods delivered are bound faithfully to fulfil ;
so when a woman has delivered her whole being to a man, under
his solemn promises, implied and expressed in secret and public,
that he will repay her in and by bestowing his own on her,^" does
not every human obligation demand his fulfilment of his vow to
'* love and cherish her till parted by death " ? What human
duties ai'e as strong or lasting? Does a monetary protest dis-
grace you a tithe as much as a woman's Love-protest? True,
your creditor requires his pay much ; but your wife needs her
heart pay most ? He would be injured, perhaps made a bankrupt,
by your non-payment; but will not your non-payment to her
render her a Love-bankrupt for life? He might recover, she
never can. Your Love renders her a thousand-fold happier, and
is more necessary to her whole future life, than your dollars to
him. It is her all. When it perishes, all perishes. Or, if sh*
survives, her life is only automatic.'^ What infinite damage
your non-f>aymont of this heart -debt does her! Besides,
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Law, " SOCIETY," and the very nature of Love,*^ prevent her
getting its adequate supply except from you. It is as much a part
of her soul-being as her heart is of her body ; and this want is as
imperious.^*^ She could have loved A, B, or C, but neglected all
to consecrate her entire being to you alone. You also consecrated
yours to her. Your compact to her is the most sacred human
being can make to human ; because that of male to female ; and in
matters as paramount as Love.
Man is oftenest absorbed in business, woman in dress and dis-
play, or, perhaps, gives as much of her time and soul to children
as he of his to business, and as little of hers to him as he of his to
her ; yet two wrongs never make a right, but, together, aggravate
each other. The more remiss either is, the more assiduous the
other should be. To return neglect for neglect is to return "evil
for evil. '' The golden rule, " return good for evil," or Love for
indifference, is better. Nearly all can thereby be melted down
in this affectional crucible. At least, woman should do her best
to retain those loving ways and manners by which she first drew
forth a husband's Love ; and those who are loved least should try
hardest.
Every woman must have some cordial, intimate, sympathizing
heart's-core friend, to whom she can disclose freely, and with
whom take " sweet counsel ; " and she who does not find one in
her husband, is obliged to afilliate with some other male.^"
The paralytic state of the affections in one or both often
leaves them oblivious to many conjugal excellences which ought
to awaken both gratitude and Love ; just as a paralyzed stomach
fails to appreciate dainties.^^ Is it not the duty of each to appre-
ciate and love what is lovable in the other ? And the one who
fails soon ceases to manifest lovely qualities. Probably no human
Faculty is as dormant, suffers as much from paralysis, is as im-
perfectly developed, or as often and effectually retroverted, as
Love.®*
770. — Love vs. Business.
"My family requires every dollar I can earn, and business every
moment of ray time. I must be at its helm, look after all its details, get
customers, pay debts, equal my rivals, make a fortune, support style,
answer correspondents, watch clerks, collect debts, &c. My time is too
precious to be wasted in courting my wife."
Then give her a divorce ; and relieve her from this affectional
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Starvation; foi this, monster wrong, is the lesser. If you starved
her body merely, you would justly abhor yourself, and be
abhorred ; yet for thus starving her spirit-nature you are
forsooth honored as a pattern of industry and probity ! She
pines on and dies out, unaware what her real trouble is, or who
causes it. She thinks, poor confiding victim, she has a disorder
of the stomach, or liver, or nerves ; whereas you are slowly kill-
ing her off by breaking her heart,^ Lock her up without food,
which is to her body what Love is to her mind, and you have
the enormity of your cruelty and robbery, only in the physical
instead of mental form. Better away with business, dismiss
clerks, and abandon speculations, than thus torture and kill your
precious wife; for what are they in comparison with her? Ask
her and yourself how many dollars will make good this death of
her affections. Would you be happier in your wealth without
her Love, or in her Love with less wealth? But you are losing
both her Love and your dollars. I fling this declaration into the
teeth of the largest human experience, that he who duly loves a
wife in purity, can do far more work, drive better bargains, wear
more and longer, be keener in trade, and every way a better busi-
ness man, and more successful, than if he neglects her.^^*"^
Perpetual plodding is fatal to vigorous action. A bow always
Dent loses its strength. What is made up in time, is lost ten times
over in snap and spirit. Hence business men patronize amuse-
ments ; instinctively craving that recreation which fits them for
their next day's struggles. Human nature needs diversion;
and the domestic affections constitute its very best form. Their
hearty exercise marvellously promotes intellectual vigor. Let A
and B start married life and business together, every way equal
in capital, talents, everything, except that A shall heartily love
his wife, and spend two hours every day in nurturing her and his
conjugal affections, by riding, walking, visiting, going to concerts,
lecture-room, anywhere they please, while B plods perpetually
over his business and ledgers; in ten years A will be far in
advance of B in dollars^ credit, health, mental soundness and
clearness of judgment, in each and all the attributes of physical,
mental, and moral advancement ; besides having a tenfold better
and happier wife than B ; in addition to all the direct aid derived
from talking over proposed plans with her, acting on her sugges-
tions, and being aided in a thousand nameless ways by her sileDt
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but efficient co-operation J^*'^^'* And this perpetually reincreases
with time. Even as a pecuniary investment, nurturing Love has
no equal.
How INFINITELY BETTER A's WIFE, as such, than B'sl However
splendid a woman may be by nature, when her aiFections die or
stray, she is of little account, as a wife. Would to God every
husband could realize how worthless she becomes without affec-
tion for him, but how infinitely valuable therewith ! and the
more so the more affectionate.
Hastening to get rich is your fatal blunder. In this rush after
the '^ almighty dollar," besides breaking down your own constitu-
tion, you starve out your own and wife's affections. Though she
lias left home, parents, and all she holds dear for you, yet you
leave her for business. She yields to that stern necessity which
keeps her loved one so much from her open arms, but she so
wishes she could have at least a little, if onli/ a little, of your
time and soul. It is so hard to stay all alone, seeing no one from
morning till night, week after week. And when you are at home,
your mind is all on business. You may be gaining finely in
dollars, but are losing her Love, which now begins to pine.
Nothing can prevent it. Her loneliness renders her almost
frantic^ She little realizes the cause of her misery, or how to
obviate it; yet it is slowly but surely eating out her very vitals.^^*
There is no telling how much young wives really do suffer in and
by this chilling starvation of their young Love. And this decline
of its fires for want of fuel, allows animosities, which a vigorous
Love would keep at bay, to supplant it. Besides,
You often come home cross-grained, because perplexed with
cares and fatigued by struggles. Even if your long-continued
and heroic efforts for her have induced your irritability ; she sees
only the crossness, and suffers just as much from it as if it were
not thus induced.
Never bring business troubles across your threshold.^®* Many,
provoked by outside vexations, come home surly, and vent ou
^heir innocent wives and children the wrath raised by ugly cus-
tomers ; whereas, whatever may be your business cares, you
should never allow one angry feeling to enter your domicile.
This should be sacred, and kept inviolate from all such venom-
ous reptiles. Deposit business troubles along with your hat and
overcoat. Many hang up their fiddle on the outside of their front
SPECIFIC LOVE-MAKING BULES AND DIRECTIONS. 6Ti
doors, and while cheerful and pleasant abroad, are always grum
and dictatorial within ; whereas all should take it down on
♦Mitering.
A wife's affections must die out, unless perpetually refed.
This is absolute. Woman lives on Love. It is her meat and
drink, day and nio^ht, from its first dawnings to her latest
l)reath.*" Without it she does not, cannot, jive at all, but only
stays and mopes. To starve it is to starve all ; while nourishing
it nourishes all. It is to her whole being what lubrication is to
machinery. Deprived of it, the best of feminine material becomes
hardened or deadened ; but supplied therewith, even a poor
woman makes a good wife. Words utterly fail to describe the
practical difference between the same woman when loving and
loved, or hating and hated. Her affections are the key to her
whole being, to lock or unlock all the good or bad, and reincrcase
both. How many dollars is that child worth ? Can money
measure .its priceless value? Yet is not that wife, if she were ail
devotion to you, worth quite as much? The social organs are
so much larger than Acquisition, that no money can at all ex-
press the value of a good child, or wife, or husband. And the
more they love or are beloved, the more precious they become.
Mutual alienations detract correspondingly from a wife's
value; while hatred renders her as much more a curse than no
wife, as she is the better when loving and beloved. Her value
rises and falls in proportion to the amount of Love interchanged.
If a given amount of affection renders her worth a hundred thou-
sand dollars, a hated, hating one is like a hundred-thousand-dol-
lar debt^ hanging like a per[>etual millstone-incubus, from which
there is no deliverance ; so that losing a wife's Love is a greater
loss than her death ; because it prevents you marrying another,
ami chains you to one you abhor. Losing but a little of it is an
immeasurable loss, while gaining only a little is worth more than
thousands; because it renders you happier; besides augmenting
hers and your children's happiness.
Count the cost, and strike the balance as to the difference
between a lovely and a hateful wife, and then " cipher out " the
value of a good one. Solomon placed it " far above rubies," and
rubies are far above your store tnish. Yet even he did not duly
estimate her full value. Next, by addition and subtraction,
aide<l by the Rule of Three, ** decipher '* how much that man
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rains who, by delving early and late at his eternnl "business,"
.spoils a good wife^ in and by letting her aiFections run down or die
out. Next, by addition and multiplication, find out how much ip
«ained by chcrishwr/ them, and thereby perpetually reimproving
both her and yourself. Dollars cannot measure such problems.
What shall it profit a man if, in gaining the whole world, he
spoils or loses a good wife? And yet most of our shrewdest (?)
business men daily pocket this very loss !
771. — Love Seasons, Family Amusements, &c.
Periodicity is a universal natural law. Regularity is most
promotive of all functions; while irregularity impairs all, Love
especially. Has Nature appointed a time to begin to love,^ and not
also special seasons for its continuance f Shall she establish periods
for eating, sleeping, laboring, &c., and not also for loving? Does
regularity promote digestion, sleep, &c., and shall not setting
apart specific seasons for cherishing Love also promote ili? Shall
annual celebrations of weddings promote affection,^^ and shall not
a diurnal one three hundred and sixty-five times more? Love
must be fed, or starve to deathJ^^ Then why not nurture it at a
stated hour each day ? Choose one which interferes least with
business, but have some one. Does daily family devotion promote
worship by uniting time with it? and would not consecrating
a certain hour of each day to nurturing Love equally promote it ?
A noble-looking man and doting father "played the agreeable''
at table to his sixteen-year-old daughter, quite as tenderly and
genteelly as if she had been his intended. Always making it my
rule to start conversation with whoever has any specialties, in
order to improve piyself, I opened conversation with him, cor-
rectly presupposing he had some hobby, and would strike it;
which he had and did : and which was, a fixed dailg season for
enjoying his family; in illustration of which he told this anec-
dote:—
" My mother, calling me to her death-bed, and taking my warm hand
in her cold, with peculiar emphasis, said:''!My son, heed this my last
Hying advice — that you make the enjoyment of your family your first and
great life-object, for this will redouble all your other pleasures; whereas
all others without this will be of little value ; and, in order thereto, devote
a given hour each day to family pleasures. Learn from my sad example.
Your father and myself star|;ed out in life determined to make domestic
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happiness our one great life-object; but in order thereto, adopted tbi8 wrong
policy of laboring and suffering in the forenoon of life, to obtiiiu a (oni-
petence on which to retire, that we might spend its afternoon and evening
in domestic felicity ; but he is dead, and here I am dying, without either
having enjoyed the only single end of all our toils and sacrifices: so make
nire of your own family pleasures by taking them " day by day,'* cw you
go along through life.' I saw the force of her advice, and determinefl to
follow it; and, first marrying wisely, consecrated an hour of each day after
dinner to unalloyed family felicities. If the weatlier favored a ride, and
we preferred it, we took it, or a walk through grounds or flower-garden ;
but if it stormed without, we took our ' holy hour * in parlor or nursery ;
but took it. If friends were visiting, or business pressing, both must stand
aside, or else participate: for I allowed nothing to interfere with this daily
family * love-feast ; ' and have derived more life-pleasure and good from tiiia
single practice than from all my business pursuits, speculations, and every-
thing else, put together."
Appoint regular times, you who mate, to " meet by moonlight,"
or at fixed intervals, as you go to and from business, &c., to keep
your hearts warm, and render your Love so ecstatic as completely
to forestall discontent; and you who are married, just practice
this aftectional culture, if for only six months, till you test its
value as a Love restorative and incentive. To its reminiscences
these holy times " lend enchantment."
Evenings are by far the most appropriate. As sun and light
disa])pear gradually, so we should not rush from business to rest,
but need an interval analogous to twilight. Some play-spell
amusement before retiring is the very best possible promoter of
" Nature's great restorer ; " and thereby of additional capacity for
to-morrow's labor. Daily recreation is marrow to the bones,
strength to body and mind, balm to the spirit, and the very best
of all preparations for subsequent labors. What other time is as
obviously appropriate as evening, or means as effective as cherish-
ing family affection ?
No man should work nights. Those who pore over accounta
and ledgers by night, thereby hut detract many fold from their
capacity to work thereafter; just as those students who "pore
over the midnight lamp " thereby kill the goose that lays the
golden egg of power to study. The best way to gain time and rc-
doulile business or study is to recreate evenings and sleep nights.
And indulging the loves evenings luiturally soothes careworn
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brows, quiets all false excitements, sweetens the temper, and pre-
pares for sound and invigorating. rest better than anything else.
As a recreating amusement it has no equal ; nor as a prolonger
of life, and reinvigorator of all the Faculties. It promotes affec-
tion, because enjoying together naturally makes the participants
love each other. Hence evening amusements constitute Love's
most nutritious aliment. On no account ignore so precious a
means of its promotion. They may be enjoyed at home, or
abroad, or alternately, as is preferred ; but if abroad, must be
dismissed early, so as not to interfere with sleep. As children
should play all day, they should retire early.
" Must all husbands stay at home who cannot take their sickly or
confined wives abroad? Shall both suffer because one must ?"
A LOVED wife's SOCIETY IS a husband's greatest pleasure; but
those who dislike each other had better be divorced. Every true
husband will count off every working hour till he can hurry
home to that dear woman he so tenderly loves ; but for a husband,
after being gone all day, to go from supper to billiards, oyster or
gaming saloon, theatre, party, club-room, " lodge," &c., obliging
his wife to stay at home alone, and sit up to let him in, perhaps
in perpetual fear, is a cool cruelty which no true man will perpe-
trate on any woman, much less his wife. Turn these tables. You
stay at home, while she stays out nights. How would you like
that? And wives are the pitiable victims of numberless like
minor cruelties imposed or sanctioned by custom, the very
commonness of which only aggravates their evil.
" How CAN WIVES PREVENT being thus tortured ? "
By COAXING, always ; driving, never any. Men are more con-
trary than mules. As " one can lead a horse to water, yet ten
cannot make him drink," so a sweet wife can persuade and entice
a husband; yet the more she drives the more he resists. Those
bewitching ways by which Delilah managed Samson will enable
almost any woman to govern any man who loves her, and whom
she loves. Let the following show aggrieved wives how to do in
like cases. J. J. Poindexter continued,^^ thus : —
"I LIVED WITH A NEWLY-MARRIED SON of my most intimate friend,
after my wife's death, who habitually remained out late nights, gambling
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away his wife's fortune ; who, feeling awfully, tried to prevent both, and
compel him to stay with her, by hiding now his hat, then boots ; when he
bought cap and shoes he could carry in his pocket, and go and come at
pleasure. She asked me how she could possibly save her fortune and
husband ? I answered : —
" * Tack ship. Have some hot coffee all ready, so that, when you hear
his returning footsteps, instead of waiting till he becomes impatient by
trying to get in, open the door first, and receive him just as pleasantly as if
all were right ; have his warm slippers and easy chair all prepared, and wait
on him so tenderly, and make yourself so agreeable, that he will volun-
tarily prefer your company to that of the club-room and gambling-table;
and keep trying this card till it wins.' She tried it, and has her rewarc
in his being so much the happier in her society that he prefers to spend
all his evenings with her.'*
This principle, aggrieved wives, varied in accordance with your
husbands' particular errors, discloses your only sure means of keej>-
ing tliem at home, and obviating their faults? But mark, you
must employ Love, all Love, and nothing but Love. All driving
will surely spoil all. Set your wits at work to apply this means
of reform to your husbands' specific case.
EvENiNQ FAMILY AMUSEMENTS should be as habitual in every
family as breakfast ; and have this great advantage over
public, that the wife and mother can participate. She is often
obliged to stay at home to " rock the cradle." Confined and
worried all day, perhaps by a cross or sickly babe, her mind
almost agonized by anxieties, and possibly nervousness, she needs
relaxation the most. Doubtless the crossness of her darling is
due to her perpetual confinement and worriment over its cnidle;
whereas relievingher mind would re-establish hersand its health.**
And is she not the most entitled to it ? Making her stay while all
others go, is cruel. Or if she insists on staying, the husband
should urge her going, or stay with her; unless he goes to learn
something to tell and improve her. She is legally entitled to hi?
evening company. And he needs hers about as much as she his.
Females should intermingle in all amusements, as \\\ everything
else.*" Neither sex should go much into the company of their
own, but always mostly into that of the opj>ositc. No man
should ever go where, or do what, his wife may not share.""
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772. — Model Husbands and Wives: A Perfect Union.
A PERFECT article is incomparably superior to a faulty. Any
minor flaws diminish the value much more than their face. As a
grease spot on a superb toilet, a smoky chimney in a magnificent
villa, lameness in a horse, &c., about spoil what would otherwise
be most valuable ; so one fault in a husband, as drunkenness, idle-
ness, &c., or one blemish in a wife, as vanity, or one bone of con-
tention in a married pair, overshadows a host of excellences, and
causes the more misery the greater the other's virtues. Every
wife owes it to her husband, and all husbands to their wives and
children, to become as perfect conjugal companions as possible.
As those who wrong others should feel guilty, how much more
those who wrong boon companion and children ? for no duties
are equally binding. Being a perfect husband or wife is be-
coming a perfect man or woman. " Be ye perfect men and
women," means, be ye perfect husbands and wives.
All who marry should aspire to a pure, true, high, perfect
conjugal life; which Nature rewards with the greatest luxuries
known to man. As men try to eclipse others in their vocations,
and ladies each other in dress, stylish parties, &c., why not all
rival all as much more in conjugality as excellence in it is the
most important? Every girl should resolve, " I will fit myself
to become the best wife possible/' ^^ and every wife strive to excel
other wives in that finest of the " fine arts," companionship ; and
all husbands and wives vie with all others in making model
husbands, as if striving for conjugal championship ? If you can-
not excel me in Phrenology, or I you in finance, or mechanics,
we can enter into generous strife for getting up and conducting
the finest family establishment. Prime wives, husbands, and
babies arc quite as deserving of premiums as colts, crops, or
manufactures.
All can attain a perfect union. Every divine Avork is per-
Icct: matrimony is divine, and therefore perfect. What if you
are unlike, the fusing power of Love will enable a savage male
and a civilized female to live together in afiection.^^* Every
married pair can be just as happy as their enjoying capacities
will allow. Infinite Wisdom does nothing by halves; and has
done all He could to render all just as ecstatic in marriage as they
can be and live. If celestial language can depict its lusciousness,
tcricstri;tl certainly cannot-
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Attaining all this is easy. None need do penance, endure.
A pilgrimage, pay great sums, or even make great efforts to obtain
this superlative enjoyment. Nature bestows it on neither liigli
uor low, rich nor poor, as such ; but on only those who fulfil her
love-laws; which are taught us all by being incorporated into our
instincts, and easily fulfilled.
All must invest liberally in dollars, in time, in soul, who
would enjoy large domestic " profits." He who is niggardly in
family outlays, must expect meager returns. Many who throw
their whole mind and purse into pecuniary enti'rprises and reap
vast profits, appropriate little of either to family pleasures, and
get less back ; whereas, investing as largely in home interests
would have given proportionate domestic " returns." How could
US miserly an '' advance " " pay " any better ? ' " Society wives, do
you give a tithe as much time, soul, will, spirit, zest, or money,
to family as to piirty displays, and fashionable nonsense? "
Investing half as much head and heart, time and purse, in
wife and husband, children and home now lavished on other
interests, will return ten times the most enjoyment — the only
thing that " pays."
Conjugal excellence requires knowledge. Duty to fulfil,
presupposes the prior duty of knowing what is due to and from
each other. Men and women are as guilty for ignorance of these
truths as of the decalogue. All husbands and wives should re-
solve^ then studj^ and then try^ to do their very best ; besides mak-
ing the practice a real enthusiasm.
This Chapter gives this knowledge. Its practice will render
all superlatively happy in their affections. Think, ye married,
whether following its directions would not have made, will not
still make you concordant and happy. Then learn from past
errors, and make up for lost time, and you will " thank the Lord
for it."
CHAPTER 11.
DISCORDS: THEIR CAUSES, AND CURES: DIVORCE.
Section I.
THEIR EXTENT AND CURABILITY.
773. — The existing Amount of ^N'uptial Misery incalculable.
Our pen falters again, because it could not execute its pain-
ful task if it would, and would not if it could ; lest, by justifying
and promoting celibacy, it should forestall the multiplication of
the race ; and lest the next generation, after these doctrines become
disseminated and practised, pronounce such an amount of conju-
gal misery impossible. Yet " a peep behind the curtain " becomes
our painful duty, that we may point out '' a more excellent way."
That marriage generally is the grave of Love, and causes infinite
misery, is declared by most writers, French, German, English,
and American, male and female, among whom are Madame de
Stael, Eugene Sue, Goethe, Carlyle, Harriet Martineau, Lord
Brougham, Mrs. Child, Margaret Fuller, and hosts of others too
numerous to mention ; and re-confirmed by the experience of
nearly all who marry. Hudibras calls matrimony a " perverse
fever; beo^inninoj with heat and endino; with frost." The fol-
lowing dialogues tell their own story : —
"Why unmarried? since you have so large an affectioual lobe, and
are so well calculated to be and make happy in wedlock?"
" Because in a society of thirty youncj men, to which I once be-
longed, one of the by-laws of which required all its members, within two
years after marriage, to report conscientiously whether and how far it had
-rendered them the more happy or miserable, twenty-seven sent in an adverse
report ; some containing fearful warnings ; two reported some things for
others against, but not recommending it, because they could hardly tell
how the accounts did balance; and I heeded the twenty -seven, though per-
ishing to love and be loved.'* — An Affectionate Old Bachelor.
" One sister married into a first-class Boston family. After she
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DI8CX)RDS: THEIR EXTENT AND CURABILITY. 585
had formed her acquaintances, I spent a year with her, and took special
pains to learn their marriage status; all but one of whom were more or
less miserable: and some more perfectly wretched than I supposed human
beings could be, and live. I spent another year with another sister in
Cincinnati, with like results; and another with still another in Charleston,
S. C, with the same ; and have seen so many miserable with so few happy
marriages, in all my extensive travellings and observations in Europe and
America, that I meaningly pronounce marriage a * necessary, evil ; ' mar-
ried merely to avoid the stigma * old maid ; ' and am right glad my I^rench
husband prefers to occupy one suite of apartments, as I certainly do a
separate, that I may keep the evils of marriage at the greatest arm's length
possible." — A Doctors Daughter.
"I ROSK FROM A POOR BOY till A. T. Stcwart offered to advance my
FiVE-THOUSAND-dollar salary ; thought I could do better; set up business
here ; married in the highest hopes ; built and furnished a splendid house ;
am inexpressibly miserable, because I perfectly loathe my wife; sweat
great drops at my store in agony, and seem as if going distracted, because
my home is a purgatory : and would give ail I am worth, and ever can
be, just to be unmarried." — A Detroit Merchant.
" A REALLY HAPPY MARRIAGE of Lovc and judgment between a noble
man and woman, is oi>e of the things so very handsome, that if the sun were,
as the Greek poets fabled, a god, he might stop the world in order to feast
his eyes with such a spectacle." — Theodore Parker.
Sensible maidens by thousands, having its hearty love-senti-
tnents, justify their celibacy, and scout marriage, with, " You don't
catch me marrying. I Ve seen too much. Show me one happy
couple, y^»t I can show hundreds who quarrel behind the curtain,
though perhaps pleasant before folks." How many shrewd and
intelligent bachelors, who take a cool business view of this
matter, would jump at marriage for its " respectabflity," its re-
lief from the odium of " old bachelor," and enjoy home-comforts
and children heartily, nor mind its cost, if they could see any
way to make it pay, not in dollars, but in happiness; or even
escape those terrible consequences it inflicts on their old cronies;
actually preferring to fry away their lives in the frying-pan
of celibacy,"* lest by jumping they land in the fire of discord:
and jokes, public and private, printed and, spoken, abound,
to the effect, " Mwrried — poor fellow! I pity him. Ho 11 sup
sorrow."
Many mothers say of their darling daughters, " Do let them
enjoy tiiemselves all they can before marriage — their only happy
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period,"^^ for, gracious knows, they will be miserable enough
after;" and even forbid their marriage, because their own has
proved so wretched ! Set it down as a " fixed fact," that those
who dissuade others from it, have suffered so much in it, that
they feelingly warn others against a like fate. How many such
throng all communities!
The NUMiBER OF DIVORCES applied for in all those States wher<!;
they^are easily obtained, tells a like story. Let Indiana answer
how many throng her borders — about one-tenth — to obtaih
them ; and England, since the liberalization of her divorce laws,
is so crowded with applicants as to be obliged to appoint
additional judges, the old ones being utterly inadequate to try
all applicants; over three thousand of whom are pressing their
claims in one court, actually blocking it up. Yet does one in
twenty apply who would gladly do so but for its odium, the
breaking up of families, evils to their children, or business, or
other like motives ? Xot one in fifty.
My profession furnishes rare opportunities for ascertaining
the state of the affections of the married; the vast majority of
whom are seriously dissatisfied. Tens of thousands consult about
conjugal differences; though these are the last things disclosed,
unless compelled by aggravated sufferings, without then telling
half their troubles.
Deep, dark, heart secrets of untold thousands, lie below and
behind all, impenetrably closed against all confessions. Though
smouldering fires are slowly but surely oiiarring their very soul-
vitals, yet they keep them smothered, only to char the more
fatally. "■ I would sooner commit suicide than tell my father. I
would not 'make him miserable by letting him know how
wretched I am. He thinks I am happy, but would not let me
stay here an hour if he knew how horribly I suffer," said a wife
married less than two years. The hearts of, 0, how many
wretched thousands, only know their " own bitterness " ! They
appear gay, and enter with seeming zest into life's busy scenes;
but tap their heart-crust in some unguarded moment, their eyes
fill, lips quiver, tears flow, hearts melt, and they are barely able
to maintain this incrustation, llow many irfcn drive furiously
into business, and wives engage in fashion's dizzy whirl, to com-
pel soul-diversion from their hidden canker-worm; while others
seek in children that heart 's-ease they find not in husband. How
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many would give all they are worth, and mortgage their life for
as much more, to he unmarried ?
Let THIS SURE test, easily discerned, from which there is no
appeal, decide. "We always treat others as we feel towards them.
This expression in actions tells no lies, and shows how woe-
fully Love declines after marriage. Contrast lovers with the
married. Beaux are perpetually proffering attentions, and proud
to introduce those they love, while the married "didn't think.**
The former always praise, the latter often blame. Lovers are
perpetually "billing and cooing,** kissing and fondling, doing,
giving, and wooing, longing to be always together, and express^
ing the purest, deepest, tenderest atFection, litenilly idolizing
each other up to their marriage; but usually in a month, often
in a week, all their Love " poetry " is dead, buried, and sup-
planted by mutual inditference or loathing. Let the memories
of most married pairs attest. How great the contrast between
blooming, glorious brides and married women, and bridegrooms
and men?^®*
A BRIDE coming East in the cars on her wedding-trip, called her
husband " Darling Charlie '* at San Francisco, " Charles '* at Ogden,
and " here you '* at Omaha.
t
" I IX)VED MY WIFE SO, I felt just like eating her up the first six mouths ;
and have been sorry ever since I did n't, I hate her so."
The tones, eyes, countenances, manners, and entire appearance
of the married, as compared with those who are single, corrobo-
rate this truth. Other causes add to this appalling sum total,
but affectional alienations are the chief. One*8 heart aches and
softens, and eyes overflow, in beholding this doleful picture. It
should be unveiled only as a means of its obviation.
774. — How PAR IS Discord curable, and Concord attainablb?
To any extent desired by the parties, if they will rightly
attempt.^** Cannot Nature cure " broken hearts ** in wedlock as
well as out? Most cases of conjugal aversions and miseries, how-
ever cnronic and severe, will yield to the conjugo-remedial pre-
scriptions of this volume, because : —
1. Discordants look on the worst side of their partner's faults,
and their own grievances; just as those in Love magnify their
loved one's loveliness, and overlook or ignore all faults.**
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2. Nature never begins what she cannot consummate, never
"puts her liand to the plough" where she is obliged to look
back ; and hence will not let those begin to love who are too un-
congenial to continue, and even reincrease. The mere fact of
two having once loved, guarantees that both can restore and re-
double.*^ All the difficulty lies in something else than "natural
incompatibility." You throw off upon this convenient " scape-
goat " the consequences of your own mutual abuse of each other.
Each dislikes because both mutually wrong each. Evil-doers
always hate their victims. A, in and by injuring B, reverses his
4/?(5yi Conscience towards B, and all his Faculties; which causes
and constitutes A's hatred. Among neighbors, he is always the
most faulty who ^72<:/6' the most fault.^'^^ Abuse throws the abused
on his native dignity, and raises him too far above his enemy
to indulge rancor, or take revenge. Hate is mutual only where
both have wronged each other. Those who never wrong, never
hate, however much wronged ; but those who are ever wronging,
are ever hating ; because of their own self-convicted consciences.
Conjugal leathers, please examine this principle, as a veritable
law of universal applicability, and apply it to your own conjugal
feelings. Of course the one who hates the most has wronged the
most. •
" This reasoning must be specious, though plausible. Sensible and
moral men and women would not suffer thus by millions unless obliged to.
The fact that business men, with all their shrewdness, forecast, and hard
BxiDse, suffer as nuich as others, is proof that these evils are inherent in
marriage itself, or they would discern its cause, and obviate its effects.
Mrs. A, as pious and good a woman and dutiful and forbearing a wife
as ever lived, who does everything and omits nothing, suffers the most.*^
Obviating the causes of an evil removes it. We have already
pointed out causes enough in " selection," " courtship," and
" married life," to account fully for all these evils ; yet have not
reached the chief; all of which are easily obviated.
You loved once ; then what prevents your affections from re-
doubling with years.'''^'''^ Only your own abuse of each other.
You inflict misery on each other, and thereby generate your
mutual " incompatibility." You are *' uncongenial " because you
have been uncovjugal; and can re-establish congeniality by returia-
ing to true conjugality.
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"We never really loved; only thought so. We had no sooner
begun to compare notes than we found our tastes, ideas, feelings, doctrines,
everything totally unlike ; and they grew more so."
There it is. They grow^ because perpetually re-provoked by
mutual wrongs ; whereas, right treatment, probably in either,
surely in both, would obviate, instead of aggravate, your antip-
jithies.
" Youthful * infatuation ' began our Love, only to end in disgust. We
were simply love-struck by passion ; which, subsiding, left our marital
craft dry on the beach of * uncongeuiality.' "
This same "passion," rightly managed, can and should re-
enamor you perpetually, if you observe its laws.
" I MARRIED FROM FILIAL 6bedience ; knowing, from the first, that no
sympathy existed between us."
Tell your parents, and get a divorce, or else make the best of
your situation. Love if you can, and this is probably not diffi-
cult.
All can treat each other politely at least, and thus get on
passably together. Two really polite persons, who are obliged to
be together, would not wrangle; much less a true gentleman and
lady ;^** especially if they have ever loved each other, or their
mutual children. If your uncongeniality is constitutional, why
did you not perceive it before marriage ? Because '' infatuated "?
Then get infatuated over again.
Establish a partial union, if you can do no better. Unite as
far as you are congenial, yet each leave the other to act separately
on points of dissimilarity. If you disagree on religion, politics,
tastes, morals, or other questions, each accord to the other the
largest individuality ; yet as far as you can unite on other points,
assiduously study that union. There are interests you can share
in common, and grounds for community of feeling. Uniting on
them will induce sympathy on otliers.^** If your husband drinks,
or is unfaithful, or your wife scolds, or is hateful, reform efforts
are better for both than abandonment. If our Heavenly Father
should abandon us on account of any one of our numerous sins,
on whom would He not turn His back forever? Then shall we
abandon the father or mother of our dear children for some one
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sin, though grievous? The Bible doctrine of forgiveness is true
hunmmty as well as Christianity ; and nowhere as beneficial or
necessary as in marriage."'*
" WouLDST THOU BE MADE WHOLE?" is first and most, and in-
dispensable. How great sacrifices can you afford? Y^ct none
are needed. In the eftbrt to turn consists the double pleasure of
the effort and its happy effects. You who do not heartily desire
a " love-revival," drop this whole matter, and -live on till you die
off — there are those who love to hate — but let those who would
be restored, " despair never." Your task is even easy. The chief
difficulty lies in resolving to try. It takes two to make that bar-
gain ; yet probably your companion is equally willing to strike
hands in the same blessed " labor of Love."
A WIFE CAME TWELVE MILES in a terrible snow-storm solely to
express her overflowing gratitude for Jiaving been reconciled to
her husband thus: Three years before, at a professional consulta-
tion, she told a most pitiable story of their incessant wranglings.
I saw and showed her that she was in that soured, hating, awful,
ugly ???oo6Z created by Love reversed, which could not live in peace
with an angel unless it was converted, but could then ; because
she was well sexed, and both retained its animal aspect — a
powerful lever of reform — meanwhile telling her how to proceed.
She left pledged to try ; found him equally willing to help ; and
succeeded in rendering both so superlatively happy that she had
to face this storm to thank me before I left.
Read this page to your consort, in a softened, cosy manner.
Present the desirableness of reconciliation. Cut off all issues but
this. Keep out " buts." Ascertain how much each desires to live
in affection. Probably each will learn with surprise that the
other is willing and anxious. If so, restoration is easy ; for
"where there's a will, there's a way." Probably both would
gladly rush right into the arms of the other, if only certain of
reciprocation. " 0, I would give the world if, as I go home to-
night, I could go right to my wife, as of old, and, encircling her
in my arms, kiss and caress, and be kissed and caressed by her."
Yet quite likely she is feeling precisely the same way towards
you.' At all events just /n/. Proffering a fond kiss can certainly
break no bones; or wife pursue a like course. If either finds
any lingering fondness still remaining, express it.'^^ Sometimes
the beclouded sun reappears suddenly. Probably either could
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break tlic fatal spell which separates you in one minute, just by
one frank proffer of affection. If willing to be " recon>5trnoted,"
MkPT each other half-way. Let no drawbacks quench Love'i?
rising flame, but both help rekindle it. It may be best to pro-
appoint a time for this conference. If so, preface and accompany
it with a walk, a ride, a feast of some good edibles,*^ or some
mutually pleasant associations ; but if you find yourselves throw-
ing any blame ^*' on the other, 5to/?. First decide whether you
would be reconciled, then whether each will try, and how much.
These two questions, desire and effort, once fairly settled affirm-
atively, your task is easy, and Love-revival certain ; unless you
spoil it by some subsequent misinanagement.
775. — Indulge each other: Agree to Disagree.
Toleration is the first law of Love. Probably Avant of it
created your differences. The days of intolerance are numbered,
but not finished. The followers and victims of Procrustes, with
his iron bedstead, still abound. Man is naturally tyrannical ;
and having no other victims, often lords it over wife and children ;
while she, exceedingly rigid, insists that he shall conform to her
standard; and cuts off his legs when too long, or stretches them
if too short, being perfectly conscientious ; yet wrong because so
scrupulous. Saul was both. All who hang witches are not dead
yet. Each should let the other stand or fall to his or her " oim
master.** Personality is as inalienable a birthright as life; and
no more to be abridged. Each should live, and let live. To
interfere is tyranny; to be interfered with, slavery. All each
may say is, " I should love you the better if you were or did
thus." Each should conform to the other's standard as far as
possible,'^ and require no more. Both a henpecked husband and
a crushed wife are worthless. What government is as tyninniwil
as domestic tyranny ? Many wives are completely crushed by a
domineering husband, and husband by wife. Both victimized,
yet victimizing.
A CONJUGAL POST-OFKICK might provc advantageous, by allowing
each to state quietly what is objectionable; whereas in talking
each, excited, ia liable to say more thatuis meant, which the
other's excitement magnifies; while both by writimj their griev-
ances and answers, might obviate what talking ovor might
aggravate.
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776. — Mutually bury all old Bones op Contention.
You UAVE SNARLED over them too long already. Their very
mention irritates and tears open this old gangrene. It heals fast-
est when let alone. As every wound's best dressing is its own
blood ; so the less you say about your differences the less you re-
j)rovoke each other to hate. Come, both together,
Dig a grave for their final interment large enough to hold all,
and deep enough to absorb their stench, and both pitch them in,
and bury them forever ! Make no mound, erect no remembrance,
but strew flower-seeds all around their sepulchre, that the decay
of the one may enhance the bloom and fragrance of the other.
Then both mutually mcear that you will never again designedly
rointer them ; but mutually anathematize the one who first ex-
humes them, or aids in their resurrection. Or if either begins,
let the other change the sul^ject, but on no account justify self, or
retort on the other. This direction is absolute. Implicitly fol-
low it, or else abandon all hope of re-establishing concord. 'No
middle ground remains. Will you do it ? or at least try ? for if
so, your restoration is sure. I^either must impeach the other.
Your differences must be banished, as though they had never
been. Let bygones be bygones.. Let the Lethean river flow
over them forever !
Section II.
divorces: when, and when not, allowable, and best.
777. — Infidelity deserves Divorce. Diseasing a Consort.
Adultery in either clearly entitles the other to legal separa-
tion. In the very nature of things, fidelity of heart and person
is due from each to the other ;^^ because, among many other
reasons, it endangers the infection of an innocent party and chil-
dren with the worst disease known.^^ It . worse for a man to
rob, slander, or murder a woman than a man ; but tainting a con-
fiding wife with sexual virus is the most utterly accursed crime
man can perpetrate ! - Infidelity itself is bad enough ; but to
superadd what is so much more loathsome and dangerous than
any fever, even small-pox ; poison her sexual apparatus with the
very worst of all the viruses, and kill her very power to love,
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r»e8ide8 disgusting her of him whom she once idolized; to takt
all her life-zest and glow out of her constitution, and substitute
instead a tame, half-dead-and-alive, gone, inert, sickened, diseased
rotate of body, mind, and moral tone; is the climax even of sex-
ual crimes. To thus despoil a virgin is accursed ; but your victim
is your ic{ft\ who has loved you, still loves for all 1 has borne you
t'liildren I is chained by law and them to you for life! You
))>lige her to endure all this without one lisp of human sympathy,
K'st she hopelessly disgrace herself and children! If she could
disgrace you, without thereby disgracing them, no matter; but
she has no redress by law without blighting all she holds dear,
and obliging herself to support her darlings by menial labor. In
all its unmitigated horrors, and the variety of their aggravations
entailed on an innocent woman, whose whole time, strength, even
lite, has l>cen devoted only to you, and all you ought to love, is
unparalleled atrocity. The seducer's sin is unpardonable, that
of the sexual wife-Doisoner damnable. To kill her outright
would be a mercy. Hanging is no adequate retribution. If there
is a place of eternal torture for the wicked, and a personal devil
who takes fiendish but just delight in punishing the wicked in
proportion to the heinousness of their sins and the suffering they
have caused, whom you would propitiate by treating to his great-
est feast of torturing luxury in giving him a trinity of the worst
beings on thi« or the other side of death to torture forever, give
him a seducer^ a procuress, and last, because worst, a wife-infecior,
Xo.
The seducer op a loyal wife is still more damnably infernal.
The fond wife as far surpasses the virgin as ripe fruits green.
Of all priceless, precious terrestrial and celestial jjossessions, a
doting, doted-on wife, is incomparably the most precious. In
comparison, everything else is as nothing. lie who has it, need
envy no millionnaire. Yet an Astor who lacks it, may well envy
a wifc-lcved beggar. What per cent, more is a wife and matron
worth to herself than she was while a virgin? Many hundred at
least. IIow much is she worth to her children? those yet un-
lK>rn, even unconceived, included? Worth how much to society?
Harely can God alone duly estimate the value of this His pre-
mium prodnrtion. This, you infernal scoundrel, is what you
have 8iK)iledI *' Danmahle villain," and all that, are *' tame
curaeft'* in conii>ari8on with your deserts! The hottest part of
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hell, under both sensualist and seducer, where the great bellows
generates its whitest white heat, is barely hot enough. The
uttermost bodily torture an infernal can bear, is not bad enough
yet. You, sir, are reserved for a mental, as well as physical
agony, without limit and without end. He who says " Ven-
geance is mine, /will repay," takes such in hand, and knows well
how to punish them. All He can, He assuredly will. To His
avenging justice you are consigned.
From those who outrage this specific constituent of marriage,**'
law should grant the sufferer release; besides extorting ample
support.
778. — Jealousy, Drink, and Other Grounds of Divorce.
Mutual antagonism, where both parties intensely desire sepa-
ration, and children's rights offer no obstacles, should entitle to a
separation. If either object, law should protect, not trample on
the rights of the party objecting ; but when that violent hatred,
such as can spring up only between those who have loved,^^' has
turned Love and all the other Faculties point blank against each
other, not only in the presence of each a living purgatory, worse
than death to the other, but it provokes that action of all in both
which constitutes total depravity.*"^ Neither man nor woman
knows any form of depravity quite as awful and aggravated as
that consequent on this turned state ; which law should not per-
petuate and compel. Or if they live together, they certainly
should adopt the French plan, or he find business, or send his
wife, abroad. IN^othing is so utterly depraving to both, however
good, as living in sexual aversion. The better sexed they are the
more so. As marriage was made for Love, and Love for mar-
riage,^° there should be no marriage without Love ; nor any Love
without marriage.
Intense jealousy deserves a divorce. It often becomes as veri-
table an insanity as any other monomania. It is generally con-
sequent on the sensuality of the jealous party ; those always being
the worst whose Love is the most carnal.
A heathen husband of a superb wife made this personal con-
fession : —
" I LOATHE ilY WiFK SOLELY BECAUSE SHE HAS BEEN WITH ANOTHER.
She is a good, pure, loving, lovely, true, healthy, wholesome, luscious
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woman, and has all the domestic virtues; yet the mere fact that another
man has preceded me, what if it was a former husband, perfectly sickens
me of her. I want to begin with a vtr^iu, and have her aUviine; and
«ince my marriage, have seduced a beautiful, excellent one ; enjoyed lier
for years ; know just when I rendered her a mother ; required and helped
her produce abortion of my own child ; go with her still.*'
" Outrageous ! damnable ! infernal ! to wife, to paramour, and their rela-
tives. What if all felt and did as you do ? Could your paramour marry ?
Your wife is not to blame. You knew of her previous marriage before you
asked her to marry you, yet loathe and abuse her for doing a wife's duty.
Words poorly describe your total sexual depravity."
" I ACKNOWLEDGE ALL, YET CANNOT OVERCOME IT."
Their only boy was poor, thoii^i both were splendidly sexed.
A JEALOUS HUSBAND PRESUPPOSES ABUNDANT passion in liis wife,
yet that he is not man enough to attract her to himself, even
with all the advantages of wedlock ; and has awakened only to
dissatisfy it. A precious confession, indeed I Sooner than thus ac-
knowledge my own deficiency by publishing my jealousy, I
would keep both to myself. Moreover, expressing it only realien-
ates her; making her hate him by causing her pain.^^^ Instead,
he should do his very utmost, to render himself so much more
lovely than his rival as to withdraw her affection back to him-
self. And he who cannot, with all the facilities afforded by wed-
lock, make himself so much more lovely to his wife than any
other man as to forestall all occasions for jealousy, should pocket
his trouble, not proclaim his sexual inferiority. Jealous consorts,
Beat your rivals at their own game, by ascertaining just
what in him or her, and whi/, your companion admires the one
of whom you are jealous more than yourself, and be still more
80. This recipe will cure jealousy e^^ery single time. Find the
[>robable ciiuse in **.
All who are jealous are ipso facto the most outrageously
unjust beings on earth. They magnify molehills into mountains.
Tiieir stand-point of observation and state of mind do palpable
injustice to the suspected party by misconstruing everything,
and conjuring up the worst of motives for the most innocent of
acts. They are as downright mad as foolish, and accuse because
themselves in an accusing mood. Their Love is reversed,*'* and
this reverses everything. Let me be confined to the desert of
Sahara, or wrecked on a 8ea-girt rock, be anything and subjected
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to everything else, but deliver me from either being jealous or
watched by a jaundiced-eyed companion. Victims thus perse-
cuted, merit pity and a divorce.
Habitual drunkenness, contracted after marriage, should enti-
tle any woman who desires it to a separation. To chain a good,
pure woman to a gross, vulgar, loathsome drunkard, and oblige
lier to bear children thus tainted, is awful.^"®
Habitual improvidence, when an able-bodied man persists in
living on a wife's earnings, should entitle her to separation if she
desires. And the petition of an abused, oppressed wife is entitled
to more favor than that of a husband.
Those badly deceived by false pretences, should be released.
Indeed, the same great principles of justice which govern other
human relations also govern the conjugal.
Parental incapacity deserves divorce; because children con-
stitute the ultimate end of wedlock, and govern it throughout.
Law should rarely divorce parents; because each has an in-
alienable right to their conjoint children. Though natural law
guarantees to every child all the care both its parents can bestow,*^'^*
yet better that it be cared for by either, than compelled to wit-
ness their perpetual contention. And in all cases, under twelve,
that one should be the mother's ; to whom God in Nature assigns
all children, provided she is able and willing to support them.
This law of progenal demand for the support of both parents
Commands discordant parents to forbear long and patiently,
before either resorts to divorce; and judges to be careful whom
they separate. Nature requires parents to live and rear their chil-
dren together, while divorce deprives one of inherent rights in
their own dear children. Either or both have outraged Nature's
lovo laws, and induced her offended penalty, escape from which
they now seek in divorce; yet had better, by refulfilling these
lav/s, re-establish affection; which past memories will aid. Or if
both will manifest towards each other those higher human senti-
ments of justice, kindness, politeness, intellect, due from all to
all, much more from each sex towards the other, but especially
between those who have participated together in the sacred rela-
tions of parentage, they will soon cease to wrangle, and begin
again to love. Though their divorce concerns themselves mainly,
yet
Parents and friends have rights vested in their marriage,
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which an easy divorce might infringe. Have fathers none in
loved daughters? Law should not help a bad man cast off a
good wife.
Much discrimination and discretion are required, and the mu-
tual rights, wrongs, errors, and interests of all parties should
be nicely balanced by that highest earthly tribunal, the moral and
intellectual Faculties.
779. — A Jury of both Sexes should decide Divorces.
The forms of law should determine between them far less, and
the spirit of justice and kindness to both far more, than now. Is
not there a manifest propriety all around, without the least im-
propriety, in arbitrating this matter through those neighboi-s who
know all parties, with many of the determining facts, and ciiu
ciisily and cheaply adjudicate this whole matter just as they do
other differences? Why not justices and county judges hear
and decide divorce cases far more appropriately than legislatures
and supreme judges; Avho can know or learn but little of the real
state of cases ?
Since opposite sexes are concerned, why not both hear and de-
cide? Still, woman should not complain if man alone decides
her cause; for he ahviiys leans tov/ards her sidc.*^ Both sexes
together arc obviously especially adapted to take an all-sides view
of their mutual grievances and duties, and, if possible, harmonize
them ; yet better divorce when obviously best.
Mere amatory aversion should not entitle to divorce, unless
both parties desire it. When they do, law .should grant far more
freely than when one objects; always provided juvenile rights are
protected.
Amatory excesses by creating disgust of each other, and other
flagrant violations of sexual laws, cause most conjugal alienations;
yet those who live within "hailing distance " of the doctrines of
this book, will not only never desire a divorce, but would not let
anything separate th(i:>.
Tart VI. expounds the chief causes of these alienations.
Many who so intensely clamor for easy divorces, will tind the
muses and remedies of their aversions here pointed out.
In concluding Part V., we resjKJctfully ask whether its direc-
tions, if followed, would not obviate all desire for divorce, and
^ ^tublish reincreasing aflection in all those who follow thom?
GENERATION.
CHAPTER I.
(COHABITATION : ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
Section I.
ITS SACREDNESS, POWER, SCIENCE, AND STUDY.
780. — Its Sacredness: all should Hallow it.
Its creative mission is the highest, holiest end attained by
man. Life is earth's most sacred and inviolable treasure: then
is not creating it our holiest work ? Many things inspire us with
a feeling of sacred awe; such as adoring God, burying loved
ones, visiting ancestral graves, &c. ; yet Nature throws her most
holy mantle over Love, throughout all its stages. Attest, all ye
who have ever felt this " sacred flame : " Was it not your most
hallowed life epoch? Did it not consecrate whatever was associ-
ated with it ? What relics as sacred or precious as its ? And
the more so the more highly constituted its subjects. A pure,
well-sexed, elevated male and female mutually magnetize each
other at their first meeting ; each now regards the other as conse-
crated, ethereal, angelic. He is a god in her eyes, and she an angel
in his. Every love-experience must recognize both thia holy
jispect of first Love, and its increase, step by step, as Love devel-
oped. Are not love vows the most solemn, devoted, and invio-
Ittble men and especially women ever make?®*^ Why else are
marriages, throughout all times and climes, solemnized as a
religious rite? Whoever sees two marry without feeling that
they are solemnizing a sacred event ? All lovers, and those most
refined the most, nmst recall this hallowed and consecrated feel-
ing as ^anctifyiug all the stages of their Love; and redoubling
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till it culminated in their first sexual iuterview; unless it became
previously demoralized.
Uniting to create a child REDouBLts this sacred sentiment,
especially in woman. All who cohabit for issue, be they even
debased, must feel almost oppressed with a feeling of the sacred-
ness inherent in their proposed work. Though this function
generally is prostituted, debased, and defiled below all others,
even eating, yet this is its perversion ; while its normal fulfil-
ment carries with it a feeling of moral elevation, consecration,
and sanctity unequalled, even by adoration itself. No:
Life does not originate in a vulgarity. Our creative depart-
ment, mental and physical, is our " holy of holies."
Would to God and man this its inherent sacredness could be
realized by all adults, and instilled into the young, that they
might *' keij) it holy." It would not then be prostituted to lust;
and its products would be almost holy enough for Heaven. Then
Let none dare debase it. Profane whatever else you will ;
yet, for your own and future children's sakes, exalt this above all
else, and tremble in view of the fearful consequences of its pros-
titution*. Please
Invest this analysis of it with that hallowed feeling of sanc-
tity thus inherent in this function itself.
781. — Love is Desire to Cohabit with the Loved One.
Poetical maidens, you mistake when you think otherwise ; as
do you pure-minded, sentimental women who just idolize his
talents and god-like merits who has your heart's worship. You
think your Love is as pure as that of angels, and as far from
de*<irc for sexual commerce as eurth from Heaven. Let us see
*' what is what," by tracing it to its source, and ascertaining its
only normal end,
Wherk does Love come from? We have shown what it w,*'-**
**•• "'^ and what it (/of^,*'® '*• **** but now inqui re where it orujinaks ? In
sexual action ; which creates desire for coition. Mark this perfectly
analogous proof. Love and the sexual organs are to each other pre-
cisely what apiKJlite and the digestive organs are to each other.
Now since ap|>etite comes from the stomach when and because in
normal action, indificrence to food from an inert stomach, ami
voniitiftg from this same stomach in reversed action; so Love
L(»ines from the .sexual organs in action ; which action consists iu
dOO COHABITATION
a cruving desire to fulfil their mission ? And the feelings of each
and all towards the opposite sex, reveals their own sexual status.
As loathing food signifies that the stomach is in a state unfit to
digest it ; so men-hating women are in a state unfit to conceive.
Every woman tells her own womb-states by thus loving the male
when fit to conceive, and loathing when not. This is Nature"*
moans of preventing coition when she is unfit to bear, and pro-
moting it when she is; just as she prevents and promotes eating
when the stomach is in a state unfit or fit to digest. This is only
another action of this identical law which makes those repel each
other who are unfit to procreate together,^^® and love each other
who are.^^* And those loathe or love the more, as they are the
more or less fit for bearing. That is ; she loves and desires
intercourse the most who is in the best bearing state, and desires
intercourse the most with him who has already begun this im-
pregnating process by having magnetized her?^*^ Who dare dis-
pute this reasoning, or its conclusion? Find another still more
absolute proof in Love and the sexual organs in reciprocal sym-
pathy.^^ Who will challenge that ? Yet this is but the corollary
of that, and its axiom. Two other proved points prove this,
namel}', that " Loving is marrying -^^ and promise of marriage is
promise to cohabit together." ^^ All loving is cohabiting in spirit ;
and if completed, in body. Challenge that, you who dare. But
mark these inferences.
Every girl bewitched after her fellow, and every woman
"dead in Love" with any man, desires coition with him; and
tiiose who love them all, desire it with them all. Every society
flirt, in and by flirting, proffers Love and intercourse; which he
accepts by nibbling at her bait.
Take care then, flirts, and their victims. Coquet understand-
rngly.
Pause and be forewarned, O, loving maiden, since loving i»
marrying and cohabiting, to surrender your heart only where and
to whom you can and may surrender your person. Never begin
this sacred work of reproduction by beginning to love, except
when you may continue and consummate \i in offspring; for its
first step, loving, also implies intercourse. Don't take thp first,
unless you are willing to take the last.
Take care, ye men-beraters ; for you but proclaim your own
womb-reversion.
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Take care, ye men-scolders, how you tell every reader of this
hook your own sexually haggish state.^"
Take care, ye indifferents, how you tell everybody that you
are in a run-down womb state.
Take care, ye fussy, particular, nippy old maids, how you
tell us the dainty status of your sexual organs.
Men, you take care in these precise respects.
Self-abuse, sexual ailments, and whatever else unfits for re-
production, produces this reversed love state. Behold in this
great sexual law God in Nature's means of preventing issue, un-
less she can produce what is a great deal better than none."^*
This principle adjudicates a problem which has long divided
mankind — some averring that, however pure and spiritual, turned
any and every way. Love is only desire to cohabit; others that
its refined aspect leaves no such desire — by showing that they
are universal and necessary concomitants. Kach was made for
the other. Both are indissolubly united by the very economies
of reproduction. Each without the other is abortive — fails to
attain its end.
All proclaim the quality of their Love thus — each averring
that it is the more or the less animal as is their own. " As a
man thinketh in his heart, so is he," and so he argues.
782. — Intercourse the Soul of Gender, Love, and Marriagb.
As the chit of all good seeds predetermines their nature and
Bljajx;, tai»-root and rootlets, trunk and limbs, bark and quality,
blossoms and fruits, flavors and leaves, whatever emanates from
and appertains to their every part and function, from first to last;
8o cohabitation is the all-predetermining chit of manhood and
v/omanhood, Love and marriage, children and their endowment,
and whatever emanates from and appertains to rej)roduction ;
and the focal function of all males and all females as such. It*
ends embody all of Nature^s sexual ends, and its laws all hrr
male and female laws. Fulfilling its ordinances fulfils, violating
them violates, all her sexual commandments. And its natural
laws adjudicate whatsoever is right, and what wrong in marriage,
and between the sexes as such. Whenever it is right, all else
marital and sexual is right; whilst its imperfection demnges all
their other relations.
Male perfection imikuks in perfectly fulfilling the masculinb
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part of this function ; so that he is the premium man who best
executes this his impregnating mission ; yet he who fails in this
the chit of manhood, fails equally in all else manly.
All female capacities and excellences centre in this focal
function of the female sex. Every female is more or less perfect
as such in exact proportion as she is the more or less perfect in
this her chit function. She is the pattern woman who initiates
the most and best life entity ; while she who fails in this, fails in
the very soul and essence of womanhood.
Conjugal perfection inheres in this identical intercourse. It
is the one single bond and means of all conjugal union and happi-
ness. Those who fulfil this aright, are just as sure of conjugal
felicity in all other respects as water is to keep running; while
whoever violates its laws ; in high life and low, must become an-
tagonistic on other points, just as surely as man will be burned
by touching fire ; and usually those who fail the most in it are
the most dissatisfied. Most conjugal alienations grow out of its
wrong use or non-fulfilment. Matrimonial felicity can no more
be maintained without its being right than noon without sun.
Nor can discord coexist with its perfect reciprocity, any more
than dark.ness with sunshine; for it melts down and fuses all
other antagonisms. Those who do not reciprocate this ultimatum
of Love, cannot live happily in minor matters. This is the very
"tie that binds," or else their ''bone of contention." Those in
concert here will find all minor notes of discord drowned in this
key-note of concord : whilst discord in this respect Avill generate
it in every other. Since the happiness conferred by each on the
other is their sole bond of union,^^^ and since reciprocity here is
the very soul of all the enjoyments of Love and wedlock, their
basis, framework, superstructure, rationale, and all ; therefore
those who confer on each other this summum bonum enjoyment
are indissolubly bound together by the very strongest bond
known to human nature ; whilst those who do not or will not
confer and receive this mutual pleasure, cannot possibly love
each other, or be happy in other respects.
The perfect woman, wife, and mother reciprocates it per-
fectly, even though she does nothing else well ; while she is no
wife, no woman who fails here ; however excellent in all other
respects.
She who refuses her husband this right, thereby dicorces her-
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self from him; thereby absolving him from all obligations to her
of fidelity and support ; because promise to marry is promise to
cohabit,"* while cither loving or cohabiting is marrying.^ A
legally married heathen female said: "I have refused to cohabit
with my husband for seven years, and mean to seven more."
" He had" no business to marry me without supporting me in
style;" would do nothing about house; could help him earn
money fast by music, but would not ; yet read a novel per day,
and scolded him the rest of her time. Vixen, she deserved aban-
donment and punishment; and he a legal release. Any, every
wife who fulfils this function right with her husband can lead
him where and do with him just what she pleases ; for his com-
plete satisfaction here is precisely what constitutes her magic
wand over him.^^ This was Delilah's charm over Samson ; and
is that of all harlots over all their paramour victims.**^ Let a
husband fulfil this function with his wife in accord with its laws,
all else he does to her, good, bad, and indifferent, delights her to
death ; because he has magnetized her completely ; while he who
is hated by wife, is so because he fails here. He ma}^ have pas-
sion enough, probably too much, and that too animal and beastly;
or their magnetisms may repel each other; or the error may lie
between them ; or in want of mutual adaptation ; or in their not
knowing what is due from or to each other; yet there is seri-
ous fault in their sexual intercommunion somewhere. Nor can
they become harmonized till this function is righted up. Its
power is absolutely magical, both ways; is the helm of all their
relation. A bride who begins and manages this matter just
right, can magnetize, enamor, bewitch, and befiddle her husband
lover more and more with every interview, and make hei^self his
adored idol more and more. See why she the most in**-
These sweeping declarations demand positive proof. We give
it. Note how absolute.
783. — Its Powers for Good and Evil, Pleasures, and Oppositb
Effects in its two Aspects.
Its power, like that of the Love it consummates, is sovonMgn.
No fact or event in any one's life fairly revolutionizes it eciually
with this. Its first experience creates a veritable e])och in all ita
participants. What else causes all the heaven-wide difforoncc*
between hoy and nuui, girl and woman, virgin, bride, and
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matron? How great .the change it effects in the same female
before and after she has " known man"? She hardly knows her-
self after.
It changes the male almost equally. Let all who have ever
experienced it recall how completely it revolutionized their entire
lives, and their verj' selfhood.
This change makes all better or worse immeasurahly, as they
fulfil it right or wrong. Attest, all ye who have executed it at
all right: Does it not constitute your richest, highest, most soul-
and-body developing, experience, and reminiscence ? It imparted
to your walk, appearance, manner, and whole cast of expression
and character,. an air of maturity, development, manliness or
womanliness, advancement, richness, ripeness, and perfection far
above what they were before ; whereas its wrong use creates a
feeling of shame, guilt, humility, self-degradation and demorali-
zation, before unknown. By these and like signs all proclaim
whether they have or have not experienced it; and the kind.
Its right fulfilment is an honor, its wrong a disgrace, un-
equalled ; the former a subject of pride, the latter of shame. The
Christian Fathers were wrong in condemning it itself as inherently
detiling and heinous; and those who had not fulfilled it as there-
fore the most acceptable unto God. This is true only of its wrong
use, whilst its right is as holy and honorable as worehip.^^
Its right fulfilment is a solemn duty. As our being created
with Conscience, with Worship, with Appetite, with Sense, with
Tarental Love, with every other Faculty is the highest, most im-
perious Divine mandate that we exercise each and all ; so our
creation with a sexual apparatus, almost the only "natural use"
of which is intercourse, is our Divine mandamus that we use it;
and that just right.^'^ Or if not, we thwart our Creator's whole
desi.i:n in sexin": us.
Its non-fulfilment is a sin of omission, if consequent on neglect
to provide its right conditions, as in most cases of celibacy. En-
graving 508 was labelled, "Died a virgin at sixty," because her
dissection showed that she was one. With too little gender by
Nature, and that probably prudishly stifled all her life, to attract
'Awy male, unloved because unloving, she died in the poor-house,
and went to the dissecting-room. An illegitimate mother is her
peer. Did she deserve as much affectionate regard as if she had
developed her gender, married at twenty, made a good wife, and
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borne and reared a family of children to care for and mourn her?
To have died a virgin at twenty, of accident or sudden disease,
would be sufficient excuse for tlie non-fulfilment of this natural
requirement ; but to have lived to full maturity in sexual dor-
mancy, is a little like having lived inert, or thriftless, &c., till
t*ixty. As animals must hunt up their own food ; so must Love,
or starve. That the despemte desire of girls and most women to
be admired, loved, courted, married, when brought to a fine point,
is but desire for intercourse, we have just demonstrated in'^'**; and
it is most honorable, — as praiseworthy as emulation in study,
piety, i)ropriety, &c. A girl with it weak is a poor female, a
poor pitiable human being. The sin of this omission certainly
equals that of commission in its Avrong action. Celibates, take
notice and warning. Its mere fulfilment is not enough. Fulfil
it right^ is the Divine edict. So
Search diligently for a consorting mate, and paternity or
maternity, all ye who would perfect your whole nature, and com-
plete your sexual destiny. Delinquents, bestir yourselves. Nor
reject "fair to middling" offers, either; for a poor, small sexual
loaf is better than starvation.
It is unequalled as a luxury. We show in^*® that the more
brain and functions we combine in united action, the happier we
arc, and in^"^ that a right intercoui*se rouses to its highest, most
ecstatic pitch of combined action every Faculty, every physicn\l
function, in order to transmit all in power. This shows why its im-
aginings constitute humanity's most vivid reveries, and its ec^ta-
cies the most ecstatic; which its being so paralytic •^''^ proves by
converse. A Cliristian young woman who 8cruf)ulously believes
in "hell," who loves one to distmction, solemnly avere that she
would willingly resign herself to its eternal torments, just for
one weekV complete sexual bliss with him. Yet she can be far
happier than she thinks possible; because its realities can far
exceed its imaginings; for both come from the same sexual font.
When they do not, it is because its requisites arc not observed.
No words, only the experience, and that of a very few, can ever
l>egin to do it justice. None should wish to die in experimental
ignonmce of it. Yet
Its wrong use is equally fatal. Of all the miseries mortals
suffer, none surpass those inflicted by violating its laws. Of this
women are the chief victims, in havinir it thrust on them. Man
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can suffer some from its disappointment, but nothing as women
often do when repugnant to it. Wives by millions look back lo
their first married night as by fjir the worst, most sickening,
horrid and loathed, of their whole lives: all due to its errors;
whereas its right action would have rendered them surpassingly
ecstatic. It makes many down sick for days, and always miser-
able a long time after. The touch of some husbands to their
wives is paralyzing, repulsive, horrible, like that of a torpedo.
IIow awful, words cannot describe ; yet they are immeasurably
benefited and restored by communing with another. The
former, if married, should sleep and live as far apart as possi-
ble,^" and never cohabit ; for every time they do they violate
the Seventh Commandment, though married ten times over.
Nothing is as healthy as right, or diseasing as wrong, sexual
commerce. Our magnetic theory shows why ; '^®'^' "^' ^^ Every
right and wrong interview attests this fact. In short,
It controls the sexuality, and thereby all men, all women,
from the soles of their feet to the crowns of their heads. All
their functions, together with all their virtues and vices, are its
vassals. It right, they are right ; it wrong, they wrong ; it not
fulfilled, they not developed.
784. — Its Science, or Ends and Means.
Laws govern all !N'ature, and of course cohabitation. And
the end each law attains expounds the law itself. Of course the
ends accomplished by cohabitation expound its laws; and thereby
tell all precisely how it should be begun, conducted, and con-
summated throughout — valuable instruction surely.
The creation op Life is its one great end. Yet in effecting
this, it must achieve several other objects; such as blending,
co-operating, loving, &c. The answer to the question, " What
is cohabitation ordained to effect ? " teaches whatever appertains
to it. Since creating life is the only natural end of all sexual
intercourse, floral, animal, and human ; therefore whatever is re-
quired to create the most and the best life possible, these laws
supply. Life is the effect, whilst they are its ways and means,
and expounded by it.
These laws are specific and precise, and reduce every iota
of this generative function to perfect system, exact right.
Whatever inheres in life itself, throughout all its functions,
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Inheres in that cohabitation which creates and controls both it,
jind all its operations.^* Our next Section thus expounds these
conditions.
Obeying these laws gives the greatest pleasure, while violat-
ing them inflicts the greatest suffering; because its ends, and
therefore laws, are first among equals.**"
Fulfilling any, every law promotes its functions and ends.
As farmers raise crops the larger or smaller, better or poorer,
according as they fulfil or ignore the laws of vegetable growth;
so each child is constituted the better or poorer, mentally and
physically, in exact proportion as its parents fulfil, or ignore, or
violate the natural laws and conditions of sexual intercourse at
its creation.
All the conditions for creating a perfect child inhere in
and govern every sexual repast. That is : every sexual conjunc-
tion must be conducted precisely as if it were to result in its
legitimate end, offspring. This touchstone applies to every iota
of any and all cohabitations, and determines whether this and
that item is right or wrong, viz. : Will it add to, or detract
from, progenal endowment ?
785. — All existing Parental States stamped on Offspring.
This is a self-evident Law of procreation. It commends
itself to the good sense of all. It is an absolute necessity, based
in the inherent fitness of things. To argue a question thus ob-
vious at first sight, is superfluous. How could progeny begotten
when parents are weak, exhausted, or sickly, be as vigorous as
created when they overflow with life, health, and power? No
farmer's boy would allow a farm colt to be -sired by a stallion
when mad, or tired; or mare in a like state to receive one. Why
do all keepers of seed animals take the utmost pains with their
(jroomwfjf Because tliey know that while "blood will tell" on
offspring, existing parental states likewise " tell," if not as much,
Mt least as surely. To progenal perfection both are indispensable.
Note these ranges of facts in proof and illustration.
Nature interdicts parentage to those very young, old, infirm,
and diseased ; because this law would render their issue equally
immature, feeble, or sickly ; and compels all forms of life to pro-
create only during the highest state of all their powers; so that
their oftspring may be equally exalted.
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Most vegetables bloom, their impregnating function, soon after
spring suns and rains start their sap, and open their young and
yet vigorous leaves ; or else in Ju:ie, before drought or rust impair
their leaves, or growth exhausts their energies.
All ANIMALS illustrate this law by creating whilst exercising
all their specialties to the highest extent. Tlius, all running
animals run most at this season. Of this, deer furnish a prac-
tical illustration. The doe, thrown into a lively running mood by
sexual excitement,-^^^ bounds off through wood and moor, with
the buck in animated pursuit, till their whole muscular and run-
ning systems are wrought up to the very highest pitch prior to
fatigue, when they unite; obviously in order to stamp this run-
ning state upon progeny.
All powerful animals use immense power at their creative
altar. The muscles of all male cattle and horses are strained so
tautly as almost to snap, in order to obtain and maintain the
requisite creative positions. They c^^nnot possibly procreate with-
out this muscular tension and power; both of which they thereby
transmit to offspring.
Elephants furnish a still more pertinent proof. Obliged to
scoop out a deep hole in the sand, in order to place the male and
female bodies on the same plane, unless he puts forth that im-
mense muscular power requisite to lift her " mountain of iiesh "
up out of that hole, she must die there ; thus stamping this
mighty muscle on offspring. They also take a long time in ful-
filling this function, and their progeny live sometimes two hun-
dred years ; while the fly, which procreates in an instant, begets a
l»rogeny which lives but a day.
Jacob and his peeled rods furnish another pertinent and
forcible illustration of this law. Laban selects all that are ringed,
streaked, speckled, or spotted; sends them off three days' journey ;
and agrees to give Jacob all that are born with any rings, streaks,
specks, or spots. Jacob's prospects seem poor enough. Though
he has no mottled parents with which to begin business, yet he
sees the strongest stand around the watering-places, fight off all
the poorer, and procreate oftener there than elsewhere ; conceives
the artifice of placing peeled rods, with streaks and rings of
white alternating with green, around them ; so that, rendered
comfortable and amorous by plenty of food and drink, these
strong cattle may procreate in sight of these rings and streaks;
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and whenever he sees a parental pair about to unite, he holdb
these peeled rods directly before them. Though neither parent
is the least mottled, yet seeing these spotted rods at the moment
of parental conjunction stamps sj)ecks, spots, rings, and mottles
upon their progeny; so that both the cream and the great bodj^
of the Hocks and herds fall to Jacob's share ; leaving for Laban
only those too small and weak to maintain their ground so as to
generate around the springs. Behold existing parental states
overruling even hereditary qualities, and mottling the young of
these unmottled !
Stallions transmit more speed and vivacity to their colts by
running just enough to excite but not to exhaust right before con-
junction ; and the young of bulldogs are rendered far more savage
by their sire having a short fight with some other male dog just
before begetting them.
Dr. Newman, who has written much and well on natural sci-
ence, asserts that in South America, where variegated horses are
all the rage, this mottling is effected by unrolling, in full view
of the parent horses just as they are uniting, whatever kinds
of mottle they desire to imprint on the future foal; — a leopard
skin, if they desire leopard mottling, &c.
" Another gentleman stated that he himself was present when the
pale gray color of a male horse was objected to ; that the groom there-
upon presented before the eyes of this male another female of a peculiar
but pleasing variety of colors, asserting that the latter would determine
the color of his offspring ; and that in point of fact it did so. This ex-
periment was tried in the case of a second female, and the result was so
completely the same, that the two young horses, in point of color, could
hardly be distinguished, although their spots were uncommon."
" Lord Morton bred from a male quagga and a chestnut mare ; which
was afterwards bred from by a black Arabian horse ; yet this progeny
strongly resembled the quagga in color and main."
" Spitalfields weavers guarantee any given quality of color and tex-
ture, and length of coat, and to regulate its disi)ositioD to curl or remain
straight, in their Marlboro breed of spaniels; and experienced pigeoa
fanciers can breed to a feather." — Combe a Constitution of Man,
Night animals procreate at nioht, of which cats, in their
nightly disturbance of our slumbers, furnish a rather wakeful
illustration. Biting and scratching by nature, they bite aik^
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510 COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTTS,
«icratcli most at their creative altar. As their prey is nocturnal,
so are they, and their creative nuptials.
Lions roar more, and are more terribly fierce and savage during
their sexual season than during the entire balance of the year;
whilst all fighting animals fight most desperately, and almost
<>nly, then. Dogs run, bark, and bite most during these seasons;
obviously, so as to redouble this running, barking, and biting
propensity in their offspring ; yet playful poodles play, frisk,
frolic, roll over, and assume all sorts of brisk antic attitudes,
thereby imparting playfulness to their young ; whilst savage dogs
are the most savage at this season, so as to transmit their own
savage nature enhanced.
All feathered tribes also illustrate this law. Dunghill fowls
use the wing but little, either at this season or at any other ;
while doves and swallows, which use it almost constantly, use it
proportionally at their creative altar — indeed, cannot procreate,
without that use. Doves are always amiable and lovely, and
doubly so at this union. Hence, "billing and cooing."
All water fowls procreate on water, and cannot obtain
the requisite positions without it, of which ducks furnish an
illustration; while geese, which love water some, though less,
usually procreate right after a swim, and on the water's brink.
Not a single animal or fowl contravenes, but every one fully
illustrates this principle, even in detail.
Man furnishes its highest illustration, in every particular.
Why should he not ? All his original primal elements and char-
acteristics are transmitted, but all existing parental states are
also incorporated with the hereditary ; and the two conjointly
predetermine progenal specialties of mind and body. The differ-
ence between children of the same parents is heaven-wide 1 Why ?
for the primal parental characteristics are of course the same in
each. Because one or both parents were in one state at the crea-
tion of one, but in a totally different state when they created
another, and in still other states at the creation of others. What
else could cause it, except that difterent maternal states account
forapart?»^«^
" Children begotten during the horrors of the French Revolution
are weakly, nervous, and irritable in mind, extremely susceptible, and liable
to De thrown by the least excitement into absolute insanity." — Esquirol,
^ Come on>, ye cowards : ye were got in fear." — Shak.
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" Thy father beoot thee when drunk." — Diogenes, to a Orackbrain,
" I GIVE THIS ADVICE, given by my predecessors, that no man unite
with his wife for issue except when sober; for those begotten while their
parents are drunk more usually prove winebibbers and drunkards." —
Plutarch.
" Intemperate parents transmit the elements of a like degradation.
In thousands of instances of those who had children born while temperate,
and others after they became intemperate, the latter are more addicted to
intemperance than the former, by five to one; obviously because of this
animal taint." — Dr. Caldwell.
Illegitimates furnish a forcible illustration of this law. With
scarcely an exception, they are most amorous, because the off-
spring of this passion when heightened by novelty, and often
parent illegitimates; are always cunning, because created by
stealth ; visry smart, because
" No sickly son of faint compliance he,
But stamped in Nature's mint of ecstacy ; "
have some moral screw loose, because active parental conscience
would have prevented their creation, &c. Any seeming excep-
tions are caused and explained by another phase of this same
great law thus : —
Caddie, the Portland beauty, engraving 557, a model of her
sex, and peculiarly amiable and lovely,* was born out of wedlock,
under these circumstances. Her father and mother were engaged
in marriage. Their wedding-day was appointed, and at hand, as
soon as he, a captain, had made one more trip between Portland
and Boston. All preparations were nearly completed, when he
solicited and she granted the rights of wedlock in advance, and
he left with her the seeds of this girl's life,^*^ but was drowned on
this his last trip before their intended marriage; so that this
girl was begotten in Love, though born out of legal wedlock.
Her mother testified her Love for him by marrying his bwther.
A DISTINGUISHED JUDGE, whom I took in my carriage from his
court-house Saturday noon, in 1838, and landed at his residence,
twenty-eight miles distant, at sundown, invited nie to spend
Sunday with him, and said of his two-year old daughter: —
*.She afterwards became d«»perately ennmorwl of a (kithteM minisler; declined from
disapi)ointed affection ; waj* taken with consumption ; and doctore<i with lime-water M>
strong that it ate a hoU through her tide from her lungM, through which, in breathings
ihe air rushed in and out sufficiently to blvw out a cttnttle held at its mouth I A mag-
nificent and sample female was thus worte cAofi mwrdUnd, Hmmdmm ortatn, between a
faithless lover nnd a killing dnrt/)r.
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" She is the most amiable child you ever saw. Only give her sufficient
food with any plaything, and she will play all day, just as quiet and ami-
able as a dove ; and I '11 tell you, I would not tell everybody," — he might
about as well, — " how she became so.
" I HAD BEEN SITTING SIX WEEKS on the circuit bench, separated from
my wife, when I determined to close this long and arduous session by a
brilliant party ; and accordingly invited members of the bar, and the elite
of the several towns where I held court, to meet me at my house Satur-
day at two o'clock. Saturday morning my wife, having just passed her
monthly excretion,^^ ordered out the carriage, and came for me, a pleasant
fifteen-mile ride, on a glorious morning. We had a fine cavalcade return
ride ; a cold lunch awaiting our arrival ; pleasant chit-chats and prome-
nades in grounds and parlors ; a warm supper ; and after it a dance ; but,
breaking up at eleven, so as not to trespass on the Sabbath, I and my wife
retired after the pleasant bodily exhilaration of the dance, and mental
feast of the party, for all passed off most pleasantly, without either being
protracted to fatigue. Under these peculiarly agreeable and stimulating
circumstances this child was created ; and I always attributed her amiable-
i»ess to the happy state of her parents just preceding her creation."
Ten years afterwards, at his supper-table, he said :
" Prof. Fowler, how can Phrenology account for it that this girl, my
•youngest, should always carry off all the awards of merit from her elder
brothers, even in mathematics and the other higher studies ; for all study
the same lessons, under the same tutor, and at the same time ; yet she
always surpasses the rest?"
"Judge, you brought more energy, mental and physical, to her
creative altar than to theirs. She was better begotten. That is what ren-
ders her your finest child."
She was ball-and-party-crazy, as I learned ten years after, she
now twenty-two. No matter how sick she might be, a fashionable
ball or party in Philadelphia, New York, or Washington — her
father now chief-justice, so that she moved in the highest circles
— intoxicated with delight and cured her; showing that the
exalted state of both her parents existing for the few hours pre-
ceding the commencement of her existence, had written them-
Belves deep into the innermost recesses of her being, only to
" grow with her growth." As I told this fact in a lecture, a
listener said : —
"The wickedest boy I ever knew clearly proves your * parental
states ' theory. I was long a teacher in a school in England, the principal
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)f which was remarkable for managing bad boys, as well as for being one
of the best of teachers.
" A MOST GODLY Father, of whom no one ever knew one wrong thing,
brought to this school a most obedient, excellent son, saying, * Don't punish
him ; you will not need to, for he will do exactly as he is directed ;' and
a couple of years afterwards, brought just one of the very worst of boy«
jwssible, saying, * Manage him any way you like, for I can do nothing with
him.' The teacher replied, * Let me alone for that, sir. With your sons I
shall have no trouble.' But he soon found he had his hands more than
full ; wrote his father that he was the very worst boy he ever had ; wa«
persuaded to keep on trying, till, finding all efforts utterly unavailing, per-
emptorily ordered the father to take out his son, else he should be obliged
to expel him ; adding, * for he will lie, steal, forge, and keep the wholfe
school in a perpetual uproar, yet no one can ever cAtch him at his tricks,
they are so artfully conceived and executed.' This father, with tears in
his eyes, then told this obvious cause of his son's wickedness, thus : —
" * Financial embarrassment during one period of my business career,
compelled me to forge or fail. I could not endure to fail, lest my proud
wife and daughters, whom I had raised by commercial prosperity from a
common and placed upon a high social position, which in England means
more than here, should go back again into plebeian ranks, to be tormented
by their present associates ; and knowing I could imitate to a dot the sig-
nature of a celebrated firm where I hi^d been signing clerk fifteen yeai-s, I
forged note after note as my necessities required, taking up each with
another, and at last all with my own money, so that this firm's accounts
balanced to a dollar, and no one ever lost a cent, or knew of my forgeries
before; but it was while I was in this blunted state of my conscience, and
rampant state of my propensities, that I begot this son. 1 thought to have
hid my sin ; but a just God has brought to light, in his wickedness, my
supposed hidden guilt. I bow to this just judgment of Heaven.' "
" Judgment ? " The natural penalty of the creative law lie
had broken, by begetting a child wheu in a depraved state.
Here was a good, honest, and pious man, who, in his ordinary
state, begets a son as good as himself; but when temporarily
depraved, begets both a Satan incarnate, and one wicked in the
telfsiiuie things which constituted liis father's temporary sinful-
ness. A New Haven medical professor relates to his chisa the
following analogous case of
*'A STAOOCRING IDIOT. Summoned to attend an elderly lady in a
decline, I occasionally heard a shout in the back yard, sounding as if made
by one iotoxtcated ; and at length saw an ap{)ttrently drunken female^
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about thirty, every dow and then throwing up her hands, jumping up, and
ihouting ; perpetually appearing as if in the first or exhilarated state of
drunkenness. Asking my patient what all this meant, she replied : —
" ' She is my eldest daughter, and has always been thus ; obviously
because her father begot her when intoxicated, though a teetotaler at all
other times. He was a young sea captain, and very ambitious to please
his uncle, a retired captain, and chief owner in his ship. He sailed the
morning after our marriage on a six months' voyage. As his returning
ehip struck her dock, his uncle said, " Be on board ready to sail again
to-morrow morning." " But, uncle, I've had no wedding respite yet. Do
please let me spend a few days with my young wife." " Your wife is at my
house, where I have provided a superb wedding supper. Go right there,
enjoy to-day, but be ready to sail to-morrow morning." At supper the old
captain had his choicest old wines and liquors, which my husband steadily
declined, till finally the old man became persistent. Nothing w'ould do
but my husband must forego his teetotalism at this his wedding supper,
and he at length reluctantly yielded. The wines were of the oldest and
choicest kinds, which the old captain plied, coaxing so persistently that
my husband became exhilarated, and after supper would throw up his
hands, jump up and shout hilariously, exactly as my daughter does. He
retired with me soon after supper, begot her soon after retiring, sailed the
next morning, and this daughter was born just nine months afterwards.' "
These cases are exactly analogous. A teetotal father, intoxi-
cated as it were perforce, while exhilarated begets a besotted
appearing daughter, who all her life keeps doing just w^hat he
did for an hour before she received being. As the temporary
wickedness of that good father impressed that bad temporary state
on his son ; so the habitual temperance of this father is overruled
in his child by this temporarily drunken state. Mark well the
eventful lessons enforced by these pregnant cases. The following
fact enforces this same mighty moral. In 1841, Mr. M., an iron-
monger in Philadelphia, invited me to his house, professionally.,
and after finislung all the rest, concerning a girl of eighteen
months, I exclaimed : —
" She is a perfect steamboat, and built on the high-pressure princi-
ple throughout at that. I have never found one equally talented and
forcible; while Construction and Causality are amazing."
" A year before her birth, I labored with all my might in getting
up a small steamboat, to run up the Rancocas Creek. At length, by dint
of the utmost persistence and strategy, I got a company formed, and the
capital pledged. But my darling craft must not exceed a given lenj:th,
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else she could not turn at her landing, nor draw over two feet of water, or
ihe could not cross a given bar at low tide ; and boat modellers declared
she could not be made so as to carry any freight worth carrying. But I
knew she could, and determined to be both her architect and builder.
After racking my brain on its plans till my forehead and temples, Con-
struction and Causality, became so intensely hot that I involuntarily
laved them in cold water many times each day to assuage this burning
heat, I turned boss builder, and directed all hands till fairly under way,
when I returned home, spent one night with my wife, left with her the
seeds of life, returned the next day to my boat, where I remained some
weeks, and this girl was born just nine months from that night." — Her
Father,
I REVISIT Philadelphia in 1858. Mr. M. and an elder daughter
drop in for a friendly chat. Half an hour afterwards a young
lady calls for a phrenological delineation. Neither Mr. M. nor
daughter appear to recognize her. I proceed to give an unbiased
delineation, which a phonographer reduces to writing verbatim.
I find a twenty -three inch head. Not one woman in many tens
of thousands has a healthy bniin of that size. Her Tempera-
ment, too, is superior. All the organic conditions of the highest
order of talents, especially philosophical and artistic, are found
most remarkably developed. She is described as excelling all
other females in the reflectives and Construction, and pronounced
a natural artist and philosopher. When finished, Mr. M. intro-
duces me to the " real little steamboat " of 1841. None of her^
brothers or sisters bear any comparison with her in the reflec-
tives. Construction, Imitation, and entire intellectual lobe; obvi-
ously consequent on the intense and protracted exa-cise of thes*
Faculties in her father for some weeks before he initiates her life.
A BRUNETTE FROM BLONDE PARENTS enforces another phase of this
law. An amorous man, married to a very passive wife, concluded
a treaty with her in effect that he might seek his pleasures where
and as he liked, provided he did not trouble her. lie tried in
vain to jXTsuade an Italian waiting-maid, in a neighboring hotel,
to live in his house, nominally as nurse, but really as his mis-
tress, offering her a large price. But she virtuously declined all
his overtures, till, thinking to gain by appealing to passion what
he had failed to secure by money, ho'tried his best to excite her
desire; in which he also failed, and finally was abruptly driven
out by her, late one evening. In attempting to awaken her pas
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sion he had intensified his own, and sought relief ^ in a sexual
interview with his wife ; with whom he left the seeds of life.
The point of the fact is this: Though neither parent was hrn-
nette, but both blonde, and though not a drop of this Italian
hnmette's blood flowed in the veins of this girl, yet she looked
near enough like this brunette to be her own child, because ho
tljought only of her during its creation. One who saw the like-
nesses of both, says, " Any one at first sight would unhesitatingly
pronounce their likenesses those of mother and daughter."
" A POINT-BLANK IDIOT. In the summer of 1827, a practitioner waa
called to visit professionally a young woman, who was safely delivered of
a male child. As the parties appeared to be respectable, he made some
inquiries regardiug the absence of the child's father ; when the old woman
told him that her daughter was still unmarried ; that the child's father
belonged to a regiment in Ireland ; that last autumn he obtained leave of
absence to visit his relations in this part of the country ; and that on the
eve of his departure to join his regiment an entertainment was given, at
. which her daughter attended. During the whole evening, she and the
soldier danced and sang together; when heated by the toddy and the
dance, they left the cottage, and after the lapse of an hour were found to-
gether in a glen, in a state of utter insensibility, from the effects of their
former festivity ; and the consequence of this interview was the birth of an
idiot. He is now nearly six years of age, and his mother does not believe
that he is able to recognize either herself or any other individual. He is
quite incapable of making signs whereby his wants can be made known,
except that, when hungry, he gives a wild shriek. Both parents are intel-
ligent, and the fatal result cannot be otherwise accounted for than by the
total prostration or eclipse of the intellect of both parties from intoxica-
tion."— Combers Coivitltution of Man.
What made this child of "intelligent parents" idiotic?
*"' Their creating him while temporarily in an insensible idiotic
state," is the obvious answer. But why did not this parental
stupor prevent parentage ? Because dance and drink had stimu-
lated their animal natures, yet paralyzed their intellectual and
moral, at this particular time ; so that they retained sufficient
animal life to [)rocreate, with too little intellectual and moral to
reproduce anything but an idiot.
A WHALEMAN was Severely hurt by a harpooned and desperate
whale turning upon the small boat, and by his monstrous jaws
smashing it in pieces; one of which, striking him in his right
ITS SACREDNESS, POWER, SCIENCE, AND STUDY. 617
side, crippled him for life. When sufficiently recovered, he mar-
ried according to previous engagement; and his daughter, boru in
due time, and closely resembling him in looks, constitution, and
character, has a weak and sore place where her father's was.
Tubercles have been found in the lungs of infants born of con-
sumptive parents ; showing that children inherit those states of
parental physiology existing at the time they received their phys-
iological constitution. The transmission of venereal diseases es-
tablishes the same conclusion.
A PIONEER, in burning charcoal in a ravine, on a very sultry
day, had two large pits burst out nearly simultiineously, and
worked to quench both, with all his might, at mid-day, between
coal-pits and sun, both scorching and roasting him at the same
time, with scarcely a breath of air stirring. After recovering his
pits, he went into a log-house, on an eminence, to cool off and
rest, and carelessly seated himself, while all dripping with sweat,
between two open doors, where the wind swept through unhin-
dered. This suddenly closed his pores ; and for the balance of
his life, however hard he might work, in however hot a day, per-
spiration was always " insensible," never perceptible, though
before it had been profuse. He begets a son years after, quite
like his father in constitution, voice, hardihood, &c., who never
perspired, except insensibly, even when mowing or cradling. In
the hottest jart of the hottest day his skin always remained dry,
till after forty, when the varioloid, typhoid fever, and sea-bathing
finally restored his perspiration ; its temporary nature facilitat-
ing its obviation.
A MECHANICAL and energetic father begat a son much more so,
by throwing all his energies, the year before this son's birth, into
a i)atent-right invention ; which has since proved a decided suc-
cess.
Children created while their parents are overcomino any
diseased hereditary taint, inherit muih less of it than their
jrtirents; yet those born while their parents are succumbing to
any ailment, are more subject to it, relatively, than their parents.
Of course, by taking sf»ecial pains to nurture any of their own
weak organs during their creative period, jmrents can wellnigh
forestall a like weakness in their children.^
Similar proofs and illustrations, by thottsands, of this law,
that existing parental states write tiiomselvcs into the primal
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nature of their offspring, are constantly transpiring in my pro-
fessional practice. I^ot but that all the original parental traits are
likewise transmitted,^^^ but that both enter into the composition
of all offspring. But a law thus rational and self-evident hardly
requires further proof or illustration. Is it not true in fact, and
established by sound reasoning ? Has it any improbable aspect ?
Does any known thing contradict it ? Parents who place their
own states at this sacred period side by side with the specialties,
mental and physical, of their offspring, will find proofs and illus-
trations in every single case, and throughout every minute par-
ticular. In short, we are expounding a law ordained of God,
who rewards its obedience with two of the highest pleasures
known to man — improved parental sexualities, and children
superior to themselves ; yet punishes its infraction with penalties
the most fearful we can experience, in both impaired parental
gender, and inferior offspring. None can at all afford to either
neglect or violate this law. Its study and practice would do
more for both parental enjoyment and progenal endowment than
all other conditions combined.
786. — Value of Knowing what Parental States are Best.
How INFINITELY POTENTIAL, then, for good and evil, this
" parental states" procreative law! As a God-send for enabling
parents to prefashion their every darling almost to their liking,
does it not seem too great a power, a good, a boon to be bestowed,
even by all-provident i^ature ? It is a gift next to creation itself I
Think what infinitely beneficial results it enables every parental
pair to achieve I A human being is a great aflair.^^*^^'^ Think
how great. And the difference between one smart or stupid,
good or bad, how incalculable ! -'^ Hereditary endowments are a?
incomparably more pre-determinative of all there is in character
and conduct than education, as sun compared with candle.'''*^ How
very easy to cultivate natural gifts and virtues ; yet hard to
restrain bad original traits, and evolve poor ones! If parents
might well pray God for His one greatest gift, this is it, thrust
u{)on them nolens volens ; and if those already borne may justly
thank their parents for their greatest good, it is not for riches,
aristocratic surroundings, &c., but for a superb hereditary men-
tality and physiology. Shout, all prospective parents, make the
welkin ring with exultant pseans that God in Nature enabie«<
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you, by this law, to vary your children's talents and excellences,
ml libitum, as you can the furniture in this room and that ; and
make the mental and moral family landscape just what you wish.
As in planting out your family fruitery, you can say practically :
'" We will have these early, those late, and this other sweet and
that sour apple-tree growing here and there ; these and those cher
ries, pears, and grapes growing thus and so to our liking ; " so this
parental states law enables each pair to say, " We will pre-endow
our first child, a boy,**^^ with speaking talents and piety, fitting
him for the pul[)it ; that for the counting-room ; and the other
for tool using, engineering, &c. ; and have Jane a love of a girl,
Mary a premium teacher, and Eliza a saintly missionary, at
home or abroad ; and ' get up ' just such a family throughout as
we predetermine each child." l*lease think out whether or not
Nature really hxis conferred this super-angelic gift ; and since she
certainly has,^*^ consider its momentous import I
She obliges you to predetermine all this, and infinitely more ;
and compels you to stamp your existing states on oftspring. If
you cohabit and parent while intoxicated, you must impress your
beastly conditions on your issue, to mar them throughout time and
eternity !- whereas by the pre-cultivation of your own talents and
virtues, or any one of them, they would have been created upon a
high human plane, instead of, as now, on a low animal one. If
you defile yourself by tobacco, expect them to be defiled in the
wool; but if you want them to be loves of children, then love
each other before and while creating them. Yet in God's name
be careful lest by parental spats, scoldings, and bickerings, you
create rampant Ishmaelites ; hated by all, because of your and
their hatefulness.
" Kejoice with trembling " all ye who cohabit, in view of this
parental power — tremble lest you confer bad, and rejoice that
you can confer good, thus infinite in amount and duration!
Learn how to stamp good, and not bad qualities. Blessed
those who learn the former, accursed those who perpetrate the
latter. Here is a plain natural law, written right into your
beings. And written there to be obeyed, not violated ; and
studied, not ignored, that it may be turned to your children's goody
not evil. God inscribes it into you to be a live principle of
action, not a dead letter there. Then dare not remain ignorant
of itself, or its applications, but
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Study it up. Know whatever you can know. Intellect is
man's guide in all things. " Knowledge is power," and this
kind more powerful than any other. Then learn how to so
apply it as to make your children a great deal better than your-
selves.
Ignorance here is inexpressibly wicked. You deserve pounds
ing for not learning. Would you not be and feel most wicked
and guilty for neglecting your darlings after their birth, when
sick or starving ? Then how much more for neglecting to endow
them with goodness and strength so as to need little care? The
richest gold mine, easiest worked, is as nothing compared with
this one of God's greatest contrivances for the advancement of
your own loved ones and the race. Come, up and at its study.
rROSPECTiVE fathers, SANCTIFY yourselvcs for your holiest
work, generation. Weed out your vices. Cultivate your excel-
lences. Put and keep yourselvcs on high and holy ground. Nor
dare debase them by any male vices, or demoralizing habits or sur-
roundings. This is your specific work : see that you execute it
in the very best way possible.
Prospective mothers, God appoints you the mistress of this
pre-creative situation, by making your courses regulate its times ;
and thereby every thing else concerning it.*^''^ He thus makes
man serve you, not you him ; makes you directress of this
creating ceremony. This demands that
You learn all about it. You are not made passive recipients,
^^ but first in this holy work. Woman introduced sin into our
world by tempting Adam ; supervised and mainly conducted
human sacrifices to Jupiter; kept the vestal fires ever burning;
was " last at the Cross, and first at the sepulchre ; " and is the
Prima Donna at the creative altar ; with husbands for serving
" helpmeets ; " and hence should learn all you can concerning the
work you are ordained to begin and direct.
"This my youngest child is fifteen ; but thank the Lord, I am not yet
too old to have another ; which I propose doing, and came to learn all I
can about having the very smartest, healthiest, and best Centennial pre-
mium son possible." — An Intelligent Matron.
"Indelicate, surely; demoralizing to her sex; passion provoking;
outrageous." — Mrs. Snobs, and Misses Prudes.
"That woman 'immodest'? Precisely the converse. Every mother
should and will be loved to death by all children conceived in ihit spirit
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Having a womb is delicate ; so is knowing its God-ordained laws of action ;
— * immodest * not to ; so is being impregnated, and learning how to have
the best heirs possible ; and knowing how not to curse them with weakness
and badness; while mere passional conception is vulgar; for the intel-
lectual must rule, and moral sanctify, all the propensities.*"* Say which
is most modest — much or no thought or care as to whether you are im-
pregnated by an idiot, or a devil. Do you wish your parents had learned
and done as a/ie did. That question is easily answered. And yet, most
fashionables practically exclaim : ' ungenteel. Having children at all ii
improper. We are too exquisite for thai.' "
All maidens should acquire this knowledge. They require it
before being impregnated — learning after is like locking the
stable after the steed is stolen — need its help in preparing them-
selyes for this specific female mission ; should have it before mar-
riage, so as to begin it aright,*^^'^ demand it before they " engage ; "
for engagement consists m promise to cohabit.^^ Should girls
promise this to proposers before knowing how to perform the
specific thing promised? Must not knowledge precede practice?
so as to guide it right ?
Any girl might have a marriage proffer any day, and should
therefore have the knowledge required for perfect intercourse
and motherhood already on hand. Its knowledge without use b©ne<
fits, not injures her, and is a " handy thing to have.'*
" I AM ENGAGED in marriage. My time is short. I desire to be the
best wife and have the best children I can ; and especially to learn, that I
may so fulfil my specific conjugal function as to gain and maintain com-
plete control over my husband." — An Indianapolis Teacher.
He 'll have a good wife. That spirit will make both happy.
She talked about this matter as freely and earnestly as about any
other, and as if ipso facto as proper.
" Professor, while other young ladies devote themselves to dress and
fashion, I have consecrated my earth life to producing and rearing just as
large and fine a family of superb sons and daughters as lies in my power;
and come to have you tell me not only my Phrenology and Physiology,
but also what my specific maternal faults are, what bodily organs and
mental Faculties I should cultivate beforehand, and also whom I should
and should not marry, that my children may be marred vrith the least
faults, and endowed with the mo«t ezcellenoes poseible." — J Ckioaff0
Young Lady.
She should be taken to the Centbivnial Exhibitiov and
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awarded the premium as its prize young lady candidate ; besides
deserving the best husband and family in the nation.
Young men in search of good wives, other things being equal,
those who do understand these truths will make you a great
deal better wives, besides giving you incomparably better chil-
dren, and being far more satisfactory, than those who do not.
And this will be your most pleasing and profitable theme for
conversation. Those too squeamishly delicate, will make pre-
mium " old maids."
" Their sexual ignorance renders girls innocent, sure."
Verdancy is not purity. Sticks are innocent. Impurity comes
from within. Knowledge is not corrupting. Maidens' ignorance
of their own special anatomy and conjugal and maternal duties
and requirements, unfits them for wives and mothers ; besides
often driving them in upon themselves to perpetrate with an
imaginary male that identical sin harlots perpetrate with para-
mours.^ Nor can it be justified on any grounds whatever.
Every mother's experience attests how many pains and ailments
she could have avoided, and enjoyments promoted, by knowing
in girlhood what self-destroying experience forced her to learn in
womanhood. Knowledge parries that temptation ignorance pro-
motes. Previous preparation, most important in all things, is
doubly so for becoming wives and mothers. Shall girls rush im-
pulsively into both, knowing nothing about either? Ignorance
might be justified if it quenched passion, which it only inflames;
whereas knowledge guides and sanctifies it.
An eternal right, created by its natural laws, to which every
male, every female participant is solemnly bound to conform, and
therefore learn beforehand, governs and controls, rewards and
punishes every single sexual repast, whether for pleasure or issue.
The more either desires to be a perfect man or woman, husband
or wife, the more earnestly will they seek " light and knowledge "
concerning these requirements. This subject loill yet be popularized
and glorified. That squeamishness which has thus far successfully
interdicted it^ must give waghet^ore this highest human utility and
philosophy.. It must soon be talked up, written up, and become
the absorbing topic of human investigation. Since it confers
life and predetermines its specialties, and since its right fulfil-
inent yields the richest luxury its merciful Author proflers to
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His obedient children, they xcill study its laws and conditions.
Not till women are too "genteel" to bear children at all, will
they be too " nice " to learn how to produce the best possible.
Xor till it becomes " immodest " to learn how to breathe or eat,
will it be indelicate, per se, for the most exquisitely delicate
female to learn how Nature requires her to fulfil this chit female
function. And each sex requires the tutelage of the other.
When prospective parents study and practise this creative
science will their offspring be well worth rearing. Such parents,
prouder than the mother of the Gracchi, will exultingly intro-
duce children thus begotten, with, — " These, 0 guests, are our
productions." Is life, begotten by accident or mere carnal desire,
worth thus much ?" and w^ould not that designed be incomparably
more valuable and enviable? If these truths had been known
earlier, these days would not have been cursed with so many
poorly constituted oft'spring, and dissatisfied conjugal partners ;
nor with such floods of sexual vice. All would have been created
upon a higher plane if their parents had learned these laws, and
fulfilled them. at their creative altar. There never was, never can
be, any subject as practically important as: —
** What are the natural conditions and prerequisites of right
Hexual intercourse?" because its complete answer answers all
these questions together: —
" What are the laws and means of sexual vigor and purity, and of
male and female perfection and restoration? How can I retrieve past
Bexual errors, and perfect my manly or womanly nature ? What consti-
tutes a true sexual life, that I may attain it ? What sexual actions and
feelings are sinful, and why, that I may avoid them? that is, what is
sexual tnith? What are the constituents of perfect manhood and woman-
hood, and the most and best offspring? How can I best enjoy my sexual
nature and relations?"
Right cohabitation embodies a scientific answer to each sepa-
rately, and to all collectively; and therefore carries with it a
dignity and an exalted moral unequalled by any other.
This, 0 man and woman, youth and parent, is the august sub-
ject we reverently approach with " fear and trembling ; " for an
angel pen could no more than do it justice. Indeed, only He
who ordained this department of His works could unfold it fully.
What first principles embody His eternal exposition of them
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all? Divine aid is implored in its prosecution; it being too great
to be executed by mortal man unaided.
Readers who censure our freedom, remember that our manda-
mus to teach all, is even more imperious than yours to learn all.
AVe must skip but one hard word.
Section II.
WHAT CREATIVE CONDITIONS PROMOTE, AND WHAT IMPAIR^
PARENTAL PLEASURE, AND PROGENAL ENDOWMENT?
787. — Platonic Love the Great Creative Prerequisite.
Mind is life ; *^ and forms and rules all organisms.*^^ The
human mentality originates all things human ; and animal,
animal. Every house must be conceived in the mind of its
planner, before it can be constructed ; as must every invention,
with each of its parts. All sermons, speeches, books, sentences
and even tones originate in the intellects of their authors, before
they can be uttered or printed. All thoughts, feelings, desires,
actions, even every step, motion of hand, foot, head, all seeing,
eating, breathing, laughing, singing, &c., emanate from the minds
of their doers. All instincts, talents, gifts, traits of character,
&c., are mental operations ; as are all pains and pleasures, of
mind and body. Only mind enjoys, suffers, and accomplishes.
In short,
" The mind 's the stature op the man."
Only spirit entity is tranSxMitted. All the differing anatomical
organs throughout all forms of life, originate in their possessor's
mentalities; and are only secondary ; whilst spirit alone is primal:
and creates just such organs as it needs for its specific manifesta-
tions. When it requires claws for apprehending prey, it forms
them ; beginning accordingly at their foundations. The porpoise,
belonging to the whale species, must breathe sbme through a
nasal aperture, which spouts. This requires its easy and frequent
rise to the water's surface; and thus a horizontal tail, which it
has ; while other fish need propulsion forward mainly, and hence
have a vertical one. That is, its respiratory instinct or mental
Faculty demands and forms its tail flat, instead of upright.
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Blood globules form the organism ; and the mind controls
them. The female spirit principle creates female blood, and male,
male;"* and the richer, as their sexual mentalities are the
stronger. The more mental one is, the smaller these blood globules
are. The lowest reptile known has globules which look, under a
powerful microscope, to be as large as oyster-shells ; while human
globules, equally magnified, appear to be smaller than the finest
grains of sand.
The MENTALITY of progcuy creates its blood, anatomy, physiol-
ogy, and physiognom3\ Thus powerful Amativeness in parents
creates it equally powerful in issue; and this, large lips, mouths,
male sexual organs, womb, pelvis, and all those signs of gender
already described.*^ ^° *'^ Large parental Force creates this prog-
enal element in power; and this, large and strong hands, bones,
muscles, and all. the organs required for its manifestation.
Predominant parental Destruction, as in lions, bull-dogs, &c.,
creates it equally large in their progeny ; and this, those powerful
canine teeth, claws, chest, limbs, &c., required for manifesting it.
The large Caution of animals preyed upon, needs large ears and
eyes to protect them against enemies; and this spirit Caution
7tiakes their eyes and ears large. These and tliose parental men-
talities create these and those progenal, and this forms these
and those corresponding anatomies, faces, noses, cheeks, shaped
bodies, &c. In short,
The MENTALITY ALONE TRANSMITS, AND IS TRANSMITTED. Love
the transmitter is mental ; and rouses the entire mentality to in-
creased action in proportion to its own intensity,^*'* "• clear up to
its cohabiting culmination ; besides then and there taxing them
all to their utmost tension.^ Cohabitation is an oj)eration of
the mind, not body. See tliis underlying principle proved in"^
Love begins, carries forward, and consummates this life-initiating
function from beginning to end. Nature will have some Lev*
in 6very child. In short,
1. Existing parental states control progenal endowment.
2. Nature wants mentality mainly in offspring. Uniting
tliese two great laws enforces this inference that
8. Platonic Love is Nature's paramount demand in all cohabi-
tations, for both parental enjoyment and progenal endowment
And the more Love, the more of both.
The facts in this case are our final attestants. First Love if
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always Platonic. This is its legitimate normal outgrowth ;
while lust is its abnormal. Every reader loved long before
lusting. !N'ature wants spiritual products, and therefore spiritual-
izes this creative process, from first to last, unless and until it is
abnormalized, which compels her to put up with the best she can
get, even children of lust being better than none, till she gets
down to harlots, whose lust would create children so low and
poor as to be worthless ; when she prevents their bearing any.^^^"^
Lustful cohabitation is what has gone on begetting mankind
" in sin, and bringing them forth in iniquity ;" is that ^'-forbidden
fruit" and '''•original sin'' which has comparatively blasted and
embittered humanity until now ; and will continue to do so till
supplanted by spiritual Love, and its accompanying intercourse
of soul. To this one cause, more than to all others combined, is
attributable that widespread sensuality and depravity of mankind
in all their forms and aggravations ; which can be removed only
by obviating this their sensual cause. As the elements of sin and
vice, and of disease and pain, are propagated ; how cruel and
wicked thus to usher into the world beings constitutionally so
puny, sickly, depraved, and miserable as to be almost useless to
themselves and their race ! Especially since they might, with
more pleasure to parents, and infinitely more happiness to off-
spring, have been begotten most exalted in their intellectual
capabilities and moral virtues. 0, parents, pause and tremble in
view of relations thus fraught with weal and woe to yourselves,
your children, and your children's children forever I
Ministers of religion, learn from this subject just where to
begin the " salvation " of mankind from sin, here and hereafter.
That love to God and man which fulfils the whole moral law, is
Platonic Love at the creative altar. Preach that doctrine, and you
will have "hearers " worth preaching to; yet who hardly need it.
Note several next succeeding points as re-enforcing this
spiritual Love doctrine, as the great cohabiting and progeny-
endowing prerequisite. As carpenters must have saw and
hammer, and other workmen other tools; so this is our great
tool in constructing " Creative Science," and often used.
788. — Cohabiting in Lovb gives more Pleasure than in Lust.
1. Enjoyment is Nature's absolute test of her laws.^ There-
fore, whatever cohabiting conditions render parents the happiest
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at the creative altar, endow their offspring with the most and
best mentalities and physiologies. No philosophical mind will
question this premise. To attain that greatest terrestrial good,
the best offspring possible,- parents have only to cater to their own
highest sexual and general happiness. How infinitely wise and
blessed this conjunction ?
2. The more brain and functions combine in normal action,
the greater the resultant pleasure. This is self-evident ; and
illustrated thus: Worship gives some pleasure in isolated closet
devotions; more in public, by combining Friendship in meet-
ing friends, Form in seeing familiar faces, Ambition and Taste in
dressing and appearing in style; the Loves in worshipping with
the opposite sex and one beloved, children, &c.; Tune in joining
in sacred music; Language, Intellect, &c., in praying, preaching,
&c. ; each Faculty both adding its own quota, and intensifying alf
the others.
A HERMIT loves and enjoys his solitary home one. By marry-
ing one he loves and who loves him, and taking her to this home,
he loves and enjoys it more than double, say three; because two
Faculties combine to intensify each other. Each child makes
his home the happier yet by Parental Love adding its quota of
pleasure, and redoubling the action of the others to five ; Friend-
ship by entertaining friends ; Acquisition by every new means
of family comfort; Beauty by every ornament added to it; In-
tellect by his library, &c. ; each additional Faculty both super-
adding its own pleasure, and redoubling the action and pleasure
of all the others: thereby rendering him say twenty times
happier in his home than he was before. To apply this law to a
love-7*.?.-lust intercourse :
A LUSTFUL WHITE man cohabits with a squaw or wctu'ii, with
just as little mental and much physical Love as is possible; thus
taking an amount of pleasure we will call one. Yet his higher
Faculties, by revolting, detract from this pleasure thus : Parental
Love says, " What if I should beget a bastard to my, its, her
living disgrace?" thus subtracting say one-tenth from this pleas-
ure; Conscience another tenth, by condemning it as wrong;
Beauty by revolting against it as gross, vulgar, and filthy ; Am-
bition another tenth, by saying, " What if you should be caught
at it? " Worship another, by saying " God forbids it;" Dignity
another, by sjiying **Thi8 is beneath and below you;" as il
628 COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
certainly is ; and all the other higher Faculties by cutting off
each other slices ; so that, instead of taking pleasure one, he takes
less than one-tenth of one : and the less the higher he is in the
creative scale. Coarse animal naturps may experience some
pleasure in merely sensual indulgence, but the revulsions of pure
and high natures counterbalance it ; because sensual intercourse
l)reaks I^ature's sexual law, in that it would render its progeny
animal; whereas she will have the best she can get. Instead,
He forms A PURE SPIRITUAL Lovc for a refined, chaste, beauti-
ful, angelic girl ; which she reciprocates and sanctifies ; loves her
as one with whom to interchange male with female ideas and
emotions, not as his lustful paramour ; as his inspirer to good,
and guardian against sin ; combining personal charms with all
the female virtues; and both just such a helpmeet as he needs,
and the prospective mother of his future darlings ; every element
of both blending in perfect oneness. He anticipates marriage
with ecstatic delight; and harmonizes all the Faculties of both
by proclaiming their proposed cohabitation in their marriage.^*^'
All his other Faculties now add to, instead of, as in lustful inter-
course, taking from his cohabiting enjoyments ; Parental Love
by saying, " 1 do hope this will give me a child to love, care, and
be cared for by ; Inhabitiveness by adding, " and me one to sit
around our table and fill up our fireside ; " Friendship by their
being each other's dearest friends ; Acquisition by procuring her
creature comforts ; Conscience by saying " All right," Worship
by adding "God bless you," Form and Beauty by luxuriating
on her elegant female figure ; Expression, Mirth, Tune, &c., by
talking, laughing, and singing together, and every mental Faculty
by combining to redouble his sexual enjoyments, instead of antago-
nizing them : so that, in place of taking pleasure one, or rather
one-tenth or twentieth of one, he takes ten times one ; and the
more the stronger and more mentalized their Love — a hundred-
fold bonus in favor of Love over lust. Love is the base of all this
pleasure, because they are male and female ; and gives the more
enjoyment the more Faculties it unites with itself, and the more
intense their action, all the way up through their developing
Jjove till it culminates in marriage, intercourse, and offspring:
which are the better endowed the stronger their Love. The
more complete their mental union, the greater their physical
pleasures. In short.
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 629
The gateway to lust itself lies through spiritual Love. A
man seeking only carnal indulgence, who says to himself: —
" I HAVE MADE MY PILE and DOW am bound to enjoy it ; and since * I
neither fear God, nor regard man/ love the other sex most of all, and pro-
pose to give myself all the sexual gratification of which I am capable ;"
must say, thinking this whole thing clear through, " my surest and best
* ways and means * of obtaining the most merely sensuous indulgence, consists
in choosing someone pure good woman ; loving her mind and spirit with my
whole soul ; calling forth her completest devotion to me by being true to
her alone ; and doing just what and only what will completely enamor her
of me ; marrying and living together each wholly devoted to the other,
without one desire for any other ; and together love and rear the sacred
products of our holy affections. This will superadd all the pleasures of
pure, virtuous Love to all those of the fullest sensual gratification : an ad-
dition I should be a fool to reject by indulging with harlots ; besides giv-
ing me children to love, care for, be proud of, and to care for me ; while
that, if it Resulted in ofispring, would degrade me and my paramour;
besides being born on a low, sensuous, vulgar plane."
Love is exclusive ;*^* lust alone " runs around." All who
cohabit with this one now and that one then, thereby necessarily
demoralize this Faculty, which robs them of ninety-nine hun-
Iredths of its oini pleasures. All snatched chances are worthless.
All who " run around " make fools of themselves.^'*' All tobacco
chewers and smokers are fools if they do not know that tobacco
injures them ; fools if, knowing this, they continue its use ; as are
all inebriates, for a like reason ; and many others for doing other
foolish things; but about the foolishest of fools are those who
"run around " sexually. They are shearing swine for wool — a
great outcry for a little coarse hair. Still, the celibate cruci-
fiers of Love are little better ; for Nature prefers morbid action to
none ; a low phase of life to death. Young men and women,
married men and women, all men and women, of all times and
climes, know ye that
Platonic Love yields the most sensual enjoyment, besides its
tncntal luxury.
All human experience attests this great truth. Let any, all,
who have truly and deeply loved, recall and analyze those seasons.
Were they not the most ecstatic of your entire lives? You had
been happy before, have been happy since, in making money, in
gratified ambition, in overcoming difficulties, in triumphing over
630 ITS SACREDNESS, POWER, SCIENCE, AND STUDY.
enemies ; but were not those delightful hours spent in the com-
pany of your loved one incomparably the most ecstatic of your
entire lives ? You were happiness personified, from the crown of
your head to the soles of your feet. Part II. shows why.
In just what did your happiness consist? Gender was its
base ; because it w^as taken with one of the opposite ssx, solely
on account of that sex, with one beloved at teat, and impossible
with your own. It w^as a male and female, per se, that gavo
and took this pleasure. And the more Love, the more eiioy-
jnent ; and the less, the less. Intensely active Love, thosi, was
its sole base and measure. Yet not alone, but in combine tion
with nearly or quite all your other Faculties. You, as r man,
loved her sweet, soft, feminine tones, her fine female figure and
elastic step, and most of all, her mental sexuality, and especially
her aficction for you. You talked as only male and female in
Love can talk. Each of your minds held ecstatic sexual intercom-
munion with that of the other. Expression, memory, nusic,
poetry, all your moral Faculties, Friendshio, Acquisitior ii: dis-
cussing future pecuniary plans, Hope, Endness, W^orship, nome
prospects. Imitation in each conforming to the other j^^ m short,
every mental element participated in this delightful commerce.
If only a portion united, you were the less happy ; but the more
60 in proportion as the mentality of each called forth thai: of the
other. In phrenological language, your enjoyments proceeded
from active Love giving action to your other Faculties. And
the more action, the more pleasure.
Your love merges through marriage into a perfect cohabitation;
which is to it what tendon is to muscle. Every love fibre is em-
bodied in it, that all may be transmitted. Finally : —
You HAVE ONCE LOVED in purity — who has not? — and been
rendered superlatively happy thereby. Think how inexpressibly,
ecstatically so. Measure it as by the pound. You have since
become demoralized, wandered, and spent many a night in the
embrace of one also demoralized. Measure this pleasure also.
Bid you not enjoy ten times more per hour, and that ten times
more exquisitely, in that pure Love than in this vulgar lust ? Let
your own experience, not these tame words, impress this dif-
ference, and prove that
Love yields a hundred-fold more pleasure than lust.
what parental states endow offsprlng best. 631
789. — Spiritual Love overcomes Passion, and Passion it.
Love rarely lusts; Lust seldom loves. The marked pre-
dominance of either diminishes the other. They are like two
children tiltering : when either goes up, the other goes down ;
and the higher either, the lower the other. And as in other
combats, any advantage gained by either contestant over the other
gives him still greater after advantage, but is equally disadvan-
tageous to the other ; so putting Love down on its lustful plane
kills it in just that proportion ; while putting it on its Platonic,
neutralizes its carnal phase. When either walks in at the front
door of any human soul, the other sneaks out at the back. This
law shows why
Marriage kills love. Why should this, its natural sphere,**
so perfectly adapted in every way to promote it,®^ so often create
disgust and 111 ienat ions ? "^ Because, up to marriage, they cherish
Platonic Love ; yet then suddenly transfer it to its animal plane,
which inflames, surfeits, and then deadens.^^ Those reasons will
bear reperusal in this connection. All the world have wondered
why marriage generally takes all the poetry out of Love.^^ Our
principle answers, " Because it animalizes it, and this disgusts
them of each other." Unless they outraged some fundamental love
law, all would love each other many fold more after than before ;
whereas, most honey-moon experiences prove that they love many
times less ; because Love is immolated on the altar of carnality.
Let any two jidapted to each other begin and conduct their
mutual atfiliation at all right, without "spats" or drawbacks,
this legitimate heir, Platonic Love, will " cast out" this bastard
son. Sensuality. Putting and keeping it from the first on its
mental plane, is easy, perfectly satisfies both, and forestalls its
animal aspect; whereas restoring it after its fall, like a sprained
joint or broken limb, is difficult. This animalization of Love,
0 married loathers who were once lovers, has caused this lament-
able revolution in your afl^ctions, substituted discords for concords,
and immolated Love just as it was first entering its own mansion.
This Principle suows why liberties during courtship kill
Love;^* namely, by sensualizing it, and also why
Libertines never lovb; namely, because demoralizing this
element incapacitates its victims for loving; besides creating a
mawkish, nauseating feeling towards the opposite sex. As cue
632
cannot steal chickens witli another without despising himself, co-
malefactor, chickens and all ; so, whoever brutalizes his or her
Love, in wedlock or out, blunts that delicate appreciation of the
opposite sex in which all pure Love inheres. And the deadening
effects of self-pollution on Love has this identical cause.
Love supplants lust. This is but the counterpart of that.
Let the law and the testimony of universal experience be witness,
lawyer, and appellate judge. The lady quoted in ^ added, in
reference to the rakish captain : —
" If I COMBED HIS HAIR, duHng our courtship, he would say, ' If any
other woman should run her fingers through my hair, or twirl my beard
like that, she would set my passion all on fire ; but I love you too well
for that.* "
All lovers love mentally, mainly, not physically; passion oc-
cupying a back seat. They think of their idol as one with whom
to be, not cohabit. And the more they love, the less they lust.
His or her presence and affection satisfy perfectly. As far as
their desires are of and for the person. Love is not, lust is, its
proper designation. The whole world over, pure Love holds
passion in check. The more any one loves the less he lusts, and
the more lust the less Love. Putting it on its Platonic plane
subdues its passional ; while putting it on its animal, takes it oft*
from its Platonic. No man or woijian ever lusts after one or
many of the opposite sex who cherishes a high, pure regard for
that sex in general, or any one in particular.®^^
A HUSBAND WHO TENDERLY LOVES a feeble wife finds no difficulty
in being continent ; because their Love restrains passion, and be-
gets generosity. He loves her too well to subject her to what
site loathes ; and the more he loves the less passionate he is.
Every masculine sentiment attests that this is a law of gender.
A virtuous man, unmarried till forty, says : —
" I PRESERVED CONTINENCE thus I Whenever I found my passion
rLsing above my control, I put on my best apparel and deportment, and
called on some good lady, for whom I entertained too high a regard to
have an evil thought, the better if there were several, spent an hour or
two, and returned passionally toned down, and every way sanctified."
" A CLIQUE OF us COLLEGIATE STUDENTS usually Spent every Friday
evening in a pleasant party with select, highly refined, village young
ladies, the daughters of planters and merchants, talking, singing, playing
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 633
euchre, sometimes dancing, but all upon an elevated plane ; and I ob-
served that when I attended this Friday evening party, I could always go
through the next week without being driven by passion to the wall of
either intercourse or nocturnal emissions ; whereas, whenever I did not
attend, I was invariably driven to the one or the other." — A Georgia Student.
Analogous facts by thousands have come under the Author's
observation, Mark both their conformity to this law, and the
lesson here taught respecting self-preservation from both licen-
tiousness and self-defilement. Every practitioner of it must con-
firm it. But a principle already demonstrated, that Love is con-
stant,"^ also proves that " Love overcomes lust." Will readers
reperuse that as bearing on this, and compare both with their
own personal experiences, and with every single love-fact bearing
on it, and duly scan this sexual formula to ascertain not merely
whether it is true, but hoio fundamental the truth it embodies ;
«nd how infinitely important the lesson it teaches.
790. — Love and the Sexual Organs in Mutual Sympathy.
Nature must link Love with the sexual organs somehow;
else how could it use them in transmitting life ; for either, iso-
lated from the other, becomes nugatory. We have seen that
Love exalts every mental Faculty; yet how does Nature so relate
it to the sexual organs that it can use them to transmit this exal-
tation? By establishing a sympathy between them so perfect
that
Neither can ever act except with the other. Both are mad«
for each other, as much as eyes for light. Action in either al-
ways and necessarily compels co-operative action in the other also,
at the same time and place. Put these three /acte together.
1. No CREATION OF LIFE IS POSSIBLE without cohabitation.
2. No fX)HABiTATiON is possible without penal erection.
8. No ERECTION is possible without Love. Their conjoint action
thus becomes a philosophical necessity, because
1. The life-germ embodies all the nuclei of all the organs of
the being it originates ; each created and located in its own
place.** None are, can be, interfK)ljited after it leaves its father.
2. It is gelatinous, so that its organs are easily displaced ; and
if so, must grow and always remain disarranged. Hence it must
F)e absolutely protected against all abrasions. How is this ef-
fected?
634 cohabitation: its laws, effects, and conditions.
3. By placing its maternal receptacle inside the female body.
Fig. 595.
4. All else must be excluded. Hence this womb must not
come to the surface of the mother's body, lest other things work-
ing into it, become incorporated into the child, to its life-long
detriment.^
5. A passage-way from her surface to the mouth of her womb
thus becomes absolutely necessary, which her vagina furnishes.
6. The male penis is Nature's depositing instrument. Its
rigidity becomes indispensable in order to make its way to the os
uteri, so as to deposit its seminal messenger of life there.^*
7. Its rigidity only when needed for executing its creative
mission, becomes thereby absolutely indispensable.^
8. Love is Nature's only creative agent and incentive;"^ and
it must therefore be so interwrought with these sexual organs
that, when it requires their creative aid, it can command them
always, absolutely, without fail. How is this end effected?
9. By rendering their action necessarily reciprocal. By
making all action in either inspire like action in the other.
10. One must lead. Which ? Love of course. Its action
must and does always precede and provoke action in the sexual
organs of both sexes.
Scan these ten necessities for establishing the most perfect
sympathy between Love and the sexual organs.
The facts of this reciprocal action are next in order. Do these
" stubborn things " confirm or annul these ten necessities ?
Confirm, in every instance, in vegetable, beast, man, and all
the individual males and females of each kingdom. All impreg-
nation is effected solely by means of their co-operation. To
specify its ranges of facts.
1. The entire floral process is but their sexual intercourse.
They have their male and female organs as much as animals.
That central organ in all flowers is their penal part, and always
erect during their blossoming cohabitation ; yet wilts right after
its impregnating function is completed.
2. All male animals experience penal erection whenever in
passion ; but at no other time. All eyes demonstrate this.
3. All fExMale animals evince a like enlargement, redness, and
rigidity. Our own eyes attest this as a universal fact.
4. All men, all women, evince a like erection by passion. Be
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 635
these organs ever so inert, all indulgence of the sexual feeling
sends blood to them, and produces an erectile response; except in
cases of their disability. The personal eyes and consciousness of
all is the proof. And in females equally with males. Here i8
inductive ad hmnine^ni proof on the largest scale.
5. All who love each other can perceive, while reciprocating
Love by caressing, kissing, taking hands, even talking together,
an increased flow of blood to their sexual organs; a warm delight*
ful glow pei'vading them ; along with their enlargement when in
close intimacy. Yet any sudden interruption causes their instant
wilting, with pain. A woman's rebuke of any man when taking
undue liberties with her, instantly kills his passion and erection
together. A loving wife when scolded by her husband feels a
crawling awful sensation in her womb ; while unloving wives are
i-ot thus affected. All doting wives, on finding sudden proof of
r husband's infidelity, experience a most painful shock, as if a
lightning blast had struck right through their pelvis, and lodged
ia their wombs. All love reversals create a like sexual revulsion ;
wnile all seminal losses are preceded and caused by lustful feel-
ings or sensual dreams, &c. Neither can ever act either way
without causing a like proportionate action in the other.
How COULD TWO COHABIT, how could life be initiated, without
this invariable union of passion with erection ; of Love with the
sexual organs.
This concomitance of Love and erection causes and accounts
for these ranges of experimental facts, which in turn redemon-
sti-ate this law, namely : —
791. — Potency with those Loved, Impotency with Disliked.
Here is a marked fact, proved by all experience perpetually.
A. and B., who intensely love each other, would give the world
to cohabit together, because they enjoy inexpressibly, as would
also C. and 1). ; yet A. and C. utterly loathe each other's embrace,
as do B. and D., who dislike each other: and because of their
mutual repugnance. Nor could they if they would ; because
Love alone causes all sexual action and erection.^ Why ?
This male has twenty times moke virility, rigidity, and
power with this female than with that; because he loves this
twenty times the most. Yet if he should love that one twenty
times the most, she would inspire twenty times the most passioD
636 COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
and erection. Why do men care notliing for, enjoy nothing in,
the embrace of a repulsive wife, yet burn with uncontrollable
desire for other women they idolize? And wives often return
the compliment ? Our principle answers. A few facts : —
The Portland declining beau mentioned in,*^ having now a
strongly animalized wife, with Love reversed towards him, con-
sulted me with this precise story : —
" My wife scolds me incessantly, because she hates me violently ; is
even truly fiendish towards me. Both have strong passion towards others,
but none towards each other, and can never cohabit together ; for if we
ever attempt, we invariably break up in a fight before consummation.
And yet both often masturbate while in bed together ! "
"I had positively rather jump into Salt Lake in winter and
drown, than cohabit with my husband." — A splendidly sexed vdfe, having
.lUy one poor child.
"Your head, form, and entire aspect, indicate a very hearty
sexual passion. What is the fact ? "
" I HAVE all I CAN DO to govcm it, towards a man I love."
" This is my only living child. At marriage I loved my husband,
and conceived soon after ; but his carnality soon disgusted me. His touch
and very presence are utterly loathsome. I wanted more children, but
could not conceive by him for ten years ; when I fell desperately in love
with another, for. whose embrace I ' burn ' with perpetual desire. Yet
knowing its gratification would cost me my soul, nothing could tempt me
to trust myself alone with him. And yet I conceived by my husband by
meanwhile imagining I was holding intercourse with my lover. I am
haunted night and day with this unhallowed passion for him. What shall
I. can I do?" — ^ N. 0. Wife,
A SHERIFF consulted me about his wife, who had no vestige of
passion towards him, to ascertain the cause, and if possible its ob-
viation. She had been married before, yet felt marked aversion
to both husbands; but when catechised, confessed that between her
marriages she became enamored with a boarder, ^'with whom I
enjoyed a hundred times, or more, beyond my power of words to
express." What means that?
Like cases by thousands come under my professional observa-
tion. Married life is full of them. Every reader must experience
this truth by having passion for one loved ; none, only disgust,
towards those hated. On what is a wife's jealousy of her husband
predicated ? On his desiring intercourse with some other woman
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 637
he loves, but not with herself, because disliked. And vice versd
of all jealous husbands. More conclusive jet.
Killing Love kills passion. The faithless wife mentioned
in*^ enjoyed her husband's embrace bevond expression till he
killed her Love by taking a harlot to San Francisco, but never
once after; yet enjoys her paramours intensely still. What mean
these facts, with millions of kindred ones?
A VERY loving wife eiijoycd, worked for her husband as only
amorous women can, till she found sudden but absolute proof of
his infidelity; which stunned and laid her on a sick bed; but she
had no remnant of passion for him ever after, and left him ; yet
acknowledges abundance, at fifty, " where I take a liking."
Passion dies with Love in those of iiarked virtue. Widows
who love husband dotingly, have no passion after his death for
any man, unless their Love revives; which revives passion. Pure
girls, after being discarded, frequently lose all passion, because
benumbed Love benumbs it. Their wombs fall back dead, ani-
mal life only excepted ; and they become to women what eunuchs
are to men;^ their wombs retaining barely life enough not to
putrefy. And how many such 1 All who are disappointed, ex-
cept those whose wombs deferred Love inflames and sensualizes.**
The last is the lesser evil. Yet widowers, all men, equally illus-
trate this law; which causes much celibacy.^*
These facts follow necessarily from the law just proved of
sympathy between Love and the sexual organs.^*' Does Euclid
demonstrate any geometrical problem any more conclusively than
we these two truths — that ruptured Love deadens or else intlames
the sexual organs? causing virtual eunuchism or sensuality? and
that Love, passion, and sexual action go together ?
No TRUTH is equally IMPORTANT. All the virtue, all the sensu-
alities of the race impinge upon it ; as do both the creation of
every child ever begotten ; and whetner it is well or poorly con-
stituted;*" the number of human beings included. Fie, shame,
out upon, those who prudishly object to its presentation.
Hundreds op results grow out of this tap-root truth, like
wheat-heads from one crown, introduced elsewhere.
792. — Love and Cohabitation akr Uki7ER8al Concomitants.
They are indissolubly united by the law just demonstrated ;^*
and are as inseparable as the Siamese Twins. Whatever aii'ects
638 cohabitation: its laws, effects, and conditions.
cither similarly affects the other ; wherever either goes both go
together; and when one dies, the other dies soon after. N'ature
renders eitlier useless, even impossible, without the other. Love
is ordained solely to secure intercourse, and its results. Both
transmit : Love the mind, coition the body. Mental cohabitation
may be stronger in one, and physical in the other ; yet God in
Nature has united the two indissolubly, and forever. Therefore,
Only those who love in spirit should ever unite in person ;
for only such can either enjoy each other,^^ or transmit the
requisite mentality to offspring. Discordants experience little
even animal relief, with much disgust ; which infuriates.^ Dis-
cord mars all intercourse, in wedlock and out, by rendering it
insipid, vulgar, and loathsome. Pure-minded woman, its final
umpire, even when passionate, utterly abhors it, except when
conjoined with Love, often preferring death to such a living
purgatory. No legal marriage can justify such an outrage of
this paramount sexual law.
Never love without cohabiting. "Where either is proper, so
is also the other. Those who may not cohabit, should not love.
Man may not put asunder by law those whom God hath united in
Love. When God's " higher law " conflicts with man's lower,
the higher should annul and overrule the lower. His laws alone
are right, and create right. Human law cannot make that right
which His natural law interdicts ; nor that wrong which Divine
law sanctions ; for all human laws derive their obligability from
their being rescripts of the Divine. Natural law enacts that
physical and mental Love go hand in hand together.
The injuries and agonies of Love interrupted or disappointed
are caused solely by violating this law ; and can be arrested only
thus:»^» —
Stop loving, or else cohabit and procreate together.
793. — Cohabiting with One while Loving Another is Double
Adultery. '
This its commonest kind passes wholly unnoticed. Since Love
and person go together,^^^ loving one yet cohabiting with another
is double-headed adultery, in its worst form. A most loving
woman, described as in a dissatisfied aifectioDal state, illustrates
it thus: —
" I AM MARRIED TO THE BEST-lookiDg and appearing, the most honor-
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 639
able, honest, respected, sensible, and successful man I ever knew, who
literally lavishes affection and money on me. How could I be dissatisfied ?
Yet I am, because I love another with passionate devotion ; but broke up
my engagement with him to please my parents. When my husband pro-
posed, I saw so many lovable qualities, without one fault, that I accepted,
though I did not love him ; pre-supposing that his galaxy of masculine
excellences would soon draw out my Love for him ; yet I experience not
only no tenderness, but only positive aversion towards him ; and fear he
will discover it, and turn against me."
She and millions like her constantly perpetrate double adultery
thus: — Loving her lover is cohabiting with him in spirit^ with
desire to do so in person ;^®^ yet she breaks her troth with her
lover by cohabiting with her husband ; which is adultery with
her husband as against her lover; whilst still loving her lover,
which is desire for intercourse with him in heart, is adultery
with her lover as against her husband. Love's economics com-
mand her to bestow both person and soul wherever she bestows
either;^ and punishes terribly thbse who do not. Her sin is
great, and consists in obeying her terrestrial parents, instead of
her "Father in Heaven." As she could obey but one, she should
have selected the best Paymaster, by heeding His " still, small
voice" within her. Any and all males and females who marry
one while loving another, or marry one they do not love, perpe-
trate both spiritual adultery with their lover against their legal
companion, and personal adultery with their legal partner against
their lover. Self-interested reader, you cannot afford to perpe-
trate this awful sin, and incur tliis terrible penalty. Those who
suffer the fearful consequences of interrupted Love, note the
truths embodied in this dialogue.
" Why should so very a trifle cause results thus truly fearful ? Such
punishment is vastly greater than the sin punished."
" Adultery is the acme of sexual wickedness,'" and breaking a true
lover's heart is as bad. This dissatisfied adulteress perpetrates both ; as does
every man and woman who loves one, yet marries another. This inference
is appalling, yet inevitable, though constantly perpetrated by millions;
and this creates conjugal antagonisms between all such."
" Must all we who perpetrate this awful crime sufl^er these terrible pen-
alties till we die; beeides cursing our children, unless we deny ourselves
and race offspring? What can we do to escape this double crime and di-
lemma?"
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" Break up your old love, and any and all loves you cannot con-
summate."' That doctrine is more important than at first appears. As
soon as you crucify your former Love, you stop committing spirit adultery
with your lover ; and as soon as you establish Love for your legal partner,
you cease to perpetrate personal prostitution ; but not till then."
" I UTTERLY LOATHE commercc with my legal partner. It is most re-
volting."
" Because your heart is with another. God made spirit and person
to go together, while you divorce them. Nothing is quite as utterly vulgar,
debasing, disgusting, loathsome, nauseating, demoralizing, and also diseas-
ing, as bodily intercourse with mental aversion.**' A crime against Nature
and your paramour equally revolting, it is hardly possible to perpetrate.
Yet myriads do."
" You fairly craze me. My marriage vow obliges me to perpetrate
just this identical sin ; yet I can no more help myself than fly, without vir-
tually divorcing myself, disgracing my family, losing my social position,
making myself a helpless pauper, and much more besides. Participancy
is simply physically impossible."
" Your case is neither hopeless, nor even desperate. Love will probably
bring passion, just as want of it creates aversion."'" At all events, neither
these principles nor inferences can any more be controverted than that the
sun gives light. Your whole trouble, mental and physical, probably re-
sults from the interruption of that early love affair. Curse whoever broke
it up."
" Why should I suffer all this untold agony because a faithless lover
broke faith with me? — suffer for another's sins?"
" Because you should have provided for continuing your Love
before you began it; and have broken it up, when it became blighted.
Dismissing lovers and being dismissed, is no trifle." '**
794. — Preparation, Habits, Drink, Time, Surroundings, &c.
Life has four chief predeterminers; "hereditary de-
scent ;""^'*'*^^ those parental states existing at its creation ;^^
maternal carriage ; 8*7to867 ^^^ juvenile education.*® *°^ Now, since
by the second God mercifully allows all parents materially to
improve and impair all their future children, surely Parental
Love, kindness, duty, pride, every human motive, whatever is
precious in good children over poor,^ combine to inspire them to
create the very best possible. Parents, whether you create your
future darlings this way or that, in these states or those, must
affect every moment of their existence for weal or woe, through-
out this life and that eternal future upon which you launch them,
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more than all else. The sacreduess of life itself,'* with all its
momentous results, barely measures the infinite importance of
its best possible initiation. In full view of consequences thus
[K>tential for happiness and misery, 0 pause and tremblingly
inquire: —
What parental states are best ? 1. Preparation is every-
thing. Since an immortal being is to be created and stamped,
let the preparation be commensurate. As we do not even eat
without a double preparation, of ourselves by hunger, and of our
food by seasoning; so parents should prepare themselves to work
out, at this period, the future talents, virtues, and happiness of
their children. As our preparation for visitors is proportionate
to our estimation of them ; shall such ^(/e-visitors be unprovided
for? Indeed, since preparation is as much a part of every work
of life as the work itself, and often its most important part, how
much more is it of this ?
2. Design is infinitely important in this, as in everything else.
Human life should not be originated by accident. Man's reason-
ing and knowing Faculties should not be thrust into the back-
ground, where, as here, they can render him more practical service
than anywhere else. Let beasts, who lack reason, be governed
wholl}" by instinct; but let man use his sense in this as in all else;
lay out his work; and employ appropriate ways and means for its
accomplishment. All undesigned and unwelcome children must
needs be poorly created.
3. Pre-established Love is your greatest preparation of all."^
Your becoming co-workers together in initiating life requires you
to interweave and blend your whole beings into an amalgam
composed of both.*'* All previous oneness increases the ardor and
enjoyments of your creative embrace; and this the endowments
of your offspring; while all antagonisms diminish all. See in
Part V. liow to promote this Love.
4. Mutual caresses are the best pre]»aration of all.'^'* They
obtain throughout the entire animal kingdom; of which the
** billings and cooings " of doves furnish one among many illustm-
tiona. Woman sets more store by fondlings from the man she
loves than by all else terrestrial; as does a man by those of a
loved woman. They as naturally precede and induce intercourse
as clouds rain. To prepare its way, and promote its pleasures
and endowments, is their 8(>ecial mission. This is one of the
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Strongest of human instincts; and mutually inspires that VQvy
"desire," which alone both prepares their organisms for this
function, and creates and also endows life. This powerful in-
Rtinct, especially in woman, must needs have a commensurate
purpose : this is it.
5. Animal vigor is next. Nature makes it promote both
flspects of Love;^ thereby instinctively securing the most issue
while the parents are most robust; yet denies it to the young,
feeble, and decrepid by weakness killing passion.^^ All animals
evince far the most physical vigor during their creating sea-
Bons.®'^ *-" ^'^ So tone up all your physical powers to their highest
pitch. If your habits are sedentary, take plenty of muscle-devel-
oping exercise; for you thereby most effectually inspire yourselves,
and endow your offspring. This is especially important in civil-
ized women ; because want of muscle is the great modern deficit;
and weak passion is the other. Nothing gives equal pleasure to
both ; and snap and character to offspring.
6. Pleasant surroundings are also important, such as pleasing
pictures, flowers, balmy breezes, natural scenery, and whatever
awakens pleasurable emotions, including communion with Nature,
The fact that lovers love to make Love while thus communing,^^
teaches them valuable practical lessons about this its consumma-
tion. And whatever natural requirements govern the initiation
of life, also govern every sexual interview.^**
7. That time of day should be selected in which both parties
are most vigorous. Late at night, after the exhaustions of the
day, and on first awakening, before the physical and mental func-
tions have been fairly roused, are less favorable than a sufl^cient
time after rising for their complete marshalling early in the day.
8. The annual season is less important. Though fowls, reptiles,
insects, &c., must procreate mostly in the spring, when midwin-
ter's frosts will not freeze nor midsummer's sun roast their eggs,
the chick can find plenty of its required food, and most animals
''bring forth" early enough for their young to become well-
grown before fall, and accordingly are amorous mainly at pre-
viously corresponding periods; yet man, sufl[iciently protected
from cold, and supplied with food at all seasons, is not thus re-
stricted; nor is his passion confined by any such narrow limits;
tor if so, he should cohabit onli/ then. The female lunar periods
appoint this season,^^ yet they transpire as regularly and as mucli
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at all times as during any one season. Still, to be born in spring
or fall is probably more favorable for children than in midsum-
mer or winter; because they should nurse through two summers;
and had better be weaned early in the fall, so as to get well
established before the next "dog days " carry them oft' by bowel
difficulties while teething.
Choose your own most vigorous annual season. Karly spring
is probably the poorest; because the system is relaxed by the
exhaustions of winter, added to the warmth of spring. May is a
good time, and early in June even better, when forming leaves
and growing vegetation general!}^ have taken much carbon out
of the air, only to leave the more oxygen in it. But from
October till the middle of November is obviously the very best
time of all ; after summer's heats and suns have stimulated the
circulation, and removed its congestions, and the bracing breezes
of fall have toned uj) the system ; and before the rigoi*s of winter
consume its energies in keeping it warm. Yet the farther South
the later, and North the earlier; till in the torrid zones take mid-
winter, and the frigid, midsummer.
9. Complete abandonment of the entire mind and body, is
instinctive and indispensable; because the whole beings of both
are to be transmitted to oft'spring;*** and must therefore be
exercised in both parents.^** This shows wh}^ when strong passion
is once fully roused, it ignores or shuts out whatever disturbs it;
becomes oblivious to consequences till its mission is completed,
caring for nothing but its own present enjoyment; and teaches
all, before ever joining in this sacred embrace, to remove and
provide against all interruptions; dismiss whatever interferes;
and abandon themselves wholly to each other, and their union:
nor ever attempt it except when they can.
This principle shows why all chance interviews are worth-
less;"* and also why those "engaged" should postpone it till
this absolute condition of complete isolation and abandon can be
fulfilled."" This is especially important to the female.
10. Weed out all bad habits. All vitiated parental states in-
jure the progenal constitution.^'** All inebriations do both. The
following physiological principle shows why.
All THE GLANDS of the system both sympathize perfectly with
all its other parts, and eject its ]ioisons. Salivation tmnspires
solely by the system compelling the salivary glands to help eject
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that deadly poison, mercury. . Malaria causes biliousness by over-
taxing the liver in helping excrete this deadly miasma ; which
calomel redoubles, only to break it down completely. The co-
habitation of a man infected by sexual virus with a healthy
woman, relieves him by forcing his testal glands to extract it
from his system in general, and themselves in particular.
History relates that the Crusaders died by thousands from the
poisonous bite of a venomous serpent ; till they learned from the
inhabitants that cohabiting soon after being bitten ejected so
much of this poison that the system could surmount the balance.
Alcohol is a poison which it makes the testal organs help eject,
to their and the injury of all the offspring of drunken fathers,^**
and the wombs of their pitiable mothers.
11. Tobacco infuses a poison — let science say how much and
how rank — which the system compels both the salivary and these
testal glands to help eject. This poison both vitiates the semen, and
injures its products; besides leaving this deadly poison at the os
vtni, causing its hardened and scirrhous state. Those who will chew
and smoke this narcotic should not thus injure her sexual center
wlio bestows this luxury. She might justly require them to choose
between no tobacco, or no cohabitation ; rotten breath included.
12. Cultivate any particular faculties desired. If either
parent has any defect, physical or mental, or would impress any
special gift, or moral or affectional excellence on this child or
that, cultivate it beforehand in yourselves and each other ; and
also restrain all evil passions. This point is immeasurably im-
portant, but enforces itself. Let the contrasted facts of the judge
and the merchant, and indeed the entire range of facts in ^^' be
their own sermonizer. No words can do ihis subject justice.
Behold in it how to impress hilarity, talents, piety, affection,
taste, anything and everything desired. ' All parents should
previously consult as to what they would stamp, and then pro-
voke in each other the qualities they would impart.
795. — Intercourse Stimulates every Physical Function.
If any part could lie dormant during intercourse, it must be
omitted in offspring. Omitting any one would spoil all. There-
fore, intercourse summons all the organs and pai*ts of the system
to its love-feast, compels their attendance, and then lashes up their
action to the very highest possible pitch. Reference is had, not
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^o a tame, passive, listless embrace, which is but its mockery ; nor
to the non-participant female, which is a natural abomination,'"
but to its full, hearty function by both. See hoio this is effected
J jj BM, M7. 805, 614. 646. 682, 785, 839.
Respiration is redoubled by cohabitation. Every single ex-
perience of every single participant, personal passion included,
accelerates the breathing ; which a complete intercourse in those
well sexed renders labored, almost to oppression ; provoking the
deepest, fastest, fullest pantings for breath possible; and the
greater the more intense the sexual exaltation. Increased breath-
ing always attends and indicates rising passion.
The CIRCULATION is commensurately quickened. Increased local
circulation in these organs alone does or canprepare them to ful-
fil it, and is the only and necessary means of that erection in both
as indispensable to this function as air to life. It accelerates and
sends the blood coursing, rushing, and foaming throughout the
entire system, and swells the veins almost to bursting. Even
Love does all this,®^* much more this its ultimate function.
Perspiration participates equally. The skin becomes not
moist merely, but, in complete participancy, drenched. Acceler-
ated circulation compels this; which the need of transmitting a
good cutaneous organism to offspring demands.
The STOMACH keeps even pace with all three, as is evinced in
its subsequent ravenous appetite and quickened digestion. Dys-
pepsia has no panacea equal to its right, or cause than its wrong,
use.
Bowel aotion, in the very nature of this function, is still more
redoubled by each magnetizing the other's. Observation, and
the fact that self-abuse produces the most obstinate costiveness
and dyspepsi^, bear the same testimony. Please observe how
directly calculated it is to provoke their action.
Animal warmth is amazingly enhanced by all forms of sexual
reciprocity. Who has not been warmed all over by sitting close
to one in sexual rapport?** Then how much more animal
warmth must intercourse generate? See why in *'^
Every muscle is necesHarily taxed to its utmost. In neither
man nor animal can this function be fulfilled without powerful
muscular exertion ; and the more complete it is the more power-
ful and sustained this muscular taxation. Let male animals show
practically Low powerful. It renders
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Nervous action is still more exalted and intense. The mind
constitutes the man/^' and the brain and nerves are its special
organs,^' and therefore sensitive beyond any other part of the
system ; of which its ecstatic pleasures furnish both proof and illus-
tration. Otherwise how could it bestow on its right participants
the most ecstatic pleasures of their lives ; and curse its wrong use
with sufterings the most intense? Note the fact and its reason,
that its complete fruition calls into action every physical organ
and function, and then lashes all up to their highest pitch this
side of frenzy.
The electric currents are especially regulated or deranged by
it. Electricity is undoubtedly the instrumentality and measure
of all life, action, and enjoyment; and originates that galvanic
action which establishes it. The male is positive and female
negative ; and like two oppositely charged galvanic batteries com-
ing in contact, their sexual conjunction restores an equilibrium,
by each imparting and receiving his and her magnetism. Some
are ten, even fifty times more electric than others, and corres-
pondingly perfect or imperfect in this function; and proportion-
ally inspire their partner, and perfect their offspring : — a gift
Well worth possessing, and sharing.
796. — A Love Intercourse Exalts every Mental Faculty.
All the mental powers are Love's vassals, as seen in Part IL
While reading it did you not keep perpetually saying, "That's
60." " I \cfdt that." That problem will bear study. All realize
that it is true, yet none how true. Estimating your mentality at
eight before, did not your Love augment it not one merely, but
many, hundred per cent.; and the more as you loved more. None
dream how much. Two in sexual rapport by sitting, walking,
talking, especially taking hands, feel light, happy, jovial, clear-
headed, toned up throughout, many fold. Many can notice or
remember how lively, strong, buoyant, glowing, and exhilarated
they felt the Monday after courting Sunday night; despite
going without sleep; because this interchange of their sexual
magnetisms gave new life to both. Then how much more a com-
plete love embrace? Calling your mentality one when alone or
in the society of your own sex, going into that of the other
doubles it ; as seen in your talking, laughing, singing, thinking,
remembering twice as much. You find one just to your liking,
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 647
who quadruples your politeness, taste, kindness, desire to please,
friendship, talking talents, intellect, every one of your Faculties.
A jiertect Love ensues, which makes you ten times kinder than
at lirst ; so that one who would not give a shilling then, now
poure money into his sweetheart's lap as if it were worthless
except to hlcss her; and exercises the other Faculties equally.
This Love ripens into pei'fect marriage, and this into a complete
sexual interview, which redouhlcs this generosity still many fold.
Its exalting power over each Faculty separately, and all together,
surpasses all description. It redouhles the action of Parental
Love, in desiring a darling child to love; Inhahitiveness in con-
secrating that thenceforth hallowed place ; Friendship in cement-
ing their affection as can nothing else; Continuity in sustaining
this action till it is completed ; Force in surmounting its diffi-
culties, and manifesting energy and power; Secretion in ex-
cluding all others; Caution in taking the utmost care; Amhi-
tion in praising each other and delight in heing praised ; Wor-
ship and Spirituality by investing it with a sacred and holy feel-
ing, as their most hallowed sacrament ;^^ Mirth in its sparkling
pleasantries and laughter; Taste in refining, purifying, and ele-
vating both; all the perceptives in appreciating each other's
personal charms of form, color, &c. ; Memory in stamping it into
their recollections deeper and more indelibly than any other life
event; and thus of Language, Reason, Intuition, Urbanity; in
fact, every single mental Faculty. Surely no instance of divine
goodness and philosophy equals this. Ye who have not enjoyed
it with one loved can appreciate no description of it; ye who
have, need none. Only the personal experience of very few cau
give any conception of its mind-exalting power.
797. — Intsrcourse out of Wedlock: Between whom is it Right?
A JUDICIAL decision of this mooted problem, towering far
above popular prejudices, is demanded by its present j>ublic
status in a work on "Creative Science." What says the Apjxil-
late Court of nutuml laws as to who may, or must not, cohabit
together?
"Only those who do and may always love each other, become
pjirents together, and rear their mutual children in honor." This
decision rests on tho following principles ; ^^
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1. " Love is the chit of everything sexual, and of intercourse in
particular.^** Therefore only those have any right to cohabit who really
thoroughly love each other in spirit ; else they would have only animal
cjhildren."''"
2. " Offspring constitute Nature's only ultimate end of all cohabitation.
Solely to produce them are each sex, and all parts of their sexual natures,
created and adapted. They were not devised and executed merely or
mainly to yield its participants pleasure. Its enjoyments are Nature's
means, incentive, and reward for its action, not its end ; and merely inci-
dental, while offspring alone are primal. Therefore its possessors may not
indulge in it merely for pastime, or as a luxury. God did not institute it
for any such purpose. He permits its fullest enjoyment only to those who
fulfil its divine, life-iinpardng mission ; but it is too holy to be sacrilegiously
profaned to riotous luxury.'** What are all venereal revels and evils'"
but such prostitution to other than its * natural use ' ? Enjoy it all you
like in and by carrying out its primal ends; but you profane it to lustful
purposes at your peril. By requiring that children be reared by their own
parents,"^^ Nature commands that producers also educate their own pro-
ductions."
" Why not adopt the Fourier plan, that * the community rear the
children of its members ' ? Since some who are admirably capacitated to
train young have no power to produce any, while others who are adapted
to parent splendid children have no educational ' tact,' why not let thos«
produce who can produce the best, and those train who train the best?
What matters it to the child who educates, so that it is only well reared?
If others can train it better than its own parents, it is obviously the gainer.
It cares nought who begot, but only who loves it."
" Nature neither reasons nor ordains thus. The entire animal kingdom
is proof that producers must rear. Do cows, fowls, or any other animals ever
forsake their young till its identity is lost ? Does not the ripening of fruits,
seeds, grains, <fec., correspond precisely with this rearing, by the producing
tree or stalk ripening off its own products?"
" All infants need a mother's care and nursing.**^ That strongest
of all the human sentiments, *a mother's love,' was not created to * wavSte
its sweetness on the desert air,' and fastens legitimately only on her own
cliildren. Though a strongly maternal woman who has no own babe to
love often loves and takes excellent care of adopted children, yet even she
would love own children still better. Turn this argument whichever way
you may, its utterances are both clear and absolute, that both fathers and
mothers should together rear their mutual young. This principle clearly
unites intercourse and rearing inseparably together."
" Children must be created and reared in honor, not disgrace
Is it not wicked to brand ' illegitimate ' into the forehead of a sensitive and
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 649
proud girl, or an aspiring, talented boy, to be slurred, taunted, and stigma-
tized through life?"
" The evil here lies in society, not in the act reprobated. If pub-
lic opinion would sanction instead of condemning it, what harm theiif
That is ; what wrong inheres in it? "
" If the law of gravity were reversed, we should have to begin to
build our houses at the top ! These laws are not reversed, nor likely to be.
Public opinion is a ' fixed fact,' and as such will make itself respected.*"
When it is so reversed on this point as to allow women to seek maternity
out of wedlock without disgrace, we will consider this argument ; but the
hills will disappear first. Eliza Farnham replied, when asked by a
young lady : —
" What shall I do for a child to love, and love me? I am des-
perately fond of babies ; but really I cannot run all the risk of wedlock in
these degenerate days of unhappy marriages to obtain one of my own."
" * Marry any man, no matter whom, you can coax up; secure maternity
with any other man you love, or choose to select ; and then get a divorce ;
but not till after you have one, two, or more, as you please. You secure
own legitimate children to love, keep your " character," bless the world,
obey the laws, and wrong only a doughhead ; and elevate him.' "
" What an answer! About as bad as a * woman's rights' exclaimer
^n a Chicago convention : — 'Whose business but mine is it if I choose to
bave one man, or a dozen men, as fathers to my own children ? ' "
"Society will make you and them feel whose business it is."
" A WELL off, moral, respectable, extra good pair, denied children,
though most intensely desirous of them, he especially, found a new-born
infant on their door-step one morning, a most beautiful girl, and a real
God-send to both, to help use and inherit their means and standing, and an
inexpressible joy to itself, and its adopting parents. Wherein was that
intercourse wrong which created it? Its education is assured, the adopting
parents are blessed beyond measure by being furnished something to love,
society is blessed, a future superb wife and family provided for some one,
00 disgrace anywhere, and all only a blessing from beginning to end."
"Here are two married pairs — one husband impotent, yet requests
his wife to bear by the other ; she desires to, the other wife says amen,
and she can then have children to love, and rear, as can her own dear
husband. It blesses two beyond expression, and neither discommodes the
third, nor injures the fourth. What harm? Their children are educated,
' society ' has new members, the race is benefited, * respectability * is pre-
served, and pray what natural law is broken?"
"It mkjiit endanr/ef the affections existing between the parties. Oan
it give a child to love, and be loved, without alienating either, so as to
secure only happiness, and not divulge the secret by resembling its father?
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are determining questions. To secure the honorable rearing of all its pro-
ducts is undoubtedly Nature's great reason for restricting intercourse
within marriage."
"We are childless, because of my sexual debility, small uess, and
non-attraction to my wife, who loves me, and intensely desires issue; whil6
I want a child to love, and inherit our comfortable income."
"She has a natural right to a divorce, and maternity by another."
"She will not incur the odium consequent to both; I have done
nothing for law to grant one on ; could not then be with, or love her, or be
loved by her or her child ; yet offer, even request, her to select some talented
and good man ; whom I will invite to our servantless home, tell our
wish, and leave them together. Am I right in making this request? Would
she do wrong by putting it in practice? What says natural law? The
public will know nothing, say nothing, about it." — A Childless Htisband.
" You and she are alone concerned, and the sole arbiters. Tiiink first."
"That lank, rickety, crusty, used-up minister, has as good a wife
as there is, but no children. She has told me of her husband's laxity and
want of virility ; and asked me to give her a child. We are neighbors, pop
in back and forth often, and have long known and valued each other.
What answer shall I give her ? " — A Villager.
" Yes, else I '11 never recognize you again." — Lyman Cobb, the ScJiool-book
Author.
" My wife refuses absolutely to become a mother, and enjoys and
often invites intercourse, but always interrupts it just before conception
could take place ; thus leaving me without children to love now or in my
old age, or to inherit my earnings ; thus literally blasting all my life's
hopes and motives. What shall I, can I, do?" — A Chicago Husband.
"'Make that galled jade wince,' by first threatening, then, if she
persists, getting a divorce. If it disgraces her, let it. She outrages both
Nature's reproductive laws, and your individual rights; and is to you no
■more than a heathen ; because she deliberately violates both the letter and
spirit of both natural and legal wedlock : and select next time one who
desires to receive, bring forth, and help you bring up offspring."
"A childless wife splendidly sexed, who almost insanely craved chil-
dren, becoming satisfied, after full investigation, that the fault lay in her
husband's sexual and general sluggishness, inertia, and want of virility,
after putting her body into its best condition by electric and other baths,
broke up housekeeping and boarded, pleading cheapness ; solicited and
obtained impregnation from a powerful and good man she had long known
favorably ; bore a son, a daughter, and another son ; returned to house-
keeping; is inexpressibly happy daily, hourly, in loving and caring for
her three brilliant and good pet darlings ; has made her dull but hood-
winked husband also happy; for he loves children better than wife;"^'
WHAT PARENTAL STATES ENDOW OFFSPRING BEST. 651
aed only three are any the wiser. Did she fulfil or violate natural law?
Or break one, yet obey another? Or if both, which most? " — Enquirer.
" Mis impotence absolved her from marital fealty to him ; and her
course blessed herself, children, and society immeasurably, and husband
all his stulticity would allow, while law is oblivious to it. Did her course
CAUse more happiness than misery? is the impinging question. Did her
inalienable birthright to motherhood justify itself? Surely her husband
had less right to complain of her than she of him.*'
" My husband absolutely prevents my conceiving by premature with-
drawals. I married him, not because I loved hitriy but mainlj to have own
children to love, fearing I might not have another seasonable offer. With-
out them my life will prove a total failure, an unmitigated curse; for we
heartily loathe each other. My warm heart, outraged by this course,'"
has strayed to another ; who is all I could wish as the father of my chil-
dren. Boarding with me, my husband often absent, our mutual passion
for each other intense, what natural law should I break iu having children
by him? My husband could not swear they are not his, could not even
disclose any such suspicion without disgracing also himself. My marriage
is my cloak of respectability, and gives mv children to love by one I love,
and who loves me. I can rear them well in respectability ; and they, too,
are blessed by all the value of life to them. Am I not bound, in duty to
myself and posterity, to offset my husband's infidelity to me by infidelity
to him?"
" His conduct makes your relations legal merely, and on a par
with all other simply legal obligations. When he covenanted to marry
you, he necessarily covenanted to cohabit with you, and consummate
Nature's sexual relations by giving you offspring ; the only essence of your
covenant,"' which he violates point blank. You ought to get a legal
divorce ; for you have an inalienable right to bear children, which ho has
DO right to refuse you."
" My husband requests me to secure outside of wedlock that maternity
Nature denies me within, that he may have a child to love, rear, wait on
him, and enjoy our earnings. Is not this wholly his and my business?
If I can bl(!ss him, myself, a child, and i)osterity. just by intercoui-se with
another, since he urges me to it, wliat law shall I violate? Shall I not
/uijil Nature's first great law of offspring? "
"Look this possible result fairly in the face — that being thus mag-
netized and impregnated, menlaily and physically, by another, might
seriously endanger your Own and husband's affections for each other. You
cannot love two at once."**
•^'I AND my husband LIVE UNHAPPILY together, and have mutually
agrcc<l to live in nominal wedlock only, for the sake of respectability ; yet
each allowing the other full liberty to seek our amatory enjoy meuta,
offspring included, where we like. Then what?"
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" Both are in an awful predicament, and liable to hopelessly disgrace
aud demoralize yourselves and yours forever. Find your answer in this
principle, that all who do stray suffer a broken up and most miseVable
affectional life ever after. This palpable and universal fact should waru
all who love themselves never to attempt it. Rest assured death lies hid-
den in that pot. Mrs. Guernsey, a sample of all such, enjoyed a brief
season of unhallowed lust, only to lose her social position, affluence, hus-
band, creature comforts, paramour, and all dear on earth, for a paltry
mess of poor pottage."
" Offspring furnish the all-determining law of all cohabitation.
It is proper whenever and with whomsoever they may be procreated ; but
with all others it violates natural law, and punishes."
" Is illegitimacy wrong per se ? What but law and * society * forbid
it ? It is customary in France and other nations, and sanctioned by kings,
nobles, dignitaries, pietarians, in fact all classes. Many more are born out
of wedlock than in. It gave both Bonapartes the most of their vast
trmies, and the states their workers and subjects. Is it wrong in theint
wrong in itself f Does not custom make it right by its sanction, wrong by
its condemnation ? The ancienfs even outlawed all single women who did
not bear before thirty, because they wanted citizens aud soldiers. Till the
world is full, is it not a blessing tc all communities, and to those on whom
it confers life ? What bastard but would a great deal raj;her be one, than
not to he at all ? And its stigma is not his. How is he to blame for his
parents not being married? This stigma is societarian, to prevent others.
But is it not preventing that greatest good, progeny ? Would not mankind
be better with more of them, rather than none ? Otherwise why would not
natural law, on your own showing, prevent them ? ^^' Her rendering them
confessedly smarter than legitimates '^ makes it her sanction, aye, even
premium^ on bastardy. "Who but would rather be born smart out of than
dull in wedlock ? and snap their fingers at its stigraa to boot? Have not
all civilized times and climes honored Ruth for seeking and getting this
very impregnation out of wedlock unobtainable in ; and did not Christ
endorse and commend it by 'coming' in her line of issue? Besides,
" Motherhood is an inherent female birthright, h^longmg in with every
womb, conferred * from on High,' which society has no business to prevent;
which it is solemnly bound to sanction, not interdict. Has it a right to
forbid and stigmatize seeing, breathing, or any other gift o^ Nature f Pos-
sessing a womb gives the inalienable right to use it. Who shall dare deny
any and all women this God-conferred boon, right, luxury, duty ; by mak-
ing all motherless or despised who have not been able to secure marriage ?
Here is a powerful normal yearning, intuition, instinct; denying which to
please human whims breaks God's * higher law,' and punishes with a list-
less, dreary old age. Come, answer all this, you natural laws stickler.
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Human nature, ever true to itself, must yet rise above its stigma, even make
it most honorable, since it obviously is inherently right.
"Society must practically answer those arguments some day.
Natural law will yet right all wrongs and surmount all prejudices. But
towering above and overruling all is this paramount law and fact that
Nature, not man, has bound marriage and offspring indissolubly together,
and made each for the other. Those who want children so desperately
should marry for them. Yet whether, after an own child-loving woman
has done all she can to obtain a paternal consort, yet failed, society should
allow her to bear ' on her own hook,' she and society must decide. But
this underlying natural law governs : —
" Marriage was made to promote, not prevent reproduction ; is the
body servant of its lord and master, offspring. Bastards are, yet should
not be, smartest : "* shows why. Where both work together, all right :
when they conflict,
" Obey God or man, as each prefers ; and take consequences. Good
* offspring ' is Nature's great motto." *
New York State law, in Brown's will case, has just affirmed
that a legal illegitimate is yet a legitimate heir. He separated
from his barren wife twenty-two years ago, by mutual agree-
ment, giving her $10,000 in cash, besides a large property, and
lived openly with a woman he loved, and who loved him ; had a
sou by her; made his will in their favor, disinheriting his legal
wife ; who disputed his will, after agreeing to their separation.
The judge admitted his will on the ground that Brown's Love
for and paternity with her was an essential marriage, and
entitled them to his property. Other kindred rulings have pre-
ceded it.
• Miss Polly Bakkr, tried in Conn, for illegitimacy in 1787, replied in court, " Yon
have fined me twice, and publicly wliipped me twice, and now arraign me again, for
bearing and alone maintaining, by hard work, five subjects of our king, in a new country.
which needs more people. Is thi.i a crime? I think it praiseworthy. I have debauched
no woman's husband. I prefer children in marriage; and while a virgin, accepted th«
only offer I ever had, and lost my own honor by trusting to that of a magistrate of this
county, who got me with child, and deserted me; yet you disgrace, and fine, and scourge
wKj but Konor him with oflloo. You say mine is a * religioun offence ; * then leave it to
religion to punish. You sav I must ' suffer eternal burnings for it ; ' is not that enough ?
How can Go'l be angry with me for having children, when, to the little I did towards it,
He added His divine skill in forming their bodies, and crowning them with rational and
immortal souls ? Punish these mean bachelors, too stingy to marrv, who lesve unproduce<l,
which is equal to murdering, thousands of children for thousanus of giiu'ratidns, and de-
prive good women of husbands and children. Make them marrv by fining them everv
year double what you fine me for fulfilling the great command of* Niitnre'R (mxj to ' mul-
tiply/ — a duty from the steady performanoe of which neither your disgrace, nor public
stripee have deterred me; and for which I think, instead of being wht))|MMi, I v%tght to have
a statue erected to mj meaiorT." She was not punished : was married the next day to
a Judge; and had jQUm^ Uwml children, after her five bastards, and lived a blamelcaa
life.— ilmerican Mutnun.
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Section III.
PHYSICAL love: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC.
798. — Passion indispensable: Who should cultivate it.
Animal Love transmits body, Platonic, mind so that passional
vigor is as necessary in parents as is a robust body in offspring ;
for the latter originates in the former; and is as absolutely in-
dispensable at the creative altar as spiritual Love. Our previous
censures of passion were guardedly levelled against its predom-
inance, not its existence. The heartier animal Love is the better,
provided it is sanctified by still more mental. Intellect and sen-
timent are good when they do not overbalance the body. If
children were to be created angels, their parents might ignore or
omit it ; but since Nature wants no terrestrial angels, but only
the materials for making celestial ones, she demands of parents
that 'physical passion which creates this body. Without it no
form of life ever is or can be commenced. From it all derive
whatever they are and can ever become, here and hereafter. Life
should not be created in passive weakness, but in all that fulness
of passional vigor and energy of which both parents are capable.
Power is Nature's paramount prerequisite throughout all her
functions, into all of which she infuses the utmost vigor possible.
Parental feebleness here is lier especial abomination, because it
renders progeny tame, slack, inert, slipshod, "shiftless," and
weakly, or elsC prevents them altogether; Avhile sexual parental
power gives progenal vim, glow, and snap in their whole beings,
throughout this life and the next. Every single animal func-
tion must then and there be exercised in power or be feeble in
offspring, and weaken all others.
A California illegitimate has a magnificent body ; the mus-
cles and strength of a giantess ; the laborious endurance of a
Hercules ; a female figure like and as luscious as Una's ; bust
and limbs unsurpassed in our age ; a glow, briskness, zest, and
bursting ecstacy unequalled ; dancing impassionedly in every set
" all niglit till broad daylight ;" and tossing her two-hundred-pound
body around as if a feather ; because her remarkably robust and
powerfully impassioned parents w^ere drawn together by passion.
If they had superadded Platonic Love, she would have been
PHYSICAL LOVE: ITS IMPORTAXCE, PROMOTION, ETC. G55
as surpassingly endowed mentally also as she now is pbysi-
cally.
GOD*S CREATION OF PASSION IS IIlS STANDING EDICT IMPERIOUSLY
AND PERPETUALLY COMMANDING ITS PARENTAL EXERCISE.
Strong Passion with stronger Love is Nature's law. The more,
of either in both the better, provided spiritual Love predominates.
All its crucilixions by inertia, an in-door sentimental life, self-
abuse, bodily weakness, &c., both impair progeny and punish
parents terribly. We shall soon see how.
Its cultivation in all in whom it is deficient thus becomes
correspondingly important, and an imperious duty. In these
days of dilapidated and disordered gender this is a question of
tbe first practical importance to untold millions. How infinitely
important to how many, words can but poorly depict. All those
require to promote it whose future children would be the better
if eitber or both their parents possessed more of it, — and few
but belong to this class, — as do all those who would enhance the
specific charms, powers, and enjoyments created by gender. ^^^^^
And who but belongs to this class ? All those who are run down
sexually, or in any degree impotent, or wanting in perfect virility
or sexual power, also require to cultivate it ; as do all females
who are dormant, or more or less paralyzed, or prolapsed, or inert,
sexually. In all such no duty equals that of its culture. Besides,
Its tambness in either leaves it tame in the other also, whilst
its heartiness in either inspirits it in the other; so that itd defi-
ciency in either causes a double deficiency in oitspring. In short,
its deficiency is as great a defect as is that of conscience ; and its
culture in such is as much a God-commanded duty. Many, in and
by subduing it, commit a sin almost unpardonable. More need
to cultivate than restrain it. Then wlio but requires to know
how to develop by culture an element of this prime importance?
799. — Participancy indispensable, and Due from and to Both.
The co-operation of male with female alone can create life.
Neither sex has any creative capacity except in conjunction witli
the other. Tbia proves itself. Reciprocal passion is precisely
what all males, all females, seek in each other. Without one
single exception, throughout the entire animal and floral king-
doms, the two are ordained and required to experience and ex-
press tbis sexual desire together^ never separately. All vegetable
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blossoms throw off pollen, or the male element, only when tlie
female element is also at its fullest action. In the very nature
of things, action in the sexual organs of each parent is both a
necessary part of this creative process, and a universal concomi-
tant of that passion by means of which alone ITature creates^''
If infinite Wisdom could have done without it in either He would
have omitted it in that one ; but His creating it in both proves
that its exercise is indispensable in both. And his compelling
both to exercise it together at the same time and place, demon-
strates its necessity in both. Some females say they conceive
unconscious of pleasure ; yet obviously no life can be commenced
without some action in the female organs ; and all normal action
gives pleasure, though it may be too feeble to be noticed. Rapes
rarely impregnate. Every man, woman, animal, furnishes experi-
mental proof that amatory action in either sex promotes it in the
other. ^^ All male passion expressed to any woman awakens
hers in response, or else aversion. Unless female passion is
necessary, why can not the male create alone? Physical Love
may and should be strongest in him and mental Love in her.
The children of the amorous captain^ were among the very
finest, because his powerful animal aspect endowed them with
splendid bodies, whilst her Platonic superadded exalted moral
endowments. ^^
Mutual participancy is Nature's law,**^ and redoubles the
endowment of offspring. It constitutes the identical chit of their
marital engagement, underlying and necessarily belonging with
it.^^ Its very soul and essence were not that he should look
after her creature comforts, nor she supervise his table and
wardrobe ; but his covenant with her was to parent offspring by
her, and hers with him was completely to fulfil the female part
of this creative function with him alone, to the best of her ability,
for the endowment of their young. This mutual covenant gives
each a valid claim on the person and passion, of the other, a
" divine right " to conjoint sexual participancy. Neither can find
any excuse for denying it to the other. And he or she who
does, both breaks solemnly plighted faith with the other, and
violates the natural laws besides, as well as a divine command
written into their sexual natures ; and must therefore sufier the
penalty.
The PARTICIPANCY OF THE OTHER ALONE GIVES PLEASURE tO either.
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See a physical reason in ^' ^ and mental in Nature's demand that
offspring take after hoth parents.*" Every man's experience
proves that intercourse with a passive non-participating woman
Ui insipid and ahsolutely worthless; hecause a child thus hegotten
would be equally so. His pleasure consists in her uniting with
and helping him cohabit and create. The harlot gains and wields
her often resistless power over her victims by entering right
heartily in with them to this function ; *" and woman takes the
less pleasure with any, every man the less heartily he participates
with her.
Their mental participancy is equally necessary. Each is bound
to unite with the other in spirit as well as person ; for the
former without the latter is like chaff without wheat. Her indif-
ference, and especially repulsion, is a blasting sirocco and a death-
blow to his enjoyments ; whilst her welcome co-operation both
completes his fruition, and proportionally improves their issue.
800. — Passion Absolutely Necessary in Woman.
Infinite Wisdom inserts it in every woman's head, as well a8
man's ;*^ and thus commands her to exercise it whenever she
cohabits. In thus creating it in her He understood His work,
and best means of accomplishing it. If He could have dispensed
with it in her He would not have imposed it on her ; for He
creates no superfluities, nothing not absolutely essential.
Its existence in her is a fact just as patent as the sun. In all
females, from lowest to highest, this *' desire " both exists and is
directed to the male. Not one single omission can be found in
the vegetable, animal, or human kingdoms. It is everywhere
evinced by the female putting forth efforts quite as strenuous to
meet him as he her. All attest its existence in both deeds and
words ; and those best sexed the most. Physical debilities and ail-
ments impair its more personal form in some ; yet even they show
ita mental " desire " to be appreciated and loved by males. The
more sexaaiity a given woman possesses, the more she loves to
be prized, admired, and loved by men as such. Whenever it is
not physical it is Platonic. It may love mainly to cling to,
depend and dote upon, serve, worship, be fondled and petted,
complimented, caressed, or adored ; or delight to flirt, and attnicf
i^entlemen only to hold them at bay ; or create that pleasant,
wmning, charming, captivating, faticinating, bewitching, con-
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ffonial, lovable sweetness which con^t^ti^^^e*? tV»o «Vii^,f glory
of female character ; or give a " stylish " grace and manner,
or that queenly, magical spell woman often wields over man ;
hut its manifestation in some form is a?. coTistituent a part
of the female creation as that womb itself whose action it is
(Teated to secure. We but waste words in attempting to prove
its existence, its universality, its necessity, and it» "foreordi-
nation." It must needs be very strong in her to overcome all
'" prudential considerations;" and is the strongest when she is
ready for impregnation. And the stronger the more a woman
she is. This its existence in every woman.
Imperiously commands all women to exercise it.
She who receives offspring in passivity, fulfils only a moietv
of her maternal duties, however good her care of them ever after.
Her paramount female office and duty consist in heartily receiving
the life germ. No amount of other excellences can atone for this
grave sin of omission.''^^ How much greater is the relative com-
mercial value of a strong, athletic child over a weakly one?
Fifty per cent. ? By far too low. How much is that child worth ?
How much more valuable would it have been to you, itself, and
the race if it had been vigorously created ?
Millions of mothers should feel most guilty, every time they
look in every child's face, that their creative passivity has
rendered it so feeble, by having impaired this sacred amatory
element. All in whom it is deficient owe its nurture to both
future children and husband. Reciprocity is as much due from
every wife to every husband as the payment of any other just
debt. In treating you right he earns your affection and passion,
which you have no more right to withhold than your husband to
withhold "moneys due." In and by treating you in a truly
masculine manner he earns your true feminine recompense, pay-
ing which will insure more. Scan his character and conduct to
find something to appreciate, and pamper this appetite as you
would a deficient relish for food. Nor allow anything to turn
it ; but overlook, at least tolerate, anything nauseating.
The STORE man sets by it in loving Yenuses so much more
than Dianas attests its importance ; since he loves in woman
only what improves offspring. His passivity prevents her enjoy-
ment ; then why should not hers his ? That it does is proved
by his intense desire to awaken hers. Tameness in either
PHYSICAL I/>V12: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC. 659
renders it therefore insipid to the other. Neither can enjoy with-
out the response of the other. Why should so many husbands
eacrifice so much money and reputation to indulge with har-
lots, when their refined and really excellent wives never refuse
them, unless because these wives lack this coveted amatory reci-
procity, which they find in " women of pleasure "? They would
infinitely prefer intercourse with a wife, if she were hearty and
impassioned ; but as she is tame and therefore insipid, they seek
this so much prized reciprocity outside of wedlock. If they
found it at home they would remain at home. Harlots gain and
maintain their unhallowed spell over their victims mainly by
active participanci/^ felt or feigned, certainly not by passivity.
How much patronage would one merely receptive gain or retain ?
She delights her victim-patrons and extorts their money by pro-
voking their Amativeness in manifesting her own. This is the
Bole secret of her magic spell. Let wives learn how to gain and
maintain a like spell; and let all learn just what fascinates the
other, and how to intoxicate with pleasure.
801. — She begins the Creative Work by Impassioning Man.
Nature appoints times for all things, and of course for initiat-
ing life ; and as corn, cotton, and other seeds grow best when
planted on time, so of life-germs.
That females appoint this time is proved by their being much
more amorous right after their monthly courses have cleared out
their systems of superfluous matter, and quickened the action of
their whole female organism. Throughout the entire animal
kingdom females always lead off in this creative function, by
being the first to feel, express, and provoke passion. Could any
proof of any truth be any stronger than this that Nature thus
appoints females to begin this creative work ? Its reasons are: —
1. An immense amount of passion is prerequisite in both, so as
to impart the utmost power possible to progeny."^ Nature wants
"no sickly son of faint compliance." If it were always thufl
adequately intense, no amount of constitution could withstand
its vital "wear and tear." Therefore she wisely ordains that it
rise rapidly, fulfil its mission, and subside; and even then its
ravages are often fearful.** This its temix)rary nature demands
something to rouse it just when its specific action is then and
there requir&c*.
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2. Passion in either sex, as in all the other Faculties, always
and necessariij awakens it in the other, in aversion if not response.
Hence that very monthly evacuation which fits her to receive the
life-germ, creates that intense passion which inspires her to co-
fcabit ; just as we crave food when we need it. This passion in her
inspires it in man ; in whom it is ordained to remain quiescent
till she thus awakens it.
This tap-root sexual law teaches and explains several very im-
portant truths. It shows, 1, that and why man is much more
seducible by woman than she by him. There are few Josephs :
this principle shows why. When an impassioned woman sets her
cap for any given man, she always " brings him down," unless
some very serious obstacle exists on his side. Women often fail
in trying to ''smash" men, because they lack this passional base.
Many an old maid tries hard, yet fails signally, because her sexual
fountain is dried up ; or because he lacks that fulcrum on which
this her lever acts; or for want of opportunities, such as isolation
with him; or fear of seeming too forward; &c., &c. ; yet a well
sexed woman, with a fair chance, generally captivates her man.
3. Women originate semen and life by inspiring man to create
both. Semen is manufactured by the action of the male testal
organs ; but their action is incited by his love Faculty, which is
inspired by woman ;^^ so that she in reality both initiates life, and
appoints its time.
4. The male organs should remain quiet till she provokes their
action ; they being adapted to this female ordinance. Thia
quashes the claim set up by many men that since semen is being
constantly created, it must be often discharged by coition with
woman, or self-abuse, or involuntary losses; therefore, that those
husbands whose wives cannot, will not, or do not, receive this
excretion have a natural right to cohabit elsewhere.
5. Sexual inflammation is the chief cause of male incontinence,
but for which he would be like the loaded gun, its charge giving
no inconvenience, N'ature consuming his sexual flow in Love,
gallantry, &c., instead of coition. This inference is scientific and
incontrovertible. But the most important truth, taught by this
principle, is that
6. A genuine man never obtrudes, but instinctively waits
till invited, or at least assured that he is more than welcome.
[Jniyercftl normal manhood is called upon to attest this truth
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Forcing intercourse, in wedlock equally with out, is a virtual
rape, in proportion to her aversion.
" This must be specious, though plausible, because so manifestly unjust to
us. Created with strong sexual desires,"* and paying largely for this very
pleasure in supporting a wife luxuriously, we are by law and right entitled
to this dearly bought indulgence. In place of woman's rights movements,
get up man's sexual rights conventions ; for, however wronged and cheated
in business by men, yet we suffer no wrongs as grievous as those perpetrated
by the sexual inability and indisposition of wives to fulfil their part of this
«olemn marriage compact ; and yet here you are encouraging these married
jades in denying us that very person and those very 'rights' they plighted
to us in marriage. By thus encouraging them in this sin of omission yoa
make yourself a * partaker ' in this worse than robbery. And those of us
who are thus deeply wronged, have an inalienable right — at least wifl
lake It — of enjoying abroad those natural rights deuied us at home." —
The Majority of Husbands.
1. " Inability or dislike causes all such denials. If her disability \a
hereditary, blame her parents, not her, and yourself for selecting her; bat
pity her, for her loss exceeds your trials ; yet if, as is most likely, your own
excesses early in marriage, before she had time to develop,'" induced
those female complaints which killed her power to respond, or if caused
by your failure to nurture her affections,** or if your excesses have disgusted
her with you, she is the one to complain, and deserves a divorce. If you
had a right thus to cut off your own nose, by your animal fury, you had
DO right to spoil her sexual luxury for life. You long ago sowed the wind,
and are now reaping its whirlwind. Nature punishes only deserters.
2. " You can derive no pleasure in uniting with any other woman you
do not really love^^ with whom you cannot appear before others, •'• and
by whom you cannot have and rear children.
3. "Obliging her to sub^JT against her inclinations, prevents your
enjoyment, and disgusts her of you ; *•• infuriates you against her ; *** diseases
her,"' thus cutting off your own and hav future sexual pleasures ; and outr
mges Nature's sexual ordinances.
4. " Rapes, whether in wedlock or out, are a crime next to murder, and
should subject perpetrators to imprisonment; and are worst of all when
perj>etrated on a good, willing, but impotent wife."
802.— Fbmalb Passivity Hurts him, and Ulcerates her.
Rwht 1NTKRC0UR8B ONLY EQUALIZES, instead of consuming, tliiii
male and female magnetism,*** and thereby strengthons atid
benefits both, without exhausting or injuring either. Its toning-
up effects on men are so well pronounced and recognized that tai-
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ented men in various ages have used it as a preparatory aid to power-
ful mental efforts — Fox, Pitt, Sheridan, and others, before making
a great parliamentary speech. Its quickening effects on the male
brain are indeed marvellous.
It exhilarates the female more yet. She receives along with
che life-germ a powerful magnetic charge, most thrilling to her
every function of niind and body. All female experience is sum-
moned to attest this fact practically. Yet than wrong intercourse,
or with one magnetically repellent, nothing but poison has hardly
a worse etiect.^**^ How often does the former build a woman right
up, the latter break her right down.
It must be most beneficial, or else injurious. !N'ature requires
nothing of us doing which curses, but only blesses. Shall fulfill-
ing her laws eyer punish?^ Shall it not reward always?
Female non-participancy injures the male, because all is ex-
haustion without any return magnetism ;^^* whereas, in a recipro-
cated intercourse, both get and give. This involves a dead loss to
him, as in self-abuse, which it resembles, l^o wonder it infuriates.
But
The female suffers its chief evil. Besides being nauseating in
the extreme, like being compelled to eat what one loathes, it is
the chief cause of prolapsus, leucorrhoea, and those other ailments
now so common among married ladies,^*^" whereas it should ren-
der ever^^ female far the more, not less, healthy sexually ; and
would, if both parties lived right sexual lives. But this disparity
usually proves as disastrous to the sexual health of most females
as to their conjugal affections.^^^ Nine-tenths at least of all
female ills originate in this very cause. But for it, millions of
husbands would to-day have had their former wives, and multi-
tudes of children their own mothers, now sleeping in the cold,
dreary grave. Its breach of Nature's sexual laws is indeed fear-
ful, and must bring down corresponding punishment on both.
There is no computing the loss of female sexuality and health,
and the amount of misery it causes. It usually begins its ravages
early in the honey-moon,®^^ only to redouble them all through
married life.
It LACERATES AND ULCERATES her womb and vagina thus: —
Passion always and necessarily distends the male penis and
female vagina.^^ His passion enlarges his some tenfold, besides
rendering it rigid ; while her passivity leaves her vagina small
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and lax ; which anatomical disparity stretches her delicate vaginal
mucous membrane, rendered very sensitive in order to give both
pleasure, and thus endow their young. Further,
Her lax vagina folds up before his organ, which subjects par-
ticular parts of these folds to double pressure, and almost neces-
sitates their laceration ; especially in connection with his fierce-
ness and roughness, combined with her extreme vaginal delicacy.
Mark this absolute proof:
Ulcerated women often feel cutting pain, as if a raw sore
were rubbed open, or dull knife cutting them, during intercourse
without passion, but never when they are in passion.
The frequent repetition of these ruptures before previous
ones heal, creates a permanent ulcer or gangrene, the corruption
of which is spread throughout the system by the blood ; causing
tubercles and ulcers in other parts, such as lungs, bowels, throat,
Ac; all bred by this parent vaginal ulcer or [>olypus; and this
caused by female passivity during cohabitation ; which should
never transpire until and unless she responds.^^ Sexual anatomy
alone, if nothing else, demonstrates its injuriousness ; which
woman's terrible repugnance to it confirms.
803. — Woman Man's Passional Governess : Should Learn How.
Adam's fall was natural, when fascinatingly solicited by a
winning woman in love with him. He would have been no man
if he had refused her. Many others would have done just so
too, in like circumstances. And the more easily the better sexed
either. Precisely this art gave Delilah her magic power over
Samson, who was a powerful male. Note why.
Woman's appointing all the times for cohabiting,** makes it
her place, even duty, to provoke hiin to piission, not he her ; which
renders her his cnticeress, procuress, throughout ; and most of all
in wedlock ; commands her to choose her sexual mate, not him
his; anc^ to enamor him^ not he her; and then entice him to inter-
course whenever she is ready ; not he her when he is. Hence
Men yield to peAale enticements much more readily than
women to men's,^ and hence alone female charms and blan-
dishments. All her fashionable, musical, and all other fascina-
tions grow out of this law, coquetry included.
All women should study and cultivate this God-conferred
art of enamoring and enchanting men to get married, and then to
664 COHABITATION : ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
entice her hufibsLnd both to and at the creative altar; and to ah'
good as well as from all evil besides.^^ She is born with this
instinct ; then let her study its knack. This is precisely and
only what gives her control over males, in wedlock and out.
Your husband might be inert, or rather worn down, or feeble,
physically or sexually, or partially impotent, and hence require to
l)e inspired, incited, elicited, tempted, coaxed up, in order to give
you children at all by him. Hence, Nature gives you this art
of inspiring male passion when, and only when, you require it;
cultivating which might give you children by him, denied you
without ; and all your children will be the better begotten with
than without your enticements. In some women this gift
amounts to a real genius: Immodest? — then is being impreg-
nated, even being a genuine woman, immodest. Your highest
duty, instead. Amazing that only harlots learn it, when wives
and mothers need to as mucli the most as a husband's Love and
splendid children exceed mere lustful intercourse. Think.
" How DO YOU and your class thus gain and retain such absolute con-
trol over men as to alienate them from good, pure, devoted, refined wives,
and the mothers of their children ; pick their pockets the hundredth time,
after that many real robberies and impositions, which nobody else could
perpetrate more than once ; even bankrupt them, and beggar their families ;
disgrace and ruin them in society ; actually charm and infatuate them ;
and lead them on spell-bound to conscious ruin ? " — Enquirer.
" I FEEL OR EXPRESS PASSION. When Several come together, I tell each
separately that I serve him with inexpressible zest and luxury, others only
•professionally ; that he sets my passion all on fire, which I act out ; and
Mich like incentives to the passion of each." — A Premium Harlot.
What a lesson to wives! What a practical reproof to in-
different, duty-tame consorts! This class can teach other like
lessons by thousands.
This very art helps her kill, or assuage, or keep at bay and
sanctify male passion, and head it off in both attempted seduc-
tions and rapes, conjugal included; besides enabling any woman
who has this gift to do what she pleases with any man, all men ;
f^r this is her very man-controlling helm, fulcrum, bearing, bit
i»nd bridle.
What a gift ! Women, all learn and cultivate it.
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804. — Woman's Rightful Control uver her own Person.
Personal control is an inalienable BiRTH-right of man and
beast ; except where man robs it ; and doubly applicable to female
intercourse.*^' Nature gives every female beast full control over
her sexual organs by rendering them inaccessible without lier
yes,*^ making her turn, run, jump, kick, bite, scratch, yell, fight
desperately, and perfectly wild with fury when forced to cohabit
against her will. Does Nature deny to woman this personal con-
trol she accords to all female beasts, birds, reptiles, and insects?
No. She does, will, nmst hate any, all, men who force cohabita-
tion on her while averse to it. Woman's determining the creative
period puts this whole matter of cohabitation under her jurisdic-
tion ; which requires that all human males, in common with all
others, be subject to her order, not she to theirs ; for if each had
their periods they might not meet once in a lifetime. Her
monthly courses require him to wait on her call, not she on his.
She may not always withhold, lest she break her marriage troth.
Her husband has his "rights" to ofispring by her; a claim inhe-
rent in their marriage vow.^' Her total refusal is a practical
divorce, and should entitle him to a legal one.^^ She must choose
some time, but may select that most favorable; to which he is
bound by natural law to accede.^" In this matter she is his
queen, while he is her vassal. This is the " male and female"
law throughout all the kingdoms of animal, feathered, and even
insect life. In no single instance, except among human, does the
male ever obtrude himself upon the unwilling female. If he
sometimes makes advances first, it is by way of promoting desire
in her; but they are at once withdrawn when not cordially
accepted. All seeming exceptions are but postponements to re-
double desire, and therefore pleasure and progenal endowment.
805. — Female Non-Participancy Infuriates the Male.
No hostilities equal those of a man and woman who have
loved, but now hate. " Earth hath no fiend like Love to hatred
turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." Yet nothing
turns Love into hatred as utterly vituperative and malignant a^
his passion met by her coldness or aversion. Amnon's terrible
hatred of Tamar had this for its only cause. He pines under a
strong passion for his beautiful half-sister ; requests her to cook
666 <X)HABITATION : ITS LAVPB, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
dainties for him ; sends out all others ; and tries to persuade her
to gratify his tender passion, which she declines. He now forces
her. So far from satisfying this only perfectly infuriates him.
lie pushes her out, and tells his servants to " take her away ; "
and when she pleadingly remonstrates ; " This is worse than robs
bing me of my virginity ;'' he shuts the door in her face, bolts it
against her, and orders servants to drag her off by main force.
He is thrown into this frenzy of rage by exactly what? Solely
by her refusal to reciprocate his passion — that is, by cohabita-
tion while he is passionate, but she passionless ; or by this very
disparity we are condemning. One would expect Tamar to be
the one to manifest all this rage, because the only one wronged,
and that Amnon would be most guilt-stricken and penitent. Not
so. It is the jyassionate one who is enraged with the passionless ;
and infuriated solely because he is in passion, while she is not.
And the greater this difference, the greater his rage ; whereas
her equal passion would have gratified and delighted him beyond
measure.
Nero's incestuous passion for his mother, doubtless conceived
by both being excessively amorous, when denied by her, turns
his intense Love for her into equally fierce hatred, and begets iu
him as great a lust for her life as he just before had for her
person. The first lady in the land, and his own mother, must
die by her sensual son's own hands. Denying Amativeness
thereby turned it, which roused Destruction.
Potiphar's wife's wrath against Joseph illustrates this law,
with the sexes reversed. Naturally gallant, he shrewdly sees
that his chances impinge on treating the aristocratic lady of the
house with the utmost consideration. This enkindles her pas-
sion ; which she frankly expresses, and earnestly solicits recip-
rocal indulgence. He modestly declines, and gives a weighty
reason ; which only re-enamored her with the young, smart,
handsome, gallant Hebrew. Again and again she invites him to
her almost queenly couch of Love, but he still declines ; until
one day, finding herself alone with him, she lays hold of and
pulls him towards it with such amatory desperation that, in
struggling to release himself, he tears oft' his many-colored coat.
Up to this moment her passion for him was most intense ; but
his non-reciprocity turned it instantly into equally intense
hatred. His participancy would have rendered her ecstatic [n
PHYSICAL LOVE: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC. 667
her devotion to him ; whereas his opposite state threw her into
a perfect frenzy of fury and wrath.
The New York lawyer mentioned in '^ had an exalted venen*-
tion for a New York judge, with whom he studied law, and of
whom he was a standing guest. The judge died, leaving a young
widow ; who fell desperately in love with this young and amorou«
lawyer. Often spending his nights at the deceased judge's house,
this widow always assigned him her room, in which hung the
judge's picture. Early one morning she awakened him at her
l)ureau drawer in her night dress, in just dishabille enough to
expose her personal charms, obviously expecting to be invited to
his couch; but the picture of the sainted judge overawed his
passion, and he feigned not to notice her. She knew he was to
spend that afternoon in "Jones's Woods," where are booths in
which ladies and gentlemen are wont to meet. While sipping
his cocktail in his booth, whom should he see but this very
widow, meandering around most gayly and fascinatingly, and
wending her way back and forth, towards and from his booth,
obviously hoping he would invite her in; which he would gladly
have done, but that she was the ex-wife of his venerated legal
preceptor. Still unwilling to be foiled, determined to *' make or
break," and rendered desperate by both passion and previous
failures, she frolicsomely meandered up so near that he could not
help either inviting or repelling her, and shot at him one of her
most bewitching smiles; for she was both most fascinating and
amorous. Though strongly tempted to invite her in, yet venera-
tion for her deceased husband still overruled his passion. He
pleasantly shook his head, and with his hand waved her away.
Her Love turned instantly into the fiercest malignity. Her
sister, who knew her passion and its denial, warned him to
beware for his life; because she had armed herself with a dagger,
and followed him, seeking to plunge it to his heart; so that,
always on the lookout, whenever he saw her, on Broadway, at
the theatre, or concert, he fled for his life. She thus hunted him
with murderous intent for years with the fierceness of an enraged
lioness. Why? Solely because expressed passion on her part
was not responded to on his. If he had reciprocated it, slie
would have loved him with proportionate fondness, cherished
feeling exactly the reverse, and been his willing slave.
A LONG COURTED PORTLAND maid, becoming intensely impaa-
t
668 cohabitation: its laws, effects, and conditions.
Bioned, proffered her beau ^^^ sexual intercourse bj fervently hug-
ging, kissing, and presenting her person. He declined. She
changed her manner instantly from attraction to repulsion ; dis-
missed him summarily ; and never recognizes him, though they
often meet at the same church, and elsewhere.
No MAN EVER thus denied any impassioned woman without
thereby enraging her against him.
The world is full, out of wedlock, but oftener in it, of just
such facts. The childless pair®^* illustrate this principle quite
as much as that. Few honey-moons but furnish most painful
illustrations of the animosities engendered by this disparity. It
is an eternal sexual law, true of all males and females, in wedlock
and out of it, everywhere and forever, that the denying party
thrusts a thorn into the very heart of the one denied. Millions
of brides and wives have thus unconsciously enraged a well-
meaning but impassioned husband. They w^onder what they can
possibly have either done or left undone, to render him so utterly
dissatisfied and hateful : —
" I COOK, WORK, EVEN WASH for him, like a very slave, and do all in
my power to please him, only to find him more outrageous daily. What
more, what else, can I do ? What is the matter ? "
"Opposite sexual constitutions. His excessive animality renders
the rise and fall of his passion rapid; while your Platonism renders yours
slower and feebler. Your tardiness disappoints, and thereby alienates him
at first, and his premature exhaustion you afterwards. Both ignorantly
offend by unwittingly violating this law of mutuality, and this renders all
else one round of mutual antagonism ; even though both are good and con-
scientious church communicants."
In the violation of this law most family quarrels unquestion-
ably originate. Just by regulating this one difference, all other
antagonisms would vanish, like dew before the morning sun; juBt
afi this difference makes mountains of discord out of molehills.*'*
All sexual dissatisfactions whatever proportionally infuri-
ate; such as attempting intercourse but failing to get and give
satisfaction from the laxity of either; intervening clothes; want
of a good opportunity ; prematurity ; awakening passion by hug-
ging and kissing without gratifying it by intercourse ; and every
other kind and degree of ungratified passional excitement. Don't
ever provoke what you cannot satisfy.
Are we really expounding a sexual law, and if so, what does
PHYSICAL LOVE: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC. 669
a law mean? Can you trifle with that of gravity without ita
avenging itself? Is it here to-day, and there to-morrow? Does
it govern some, but not all ? Can any violate it with impunity ?
Xever. Then hear and heed this sexual edict, or else expect to
suffer its terrible consequences.
806. — Plain Talk to Amorous Husbands. What shall they do?
" I and my wife are oppositely CONSTITUTED, passionallj ; and what is
* died in the uW,'cannot be changed. I well know I am, always have been,
and expect to be, almost insanely amorous ; yet I was bom so, cannot help
myself, and am not to blame for inherited traits. But she is sexually tame
and inert. From marriage she has loathed that commerce I enjoy inex-
pressibly. All my efforts to develop her passion have been abortive. It
is not in her. Yet she deserves more pity than censure. Our difference is
extreme, constitutional, and irreconcilable. Then
" Must each always thus torture the other ? Must I thus suffer this
greatest denial, and she bear this greatest cross, till death relieves us? L
there any help for us? Had we not better get divorced than both thw
inflict and suffer this lingering death ? Besides,
" It renders me as cross as a grizzly bear, who otherwise would be as
amiable and happy as the lark ; hourly redoubles my other depravities ; and
makes me a chronic churl, to everybody, about everything ; whereas, if
thus gratified, I should be patient and cheerful. You say plausibly,
" This difference ought to exist, so that my powerful animal nature
may endow our offspring physically, while she imparts the moral and
sentimental ; and that if both were amorous, we should provoke each
other's passion to the ruin of our nervous systems, which would irritate us
still more. Are, then, both similars and opposites thus doomed ? This is
Nature vs. Nature, and Fowler against Fowler. Please explain. Espe-
cially show us some deliverance from this seemingly inevitable mutual
crucifixion."
" Your animalization of Love is your great error. Not that you have
too much, but that it is too gross, * and of the earth, earthly.* Begotten by
a Htrongly animalized father, you continually redouble your own sensuali-
zation by tobacco, whiskey, a full habit, Ac., and are perpetually inflict-
ing on an unoffending wife, who cannot help herself, all those terrible
ftvils, losses, and sufferings which accompany female complaints. For a
man thus to ruin his own wife, and the mother of his children at that, \m
:■)<>] ish, is perfectly barbarous."
•' Many sensual husbands kill off one wife after another by this
wicked excess — wicked because it outrages the natural laws of both pre*
dominant Love and mutuality.^ Born of strongly animalixed fathers,
670 COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
perpetually inflaming Love by its culture and wrong physical habits, their
false excitement taking this sensuous form mainly, they are constantly per-
petrating wife-murder, by slow yet agonizing inches. One wife thus
offered up a * living sacrifice ' on this sensual altar, they take a younger
one, and yet another still ; meanwhile going to church, and perhaps
administering the sacrament ! For such funerals, a new set of sermons i^
needed. The animal kingdom furnishes no instance of a like outrage of
the male sex on the female."
Begin your own conversion from the worst of husbands into
the best, by first regulating your physiological habits, and by the
cultivation of the higher phase of Love. Have we not proved
that animal love supplants Platonic, while Platonic immolates
animal ? ^^ You have allowed its animal aspect to ingulf its pure
form. Set about finding and loving whatever mental and senti-
mental excellences your wife possesses, and cultivating gallantry
towards her. At all events, either subdue this passion somehow,
or emigrate to Constantinople or Utah, or else learn how to culti-
vate it in your wife.
Wives often suffer from this deficit in their husbands — some-
times constitutional, oftener its paralysis from its previous ex-
cess.^^ Future remarks on potency apply here. An amorous
wife ought to know or else learn how to provoke passion in a hus-
band, if he has any in him. Yet her nymphomania may throw
the blame on her ; and in that case she is told what to do in ^^' ®^
807. — Causes and Cures of Feeble Passion in Women.
Cultivated wives have far too little, practically; as is
attested by its being much stronger in young and single than
those married ; whereas it should be strongest in wives ; and would
be, if its laws were obeyed. Its deficiency is indeed most lament-
able : how great, let most disappointed husbands, and the haggard,
awful " looks " of most wives attest. And the early death of so
many feeble children, as well as vast amount of female ailments,
due mostly to this disparity, add their testimony. This loss
neither wives nor husbands can at all afford. Animal vigor is
a paramount maternal requisite, yet to how low an ebb has it
fallen! How few women but are minus here. And " conse-
quently how weakly, delicate, sickly, and mortal their children ?
" I find so much passion in husbands, and little in their wives, that I
must recommend Polygamy." — A Boston Doctor,
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" You COMMEND FEMALE PASSION in language about as strong as could
well be used, yet none too highly ; for no words can do full justice to it«
importance. As a life luxury, in a thousand forms, no other at all com-
pares with it. As a gift, a real talent,"^ it surpasses all others ; because it
immeasurably enhances all. As a female accomplishment, the finest toilet
and largest diamonds are nowhere in comparison with those charms it
creates.**^ I desire by improving it to gain and maintain absolute control
over some man, that I may render myself, him, and our dear children just
as perfect and happy as possible, and also to improve my taleuto "^ and
morals*" by improving this their chit.^'^ I envy none as I do those who
possess this diamond Faculty amply developed, and desire nothing as
much as its improvement. Tell ladies how to cultivate it, and you deserve
all the honors and grateful remembrances mortals can bestow on you.
How, then, can this sacred entity be promoted ? " — Manxfy Married and
Single,
" I HOPE TO BECOME A MOTHER, and Want to endow my offspring with
just all the life- power it is possible for me to confer upon them. . As I now
am, I could bestow but little; because I possess too little of either that
sexual entity which endows, or of life force. If I should even bear now,
wliich is not probable, my offspring would be nearly all father. My own
traits and specialties could be but poorly represented;*" whereas I would
live the most possible in my descendants. My husband has, and my chil-
dren would have, just occasion to censure me throughout this world and
the next for this sexual passivity. It seriously endangers even my losing
his affections altogether. I would gladly forego all fine clothing and
jewelry, and dress in calico, besides working hard, in order to become in
this respect what God in Nature requires of every woman ; and be an in-
finite gainer then. Humbled before God and my posterity that I have so
little of this parental capacity and feminine virtue, I implore that scientific
light and knowledge which shall enable me to substitute passion for pas-
sivity, and be just as complete a wife, mother, and woman as possible. By
what meaTM, then, can I attain these, the most important ends of human
existence? " — Wives by the Hundred Thousand.
" How CAN I MAKE MY DARLING BOY just the completest man, my lovely
girl the handsomest, most charming, most perfect woman possible?" —
Many Mothers.
" My wife 18 A CHARMING because well-sexed woman ; but I would
render her still more so by improving her sexuality. Let other husbands
dote on their wives' toilet; I would dote on something more valuable.
My greatest life-luxury, personal perfection, and happiness will be every
way redoubled by redoubling her passion for me, and thereby my Love for
her. To this end I must render her the more lovable. What can I do
or omit in order to make her a model woman, wife, and mother?" — Many
ffimhnvdif.
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"I HAVE A STRONG, hearty, sexual passion, as all men should have; but
am married to a wife who is utterly destitute of it, though as kind and
good a woman as ever lived, and all else desirable in a wife. If I could
but promote that sentiment in her I should be ' made.' As it is, I am un^
done. Can you prescribe any relief? She says: —
" ' I KNOW HOW VERY much you prize this indulgence, but it is not in
my power to bestow it ; yet I cheerfully submit to all your requests.* But
no true man can virtually force any woman, much less a loved wife. 1
love her too well even to solicit what I know is so repugnant to her.
Besides, it is utterly insipid and worthless unless she voluntarily partici-
pates, and enjoys with me."* She says : —
" * My sexual INCAPACITY AS VIRTUALLY BREAKS my part of the heart's-
core of our marriage contract as would refusal, which would be a virtual
divorce, and entitle you to a legal one. Well knowing how hurtful ns
well as painful this denial is to one of your robust habit and strong pas-
sions, I absolve you from your matrimonial allegiance to me. Seek grati-
fication wherever you like. I make this offer cheerfully, and as a duty I
owe you ; well knowing that you will not disgrace yourself or family, and
will affiliate only with some good, lovable woman.'
" But I HAVE A CONSCIENCE to obcy and a God to please, as well as an
eternal future before me ; besides belonging to an Orthodox church. Now
do you know of any way by which I can either provoke passion in her,
or obtain the desired gratification, yet preserve my conscience and self-
respect ? " — A United States Naval Captain.
" Your passional excess needs toning down, which her passivity
effects ; while her deficit needs toning up, by your excess ; so that your
disparity is best for both."
" This answer utterly fails to meet my specific question, namely ;
How can I either quiet, or else indulge, my passion, yet keep my con-
science ? "
The next few pages answer completely.** '" '*®
No OTHER questions or problems are of equal practical impor-
tance. "Whom do they not concern throughout all the rootlets of
their beings, forever ? We should tremble and falter in trying
to answer, but that the hands on the dials of truth are perfectly
plain. Every man, woman, and youth will soon crave the true
answer as they do bread. A work on " Creative Science '* which
ignores this subject, belies its name, and is utterly inexcusable.
Female debility causes, and its obviation will obviate, a part
of this passional supineness. Only those possessing physical
vigor can transmit it. Hence !N"ature gives the most and best
PHYSICAL I.OVE: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC. 67V
offspring to the most robust, by oousing health to promote pas^
sion ; yet the fewer and poorer to the feebler, by causing passion
to wane with health. Why should it wear out those too sickly
to bear? Hence it rises and falls with health; and its revival
indicates returning vigor. Hence, also,
Promoting health promotes passion; while promoting passion
sometimes marvellously promotes health. See how in*^- Family
cares and monotony often kill out a wife's passion by rendering
her too debilitated to bear. So
Husband, " taking stock " in your wife's health is your most
paying investment ; while letting it decline pays fearfully the
wrong way. Find the best directions for improving it in " Human
Science," Part II. Yet the great cause of this complained of
female passivity is found in the action of this law that
808. — Woman's Love and Passion always go Together.
She transmits more of the mental than man:*'^ hence her
Love is the more sentimental ; and therefore the direct way tc
her person lies through her aftections. Nature wants only chil-
dren of Love, and secures them by making her seek impregnation
only by one she loves, and repel that of those she dislikes ;
whether in wedlock or out makes no difference. Iler loving a
man fits her to bear by him, and this kindles her passion for
him, which instinctively induces her to invite him to her arms
and pereon,**^ whether married to him or not; yet disliking a hus-
band unfits her to bear by him, which makes her repel his em-
brace. And if a woman any way amorous does repel her hus-
band's embrace, it is because her di&like for him unfits her tc
bear by him. Her general sexual indifference evinces her unfit-
ness to bear at all ; and towards him, by him. His getting her
in Love with him will render her passionate enough towards
him, if not for his inflamed lust, at least for maternity by him.
Nature secures children of Love by
Uniting woman's affections and person indissolubly together.
To whomsoever gains them, she gladly yields it ; but to no others.
She seals it to him alone who calls them out, but denies it to ail
others. Whenever, but only when, she transfers them to another,
does she transfer it along with them ; just as he who buys a hou^e
is proffered its keys. They always precede ; it always follows
Buit. Thus hath (iod made hor, ;in«l proiiouiu'ixl her good, llovs
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674 CX)HABITATION : ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
else could He guarantee her impregnation only by one bIic loves?
or prevent it by those she loathes? or secure children of Love?
Thank Him that whoever gets any true woman's heart can
fiurely have her person, provided a fitting opportunity offers; or
if not, she will do her best to make one. But no other man can
be thus favored till she ceases to love the first, and begins to love
the second ; to whom she again remains true as long as her Love
is kept glowing, .^or can any woman ever be seduced except
through her affections. All seducers apply this as their only
means. They never once address themselves to her passion,
except through her affections. They always effect her ruin by
first getting her Love., by means of praise, presents, gallantry, &c.
Attest all who have strayed from the paths of virtue : Did
you not fall in person because yow first fell in spirit? A lovely,
loved daughter, treated like a princess by doting parents, the pet
of the household, virtuous, idolized by all, having many proffers
of marriage from good men and true, abandons all, and herself
besides, just to indulge carnally with some low fellow. Such
girls are pure and good, not naturally wanton. Why, then, do
they thus abandon themselves to lust for its own sake?
Wives by hundreds, sensible, genteel, refined, devout, very
aristocratic, proud spirited, well born and well bred, quiet,
modest, proper even to prudery, and every way unexceptionable,
all at once, as if seized with some sudden and unaccountable
mania, forsake children they love to distraction; sacrifice that
proud social position they have struggled all their lives to obtain ;
abandon home, comforts, friends, relatives, even loved parents and
husband, all they hold dear in life, aiid elope, solely to indulge
sexually with some libertine. Howie all this? Just 2(;Aa^ thus
infatuates maiden and matron ? This law answers thus : —
Woman is made up of Love. The better sexed she is, the more
she must and does love some man. An artful one, who practi-
cally understands this key of female nature, ingratiates himself
into her unsuspecting affections. By captivating her heart he
creates a literal frenzy of passion, which would have slept on had
not enkindled Love rendered her wanton, and generated lust.
Every woman's infidelity is her ex-lover's fault. If he had
kept up her affections he would thereby likewise have retained
her person. If he suffers them to die, or kills them by unkind,
unmanly conduct, he obliges her to bestow it upon another ; for
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rfie can stifle neither."^"® If, while they are thus reversed, any
other acceptable man proiFers Love, she yields her heart the more
readily the more a woman she is ; and with it her person. And
this is just ; for no man has any moral right to any woman's j^er-
son any longer or further than he both elicits and sustains her
aifections ; because Love, cohabitation, and maternity are repro-
ductive concomitants.^^
This principle shows why and how far, ae is alleged, " Any
and every woman is fickle and faithless in Love;" "lias her
price;" "Wants only opportunities;" "Is seducible in forty-
eight hours," &c. ; by showing that every woman is alwayp
seducible by, yet only through, her affections. As long and for
as she is kept in a love mood by one man, she is seducible by
him, but by no other, till this Love is broken up. Her natuml
constancy is demonstrated in ^^^- This corroborates that, an4
gives its reason. As far as she is naturally virtuous or frail, she
is just what man's own best good requires that she should be.
He could not have preordered her half as near to his exact wants
as he finds her. Every day's work was better than its prede-
cessor's, and woman was made the last on the last day. Let us
accept, perfect through her aft'ections, and love what Infinite
Wisdom has sent us.
809. — Fondling Kindles, Scolding Kills Female Passion.
Man loves to pet, woman to be petted ; he the more the more
amorous he is, she the more the less passion she has. Let the
consciousness of every male and female reader say how much,
if " society " approved as much as it now condemns. Here is (k
strong God-made instinct. Created why ? to subserve what
ends? These three; 1, provoking woman's passion; 2, relieving
man's by interchanging their electricities ; 3, endowing oft'spring.
So much for its rationale. Next its facts.
"Madam, you are on the brink of non-ous pftralypis and ruin."
"Can you tell its cause, and cure?" — A HaUimore Woman.
"Sexual Excitement. Stop, or it will drive you mad."
" Can your science account for this nuonialy ? I married at Fixteon,
and lived a virtuous life till twenty-four, when my husband died poor,
leaving me four little ones to support by washing. Years after, a wealthy
patron paid, ' Move into No. — , already furnished. Here is its key. Tak«
in any work for a blind, but I will support you and yours if you will iptmi
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me the privileges of wedlock.' I loved virtue much, yet my children morei
Solely to support them I moved in, expecting only a loathsome task ; but,
instead, soon found my amorous passion enlisted and redoubled, till I have
DOW no words to adequately express its ecstatic intensity. Why none for
a husband during life's most voluptuous period, yet such a frenzy for the
husband of another woman, whose eyes I could tear out, I hate her so ? "
" Your husband rarely kissed, fondled, or cuddled you, though per-
haps kind and good to you?"
" Never. I should as soon have expected a thunderclap in a clear sky,
as a kiss from him."
" But YOUR paramour kisses and pets you, so that you love him most
fervently ? "
" Yes ; to death. I would literally die for him."
" This excessive passion and its indulgence has also inflamed your
sexual organs. Stop short or go crazy." ^
Husbands of a passive wife, learn here just how to nurture
her passion, namely, by cultivating that Love which begets it.
Those elopers had no passion towards others ; then how came it
80 resistless for their paramours as to sweep away all barriers,
solely that it might literally revel in sensual gratification ? Why
was there so little for their husbands, though so kind, but so much
for worthless paramours, who had done nothing? That it was
in them, is proved by its bursting forth after this volcanic fashion :
then why not for husband as well ?
Dropping those gallant attentions which called out Love,
let it die from sheer starvation. Though passional enough by
nature, this fire only smouldered within her till this libertine
roused it, and directed it on himself, by enkindling her dormant
Love. If her husband had but courted it up, he too would
thereby equally, and for this same reason, have roused and
directed this consequent passion on himself. It was there, and
in waiting at the beck of her Love. Any man who calls that out
finds passion enough for him ; but no other male can elicit any.
Kissing, petting, babying, fondling, cuddling, and praising
women certainly does awaken passion in them. The whole female
sex is summoned to bear witness touching this fact. And the
feebler any woman's passion, the more she loves to be thus cor-
neted ; because such need, and therefore crave, this passion-provok-
ing incentive. And for this reason all men instinctively prepare
the way for and begin intercourse by this means, so as to provoke
female passion. When such a wife comes lovingly and playfully
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to a husband, and begins to i)et and fondle, he sliould by all
means drop anything in hand, and baby her; yet how often lie
pushes her oft* with, " Don't bother me now : I 'm busy/'
" I DEARLY LOVE to kiss and fondle my husband ; but just as soon as I
begin I excite a storm of passion, — the farthest possible from my own
thoughts, — of which I am the pitiable victim. This compels me to sup-
press all affectional expressions ; whereas, indulghig me in this caressing
would arouse that passion for want of which he finds so much fault.'* —
Wives by Millioiis. *
" I KNOW MY WIFE REALLY DOES LOVE ME by ten thousaud infallible
signs, yet she has little or no passion. Her Love is very strong, whilst h*\r
passion is almost undiscoverable."
Then her mental gender is well, but physical poorh' , devel-
oped. Though concomitants, they are by no means co-equals.
Their proportions var^ in dift*erent persons, and even in the same
person at dift'erent times. A woman's physical sexuality may
have been impaired by bearing, by your own animal excesses,*"
by physical debility, &c., so that her Love may have risen, as it
does by age or sexual dilapidation, from its animal plane upon
its Platonic, and you are now but reaping the sexual tares you
sowed early in married life. Let those whom it concerns scan
this cardinal doctrine, and learn and practise that infinitely im-
portant moral it involves. ^
" Being fondled by both my husbands always roused my passion,
and thrilled me with sexual delight, yet intercourse with neither ever gave
me any pleasure. Why ? " — A Ouliivated Lady.
" Because something has paralyzed your vagina. All else about
you sexually is normal and vigorous."
Pattern after your rooster. When he is amorous, instead
of forcing a hen, he hunts around for some dainty bit ; docs not
selfishly cat it himself, but clucks and calls some female, to whom
lie proffers it in his very politest, blandest style; and after thus
catering to her creature comforts, most winningly proffers inter-
course: but if she practically replies, "No, thank you," he Ictn
the matter drop, but never obtrudes ; or if he ever chases her, it
is obviously to make her willing, not to obtrude himself on lier.
810.— WiFK-ScoLDiNo Husbands are Foow and Lunatics. How
to Develop a Wife.
Every scold kills every woman's passion, just as all fondling
develops it:** therefore all you passionate wife-blamers arc foola.
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You know not on which side your own bread is buttered. Leav-
ing your wife out of the question, consider the effects on your-
selves. Her Love and womb are in sympathy. ^'^ Her cohabit-
ing non-pa rticipancy precludes your own enjoyment. ^^ Her Love
and passion go together. ^ Blame, by reversing her Love, kills
.her passion for you, and thereby your own enjoyment in her.
Every reproach cuts right into your own sexual pleasures. You
are bedaubing your own and only sexual gold-mine by scolding,
Instead of working it by praising her. You are thus cutting off
your owm nose just to spite your own face. You belong in the
idiotic asylum for besmearing your own and only cohabiting cake.
And are the bigger and stupider a fool the more you prize its en-
joyment. Just see how every scolding actually works.
' This morning you said some cross, sarcastic thing to your wife
before leaving your chamber, which maddened her. At breakfast
you scolded or cuffed your little child, on w^hich she literally
dotes. This so enraged her that she let your dinner go by default,
— she don't care; and though you forgot all about it the next
minute, yet you pierced her very soul with two barbed, poisoned
arrows, which rankled there all day long; so that to-night, when
you solicit intercourse, you find her a perfect porcupine, and your-
Bclf dissatisfied, even infuriated;^ whereas, if this morning you
kad patted her cheek, praised her child, and told it to be good to
mother all day, and you'd bring it something nice, and kissed
her as you lef t,^"^ with " Now, my dear, don't worry to-day, and
we '11 have a lovers' walk and talk when I return," she would
bave been responsive to-night, and you delighted. Husbands and
wives, put these illustrations, at least this principle, alongside of
your own daily and life-long experiences, and attest how true the
doctrine that all nulling up a wife's Love enkindles, all crossness
deadens, her passion towards you. We have already scolded
scolding wives ^*^ for their folly, and now scold husbands for their
downright stulticity in blaming wives. The fact is.
Many a woman lives and dies undeveloped. She grows up,
marries, bears, declines, and dies, with scarcely the least passion
from first to last ; because, though she loved at first, yet before
her Love ripened up into passion, her husband kills it for him,
while she virtuously abstains from loving or indulging with any
other man ; and dies comparatively undeveloped throughout her
entire womanhood, mentally and physically. Though a mechan-
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leal wife and mother, yet in spirit she is only an old maid. And
there are myriads of such merely machine wives and motiiers,
through no fault of theirs, hut their greatest misfortune; due
wholly to their hushands' failure to elicit their affections. Most
gladly would tliey be developed ; but neither party knows either
what the real trouble is, or how to obviate it. When Nature
cannot get the Love required to work with, she punishes both
parents and their children with a tameness bordering on death.
811. — Frequency: Is one Copulation per Birth N"atural?
Nature restrains other excesses — muscular, alimentary, and
cerebral, and of courae amatory. Would she let a matter thus
important go at random ? Of course not. Then what is her im-
perious edict concerning it?
"One cohabiting time per birth; because all her functions must
be exercised only to efiect their own legitimate results. As Nature requirei
us to acquire and lay up property for its uses, not merely to hoard ; fight
only to effect good objects, never from pugnacity ; do right, do good, talk,
think, <fec., to attain their respective ends, not merely for their own sakes;
fio she requires us to enjoy intercourse for offspring only ; merely sensual
pleasures, never. As eating for gustatory enjoyment only, and when wo
need no food, paralyzes taste soon by disabling the stomach ; so cohabit-
ing merely to enjoy, not to propagiite, soon cuts short this pleasure by
inflaming and exhausting the sexual organs. Cohabit only to propagate.
All animals instinctively obey this natural law ; and what is best for beast,
is therefore best for man ; since both reproduce alike. Nothing can in-
validate this obvious inference."
"This reasoning is sound, yet its conclusion conflicts with all nuptial
habits, and about annihilates the chief luxury of marriage; leaving all ita
dregs. Few would assume its burdens for so paltry a return. Nor could
human nature resist iU perpetual temptations of such proffl*red facilitica,
enforced by sufficient passion in both for the completest reproduction."
"FoLix)WiNG Nature is easy, in this as in all otiier res|)ect8; besidai
yieldinj^ the acme of its bliss; while all sexual excesses inflame, cxliauat,
and benumb.*'*'***' Nature never tempts and then puni.siies for yielding;
while unbridled indulgence in wedlock often kindles passional fires wbiok
oonsume out of it Yet
*' Surplus is a wise natural provision. Ab ten times more blossooM
form than set into fruit or seeds, and many times more set than couUi
mature, besides requiring even them to be ' thinned out ; * — Nature thereby
providing against scarcity, ravages by frost, insects, 6lc., — us loo uitutjf
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limbs grow, and require to be pruned off; so a like surplus of cohabitation
over births modifies this one interview per birth doctrine. At least Nature
requires two or more at each conception." •"
Woman is the final umpire as to its frequency ; as of what-
ever else appertains to it.**^* She cannot be always prepared, and
should be left to determine when she is. Following her lead will
conduct all to connubial bliss ; ignoring it, to discord. Only a
healthy one will decide right ; yet even when a sickly one
decides wrongly, her husband should " accept the situation," or
otherwise he only increases the evil. Yet
Nymphomania sometimes makes her require undue frequency.
But even then indulging her only reaggravates by reinliaming.
" Letting woman decide coNFLicrrs with * your one interview theory,
for she usually prefers many."
" Both are virtually alike ; for her impregnation usually annuls
her passion. Both before preparation and after impregnation it is too
feeble to give the required zest or endow offspring."
" Hymeneal bliss is enhanced, not curtailed, by abstinence, and in its
inverse ratio. Abstinence redoubles many fold both parental pleasure and
progenal endowment. As we enjoy a single meal when really hungry mor«
than scores when not ; so frequency begets that satiety which gluts appetite
and enjoyment. Suppose New Year came once a week, we should take less
pleasure in fifly-two than we now do in one, because frequency would
render them insipid ; whereas now weeks and months are spent in most
delightful preparation and anticipation of this one day ; which thus becomes
an instrument of more pleasure, and that more exalted, than any entire
mouth of the year. The applicability of this illustration to the case in
hand is apparent; and the practical lesson here taught should induce the
married, merely as a means of securing the very pleasures souglit, to par-
take less often, that it may be with a keener relish."
"Self-enjoyment, not denial, is Nature's universal motto. That fre-
quency is best which yields the most pleasure; and vice versa. This gives
the largest liberty compatible with the most luxury. Call not this hy-
meneal stoicism, but epicureanism. As gormands can never experience
exquisite gustatory pleasure ; so the cloyed participants of connubial fre-
quency necessarily deprive themselves of most of the very luxury they
seek ; besides embittering what remains. We hope to be remembered with
gratitude for advocating this doctrine of abstinence by all who put it in
practice; though most who take similar ground have been visited with
unmitigated censure. Are not these arguments sound, and conclusions the
true interpretation of Nature's ordinance touching frequency ?**
681
" Choose, individualx.y, between the blessings of abstinence and the
curses of excess. But whether you serve up this banquet frequently or
rarely, partake thereof only in the highest and holiest possible exercise of
spiritual Love/^ Carnality, frequent and seldom, necessarily corrupts.
Beloved reader, may a vigorous intellect determine thy choice, and moral
purity guide every participation. God forbid your sacrilegious prostitution
of this highest and holiest human function to brutal lust!"
812. — Advice to all Newly-Married Couples.
Marriage almost immolates Love.^ Why and how ? since it
is its only natural sphere;*^ and specifically adapted to develop
it?«"
By sensualizing it. Lust is chiefly what crucifies Love.^
Nature will keep it Platonic, or kill it.^^ Forty years of specific
observation compels this declaration that excessive intercourse is
the great cause of marital alienations.
Young and sensual husbands are chiefly in fault. Wild, fierce
surges of i)assion make many forget what is due from all gentle-
men to all ladies,^"^ husbands to wives,^^ and doubly bridegroom
to bride. She is often really assaulted, actually forced,^* and
of course disappointed, humbled, ashamed, and maddened. What
wonder, when she finds herself made a beast, a victim of fierce
lust? He thereby kills his own Love for her,^^ infuriates him-
self against her,** throws all her feelings into revolt against
him, and about spoils both.*^'* Recovery from a shock thus
horrible is scarcely possible. Carnality destroys itself; and the
most in marriage. Yet,
Both rushing together upon this animal plane so nerves up
and irritates yet exhausts both, that every little difibrence enrages
them against each other; whereas
Intercourse for parentage reverses all for good. Let the
ibnd bridegroom be satisfied with adoring his bride's mind till
both are ready to become parents togetlier, and ofispring be
their primary object, hymeneal enjoyment secondary, just aa
gustatory should bo in eating, and this lioly banquet^** will
immeasurably exalt both in each other's affections, instead of
lowering either; irradiate the eyes of the doting husband with
additional lustre, and cause those of his devoted wife to glow
with increased tenderness, as they interchange looks and tokens
of Love; because each will prize the other as their co-worker and
^oint partner in ochieving this most desirable object of life."*
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Not a blush of shame tinges her modest cheek as she interchanges
expressions of conjugal affection with the father of her dear babe.
To thus offer. up the maiden on the altar of the matron only
swells her flood of joy and bliss ; whereas, to be defiled by sen-
suality humbles and debases, without leaving in return one
single item of value. Even chance maternity, when carnality
alone is sought, always pollutes, never elevates.
Behold the different effects on Love of the carnal phase of
this function, as compared with its spiritual. The former vitiates
and poisons all it touches, the latter sanctifies, purifies, and per-
fects. Young husbands should wait for an invitation to this
banquet,''^^ and will be amply repaid by the very pleasures sought.
Every single principle which bears on this point commands tem-
porary postponement.
An amorous bridegroom, after his marriage and before retiring,
charged by an elder relative to postpone his nuptial rites a few
days, replied: —
" I 'm no stoic, and defy any man who ain't to follow that advice with
one so beautiful and voluptuous."
" You 'll find following it the hest, for yourself and her."
He did not ; and the next morning, his young wife, trembling
with grief and rage, and shaking her clinched little fist, ex-
claimed to her mother and female friends : —
" Why did n't you married folks tell mo what a terrible ordeal
awaited me? If you had, I would sooner have plucked out my right eye
than married any man, however rich."
Not a child blesses their union ; though both are splendidly
sexed, from prolific families, exactly adapted to each other con-
jugally and parentally, and he so passionately fond of children
that he would give all he is or ever will be worth for them by
her. Yet he himself blighted his Love for her, and hers for him,
though at first intense, spoiled a most lovely maiden, and fore-
stalled ofispring, simply by this very identical precipitancy we arp
rebuking ; besides so disgusting himself with her, that in a week
he maddened lier with jealousy by flirting with one of her beauti-
ful school associates. She is superbly sexed, the daughter of a most
passionate father and a well-sexed mother, peculiarly captivating
and magnetic, the one mentioned in^^^- and with unusually largo
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Lovo; but attests that even while her own passion is clamorous^
if ho proffers its gmtification, the very proffer from him kills
and turns it into aversion. Learn from all this that undue haste
kills Love, and then immolates itself.
" How DOES THIS AGREE With youf doctnne that woman should inspire
male passion by manifesting her own first? For a blushing bride to * lead
off* in this function is preposterous, and would be most ' immodest.' "
" Her tender caresses and loving tones and ways are both modest,
and provoke passion. If it is modest to love, it is modest to kiss and
fondle; and the kind of fondling, whether adhesive or amatory, determines
all. Let a well-sexed and really loving wife alone for expressing properly
this core-function of her sex."
Bride, you owe reciprocity to your husband. Your marriage
vow consists in covenanting to cohabit with him to the best of
your ability. Fulfil it. He is entitled to your hearty partidponcy.
You can no more be or make him happy in other conjugal re-
Bpects without embracing him fully with your whole being; than
have daylight without sun ; nor can you or ho be unhappy ii?
other conjugal respects if this is right, any more than have sun
without daylight. Concord here will drown all other notes of
discord. He values nothing else in you a tithe as much as this;
and married you for this and its accompaniments, unless for
money. Nothing will blast his fond anticipations and equally
sting him to the quick with disappointment, chagrin, despair, and
hatred as will your persistent cold repulse;^ nor delight him
beyond measure as will your hearty response, and more than wel-
come embnvcc. Warmth in him with coldness in you is as ice to
tire. By surrendering, you conquer. By showing a desiro to
oblige him to your full capacity, you throw yourself on liis
generosity, and thereby quiet his passion, which repulse only
aggravates. He takes your " tvill for the deed," which makes him
too gallant to feast himself at your expense. Compliance annuls
his importunity ; while refusal makes him imperiously ikmuiid
his rights,
Irkvious discipline is indispensable to all vigorous action.
As a little toil exhausts those uninured, while fifty times more
only strengthens those accustomed to it; and veteran troops
undergo with pleasure hardships which would kill off twenty sets
of raw recruits in succession ; so doubly of a young bride's sexual
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organism. You would loathe her if it were already trained.
By presupposition she is extremely shy and modest by !N'ature,
redoubled by education. " Pudor " was almost worshipped, even
by the extremely sensual ancients, is incorporated into their
female statuary; and in demand by moderns. Then how could her
organs be already prepared ? How could she rush suddenly from
that inert plane upon this excessive ?
Human nature instinctively husbands whatever is deemed
especially valuable, and pre-eminently what appertains to Love ;
and much more to this its sacramental feast ; to tarnish which
by precipitancy shocks all as sacrilegious. Those whose Love is
strong yet pure, instinctively regard this repast as the " holy of
holies" of the human soul, that inner temple of life, which
should be entered only on the most hallowed anniversary, as the
most dainty banquet of their being,^^ and therefore to be reserved
for the choicest occasions. When the pure-minded and tenderly-
devoted husband entertains the higher order of spiritual Love
for his adored spouse, he regards her as too pure and holy to be
carnalized at once for carnality's sake, and reserves her purity
for that *' natural use " which shall make them parents. Paul
embodies this sentiment when he says, " Nevertheless, he that
standeth fast in his heart, having no necessity, but having power
over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will
keep his virgin, doeth well." His spiritual Love quells his ani-
mal desire as such,^^^ remains content with that holy soul-com-
munion already described, and finds enjoyment of a far higher
order in folding its beloved object in tlie arms of tenderness, and
bestowing and receiving mutual caresses and embraces of Love
without carnal desire as such. The supposition that all sexual
pleasure is embodied in this its ultimate fruition, is most errone-
ous. Animal lovers know little of Love's pleasures. The soft
accents and tender caresses, to participate in which the pillow of
rest invites the married pair, are vastly more pleasurable than
ultimate indulgence ; because allowing their spirituo-sexual mag-
netism to be freely imparted and imbibed from a large serous sur-
face; besides being perpetual, and increasing by exercise; while
animality soon cloys, and also consumes the relish for this higher
banquet of affection. Indeed, this pure and protracted embrace
is the compensation proffered by Nature in lieu of sensual grati-
fication, and infinitely its superior; because it embodies the
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liigliest and holiest emotions experienced by our nature, and
yields the most soul-hallowing and exalting repast on which
mortals can banquet. Still, only this highest order of Love will
thus sanctify and subdue propensity. Yet this will.^®® But
The world is not yet prepared to receive or appreciate a doc-
trine which exalts the spiritual so far above the animal. Yet
the pure-minded few, whose Love has never been carnalized by
disappointment, will understand and obey ; and in future ages,
when its spirituality shall have purified and exalted this function
to its primitive destiny, it will subdue the clamors of propensity
as such, and enable mankind to find their highest happiness in
spiritual affection. To pure Love nothing is as utterly abhorrent
as dragging it down from its spirit union, only to put it on this
animal base. Nor is any other one thing equally destructive of
it. Ah ! its animcdization is the fatal shoal on which most loves
become hopelessly shipwrecked, and all their rich cargoes of con-
nubial bliss not a total loss merely, but a loathsome dungeon-
hold ; dark, cold, nauseating, full of bilge-water and vermin ; and
utterly insuflferable; yet from which there is no deliverance.
Beware, all you who marry, and keep your loves pure. You are
entering together upon a /(/e-time of the most ecstatic sexual
enjoyment of which both are capable : then be entreated not to
8i>oil it by either precipitancy or carnality.
813. — Producing Boys or Girls, as Parbnts prefer ; Twins, &c.
So great a boon God certainly bestows on His children ; for
lie denies them no real good. How great a gift and blessing to
royal, noble, and aristocratic families to be able to say " our first
born shall be a male"? and for every parental pair to have a girl
this time, and a boy that? When the world gets full, as it ulti-
mately will, barely enough females will be wanted to keep it so,
the balance males. This must remain thus myriads of ages.
To stock raisers also this art can be made of incalculable pecuni-
ary service; and to all a utility too great for Divine Goodness to
withhold from us.
The theory that seed from the right testicle impregnates
only an Q^g from the right ovary, which produces only boye,
while girls are created by the left ; that therefore the husband's
lying at the right side of his wife in taking his position pushes
his right farther fo^^vard, so aa to bring it nearest to his wife'u
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organs, thereby stimulating it the most, or any other means of
i^iving it the advantage so as to excite it first and most, gives
boys, and the converse girls, is plausible, and will often be found
corroborated by long strings of facts, only all at once to con-
tradict itself; whereas if a law, it will have no exceptions. I
bought a farm having a mare with foal by a stud whose right
testicle his owner told me he himself extracted, which on this
theory should have given me a female colt, gave me a male.
His stock was both about equal. This much is certain, that
Early in my boyhood, the Rev. Mr. Crawford preached in
Liberty, N. Y., my native village, and boarded with my father.
Old Mr. Cook, father of Constant Cook, the Bath millionnaire,
promised to give him a colt, as his yearly subscription ; telling
him he would have it male or female as Crawford might prefer.
" What ! You make my colt a male if I say male, or female if I say
female ? Can you preguarantee the sex I prefer ? "
" Yes, every time, infallibly,"
" How ? By what means ? What is your secret ? "
" When I want a female colt I couple the parents just as soon as
the female's heat commences, and as soon as possible after they see each
other ; but if I want a male, I wait till her fever is so far spent that she
will barely receive him, and hold him back till his passions are all tanta-
lized into a frenzy."
That conversation I heard over fifty years ago; for I left
home in 1826. A cotemporary makes a great flourish with one
phase of this theory, as if it were a great recent discovery. I
heard it probably before he was born ; and published it before
he did, thus: —
" The agricultural theory, as it may be called, because adopted by
farmers, is that impregnation occurring within four days of the close of
the female monthlies produces a girl, because the ovum is yet immature ;
but that when it occurs after the fourth day from its close, gives a boy,
because this egg is now mature ; whereas after about the eighth day this egg
dissolves and passes off, so that impregnation is thereby rendered impos-
sible, till just before the mother's next monthly." — Sexual Science, p. 735.
"Queen bees lay female eggs first, and male afterwards. So
with hens; the first eggs laid after the tread give females, the last
males. Mares shown the stallion late in their periods drop horse colts
rather than fillies." — Napheys.
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PHYSICAL LOVE: ITS IMPORTANCE, PROMOTION, ETC. 68^
* If you wish females, give the male at the first sign of heat ; if males,
At its end." — Professor Thury.
" On twenty-two successive occasions I desired to have heifers, and suo-
cee<led in every case." " I have made in all twenty-nine experiments, after
this method, and succeeded in every one in producing the sex I desired."
— A Swiss Breeder,
" This Thury plan has been tried on the farms of the Emperor of the
French with unvarying success."
" Conception in the first half of the time between the menstrual
periods produces females, and jnales in the latter." — London Lancet.
" Intercourse in from two to six days after the cessation of the menses
produces girls, in from nine to twelve, boys." — Medical Reporter.
This conflicts with another theory that conception cannot
take place after about the eighth day from the close of the men-
strual period ;®^^ yet that is also unreliable. This farmer's mode of
producing boys or girls is in the main correct, and will generally
irive the sex applied for. Yet it conflicts with a very old theory
that the most male vigor gives girls like their fiither, and female
boys strongly " resembling their mothers " — a most favorable
sign. This agricultural theory undoubtedly grows out of a
natural law living behind and below it, yet is not the determining
condition itself; else it would produce the most females, because
women are the most nmoYou^just after menstruation, which would
naturally produce more copulation during this female-creating
period, and this females. These premises and inferences are ob-
viously sound and reliable, namely : —
1. Gender is a mental entity.*^ Males are males in body
because first so in mind; and thus of females; besides having the
larger male or female, organs as their mental gender is the
stronger or weaker.^** Our directions for enlarging the sexual
organs, and cause of small ones, are based on this principle, and
eflicacious. Therefore, 2, something menial in parents predeter-
mines it. Its being a mental entity shows that a mentality
creates it. 3. It must be determined at conception ; because the
ecx is already pre-established before we can discern it. 4. There-
fore something in the mental not physical states of the parent*
at conception casts it. What? Probably the underlying law is
The most male power and passion creates boys; female, girls.
This law probabjy causes those agricultural facts just cited thus:
Conception right after menstruation gives girls, because the /cmoZs
688 COHABITATION: ITS LAWS, EFFECTS, AND CONDITIONS.
\8 then the most impassioned ; later, hoys, because lier waning
sexual warmth leaves him the most vigorous. Mere sexual ex-
citement, a wild, fierce, furious rush of passion, is not only nol
sexual vigor, but in its inverse ratio; and a genuine insane fervor
caused by weakness; just as a like nervous excitability indicates
weak nerves instead of strong. Sexual power is deliberate, not
wild, cool not impetuous ; while all false excitement diminishes
eftectiveness.
" A YOUNG ram was put into the flock of ewes, kept in rich pasture, set
apart for producing ewe lambs ; while a mature and powerful five-year old
ram was put into the flock from which male lambs were desired, with the
following results :
FLOCK FOR FEMALE LAMBS.
AOK OF MOTHERS.
2 year olds
3
4 « «
5 " " and over
Total
SEX OF LAMBS.
Female.
26
29
Male.
14
16
5
18
53
21
84
FLOCK FOR MALE LAMBS.
AGE OF MOTHERS.
2 year olds
3 " "
4 « «
5 " " 'and over
Total
SEX OF LAMBS.
Male.
7
15
33
25
80
Female.
3
14
14
24
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" The general law seems to be that when the conditions for increase
are favorable, Nature produces the most females, when unfavorable, males.
Giron attributes the sex mainly to the sire." — Combes' Consti. of Man,
This table indicates that young rams with young ewes give
about two females to one male ; young rams with old ewes, over
two males to one female : while old rams with young ewes give
two males to one female, and parents of equal ages about equal
of each sex. That is : — Both parents immature, double the
most females ; both mature, equal sexes ; young sire with mature
mothers, the most males ; mature sires with young mothers,
males; both mature, equal numbers. This confirms
Our own theory, that the most paternal vigor and passion give
BOYS, maternal, girls ; and as one phase of this law that
The males reaching coition first, creates boys, whereas, when
the female reaches the sexual climax first, she conceives with girls.
And for precisely the same reason that uniting right after the
menses cease gives girls, namely, because she is then the most
impassioned : and hence that provoking female passion most and
bringing her forward first, gives girls ; the male, boys. Since
this obviously does express the sex-determining law, it allows
either or both to secure boys by his prior advancement and prov-
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ocation, girls by hers; which either or both can effect on his or
her own self, or the other, with or without the other's cognizance.
There is the gender-forming and controlling law. For puttinc
it into practical effect the
Summary directions are, when girls are desired, unite both
right after the menses cease, and provoke as much passion a*
possible in the female by caresses, fondling, and delaying till her
acme of passion is reached first ; and if a boy, unite six or more
days after the close of her monthlies, and after she has wrought
up her husband's passion, with less of her own. Superadding the
testal theory will do no harm at least; which is probably only
another phase of ''our own theory," namely, that the right is the
most vigorous and hence creates boys, both generally, and doubly
so when most inspired.
We will thank readers for any experimental facts bearing on
this point. This will help guide inquiry concerning an impor-
tant subject still open.
Having twins is undoubtedly hereditary, and descends. I have
traced it up and down five generations on both sides.*" A Rus-
sian serf had Jifti/secen children in twenty-one confinements of
his first wife ; and thirty-three in thirteen of his second. Elderly
women bear the most twins, relatively. It is always connected
with great sexual vigor. Three hospital women had triplets at
their fifteenth confinement; each three successive times.
A LADY in Pittsburgh, Pa., says she can tell any one how to
kave twins at any confinement designated.
It is not consequent on a second cohabitation immediately
succeeding the first impregnating one; for I find many parept4i
have twins who invariably cohabit but once during several days.
Twins being of opj)osite sexes upsets this girl-babe theory
right after menstruation and boy later, unless the boy twin was
begotten some da^'s after the girl: yet if so, why usually born
the same hour? If the girl is begotten right after the menstrua-
tion and the boy several days afterwards, they would naturally be
born several days apart. But their being so much alike in looks
and character signifies that both were conceived together. Two
yolks are often found in one "double yolked " egg; which gives
twins.
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CHAPTER II.
COHABITING ERRORS; PREVENTIONS; BARRENNESS; ETCJ.
Section I.
FALSE EXCITEMENT, HASTE, PROMISCUITY, KEPT MIS-
TRESSES, ETC.
814. — Excitement, Embarrassment, Haste, Prematurity, «&c.
The entire beings op both are to be transmitted — every inter'
view must be as if they were^^ — which requires that all be fully
represented ; and this demands the complete abandon and merg-
ing of every function of both into this one.
' All false excitement tends to prevent this. Flustration in-
terferes with every function, but most of all with this. What
can one accomplish or enjoy when confused ? He does enough,
but always wrong things. Frenzy is most fatal to both parental
pleasure and progenal endowment. How marvellously false
nervous excitement impedes all life efforts ? and these creative
the most. Good nerves are a prime life necessity, and irritable
ones most injurious ; and hence parental must be steady, quiet,
and free from all agitation in every cohabitation, that these
qualities may obtain in issue. And yet
Passion agitates nervous persons more intensely than any-
thing else, while Platonic Love proportionally soothes and in-
spires.
This is an excitable age and nation. We elsewhere show
why, and its evils. This redoubles false excitement at cohabita-
tion, yet makes self-control then doubly important. That sexual
frenzy thus created is most injurious to offspring, by rendering
them most irritable, impulsive, furious, and wild with false ex-
citements, which promotes demoralization, and prevents enjoy-
ment. And the more nervous the parties, the greater their need
of self-possession then.
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FALSE EXCITEMENT, HASTE, PROMISCUITY, ETC. 691
" My mTSBAND BECOMES SO TERRIBLY wild, fierce, raging, and all that,
during intercourse, as to bite holes through the pillow-cases and sheets and
tear them with his teeth ; which is to me intensely repulsive. Can thia
cause my childlessness?" " Undoubtedly." — A very Dissatisfied Wife.
So BOTH BE DELIBERATE AND QUIET, IlOt agitate CHCh Other.
Bridal embarrassment works this same evil, yet is almost uni-
versal, especially in young females. Little things embarrass them
much ; then why not this as much more as it is more excitins: an<l
important. All males should humor and assuage this female
modesty, and overcome it by approaching gently and gradually.
Much of it in either will spoil any and all cohabitations, in wedlock
and out.*" How strikingly this enforces our cardinal doctrine of
postponement and graduation, till it subsides ?^^^
Every female should overcome it, or if this is impossible, post-
pone or abstain; for when agitated she can neither give nor take
pleasure in it ; and will dissatisf)^, and be dissatisfied.^ It has
no place at the creative altar, nor in any sexual embrace. Either
she must not accept, or not thus spoil. She is the one to say aye or
no;*" and if "aye,'* must surmount all embarrassment, lay aside
all squeamishness, and even all modesty, so far as it infringes on
this required perfect self-abandon.**
Haste doubles, delay halves, both nervous excitement and
embarrassment. This function should be begun very gently and
slowly ; because it must martial every human function, which
takes time. Animals set us examples here, especially females, by
keej)ing the male at bay. Nature always spoils it, unless she is
allowed this leisure; because haste must mar or prevent progeny.
Then how perfectly obvious that whenever pleasure is its " chief
end," both should
"Take their time,"* because haste shortens and kills, while
deliberation both prolongs and enriches its enjoyments. How
can they enjoy as much in two minutes as in twenty ? especially
when they enjoy not half as much per minute f Every single
"male and female " experience proves that this point is immeas-
urably important; because prolonging Platonizes, haste scosual-
izcs. Please note this practical argument: —
Male prematurity is one of the very greatest errors and evils of
all cohabitations, out of and in wedlock, by preventing the neces-
sary marshalling of all the functions;** especially in the female.
But we can treat its obviation much more effectively farther on.
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after having described the sexual organism, and postpone its cure
till then.
815. — Is Continence necessarily Injurious ?
These five principles answer, "Not, ipso facto.''
1. Man is adapted to wait for female invitations to this love
banquet.^^ 2. Intercourse during pregnancy unmistakably in-
jures the female.^ 3. Female non-part icipancy renders it repug-
nant and injurious to both.^^^ 4. When the world gets full,
male continence or whoredom will be necessary."^ 5. Platonic
Love, man's normal state,^^ never, only animal ever, creates semen.
Neither of these five points can possibly be controverted ; and
their united attestation is that man is constitutionally adapted to
that male and female continence thus rendered necessary. This
last point, not yet proved, involves the meat of this question, and
is demonstrated thus : —
Animal Love creates semen in order to create body, while
Platonic Love creates no semen. Note this proof. Your best
friend, having a most estimable wife and grown daughters and
nieces, invites you to spend an evening in his classical parlor.
You find his ladies elegantly attired, bare arms, low dresses,
accomplished, musical, lively, gay, very lovely, yet pure and
chaste ; meanwhile very cordial, magnetic, and friendly. You
talk, laugh, sing, dance, play games, and enjoy yourself ten times
more than you could at any male club. (Only fools or eunuchs
prefer club-room to parlor, or male to female associates.) Just
what gives you nine-tenths of this evening's " fun " ? These
ladies ; their inspiring your Love ; your imbibing their, and
bestowing on them your, sexual magnetism. Males could not
give it. All the sexual enjoyment th^ yield you — just think
how much — is due to their awakening 3'our amatory instinct or
Love. Yet you create no semen. You are on too high and pure
a plane for that. You feel only intense Platonic Love, no animal.
But just fondle and be caressed, dally and fool with a common-
place, animal, amatory woman ^ve minutes, even one minute,
and you manufacture semen, perhaps eject it. This is plain : —
Only Lust creates semen ; pure Love, never any. Another
proof.
Sf.nsual, lustful dreams invariably precede and cause all
your seminal losses. You imagine yourself with some female as
FALSE EXCITEMENT, HASTE, PROMISCUITy, ETC. 6J)3
amorous as yourself. What does the uniformity of this female
accompaniment mean but the lustful state of your own mind? —
lust here as before. There never is, never can be any creation,
much less evacuation, of semen except what animal Love creates
— no more than intercourse without passion. What could be
clearer? Every seminal evacuation in cohabitation, in sleep,
always, everywhere, originates in the animal phase of Love.
"Has semen no other outlet but coition?" — All Bacht tors.
" Yes. All those mentioned in Part I. Thus, A and B have an equal
amount of sexuality. A consumes his in coition ; which leaves his voic«,
manners,^ postures, spirit, intellect, &c., bereft of it ; while B continently
retains his, only to have it worked off in imparting sex to his vocality,
walk, actions, &c. ; nobleness, courage, &c., to his feelings, with gallantry
to woman and admiration and love of the sex, and that treatment of them
which wins their regards. You can't consume your sexual cake in botb
forms. Choose whether you will do so in creating semen, or in these nobler
aspects of masculinity."
" My testal organs constantly create semen, which must be evacn-
ated, or else it creates a wild, restless state of mind and body, destructive
to health, and vitiating to morals; and its natural evacuation by inter-
course is a physical necessity, unless by those worse forms of self-abuse or
seminal losses. So all tell us, doctors included." — Celibates.
" False, all. They manufacture semen only when impelled to action
by the animal phase of Love ; which should be provoked only by some
woman's demand for an impregnating intercourse.*" That principle
obliges Nature to create all males subject to the sexual call of their owft
female ; that is, to remain continent till and except when she does call for
impregnation."
"Physical continence la man's natural status, with only this
impregnating exception. All sensible persons must admit this law; and
all male animals practically illustrate it This principle is patent, and
necessary inference irrefutable."
"Continence, except in wedlock, and then only to propagate, i^
therefore the natural law of Love. Say or do nay, you who dare."
"Let sexual life be rightly beoun and continued, and sexual
inflammation obviated, and that rampant lustful state which now so im-
periously demands intercourse will give way to Platonic I^vc and natural
continence, except for propagation."
" Intek(X)UR8K IS healthy;"' promotes and matures all the functions
of body and niind:**^ alone can give normal action to the sexual orgaiw,
which were created only for action,**' which they will have,*** • and in this
it* physical aspect ; and is interdicted only by sheer Puritanical bigotry."
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"Then give it its right action in wedlock. Complete coiiti-
Dence is an ipso facto evil ; yet wrong coition is a greater. Mark espe-
cially:—
" 1. Female magnetism is necessary to the male ; but he who will not
get it in wedlock should get what he can in its Platoiiic form; but had
better do without the balance." 2. All running round is wrong."* 3. The
Fame law as to continence governs woman and man : then is promiscuous
intercourse best for herf Would you prescribe it to your own daughter
and wife in your absence ? This involves maternity, or else violating cohabit-
ing law. Marriage or contbience is the only harmless alternative. Most
cotemporaries take opposite ground, but it is uuphilosophical. Scan our
next point in its confirmatory bearing on this.
816. — Promiscuous Intercourse wrong, and Self-Punishing.
This problem is almost infinitely important, and as such
deserves a judicial natural-laws adjudication, which we proceed
to give.
Promiscuity necessitates lust ; which tears the gender right
out by its roots of all its perpetrators. This sin of commission
is far greater than that of omission. Let your own innermost
selfhood say whether it is not inherently self-defiling and debas-
ing. Only that Love can sanctify it whose body-servant it is.^*^
Yet that has offspring for its goal : therefore must this. N'ature
confines that to one ;^^ and therefore this, which is marriage.*^'
AH who cohabit together thereby marry each other f^^ and mar-
riage is for life. Publicly acknowledge your cohabiting with
each other, and take and rear dts mutual responsibilities. This
is the only way in which Nature will let you really enjoy it.
What of your paramour? You cannot love, even respect,
nor therefore enjoy her. You must despise the whole sex, and
yourself the most, before you can defile any member of it ; which
precludes the pleasures you seek. She is some one's daughter,
perhaps sister, wife, mother. What if she were yours ? If she
is a prostitute, " goes for " your money, and Stinks alive to boot,
you must have the stomach of an alligator to stomach her;
besides being in danger of getting "burnt ouV^ Only some low,
self-degrading, stultified being could do that Its concomitant
self-demoralization none can afford ; nor its half crazy, tornado-
like violence, benumbing your future enjoying capacity. Either of
these reasons, with many more like them, all of which apply with
double force to women, forbid all miscellaneous indulgence. N'^t
696
till you can rise before or retire after the Almighty, can you
violate His holy law of a love and therefore dual cohabitation
by illicit roving, without tliereby suftering its dreadful penalties.
" Cohabitation is your own specific cure for spermatorrhoea,** sexual
starvation, male and female complaints,**" nervousness, &c., &c. In this
you agree with us doctors, whom you have all along fought manfully,
only now to adopt our chief prescription for these and like ailments. Yet
since cohabiting itself is the curative agent, why confine it to marriage?
Of what possible use is this man-made legal ceremony in effecting this
cure? Many of its victims cannot, at least will not, marry ; then must all
such pine away just to humor this whim of exclusiveness ? " — A St. LoilU
Doctor.
" Is cohabiting the only specific panacea? Do you, as a medical profes-
sor, knowing all about medicine, theoretically and practically, English and
German, say positively; that it is the only cure of spermatorrhoea?"
" I do, without any fear of intellectual contradiction." — St. L. Dr.
" Do YOU ALWAYS PRESCRIBE it to virtuous Unmarried men who consult
you for seminal losses?'*
" I DO ALWAYS, and every time successfully." — St. L. Dr.
" What is sauce for the goose, Doctor, is therefore sauce for tlte
gander, and gosling as well. Suppose your idolized daughter, whom you
cherish as the apple of your eye, fallen by self-abuse into a like state,
should consult me professionally for relief, would you thank me to make a
like prescription, and administer as well?"
" A CUTE Yankee dodge, but neither scientific, nor worthy of you." — Dr.
" Sexual manipulation alone did not cause it, but that amatory pro-
permty which prompted it did."
" Of course it did ; but for which it would do no harm." ^- St. L. Dr.
" Your prescription only REcarnalizes and reanimalizes that very
Faculty, the sensual ization of -which alone did the damage."
"Of what USE is marriage in the cure? What difference can that
make? Do natural laws recognize human statutes? Tlie cure is effected
by cohabitation itself, whether within wedlock or without is immaterial.
Shame that a pretended reformer should cling to this old-fogy Bibliciam
')'* ieir«,l marriage, at best only a custom, like smoking; one thing this,
another thing that side of this river, and that State line; and changing
throughout all times and places, as human caprices, and therefore laws,
change." — iS«. L. Dr.
''Legal marriage Platonizes cohabitation by putting it on its Love
base; while your prescriptioo of indulging with this female this week^
month, year, and that the next, always and necessarily takes it off* from
one animal plane of self-pollution only to put it back upon auoUier ol
696 COHABITING ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
promiscuity. Both vulgarize, and thereby impair the sexuality, mental
and physical. A pure Love intercourse is indeed the true generic cure ;
but this presupposes both its completeness, "'• and its continuity with the
same female, *^"^ and therefore offspring, and, of course, their mutual rearing.
Nor can any scientific argument at all invalidate this final conclusion."
" Why would not this curative be just as eflTective out of wedlock as in,
provided it were accompanied by Love ? " — Si. L. Dr.
'* Granted ; but Love is constant, lust alone is promiscuous. Then, since
to be effective it must continue, why not superadd its legal sanction ? "
"Why add it? Of what practical use is it either way? Why lay so
much stress on this ceremony, which confessedly exerts no influence what-
ever on the cure? Suppose it could be continuous and mental, then why
only in marriage ? " — St. L. Dr.
" Marriage enlists the other Faculties.^* Society exists, and
man can enjoy life only in concert, not antagonism, with his fellow-men.
More so woman. Unless they are married, society will spy out their for-
nication, and cast her out headlong,^ leaving him thoroughly in Love
with a despised prostitute. This would soon kill his own Love, and leave
him worse than at first ; besides spoiling her ; which no man could do to a
woman beloved."* No, sir ; there remains but this one right way, — a per-
manent, constant, acknowledged Love-intercourse, and both publicly rear-
ing their mutual young. Besides converting virtuously-trained young
men by thousands into libertines, your prescription
. " Often spoils them for life, by infecting their constitutions with
the worst of poisons !^^ Opening the floodgates of sensuality is bad
enough ; but this searing and palsying every after-life function beside, is
serious business. Noble young men apply to me with this pitiful story :
'Troubled some, though not badly, with nocturnal emissions, I applied to
our family physician, who prescribed intercourse ; showed me where and
how to find the female required ; and charged me when I left home to
continue. In doing so I 've got poisoned. What shall I do?'
" Cowhide your physician, and do it up brown ; for his prescription
ha« thus poisoned your gender at its fountain, and paralyzed all your future
enjoyments, capacities, sexual pleasures, manhood, and talents, probably
fifty per cent. If he had told you to select the best female you knew,
court and marry — 'which I could just as well have done as not' ^o
would have saved a noble youth he has more than half ruined ! Medical
men who give this advice incur a responsibility truly fearful, by encourag-
ing both celibacy and prostitution together. Do think. Farther: —
" This sneak-thief slying in to a woman, rushing through as if
afraid of being caught with her, and sneaking out from her, spoils all its
pleasure. Secrecy necessarily involves something mean, of which to be
ashamed. An open, above-board course is the only true one. To enjoy
FALSE EXCITEMENT, HASTE, PROMISCUITY, ETC. 697
this luxury, both must take their time, and abandon themselves wholly to
it, without one foreign disturbance; which only marriage can give."*
"Intercourse alone embraces but a mere moiety of the pleasures
or benefits of Love, which must be open, not covert, and confluent with all
the other Faculties. Hence you require to accompany each other to pic-
nic, party, church, and concert, and wherever ladies and gentlemen con-
gregate, aiKl introduce each other, as one of whom to be proud, not ashamed.
Yet what right have you to thrust among them one to ihon a harlot, or a
seducer; or compel either to be ashamed of the other? Either marry, or
olse keep yourselves, loves, and children out of sight : yet this is to ostra-
cize all, besides being impossible. In short, intercourse has its wrong place
and its right. The latter, marriage alone furnishes." •"
817. — A Kept Mistress. Anglo-Saxon Sexual Customs besi.
CJoNCUBiNAQE is interdicted by these principles ; yet less than
illicit roving. It contravenes that first love law of permanency.®*
The grisette of the past devoted all her energies to her lover, was
a temporary wife, and less objectionable than promiscuous harlot-
age; yet a kept mistress is only a calculating, hardened, selfish
harjjy. You must love her in order to enjoy her, which makes
her yoiir virtual wife at heart, yet a despised courtesan. Un-
certain how long her lease of you will last, she must make the
most of you while it docs. How can she love you ? But she
can and will fleece you. Let her alone for that. This is her art
and profession. You are her victim, and in her power.
Some day you must marry or quit her. If you marry her,
where will slic, your children, and you stand in society forever?
Where will she stand in your estimation?
QUITTINQ HER WILL BE YOUR SEVERIiST LIFE trial, if yOU love
her, and proportionally painful. If she is your hired chattel,
you are her chattel to pay, and welcome 'to all the bitter juice
you can squeeze out of that rotten orange. But if you do really
love and enjoy her, i/ou must part at Icngih^ to the sundering of the
heartstrings of both. I saw an amorous young graduate who
took this "convenience" to college to help him study ; had con-
cluded to marry ; found lie loved her; was then travei'sing the
Rocky Mountains to try to forget her; yet sufiered deeply ; will
surely hate and bo hated by his wife, because of this lingering
Love for his whore,^* and is quite welcome to carry that sting and
thorn throutrh life.
698 COHABITING ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
If you don't love her, she is worthless to you; if you do,
disastrous.
This accursed French custom, shamelessly advertised in New
York and elsewhere, spreading broadcast over our whole country,
impudently thrust upon California society by Ralston and other
bloods, richly merits these anathemas, to deter followers. What
God curses, man may, should, curse, and shun.
Royal and aristocratic European families supply their grow-
ing sons with girl-watchers by night, and vade mecums alwsiys^' on
call," the most beautiful and luscious they can find ; and when
these bloods travel, procure for them fresh ones in every fresh
place. Wonder what their daughters do ?
' " Is Anglo-Saxon suppression any better, after all, than the license
of most other countries and ages, where custom sanctions license? French
women, though known to have their intrigues, are respected for all ; indeed
are expected to have them ; and derided as prudes if they decline, or
do not initiate them. A Spanish lady of rank said, * I despise uny man
who does not solicit of me all the favors I can bestow.' Chastity is often
considered a disgrace. Is not that license preferable to this restraint?"
" Marriage, fidelity, and pure spiritual affection, with less intercourse,
are preferable to both, and Nature's natural male and female law."
Part IX gives a substitute for both, midway between them,
perfectly satisfactory to this propensity, and absolutely complete.
Section II.
PREVENTING CONCEPTION, AND ITS MEANS CANVASSED.
S18. — Large Families; Tainted Children; "Few but Good," &c.
Every argument for preventing issue is groundless ; and yet
such prevention is generally recommended. Napheys endorses
preventing " large families," and Rev. Dr. Todd backs him.
"Whoever can furnish a patent-right permitting coition with-
out endangering conception, however injurious if never fatal, can
goon become the richest man in Christendom ; so highly would
men prize and pay for it ; and women the most ; purity and con-
science to the contrary.
Few marry, and fewer replace themselves, in these days of
fashionable celibacy nnd small families. The great majority of
r
699
the married are stark mad with aversion to conception,®*' or de-
termination to destroy germinal life. Think you, after the
Almighty has made you men and women, and taken all this
pains to ordain this creative machinery, you can thwart and
cheat Hm without incurring His terrible retribution commen-
surate with that "higher law" you break ? Not unless man can
circumvent his Maker in this His cardinal work. You who
persist in this prevention, "prepare to meet your God," — a meet-
ing terrible for you.
If it is best for man, God has made provision for it ; because
He denies him nothing not injurious, and provides for this also
if it is for his good. But if He has not introduced it as one of
His human luxuries, man had better not attempt its practice, nor
ever, except as He ordains. Let us canvass those "natural laws"
which bear on this point.
It is almost universal; at least prevalent enough to demand
both exposition and censure. Its excuses and motives vary, some
alleging that since they are not strong enough to have as perfect
children as they desire, they will not have any. Though good
children are far better than poor, yet poor are incomparably better
than none. As well say you will not eat unless you can live on
the daintiest food.
You WHO abstain for fear of entailing your own hereditary dis-
eases, are pious but short-sighted ; for you can have children at
least as good and strong as yourselves ; and you are worth con-
siderable to yourselves and fellows. What will you take for
your own life, and be blotted from existence, immortality in-
cluded? All this is but the value of the life of those children
you can produce. Build up your own health, and your ofispring
will be better than you are, and well \Vorth having. You allege
Inability to support children in the desired ''style.*' How ac-
cursed are these modern ideas of fashion! Those reared without
style are far better off than with. A fashionable rearing is a
curse to any and all its juvenile victims ; as is proved by nearly
all children fashionably educated, as compared with those reared
in poverty. This motive is utterly unworthy an intelligent
human being. To rear them plainly is not expensive, and they
much more than pay their own way in pleasure, by doing a
thousand errands, and in ways innumerable.
700 C?OHABITINa ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
" Since you are so splendidly sexed, and adapted to bear children of
the finest quality, why have you none?"
" Lest I disgrace them. Though I w£^s born in wedlock, yet my step
father flung it in my teeth just before and in order to prevent my mar-
riage, that I was begotten out of it ; a confession of my mother to him ; and
I am loath to mortify my children by entailing such a stigma as * child of
a bastard.' " — A Splendidly -sexed Wife.
" This was most cruel in your step-father, but he dare not tell others
on his own and her account. Have no fear of that. You were born ic
wedlock, and your children will be born in honor, and be very smart ; so
stop aggravating yourself over this 'spilt milk ;' and feel and act just as
if nobody knew what no one can ever prove. Besides, abstinence is spoil-
ing your nervous system."
819. — Terrible Effects of Withdrawals, or Conjugal Frauds.
Preventing oiFspring outrages Nature's reproductive laws al-
most as much as their murder.
Onanism is its commonest form. Onan, though glad to enjoy
his hated brother's wife, withdrew at coition to prevent her con-
ception, and " spilled his seed upon the ground." Why should
the Bible mention it thus plainly, and denounce it thus terribly
by his death, unless to warn all in all ages against it? Is it wont
to waste words? Then should not its expositors "cry aloud"
against this sin, and expel its perpetrators ? But whether they
do or omit their duty, we must do ours by canvassing it from the
standpoint of natural law.
1. It is inherently vulgar and vulgarizing, repugnant and
debasing to all purity and refinement. Does it not strike all as a
natural outrage ? It is the grossest and most utterly animal form
of Amativeness, without one shadow of rational excuse. Our
section on population gives another aspect to this great public
sin,^ of which abortion is but still another.®*^
2. Few things are equally unsexing, and inflammatory to the
nervous system. Masturbation is no more so ; because both ex-
haust their own sexual magnetism, without either obtaining a
resupply from the other.
3. It infuriates both against each other. All sexual dis-
appointees are compelled to hate their disappo inters.®*" In this
case both disappoint and thereby infuriate both. Its being by
mutual consent does not mend the matter. Would both agree-
ing to burn each other's fingers together abate their consequent
PREVENTING CONCEPTION, ETC. 701
pains? Break any natural law together and you are punished
together. Break one thus paramount,"^ and Nature will take
her pound of flesh right out of your hearts, blood and all, thereby
forewarning all to "sin no more." A case of conjugal satisfac-
tion cannot be cited where this unnatural and Bible-denounced
sin is perpetrated. A naturally splendidly sexed man incidentally
called my attention to it thus : —
" I AM PERFECTLY IMPOTENT. Can you tell the cause and cure?"
" Some great wrong in your intercourse with the opposite sex."
" I know only my own wife, who makes uo secret of having practised
self-abuse when young, but now has no passion whatever."
" Then you perpetrate withdrawals."
" She made me swear by all that is sacred, as a condition precedent to
her marriage assent, that I would never lodge the seeds of life with her;
because, fashionable, she was determined not to encumber her pleasures by
babies."
"And you were fool enough to promise? Good enough for you.
Suffer on. But this withdrawing makes you hate each other."
" We do mutually hate most bitterly, and live a perfect * cat and
dog ' life, but I little suspected this as the cause of either my impotency,
or our animosity."
"Can withdrawing cause inability to retain urine? for I am
always worst right after it." — A Non-urine Retaining Husband,
" I AM impotent at forty-five. Why ? " — A Lynn Man.
** Some great wrong in your sexual intercourse causes it. What of
your wife?"
" She is so small, while I am so large, as to prevent intercourse. All
0)y poor pleasure is external."
" I AM inexpressibly WRETCHED. I married a woman I thought had
money ; found she had none ; would not have children by her because I
could not support them as I desired ; had one by accident, which I loved ;
prevented others by withdrawals, though my wife was desperate to have
them ; and she finally left me and took our child ; find myself impotent, even
with an inviting woman ; think seriously of committing suicide, I feel 80
gloomy and wretched." — A JilUd Husband.
"Served you right. Withdrawals caused all."
" My old husband always withdraws to prevent issue. I intensely
desire a large family. Am I justified in using strategy to secure concep-
tion by him?"— ^ Young Wife.
" Yes. Provoke his passion ; and at the critical moment pre« and
hold him to you ; or deny him altogether ; or eUe both will hate each
other ; besides becoming diseased."
702 COHABITING ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
A banker's wife, whose husband, rich, aristocratic, higli-stand-
ing, always withdrew seasonably to prevent her having children,
after vainly trying her best by stratagem and persuasion to obtain
them from him, took a separate room, which she forbid him, with
" When you will complete our intercourse, come, and be more than
welcome. I shall receive you with open arms and person in my fullest,
heartiest embrace. Till then I bolt or drive you out ; for I will not be
a party to so debasing an outrage on Nature. My right to children is sa-
cred and paramount, and your denying it to me deserves imprisonment."
A DIVORCE was her birthright, from which she abstained only
from motives of position. No marriage is valid, either in law or
equity, where this primal marriage right is refused. A husband
who doted on issue, which he stipulated and wife conceded before
marriage, but who after it refused even cohabitation, though an-
nually using up four thousand dollars, justly and finally emphati-
cally said to her: "Fulfil your marriage and maternal vows, or
consider us virtually divorced ; for I will not longer suifer this
crucifixion of these my two inherent marital rights.'^
" The EXALTATION and consequent concussion of two thus provoking
each other to passion, produce still more serious nervous perturbations than
self-abuse.
"Woman suffers the most from this vice, because her organs are
adapted to act for a longer period, &c. It provokes in her all diseases of
her genital organs, from simple inflammation to the most serious degener-
ations and disorganizations, — metritis, tumors, polypi, uterine colics,
neurosis, cancers, &c., mammal and ovarian diseases, sterility, leucorrhoea,
&c. When I review all the diseases of the women I have attended, I
believe three-fourths of them were caused by the practice of frauds in
sexual intercourse, and that, in most cases, they can with certainty be
attributed to it."
" Elderly women suffer the most, because their declining organisms
are less able to resist its effects. It often causes subsequent sterility." — L.
F. E. Bergeret, Phyaician-in- Chief of the Arboir Hospital^ France.
He cites over two hundred cases in detail, from his memo-
randum, of fearful sexual inflammations and disorders of both
sexes he had traced directly to this cause. No intelligent
persons, after reading his book on "Conjugal Frauds," could
consent to inflict on themselves diseases as many or inflamma-
tions as obdurate or aggravated as this vice always and necessarily
ETC. 703
inflicts. All female perpetrators carry the evidences or " labels "
of their unnatural practices around with thera, in their eyes and
looks. It causes a rush of blood to these organs which gorges
only to inflame terribly. A passive woman sufters less in this,
but more in another way.** The more passion the more injury.
The amount and aggravation of those female complaints it causes
are fearful. What an outrage on Nature! She must punish in
proportion.
Female desire in a strong normal woman, when fully roused,
involves conception ; denying her wliich, by either withdrawals
or prematurity, sometimes produces a wild, furious delirium of
passion, both resistless in itself, and terribly paralyzing to her
nervous system.*^
" Wearing the cx>ndom sheath does not lessen the evil." — Burgeret.
Its use is appallingly prevalent. I saw a lady of social
position in Sacramento call in a drug-store for a dozen as boldly
as she would for cologne, saying she wanted no more babies; and
a San Francisco wholesale drug-store clerk told me that he sold
in one year seven hundred gross — nearly 100,000! — and double
that number of caps for the penal gland ; besides all the other
clerks in his and all the other stores in one city, and all the other
stores in all other cities and nations ! And each used many times !
This equals that French invention for female masturbation !^'*
Sexual depravity, where is thy limit ?
Injections to prevent conception, taken right after intercourse,
are rendered terribly injurious by the then fatigued state of most
wombs leaving them too little energy to react.
" My husband made me use cold ones right after every intercourse to
kill all life-germs by cold. I did so ; and in ten days was seized with a
terrible cramp in my womb, from which I endured all but death ; lay on
ray back helpless one year ; have been useless, yet most expensive for doc-
toring ever since ; am barely able to get around ; and would suffer ail
mortals can suffer and live, to have a child, now justly denied me. Tell all
women to never dare try this means of preventing conception." — A Child-
less Invalid,
820.— Platonic Lovb a surb yet harmless Prbventivb.
The time must comb in the natural history of the race, when
the earth will have all the human beings it can possibly feed,
t'lothe, and house. Then each married pair will be allowed to re-
704 COHABITING ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
place only themselves in the great river of humanity, unless they
can " negotiate" for others' right; which should cost, if rated hy
intrinsic value. Then prevention will be as great a public bless,
ing as, till then, it is a curse, and indispensable ; yet subject none
to any self-denial or injury. Nature never requires self-sacrifices.
To obey her laws is the highest self-enjoyment ; while all breaches
of them are both self-denying and self-crucifying.
Infinite Wisdom makes cOxMPLEte provision for such required
prevention ; because He has created no human want without also
creating the ways and means for its gratification. Whatever He
undertakes, He does well. This is therefore " well done." How f
By Platonic affection, that very chit and great governing
condition of everything sexual.^^ Let that Bonaparte-admiring
8on,*^ who formed a matrimonial engagement with the best pat-
tern sample of the model female head the Author ever saw, illus-
trate. He was earnest to marry soon, while she argued ; —
" Both are just as happy now in each other as we possibly can be,
and together as much as we please. Why not let this * well enough alone ' ?
I fear marriage might, by sensualizing our Love, only spoil what is now
80 inexpressibly delightful to both. Marriage certainly could not make
either any happier."
Great men have few children and rich fruits few seeds ; ob-
viously because as Nature perfects her productions she desires fine
quality more than great numbers, an3 will employ this law to
prevent overproduction.
Courtships are far happier than marriages, because they keep
Love upon its pure plane ? ®" Have not you who are married
taken more love pleasures in that mental than in this animal
form ? You cannot eat your love-cake and keep it, yet may eat
it in whichever way you like ; but the less of either the more of
the other.^^ Then you who are so averse to children, put and
keep your Love upon a plane so pure and high as to overrule and
absorb its animal form. Be content with mental intercourse, or
else cheerfully accept its material '* results.'*
"This spiritual Love doctrine takes us too far up into the clouds.
Preached to angels it would be appropriate, but we are yet mortals. Ours
is still rightfully * of the earth, earthy.' It may do for the glorified, but
hardly for terrestrials ; possibly for seniles, but not for those in their full sex-
ual prime. It may even be practised by the very highest type of ladies,
hut the children of such would be too feeble to live."^ CJome, offer something
more practical to us as hrartv animals, less transcendental and Utopian."
ETC. 705
" ITature is practical always. Are not these views but the rescript
of her ordinances ? The less you can practise them the more you require
to. They are away up in the clouds only to those who are away down
wallowing in sensuality. Woman, at least, will appreciate them. It con-
cerns the Author only to see that they are tnie; but it concerns each reader
personally to believe and practise this truth. Would that husbands could
see both how true and how important ! "
" Till you do thus spiritualize your Love, and substitute this highest
sexual intercommunion for its material, you had better let Nature * have
lier perfect work.' Be mortals till you can become angels. By the time
the world is full, Love will be so far etherealized that its participants will
vastly prefer this exalted plane, as yielding them much the most pleasure.
It certainly is a law that a given amount of sexual magnetism expended on
this its Platonic, * Utopian ' plane, bestows many times more merely sexual
gratification than the same amount expended carnally. Sensuality cuts ofl'
its own pleasures." "*
Barrenness has ever been considered dishonorable, and fruit-
fulness honorable, till modern gentility turned these tables.
The Chinese formerly treated bachelors with contempt ; and
punished all unmarried men over thirty, and women over twenty ;
and the highest castes in India consider it disgraceful to pass
puberty unmarried. In many countries brides were adorned
with hops and bridegrooms with figs and other tokens of pro-
lificality. The Lacedemonians inflicted severe public and disgrace-
ful punishments on bachelors by obliging them to run naked
around the forum, while the populace derided them ; and let
women drag them around the altar beating them with their
lists. The Athenians bestowed few oflices on unmarried men.
Augustus enacted severe laws against celibacy, and conferred
special privileges on the fathers of three children. Some Gre-
cian states outlawed all women, married and single, who at thirty
had borne the state no children.
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Section III.
barrenness: its causes and obviation.
821. — Sexual Inertia, Obstructions, Displacements, &c.
Nature bestows creative capacity on most of her produc-
tions. A gift how infinitely glorious. Think what it is to
create human life.^
Our ancestors were very prolific: 90 families in Bellerica,
Mass., in 1790, produced 1043 children, averaging over 11 ; yet
in 1860, one-fourth of the families in I^ew York had no children,
while three-fourths averaged only IJ, many of which doubtless
died young. How long before that ratio would extinguish the
race?
Incapacity in either husband or wife prevents their becoming
parents together. Knowing which is in fault might not obviate
it, but would interest both, and is due from and to each. No
mock modesty should ever for one moment hinder any sterile
woman from learning whether she is to blame, and wherein. No
woman can ask any question as inherently proper as "What
causes, what can obviate, our childlessness ? " and she is wicked
who neglects to obtain this knowledge. It may give both off-
spring to love and enjoy forever, and 'can harm none. Having
made this a thirty years' specialty, the Author can impart valu-
able knowledge applicable to individual cases, on application in
person or by letter at Boston.
" I am sterile, yet intensely desire a family. My husband once had
* the bad disorder.' May not that be the cause ? Or am I lacking in any
maternal requirements." — An Extra Well-sexed Womcm..
No. All are very superior. You an admirably developed
female, and adapted to have a large family of very fine children.
The fault is obviously his ; while you are entitled to divorce,
and motherhood.
" Providei^ce denies me issue." — A Miserably Sexed Wife.
"Vou deny yourself, probably, by having sometime outraged His
creative laws. Doubtless ^your own feather quivers in that fatal dart.'
Youthful errors, mature excesses, or some other violations of His sexual
BARRENNESS: ITS CAUSES AND OBVIATION. 707
laws, have probably so impaired your health and gender as to incapacitate
you for fulfilling this sacred life-imparting mission. A cause thus induced,
may thus be obviated. Look all around and within yourself for the cause,
which will doubtless disclose its own obviation.
"Fortune hunters sometimes marry an only child, too luxuriously
weakly to bear. Nature often quietly avenges such mercenary matches
by sterility." ^
" O, HOW I DO LOVE BABES, and desire one of my own ! I would give
the world for one to love and rear, and to love and care for me when I am
old. Why should Providence deny me children who desire them so much,
yet give so many to others who want none ? Can you tell me why I do
not have them, and what to do to secure this my greatest life desire ? " —
A Lady with Parental Love large and Amativeness small.
" Your childlessness is caused by your physical debility and sexual
inertia. You must cultivate both your animal functions, and that amatory
•desire' by means of which alone Nature produces offspring."
" I HAD rather go WITHOUT children than cultivate that disgusting
feeling I have all my life been crucifying, till I have succeeded in quench-
ing it."
" Either the Deity or you. Madam, are mistaken ; for your ideas are
directly contrary to His only means of their creation."
Nurturing passion is as great a duty for such as nurturing con-
science in those who lack it. Cuddling, caressing, and fondling
is Nature's means of inspiring it in such.** Giving ample time
to such to respond, is obviously indispensable. Promoting Love
promotes sexual action and conception, while killing it prevents
them.**
1*R0M0TINQ HEALTH promotes issuc by promoting sexual action ;
on that great law of sympathy between all the bodily functions
and the sexual organs.
A woman made barren by abortion, at length desired issue,
but failed to bear; took country summer board; turned romp;
flirted some ; had her husband visit her in September, right after
her periods ; and conceived with a son, to the infinite happiness
of all.
Nature will not let those reproduce ^ho cannot impart to
offspring a fair share of all the life elements, physical and mental.""
It may be caused by the weakness of some one organ, which may
be strong enough in you to keep you, already grown, alive, but
not vigorous enough to establish life and growth in them. If so,
cultivate it. Those who have induced some one fatal weakness,
708 COHABITING ERRORS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
or are run down, or have used themselves up generally, have
thereby plucked out this procreative right eye.
Weakness in the sexual organs themselves is usually its great
cause. Vigor in them is its indispensable prerequisite. In such
cases all said about restoring gender of course applies here, and
need not be repeated ; as does everything said touching the resto-
ration of health.
Tipping over of the womb often so presses on its mouth as to
prevent the ascent into it of the semen ; which is sometimes de-
posited beyond its mouth, in a pocket previously formed there.
This is apt to be the case when the womb tv^^ forward; the deposit
being behind as well as beyond — which a posterior male position
might counteract.
The SEED IS drawn up into the womb obviously by female
passion continuing after its deposit, this passion so expanding the
womb as to suck it up. Its retroversion prevents this suction
from taking effect. This shows why !N'ature provides for two or
more successive interviews.
Uniting right after menstrual cessation sometimes gives issue
denied by postponing three or four days. This is a suggestion
well worth practising. A childless pair, who had usually post-
poned several days, put this suggestion into practice, and pro.
duced a family. iN'ature makes the right time for planting th^
seeds of life important.
Reaching the climax together is also important. A barreu
woman said this had occurred but once, and she thought she con-
ceived ; but a medical examination produced miscarriage.
Directions for securing this unity are given in "prematu^
rity."^^^ Many barren women continue to enjoy, yet never reach
any climax, possibly due to their husbands' prematurity not giving
them sufficient time. JS'ature would not have ordained this for
both, unless promotive of conception.
822. — Mutual Sexual Aversion.
A MENTAL Faculty creates.^ Love alone can provoke it tc>
action.*^ ^N'ature will have children of Love, if any. See how
and why potency is affected by all its states.^^^ Behold how
Love sympathizes with the womb in^^, and learn from these first
principles why and how two, by loving each other, promote mutual
parentage ; which mutual hatred prevents. That hating couple,
BARRENNESS: ITS CAUSES AWD OBVIATION. 709
both of whom masturbated in bed together, and broke up every
attempted intercourse in a row,"** were childless ; yet each could
have parented children by some other person whom each loved.
Both overran with passion ; yet neither for the other. Strong
passion in two may create issue despite considerable aversion, by
overruling it, and securing mental co-operation for the time
being ; but mental aversions which overrule physical Love pre-
vent intercourse altogether. See in*" why mental affiliation is in-
dispensable ; and apply that principle to barrenness, and its cure.
" I DESIRE ISSUE ABOVE ALL ELSE, but have none. What can I do or
omit to become a mother?" — A Robust but Childless Wife.
** Amatory aversion towards your husband is very apparent in
you. Do you and he live together in Love?"
" No ; in mutual aversion. He is untrue to me. I loathe him."
" Reconcile your differences. His intense desire for lawful issue
will induce him to promise fidelity. You must then forgive the past;***
hope for the best in the future ; learn to love his kindness, smartness, and
whatever else you can find in him to love ; overrule this sexual aversion by
sense ; and nurture both phases of Love as you would a we^k appetite ;
besides taking good care of your health, and keeping your mind in as
pleasant a frame as possible ; and Nature will probably do the rest ; for
you obviously have enough gender to bear; but it is in its reversed
state."*"
Three years afterwards they had the extreme pleasure of
bringing a splendid son by each other for phrenological examina-
tion, with additional encouraging prospects. Surely " it stands
to reason " that mutual affection promotes, while alienation hin-
ders, conception. A doctrine thus apparent needs no argument.
Will the reader duly scan the principle embodied in**, and then
ajjply it to this specific case ? There is more in it than appears
at first sight. Obviating discord and cultivating concord is well
worth trial even for its own sake ; and if it also eventuates in
offspring, you will be doubly rewarded.
823. — Nervousness, Sexual iNPLAMMATioji, JSymphomania, &c.
KxcESSiVE passion in one or both is by far the greatest cause
of childlessness; thus coupling barrenness with insatiable passion.
All false excitement is unfavorable to whatever functions it
affects."* Inflammation always weakens by exhausting. Nor-
mal passion cannot be too strong ; yet when it is abnormal, the
710 COHABITINQ EBBOBS, PREVENTIONS, BARRENNESS, ETC.
more the worse. Either or both becoming wild, frenzied, ram^
pant. Is about sure to prevent conception, by burning out the life-
germ before it becomes established.
Male frenzy weakens and vitiates the semen, and thereby
sitlier prevents the formation of life, or leaves it too feeble to
germinate, or else to sustain life ; so that it dies before birth, or
soon after ; or else grows too feeble to enjoy or accomplish much.
" My husband gets into a wild, fierce frenzy of passion during in-
tercourse, so that he bites and tears out holes in the pillow-cases and sheets ;
which makes me perfectly abhor him ; the more so since he is often cross,
even cruel towards me at other times." — A good Childless Wife.
Male prematurity is a frequent cause of fruitlessness, by ex-
hausting him before female action commences sufficient to receive
and appropriate the semen ; or else by depositing it too far from
the mouth of the womb ; and sometimes only outside, or before
complete conjunction. Find how to obviate this cause in^^^-
Females are often thus premature. Too little head, or power, or
momentum is obtained to initiate a life worth having.
Uterine inflammation, or nymphomania, I consider the great-
est cause of childlessness. Agur mentions three things as insa-
tiable ; one of which is "a barren womb;" thereby distinctly
associating barrenness with nymphomania. Childless females
who have this insatiate sexual craving, may almost surely at-
tribute their fruitlessness to this cause.
A WOMAN FAT AND ambrous, is almost sure to be childless. Her
firing right up and reaching her climax at ojice indicates this
inflammatory cause.
The prescriptions for prematurity,^^ and for nymphomania,^
apply to this case as specifically as if written expressly for it.
Begin with the body. Subdue its fierce raging fires by water
rightly applied to the skin. Reduce it by diet, exercise, perspi-
ration, &c. Opiates stupefy to-day only to reinflame to-morrow.
Quinine lowers the temperature and deadens, and in rare cases
might help this cooling-ofF demand. Cultivating Platonic Love,
which kills lust,^^^ is the great cure. Wear the abdominal com-
press night and day. Use injections. May you succeed.
CHAPTER ni.
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONa
Section 1.
the male structure! its parts, and their uses.
824. — N'eed of Popularizing the Study of Sexual Anatomy.
" Creative Science " would belie its name if it did not ex-
pound that sexual organism divinely adapted and consecrated to
the creation of life. By entwining it with our other organs,
Infinite Wisdom teaches and commands us to study it along
with them ; while ignoring it puts asunder what He has wisely
joined together. Those too modest to study it should amputate
it. Considering it immodest is the height of vulgarity. With
such squeamishncss we have and want no fellowship.
Woman should, does study it. Miss Dr. Blackwell did a great
work by almost forcing her way into the dissecting-room and
clinics where these parts of both sexes are dissected and examined
before both ; as have many female medical students since ; thus
greatly improving dissecting-room decorum, and also elevat-
ing the manners of medical students. Dr. Lee, well and largely
known, honored, and referred to, was an apostle to woman's
dissecting education. Women are far better adapted than men
to doctor men ; as are men to heal women ; and hence should
understand their structure. All women have a right to this
knowledge, at least as good as men to that of woman's structure.
We propose to disseminate it, besides adding to it.
God in Naturb exceeds all other studies, and will soon sup-
plant sectarianism ; yet His sexual adaptations of each part of
the male structure to all its other parts, and of each part of the
female to all her other parts ; as well as of all the parts of each
seX to all those of the other, and of every intlividual part of both
to the specific work assigned it, stands " first among equals."
And yet, no work even on anatomy has any more than merely
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712
glanced at either the offices of each part, or the mutual adapta-
tions of each part of each sex to its corresponding part of the
other. 'No anatomical demonstration of any organ is of much
account apart from its office; nor can any of either sex be scientific
or valuable without showing how and wherein each minute part
of each sex is expressly adapted to its specific part of the other.
This mission of each to the conjoint mission of all, has scarcely
Structure of a been even alluded to ; a deficit we propose in part
Spermatozoon, to supply. Claiming new and important sexual
discoveries, and a new and greatly improved put-
ting together of old, we pursue obviously this only
scientific course of beginning with the manufacture
of the seminal life-germs, and following them step
by step, noting their needs, and Nature's supply
of them, at each stage of their progress, up to
conception ; and thus of the ova.
825. — The Life-Germ: its Structure, Office,
AND "Wonders.
Life must have its beginning; that primal,
sine-qua-non prerequisite of all things. This the
father furnishes in the form of spermatozoa, or life-
germs, one of which is represented in Fig. 581.
They are organized. See this great basilar /ac*^
demonstrated by their having heads and tails, and
closely resembling polliwigs in general outline.
Mr. Prouchet, who has given their structure elab-
orate attention, and from whom this Fig. is copied,
says they have rudimental heads, thoracic struc-
tures, and skins. That they have any of the or-
No. 581.— The gans, as we see they have, proves that they have
Spermatozoa, them all ; for how could a part be or work without
all ? and Nature can create all as easily as any one. They move.
This we also see ; and this proves th^t they possess rudimental
muscles and nerves ; and this that each one has each and all the
parts and organs of the future being 1 Morton's Anatomy, prob-
ably the best extant for popular use, describes them thus : —
" Multitudes of minute filamentary bodies, called seminal animal-
cules, are closely crowded together, and in the very recent state present-
ing great activity in their motions. So great is their number that, at first
THE MALE STRUCTTURE : ITS PARTS AND THEIR USES.
713
sight, the seminal fluid seems to consist of them alone ; but a close inspec-
tion discovers a simple, homogeneous fluid, the liquor seininus^ in which
they move along with minute rounded corpuscles, the seminal granules
F'g. ^H6) about -Jt^ of a line in diameter."
Fio. 582. — The Human BoNn aud Muscles as contained in Semen.
Two SUBSTANCES compose this semen: Bpennatozoa, or infinitesi-
mal life-germs, and an oleaginous liquor, obviously created to
714
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
VAL Horse.
KN££J>OINT
feed them in their passage from the male into the female; besides
furnishing a float for their conveyance ; for how else could they
possibly be carried ? because they are too minute to be handled,
and so delicate that the least touch must destroy them. They
are too small to be seen by the naked eye, and have long, taper-
ing tails, which, lashing back and forth, propels them forward in
this semi-fluid.
The ENTIRE ORGANIC MACHINERY of life is thus Created in embryo,
and each organ located, relatively to all the other organs, before
they leave the laboratory of the father! Think what motive
wonders man can perform ! And then think that all the organic
structures for achieving all these marvels is embodied in a seminal
mote so inconceivably small that it must be magnified thousands
The Kudimental ^^ times in order to be seen ! If its future
Bones of the Extra body is thus infinitesimal, how much smaller
Legs of the Prime- "^ . i ^ • i ^
must be each of its organs, as heart, bones,
muscular and nervous filaments ! . It feeds.
How else could it grow ? Why otherwise its
mouth, which we can see f Of what use any
part, without all its other parts ? Behold all
its future bodily organs made and located in
every life-germ !
It hands DOWN to every son EVERY IOTA OF
EVERY SIRE, and ancestor. See in Fig. 582, a
part of the organs it transmits ; each one
shaped and placed in son as in sire, with all
their minutest specialties. Look again. See
in Fig. 583 its transmission of the bones of the
extra eight legs of the original horse, as men-
tioned in^^' namely, an extra one on each side
of each knee and gambol joint. Behold on
this shin-bone of the modern horse, attached
just below the knee-pan, the joints and bones
of these primal extra legs, covered up under
the skin, and a part of one embedded in the
shin-bone ! If you question our Fig., see the
same in both shin-bones of all horses.
What creates and hands down these extra bones, unused for
myriads of ages? The life-germs of all their ancestral fathers,
from them back to the Adam horse of all. Omitted in no sinojle
FOOT JOINT
Fig. 583. — Shin-
Hone OF A Horse.
(Hind Side.)
THE MALE STBUCTURE : IT8 PARTS AND THEIR USES. 716
descendant of this infinite line! And this principle applies to
all the other parts of all other creatures, vegetable productions
included, as well as to every human being ever born! This
shows how perfect is the sympathy existing between this organ
and all the life organs and functions.
Their having a body presupposes an accompanying mentality
to use it. Motion originates from a mental Faculty, ^^ ^' and
their having this motive Faculty presupposes their possessing all
the other Faculties of the future being. Nothing is superadded
after their paternal creation. Just think what they achieve!
Recount all you have done, felt, enjoyed, sufl'ered, &c., from birth
till now! And yet you could undoubtedly have done and been
one hundred times more, if all your latent capacities and virtues
had been fully developed. That cold, that dose of calomel, that
strain or exposure, took out half your functional power for the
balance of your existence. And 0! how many of these injuries!
but for which your capacities would have surpassed your present
as a hundred to one ! Webster's Faculty of thought and reason,
by which he swayed senates and moulded nations, along with
his lust, his generosity, &c., were in that paternal spermatozoon
which Nature employed in his creation ; as were Washington's
greatness, goodness, and patriotism in his ; and in their relative
proportions of each ; as also that element which fights battles,
remembers, imagines, worships, loves, all the mental machinery;
whatever elements and specialties are derived from the father ;
with certainly one hundred times more than is manifested, to
ofiset subsequent deteriorations. But
Its eternity is its wonder of wonders. Immortality inheres
in its primal nature,^^* and enhances all its powers to enjoy and
accomplish when, ripened by time, it drops this mortal coil, far
beyond all mortal power to conceive. Great God ! What won-
ders hast Thou wrought out by means of this infinitesimal life^
messenger ! All Thy " wondrous works " are tmnscended, almost
dwarfed, by this!
826. — The Testicles : Their Office, Structure, Effects, Ac.
This semen must have its manufactory and starting-point.
Nature allots a specific organ to every function, and each func-
tion to its organ; so that life must originate in some owe, and
this its own specific organ. The male testicles constitute this
716
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
Globus major.
life-germinating organism. To originate life, and transmit what-
ever the male transmits, is its sacred mission. Is life itself pre-
cious, and is not this holy temple which creates and sends it
forth equally so ? Eyes are no more precious ; for it creates
them. Ko wonder the Bible condemns so terribly all who "in-
jure a man in his stones." Enraged dogs try to bite there.
Squirrels attack each other there. Emasculation is among the
worst of crimes. What are these organs worth to their posses-
sors, and products ? ^^' ^""^ your father's to you f What is the
relative value of good over poor ?
They are located at the lower part of the male body, and in
animals, inferiorly and posteriorly ; and always created in pairs,
like eyes, ears, hands, feet, legs, and arms, hemispheres of the
body, &c. ; so that if either is disabled the other can still create
semen ; and exactly analogous to male and female.
They embody the
QUINTESSENCE of mate-
rial manhood. What-
ever is manly in form,
bearing, voice, intellect
and morals, emanates
from them, is impaired
by their impairment,
improved by their im-
provement, almost ex-
Media^tmm. tinguished by their
early extraction, and
governed by their ex-
isting states ; and hence
their name, testes, be-'
cause they are the
touchstones of the
Globus minor, man ; SO that, in prac-
FiG. 584.— Structure of the Testes and Ducts. ^^^^^ value, they are
priceless, and inferior
to nothing in man but brain. Their possessors should be as
choice of them as of the apple of their eye, almost worship them;
in which wives may well join. Be correspondingly careful not
to injure them by wrong usage. Benumbing or impairing them
Tunica vaginalis
Tunica albuginea
Its septa.
Spermatic
'artery.
l_Vas
deferens.
Vasa
efferentia.
Body of
epididymis.
aberrans.
V((sa recta.
Right testis.
THE MALE STRUCTURE: ITS PARTS AND THEIR USES. 717
by self-abuse, overtaxation, lust, &c., how foolish, how wicked,
and 0, what a loss! Their improvement how infinitely desirable?
TiiEY ARE COMPOSED OF LOBULES, or glauds, or chambers, number-
ing from two to four hundred, depending on the sexual vigor,
uid well represented in Fig. 584, along with concomitant and
co-working organs. , Each is over an inch long, nearly an inch
wide, about half an inch thick, shaped quite like a bean, and
weighs six to eight drachms, the left the largest ; as is its hollow
in the left thigh, signifying that this structure should be worn
or carried mainly in the left groin.
Each gland is conical, with its apex pointing inward, con-
tained in a vascular process, and surrounded by a tape-like cord,
some sixteen feet long, in all over a mile, so folded or wound
back and forth upon and around it as to constitute both a sheath
to protect it, and a duct to carry its seminal life-germs along till
all merge into some twenty principal ducts, formed on their inner
side, next the body, which become straight, and hence are called
rttz mucosa, ascend to its upper edge, and empty into and form the
Epididymis, meaning "upon the testes," which now descends
along down the back of each, collecting all the semen, and form-
ing the vas deferens; a carrying duct as crooked as the Upper
Missouri, obviously for the same reason that the intestines, blood-
vessels, brain lobes, &c., are folded, namely, to compact the greatest
amount of function into the shortest possible space. They become
tlie harder as they are the more vigorous, and the softer the less.
IIow complicated this machinery, to execute a function bow
complex ?
The Scrotum protects these delicate twin-brothers, into which
they descend usually before birth. It is composed of three
investing tunics; 1. The Tunica vaginalis, a skin-like pouch of
serous membrane forming a half-shut sack, attached to the
scrotum ; and investing both testes and epididymis, besides
uniting them ; 2. The Tunica alhuginca, dense, having white
fibrous bundles interlacing in all directions, which enable it to
Hcjueeze the testicle,**^ and in doing so form its corrugated ridges
and hollows; and 8. The Tunica vasculosa ; all three of which,
with its shape in place, are well represented in Fig. 586.
. It has more arteries and veins in proportion to size than
liny other part of the body ; because it executes a function cor-
respondingly condensed.
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THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONR
parietal laytr
The dartos is a thin layer of loose reddish tissue, contractile,
rery vascular, fibrous, surrounding the scrotum, and uniting it
to the thighs, groins, and penis, and has a meridian septum,
which divides it into two half sacks, one for each testis. Its
furrows and ridges are the deeper and more contractile the more
vigorous a male its possessor. Passion deepens these corruga-
tions, and thereby contractile
power; waves of passion creat-
ing wavy, crawling motions in
the scrotum, which contracts on
these testicles something as the
gizzard of fowls does on its con-
tents ; thereby greatly promot-
ing their action by pressure.^^
Testal weakness relaxes, and
vigor contracts this scrotum ; the
latter drawing and keeping the
testicles close up to the body,
while the former leaves them
loose, dangling, sagging, and
hanging down the lower as they
are the weaker; which is to the
male precisely what falling of the
Fig. 585.— Testes and Epididymis womb is to the female. This
IN SITU, AND Tunica Vaginalis laid pendency often leaves them in
the way, liable^ to be hurt, en-
tangled in the pants, and necessitates wearing a sack, which Part
IX. tells how to remedy. Several imjDortant results are eftected by
this scrotal arrangement promotive of parental pleasure, progenal
endowment, and testal restoration. Thus much of their structure.
827. — Female Magnetism creates Testal Action, and Semen.
Something must stimulate them to act. As muscles, eyes,
brain, &c., would remain inert, without something to provoke
them to act; and as good machinery remains motionless without
motive power, so these testal organs would merely live, as dc
eyes during sleep, yet manufacture no semen, unless and until
stimulated to act by their natural incentive.
Female magnetism is their normal stimulant, especially as
manifested in passion. As muscles, however strong, act only
THE MALE STRUCTURE: ITS PARTS ^ND THEIR USES. 719
when and as the mind commands ; as eyes remain inert except
when light stimulates them to act; and thus of stomach, ears,
all other organs; so these testal organs manufacture semen only
when their natural incentive to action provokes it. Female pas-
sion is this their inspirer. Exercising pure Platonic aifection
creates no semen.®** Only their animal action does this. Listen-
ing to splendid female voices, music, talking, &c., viewing female
]>ainting8 and statuary, &c., admiring the female virtues, com-
muning with superbly sexed females awakens testal action in ad-
miring men, but creates no semen; yet female passion instantly
starts that animal action which creates it, as does also imagin-
ing it. And they are adapted to remain quiescent till thus ^n-
spired.**'^ In short, as it were, two kinds.
Physical and mental semen, exist — mental created by female
mental virtues and charms, and physical by her female magnetism
passionally expressed or imagined ; the former expending itself
in gallantry, Love, &c. ; the latter in coition, with imagination
creating either or both these phases of action, as it is either or
both. This distinction is important. We soon show how this
magnetic stimulus is applied.^
828. — How Semen is vivified, and transferred to the Female.
The transfer of life-germs from their paternal originator to
their maternal receptacle now becomes necessary. How eftected?
Fio. oSf).— Appearance of the Fig. 687. — Appearance op the
Seminal Granules. Seminal Liquor.
By creating and floating them in a fluid called the seminal
liquor, along with granules, illustrated in Figs. 586 and 587. Only
by floating could they possibly be thus transferred. The least
abrasion would disarrange their gelatinous organism, only to de-
•rm all through life. But this float, in pressing equally on ali
sides of eiich, is proi>6lled out of him into her, and they alon«:
with it, just as polliwigs are carried along in and by running
water. How necessary this end! how simple yet efficacioup tli«'
floating means !
720
These testicles create life-germs while close by the female
aperture for their reception, or chiefly during coition.®^ Then
why not float them directly from their testal manufactory to their
vaginal destination? Because
They must be vivified by another liquid, called
The vesicul^ seminales, manufactured by a couple of glands
located on the male bladder. Before these life-germs receive this
they show no signs of life ; but the moment it is emptied into
their float they start suddenly into the most violent darting and
rushing motions, by lashing that long tail
seen in Fig. 581 back and forth, and creating
that motion mentioned by Morton ;^^ probably
greatly accelerated by being ushered from a
warm paternal to a cold external place. This
cold is almost instantly fatal, and by all means
to be, and is, prevented by their being rushed
from him to her under cover, and without
aerial contact. Fig. 588 represents these life-
germs thus darting and rushing in all direc-
tions, after having been quickened by this
vivifying liquor ; which is probably their soup-
FiG. 588. — The Sper- like food and stimulant.
MATOZOA DARTING. m j.T_ 1, 1
These vivifying glands spread on the back
of the bladder ; and are well represented in Fig. 589. They open
and empty into these seminal ducts ; so that all the semen is
served with this vivifying liquor.
What provokes these glands to act and create this liquor?
The flowing of the semen over the bladder. This seminal transit
awakes their action just as light does optic, and passion sexual.
This shows how bladder diseases, including those of the
kidneys, are caused by excessive and too frequent seminal ex-
cretion; namely, by overtaxing these vesicles, which inflames
them, as does all excessive action its organs ; and this inflames
the bladder, which causes gravel, and other urinary and kidney
difficulties. Of their cure in Part IX.
A duct, extending from the testicles to the end of this penal
depositor, thus becomes absolutely essential ; in and by which to
efl^ect this transfer, and receive this vivifying liquor. Trace it
in Fig. 584 from the epididymis as it ascends. It is called
The vas deferens, or great duct ascending through the ingui-
THE MALE STRUCTTURE : ITS PARTS AND THEIR USES.
721
nal ring, situated at the lower and lateral part of the pelvis, in
the groins, where rupture puts in its appearance. This semen
must be floated up into the male abdomen, rise above the bladder,
and be carried around behind and under it in order to obtain this
indispensable vivificator, along with another lubricating excre-
tion from the prostate gland.
Bom of Bladder.
Vat deferens
dissected.
Ureter,
Line of reflection
of peritoneum.
Vesic. seminal es
unravelled dud.
Triangular space.
VesiculcB seminales
duct.
Right tjacukUory duct:
Prostate gland.
Fig. 689.
Ure^ra.
The Prostate Gland, Bladder, and Vesicul^ Seminales.
The vas deferens is rendered contractile by muscles running
obliquely around it, which by contracting propel this liquor,
freighted with its life-germ contents, along through this duct and
empties it into the urethra. This shows why venereal poison
causes pain and livid redness in the groins, and gives its victims
a peculiar walk. Women, learn to diagnose it, that you may
tell them NO. This spoils any man's walk.
Varicose epididymis and vas deferens are formed and caused,
as are varicose veins, by over-taxation, in being obliged to trans-
port more semen than their exhausted state will endure and its
lodgment along this duct. See their cure in Part IX.
829. — Thb Pbnis: Its Office and Structure: Illustrated.
The deposit of these seminal life-germs naturally follows their
vivitication. We have traced them from their testal laboratory
46
722 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
up into the male body, above and around the bladder, till, gal-
vanized with life, they are all ready for ejection from their
father into their mother. Of fhis the penis is the instrument,
and to it perfectly adapted. Mark what it has to do. Ejecting
them from their father's loins is not difficult, but injecting them
into their mother's, is. Their womb receptacle cannot be on
her outside, lest a thousand unavoidable contacts dislocalize all
their delicate organic structure, and mix up, their still gelatinous
organs, only to render them deformed all through life ; and grow-
ing worse with age. This protection necessarily requires their
indosure loithin the mother's body, ^ov must this receptacle come
to her surface, lest one foreign substance or another now or then,
during gestation, should get into this womb tabernacle, only to
damage or destroy their organism. This requires that it be in-
serted a considerable distance internally ; and it is. Yet this
necessitates some germ-planting instrument to carry and deposit
them at the vestibule of their womb domicile.
The penal structure efiects this transfer, and deposit.
Its rigidity thus becomes absolutely necessary. Serious obsta-
cles are to be surmounted. Intervening bowels, &c., must be set
aside. Its vaginal tubular canal must be entered and forced open.
All impediments must be thrust aside like cobwebs, whilst these
seeds of life are being planted just where JSTature wants them.
All this imperiously demands a great amount of penal rigidity ;
without which life could never be begotten.
If created sufficiently rigid, elongated, and rightly directed
to fulfil its seed-planting mission, it must be always directly in
the way, in walking, working, sitting, everything ; besides being
liable to be benumbed, despoiled, broken, crushed, any hour of
any day from birth to death ; besides the blunting by abrasion of
its delicate susceptibility indispensable to its office. ]N'o; its per-
petual rigidity would never do ; as its consequent injury would
preclude its function. Ilow is this serious difficulty overcome?
By its erection just when, but only when, its life-initiating
function is needed. Love effects this temporary rigidity .^^^
How? Thus: by
Its length corresponding to that of the vaginal tube, at the
farther end of which its seminal deposit must be lodged. Yet
IN'ature's law of jjroportioning all parts of every thing to all its
other parts,*^ renders this organ, as also its vaginal female coun-
THE MALE STRUCTURE: ITS PARTS AND THEIR USES. 723
terpart, the longer the taller its possessor ; and vice versd. This
same law also governs its size ; except when it is stunted by its
abuse or disuse. These conditions vary its length, when erect,
to from six to ten inches — that of the notorious pirate Gibbs,
injected after death, exceeding ten.
It CONSISTS OF TWO CONES, a am Fig. 590, called corpora caver-
nosa, resembling two cigars cut off at both ends, placed side by
side, and full of blood caverns, quite like
a sponge; into which passion pumps and
holds blood, just while it is planting
these life-germs ; after which it opens
its sanguineous flood-gates to let it pass
off. The ancients worshipped this erec-
tile function by deifying Pirapus, and
erecting statues representing this struc-
ture everywhere, so that no female could F'o. 590.— Structure of thk
11 1 J 'i-i, i. i.' J.1 />( Ck)RPORA Cavernosa.
walk abroad without meeti ng them. Com-
plete masculinity renders this rigidity remarkably firm and hard ;
while impotency consists in its laxity and softness.
Erectile muscles pump and keep this blood in these caverns :
and are located at its back and lower end. The interior penal
blood-vessels are large, and outer very small ; because their greater
sensation and function require more sustaining nutrition.
The penis is composed of three principal parts, those corpora
cavernosa just described, the urethra, and the penal gland ; that
part between its root and gland being called its "body." Itself
and these component parts are well represented in Fig. 591, which
describes itself; besides showing the ^relative position of the blad-
der, prostate gland, urethra, and penal gland. It consists in its
corix)ra cavernosa, which form the chief part of its body. Their
being long cylinders, placed side by side, of course leaves two
long creases or hollows, — one above for blood-vessels and nerves,
aud the other below, c in Fig. 590, for the urethra b.
830. — Structures of the Urethra, and Prostate Gland.
The urethra is but the continuation of the vas deferens^ each
beginning where the other ends; and fu rnishes a necessjiry sluice-
way or duct, without which all else must be nugatory, for the
onward tmnsit passage of these life-germs. It also must be
erectile, else pressure would kill every life-germ in its pass;ige ;
724
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
Interior of
bladder.
and likewise as free as possible from contact, which must be
great at best. Hence it runs along this under groove where the
contact is least. And the more passion the greater the contact
on the wpper side, where are those nerves and blood-vessels
which act best with con-
tact, but the less on the
lower, which allows the
Ureter.^ §ill„, ^, A^\l /I semen to pass on unob-
structed by external pres-
sure. But that all its con-
trivances are equally di-
vine, we would stop to
show how divine is this
one. It is rendered very
firm by passion, which
Orifices of ure
ters.
Prostate gland.
Prostatic p.
Ccioper's gland.
p. bulbous.
Onis penis.
Orifices of ducts
of Cowper's
glands.
Septum of cor-
pus caverno-
sum.
Urethra.
Spongy portion.
Glans penis,
Orifices of
ureters.
Trigone.
Verumontanum
Membranous.
Prostate gland.
forms the open cylindrical
aperture at c, in Fig. 590,
which receives the semen
from behind the bladder,
and extends to the penal
extremity, where it ter-
minates in an opening.
The semen is propelled
along through it by trans-
verse muscles, lying ob-
Corpus spongi- liquely, a layer on each
side, meeting above and
below, so that their con-
traction compresses the
urethra* from behind for-
ward, something like swal-
lowing, which, in a vigor-
ous male, drives it with
an amount of momentum
greater or less in propor-
tion as his muscles are the stronger or weaker. This is one
reason why women love men the better their muscles.
The PROSTATE GLAND, named from its standing before the blad-
der, is located in the lowest part of the body, and between the
osum.
Corpus caver-
nQSum.
Glans penis.
Meatus. Fossa nuvicularis.
Fig. 591. — Interior Penal Structure.
THE MALE 8TBUCTURE : ITS PABT8 AND THEIR USES. 726
upper part of the thighs where they join the body ; as seen in
Figs. 589 and 592. The urethra passes through a slit in it.
It is composed of glands chiefly, ducts from which open into
the urethra ; into which these glands pour their oi<ly substance,
to create which is its chief oflice. They act most at the very
beginning of passional excitement, because their lubricating
product must precede the beginning of intercourse, so as to
prevent its friction from abrading these delicate structures of
both.
It swells in men who have previously overtaxed it ; thus
arresting that excessive coition which injured it ; and in elderly
men often becomes troublesome, and sometimes even fatal.
881. — The Penal Gland, Foreskin, &c. ; what they are, and do.
The penal gland or bulb constitutes its anterior terminus.
The urethra enters it on its upper side, and both end in an elon-
gated orifice or slit, and in the middle of this gland, through
which semen and urine escape. Sexual virus sometimes con-
sumes the mucous membrane lining this slit, so that in healing,
its two sides ^ow togetha^ which obliges the urine to pass out at
two or more orifices, and of course in two streams. Its exit by
one round, full jet is a good sign ; by two or more smaller streams
a sign of its previous injury by virus or something else.
This penal bi^lb is larger than the penis; becomes unduly
enlarged by excessive action ; is elastic like india-rubber ; has a
circular ridge around its base, with a sudden shrinkage or offset
where it joins the penis ; a ruffled septum on its under surface to
prevent its turning up; and is very much enlarged by erection,
yet very variable in size in different persons. Its being extra
small indicates shrinkage from incapacity, and exccKsively large,
a tumidity and jKjrmanent swelling unfavorable to its efficiency.
Its opening is called meatus.
Its nervous filaments are wonderfully abundant; which ren-
ders it most sensitive to pleasure and pain, and link it in with
the whole nervous system in mutual sympathy .****
Drawing the semen forward is its obvious function. Mark
these experimental proofs. 1. Press your two longest fingers
firmly upon the penal root, back of the testes, so that they can
feel all its motions ; every touch of this gland sends a wave right
726 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
along doicn the penis to this root, plainly felt by these fingers ;
while contraction at this root by passion sends a wave right
along up to this bulb. Kote this principle, as we shall base the
cure of prematurity on it. 2. Copulation relaxes it by fatigue,
and its excessive action makes it sore ; thus preventing further
injury ; but for which many would ruin it by excess. 3. Its
erectile swelling, with the interior hollow thus formed, draws the
semen forward by suction, and redoubles its ejectile force, which,
aided by the erectile muscles, and the spiral ones of the urethra,
suffice in perfect masculinity to cast it several feet ; thereby
promoting its passage up into the womb. Behold this additional
Divine provision for promoting impregnation !
It is covered by a cutaneous prepuce, or foreskin, chiefly to
protect it from nerve-impairing contact with rough bodies.
!N'ature must preserve its sensitiveness at any cost ; and hence
encases it in this sack, which fends off foreign abrasions. That
erection which fits it for its specific mission partly draws back
this hood-like foreskin ; which its vaginal insertion completes ;
thereby leaving it extremely sensitive by its previous covering,
now pressed back behind it.
Circumcision, " the round cut," consists in cutting off this hood ;
which leaves this bulb exposed to perpetual contact with clothes,
and other adjacent things, to the manifest blunting of its sus-
ceptibility, and consequent cohabiting enjoyment. It is the
chief seat and means of male pleasure: hencft these perpetual
abrasions must blunt its sensitiveness, to the manifest impairment
of coition. This Mosaic rite was doubtless enjoined to prevent
the lodgment of venereal virus in its pocket. Promiscuous co-
habitors will do well to be circumcised, or habitually wear this
prepuce turned back ; yet those who are in no such danger should
wear it over this gland, as ^^Tature obviously intends.
This foreskin hood continues down and encases the entire
penis, till it merges iitto the pubic integuments and scrotum, and
is very loose even during erection, which allows it to move back
and forth just as every cohabiting motion may demand. Suppose
it were drawn tight around and fastened to the penis ; its every
movement must create injurious friction between it and the
vagina, destructive to female pleasure ; which this loose sack
obviates.
THE MALE 8TBUCTURE : ITS PARTS AND THEIR USES.
727
832. — Collective Position and Action of all these Parts.
All parts must act together. These life-germs must be
urged right on to their maternal destination as soon as created,
or else die in their, transit. The non-action of any one of these
parts would annul that of all the others by preventing life.
Thus suppose the semen should pass the mouths of its vivifying
glands without their creating and furnishing it their fluid, they
Fro. 692.— Vkbtical Section op Bladder, Testicle, Penb, IJRETm^ i»c.
would remain inert, and could not effect conception. Or if th«
prostate gland failed to act, or acted prematurely, its necessary
lubrication would thus be rendered impossible ; and so if the
penis, or its urethra, or bulb, failed to act just when their con-
joint action is demanded. How are they harnessed and made to
work together f
That female magnetism which starts testal action to create
semen,*^ compels this conjoint action of each and all necewary
75^8 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
to complete this creative process. Hence, arresting either, as by
withdrawals,^^® dams up, injures, and congests all. Either not
begin, or else complete, and accept results.
Their juxtaposition is well illustrated in Fig. 592.
Behold that masculine machinery by means of which thy
father initiated thy eternal existence! How wonderfully adapted
each part separately, much more all collectively, to that wonder
of wonders, the creation of life? By all that is sacred abuse it
not ; but cherish and " reserve it for its natural use 1 "
All this is only half of Nature's sexual wonders; and use-
less without its feminine counterpart ; to which all parts of each
structure are precisely adapted.
Section II.
THE FEMALE ORGANS: THEIR FUNCTIONS, IMPREGNATION, ETC.
833. — Office, Sacredness, &c., of Womb and Woman.
Some place in which to be, transitory or permanent, is as indis-
pensable a condition of material existence as magnitude or form.
Nothing can be without being somewhere. The life-germ must
necessarily have some workshop in which to form all its delicate
organs, some domiciliary tabernacle for the reception and forma-
tion of this sacred guest. Let us see its needs, and their
supply.
It requires absolute protection and warmth; for the least
abrasion must displace its organic nuclei, and thereby despoil
their after-workings. It must be in a sack which can hold that
seminal liquor in which it is floated from fa,ther to mother, be
kept warm, and at just 98° degrees of temperature, and therefore
removed just as far internally as possible from its mother's sur-
face, lest those temperamental changes, often thirty degrees in
^YQ hours and forty in twenty-four, give it a cold, and destroy
its life. Colds are always disastrous, and often fatal to adult
life ; then how much more to germinal?
Her womb is expressly prearranged for this reception. All
her other organs are busy, and none are adapted to this delicate
task.
ETC. 729
It must have a formative laboratory in which to construct its
organs for life-long use. Its present organism is both too infini-
tesimal and rudimental to enable it to accomplish and enjoy. It
possesses only hastily thrown together organic nuclei ; and is quite
like a house-builder with a plan but no materials, only workmen to
find and tit them. That is; it consists chiefly of mmtal FacaUies^
which find the materials, appropriate them, and fashion just such
an organism as its soul-instincts require for their manifesta-
tions.^*
This machinery must be most exquisite and perfect. Its organs
and their functions must be alike. Its functions are to be infi-
nitely diversified and delicate, and therefore organic machinery
ef^ually so. Think how many functions you have already exer-
cised ; and how many more and various your organs are able
to execute. Yet it was capable of putting forth from fifty to a
hundred times more^ if its inherent executive capacities had been
completely developed, and no injuries inflicted. Just see and think
what functional intensity and power children often evince —
motive, memorative, emotional, intellectual — before their organ-
isms become injured and seared. None of us at all dream of the
almost infinite functional capacity inherent in us all. It exceeds
conception. Its organic construction must be sufiiciently ex-
quisite and complicated to execute all this, and much more. This
requires that its workshop shall be commensurately elaborate;
just as must a factory for making nice goods over common. It
must also be both fed, and supplied with all the variegated ma-
terials required for its growth. Behold what is to be done !
Its mother's womb is this formative tabernacle, and proportion-
ally elaborate and delicate. All this is not all, not half. A work
far greater remains.
Its mother's nature, organic and mental, must be incorporated
right in with its spirit principle and organic structure. How
is all this addenda effected? Great God! what can achieve
all this?
The womb, aided by its handmaid appendages. It is the central
female organ as such ; and gives woman by far her commonest and
most appropriate name — Womb-man — that most expressive of
all Saxon words; its first syllable designating that fountain from
which gush forth whatever qualities appertain to the entire female
8ex as such. We confess our decided partiality for this good old
730 • THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
Saxon word woman, in preference to lady ; because the formei-
expresses whatever characterizes the female sex as such; while
lady applies mainly to feminine position, artificialities, style, cul-
ture, accomplishments, and outside appearances.'^^
How DEAR are the memories, how tender the ties and associa-
tions, of childhood ! Then how much nearer and dearer should
be those of this our first earthly domicile ! Witliin its concen-
trated walls we began to be ! It is the vestibule of all life.
Whatever is sacred and holy in mother, originates in it. But
for it not one living being or thing could exist. The sun might
indeed have shone, and water run, and wind blown, but all in
vain; because no vestige of life could enjoy them. It is Nature's
laboratory for making and starting all this wonderful bodily
machinery. "Alost holy" is this divine institution of womb.
What sacrilege to prostitute it to any unhallowed indulgences !
If man or woman might nurture or prize anything in this life,
it should be this centre of female life, this source from which
emanates whatever is feminine, lovable, and loving. Every iota
of female beauty comes from it. When it is impaired, all her
beauties of form, complexion, face, bust, limbs, pelvis, &c., de-
cline.'^® She justly sets all the world by her personal charms^
graces, and accomplishments ; this is their only organic source.^"
834. — Description and Office of the Womb: Illustrated.
Its construction is precisely adapted to subserve these domicil-
iary, warming, and nutritive ends for which it was created. In
its natural state it resembles a flattened pear, with its largest part,
called fundus, upwards. It measures about three inches in length
and two in breadth, is about one inch thick, and weighs from an
ounce to an ounce and a half; which pregnancy increases to two
and even three pounds, and menstruation renders larger, softer,
rounder, darker, enlarged at its mouth, swollen at its labia, thick-
ened in its lining membranes, and thereby all prepared for receiv-
ing the germs of life ; all obviously consequent on that increased
womb action which greatly augments her " desire " for coition.
Fig. 593, which explains itself, faithfully represents its form an(?
general appearance, along with most of its connecting organs or
handmaids.
It is located inside of her body some six inches ; protected
in its rear by her spinal column, on each side by her projecting
THE FEMALE ORGANS: THEIR FUNCTIONS, ETC.
731
hips, and in front by her eyes and hands, and covered anteriorly
by her flexible abdominal muscles, which allow its gradual expan-
sion and contraction as her growing child demands the former,
and its birth the latter — a position how perfectly^ adapted to
lier and its exact requirements; besides thus aiding its carriage
far better than if placed anywhere else.
It is composed of three coats, an external serous, middle mus-
cular, and internal mucous. Its external keeps it by itself, sep-
arate from all adjoining organs, among which it is thus enabled
to slide and move, without adhering to any.
Its muscular layers constitute its chief part; form its walls;
give it most of its bulk and firmness ; aid in sustaining and car-
rying its precious contents around; gently press against it on all
sides ; and chiefly expel it at its birth, aided by the abdominal
Fundus.
Uterus body. .^
.FcMopian Tube
Brutlf passed through
Oolium abdoniinaie.
Fio. 693. — Structure op the Womb, and its ArrENPA^oBa.
muscles ; being to the life-germ somewhat as the gizzard is to its
contents. Hence, good strong muscles are of the utmost practical
vahio, especially in delivery;'^* and improving them is corre-
spondingly important. And since they are in proportion to the
rest of the muscles, cultivating them by exercise lightens it.
This rebukes the modern muscular inertia of ladies, and espe-
cially of girls. Ancient maidens publicly vied with each other
in muscular feats and training.
An internal cavity, a deep sacred recess, the fci lalo savchtm
Honrtorum, is formed by these surrounding walls ; in which the
threat central female function of developing germipal life is
executed. Fig. 595 shows it to excellent advantage.
732 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
The OS uteri forms a vestibule through which the life-germs
enter within this consecrated enclosure ; else it would be useless.
It consists of an elastic structure like that of the penal gland,
but rounding inwardly to fit its outward round ; like the outside
of one cup set into another, the two matching at their juncture
so completely as to form a connected roadstead between father
and mother ; with his meatus brought by her cup-shape exactly
opposite her aperture, and her contractile uterine lips firmly clasp-
ing and pressing his penal gland. '
Its fruitlessness is sometimes consequent on the failure of
the two to join, thus leaving the semen sometimes far beyond,
or below, or above, or to the right, or left, of this opening;
the womb not having sufiicient power of suction to draw it to
this mouth; yet perhaps enough, if brought there, to draw it
in. Childless parties themselves can determine from this need
of mutual fitting whether want of it prevents conception. This
is certain, that their conjunction marvellously promotes, and
absence lessens, female pleasure ; so that an impassioned woman
will do all she can to obtain and regain it.
"Your own doctrines recommend the absence of this identical
sexual adaptation to each other here enjoined, by virtually saying, Mr.
Huge should marry Miss Petit, Mr. Long Miss Short, Mr. Gross Miss
Handful, and Mr. Handful Miss Armful ; "® that tall men and women
have long, and short short, sexual organs ; large large, small small, &c.,
and that they marry opposites ; that is, men having short with women
having long, and vice verad ; which must needs prevent their fruitfulness,
by preventing this needed mutual uterine conjugation."
" Nature obviates this apparent objection to that offsetting theory by
so constructing the ligaments of the womb as to allow it to recede or ad-
vance, whenever she experiences passion, according as the size of her
husband's organism may demand ; thus securing this fitting, despite their
sexual disparities."
835. — The Vagina : Its Uses, Structure, &c.
A roadstead from her external surface to this mouth of her
womb, becomes an absolute prerequisite to its impregnation.
This need her vagina achieves. Without it, her womb must be
forever encased, sealed up within her, and inaccessible.
It is siTtJATED in the pelvis, behind the bladder, and before the
rectum ; curves forward as it rises ; is cylindrical in shape, with its
THE FEMALE ORGANS: THEIR FUNCTIONS, ETC. 733
walls touching each other ; about four inches long on its front and
six on its back side ; smaller below and larger near the mouth of
the womb ; surrounds and clasps the os uteri to which it is firmly
attached ; concave behind, and convex before ; attached to the
rectum behind, broad ligaments above, and anal below; and
consists of three coats, an external muscular, a middle layer of
erectile tissue, which abounds the most lowest down, and an
internal mucous lining, which is continuous with the lining
mucous membrane of the womb above, and labia below. Its per-
pendicular and transverse ridges facilitate its expansion necessary
for coition and parturition ; and its mucous lining is covered with
nervous papillae, glands, and follicles, especially near its uterine
attachment : hence the pleasure experienced during its action.
Its muscular coat is composed of circular fibres running diag-
onally around it, and extending continuously with the fibres of
the womb.
Its erectile tissues are enclosed between layers of muscles ; so
that passion in woman creates her vaginal erection just as it
does penal in man; thereby redemonstrating what we have
already proved, that intercourse should take place only when it
is thus erected by passion.*^
836. — The Ovaries, Ova, Fallopian Tubes, &c. ; and their Uses.
The life-germ must be fed just as soon as deposited, or die
of starvation. This requires that its food precede it, so as to be
already on hand, awaiting its advent ; for Nature cannot forage
around for it afterwards. Nor must it get stale by long keeping;
and hence must be supplied monthly. "VVTien not wanted, no
matter, since it is not expensive ; yet it must be on call when-
ever needed. It must also be embodied, not scattered.
An ovum or egg-like sack supplies this alimentary demand ;
and consists of a nutritious pabulum precisely adapted for com-
mencing its paramountTequirement for something to eat. It has
a mouth. Here is something with which to feed it. Its having
either involves both.
These eggs must be made: this demands some place for mak,
ing them. A glandular structure called
The Ovaries creates these eggs ; are about an inch and a half
long, three-fourths of an inch wide, one-third thick, weigh from
one to two drachms, are attached above to the broad ligament, and
734 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
located in the female groin, about midway in front of the pelvic
bones. Their small size leaves a perpendicular hollow in front
of these hip bones, which their large tills out, leaving the form
flat; which is one of two of the most luscious points of the female
figure.*^ They were originally named " the female testicles," be-
cause of their structural resemblance to the male testicles; and
embody the first or second essential female element ; no defect
exceeding or excellence surpassing theirs.
Beneath their thin peritoneum lies their main substance, the
tunica albuginea^ which is dense, firm, and encloses a soft fibrous
tissue full of blood-vessels, which executes their chief function
by developing numerous small, round, transparent vesicles in
various stages of growth, called the Graafian, which develop
the ova ; and vary in size from a pin's head to a pea, and when
matured form small projections enclosed in a network of blood-
vessels.
The ovum is a small, roundish sack of food, composed chiefly
of albumen, and containing all the materials of nutrition and
growth embodied in its yolk, which is yellow, and to the life-
germ what the egg-yolk is to the chick. Its largest granules are
near its surface, and resemble fat globules. They mature in con-
tinuous succession from before puberty till the end of woman's
bearing period. Puberty enlarges the ovaries, and develops and
fits the ova for impregnation. Its chief artery is derived from
the aorta, and its nerves from the spermatic ; one branch going
to the Fallopian tube.
Each ovum has a germinal place, as shown in Fig. 594, after
Barry ; at its light spot, situated in a germinal vesicle, repre-
sented by that li^ht ring, and
Zona pdlucida. , , -. r. • i . i i
Yolk. I vq^ about -yj^ 01 an inch through, con-
Genninai ^^^^^^£S;» taiuiug a watcry fluid, with some
vesicle. v^^^MBto^^J^ prong a. , rr,, . . i
Oerminal^MMm^ granules. This spot IS near the
»pot' ^^^BJ^^ outer surface of the yolk, opaque,
^fflfi^^ yellow, finely granular, and meas-
Pjo 594 luring about 3^Vn of an inch
The Ovum, AND ITS Vital Centre, through. The ovum bursts out
of its vesicular enclosure when
mature — one, and probably several, ripening at each menstrual
period, consequent on one common sexual excitement. It muel
be and is carried into the womb, since it is formed outside of it,
THE FEMALE ORGANS: THEIR FUNCTIONS, ETC. 735
By Fallopian tubes, which receive it into its fimbriated or
finger-shaped pockets at its farther ena, and squeeze it along up-
wards and forwards, much as the meat-pipe does food, to its inner
end, which opens into the upper end of the womb. This ovum
is taken in at the outer end of these Fallopian tubes at " Bristle,''
in Fig. 593, and carried the way it runs into the womb. These
fimbriated pockets are wrongly represented in Fig. 593, as open-
ing downward, yet correctly in Fig. 595, as opening upward,
Auzoux^ the inventor of the French papier-mache manikin and
models, as good anatomical authority as any, represents them as
running down obliquely from the fundus some four inches, at an
angle of about forty-five degrees, then making a right-angled turn ;
besides twisting slightly upward and forward ; so that, the womb
itself lying obliquely, with its fundus farther forward than its
mouth, these fimbriated prongs, here represented as directed
downward, stand in his models pointing a little upicard towards
the ovaries ; so that the mere gravity of this egg causes it to slide
along down from the ovaries right into this fimbriated pocket,
standing upward to receive it. Imagine the end of this tube
bent at right angles at S. C, and twisted upwards and forwards,
which allows gravity to slide it from its ovary into this upward
opening pocket ; whence it is swallowed up into the womb, where
it remains some eight or ten days waiting for the life-germs ;
when, if none claim it, it dissolves, and escapes, making room for
its successor.
837. — The Co-operative Action of them all : How effected.
The united action of all these female organs is absolutely
indispensable; and secured in part by their juxtaposition, and
being grouped around their queen organ, the womb ; so that
that male magnetism which stimulates either to act, may rouse
all to conjoint action; the same principle eft'ecting unitarian
action in them as is employed in the male.^ Fig. 695 most
admirably illustrates this grouping, along with their position.
It represents the mons veneris, pubic bone, clitoris, Fallojnan
tube, bladder, womb, vagina, ovaries, rectum, and spine, all nii
down through their middle^ thus showing their interior formation ;
that of the womb being especially instructive, and giving their
position as they appear viewed in front, with the observer stand-
ing on their right side.
736
THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
Non-anatomical readers, we have given a clear yet concise,
and easily understood yet scientific view of both the male and
female organs, and their structures and uses. You will look
in vain for them elsewhere. One other point yet remains : —
/3acr«j».
Last Lumbar Vertebrce.
Rectum;
here covered by Peritoneum,
Uterus. A#*
Ovary .^^ Section of
"^ 'Peritoneum.
Broad'
Fig. 595.— Diaqbam of the Female Pelvis and its Oboans.
Section III.
THE MUTUAL ADAPTATIONS AND CONJOINT ACTION OF THE
TWO SEXES.
838. — The Organisms of each Counterparts of the Others'.
Reversing either gives the other. Turning the male organs
end for end, and inside out, gives the female ; and hers, the male.
Both are counterparts of each other throughout. Look at these
detailed illustrations of this general fact.
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The male testes and female ovaries are so nearly alike
structurally that the latter were first • named " the female
testicles ; " and that their functions are still more similar,
appears in the fact that each originates whatever its sex origi-
nates ; the testicles originating the life-germs, and the ovaries
their food.
The vas deferens and Fallopian tubes are exactly analogous
in structure and functions ; both being tubular, and carrying
the male life-germs and female ova from where each is made (o
where each is used. Even their ends, with their terminal struc-
tures, are also like each other, and do the same thing, viz., gather
up what each sex originates. That is : the male epididymis con-
sists of gathering up prongs ; as do also the Fallopian fimbriae.
The penis and vagina are each the converse of the other ; the
former being cylindrical outside, and the other in ; each about
the average length of the other, both slightly bending inwardly,
the outside coating of the one and inside of the other being
movable ; and a gland at the outside end of one and inside of
the other precisely alike in structure, elasticity, and erectility ;
the penal end rounding and the female hollowing ; thus precisely
fitted to each other; both having a similar aperture, the one for
ejecting the other for receiving and sucking up the life-germs ;
and both forming a continuous conduit from out of his into hers ;
and hers forming a perfect cap or hood for completely enveloping
his, while his exactly fills hers; his erection pressing his out-
wardly, and hers contracting hers inwardly ; and both thereby
pressing against each other.
Both are equally set in a like place on the body, at its lower
front part, under the same pubic bone and prominence; project the
farther forward as each is the better sexed ; give a like forward
motion to the body, each towards the other; both similarly affect-
ing the walk ; and both covered with short, crisp, flattened hairs ;
whereas all other hair is round, evinced by rolling between rubbed
fingers singly, while the sexual slide when thus rubbed. Behold
md marvel at their opposite similarities, and antagonistic unities!
Yet
This must be thus; else how could they co-operate ? Thus how
could his round and long penis outside unite with any thing but
her vagina rounded und elongated inside f And thus of their
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738 THE SEXUAL ORGANS, AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
other mutual adaptations? How else could they create life
together f •
839. — Their Mutual Friction Rouses all Parts op Both.
Nature uses appropriate tools for executing every single work
of her busy hands. For initiating life, her greatest work, sht
must needs employ her very best, most complex, ingenious, and
efficient instruments. Part II. shows why and how Love, her
great transmitting machine, rouses every part of body and mind,
ready to be transmitted ; and Part VI. that and how it is linked
to the sexual organs,'^^ and to cohabitation, its transfer employee.
One more coupling link remains, viz., that by which copulation
itself summons every iota of body and mind to this transfer altar.
How, by what all-efficacious means does she effect this last and
most important transfer object ? By instituting an absolutely
Perfect mutual sympathy between the sexual organs and
nervous system.^2
Rubbing any two things together, as sticks, stones, irons,
hands, generates heat, and often ignites. Car-axles soon get hot
and soft. A launching ship sometimes sets its ways on fire. Strik-
ing flint against steel creates sparks. Rubbing hands, feet, any
part, warms them ; and all involuntarily rub any cold places to
warm them. The friction of certain things generates electricity.
Some by rubbing carpet with shod feet can charge themselves
sufficiently to light gas with a spark from the end of their finger.
Stroking pussy's back in cold weather creates electric sparks; as
does drawing off woollen undergarments from healthy persons
briskly in right cold weather. Friction marvellously increases
sensation. Now
Cohabitation consists in applying this law of friction, as creat-
ing electricity, to promoting action in the nervous system by fric-
tion applied to the sexual organs of both. Behold these consecu-
tive facts as applied to it :
1. Love is interwoven with the entire being. Part II.
2. It is also intertwined with the sexual organs.^^
3. So ARE these sexual organs with the nervous system.^^^
4. Cohabitation rouses this system by its Friction. IIow'j
Fig. 596 represents the superficial nervous network, and 597 the
dorsal nerves. See its connection at the cerebellum with the
organ of Love. Imagine from this the entire nervous system as
THE MUTUAL ADAPTATIONS, ETC.
739
ramifying itself over every part of the body ; and each nervous
fthred as consisting of a sheath of nerve with a central pith
filled with a gelatinous pulp. Re-read its structure in**^ Touch
ing this pulp at any one point jars,
moves, undulates every nerve through-
out. Touching any papilla affects
• very shred and fibre of the system.
Any nervous quiver quivers every
nerve, and gives pleasure or pain, as
this touch is beneficial or injurious.
Sexual friction in cohabitation
thus agitates, oscillates, quivers, thrills
the sexual nerves, and they the entire
Fio. 596. — Papilla op the Skin.
After Gerbeb.
Fig. 697.— The Nervous Symbm.
I
nervous system. Tnis shows how^ by what means, cohabitation
summons to the creative altar every single physical and mental
{>ower of mnn !
840. — Pressure as pro.motinq Coition and Generation.
The law that pressure on all organs promotes their action,
and is indispensable thereto, has escaped notice. Pressing the
muscles of feet, loins, Ac, almost doubles their efficiency. Ask
Minasts, tight-rope dancers, walkists, &c. Only pressure upon
l»rain and nerves gives them action. The mind acts by blood
pressing the gelatine of the brain up tight against the skull,
thus promoting its oscillation or undulation ; which gives mental
740 THE SEXUAL ORGANS AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
action. All pressure upon the nerves gives action, pleasurable
or painful according as this touch is beneficial or injurious. All
sensation is caused by it. Only pressure gives audition, and
probably sight. See this demonstrated as a law in Fowler's
Journal, lN"o". 1.
Cohabitation consists in pressure chiefly ; while pressure
gives it its pleasure ; and the more pressure the more pleasurable
and potential it is.
Pressure begins, continues, and consummates coition through-
out. The female ma2:netism contracts the scrotum into ridirc?',
which squeezes the testal organs. There never is or can be an}'^
male sexual action without this contraction of the dartos on the
testicles. And any and all pressure of them by hand or otherwise,
and doubly feminine, invariably promotes passion ; as all can
attest in all experiments. And in a perfect conjunction they are
pressed the more snugly the greater their passion by and between
the bodies of both. Mark why. The creation of semen, abun-
dant and vigorous, is the first, greatest, most essential sine-qua-
non step in reproduction ; and to be absolutely pre-provided for
by securing testal action. This is. done by female magnetism,
which their contact with woman, and tenfold with her sexual
organism in a perfect conjunctive position, effects by pressing
them between both. And she naturally gently presses them by
hand.
Pressure alone carries forward both semen and ovum to their
respective destinations, and the penal structure is pressed the
harder, as passion renders it the more rigid, against the walls of
the vagina ; which returns this pressure by her passion contract-
ing the vaginal walls upon it by shortening those circular muscles
which mainly compose it. And in a perfect conjunction both.
The penal gland and os uteri press against each other the more
firmly as their passion is the greater; and most of all at its climax.
This mutual pressure is what gives mutual pleasure, and want of
it, dissatisfaction. No man can enjoy any woman whose vagina
is lax, open, flaccid ; nor woman man who is partially impotent ;
that is, lacks rigidity, or fails to press against hers. We have
shown the need of participancy,^^ that Love gives potency,
and that a passive embrace is necessarily insipid. This pressure
theory shows why ; namely, her Love alone contracts her vagina,
which gives him pleasure, alone gives him that rigidity which
presses against her organs and gives her pleasure, alone endows.
I
ETC. 741
This pressure principle embodies a volume of practical in-
Btruction, and explains and coincides with hosts of cohabiting
facts, otherwise inexplicable. In point of practical utility it has
tio equal ; nor in those child-endowing lessons it teaches. Its
promotion thus becomes immeasurably important, as does that
muscular vigor which gives it.
841. — The Pathic, Indian, and other Positions.
Relieving weakly women from sustaining: a hcavv husband's
weight, required by her usual recumbent dorsal position, is im-
jK)rtant ; though this law of pressure renders it agreeable to some
strong ones. Complete access is the great requisite, and testal
pressure the next; both of which this position impedes, and the
Pathic and Indian promote.
A PAINTING, in a museum now burned, apparently of a woman
of twenty-three, round favored, rosy, flushed, looking pleasantly
towards the observer, kneeling and sitting back between her heels,
with her dress spread like an open umbrella, yet was that of a
Pathic practising his art, large boned and muscled, powerful,
lying on his back, with his bald head towards the spectator, yet
just quartering enough to show his profile, darkish-blue com-
plexioncd,*^ beneath and facing her; thereby giving both access
and pressure just where required; and particularly when either
or both are fat ; besides showing how feeble wives may escape
their avoirdupois husband's ponderosity.
Western sensualists say Indians always unite on their sides.
Combining the two is best, and perfect.
Female dresses open below grew out of and are adapted to
this Pathic position. Women were their sexual chattels, subject
to any man's call at all times ; and hence wore dresses open
below to accommodate this demand and posture.
842. — Nature's Means and Mode op Effecting Conception.
This last act in this life-initiating drama consists in bringing
together these male and female elements, with their means and
mode of conjunction. We have followed the life-germ from its
testal factory up, down, around, and forward, through, and out
of its father's loins into its mother's, and to the sacred vestibule
uf her womb tabernacle ; yet separated by its walls, one with-
out, the other within. How arc they brought together? What
742 THE SEXUAL ORGANS AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
ushers it up in? Its penal depositor must in all cases be ex^
eluded from the womb, lest it break the bones and disarrange
the organs of a prior conception. Since it cannot be handled,
it must therefore be drawn up into the womb. IIow ?
1. Suction is created and easily perceived in all impassioned
women ; and the stronger as she is the more passionally inspired ;
and caused by that womb and vaginal erection which enlarges
and distends them, thus making a partial vacuum which sucks it
up dynamically. It is this very suction caused by passion whicli
draws the womb downwards.*^
Second and third interviews, as seen in fowls and animals, thus
become beneficial, instead of mere dessert luxuries; the first to
deposit the fullest discharge at the womb's mouth, and after ones
to draw it up. A vigorous female generally conceives with the
first, by its doing both ; yet ^^Tature by this means makes assur-
ance doubly sure. But most moderns are too much prostrated
by the first to complete a second ; though some gross animals
achieve " a baker's dozen." The more sluggish the female organs
the more they need, yet less desire, this repetition ; which sucli
should foster. But many women claim to conceive without
any passion or pleasure ; and at least have far too little.*^ For
even their impregnation, all-provident [N'ature must, does pro-
vide, by
2. Male and female electricity drawing them together. All
life is carried on by the positive and negative electric forces
acting and reacting with and upon each other. This creates
Love, draws them together in Love's embrace, gives it its only
zest, creates semen and ova, deposits them, and finally draws both
into the womb thus : All positives and negatives attract each
other. The male is positive and female negative, and therefore
mutually attractive ; and make and are made the happier as they
are the more magnetic. Semen is positive, and at the mouth of
the womb. The ovum is negative, and either in or between the
womb or ovaries. Hence their mutual attraction draws the life-
germs into the womb in search of the egg, or if it is already in,
draws them in and up to its particular place ; both drawing each
other, and " meeting half-way." Only this one step now remains,
namely, uniting them.
Life-germs are inexpressibly active and darting in all direc-
tions by lashing their tails in their float, as seen in Fig. 688.^^*^
Era 74S
Appetite, as in all young, is their master passion. Life is one
grand tearing, rampant rush from beginning to end. Their in-
stinct is to rush forward open-mouthed, obviously after food.
Myriads of them are in every ordinary masculine discharge. "We
tell whether a woman has just had intercourse by their clinging
by their mouth to her vagina. They surround this egg^ and one
and another are darting and striking against it on all sides.
One spot in it contains the vital place shown in Fig. 594. One,
" more lucky than the rest," strikes its open mouth against this
spot, finds there its food, and electricity ; they unite, and life is
begun.
A HUMAN SOUL IS USHERED UPON THE CYCLES OF ETERNITY ! SlnCO
those conceived are immortal, are not those not? Immortality
inheres in the human soul;^^® does it then in all the life-germs
ever created ? What ! myriads of spirit existences unborn to
every one born I They certainly contain all the mental Facul-
ties.^ Does immortality inhere in them, independently of ma-
ternal food ?
Part VI. stands all solitary and alone, on its naked dignity,
its infinite utility, and its scientific originality. Praise, condemn,
practise, ignore, anything you like. If you are antagonistic,
your successors will be its appreciative and grateful practitioners.
It embodies the meat of this work. It will bear review. It gives
the marrow of this whole creative subject. It misleads on no
single point. Its doctrines will yet govern cohabitation and pa-
rentage ; for they are true to Nature. Are they not self-evident ?
Is the intercourse of the sexes the core of all else sexual ?^^ and
Love of intercourse?™* Do whatever states may exist in the
parents at the time they create life write themselves into the
inner beings of their ofi^spring?^ Does sensual Love kill spir-
itual ? and it lust ?^ Are Love and the sexual organs in sympa-
thetic rapport? and each injured or restored by the right or
wrong states of the other ?^ Does Nature require the partici-
pancy of both if either?^ Does passion, when unreciprocated,
injure,"* enrage?** Ib not conjugal disparity one chief cause of
sexual alienation and ailments?** Is man woman's sexual servant,
or woman man's?** Does female Love promote, and aversion
kill, passion?** Do or do not honey-moon excesses often extin-
guish conjugal affection by sensualizing it ?^" Docs the initiation
of life rouse every physical and mental Faculty to their highest
^44 THE SEXUAL ORGANS AND THEIR ADAPTATIONS.
pitch of healthy action ?^®*^ Does this Part expound Nature's
"ways and means" of estahlishing life?s2.5to842 jg preventing
conception by Onanism thus paralytic of Love and sexual
vigor ?^*^ If these doctrines are anything, they are everything.
They are both true, and of the last practical importance to every
sexed being. Reduced to practice, they will both establish
parental concord, and create mankind upon the highest plane of
physical power, intellectual capacity, and moral excellence. Why
have they not been embodied and presented before? Thank
Phrenology that they have at last been unfolded ; and employ and
enjoy them in treating yourself to the richest amatory feast, and
the highest sexual luxury, of which your remaining sexuality
renders you capable.
MATERNITY.
CHAPTER L
BEARING: OR ANTE-NATAL STATES AS AFFECTING POST-NATAL
CHARACTER; AND WHAT ARE BEST.
Section I.
NOURISHMENT OF THE LIFE-GERM, THE FEMALE COURSES.
843. — Everything has its Mother: Her Value.
Maternity is that vestibule through which all that lives en-
ters upon its terrestrial existence. Earth is the common mother
of all those endless forms of life within and upon her ; while all
bearing trees are the mothers of their fruits and nuts ; the pulp
or edible portion of which is to its seed what their mothers'
breasts are to animals and man ; and thus of berries, grains, bulbs,
and whatever bears. Female fowls and reptiles are the mothers
of their eggs, and fish of spawn ; their yolks being to them while
hatching, what the i)hicenta is to mammals. All horses, cattle,
sheep, dogs, lions, and beasts of all kinds, owe their existence to
this maternal instrumentality.
Motherhood is earth's holiest shrink. The relations of
mother and child have no superiors. Only when we qan count
the drops in the ocean can we duly estimate the female mission.
All who live owe to their mother a debt of eternal gratitude for
bearing, if not for nursing and caring for, them. Let us all
cling to her with filial affection ; for she is justly entitled to the
utmost love and attention we can bestow ; while all are heathen-
ish who neglect her, even if she does abuse them. When wo do our
utmost for her, we literally do nothing m comparison with what
she has done for us, in nurturing us through our germinal exist-
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746 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
ence, and thus making it possible for us to be 1 The wonder ia
that she is not literally idolized and " loved to death " by every
one of her children. Chinese filial piety is right.
The magnitude of motherhood no human mind can conceive.
What labors of man equally promote all human good, here and
hereafter ? What other conditions equally determine the fate of
individuals and masses ? How it aiFects virtue and vice, talents
and imbecility, the moral Faculties and animal propensities, we
proceed to show. What one function, throughout universal
Nature, is as important as this maternal, or seed-bearing, animal-
bearing, and child-bearing? What other does Nature take such
extra pains to secure ? To what other does the natural destiny
of every female vegetable, tree, animal, and woman point with
equal force as to this paramount function ?^ What other calam-
ity could equal their destruction ? Our race would be cut short,
and all the capacities of every one of its prospective myriads,
throughout all coming time and eternity, of enjoying and accom-
plishing, covered with the mantle of oblivion ! Not all the enco-
miums ever lavished upon woman at all equal the exaltation of
this her maternal mission. She is earth's queen who produces the
highest order of children. Voting, legislating, public speaking,
swaying the destinies of nations, all else are but baubles in com-
parison with motherhood ; because without it there could be no
nations, no anything to sway. Who will make the best mother^
and raise the finest children, is the determining question. All
else is insignificant in comparison.
Presupposing that a prospective mother has conceived, and in-
quires, with all the intensity of a mother's whole-souled devotion,
" How CAN I CARRY my unborn in the very best manner, so as to
write into its yet plastic nature all those intellectual capacities
and moral excellences God has mercifully put within my power?"
we proceed to show her.
S44. — How Germinal Life is Fed : Albumen : the Placenta.
Food is the paramount demand of every life-germ. Besides
living, it must grow many hundred million per cent, from its
mote size till it weighs several pounds. Nature can do nothing
without organs ; nor till she first makes them ; nor start this
wonderfully complex bodily machine till each organ is suffi-
ciently advanced to contribute its functional quota to the life fund.
NOURISHMENT OP THE LIFE-GERM, ETC. 747
Its ovarian yolk can feed it but a short time, much less furnish
this needed growth materials. However well it may have been
begotten, all must become nugatory unless for nine months she
supplies one constant store of food; rich, soluble, carried right
to it, and containing all the organic ingredients of bone, muscle,
nerve, and other materials. Floral, cereal, poiDixl, animal, and
human embryo, when torn from their mothers right after im-
pregnation, die at once. All maternal stalks of grains, grasses,
weeds, tubers, &c., perish by exhaustion as sooa as they finish
ripening their seeds, because their maternal mission is finished ;
while animal and human mothers live on so as to bear on ; and
give as much more nutrition than vegetable mothers as their
progeny are superior.
The life-germ must be furnished with this nutrition, for it
cannot supply itself; and by its mother, because shut in from all
others ; and with pabulum rich in organic material ; easily appro-
priated ; fluid, for solids cannot be used ; fresh, for it cannot feed
on anything decayed; and deposited in its stomach, for it cannot
go for or even eat it. ^Nature efifects all this by rendering female
blood much richer than male"* in Albumen, the main compound
out of which all organs are made, and therefore means of growth.
Surplus albumen is perpetually being created within every
female's system, by her femininity, above what she herself can
consume, and thrown into her blood. How else could it be car-
ried to her embryos ?
Maternal arteries strike her womb right opposite its mouth,
and ramify all over upon it into fine and still finer capillary
blood-vessels till, becoming infinitesimal, they flex or dip in
through it to its inner side, where they lie along side by side
with a similar network formed inside of the womb, called
The Placenta, belonging to her child, and a go-between both.
Let your right hand fingers represent the womb capillary blood-
vessels, and left those of the placenta, laying alongside of each
other; the child's placenta extracts this surplus albuminous pab-
ulum from that part of the mother's blood which passes through
her womb. This placenta peels oft' from this inside of the womb
at the child's birth, comes away after it, and hence is called " the
after-birth." It serves precisely the same purpose before the child
is born that the breasts jKirform after, and is composed in part
of glands quite like the mammary.**
748 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
This filamentary network is too fine to let the blood pass
out through either, yet it allows the albumen to pass in, and
refuse out ; hers keeping her from bleeding to death when the
placenta comes away, and its keeping its in. That strainer must
be very fine which will not let blood pass through it, while it
allows nutrition to pass in, and refuse out.
UMBILICAL CORD.
PLACENTA.
Fig. 598. — The Child, Placenta, and Umbilical Cord. Afler Auzonx.
The Umbilicus carries this albuminous aliment from mother
to child ; and also returns its excrement back to the mother. To
thus carry both ways it must be and is composed of two ducts,
called cords ; one red, because arterial to the child, and carrying
mit this aliment to it ; the other dark and venous to it, because
returning its effete blood back to its placenta. These two cords
are so intwined and twisted around each other like two twisted
strings, as to form one cord.
NOURISHMENT OF THE UFE-GERM, ETC. 749
The placenta, umbilical cord, and child at its fourth month,
iife-size, are well represented in Fig. 598, copied from a papier-
mache model by Auzoux. Only the glandular portion of the
placenta is here represented; whereas its filaments spread over
the entire inside of the womb ; which renders it concave.
Only during pregnancy is this nutritive supply required.
Then how is it always furnished at that time ?
By supplying it all the time, from puberty till the bearing
period has passed. As the ovum must be kept in waiting for any
germinal advent,®'* so must be this nutrition ; else many a life-
germ must starve to death ; which would be a female imperfec-
tion. Just as soon, therefore, as Nature has fairly started a girl's
life machinery, and given her about two-thirds of her growth,
she prepares her to begin her maternal or life-developing mission,
by creating within her more of this organic material than she
herself can consume. This is what sexes her blood."*
845. — Woman's Courses: they are her Test Barometer.
All women must be al^yays ready to bear, even though not
bearing ; and therefore be continually manufacturing this surplua
albumen. Then what becomes of it when they are not pregnant ?
Its being thrown into the blood, in order to be thereby carried
to the life-germ, where alone it is wanted, must soon render that
blood too thick and rich to circulate freely, unless Nature pro-
vides for its ejection ; which she effects by means of those
Monthly excretions common to all females during their bear-
ing period, called " courses," " menses," " catamenia," &c., which
both " usher in " and " close out " womanhood. They are some-
times called lunar periods, " monthlies," Ac, because they trans-
pire at the same time of each moon, or every four weeks. In
females who are perfectly healthy sexually, they commence on
exactly the same day and hour of every fourth week, and con-
tinue three or four days, till they have cleared the blood of this
surplus, which consists mainly of albumen. How vastly more
convenient this monthly evacuation, than if its escape, like its
manufacture, were perpetual ! Nature does all things well.
This monthly overflow is the female test. As she is, so is
it; and as it is, so is she. When this is "all right," she is all
right ; but it is wrong only when and because she is " ailing "
sexually. Its undue suppression surcharges her blood and system
750 ANTE-NATAL. STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
with surplus material which clogs all, and induces that plethora
which overloads and embarrasses all her other functions. Keep-
ing it " regular " and right is as important as is good health, its
great means, to all females between fourteen and forty-two. Its
sparseness or disappearance may well alarm, unless likely to be-
come a mother, of which this is the first and surest sign. It
may, however, disappear in a girl soon after its first advent, be-
cause she may be growing so fast as to require all she manufac-
tures for her own " home consumption." Hence its suppression
or sparseness for months at a time during rapid growth need not
give alarm, provided her general health is perfect ; but beware
when it is accompanied by headache, chilliness, numbness, cough,
or other pains anywhere. For its restoration and regulation see
Part IX. Pray, ladies, duly consider the principle here expounded,
and then make such application of it to your own selves as the
facts in your individual cases may require.
FcETAL PROTECTION is another indispensable prerequisite. It
generally is efl:ected by the spine in the rear, the pelvic bones on
each side, and eyes and hands in front, and surrounded by viscera
besides, but its extreme delicacy requires that it even yet hang or
float in a sac of water ^ formed by the amnion and chorion, so that
any blow on its mother's abdomen pushes it so easily in this
water as to prevent abrasion. But after its fourth month its
organism has become sufiiciently dense to resist all ordinary ab-
dominal percussion, so that this aqueous protection is no longer
needed, and hence this sac bursts, water passes out, and some-
times comes away on the face of the child at birth, which is then
said to be born " with a veil on its face ; " but is sometimes found
among the placenta.
Section II.
ALL EXISTING MATERNAL STATES STAMPED ON OFFSPRING:
MARKS, FURY, GOODNESS, ETC.
846. — Like Mother, like Child.
** Each after its kind," applies to maternity quite as forcibly
as to parentage.^^-^ If the mother is vegetable, tree, creeping
thing, fowl, brute, or human, what she bears will partake of her
ALL EXISTING MATERNAL STATES, ETC. 761
n-acture, form, and nature, mental and physical, general and
pecific. This is a necessary institute of Nature. How incon-
gruous for a tree to bear a brute, or a human mother a lion!
How wise, how promotive of happiness this " like bears like" in-
stitute !
All the minutiae of their respective characteristics and relit-
tions follow this law. Each oftspring takes on all those minor
}>adings and phases which appertain to its mother. Blood is the
grand instrumentality of all nutrition and formation throughout
universal life. All those materials out of which all parts of the
infantile body are formed, are conveyed to their respective desti-
nations by its means. As is this grand messenger of life, so is
that life it nurtures. Now, since the child's blood is like its
mother's, and she like her own, of course mother and child must
])e alike. The father's nature is faithfully represented in the
'^minal germ; yet its partaking of his does not prevent its
aiking on hers likewise. Its paternal qualities in no wise expel
or smother its maternal. His may sometimes be the stronger,
■ at whatever she has will be there. "When the maternal is weak,
and thereby but faintly impressed upon her progeny, this very
debility in both establishes the perfect reciprocity of their inter-
relation.
847. — All Maternal States affect Progenal Character.
Her merely temporary states during pregnancy are also written
right into the original qualities, mental and physical, of her off-
spring. In the very nature of things, all her various states dur-
ing its formation must necessarily affect its body and mind. Does
not this doctrine seem reasonable? If a given mother is in an
xalted state while carrying one child, but in a depressed while
;irrying another, that the first must necessarily be the best, is
1 »roved by the common sense and common observation of all man-
kind. All history, sacred and profane, is full of illustrative facts.
This is so palpably apparent as to have impressed itself distinctly
upon all ages and nations. Why do we plant the largest and
fairest seed-corn, and raise our seed-grain and everything on our
richest fields ? Because the better the maternal stock is fed the
fairer the progeny, and the better adapted to reproduce what is
still better. Why are we so very careful to feed well, and not
overwork, especially overdraw, our breeding mares, during the
752 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
entire period they are with foal ? Because all experience teaches
that the various states of the mother during carriage materially
affect the size, beauty, and usefulness of the foal. Mothers evinoe
extra care for them at this period ; yet even those who appreciate
this point the most, far underrate its influence on the progeny.
The HUMAN MOTHER proves this universal law, and is its best
example. The higher the grade of vegetable or animal, the more
intimate is this relation between mother and progeny, and the
more all her states of body and mind affect its physiology and
mentality. Why do vegetable and brute mothers generally cast
their seed and young the sooner, the lower they are in the scale
of being ; but carry them the longer, the stronger and more per-
fect they are? So that the progeny may imbibe more of its
mother's strength, and become the more perfected at the very
starting out of life. But to argue this point is superfluous.
This reciprocity is perfect. Where cause and effect govern a
PART of a given class of functions, they govern the whole of that
class. ISTature never works by piecemeal. What she does at all,
she does by wholesale. If any one state of the mother's mind or
body, however extreme, during carriage, produces the least effect
on her offspring, which all admit, then every conceivable mater-
nal state correspondingly affects her embryo. Either all her
states, down to the minutest item of health, intellect, and feeling,
•affect her unborn, or else nothing affects them. Then do any
maternal states affect offspring at all ?
Let its facts prove and impress it deeply upon mothers, and
brand into their inmost souls as an ever-present consciousness,
that their states of mind and feeling, while carrying their chil-
dren, will be faithfully daguerrotyped, in all their shades and
phases, upon those children, to remain there forever, growing
clearer and deeper as their existence progresses. As the numer-
ous facts we shall cite in proof and illustration of the special
aspects of this law equally prove the law itself, and as this doc-
trine seems almost self-evident, we shall cite but two classes of
such facts.
848. — Opposite Dispositions in Large Families.
If ONLY ORIGINAL parental qualities are stamped on offspring,
of course each child of the same parents must needs be like all,
and all like each ; because all must be like the same parents ; and
yet they often differ from each other even more than the chil-
ALL EXISmirG MATERNAL STATES, ETC. 753
(Iren of different parents. !N'othing but maternal and creative
states can cause all this radical difference.
The domestic history of all large families is written in these
different dispositions of each as compared with the otliers.
Thus, if the parents passed through some trying ordeal while
the mother was carrying this child, its character will be found
strongly tinctured with this trying state; but if while carrying
another an opposite state existed, the disposition and talents of
the second will differ from the first just as these maternal states
differed. Let the following facts illustrate : —
A drunkard's wife declares that she can trace minutely, in the
great diversities of character and disposition in her numerous
children, just those very states of mind existing when she was
bearing each. She was happy while carrying her first, and it is
peculiarly beautiful and amiable. But while carrying her next
her husband began to drink, which overclouded her sky, and
awakened her displeasure ; and it corresponds with this state of
her mind. Then came his drunkenness with her poverty, and
that severe buffeting adversity which called out all her force-
imparting and unamiable traits : and the characters of those born
during this sad period correspond with it ; and thus of her other
changes ; so that she reads in their characters the history of her
life and feelings while carrying each one.
A STARVED AND WORRIED MOTHER. — A yOUUg COUple mOVCd tO
Sharon, near Lake George, while it remained an unbroken for-
est. Having no neighbors, their provisions became short the first
year, before they could raise any, so that they could barely ob-
tain sufficient sustenance to support life by eating roots, boiled
slippery-elm bark, &c. Their child born under these trying cir-
cumstances is the very picture of despair, a poor, dyspeptic
hypochondriac, and feeble in mind and body. But they raised a
large crop of wheat, which the influx of emigration enabled them
to sell at high prices, so that they had abundance, and cleared
some three thousand dollars the second yciir, while everything
else pro8|^red ; and their next child, born under these auspicious
circumstances, is a fine, strong, noble-looking, energetic, and
highly- talented man, and a real steam-engine for driving through
whatever he undertakes. His mother told him the cause of thie
brother's debility, and when dying charged him to let bis mis
erable brother want nothing.
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754 ante-natal states (x)ntrol post-natal character.
849. — Maternal Marks, Deformities, &c. : Their Causes an>
Cures.
Certain states of maternal mind actually do so change and
distort even the child's bodily shape as to occasion monstrosities.
Some medical men deny such facts, because they cannot see how
Fuch states can affect the foetal form. Is it philosophical to deny
what we see, because we cannot explain it ? How much more
sensible to admit I^ature's facts, even though our limited reason-
ings cannot comprehend their mode of production ? To state a
few, and sum up with their rationale, and prevention.
A Strawberry Mark. — A physician related : " A woman,
pome months before the birth of her child, longed for straw-
])erries, which she could not obtain. Fearing that this might
mark her child, and having heard that it would be marked where
she then touched herself, she touched her hip. Before the child
icas horn she predicted that it would have a mark resembling a
strawberry, and be found on its hip, all of which proved true."
lie also mentioned several other similar cases in his practice, but
denied this doctrine still.
Spilled Strawberries. — An acquaintance, while riding out,
saw some strawberries spilled by the side of the road, which she
wanted very much ; but her sister, who was driving, only laughed
at her entreaties to stop, and apprehensions that her child might
be marked, and drove on. The child was marked on the back of
its neck, with a cluster of red spots, in shape resembling spilled
strawberries.
A Lobster Mark. — Eliza Chickering has an extra thumb, both
together resembling a lobster's claw. Its joint and muscles
cause it to work inwardly, the two closely resembling a lobster's
claw ; and during her youth it was bright red, like a boiled
lobster. Her mother says she bought a large, fine lobster while
enceinte^ which was stolen. This disappointed her extremely ; and
this lobster's claw on her daughter's hand was the consequence.
Mouse Marks. — W. H. Brown, who has a mark on one of his
legs resembling a mouse, says that his mother, while carrying
him, was in a room in which a mouse was confined, which they
were trying to kill, and which, jumping up under her clothes,
frightened her terribly.
A Philadelphia lawyer has on his forehead, and running up
ETC. 755
into his hair, a dark, dingy-colored mark, elevated, and covered
with short hair, which his mother says was caused by her being
much frightened by a mouse, while carrying him.
A Plum Mark. — A female acquaintance rode by a tree full of
ripe, wild plums, which she craved, but could not obtain. Hei
child, born some months after, had a fleshy appendage resem-
bling a wild plum, hanging from his thumb by a stem of flesh.
A Butter Mark. — A pregnant Michigan mother longed for
butter, which could not be obtained, because it was winter, and
there were more emigrants than eatables. Her child was born
with a running sore on its neck, which yielded to no remedies till,
remembering her disappointed longing, she anointed it with but-
ter, which soon cured it.
Cherry Marks. — A girl is marked on the forehead with a
bright-red excrescence resembling a cherry, caused by her mother
longing for the last cherry of the season, which she tried in vain
to reach.
Neighbor Griffis was wont to show us boys the cherries on
his arm, which almost covered it ; caused, his mother said, by
her disappointed longing after that fruit while she was carrying
him.
An Amputated Thumb, now preserved in spirit, was found
among the placenta, separated from its stump before birth, by its
mother seeing her husband's thumb cut off" with an axe, which
excited her sympathy to the highest pitch.
A Wine Mark. — Joshua Coflin relates that one of his play-
mates had his face, neck, and body spotted, as if wine had been
spattered on them. His mother accompanied her husband, a
deacon, to town, to procure wine for communion, for which she
longed, but durst not ask. While going home the cork got out,
and the wine was spilled all over her new white dress. Her mor-
tification caused by the soiling of her dress, and her disappointed
longings, thus marked her child.
Turning Black and Blue. — Mrs. Lee, of London, Ont., saw
Burly executed from her window; who, in swinging ofl*, broke the
rope, and fell with his face all black and blue from being choked.
This horrid sight caused her to fool awfully ; and her sou, born
three months afterwards, whenever anything occurs to excite his
fears, becomes black and blue in the face ; an instance of which
the Author witnessed.
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Fire Mark. — Dr. Curtis relates the case of a woman who wit-
nessed, from a distance, the burning of Pennsylvania Hall, and
whose son, born some three months afterwards, has a spot which
resembles a flame of fire streaking up in different places. Several
highly interesting facts of this kind are stated in "Mental and
Moral Qualities Transmissible."
A Mark of Intoxication. — In Waterbury, Vt., there lived a
man who always appeared as if intoxicated; obviously caused by
his mother's being terribly frightened by seeing a drunkard while
carrying him. His intellect w^as good.
A Menagerie Mark. — In Woodstock, Vt., a pregnant mother
visited a menagerie, and became deeply interested in its animals.
Some five months afterwards she gave birth to a monster, some
parts of which resembled one wild beast, and other parts other
animals; which soon died.
A Monkey Mark. — A child in Boston bears so striking a re-
semblance to a monkey, as to be observed by all. Its mother
visited a menagerie while pregnant with it, when a monkey
jumped on her shoulders.
An Idiotic Mark. — James Copeland is below par in intellect,
under guardianship, quite inferior to both parents intellectually,
good-natured, quite mechanical, very fond of whittling, under-
stands how to do most kinds of work, is very particular to have
everything in proportion and order, can count money but poorly,
does not put the cash value on any kind of property, though he
distinguishes between good and poor cattle, and looks behind him
while eating, probably fifty times each meal. His parentage, on
both sides, is good ; and his inferiority and looking behind him
when eating were caused by his mother's fear lest she should be
surprised by an idiot living near, who often tried to frighten her.
At table she usually sat with her back towards the door, and
often turned around, while eating, to see if he was coming. She
apprehended her son's fate beforehand.
Marked by Fright. — A man in West Randolph, Vt., was ren-
dered deficient in mind and body by his mother's being frightened
and thrown from a wagon some months before his birth.
A Broken Back. — Mrs. Dyke, a feeble, nervous woman, who
had borne no children, though she had been married twelve years,
on a gun being fired under her window, July 4, during her preg-
nancy, sprang up, exclaiming, " That broke my back ! " Some
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months afterwards her child was still-born, with its backbone actiiaUy
broken. The father went to my informant, a lawyer, to get a writ
to take up the one who fired the gun ; whom he had cautioned not
to fire, lest it should produce abortion.
Mrs. Butler, the town bully of Williamstown, Vt., whipping
every man in it who opposed or offended her, large sized, and
tremendous in strength, was fined some five hundred dollars for
assaults and batteries on men, and feared by all who knew her ;
and her only child is a fool, very fierce and ferocious, now con-
fined in a cage mostly under ground, chained and fed like an
animal ; and has such tremendous strength that he holds a crow-
bar out straight in one hand, by grasping its end.
A Club-footed Mark. — Mr. F., of W., Vt., is club-footed,
produced by his mother's being thrown from a wagon before his
birth. Her other children she feared would be marked, but the
one that was malformed, she did not fear would be. So mere
fears do not mark.
A Cat Mark. — Our law of magnetic sympathy ^^<^ accounts
for the following fully authenticated fact ; A Mrs. T. loved a cat
very much, which reciprocated her attachment ; which an old
woman living with her disliked, and often cutied off the table,
and out of the way; thus causing many a family quarrel. On
moving and leaving the cat, she charged her husband, when he
went back for the balance of their things, over and over again,
with great earnestness, to bring the favorite cat. But the old
woman told him it was sick, and refused to eat, and advised him
to kill it. Finally, he took it out behind the barn, and beat out
its brains. On going home, his wife, the first thing, accused him
of having killed the cat. He denied it repeatedly and positively,
but she as positively asserted that he had killed it, because she
" FELT the blows, and saw it mangled and thrown out behind the
barn," and took on terribly, so as to be almost beside herself.
Her child, which she carried at the time, when born, resembled n
cat in looks, with its head beat in, and died in a short time.
The mashed Head. — Dr. Curtis took a cast of a deformed
child born in Lowell, whose mother, some months before its birth,
was terribly frightened by seeing her only son brought in with
the back and top part of his head, as she first supposed, crushed,
in being run over by a loaded cart ; yet it proved that only the
scalp was torn off. This cast is in the New York Cabinet.
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An Idol Mark. — Dr. Chapin delivered a woman in Abington,
Mass., of a malformation resembling a hideous idol, like one
she saw in his office, which, with other similar ones, caused by
maternal states, he preserves in spirits.
Dumbness. — The mother of an underwitted and almost speech-
Jess boy says, that while carrying him, scarlet fever destroyed her
daughter's speech ; which, by thus aggravating her, marked this
son thus.
Hankering after Gin. — Mrs. K., while pregnant, longed for
gin, which could not be got; and her child cried incessantly for
six weeks, till gin was given it, which it eagerly clutched and
drank with ravenous greediness, stopped crying, and became
healthy.
Like cases abound among all classes, but most among the rich,
doubtless because their mothers are more nervous. Dr. J. Y. C.
Smith, long the able editor of the "Boston Medical and Surgical
Journal," and other medical men, openly avow this marking
doctrine, and in proof cite incontestable facts, of which there is
really no end. Yet our policy is to give a few as samples, rather
than to swell our pages with that vast array of them seen in our
professional practice. All instinctively indulge females in this
state. A pregnant Irish woman, remonstrated with for taking
currants without leave, justified herself by calling attention to
her situation, as though it entitled her to whatever she longed
for. What doting husband but e '•rains every nerve to pamper
even all his wife's whims at such times ; and who but knows that
longed-for things, noxious at other times, become harmless then?
They are caused by animal magnetism in obedience to the
great law that given mentalities take to themselves their respec-
tive physical forms.''^^ Obviously specific mentalities assume
each its respective bodily shape, so that if you could infuse ele-
phantine mentality into an embryo swine, its shape would pro-
portionally resemble that of the elephant. An elephant walking
through Broadway, a female swine with young running along
before him, but not fast enough, with a blow from his trunk
knocked her one side ; and her young, born a few weeks after-
wards, can now be seen in the medical college in Albany, pre-
served in spirits, having snouts elongated and gristly, and feet
shaped like those of the elephant. Other like specimens establish
the FACT of such malformation, obviously caused thus : This ele-
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jihant imparted a powerful charge of his magnetism to this
Bwine, which she passed to her embryo, and which caused them
to assume his shape; just as tiger magnetism or mentality causes
it to assume the tiger form, and human mentality clothes itself
in human configuration.**^*
A Fish Mark. — A woman of superior natural abilities uaP'
rated to the Author : —
" When I was four months advanced, I went on a night excursion in
a row-boat to catch a kind of fish which have a gristly snout turning up-
ward and backward ; thus forming a kind of hook, and often weighing
twenty pounds. Seated in the middle of the boat, a large, frightened hah
leaped from the water clear over the boat, right before my face, uttering
a snort or wheeze peculiar to this kind ; which frightened me so terribly
as actually to sicken me for several days ; and my offspring was born a
monster, half fish and half human, without a mouth, but having a nasal
appendage and lower extremity like this fish, and every few minutes it
would warp and spring up a foot or more from its pillow, and utter a noise
like that which terrified me. Having no mouth, it could not be fed, lived
only twenty-four hours, and, being a monster, was refused a Christian
burial."
This fish infused its magnetism into her, which she sent to her
unborn, and this shaped it like this magnetizing fish. The mer-
maids of the ancients illustrate this principle ; so do serpentile
charmings. All magnetizers impart their magnetisms to the
magnetized. Thus, if the magnetizer has a headache, toothache,
rheumatic aflfection, &c., he will lose his ache, which the magnet-
ized will receive ; but a healthy operator generally invigorates
the magnetized, yet frequently exhausts himself; while an intel-
lectual person brightens up the subject's ideas and quickens the
flow of thought ; and a slow, or an easy, or a good, or a bad per-
son makes the magnetized slow, or easy, or good, or bad. That
is, the one magnetized is impregnated by the mental and physiail
nature of the magnetizer.*^
This theory explains these and kindred admitted facts per-
fectly. Marks and deformities frequently do occur, ciiused by
the mother's ante-natal states. Physicians do not deny them, yet
evade them by arguing that they are anatomically impossible, and
that heralding them would render women miserable, merely witli
fear of marking their cliildren. Better teach them facts, and let
knowledge fortify and guard them; yet tell them how to prevent.
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To convince them that no conditions can mark, is utterly impos-
sible ; for the whole community, high and low, intelligent and ig-
norant, are compelled either to believe in this doctrine, or else
disbelieve what they see and feel. Then properly direct a fear
which cannot be prevented, by telling them what conditions will
avoid marking.
All marks can be prevented by the mother's resisting all
these outside influences. Magnetism takes no effect on those who
repel it. Prospective mothers who put and keep themselves in
a resistant, self-fortified state, determined not to allow these out-
side influences to impress them, will not mark. So avoid this
marking by strengthening your nerves by air, exercise, and pre-
serving and invigorating your health. Only mothers who are
weakly, nervous, and easily impressed or magnetized, mark their
young. Those who keep up a full tide of health and vigor never
mark ; because they themselves are seldom impressed with these
foreign influences.
Gratifying longings also prevents marks; while denying them
sometimes marks. In 1851 a parental couple asked the Author
how they could prevent their four-year old son from becoming
a gutter drunkard, allegiaig that he was perfectly ravenous after
wine, for which he teased twenty times per day. His mother
narrated : —
" I LONGED for WINE while carryiDg him ; tried to persuade my husband
to get me some, which he declined, because we had just 'signed the pledge/
so that his getting it would disgrace both us and the temperance cause ;
aud applied to my sister, who promised to get it on going to Toledo, yet
did not ; but at Fort AVayne my brother opened a bottle, and filled my
glass ; yet while holding it in anticipation of its luxury, before tasting, my
sister fainted, and I set my wine on the mantle-piece till she was relieved,
and then wanted some one to say, * Lizzie, come drink your wine ; ' but no
one mentioned it, till the horses drove up, and off I went, with the wine
brought to my lips but untasted; and this child teases for it incessantly,
and clutches and swallows all he can lay hold of. How can I prevent his
becoming a gutter drunkard ? "
"By giving him all he will drink of pure, native wine. As in-
dulging your longing would have prevented his, so indulging his while so
young that you can control him, will surfeit it and save him. Otherwise
expect him to drink himself to death. This is the only preventive."
Prospective mothers, gratify any desire to see, eat, drink, or
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flo anything whatever. Indulged desires never mark, but only
those denied. Nor more than a moiety of them : and then only
in peculiarly susceptible nervous states, which can and should be
prevented. Since Nature thus allows mothers to forestall these
marks, entailing them is most wicked. Woman, learn how to
render your prospective otfspring physically perfect, and feel
guilty, you who deform them.
850. — IsHMAEL, Samuel, Christ, James L, Bonaparte, Ac.
This law governs the entire mentality equally. How could
it govern the body without governing the mind ? Since some
maternal states affect progenal character, therefore aU do.®*^ Every
existing state of the mother's mind must write itself indelibly
into the "Child's. The world is literally full of facts of this class.
Doubtless every reader illustrates his mother's states before he
was born, if they could be compared with his shadings of char-
acter. Does Nature, indeed, allow prospective mothers to control
their offspring's original dispositions ? Can they impress these
traits on this offspring, by being and doing this, and those on
that, by doing and being that? All human history answers
aye.
The embryo must be fed mentally by its mother. All it gets
it obtains from her. As all its material for the formation of
bodily organs must be furnished directly by her,^ so all the
materials for the formation of its nerves and brain must come
from her. In fact, supplying its mentality with the materials
for intellect and soul, is the most important. She cannot furnish
what she herself does not possess. How can she whose intellect
is dull, and feelings obtuse, bear smart, strong-minded children?
Does it not seem reasonable, and accord with all we know on this
subject, that if the mother, while carrying one child, has her
Force unusually excited, it will take on most of this combative
spirit, because it abounded most in her at this period, whether or
not it is naturally large ; but if, while carrying another, Kindness
is ])Owerfully wrought up, it will bo pro|K)rtionally good and
humane: and thus of her intellect, wit, fears, devotion, vanity,
and all her other temponiry states. Its original impress^ re-
sembles the war]) of the child's physical and mental constitution,
while her states of mind and Ixxly during carriage are its woof
and variegate its color, texture, tone, durability, and primitive
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constitution in accordance with themselves. This is the inquiry
to which we now address ourselves. To begin with biblical facts.
Hagar's hateful state of mind while carrying Ishmael, and
his hating everybody, and being so hateful, as well as the fe-
rocity of the Ishmaelites throughout the whole history of that
fighting nation, is undoubtedly designed practically and power-
fully to enforce this natural truth. She was insolent, because
likely to bring Abraham the desired heir, so that Sarai became
jealous ; and a most desperate and perpetual quarrel sprang up
between them, till finally Sarai became outrageous, and drove
Hagar out into the wilderness to starve ; which made him a " wild
man," and hated by all because hateful ; corresponding with her
states of mind and his character. What fact could be stronger,
or more in point ? Why should so succinct a history stop to de-
tail minutely this case, unless it designed thereby to teach this
identical moral truth, this great practical law of the maternal
relations we are enforcing? Does it waste its pages on mere
narratives devoid of moral bearing? Then should not its ex-
pounders enforce this truth from this text ? Otherwise do they
" proclaim the whole counsel of God " ?
Samuel and Hannah furnish a contrasted example. Had her
holy vows and devout piety before his birth nothing to do with
his love of the sanctuary ? Did not her devotion consecrate him
" from his mother's womb " ? Did not the Bible intend to relate
these cases by cause and eflfect? Where have been the wits of
great and small biblical defenders and expositors in all ages, that
they have not seen and reiterated this mighty truth, more man-
improving than shiploads of old and new sermons, great com-
mentaries, and all sectarian dogmas to boot ; and a thousand-fold
better calculated to regenerate and save mankind, and make them
better hy nature^^ so that they would have less " original sin " to
be preached out, and be more ready recipients of religious im-
pressions ?
Mary and Christ cap this climax by Mary's happy frame of
body and holy state of mind during Christ's nativity. She was
" in the hill country," quafling copiously the invigorating breezee
of Judah's baJmy clime, telling how happy her vision had made
her, and full of heavenly joy and spiritual exaltation. " My
Boal doth magnify the Lord, and my spirit hath rejoiced in God
my Saviour ! " is her rapturous exultation. E-ead Luke's account.
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and especially her song. Could a cross or diseased mother have
^iven birth to this embodiment of divine Goodness and Love^
Do maternal holiness of soul and sweetness of temper during
carriage exert no influence in moulding prospective infants into
a state of loveliness and goodness ? and leave her warring passions
no Satanic marks upon its then forming mirror? Away with
that clerical stupidity which fails to perceive this Bible truth, or
mealy-mouthed squeamishness which has thus far shrunk from
proclaiming it ! Why should those who pretend to teach man's
whole moral duty, leave out such cardinal and momentous obli-
gations? Episcopalians pray for "all women in the perils of
childbirth ; " then why not tell them how to prevent them, and
preach on the responsibilities of bearing ? Profane history reit-
erates this truth.
The Bonaparte family evinced no hereditary martial genius
or spirit before or since Napoleon. Joseph Bonaparte, unable to
keep a conquered throne though guarded by an army, was a most
meek and amiable man, and had no more martial genius than a
dove ; as the Author personally attests from having lived near
him. Tlien how became Napoleon the greatest general of modern
times, choosing martial life from innate love of it, and at twenty-
three planning so wisely and fighting so bravely as to be lifted
over the heads of tried veterans, to sway the mighty armies of
war-loving France ? Because of his mother's state all the time
she was carrying him, in exercising queenly power over her
spirited charger and the subordinates of her husband, and com-
mingling with the army. Had her state of mind nothing to do
with his " ruling passion, strong in death "?
Mrs. M'C. bore a promising Bonaparte-admiring son during
Bonaparte's triumphal career. That great warrior's life and char-
acter 80 intensely interested her during pregnancy that she got
and read all the books she could find in all the public, private,
and circulating libraries, and cherished a passion for his charac-
ter and exploits; and this son, a brilliant lawyer and splendid
8()eaker, is excessively fond of the martial, and a most entbusi-
a.stic admirer of Bonaparte; has read all he can find respecting
him ; filled every nook and corner of his house suitable for a
picture with his likenesses, battles, Ac. ; and turns all his con-
versation into something relating to this hero of his soul. Thit
narrative is from his mother's lips.
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Mary Queen op Scots, three or four montlis before she gave
birth to James I., saw the wild ragings of infuriated Destruction
plunge the naked steel through her private secretary, who, welter-
ing in his gurgling blood, gasps and dies in her private apart-
ments while clinging to her skirts for protection ; and this
monarch was a paragon of conflicting emotions, trembling and
fiiinting at even the sight of a drawn sword, as timid as a hare,
jind a prey to mere whims ; yet most tyrannical and vindictive.
Did her terror have no hand in causing his timidity ?
Mr. p. shockingly murdered his wife and nine children, by
beating out the brains of all but one boy, into whose back he
struck his axe while escaping, and completed the tragedy by cut-
ting his own throat ; which terribly alarmed all the women in
the neighborhood, lest their husbands might commit a similar
outrage. The mother of a friend of mine, who lived near, suf-
fered everything from fear lest she should be murdered ; and this
friend, born six months after, says she has suffered more than
tongue can describe, from a like fear; can hardly endure to sleep
alone, lies and thinks by the hour together how she could escape
if attacked, and is startled by the least noise, so as to be obliged
to get up and strike a light. She says she has a friend, born in
the same place, a month or two younger, who is afflicted by the
same foolish fear, and whose mother sufl:ered similarly from the
same cause.
A HALF-CRAZY MAN was Very much afraid of being killed, often
exclaiming, " 0, don't kill me, don't 1 " with as much anxiety as if
about to be murdered. His father, a notorious drunkard, often
beat and abused his wife, and tried to kill her. Once he drew a
large knife on her, and when she fled, followed her up into the
garret, where she hid herself among the rubbish, so as barely to
escape with her life. While thus standing in continual dread of
being killed, this son was born ; and this same fear always haunted
him, till he finally took his own life.
The Son who could never face his Father. — A very passion-
ate, blustering man, and very violent when angry, but soon
over, becoming exasperated by something his wife had done ;
came into the house at a door opposite to where she was kneading
bread, with her back towards him, and emptied a most abusive
vial of wrath and sputter upon her; which so overcame her
feelings, that she choked for utterance ; and for an hour kept on
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•
kneading. Three months afterwards her son Solomon was born,
who, though he has always lived in the same house, and worked
on the farm with his father, and has a wife and child there, never
Bpoke the first word to his father till he was thirty-five. Finally,
one day, at work in the field together, wanting very much to ask
him a question, he involuntarily came up towards him, turned
short around, with his hack to him, and walking from him, spoke
to him for the first time in his life ; and whenever he addresses
him, he turns his back. In this way only can he speak to him,
though he has in vain tried his utmost all his life to do so while
facing him.
A Provoking Child. — Mrs. D. rented a part of a house from
a woman who had a saucy, selfish, haughty girl. Assuming a
most imperative, authoritative air, because her mother was land-
lady, and Mrs. D. her tenant, this girl often obtruded herself into
her apartments, was insolent, overbearing, and teased and tanta-
lized her life almost out of her, many times daily. Mrs. D. was
then carrying a child, which, when an infant, was cross and spite-
ful, and cried unmercifully ; and now grown, has a proud, bold,
imperious air, as though queen of all around her, is ungovernable
and violent-tempered, torments the very life out of all those around
her, and is the exact counterpart of the girl which tantalized Mrs.
D. Though she is a fond mother, she has been so tried by her
daughter as to hate her most thoroughly. She is destructive, yet
good, and stamped the former on this daughter more than on her
son, a sweet, noble boy, because these hating feelings were thus
perpetually awakened while carrying her, but not him; impress-
ing each on each in that relative proportion in which they then
abounded in her.
851. — Bad-tempered Children deserve only Pity.
Maternal irritability is one great cause of ill-natured chil-
dren. That ugly boy, always teasing his sisters, quarrelling with
his mates, insulting his mother, and tormenting animals, per-
haps cursing and fighting, is the more pitiable the worse he is ;
just as he would be if he had inherited a white swelling, or
cancer. What if he does thus torment his mother, did she not
impregnate him with those very passions she now punishes? Why
thus " beat out as in a mortar " those " fast colors " ** dyed in the
wool" by her own hands? He is but their recipient victim,
766 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONIROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
while she is their real author. Then let her punish her own self;
or rather make allowances, supersede severity by forbearance, and
take warning not thus to curse future ones.
The frantic fiend, son of most excellent parents, espying a
pair of boots in the room, began to kick them angrily around,
then kicked a hole through the plastering, and when his brothers
tried mildly to persuade him to desist, he kicked them too, scream-
ing with rage. When his father tried to stop him he kicked his
shins with all his might, grasping his hand, and kicking, biting,
scratching, and screaming, all together, in a perfect paroxysm
of fury. 1^0 entrapped wild beast could show more destructive
frenzy than he evinced. Destruction and Force were enormous
in his head, which was wide at the ears, and low and short on
top; and in perfect contrast with those of his father, mother, and
two amiable brothers. How came this difference in their heads
and tempers ? Hear his father's answer : —
" He was born soon after Lee's soldiers sacked this place, and
rifled our house of edibles, clothes, and whatever they wanted ; turning a
deaf ear to my wife's entreaties to be spared on account of her delicate
situation ; which so enraged her that she literally fought them, wanted a
gun to go herself after them, and became perfectly desperate with fury
towards them, and remained so till this child was born."
" She is a perfect mule, even in trifles ; sits sometimes all day abso-
lutely refusing to do anything, or even comb her own hair ; becomes furioits,
and remains sulky and speechless all day, without any provocation ; teases
the very life out of her little brother, and when told to stop, declares she has
not spoken to him since morning ; often, when dressed for church, tears off*
her clothes, strews them all around, dishevels her hair, heeds neither per-
suasion nor reason, nor any motives yet tried, and in all respects is the
very worst girl I ever saw. I could not believe it possible for so bad a girl
to exist ; and while I was carrying her, I had the worst of servants, impu-
dent, lying, thievish, &c., which provoked me almost to death, so that I was
about crazy." — An Irritable Mother.
" My oldest sister's associate married an enterprising mechanic, who
had a collision with an apprentice, and a regular battle ensued, so des-
perate and formidable that she became alarmed for his safety, and with
a terrible spirit of revenge and fury rushed to his rescue ; and afterwards
said she hardly knew what prevented her killing the apprentice outright.
Six months afterwards she gave birth to a male child, whose only cry and
roar was that of frantic rage. Some thirty years afterwards I spent the
night with this old acquaintance. In the morning, on descending the
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spteire, I was almost petrified with horror by the sudden outcry and fright-
ful, maddened yell of that son. If memory had not recollected its cause,
I could not have imagined what made such a demoniac outcry. This idiot
had lived to be a man in size, but gave no other demonstrations of intellect
than this infuriated yell." — Rev. O. W. Finney.
Their mothers' malign temper branded this malicious spirit
right into these unfortunates before their birth. If it is heredi-
tary, why is theirs so fiendish, while their brothers' and sisters'
are so good ? They are its passive recipients, not its author ; far
more sinned against than sinning ; and deserve only pity, instead
of punishment, or even blame. Then blame yourselves, all ye
parents of bad children ; and be the more lenient the worse they
are. Let all prospective mothers learn in these facts, how not
to thus curse, but how correspondingly to bless, all their own
future darlings. \
Section III.
DIRECTIONS TO PROSPECTIVE MOTHERS ; OR WHAT PHYSICO-
MATERNAL STATES ARE BEST; AND HOW TO SECURE THEM.
852. — Vitality; its Importance and Promotion.
Animal vigor is the great prerequisite of all children. How.
much more can they accomplish and enjoy with it strong than
weak? To become Websters intellectually, they must first have
Websterian stomachs, lungs, and muscles, as well as brains. Yet
Precocity is our national ailment. In these fast days nearly
all are bom with too much head for body; because of their
fathers* excessive mental taxation in business struggles, and
mothers in "the fashions," "yellow literature," and other false
excitements. Female weakliness is the great evil of Anglo-Saxo«
civilization; due chiefly to fashions and education, the latter
caused by the former. Hence, but few children are born, and
over hair of them die in their cradles; whom fair vit^il stamina
would keep alive. When abundant, it guards the citadel of life,
and repels and expels all approaching diseases; being both watch
all, and cure all. But when it is feeble, the weaker organs give
out, and its gates are left open to diseases, which enter, sack, and
destroy. How do some men retain their health through half a
768 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
century of habitual drunkenness? Does being perpetually
soaked in alcoholic poison do no injury? Their full supply of
life-power casts out disease as fast as alcohol generates it. So of
exposure to miasmas, confinement to unhealthy occupations, &c.
And this shows why what does a given person no perceptible
harm at one time, at another prostrates him with sickness, or
hurries him into his grave. Before, this life-power fortified him ;
now its absence invites disease to enter and ravage.
Prospective mothers, how many of you bear children too
weakly to live ! 0, how many infanticides you commit ! Your
own feebleness before your children are born signs their death-
warrant, and hands them over to scarlet fever, bowel complaints,
or some other death executioner. And yet you help to send mis-
sionaries to India and China to preach the wickedness of child-
murder. Better preach to your ownselves and daughters. More
infanticides are perpetrated in enlightened (?) Christian (?) coun-
tries than in all Heathendom. Is ignorance of this momentous
truth, when it induces consequences thus appalling, no crime?
This slow starvation and suffocation of your own darlings is
really horrible. You richly deserve that your lacerated souls
bleed thus at every pore over their untimely death. So strengthen
yourselves that you destroy no more.
853. — Maternal Sleep, Eecreation, Nursing the Sick, &c.
"Sweet sleep" is as important as this sleeping instinct is
imperious. All animal life thus attests its necessity. Pregnant
women demand nothing more imperiously ; and its full supply.
How perpetually does Nature urge you to sleep by night and
lounge by day ? This, alone, with due feeding and breathing,
will carry you through incredible labors. However pressing
your work, whatever you may have to do, keep well slept up and
rested out; nor allow anything to exhaust you. Do consider
the importance of frequent and complete recuperation, and the
injurious consequences to yourselves and offspring of its deficit.
Growth takes place mainly during sleep. All bearing females
are especially sleepy — a " longing " they should always indulge.
You who cannot obtain an abundance every night to carry you
clear through to the next, should take a day nap before dinner.
Nothing whatever should be allowed to disturb your all night's
quiet slumbers. If children already born cry, let others tend
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them, while you give yourselves wholly to your unborn. Others
can care for them, but only you for this.
^EVER NURSE THE SICK, because the law of magnetic sympathy
obliges you to bestow of j^our health on them, which helps to
restore them, while you take on their sick magnetism, which
you pass to your unborn, to its eternal injury. A mother who had
a peeping, pale, puling, snivelling boy, along with the brightest,
smartest, liveliest, merriest, happiest girl imaginable, narrated: —
" Before that boy was bom, my husband's sick father allowed no one
else to wait on him, and called me up many times every night till he died,
just before this boy was born, which touched my heart ; but before this
girl's birth I was most agreeably situated."
Let OTHERS nurse the sick. If either adult or ante-natal life
must go uncared for, neglect adult; but give the unborn every
possible advantage.
A YOUNG SHIP-BUILDER made his wife, while pregnant with
their first child, cook and work for his workmen, till, as she
said, she was "completely dragged and tired all out all the time
before this our first child was born," which was thin, pale, small,
haggard, feeble, sauntering, inane, and almost idiotic ; while
their other children were strong and smart. How much did he
gain, and lose?
Recreation is also especially beneficial at this period in re-
plenishing this maternal drain. Monotony, always injurious, is
doubly 80 during pregnancy. Prospective mothers should in-
dulge freely in whatever kinds of amusements, theatricals, operas,
concerts, lectures, parties, picnics, "minstrelsy," anything and
everything else which delight and divert them, in order to im-
part a brisk, lively, jolly, happy, pleasant, frolicsome, laughing
spirit to their future children. Amusements are not duly appre-
ciated or patronized ; and are a great public benefaction.'^^
864. — What Bearing Women should Eat ; Unleavened Bread.
You MUST EAT AND DIGEST FOR TWO. All dietetic requirement*
apply with redoubled force to you during maternity. Give this
function every alimentary facility. Waste no digestive energy on
innutritions food, nor overload your Btomacb, nor violate any
dietetic law: and you will be an infinite gainer if you itudy
these laws merely to guide you at this eventful period.
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Samson derived his giant strength mainly from his mother's
physical regimen. Her guardian angel requires her, if she would
bear Israel's deliverer, to eat this, and not drink that, repeats the
injunction to her husband, and the Bible distinctly attributes his
herculean power to this maternal regimen. Then are not infantile
weakness and death also consequent on maternal physical habits ?
Yet the difficulty is, not to eat enough, but to convert what you
eat into good nourishing chyle. " Human Science," Part II., on
*' Health," gives those practical instructions as to food, breathing,
recreation, sleep, and other recuperative conditions required by
all, and pregnant mothers the most.
Wheat is especially rich in that albumen out of which the
organic tissues are chiefly formed,®^ proved by its making the
best of paste. Hence good bread is indeed your staff of " life."
Yet not fine flour bread, because it lacks the requisite bone ma-
terial. I^ature will not put up any of the life materials further
than she is furnished with all in about her proportions. She
must therefore have bone material, the basis of which is lime,
which inheres mainly in the bran. Therefore eat chiefly of
unbolted wheaten flour.
Unleavened bread is by far the best ; because raising sours, so
that it enters the stomach pre-soured, and passes off hy fermenta-
tion instead of by digestion. Mix this unbolted flour with water
into a thin batter, but little thicker than for griddle-cakes, salt-
ing to your taste ; make a thin loaf, not exceeding a quarter of
an inch thick; have your pan and oven sissing hot; and this heat
forms a sudden steam-tight crust over its top and bottom, which
keeps the steam generated by baking within the loaf; and this
renders it light, yet sweet.^"^ Unbolted wheaten bread, wheaten
grits, cracked wheat, &c., made into puddings, and eaten with
cream and sugar, are excellent at this period. The bran in them,
besides furnishing bone, also tends to keep the bowels open ; the
importance of which cannot well be over estimated.
Grapes are especially valuable at this period, because they both
enrich and thin the blood, which relieves congestion. Let bear-
ing women be supplied with all they can eat, of the best to be
had. And a recently invented refrigerator preserves them good
the year round — a great acquisition. Most kinds of fruit, espe-
cially pears, are also cooling, aperient, nutritious, full of the
formative material, and delicious. Eat freely of vegetables,
fruits^ meats, .and wheat.
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Consult appetite ;^ yet watch unnatural longings, and the ef-
fects of their indulgence.
Constipation, always injurious, is doubly so during pregnancy,
yet greatly increased by the mechanical pressure of the foetus on
the rectum, for reasons seen in Fig. 595 ; which Part IX. showe
iiow to obviate.
855. — Diaphragm-breathing, Tight Lacing, &c.
Abundant respiration, so promotive of all the life functions,
becomes doubly important to prospective mothers ; because thej
must breathe for two. To suffocate themselves by inches is bad
enough ; but to half stifle their unborn besides, is cruel, wicked,
and excusable only if breath were unobtainable.
Fio. 599.— Mi88 Normal ; uklaced. Fio. 600. — Misb Cramp ; laced.
Deep DiAPHRAOM-fireathing, important to all,®* is doubly so
during gestation; because it gives that double motion at every
breath to this whole maternal organism, which greatly promotes
s action. Let common sense say how important this is. Yet
nearly every laxly heaves only the \ippcr part of her chest, leaving
all below her shoulders inert; whereas every breath should move
r whole abdominal viscera, from the top of her chest to the
bottom of her pelvis ; or else visceral and cerebral inertia must
follow. Most breathe barely enough not to die.
Tight lacing is the second chief cause of infantile mortality.
The above figure, 599, contrasted with 600, shows to the Qy&A
Hmt Miss Cran^p cannot obtain half as much breath as Misa
< )rmal.
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That it is most ruinous to women and their offspring is self-
evident. !N'o evil equals that of curtailing this maternal supply
of breath ; nor does anything do this as effectually as tight lacing.
If it were merely a female folly, or if its ravages were confined
to its perpetrators, it might be passed unrebuked ; but it strikes
a deadly blow at the very life of the race. By girting in the
lungs, stomach, heart, diaphragm, «&c., it cripples every one of the
life-manufacturing functions, impairs circulation, impedes muscu-
lar action, and lays siege to the child-bearing citadel itself. By
the value of abundance of maternal vitality, air, exercise, and diges-
tion, is this practice murderous to both. It often destroys germ-
inal life before birth, or soon after, by most effectually cramping,
inflaming, and weakening the vital apparatus, and stopping the
flow of life at its fountain-head. It takes the lives of tens of thou-
sands before they marry, and so effectually weakens and diseases
as ultimately to cause the deaths of millions more. I^o tongue
can tell, no finite mind conceive, the misery it has occasioned, nor
the number of deaths, directly and indirectly, of young women,
bearing mothers, and weakly infants it has occasioned ; besides
those millions on millions it has caused to drag out a short but
wretched existence. If this murderous practice continues another
generation, it will bury all the middle and upper class of women
and children, and leave propagation to the coarse-grained but
healthy lower. Most alarmingly has it already deteriorated our
very race in physical strength, power of constitution, energy, and
talents. Reader, how many of your weaknesses, pains, head-
aches, nervous affections, internal difficulties, and wretched feel-
ings were caused by your own or mother's corset-strings ? Such
mothers deserve execration.
Let men who had rather bury than raise their children,
marry tight-lacers ; but those who would rear a healthy, talented,
happy family, to bless their mature life, nurse their declining
years, and perpetuate their name and race among men, should
choose those naturally full-chested ; for such will be likely to live
long, and bear vigorous children. Those who would not have
their souls rent asunder by the premature death of wife and chil-
dren, are solemnly warned not to marry small waists ; for such
must of necessity die young, and bear few and feeble offspring.
You woipen who are willing to exchange the rosy cheek of health
?or laced pallor, the full round form of natural beauty for the
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poor, scrawny, sunken, haggard, almost ghastly figure of those
who lace, or break the heart of husband and friends by your
premature death, after agonizing yourselves by thus causing your
t'hildren's death, till you exclaim in nervous agony, "O, wretched
life that I live," besides dying before your time, lace on tighter
and tighter, and keep laced up night and day, till your life-
wheels cease to move.
What ! propane the sanctuary by wearing stays to church !
Yet where else are they worn half as much ? What ! send mis-
sionaries to preach the sinfulness of infanticide to the heathen,
yet commit the same crime more here, and in a form far worse ?
Is not causing your pets' death indirectly by slow starvation and
strangulation, worse than suddenly?
Bachelors, make "natural waists or no wives" your motto,
and frown down this fashion your patronage fos4ers. Women
will cease to lace when you show preference to good-sized waists.^'
Let all condemn this race-ruining custom.
Those who wear flowing dresses, hanging from their shoul-
ders, confined only by a loose belt, look incomparably more
" interesting," maternal, and womanly, and every way more tak-
ing, than those with confined, wasp-like waists.
Those lace tight who strain their buttons or fastenings ; and
few but do. Whatever cramps the vital organs, or interferes
with perfect freedom of breathing or motion, injures equally
with corsets. Lycurgus made all pregnant Spartan women wear
large dresses, so as to give ample room for developing large war-
riors, and paid them special honors ; while oiccinte^ or " ungirdled,"
means "with child," because Roman women took off their girdle
as soon as they knew they were with child, lest they cramp and
injure it. The discomfort caused by even a little viscenil pressure,
and relief given by undressing, warns you, and proclaims its in-
Jury to you and your unborn. What is as precious as superb
women and darling children? yet this senseless, wicked fashion
is victimizing both by wholesale.
What ! So ashamed of your situation, 'as if you liad been
doing something me4ni, or disgraceful, that you must not be seen
in public, but must banish yourself from society, and house and
lace to hide your shame? Fie on such prudery. Romans paid
public court to pregnant women by allowing them to sit while a
magistrate passed, when all others must rise. All mankind have
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instinctively honored and admired pregnant women ; and com-
mon proverb makes such one of three of the most agreeable sights
in Xature. Know that all who are pure minded regard you with
redoubled interest and sympathy. What care you for others?
Your state only enhances your feminine attractions. Then neither
pad nor lace, but let Nature " have her perfect work." Be proud
of your prospects, and appear in parlor, church, lecture-room,
street, everywhere, then as ever ; and thereby stamp a noble self-
respect, instead of this mean, sneaking feeling, on your unborn.
" Society " should draw you abroad, instead of banishing you
within the stifled precincts of your own room, if only to improve
your child's mentality and physiology.
Imperfect ventilation, bad for all, is ruinous for you. If you
remain mostly within doors, and in heated rooms, where the
vitality of the air is mainly burnt out, besides being highly rare-
fied, so as doubly to reduce its life-imparting oxygen, how can
you inhale enough even for your own self, much less for your
child too ? Be much out of doors, keep your bedrooms well aired
at night, and supply yourselves with plenty of " breathing
timber."
Animal warmth is equally necessary. Artificial and external
is insufficient. If you are chilly, or troubled with cold hands,
feet, or skin, inquire whether this is consequent on impaired di-
gestion, or insufficient respiration, or a vitiated atmosphere, &c.,
and obviate this effect by removing its cause.
856. — Importance of Muscle, Exercise, Clothing, Bathing, &c.
Good muscles are more useful than anything but good lungs
and brains. Just think how they contribute to the efficiencies
and luxuries of living. Besides all the moving, working, &c.,
they execute, and doing at least half our breathing, digestion, &c.
The brain is far more effective with good muscles than poor ;
for these reasons : — 1. Mentality is put forth by the outer gelat-
inous portion of the brain ;^ into which myriads of nervous
filaments enter froija below. 2. These nerves transfer this mental
action to all parts. 3. Gall discovered that the body of the brain
is composed of nervous tissues, which he could exhibit only in
the brains of those who had powerful muscles. That is : power-
ful muscles render these brain tissues the more stringy ; which
enables them to transfer this mental action with proportional
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power and force to other minds. Hence the stronger the muscles
the more efficient and impressive all the mental operations.
Those with weak muscles maj be fervid, impulsive, excitable,
&c., but cannot be virile, potential, and impressive mentally. Our
temperamental doctrine shows why.*^ This renders female mus-
cular inertia the great modern mind-paralyzer.
Exercise during carriage develops fibrin in the mother, and
thereby in her children ; to the life-long improvement and effi-
ciency of all their functions. English women of rank often walk
ten miles, ride much, practise gymnastics, &c., just for exercise ;
but the downright muscular laziness of most American ladies is
as disgraceful to them as ruinous to their children. At this down-
hill rate the next generation will be too feeble to work, and fit
only for sedentary avocations ; and hardly for them. Our girls
must romp more, and women, instead of sitting so much and
doing so little, take more brisk, muscle-developing exercise of
some sort. It matters less what, so that it is convenient and
liked. All the better if it superadds utility. That taken in soap-
suds is most excellent ; besides killing two birds with one stone.
Most ladies " put out " their very best medicine every Monday
morning. If "hard to take "in these nippy days — medicines
generally nauseate — yet few things will equally benefit mothers,
children, and girls.
Protecting your abdomen and legs against sudden tempera-
mental changes, by drawers fitted to them, is your chief point in
clothing. Apparel open below is an outrage on utility*" and
propriety,^* if people would stop to think. Pedal circulation is
most important; because more colds, those great disease breeders,
come through cold feet than from all other sources combined ;
and circulation in the lower limbs of bearing women is retarded
by their unborn pressing upon these arteries and veins. See that
you keep your legs warm somehow. Yet over-dressing them can-
not, only good circulation can, keep them comfortable. Tight
iraiters and shoes, objectionable always, are far the most so during
pregnancy.
Sponge bathing furnishes about your best kind, securing that
indisiKjnsable requisite of skin action and surface circulation ; and
doubly of pedal. Carriage furthers congestion, by impeding the
circulation ; which is to be restored mainly by cutaneous appli-
cations. Water is the best. Your own feelings will decide cor-
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rectly as to its best temperature ; that being best which feels best.
Yet, in general, the colder it is the better, provided you have vital
force enough to produce reaction ; without which it is most in-
jurious; yet the su7i bath, while nearly nude, be/ore and after all
other baths, is your king bath, and means of promoting circulation.
857. — Maternal Culture can Obviate Progenal Defects.
Proportionate action is the paramount condition of perfection ;
while want of balance is one of the greatest of human deficits."^*
What are dyspepsia, nervousness, consumption, and most other
diseases, but its absence between the lungs and other functions ?
By cultivating their own weak organs before their children are
born, parents can render these organs constitutionally strong in
their offspring. Thus,
If a strong-muscled woman exercises but little during preg-
nancy, her child's muscles will be weaker than her own ; whereas
lier training them at this period will render them strong in the
child of one in whom they are naturally feeble. Exercising them
at this period reincreases this muscular element in herself, and
this endows her prospective child with much more than she
possesses.^
If her MUSCLES are good, but LUNGS WEAK, it will almost cer-
tainly be strong of muscle without her taking extra exercise ;
yet if she disciplines her own lungs, its lungs will naturally be
much stronger than hers; thus obviating this great deficit in
herself. By this means consumptive parents can have non-con-
sumptive children.
If your skin is naturally weak, you can so quicken it in your-
self at these periods by friction, right bathing, &c., as to send
abundance of skin-forming material and cutaneous activity to it,
so as to obviate in it this defect in yourself.
A MAGAZINE WRITER brought her four children for phrenologi-
cal examination, in all of whom every one of the writing organs,
the entire intellectual lobe. Beauty, Sublimity, Wit, and Imitation
were most extraordinary ; and very much larger in each child
than in herself, while their father was a common mechanic;
obviously because of her vigorous and perpetual exercise of these
qualities during the entire period of their incipiency in getting
her and their living by writing light stories. Mothers, please
stop and think what facts like these, of which the world is full,
signify.
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A New York mother, hearing these doctrines soon after her
conception, determined to see how fine a child she could produce
by applying them; and this child was incomparably superior to
her previous ones. Of this she was most proud ; of those, ashamed.
Paternal excesses and defects can also be oftset by a like
maternal regimen. It can neutralize or increase his consumptive,
or dyspeptic, or nervous, or other physical ailments ; as well as
original passional, intellectual, and moral excesses and defects.
In short, by it the child's constitution can be greatly modified at
maternal pleasure.
This statement and application of this law will enable all
who have any " soft spots " to render their children strong in
these respects, and every way better than themselves. Then
should not every female leani them beforehand^ and cultivate them
all through her bearing period? Behold how perfectly this
blessed law puts the constitutions of your unborn into your mould-
ing power ! Then tremble while you learn to wield it so as to
render them ''''perfect men and women," marred with none of your
own faults, and incomparably superior to yourselves. Words
utterly fail to depict the importance of this means of endowing
them with the most animal vigor possible ; or the suflferings con-
sequent on its neglect.
858. — Preqnancy Promotes Health: Bearing Often.
Gestation naturally improves health. The idea that it im-
pairs it is as erroneous as common. What ! God curse woman
for and by fulfilling His laws in helping Him create Ilis children!
It, with nursing, is her normal condition — that to which she is
expressly adapted. It never need to, yet often does injure; not
per se, but other things with it. Those fairly healthy who take
anything like average pains to recuperate, eat, digest, sleep,
and feel every way the best at these times; while women by
thousands, drifting into consumption, marry, recuperate while
bearing, but as soon as they cease, relapse back into it, and die
soon after; and thus of other diseases; yet live nmny years
longer than if they had never borne. It exhausts and injures
only those who have but little vitality at best, and work up so
much of that little on family cares, without taking time to re-
cuperate, that they break down ; not by maternity itself, but by
piling other loads on top of it; whereas by stopping these other
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drains, and manufacturing what vitality they well can, every
child would make even weakly women the healthier, and give
each a new lease of life. This is proved by bearing women being
healthier, and living longer, on the average, than old maids.
Sickness at the stomach amounts to little. Endure it patiently,
or fight it wilfully f^ or, best of all, provide against it by previous
care of your health. Its chief cause is the mechanical displace-
ment of your stomach by the child. Doctoring much for it is
folly, and injures. Keeping your stomach in good order is its
best antidote. It is not dangerous, but only inconvenient. En-
dure it like a true heroine, in anticipation of its eventuality.
Manufacturing the organic materials is the great drain ;
which continues the same all the time ; the child working them
up in one case, and the monthly flow ejecting them in the other.
And her child usually cleans it out of her system much cleaner
than her womb ; the sluggishness of which often leaves much in
her to clog and oppress all her functions.^^ Hence ninety-nine
women in every hundred who take fair care of themselves will
enjoy far the best health, and live the longest, for bearing and
nursing.
iN'ATURE orders that just as soon as this surplus albumen ceases
to flow to the breasts by the weaning of one child, it shall flow
to the womb ; not to be wasted in the monthlies, but to nurture
another unborn. Intermissions are not needed, and only injure
always. Nature ordains that her whole time, from twenty to
forty-five, shall be filled up by this her specific female function.
Till our world is full, — and it will hold not a few more yet, —
this multiplying problem ranks all others in practical impor-
tance, because the basis of all human interests.*^^
859. — Maternity should take Precedence over all else.
A FINE FAMILY IS OF PARAMOUNT humau importance.^ By all
the value of splendid children over poor, or none, should all other
life interests be made subservient to maternity ; not it to them.
Brush aside like cobwebs pecuniary, ambitional, and all other
ends, and make it imperious lord over all. Obtain any others not
incompatible with this ; but let all " woman's rights," all " labors
of love," even all family cares, be merely incidental. Your family
may tetter live on bread and water, and you have splendid chil-
dren, than you do all this work, most of which is useless, and
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have ill-natured ones. What are stylish rooms and furniture,
many and highly-seasoned dishes, and all the property you can
over possess, in comparison with a sweet vs. a hateful child:
Mothers, while " after the manner of women," you are solemnly
bound to attend to this your first duty, and let all else incompat-
ible with it go. Why squander dollars in getting pennies? Do
what else you please without conflicting with this, but give your
WHOLE soul and body to this, as far as it requires either.
If a servant employed expressly to do a given thing, yet al-
lowed to do incidentals when not needed for this, should plead,
" I can't attend to this because of these incidentals," you would
command, " Give to your specific work all the time and energy it
requires, and let whatever detracts from this go undone." Child-
bearing and caring is your one female duty, for which alone you
were made a woman. Do this in your very best manner possible,
but make all else secondary. Let nothing else detract from this.
Giving maternity precedence will " pay " best financially.
" While bearing take the best possible care of your recuperative
functions, or your child will be too weakly to live, and your health ruined."
" I AM NOW PREGNANT. Fourteen years ago our only child died at birth,
which greatly disappointed our hopes of an heir ; but my husband is now
most delighted with this prospect of another." — A Feeble Wife,
"Then dismiss every family care, hire help, be a mere boarder,
take a pleasant daily walk, or ride, or recreation, breathe freely of fresh
air, sleep every day, and give all your vital functions every possible chance,
and bearing will regenerate your own constitution, and give you a living
heir ; but keep on working at this rate, and this your last hope will also
die, and you with it."
"My husband earns our living by work, and is just paying for a
home. I hate to saddle him with servant's hire while I am able to be
about house ; and can illy afford time even to lie down during the day."
" Would he not rather hire help, and have a living child, than have
no heir to enjoy his home and property ? Madam, this is a case of lifb
AND death to your child and yourself You must follow this advice, or
miscarry, and probably die. It is the one or the other. Take your ohoioe."
She kept on working till her confinement. Her child died
three days before its birtli ; she lingered on, extremely feeble,
and died. Her working thus at this time was just as much
suicide and babe-murder as if she had taken poison. She blighted
her husband's last ecstatic hopes, turned his holy joys into an
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agony of sorrow, and broke his heart by killing his dearest wife
and only child, just by being too parsimonious to hire help, and
too short-sighted to see that even true economy required that she
save all her strength. Mothers, know you no like cases? Have
you not even perpetrated this very sin? Or, if your dear child
did not die before birth, did it not drag out a precarious exist-
ence, only to fall a victim to some form of infantile disease, whicli
you did not give it sufficient life-power to resist ?
" A WOMAN STARTED ALONE on a nine months' journey, taking barely
meal enough, if used with the utmost economy, to carry her through ; nor
could she obtain any resupply. She improvidently wasted much without
baking, dropped carelessly along the road many pieces of bread, and, to
crown all, took a child along to feed. If she had husbanded her supply,
she would still have had barely sufficient, but she starved both"
Many weakly mothers completely exhaust their vital powers,
fall into a decline, and fill a self-dug grave, who might have lived
if they had economically husbanded what little health and vitality
remained. And the child, thus rendered weakly and sickly
before birth, if it barely lived a few brief days or months, kept
mother, father, and all concerned in perpetual fear lest it die, till
it finally yielded up its feeble hold on life.
Behold that sickly mother fast declining with consumption,
tiervousness, female complaints, or some other disease. She was
well at her marriage, but bearing her first child, which was smart
and healthy, shook her constitution, because she omitted to take
care of herself. Pale, debilitated, suffering with prolapsus, she
worked on in pain, hardly aware that she was not able to endure
as formerly ; thinks she was only getting lazy ; is bound to save
all she can, and keep house and child looking as nice as possible,
and doing many times more work than is really necessary.
Again she is bearing, and wonders why she is so much sicker
at her stomach, and fuller of all sorts of pregnant ills this time ;
still working for '-'- hired help " or something else, though barely
able to drag herself about. By dividing her sparse vitality with
her babe, she starves both. Her system, besieged on all sides by old
complaints and new, gives way now here, there, yonder, till her
time arrives. And a most dreadful time it is. But her life-
power, though sunk to its lowest ebb, here rallies, summons every
energy, taxes every function to its utmost, and just carries her
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through, after suffering all but death. Yet she is completely
exhausted ; but gradually recovers, after a long trembling on the
confines of death ; while her child is small, shrivelled, squalid,
and extremely feeble. Though it has almost robbed its mother,
it could obtain barely enough material to form only an imperfect
organization, and just keep the fire of life from going out. Her
diseases find their way into its daily food. It drinks in poison
from its mother's breast. It lives on death. Griping pains and
infantile disorders cramp its stomach, interrupt its sleep, and
render its young life, otherwise so quiet and happy, a torture.
And, to cap the climax,- officious nurse, or meddlesome aunt, or
fussy granny, determined not to give Nature even the small
chance left of restoring it, keeps dosing it, night and day,
with this tea and that drug, till its feeble powers barely
suffice to keep soul and body together ; yet it would still live
if its frail bark were not forced upon the quicksands of over-
nursing.
Its mother still lives, a marvel, because the life-power clings
with desperation to her yet young organization. Compelled to
take some rest, because utterly exhausted, her constitution slowly
recovers, in spite of a drugging doctor, to whom a hundred-dollar
fee must be paid for interfering with Nature, and another hun-
dred for incidentals; whereas, a moiety of it, spent for help,
would have allowed her time to rest, kept her up while carrying
her child, brought her safely through, saved her constitution
from the utmost verge of ruin, and given her darling babe a fair
hold on life in the start ; so that it would have grown finely,
been intelligent, and withstood the current of infantile com-
plaints. But no, they could not afford it. How " penny wise,
but pound foolish I " A wife, advised by her husband to send
away an impertinent domestic, lest she render their future
child cross-grained, answered that she could not do all the work
for their large family till she could get another; to which he
replied : —
" Let the family do their own work, and yours too. While you are
carryiDg my children you shall not be a slave to my family, especially
deadheads. Let every one serve you, not you them."
All can well afford to " invest " in rendering the child ami-
able by making her happy ; for what is the practical difference
V82 AXTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
to them whether it shall be cross or amiable, keep all awake nights
And miserable days by its crying and ugliness on the one hand,
or, on the other, be a little cherub ? Then see that prospective
mothers want nothing. They deserve, and, as " society " ad-
vances, will yet receive universal sympathy; along with the
atmost of care and affection.
Section IV.
what maternal states of mind are most favorable for
offspring; and their promotion.
860. — The Propensities and Perceptive Organs stamped the
first six Months, the Reflective and Moral the last three.
" One thing at a time " is lN"ature'8 formative motto. Growth
begins at the heart, and running along up the spine, establishes
the propensities long before it reaches the upper part of the brain.
All infantile, and doubly premature, heads at birth are developed
most at the base and crown, yet not on top, nor in the upper
portion of the forehead, Fig. 506 ; but when about two years old
they grow much the fastest above and before. !N'ature must
make, in order to use, the bodily organs first. Yet they would
be inert without those propensities which control and give them
action. Thus, of what use is the stomach without Appetite?
Hence the animal propensities must be formed along with the hody^
and before the upper organs could be used, or are stamped. Of
what use is Conscience, Kindness, or Reason till the child is some
two years old ? Yet it must feed, and therefore have Appetite
before its birth, else it could never appropriate the nutritive
materials supplied by its mother.®^ As an architect first requires
coarse stone and mortar for the foundation, next fine mortar and
brick, then still other materials for other parts ; so prospective
mothers should furnish their embryo bodily materials by taking
the nicest care of their own health, and keeping all their recu-
perative functions in the best possible state during the first six
months; but its moral and reflective Faculties, which are
stamped after the sixth month, would be useless before the sixth,
yet must be affixed before the ninth, or omitted altogether, for
Nature never inserts after birth. The following facts taught the
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Author this important and most practically useful discovery.
The father of an idiot girl who walked, talked, and acted exactly
like one drunk, said: —
" About three months before her birth, aa I was riding home on
horseback, through woods, with my wife ' on behind,' at dusk, by a clear-
ing, we saw something among the brush near the road, which frightened
her terribly. She insisted on our fleeing for safety, while I was bound to
stop and see what it was. It was a drunken man, lying on his back, and
rocking back and forth from head to feet ; and from infancy this girl has
been idiotic, and staggered and rocked exactly like that drunken man."
This fright arrested formation about the sixth month. Mean-
while her propensities and perceptives, already formed, were as
large as usual ; but her coronal organs, the reasoning, moral, and
refining, had not yet received their impress, and failed to develop
after her birth ; because their growth was arrested before they
were established.
A SIMPLE girl had a monkey-shaped head and forehead, with
large Perceptives and Imitation, but no reflectives ; and her first
instinctive position was to swing by her hands, like a monkey
which her mother saw at a menagerie about three months before
this girl was born, and which, after charming her, frightened her
terribly by jumping upon her back, which arrested foetal cerebral
growth before her upper organs were fairly started.
A Sackett's Harbor mother, summoned to New York by her
' iisband's sudden sickness, found him convalescent; and meantime
aw all the lions of that great city, was treated courteously be-
ause of her husband's political prominence, and so immeasurably
delighted, that after her return she could think and talk of noth-
ing but what new and great sights she had seen, speakers heard,
\c. About three months afterwards she gave birth to a remark-
ably smart son, who had a prodigiously high and bold forehead,
and whose intellectual lobe towered far above that of all her other
children ; because this quickened state of her own intellectuality
before his birth had correspondingly developed his intellect.
Why not ? All mothers can cultivate any and all the Intellectual
capacities by a like means.'*'
The first five months stamp the physical system, propensities,
and perceptives ; while the mental apparatus, and the reasoning and
moral Faculties, are formed, and their sizes adjusted, q/iSfr the fifth
784 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
montb. Hence, during the first portion of gestation, mothers
should take much exercise, and keep up a full supply of physical
vigor; but after the fifth or sixth montb, while the top of the
child's brain is forming, they should study much, and exercise
their moral Faculties the most.
The GROWTH of the brain confirms this theory. At first only
its base is developed, or the Propensities and Perceptives; to which
is added layer after layer upwards- aiid forwards ; for it grows much
faster relatively above and before than at its base; with which the
mental Faculties correspond. Hence, earlier in life the lower
I'aculties predominate, in middle life all are powerful, but ad-
vancing age hands the reins of control over to the upper. Even
death itself illustrates this law by extinguishing the animal pas-
sions first, but letting the moral and intellectual live the longest;
thereby facilitating increased goodness beyond the grave.
861. — How TO PRODUCE Orators, Poets, Writers, &c.
A MOTHER BROUGHT HER FOUR SONS for phrenological examina-
tion; her eldest fair to middling only, her second a splendid nat-
ural orator, with as large Ideality, Expression, Imitation, Wit,
Reason, and Memory, as ever came under my hands ; her third an
equally natural painter and artist ; but her fourth had extraordi-
nary Construction, perceptives, and Acquisition. Pointing out, and
asking how she accounted for difierences thus extreme in children
of the same parents, she narrated : —
" About a month before the birth of my first, thinking it about time
for me to learn something about confinement, because unwilling to trust all
to the doctors, I got various books to mothers, and among them yours on
* Maternity ;' in which I found not only what I wanted touching confine-
ment, but also how I could shape their original characters by self-culture
before their birth. Sorry I had not known this earlier, I determined to
* put my house in order ' for next time, and see what I could do to improve
subsequent ones. I had always wanted an eloquent son, and when I found
myself likely to bear my second, gave myself up wholly to hearing orators,
and reading poetry and classical works ; and listened to every good speaker
in the pulpit and lecture-room, at the bar and in the legislature, on the
bench and political rostrum, &c.; which accounts for the speaking instinct
and talents of my second son. But while carrying my third, desiring a
painter and artist, I visited, with a trained artist, all the art studios in
New York, Boston, Philadelphia, Baltimore, Washington, Montreal, and
other places, giving myself up wholly to the study and admiration of the
WHAT MATERNAL STATES ARE FAVORABLE FOR OFFSPRING. 7 St
fine arta ; which accounts for my third son's certainly extraordinary artistic
taste and talents. But when my fourth was coming forward, we were
building our new country home. My husband was obliged to leave before
it was done. I had to be head mechanic, and direct putting in new coun-
try gas-works and fixtures ; contrive this, that, and the other mechanical
matter ; pay off men, look after the farm, economize material and labor,
see that both farmers and workmen did not impose on us, and oversee
everything ; which accounts for my fourth son having such large percep-
tives, Construction and Acquisition. Each is as I was while carrying him.
And O, if I had an angel's gratitude, and should thank you with all my
heart forever, I could not duly thank you for * Maternity ; ' because it has
given me my * orator ' and my * artist/ worth as much more to me than the
others as gold than brass. But for that book all four would have been
like my first, simply medium. No words can tell hpw highly I prize it
and them."
An bxcellent doctress, while carrying her first child, was in
daily and quite extensive practice, receiving patients instead of
visiting them, and being highly intelligent, brought a great
amount of intellect to their analysis and treatment. Her child
was a perfect prodigy. Its bright eyes would often light its
•ountenance with almost superhuman intelligence, while its
capacities were indeed surprising. But its brain consumed its
l>ody. It declined, lingered, and finally died of brain fever; not,
however, till its precocious brain had literally spent the entire
energies of its system.
" Beyond question, the cultivation of any organ or power of the parent
will contribute to the production of offspring improved in this same par-
ticular."— Airs. Pendleton.
" The whelps of well-trained dogs are more fitted for sporting
purposes than others. The most extraordinary and curious observations
of this kind have been made by Mr. Knight, who, in a paper read to the
Royal Society, showed that these communicated powers were not of a vague
or general kind, but that any particular art or trick acquired by the ani-
mals WHS readily practised by their progeny without the slightest instruc-
tion. It was impossible to hear that interesting paper without being deeply
impressed that the better educatiou of women is of much greater im-
portance to their progeny than is imagined. Sir Anthony Carlisle men-
tioned this very striking corroboration. 'An old schoolmaster told me he
had noticed that the children of people accustomed to arithmetic learn
figures quicker than those of differently e<lucated persons ; while the chil-
dren of classical scholarii more easily acquire Latin and Greek ; and with
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a few exceptions, the natural dulness of children born of uneducated
parents is proverbial.* " — Dr. Elliotaon.
Begin to educate children at conception, and continue dur-
ing their entire carriage. Yet maternal study, of little account
before the sixth, after it, is most promotive of talents; Avhich,
next to goodness, are the father's joy and mother's pride. What
pains are taken, after they are born, to render them prodigies
of learning, by the best of schools and teachers from their
third year; whereas their mother's study, three months before
their birth, would improve their intellects infinitely more. Pro-
fessional facts, perpetually recurring, strikingly illustrate this,
maternal ordinance, compel belief, and overwhelm with its vast
practical importance. Though sure that this doctrine is as true
as astronomy, yet, in revisiting places, I am more and more sur-
prised to find how true it is experimentally. The children of the
same parents, born after their mothers learn and practise this doc-
trine, are much finer than those born before, than either parent,
and than they could have been but for this knowledge and prac-
tice.
Mothers, does God thus put the endowment of your darlings
into your moulding power? Then tremble in view of its neces-
sary responsibilities, and learn how to wield them for their and
your temporal and eternal happiness.
862. — Producing Arithmetical Talents. Zerah Colburn.
Mr. and Mrs. S. had Computation small, and were naturally
deficient in arithmetic, which both disliked. He failed in busi-
ness East, and went West, where inflamed eyes prevented his
keeping books ; but his ambitious wife, determined to help him
rise in the world, applied her whole mind to his accounts, an-
swering letters, &c , and as they soon secured a large business,
her Computation was perpetually employed. Meanwhile she
gave birth to a fine daughter, who has a most extraordinary
talent for computing numbers in her head, and acquiring arith-
metic. As both parents are poor in figures, her superior calcu-
lating powers could have been derived only from her mother's
vigorous exercise of them while carrying this arithmetical child.
Is not this cause adequate to this effect ? and in perfect keeping
with all the laws and facts set forth in this. Part?
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She taught music at this period; and tliis daugater is a
splendid singer and performer on the piano, and often composea
-uperior music impromptu ; besides excelling in composition.
Though only nine years old, yet her letters are really remarkable,
caused by her mother's answering the letters and doing all the
writing of a large business. Her intellectual lobe far surpasses
that of either of her parents; consequent on the intense action
of her mother's entire intellect at this period. The case of a son,
born soon after, and carried under similar circumstances, also
proves that the vigorous exercise of any special intellectual
Faculty during pregnancy, will render it far more powerful bi/
nature in children than in their parents. Neither of these chil-
dren took after either of their parents, yet the natural talents of
>)oth bear a close resemblance to the states of the mother's mine}
-luring their carriage.
Zerah Colburn's foetal historj^ is even more in point. A Mrs.
Grimes, who knew his mother well, told me the following fact
touching her calculation two months before his birth. She ol)-
tained her living in part by weaving figured cloths, diaper, &c.,
which required a great exercise of Computation ; often inventing
and copying new figures. But she undertook one figure which
troubled her exceedingly. For several days she tried, and kept
trying, to work out the problem, but in vain, till on the point
of giving it up wholly, after studying on it all one night, she
saw that so many threads woven thus, and so many more thu*',
would bring the required figure; and in the morning wove it
as deciphered without diflSculty. Meanwhile she was pregnant
with this arithmetical prodigy ; who, in his day, astonished the
• ntire civilized world by his arithmetical powers, and discovered
a new mode of mental computation. Attention was first drawu
to this gift by his often standing, when only three years old,
and saying to himself, " so many of this, and so many of that,
•I lake so ninny of the other." That is, he showed not only extraor-
dinary arithmetical powers, but that particular species which
liis mother exercised so vigorously before his birth.
863. — How TO RENDER CHILDREN MoRAL AND RELIGIOUS.
Any special phase of piety, along with general religious zeal,
can be stamped thus. A pious lady, in Lockport, New York,
while carrying a child, had her sympathies inte^eely excited in
788 ANTE-NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
behalf of heathen missions,.inspire(i by the preaching of a foreign
missionary, and perpetually entreated her husband to make her
minister a life member; to which, at last, he reluctantly assented;
and this son is perpetually talking about converting the heathen,
now happily brought to our doors by California gold.
Volumes of like facts both illustrate this general truth, and
show that any particular kinds and shadings of this religious
sentiment especially exercised in mothers, are thereby written as
with the point of a diamond into the innermost souls of their
progeny. Why not ? Behold, 0 religious mothers, the momen-
tous power for eternal good thus imposed on you ! By all that
is sacred and desirable in piety and goodness, do learn to wield
it for their spiritual endowment. Then, so far from being
obliged to drive them to church, you could not keep them from
going. They would " take to " prayer and piety as ducks to
water. You can thus dedicate your future son to God as was
Samuel, ''from his mother^s womby*' and " ordain " him to the
gospel ministry before he is bom. Hence pious ministers derive
their piety from their mothers more than fathers.^^^ Let them
preach this doctrine, and their congregations would be far more
receptive of "divine truths" than now. Why do they neglect
it ? If they do not know it, they are but poor students of their
Bible.
864. — Loving vs. Hating Children before their Birth.
Affectionate children, how infinitely preferable to indiffer-
ent ! How inexpressibly delightful to have fond ones hang lov-
ingly around parental necks, and clamber up cosily into open
laps ; yet how utterly repugnant are young snarling, hateful
Ishmaelites! Who can help exalting over these terrestrial
angels? How can parents secure the former, yet avoid the latter?
By loving them and each other before they are born. Parents
love them duly after they are born, why not still more before f
Parental affection naturally yearns the more tenderly the younger
its object. All animals love their youngest most ; obviously
because they then require the most care.
Will-power can send succor to any suffering part or organ,^^
and, of course, also equally to the embryo. Loving it before it is
born is to it what brooding is to chickens. Every love emotion
of either parent goes right to its life-seat, to help endow it.
WHAT MATERNAL STATES ABE FAVORABLE FOR OFFSPBIXG. 789
Loving it before birth is instinctive. Only heathen mothers in
sexual reversion hate it then ; as if some imp interfering with
their pleasures. Is it to blame for existing ? Did it create
itself? This hatred does not stop its existence, but does make it
a child of perdition. Unwelcome children become Ishmaelitish
" devils incarnate," growing worse as they grow older, here and
hereafter. No feeling can be more utterly unnatural and down-
right wicked in parents, and injurious to children. Come when
they may, let them be welcome. The entire popular mind needs
" converting '' on this point.
A LOATHSOME IDIOT w^as made so by its mother's hatred before
its birth. Her husband had just been elected to the Legislature,
she intending to have a good time among the members by ac-
companying him ; which this imp prevented. Though a church
member, she confessed to an utter repugnance, even bitter hatred,
of it from conception, and inquired after some Eastern asylum
for imbeciles ; but was not told of any. Let this home-thorn be
kept perpetually jjushed by its presence into her side. Shall this
otherwise darling child suffer all this forever, and not take ven-
geance on its maternal author ?
Fathers are usually worst. A wnfe, on inquiring how to pre-
vent offspring, and being answered, " Better inquire how to pro-
mote them," narrated : —
" Nothing cjould please me personally better than having a large
family; but my husband is perfectly insane in his aversion to my having
any more. The entire time I was carrying our only child he was utterly
hateful towards me ; and threatens if I am ever in that ' situation ' again,
to go and stay away from home, or else compel abortion. Yet this was no
fault of mine, surely."
Heathen ! Heathen f No other " heathen" is or could be half
as heathenish. He ought to have a Centennial " leather medal,"
labelled " Savage " on one side, and " Monster " on the other.
Alas, too many deserve it !
865. — Foetitude; A Crushed Spirit; Fear, Work imext, &c.
Amiability must not become passivity. A fighting spirit is
better than a cowed. The bent reed must not be broken. Self-
defence 18 as necessary as sense, or justice. You do not wish
your future son to be a coward, or poltroon, and the consequent
790 ANTE NATAL STATES CONTROL POST-NATAL CHARACTER.
prey of all who choose to impose on hiin. He requires energy
to dash obstacles and opposition aside, and resolutely cope with
difficulties and enemies. Softs amount to little in this age of
herculean contests. You want no grown up cry-babies, forever
pining and puling over spilt milk, and the drift-wood of events.
Rendar them heroes by being a heroine yourself. A firm and
forcible mother brought her sixteen-year old daughter for exam-
ination, who had little Force, Firmness, affection, or perceptives,
but large religious organs. On some slight error being described
she burst out crying, and sobbed on so as to compel postponement
till the next day. When asked what ante-natal states had ren-
dered this child of such energetic parents so pusillanimous, she
narrated : —
" I MARRIED AGAINST the remonstrances of all my friends. After pack-
ing and locking my trunk and pocketing the key at my father's, in putting
on my wedding dress and going to my husband's father's to be married, I
found, on retiring, I had left my key, and wanted to tell my husband ;
but his brother and sister seemed in mortal fear lest he should know it,
and broke open the trunk, which astonished me. In the morning, he per-
emptorily ordered me up ; and because I did not spring instantly, broke
out into a violent fit of rage and cursing. The whole truth of my awful
mistake now flashed suddenly on my mind. Boarding at his father's, with
nothing to divert my mind, and he at sea, I gave up wholly to soul-crush-
ing despair, refused to see my warning friends, and did nothing but read
the Bible and cry from morning to night, day after day, till this child was
born ; which, when a babe, at the least unpleasant word or look, would cry
piteously for hours together ; and when spoken sharply to in the morning,
would go away by herself and sob and cry all day long, and go to bed
sobbing ; was always pensive, and when only five years old could not sleep
without the Bible under her pillow, or Testament clasped on her breast."
Behold the contrast between her natural disposition and that
of both parents ; which shows that it could not be parentage ;
but its perfect accordance with the state of her mother's mind
during pregnancy shows that it was caused wholly by maternal
states.
Mormon children are generally amiable, yet lack energy. I
noticed a singular deficiency of Force among them, all their
young men included ; obviously because polygamy crushes their
mothers' spirits. See how in ^*- Other energetic mothers by
thousands, whose spirits were crushed during pregnancy, have
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been bringing me their inert passive children for fifty years.
Their mothers' temporary tameness rendered them naturally weak-
willed.
Fear, worrimknt, borrowing trouble, Ac, are useless, and most
injurious to mother and child. Though "discretion is the better
part of valor," yet no mother can curse a child more effectually
than by impressing on its constitution this frightened, skittish,
nervous, fussy cast of character. It is one of the worst, yet most
common, forms of female insanity ; and renders husband, children,
and herself perfectly miserable. Indulging this awful feeling at
this period stamps it on offspring; whom it spoils by rendering
irresolute and cowardly. To detail cases among so many, would
mock our subject. They will be found everywhere, in any re-
quired abundance and aggravation. Be entreated, mothers, not
to indulge in a state of mind so foolish ; yet so torturing to them.
If you have trouble, fight it. Let no fears about husband, or
children, or property, or anything whatever disturb you. Espe-
cially oftset these mere whims by cool reasoning. Banish such
nonsense, and put yourself in a state far above them. Does
dreading confinement lessen its pains one jot? Does it not in-
crease them by unnerving your mind and body beforehand,
instead of fortifying both against them?®'^ If they did the least
good, they might be excused ; but since their whole influence " is
evil, only evil, and that continually," why indulge them ? Rather
rise above than succumb to them. " Take no thought for the
morrow." Remember,
Nature will not let those conceive who have not strength
enough to bring forth. Those who die in childbed, die from the
infraction of some natural law. Give Nature her perfect work,
and she will carry you through. " Sufficient unto the day is the
evil thereof." " 0, ye of little faith," cultivate it.«"
866. — Dropsy on the Brain. Its Cause and Treatment.
Maternal grief before birth causes it. In every case of the
thousands of water-brained patients I have examined, I find their
mother had some severe affliction, usually the death or alarming
sickness of a child or dear friend she nursed in. dread of their
dying, or some other soul-harrowing heart trouble. If thi*
occurred before conception, its memory still weighed heavily oik
her spirits. Its modus operoTuii is this ; —
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Her grief fevers her brain, which fevers her child's, and this
causes dropsy ; which carries off this fever, and thereby staves off
worse consequences. Fever often creates dropsy. Who but
knows this? Pain, that is fever, in the chest often causes a de-
}>osit of water there; thus saving further disorganization. Dis-
eases of the head often pass out at the feet, by causing dropsy in
them. This law is understood. Then why should it not act
before birth ? Why not a pregnant mother's temporary brain
fever, caused by any mental anguish, fever her child's brain, and
Nature prevent further ravages by drawing oft' this fever through
this watery deposit ?
A GAY mother left HER EIGHTEEN-MONTHS' BABE with Bridget, tO
attend a ball, who, having her beau, gave it so large a dose of
" Mrs. Winslow's Soothing Syrup" to keep it asleep, that it never
woke again ! A magnificent child was thus lost to mortals ! Of
course this torn mother's heart bled in agony for months. Who
can duly portray her grief at the death of her heart's idol ? Mean-
w^hile, again with child, her grief fevered her unborn's brain,
causing brain fever, of which it died when about two years old,
despite the utmost labor and expense lavished on its preserva-
tion— all unnecessary but for this death of her first child.
Meanwhile
Her third was rendered hydrocephalic by her extreme anxiety
concerning her second, barely survived teething, and was exces-
sively irritable and violent-tempered, unmanageable, and ungov-
ernable in temper and all his passions.
Her anxieties respecting this third, rendered her fourth
weakly, hydrocephalic, and barely able to live, with the utmost
of care, to, but not through, its "second summer." It also died I
Its mother's nerves, kept strung up to their utmost tension thus
long, finally broke down. She lingered on, grief-smitten, with
barely sufficient vitality not to die, miserable, expensive, and at
last died. Its father, heart-broken because his idols were no
more, gave up to drown his grief in "drink." Their only puny
orphan alone was left of what could have been a splendid family.
What agony, in place of what enjoyment ! A family in ruins !^
0, what a loss !.
Hydrocephalus is indicated by a monstrous head during in-
fancy and childhood. If any child's head at four measures over
twenty and a half inches, it is water lodged. Its being extremely
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uneven is another like sign. Or, if it bulges up at Kindness, as
in Fig. 601, there is a deposit of water at this organ only, caused
by the mother's painful exercise of it.
Grief in any maternal Faculty, as Kindness, or Caution, de-
posits water in this same organ in her child.
Copious head sweats during sleep indi-
cate that Nature is thus replacing this
poor water with good brain. Hydroceph-
alics also usually have feverish heads, and
are passionately fond of " paddling in the
water;" often carrying their wet hands to
their heads; because water turned into
steam by this heat carries it off. Let
them "paddle." Even help them, by
often wetting your hands, and stroking
down their heads as in magnetizing, by Fig. 699.— Water on Kend-
j>utting the fingers of both hands together
at the top, and passing them down, one hand on each side, till
they meet at the chin, where, parting, shake them to throw off
the feverish magnetism.
Hydrocephalus is not dangerous, but cures^hy staving off brain
fever, which is far worse, and of which it is the outworking. So
be neither alarmed, nor even anxious. But such absolutely must
not go to school. They have inherited too much brain action already.
Then why redouble their mental excess by schooling? Do not
eren teach such their letters till ten, nor let them go to school
at all till sixteen, nor engage early in business, nor work their
minds much, till their bodies are completely matured ; that is, till
about twenty. And even then they will be too smart. Precocity
will be their chief bane; why reincrease it? In 1844 I took a
fac-simile cast in plaster of a thirteen-year old Boston lad*8 head,
which was larger than Webster's by nearly one-fourth, and in
1860 found him lecturing in Pennsylvania on Astronomy with
ability and success, and evincing considerable talent.
It sometimes causes f»artial idiocy. When it simi^ly infuses
itself hetweni the brain fibres it creates precocity; yet when it
- oiAES them it causes proportionate idiocy. In all such cases
'oling will be useless, in all others injurious.
"Bio head, little wit,'* is thus explained as describing those
cases wherein the water consumes or dissolves the cerebral nerves.
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Medical men are respectfully invited to scrutinize this dis-
covery and these inferences ; the practical value of which can
hardly be overrated. Thank Phrenology.
867. — Intercourse during Pregnancy and Nursing.
This common practice is condemned aa a most flagrant violation
of natural law by every principle, every fact bearing on it. Im-
pregnation, the only mission of intercourse, has already been
fulfilled; so that it can subserve no end but sensual gratification.
Woman is its sole umpire as to its when, how frequent, and
whatever appertains thereto.^*^ Though her promptings should
not be ignored, yet her "desire" then is aboormal, and caused by
sexual inflammation. Not one voluntary instance occurs through-
out the entire animal and feathered kingdoms. Instead, all im-
pregnated females repel it with whatever of force and fierceness
they possess, fighting nothing with equal desperation. This fact
is full of meaning. Is the human female an exception ? Does
she not propagate throughout by the same identical means as
they do ?
Old Dr. White condemns it unsparingly, and considers it the
latent cause of an untold amount of female diseases. When she
participates, she thereby writes " sensuality " all over her child's
life; if she loathes, as almost all do, she impresses sexual loathing
and disgust, which completely spoils daughters as wives.*^ Find
in ^^^ an answer to its male continence objection. A doting hus-
band will find ample amatory action in appreciating her situation
and caring for her, which is so grateful to her, and beneficial to
her child. He should follow her inclinations.
868. — Mutual Counsel, and Paternal Co-operation.
Together birds build their nests, and feed and rear their young.
Mutuality appertains to the sexes throughout Nature.^ Should
it end with creating a child ?^^ Has its father no concern in its
future; whether it is perfect in form, healthy, smart, good, and
worthy of the money and eftbrt he is to expend upon it? Then
should he not "strive together" with her in perfecting it ? Only
selfish cuckoos neglect their young. And Qven they make others
provide for them.
Ills WIFE needs his sympathy, co-operation, and aid during
carriage almost as much as at conception.'*"'^ Why mate but to
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co-operate in this rearing? Why not work together in stampinf^
its Faculties hefore birth, as well as after in training them? As
architects lay off their work first, and adapt all parts to all ; so
husbands and wives should ^' lay out" every child's specialties
beforehand; virtually saying, ''Let us fashion this child this way,
and that child that ; have this a divine, that a merchant, the
other a man of letters," &c.,^^ and labor in concert to etiect these
desirable results. Why not, as much as say we will this year
have oats on this field and corn on that, and sow and plant ac-
cordingly ? Results infinitely more valuable can thus be secured
by analogous means. It is her duty to mould it through herself,
but far more his to improve it by influencing her. She and it are
plastic clay in his artistic hands. Her task is onerous. She
needs help, and his.
Gallantry is ordained solely to inspire him to help her carriage.
Pregnancy is its specific time and sphere for action.*^ Hence
alone all the " interest " taken by man in woman, and her
'' interesting condition" when with child. And most interesting
indeed it is. Nothing more so. The head of the family sliould
be the head of this " family affair." He has surplus, strength,
which she requires. Let him bestow all she can receive. What
creature comforts she needs he should supply lavishly ; and be to
her all that a gentleman is to a lady; only as much more as they
should love each other better in wedlock than out.
" How came your girl so far superior to its parents?"
** We have you to thauk for that. Mr. Bailey reads and practises
your book on * Maternity.* When he found me * after the manner of
women/ he said, * Mrs. Bailey, anything your ladyship may desire, to the
half of all we are worth, which is considerable, is at your service.' I re-
plied, * Then we will take a trip to Europe now.' 'Done!' said he
* Who will you have for pleasant company, what preparations, when will
it please you to start?' Ac, — he seeing that all hands gratified my every
whim. We went where, 8top|)ed when, and did as I desired. Only six
weeks before this babe was born, I was carried daily on a litter up * Mount
i^^^tna ; * taken as far down into its ' crater ' as any ever go ; al lowed to
luxuriate on the splendid scenery of the Bay of Naples; and returned
just in season to prepare for this advent, for I knew my time; and would
willin^rly always be in that state if I could always be kept thus happy." —
Mm. Bailey.
That pattern husband richly deserves "the Centennial goU
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medal " as a model husband ; and is paid for his pains in the
pride and pleasures this child gives himself, wife, others, and
herself. What are all those dollars and pains in comparison with
these " profits " ?
A YOUNG HUSBAND AND WIFE traversed all Boston in search of
the most beautiful child-picture to be found, and hung it where
her waking eyes could rest upon it, and contemplate its sunny
face, so as to fashion their future babe on that exquisite model ;
and this child has the expression and looks of that picture, as
well as the disposition its face expresses ; and is unlike either
parent. How much " percentage " did that speculation " net " ?
How much more than that husband's who so overworked his
wife that their child was born a " natural fool " ? ^® If men do
not think now, they will some day.
A PouGHKEEPSiE HUSBAND, though of average means, orna-
mented his rooms with just as beautiful furniture, pictures, books,
&c., as he could afford, in order to surround his wife with the
most beautifying, refining, and pleasing associations possible ;
chiefly in order thereby to impress taste, refinement, and love of
art on their offspring ; and their children were far better than
themselves. Heads and characters as exalted as were his chil-
dren's, can rarely be found in this wife-neglecting age.
Had Grecian works of art, lavishly erected in public, and
placed in their boudoirs for their pregnant wives to impress on
their unborn, nothing to do with the formation of the refined
tastes of that classical people ?
" When a superstitious fear overran Rome, all the women then preg-
nant were delivered prematurely, and brought forth imperfect children."
— Plutarch.
Millions of like facts absolutely demonstrate this law that
existing maternal states actually do control progenal character.
What intelligent mind can dispute either its facts or philosophy ?
869. — Appeal to Prospective Mothers. Their Vast Power,
What momentous responsibilities, 0 mothers, does this ante-
maternal law impose upon you, by obliging you to imbue your
own darlings with all your goodness and badness ! As Eliza-
beth's delight in seeing Mary made John " leap in his mother's
womb for joy;" so all your physical and mental pulsations vibrate
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throughout their beings. Every good, sweet, holy, afFectional
emotion sweetens and exalts not their conduct merely, but their
innermost souls; and your every intellectual effort makes them
the fonder of study, clearer headed, and smarter; while your
every fretful, angry, hateful feeling prints its defacing scar right
into the forming disks of their young souls, to haunt them for-
ever! Behold, grasp, study, and employ this divine means of
endowing them with mathematical, methodical, commercial,
musical, artistical, poetical, literary, oratorical, devotional, phil-
osophical, and any other natural gift; and "rejoice with joy
unspeakable" in the pow^r over them for good it confers upon
you ; yet tremble lest you render them constitutionally stupid or
wicked. Why will you longer ignore this momentous subject ?
What other compares with it in shaping their present and eter-
nal destinies? Will you make them forever devilish by in-
dulging your own temper ? or angelic by cultivating your own
virtues ? Turn a deaf ear, ye who will, only to flay them alive
to beat out of them those satanic vices you branded into them
before they were born; but hear, ye prospective mothers of
future angels, pray for light, and clutch whatever will enable
you to stamp them with a higher and holier impress. How
infinite the difference to them, you, and theirs forever, between
their being good, amiable, affectionate, pure, refined, bright,
talen^ted, intellectual, adorned with all the virtues, marred by no
defects of body or soul, on the one hand; and on the other dull,
senseless, snarling, haggard, wicked, false, dishonest, malignant,
or, perhaps, fiendish ! And growing worse. What can you ever
do to make yourselves as happy as by rendering them the one, or
miserable, as in the other? What pains are too great, or labors
too incessant, to secure the one, and avoid the other ? 0, if there
is any one duty the most obligatory, this is it; but if any one sin
is the most sinful, it is branding " innate depravity" and "orig-
inal sin" right into their inner life, only to redouble forever!
More than words can express, will their loveliness make you and
them happy, and their depravities torment you, them, and their
descendants " to their third and fourth generations." As you
instinctively parry blows from this part, strike wherever else
they may; so ward off all moral evils by cherishing that calm,
quiet, happy, ethereal, spiritual, ecstatic, devout frame of mind
God mercifully attaches to this maternal state.
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Bearing is most delightful. Its luxury barely begins at con-
ception. Every woman had rather give birth to darling children
than enjoy any other good, or attain any other end. How her
babe's first cry thrills every fibre of her being! How she de-
lights to talk about her unborn, especially to her sympathizing
husband? God has implanted a strong maternal yearning in
every genuine woman, which is to bearing what appetite is to
food ; its vade meciim. Say, does not this veil, drawn back from
your inner consciousness, reveal your maternal altar bedecked
with sacrificial rites ? Then cherish this divine sentiment.
Behold heaven opened, and a commission issued from the
august court of eternity, directed and delivered to yourself in
])erson, conferring this celestial prerogative of stamping and
moulding undying minds ami souls! Infinitely does this power
exceed that of kings. All other human ends are comparative
baubles. Ano;els mio;ht well exult over a commission thus
glorious. Willing or unwilling, ignorant or informed, you are
coynpelled thus to predetermine their future talents and virtues, or
imbecility and vices. For God's sake, then, in the exalted dig-
nity of your maternal mission, do not let those trifles vex you ;
but rise into a serene moral atmosphere so exalted that what pro-
vokes you at other times shall only enhance your placidity.
Getting married is now woman's master passion. What art
and energy, what buying and bustling, what toil, assiduitj^, and
worriment in preparing for the wedding^ without one thought or
provision for its only ultimate end ? Should not preparation for
maternity, this great central female function, be the chief concern
of all unmarried women — and this is your surest way to get mar-
ried*^^ — and its fulfilment that of all married ? Do we not lavish
many hundred times more labor and expense on the paradisiacal
mansion itself than on its outside gate? Then should every
woman make it her labor of all labors and preparation of all
preparations, her anticipation of all anticipations and end of all
ends, her alpha and omega, internal and external, all and in all,
her very life and soul. And after she has entered this gate of
marriage, and enthroned herself, and been enthroned by her hus-
band queen of this maternal palace, 0, how should she direct and
expend every energy of her being upon the formation of that
dear prospective spirit, that germ of humanity, that son or
daughter of God Himself, that image, likeness, and embodiment
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of divinity ! She is summoned to become a co-worker in creating
a human mind and soul. Tlie materials of humanity are placed
at her disposal, to be worked up into such human subjecis as she
may choose. God has ordained the maternal laws, and installed
her as their executor. He has done all that even He could do
to enable every liuman mother to bring forth perfect human
)>eings. He commands and entreats her, by all the yearnings of
I mother's love, to endow them with all that is lovely, noble, and
great ; while He adjures her by the same motives not to corrupt
their pure spirit by wrangling passions, nor cripple them with
intellectual or moral incapacity.
Awake, 0 prospective mothers, from this ignorance, stupidity,
and foolery of the present, to the exalted destiny thus imposed
upon you ! Long enough, 0, too long, have you trifled away
your time, feelings, very souls, in chasing this phantom. Fashion,
than which nothing could equally unfit you for bearing! Sntan
hime^lf, aided and abetted by all his privy councillors of malig-
nity, could not have devised or executed a system of female edu-
cation and customs equally disastrous.*^^ How foolish, how
wicked, to expend these maternal capacities in padding and ril)-
boning, curling and painting, flirting and playing fool, when you
might instead wield destinies more momentous than archangels !
If to bury one silver talent is wrong, how criminal to put such
rifts to such a use? Girls, young ladies, mothers, be implored
to regenerate the race by learning and fulfilling your creative
mission perfectly. The decree has gone forth. The millennium,
ordained from everlasting, approaches. Only a little longer are
physical sufferings so various and aggravating, and vices so many
and monstrous, destined to cripple human capacities, and pervert
virtues thus exalted. Words utterly fail to express either the
inherent excellences of humanity, or its existing distortions and
orruptions.
Its REGENERATION HAS BEGUN. Republicanism has opened its
tiret and second seals. It snapped all human fetters, and began
liat spirit of inquiry which is rejecting all man-perverting
iTors, and substituting all man-improving truths. Its motto,
The greatest good of the mighty many," is snatching crowns
from ignoble wearers. " A nation is born in a day ! " Those
oxquisitely organized now find too many painful surroundings
torturing their delicate susceptibilities, and outraging an exalted
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moral tone. All this must soon be superseded by everything
calculated to make universal man inexpressibly happy. Society
will soon delight instead of tormenting those thus delicately
constituted. Then will be required those thus exquisitely sus'
ceptible in order to enjoy these luxuries. You, mothers, alone
can furnish them. Man can achieve temperance, governmental,
religious, educational, moral, and other reforms, but you alone
can regenerate humanity, and make earth once more a paradise.
0, what children you could bear, if you knew just how to create
and carry them ! Inconceivably more powerful and perfect than
the sun now shines upon ! Then learn just what this your des-
tiny requires you to do, and address every energy of your body
and soul to bringing forth and bringing up magnificent offspring.
Be your " master passion " not fine clothes and furniture, but
angel children ; and a regenerated world will pour forth grateful
hosannas in their highest strains, here and hereafter, forever !
870. — Appeal to Fathers; Pregnant Women Need Sympathy.
Men love pregnant women more than blushing maidens or
blooming brides ; because all female charms centre in maternity.***
"Who can duly prize darling children? Then can their father
duly love their mother? She who bears him one fine child, how-
ever faulty, deserves his heartiest Love and thanks. Who, not
both flint-hearted and emasculated of every manly sentiment,
can help chanting anthems of perpetual affection to her who
bestows and nurtures this casket of all his joys ? " Husbands love
your wives " always, yet lavish on them one round of tenderness
and devotion while thus perpetuating yourself and name among
men.
Bearing women need sympathy far more than other. Let
every mother attest. Her state often makes her sick, qualmish,
and irritable. Of course she needs and deserves to be soothed
and petted. And by the father of her babe. Prospective father
your strong-petting nature was made expressly for this very occa-
sion. And its manifestation, then, to her is inexpressibly de-
lightful. It is always agreeable, but now perfectly enchanting.
All this, besides your power to mould it through her.^ You
always instinctively care for breeding mares. Do you always
accord that sympathizing aftection wife now often imploringly
craves ? What if she is hateful and does scold ; your child causes
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it.*^ Quiet her nerves. Cheer up her drooping spirits. Lavish
attentions on her. Smother her with affection. Make her your
idol. Do with as little work as possible, and help her do that.
Look after her health. See to it that she rests. Yet many a
pregnant woman gets but little sympathy by day, or rest by
night. She works up all her strength on others. More dead
than alive, and crushed in spirit, you even outrage her very per-
son, and force her by perpetrating a literal rape on her ; thus re-
doubling those complaints you long ago caused. Yet how careful
you are of your bearing mares. One can hardly help pounding
such stock-pampering but wife-abusing dolts.
Her dear babe cries with pain till exhaustion makes it stop
to rest, only to begin again. Kursing its mother's diseases, it
just lives in teething till warm weather prostrates it, when the
"heroic" Doctor kills it of^ scientifically/ ; whereas, if she and
therefore it had been strong, it would have weathered this sickly
storm. Yet it is better dead than alive. This is its first quiet
sleep. Peace to its ashes. Yet your colt grows finely. But
0 THAT AGONIZED MOTHER ! Her dear babe which she carried
nine long months in perpetual misery, and bore in agony worse
than death ; which roused her from so many half- waking sleeps,
when so completely exhausted ; rendered doubly dear by its very
ickness from birth ; yes, her darling little pet is dead, cold, and
buried ! And she, too, wishes she lay cold in death by its side.
For her, life has no charms left, and death no terrors. But she
lias not been sufficiently tormented. Wait a little. One spoke
oreaks after another, till the wheel of life, striking some little
stone, finally goes to pieces, and she slides into a welcome grave,
I martyr to your thoughtlessness and business talents. Though
your wife and child are dead, yet see what a fine span of colts you
have raised ! Ay, and if you had taken half the care of a bear-
ing wife you took of bearing mare, what superb children you
would have raised, with your wife alive and well ! 0 do stop
your drive drive, hurry hurry, long enough to do your duty to
your wife while bearing.
Pattern after those lovinq birds. They have built them-
selves a pretty home, and the female is filling it with eggs. How
many charming little attentions her consort lavishes upon her I
l£ow completely devoted and exquisitely tender then I How near
her he keeps daring incubation ! How sweetly he warbles iu
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surrounding branches ; thus charming away her tedious hours,
and making her happy by notes of Love 1 She hungers, and he
feeds her. His entire time, " from early morn to dewy eve," is
devoted to her. 'No storm, nor wind, nor scorching sun, nor love
of flight, allures or drives him from her side. As the delightful
period approaches for the birth of all he holds dear, how he leaps
for joy ! They emerge. He is electrified with paternal ecstacy.
See how busily and delightfully he employs himself in feeding
and sustaining both exhausted mate and darling little ones ! Is
he too busy in building, or farming, or speculation, to notice
them ? He does nothing else. Every moment, every energy, is
surrendered wholly to them. Can fences, hunger, anything but
impossibilities, keep even the coarse-grained gander long at a
time from the side of his dear mate? You approach their rude
nest at your peril ; and when his dear ones begin to peep in their
shells, what joy and devotion ! Indifferent husband, learn from
your ganders. The male robin always spells his mate hourly
during incubation. One would think you could hardly tear your-
self from your wife's side at these soul-ravishing periods ; yet,
alas, for her and her charge, how seldom are you there. Instead
of taking care of your enslaved wife, you must attend to your
pressing business, while she must take care of herself, her pre-
ii'iona burden, and your house filled with your workmen besides ;
or else with noisy children, which craze and torment the very
life out of her ; and perhaps both.
The subject-matter of this Chapter is second in practical im-
portance to but one of its predecessors or successors. May it
augment the number, the physical stamina, the talents, and tho
moral excellences of unborn generations.
CHAPTER 11.
CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
Section I.
LABOR-PAINS. WHAT INCREASES AND LESSENS THEM?
871. — Signs op Pregnancy, and near Labor; Preparation, &c.
" Have I conceived ? " is a most anxious inquiry to very many,
both ways ; and its scientific answer important.
1. A peculiar thrill and unusual sensation iit coition, as if
your whole being were overpowered, is your first and surest sign.
2. Cessation op the menses, when they are uniformly regu-
lar, 18 one sign of pregnancy ; yet a severe cold settling on the
womb, and many other things, stop them ; and sometimes return-
ing health. Cohabiting in one not accustomed to it, sometimes
stops them, especially when with a robust sympathetic male, by
^o renewing the health and system that it uses up this flow in
growing stout.
3. Morning qualmishness is quite a sure sign; because the
enlarging womb presses against the stomach.
4. Unnatural longings or outlandish cravings for strange
things indicate it still more positively.
5. Feeling the motions of the child is a sure sign; yet this
rarely occurs till after the fourth month. And even then it may
be too sluggish to move much. Yet by taking a hand out of right
cold water and putting it on the abdomen, below the navel, its
cold makes the little one bestir itself quite sensibly.
6. The breasts and nipples furnish about its surest sign ; because
they sympathize perfectly with the womb ; all their states being in
reciprocal sympathy with its."* If the breasts become firmer, or
larger, or warmer, show more life, or prickle, or exhibit larger or
bluer veins, Ac, calculate that pregnancy, by increasing womb
action, •* has redoubled mammary.
7. A satisfied, quiet, placid, easy, comfortable, lazy, luxurious
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feeling is another; as is its opposite, a restless, cross. Hateful,
scolding, bitter feeling; the former consequent on a right, the
latter on an irritated, state of the womb causing a like state
throughout mind and body, on the principle stated in^-^'^^-
8. Sore nipples, and their increased color, are very good signs,
and for the reason just given ; as is also a darker circle around
the eyes, for reasons given in ^^ And in general
9. Any unusual state either way ; favorable if the womb is
in good, unfavorable if in a poor, states. This applies especially
to the expressions of the face, increased sleepiness or restlessness,
appetite, or the want of it; feeling better or worse, &c., accord-
ing as the womb states are either.
The signs of near approaching labor are
1. Unusual enlargement of the parts. By this sign farmers
correctly predict the delivery of their stock within two or three
days. 2. Sore nipples is another. 3. A "show" is another. 4.
Feeling quiet, sleepy, lax, uninclined to move much, indicates that
Xature is kindly laying in -an extra stock of vital force for your
coming emergency ; and this presages a good delivery, provided
you give right uj? to it, stop work, laze, sleep, &c. ; but don't you
(h're work, on your peril.
5. Just six months and seven days from your last menses,
says Dr. Naegele, will be the true time for labor.
Your personal preparation consists in complete urination and
defecation ; wearing nipple shields if they are depressed or small,
for reasons given in ^^' or pour hot water into a bottle to heat it,
empty, and put its mouth over the nipples, so that its cooling
may draw them out ; an oilcloth under you to retain excretions ; a
sheet to help raise you up and roll you over in changing under-
garments after labor ; a bandage cut bias, and fitted to the person ;
and position on the left side, with silk cord, and scissors for the
umbilicus.
872. — Severe Labor unnatural and avoidable.
Whoever mitigates the pains and perils of childbirth, will
become one of the great benefactors of the race, by promoting its
multiplication. But for them many more would bear, and many
others much oftener, and more willingly ; for they are often se-
vere, and sometimes terrible, greater than those of death itself;
to say nothing of the wearisome drudgery of nursing.
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Dread of them does far more injury than the pains themselves.
They pass off with confinement, while this stamps that fear and
terror upon the primitive constitution of the child itself, which
embitter its whole life with indefinite apprehensions of some im-
pending calamity, when there is none.^
" God does not willingly afflict the children of men;" much
.ess impose all these child-bearing agonies and dangers upon His
*' last and most perfect work " while fulfilling His first command
and her specific mission. The one thought which underlies and
permeates all His works, and in which all naturally eventuate, is
enjoyment only; to which woman forms no exception in any
other respect. All appertaining to her tends to her happiness.
When her nature has its ^' perfect work," she is at least as happy
as man. One might almost accuse her Maker of partiality to
her. Then
Does He torture the whole female sex, from the beginning
of time to its end, with all these agonies and risks incident to
delivery ? Why should not labor be a luxury instead of an
agony ? Every other natural ordinance brings pleasure ; then
why not this? Because Nature's bearing laws are violated.
Obeying them will give only pleasure.
" In SORROW shalt thou bring forth children," as pronouncing
s]>ecial judgment upon Eve for tempting Adam, and through her,
cursing the whole female sex, throughout all time, with the
miseries now incident to bearing, is an opinion tenable in the
light of neither philosophy nor fact, but in direct conflict with
l)Oth. How unlike all God's other dealings with man? Or, if
He did pronounce this sentence, unjust on all but Eve, " hath He
said, and shall He not fulfil ? " which would make our merciful
Heavenly Father the vindictive Author of all this untold agony ;
whereas most of it is obviously caused by woman herself. The
more men believe that doctrine, the less will they "love and
revere His holy Name." Give that text some other interpreta-
tion not thus cruel and " unrighteous." Or if He has thus cursed
all women,
None need suffer any more than those who suffer least,
because this curse must needs fall on all alike. Would He be so
doubly unjust as to im})ose so much more pain on one than
another? Since the labor-pains of some women are so trifling
iis not to deserve a second thought, therefore this seutence, passed
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upon those of easy 4elivery just as much as upon any others, does
not prevent evei'^y woman from having as easy a delivery as any
woman ever has. This idea that women are compelled to bear
children in sorrow, is contrary to N'ature, disproved by facts, and
a practical libel on the character and government of God.
873. — Natural Delivery easy.
"Childbirth without pain" may be impossible; yet where
IS'ature is allowed her perfect work, its pains will be slight.
Some " had rather bear a child than have a tooth drawn ; " and
many women do their own nursing, and all the housework for
their families, during their confinement. How slight the " labor"
of many Irish and German women? How many of them are
about house the next day? Women in uncivilized life sulier
Btill less, and recover even sooner.
" If women would study the structure of their own bodies, and the
fiinctions of its different organs, and acquire some knowledge of the prin-
ciples of obstetrics, they might escape a great portion of the present dan'
gers and sufferings of childbirth." — Mrs. Pendleton.
"Nature is the squaw's only midwife. Her labors are short, and
accompanied with little pain. Each woman is delivered alone in a private
cabin, and after washing herself in cold water, returns to her usual
drudgery." — Dr. Rush.
" One of the squaws who. had been leading two of our pack-horses,
halted at a rivulet about a mile behind to lie in ; and after about an hour
overtook and passed us with her new-born infant, apparently in perfect
health." — Lewis and Clark.
" The squaw of Pierre Dorion, who, with her husband, was attached
to a party travelling over the Rocky Mountains in winter, the ground
being covered with several feet of snow, was suddenly taken in labor, and
enriched her husband with another child. In the course of the following
morning the Dorion family made its appearance. The mother looked as
unconcerned as if nothing had happened." — Washington Irving.
" Going late Saturday night to the wigwam of the chief, I found his
wife missing. She was then in labor, though I did not know it, walked
y}hile thus in labor in the dark and rain eleven miles to her brother's, was
safely delivered, and had walked hack by ten o'clock Sabbath morning,
alone, bringing her pappoose on her back, and seeming as well, and doing
her drudgery, as usual." — Brantford Indian Missionary.
" The easy labors of Negresses, native Americans, and other womea
in a savage state, noticed by travellers, is not explainable by their physical
LABOR-PAINS. WHAT INCBEA8E8 AND LESSENS THEM? 807
formation ; for their pelvis is rather smaller than the European ; but by a
simple diet, and constant and laborious exertion, with a hardy constitu-
tion. Yet hard-working white women of the lower classes often suffer
little from childbirth." — Laurence.
"The Araucanian Indian mother, on her delivery, takes her child^
and, going down to the nearest stream, washes herself and it, and returns
to the labors of the station." — Stevens,
The smaller heads of their children, consequent on the deficient
mentality of both parents, is offset by their larger chest, shoulders,
bones, and muscles. The chief difference is in the mothers ; and
its great cause in the feebleness of civilized women; and the easy
parturition of Irish, German, land Indian women, is caused by
their robust health. It is not that stylish women are doomed to
" bring forth in sorrow," but that they outrage every law of
health from birth. Else why this difference against city ladies,
as compared with healthy country women ? Though some robust
ones have "hard times," and some sickly ones easy, because of
the difference in their forms,^^ the size of the father, and espe-
cially of his head; yet in general the more healthy any given
woman, the more easy her delivery ; and as her health declines,
her labor becomes more painful and dangerous. Think out the
lesson taught by this great fact. Does not health diminish and
feebleness aggravate the pains of delivery ? Remains there any
doubt of this? Is it not founded in reason, and sustained by
facts? Few realize to what extent they can be lessened by ob-
serving the physiological laws. All functions are pleasurable;
then shall this form an exception? Unless Nature has madb
provision for rendering it more agreeable than painful, she has
not been true to herself. If even savages^ with all their necessary
privations and exposures, can bear with so little suffering, how
much easier could civilized women, aided by all the lights of
Anatomy and Physiology ? The idea that civic life is necessarily
detrimental to health is preposterous.** All the knowledge, prop-
erty, advantages, everything we })088ess over them, enable us to
become more healthy than they. If we are not, ours is the fault.
874.— Causes op Severe and Dangerous Labor.
What causes it, then? Those outrages of the health laws
perpetrated by women in civilized life are fearful, inflicted
mainly by that tyrant goddess, Fashion,*' which injure children
808 CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
and aggravate labor-pains incalculably, and fill the whole system,
and especially the female organs, with fever and disease. What
could as effectually enhance all the pains and perils of child-
bearing?*^ She stifles the heart, lungs, and stomach, and thus
80 exhausts the vital powers as to leave too small a supply of
strength to carry the patient through. Be.sides loading the hips
with surplus clothes, she relaxes and disorders the muscles em-
ployed in parturition, and aggravates its pains and dangers
beyond calculation.
Sedentary habits, want of fresh air, excessive warmth in our
coal-heated rooms, the ruinous posture of seamstresses, and of
most American women, the imperfect circulation, digestion, per-
spiration, and exercise of nearly all, most effectually aggravate
these sufferings. Late hours, excessive intensity of feeling, bad
eating, thin shoes, aversion to labor, and a thousand like ener-
vating habits, completely ruin the constitutions of our women,
who pay the dreadful forfeit in "the perils of childbirth."
875. — Easing Labor-Pains. Strong Muscles. Boneless Babes.
Muscles alone effect delivery. Hence the better they are, the
easier it is ; other things the same. As a weak horse with a
heavy load going up hill pulls without avail ; so weak maternal
muscles strain every fibre to the utmost tension, exhausting with-
out advancing, where strong ones would effect all with little pain.
Most difl&cult cases have this cause. Few if any would occur if
Xature had her perfect work ; not even wrong presentations.
They are rare among the healthy lower classes ; and afilict
ladies chiefly; and because of their artificialities and muscular
inertia. Exercise will obviate them. More " housework " will
lessen labor-pains. Dancing is good, but too fitful ; and walk-
ing better; yet romping is best, and just as instinctive in girls
and healthy women as breathing; and diminished mainly by
feebleness and love troubles. Nothing equally promotes female
health, ease of delivery, and " snap " in children. Would that
this prim, sedate, inert, starched up, citified artificiality of
modern " society " would give place to that frolicsome, jubi-
lant playfulness so natural to girls and women. Instead, they
must never romp while girls, nor work or walk when young
ladies ; but must sit simpering over the last novel, ride to opera
and church, restrain all their gushings, thumb the piano, em-
LABOR-PAINS. WHAT INCREASES AND LESSENS THEM? 809
broider, and " flirt." Snap these fashionable restraints, and be
true to all God-created female intuitions. Bearing
Babes with small soft bones, by eating food having little or
no bone-forming materials, so as to lighten labor-pains, was first
broached by Mrs. Pendleton, about 1839, and is now the baby-
making art recommended by Drs. Hall, Napheys, Jackson, and
others ; just as when a big dog barks, little ones strike in and
continue. Bosh. Nature will have proportion^ or nothing. See
its absolute necessity demonstrated in " Human Science."*^ None
who read that could recommend almost boneless infants, any
more than those almost headless, or heartless, or senseless. As
well try to build on a poor weak foundation. Nature will not
]>ut up any materials farther than she has and uses them all; and
nmst have as much bone as muscle or brain, or she will not work
at all. As far as she is deprived of osseous material she will not
use nervous, or fibrous, or any other ; for she will not thus bungle.
Those who advocate this absurd idea, don't look beyond their
noses, nor think at all.
Bearing mothers eat bone materials, and nerve materials, and
fibrous materials, and give your precious protege whatever of all
the formative materials it can put up into its organic machinery;'
and if this causes you a little harder delivery, it will be enough
Ijetter " got up " to pay for it.
876. — What Forms should marry What Others?
Some women are formed so as to bear much more easily than
others; and each can tell beforehand about how easily she can
bear, on the obvious principle of homogeneous construction,
namely, that all her parts correspond with all her others. Thus,
t' any of her parts are long, or prominent, &c., all are in corre-
I'ondence. So if one aperture is large, or lax, or flexible, all the
thers are equally so; and hence the mouth admeasures the vagina;
-o that those large-mouthed bear easily, small-mouthod, with pain.
This principle teaches lessons too practically important not to
he known and employed in matrimonial selections. One closely
mstructed vaginally should not marry one large-headed or broad-
shouldered, unless willing to risk severe labor; such are adapted
to one built on the long and slim principle. Thus, one fornie<l
to bear with difficulty, should not marry a short, broad-built,
lurge-headed, or broad-shoulderod man; but instead one rather
tall and spare, with a smallish head, and more slim than stocky.
8aO childbirth, infancy, etc.
A very large-headed, bony, broad-built, and powerfully muscled
man, representing many others, said : —
" I AM so LARGE, while my wife is so very small, that our children can
never be born. They must be cut in pieces before birth, or she must die.
I would give all I am worth, or ever expect to be, to have one living child
by her. What shall we do ? "
" Provide against such cases by marrying one rather tall and quite
muscular, with a good-sized nose and mouth ; but on no account one short,
fat, or small boned, or who has a small mouth ; for those thus organized
will bear with difficulty. But after such marriage, give her the highest
attainable physical culture, and use the water-cure at childbirth."
877. — Resolution vs. Midwifery ; Attendants, &c.
Courage is your one great requisite. Yourself jnu^it do most to
be done, v^hile art stands silent by, except in emergencies. Grapple
right in with " labor " like a true heroine, with " lean and I will;''
nor ever allow "01 never can survive." The more energetically
you take right hold, the sooner and easier you will dispatch.
Pluck assists incalculably ; and renders every spasm proportion-
ally the more effective. You should bear down on yourself, and
'strain " with a will ; " while sinking under it renders it, like one
lifting against hope, far more painful and protracted. " I can't "
always palsies, " I will " aids delivery incalculably.
Attendants should be cool, self-possessed, quiet, and aid by
their own will-power, and all surroundings inspiriting and en-
couraging. But all noise, bustle, fussing, fixing, rushing from
room to room, &c., flusters and retards delivery. Two or three
tried and sympathetic attendants are ordinarily sufficient, with
others on call; yet generally the less done the better. What
!N^ature does will be well done ; while most interferences injure
mother and child. All honest accouchers are witnesses that med-
dling is unnecessary in common cases, injurious in most uncom-
mon. Instrumental delivery must needs injure the child's brain
and mind ; need rarely be resorted to ; and can generally be
avoided by previous maternal preparation. The lower classes
never need it. Let Nature mostly alone, certainly till she has done
her utmost. This work does not claim to treat surgical cases,
but to forestall their need. Not one in millions who live right
will need them. But when surgery becomes necessary, use it.
Let the patient say whether males or females shall officiate
LABOR-PAINS WHAT INCREASES AND LESSENS THEM? 811
as midwives. Let those who feel any safer in the hands of a man
■tummon one; but those who shrink from him, call in female
accouchers. She who suffers should choose. There is no inherent
impropriety, but a manifest propriety in men, at least when re-
sort must be had to surgery ; yet till within two centuries women
alone officiated at all births; for which they are naturally as well
([ualified as men. They have smaller, softer hands, more child-
loving intuition and tact, — an important prerequisite, — more
tenderness and quickness of perception, and especially that most
important preparation, personal experience^ which fits them for
this office far better than all learning and lectures can fit men ;
which often unfit, by inducing a resort to instruments, where
Nature, left to herself, would "officiate" far better, and save
many mothers and children now destroyed by art.
Women can do what is needed if they only think they can.
Only those should attempt who have nerve, intelligence, and
anatomical knowledge, which women instinctively crave ;*" doubt-
less partly to fit them for this very service ; and which should be
denied to none.
878. — Watbr-cure in Childbirth; Flooding, &c.
Its EFFECTS ARE MAGICAL in diminishing labor-pains and dan-
gers. A young wife, whose husband had a very large head and
shoulders, and who feared a severe delivery, for six weeks before
her confinement took a daily sitz-bath, at eleven, in tepid water,
occasionally at night wore a wet bandage, exercised daily, and
took good care of her health ; was only two hours in labor, was
delivered before her city doctor could come, was singing the next
day, and soon as well as ever; and her child never the least sick,
and now a magnificent boy. '
" I BORE SIX CHILDREN before this one, each with labor-pains more and,
still more terribly agonizing, always two days in excruciating labor, and
usually sick from three to six months afterwards, till, with the one before
this, I was three days in labor, was blind forty-eight hours with agony,
and inseiiHiblc twenty-four, barely escaping with my life, and nine months
in recovering; so that when I found mypolf likely to bear this one, I
seriously contemplated suicide to eecape another ordeal thus awful ; but
hearing water-cure recommended as relieving such cases, I adopted it
dnriog prepnancy, was only eight hours in labor with this child, sat up
the next day, and did a good-sized washing the third ; and here are my
neighbors as my witnesses." — A CincmnaU Mother, cU a Lecture,
812 CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
" 1 HAVE BORNE FOUR children with extreme difficulty, took water-cure
treatment with this my fifth, was only four hours in labor, sat up five
hours of the same day it was born, and the next day did a good, full
washing, as my neighbors can attest." — A Jane^vUle Wife, at a Lecture.
"Women of fair health can live so as to render pregnancy and
childbirth comparatively free from suffering. A young wife of seventeen,
with a small form, but good constitution, passed through this trying ordeal
by taking a sitz-bath every morning, exercising every day, wet and dry,
in the open air, taking a sponge or rubbing bath on retiring, and wearing
the body bandage much of the time. No permanent chill was allowed.
The sitz-bath had a decided effect in promoting sound rest, and her bowels
were kept free by clysters of cold water whenever necessary, with only two
light meals daily, and soft water ; which reduces the inordinately craving
appetite with which many are afflicted in child-bearing.
" Her LABOR-PAINS WERE PROMPT, and in about twenty minutes a fine
healthy child was born, and in ten more the after-birth came away, with
but little flowing. She rested a short time, was sponged over and quickly
made dry and comfortable, with wet cloths laid upon her breasts to pre-
vent their inflammation, and a wet bandage about the abdomen, covered
with a dry one. This reduced feverish excitement, and soothed her
remarkably, so that sleep soon followed. On the third day, water having
been used as the case required, she walked out, with benefit. Daily exer-
cise was previously taken in her well-aired room.
" Not a scar was left upon her body, though this was her first child; and
the amount of suffering was far less than women often experience in mere
menstruation. All who pursue a similar course, will render their suffer-
ings in child-bearing much less than by any other possible means ; and in
most cases attended with comparatively little pain.
" Its advantages to the child were equally great. It was healthy
and vigorous, and far less liable to disease than children generally. It is
unnatural for one-half of the race to die under five years of age. If
mothers and children were universally managed as in this case, mortality
among infants would be rare."
" Mrs.. Shew, consumptive on both sides, subject from childhood to
pleurisies, inflammation of the lungs, coughs, and hemorrhages, and natu-
rally extremely delicate and nervous, commenced labor, which was very
severe, in the evening, and at three o'clock in the morning, gave birth to
a large, healthy, and well-formed girl. Almost immediately the after-
birth was expelled, followed by frightful flooding. She always had
hemorrhages; which cold, the world over, checks. Instead of applying
cold water by a stream from a pitcher, by wet cloths, and the like, I took
her in my arms, and instantly placed her in the hip-bath, in order to
quickly chill the whole pelvic viscera. All hemorrhage, whether from
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the iungs, stomach, bowels, or womb, is attended by great heat, and the
quicker and more effectually they can be chilled the more quickly the
constringing cold arrests its flow. But the cooling should be gradual, not
8udden.
"As SOON AS HER ABDOMEN TOUCHED the water, the flooding ceased,
as if by magic ; and before she had become much chilled, I raised her
carefully, laid her in bed, put wet cloths about the abdomen, and wrapped
her warmly in blankets. Her feet were cold, as they generally are in
severe hemorrhage. I rubbed them briskly with the warm hand, to
restore natural warmth ; and kept good watch that she should not become
too warm ; because flooding would be apt to return. She soon fell into a
sound sleep. As she grew stronger, cooler water waa used. She slept
well during the night, having no after-pains. In the evening she sat up,
bore her weight, and walked about the room. Only twenty-six hours from
this birth, she had taken her child and gone down to the kitchen, feeling
that she was perfectly able, and acting on her own responsibility ; but she
was careful this day, and in three days we moved, she walking up and
down stairs many times during the day, overseeing things. Bathing was
kept up daily, and she partook of the plainest food, but twice per day, and
drinking only water.
"I REQUIRE MY PATIENTS TO BATHE DAILY; drink no tea or coffee
to weaken their digestion, constipate their bowels, destroy relish for food,
shatter their nervous system, and impair the soundness of natural and
refreshing sleep ; to dress so as not to distort and debilitate their frames,
and instead of remaining mostly within doors, according to the foolish
customs of civil life, go regularly and often into the open air; thus gaining
strength by means of these natural and powerful tonics, exercbe, pure air,
and light.
" Like cases occur continually in my practice ; and my patients, who
have experienced the invaluable, untold, and apparently miraculous effect?
of the water-cure, will attest its blessings." — Dr. Shew,
Section II.
BEOOVERY FROM COXFINEMEXT.
879. — DRKiUlNG, liLEJiPlNG, &C., MOST PERNICIOUS.
Healthy women need not fear a painful or lingering " getting
up." The better the general health the sooner the recovery; and
the less danger there is of accouching diseases. Observing health
conditions prevents and cures them far better than medicines.
814 CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
The confined woman requires neither emetics nor purgatives.
Water-cure here, as in labor, far surpasses the old practice.
Nursing is needed more than physic. Let Nature do her own
work her own way.
Drugs taken by the mother injure her child, by being carried
directly to her milk, and similarly aftecting it. Against all inter-
ference with its yet extremely susceptible organism Nature une-
quivocally protests. If her bowels need regulating either way^
relax or check by food and water. The idea that medicines can
remove disease or restore health in either is preposterous. This
is Nature's exclusive work. Purgatives, &c., should be adminis-
tered in food, not drugs, and medicinal herbs eaten, or their teas
drank. These foods and fruits relax, those bind ; which shows
that this is Nature's means of aiFecting the system this way, and
that, as it may then require.
Bleeding during pregnancy and childbirth is most pernicious ;
for it weakens mother and child by withdrawing the life-blood
from both. They require nothing as much as blood. If it is
impure, does taking away a part purify the rest ? Pure air is its
great cleanser.
Securing reaction is the great prevention of evil, and promoter
of good, confining results. This reacting ordinance of Nature
has been overlooked both as a fact, and a means of bringing good
out of evil. All extremes react by producing their opposites.
When her extreme exertion reacts to cause sleep she is all right.
So of appetite, warmth, &c. If her labor itself does not create
reaction, something must be done to make it, by spirits, heat,
something. See this principle demonstrated as a paramount law
of health, and the modes of securing it, in " Fowler's Journal,"
Nos. I. and II.
Chloroform is most objectionable. How can it thus destroy
present sensation without thereby injuring the sensory principle
permanently. Its stupefying influence on the child must be most
detrimental ; because its brain and nerves are exceedingly weak,
susceptible, and easily injured for life. It must deaden its ner-
vous susceptibilities more than hers ; yet can this be done without
seriously impairing its cerebral constitittion ?
There is no need of it. The previous preparation just recom-
mended will carry mothers through this period without any such
stupefaction. Still, if women will enhance their pains by abus-
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ing health, and then resort to chloroform, theirs be the conse-
quences.
Opiates only suspend pain, but do not remove either it or its
cause. It is curative. Opiates suspend it by merely stupefying
the suffering parts. Of what use is this mere postponement f The
medical faculty certainly err in using it thus frequently and
largely.
880. — Relapses, Milk Sickness, Preserving the Form, &c.
The NURSiNtf art consists in sedulously avoiding exposures to
relapses; which are far more painful and dangerous than confine-
ment itself. Mrs. M., confined with her sixth child, recovered
nipidly for about a week; when, on her mother's visiting her, she
sat up most of a cold, raw April day, took a chill, and sent
towards night in haste for her lancet and calomel doctor, wjio
put her " under the usual treatment," that is, bled and salivated ;
but she was attacked with a severe rheumatic affection, which
settled in her limbs. His own story shows that his poisonous
CALOMEL produced these most excruciating rheumatic sufferings,
under which she gradually sank; yet, having a powerful consti-
tution, she suffered beyond endurance, finally yielded to the
deadly poison, and died, a martyr to calomel ; universally
lamented, and an irreparable loss to her husband and family.
When a relapse occurs,
Ascertain its cause, and take the opposite extreme. Jf cold
induced it, as is probable, break it right up by inducing perspira-
tion and reaction; for promoting which water, heat, and friction,
aided by hot catnip tea, are infinitely better than medicines. If
over-exertion caused it, promote rest and sleep. She has put
forth a mighty effort, and needs quiet. She must care for
nothing, and cultivate a pleasurable, happy state of mind. Any
trouble is especially detrimental. Shake it off.
You must not '*get about " too soon, nor be too smart, nor go
to work till long after you are abundantly able. Letting work go
to-day, while you recuperate, will render you able to do a hun-
dred-fold the more afterwards. Consider yourself fully entitled
to a long holiday. As soon as you are able to be ** up and
doing," recreate, ride out, walk abroad, seek amusements, chat
pleasurably with friends, &c., instead of taxing your exhausted
system with family caree. Some are able to get about within a
816 CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETQ
week ; others need to keep tlieir beds longer. Do not dismiss
your nurse too soon. Let each decide for herself; yet there is
much more danger in getting up too soon than keeping down too
long. My mother, by beginning work too soon, brought on a
relapse, which induced slow consumption, of which she finally
died.
Milk sickness is fatal in nineteen cases out of every twenty
in the Paris puerperal fever hospitals ; and in one in every five
attacked by it under allopathic treatment in this country ; yet all
water treated 'patients recover. Its cause is its mtlk suppression
obliging Nature to burn up this material in her by fever.
Broken breasts are always caused by a coM.^ which attacks
them because they are unduly exposed, and have just been
quickened into action. By all means guard against it; but
w\ien it does attack, break it up, just as you would at any othei
time. Expose them as little as possible ; but when they begin
to be inflamed, lay on a wet cloth, only one thickness, and keep
it wet with cold water; and their heat will keep turning this
water into steam,^ and pass ofl^ through the cloth. Yet several
thicknesses will retain it and sweat them. Adopt whichever ia
most agreeable.
Preserving her form is properly to many a woman most de-
sirable. A skin-cracked, pendulous, flabby, sagged abdomen is a
calamity ; so is soft, flat, shrivelled breasts, often resulting from
confinement. Their prevention is easy. She has only not to in-
jure her womb. Wearing the sack prescribed for prolapsus ^^ is
just what she now requires. So is that abdominal rubbing there
recommended. All who are at all concerned about this matter
should- read its governing law demonstrated in ^^' that all womb
states govern the form both ways. Keeping it " all right " will
keep breasts and abdomen so.
881. — The Diet of the recently-confined Mother.
Your food should be nutritious, and easily digested, yet
otherwise need not difter much from your usual diet, except that
cabbages and other indigestible edibles, with acids, are to be
omitted. Eggs rare, soups, chicken, milk, &c., are good. Eat
any kind of meat, except pork, meat tea, fish, shell-fish, vege-
tables, &c., but
Wheat is your very best staple diet ; and may be boiled whole
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or cracked and made into puddings or noodles,^ and eaten with
sugar and cream ; unleavened bread,*** or oatmeal prepared any
way you like it best, and sweet fruits if your own and child's
•stomach will bear them. Milk and cream are excellent, unless
they sour on your stomach. And jn general
Your own appetite is your sure guide as to what, when, and
how much to eat ; unless it is perverted.^ Bearing often renews
the stomach, and cures dyspepsia.
Your best drink, of which you need considerable with which
to form milk, is cold rain water. It has no rival ever, and is as
good while nursing as ever. Its cold, if your stomach is fairly
vigorous, will instantly cause that reaction which makes it all
the warmer.
Cocoa is excellent if your liver can manage it, and it does not
cause headache, which it often does. If too oily, let it stand,
skim, and rewarm, or drink cold. It soothes mother and child.
A coffee made of wheat prepared just as you serve Java
coffee, namely, roast brown, grind, and steep, is the very best of
all drinks for nursing mothers, in fact for all. Wheat is man's
best edible, and this its best preparation. Crust coffee amounts
to the same thing. Corn, peas, rye, acorns, sweet potatoes, &c.,
do nearly as well.
Porter, alb, lager beer, &c., injure mother and child, and
vitiate the milk ; besides their alcohol stimulating and irritating
both ; whereas both need quieting.
Tea and coffee injure all, and doubly during pregnancy and
confinement. Their exciting qualities, for which alone they are
drank, are extraordinary. One spoonful as strong as usually
served, taken before lecturing, lengthens by giving a greatly in-
^Teased flow of ideas and words ; yet causes subsequent nervous
remor and quiverings. I cannot afford to use them ; have done
without them sixty-eight years, and attribute my certainly re-
markable powers of working and enduring, and freedom from all
kinds of disease, in part to this omission. Coarse, sole-leathered
|>erson8 can endure their terrific nervous lashings and exhaustions;
yet exquisitely susceptible certainly cannot, without inducing
utter nervous ruin. Exists there no cause and effect between the
great quantities ladies now consume, and their extreme nervous-
ness? Does not strong tea keep you awake nights, when watch-
ing, &c. ? How, but by terribly lashing up your nerves ? That
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818 CHILDBIRTH, INFANCY, ETC.
Stimulant must be all-potent which can overpower sleep ! Think.
Bad for all, they are worse in pregnancy and nursing, because
They lash up infants' nerves the most, thus damaging the life
centre by redoubling that irritability which chiefly causes their
mortality. For their and your own sakes abstain from coffee
especially, till after you have weaned your last child, even after
your own funeral; unless you are coarse-grained, strongly-animal-
ized, stoical, unsusceptible, and made of sole-leather. Such may
drink away.
882. — How to promote Lactation: Sore jN'ipples, &c.
Infantile starvation in these days of deficient femininity,
liow great, ^ how pitiable, how babe-agonizing ! Mothers thus
deficient should inquire, with all the earnestness of maternal
iove, " How can I increase and enrich lactation ? "
Milk is made out of the surplus albumen in female blood f^
and is the richer or poorer, more abundant or sparse, as this albu-
men is either.
Its deficiency has two causes, albuminous poverty of the
blood, and poor or inert mammal glands. This albumen is the
test and measure of every woman's femininity ,^^ as well as of her
monthlie&,^^ which excrete it. Deficient milk and deficient
gender are identical, want of mammary action excepted ; so
that promoting gender promotes lactation.
Love states affect, even control the womb states,^'^ and they
the lactation. Girls, remember, all love troubles impair your
lactation ever after by impairing your womb ;^^ while all love en-
joyments improve both. Of nursing mothers this is doubly true.
Promoting health promotes, impairing, impairs, lactation. All
the gender, all the health states affect it. Its deficiency is con-
sequent on either poor blood, or else poor breasts ; that is, on
deficient material, or else on mammal inaction. If the former,
a generous and discriminating diet, with plenty of fresh air and
exercise, by supplying these materials, will redouble the amount
of milk. Farmers increase the milk of domestic animals by
this very means. Why not apply in the house a means resorted
to in the farmyard ? Why not work cows ? Because it would
diminish their milk. Many a wife, by caring for the rest of her
family, starves her infant by inches ; perhaps to death ! I^ot
many d-elicate ladies have vitality enough to both nurse and work
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together. Husbands, see that jou take extra care of your nurs-
ing wife's health, and that she does not overwork. A St. Louis
lady said : —
" My four months* boy, weighing twenty-four pounds, is literally roh
^ing me of life force. I have so much milk that even now in March I can
•arely endure this drain : then how can I ever hope to sustain it all sum-
mer? Yet if I wean him, what may become of him in July and August?
I tremble in view of either alternative. What shall I do?"
" Take the very best care of your health possible. Give your sys-
tem all the material it can work up, and the best in quality. Take a ride
or walk every day. Sleep all you can nights and take naps before dinners.
Recreate daily, and seek pleasurable amusements. Eat whatever you
relish. Worry none about anything. Work only for exercise. Give
your recuperative functions every chance, and let aH your energies go to
lactation ; but do not wean your child, unless you are willing to risk losing
him of summer complaints."
When mammary inertia prerents lactation, apply to the breasts
rubbing with the hand, husband's best if loved, warm flour poul-
tices, stimulants, No. 6, the decoction prescribed in^, and what-
ver else will increase action in other parts. But that
Will-power principle prescribed heretofore ^^^ ^ and hereafter,
> by far the most promotive of their action. As a last resort,
Feed your children on what is as near maternal milk as
possible; that from a young cow, diluted with one-third water,
blood warm, heated by hot water, because fire separates its cream
r best part, with arrowroot added, is best. Beef tea is also ex-
< ellent.
Half the spooN-fed infants of New York city die every
ummer.
Sore nipples are caused by womb inflammation, and this points
out their cure. See the underlining principle of this cause proved
overwhelmingly in •*•*•' as also that of small and undeveloped
nipples. They occur at childbirth because the womb, by its
straining, has inflamed both itself and them. Nor can they be
ured otherwise. Yet keeping a cold, wet cloth on them will
help take out their inflammation.
Mothers, doctors, husbands, all, let your own common sense
ttest whether following out the doctrines of this Chapter will
not mitigate the sufferings and perils of childbirth.
THE BEARING OF CHILDREN.
CHAPTER I.
THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
Section L
THE NATURAL LAWS OF INFANTILE REARING.
883. — The Value and Preciousness op Babes.
"Behold a child is born unto you." What is its intrinsic
value? How much is this living property worth to its pos-
sessors? How much richer are you in consequence of its ex-
istence than you were before its conception ? Let the mother's
heart say how many paltry dollars she will take and let it cease
to exist. Would you accept a million ? Yet even she does not,
cannot begin duly to prize it. Infinite Goodness, actuated by
all the gushings of divine Love, has bestowed one most perfect,
valuable, and desirable '" present " on His favorite children,
namely, darling babes. Well did Eve, actuated by true maternal
inspiration, exclaim on the birth of Cain, " Only see ! ' I Ve got
a man-child from the Lord.' " Mothers, many things in this
world have made you happy, but what of all the ecstatic emo-
tions of your entire lives at all compare with that literal frenzy
of rapture awakened by your developing children ? Be thankful
that yon have become a mother ; that you have pet darlings to
do and care for, and anon to do and care for you; to wash, dress,
idolize, train, fashion, pray for, and develop into model human
beings ; and to love and be loved by all throughout this life, and
" the life to come." The childless are therefore poor, however
rich ; while those who have a goodly number of rosy, smart, and
good little ones, though poor in dollars, are earth's richest occu.
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pants in that which makes happiest. Great stacks of deeds,
bonds, and mortgages, of goods, gold, even diamonds, and what-
ever mortals call valuable, cannot render their possessors half as
happy as can line babes ; and are therefore of less account. Add
up the amount of happiness it is possible for you to take in your
children forever^ the ever varying pleasures they take in them-
selves, and what till others, their future partners and children
included, can also take in them, and no mortal pen can figure, or
mind conceive, the sum total. Only their Infinite Creator cxm
duly appraise them. *
The national value of children, too, is no trifle. Patriots,
have you no stake in this production? Political economists have
essayed to estimate the value of various national commodities,
yet have wholly ignored this greatest of all productions. " The
more, the merrier," is an axiomatic truth especially applicable
here. Every member of the community has a practical interest
in all new-born children ; for if they do not help make beef, flour,
&c., or do something else useful to all, they must be consumers^ —
must affect .the market some way.
Nations are created and governed by their grown-up children.
These precious babes are to be our law-makers and law-breakers.
One of these days, if they live, these boy-babes' votes will count,
and probably girls'; and help say who shall make, legislate, and
execute the people's sovereign pleasure ; will make or repair use-
ful articles, wield mighty swords, and still mightier pens, make
inventions, and contribute in innumerable ways to the great river
of human thought, emotion, and interest. Verily, as a production,
a commodity, a species of " property," these dear babes not only
have no peers, but nothing approximates to their value; unless it
be their parents. In tliem inheres the quintessence of all valuation.
884. — Right educational Principles vs. Empiricism.
TnouoH human character is predetermined a thousand-fold
more by constitution than by education,"* yet since your child's
inborn traits are predetermined before its birth, there now re-
mains only its riglit education. Though ante-natal conditions
aftect character and talents a thousand-fold more than any post-
natal education can ever do, yet the absolute power of education
over human life and character is indeed groat. While training
cannot bend a hemlock twig into an oak, or anything but a hem-
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lock; yet by bending it tbis way or tbat it can compel it, wben
grown, to bave this crook, and take tbat sbape, at pleasure. To
make a silk purse one must first bave tbe silk material; yet tbat
furnisbed, it can be wrougbt into tbis form or tbat, according to
its artificer's taste and skill ; so tbat tbe possessors of cbildren
sbould make tbe most of tbis tbeir only moulding means left.
Yet most American parents appreciate tbe importance of a rigbt
education.
First laws govern education as well as everything else. There
is as much an educational science as a horticultural, or mathemati-
Ciil. All growth, vegetable, animal, and human is regulated by
its specific natural laws, as much as the motions of the sun. But
Modern education is empirical throughout. What a pity tbat
parents should literally lavish so much money, time, and interest
on the education of their children, only thereby to about spoil
them! It is questionable whether, after all, modern so-called
education is not more injurious than beneficial; because it vio-
lates nearly every developing law. It is spoiling our darlings'
minds and bodies by wholesale. See how plump and ruddy they
are before, but how pale and scrawny after, its eflfects begin to
*• tell " on its pitiable victims ! But our task is not to overthrow
existing educational usages, as much as to unfold to doting pa-
rents Nature's rearing principles, from birth until puberty fully
develops them into manhood and womanhood.
The end attained by education embodies its definition, and
expounds its laws.^ Tbat end is developing all the original ele-
ments of humanity, as a whole, in tbeir natural order ; whereas
modern education develops but few; and those contrary to their
natural order. Thus it attempts to develop tbe intellect mainly,
whereas it sbould embrace every organ and function of humanity ;
and as the emotional lobe is six times the largest, and the first
to develop, it sbould receive first and proportionally the most
training.
Section II.
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN.
885. — The Mother's Milk the Infant's natural Aliment.
Food is a first requisite of universal life ; and tbe more im-
portant the younger that life. IN'ature works only by means of
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anatomical organs. Before she can execute functions she abso-
lutely must have organs. Before she can have or use organs she
must rrvake them. In order to make them she must have forma-
tive materials. We have analyzed Nature's provision for supply-
inor ante-natal food.^ A like maternal elimination of food feeds
children after birth,"^ till they obtain teeth, and can masticate
and digest solid food.
INFANTILE FOOD MUST CONTAIN ALL THE MATERIALS for the forma-
ion of all the organic tissues ; be good, for Nature cannot execute
irood functions without good organs, nor make good organs with-
out good formative materials; be palatable, so that babes shall
lianker for, not eject it ; and fluid, because its having no teeth
is positive proof that solid food is not yet adapted to its require-
ments ; and contain all the ingredients required for sustenance
and growth.
Maternal milk fulfils all these conditions. Nature proves
this, by having furnished this, and no other ; for her supplies are
always specifically adapted to her needs. She always provides
enough, and that of the very best kind. Her policy is surplus
always, deficits never. Children kept on " half rations " of it
are to be pitied. Though some healthy females give too little
milk because their vitality runs mainly to themselves, while that
of others runs chiefly to infantile nutrition, even though they
themselves grow poor;*^ yet those kept in a good physical con-
dition from girlhood will supply it in abundance. Still all physi-
cal, and especially sexual impairments, both lessen its quantity
and vitiate its quality, besides shrivelling the breasts.**
886. — Regulating the Bowels, Summer Complaints, Ac.
Follow Nature, and your child's bowels will rarely ever be-
come disordered. Only some serious breach of her nutritive
institutes can ever derange them. The fact that about half of
all the children born die during early cliildhood, and of these
one-half of bowel difliicultios during dog-days, should forewarn
mothers that wrong dietetic habits cause this infantile mortality;
lor punishment comes in the line of the law violated ; which
right feeding can prevent.
A DOSE OF castor OIL, forced down infants as soon as they are
Iressed, is one great cause of their subsequent alimentary difficul-
ties. The patent fact that the mother's first milk, for a few days.
824 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
is aperient, demonstrates that no other purgative is required, and
that all others are both unnecessary and injurious ; for Nature
does well whatever requires doing. Her having taken this mat-
ter in hand shows that art need not interfere. What proof could
be stronger ? Moreover,
All purgatives constipate afterwards, and disorder suscepti-
ble bowels. Unless the mother is very costive, Nature will
move the child's bowels in due time ; or if she does not, tepid
rain-water injections are aid enough, and leave no bad effects.
The mucus which rises on wheat boiled several hours, is also
aperient and nutritious. Many of the colics, bowel difficulties,
summer complaints, and deaths of infants, originate in this oil.
Except in extreme cases, give no purgatives to mother or child.
Through its mother is the true way to medicate the child.
Keeping hers all right, is the only true way to regulate her in-
fant's. Many nations never think of doctoring children by any
other means. No other medication ever need or should be
adopted.
DiARRHCEA is caused by Nature casting injurious and noxious
materials out through the bowels ; then forestall it, by giving the
child nothing noxious requiring to be cast out. Every indiges-
tible thing eaten by her deranges its bowels. Every mother
should take the nicest care of her own digestive apparatus, both
to furnish herself and her child nutritious materials.
Apply cold wet bandages whenever diarrhoea has set in, or
the bowels have become inflamed. This feverish state must be
subdued by external applications, not internal medicines ; which
always leave injurious effects ever after.
Catnip tea may sometimes benefit, yet should be given to the
mother, and then acts on the staminate principle of regulating
the bowels by foods instead of by medicines.
Burnt flour, given dry, is a specific for all looseness of the
bowels, infantile and adult. Give a teaspoonful to an infant, and
a tablespoonful to an adult. Flour boiled long in a little bag
filled full and tied tightly, using only its dry inside part, also
arrests looseness. Boiled mullein root is most astringent.
887. — Medicines, Worms, Scarlet Fever, Crying, &c.
Calomel, morphine, and opiates are deadly in their effects, and
quinine benumbing and chilling. The children of nervou?
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mothers are necessarily exquisitely susceptible to everything-,
therefore all their inflammations run high ; so that superadding
the intense inflammation of these drugs to that of the disease
itself, often snaps their delicate life-cords suddenly, and they die
almost before you know they are much sick; whereas, if let
alone, their constitutions would triumph.
Soothing syrups are most injurious. They necessarily stupefy
the child ever afterwards, as well as at the time. " Paregoric"
causes subsequent crossness, by irritating the nervous system, be-
sides blunting the senses and deranging the nerves for life. All
opiates, so far from removing disease, only suspend present action
by stupefaction, leaving the disease the same, but palsying the
resistance of the constitution. It should not be given to a dog,
unless hated, or to stop his barking, much less to a loved babe.
Amazing that medicfil men prescribe it, as they once did calomel.
Soothing syrups have spoiled and buried millions of babes.^
Calomel has ruined the constitutions of untold millions. Why
does it salivate, but because Nature thereby ejects it from the
system?^** Its injurious ettects on the teeth prove that it injures
them by first injuring the whole digestive apparatus. It often
paralyzes the limbs outright ever after. Men little realize how
much damage its use has inflicted on the race. Children cannot
tiidure it.
Medicinks kill more than diseases. Nervous mothers, frenzied
by false excitement, rush around frantically, thereby unnerving
the child, and resort to desperate means with fatal ettects. Ner-
vousness unfits for the sick chamber. The best thing most
mothers can do for their child is to keep themselves cool and well,
which will rectify the child through their own milk ; whereas
faying over it perpetually, unnerves, exhausts, diseases, and
•vers them and this their nlilk, which makes it worse. They
hould at least recreate daily. Physic does not, cannot cure.
Nature alone can cast out disease, and restore to health ; and the
less she is interfered with the better. Do too little rather than
too much. Many are literally doctored to death. Women and
grandmothers are far better doctors than men, and simple teas
excel heroic medicines.
Worms trouble maternal imaginations far more than children's
stomachs. As crows gather where there is carrion and to con-
sume it ; 80 worms can coexist only with foulness of the stomach,
B26 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
which they lessen by eating it; and are therefore health aids by
being stomach scavengers. The error lies not in the worms
themselves, but in that foul stomach matter which breeds and
feeds them. Obviate that, and they disappear with it. A right
diet to prevent its further generation, and a wet cloth laid at
night on the stomach and bowels to extract inflammation, along
with out-door play, and attention to the other health conditions,
will soon exterminate them. Till the stomach is cleansed, these
scavengers of it should not be destroyed.
Worm medicines kill worms by injuring the child's stomach, —
how can they kill them without? — only to increase its subse-
quent foulness, and redouble their number. To promote infan-
tile health is the true way to both prevent and exterminate
worms. Let common sense attest.
Scarlatina is one of the greatest destroyers of our darlings.
Whoever can show parents how to save them from its ravages
will be one of man's greatest benefactors. That the present mode
of doctoring it is far more injurious than beneficial, is proved
by the death of the larger proportion of those doctored. Doing
nothing could surely be any worse. Doing less will at least do
less injury. That the effects of the "heroic medicines" are
really deadly, is most apparent. Substitute this : —
Bathe them by piecemeal in saleratus water, under bedclothes ;
for the air must not strike them while wet. The saleratus neu-
tralizes the acid at the skin, and the heat of the body turns the
water into steam, which carries off the feverish heat. Wash one
limb or part at a time, and a few minutes after, another, and
thus keep going over and over the body, and you assuage the
pain, and will probably save your child.
The crying of children should be a sure index that some of
!N'ature's violated laws distress it. The saying, " That is a good
child which is good with good tending,'' is based in ignorance.
The order of [N'ature is, that children should not cry at all.
Healthy infants sleep most of the time till their mothers, by dis-
ordering their own stomachs, derange their children's, and this
occasions that pain which causes them to cry. They rarely, if
ever, cry from crossness, but generally from distress. There is
no need of either. How instinctively does their crying awaken
our pity, because we are intuitively conscious that they suffer I
Nature renders them happy, which prevents their crying. Those
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THE NURSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN. 827
mothers who are tormented by cross children deserve tlie blame
themselves. Those are ignorant who do not know how to manage
their children so that they will rarely cry. Strange that girls
and young mothers enter upon married life without one correct
physiological idea upon this subject, so intimately connected with
their happiness. They must give this tea and that medicine,
which, in the very nature of things, increases the distress. Weak
catnip tea is not particularly detrimental, yet warm water,
sweetened, is perhaps better. Try it, when your children are
toss; it will often act like magic.
Spitefulness and anger always accompany sickness; except
where it is so severe as to cause prostration. Are not children
always peevish and irritable when unwell, unless too sick to cry
at all ? And when a child, so sick as to be stupid, begins to be
cross, its disease has turned for the better.
Those naturally ill-natured inherit their petulance ; so that
they are to be pitied, not scolded.^^
Rocking, jolting, trotting, and carrying infants do not remove
that bad feeling which causes the crying, but do prevent that rest
which would cure both disease and crossness. They require to
be kept still and quiet most of the time. Whenever they need
exercise they will take it spontaneously.
Nursing them while you are angry or worried is also most
injurious; because all your feelings are faithfully transmitted to
your milk. Mark how soon they begin to worry after you begin
to feel bad ; just as before their birth they showed distress by
motion. In some nations nursing is forbidden except when
mothers are placid.
" A husband quarrelled with a soldier, who drew his sword. His wife
first trembled, then rushed between them, wreuched and broke the sword,
in a rage; then nursed her perfectly healthy babe. It left off nursing,
became restless, panted, and sank back, dead." — A Oerman Physician.
** Mrs. M. came out of a ball-room, and nursed her well babe, which
was taken with spasms two hours after, and has since been a confirmed
epileptic idiot." — Dr. Seguin.
" The milk of an angry nurse causes epilepsy." — Boerhave,
Thb great art of nursing consists in keeping infants well, by
mother and child observing the health laws. They will never
be sick unless these laws are violated in one or both. What pro-
828 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
motes adult health also promotes infantile. All ladies should
study physiology. In short,
Keeping the mother well is the main means of keeping the
child well. Whatever improves her own health eifectually pro-
motes its life force. By riding, walking, visiting, and making her-
self happy she prevents its diseases, and builds up its constitution.
888. — The Best Time for Nursing, Weaning, &c.
Regularity is of prime importance in nursing and rearing
children. A time for everything, and everything in its time, is
a fundamental law,^ which can be employed with special benefit
in nursing. E'ature is perfect clock-work. Then should not the
managing of children be regulated by the clock ? Periodicity
should be faithfully observed in everything. They should be
bathed quickly at one specified hour, every other day, for a daily
bath unduly exhausts, put to sleep at regular intervals, and nursed
by the clock. Astor, with all his millions, could not confer on
his descendants as great a legacy as every mother, however poor,
can bestow on her children by observing this regularity. And
it should be continued through childhood and adolescence ; for
nothing will contribute more to health, happiness, and virtue.
The maternal relief this practice affords mothers entitles
it to observance. Thus, put your child to bed from the first at
given times, and you can soon ascertain within a few minutes
how long it will sleep; which will give you just such hours, every
day, to yourself, to ride, make calls, and do what you please. All
human beings need a daily respite,^ but matrons the most.
Mothers stay too much at home from evening meetings, lec-
tures, &c. ; whereas they might just as well go as not. Put it to
bed evenings at seven, it will sleep soundly till nine, and, after
nursing and playing a little, put it to bed for the night, but nob
nurse it again till five o'clock next morning, unless you habituate
it to nurse about one. It will soon become habituated to falling
asleep, awaking, and requiring nourishment at these particular
times, and no others; which will save mothers more than half
the extra trouble they now impose on themselves ; besides the in-
calculable benefits it- will confer on the child. Mothers who have
not tried this policy can form no conception of its utility.
Every three or four hours is often enough. Suppose you
nurse at five and nine A. M., and at one, ^ve, and ten P. M. ; or
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at six, nine, twelve, and three. Yet every mother can adopt such
other times as she likes best, and their systems will soon adapt
themselves to whatever times you appoint, so that they are
regular.
Weaning : when and how. — N"ature requires that infants
should nurse longer than is usually expedient, because of the
feebleness and diseases of most mothers. When both are healthy
they should nurse through their second summer, that great in-
fantile ordeal. Teeth were made to be used only when enough
of them appear to facilitate mastication. Yet
Most mothers are so feeble and full of ailments that infanta
imbibe about as much disease in from six to nine months as they
can well bear. Yet here, too, the healthier the mother, the longei
they should nurse. But obviously none should ever nurse longei
than through their third summer.
Nursing does not exhaust the mother. Her surplus albumen
must pass off somehow, or else soon unduly clog all her other
functions, and passing it off through her breasts in nursing is no
more exhausting than to eject it in her monthly courses.^ The
exhaustion is consequent on its manufactwre^ which is compulsory,
not on whether it passes off at her breasts by nursing, or womb
by menstruation.
Weaning gradually is much better for mother and child than
abruptly. Begin to feed some months beforehand ; and increase
the feeding, but diminish the nursing.
The fall, after all danger from summer complaints is passed,
and before the rigors of winter have set in, is doubtless the best
season.
Two years are long enough for any child to nurse, and most
children will be benefited by weaning earlier. No child should
nurse after its mother's conception.
Much more might be said, and perhaps better, on infantile
management; yet as their production is the great thought of this
volume, and nursing only secondary, we dismiss it thus cursowly,
admitting that woman is best adapted to give its details, while
we simply state its fundamental principles.
889. — What Children should and should not Eat.
Wheat is the staple article of juvenile diet. This is proved
by its containing more of the organic or bone, muscle, and tissue-
830 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
forming materials than any other kind of food.^ They also like
it better.
Its bran part contains the required lime, or bone materials,
besides being adapted to regulate the bowels ; so that unbolted
flour is far better than bolted ; because bolting extracts this bone
material.
Don't give them yeast-raised bread. No diet is equally in-
jurious. Its being soured in and by raising it, causes it to sour
in the stomach much sooner and more than unleavened. This
(Sours the rest of its food, and this inflames and weakens the
stomach, and thereby becomes the one greatest cause of dyspep-
sia; which consists in this very sourness. How can any who
have an Epicurean taste even endure it?*^ It is one of the
greatest evils of civilization ; and cannot continue long.
Unbolted flour noodles cannot be excelled as a juvenile
Aliment. If properly made, they embody all the excellences of
wheat, without any of the evils of yeast-raising, yet allow any
palatable flavoring desired. Away up the Columbia River I
saw Chinese miners make our fine flour into a thin dough, spin
it out into pots containing water in thin ribbons an inch or so
wide, flavor it with pork, herbs, &c., boil fifteen minutes, and eat
it with a spoon, its water serving as milk. They relished it
amazingly. This is, beyond comparison, the best use of flour
possible, and will enable mothers to get up a new diet, and to
give it this flavor to-day by adding this fruit, and another to-
morrow by that. It is virtually potpie, and also apple dumplings,
in principle, yet avoids their evils by being thinner both in the
dough used, and its ribbons, which renders it lighto
Potatoes are most excellent if eaten soon after they are cooked,
because they are then mealy ; for they mash fine, as in chewing,
so that the gastric juice can penetrate the entire mass, and be
solving all the particles at once ; whereas when cold they become
solidified, and enter the stomach in chunks, on which gastric
jufce can operate only externally, which allows them to ferment
and create inflammation before they are digested; but mashing
as soon as they are cooked allows them to be eaten hours after-
wards with impunity.
Meat is advisable, though in moderate quantities, chickens,
eggs underdone, &c. Beef and mutton, meat teas, soups, &c,, are
all right.
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Baked potatoes are better than boiled, and roasted in hot
ashes best of all, while fried are least healthy.
Milk is both beneficial and necessary. The system must have
oil ; and milk and cream undoubtedly furnish its best form of
pupply. New milk is much better than old, and unskimmed
than skimmed. Those must be " poor folks " indeed who cannot
afford good, unskimmed, unwatered, fresh milk for their little
ones.
Cream is less digestible than milk, because its oil-globules are
now so compact that the gastric juice cannot operate on them as
well as when isolated by floating in the milk.
Butter supplies this oil, but is less digestible than milk or
cream, because it is still more compact. But when spread thin
on bread, chewing mixes it up with the particles of flour, so that
the gastric juice can attack and solve its oil-globules separately ;
but it must be mingled well with other food.
Melted butter is decidedly objectionable ; because melting
packs it in one solid mass, so that the gastric juice can command
only its owfeu^,and it lays undigested till the heat of the stomach
renders it rancid^ corrupt, and corrupting.
Butter on hot mashed potatoes is not liable to this objection ;
because the butter particles are isolated from each other by being
mixed up with the potato particles, so that the gastric juice can
attack them individually.
Butter on hot bread is most objectionable for children and
adults, because the warm, half-doughy bread rolls up into com-
pact balls, and the melted butter into others, which the gastric
juice, unable to penetrate, can solve only from their surface, so
that they sour in the stomach, disorder the bowels, and corrupt
the blood.
Warm saleratus bread is doubly injurious ; because its salera-
tus lodges in any broken crevices in the mucous membrane, and
keeps eating in without losing its corrosive strength, as in
"Caddie's" case.**'
The best bread for children is that unbolted, unleavened
wheaten bread, already prescribed for prospective mothers, and
for a like reason.**
Wheaten orits, well boiled, eaten with milk, or cream and
sugar, form one of the best articles of juvenile diet. So does
boiled wheat, but, like hominy, it should be boiled for hours.
832 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
Oatmeal, in the form of gruel and bread, is one of the very
best articles of juvenile diet. Of this the robustness of Scotch
children, who are mainly raised on it, furnishes an example, and
the young barons, lords, and dukes of the old world are fed
chiefly on it.
Indian meal can be made into excellent articles of juvenile
diet, because it contains oil in abundance, along witlf other grow-
ing materials. But its simple preparation, as in johnny-cake,
well-boiled hasty-puddings, and the like, is far better than its
indigestible compounds ever can be.
Hominy and samp furnish an excellent diet for children, and
are especially delicious when made from corn as soon as ripe.
]S^UTS are beneficial when the stomach can manage them ; but
chestnuts should always be boiled^ so as to disintegrate their par-
ticles ; whereas green ones enter the stomach in lumps, which
resist the gastric juice. Add a little salt to them while boiling.
Dr. Alcott, the vegetarian apostle, inquired if I knew any
substitute for fat meat, because, opposed to meat, he yet saw the
need of oil ; and when nuts were suggested, he clapped his hands,
saying they furnished just the desired substitute.
Fat meat furnishes this oil needed by the system. For scrofu-
lous and consumptive patients "cod-liver oil" has long been
found a natural antidote, and always beneficial. Now all its vir-
tue inheres in its being oi7, not at all in its cod-liver origin. Any
other oil is just as good : that of milk, cream, butter, and nuts
is more palatable, and much less expensive, yet equally beneficial.
The fat of beef and mutton, where children are fond of it, is
beneficial. If their systems need it, their appetites will crave it,
and vice versd. When they crave meat, lean or fat, give it.
Fat pork may be sometimes better than scarcity of oil, but is
a last resort ; and an animalcule recently found in it, renders it
positively dangerous. We confess to a decided prejudice against
pork, ham, &c. ; and yet, in the absence of other oils, it does
sometimes cure consumptive proclivities; but frying it crisp is
probably its best form. Still we prefer fat in any other form.
Ripe fruits are most beneficial. As children are subject to
looseness at the very time of raspberries and blackberries, which
neutralize this laxness, give them freely. Good peaches are also
excellent, yet those raised at home are the best ; because those
transported are always picked green.
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OP CHILDREN. 833
Sweet apples are most excellent. Let children have free ac-
cess to a barrel well supplied with the best. When fruits disturb
the stomach, something is wrong in the fruits, or else in the
present state of the stomach. They should be discontinued.
Sweets are beneficial, for they sustain animal heat, and abound
in most kinds of food. They are, however, far better when
mixed, as Nature mixes them, with other ingredients, than when
concentrated. They however tax the liver heavily.
Molasses is injurious, because it ferments during its manufac-
ture and transit. It is often seen frying out of its casks while
lying in the sun, because heat sours it. Nearly all is thus soured
Nothing will equally sour the contents of the stomach.
Sugar molasses, made by melting sugar, is not open to this
serious objection, is easily made, always fresh and sweet, because
kept cool, and soon consumed, and is much cheaper, as well as
far richer, especially made by melting loaf sugar, and every way
better than that usually bought. It can be made thin, which
makes it go farther, and allows it to spread throughout the food.
Lemons, when the appetite craves them, will prove beneficial,
by their acid neutralizing that of the stomach. Whenever they
create eructations they sweeten the stomach. Half of one eaten
on rising will soon cure constipation.
Colored confectionery is usually objectionable, because colored
with substances often deleterious, and even poisonous. Till an
;irtificial appetite is created by their seeing others eat it, they are
not especially fond of it, and are far better without it.
Ice creams are all right, except that their coldness lowers the
niperature of the stomach unduly. Eating so slowly that they
melt and become warm in the mouth before swallowing, leaves
them healthful.
Cakes are injurious, because their eggs are rendered indigea-
til)le by being cooked so long. Flour, fat, and eggs, cooked half
an hour, must needs be too rich for juvenile stomachs.*"^
Tea AND COFFEE are most injurious to children. They are in-
nsely stimulating, interfere with sleep, and fever their already
too excitable nerves. Give them crust coffee, but not Java, and
sage tea, but not hyson.
Normal appetite is a sure dietetic guide. Children will gen-
erally crave what their constitutions require at any particular
time. If their appetite is not perverted, it may safely be trusted.
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834 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
Let them eat about what they relish. They rarely care for cake
or candies till an artificial appetite has been pampered for them.
And they can learn to relish almost anything healthy.
But we are partly repeating the dietetic doctrines of Part II.
of " Human Science," to which we must refer for much fuller
dietetic prescriptions, accompanied with their reasons.
890. — Right Habits vs. Wrong: Regularity, Sleep, &c.
Habit flexes man's constitution materially ; right habits im-
proving, wrong injuring, his life-functions.
Regularity is everything, especially to a susceptible child. It
parries injurious effects, and promotes good ones. Many delicate
ones are carried oflT suddenly in consequence of some minor
change, whom uniformity would have kq)t well, and saved. A
change of temperature often causes a cold, and this a fever or
bowel difliculty, and this a sudden death ; whereas unifoini
habits would have kept the child well, and growling as usual.
System is an ordinance of ^N^ature, and nowhere more practi-
cally useful than in rearing children. See that they are fed, put
to bed, &c., at appointed times, and manage them by the clock,
as shown about nursing,^ and their sickness need not trouble you.
Their sleep should be abundant and regular. See its importance,
promotion, &c., in " Human Science ;" ^^*' " Creative Science" treats
only sexual health, and general health only incidentally. Most
precocious children sleep too little. If when sick they fall asleep,
let them sleep, and by no means wake them to administer medi-
cines. Put them to sleep early, and let them sleep as late morn-
ings as they choose ; sleep being far more beneficial than school-
ing. Twelve hours are none too much for children below seven,
and ten from seven to fourteen. Tremble for sleepless children.
■Keep up their day nap as long as possible. Take them play
fiilly upon ypur lap at their time for a nap, and cuddle them, and
they will soon fall asleep. Stopping their play soon puts them
to sleep ; for I^Tature must economize all their time.
Sweating about the head during sleep is most beneficial to
precocious children.^
Loose drawers are a far better night protection than bed-
clothes; because in their restlessness they often throw off* the
bed-clothes ; while drawers made to enclose each limb, and extend
from head to feet, will " stay on." And in general the less bed-
clothes the better, so that they are barely comfortable.
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN. 835
Air their dormitories well. An open window, if they once
become accustomed to it, will be beneficial; while close bedrooms
and attics are most injurious.
Each should sleep separately, and all the better if in a room
alone. They will thus not corrupt or disturb each other. In-
leed, where parents can afford it, each should have a separate
room, bed, closet, bureau, &c., and be required to keep them in
order. Never frighten them when you put them to bed with " If
I should die before I wake,'' but cultivate a cheerful, hopeful
feeling.
891. — Ablution, Skin-action, Apparel, Bare Feet, &c.
Cutting the umbilical cord is the very first thing to be done
after the birth of a child. This any one can do, if they only
think so. Press its contents along from the mother towards the
navel, tie it firmly with twine near the navel, and then again
about three inches from it, and cut between the two, but don't
cut either.
Fold it in a blanket before its ablution is commenced. Every
one of my own children, in common with most infants, caught
a severe cold before being dressed, the injurious effects of which
annot well be over-estimated. This is easily avoided by folding
in a blanket as soon as severed, and performing the ablution
leisurely, and by piecemeal, one limb and part after another, rest-
ing between times; and thus avoiding both colds and exhaustion.
The injurious effects of lowering the temperature so rapidly as
must be done by exposure to the air while wet in tepid water
long enough to wash, dress, and put limber arms up through
little arm-holes, is manifest, and a disgrace to the medical faculty.
A hand wet in tepid water, exposed to the air, cools rapidly.
How soon that process over the entire body of a new-born infant
must inevitably cause cold, to its lifelong detriment! But as
wrapping a cloth around a wet hand keeps in its lieat, so folding
your infant in a woollen blanket, and washing it by piecemeal
iiider it, precludes its taking cold. Let common sense attest the
1 'ractical importance of this prescription.* Rub it over with sweet
oil.
* In 1844, in hin work entitled '* Maternity, " the Author published thin ides of tht
blanket, which "The Physical Life of Woman" usea, along with hundreds of other
tugt^estions drawn from Maternity, without one alltuion to the aource from which thej
'verc derived. One likes to aee his ** thunder" used, but prefers to have it duly
Jiocredited.
S36 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDBEN.
Granny Griffis plunged me all over twice into a waiting tub
of cold water; which is far preferable to this tepid hand- washing,
because its shock fortifies by causing reaction.
Most children are over-bathed. Thrice per week is often
enough, while daily ablution unduly exhausts them. They are
still weak, j^et to produce the required reaction draws heavily on
their often sparse vital force. What is its special use ? Surely
not cleanliness. Its chief utility consists in its hemg fashio7uibk.
Intrinsically it is the more important as they grow the older, yet
is then omitted. It often gives colds, and keeps the child ailing.
Few adults, and fewer infants, can endure exposure to cold air
while wet in tepid water.
Wash them under a blanket whenever you wash thorn at all,
for reasons just given, till they are several months old.
Delicate children may be kept warmly clad ; but unless their
own internal heat warms them they must remain cold. Clothes
can never create heat, but only retard its escape. Babies are
always dressed too much, kept in overheated rooms, and under
too many bed-clothes ; consequent on excessive maternal caution.
This weakens their skin, and induces excessive perspiration, and
therefore perpetual liability to colds. To accustom them to cool
rooms and light clothing is better; because this promotes internal
warmth. Clothing sufficient for them when awake is ample when
asleep.
Dr. Elder insists that the confining chamber shall have no
artificial heat, even in cold weather, alleging that heat enervates
both mother and child ; and the fact that children guarded and
aursed the most are usually the weakliest, and take cold the
aftenest, confirms this view.
In-door confinement is injurious. Man and animals are adapted
to be much in the open air. Extreme tenderness is often ex-
tremely injurious. Accustoming children to atmospheric changes
hardens and invigorates, while confinement weakens them. The
more careful you are with them, the more careful you need to be.
They must not be housed one day, and exposed the next ; but ex-
posed children catch fewer colds than those assiduously cared for
in other respects. If your child catches cold easily, harden it
up just as soon as warm weather will allow, and the next fall let
it run. Pampering spoils. Give Nature plenty of materials with
which to work, and then let her alone.
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN. 837
To PREVENT COLDS, tbose chief causes of fevers, brain fevers, and
even bowel difficulties, keep their feet well washed and exposed.
Feet are the chief inlets for cold, and therefore diseases. Keep
their circulation good, and few children would ever be sick ; but
bandaging the feet in close-fitting shoes and stockings impedes
the circulation, and thus creates colds, and their resultant dis-
eases.
Letting them go barefoot exposes their feet to the air, which
greatly promotes pedal circulation, which constant contact re-
doubles, withdraws the blood from the head to the feet, keeps
off colds and diseases, and leaves the feet hardened up all through
life, ^o children should ever wear shoes or stockings except in
cool weather.
Getting the feet wet will often prove beneficial instead of
injurious. To wet them only once in a year or two might prove
injurious ; but keeping them well washed, and then letting them
get wet every now and then, will rather promote than prevent
pedal circulation, and therefore the general health.
What are looks in comparison with your children's health ?
A rosy child barefoot looks incomparably better than a pale,
sickly one in nice boots.
Playing in the dirt will not poison them, but will promote
their health, and help insure their lives.
Mud has a truly magical, effect in subduing inflammation. A
mud poultice is the best of poultices, and takes the poison right
out of stings. Now playing in mud-puddles barefoot, of which all
children are passionately fond, applies this kind of poultice in the
best manner possible. Enveloping sick children in dry dirt cure«.
Swimming is generally most injurious, because boys stay in so
long as to become chilly, and take colds, from which they never
fully recover. It has made many a robust boy a weakly man, or
else buried him prematurely. Let them bathe in-doors, or else
be watched by parents, and brought out the first instant they feel
chilly, or show " goose flesh " rising.
Chanqing under-oarments twice per week is quite often enough.
Most babies are shirted quite too often. One undershirt is no
sooner well warmed and dried than another is substituted ; thus
facilitating colds. Woodsmen wear a new thick woollen shirt
out without washing, and are remarkably robust.
Rubbing the extremities, skin, and bowels is most excellent.
838 the physical development of children.
892. — The First Month and Year.
Young life is always delicate. Keeping infants well till they
are fairly started, is the great rearing art. The first month and
year predetermine more than any five subsequent ones. One-ienth
die the first month, and ovei' half the deaths in N^ew York city are
under one year. An early stunt is most injurious.
"Keep vegetables well weeded while young. All practical
gardeners attest that this is the secret of good gardening. When
young plants get once choked with weeds, no after attention can ever
make them any more than barely tolerable ; whereas, those well weeded at
frt^st, acquire that headway which carries them through finely, though sub-
sequently neglected."
"Stock raisers care for calves and colts, which, if neglected
the first winter, never recover ; but if well fed and sheltered then, endure
subsequent neglect."
" I took extra care of a poor calf during its first winter, and in the
spring it eclipsed all my neighbors' calves; so that I sold it for more than
double the going price.* — Col. Meigs to the N. Y. Farmers' Club.
All this is doubly true of children. Why this shocking
mortality among those under two years ? Because their systems
have not yet acquired sufiicient vital power to resist infantile
ails ; yet the third year they became so established as to ward
off disease. And the younger they are, the less they can with-
stand causes of disease.
To children before birth, this law applies with redoubled force.
Better half starve the calf and colt the last part of its first year
than the first part, and the first half than neglect its mother
before its birth. The earlier this starvation, the worse.
893. — The First, or JS'utritive Epoch of Seven Years.
Successive stages of development or Periods, appertain to all
that grows. In man they consume seven years each, and are
founded in the very necessities of existence. As blossoms must
precede fruit, and growth ripening ; so Nature must begin at one
primal starting-point, and pursue the same routine of develop-
ment in each individual of every species.
Worms illustrate this nutritive stage, and millers and butter-
flies the mature. Worms do nothing but eat, and what is requisite
thereto; while butterflies, millers, bugs, &c., simply live on and
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OP CHrLDREN. 839
ose up the food eaten by themselves when in the worm state.
After the silk-worm has eaten and only partially digested suffi-
cient food-material for growth and after life, it spins its cocoon,
to protect and keep it comfortable while it forms its organs,
creates its wings, and develops into a full grown miller. This
>tage corresponds with puberty, and brings the amorous propen-
sity: it now forms and lays its eggs, in doing which it uses its
wings and legs incessantly, but eats nothing, and then dies.
Some butterflies sip honey, but this only supports warmth, not
muscle. All the materials employed to make and use wings,
muscles, &c., it ate while in its worm or feeding stage. This is
mainly true of flies, which obtain most of their organic materials
in their larva state. Mark the application of this principle to
the feeding of children.
Formation must take precedence. To manufacture organs is
Nature's prior and really greatest work. Organs must be made
before functions can be executed. Growth is therefore first in
order, and paramount in importance. But this requires nutri-
tion, and this both appetite and digestive vigor. A good stomach
is therefore a sine qua non. The value of a good large belly in a
child cannot well be overrated ; for a good digestive laboratory
will soon build up a good organism throughout.
Children drool much, and instinctively carry everything to
their mouths, because of this great natural activity of their di-
gestive laboratory. Instincts are always as requirements. In-
fants imperiously require food more than anything else, except
breath, and hence naturally carry everything to their mouths;
signifying that good food is proportionally important. This
appetite continues till about twenty, that is, till the growth is
about completed, when it becomes less craving. This functioD
ranks all others up to about the seventh .year.
894. — The Second Period, or Muscular Exercise.
Establishing the muscles is Nature's second paramount func-
tion. Little children tottle around, and are incessantly active ;
yet from seven to fourteen they are just about crazy to run and
tear around. In mature life the muscles must be very powerful
and efficient. This requires incessant activity from seven to
fourteen, except during the time needed for sleep. Hence their
instinctive restlessness. Track that healthy boy from mornin«'
840 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDRBN.
till night, through every day, week, month, and year, and he
involuntarily runs, plays, climbs, pounds, and tears around gen-
erally, at a rate truly fearful. Give him playmates or a dog, and
he will walk or run on the average three miles an hour, straight
through for twelve hours dail}^ from the age of seven to fourteen.
Think what a herculean task to travel thirty-six miles per day,
every day, steadily ! How fond he is of skating, sliding, riding,
playing, racing, lifting, scuffling, and all that! Pray, what does
all this signify ? A correspondingly imperious demand for this
exercise.
All girls are natural romps. This incessant activity is not
confined to boys. Though girls are not quite as ravenous for
exercise, relatively, as boys, because they are not required to be-
come equally athletic, yet their fondness for it is but the measure
of their need of it. It can be curtailed only to their lifelong
injury. Every good wife and mother will be found to have been
a natural born, tearing " tomboy ; " because, without exercise, she
cannot possibly attain the muscular power requisite for subse-
quent maternity .^^ Then let her run, play, skate, slide down
hill, climb trees, scale fences, coast, drive the hoop, jump the
rope, do anything and everything she likes till a full year after
her courses commence. And all girls love to play with boys far
the best. This is just as it should be.^^' ^ To curb this strong
native instinct is to outrage !N'ature, and spoil your darling
daughters. They are children yet, not young ladies. The fact
that all calves, colts, lambs, and young animals, male and female,
run, frisk, gambol, and race back and forth with all their might,
should teach human parents the practical importance of letting
boys and girls have their fill of exercise. Those children who
love to sit within doors and read, read, study, study, can make
only poor men and women ; because by no other means is it pos-
sible to form and harden up their organism for future labors and
struggles.^
Nature must move on. What she cannot do on time, and in
her appointed order, must be left undone. As in building, the
foundation must be laid first, the walls erected next, then the
roof and inner "walls finished oflT and appurtenances superadded
last ; so Nature lays the nutritive foundation in vigorous diges-
tion, follows with this muscular development, and then marches
on to growth, and finally finishes ofif her structure by developing
THE NURSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN. 841
the soul in its intellectual, moral, and religious phases. If she
does not establish a good nutritive foundation by or before the
seventh year, she never does, and the poor child must lack diges-
tive vigor always, and be poorly nourished till death. But if
lier plans are not thwarted, children even sickly become much
stronger after seven than they w^ere before. Those denied the
required exercise from seven to fourteen must grow up with poor
muscles, and therefore poor brains.^ No after culture of them
can ever make up for this early deficiency.
895. — Confinement in School below fourteen injurious.
It is in direct conflict with this natural order of develop-
ment just stated. Nature's educational period has not yet
arrived, and will not begin till growth is about completed. All
children need about all their time and energies up to fourteen
for nutrition, exercise, and growth ; then why divert it to educa-
tion? Why try to finish off the walls before they are made?
As you must get your chicken before you can cook it, so you must
first get body and brain before you essay to educate the mind.
Since mind works only through organs, make sure of your
organism first, and educate afterwards.
Three hours' confinement in school per day below fourteen, is
one hour too much. Let one fact sufiice.
Thomas Wilce, Chicago, 111., in 1856, brought a precocious
daughter under my hands professionally, and was told emphati-
cally not to send her to school one day till she was sixteen. The
trial was severe, but he believed in Phrenology, and obeyed the
injunction to the letter. At sixteen, though behind all her
mates, she shot right on past every one in a school of eight hundred,
and in two years graduated the first scholar in tliat large school.
Vor did this end her triumph. Entering the high-school, she
lood first in that also^ except that one young man about equalled
Ijer. No others approached her, though all the others studied con-
Mantly from four to eighteen. I never, knew a child kept back
till fifteen that did not shoot right ahead of his peers. Parents
re literally mad on this idea of crowding children into school
young. They are literally educated from half to nine-tenths to dcath^
and some ten-tenths. The intellect matures Itist, and should be
trained but little till Natutc, having fully developed her ante-
oedent functions in their natural order, has arrived at this her
842 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OF CHILDREN.
last and crowning work. To try to educate mucli before six-
teen is like marrying before puberty. Nature's order must be
followed, or else all is spoiled. She knows best, and has appointed
the best " times and seasons " for everything.^
896. — The Third Stage, or Growth and Puberty.
The third stage of human life embraces growth, and ushers in
puberty; after which human life is fairly established. This era
constitutes the great life-mm. Everything antecedent converges
to it. All else is but its preparatory usher.®"
Preparation for this great crisis is most important. As corn,
to develop into its tasselling puberty in July, must previously
establish its roots in June; so lads and lasses, in order to emerge
fully into manhood and womanhood, must strike root well before
thirteen. To thus shoot right out fully into manhood requires
an immense amount of vital force, which must be previously laid
by in reserve against this advent. It pushes its subjects right up
to their full height, and then fills them out, and hardens them
up. To do this it must have a great amount of nutrition, which
causes a rampant greed for food, which should by all means be
indulged. I^othing can be much more fatal to after life than
its deficiency in quantity or vitiation in quality then. Do let
them eat.
Poor and deficient food is the great evil of boarding-schools.
Parents, if you must send your children from home to get an
education, take them right out of any boarding-school which
does not give them what, and all they want to eat ; yet warn
them against breaking down their stomachs by green fruits, or
crude food, or any dietetic irregularity.
Many blight just at this crisis, for want of vitality. Having
barely sufficient to simply sustain life. Nature is unable to
obtain the brick and mortar necessary for her temple, and must
both contract its dimensions, and leave it weak and rickety for
the balance of their lives. Such are about spoiled. We shall
Roon apply this law especially to girls, and show what poor wives
and mothers such a blight makes them.
Many constitutions are ruined at and soon after puberty.
Many boys beginning to feel their strength, show what herculean
feats they can accomplish, only to iflnpair their muscles forever
after. They should remember that they are green and soft yet
THE NUBSING AND FEEDING OF CHILDREN. 84S
Parents, put them on their guard against all excesses. Youths,
remember that you are just beginning to live, but by no means
rully developed yet. Wait only a little longer, till you arc well
i^rown, and you may do with yourselves almost anything you
like; yet a little indiscretion just now will half paralyze you.
How PASSING STRANGE that wlieu pubcrty is fraught with events
thus momentous, it should have thus far escaped public attention.
Parents, see to it that your dear children not only suffer no dam-
age as they pass through this trying crisis, but that they open
out through its gates into complete manhood and womanhood,
897. — Precocity: its Extent and Counteraction; Play, &c.
American institutions naturally stimulate the brain and ner-
vous system, at the expense of the vital and muscular. This is
one great cause of their sad mortality. Extra brilliant and
devout children die prematurely. " That child is too smart to
live,'' has become a popular proverb ; because it is established by
observation.
Getting juvenile brain before trying to discipline it, is like
'tching the hare before cooking and eating it. Children -cannot
Keep their growth cake, and yet eat it in education. Extra smart
boys are generally small ; because they work up on their func-
tions the energies and materials wanted for growth. Horses
unused till eight become hardiest. "Goldsmith Maid'* has beat
all horseflesh till now, and is still beating herself, though old ;
yet was unused till nine, because so skittish. An Erie Canal
)wer who buys and uses up several hundred horses annually,
lys he always buys those too fractious to bo used till after
ight, adding: "They will wear on till after thirty. There is
no using them up with hard work." Bonaparte would receive
for soldiers only mature men ; because those below twenty were
unable to endure hardships, and only fit to encumber the hospitals
iind way-sides.
A Janesville mother was told to take her six-year old
i>rodigy from school at once, or she would lose him of brain
ver. She let him finish that term, because his teacher wanted
to show off her school through him, on examination day, by hi»
speaking his piece, and exhibiting his progress. He did so, camo
home complaining of shooting pains in his head, went to bed with
a high fever, which struck to his liead and brain, and in two daya
»44 THE PHYSICAL DEVELOPMENT OP CHILDREN.
he was carried to his grave with brain fever. Her only child
was dead and buried, and she was left with no son on whom to
bestow her great wealth and gushing maternal love.
"Wait till fully matured in body and mind, all ye who would
do the greatest life-work possible.
Precocity is caused by these two conditions — the stimulat-
ing influence of our institutions on the mind and feelings, and
the excitements of the fashions on mothers. Almost all our
children need to have their memory and smartness educated out
of, but not into, them. Sole-leather children may be educated
early, and yet education does such little good. And many chil-
dren already too talented cannot be induced to study, because
they have now more talents than sustaining vitality; so that Nature
will not let them increase this disproportion by study. To send
such to school is both useless and ruinous — useless, because they
will not learn, and ruinous because school confinement prevents
that play which would give them the strength required to enable
them to study after a time. Let them play a year or two to
revive their drooping physiologies, and they will then study; but
not till then.
Play is the best antidote for this precocity. ITo thing tones
up and regulates all the physical functions equally with exercise ;
and no form of juvenile exercise at all compares with play. By
developing their bodies now it improves their minds hereafter.
Nature did not implant this all-powerful instinct for playing
with other children to be suppressed. They must have the stim-
ttlas of associates of about their own age.
CHAPTER n.
JUVENILE GOVERNMENT.
Section I.
MOBAL SUASION VS, CORPORAL PUNISHMENT.
898. — Shall Children be Chastised? Never.
They should be made to mind. This is presupposed. The
greater age, knowledge, experience, and everything else of parents
presuppose that children should somehow be induced to conform
to their wishes up to puberty. Yet not much longer ; for puberty
creates both independence and sense. To hold a youth in sub-
jugation after this love of self-control has become well established,
violates his nature, and creates dislike for his arbiter. Youth
should "become of age" as soon as puberty is well established,
say at fifteen. When God in !N'ature implants this independent
spirit, parents and guardians should heed, obey, and surrender
their authority, and no longer trespass on " inalienable rights,'*
or fight the inevitable. But till then juveniles should be gov-
erned. Then by what motives ?
Coercion and moral suasion present directly opposite means of
securing obedience. Since they are antagonistic, only one can
be employed. Resorting to either, annuls the other. Punish-
ment kills moral suasion, and all attempted union of the two is
like "Nebuchadnezzar's image, partly iron and partly miry clay,
partly strong and partly weak." Every child must be governed
wholly by one or the other. Which is preferable ?
Punishment never, at any age, either in the family or school ;
because it contravenes every known law of mind. It reverses
every mental Faculty, outrages Ambition, humbles or else infuri-
ates Dignity, sears the affections, hardens Conscience with the
idea of having been wronged, kills respect for parents, and either
subdues or inflames Force, which always begets revenge.
When it subdues, it makes the child a poltroon in that pro-
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portion, lowers resolution to cope with difficulties, humbles the
spirits, unnerves, and crushes. Such flunkeys become good for
nothing, tame and inert, and go through life hanging down their
heads, a prey to whoever chooses to prey upon them. Do you
desire such children ? This is the inevitable effect when Force
is weak ; which, fortunately, is rare. But when it is strong, it
Creates defiance. All forced obedience is worthless. Only
voluntary is worth having. Your boy may, indeed, mind in
action, yet rebels in spirit. Obeying in sullen wrath, he goes oif,
muttering between his teeth, "When I grow a little larger, I '11
do as I darned please ; " is glum and ugly, and vents his spite in
numberless little ways, to the anno^^ance of all about him. A
chastised boy expressed what all such feel, when, after pleading
to be forgiven "just this once," and solemnly promising " never
to do so again," on the first blow being struck, he said, fiercely,
" Whip away, you old heathen ; I can stand all you can put on,
and will be just as bad as I can be ; " and true to his threat, defied
the whip, and rebelled at every opportunity. Did thai punish-
ment improve him? All chastisement necessarily injures. It
must subdue, or harden. It renders those whom it subdues tame,
crushed, spiritless poltroons, and hardens and infuriates all the rest.
" This doctrine conflicts with * sparing the rod spoils the child ;* and
with Solomon's counsel to whip away, despite his crying."
Follow Solomon in wiiippiNa "little children," and in some
other practices, if you will f^ but let me follow his successor and
superior, who taught, " Overcome evil with good." What you
desire is to obviate evil in them ; then offset it by goodness in
yourself; for the inherent supremacy of goodness over badness
renders the former the natural antagonist of the latter. At least
Christians should never punish ; for by so doing they practically
confess that Christianity is impotent for good ; but that flogging
is more effective than the law of love — a practical avowal lovers
of Christ should be slow to make.
All scolding has precisely the same effect in kind, though los«
in degree. It threatens chastisement, or it means nothing, and
does no good. It is an exercise of Force in the scolder, which
always enkindles it in the scolded. These principles cannot be
controverted. They enforce themselves.
Preserve their self-respect. Sense of character is a power-
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fiil B^ntiment; which chastisement outrages, and infuriates. Ev«n
()larae both humbles their spirit, and creates a "don't care/' or
else a defiant feeling. Frequent chiding and scolding outrage
Ambition, which turns all the Faculties against the scolder.
Praise all you can, and more than they deserve, but blame never.
Terror excites hatred. Awakening fear maddens; except
when it paralyzes. Unless it is neutralized, it palsies and spoils.
All frightening necessarily injures. Then never threaten chil-
dren with punishment, nor shut them up in a closet, nor frighten
them with " raw bones and bloody head," or anything terrible.
The effects of fear on mind and body are indeed terrific.
The nervous system is frenzied by all forms of punishment.
A very sensitive, nervous, excitable child becomes literally fran-
tic, and actually crazy under chastisement.^^ This must needs
shock and derange its nerves still more, redouble its temper, in-
jure its constitution, and do irreparable damage to its body and
mind ever after. Nervous children generally have nervous pa-
rents ; and what is sauce for the gosling should be sauce for the
goose. If chastisement or even scolding is best for children, it
is therefore best for their mother. Let her treat them as she
would have her husband treat her. In the very nature of things
all antagonism antagonizes and hardens.
Infantile normality must by all means be preserved. The
feelings of all infants are normal, and extremely sweet and ten-
der; while those of most adults are both hardened and perverted
to a degree really unaccountable. This infantile tenderness be-
"omes calloused, and sweetness soured, by scolding; much more
y chastisement. The first few sharp words or looks cause the
little dear to pucker up its mouth, and cry as if its heart would
break ; but a few scoldings harden it, and create defiance. Thia
oallous is Nature's protection against future injury. All scolding
id chastisement thus indurate and distort. Would that all
Miothers could realize how much all crossness depraves, and love
oftens and sweetens, their characters ever after. They were
made lovely to be loved; let your treatment correspond with
t heir tenderness.
899. — Moral Suasion: Appeals to CJonscibncb.
The moral Faculties are the natural governors of man. Every
mind must needs have its judicial tribunal, which discerns the
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right and wrong in everything arraigned by intellect, and directs
the execution of the one, and the suppression of the other. Con-
science is that judge and executive. It wears the royal crown
of supremacy. It " speaks as one having authority," and com-
pels obedience. Till it has been stifled, its edicts are supreme.*^
Showing children the right, and why they are in duty bound
to do this and not that, literally compels their obedience. Their
conscience, not yet hardened, takes right hold of their conduct.
Using force makes them hypocrites. Caution generates cunning.
All who are oppressed instinctively resort to strategy and artifice
as their offsetting card. Severe measures will make all children
liars; and the more they are punished the more artfully they
will lie next time ; whereas, putting matters on their conscience
secures obedience in the most effectual manner; and what is far
more important, strengthens it ever after; while governing by force
hardens. Action cultivates, inertia deadens, every organ. Gov-
erning by force allows the moral sense to remain dormant, or else
maddens with the almost necessary idea that they are abused.
The Author's boyhood experience. I was the first one born
in the town of my nativity, of as godly a Congregationalist
deacon, and as devotedly pious a mother, as ever lived ; who
were exceedingly anxious to keep me from contaminating sur-
roundings. Coming home from school when about fourteen,
with the idea of attending a Christmas party, I asked my father
if I might go, and have the horse ; for I must take along some
girl. He answered, by appealing directly to my Conscience,
through my reason, showing me why it would prove injurious to
my morals, and wound up with : —
" I LEAVE THIS WHOLLY ON YOUR CONSCIENCE. There 's the horse and
here 's some money, — I wish I could give you more, — I shall never ask
you what you do with either. Go or stay, as you yourself please. But I
love you so well I hope you will prefer to stay at home and be good."
After that appeal, who could go ? I not only did not, but
better yet, did not want to. He had overruled love of the party
with filial and religious ^ze^; thereby killing with one stone the
two birds of preventing my going, and developing my Conscience
for next time. But my playmates were governed thus : —
" Father, may n't we go to the party to-night ? '*
" Go to the party ? No, indeed."
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" We want to oo awfully. Do let us ! "
" Don't you dare go. If you do, I '11 flog you till you can't stand,*'
" May n't we go sliding down hill to-night? **
They slid to the party, for which thoy were flogged terribly,
.'hich only inflamed their desire to go; and they kept going and
jotting flogged till they thereby spoiled their constitutions and
morals. I have often seen their mother catch up the first stick
hhc could find, or her shoe, and chase, and flog as she chased.
Hud also saw her die after eighty out of doors to her children ; for,
though they had homes and food, they kept up that hatred siic
thus engendered, and made her live three weeks on this neighbor
and one on that, till she died; whereas, when you are old, you
want your children to come to you in the morning, with,
'* Father, what can we do for you to-day?" and in the evening,
with, "Mother, can't we do something more for you to-night?"
nnd the way to guarantee yourself that declining luxury is to get
fheir complete affections ^;vhi]e they are growing up. All mind
i4jn times better from love than fear.
Two MEN BET, oiie that his savage bull-dog chained would guard
a given article; the other that he would get it that night. The
latter cowjed the dog by his stern fixed eye, and so broke his will
rliathe never after even barked. God did not insert will into
'liildren to be whipped out by parents, but to be cultivated and
'Greeted by intellect and duty. The more the better then.
Infinite Wisdom governs His children by self-interest and
• luty. lie placed the Israelites between Mounts Ebal and Geri-
zim. and reading off the law and the blessings of obedience from
the one, and the evils of disobedience from the other, summed
up with: —
" Obeyincj this law will render you happy thus, and violating that,
(Miserable thus; do which and as you like, and take the consequences; but
tor your own sakes you had far better obey."
Conscience is the natural governor of man. Nature has clothed
t with supreme authority, to curb rampant and lash up laggard
passions. No means of securing obedience is equally eflectivo.
(iive it a fair trial. Yet this presuppose^ that you have right od
your own side so clearly that they can see and feel it. thougl
against their wishes. Not all parentjj anvays have thin. God rm.
framed parents and child in accordance with the same gt^eat prw*
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ciples of eternal right. Have that clearly en yonr side, ancj yom
child's inner sense perceives and assents to it ; hut when yo'.i
require what he thinks unjust, you hlunt his Conscience. IV
rents require their children to do many things contrary to their
natures: to keep still, for example, when Nature commands them
to keep stirring. Children should never be required to do what
is contrary to their own instincts ; because they will surely over-
ride all authority, and annul it in the future.
Do NOT JOIN ISSUE any oftener than you must. To keep check*
ing them for this, that, and the other thing, is to break down
your own authority. Becoming used to your reproofs and com-
mands, hardens them against you and them. Curb just as little
as you possibly can. Remember their wants were created to be
(p'atified, not resisted. Indulging nervous children soothes and
benefits them ; while denying them infuriates and deranges them.
900.— How TO KEEP Children from learning Evil.
Keeping them from bad children, hearing low w^ords, and see-
ing vulgarity and wickedness, is utterly impossible. Man was
not made for isolation, but to associate with his fellows.
" You ARE KILLING this fine boy by close confinement. At this rate he
will not live a year, or else be worthless from inanity."
"I HAVE peculiar educational ideas. That boy is my all. I love
him as I love my life, and cannot possibly endure his becoming cor-
rupted by evil associates; and hence never allow him even to see any other
children ; for the best have some bad words, or vulgar ways, or something
wrong. Disbelieving in total depravity, but believing that children are
like white paper, on which education can write whatever characters it
pleases, only to * grow with their growth,' I am determined that all my boy
gets he shall learn through me; so that I and the world may have at least on6
sample of a pure, innocent, and perfect man." — A fond but foolish Mother.
** Where will he be at twenty? Tied to your apron-strings? Noth-
ing but death can prevent his seeing and hearing the bad. Your only
means of keeping him pure, consists in allowing him to see it while under
your tutelage, so that, by nipping it in the bud, you can prevent its bloom-
ing and fruiting in him. What if he does hear 'naughty words,' even
swearing, he will utter them before you, which will enable you to array
his moral sentiments against their use; which renders him all the better for
having heard and uttered them. You cannot prevent his hearing oaths,
which he will of course repeat, but only as the parrot says 'pretty polly,'
— a mere verbal imitation. Now array his higher nature against their
MORAL SUASION VS. CORPORAL PUNISHMENT. 80I
use, so that it will revolt when he hears them again, and the more swearing
he hears the better he becomes. You can thus make all the vulgarity and
evil he sees and bears a direct means of purity and goodness in himself."*
Besides,
** See how tame and spiritless your course has made him. If he grows
up, which, at tliis rate, is next to impossible, what can keep him from fall-
ing into any evil practices he may see? Having no trained will-power
to resist temptation, he will be a limpsy rag, subject to whatever influ-
ences may .surround him ; whereas, governing him by sense and Conscience
while growing, will fortify him when grown against temptations from
without and within. No other safeguard remains. As if his life depended
on hi? walking forty miles the day he was twenty, you would train his
walking powers assiduously all along up to twenty; so if you would make
him a good man, inspire him to resist temptation all along up to manhood,
by teaching him what is best, but letting him choose for himself between
the evil and the good. Young weeds are easily killed. Sprouted seeds
never regrow."
That logic can neither be gainsaid nor resisted. Let the prin-
ciple it embodies be employed in all juvenile government.
901. — Cultivating vs. Repressing Self-Reliance and Force.
Self-defence is a first law of Nature. Every bo}^ must grow
np and live among selfish and aggressive beings, who will often
invade his personal rights; which will be trampled on unless
stoutly defended. The owner of those rights is their proper de-
fender. They will then be well defended; otherwise poorly. If
a cowardly boy, when imposed upon, says, snivelling, "I '11 go
and tell my mother," the imposer repeats the injury, with,
**Then go and tell her thai, too. What do I care for you or her
cither." But if he is taught to fight his oion battles, and told to
let no boy smaller than liimself impose on him, he will grow up
"♦'If-defensive, and ward oflf imposition.
The other-cheek doctrine should be taught to aggressors, but
the ** take-your-own-part " doctrine to cowards; 3'et even then they
will be too tame and slack. It is as much our duty to defend our
rights against all aggression as to pay our debts ; for Force was
•ated to be exercised, not stifled. Poltroons are always despised
and abused. If you would have your child a prey to all who
choose to prey on him, teach him to " run ;" otherwise, to "stand
bis ground." In these days of extreme maternal caution, moro
ithildren are injured for life than benefited by this "peace" policy.
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Energy lias this same combative origin. Without it no ond
can ever do or become anything. You want no weak-kneed,
limber-backed, snivelling ninny, always troubled with the " I-
can'ts;" but instead one full of snap, power, resolution, and
bravery. Then cultivate them whenever they are deficient. And
the best way to do so is by cultivating muscular strength ; for
feeling strong naturally makes one feel brave and defiant; weak,
cowardly.
902. — Train Children in accordance with their Characters.
Different children require opposite motives. One chikrs
feelings can be touched this way, another that. Conscience* will
bring one to terms. Kindness another. Love another, and money
or presents still another; and the great educational art consists in
laiowmg by just what motives to govern and inspire each. Yot
fear should never be u&ed; because it is effective only when already
too large. In Newport, R. I., in 1838, Mr. Crandall brought a
boy to me, saying : —
"I can manage my other twelve children perfectly, yet can do noth-
iflg with this boy, though I whip him every day, and sometimes oftener."
I TOLD HIM WHAT motives to apply, and what to avoid ; and in
1860 this son, the inventor of that submarine railway which
raises ocean steamers for repairs, called on me on British soil, to
thank me in behalf of his father, as well as himself, for the good
tJjat advice had done him, with " Following it enabled him to
manage me with perfect ease." He wept as he thanked.
Parents should know just what motives are especially effica-
cious in governing each child. Children cannot be well trained
without a minute and specific knowledge of each one's specialties;
which their Phrenologies alone can disclose. A reliable diag-
nosis can thus be made more beneficial to them than years of
schooling ; and is an indispensable aid which every parent is
bound in duty to every child to employ.
Bringing out their specialties is another maternal duty.
This child has this gift, that one that beautiful trait, and a third
some other moral excellence; each of which a mother's moulding
art should eliminate. In fjict, every mother should keep before hoi
a reliable chart of each child's developments, to aid her in study
ing and training each according as each individually requires.
moral suasion v'5. corporal punish mknt. 853
903. — Directing Will, instead of crushing it. Pomeuoy.
Pa'erything extorted by fear is therefore nugatory. Would
pniyins:, extorted by the lash, avail anything? Is any obedience
produced by force, of any account ? Open rebellion is far prefer-
able to hypocritical cubmission.
Inducing children to will right is the great educational art-
All, to be well governed, must be a law unto thanselirs. Teach
(conscience to love and do right, and then train the will to obey
it. Influence them to will right, but let them have their wills.
Show them the effects of this course and that, why this is good
;ind that bad, that this will made them happy but that miserable,
and you enlist their very self-interest in behalf of the right. ,
"(/HiLDREN SELDOM THINK. They are creatures of wild surging im-
pulses. Your own doctrine, that the propensities are strongest in child-
hood, while reason is developed last,*" is true. Why thus eat your own
teachings?"
All have some reason ; and the less they have the more it
should be trained to guide and govern their wills. Even brutes
are amenable to the higher motives; much more are human
beings. Rarey demonstrated that the worst horses can be made
j>erfectly docile by a kind and intelligent yet decided coui'se.
Much more can children. What if it does require months, even
years, to thus install reason and Conscience as lords over will,
and will over the conduct, please think how great an educational
work is now accomplished. All after that is easy and efficacious.
Patience is indispensable with violent-tempered children,
riicy did not steal this violence, but came by it honestly. If it
has not been inflicted on them by wrong post-natal doctoring or
regimen, it was imposed on them by ante-natal and parental con-
ditions they had no power to resist. They are the pitiable vic-
tims, not the authors, of their awful tempers. If you must whip,'
whip that parent who stamped it, which may reiiuire whipping
both parents; yet the poor victim deserves only pity.*'
A child so insanely furious that it pulled out, in fits of mad-
ness, all the hair it could reach, and bejit its scalp to a jelly in
several places by |>ounding its head against the floor, "out of
spite," was l)rouglit to me by his mother, who Siiid, ** I expect
very minute he will dash out his own brains by springing upon a
hair or anything handy, and throwing himself head first on the
854 JUVENILE GOVERNMENT.
floor or pavement; and his fatlier keeps whipping him most un-
mercifully every day, yet this very father himself has a like vny-
lence of fury, and five of his male kindred have either committed
manslaughter, or murder, or else suicide." Monstrous father,
thus to flog his own child for that identical trait this whipping
father himself had stamped right into this very child's innermost
beinsc ! Was it not enoucrh to make his own child a devil incar-
nate? Must he now whip it for being thus besides? The worse
any child is the more it is entitled to pity.^^
That blood-thirsty Pomeroy fiend who took frantic delight in
decoying, torturing, cutting up alive, and then murdering victim
children, was borne thus cruel by his mother, while pregnant
with him, butchering and cutting up animals for market. Does he,
do those fiends described in^' deserve 2>unishment, any more than
congenital fools for being simple? Massachusetts did right in
sending him to prison for life to prevent his murdering others,
instead of to the gallows; and all naturally bad children deserve
only pity, never punishment, for their inborn depravities. Parents,
mothers, neither lohip nor create such.
Forbearance is the only managing policy with all wicked
children. Probably the very parental nervousness which caused
the child's violence, unfits that parent for its government. Two
who are quick-tempered can never endure, much less manage,
each other.^*^ Such children had better be reared by a doting
grandparent or aunt, or at least fro.n home. At all events, when
parents and children have antagonism, they should be separated
till it subsides; else each only makes the other worse.
Scolding, fretting, and blaming, throughout all their forms,
both irritate children, and induce them to do likewise. Many a
nervous mother scolds her children incessantly, not so much be-
cause they are naughty, as because she is in an irritable humor.
Let her change her own mood, and they will seem all right.
904. — Example better than Precept. Parental Lying.
Imitation is a law of humanity, and especially of juvenile life.
Men must conform to each other. Children must learn to do
what and as they see others do ; else how could they ever learn
to talk, write, or pattern after anything? This shows the need
of imitation. Facts show that they are creatures of it; and
Phrenology proves that this is one of their strongest Facultiea
Therefore,
MATERNAL LOVE THEIR CHIEF GOVERiJMENTAL MEANS. 855
Parents should be whatever they would have their children
become. They should set only such examples as they desire
them to follow, and may expect them to " follow copy " in every
particular.
Some parents are poor exemplars, and need to be thoroughly
converted ; else their children will be made woi'se by copying.
Not a few need to throw themselves out of their present cross-
grained, ugly mood into one worthy of imitation. Children by
millions, after having inherited bad proclivities enough in them-
selves, have them perpetually aggravated by parental examples.
Such are doubly cursed.
Lying to children is more common than proper. "John, if
you do that again, I '11 flog you within an inch of your life;"
and when he repeats the offence, " Did I not tell you if you did
that again I 'd whip you? and there you Ve been doing it again.
I 'm quite a mind to flog you alive ; I am so, you young Satan."
Or, " John, if you '11 get me a pail of water, the next time I 'm
out I '11 get you a great big apple." John gets the water, but
does not get the apple: and next day, " John, if you '11 bring me
in some wood, I '11 get you some candy." John slothfully gets
the sticks of wood, having little faith in his pa^Mnaster, but does
not get the sticks of candy; and soon loses all faith in both
threats and promises.
Never promise without fulfilling to the letter. Being truth-
ful to them, is your best way of rendering them truthful to you.
Never punish when tuey "own up." Let a frank confession
be an ample atonement.
Section IL
maternal love the chief governmental means.
905.— The law op Lovb governs all Things.
Nature works by specific means only ; requires that children
obey ;** and hence has provided some one 8^Kicitic, appropriate, and
<>flicicnt governmental instrumentality, exactly meeting this ideii'
tical want.
Love is lier means of effecting this end, is exactly adapted
thereto, and all-sufficient. Let us canvass its merits.
856 JUVENILE GOVERNMENT.
All children are Old Testament disciples, in loving those who
U)ve them. Indeed, this is the law of universal humanity. It
«:overns all adults as well as children, savage and civilized, and
throughout all ages and races; hesides extending to all hrutes.
First get a horse's love if you desire his utmost service and iiTi-
plicit obedience. Get "on the right side" of any savage, and
he will do for you all he can. When a priest gets the aitectionfi
of his flock, they accept any doctrines, however contrary to their
own, he may preach; of which Parker and Bushnell furnished
illustrations; hut let him get their ill-will, and though he may
preach with superhuman eloquence and piety, they turn a deaf
ear to all he says, and dospise him besides.
Let a General get the affections of his subordinates, and
they obey at the peril of life, as did those of Bonaparte, Grant,
Lee, Fremont, and Jackson. This is equally true of all authors,
speakers, and public men, and especially of the young. The first
|»oint to be made in governing a child is to gain its love. OncJd
establish yourself in his affections, and he stands, cap in hand,
willing and ever delighted to do your bidding. You actually
do him a great favor by alloiowg him to serve you. And this
heart obedience is a thousand-fold better than any compulsory
ever can be. Is that obedience to God prompted by fear of
** eternal burnings" as "acceptable" as that inspired by love of
His exalted attributes? As affection is the core condition of
conjugal Love^^- and of the creation of children,^^^ so it is their
paramount governmental instrumentality ; is, indeed, the govern-
ing law of the universe; besides being most lovely in itself.
906. — The Mother Nature's educational Prime Minister.
Child-rearing must have its specific responsible executor.
" Mother " is obviously that " home missionary." Not that she
needs no aids, but that she is the legitimate head of this educa-
tional bureau, and chiefly responsible for its right management.
Though the father is the planner, head, and final authoritativ«
umpire,^^ yet the mother is the real governing power of all
families. She carries her points every time; though less by dicta-
tion than persuasion. In all true families it is mother here,
mother there, mother everywhere, and for everything. If ono
child hurts or wrongs another, " I '11 go and tell mother," is sufli-
cient. If a cut finger, or any wound is to be done up, mother
MATERNAL LOVE THEIR CHIEF GOVERNMENTAL MEANS. 857
/!ust do it. If any one is sick, motlier must be chief nurse and
ilircctress. She must supply all wants, do all choring, sew on all
buttons, see to mending, washing, cooking, &c. ; else all is but
poorly done. No family is worth living in where she does not
do all this, and much more like it.
The moulding and government of children is her special task
and duty. No other one can execute cither. Nature created her
with specific reference to this precise si>here. It is hers to mould
rtiid pilot both husband and children ; else they run wild."''^ Sho
was created the most pure and moral, cliiefly to thus sanctify
tliem. As hens scratch for and brood over own young, and cows
nui-se own calf; so all education, scholastic, moral, and religious,
should be done mainly by mothers. If only ministers i)ray for
or teach children religious truth, they will be poorly taught
Neither hireling teaching nor preaching is worth much, in com-
parison with vmlemal. Many things can be transacted by l»roxy;
but educating children, intellectually and morally, is not one of
tliem. Commercial men may sell goods by "agents;" but aR
Nature requires every mother to nurse her own children, so she
also requires her to instruct their intellects and mould their
morals. This is her especial sjOiere. Children generally follow
their mother in religion, becoming Catholic, Protestant, Heathen,
Liberal, &c., as she may indoctrinate them. Let stalwart men
attest, that all through life, even after their reason tells them
that their mother's religious teachings were mere superstitions,
they cannot resist their power, nor break her magic religious
spell. The minister may be most faithful and devout; yet no
children can be well trained, religiously, by ministei-s at church,
but only by their mothers at home.
Most exalted, then, is this female mission. Presiding over
ates and nations, legislating, wielding mighty armies, wearing
'.ral <*r()wns, are potential and important positions; but unK'ss
niothere first mould both citizen and soldier, neither martial nor
iTgal power could avail much. The mother is that family chit
from which all else germinates. Even without legislating or
inmanding, she wields influences at least equal to those of men.
Women who claim to legislate, govern^ and all that, must vaM
neglect their home duties. Far off be the day when they depart
from this home sphere. Nature has assigned it to you. When
you do your whole family duty^ you will find your hands too full
So8 JUVENILE GOVERN^fENT.
to clamor for political, judicial, official, oratorical, and other like
spheres.^ Let those who cannot or will not have fiimilies, who
voluntarily unsex themselves by refusing to marry or rear chil-
dren, &c., clamor for a larger sphere ; but true pattern women
will iind that Nature has assigned them a sphere as large as that
assigned to man, or as they can well fill. At least let them till
that well first.
907. — Maternal Love the Mother's magic Wand.
Maternal love is the mother's one educational and mould-
ing agent. Being herself constituted to love her infants from
conception,^* with a tenderness and ecstasy no terrestrial lan-
guage can depict,*^^ and children naturally loving those who love
them,^ these t^\o natural facts make them love her the most ;
and this gives her unlimited moulding power over them. By
cuddling them to her as she nurses them, she magnetizes and
charms them, for their good, not hers. Infants, while nursing,
draw from their mothers a s'pirit lactation, that which is to their
minds what milk is to their bodies, which imbues their entire
beings with her spirit. She nestles them right into her soul as
well as arms. She has spiritual breasts, milk, arms, &c., as well
as material; and this principle should make mother and child
one forever. And this obtains doubly between mothers and sons.^
In short, the male is ordained to love his female "with all his
soul, might, mind, and strength," which gives her unlimited
moulding power over him ; while she is ordained to love her
own children with all her being, which makes them love her;
and this enables her to mould and manage both by love alone,
just as she pleases. Yet
Love unalloyed, is her only governing means. With that she
is a Samson; without it, she becomes shorn of all her power. All
chastisement, anger, even scolding or fretting, breaks her sacred
spell. The female mood is the loving and lovely mood; but all
other moods are unfeminine.
In concluding Part VIIL, we submit whether, short as it is, in
most of its points, it does not give the true educational policy,
and the natural laws of rearing children. Follow them, and you
will lose few by death, and worse than lose none by either their
disobedience or immoralities. Modern education could not well
be worse. May this Part help mend it.
P^KT IX.
SEXUAL RESTORATION.
CIIArTER I.
ABNORMAL LOVE: ITS KINDS, EXTENT, PREVENTIONS AND
CAUSES.
Section L
amouxt of sexual decline and disease.
908. — Sexual poverty op both Sexes, and All Ages.
Brute males and females surpass human, in all the indices
of gender. Contrast the well-sexed voices, movements, forms,
ecstasy, each and all the evidences of a vigorous sexuality in all
lions, elephants, tigers, bulls, buifaloes, horses, &c., with the
poorly-sexed voices, forms, &c., of most men, and learn how great
its comparative declension in man ; whereas he was constituted
to excel beasts as much in sexuality as in intellectual or moral
idowments; and would, if he lived a perfect sexual life. To
»mpare man and beast in a few of the signs of gender.
Rarely in the voice of beast or fowl, can we discern vocal
Lcns of impaired gender. Nearly all have that clear, strong,
lull, sonorous, ringing vocality, indicating both perfect and
vigorous gender. In quality all seem complete, though in
'{uantity some evince more than others. Not one shows any
^ii;n of either its deficiency or impairment. Yet
IIow impaired is man's I Not one in hundreds but is more
or less husky, broken, weakened, quackling, piping, and emas-
ilated. Let readers use their own cars discriminatingly; first
training them to discern the true masculine ring. Most men
should fcol humbled in view of its sexual inferiority to that of
Ijrutcs.
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8oO EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
Few FEMALE VOICES ARE AS WELL sexed even «is those of men.
Let discriminating ears attest, and all mourn over this dcelensioD
of an element so superlatively attractive.
Female forms are no better. What is the practical confession
of all their padding and bustling, crinoline included, but that to
look passably well they must supply by art what they should, but
do not, possess by nature?*^ All ought to be good-looking, and
many really beautiful, without any artificialities; yet how poor
the pliysiologics, how imperfect the female forms of most of
them ! Many of our girls, on first budding out into womanhood,
have good figures and complexions, but, alas! how soon they
shrivel and lose the special forms of the sexP^^^^ Nearly all are
dwarfed. Our young men are half emasculated ; and maidens
almost bereft of this precious element. This is most appalling!
Parents, tremble lest a like deficit should almost spoil the dar-
lings of your own hearts, those for whom you toil and live. God
grant that this sexual poverty may soon end.
The WALK and carriage of both sexes tell the same sad, sorry
tale. How few noble, majestic, lofty, commanding appearing
men ; or sylph-like, spring3% blithe, sprightly, elastic, agile, poetic-
motioned ladies! But how many males are weak-kneed, meech-
ing, limber-jointed, inferior appearing, moving about shrinking,
self-condemned, as if ashamed of themselves ! We are so accus-
tomed to this deficit in both sexes that we fail to notice how
almost universal or how great it really is.
909. — The Physical Degeneracy of Christian Nations, com-
pared WITH Heathen!
What! Christian inferior physically to ^'•savage!'' All
heathendom organicallj^ superior to all Christendom ! Chris-
tianity enervates, degenerates, impairs the Christian bodies^ and
thereby minds and souls! — for the latter are like the former. Out
upon 5Mc/i Christianity. Avaunt! What! Curse its own victim
members, and all who live within its baleful atmosphere! Is it
a more poisonous upas tree than savagery? Yet it is so, for all.
Let facts attest.
Compare Anglo-Saxon men with the "sons of the forest."
Almost without clothes or shelter ; exposed to all the severity and
changes of northern and western winters; often without food,
and always eating only the poorest in quality ; yet as men, the
AMOUNT OF SEXUAL DECLINE AND DISEASE. SCI
Oamanclies, Sioux, Apaches, Patagonians, &c., far exceed Angli)-
Saxoiis ; while Keokuk surpassed all white men in breadth and
lepfh of chest, in brawn and power of muscle, in noble, manly
bearing, and all the signs of fully -developed manhood. All
Christendom cannot produce as fine a physique as he had. Sec
Mie bust I took from his chest. The finest female body, breasts,
limbs, I ever saw were those of a squaw, and the wife of a
Flathead Indian! Here are facts, "What mean they? What
auses this Indian physical superiority, despite their houseless
often hungered, and only blanketed exposures, over our glut of
reature comforts? How far do our men's forms fall below the
average male standard? Diogenes with his lighted torch could
liunt long and look sharply by night and day through thronged
Anglo-Saxon streets without finding many even fair to middling
■specimens of the fully-developed human male. Let a wcll-sexed
woman, trained to read men through and through at a glance, go
to our churches, concerts, theatres, exchanges, business thorough-
tares, fashionable promenades, billiard-saloons, races, legislatures,
•ongresses, and wherever men congregate, and how few fairly-
developed specimens of manhood could she find unmarred by no
-igns in form, complexion, bearing, or spirit, of emasculation, to
a greater or less degree ?
Our young women, how miserably sexed, physically. Few
are two-thirds grown. Most are dwarfed, rendered too small to
be of much practical account, by excessive brain and deficient
bodily action. Scan the forms of these pocket Venuses. Nearly
all are deficient in bust^ and pelvis, meagre in face and limb,*^
narrow and round-shouldered, hump-backed, crooked- backed,
stooping,*" too fat unless too lean,*** with their breast-bones caved
in, short ribs meeting or overlapping, bowels small or knotted,
and painted besides. What a damaging confession that they need
to paint? Yet how awfully they look without, and even with 1
And use cologne in addition, thus telling all within smelling dis-
tance that they lack that balmy perfume, that luscious aroma,
created by sexuality.*** One fourth have crooked spines !
One-half OF the few mothers use nursing-bottles in feeding
their weakly children I A recently improved bottle, though
expensive, sells at the rate of sixty to seventy thousand per annwn ;
and the same doubtless serves in two or more families'. Think
of those hundred or more thousand famishing infants, put otf
862 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIOKS OP SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
with sucking-bottles ! And how many lack even that I Merciful
Father! to what are these fashionable modes and unsexing cus-
toms bringing us !
Nor all this the worst. Behold the female mind and soul still
more deficient, and worse disordered. This " outer tabernacle "
is in ruins only because its inner temple is even more dilapidated.
Her womanly chit is decayed, a,nd loveliness of 50?/^ demoralized.
Man finds an "aching void," where he searches almost in vain for
a genuine, lovable, womanly spirit. Must the masculine soul too
be left desolate for want of what it alone can love and cherish ?
Must every marriage become only a perpetual " sacrifice of desola-
tion " ? Yet would to Heaven even this deficiency, great as it is,
were all ; that this life-fountain were only low. It is also badly
diseased.
910. — Sexual Ailments; their I^umber and Aggravation.
Let those discolorations under and around the eyes, tell their
own story on faces by the miHion.^"^ y[y writings and other pro-
fessional facilities for observation have brought me face to face
with the facts. I have been consulted by tens of thousands, espe-
cially of young men, afflicted with spermatorrhoea, impotence,
&c., and received literally cords of letters asking for relief from
sexual ailments in various forms, including prostrations, losses,
&c., and go nowhere without being thus besought.
Loss OF semen, by involuntary emissions during sleep, or else
evacuations almost constantly, constitutes the rule among unmar-
ried men; and most who are married have some time been more
or less wrecked by this cause. Their own faces and eyes are
their accusers. Human sympathy sickens at the sight of this
army of naturally well-sexed men now in ruins ; both rifled of
their manhood, and 8ufi[ering other consequent ills.
Woman suffers even more. Let any medical man attest if
most of his practice does not originate in female complaints.
Children's diseases are mainly consequent on maternal. An
elderly doctor said :
" I HAVE practised MEDICINE THIRTY YEARS in this city ; was till
lately its only medical man ; have officiated at most of its births ; been
called to nearly every female, young and old, in it ; and say deliberately,
\)f my own personal knowledge, that not one female in forty, over eighteen,
but is ' irregular/ or ailing more or less in some form sexually.'*
AMOUNT OF SEXUAL DECLINE AND DISEASE. 863
" As EMINENT A DoCTOR AS SoUTH CAROLINA CVCr hild, with whoiH I
studied medicine, after fifty years of extensive practice, often declared,
that on the average not one lady in fifty, twenty years old, but is more
«JT less ailing in these organs ; and my own large practice confirms this
declaration." — A Texan Doctor.
Catharine Beecher says in her work on Female Ailments, as
) the proportion of women diseased sexually within her exten-
sive observation and careful personal inquiry, that it exceeds
twenty-nine in every thirty. Her book on this subject is well
worth readins:.
My own average is, that not one woman in one hundred has a
(air amount of sexual vigor, and that at least nine in every ten,
if not nineteen in every twenty, are more or less prostrated, or
3lse actually diseased sexually.
P]VEN IF ONLY ITS HALF Is true, how awful is this quotient ! Yet
none seem to take any notice of it. When a few cows die of a
contagious disease, behold governors summoning legislaturee,
which expend hundreds of thousands in staying its ravages, and
newspapers sounding the tocsin ; but when by far the largest
I proportion of our wives and daughters are so wofully ailing and
> many die, no legislative summons, no newspaper alarms notice
! It is so common aa to pass unheeded. Think of it. Our
IVES AND DAUGHTERS the })itiable victims of all these sufferings!
l*ity, pray for, and help restore them.
Pity their husbands almost equally, and sickly children even
n:ore; "for when one member suffers, all the members suffer
with it." None at all realize how inany or how great the direct
miseries they inflict, nor how far greater their indirect causes of
other sufferings. 0, Ao?/; great the loss and evil inflicted by those
complaints ! But
The evils entailed on posterity are worst of all. O, what of
^(^nerations yet unborn ! Forgive a faltering pen. " How long.
oLord?'* And how great!
Both sexes live in glass houses, so that neither can throw
ones. Each "knows how to sympathized^ yf\t\i the other. To
liat are we coming? O^ from what are wo falling! Modern
vilization, is all this thy work ? "■ Then, savages, we envy you.
jfthron, are these thy victim votaries? Then, ftccurtiod iii)i»,
vaunt ! *•* Another aspect.
864 extent, causes, and preventions of sexual impairments.
911.* — The existing Amount of Sexual Vice and Misery.
Sexual depravitiks and miseries fiir exceed all others. Ly-
ing, theft, cheateiy, robhery, and all other vices known to man,
murder even included, are but as a drop in the bucket when
compared with amatory vices throughout their various forms.
Indeed the latter mostly cause the former. ^ And this is equally
true of man's miseries.
Religion does her utmost to suppress sexual vices, only to see
them still as rife as ever, and often seizing her own members.
At least she should feel humbled at the impotency of her repress-
ing efforts. The bar and bench effect still less. If a recording
angel should stamp the brows of those untrue to virtue, man}'
ugly marks would deface net a few fair brows, and few who do
not die young would die unscarred. Words utterly fail to de-
pict, and imagination to conceive, the extent, ramifications, and
fearful havoc of this vice. How vast this sea of sin! What
other is half as extensive or destructive? or to-day bearing upon
its dark waters a tithe as many broken-down sons of natural
genius, nobleness, and ]:)Ower, or naturally superb samples of
female loveliness, now hopelessly corrupted, to a dark grave, anft
a darker eternity ? What philanthropist but sees and mourns
over it ? What Christian but prays against it ? What patriot
but descries in it more danger to his country than in any other
public evil ? It is the gangrene of humanity.
All well-informed concede that the one modern evil which
causes the most human suffering and woe, in all their multiplied
forms of aggravation, is " Se!xual sin." Drunkenness is a mon-
ster evil per 56, and the source of untold miseries in a thousand
forms — even Gough, that most impressive speaker, hardly begins
duly to describe them — yet as a giant destroyer of human life
and happiness, it bears no comparison with sensuality. Cholera,
yellow fever, plague, famine, war, pestilence, each inflict untold
mise^ries in various forms ; yet all together cause not a tithe of
the literal agonies inflicted on man by this vice. At its present
ratio, in fifty years it will exterminate the native inhabitants of
the Sandwich Islands, and some other nations.
The crying evil of our race, from before the flood, dowi.
through Sodom, Rome, and every "nation, kindred, and tongue
under the whole heaven," has been the worship of that sensuni
goddess, whose temples are more abundant, and worshippers raove
AMOUNT OF SEXUAL DECLINE AND DISEASE. 865
numerous and devoted, than those of any otlier god of heathen
or Christian Jands or fables. In what did the worship of Venus
( onsist, but in the most public and excessive debauchery? Her
Mironging votaries revelled in her temples, in the most shame-
oss and excessive prostitution! Jupiter, their god of gods, was
no better. His disgusting amours indicate the licentiousness of
iiis worshippers; which embraced most of the world for many
ages! Since this was their religion^ and he or she the most devout
who indulged the most wantonly, what were their private practices?
Wliat was Sodom's crying sin ? When and for what did Babylon
fall? When the whole city was revelling in lust, and because of
her " fornication, and all manner of unclean ness." Against what
(lid Paul most vehemently declaim? Concu[)iscence. Alexan-
• ler died of shameless debauchery. David, " the man after God's
»wn heart," with all his scores of wives, must ravish Bathsheba ;
and Solomon, with all his wisdom, yet revelled in carnality.**
All those who brought the faithless woman to Christ j)erpetrated
this crime, and were probably fair samples of their nation ; else
why should their laws thus vehemently denounce it? The
greatest philosopher of Greece marries a courtesan with honor!
Behold licentious Rome! The marriage rites a rope of sand,
broken by every wanton desire ! What made Poppsea queen of
the "mistress of the world"? Her shameless sexual passions.
Hear Tacitus describe a sample feast of licentious Nero: —
" This celebrated entertainment I shall here describe, that the
reader, from one example, may form his idea of the prodigality of the
imes, and that history may not be encumbered with a repetition of the
ame enorniities. He gave his banquet on the I^ake of Agrippa, on a plat-
form of prodigious size, built for the reception of guests.
" To move this magnificent edifice to and fro on the water, he prepared
a number of boats, superbly decorated with gold and ivory. The rowers
were a band of Pathics. Each had his station, according to his age or
>kill in the science of debauchery. The country rouu<l was ninsacked for
^mc and animals of the chase. Fish was brought from every sea, and
ven from the ocean. On the boniers of the lake brothels were erected,
ind filled with women of illustrious rank. On the opposite bank was seen
a band of harlots, who made no secret of their vices or their persons. In
wanton dance and lascivious attitudes they di8playe<l their naked charms.
When night came on, a sudden illumination from the adjacent groves and
l)uildings blazed over the lake. A concert of music, vocal and instrumen-
tal, enlivened the scvne. Nero rioted in all kinds of lascivious pleasure
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5?6() EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL nfPAIRMENTS.
Between lawful and unlawful gratifications he made ho distinction. Cor-
ruption seemed to be at a stand, if, at the end of a few dale's, he had not
devised a new abomination to fill the measure of his crimes. He person-
ated a woman, and in that character was given in marriage to one of his
infamous herd, a Pathic, named Pythagoras. The Emperor of Rome,
with the affected airs of female delicacy, put on the nuptial veil. The
augurs assisted at the ceremony ; the portion of the bride was openly paid ;
the genial bed wUs displayed to view ; nuptial torches were lighted up ;
the whole was public, not even excepting the endearments which, in a
natural marriage, decency reserves for the shades of night."
What was chivalry, the reigning passion of mankind for
many ages, but this same element, slightly modified and re-
strained ? Look in upon the courts of Henry the Eighth, Charles
the Second, all the Bourbons and Stuarts, Peter and Frederick
the Great, and Louis's, in short, all the thrones of the Old AVorld,
ever since they stood, and say, from these examples in high
places, what must have been the immoralities of their subjects.
Behold the emblem of the '' Bloody Revolution," an unclothed
courtesan! Is it any wonder that a majority of all the children
of licentious Paris are born without the sacred pale of wedlock,
or that the marriage rites are so little regarded that virtue is
counted a weakness ? An English estimate, pronounced " ridicu-
lously low," calculates that a million and a half of venereal patients
come every year under medical treatment! Then how many
more are infected who doctor or neglect themselves? One must
suffer terribly by it before seeking medical aid. Probal)ly not
half apply who are thus infected ; nor a tenth of those are infected
who sin thus. Then how many millions annually break the law
of chastity? And how many times per annum? And that in
the most moral, certainly least immoral, country of all ? What
crowds of harlots proudly proclaim their shame, infest every
street, disgrace every village, and pollute every town in the land ;
besides blasting, by uncounted thousands, our loveliest daughters,
and slaying our noblest specimens of manhood's towering pride!
All France, all England, all America, all the civilized world, are
thronged with wanton women and licentious men ! Yet
All these not half who buy and sell this polluting embrace
for a price ! Select prostitution far more common still ! Widows
who pretend to live by industry, even members of churches visit
the sanctuary only to mark and entrap men by knowing looks.
AMOUNT OF SEXUAL DECLINE AND DISEASE. 867
lascivious smiles, and all the wily arts of this enticing passion ;
besides the still more frequent indulgence, for passion's own sake,
throughout every nook and corner of the world ! How vast tho
number of seductions, abortions, and illegitimates! Money-
brokers ACTUALLY SPECULATE IN MAIDENS 1 To SUpply tllis aCCUrsed
mart, pimps scour our country, ply every art, and too often use
FORCE. Girls caught up in our streets, gagged, thrust into a
waiting carriage, and worse than murdered, by ruthless villains,
just to gratify this brutal passion. And some are murdered!
Mothers sell their own yet unpolluted daughters, and others
sell themselves, to beastly sensualists! Virtuous girls drugged,
and thereby half-crazed and pali>kd for life, to effect their seduc-
tion! 0 Christianity ! where is thy' purifying leaven? 0 Phi-
lanthix)py ! where are thy tears? 0 Depravity ! where is thy limit?
Even all this underrates. Converging facts and testimony,
which can neither be gainsaid nor resisted, with countless indi-
vidual histories, proclaim that sensuality is the miner of our
youth, of both sexes, and of husbands and wives innumerable.
Nine in every ten bear its beastly marks. It is actually called
for, and furnished, at the bars of hotels, as shamelessly as cigars
or wine ! The advertisements of practitioners of " certain delicate
diseases " exceed any other class, and tell the doleful story; as
do the countless bills posted in all our cities ! That office in New
York which advertises to cure sexual ailments, is the most
splendidly fitted up on this continent, or any other. Hear our
very boys either boast of their licentiousness, or else tantalize
those whose native modesty is not yet wholly effaced ! Our world
is literally full of sensuality !
O Virtue ! how few worship at thy lioly shrine, or keep thy
robe of spotless innocence unstained with carnality ! Without
saying what proportion know only their lawful companions, not
many stones would be cast if they alone cast them. Alas ! how
low observe the seventh commandment ! and how almost univer-
sally is chastity sacrificed to lust, in one or another of its forms ■
FoHTY thousand public prostitutes curse one city, besides prob-
ibly five times more private! But for it, nearly all would be
virtuous wives and mothers of happy families, active members of
some church, and missionaries of good in some social circle;
whereas each is now a destroyer of family peace, and a scourge
to society. Appropriately is it called " the great evil." **•
868 extent, causes, amd preventions of sexual impairments.
912. — Abortion the commonest yet worst of Crimes.
It is civilization's climax of a])ominations ; and yet so alarm-
ingly prevalent that the medical Faculty lately got up, indorsed,
and published a prize essay, entitled, " Why Not? '' awarded to Dr.
Storer, one of Boston's most eminent physicians, on its prevalence
and evils. Read and shudder at what it says of both. Doctors
know ; and would not thus protest against it, to the injury of
their practice, unless humanity imperiously demands. A great
statesman justly repudiated his new wife for its perpetration ; he
wanting issue, she to be the fashionable wife of a President. Few
realize how many in this Christian land do and take what is ex-
pressly calculated to cause miscarriage ; and for this sole purpose.
Genteel unmarried " ladies " by thousands thus hide their shame,
and married ones by millions deal death to the fruit of their own
bodies 1 How revolting to every principle of humanitj'', and self-
interest!
•"One of these infamous female physicians, on whom I called
ubout six weeks after becoming pregnant, gave me some powders with
directions for use, which did not produce the desired effect. Returning, I
asked her if there was no other way to produce miscarriage. " Yes," she
answered, " I can probe you ; but I must have my price." " What do you
probe with ? " "A piece of whalebone." " Well," I observed, " I cannot
afford to pay that price, and will probe myself." I used the whalebone
several times ; it produced considerable pain, followed by a discharge of
blood.* Injuries inflicted on the mouth of the womb, by other violent
attempts, had caused all this agony. An almost desperate surgical opera-
tion barely saved her life. She further confessed, seemingly unconscious
of its moral turpitude, that this abortionist had produced five miscarriages ;
adding that she knew many respectable ladies on whom she had operated,
one five months advanced, whose child struggled violently after having
been thrown into the wash-bowl ! " — A Physician.
" I ONCE CAME NEAR SENTENCING Madam Restell to the penitentiary,
and prepared an address, so true, so painful, so impressive, that it would
bave melted the heart of even slayers of innocence ; but her lawyer stayed
proceedings by a bill of exceptions ; and now she rides over one of her
Judges, tosses up her beautiful head, and says in effect, 'Behold my
triumph!' Instead of a linsey-woolsey petticoat, her lap filled with
oakum, and her tapering fingers tipped with tar, she is gloriously attired
ill rich silks and laces, towers above her sex in a splendid carriage, snaps
her fingers at the law, and all its pains and penalties, and cries out for
more victims and more gold ! Can that woman sleep? Tlie day of retribu-
tion must arrive, and fearful must be its reckoning." — Judge Noah, N. Y.
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One aborted returned home, her bloom departed, her flesh
wasted, her constitution destroyed, a vital artery tapped and
l)leeding, and after lingering thus a i'aw xnonths^ died ! This is
but one case among thousand*. O, daughters of passion ! beware
how her flattering promises of deliverance encourage you to sin!
Virtue alone is safe and happy.
A Hartford physician boasts that he has produced abortions
upon over one thousand women! All this besides all the other
"operations" of all the other doctoi-s! And that in blue-hiw
Connecticut, certainly no worse than the average of places. But
for him, most of this thousand would to-day have been enjoying
life, and contributing to the happiness of others. And thus of
all other murderers of our babes.
Against such deeds of death Nature most solemnly protests,
by rendering them most ruinous to the general health of the
mother, and destructive of her sexual apparatus. So intimate is
the relation between mother and child, that its life cannot be
destroyed without doing fatal violence to hers. How can strong
decoctions of ergot, tansy, &c., poison her blood so eflcctually
as to quench its life, without thereby proportionally poisoning
her own ?
All possible miscarrying means are equally suicidal. Probing
injures her sexual organs almost as much as its life. Since these
organs sympathize with her entire physiology and mentality, of
course whatever impairs them correspondingly injures her entire
nature. 0, if prospective mothers only understood this law of
intimacy, they would no more attempt abortion than suicide.
How dare you thus take no small part of your own life? Better
endure disgrace, though unmarried, than stand before the bar of
God's eternal retribution a partial or total suicide, in addition to
that of child-murder.
Stand aghast in view of this appalling fact, that the mind is
established at and by conception, creates its owti organism, and v*
immortal! Though you kill its body, yets no probes can probe, no
poisons quench, its soul. When its body is destroyed, its spirit
''goes marching on." Did that angel babe which died in your
lirms go to heaven? Then that unborn infant you destroyed has
i^one there likewise. Do you expect to meet the former at that
'' greiit judgment day " ? Jlxpect also that one whose life you took
before it breathed to ** rise up in judgment " against you when
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and where you would not be thus publicly accused and condemned.
0, pause and tremble before you thrust this eternal thorn into your
own undying memory. Immortality is no myth, but a veritable
reality. And the " deeds done in the body" live forever in mem-
ory. Such a deed clinging to you forever ! Haunting you " to all
cttriuty ! " Better bear the disgrace here of intercourse only, than
the " ecernal reproach " of both intercourse and child-murder. 0,
lay not this awful sin to your undying charge. Murder is the
climax of crime. I^o hanging can expiate it, nor words portray its
enormity. Ye-t killing young life is the most shocking and truly
horrible form of i^iurder. Taking ante-natal life is far worse
than detroying post-natal. Keither extinguish its existence; but
the earlier it is torn from the tree of this life, the more "disr
advantageous " is its entrance upon another.
Murdering your own child 1 Love of own young is far
stronger than of others. Cruelty to one's children is the worst
of all cruelties. Infanticide is infinitely more fiendishly murder-
ous than homicide. And yet this acme of crime is perpetrated
by respectable ladies, and even by church members, as a matter
of course ! It might be expected of harlots, but is astounding in
those who lay any claim to respectability or conscience. Kissing
is awful ; but murdering own child, nothing : and partake of com-
munion next service day 1
" Going out from communion, a church communicant asked me to call
on her professionally soon. I walked right home with her, into her parlor,
when she insisted that I produce a miscarriage, then and there ! Respond-
ing to another woman's call, I found her at family prayers.
"Rising from her knees, she urged me to produce immediate abor-
tion ! " — A Physician in Washington Territory.
"What thinks Christ of your killing His little lambs? Let
Christian (?) civilization (?) take lessons of Chinese heathenism,
which lets them be born, then strangles, and casts them into the
streets, to be picked up by morning scavengers, unless devoured ;
for that destroys only the child, this, its mother besides I
Ministers of the Gospel know that this sin is often perpetrated
by " mothers in Israel," even by some of their own flock at that,
without one shadow of excuse but " total depravity," " yet open
not their mouths! " If they do not know of this sin, they are
certainly too ignorant and verdant to preach well. What are
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they if they do ? If they knew a murderer heard them ever/
Sunday, would they feel justified in omitting all allusion to his
crime? Nothing can justify this significant clerical silence. It
gives consent.'*'
Tub Catuolic Bishop of Baltimore, and some others, have
:uiathoniatized it, and turned St. Peter's keys against its perpe-
trators.
The Old School Presbyterian Church, thank God, has also
condemned it ! N(!W School, Baptist, Methodist, Swedenhor-
gian. Episcopalian, Universalist, Unitarian, Trinitarian, Arian^
Spiritualists, and all others, follow suit. The tocsin now juat
sounded gives hope. Clergymen, to the breach !
"Young Men's Christian Association," put that plank into
your i>latform. Teachers, teach that. Lecturers, lecture against
that. Editors, edit that. Lawyers indict, judges condemn, and
sheriffs i)unish that. Awake all to its extermination!
As A cause of female cOxMPLaints, it has no equal. Any wo-
man who has [)erpetrated it, and has them, may safely infer that
it caused thenL Think how specifically it is calculated to in-
duce them. How could it fail ? What other means could be aa
potential? Argument is uimecessary. Its ruin of this structure
must be fearful. Even miscarriages are bad ; how much worae
abortion .'
" I am often soLicrrED by married ladies who, or whose husbands,
want no more * family,' and piteously implored by unfortunate unmarried
* ton,' and by parents to hide the disgrace of an aristocratic family, and
sometimes by church members, by producing abortion ; shall I officiate or
decline? And why? het science, not prejudice, say what I shall do." —
A Western Physician,
"Do? Do nothing. Is not the 'partaker as bad as the thief,* the
accessory and accomplice as guilty as the murderer, in law and fact, be-
fore and after? In principle, wherein differs it from murder, but in being
its worst form ? Death pains are trifles, ia either case, compared with life.
Are you willing to do, and thus oblige yourself to remember, Uiat deed
lorever? Bcj-ides,
"You bhkak the august laws of the land; become a culprit and a
felon ; indicUibIc and punishable any subsequent hour, by the friends or
foes of either party. And all for what? Money cannot pay you. No."
It fin alt. y camb homb to his daughter. But he shook hiv
head, " Nkvkii ; ** he, she, and family less disgraced than by add-
liiLT iufauticrdc.
872 extent, causes, and preventions of sexual impairments.
913. — Venereal Diseases the most loathsome, agonizing, and
fearful of all others.
God's natural laws are His universal touchstone and tribunal
of eternal right and wrong. What they approve is right ; all
they condemn, therefore wrong. They also measure the propor-
tionate heinousness of difterent sins. These tests assumed here,
are proved in ''Human Science."^
God in Nature condemns sexual depravities as the most
utterly abominable in His holy sight of all others, and affixes t-o
them the seal of His uttermost reprobation, by appending to
them pains and penalties more painful, and loathsomeness moro
disgusting, than to any other sins and vices. Natural expression
always tells "the truth, and nothing but the truth," though by
BO means the whole truth here, for that is impossible, even by
this Heaven's most eloquent orator. A strong man or woman
slowly atoning, by lingering, agonizing moments, hours, days,
and months, till a protracted death finally closes upon the scene,
the Author never has seen, never desires to see. Other pens, more
vivid, have attempted this painful description, only confessedly
to fall far short of its awful realities. What feverish days!
What restless nights ! What agonizing aches and pains in every
bone, and muscle, and nerve ! What eyes rolling and glaring
and protruding, as if internal agonies were pushing them out of
their sockets 1 An aw^ful stench nauseates beyond any power of
description.^ A putrid human carcass — beast does not, cannot
sutler thus — is livid with poison I Running sores here, there,
everywhere, eject excretions how utterly disgusting !
Does God thus punish for naught ? Man is his special prot^g^
and ffivorite. Only think what He has done for His darling pet.
He has devised and created wants almost innumerable, seeniiiigly
that He might have the exquisite pleasure of seeing him enjoy
their gratification. After such parental care and tenderness,
such doting fondness and love, surely He would not willingly
thus afflict His darling children. That sin- which can extort a
punishment thus utterly terrible from so tender-hearted a Parent,
must indeed be aggravated and displeasing in His divine sight
beyond all others His children can possibly perpetrate. Merciful
God! grant that no readers may thus suffer, because they sin
thus !
Women suffer most, because, whilst Nature requires virtue of
SECRET SIKS: OR WARNING AND ADVICE TO YOUTH. 873
men, she is doubly strict with woman, rewarding and punishing
her the most. To see a but yesterday innocent, lovely maiden,
in all the purity, all the^ glory — sun does not shine upon any
charm quite as charming, any glory quite as glorious — of a most
i^lorious young woman, reduced from all that beauty to all this
deformity and disgusting repulsiveness ; from all that angelic
purity and goodness®*^ to all this depravity and tiendishness of
soul,** O, how awful ! Its cause is comniensunite. Though God
loves all His dear creatures, and has singled out unperverted wo-
man as His special terrestrial favorite, — does he favor celestial
more? — yet stern justice compels Him proportionally to punish
those who violate His natural laws. To Him they are sacred,
because His only messengers of mercy, and medium of conferring
happiness on His " dearly beloved " children.**" He therefore
punishes delinquents for their good, and as His special means of
compelling them to obey that they may enjoy His goodness ^'-^'j
so that He punishes both in love, and because He loves, and would
thereby reform and bless. Surely, then,
He would not punish lovely wOxMan thus, unless her sin wa«
correspondingly heinous.
Section II.
SECRET sins: OR WARNING AND ADVICE TO YOUTH.
914.— Personal Fornication the worst op Sexual Yicbs.
Masturbation outrages nature's sexual ordinances more than
any or all the other forms of sexual sin man can perpetrate, and
inflicts consequences the most terrible. Would that its presenta-
tion " might pass," but " sexual science " and the best good of
man demand its fearless exposition.
It is man's sin op sins, and vice of vices; and has caused in-
comparably more sexual dilapidation, paralysis, and diseuse, as
well as demoralization, than all the other sexual depravities com-
bined. Neither Christendom nor heathendom suffers any evil at
all to compare with this; because of its universality, and its ter-
ribly fatal ravages on body and mind ; avd because it attacks the
young idols of our hearts, and ho|>e8 of our future years. Pile all
other evils together— drunkenness upon all choateries, swindlings,
robberies, and murders; and tobacco ujwn both, for it is the greater
874 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
Bcourge; and all sickness, diseases and pestilences upon all ; and
war as the cap sheaf of them all — and all combined cause not a
tithe as much human deterioration and misery as does this secret
sin. Demand you a scientific warrant for an assertion thus sweep-
ing and appalling ? Find it in w8-»i9^
llo ! DARLING YOUTH I Plcasc listcu to a little plain talk from
one who loves you with a father's affection.
If you were walking thoughtlessly along a pathway, across
which was a deep, miry, miasmatic- slough, so covered that you
would not notice it till yim had fallen in and defiled yourself all
over with the filthiest, most nauseating slime possible, so that
you could never cleanse yourself from this stench, and so that all
who ever saw you would know what you had done ; besides its
being so poisonous as to destroy forever a large jjart of all your
future life-enjoyment and capacities, and far more corrupting to
your morals than blighting to health and happiness ; would you
not heartily thank any friend to kindly tell you plainly of your
danger ?
Such a danger, 0 splendid boy, 0 charming girl, awaits you :
only that it is a thousand-fold worse than any description. It not
only poisons your body, destroys your rosy cheeks, breaks down
your nerves, impairs your digestion, and paralyzes your whole
system ; but it also corrupts your morals, creates thoughts and
feelings the vilest and the worst possible, and endangers your
very soul's salvation 1 No words can describe the miseries it in-
flicts throughout your whole life, down to death. But its rava-
ges do not stop there. They follow and prey on you forever !
You can never fully rid yourself of the terrible evils it inflicts.
You may almost as well die outright as thus pollute yourselves.
The pathway of life you are now travelling is thus beset.
This danger is the secret sin of self-pollution. It is by far the
worst of all the sins and vices to which you are exposed. It
blights nearly all. If it does not spoil you also, it will be be-
cause you heed this warning, and abstain wholly from it. Chil-
dren, I pity you from the lowest depths of my soul, in view of
the terrible ordeal before you ; and rendered the more appalling
by your ignorance of its evils.
It is called masturbation, and consists in indulging im
modest feelings and actions, and imagining sexual pleasures with
one of the opposite sex, whilst handling your own private parts.
secret 8in8: ob warning and advice to youth. sli)
915. — Its Practice almost Universal in Civic Life.
Most boys perpetrate it, and many females. A long-faced lU
Tine, on hearing this declaration at my private lecture, after it,
inquiring in solemn tones, " Do you not fear arraignment at the
Day of Judgment for this wholesale slander of our youth ? '*
answered, " Xot if I can plead its truth as my off-set ; " replied,
**Well, I can't believe that," was answered, *'Some day, when
you 're older, you '11 know more." That night he stayed with
a former parislnoner; was sliown to bed with a lad of eleven,
a church-member, a Sabbath school scholar, all nerve, and, as he
Kupposed, all purity and goodness, whom he no more suspected
of this vice than an angel ; but whom, soon after retiring, he
caught abusing himself, and reproved. The lad replied,
" Why, that 's nothiog, for all the boys do that, and all the girls too."
Relating the above the next day, he added,
" I GIVE it up. I 'm older to-day, and know more. I thought that boy
surely innocent; but since he is guilty, what boy is not?"
Horace Mann, while president of Antioch College, at the clone
of my private lecture before his students, made some most com-
mendatory remarks, and was followed by a judge, who declared,
"To MY certain knowledge, twenty-five years ago, when I was a
student at Miami College, a large proportion of its students practised mas-
turbation ; and I have every evidence that it was almost universal through-
out tb&t institution."
** WHAr ! Our seats of learning thus infected ? "
Scholars perpetrate it the most, because, more highly organ-
ized, they enjoy it most, yet suffer most from it. Miami students
were probably no more addicted to it than the average of literary
institutions in those days, and these; for it is peculiarly catching in
them, and they are its hot-beds. One who knows, and is connected
with West Point Academy, said lie believed it to be practised
very generally in that institution ; and that the debility occa-
flioned thereby prevented many of its students from graduating.
"SoMi: children bbcapb this knowledge till puberty; the majority
commence earlier. . . . SchooU generally have the credit of germinating
this eocrvating fa^ciuation; but it is also acquired from servants, relations,
376 EXTENT, CAUSE3, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
and others with whom they sleep. Concealment is quite impracticable." —
An English Medical Author.
"Rendered childless by my husband's ignorance of these private
truths you teach, I adopted three sons, whom I determined, by forewarn-
ing, to save from this vice, and warned my eldest on his sixteenth birth-
Jay ; but was too late, as he owned he had perpetrated it for years. Deter-
mined to be in ample season with my other two, I warned my next youngest
at thirteen, never dreaming that it could be practised before puberty ; but
found myself again too late. Half frantic with disappointment, and deter-
mined to make sure of saving my now only undefiled, I warned him at ten ;
but, horrible to relate, was still too late; for he had already learned and
perpetrated it ! God bless and prosper your noble work of warning and
saving our youth." — Tlie Founder of the College at Cleveland.
" His first school-day, my eldest, then four, while out at play, saw the
other boys polluting themselves, and told me. Provoked that he should
have learned so ruinous and debasing a habit thus young, I burst out furi-
ously with, * Don't you ever play again with those bad boys that have such
devilish actions.' Keeping his seat the next day at vacation, his fastidious
maiden teacher asked him why he did not go out and play, when he
replied, 'Because my mother told me never again to play with those bad
boys that have such devilish actions.' Of course she demanded to know
what boys and actions he meant ; when he innocently told her, before all
the girls, and named the boys. This raised a neighborhood breeze, but it
saved both my boys. They are as pure as angels." — A Mother in Kings-
ton, N. Y.
" Impossible ! My son is a member of the church, and would no more
be guilty of this vile sin than of breaking the seventh commandment ;
which I know he would not do." — A Boston Mother.
He confessed its practice, since about his sixth year.
The most carefully educated and religious youth are not safe.
Apply any numerical test you please; catechise promiscuously
every boy you meet ; and nine in ten, over nine years old, prac-
tise it. Many who deny in words, own up in deed, by manifest-
ing shame — a sure sign of guilt. Of those still older, the pro-
portion is even greater. Question the keepers of our hospitals
for bad boys and poor children. A friend took a boy about ten
years old from an asylum, chastised him often and severely for
this vice, but to no purpose, and finally kept his hands tied behind
him, but found him incorrigible. He died soon after. Boys not
yet four years old sometimes practise it ; and millions are ruined
by it before they enter their teens ! None are safe, not even our
SECRET SINS: OR WARNING AND ADVICE TO YOUTH. 877
own dear children, tlu)ugh watched however closely. The follow-
ing dialogue during a professional examination represents similar
ones by thousands :
" Consumption, madam, is rapidly fastening on your son."
" I know it, and expect to lose him within a year, as I lately lost his
brother."
" He can be saved by giving up its only cause — masturbation."
" You 're mistaken. My husband had many patients with that disease ;
charged me to watch our boys closely, sheets, linen, &c., which I have
done with a mother's vigilance from boyhood. You are positively wrong."
" How is this, young man ? You know, and dare not falsify."
" I HAVE POLLUTED MYSELF ALL THE WAY UP from boyhood, as did
ray brother. I knew, then, that this practice caused his death. And our
sister, too, does the feame thing."
Dr. Woodward, who so long and ably presided over the Wor-
cester Lunatic Asylum, higher authority than whom could hardly
be quoted, a discreet man, who means all he says, writes thus
touching it :
" Those who think that information on this subject is either unneces-
Kary or injurious, are hardly aware how extensively known this habit is
with the young, or how early in life it is sometimes practised. / have
never conversed with a lad twelve years of age who did not know all aboni
the practice^ and understand the language used to describe it."
" This is a topic in Physiology which ' artificial modesty ' has covered
up, until a solitary but fatal vice is spreading desolation throughout our
schools and families, unnoticed and unknown." — E. R. M. Wells,
"Thousands of pure-minded and amiable boys and young men, are un-
dermining their physical constitutions, and prospectively corrupting their
souls, by a pleasurable, and, to many of them, innorent gratification." —
Wm. O. Woodbridge, in " The Aimals of Eiixicaiion"
"There is no town in New England who^e annual bills of mortality
are not greatly increased by this fearful and wide- wasting scourge. A
majority of our diseases, infirmities, aches, pains, and deformities, after the
agt^ of puberty, are either induced or aggravated in this way. We h%o%o it
\A HO, as well as we know anything of mathematical demonstration, or the
actual testimony of our senses." — Dr. Alcott.
" Self-pollution is undoubtedly one of the most common causes of ill
health among the young men of this country. This practice is almost uni-
versal. Boys commence it at an early age ; and the habit once formed, like
that of intemperance, becomes almost unconquerable. In boarding-sciiools
and colleges it obtains, oftentimes, without an exception. Hence the many
878 KXTE NT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
sickly students, and the many young men of the most brilliant and proiu-
ising talents, who have broken their constitutions, ruined their health, and
must leave college, as it is said, ' by hard study.' " — Dr. Snow, of Boston.
Adolescence increases it, except when it consumes itself, and
victims. One would think this a merely boyish, foolish prac-
tice, which age would correct ; but years often increase it. Forty
years of personal observation, with the best of facilities, warrant
this solemn declaration, that few escape its ravages. Its victims
throng our streets, churches, everywhere.
A United States Senator, in the Senate Chamber, often car-
ries his hand to these parts, unconsciously, but therefore all the
worse ; showing that it is habitual. And a sharp eye will often
see men do this, even in the society of refined ladies.
Sodomy is another still worse form of this passion ; named thus
because it constituted the specific sin of Sodom and Gomorrah.
"And they said unto Lot, Where are the men that came in unto
thee this night? Bring them unto us, that we may know them.''
Unable to assuage them, either by reason or persuasion, he finally
profiTered them his own virgin daughters ; a prolier one would
expect them to accept ; but no, nothing would do but buggerism
with these male strangers. This sin caused the destruction of the
cities of the plain. Paul describes this same vice thus :
" For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections : for even their
women did change the natural use into that which is against nature. And
likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in
their lust one towards another; men with men working that which is un-
seemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which
was meet."
Telling obscene stories among themselves is still another
vulgarizing amatory practice. Workmen often spend their noon-
ings thus, to the demoralization of each other, and listening lads.
Would it were confined to men !
916. — Its Prevalence among Females is Appalling.
'*What! so defiling a habit contaminates our daughters?"
Yes, alas ! our very daughters. They are dying by tens of thou-
sands, ostensibly of consumption, female complaints, nervous
or spinal aflfections, general debility, and other ailments innur
merable, even insanity, caused solely by this practice.
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•• A YOL'NQ WOMAN, aged twenty-two, came under my care, in a state of
the worst form of insanity. She was furious, noisy, filthy, and apparently
nearly reduced to idiocy ; had been in this condition many months, and
continued so for some time while with me. She was pale and bloodless,
had but little appetite, frequently ejected her food, and was reduced in
Hush and strength. Finding her one day more calm than usual, I hinted
to her the subject of masturbation, and informed her that, if she practised
it, she could not get well ; but if she abandoned it, she might. She did not
deny the charge, and promised to follow my advice strictly. In two or
three weeks she was perceptibly better; her mind improved as her health
gained ; and both were much better in the course of a few weeks. The
recovery was very rapid in this case. At the end of six months she had
excellent health, was quite fleshy, and became perfectly sane, and con-
tinued so.
"A CASE OF PERIODICAL INSANITY of a young lady came under my ob-
xTvation, whose disease had existed ten years without any material change.
Suspecting that masturbation was the cause, I directed her mothef to as-
certain, if possible, and inform me. Some mouths after, I received intelli-
gence that my patient was better, and that my suspicions of the habit were
confirmed by the observation of her friends. The case was not without
hope, although of so long standing, if the cause was removed. Similar
cases have been under my care of females reduced to the same degraded
state. They are now, and will continue to be, while life remains, melan-
choly spectacles of human misery, without mind, without delicacy or mod-
ei*ty, constantly harassed by the most ungovernable passion, and under
the influence of propensities excited to morbid activity by a vice far more
prevalent than has been supposed. A large proportion of the * bed-ridden '
cases, of which there are so many in the community, will be found to have
originated in this cause." — Dr. Woodward.
" Boarding- and day-schools are sources of untold mischief A short
time since two sisters informed me that, when young, they were put to a
female boarding-school where this vice prevailed." — Qove,
"Your accusations of girls I fear are more than true ; for a matron in
a female seminary in Ohio writes my wife that this practice is almost
universal in it." — City Missionary in Elmira^ N. Y.
"All the school -girls use a — or a — to practise it with." — A
School-girl.
Six mothers in one city consulted me professionally about the
causes and remedy of their daughters' inability to study. Each
was told "self-abuse;" which each girl confessed, and accused
Mary B., a schoolmate, of having taught her this practice. How
many others did this " blaok sheep " probably teach, and rum f
880 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OP SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
A FATHER HAD HIS DAUGHTER AMPUTATED SGXUally tO prevent
self-abuse, which he had in vain tried to stop. Cutting her throat
would have been about equally sensible.
Female factory operatives practise it to an alarming extent.
Even little girls thus abuse themselves. A woman said a girl in
her neighborhood had just died from its effects, and that the
female operatives in a neighboring factory practised it almost
universally, as she learned from one of them. She named other
factories in which it was hardly less prevalent. Little girls below
their teens thus abuse themselves, and the practice is alarmingly
extensive among the fairest portion of creation.
A MINISTER and his wife brought their darling daughter of
eighteen, who had yet no signs of womanhood, whom they
desired to fit for teaching, to ascertain why she was too weakly
to study. When told " masturbation from childhood," they were
first confounded, then enraged. When appealed to for the actual
truth, she confessed, and told what servant-girl had taught
her ; but who had not been in their family since this girl was six
years old.
The Superintendent of the St. John's, JS". B., Lunatic Asylum
pointed out the daughter of a minister, brought there by this
vice.
A GIRL OF twelve, playing with a boy, kept one hand most
of the time under her half-elevated clothes upon these sexual
organs; and if the play required her to drop her clothes and use
this hand one moment, the next she would again whip it dexter-
ously under them.
I met several girls, from twelve to sixteen, on the road,
nearly all of whom, in the short time we were approaching, un-
consciously slipped their hand up under their clothes, and carried
it to these parts. Only ocular proof could have made me believe
this. I have seen servants do it.
A dentist's wife, once beautiful, became a vacant, staring, sense-
less simpleton. In company she everywhere evinced a stoical,
stolid, stupid vacuity, never saying or doing anything, but list-
less and indifferent to everybody and everything. When told
what had caused her inanity, she confessed that she had been
addicted to it from childhood. She was very pious, belonged to
the church, and added, that often, in her room, her parents
thought she was praying and reading her Bible, while she was
SECRET SINS: OR WARNING AND ADVICE TO YOUTH. 881
thus polluting herself. Her infant was a staring, point-blank
idiot. Her husband said,
" She mortifies me by her inane stupor every time we go into com-
pany, and has so sickened me of life itself that I * volunteered/ and put
myself in the most danger possible, that I might get shot ; and would thank
any man any time to kill me outright She has no vestige of the sexual
passion, nor, indeed, of any other. God bless your labors."
A Baltimore aterchant consulted me for the extreme nervous-
ness, moodiness, and hysteria of his wife, her four lest if she bore
she might die in child-bed, and utterly destitute of this passion;
she herself attributing it to this early sexual error.
A grass-widow, having two living husbands, one a splendid
man, " forsaking the use of the man,'* preferred this solitary vice,
which had rendered her intensely morbid.
An M. D. at the head of one of the ablest medical colleges of
Philadelphia, and who has long had a very large city practice,
making the diseases of woman and children his specialty, de-
clares, as the summary of his observations, that five^sixths of the
female complaints he treats are caused by this habit ; and that he
knew girls only /oMrymr5 oW addicted to it I Astounding! but
his precise statement. This incalculable amount of feminine sex-
ual decline and disease •"* must needs have a cause commensurate
with their extent and aggravation. 0 Woman ! " who hath be-
witched you that ye should" thus depart from the paths of
delicacy, health, and happiness?
French druq-stores sell an article invented and usrd expressly
and only to perpetrate female masturbation. Good God! what
next?
Female sodomy is also practised to an alarming extent. A
female friend remembers, when a little girl, to have seen it per-
petrated by several older girls, who long since were consigned to
an early grave by consumption. A magnificent girl of sixteen,
as line as I ever saw, went to Now York city to. finish off her
education ; learned and practised sodomy with another elder girl ;
returned ashy pale, and married, but made an ugly, sickly wife,
spoiled by this unnatural vice. Her paramour died long ago.
Beyond question this plague is all around and all among us.
None of our daughters or sons are safe, however carefully guarded,
till we cast out " this accursed " plague ^rom among us. Being a
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882 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS,
eommon enemy, it can be extirpated only by community of oftbrt.
Single bands can do but little. Notbing but combined and long-
continued exertion can drive tbis wide-spread and insidious
wantonness from our midst. Come, up and doing, every lover of
bis race, of your own dear cbildren 1 Even for tbeir sakes, if on
no otber account, gird yourselves to this disagreeable but indis-
pensable work of pbilantbropy and reform, till we squelch this
form of licentiousness. 0, save our girls, for they border on
ruin! Must they indeed fall a prey to a vice so obscene, and
decay and die in their youth ; but not till the horrors of even a
youthful death relieve their tortured bodies and souls? Espe-
cially YQQQWQ female purity, and maiden loveliness.
Section III.
ITS TERRIBLE EFFECTS ON BODY AND MIND.
917. — It is most inflammatory, and exhausting.
Ko OTHER TREE BEARS FRUITS as bitter Or poisonous. "W"e will
mention a few only, for their tithe would fill the world witb
volumes, as they have with woes.
Its drain on the vital forces is indeed terrible. Semen
contains forty times more vital force than an equal amount of
red blood right from the heart. Think what wonders it accom-
plishes!*^ All this concentrated vitality is wasted ! Powerful
constitutions can endure this drain the longer, but finally break
irreparably. Gross persons enjoy and suffer less ; but it excites
ithose highly organized to distraction, and proportionally ex-
hausts. For those who already have too little vitality to sustain
their superior Faculties, it is downright mental and physical
suicide. Sharp-favored organisms already lack vitality ; so that,
adding this greatest possible drain, soon renders them vital
bankrupts. The loss of this secretion is the loss of virility
itself.
Overtaxing any one of the organs robs the others. As over-
loading the stomach causes lassitude by draining the muscles,
brain, &c., of vitality to discharge its load; so this exciting
practice robs the entire body and mind of strength. As frequent
bleeding demands an undue amount of vitality to re-supply this
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blood ; so seminal losses exhaust the vital principle itself more
effectually than any other drain. It kills by weakening tlve
citadel of life, and opening the gates to other diseases. As bees,
by swarming too freely, become exposed to the bee-moth, which a
full swnrm shuts out ; so this drain leaves weak organs especially
debilitated, and thereby invites consum[»tion, dyspepsia, costive-
ness, gravel, liver complaint, &c., to complete its work of death
in the name of other diseases.
" Many of the ills which come upon the young at and after puberty,
arise from this habit, persisted iu so as to waste their vital energies, and
enervate their physical and mental powers. Nature designs that this
drain should be reserved to mature age, and even then be made but spar-
ingly. Sturdy manhood, in all its vigor, loses its energy, and bends under
the too frequent expenditure of this important secretion ; and no age or
tx)ndition will protect a man from the danger of unlimited indulgence,
though legally and naturally exercised.
" In the young, however, its influence is much more seriously felt ;
and even those who have indulged so cautiously as not to break down
their health or minds, cannot know how much their physical energy,
mental vigor, and moral purity have been weakened by this indulgence.
No cause produces as much insanity. The records of the institutions give
an appalling catalogue of cases attributed to it." — Dr. Woodward.
"These results of masturbation I have seen in my own practice —
involuntary emissions, prostration of strength, paralysis of the limbs,
hysteria, epilepsy, strange nervous aflTections, dyspepsia, hypochondria,
ppinnl disease, pain and weakness in the back and limbs, costiveness, and,
in fine, the long and dismal airay of ga.stric, enteric, nervous, and spinal
affections, which are so complicated and difficult to manage." — Dr. J. A.
Brown.
Its inflammation is worse than its exhaustion, and far more
prolific of disease and suffering. Intense action necessjirily in-
flames.^ This action is the most intense, and therefore intlam-
matory, of all ; because more nervous tissue is ramified upon these
organs than uf)on almost any other, in order to endow offspring
with mind.''* This renders amatory plciisures most ecstaitic, and
commensurately inflammatory. Re|:>eatin^ this violent action
fills the whole being, mental and physical, full of wild, irregular,
preternatural, abnormal, and therefore painful action ; and its in-
flammations are harder to reach and worse to subdue than any
otber8.<»»
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918. — It IMPAIRS Digestion, Circulation, Excretion, &c.
It PLANTS DISEASE IN THE BOWELS of the systeni. We have
seen how intimately the sexuality, and of course the sexual struc*
ture, is interlaced with the muscles,^^^ heart, circulation,®"^ appetite
and digestion.®® What mean all these interrelations, but that all
wrong sexual action and disorders spread diseases by sympathy to all
the other parts ? This vice, by disordering the sexuality, disorders
all. Disease in no other organ is equally prolific of disease in all the
others. This is the physical citadel of health and suffering, caj>-
turing which storms all the others ; and they captured, life itself
surrenders to death. Common parlance designates some clouda
as " weather-breeders." This vice is a disease-breeder — a true Pan-
dora's box, the opening of which engenders all sorts and degrees
of pains and sufferings.
It REDUCES ANIMAL WARMTH. Nothing is more fatal to life
and all its functions than those colds induced by cold hands, feet,
and skin.'^ Yet nothing robs the whole system of its animal
heat, and gives it an icy coldness, as does this drain. Of course
other things may occasion it ; but this vice, by taking the life
right out of the whole system, is especially productive of it.
Nothing warms the system as effectually as sexual ity,^^** nor chills
it as does this sexual error.
" Consumptions, spinal distortions, weak and painful eyes, weak stom-
achs, nervous headaches, and a host of other diseases, mark its influences
upon the body ; loss of memory and the power of application, insanity, and
idiotism, show its devastating effects upon the mind." — Dr. Woodward.
Dyspepsia and vertigo, with heaviness about the stomach, nee
essarily follow this practice; because it robs the digestive appa.
ratus of the energy required to carry forward this function. It
produces a gnawing, fainting, distressed, sunken, gone sensation
along the whole alimentary canal ; is a frightful cause of dyspep-
sia, heartburn, &e., and thus exhausts the system of its very life
and soul. Constipation is both its product, and universal concom-
itant. An intelligent, well-educated man, was brought to the
lunatic asylum in Hartford, rendered nearly idiotic by self-abuse,
and raving perpetually for food, which he would consume vora-
ciously most of the time if allowed. His keepers refused it,
unless he would stop this practice. The struggle was terrible ;
but his rampant appetite finally compelled him to desist, and ho
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recovered. Forty years of close observation compel the belief
that this vice causes a large proportion of these fashionable ail-
ments: indigestion, constipation, a sour stomach, flatulence,
Iieartburn, liver complaints, Ac, and consequent lassitude, weak-
ness, morbidity, and melancholy. Even many infants die of sum-
mer complaints because parental self-pollution, many years before,
disordered their digestive organs. How awful thus to victimize
the unborn ! The urinary function probably suffers the most.
919. — It benumbs the Brain, Nerves, and Mind.
The mind is the man ; and the brain and nerves are its instru-
ments. All our capacities for pleasure, pain, intellect, and emo-
tion come through them.** Their impairment or improvement
impaii-s or improves all. Therefore their transmission is the
most important ; and hence their sympathy with the sexual or-
gans is jKjrfect;^ so that self-abuse, by injuring them, is most
fat^il to sensiition and intellect. This principle shows why this
habit makes its victims feel so blue, moody, and perfectly wretch-
ed.**° It causes more nervous ailments and mental aberrations
than all else combined. Its fearful excitement convulses the
nerves at first, only to paralyze them ever after f^ incapacitating
them for experiencing pain and pleasure.*^ It renders its victims
like sole-leather, when compared with skin: a lifeless texture,
frigid, stoical, benumbed, automatic, unappreciative of condi-
tions, struck with a kind of mental fatuity, vacant-minded,
inert, dull of comprehension, and therefore subject to perpetual
mistakes and accidents ; though it sometimes leaves the intel-
lect clear, because it participates less in both this sin and its con-
eequences. Such live on, work on, but jEail to enjoy the results
of their labors, because of this blunting.**^
Intense excitability with weakness is, however, its more usual
effect. It renders its victims morbid from the soles of their feet
to the crowns of their heads, confused, flurried, lost, unhinged,
hardly conscious what they do, wild with false excitement, and
trembling all over on slight occasions; just as a benumbed limb,
when sensation is restored, becomes extremely sensitive, especially
to painful conditions, though weak. Unable to withstand painful
txcitcment8,they sufter excruciating agony, which only reinflamee
and reweakens.
None can afford to cither blunt or inflame this sentient prin-
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ciple ; for it is our only medium and measure of future enjoy-
ments. When this is morbid, what would otherwise give pleasure,
now causes pain. Life becomes a live burnt-offering, perpetually
writhing in agony on this self-immolating altar. For such a loss,
no amount of wealth can compensate, because it destroys the
power to enjoy it. Deliver me from both torpor, and inflammation.
Susceptibilities should be acute, but normal. To behold one
physical organ after another fall a victim to this devastating pas-
sion, like house after house to the devouring flames ; to lose limb
after limb, or find sight, hearing, lungs, &c., gradually sinking,
is indeed awful ; but to lose our sentient principle is inexpressibly
worse, because this is the life entity itself, the inner man.^*
Whatever enfeebles or deranges it, thereby impairs the very per-
sonality and selfhood. Now, we have already seen that this
indulgence is most exciting, exhausting, and irritating ;*^^ that
excess produces inflammation and disease ; and also that nervous
and cerebral diseases both produce depravity ,^^ and render its
victims most miserable, where there is no other cause or occasion.
This shows why it causes more insanity than anything else
except intemperance. Of the one hundred and twenty-eight
males in the Massachusetts McLean Lunatic Asylum, in 1838,
twenty-four were brought there by this single form of vice! The
report of the Woi*cester Insane Hospital, for 1836, rates intem-
perance as the most prolific cause of insanity, and this practice
as the second, of which it had then twenty-six victims. In 1838,
of its one hundred and ninety-nine male patients, forty-two, or
almost one-fourth, were the victims of solitary indulgence. A
superintendent of a French lunatic asylum says it " is more fre-
quently than is imagined the cause of insanity, particularly
nmong the rich." " ^o cause," saye Dr. Woodward, " is more
influential in producing insanity. The records of the institutions
^ive an appalling catalogue of cases attributed to it." A physi-
cian in Blockley Almshouse spoke with great energy and emphasis
of its influence in causing insanity, and mentioned that several
insane patients, brought there by this vice, were tied to prevent
self-pollution.
" The empire which this odious practice gains over the senses is beyond
expression. No sooner does this uncleanness get possession of the heart,
than it pursues its votaries everywhere, and governs them at all times and
in all places. Upon the most serious occasions, and in the solemn acts of
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religion, they find themselves transported with lustful conceptions and
desires, which take up all their thoughtij." — TlssoL
" The sin of self-pollution is one of the most destructive evils ever
practised by fallen man. In many respects it is several degrees worse
than common whoredom, and has in its train more awful consequences.
It excites the powers of nature to undue actioyi, and produces violent secr&-
tions, which necessarily and speedily exiiaust the vital principle and energy;
hence the muscles become flaccid and feeble, the tone and natural actioa
of the nerves relaxed and impeded, the understanding confused, the memory
oblivious, the judgment perverted, the will indeterminate and wholly
without energy to resist; the eyes appear languishing and without expres-
sion, and the countenance vacant ; appetite ceaseSy for the stomach is in-
capable of peribrming its proper office ; nutrition Jails ; tremors, fears, and
terrors are generated; and thus the wretched victim drags out a miserable
existence, till, superannuated, even before he had time to arrive at man*$
estate^ with a mind often debilitated even to a state of idiotism, his worth-
less body tumbles into the grave, and his guilty soul (guilty of self-murder)
is hurried into the awful presence of its Judge!
"Reader, this is no caricature, nor are the colorings overcharged in
this shocking picture. Worse woes than my pen can relate, I have wit*
nessed in those addicted to this fascinating, unnatural, and most destructive
of crimes. If thou hast entered into the snare, flee from the destruction,
both of body and mind, that awaits thee! God alone can save thee.
Advice, warnings, threatenings, increasing debility of body, mental decay,
checks of conscience, expostulations of judgment, and medical assistance,
will all be lost on thee; God, and God alone, can save thee from an evil
which has in its issue the destruction of thy body, and the final perdition
of thy soul." — Adam Clarke's Com. on Onan.
A SPLENDID YOUNQ MAN, rendered a mere wreck by self-indul-
gence, distracted with those delirium-tremens horrora it often
induces, suftering terribly from pains in tlie head, especially uA
Love, without appetite, and his tones tlie very person iticat ion of
grief,*®' exclaimed fifty times an hour, "0, my God 1 what ^hall I
do ? I 'm going mad ; ** — his anxiety being to escape the insano
asylum, and regain tliat self-control on which he had ahvayn
prided himself. As over-eating first infiames the stomach, which
redoubles its cmvings, till it paralyzes both together j*^"^ so every
sexual indulgence, instead of satisfying, only adds fuel to its fierce
fires, till it consumes the vital forces, and then itself. Like the
gluttonous taf)e-worrn, it cries give, <jrtiY, give I but never enough,
till its own rapacity devours itself; thus rendering subsequent
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conjugal enjoyments insipid. Like an icicle falling on Mont
Blanc, it gathers bulk and force as it descends, leaping and
sweeping precipice after precipice, till it plunges into some deep
abyss, scattering death and ruin throughout its track, and dash-
ing to atoms both itself and all within its course. This is in-
herent in all amatory excesses.
920. — It unsexes, and unfits for Marriage, which it impairs.
It is the evil genus of wedlock, in ways without number^
of which the following will serve as samples :
It weakens and sickens love, that heart's core of marriage."*
All our appetites are governed by our needs. When we require
food we crave it, yet loathe it when it will injure us ; and thus of
exercise, sleep, &c., and thus equally of Love and marriage. As
that stomachic state which unfits us for eating turns our appetite
into loathing of food ; so whatever unfits us for rej)roduction
weakens Love, and loathes marriage. Self-pollution does both.
It creates sexual dyspepsia, sexual nausea.
It dwarfs the sexual organs of both sexes, because it weakens
that mental element which creates them, and governs their size.
** Human Science" proves what "Creative Science" assumes, that
The MIND controls the body, — its size, form, health, everything
about it. As the lion mentality creates a lion anatomy,^" and
human human; so each Faculty of the mind governs its part
of the body. Thus Appetite, when vigorous, creates a large
eating organ in the hejid, and a large and vigorous stomach.
Force uses the hands, and creates them the larger or smaller, ac-
cording to its own wants. The eagle's great visual power creates
a monstrous optic nerve.**^ The female sexuality creates the fe-
male body, and makes her pelvis, mons, breasts, &c., the larger
the stronger it is, and smaller as it is weaker. See this law
proved and applied to the sympathy between breasts and wombs
in'^. The analogy between the two cases is perfect. The male
mentality creates the male organs, and makes them the larger or
smaller as it is stronger or weaker — bear spirit nature giving
bear shape to his sexual organs ; and thus of all its other condi-
tions.^ This great spirituo-organic law underlies this work, and
also " Human Science."
Whatever weakens the love element must, therefore, and
does, dwarf its organs. Self-abuse does both ; on the familiar
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principle that overworking the colt dwarfs the horse. When
practised before puberty, this structure never gets its growth,
and becomes cold, shrivelled, pendant, and flabbid.
It dwarfs the entire female organism, pelvic, facial, and
bodily; arrests the growth of breasts and nipples;"^ and saps the
entire sexual nature at its tap-root. It is the chief cause of the
obstructed and painful menstruation of the Misses of these days
of ailing girls. By arresting sexual development, it makes
youth of both sexes look and act like boys and girls long after
old enough to be young men and women.
It weakens the mental sexuality still more. It lessens the
dignity, manliness, nobleness, aspiration, efficiency, and power of
the male, and eftaces the beauty, refinement, grace, purity, and
loveliness of the female; leaving instead a vulgarity and indeli-
cacy which always repel. It does to lads and lasses what emas-
culation does to animals; leaving them disheartened, inefficient,
poor in planning and executing, ungallant, humbled, subdued,
and drones to themselves and society; and destroys a girl's sweet-
ness and softness of voice, her enthusiasm and taste, her looks
of love and interest in man ; and merges her into a. mongrel,
without male power or female charms. Above all.
It saps the matrimonial sentiment. It both debases and
weakens the sexual disposition and talent itself,*** and thereby
becomes the great cause of celibacy, by de})reciating the ojiposite
sex.*®* 8uch still postpone marriage, though conscious that they
have waited too long already ; and if they finally marry, as one
having a weak and another a strong stomach, sitting down to the
same dinner together, if both find a speck in the butter, or hair
in the bread, the hearty one pi«ks them out and etits on, while
the dainty one loathes the entire dinner from this one fault ; so
if the victims of this vice marry one even too good for them,
they look daintily and suspiciously at all flaws, and let some
little fault, or what they qualmishly imagine on^, though un-
worthy of notice, turn their Love, generate estmngements, and
spoil both ; which, but for this habit, they would never have no-
ticed. Those who mar»*y after having thus erred, must make all
due allowances, especially for their. own selves.
921. — It oausbs Sbminal Lossss, and enfbbbles Offspring.
A premature discharok of semen weakens offspring thus —
The entire beings ok both parents must be marshalled at the
890 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL. IMPAIRMENTS.
creative altar, in order to be transmitted, and then wrought
up to tlie liighest attainable pitch of intensity. ^^ This takes
time, and is what gives sexual intercourse its ecstatic pleasure;
which, oft repeated, must paralyze the nervous system. ^'^ When
this excretion is forced too often, Nature must protect herself
against its inflammations and exhaustion^ somehow, or else sink
under them ; and fends off worse consequences by making this
How the easier the oftener it is demanded. Animality hastens its
advent; yet masturbation is its chief cause. ^^^
Children created by these premature discharges can and do
have nothing like the snap, vim, power, condensation, and func-
tional vigor of body and mind given by that seminal retention
this complete parental marshalling and condensation would have
imparted.''^^
Male prematurity disappoints the female, which causes addi-
tional loss to progeny. This is too obvious to need any more
than this statement.®"- Yet
Involuntary seminal losses during sleep, and also perpetu-
ally, constitute its worst evil, to both parents and their unborn,
thus : Tliat feverish, false excitement it creates in the testal
organs manufactures semen in them,^'-^'^ which it fails to evacuate.
Of course Nature cannot leave it there to decay. Some disposi-
tion of it becomes an imperious necessity. She burns it up on the
spot b)/ fever ^ which bums out these organs themselves; besides its
constant drain on them. Can a child created by these weakened
organs be as well-begotten as if they were strong and virile?
This parental excitability creates nervous children, having
too much bead for body, and fire for stamina, and mucb more
liable to die young. Still they are better than none, yet nowhere
near as good as these same parents could have produced but for
this unsexing habit. It also shortens the parental period, besides
diminishing its own pleasures.
" Why should a cause seemingly so slight occasion diseases so many
and so aggravated, and mental derangements and impairments thus
numerous and great? It might be expected to do much damage, but
what special reason why its injuries are thus almost infinite f"
Because it outrages several of the fundamental natural laws
of reproduction.
Nature's paramount sexual liiw is that male and female must
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co-operate in creating life. Therefore, all exercise of this ama-
tory sentiment must be between a male and female ; never a man
with a man, nor with himself alone ; nor a woman with a woman,
nor with herself. This vice with buggerism contravenes Nature's
law of the creative participancy of both sexes.^
Sexual action between opposite sexes interchanges electricity,"*
each giving yet receiving, while its personal action consumes it.
The former, when right, is rendered most beneficial to both, and
a powerful tonic to all the other functions; while the latter robs
all the othera, to sustain this drain, yet resupplies nothing; besides
being inherently most loathsome, vulgar, and repellant.
Full parental maturity is another necessary condition of
pfogeiial perfection. Nature chooses for her transmitting period
that in which all the functions are toned up to their fullest power.
She will not allow either striplings or seniles to become parents.
She holds this Faculty in reserve, at least till the growth becomes
well established ; and even then the children of young persons
are quite inferior to those of these same parents after they have
become fully matured. The very proverb is that the youngest
children are the smartest. Distinguished men will almost always
be found to lirive descended from parents over twenty-five years
old,"' of which "Hereditary Descent" gives many pertinent ex,-
amf»k's.
Nature forbids this prematurity to all animals. In all except
occasional chance cases, the old males compel the young ones to
abstain until they become old and strong enough to defy and
whip out the old, and claim precedence by their power of head,
heel, spurs, or beaks; which involves full maturity. Let youth
wait till fully ripe.
Nature pays so large a bonus of this pleasure for waiting,
that they can well afford postponement. As making a young colt
overdraw both dwarfs his growth and also weakens his drawing
powers for life; so'prematuro sexual indulgence, in any and all
ts forms, tears the life-power right out, and prevents in the
luture a thousand times more of this very pleasure sought thau
is enjoyed in the present.
No, O youth, you cannot afford to rob your whole life of this
class of pleasures just for a small mcRs of very poor pottage to>
day. Follow Nature's cconomiej^, and she will repay you hj
multiplying this pleasure a thousand-fold. She di8|)ense6 hor
8D2 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OP SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
enjoyments most lavishly ; and none more freely than her sexual
luxuries, if we but follow in her pathway. These and all your
other life-enjoyments are too infinitely precious to be exchanged
for an amount of misery in countless forms beyond your utmost
oonception.^"*^
922. — Self-Pollution as sinful as Fornication.
All Sexual sins are condemned by the entire Bible. Look at
its denunciations of fornication, adultery, &c. God grant that
you may be kept from both ; but if you indulge in masturbation as
the lesser sin and evil, you certainly err. Boy, girl, youth, man,
woman, since on your conscience you would condemn yourself
for fornication, you should feel quite as guilty for self-pollution.
Youth too conscientious to perpetrate the former, by wretched mil-
lions, seek in solitude that same lustful gratification in the latter.
The two differ in nothing except in the substitution of an imagi-
nary paramour for a real one ; and in the complete absence of
that Love which alone sanctifies this indulgence ; besides its
being all carnality. Do not both consist equally, in warp and
woof, of sensuality ? Is not the same propensity indulged in
both, and the same kind of gratification sought, and afiTorded ?
Are they not alike debasing? The same feelings and organs, the
same action of these organs, and the same evacuation, except that
private prostitution is necessarily more completely gross and lust-
ful, as well as more injurious to the organs exercised, obtain in
both; besides the far greater number of its victims, and fre-
quency of its indulgences. Is licentiousness debasing and pol-
luting to the soul, and is not 5(?{/-pollution more so ? Does it not
create even a greater degree of shame, self-abhorrence, and vul-
garity ? Does the former disease the sexual apparatus, and does
not the latter still more ? Does the former often produce impo-
tency, and does not the latter much oftener ? Does the former
derange the nerves, and does not the latter still more, and till the
entire system full to bursting with a wild, hurried, fevered ex-
citement, which rouses every animal passion, unstrings every
nerve, and produces complete flustration and confusion ? ^^^ Does'
the former drain the system of animal energy, and waste the very
essence of its vitality ? and does not the latter equally rob every
organ of the body, every Faculty of the mind, of that vital
energy by which alone it lives and acts? In short, it is hardly
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possible to name an evil appertaining to the former, which doea
not also characterize the latter; whilst the latter, by being so
much more accessible, subjecting its possessor to no expense but
that of life, and no shame, because perpetrated in secret, is there-
fore the more wide-spread, frequent, and ruinous. Not con
sidered a sin, because neither parents*" nor moral watchmen
denounce it,"' it is therefore not forbidden by the terrors of
conscience, and that almost insuperable barrier of native modesty
created in the soul of every well-constituted youth against licen-
tiousness avails nothing here, because its natural stimulant, the
other sex, is not present to awaken it. Both are made up of
sensuality, neither calling forth any of the higher elements ; while
Love calls them all into intense action in connection with this
indulgence, which it sanctifies, and the pleasures of which it in-
describably enhances.
Private forxication causes twenty times more -nisery than
any other sexual sin. And this is substantially the oioinion of all
who have examined this subject. If a loved child must practise
either, — O merciful God! deliver all from such a dilemma —
*' Almost as soon let it die. Any other cup of bitterness is less
bitter I " Nothing, 0 fond parent, can render your ^eloved oft-
spring more completely wretched I
923.— Signs of Self-Pollution and Sensuality.
Ability to detect this vice in children and others is im*
measurably important, in order to arrest it ; while all who pro-
pose marriage have an "inalienable right" to know who are its
victims ; because they are much the less eligible.*" Those who
have read intelligently thus far can spell out many of these
signs,** yet a few more seem necessary as examples of others.
A mawkish, shamed, repellant look is its surest sign. "A
guilty conscience needs no accuser." Nature obliges all to ex-
press their own estimate of themselves by their appearance; theii
i^uilty, crouching, humbled, selfdebased expression which it
l)rands right into its victims, haunts them at church and on
'change, wherever they go and whatever they do ; staring them
everywhere fully in the face.*"
Love op fondling signifies purity. As long as a boy is uncon-
taminated, he loves to hang around his mother, aunt, or the female
who loves him ; kins her and be kissed by her ; make of her and
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be made of by her ; and express this Love element, because he 1*8
not ashamed of its proper expression; whereas this habit so vul-
garizes it, that he involuntarily becomes ashamed to manifest it,
even in fondling his mother, and therefore shrinks from her
caresses. As long as it is normal, he will be kind and good to
girls,*^ genial and courteous to the female sex, and pleased to be
with them ; but this vice sours and turns this sentiment against
all females, which renders him disrespectful, disobedient, cross,
and hateful towards them, and especially those around him.
Mothers, while your sons love to reciprocate your caresses they
are all right ; but their repelling you indicates sexual demorali-
zation.^'^
Those girls who love to fondle, hug, and kiss their father and
be fondled, are pure ; but those who show a shy, offish, mawkish,
squeamish, shamed, shocked, repellant feeling, when he kisses or
fondles, are impure ; unless shamed out of this mode of expression.
Such fail to develop into womanhood; suffer at their monthly
periods; are flat-chested or else fat-bosomed;'^^ lose that female
glow which draws gentlemen around them, and hence are neg-
lected ; are too bashful ; prefer to be alone ; shrink from company
and gentlemen ; are easily disgusted, and hard to please in
suitors; are extremely nervous and irritable, and have the sexual
vertigo. This habit, by having impaired their bearing capacities,
equally impairs all those female charms which attract and enamour
men.^^® ligature will not let those enamour men who thus become
poor bearers.^
Its INFLAMED STATE GIVES A LASCIVIOUS EXPRESSION tO the CyCS
and mouth, along with a wanton, amorous smile or leer, and a
prying curiosity to look at the other sex. Such often act and
laugh as though something vulgar had been said or done; because
they look at all things through sensual glasses. In conversation
they look downward, but never in your eyes ; yet steal every oj)-
portunity to cast " sheep's-eye glances " at the other sex askew.
Though shy in company, yet when alone they often make soft
expressions, take liberties, and act silly and sickish, as if actuated
by a mean passion, instead of by that exalted regard "which
maketh not ashamed."
They have a pallid, bloodless complexion, hollow, sunken,
and half-ghastly e^^es, with a red rim around their eyelids, and
black-and-blue semicircles under their eyes; and look so haggard,
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ns if worn out, almost dead for want of sleep, yet unable to get
it, Ac. If badly impaired they will have a half-wild, vacant
fitare, or half-lascivious half-foolish smile, especially when they
Bee a female, along with a certain quickness yet indecision of
fnaimer; will begin to do this, stop and essay to do that, and
then do what was first intended ; and in such utterly insignificant
Miattei-s as putting hat here or there, &c. This same incoherence
svill characterize their expressions, and the same want of prompt-
ness mark all they do. Little things will agitate and fluster
them. They will be irresolute, timid, afmid of their own shadow,
uncertain, waiting to see what is best, and always in a hurry, yet
hardly know what they are doing, or want to do.
Undue redness signifies that this vice has become chronic
Since it is terribly inflammatory,*" it generates a darkish, livid,
brownish redness all over the face and neck, along with a fulness,
as if fat or bloated.*^ Not that bright scarlet-red of vigorous
lung action, but that dullish leaden red Avhich signifies inflam-
mation. Not that this kind of redness is always caused by it, for
facial humors, erysipelas, excessive brain action, a feverish state
of the whole system, &c , may cause it; but that self-abuse in
youth often causes this kind of redness when they become adultft.
Glassy, vacant, poor, soulless eyes,®" and a rei)ulsive countenance,
also accompany it.
Pain in the small of the back indicates the impairment of the
sexual organs, from this or some other error, because their nerves
enter the spine there. Some of its victime have running sores
there, and all have the " backache." So you who have it, don*t
tell of it.
Carrying the hands to these parts, as if to change their position,
is a sure sign of their having been inflamed by some means.
Those who are sensual, male and female, in laughing throw this
part of their bodies forward. Self-polluters often stand and sit
in the posture assumed during this practice.**
Red facial pimples, having a black spot in their middle, or
' Ise matterated, arc a sure sign of self-pollution in males, and
irregularities in females.
Involuntary seminal discharges may be diagnosed from mucous
or thin cloud-like floats or sediment in the urine after it baa
stood a while, as well as a smarting during its passage.
A disgusted, sickish, mawkish feeling towards the oppk)site sei.,
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with a sliy, awkward, offish, repellant manner, is a sure sign,
because it averts and deadens Love and gender,^"^ and by unfit-
ting for marriage,^ prevents it by virtue of a law stated in ^**'
though there applied to another point. How wise, how appro-
priate that this habit, which impairs prospective marriage, should
also help prevent both! Neither sex "takes" with or to the
others thus partly unsexed.
924 — Abstain totally, and forever.
Every indulgence weakens hope, and is like rowing down the
Niagara rapids, instead of towards their banks. Gradual eman-
cipation, like leaving off drinking by degrees, will certainly
increase both indulgence and suffering. This is true of all bad
habits, and doubly of this. " Now is the accepted time ; behold,
now is the day of salvation." Some advise occasional enjoyment.
Phrenology totally and unequivocally condemns all indulgence,
every instance of which both augments passion and weakens re-
sistance, by subjecting intellect and moral sentiment to propen-
sity. If you cannot conquer now, you never can. Make one des-
perate struggle. Summon every energy ! Stop short! *' Touch not,
taste not, handle not," lest you " perish with the using." Flee
at once to perfect continence — your only city of refuge. Look not
back towards Sodom, lest you die. Why will yoM go on to commit
suicide? 0, son, daughter of sensuality, are you of no value?
Are you not God-like and God-endowed, born in your Maker's
image, and most exalted, both by Nature, and in your capabilities
for enjoyment? Will you, for a low-lived animal gratification,
sell the birthright of your nature, all your intellectual powders,
your moral endowments, your capabilities for enjoyment, and
crowd every avenue and corner of both body and soul with un-^
told agony? Snatch the priceless gem of your natures from
impending destruction? Indulgence is triple ruin. Absti-
nence OR DEATH is your only alternative. Stop now and forever,
or abandon all hope. Will you " long debate which of the two
to choose, slavery " and " death," and such a death, or abstinence
and life? Do you "return to your wallowing," and give up
to die?
No! Behold the enkindling resolve! See the intoxicating,
poisoned cup of passion dashed aside. Hear the life-boat re-
solve :
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" 1 CLEANSE the stains of the past in the reformation of the future. Born
with capabilities thus exalted, I will yet be the man, no longer the grovel-
ling sensualist. Forgetting the past, I once more put on the garments of
hope, and press forward in pursuit of those noble life-ends to which I once
aspired, but from which this Delilah allured me. On the bended knees
of contrition and supplication I bow before Jehovah's mercy-seat : * On the
altar of this hour I lay my vow of abstinence and purity. No more will I
sacrilegiously prostitute those glorious gifts with which Thou hast gra-
ciously crowned me. I abjure forever this loathsome sin, and take again
the oath of allegiance to purity and to Thee. O, " deliver me from temp-
tation ! " Of myself I am weak, but in Thy strength I am strong. Do
Thou work in me to " will and to do " only what is pure and holy. I
have served " the lusts of the flesh ; " but O, forgive and restore a repentant
prodigal, and accept this entire consecration of my every power and Fac-
ulty to Thee. O gracious God, forgive, and save, and accept ; and Thine
shall be the glory forever. Amen.*
" I RISE RENEWED. My VOW is recorded before Grod. I will keep it
inviolate. I will banish all unclean thoughts and feelings, and indulge
only in holy wedlock. I will again * press forward ' in the road of intel-
lectual attainment and moral progression ; and the more eagerly because
of this hindrance. I drop but this one tear over the past, and then bury
both my sin and shame in future efforts of self-improvement and labors of
love. I yet will rise. As mourning over my fall does not restore, but un-
nerves resolution and cripples effort, I cast the mantle of forgetfulness over
the past, have now to do only with the future, but must not remain a mo-
ment passive or idle. I have a great work before me, to repair ray shat-
tered constitution, which is the work not of a day, but a life ; and also to
recover my mental stamina and moral standing, and, if possible, to soar
higher still."
Section IV.
PREVENTIONS OF SELF- ABUSE BY KNOWLEDGE.
925. — Knowledob is its sure Preventive.
"What salvation remains for those yet guiltless? To forestall is in-
finitely better than to cure. Must all our noble boys, all our pure, lovely
girls, be defiled by this moral leprosy, and lost if not redeemed ? Is there
no PREVENTION ? Can they not be somehow kept /ram this fell destroyer?
Must all fall over this moral precipice, only to rise maimed and defiled for
life? What a pity, this offering up of human life on this vile altar I We
cannot spare our sons, we must not lose our daughters thus. They are too
infinitely precious. Think what a darling youth is worth! Its entire
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future, and that of all its descendants, are at stake. The risk is too awful.
No parents should sleep until they have first so hedged their darlings
around that they cannot sin. In the name of agonized myriads, how can
this plague be stayed ? "
Not by ignorance. That means has been tried, only to fail,
quite too long already. All who fall, sin for want of knowl-
edge. Nothing can be clearer. Say, ye who have sinned, did
you not err through ignorance? Would not one seasonable
warning have prevented all the suffering it has caused you?
Let universal experience decide.
Parental warning and counselling are its great forestallers
and preventers. Parents are bound to feed, clothe, and educate
their children, and guard them against lying, stealing, &c. : then
why not also against this secret sin as well ? as much the most^ as
it is the most ruinous to soul and body ? God in Nature puts
on parents the sacred duty of guarding their darlings against all
sinful and self-ruining practices ; and their first is to preserve
them against this vice. And the guilt of those who do fall rests
not on the poor life-long suffering victims, but on their parents.
An eighteen-year-old liliputian in Portland, Me., when told that
this had made him small and weak, clinched his fist, gritted his
teeth, and muttered curses upon his own father, and his lately de-
ceased brother, who died of'it, " because they allowed me to fall
by not warning me ; " and he had a right. So has any other child
whose parents let him or her contract this vice. Parents are
their children's keepers, not children their own. Choose your
own means, but use some effectual one. Do not oblige them to saj'
of you, at 01 after your death, whenever they realize how much
'-^inry this vice has inflicted on them,
"O, IP MY parents had only seasonably warned me against this vice,
I should have escaped all this impairment of body, and demoralization of
mind. How could they let me thus sin ignorantly and thoughtlessly."
The mother is more especially adapted and required to teach
them this class of truths. In ordaining that she nurse them,
Nature commands that she supply their other physical wants,*^*
and also mould their morals.'^^*^ We have shown that she should
get her sons thoroughly in love with her,*'^ which specifically fits
her for this identical task. Those who defile themselves may
justly blame her most; yet blame is too weak a term. Shd
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should teach them the sacredness of this structure, and to guard
it as the apple of their eye. All communities contain sufferers
from sexual abuses ; let her make such her walking examples of
the fearful consequences of breaking this law of chastity.
A SENSIBLE MOTHER liked my first ladies' lecture so well that
<he brought her daughter of fourteen to hear the second, and after
it consulted me for her leucorrhoea. I saw signs of self-abuse,
and pointed them out. She burst out:
" I DID n't know it was wrong. Mother never told me it was ; and I
thought she always told me all that is wrong."
A LITTLE GRANDDAUGHTER OF TOMMY GaRRET, the WOrld-
renowned conductor on " the underground railroad," seriously
endangered her mother's miscarriage by her restlessness during
sleep. Unable to prevent it otherwise, her mother explained her
maternal situation, and showed why she should lie still nights.
The effect was magical, and not only kept her perfectly still l)y
night, but most kind and sympathetic by day. She could ^alk of
nothing else.
Books save. Half a million copies of " Amativeness, or Warn-
ing and Advice to Youth," by myself, have been circulated, and
I know personally, by name and address, ten thousand persons of
both sexes whom it has snatched as brands from this fiery burning.
And it has saved ten I do not know, to every one I do ; for men
rarely confess this error. It has saved hundreds of thousands. By
what means ? The let-alone policy ? No, but by the " cry-aloud-
md-spare-not." Is ignorance salvation ? Is knowledge folly ? Is
not "forewarned forearmed"? Hall's idea, that books on this
subject should be kept locked up from youth, is certainly wrong.
Phis work is exactly what parents need for a text- book to put
into children's hands, prefaced with their own counsels, and they
recommended to read it. Parents, what is it worth to be able to
put it into their hands as an introduction, and a text from which
to preach sermons on sexual purity? It is text, sermon, and all.
A few facts. A Boston merchant, exhibiting as fine arni-niuscles
13 I ever saw, except on a pugilist, said,
"My father put your pamphlet on Amativeness into my hands,
when I wjus thirteen, saying, * Read that, and believe it all, and then do as
you like.' It saved me. I feel quite like kneeling and worshipping at
vour feet for that book."
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"Charge me roundly, Professor, for writing out my phrenological
character in full ; for, when I was seventeen, your pamphlet on * Amative-
ness ' taught me the evils of a practice by which I was ignorautly ruining
myself, and thereby saved me, saved every one of my five brothers, and one
sister, into whose hands I placed it ; and I only wish your fee was five
hundred dollars, that I might thereby express the debt of gratitude I and
they owe you ; yet compensate you we never could." — A Flour Dealer in
Albany,
" Accept my eternal gratitude for your pamphlet on private sensu-
ality, which fell into my hands at thirteen, and saved me. Since then I
have lived in purity, and thank you with all my soul for thus snatching me
from that yawning abyss into which I was unwittingly plunging myself." —
A Young Lady.
" Three thousand miles West, digging gold, your little pamphlet on
self-abuse told me why my strength had nearly given out, and mental
Faculties become so impaired ; and saved and restored me. I will gladly
work for you in any capacity, just for my food and raiment, as a fit ex-
pression of the gratitude I owe you for this great salvation." — A Young Man.
Tens of thousands have expressed a like gratitude for a like
salvation by this same means. If I never did any other good, I
should die in the pleasing consciousness that I had really done a
great public benefaction. The obloquy it has heaped on me is as
nothing in comparison v^ith this its most glorious reward. I
claim no special merit for discharging an onerous duty Phre-
nology imposed on me, and should have been accursed if I had
not ; as are all who do not warn and save all they possibly can. A
solemn duty imposed upon each b}^ our relations to our Creator
and these His children, requires all to enter this vineyard of
philanthropy, and labor for " universal salvation " from this uni-
versal plague.
926. — When and how should Youth learn Sexual Truths?
There is a best time for youth to get sexual knowledge. What
j^rinciple proclaims it ? Is the popular policy of allowing them
to learn as little and late as possible, the true one ? The existing
amount of sexual depravity utters an appalling no, and its con-
demnation is terrific. Any change must need be for the better.
Ignorance might be bliss if it suppressed this feeling ; which is
there^ equally with and without it. Knowledge can guide and
sanctify, but ignorance can neither extirpate nor materially lessen
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this or any other Faculty.** Nature compels them to learn some
time, and some how ; if not by books and teachers, then by " sad.
experience ; " but at all events they cannot remain ignorant. Had
they then better learn sexual truths as they learn others, from
books and instruction, or by experience?
This question answers itself. Since confessedly their best
way to learn arithmetic, grammar, religion, &c., is by books
and teachers, of course a like means should teach them sexual
truths.
Who shall teach them ? Shall they be allowed to gain their
first knowledge from corrupt associates, along with passional
incentives ? A law of life compels them to mix up with other
children. Only imprisonment can prevent their learning evil
from vulgar associates. Isolation spoils, while contact sharpens.
As they can be kept from swearing only by previously fortifying
their morals against it ; and as hearing it when thus fortifiad
actually purifies them by rendering it revolting;** so the more
soxual vice they see, if duly instructed beforehand, the more
odious it seems to them, and the purer they become ; while the
mechanical purity of ignorance leaves them good by negation
merely.^ Therefore,
Parents should teach sexual truths, aided by books, as early
as they can be understood.
Knowledge must precede practice necessarily. Should book-
keeping be taught your commercial, or law your legal, or theology
your ministerial, son l)efore, or after, he begins to 'practise book-
keeping, or law, or divinity? Before^ always. Then does not
this obviously common-sense principle require that children be
taught sexual truths before they are forced to learn them bj
ex|)erience, or corrupt associates ?
Puberty brings this experience ; and should therefore be pre-
ceded by sexual instruction. Could anything be clearer? Has
this reasoning any flaw? This amatory sentiment should be edu-
cated as fast as Nature develops it. This conclusion can neither
be gainsaid, nor resisted.
To THE sexual education OP oiRLS these principles apply with
redoubled force.**
At what aob do you, parents, wish your parents or instructors
had taught you ? Teach your children earlier than that ; because
those of to-day develop younger than in your day, and know ten
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times more than you imagine possible. "Young America" learna
such things early and easily.
All ADULTS should also teach and guard juveniles. Every
youth should be precious to all adults. If parents do not warn
and save them, others should. Every adult member of every
community is under special obligations to preserve all juveniles.
All elders should try to save all juniors. If others know any
other means more efficacious, in the name of the preciousness of
our youths, save them, each one by his and her own means ; but
in any event save them. All are sacredly bound to resolve our-
selves into a " committee of the whole " on the preservation of
our youth. Those who are older always teach this vice; let
them snatch these precious brands from this terrible burning.^
Teachers are especially bound to teach this evil and danger.
Physiology ought to be taught in our schools, with this sexual
branch inserted, not as now, studiously ignored. Teachers, what
does CONSCIENCE, the best good of your pupils, and the momentous
responsibilities of your office, demand of you ?
A Lewiston PROFESSOR, hearing these views, summoned his
students to a lecture on sexual purity. Just right.
927. — Clergymen in Duty bound to Protest against it.
My most stubborn opposition by far has been from those minis-
ters of religion who should have given me the most " aid and
comfort" in this most disagreeabh "labor of love;" yet who
have wrongly set their faces square against me. Reverend sirs,
answer these plain questions :
1. Were you not ordained expressly to descry public vices and
sins, and proclaim against them ?
2. Do YOU NOT KNOW that this secret sin is perpetrated by the
great majority of your own parishioners?*^^' *^^ If not, do you
know enough to preach ? Then
3. How CAN YOUR CONSCIENCES let tliis most sinful and prev-
alent of all the vices go unreproved, and remain content to
preach against lying, covetousness, and like comparatively rare
and little sins?
4. You ARE VOLUNTEER WATCHMEN on the sightly watch-towers
overlooking public morality, for the specific purpose of warning
your congregations against sexual sins as much as against false-
hood and cheatery. Yet in this respect are not almost all " dumb
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dogs that will not bark " against this vilest of all the vices ?
How can you possibly reconcile this ominous silence to truth, to
your clerical vows, to public morality, even to the dictates of
unordained humanity? You cannot. God and your self-assumed
vocation demand that you 8})eak right out on this vice. Your
silence is a crime against truth, humanity, and God. Either dis-
charge this your solemn duty, or else resign your commission. A
clergyman in L. said,
"I AM ENGAGED in marriage to a superior lady, who says, 'Since
our engagement is settled ; you have a fine congregation ; would be far
more useful married than you can be single ; and I have waited so patiently
80 many years, why not relieve me from this painful embarrassment by
consummating our marriage at once?' I really cannot offer her any
reasonable excuse; .whereas my only reason is that my boyish errors
have so far prostrated my manhood, and incapacitated me for fulfilling
the marriage relation, that I am ashamed to let her know how debilitated
I really am."
"Then warn your youth against falling by a like means into a
similar state."
" That, sir, would cost rae my bread and butter in a week."
" Bread and butter ! " If you preach for money, and shrewdly
abstain from hinting at this sin in pulpit, Bible-class, and Sabbath-
school, lest it should take "bread and butter" out of your
family's mouths, we will excuse you, and understand your gov-
erning motive.
"This is a terrible excoriation we do not deserve. We are not
responsible for the determined face ' public opinion ' has set against all
pulpit and all other allusions to this admitted public sin."
Chanok "public opinion,'* then. You have the requisite power,
but lack the nerve. Thank the Lord, Adam Clarke,"" and somo
others, speak right out on this subject, before matrons and bus*
bands, maidens and beaux, yet retain their salaries and popular-
itiea. So could you, if you only thought so, and tried. You
yourselves create the moral atmospheres in which you preach, and
can and should amend them. Or do you practically confess " \ik9
people, like priest " ? Are you but the echoes and tools of " public
opinion"? If so, let us know it, that we may value you and
your labors accordingly. Be entreated to discharge this duty.
" Drink of this bitter cup," or resign your pastorates. A veteran
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iu this cause, I call for help, and i/our help at that. Quite long
enough you have stood aloof while I was doing your '' dirty
work," and thrown against me that powerful influence my due.
You have no moral right even to withhold your benediction,
much less to oppose. At this eleventh hour, either aid it, or
clear the track, or else be run over ; for this work must be done,
with your aid if you please, in spite of your opposition if you
oppose ; but at all events done. And we solemnly call upon you
to give that aid your public position would render so effective.
Excuse you we will not, because you hold the keys of the public
conscience, and
928. — Conscience is its great Preventive.
Sense of right and duty holds supreme control over human
conduct, and especially over the young. Adults may stifle its
voice ; but showing youth that self-pollution is a great sin against
God's moral laws, will eifectually prevent their forming this
habit ; and almost always break it up after it has become seated.
Having had frequent occasion to proclaim many very unpopular
truths, and expose not a few popular errors, I find in every in-
stance " Truth proves victor." Once harpoon a man's con-
science, and though he may dive, flounder, spout, and rush, it will
finally bring him " alongside " subdued. I have just proclaimed
a most unpopular truth to a most popular class, but feel perfect
assurance that it will compel the assent of every single reader,
those reproved included. 'No youth can ever begin this sin after
knowing its wickedness.^ By probing their consciences, you
save them all. Knowledge and conscience together will pre-
vent all, and reform all not already ruined. This very con-
science gives clergymen their power over men ; and would render
it perfectly magical if they touched it more. Pray, duly consider
liow true this truth. Therefore,
Reverend religious fathers, since you mainly hold the keys
0f this powerful Faculty, array it against this sin, and you kill
it instantly. All your parishioners, and all the rest of mankind,
think you of course know all about what is right and what
wrong. They also think, with the girl in ^ that you tell all. They
confidingly presuppose that what you do not condemn is of course
all right ; for if it were not, that you would denounce it. They
construe your silence on this vice into consent that it is not
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sinful. They revel on as securely as the soldier sleeps on, assured
that if there were danger his sentinels would give the alarm.
The blood of all these perishing myriads"* cries to you from the
ground : —
" My trusted and paid moral teacher, why did not you forewarn me ?
Why take my money for doing what you failed to do — telling me what-
ever was wroug?"
Are you willing to see and hear, in that " final judgment "
you preach, the "weeping, wailing, and gnashing of teeth" of
your own paying parishioners, and others, accusing your remissness
in warning them as to the direct cause of their woes ? Every oimj
of your " flock " who has thus sinned and suffered, will hold yoa
guilty of his or her ruin. You are the great criminals, not these
confiding victims whom your ominous silence has betrayed into
this awful sin. Come, arouse, and work the harder hereafter by
all your " lost time" heretofore, either with your own hands, or
by holding up mine, or both, or abdicate ; or else do the whole
yourself. Guardians of public morality, see that you do guard it.
" We thank you for thus prompting us to do a neglected duty, and
would cheerfully proclaim these warnings from the pulpit, but that pre-
ceding public ppinion too far will kill our iafluence for good, both on
this and on all other subjects. I lately preached against abortion, when
some of my parishioners said to me, * You began a good work, but stopped
half way ; prosecute it further : ' to whom I replied, ' Draw up a request,
signed by any ten of the leading ladies of my church, that I expose this
sin further, and I will do it; but I must first feel that I am mpported in
this matter.' " — Rev. J. S. Alexander.
Deacons, matrons, men of influence, dignified conservatives,
you are the real hinderers of this really missionary work, aft^r
all. Come, request your minister to preach on this secret sin,
and hold up his hands. lie is good, though i)crhaps a little
too "judicious," and, with your prompting, will save your
children.
Editors, have you no "part nor lot " in tiiis duty? With an
influence much wider than the clergy, and quite as powerful, ar«
you, too, not bound to sound this alarm, and awaken public atten-
tion to this subject ? Or if loath yourselves to attack it directly,
do it by xcriting up this book. You " talked up " this feature of
" Sexual Science" nobly. Tlie Y. M. C. A. lately broke ground on
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this subject, by calling a meeting to discuss it. Where have you
been this quarter of a century ? Opposing what you now espouse.
Your "eleventh-hour" labors may redeem your past working on
the wrong side, yet the public ear was got in spite of you ; and
fairly to call attention to this evil is to obviate it. The work is
now virtually done ; for beginning it, and getting the ice broken,
does the balance. A " pioneer " has done this already.
"Fowlers & Wells," before I left that old firm, requested
Horace Mann to prepare a work for us on this subject ; which he
declined, on the ground that it had ruined the reputations of all
who had ever broached it. For once he erred. Our firm stood
alone in publishing on this subject. Yet one of its members
stoutly opposed it, and we dissolved.
The public know who, for half a century^ has insisted and per-
sisted in crowding it before the people in spite of all opposition,
at home and abroad, financial and moral. Some day men will dis-
criminate, appreciate, and reward. Let time and the common
sense of mankind be the final umpire as to the wisdom of this
knowledge-promulgating " policy."
929. — Quenching boys' and girls' Loves originates their Self-
Defilement.
Kature IS AS TRUE TO HERSELF as her needle to its pole ; and
like it, if diverted by violence, returns the first liberated instant.
Boys and girls constitute this needle, and sexual action this pole.
They act out true human nature till warped by education. What
practical testimony do these children of ^N'ature bear on our action-
f^.-suppression theory ? for what they say is demonstration^ because
the oracle of Nature, and of ]tsrature's God ! They bear only this
one testimony :
" Mother, give me two dollars." A six-year-old love-struck boy.
" What do you want two dollars for, my sod ? "
" To BUY Jane with, for I love her, and want to marry her, and have
her all mine."
They love each other, and express their Love. ITot shyly, but
freely. Not behind the door, but before folks. Not shame-
facedly, but innocently. Not as if it were " naughty," but
proper; nor vulgar, but pure. All civilized, all heathen, all
ancient, all modern children, every day of childhood life, thus
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express this Love for the opposite sex. Their universal, practical
testimony is proof enough. Let a few facts stand for their per-
petual natural language.
Love of its opposite sex inheres in all hoys, all girls, and is
as inseparahle from their nature as heat from fire. It is born,
rather engendered in them ; for nothing can be inserted afterwards.
To superadd or extinguish any is not possible.** !N'or engraft any,
as we do scions ; nor weed any out. They must procreate : there-
fore this creative element, Love, must begin its existence with
theirs, and remain forever. It must be and is prwioZ, not supple-
mental. Unless its rudiments were created in and along with
them, how could they ever love as husbands and wives, any more
than see without eyes? Puberty does not create, only devel-
ops it from its chrysalis into its perfect state. Xor change its
nature : only enhances its vigor. Thus saith natural law. What
Qs^y facts? That
All boys love girls, and girls boys, from baby-hood. Don't
girls always love and tend boy babies best ? Love boy dolls
most ? Don't all boys love to play with girls better than with
boys? And all girls with boys better than with girls?*® And
each behave more pleasantly, and play prettier, with their oppo-
site sex than with their own ? And choose and have their ^i^^e^
hearts^ too ? "* And talk just as innocently about their loving and
marrying John or Kate as about eating an apple ? You felt this.
Your children will feel it. All creation does, has done, will do
it, in spite of all ridicule, in spite of fate, "for God hath made
them so ; " nor can man change them, nor make them over. Let
a few examples show precisely what we mean, and illustrate our
principle of its spontaneous outworkings.
A six-YEAR-OLD QuiNCY BOY, whenever he meets in the streets
a right pretty girl, steps square in front of her, makes a genteel
bow, kisses her, bows again, steps one side, and passes on.
A LITTLE oirl OP SIX, Waiting her turn in my office, a little
boy of four coming in, she became uneasy, slid down from her
motlier's lap towards him, walked coquettishly up to him, took
his hand, looked tenderly into his face, touched her forehead to
Lis, then kissed bim, and began to amuse and play mother to him.
Would that frozen, coatlbss boy on Mount Air have stripped
off his coat for a brother f Or only for his sister? Would he
not, wben freezing, have stripped off and put on his brother's coat
himself, instead?*"
SOS EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OP SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
A Western boy and girl of six, neighbors, are so enamoured
that they cannot be kept apart. !N'o sooner dressed than they
rush and stay together till bedtime. All attempts to take either
without the other going along, infuriates both.
A three-year-old boy of a neighbor kisses any girl he can,
and a three-year-old girl any boy she can. Boy babes love their
mothers,** and girl their fathers.**^ All firesides, all play-grounds,
all parlors, all unitings of all children, illustrate this spontaneous
love of boys and girls for their opposite sex, more than for their
own ; so that details belittle our subject. [N'ow mark.
They are shamed and laughed out of these children's loves
almost universally. This stifles its natural flow ; dams up this
rill of Love. But it will not stai/ dammed. It must, does find
vent.*^ Ko power on earth, in heaven, can stop its outbubblings.
Self-abuse is its vent. It has got to take on this form, or die.
But die it can't ; ^ retire and gloat on itself, it can, must, does.
There, parents, is its only cause. And
There, parents, is its prevention. Allowing and promoting
its right expression is a sure antidote for its wrong. Encourage and
direct this Faculty ; not discourage and repress. Furnishing its
proper aliment will forestall its morbid cravings. As the easiest,
surest way to prevent their eating sour crab-apples is to give
them plenty of good sweet apples ; so encouraging its sponta-
neous normal action is a sure prevention of self-abuse. I would
stake my head on this — no boy, no girl furnished this its right
action, ever adopts self-abuse : and stake my head again, that all
not supplied its right, will adopt its wrong. They cannot help
themselves. Nature will not let this holy element die.*^*^ These
two evils, its death or masturbation forced upon her, she will
have the last, because least, and utterly refuses its inane death.
She made it to act, and makes it act.
There, parents, are two preventions : right action, and knowl-
edge. Grumble, object, neglect, and let your darlings all but
perish of self-defilement ; or supply, inform, and save everi)
single one,
930. — Affiliating of Elders and Juniors of Opposite Sexes.
The rising generation need guidance and advice, consequent
on their inexperience; without which they must learn "by sad
experience;" and often spoil themselves in learning. The old
love to teach, and the young to learn.
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Elders should teach youth what they have learned. Each
generation should start out in life with all the accumulated
knowledge of all its predecessors, and each be to its succeeding
what parents are to their children. All elders should enter right
heartily into the improvement of all juniors.
Opposite sexes should affiliate the most in society, just as
should fathers with daughters, and mothers with sons ;•*''** and
for the same reason. Every lad and young man needs his ma-
tronly counsellor and bosom confidant, of whom to ask advice,
with whom to spend leisure hours, and by whom to be purified
and inspired to "come up hither." Parties of old folks and
young are far better for both than all old or young ; and friendship
between a young man and an advancing female, is immeasurably
better than between him and a young woman ; for being intimate
with the older chastens passion instead of provoking it as would
that with the younger; while many things not available between
those of like ages, keep them from tempting and being tempted
to wrong. And she is benefited, as much as benefits.
All girls and young women equally need their male sympa-
thizers ; and for the same reason that daughters need sympathizing
fathers. Here is a strong instinct, God-created, and therefore
both right, and obligatory. Attest, all of all ages, whether you
have not literally " yearned in spirit " for heart's-core friendly
companionship with some one of an opposite age and sex^ with
whom to commune, sit, and stroll. This natural instinct is a
divine edict ; and to both equally beneficial with all oth«r obeyed
instincts.
Mt boyhood experience taught me this. Losing ray mother at
nine, working now at home and then away, of course craving
female sympathy without knowing it, a childless Mrs. Andrews,
sometimes my Sabbath-school teacher, by her affectionate aid in
reciting, made me love her as if my mother. I learned the more
Scripture verses when I knew she was to hear me recite them,
and recited them better when she heard and fondly prompted me ;
hated to go to Sunday-school " barefoot," lest she might think the
less of me ; and about half worshipped her up to sixteen, when I
left home to study ; besides making great sacrifices to call on her.
She was my polestar. After entering my profession, in examin-
ing her head, and finding Love large, I described her as a real
910 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
missionary for good among young men, by virtually adopting
them in feeling, and moulding them. She replied,
" Ah, you remember how I used to call the young men of Cohocton
around me, and affiliate with them/*
This is genuine female nature. I left too young to know
about other youth, but felt her sacred spell for good over my
boyhood, and know that sexual Love, uniting with parental, pro-
duces just this spirit in all women. And all elderly women
would manifest it, in proportion as they are women, but that this
divine inspiration in all women, and blessing to all young
"gents," is choked back and crucified by squeamish prudery.
Come, women, obey God in IN'ature, not man in custom, by ex-
pressing this feminine yearning in choosing your missionary
subjects ; eliciting their affections ; working right into their Love ;
gathering up all their masculine heartstrings ; and then leading
and inspiring them from evil to good. Give your influences a
literary, religious, amusing, or any other cast you prefer.
Old maids, here 's a missionary work for you. Custom alone
deters you. I know a blessed few who follow out this instinct,
despite the " talk " it creates among their prurient neighbors ;
and hope this encouragement will add hosts to their thin ranks.
Teachers, here is your card, for both becoming popular, and
doing good.
To elderly men and girls this principle applies with equal
force, yet needs no additional enlargement. I lately saw it incor-
porated into an opera by an uncle represented as thus dotingly
familiar and fondling towards his niece. It can be made to supply
to growing girls just that masculine sympathy and magnetism all
need, and for want of which almost all are starving to death sex-
ually.^ Like all other good, it can of course be perverted to
evil ; yet I rest it on the deep human-nature intuition it em-
bodies ; and leave it there.
Behold here one practical plan for moralizing our young"
men.*" Connect it also with ^^.
All who suffer from seminal losses, or sore sexual temptations,
&c., will find great benefit, comfort, and self-resisting aid by ap-
plying this principle judiciously ; for reasons given in a kindred
case in ***.
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Section V.
INTERRUPTED LOVE THE CHIEF CAUSE OF ALL SEXUAL
SINS AND ERRORS.
?31. — What does not cause all these sexual Vices and Wobs.
Total depravity does not ; because, 1. This long-used scapegoat
of all man's sins and miseries " eating forbidden fruit," is not
adapted to their production; and 2. "Adam's fall" must needs
affect all his descendants eqvxdly ; whereas some sin and suffer
sexually a hundred-fold more than others. This equality in this
cause, but difference in these effects, knocks this Adatnic cause flat.
" Physical inflammations, habits, and conditions morbidize and viti-
ate, demoralize and pervert this sexual element. You say so yourself."
True in small part only. A morbid physical state does indeed
cause sexual cravings and vices ; yet they cause it by far the
most ; whilst a right sexuality is the sovereign panacea of all
sexual ailments and inflammations.^ The cause is not yet hit.
" Alcoholic stimulants, drunkenness, tobacco, saloons, <fec."
" Guess again." These are but branches of the last.
" Ignorance of these laws and consequences. Now we have it You
yourself have just ascribed self-abuse to juvenile ignorance, and prescribed
knowledge as ita infallible preventive.*^ And since of this, of course of all."
Beasts, fowls, are ignorant, yet do not sin thus. This is
answer enough. Knowledge would prevent to a great extent.
Tint what renders this knowledge itself necessary ? It is not for
animals. This Faculty was made perfect, and adapted to work
perfectly, nonnally, virtuously, just right without knowledge
when it lacks it ; else how could the race in its primitive and
unlettered stages live aright ?
No CAUSES LIKE EITHER of these effect all these sexual demoraU-
zations, diseases, sufferings, agonies. Nor do many causes com-
bined. Instead,
Some one cause effects this mischief. Out of one tap-root grows
this trunk of evil, with all its poisonous branches and bitter fruits ;
just as all falls of all things grow out of gravitation. Then
912 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
What cause ? We must have it. Reformation is not possible
without, either individual or public. This pricking, irritating
thoim must be found and dug oiit^ before tliis terrible sexual gan-
grene can heal. Till then all saving efforts must needs be futile.
Ignorance of this cause has rendered abortive all previous attempts
at staying this sexual plague. " A horse ! A horse ! A KING-
DOM FOR A HORSE!" The cause! The cause!! ALL
HUMAN SALVATION FOR THE CAUSE!!!
9S2. — Every Iota of Sexual Evil has its Adequate Cause.
Whatever is, is caused. On this corner-stone of natural law
we build. It needs no laying, for Nature, in and from the begin-
ning of all things, laid it. All see and admit it, except a few
thin-skinned, soft-pated, special-Providence bigots. Yet none of
all those who admit the sovereignty of causation, at all realize its
sweep or minuteness. Every hair grows and falls, every twinge
of pain and thrill of pleasure from head to feet, and generation
to death, aye /orever, come and go at its j&at.
" Take care lest you exalt it above God Himself."
This legal institute is His .sovereign mandate. His all-govern-
ing principle, from which He never does, will, can depart one
hair's-breadth.
All sexual and affectional sins and sufferings are, therefore,
caused. Those who dispute that^ are no philosophers, and un-
worthy of notice.
All effects have their adequate causes — those precisely
adapted to produce just these specific effects, and no others.
These causes are apparent. Why should they be hid ? God
publishes His laws ; because He wants them known, that they may
be obeyed. His unclouded noon sun is no more plainly visible
than are His natural laws. They are neither occult, nor even in-
tricate. A fool on the run can't help seeing them, or be misled
by any deceptive " Lo ! here, lo! there." All who do not see
them, don't because they wonH^ not can't. All who don't, are
stupid fools, or bigotedly blind blockheads ; blind only because
they wrniH see — " none so blind."
These causes are as great as these miseries are appalling.
And as coequal with civilized society as are these vices. Only
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Bome deep, all-potential, all-pervading, most aggravated, malig-
nant and fatal cause could effect all these monster evils.
We claim to expound these patent causes of all affectional and
sexual ills of all individuals and the body politic ; of mind and
body ; of all physical sexual diseases ; all female complaints ; all
male losses included. Hear, scan, all ye interested. And who
are not ? At such a promise stop aiid look !
Whether we give the right causes or not is also as perfectly
apparent as are these causes themselves. Examine ; accept ; or
controvert, as truth and self-interest demand.
They should bb ferreted out and exposed. The alarm re-
veille must be beaten. The warning bugle should be sounded.
A terrible plague is abroad among us ; is seizing our boys and girls ;
is unsexing, despoiling all. Parents, awake from your slumbers !
You can little afford to see these fair flowers and fruits of Para-
dise thus nipped in the bud. Some moral curculio lights on all
juvenile fruit-germs, and despoils nearly all it does not kill out-
right. What are these causes ?
Violating Nature's sexual laws. That to obey those which
govern any organ or function whatever, builds it up, but vio-
lating them breaks it down, is obviously an ordinance of univer-
sal life and nature. Thus, 'whoever obeys the natural laws of
nutrition thereby builds up his stomach, and improves his di-
gestion by every such obedience ; but whoever violates them,
breaks down his digestive organs and functions by every such
violation. Thus, one of the natural laws of the stomach is, that
its temperature must be kept at about 98° Pahr. If any one vio-
lates this law by overheating it, and then suddenly cooling it by
drinking copiously of ice-water, he injures it forever afterwards.
All dyspeptics have become so by violating the natural laws of
the stomach in some form ; and their only restorative consists in
reobeying those stomachic laws, the violation of which broke it
down. All lung difficulties are induced by departing from Na-
ture's lung institutes, and can be restored only by reobeying'
them. And thus equally of all physical and mental organs and
functions whatsoever.
This universal principle governs sexuality. It has its nat-
ural laws along with every other department of Nature.**** To
obey them, is to keep this whole section of man in perfect health
and vigor till death ; but all those who suffer from sexual prootra
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tions or ailments of any kind or degree, suffer because and in pro-
portion as they have broken Nature's sexual ordinances. Every
iota of such impairment, past, present, and future, has, must of
necessity have, this for its only cause and measure. And as far
as any fall below that full amount of sexual power of which they
were originally capable, it is wherein, because, and in proportion as
they have failed to fulfil these sexual laws. And the only "ways
and means " of either restoring it, or carrying its improvement
up to its highest attainable point, consists in reobeying them.
And being paramount to all others,"^, of course obeying them,
that is, a right sexuality, renders such obedients inexpressibly
happy; whilst their violation induces sexual ailments and mis-
eries correspondingly aggravated. Then what sexual laws, when
violated, inflict all these miseries ?
Love is the gudgeon, " bearing,*' and focal centre of all things
sexual,^' "^ *^ ^^^' ^^' Hence its deranged states correspondingly
derange this entire male and female machinery, mental and
physical, together with all its wheels, pulleys, and even pivots.
Interrupted Love generates lust.
933. — All Facts prove that Blighted Love creates Lust.
Infidelity of heart invariably precedes that of person. We
have demonstrated that Love is naturally constant.®^^*^"^ Then what
causes all this incalculable amount of inconstancy and licentious-
ness now existing ? Since Love as naturally flows in its normal
channel of one Love as rivers within their banks, only some all-
j)otent cause could thus create all these sensual torrents.
Damming it up. First the facts in the case.
All Christendom, all heathendom, all time are challenged to
produce a single instance of voluntary infidelity of person, unless
preceded and caused by interrupted Love. Let any well-sexed
young female become thoroughly enamoured of any one male, her
Love for him seals her to him alone as against all others, just as
long and as far as it is kept up by its mutual expression. Attest any
and every woman who ever loved, Were you not perfectly true,
in every thought, feeling, and action, to the man you first loved,
just as long as that Love was kept glowing by its free mutual
expression ? However strong your sexual passions, even though
intensified by Love, you desired intercourse only with him, never
with any other. No other attracts you, but he does. To him
you surrender your entire being, person and all, with a right
INTERRUPTED LOVE THK CHIEF CAUSE OF ALL SEXUAL SINS. 915
hearty relish. Universal female experience is witness. Yoiins:
man, after you have once gained a true woman's whole-souled
affection, whilst you keep it up you need feel no concern lest she
prove untrue. And, loving maiden, as long as you keep your
lover's hearty have no fears lest he prove inconstant. His Love
for you is your " bond and mortgage security " on his person.
All women, all men, let your
Own sacred experience, that great truth teacher, attest : did
not your soul devotion to your loved one keep you constant in
thought and act, however many and great your temptations to
stray, whilst you kept up your mutual Love? which was too pure
to descend from a plane so exalted upon one so low. What if other
fascinating beauties did dance however gayly, or other gallants
appear captivating and talented, you were all in all to each other,
and mutually so perfectly*®* magnetized and enchanted as to pre-
clude all other loves. Your very sun, moon, and stars rose and set
in each other. Far off and near by, in gay assemblies and social
circles, in act and feeling, you were as true to each other as the
needle to its pole. Though your head were responsible for the
individual virtue of thousands of both sexes and all ages and
conditions, sleep soundly and feel safe, though they are exposed
to the temptations of a Joseph, as long and as far as all keep up
this mental phase of normal Love ; because it renders each per-
fectly satisfied with the other, and consecrates both to each other,
(xive the race one generation of uninterrupted Loves, and yofi
i)anish all forms of sensuality; forestall conjugal discords, much
more infidelities ; and preclude both by its very nature; which so
magnifies the excellences, and is so totally blinded to each other's
faults, so perfectly satisfied with and spell-bound by each other
that nothing could induce them to yield themselves to the
abhorred embmce of another. Nothing is so utterly repellent.
Even death is preferable. But
Breaking this sacred spell breaks their fidelity, because
f this prior breach in its foundation. As long ns this Love-
river flows forth in its normal channel, it wafts tlicm only
into each other's arms; whereas dissatisfaction, by damming it
up in this its natural flow, obliges it to burst over and flow out-
ftide its mental banks into the animal, or else dry up altogether.
Denied this its legitimate phase, it must cither seek a physical
•ne, or perish. It generally does the former, on the principle
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that abnormal action is better than none. This interruption now
causes those very things which strengthened a perfect Love, to
weaken one impaired ; just as those winds which strengthen
sound trees break unsound.^^
Platonic Love quenches animal in all its phases, by rendering
its participants so much liappier.'^
A RICH, FOND, PROUD MOTHER brought her daughter, a magnifi-
cent girl of seventeen, a pattern sample of her sex, with a young
man, to inquire whether they were adapted to each other in mar-
riage. Her father was extremely strict with her, never allowing
her to go anywhere unless accompanied by himself, and insisting
that she neither receive nor send any letter he did not supervise.
Yet for all she devotedly loved a very fine college-educated young
man, kept poor by supporting his mother and sister, but very
talented, and universally esteemed and loved. Her father abso-
lutely forbade her marrying him, and his seeing her, because he
was poor, but insisted that she marry this diminutive rich beau,
whom she loathed. She married as her imperious father ordered,
lived unhappily with her husband, rendered so undoubtedly by
her yet lingering first Love,^^ and in after years became badly
scandalized for her illicit amours. A virtuous girl demoralized
by interrupted aflTection.
Mrs. Sickles, full of gushing Love, bestows it all on Mr. S.,
because he elicits it by manifesting his own, and continues faith-
ful to him till he becomes too absorbed in politics and constitu-
ents, clients and investments, to express that diminished Love
for her he still feels. Her Love for him declines from sheer
starvation ; which obliges her to bestow it on another, or ignore
all men. Keys elicits her Love by expressing his own. S. is
really too busy to take lovers' talks and walks, and reciprocate
caresses with her, while K. makes her happy by complimenting
and escorting her to theatres, balls, &c., of which she is very fond ;
S. miserable by chiding and accusing. The necessary result is
infidelity to S., and fidelity to K. Though he is her legal hus-
band, he does not live a true Love life. He is as sacredly bound
by I^ature's conjugal laws to feed her Love as her body, and pay
his aifectional debt to her as his bank-note. Grant that she does
S. a great wrong, yet did he not do her a prior f And was not
hers to him but the legitimate consequence of his to her? Was
she not sinned against as well as sinning ? If he had denied Iier
INTERRUPTED LOVE THE CHIEF CAUSE OF ALL SEXUAL SINS. 917
ftll food and clothing, what would and should she then have done
to obtain them ? And if even yet S. will only cherish her gushing
affection, and reenlist her Love for him by manifesting his for
her, it will again flow forth to hira alone, and remain perfectly
true as long and as far as they continue to reciprocate it.**
McFarland furnishes a like illustration. He kills his superb
wife's Love by neglect and scolding. Richardson is sympathetic
and gallant. Her strong womanly affections, dead to McFarland,
cleave to Richardson. If McFarland had not first quenched her
Love, Richardson could not have had one iota of it. McF. did
two deep wrongs: killed a good wife's Love, which obliged hei
to love another, and then killed her lover.
Mrs. Tilton fiimishes still another. Only after Tilton broke
her heart by praising and affiliating with Woodhull, and still
further by his change of religious belief, thus mortally wounding
it by outraging her strong religious feelings, did it stray. By
nature a perfectly glorious woman, emotional,^ affectionate,*''
pious,^* in the extreme. Tilton's rupturing her intense Love for
him drove it to another, and her hearty religious fervor naturally
sought spiritual consolation ; which flexed her powerful Love
element to Beecher, who could not have obtained one iota but
for its prior breach. Whoever is innocent or guilty, Tilton
" began it " by estranging his superb wife's Love ; as have other
husbands by the hundred thousand.
This principle causes and accounts for all cases of conjugal
infidelity. It is not because those who sin have too nwch Love,
any more than too much intellect, or kindness, or justice; nor
because it is sensual by Nature ; but beo4iuse, once drawn forth
and then dammed up, it must either stop its flow, or else burst
forth in a flood of infidelity. The former unsexes; the latter
corrupts. But who is most to blame, the one who has chilled out
only to siain'e this element, or who prefers its vitiation to it8
inanition — poor food to starvation? And all required, both to
forestall and to restore all such delinquents, is simply to ro-i^herish
that pure mental Love which is its o??/?/ preventive and antidote.
In short, by an eternal law of all sexuality, in wedlock and out,
governing all males, all females, in all their relations with each
other, —
Love is instinctively constant till sknsuauzbd by its intbr-
aUPTION.
918 EXTENT, CAUSrlS, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
Virtue is as innate as eating, and as much incorporated into
humanity.*^ Did we not absolutely 2^^'^^'^ that Love instinctively
fastens on one, to whom it is perfectly true?^^"*^^ We prove?
Kature proves it! Please note how demonstratice the evidence
that one Love is the law of Love. Virtue is as spontaneous as
breathing; and sensuality, throughout all its forms, flows from
interrupted Love, just as legitimately as water gushes forth from
its spring. All the facts, public and private, which hear on this
case, accord with this philosophy.
934. — Reciprocated Love will forestall "the great evil."
These five words, uttered through Gabriel's trumpet, which
the assembled race must hear and obey, — Preserve Love in-
violate : Worship God, — would regenerate the race, and usher
in a millennium in one generation; partly by preventing adult
sensuality in all its forms, but mainly by ushering upon the
stage those as naturally prone to purity and goodness "as
sparks to fly up." Flirting, making conquests, " courting just
for fun,"^^ parental interference,^ breaking hearts, spats,"^ &c.,
cause this sea of lust, and create a world of sexual vice and
misery no words can tell, no finite mind conceive.^^^"^^ Yet
Youi"^G folks boast over their love victims as anglers over the
silly fish taken by their hidden hook. Let confidence men
triumph over their dupes ; but, O.man and woman, boast not
thou over those of the opposite sex who have confided their
afifections to you, only to be betrayed! This is sacrilege the
most sacrilegious ! Instead, let each and all guard both their
own affections, and those of the other sex.'^ Parents, especially
mothers, be persuaded, instead of furthering these captivations,
to set your faces sternly against them, by putting this book into
their hands, enforced by familiar conversations; and see to it
that their loves and courtships are genuine^ instead of ticklish
pastime. They naturally look to you for needed teachings and
advice. "Why not guide their affections quite as much as in-
struct their intellects ? Even more ; because more important to
their life-long virtue and happiness. They are more to be pitied
than blamed. They know no better. True, their instincts revolt :
but others do this ; why not they ? They follow custom, until
perverted Love ingulfs them in this whirlpool of sensuality ;
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wliereas a single timely suggestion from you, chiming in with
their own instincts, would save them.
■ Ye who would escape this horrible maelstrom of lust, in its
various forms,^"^ should pause and tremble before you be^in to
love, till assured that your Love can be reciprocated for life, and
doubly after enlisted ; nor allow it to be interrupted. Pause and
tremble, all who love and are married, before giving or taking
offence. '' Hard feelings " between the married are bad enough
of themselves ; but since they thus proportionally impel both
parties to sensuality unless they unsex, in the name of whatever
is sacred and desirable in Love and virtue, and dreadful in car-
nality, do please avoid both giving and taking ofl'ence. Cut oft*
your right hand, pluck out your right eye, anything, first. Think
how momentous, how far-reaching, how terrible its results. And
justly ; for Love once begun was made to continue^ but not to be
interrupted.***^
Doting parents, loving, intelligent mothers, your very life is
bound up in the chastity of your darling only son. IIow can
you insure his virtue? Suppression only obliges this amatory
river to overflow into sensuous channels;^ but give him right
female associates, influences, and affections, and he will no more
seek prostitutes, nor revel in lust, than rivers run up. You
would by all possible means preserve your daughter chaste and
virtuous up to her marriage, all through life. Furnish her with
a pure, right expression of Love, and you render its wrong utterly
impossible. Interdicting her Love unsexes, or makes her a
harlot. Neither you nor she can afford either. If she marries
anotlier and proves true, she is superhuman ; but if untrue, take
the blame upon your own selves. Parental interference sexually
demoralizes children. These are serious consequences.*^*
Devotkd wife, you would by all means prevent your dear hus-
band from running after ** strange women." By satisfying his
Love at home, you prevent its going astray ; otherwise, he is sure
to express, it in some other form. No power on earth or in
heaven, either within him or without, can prevent its action ah
together.**^ Anxious wives, please think out this solution.
Jealous consorts, here is your only j)reventive and cure. If you
supply this Love want of your legal partner, you will have no
further occasion to be jealous ; but if you do not, your jealousy
and watching may agonize you, but will not save him. Or, if
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your sharp watching keeps him straight in act, it cannot keep
him pure in spirit. This sin is of the heart. Do you realize the ter-
rible consequences of killing his Love by scolding, by anything
offensive, namely, driving him into adultery ? ^^'
Wife-neglecting and scolding husbands know that staying
out nights, starving or crucifying a wife's Love, by whatever
means, is serious business for both, if her virtue is worth much
to either.^ Letting it starve while you make money '-'-doii't paij.''^
All cause for jealousy, lovers included, is caused solely by disaf-
fection, and curable only by restoring Love. When this can be
done, do it ; but if not, as well give up first as last. A wife con-
fessed—
" I LIVED AND worked with and for ray husband ten years, with all
my soul, till he took a lewd woman to Sau Francisco ; speut our all ; infected
me ; killed my Love for him ; obliged me to love another or die ; and I glory
in paying him back in his own coin. I love babies, and being married, have
a right to have them ; but won't by that old reprobate. This child is mine,
but not his.'*
Let all men, all women put and keep their Love on IsTature's
true plane of pure male and female affection, and they will no
more seek this sensuous one than eat bitter, sour, poison grapes,
when proffered plenty of delicious Black Ilamburgs. Let your
son grow up in pure Love to his mother, sisters, and female
acquaintances, and you need have no fears that he will ever seek
'' her house whose steps take hold on hell ; " but interrupting his
Love, drives him there until he loves another.
Demoralized Love is the cause, and virtuous the natural anti-
dote, of prostitution and sensuality, throughout all their forms,
phases, and degrees. Every case, public and private, legalized as
in France, and connived at by law as in England and America ;
whether perpetrated in the venereal haunts of our cities and vil-
lages, or poisoning the very atmosphere of nearly all our country
districts; whether arraying itself in the gaudy attire. of fashion-
able life and usages, or in its most beggarly and loathsome forms,
is traceable directly to interrupted Love as its first and chief
procuring cause.
Reciprocated Love thus becomes Nature's great preventive
of sensuality, throughout all its phases and degrees, individual
and public; in your own self and children; in your conjugal
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partner and all mankind, throughout all climes and ages, and
under all circumstances. This sensuality is a divine abomination,
not creation ; a human fungus, wholly abnormal. Every feature
of human nature revolts at it, and marshals all its forces to exter-
minate it, as does the constitution of a robust man to expel dis-
ease. Its supjjression is no more difficult than preventing its
only cause. Love alienations. It superabounds thus because
almost all suffer them. Prevent them^ and you prevent all forms
and degrees of carnality. Unless, and till then, all attempts to su^h
]>res8 public and private prostitution will be utterly unavailing;
and all other means must still prove, as they always have proved,
futile. Keep Love inviolate, and you will never need to discuss
whether its haunts had better be suppressed or licensed ; for none
would then have either inmates or [)atrous.
We have demonstrated, by philosophy and fact, that Love
reciprocated guarantees virtue ; blighted, necessitates vice.
935. — Man the Special Guardian of Female Virtue.
Woman's chastity is man's jewel, and mainly his to preserve.
Since her Love and person go together,** he should take neither,
except where he has a full right to both ; and stand sentry as a
wall of fire around both ; besides punishing all trespassers on
either by law and public condemnation. She should indeed pro-
tect both herself; yet he should give her no occasion to protect
either ; nor even take advantage of any impassioned proffers
she might make him. Properly develop and direct her aflections
by giving her a suitable object seasonably, and not one in mil-
lions ever could possibly be seduced.^ All human experience
attests that virgins never entice men till they Love; nor any
other. Proffer liberties before, and you catch tartars. Nothing
equally rouses their wrath. Yet those in Love reciprocate,
sometimes even profier indulgence ; yet never either till allowed
to love on for months and years ; modesty holding Love in check
till sufficiently ripened for maternity.
Woman's overwhelming Lovb alone renders her seducible; yet
is her chief jewel. What would she be with it feeble ? Of little
Hervico in her specific female capacity as a wife and mother. Be-
hold how it exalts her nature; transforms her into a terrestrial
jingel;*'* and renders her the most perfect work of creation's
Architect. Could an angel^s power of speech portray the exalta-
tion it superadds to her? Is it godlike to " love our enemies/"
922 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
and " return good for evil " ? Behold her clinging, even to her
betrayer, with a devotedness bordering on madness! Rendered a
complete wreck in mind and body, by arts however diabolical,
one would expect her to arm herself with fiendish vengeance, and
drink his heart's blood ; yet behold how fondly she embraces him,
still delighting to serve him, even to tlie utmost that complete
devotedness can possibly devise ? She keeps sleepless vigils, night
and day, over his sick bed ; seizes every opportunity to load him
with perpetual kindness ; closes her ears to whatever may be
uttered against him; is blind to his faults, though as palpable as
Egyptian darkness; and pertinaciously defends him, though as
black with crime, committed even against herself, as a devil
incarnate! She is utterly regardless of self, and patient under
all the misery she suiFers, because they are inflicted by him ; yet
devoted still. Completely wrapped up in him, she meekly
endures any and every torture he inflicts ! 0 woman, tby Love
is indeed a marvel! Could angels more than requite such evil
with such good ?
O MAN, HOW CAN you make this very ecstasy of her Lore, and
its consequent concomitance of person,'^^^ your chief means of her
ruin? Will you pervert what was instituted expressly for your
own highest good into an instrument of death to her body, pollu-
tion to her soul, and destruction to all her angelic excellences?
Granted that her ecstatic Love puts her within your power, will
you seduce her because you can? Will you not rather refuse
indulgence attainable, even proffered? especially since her desire
is wisely unto you ? Will you make her highest female ornament
and crowning excellence your dagger? Shall not the very /ad
that you can thus easily win her Love, and through it possess her
person, protect both ? How is it elsewhere ? Does the noble lion
pounce upon the feeble lamb because he can ? Yet to the mighty
bos and powerful horse shows he such favors ? Do strong men
abuse weak because weak ? Instead, even when provoked by infe-
riority, they say, " I would fight an equal, but scorn to conquer
an inferior." Is it contemptible to tantalize a helpless victim, or
break the bones of a prostrate foe? and is it not infinitely more
80 to torture a helpless suppliant, and she your best friend and
greatest earthly blessing? A pirate once captured a merchant-
man. The piratical captain encountered in deadly combat one
of its resolute seamen. Long and desperately they fought and
INTERRUPTED LOVE THE CHIEF CAUSE OF ALL SEXUAL SIXS. 92.'^
thrust, each doing his utmost to imbrue his sword in the heart's
blood of the other. An unlucky blow at length broke the sea-
man's sword at itfi hilt. Baring his breast, he instantly cried,
" Stab ! for I am in your power." The pirate answered : —
" No ! As long as you fought me, I sought your life ; but now, your
helplessness is your safety. So far from killing a defenceless foe, I will
protect your life even with my own. Or, accept another sword, so as again
to become my equal, and I will kill or be killed."
Helplessness is safety. Shall the fond mother love and
cherish her feeblest ofl'spring most, and all involuntary avoid
treading on the worm because of its impotence ? yet shall man
stamp woman into the very dust, because sh^ is in his power,
though put there for his own good ? Or is it so great a victory
to capture her affections, all ready at the outset for capitulation,^
and through them possess the citadel of her person? ** Will you
despoil it because you can? rob it of its priceless jewel — and all
the diadems of earth are trash compared with it — because you
possess its gates ? Shall not that render you responsible for its
safe-keeping ? Does not its robbery criminate yourself more than
her? Why vaunt yourself on perpetrating sacrilege? Yet how
many recount their female conquests, obtained by whatever strata-
gems and false promises matters nothing, as exultingly as Indian
warriors powwow over their scalps? thus glorying in their own
shame ! Even those whose Conscience prevents actual indulgence,
often go far enough to see tliat they could go farther, and then
boast of their power over woman's passion, and jeer at the " easy
virtue " of her sex. " Woe unto him who putteth the cup to his
neighbor's lips ! " Those who pray to be delivered from tempta-
tion must not turn tempters. She may be so splendidly sexed,
and easily impassioned, so hearty in her female, conjugal, and
maternal instincts, as to bo hardly able, untcmpted, to preserve
her virtue, especially right after her monthlies ; then for you to
tantalize her passion by courtship, and assault her virtue by
promising marriage, is the very acme of meiinuess, hypocrisy,
and robbery. About as soon perpetrate murder, as pretending,
without intending, marriage. So far from enticing woman.
Evert man should be a Joseph, nor sin with her when she
tempts him. This is instinctive manhood. A warm-blooded,
splendidly-sexed wife, whose petulant, legal husband had killed
924 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OF SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
her Love by scolding,®^^ in often consulting her magnetic doctor,
"every inch a man," becoming intensely in Love and impassioned
with him, threw her arms around his neck and hugged and
kissed him amorously ; when he said kindly,
" Let us both duly consider whether, by gratifying our passion, we
might not do what both would always regret, yet could never recall."
" I AM LITERALLY PERISHING for some man to love and enjoy ; and you
are so lovable that I let my awakened passion overcome Conscience ; and
thank, almost adore, you for not plunging with me into this yawning abyss."
Woman can and should guard her own virtue and render it
absolutely secure by bestowing her Love only ichen she may prop-
erly bestow her person. This done, she need not be forever on
the alert lest she fall. Properly to guide and govern her Love, is
perfectly to protect her person ; because the latter is utterly inac-
cessible except through the gateway of the former.^^ Keep that
closed, and the fortress of her person is absolutely impregnable.
Guard but the beginnings of Love, till you are certain of happy
wedlock, and all the wily arts of the seducer will make no im-
pression. Does this scientific safeguard weaken resolution ? Does
it not nerve to effort, by pointing to complete salvation, easily
attained ? So far from casting you into the stream of passion,
and promoting passivity while its fearful current sweeps yon on
to destruction, it puts the only oar of self-preservation into your
hands, and tells you how effectually to ply it ; or keeps you
securely housed on shore till you may virtuously and happily
embark for life. This concomitance of person and aft'ection, your
only vulnerable point, your betrayers fully understand, jet you
do not ; and hence, you too often open the door of affection to
their solicitation, through which they can easily enter the sanc-
tuary of your person, only to pollute and destroy both. Oh, de-
pravity beyond comparison ! Oh, sacrilege without a parallel !
Man, by your love to the mother who bore you, sisters who dote
on you, and dear ones who idolize you, by even your own self-*
interest, be entreated never to draw out any woman's Love unless
you make her your wife.
936. — Seducers the very worst Beings on Earth!
Just think what you have done. You have laid the whole
being of that pure, good girl, with all its enjoying capacities and
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angelic virtues, in ruins. You have converted all her life-jojs
into sorrows ; dressed all Nature in mourning to her ; blighted all
her flowers and disrobed all feathered songsters of their beautiful
plumage and thrilling notes to her ; hung a millstone around her
doomed neck and exist her into the " dead sea ; " chained her to a
putrid carcass — herself; infused into her healthy veins earth's
most deadly virus ; "^ hung her very sun and moon in gloom,
and make her say, with poor Charlotte Temple, and all others
seduced : —
** Thou glorious orb, supremely bright, In vain thy glories bid me rlBe
Just rising ft-om the sea, To hail the new -bom day ;
To cheer all Nature with thy light, But, ah ! my morning sacrifice
What are thy beams to me ? Is but to weep and pray.
•' What are all Nature's charms combined. Oh, never, never, while I live,
To one whose weary breast Shall my heart's anguish cease !
Can neither peace nor comfort find, Come, friendly Death, thy mandate glre.
Nor friend whereon to rest? And let me be at peace."
You HAVE KILLED AND BURIED HER SOCIALLY. All her aSSOcl
ates worth knowing, cast her upon the streets as vile and wicked
Her strong female nature yearns for male companionship ; yet all
men spurn her with utter disgust, or seek her only to indulge
that lust they hate her for gratifying. What scalding tears
embrine her haggard cheeks, till she becomes wholly self-aban-
doned ! What miserable days and wretched nights ! For her no
more sweet sleep, Nature's great restorer. You have made a lus-
cious angel virgin a vampire fiend I ** Devil incarnate, even
Fool, your own life is forfeited. How much more enjoyment
you could have taken in her society virtuous than vicious ? Be
it that you make money and succeed in life, a just God will
not let any man enjoy much after having seduced one of Hie
anointed virgins.
You BROKE HKR HEART. She could have borne poverty, neglect,
odium, loneliness, grief, desolation, and all. She loved you.
This is worst of all. You charmed her, as venomous serpents do
harmless, beautiful birds. Poor victim ! She thought the sun roee
and set in you. She doted on, trusted, idolized you, and therefore
yielded.** She thought you her God, but found you her demon.
Villain! you broke faith! and faith plighted to a lovely, angelic
girl. Vulture ! prey on your own sex if you will, but never on
darling, doting woman.
Blast you, infernal fiend, who does this wicked deed ! Be
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hurled, himted from society! Scorned by men! Spurned by
women ! Uncheered by one ray of Love ! The plagues of Egypt
be upon you, with the mark of Cain, and blasts of sirocco!
Compared with this crime, murder is innocence. Even hanging
forever would be too good for you. And you are thus hung, in a
perpetual hell on earth, the fagots and brimstone of whose flames
you piled and lighted ; while from the heaven of Love, and all its
joys, you have forever excluded yourself. The raging fires of this
diabolical passion are lit up all around, all within you. Pestilence
Is in your very breath. Moral stench is your only atmosphere,
and gross sensuality your perpetual wallowing-place. A living
purgatory within and without is your endless portion ; because
that very blackness of depravity which can ruin an unsuspecting
woman causes suffering. What sin, what misery are like yours ?
You convert the fairest, most lovely flowers of humanity into
prostitutes : the worst beings in this world or the other, except
yourself.^ Society has an undoubted right to inflict on you any
and all the punishments it may rightfully inflict on any. Indians
should 'be paid to torture you in this life, and the prince of
Satanic torturers throughout the next. Confidence-men, robbers,
swindlers, even murderers, are nowhere in comparison. Of all
human villany, this is far the most villanous. You spoil a
darling girl, her father's idol, mother's pet, relatives' pride, and,
but for you, some other man's excellent wife and mother. Think
of the happiness you blight, and misery you cause ! Such
diabolism a just God will certainly avenge. You who have ever
seduced a virgin, haste to the city of refuge. " Lay hold on the
horns of its altar," ask her forgiveness for the worst of crimes,
and support her well for the rest of her life. Seek pardon, and
obtain forgiveness of all her relatives, mother in particular, and
of your heavenly Father, her Avenger, for slaying one of His
darlings. Yet is not yours " the unpardonable sin"?
An AVENGING God has you " in hand." If " society " does not
dee you punished. He will lash you terribly. You cannot afford
TO incur those awful and varied miseries this sin will assuredly
oring down upon your devoted head. Escape all you can, yet
still your punishment is " greater than you can bear." It dooms
you as long as you exist, throughout this life and that to come,
to suffer untold agonies throughout every part of your being.
" The mills of the gods grind slowly, but they grind to powder."
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You who have not thu8 cursed your own life, for your oum sake,
0 don't. YoH are worth too much thus to spoil yourself besides
spoiling her.
Society, you shall not much longer thus crucify all erring
females, even though they yield to seductions the most artful, and.
promises of marriage the most sacred, yet allow their perjured
seducers to go " scot free " to redouble this worst of crimes. You
pity all other victims and punish the criminals; yet here pun-
ish those poor abused victims, and actually laud seducers. " Pub-
lic opinion " must pardon at least " first offenders,** and visit
condign vengeance on these most execrable banditti who prowl,
wolf-like, about all our families, from whose seductive arts the
best of women are hardly safe ; undermining female virtue under
guise of courtship and marriage.
Section YI.
INTERRUPTED LOVE CAUSES SEXUAL AILMENTS.
937. — Happy Love promotes, unhappy retards, the Monthlies.
This law applies to both sexes equally, yet we will confine
our illustrations to females. Its cause is that trunk principle that
all painful states of Love infame the sexual organs.^*^** **
Facts taught me this over thirty years ago ; and every single
subsequent observation reconfirms it. All healthy women are
much more loving, lovely, soft, tender, bewitching, fond of
kissing and cuddling and being kissed and cuddled during and
soon after menstruation than all the rest of the month ; as all
perpetually attest practically. This shows that the two go to-
gether, and this that promoting Love promotes this excretion.
All women while in a happy Love state menstruate the more
freely and regularly, and with less pain ; but the less freely and
with more pain while suffering affectional blight ; and midway
• hen in neither. All women who lose a loved husband, or mak*
) whom they are tenderly attached, menstruate less and with
more pain after than before.
All girls will find a happy Love affair to prbmote it ; a pro-
t racted Love spat to retard it ; and all women menstruate better
after a happy marriage than before, until impregnated ; but with
increased difficulty if marriage proves unhappy.
928 EXTENT, CAUSES, AND PREVENTIONS OP SEXUAL IMPAIRMENTS.
A woman's time is a week off. She participates in a right
hearty sexual repast, and becomes " unwell " immediately.
Cohabitation during menstruation causes flooding, quite often,
when she becomes impassioned.
Like facts by thousands prove that Love-states govern men-
struation, both ways. I deliberately pronounce Love starvation
the greatest cause of female suppressions, and Love, their restora-
tion. Note how this is caused.
Love and the womb are in reciprocal sympathy.^^ Each is as
the other.^ Therefore all pleasurable love-states cause pleasur-
able womb action, and promote all its functions, thereby fitting
it for that impregnation which is ^N^ature's ultimate of Love;
while all painful Love-states throw it into a reversed state,^
which deranges its functions, unfits it for maternity, and disor-
ders it ; because it would mar her children by him who reversed
it and womb together. How plain this reason, as well as patent
these facts.
938. — Painful Love causes, pleasurable cures, Prolapsus.
Womb laxness causes its falling, and a depressed, moody,
wretched, inane, woe-begotten, forlorn, and craving Love-mood,
throws it into a like sunken state.^^" How obviously ? Per contra^
A HAPPY Love-mood sends increased blood to and through it,
which tones it up, carries off its humors, and draws and keeps
it to its place. Any, all courted, loved, petted, cuddled women
can distinctly then and there feel this redoubled flow of blood,
warmth, life, glow, action in this part ; while all women blamed
or scolded by a loved man can instantly feel a bad, heavy, leaden,
awful sensation strike right into their sexual organs, as if a thun-
derbolt struck them, and stopped there. All women have only to
note in order to experience these results. They are equally appa-
rent in all males. Wrong child-birth, and other things, may
cause prolapsus; but that goane, drifting, inane, wretched state
of mind induced by Love deferred and reversed, is the great cause.
Mark this impinging advice :
Don't pine, moan, dwell on, pore over, ruminate upon your
Love loss ; because this very miserable mental state is just what
xiurses this falling ;^^'^ which becomes the greater or less as you
pine more or less. Under " Broken Hearts " we tell you what
to do, and what not.^^"^
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9B9. — Ovarian Dropsy, Inertia, and other Ailments caused
BY WRONG, AND CURED BY RIGHT, LoVE.
The ovaries sympathize with the Love element still more inti-
mately than any other sexual part ; because they are the inner
citadel of female gender ; and to the female what the testicles are
to the male ; both being their thrones of physical gender. Indeed,
" female testicles " was their earliest and best name. Of course
chronic love-troubles, or the death or desertion of some loved
male, or marital disappointment, that worst of Love-troubles,***
is directly calculated to cause, as a happy Love is to cure, this
fatal disorder, and the hardest to cure ; medicines are powerless,
and injurious. Other female complaints, especially leucorrhoea,
are equally caused and curable by Love-states.
Ho ! ALL YE SEXUALLY AFFLICTED, whether by Love deferred, or
hearts broken, or sexual impairments, or ailments of any and all
kinds, behold in this chapter their one distinctive, specific cause,
namely, wrong Love-states. Your diseases and their medicine
are both mental.
Behold the rationale of Love in Part I. Behold in Part 11.
its magic, sovereign, autocratic, tyrannical power ever every single
organ, function, and Faculty of every single human being, even
every animal and vegetable. Behold in Parts III., IV., and V.
its marital sphere and condition. Behold in Part VI. its culmi-
nation in cohabitation, applied to the reproduction of the highest
order of offspring attainable! with Parental Love as their great
maternal and rearing instrumentality in Parts VII. and VIIL
Behold its abnormal outworkings in the preceding chapter, and
their terribly fatal ravages in this ! Behold in them all this
great love institute of Nature, like yon whirlwind, rising from its
terrestrial apex, and spreading as it rises into illimitable space!
IIo, all ye sexual sufferers, behold the cause of all your love and
sexual miseries ! Eureka the cause core of this festering, aching,
loathsome king evil of our race! Behold, shout, and rush on tc
its cure in the next chapter.
CHAPTER n.
THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICEa
Section I.
RIGHT LOVE NATURE'S GREAT SEXUAL PANACEA.
940. — Are all Sexual Evils curable? Ye^; even beneficial.
" Can these sexual vices and consequences be healed ? for if not,
our race is a stupendous failure. Must they thus curse man forever?
Must he always so brutalize — yet brutes are not thus brutish — him-
Belf, and lovely woman ? Must our young men, our country's only hope,
always thus emasculate and immolate themselves on this altar of passion ?
Must its deadly virus continue to infect and slay untold millions? and
ultimately exterminate the race itself? Doctors, have you any preventive
or cure for this moral leprosy ? Reformers, can you reform it f Philoso-
phers, can you discover its antidote ? Philanthropists, has it any panacea ?
Patriots, must population be thus prevented and swallowed up forever ? *"
Must female loveliness always continue to be converted from virgin purity
and goodness into all that is hardened and depraved in harlots,*"® to dis-
seminate that most loathsome and fatal virus they originate and propa-
gate? Is salvation possible? Parents, must your own pure daughters
replenish and swell these fatal raiiks? Is there no sure preventive of
their fall ? * Creative Science ' can you propound any ? "
" Can all conjugal alienations and infidelities be forestalled, and it*
hardened •" and comatose*®^ victims be restored to sexual life ? Is there any
guarantee that every well-intentioned marriage shall be always happy ? "
Yes, one specific, easily applied, and rendering all who marry
happier than their most sanguine anticipation can imagine.
These are grave questions, and positive answers, and they go
right down to the innermost self-hood of all. Who but is as
personally interested in them as in their own and other peopled
lives, virtue, and happiness? Then mark well this answer.
A RESTORATIVE PRINCIPLE is appended to all broken natural laws,
and therefore to the sexual. As wherever venomous serpents
crawl there grows an herb to neutralize their venom ; as all
diseases have their panaceas and poisons their antidotes ; as
broken bones reunite, and amputated branches send out new
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«!' »IT LOVE NATURE^ GREAT SEXUAL PANACEA. 931
frait-bearir'5 ofF-shoots ; why should not this recuperative 7?n??-
eiple apply equally to Love, and its j>ainful consequences? It
must. It does.
The true philosophy of sin and suffering has been propounded
but once.'**"®* The bare fact that they constitute an integral part
of Nature, proves that they fulfil some benign and necessary
mission ; for she is all good. Their rationale is based in Divine
Goodness, not fiendishness. They are instituted for man*s personal
<jooii^ not God*s punitive glory. All pains and pleasures are God-
invented teac/iers of II(^ Uiios ; and His teachers icili teach. Ex-
perience keeps a good school, but dear — in one sense, when we
enjoy; dearer in another, when we sufier — and fools learn in no
other; yet ha^e to learn in this. Since its object is to reform all
by practically showing them how infinitely better is obeying
than violating the natural laws, it will reform. All pain is both
instructive and curative;^ besides saying "sin no more." So is
all pleasure, by saying "continue doing thus."
Sin is to moral excellence what pain is to life. Both are
SELF-CURATIVE. All cvil matcs good, its antithesis, stand out in
bolder relief by contrast. Could those who have never com-
mitted sin loathe it as can those who have experienced its loath-
someness? Could Gough portray the evils of intemperance a
tithe as eloquently if he had not himself /e^^ them? Experience
is our best teacher. The repentant prodigal son was the most
esteemed and loved ; because the better for his dissipation. A
very pious old minister, formerly very dissipated, but now "con-
verted," when warning youth most earnestly against the evils of
early dissipations, often winds oflT with, —
" Fur I knovo um, know um a//, know um by tad experience."
God TEACHES YOU his sexual laws by your ecstatic enjoyments
in their obedience, and agonizing sufferings consequent on their
violation. As a man " burnt" by harlots either lets them alone,
because they give him more pain than pleasure, or else ^ets burnt
nut; 80 every iota of your own miseries, in any part of youi
Nature, ho all ye who suffer, "will work out for you a far more
exceeding" amount of sexual enjoyment than if you had neither
sinned nor suffered. All sexual sinners ca\\\ and imuit bo both
saved, and made better than before — must learn these sexual laws
by experience, and obey theui from self-interest. Thinkers will
932 THE CURES 07 ALL SEXUAT. SINS AND VICES.
iinda new and the only true punitive stand-point expounded in
'•Human Science," *^'^= ^-''^ whicli unfolds the Divine Character
and government in a light iniinitely more grand, glorious, just,
and henign than mortals can fathom or imagine ; besides defend-
ing them against those malign imputations inherent in some
tlieological dogmas ; while all sexual sinners and sufferers will
there see why and how they both can and must be both redeemed
from all their woes, the consequences of all their sexual depravi-
ties included, and made immeasurably the better than ever; and
than they could possibly ever have been if they had never sinned
or suffered. So
Look aloft, all ye who have erred in moments of passion.
Raise your crestfallen heads, all ye who have yielded to sore
temptations ; for as " reformed rakes make the best husbands," so
your own moral purity and restoration are both possible and
certain. Then, shout one loud, long hurrah, and rush on to its
" ways and means."
941. — Aching and Broken Hearts; and how to make them
BUTTER THAN EVER.
Heart-healing is infinitely important to an almost infinite
number. See in former chapters what a magic, sovereign, abso-
lute, even tyrannical, power Love wields over body and mind -,
what havoc its morbid action makes ; what death-blows its
wrong, what life-tonics its right exercise administers. Righting
this gudgeon, on which all human destinies revolve, rights up
all else. And oh, what life luxuries it proffers I How many and
how great its salvations from all forms and degrees of lust, "the
great evil," marital infidelities, even marital discords, and poor
children ? ^^
Love troubles cause more heart disorders than everything
else combined. All painful Love feelings strike right to the
heart."® " Died of a broken heart" would be the true verdict of
millions of deceased women.
Hearts often literally burst from* disruptu red Love. Turtle-
doves always keep close together, because their mating instinct
is so powerful. Mrs. Ay res, of Jersey City, having a caged pair,
put one dove into another cage, and though hanging side by side,
so that each could put its head into the other's cage, yet they
showed the utmost uneasiness, till, when one was taken away,
RIGHT LOVE NATURK'b GREAT SEXTTAL PANACEA. 933
the otlier flew wildly around its cage, uttered a mournful note,
and fell back dead ; and on being opened, its heart was found to
be literally burst! Extra aft'ectionate dogs have fallen dead at
the grave of a recently interred master, whom they loved, with
their hearts literally burst open. Why should not the human
Ijeart also be ruptured by Love suddenly disrupted; especially in
woman, since her Love is immeasurably stronger than canine, but
heart not ?
A MAIDEN RELATIVE by marriage, the daughter of a most
devoted couple, and one of the most affectionate of her sex, long
engaged to one she literally idolized, on finding sudden but con-
clusive proof of his infidelity, was suddenly struck down in u
severe fit of sickness, in which she trembled long on the verge
of death, but from which a strong constitution, aided by indig-
nation, which finally came to her relief, enabled her to rally and
live for years ; and ever afterwards she positively averred that
the instant the blow came she felt something give way about her
lieart. On being ridiculed for asserting what was alleged to be
anatomically impossible, she appended a codicil to her will, with
an appropriation, enjoining her post-mortem dissection to ascertain
whether her heart had, or had not, ev^r been ruptured ; which
demonstrated that such a lesion had actually occurred^ and healed.
Let this fact be its own logician. Those who object that " this is
impossible," are reminded that the lungs, brain, &c., heal ; then
why not the heart? At all events," heart-broken " women, in count-
less numbers, " drag their slow length along " through life, more
dead than alive, because half paralyzed by disappointed affection.
As when the curculio worm probes the pit of the plum, it shrivels
preparatory to falling; so many a most loving and lovely young
woman is carried to a premature grave by the gnawings of
blighted Love. How long since, in your own neighborhood or
family, a beautiful, accomplished, sentimental, excellent girl died
nominally of consumption, or some other chronic disease, but
really of Love deferred? She loved more devotedly than wisely,
was neglected, pined m' secret, began to fade, doctored without
benefit, became alternately pale and hectic, sank slowly hut surely,
because her life chit had been probed, and to-day lies "moulder-
ing back to dust" in her dismal tomb! The doctors medicate
unsuccessfully women whom restored Love would cure as by
magic. Future chapters show xohy most sexual ailments ^av«
934 THE CURES OF ALL SFXUAL SINS AND VrCES.
this cause. But leaving these to samplify all, let us inquire now
the effects of disordered Love can be obviated.
Can broken hearts be healed 'i Is salvation from these terribly
paralyzing and agonizing consequences of ruptured Love possi-
ble? Must all who love only to be disappointed, either die, or
else become demoralized, sexually ? Has not i^ature anticipated
such cases, and provided a remedy ?
Yes, answers that fundamental principle just demonstrated
that all punishment makes better. No heart can be too badly
broken to be healed, and even bettered by its breach. All suf-
fering miisi benefit ; if not here, at least hereafter. How soon,
is the only question. And it will be the sooner or later as you
follow Nature's Love ordinances. And the more you suffer the
greater will be your cure. What God attempts. He achieves.
What agonizing miseries, in what countless forms, depraved
Love intlicts 1 Yet their every iota " is a blessing in disguise."
As sickness, rightly managed, cleanses the system of morbid
matter, and leaves it more healthy than before ; ^ as bitterness
tasted is more loathed than when merely seen and described ; as
sin repented of, by strengthening his hate of bad and love of
good, leaves the repentant on higher moral ground than if he had
not sinned ;^ as burning his fingers a little keeps the child from
burning them a great deal; as honey is extracted even from
bitter flowers ; as all dismal swamps have their banks, and dark
clouds their silvery edges; as broken branches shoot out new and
more prolific fruit-bearing substitutes, &c., throughout all I^ature;
so disappointed Love can be so managed as actually to benefit its
victims. Kot that we should "do evil that good may come," but
that, having incidentally done the evil, we should cast about to
both stave off its consequences, and turn it to practical account.
Right here gush forth healing waters for the salvation of man.
Sweetening and purifying Love alone can and must restore and
reinstate every suffering individual, and raise debased humanity
itself upon a far more exalted sexual and creative plane than if
none had fallen. Eureka ! the moral elixir of the whole race I
" In God's name, then, what can I do ? I am dro'wning, perishing, and
ready for any and all struggles, sacrifices."
Hold. No sacrifices are necessary. Your cure is easy and com-
plete without any struggling. You need not go on a pilgrimage to
935
Mecca, nor make some great sacrifice, nor even spend a dollar;
but, like all Nature's remedies, it is simple, accessible to all, and
at hand ; not bitter, but most delicious ; food to the starving ; u
cooling beverage to those who faint from thirst ; marrow to acli'
ing bones; oil to gaping wounds; a resting-place to Noah's wcarj
dove ; and a balm to the jaded soul. " Ye .disconsolate," come,
receive your panacea. Raise your drooping heads ! Lift those
downcast eyes! Look aloft! Gather pluck again! Your star
of promise appears ! Your dark, lowering sky brightens ! Day
dawns ! " A rise, take up thy bed," assured of complete restoration.
Just where you must begin, and all you need to do, is to
942. — Crucify your old Love, and seek Diversion.
" My trouble lies just here. The one I loved really was the very best,
most lovable, and perfect person I ever saw. My associations are sacred,
garnered at the very bottom of my heart, and * inviolable.' ** No other
one, however perfect, could ever fill that vacant spot, or begins to be aa
worthy of my devotion, or calls forth a spark of it. I do not try to pre-
vent loving again, but have never found any other who touched my
heart, or meets my wants. Must I then suffer all these terrible evils of
interrupted Love? Can I force myself to love? This sentiment is spon-
taneous. Then how can I compel it ? "
By breaking up whatever Love you cannot consummate. No
folly is greater than still nurturing a hopeless affection. You
piously think that this nurture is a virtue, when it is sexual sui-
cide. We once thought Eliza White *^* an aifectional saint, but
now pronounce her a wicked sinner. When her lover died she
should have buried his remembrance, found another to love, and
reared a fine family of children to bless her, themselves, and
mankind. So should all others whose Love is blighted.
These bad, dismal, blue feelings inflict all this injury. Your
C/Oiijugality is inflamed. You are like half-grown childn'U on
first leaving home, almost crazy to return, though surrounded by
every means of being happy. They can neither work, cat, nor
sleep, only cry, " I want to go home." Not that your loved one
is any more neceswary to you than home to them, but only that
both think so. You are simply 8i>ell-i)ound, fiisoinated, magnet-
ized,*** like a charmed bird, and must break this love-sick s|Kdl.
You are beside yourself, and must got cool, self-possessed, rational,
by force of will. For what wud reason given but to command hi
936 THR CTTRFS OF ALT. SF.XUAT. SINS AND VICES.
just sucli cases? Its very nature is to wbij) up this lagf^ard Fiuv
ulty, ami curb tliat rampant one ; -to raise this feeling, and rise
above that: and its power is supreme.^' Its office is like that
of the hierarcli and patriarch combined; besides fortifying, and
creating fortitude. Reason is man's law-making congress, which
all the feelings should obey. What says your own sense f Can
it not overrule Love as well as Appetite, anger, fear, &c. ? As all
should abstain from eating, drinking, doing what they know is
injurious; so Self-Love, your strongest instinct,'^^ should change
Love from one object you know will make you miserable, to an-
other you know will make you happy. If you can consummate
it, do so ; if not, why spoil yourself by crying over spilt milk ? Do
sun, moon, and stars indeed rise and set in your loved one? Are
there not yet '' as good fish in the sea as ever were caught ? " and
can you not catch them ? Are there not other hearts on earth
just as loving and lovely, and every way as congenial ? If cir-
cumstances had first turned you upon another, you would have
felt about that one as now about this. Love depends far less on
the party loved than on the loving one. Or is this the way either
to retrieve your past loss, or provide for the future ? Is it not
both unwise, and self-destructive ; and every w^ay calculated to
render your case, present and prospective, still more hopeless ?
What single good do these painful reminiscences do? What evil
do they not aggravate? Come, cheer up ; and if you cannot think
pleasurably over it, forget as far as possible. Do this or perish.
One or the other is a necessity. Self-interest says
" Precious one, you are worth too much to wither thus. Away with
this melancholy pining."
Those best sexed suffer most. Men of genius often break
down under it ; and the most gifted females sufi:er most ; but why
cry away your life because in good company ? Come, forget.
" Impossible ! As well tell me to stop suffering if my eyes were pierced.
By night and day, while walking, talking, musing, even sleeping, my awful
anguish haunts me, and hangs like a millstone around my neck."
" Love is spontaneous. When it falls, it * falls /a<.* Cupid is blind,
comes unbidden, and sweeps his love-sick victims on by a blind impulse
they can neither create, nor govern."
Love often dobs " run mad," yet never should. Listen.
Doing these six things will relieve and save you :
RIGHT LOVE NATL'RK'S GREAT SEXUAL PANACEA. 937
I. Observe t»e Health laws. We assume, what " Human
S^-ience " proves, that the sympathy between mind and body is
perfect. As dyspeptics are always gloomy and irritable, sick
children cross, drunkards passional,® &c. ; so this organic inflam-
mation consequent on morbid Love both makes you think your
case worse than it is, and redoubles its own violence; while a
light, simple diet, daily ablution, regular habits, and, above all,
sound sleep, by quieting this false physical excitement, will do
much to assuage your mental grief, and thereby stave off its
destructive consequences. And there is vastly more in this
advice than we can now stop to show.
^. ISeek ADVICE AND SYMPATHY from somc intimate older friend,
who will look at this whole matter from an intellectual stand-
p-oint, whereas your feelings have warped your judgment. A
Bad, sore heart needs a bosom friend on whom to lean, to whom
to unbosom, with whom to condole. And one of
The opposite sex is by far the best. This is instinctive;
besides supplying that sexual magnetism for want of which you
thus pine and perish.**
3. Divert yourself. As headache is caused by excessive
cerebral and deficient pedal circulation, and relievable by
diverting action from inside to out ; as extra intense action
in one part often diminishes that of other parts; as restoring
e<^iuilibrium relieves congestion ; so promoting the action of the
other mental and physical functions naturally relieves this "con-
gestion of the heart.*' Think on some other subject as a means
of preventing your thinking perpetually on this. Offset this
emotion by some other. You have other passions and appetites
sufficiently strong for several combined to form a powerful
diversion. Then feed them with their legitimate food. Love
engrosses but a small part of your brain ; then why not make
the action of other organs draw off excessive action from this
Faculty ? Especially
4. Find something to do, and, if i>o88ible, out of doors. "Llle
hands are Satan's workshop." Relieve your mind by something
pleasurable. All the better if it adds bodily exercise to mental
diversion. Choose any kind of effort which interests 3'ou, but
select something. It matters little what, so that you become
diverted. Surely a man can sot himself at work pleasurably
and profitably at farming, gold-digging, literature, politics,
938 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
religion, philanthropic reforms, self-improvement, or something;
for a v/orld of work of all kinds awaits doing. Choose what,
but something; and then throw your whole soul into it. Come,
up and at it, like a true man !
" But what shall a disappointed woman do ? "
Anything she likes which interests her. Even dress is better
than nothing. Rich girls are doubly pitiable, because a luxuri-
ous surfeit leaves them without any life-insj)iring motive ;
whereas those suffer less who are obliged to do something for a
livelihood. They should help in some family, cooperate with their
minister, teach, write, take an agency for "Creative Science,*'
espouse some labor of love, adopt and do for some lad or child,
anything, but something pleasurable. Especially
5. Study JN'ature. She is full of wonders to be investigated,
and beauties to be admired. J^othing equally soothes, diverts,
cheers, and heals a wounded spirit.
Study Phrenology the most, for it is incomparably the best, in
its deep philosophies, and those many and great practical life-
lessons it teaches. But
6. Love and worship of God in His works is the very best of
medicines for both bodily and mental ailments ;^^ and is just the
panacea for " broken hearts." Try it by studying and admiring
His pov/er and greatness, as displayed in the starry heavens and
geological records ; His minutest wonder-workings in bees, in-
sects, birds, animals, and, above all, human productions ; attune
your heart in devout love and worship of the Divine Author of
all these parental arrangements for the happiness of all his crea-
tures, yourself included; and you will soon substitute ti happy
and salient state of mind for your present miserable and suicidal
one. Yet all this is mainly but preparatory to the one great,
absolute, specific, certain^ and universal restorative exactly adapted,
per se, to its delightful work. It is short but potential.
943. — Love again: All new Loves kill all old ones.
Since interrupted Love alone caused your damage, restoring
it alone can restore you. As if you were starving, food, and
nothing but food, could save you ; so your Love element is starv-
ing, and its reciprocity alone can restore you. Yet this can and
will. Since all are bound to furnish themselves with an object to
939
love,*** much more those who are suffering all these evils just
from this identical want. As those whose thirst has induced a
raging fever doubly need water; and as the sun quenches fire; so
the fires of a second Love will quench the ragings of the first.
Love usually revives after withering for a time in this averted
or deadened state, and begins again to admire, instead of hating,
the other sex. This is Love's Indian summer. By all means
improve it. Waste not a day. Prepare at once, and effectually,
for its reenlistment. By all manner of means second Xature,
and rebuild your dilapidated sexuality, by cultivating a general
appreciation of the excellences, especially mental and moral, of
the opposite sex. Affiliate with those much older or younger
than yourself. Pursue this middle ground: neither steel your
heart against the opposite sex, nor allow it to take on its craving
or perverted phase. Above all things
When it does fasten a second time, allow nothing to disturb
it! Expect, but do not allow, little differences to turn it ; remem-
bering that the fault doubtless lies more in its disapi3ointed state
than in what you dislike. Try to conquer your prejudices. Make
up little difficulties at once, and vow not to allow anything what-
ever to even begin to alienate ; and also admire and love what you
can find lovable. Spend much time in his or her society, and be
assiduous in your attentions. Follow all the advice given in
Part V. respecting cementing the affections ; and be sure to keep
yourself in a loving mood. This is your last chance. Its second
breach will prove irreparable. As when a tender vine, just bud-
ding and blossoming in the spring, is ruthlessly torn up, it soon
perishes if left exposed to wind and sun ; but if at once replanted,
and well watered, it will strike root and bear fruit, whereas its
second disturbance proves fatal ; so the affections will bear trans-
planting, if it is done soon and well, once, but rarely twice. Then
guard, by every possible means, against its second rupture.
" No. You don't catch tliis old bird with chaff twice ! I 've got my
eye-teeth cuL"
Ark they cut out? Will you reject all food bocauso your first
morsel was oftter ? Whilst locating your Love on another, dreM
up, spruce up, cheer up, and play the agreeable ; yet on no ac-
count allow it lo relapse into either its hardened or comatose
state."'
^0 THE CURES OP ALL SKXUAL SIXR AND VIPES.
A MOST AFFECTIONATE WOMAN, wlio coiitiiiues to lovG her uffiaiiced
though long dead, instead of becoming soured or deadened, mani-
fests all the richness and sweetness of the fully-developed woman
tlioroughly in Love,^" along with a softened, mellow, twilight
sadness which touches every heart, yet throws a peculiar lustre
and beauty over her manners and entire character. She has the
refined familiarity of the fully -developed woman, without any
undue boldness on the one hand, or prudery on the other ; and
is both attractive to and attracts gentlemen, besides being as
eminently gifted in conversation with them, of which she is
very fond, and makes all children, especially boys, love her dearly.
Her disappointment has rather improved than deteriorated her,
and renders her most admirable throughout. A magnificent
girl, my first sentence of whose description was, " An angel al-
most," requesting a private consultation, said :
•* I DESIRE YOUR COUNSEL on a subject of the last personal moment
From ray school-days I have loved my cousin devotedly, yet marrying him
would be a bomb-shell bursting in my father's house, which would hasten
his decease. But I have another suitor who is every way unexceptionable ;
has a four-thousand-dollar annual salary, which shows his smartness ; and
is everything I could desire, besides loving me to distraction ; yet I cannot
find one spark of affection for him. Now shall I marry my cousin, whom
I do love, or my suitor, whom I do not?"
"Your question involves a principle, the scientific solution of
which is of the last practical moment to mankind. Tell me all,
and come next Monday morning, after I have thought your case
all out, for a judicial answer.
" Loving your cousin alone prevents your loving your suitor.
Crucifying that Love will make another spring right up in its
stead for your suitor. This is your only self-saving policy."
8he is one of the rare women whose sense rules her feel-
ings,— those are but poor human beings whose feelings overrule
their sense, — and summoned all her resolution to the funeral pile
of her cousin-love; then and there called it in; sealed up that
book ; and laid it back on the shelf of the past, not to be opened
for the present, but to be banished whenever it obtruded. Its
crucifixion was severe, but thorough. Of course now
Her heart craved masculine sympathy, Avhich she found in
her suitor, to whom she at once betrothed herself. A new Love
RIGHT IiC)VE NATURE'S GREAT SEXUAL PAJfACEA. 941
shot right up^ and fastened on him all the more tenderly because it
bled for her cousin ; but soon ceased bleeding, and in a week she
was one of the happiest of mortals ; and has continued so ever
since. All who follow in her footsteps will save all that wreck
of mind and body which must oHierwise inevitably ensue, foie-
stall all the immoral cravings created by unrequited love j^ find
complete diversion in the family ties and labors ; and fulfil their
Love destiny. This advice is infinitely important.
"I CAN NEITHER BURY MY OLD Love, DOF begin another. Though
friends, sense, self interest, even Conscience tell me the utter folly of loving
its present object, who has proved every way unworthy, and I have tried
my best for many years to wean myself, yet it still absorbs and engrosses
my whole being. As well tell the charmed bird to fly from the open
serpent's mouth. Would to Grod I could adopt your only panacea for
broken hearts. You say Love is instinctively dual,*^ sacred,** self-per-
petuating,*' «fec. : then why fool us by telling us to do the very thing you
say we can*t do f I am dying to initiate a second Love : How can I ? "
New Loves kill old. Old, while cherished, do indeed keep
out new ; yet new root out old. To begin a new is the only real
difficulty. Once started, it will both kill the old, and then re-
double itself.
L^tellect again here comes to the front.*" Reasoning with
yourself about yourself, and reflecting on the futility of loving
the old and desirableness of forming another, is your first step ;
and looking on the favorable traits of others, and searching for
lovable qualities, instead of noting their faults, your next.
Then
Come in contact with the other sex. You are infused with ,
your lover's magnetism, which must remain till displaced by
another's. Go to dances, parties, picnics ; be free, familiar, ofT-
hand, even forward ; try your knack at fascinating another, aud
yield to fiisci nations, and
" No, SIR ; I don't go through thai terrible ordeal again."
A SECOND magnetism will dispel the first, and being yet tem-
porary, is itself easily dispelled ; and there you are again free.
This is like striking the bird-charming serpent: the spell is
broken. The bird flies away.
A model woman, physically, intellectually, morally, whose bus
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942 THE CURES OF ALL SKXUAL SIXS AND VICES.
band had ticenty years before deserted her and married another,
eaid she had tried these twenty years to wean her Love from
him, despite his outrageous treatment, and yet loved him still.
Shown this new Love principle, she saw its force; set herself
about adopting it ; formed a second friendship ; and soon found
her old Love stone-dead.
Does its animal phase still linger? is the test question. If
" no," you will have the more dilticulty ; but if " aye," the less
the stronger it is ; for this shows that you are yet magnetizable,
impressible, and savable ; because a second Love has this for its
fulcrum. But
944. — "What shall Married Love Disappointees do?
" Love blight occurs oftenest after marriage, and when it does, it
becomes far more crushing. Society will not let such love again.^^ Hedged
in on all sides from even its refined and friendly expression, must it starve
out itself, and them ? What can such do ? Above all, what can disap-
pointed wives do to prevent becoming unsexed ? "
This question is infinitely important, almost ; because it so
deeply concerns so many. Nearly all the married suffer more or
less for want of conjugal alienations or dissatisfaction. Dormant
or abnormal Love is the great marital calamity. Women espe-
cially experience a greater barrenness of its legitimate effects
than of any other function, physical or mental ; and need its
right direction and nurture most. In this great problem patri-
cians and plebeians, savans and ignoramuses, saints and sinners,
males and females, young and old, one and all, are so deeply inter-
ested practically, that its intrinsic personal importance must soon
challenge and receive paramount attention as the problem of. the
age. " Broken hearts " constitute so large a branch of this great
" social evil " that it cannot longer be bluffed. The cries of too
many, perishing by agonizing inches, stifle the public ear, and
must be heard. ITearly all are more or less its victims. Reader,
have you not suffered thus? This problem must be adjudicated
on first principles. Phrenology solves it. Might we not expect a
science which so perfectly analyzes this evil, to reveal its antidote?
and in this same thorough, because scientific manner? It
does. We have been studying this painful topic more than all
others, and been driven to the conclusions here announced. At
RIGHT I/)VE NATURE'r GREAT SEXUAL PANACEA. 943
first we rej^tcted them ; but they forced themselves back, by both
reason and facts, from so many stand-points, as to compel their
admission. Let those who reject this panacea for broken hearts
prescribe a better. How few but need some cure ! Then is not
this the natural one? \Vhat if it has opponents? are they the
highest types of a true human life? What if it is new? have
not innovations achieved so much in our age that fogyism should
be at a discount? Surely we should be the last to reject, and first
to accept, new doctrines. How' long since steam, niilroads, tele-
graphs, were innovations ? At least let objectors themselves
** heal the people," or else let us. Do not all objections to it
cluster around its being radical ? Does it not go right home to
your own heart's consciousness? Suppose all objections were
either withdrawn, or else reversed in its favor, would not your
own soul yearn for and clutch at it, as a longing child seizes that
aliment for which it pines? What is it but applying to the Love
element those same principles of cultivation and improvement
conceded to apply to all the other Faculties ? At all events, here
it is. Accept or reject, each for your own selves. As California
gold existed long before it was discovered, so this cure is des-
tined, whether now adopted or discarded, to be the great " healer
of nations." Many a starving soul awaits its promulgation.
That these doctrines must work a complete revolution, is evinced
by the entire economies of the race ; and that they are adapted
to effect it, all who practise them will become exultant living
witnesses. They will soon work as great a change in this depart-
ment of humanity as steam has wrought in mechanics. They
are —
1. Guard aoainst becoming disappointed by all possible means.
Parts III. and V. show how.
2. Kkstorb affkction just as far as possible, and agree to
disagree."*
8. Each makk amplb allowances for differences, and pursue a
j»olicy the most indulgent possible ; remembering that half the
trouble may He on your own side; your former Love, weak or
daint}' sexuality ,"*••'* or dyspepsia, &c., Ac.
4. Both evade and follow the advice given in the last chapter
of Part V.
5. Follow all the advice just given in'*^**'a8 to health, diver
sion by business, travels, dress, books, Ac.
944 THE CURFS OF AT.T. FFXUAT. SINS AND VICES.
6. Live at arm's length as far as you cannot live in pleasur-
able contact ; but doiiH quarrel ; for this is worst of all, and rifles
botli of your precious sexuality.
7. Get a divorce if you really must, but not otherwise.
8. Live in accord with the last section of this Part, as far as
possible. The directions there given may prove to be substitute
enough. At least you are no worse off than celibates who dont
love. Still nothino; but
9. Sympathy, affection for thIe opposite sex, in some form-, can
feed your Love element, or prevent sexual starvation.
Choose the form the least objectionable and most available ;
but some form is just as absolutely necessary for this Love want
as is food for body ; and will drive you into its wrong action, if
you do not adopt some right.^^^
10. Clandestine Love is most objectionable; because sure to be
found out, and then makes matters ten times worse than an open,
above-board course ; 2. Concealment implies something wrong ;
else why cover it, as felines do their excrements?
11. Your natural yearnings are divine commands, and obli-
gatory on you. Outright rebellion against them will crucify
you.
12. Society, you must relax your rigidity somewhere. You
shall not thus crucify loving women, and drive them into lu3t.
Give and sanction easy divorce, or else allow greater familiarity ;
for Human Mature in the end must triumph. That none may
mistake our exact meaning, we say, ninety-nine hundredths can
be avoided ; but our advice appertains to cases like these
13. A pure, good, loving, angel girl, by parental advice or
cupidity, by false pretences as to himself, by being outrageously
imposed upon, married to a double-dyed reprobate, all animal,
nothing in him she can love, no Love, only lust towards her ; or
wives poisoned by his harlotage,^ or refused offspring by his
premature withdrawals, or he loathsome from drink, or erotic
lust, &c., have an inalienable birthright to divorce, virtual or legal,
and another lover. Sexual death is their only alternative. To
doom all such to exclusion from all other male society, converse,
and friendship, and oblige them to starve to death sexually by slow
agonizing inches, perishing, pining, dying by gradual instal-
ments ; to shut them up and off affectionally, is worse than
murdering them. Society, you have no right to do it ; and
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sha^nH lontr. Those are recreant to themselves who allow it.
Bigotry may condemn, but no reasoning can invalidate, these in
ferences. The last part of this Part tells all such what to do.
Society, you shall not much longer thus immolate these good
wives, by casting them out as unclean if they do love, or com-
pelling them to crucify their God-given nature if they do not.
They are too precious to be thus sucriticed on your prudish altar.
Their relations to their husbands are purely kgal^ not moral. No :
not even legal. A shyster sells a fixed-up horse, spent, ring-
boned, spavined, halt, heavey, and blind, that bites, kicks, and
runs away besides, for a perfect one. The pay is by a promissory
note. Can the cheat collect it? Nor should this cheat be allowed
to isolate his deceived, cheated, merely legal wife from all others,
and torture and crucify her by inches. lier woman nature compels
her to love ;"®twlio are yoa to thus forbid ? She is as good as you
are any day. Leave her to stand, or fall, to her own Master,
" natunil law," not to you. If she hides all expression, does this
quench this feeling ? Or if sKe quenches, what is she ? Come, a little
sense, even though merciless. Such women, choose ye between
God's "higher law" of Love, and society's countermand of it.
You are hereby remanded out from the petty court of society, to
the august tribunal of God's natural laws.
Section IL
restoration of those sexually demoralized.
945. — Repentance and Reformation Indispensable.
The PRODIGAL SON, repentant, was the more esteemed and lovrd,
because completely reformed and mellowed down. The law
Christ thus illustrated applies equally to all shades and degroert
of sexual sinners. Such, un re formed, make the worst; reformed,
the best. Mark the reform. Their repentance is the very
essence of their restoration. As long as Ephraim remains "still
joined to his idols," ''let him alone." All hope impinges only
on this reform, and this on " re|>entance." Both must be thor-
ough, heartfelt, and complete ; else all eflbrt is useless. As *' tlie
pledge" is the chief instrument in reforming inebriates; so a
946 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
like "pledge," implied or sworn to, is indispensable to sexual
reform; and equally effectual.
Some of both sexes are " incorrigible " till they sin and suffer
more. Harlots, enamoured of their giddy, dashing life, the
coarser elements of their vulgarized nature inflamed, while all its
finer are seared, wedded to their bacchanalian idol, deserve little
pity, and cannot yet be saved ; but the great majority of them fall
as it were "by accident," and are still good at heart. They
practise prostitution as their only livelihood. They must eat,
sleep, and keep warm, yet are absolutely refused all other means
of keeping at bay the wolf of dire necessity ; whereas if any other
remained, hoivever menial or laborious, they would exultingly
" accept the situation." By ^N'ature they are as good as those who
condemn them. Do we stand wholly by our ovm strength ? Sub-
ject us to their temptations, and should even we withstand ? Is
the real difference so heaven-wide between us, except in thos€
circumstances which have saved us, but ruined them ? They are
our dsters^ not female brutes, nor devils. Many of them are supe-
rior women, mentally and physically, — splendid-looking, truly
beautiful and intellectual. Their very beauty, and its accompa
nying intensity of feeling, ruined them. The taste of no epicure
for his delicacies and viands equals that of seducers for their
"game." Ordinary women tempt and are tempted by them less.
" The best only," is their motto. Let observation, the more
extended the better, attest whether the majority of premature
mothers, and of those seduced, have not warm Temperaments,
cordial, whole-souled feelings, and just the elements, properly
directed, for making excellent wives and mothers. Talk to their
consciences, before they become case-hardened, and they weep and
sob as if their very hearts would break. Their existing depravity,
admitted to be without a parallel,**^ is less innate than artificial
They are more unfortunate than naturally corrupt. Unless se-
duced by artfulness the most consummate, they would now have
filled important places of interest and usefulness in families and
social circles ; and can yet. Their case is bad, but not hopeless.
They have the necessary materials, and require only asylums or
kind families in which to commence reform and restoration.
Shall Washingtonianism rescue from the gutter loathsome drunk-
ards, cast off and cast out for a score of years, the pests and de-
testation of all, and reinstate them in society, converting beggars
RESTORATIOK OP TH08E SEXUALLY DEMORALIZED. 947
into princes, aye, making them as eloquent and intellectual as a
Gough ; and shall not similar means shed equal blessings on this
forlorn class ? Are they not quite as valuable, and equally capable
of restoration? Granted that the labor is more arduous, shall
not the temperance victory lead on to similar conquests in this
sister reform? Is anything now hard which should be done?
But, difficult or easy, shall humanity rest till it is achieved ? If
our neighbor's house is on tire, we run to the rescue, heedless of
danger: then shall we behold the souls of the fairest portion of
creation set on fire by this torch of perdition, burning mind and
morals to the cinders of destruction, unconcerned, perhaps deri-
sive? Fathers and mothers in Israel, brothers and sisters of phi-
lanthropy and virtue, let us address ourselves to this neglected,
but arduous and most needed work of humanity. They can be
saved by thousands, not by ejecting them as vile pests, but treat-
ing them as human sisters ; nor by prayers and preaching as nmch
as by personal efforts; nor by re[)roaching them for their frailty,
but by encouragement. This is a mighty "labor of love," but
the dawning millennium will achieve it ; and even a few yeare
will witness a mighty revolution.
Forty years ago, J. R. McDowell, one of the most devoted
missionaries the world ever had, fail'^d in attempting to save this
class, because "society" set its face then more persistently against
this movement than now. A moral reform society in New York
lately returned one naturally good, reformed, and converted, with
their recommendation for church-membership; and on her going
to church, that very church-member who first seduced her, L'ft his
pew ivlien ami because she entered it ; thereby publicly stigmatizing
his own victim.^^ Yet, all hail ; " revivals " are broaching this sub-
ject, gingerly indeed ; but this beginning is everything.
946. — Penitence presupposes Forgiveness.
Repentance implies absolution. Both necessarily go to-
gether. Mankind have always rec(»gnized the natural law of
"forgiveness of sin." The old Jewish "cities of refuge" were
but its outgrowth. Forgiving the penitent is one of the func-
tions of Conscience and Kindness, and the corner-stone of Chris-
tianity. "Society" has a right to some gunrantee of penitence;
but when that is assured, it is solemnly obligated to forgive,
restore, and trust
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Only those who are contrite for their past sins, and heartil -»
Bick of this mode of life, are worthy of any sympathy or refOm
eftbrts ; yet such deserve to be treated as our great Exemplar
treated the sinning Magdalen. Let us follow His precepts anci
examples. This proscriptive spirit is neither Christianity nor
humanity, nor even philosophy. It does not deter others, yet it
ruins uncounted thousands of those whom forgiveness would
save. The odium heaped on those who have made " one false
step" literally drives them on down the broad road to destruction,
and heads off every reform attempt. This state of public senti-
ment is the great peopler of houses of infamy, which this restor-
ing spirit would rob of tenants. Does God forgive us our tres-
passes, and shall we not also forgive one another? Shall we pray
" Our Father, which art in heaven," " forgive us our trespasses as
we forgive" others, yet be relentless towards our fallen sisters?
Dare we invoke from Him that vindictiveness with Tvhich we
persecute her who is seduced by man's libidinousness, not her
own? "Society" should say, "Neither do / condemn thee;''
'• sin no more." Beyond all question a truly repentant sinner ia
nmch less liable to sin on than a novice. Sorrow for past sins is
the surest guarantee against future transgressions. And yet
The most condemnatory are the most vicious. Who arraigned
the frail woman before Christ ? Those only who had perpetrated
the same crime. Who berate the fallen most ? Those who walk
nearest the edge of this same precipice, and require only allure-
ment to leap it; because they look through the colored and mag-
nifying glasses of their own corrupt feelings, and are therefore
the most suspicious, because they "judge others by themselves,"
and censorious, because censurable ; whereas purity is unsuspect-
ing, and virtue tolerant and forgiving.*^^ Who in our towns and
circles denounce the most violently all moral reform movements as
improper? Those whose illicit pleasure they abridge. This ie
fact, and supported by philosophy. The "pure in heart" aio
both the most "merciful," and assiduous in their reform efforts ;
but those extra squeamish and particular need watching most.
Dr. Weiting tells the story of an extra prudish woman, wl.o
declared exhibiting the female manikin intolerably " immodest,''
and attending private lectures shockingly improper; yet who fol-
lowed him thirty miles, imploring him to hide her prospective
shame by perpetrating infanticide. But
RESTORATION OF THDgE SEXUALLY DEMORALIZED. 949
More op others than of harlots require to be restored. These
doctrines apply still more forcibly to those who have sinned, yet
not abandoned themselves. Put these two facts in contrast.
1. A Boston bachelor courted the daughter of wealthy, aristo-
cratic, much respected parents; an innocent, beautiful, virtuous,
splendid girl, and of an excellent fanjily. As all parties were
given to understand that his intention was to marry her, they
were left much together at all hours. She, especially, never once
doubting his matrimonial intentions, allowed unjustifiable free-
<loms, because they were to be married ; but he kept postponing
and courting for five years, seeking to gain the enjoyments of
wedlock without its expense, under cover of courtship, till,
finally, a widower became deeply enamoured of her, and promptly
oftered her his heart and hand. She said to her bachelor courter
" I AM OFFERED MARRIAGE by Mr. , whom I shall tell, frankly
and fully, all about you and myself, and our doings; and if then be
chooses to accept me, I shall marry him.'*
" Oh, for mercy's sake, don't ! Oh, don't bring in my name ! Oh, please
don't dii^gracc me! "
Let her parents, husband, and " society " say what shall be
done to such respectables (?). And let him know that he is
*' spotted." Noble girl! She made as good and true a wife as
any man ever loved or trusted. Her confession did not turn her
lover.
2. A " Down-Easter " of twenty-two, large, tall, powerful, thor-
<^ughly enamoured of one two years younger, engaged himself to
her; but before their marriage she frankly told him she had
loved before, and under the moet fiacred promise of marriage had
granted her very earnestly soliciting lover the rights of wedlock
in advance; conceived; secured abortion; lived pure since; but
felt it her duty to state these facts before he had legally com-
mitted himself. lie sobbed and writhed in agony as he asked
what he had better do about marrying her. What advice should
have been given him ?
"Do YOU LOVE HER?" "I do, With my whole being. My life w
»|>oiled if I do not marry her, and I fear if I do." " Have you ever com-
mitted a like sin?" "Yes, but — " "Should you demand of a future
wife that cliastity you cannot bestow? Those who require purity should
he able to give it, and be careful how they defile ouy other man's future
950 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
wife. If you still love her clear down to the bottom of your heart " —
** I am perishing by inches of that very Love " — " and if she loves you " —
** I never saw such depth and power of affection " — " and is weaned from her
seducer " — " she says she could kill the villain " — " by all means forgive
and marry her. You might marry one you did not love half so well " —
** Oh, I never can love another " — " and who lacked both virtue and affee-
tion, as well as candor. Her affection to you speaks volumes in her favor,
and guarantees her against future sin. Her fall evinces that hearty sexu-
ality which constitutes the first prerequisite of a good wife,"* and your
generous forgiveness will overwhelm her with renewed Love, gratitude, and
devotion. Both should wash out your mutual sins in mutual forgiveness
and affection, and marry."
He did not forgive or marry her ; and has lived a broken and
miserable married life. How much better for him, as w^ell as her,
if he had forgiven! The injured are bound by their nature to
forgive and restore the penitent ; and those who do not, will suffer
the most, because they refuse to conform to a requisition of Nature.
All are as much bound to forgive the penitent as to be penitent,
or relieve suffering. And always the best are the most forgiving ;
while the unrelenting may justly be suspected.
947. — A Sinning, Repentant Husband, and Forgiving, Happy
Wife.
To THE married these principles apply with double force. The
erring but penitent husband will be fur more true and loving to
a for<2:ivino: wife than if he had not sinned. Yet her refusal to
forgive hardens and engenders hate. So that wife who comes
back contrite, and begs to be forgiven, will do all she can to
make atonement Sickles did right to forgive and restore his
repentant wife,^^ and would have been a heathen if he had not.
Christ taught the two duties of penitence for sin, and forgiveness
of the penitent. Either is nugatory unless accompanied by the
other. The injured partner is as much bound to forgive the
penitent, as the injurer is to be contrite. If a " brother" should
be forgiven, mu(Ji more should a repentant conjugal partner.
The forgiving enjoy, the unforgiving suffer. A doting, do-
voted, enraptured wife, known now throughout the nation,
having one child, had thrust upon her absolute proof of her
husband's infidelity ; and asked me : —
" What birAi.L I do? I eloped with him, was disinherited, pawned my
BESTOBATION OF THOSE SEXUALLY DEMORALIZED. 951
jewelry and dresses to pay our board, till all were goue, then opened a
achool, though inured to luxury, have loved and done for him a» feH
women would or could do and love, only to find him having a miiires* I
Supplanted by a harlot ! Oh, what shall I do ! I can get a divorce ; for
I have legal proof. Had I better? If I do, I disgrace him, our darling
boy, myself by implication, and throw myself out of our aristocratic circle
upon the cold, hard world, with my boy ; and perhaps prevent my having
a large and happy family. I can suppress the scandal, or emblazon it
He is completely humbled, sorrowful, self-condemned, and implores for-
giveness. Which had I better do? I shall follow your advice."
Say, do, nothing. Forgive. Bury. His penitence assures his
future fidelity. By forgiving 3^ou save and restore him ; avoid
stigmatizing your boy ; assure yourself future children to love
and love you — what if this one should die? — and follow Chrisfs
injunctions. You your ownself can never be happy, must always
be wretched, unless you do forgive.
** Husband, do you heartily repent and promise fidelity to me alone
hereafter, in feeling and action, while we both live ? "
"I DO, wife, on my honor as a man, on our boy I too love, on my life."
** I FORGIVE YOU, my dear, dear husband, the only man I ever loved,
mer can love. We bury this error here, now, forever ; and I will love you,
treat you, feel towards you just as though you had never sinned. I shall
never fling it in your face, never divulge the secret. Let us both feel and
act towards each other as if this had never occurred."
Two DECADES PASS. My professional rounds enable me to in-
quire : *' Did you follow my advice ? If so, with what results ? "
^ I DID. And with an amount of enjoyment since., which surpasses all
description. I am naturally amorous, as my head shows; have enjoyed
twenty long years of sexual bliss which would otherwise have been for-
feited ; for 1 might not have found any other, certainly enjoyed no other,
like his ; have a good-sized family ; and have him to pet» wait on, and
enjoy with, which I do whenever I please, with the most perfect abandon,
U) complete satiety and exhaustion. How much, words cannot tell. And
all due to my following your advice. Oh, I cannot tell how happy it has
made me ; nor how miserable I must have been if I hud cither not asked
or not followed it"
I havb VAMB8 AND DATB8 for the above colloquy — she at her
Aecond coining telling what she and he saiU to each other after
returning from her first. Not ouc dialogue or quotation in thia
^52 THE CURES OP A IX SEXUAL SINS AND VICK8.
work but is reriiable. This is true in detail, and accords both with
the mentrJ and moral law of penitence and forgiveness, and
thousands of kindred cases ; besides being reconfirmed by thou-
sands of other converse ones, w^here injured parties, like the
Down-Easter, would not forgive, and suffered untold agonies
instead. The fact is
Christ's doctrines are right ; His " other-cheek," " do as you
w^ould be done by," "forgive as ye would he forgiven," "doing
good," "humility," &c.^'' Yet, alas, how many wlio wear His
divine livery, spit upon all His requirements in practice!
948. — Love the only Salvation and Restorative.
Establishing a true Love alone can save all who are demor-
alized ; yet this can and will redeem all sexual sinners. We
make this same prescription for self-abuse, for " broken hearts,"
for seminal losses, for all forms and degrees of sexual sins and
their consequences. Mark why. As wrong Love causes all their
evils, right Love alone can restore, and will make them hctter than
new.^' Ou\y another true affection can reform any, and will save
all. A libertine, however notorious, who, like the Burlington
captain,^ takes a pure woman right to his heart, will be the
more true and loving for past errors.^ Platonic Love gives him
80 much the more pleasure than past lust that he instinctively
eschew^s that for this. She who can really get a libertine's genu-
ine affection, not mere passion, may marry in perfect assurance
of his fidelity.
This principle applies to harlots equally. Their Love is
easily called forth, and becomes their guarantee of future virtue.
Many men, too, are no better than prosti'-utes in this very
respect ; and not half as smart, or good, or fine-grained, or a tithe
as refined naturally, whose wild passions seek this very class,
for whom repentant harlots are too good, if only so considered.
Their hearty sexuality, the main cause of their fall, i»roperly
directed into a true Love channel, would make them wives well
worth having. Restoring that w^ill render their devotion bound-
less, and their help-meet efforts well nigh superb uman.*^*^ Let.
those who can suggest any better treatment for this large class
of great sinners and sufferers propound it; yet all others will
surely fail, while this will certainly succeed. Those who can be
induced to reform should be let alone, not taunted, and at leaBt
BESTORATKN OF THOSE SEXUALLY DEMORALIZED. CSH
tolerated, if nothing more. Yet it applies to all grades of
sinners. That innocent girl, who, seduced by deception, becomes
an accidental mother, yet afterwards lives a proper life, will make
a far better wife than many others who are virtuous from pas-
sivity. The reason is obvious,"* and of universal application.
" I LATELY SAT by the side of one of the purest and loveliest of females,
who was ouce degraded, but who ia now at the head of a family, highly
respected and beloved. We should never be discouraged. There is no
man or woman so vile, but God may bring them washed and saved to Hi«
kingdom." — Dr. Tyng.
Those who have ever sinned sexually, must be doubly careful
how they expose themselves to temptation; just as reformed ine-
briates must be doubly careful not to taste another drop. And
their loved one can also stand sentry around such, just as a loving
wife can help a reformed drunkard keep himself from intoxi-
cating temptations.
949. — Personal Salvation possible, easy, and sure.
" I have been sensuous long enough, and am bent on reform. Virtue
is policy. Others may save libertines and harlots, but I am determined to
save myself first. As far. as restoration is possible, I propose to secure
it How can I effect a work thus desirable, yet difficult?"
1*receding principles answer so plainly that we hardly need to
apply them specifically. " Who would be free himsrlf must strike
the * liberating ' blow." An internal resolve to lead a pure, good
life is your first step. Fortify yourself by resolution, and hedge
yourself all around by forsworn pledges ; just as should a self-
reforming drunkard. You also require
Help and sympathy from the opposite sex. Select one to he
your keeper and conii)anion, and follow her or his advice. Yon
need not think to crucify this passion. You can only f/uidc and
fl:inctify it, by subfttituting its right action for its wrong. Dis-
ordered Love caused your fall,*" and restored Love is your only
salvation. Nestle yourself right into some loved one*8 heart, and
take her or him right homo to your own, and then live a true
life, as per Part V., and you are mvcd and restored,
A FACT in illustration of tlie law here involved.
"Joseph Proctor, the well-known actor, had an old friend whose son
smoked incessantly, and in conscqueuce was pale, weak, dyspeptic, irritable.
954 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
and in an obvious physical decline. His anxious mother, who had in vain
tried to persuade him to quit, appealed to P. to second her efforts, who said:
" * Why can't you quit, David, and be a man ? '
" * Why can't you quit. Proctor, and be a man ? *
"' I can, and will, if you will. I stump you to quit six months.*
" ' I 'll quit if you say done.*
" ' Then done it is, till next January.* "
They struck hanus, honor bright ; and neither have smoked
since.
Two drunkards often steady each other. Either alone would
fall, whereas each holds the other up. How much better if one
is sober ? and that one of the opposite sex, who sympathizes w^ith
you, braces up your resolution, and keeps you from tempta-
tion ?»»
Physiological appliances should of course be called to your
aid ; of which in ^^^ to ^^. Note our next Section, and ^ in " Hu-
man Science," as bearing on this point.
Section IH.
nature's provisions for love's right action and
NURTURE.
950. — Mingling of the Sexes as a Substitute for Marriage.
" Has Nature provided any substitute for marriage, which is to it
what lunch is to dinner, bridging over this chasm ; any mitigation of the
acknowledged evils of celibacy,*"® without imposing the yoke of matri-
mony? For this, that, the other reason, many absolutely must remain
single, for the present. All communities contain many pure, good,
unmarried ladies who have passed their precious period of sexual bloom,
pining in unrequited Love. Their loved one died iu the army ; or mar-
ried another ; or has ' gone to sea ; ' or emigrated West, as in most New
England towns ; or their marriage was interdicted by purse-proud parents;
or by a thousand like causes beyond their control. Must all who cannot
or do not marry, unsex themselves either by sexual starvation, or else by
immolating gender on the altar of this Moloch of carnality ?^^ Either
lot is surely undeserved by most, and very hard to bear ; especially since
you rather underrate than overrate the unsexing effects of celibacy."
Nature always provides coM^EiifSA'noNS against all possibU
L
nature's provisions for love's right action, etc. 955
losses, and furnishes a substitute for marriage in the daily
INTERMINGLING OP THE SEXES. Males and females are compelled
to come in perpetual contact with each other, at table, in work-
erhop, on the streets, at church and picnic, theatre and concert,
party and skating rink, everywhere either goes ; which stimu-
lates this Faculty. That quiet Miss in yon workshop dissem-
inates a female atmosphere over every male in it. Every meet-
ing, bow, greeting, shaking of hands, smile, compliment, escort,
behest, gallantry, courtesy, attention, &c., of either sex to the
other, expresses and nurtures this Faculty; as do all riding,
walking, talking, playing together, and a thousand like things.
The difference between fe dozen gentlemen, or a dozen ladies,
each whiling away an evening only with their own sex, and
then with the opposite, is indeed heaven-wide ; but due wholly
to the opposite sex awakening Love. Conversation between two
men or two women is comparatively insipid, and far inferior
to that between a male and female, solely because the latter is
sweetened by gender ; and thus of games, sleigh-rides, &c. How
great is the difference between a lecture and a political barbacue ;
all because the sexes intermingle at the one, not at the other.
P>ery hour spent appropriately by any gentleman with "the
ladies,'* and by any lady in the society of gentlemen, makes him
the more a man, and her the more a woman, the more each exer-
cises his masculine and her feminine feelings, provided they are
in rapport;^ but injures those who are antagonistic. Though
each may thus keep their sexual element from actuai starvation,
yet tliis is quite like living on crumbs. Though half a loaf is
better than no bread, yet to the complete feeding of Love each
must single out some one sexual mate with whom to live, and
fulfil all the sexual relations. Till then, keep from actual star-
vation by feeding on these crumbs of intermingling freely,
courteously, pleasiintly, jovially, in the society of the opposite
Mcx. Males and fomaios should associate a hundred-fold more
than is now customary."* Picnics, fairs, j)artie8^ Ac., are public
benefactions. This sexual commingling either is or is not a.
tiatural law. That it is, is attested by the universal instincts of
both sexes, and all ages, as well as by every j>hilosophical prin-
ciple which bears on this subje<'t. Then, obeying it, brings it.^
own legitimate reward ; whereas breaking it, as in exclusive
schools, seminaries, oollog^, male clubs, &c., brings down it»
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merited punishment upon the heads of delinquents. !N'ature
takes no excuses. " Obey and be happy, violate and suffer," are
her fixed decrees. Then be a little careful, boy, girl, man,
woman, married, single, parents, and society, how you ignore
or break this first natural law These are plain truths, but
:ruths for all; and most appallbuj in their import. Please give
ibem mature reflection and observation.
Elders should intermingle with juniors ; for they secure the
propriety of the younger, who likewise infuse buoyancy into
their elders. All chasten, and are chastened by all, which pre-
vents any undue familiarity. The opposite sex inspires Love,
that of its own chastens its expression. Each magnetizes and
feeds, and is magnetized and fed by, the other,*''^ which develoi)8
yet refines it in both, and gives a polish, grace, ease of manner,
and charm to character, obtainable by no other means. Then
send sons and daughters, well-attired, to picnic and party, church
and Sabbath-school, fair and lecture, sociable and public gather-
ings generally, charged to behave towards the oj)posite sex like
jicrfect ladies and gentlemen. But this street gadding after dark
is most vulgarizing, because it removes needed restraints.
951.— A Plea for Dances, Parties, Picnics, Sociables, &c.
Each sex cultivates Love by anticipating pleasure and ex-
pending time and money in preparing for them. The ladies,
arrayed fascinatingly in low dresses and short sleeves, which
exhibit their female figure and charms, their sparkling, bright
e^^es, merry laugh, and bewitching accomplishments, awaken
masculine Love by expressing feminine.^^ Well-dressed gentle-
men are polite, complimentary, gallant, attentive, spruce, flush
with money, and humorous ; the Love of each sex gushing forth
throughout all they say and do. They talk and laugh as those
of opposite sexes alone can do. Lively music inspires them to
dance ; which redoubles this amatory flow on both sides. They
select partners, take positions, bow to each other, the ladies so
bowing and shrugging their shoulders as to disclose their beau-
tiful busts, take each other's hands, perhaps press them tenderly,
give off sexual magnetism and inspiration, i)air off, and waltz
together. All this, with much more, gives to Love that refined,
protracted, and intense action which forestalls its coarser forms,
yet develops the sexual i ties of both. This safety-valve deserves
nature's provisions for love's right action, etc. 957
public commendation, as infinitely preferable to either its sen-
suous action, or its inertia.
All girls are ball-and-party crazy, because they serve up a
proper Love-feast, which j)re vents both sexual starvation and
perversion. This all-potent feminine instinct was not implanted
for nought, and cannot be starved.^ " The fellows " constitute
her chief attraction. They compliment her, and she blushes.
Pray just what blushes? Love only. Thus hath God wisely
made her. The more she thus exercises this sentiment, the more
she thereby develops every female charm, and prepares herself for
prosf)ective maternity.
Objections to dancing made by some religious people are not
well taken. Its late hours, suppers, drinking, &c., are bad ; yet no
necessary part of dancing proper. As a wholesome amatory feast,
it prevents its lower exercise by giving it a higher. Since Love
must be expressed, how much better thus in purity than sensu-
ously ? All refined dances, fairs, parties, &c., make every partici-
pant more accomplished, and ladylike or gentlemanly, and pre-
vent sensuality.
" Peter Parley,'* as intelligent, prayerful, faithful, exemplary,
pious, and orthodox as any, devotes twelve pages of his "Auto-
biogra[)hy " to its defence. Those not his superiors in these
Christian virtues should defer to his opinions, and either accept
or else refute his arguments. He would not thus have defended
what he did not think important. Many sects allow, others,
though no more pious, condemn dancing unsparingly. Who shall
decide when D. D.'s disagree ? Nature.
God wrote " dance" all throughout human nature; and relig-
ionists may as well "bay the moon" as preach against it. De-
nounce its evils all you like, and show a " more excellent way ; "
but, for your own sakes, do not array Christianity against this
divine ordinance. By all means send children to dancing-school
before puberty, or you leave them awkward in company always.
052. — Uncovbred Fbmalb Arms and Shoulders : Its Pros ani
Cons.
Female instinct loves to exhibit, and male to admire, them.
Both are therefore right. Find its rationale in •*. Exhibiting
the female form expresses female, and seeing it awakens yet
chastens male, Lcve ; and promotes marriage ard offiapring. All
058 THE CrRES OF ALL SEXUAL BINS AND VICES.
the resral, noble, aristocratic, and refined families of the Old
World adopt it; and the Spanish and Austrians, by dressiiio- in
transparent gauze, cjo much further. England's Crown Prince,
while travellins: in his own kino-doms, excluded from his levees
all ladies not thus attired. No aristocratic lady ever thinks ol
having her likeness painted without having her bust and arms,
if they are good looking, transferred to the canvas, quite as much
as face.
" Immodest ? " Wliy uncovered arms and shoulders more so
than bare faces or hands? All the immodesty lies in the looker's
pruriency ; just as Eastern women think it immodest to let any
man see their faces. Nor is a short dress below any more so
than above ; nor seeing feet and ankles than hands.
Beautiful female forms were made charming to be admired,
which implies their being seen. Statuary is refining ; then how
much more so the represented forms themselves ?
Exhibiting poor busts, backs^ and arms, is poor policy. They
look better covered. Thanks to those who have beauties for
" letting their light shine ;" but, ladies, don't take pains to show
your deficits — what you kick. Those poverty-stricken here are
the chief grumblers. " Sour grapes." The envious are the ob-
jectors. Those having luscious ones never once.
Catching cold from wearing low dresses with bare arms is due
chiefly to changing from covered to uncovered, which is unquali-
fiedly bad ; yet wearing them low generally, would give no more
colds than bare faces. Working with nude arms is most agree-
able and healthy, and gives no cold, but rather prevents. The
exhaustion, perspiration, returning home unduly mufiied late
and tired, &c., give the colds. Still a consumptive girl, with
cold hands and chilly, who usually dresses high, but dresses low
quite seldom, endangers catching a cold, and of its striking to
the exposed parts, and rushing her right into a quick consump-
tive's grave. So be careful. Be warned by its victim on p. 1034."*
953. — Female Society the sole Moralizer op our Young Men.
They are our only future hope. By them our churches,
schools, laws, government, everything, must soon be administered.
Future society depends mainly on what they are and become. It
is most momentous for their own sakes, for the future of our
race, that they grow up right. How much is each one of thcni
NATUKE^ PnoVIBIONS FOB LOVE'S RIGHT ACTION, ETC. 1)59
worth to himself, his parents, his future wife and children, his
country, and his race? He who created this production alone
van duly estimate its superlative value.
Their moralization is one of the gravest problems of our age
and country — of all ages, and all countries. And yet behold their
almost universal demoralization, especially sexual ; which pre-
supposes all. other !** God forbid that this their wholesale moral
slaughter should long continue! "What the "Young Men's Chris-
tian Association " poorly attempts for a few who are " Orthodox,"
should be effected for all, those not Orthodox the most. Why
this partiality ? "Why should not all concerned try to save all?
Woman is by far the most concerned — mothers for sons, sis-
ters for brothers, and all who may ever marry, for the prospective
husband of h^* boscmi, and father of her children! All have at
stake interests the most momentous. Patriots, Christians, phi-
lanthropists, women, one and all, should weep tears of blood over
their divei'sified immoralities, and inquire, in agonizing earnest-
ness, "IIow can they be saved from drunkenness, swearing, sensu-
ality, gambling, and cognate vices?"
Travelling " Agents," pause, and think to what temptations
you thereby expose yourselves. Look at those who are agents,
and consider how lawless is this kind of life? Here now and
there to-morrow, you run away to-day from the bad deeds of yes-
terday. All young men require an immense amount of restraint.
Most of them can barely be kept passably " straight " by all the
converging stringencies of law, public opinion, mother, sister,
sweetheart, and society to boot. You who chafe under this curb-
ing, think what you would soon become without. Your passions
are now the most powerful, and if indulged, would soon both
spoil you, and sear themselves; leaving you paralyzed, passion-
ally, thereafter.** Whence then can come your only restraint
and salvation? Conscience can do much, but by no means aU.
required. Do all you can by this means, yet keep out of tempta-
tion besides; whereas turning "agent** is rushing right into it;
and quite like sending innocent persons to learn moral purity
from liardened criminals. If your morals can be shaken, agency
will shake them. You had better "flee from," than plunge head-
long into, such perpetual temptations.
Fbmalb association and inspiration is your passional salva-
tion ; beginning with mother,"* and aided by sisters and aants,
960 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL 8IXS AND VICES.
and extending to the whole female sex. Every young man im-
peratively needs his circle of "' female acquaintances," to whom
he is "responsible" for doing about right; each of whom "has
an eye on him." No female society is incomparably better than
that of courtesans ; to which many are often driven by non-asso-
ciation with the virtuous. But how infinitely better is that of
the virtuous than either practical emasculation,^^ or. else that of
«lcpraved females, one of which is a necessity.^
A YOUNG CLERK, most promising, in a large business house,
its smartest and best salesman, perfectly honest, unusually polite
and attentive to business, had what his employers considered this
grave fault, of spending his evenings in the society of young
ladies and gentlemen. His character was above suspicion. In-
stead of one word of fault being found, the higl^est praise was
bestowed on his fidelity, integrity, business capacities, and every-
thing. But his old fogy employers said to him : —
" George, choose between giving up your evening parties, and yoiir
prospects of becoming a member of our firm."
" Am I NOT honest, faithful, and attentive to business ? Do I not do
more than any other two in the store ? What more should you require 'i
What concern of yours how I spend my evenings, so that I do my duty to
your"
" Admitted ; but you must abandon either your parties, or your hopes
of admission to our firm. We give you till to decide."
He chose business before parties ; but society he must and did
have. Exchanging that of young ladies and gentlemen for that
of men, he was thereby led into drinking, gambling, and other
concomitant and nameless vices ; which ruined his health, charac-
ter, fitness for business, and integrity ,^^ till he became an out-
cast ! A noble youth spoiled by interdicting female society.
And his story is but that of untold thousands. The vices of
" Young America," who is " a very fast boy," are consequent more
on this exclusion from refined, genteel ladies, than ^ny other
cause whatever. Society in this respect is fundamentally wrong.
No gentleman can now call or wait on a single lady more than
twice, before every tattler in town has them married. This,
along with the watchfulness and exclusiveness of particulr.r
mothers and careful fathers, literally banishes them from riglit
female society. Its place they supply by wrong.^^
nature's provisions for love's right acttion, etc. 961
All young men should live in some family. Does not this
absence of family inlluences show why nine in every ten who go
into business lose their virtue and moral tone ? and, in conse-
quence, fail ? .,
954 — Cheap Public and Parlor Amusements, Lectures, Ac.
Furnishing young people cheap amusements, instructive, refin.
ing, improving lectures, &c., in which they can participate with-
out incurring much expense, is about as important as young
folks are valuable. Popular lectures, by far the best means of
educating and elevating them, stand '* first among equals,"
will soon rank all peers in practical utility, ami cjin alone save
our republican institutions. By combination they can be made
very cheap, less expensive than a cigar or an ice-cream. Concerts,
operas, theatres, as furnishing like places of genteel resort, deserve
" public thanks " as well as patronage ; yet are too expensive. A
young man is expected to work cheap; and after paying board,
clothes, &c., cannot honestly aftbrd to spend many shillings per
evening out 'of his small daily earnings. Yet if he invites a
stylish young lady to an opera or concert, he must expend for
tickets three or four dollars, for refreshments about as much
more, and for carriage-hire at least the balance of a ten-dollar bill.
Drawing thus heavily on your escort's purse, ladies, prevents
tlieir inviting you at all. Besides paying their own personal
expenses, they absolutely must lay by something each day with
which to begin business. Economy is one of the virtues they
should assiduously cultivate. Be content with less, as your best
means of getting more invitations. "Society" should furnish
its "young folks " with plenty and various elevating, cheap, even
free entertainments, if only to "call off" our young men from
tliese coarse recreations now so common, yet so fearfully demor*
alizing. Billiards would do as one, if participiited in appropri-
ately by both sexes.
Parlor assemblings, amusements, readings, singings, private
theatricals, and the like, are the best of all. Nothing is or c»n be
any bettor. Ladies, the salvation of our young men is your par-
ticular work, and will redound most to your special benefit. Then
get up these costless parties by wholesale. DisjKjnse with ediblee
and drinkables. Make your own music. Omit show and formal-
ity. Make yourselves, not apparel, food, &c., their chief attrac
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962 THE (X7RES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
tion. Disseminate your sanctifying influences. Manifest those
womanly graces and excellences God has graciously given you ;
and you can calculate, as your reward, on many more " propo-
sals ; " and by undemoralized proposers. If young men can afford
this alarming celibacy of the times, you at least cannot. This
general course, varied according to your own tastes and fertile
inventions, will forestall this monster evil.
*' The PARLOR " is a truly glorious institution of Nature. It
supplies a humaii necessity ; but is not used a hundredth part
enough. By furnishing a refined sexual feast it sanctifies, ele-
vates, and develops the sexualities of both sexes, and promotes
marriage, with all its virtues and blessings.^ If mankind would
only substitute parlor gatherings, participated in by both sexes,
in place of club-rooms, billiards,* cards, &c., how infinite the
improvement in human health, morals, and happiness. Add
parlor readings by neighboring amateurs, thus developing all this
native talent, and music, with frequent parlor dancing to home-
made music, and you have one of the greatest moralizers of our
young men. Some day this hint will be appreciated, and reduced
to practice.
Parlor amusements, singings, readings, gymnastics, plays, any-
thing, everything refining and diverting, participated in by both
sexes, would draw all young men off from demoralizing saloons,
those running sores of human corruption ; moralize them ; give
" the girls " a fair chance to captivate them ; and erect large and
happy families and blissful homes on and out of the ruins of
these three greatest public curses: — 1. Saloons, groggeries, and
gambling hells, club-rooms included ; 2. Celibacy, and consequent
sexual starvation and demoralization ; and, 3. Houses of infamy.
Come, open your parlors, all who have any, and fill them with
amusements ; and you who have none, go to those who have, till
you get one, and all inake them affectional resorts.
Young men, whatever you do or omit, don't afliliate with men
alone. Resort, in leisure hours, to parlors always, club-rooms
never. They are most expensive to morals, as well as pockets.
** Men with men work that which is unseemly," debasing, and
vulgarizing, and necessarily demoralize each other.
* To BILLIARDS THEMSKLVE8, wc do not object, but Only to their furnishing a mere
pastime for men alone. Conducted so that ladie« could participate, we would about
psBns of praise, even though the ends they subserve seem insignificant. Both se.^en
eliould intermingle in all amusement-^/*'
NATURB'd PROVISIONS FOR LOVE's RIGHT ACTION', ETC. 963
i;55. — Educating the Sexes together: Their Commingling, &c.
Furnishing children food, raiment, education, domicile, «tc., is
an imperious and conceded parental duty. Now just what docs
this do? Supplies their growth wants — feeds their Faculties.
Love is one of them. Then must not it also he fed? Why are
you not bound to provide thera food for Love as much as for
intellect, or Devotion ? As starving their apf)etite8 is barbarous,
BO equally is starving their Love. You alone can and should
supply its food to all. How to the latter?
Go WITH AND send them to picnics and parties, skating-rinks
and dances, sled-rides and sleigh-rides, thinking out and telling
boys just how you would have them behave towards girls, and
girls towards boys, and hmning and (/aiding this Love Faculty, in-
stead of repressing it. A mother said :
"I GET UP children's PARTIES foF my children, and tell thera, 'Invite
such ueigh boring lads and lasses as you like; I give you music, and some-
thing to eat, and you may dance, and play children's plays, and if they
require you to kiss this girl or that boy, all right, so that you behave your-
selves towards them like true gentlemen and ladies. But do nothing
wrong or improper. Never forget that you are young gentlejnen, and these
girls young ladies, and that your father and mother will be in and out to
see that you comport yourselves properly. Don't do one thing you would
be ashamed to have me see you do.* "
Boys may play by daylight witli boys, but all lads and lasses
who play after candle-light should play with both sexes, not with
their own sex. I approbate most heartil}^ this new custom of
juvenile parties; except their fashionableness and expense; for
which out upon them. Parents, abridge expense, and secure nat^
ural courtesy and association.
Dancino-schools fill this bill. Tciich them to dance as one
of the best means of sexual commingling. But more of this
hereafter, when we come to develop our plan of a perfect male
and female society.
Educating thb sbxbs togbther, from their primary school to
their highest graduation, is another proper feeding of this Fac-
ulty ; while all isolate^l schools are an abomination. Our com-
mon schools are right, but colleges, theological institutions, young
ladies' seminaries, Ac., outrage Njiture, They are hot-beds of self*
iefilcHient.*** This isolation principle we are expounding «howa
964 THE CURES OP ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
why. Their mere presence interchanges their sexual magnetisms,
which feeds and develops their sexual it ies.'^^^ Their meeting in
school-room, in pathways, at table, their trim manners and sexual
etiquette are self-developing expressions of this Faculty, which
(juiet it, and save the necessity of its objectionable forms. Hor-
ace Mann, that highest educational authority, who voluntarily rt^
ugned the most august pinnacle of human influence mortal man
ever attained, the "leadership" of the educational bureau of
the world, — know that it is this educational bureaucracy which
both enacts and administers the laws, makes and unmakes con-
gresses and presidents, and is that power behind the throne greater
than the very throne itself, — vacated this controlling bureau of
human destiny, that he might put into practice in a first-class
college his pet idea of the education of the sexes together in the
classics and mathematics ; and told me personally, as he did
Judge Dean and others, that this plan worked to a perfect charm ;
for, said he, "the strongest motive I can apph^ to delinquents is,
'What will these young ladies think of your marks of demerit?'
and declared that the behavior of the young gentlemen and ladies
of Antioch College towards each other was rendered almost unex-
ceptionable by appealing to their pride of character and native
sense of propriety. Any abuses are due more to wrong manage-
ment than to any mherrnt difficulty." Why should not the sexes
intermingle in schools as much as in fiimilies, and study as well
as play together? Can they not step uj)on one common matri-
monial platform much more easily by stepping from one common
educational, than if they stepped from diverse educational? Be-
sides
Boys wonderfully stimulate girls to do and behave their very
best. 'No other incentive to good is half as potential. Away
with these educational nunneries. They only stifle and pervert
this sacred element. Their graduates, almost convicts, are tri-
fling, rude, awkward, unfeminine, and titter at the sight of lads,
as if there was something wrong in the very fact of boys and
girls. Anything but ladylike towards the male sex, because
neither sex can ever learn to behave well except in the company
of the opposite, they lose that native modesty which is the spe-
cific glory of the female, and become mischievous, and full of all
sorts of trickery, false pretences, and misdemeanors. This is
doubly true of smart girls.
nature's PROVISION'S FOR LOVE's RIGHT ACTION, ETC. 965
Boys in boys' schools, and young men in college, become row-
(lyish, medical and theologiciil not excepted. Attest, citizens of
col legiate towns, are not *' students " rowdy ish ? What have they,
thus deprived of right female influence and inspiration, to either
curb their rampant passions, or polish their rude manners? The
error lies, not in the studenti?, but in this exclusive educational
system^ which must soon give place to promiscuous schools and
colleges.
A LARrtE-UEADED, -BODIED, -MINDED DIVINE, elderly, cloqucnt,
hearing this point in a public lecture in Springfield, 111., arose,
and, begging pardon, with a dignified yet courteous bow, in-
quired:—
" Sir, will you expand and enforce these educational views more at
length in a separate lecture?"
" Cheerfully, sir, if you will let me so enlarge this subject as
to embrace the general etiquette of both sexes ; that is, apply
this boys' and girls' view to men and women also."
" I GLADLY ACCEPT this amendiueut as a marked improvement."
The LARGEST HOUSE in town packed. A most enthusiastic
auditory was touched internally ; after which, rising in dignified
majesty, and proceeding with real eloquence, he said : —
"I HAVE PRESIDED LONG, aud Successfully, over institutions of learn-
ing ; am now president of a * Christian ' college ; managed it when it
•idmitted only males ; persuaded its trustees to so change it as to admit
emales also ; have governed it four years since ; seen the rowdyish, ram-
>ant spirit of ' Young America* give place to manliness of deportment,
cvnd find that young ladies learn much, faster, and behave very much
better, than those of a female S(;minary over which I long presided ; cuo
but poorly express the practical value of the principleJt involved in Pro-
fessor Fowler's lecture ; was unwilling to let one who takes right ground
on this important subject leave our city without a full hearing; therefore
moved to appoint this meeting, and am delighted that my views, gleaned
from experience, are thus philosophically aud ably expounded with scien-
tific unction."
All PRDPE8S0R8 AND TEACHERS, male and female, who have ever
taught either sex exclusively, and both sexes together, most
ho4irtily second this doctrine. It is true, and ought to be uni-
versally adopted. In this respect, our common schools are supe-
9G6 THE CURES OP ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
rior to our higher. This truth is universal, that the male sex
is a necessity to the female, and female to male, from cradle to
grave, as much as food ; for both Trow alike out of a primitive
Faculty which absolutely must be fed, and which their mutual
presence feeds, but absence starves.®*^ The mere presence of the
opposite sex both nurtures and sant'tiHes this element, and sul>-
atitutes its pure exercise for those morbid cravings, alike destruc-
tive to intellectual vigor and moral purity.^^^ In this respect,
Amherst College, which encourages its students to associate
with village ladies, and opens its doors equally to both sexes,
far excels Yale and Harvard ; while Oberlin and Lombard, as
well as most Methodist and Christian institutions, in which both
sexes study and recite the same lessons together, and participate
at Commencement, surpass Princeton, and all other exclusive
institutions. Though these doctrines differ fundamentally from
fashionable customs, yet they are true, and will soon be univer-
sally practised. Thank God, owing to the personal labors of a
Phrenologist, Wisr^onsin, Iowa, Kansas, N'ebraska, California, and
some other Western States, have founded their state educational
institutions on this principle, of admitting both sexes equally.
956. — Brotherly and Sisterly Affections.
Most beneficent is that hereditary law which awards about
an equal number of each sex to most families, which gives
brothers sisters to love, and sisters brothers ; and also fathera
daughters, and mothers sons ; as well as sons mothers, and
daughters fathers. Why do brothers naturally love sisters
with a Love very different from that felt for brothers, and
why does sister love brothers with a sentiment very different
from that she feels towards sisters, but because they are of oppo-
site sexes? Every boy imperiously requires some girl-mate of
about his own age, and every girl her boy-mate ;^^ then who are
as appropriate as brothers and sisters ? Eating daily together at
the same table, loving the same parents, engaged in like sport^
and labors, sitting together around one common fireside, and
naturally coming in constant contact, they thus naturally become
attached to each other. The more so because they are hered-
itarily so much alike, both resembling the same parents.
Every brother needs a sister towards whom to practise gal-
lantry, so that, by learning how to treat her right, he may learn
nature's provisions for love's right action, FTC. 967
to treat the female sex properly ; while every sister requires a
brother to escort her to church, singing-school, party, amuse-
ments, Ac. That girl is to be pitied who has no brother, and
that boy who has no sister. They can never grow ui) to be as
perfect men and women without as with mingling with the other
sex of a like age in the family; and brothers and sisters are
incalculably better adapted to companionship than others. If a
l)oy grows up to love a girl as he may and should his sister, his
Love becomes too strong to be interrupted without injury ;^^ yet
he may continue to love his sister always and everywhere. What
eight is more lovely, more promising, than to see brothers and
listers growing up in affectionate fondness, gentle, considerate,
each vying in kindness ! llow could he possibly become bad ?
How could she fall? llis sister's Love, next to his mother's, is
his salvation, and both united, guarantee his growing up vir-
tuous and good. And his influence over her is quite as bene-
ficial and necessary to her as hers to him. Both are indispensable
guardians of each other. And he who grows up to love his
sister is sure to become a good husband ; and that sister who
loves and cares for her brother, will assuredly make a good wife ;
because this strengthens their Love element.
A BRiGUT, ROSY BOY of four, at dinner, seeing a colored heart-
shaped candy passing around, all wrought up with intense emo-
tion, grasped and held it aloft, exclaiming, in exulting tri-
umph: '*I am going to give this to my little sister 1" How
should every drop of blood leap for joy, to see this little boy 80»
true to human nature, to so glowing an extent ! The day before,
as they were playing together lovingly in the hall, a great New-
foundland d()g coming in, she, two years older, caught him up,
and hurried him into one corner, and crouched between him ami
the dog, his protector as well as nurse and playmate. When thi*
spirit obtains between brothers and histers, they will grow up
always virtuous, and jxjrfectly happy in wedlock. Parenta, do
your utmost to establish this scxuo-fratcrnal feeling and treat-
ment among your children ; and brothers and sisters, cherish it
for your own sakes.
957. — Fathers and Dauqhtrrs lovinq each other.
Every girl must love 6omb male, all the way up from chiul-
hood to deulii. Then v/ho as appropriately us her father? Of iif
068 THE CURES OP ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
wrong exercise between them there is scarcely a possibility ; no
matter how hearty its right. Her father should awaken and
nurture this Love sentiment till it is transferred to a husband.
Idolizing him prevents its bursting forth on any other object;
aruards her against temptation ; forestalls elopements and pre-
vents premature Love; and promotes its heartiness for a husband.
Worshipping her father makes her love his sex. Looking up to,
^;nd idolizing him as infallible, prepares her to become thoroughly
enamoured, and completely devoted as a wife. This its right
exercise necessarily improves it and her. As the juvenile exer-
cise of memory, judgment, &c., disciplines and develops them,
why does not this early exercise of Love discipline it equally ?
As intellectual doniiancy during youth dulls, but juvenile studies
Btrengthen, the mind ever after; so this loving her father im-
proves this Love element, and fits it for in<?reased matrimonial
action through life; whereas its suppression through girlhood
renders it sluggish all through life. The mistake is fatal that it
must remain dormant till marriage.^ Its youthful suppression
leaves her barren through womanhood in all the sexual virtues,
charms, and capacities, and accounts in part for our having so
many poor wives and unattractive women. What but feminine
soul creates the female form?^^* Since the mental controls the
physical, and since female beauty results from mental sexuality,**
therefore developing this mental phase of gender in loving hei
fether, strengthens this element, beautifies her person and do-
' velops her feminine loveliness, including the " conjugal talent ;*'"*
whereas starving it during girlhood leaves it barren in woman-
hood. Such indeed may have enough femininity remaining to
gain a man's Love, but too little to retain it ; and become poor
wives of dissatisfied husbands. Little things, insufficient to
'disturb hearty Love, reverse their weak, because unnurtured
aifections, and spoil both. Pity such girls. Kept at arm's
length from their fathers, denied m.ale association and sympathy,
their Fexualitj weakened by its starvation, commanded and sub-
dued, they grow up comparatively unloving, unlovely, awkward,
uninteresting, perhaps even repulsive, peevish, and almost devoid
of gender, instead of well-sexed and charming women. This
withering of the female entity between fifteen and twenty, is
most appalling, which attachment to fiithers would prevent.
A GIRL OF FIVE kissed her reading father. " Don't you do that
nature's provisions for love's right action, etc. 969
again." She has not ; is thirty-five ; on his hands ; lives in
mutual aversion; and sexually impaired.
Fathers interchange only affeetionate tones, looks, and wordt
with your daughters. Resolve never again to rebuke, nor even
blame them, which always makes the opposite sex worse.**
Revolutionize your treatment. Try this Love experiment
Cultivate within your own souls that doting fondness you should
feel for them, and when old enough, gallant them where they
would go, tenderly, lovingly; and how their bright eyes will
glisten, warm hearts glow, light step lighten, bounding pul:<e
rebound, and enraptured souls literally leap for joy, by virtue of
that vivifying power wielded by active Love ! Reciprocate th«
affectionate kiss when they or you retire or rise, go out or come
in, from the cradle all the way up to marriage, after marriage
even. Think you this freedom improper? Then you are.
A LADY PATRON, who had both large Love and an unusually
fine female figure, voice, manner, and charm, on being described
in strong language as passionately fond of her father, and, if
toarried, of her husband, responded, with peculiar emphasis: —
"My devotion to my father is extreme. No daughter could love
fiither better than I have loved mine all the way up from childhood.
Nor could anything tempt me to leave him hut love for my husband ; and
now my whole soul is all enraptured with devout affection for both, wIm)
live with me."
This sexuo-filial affection is what beautified her person,**
Hexed her voice,** and ripened her gradually but effectually all
tiic way up from infancy into perfectly glorious womanhood.
And shall these reciprocities diminish as she approaches or entere
womanhood? Shall they not increase? As she becomes the
more attractive, why not also he the more doting? This sentK
ment is God-ordained; then why not mutually express it? It
was created to be manifested between each other. Instead
Many a father curbs his daughters, and checks all youthful
exuberance. Long-faced and stern when he comes in, fault-find-
ing while in, every word harsh, and sentence an angry chide;
[>ositive, authoritative, imperative edicts and continual blame
make up their sum total f>f intercourse with each other. They
rejoice at his exit, and dread his return. Their only peace is in
his absence. Poor, wretched girls! Almost better witliout a
970 THE CURES OP ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
father. The cold charities of a heartless world, and fierce strug-
gles for self-support, are preferable. It sours or deadens their
whole life. All women proclaim everywhere, by their awkward
or graceful manners, their repellent or inviting appearance, their
gentility or want of it, whether they grew up in paternal sym-
pathy or antagonism. Sometimes
A LITTLE GIRL, passiouatcly fond of her father, watching his
return, the moment she sees him, exclaims, " Oh, there comes my
pa ! " She springs to the door, which bursts open as by magic ;
bounds to the gate, which flie§ back at her first quick touch. Up
go her outstretched arms. Iler face is all aglow. Her eyes are
on fire. Burning kisses mount her warm lips. lie takes her
into his arms. Convulsively she clasps his willing neck. Kiss
follows kiss in quick succession, loud, hearty, and free. Impu-
rity there? Then are angels impure. He lays aside his dignity
and plays as boy with girl, till both are tired. She clambers on
his lap ; pats his cheek with genuine lovcrpats ; runs her fingers
through his locks with real love-touches; and twists his hair and
whiskers into scores of fantastic forms. Behold them as lovers,
besides as parent and child, and see our meaning lived out.
Would that every father and daughter lived thus! How relaxing
and healthful to him ! How much more business he could trans-
act! How developing to her! For every exercise of Love to
"her pa" develops the woinan in her, paints her rosy cheeks in more
than rosy rcdness,^^ animates and improves her muscles, promotes
digeption and sleep, — and she can sleep well only when her arms
surround his neck, — bedecks her with the natural language of
Love, and helps render her a complete woman, and a perfect wi£»
and mother.
958. — Mothers loving their Sons, and Sons their Mothers.
This principle governs mothers and sons. All the world
acknowledges the magic power mothers wield over sons, yet none
realize that it is conferred by this sexuo-maternal and filial senti-
ment, by her as a female loving him as a male, and calling out
his Love for her feminine qualities. And the more she feels all
around and gathers up his masculine heartstrings, does her mould-
ing power over him become absolute ; follow him wherever he
may wander; and last long after she and he too are in their
graves — even forever! Yet nothing is quite as barbarous as for
nature's provisions for love's right action, etc. 971
'a mother to chastise lier own son. Even scolding him is awful^
and punishment much woi-se ; for they hreak that sacred spell in
which her magic power consists. Sexuo-maternal Love creates
that spell, which chastisement, even hlame, hreak.
Matrons, read over all thus far said ahout fathers and daugh-
ters, changing mother for father, and son for daughter, and learn
from these principles how to comport yourselves towards your
sons. This Love element is horn as much in sons as daughters,
and requires exercise toward the female sex. Then what female
is as appropriate as his mother? Her Love for him is inexpres-
sibly pure and deep. What true mother can depict its inten-
sity ?*^* This being loved by her as a female naturally calls out
his Love in response, which enhances his manliness of body, of
mind. No boy can become a fully-developed man without loving
bis mother, or some female who fills her place. Say, ye mature
matrons, blessed with sons of difterent ages growing up to man-
hood, do you not exult in view of their developing manliness?
and feel a Love analogous to that toward their father, rising up
and swelling within your maternal bosom? Besides loving them
as your cliildren, do you not also love them as rtmles^ with a cast
of Love very different from that felt toward daughters ? Men,
young, old, do you feel no sentiment of Love toward your mother
as a woman? and very different from that felt toward your father?
Nature prevents its perversion in either, yet it has Love for
its base; else only the same feeling could exist between mothers
and sons as between mothers and daughters, namely, parental, to
which this " male and female " sentiment is superadded. Nature
implants it to enable you to mould him, and to evolve his man-
hood. He cannot possibly become as complete a man without it
as with. Your spirit infuses itself through his, is ever proseat
with liim, magnetizes him, and in times of temptation, whispeuB
'* no» my son," and he refniins. All the more when sainted. Those
who yield tliemselves to vice, in any of its forms, did not rightly
Love their mothers when growing up. If they hut wielded all
the powers vested in them by this mother-and-eon sentiment, not
a youth would stray from the paths of virtuo anywhere, or at
any time, nor a middle-aged man give himself up to iniquity, nop
a hoary-headed reprobate disgrace humanity. It is for woman^
Dy virtue of this Love element, to win all masculine heiirts to
virtue and purity ; the mother her boy and grown-up son, till he
972 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL SINS AND VICES.
is old enough to transfer his Love to a wife, actual or prospective,
who then becomes his guardian angel. Transfer? Never. If he
had loved *' seven wives," could he not love a mother also ? and
a wife the more because a mother? and mother because a wife?
For loving her only develops this Love element, so that he appre-
ciates the female character, which is the first conjugal prerequi-
site. Hence
That son who Loves and provides for his mother will also love
and care for a wife ; because a loving mother develops that sexu-
ality from which conjugal Love emanates. Such will live peace-
ably with even a shrew ; while he who does not Love his mother
becomes cold-hearted, distant, uncouth, old-bachelorish, undevel-
oped, and vulgarized. This Love sanctifies the very rootlets of his
being, and gives mothers absolute power over their sons, till that
of the wife is superadded, and puts them on a moral plane too
pure and high to indulge in any form of vice or sensuality. Some
mothers actually do wield all this power; then why not all?
The majority wield but a mere moiety of the amount this prin-
ciple puts into their hands. If they felt and expressed half that
implanted by l^ature, they would sanctify all to virtue, purity,
and truth. But
Mothers fall far short of this exalted standard. Let our
fast American youth attest how far. We w^ill not soil these
pages by depicting the grossness, sensualities, and desperate
wickedness of too many " Young Americas," especially in our
cities. How many maternal hearts, blind to half their faults,
and Avith most of the others half concealed, yet sigh and break
over even the moiety they do see ! And how many others are
treated contemptuously, called "old woman," or names much
worse, humbled, heart-broken, ashamed of their own flesh and
blood, eke out a miserable existence, pining over their lost,
ruined sons, and glad to follow them to their graves ! Yet they
deserve all. Nature meets out such penalties only to those who
deserve them. She is as just as retributory, and punishes in the
direct line of the sin. Therefore she who suiters on account of a
eon, suffers in him because she has sinned in him.
" What have I done, or left undone, that my sou thus crughes his poor
toother's heart? How I watched round his sick bed ! How fervently I
prayed for and with him by night, and chided him by day I How I
punished him ! and — "
nature's provisions for love's right action, etc. 973
Au ! THERE it is. You " chided," and this alienated him, and
broke tliis maternal spell. You '* punished," and this embittered
his proud spirit, and steeled him against you and your pray ere.
He panted for the time when he could tear himself forever from
your eternal checking, chiding, whipping. No mother who ever
scolds or chastises a son, can expect to gain or retain his Love ;
and the more masculine lie is the more he resents. Blame is a
fatal antipode to Love.^* No mother ought ever to breathe one
word of censure on her son. This is not the means by which the
sexes should influence each other. Pure, simple, gushing Love
alone begets Love in return, and this gives that desired powei
which all chiding weakens. Reproof is a fatal error of mothers.
They love, and yet chide often because they love, but thereby snap
asunder those silken cords of aftection in which alone their in-
fluence centres. He hates in place of loving, and rebels because
he hates. What then can you do ?
Love iiim from before his birth, and show naught but Love ;
and he will grow up in that Love with and for you, which will
render your power over him complete, ubiquitous, eternal. Every
mother, at the birth of every son, should literally exult as did
Eve: "Behold, I have gotten me a man-child from the Lord.**
Her full soul should overflow with Love every time she thinks
of her boy babe, or looks into his innocent face, or bestows ma-
terial life from her lacteal fountains. Holy and angelic should
he be in her eyes. Soft should be her every touch, and winning
every accent. If she feels thus, he will draw from her along
with his nutrition that spiritual lactation and magnetic current *•*
which will bind him indissolubly to her with bonds which only
maternal unkindness can sever. As he grows up daily more and
more a little man, she should exult and love the more, hold him
in her lap, fold him to her heaving bosom till he becomes a great
jvtrapping boy ; often run her fond Angers through his willing
locks; smooth his hair, not pull it; pat his cheeks, not box his
cars; say soft, loving things, not scold ; wait on him tenderly at
table with " let me give you this dainty bit you love so well,*'
and pursue tliis indulgent course from the cradle.
Op my own sainted mother I remember distinctly but two
things — laying my head back in her open lap while she kissed,
caressed, and fondled me ; and her death. Both are indelible.
And the magic power of that fondling remains to-day. It haB
974 THE CUKES OP ALL SEXUAL BINS AND VICES.
acted as a spell all the way along up through life, growing and
strengthening hy time. Thank God for that maternal love play-
spell !
Son-loving mothers, does not this strike a chord which vibrates
throughout your whole souls? Would it were deeper.
"Mrs. a. and B. have tried this plan to perfection, by indulging their
tfons in every little whim, and thereby spoiled them. Indulgence has only
made them still naore impudent and imperious. They order her about cs
if she were their lackey. Facts, especially in high life, refute your argu-
Mark this difference: A son desires to eat, do, or hear, what
is manifestly injurious. Let his mother show him why it is
wrong, and thus change his will. This is the mother's art of arts,
and son's great salvation.^^ By showing him that it will sicken
or injure him, she arrays his self-love against his desire, and kills
it. These indulgent mothers have loved and indulged blindly^
without commingling intellect, justice, or firmness with Love.
Such indulgence curses both. The true governmental policy is
somewhat thus :
" Son, this, that, will injure you ; because of this and that. Your
mother loves you too dearly to hurt you, or let you hurt yourself."
Draw out his affections for you by expressing your own for
him ; kiss him when he retires and rises, goes out and comes in ;
fondle and caress him and receive his caresses in return; let him
throw his arms convulsively around your willing neck, and in his
absence write him real good, long, aitectionate, loving letters, and
establish yourself in. his affections and confidence, which is easy,
and no occasion for authority will ever arise. You thus make
yourself his light and gospel. He thinks you infallible, and says,
'^ My mother knows. What she says is so. All she does is just
right." Love gushes from his confiding eyes. He is delighted
to do her every bidding. This is the very alpha and omega of all
maternal management of sons, and paternal rule of daughters.
Most matrons are too squeamish to express what they feel. Is
experkncinfi these maternal yearnings right? All mothers feel
them, and those most who are the best, purest, and highest. They
are risrht because an eternal ordinance of Mature. Then is it not
right to express what it is right to feel ? not coyly, nor shame-
THE CULTIVATION V8. THE CRUCIFIXION OF LOVE. 975
facedly, nor lialf-suppressed, the very suppression im[»lying self-
rebuke, but right out, freely, fully, frankly, naturally.
Mrs. Squeemes wrote to Mrs. Cobb, — "Kiss all your sons for
me, not too old for you to kiss." That son who is too old lo be
kissed by his mother must be about as antiquated as the write?
wa$ squeamish. That prudery is what spoils boys and corrupts
society. Mrs. Saxe said, " Come, son, sit by your mother."
He slipped in bashfully yet smilingly. Presently, another
nine-year-old son coming in, she patted the sofa on the other side,
winningly inviting him also to sit by her. He, too, accepted.
Anon she had thrown one arm around one son, and the other
around the other, and snugged each by turns close to her, fondly.
Presently one hand had found its way to the golden locks of one
son, and the other hand to the curly ringlets of the other, run-
ning her magnetic fingers through their silken hair. Now she
bends her warm lips down to the one, then to the other, impress-
ing the fond kiss of a mother's doting Love on this, then on
that, and in like ways courting up the aiFections of her boys, by
freely expressing her own. Will these boys ever sin ? Never ;
either in this world or the next. Is this mother impure, or too
free? Then are angels' loves impure. The holiest emotion*
known on earth are thus nurtured.
Sons, write to or visit your mother every week as long as she
lives; and, if dead, consecrate one hour weekly to contemplating
her sainted memory, reflecting on her virtues and counsels, and
resolving to practise them. If you have no time to write week-
days, take some evening now devoted to other pleasures or affec-
tions. No meeting, no society, will be equally serviceable. Or,
consecrate to it a given Sabbath hour, after dinner, or before tea.
To a holier work you can never devote the Sabbath. Communi-
cate frcel}*. Tell her all about yourself. Follow her advice.
Section IV.
THE CULTIVATION VS. THE CRUCIFIXION OF LOVE.
959. — LOVB IRRBPRBS8IBLB, BECAUSE INNATE IN ALL.
Primal Faculties compose man's mind, just as bodily orgait
do his body, each executing its own function necessary to all.
976 THE CURES OF ALT. SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
Love is one of these Faculties."^ Its office is propagation.
Everything human impinges on its action. It must he abso-
lutely guaranteed, just as must that of backbone. Only by incor-
porating it into the mind, making it an integral constituent of
itself, could its action be assured. It is thus incorporated.*^
Every primal Faculty goes along with, becomes a part of, every
human being, as much as head with body.^ This, its innateness,
obliges all to exercise it. Not one from the beginning of the
race to its end, can ever escape its sway, any more than that of
gravity, or appetite. Its existence in all renders its action in
each not optional, but compulsory ; nor incidental, but permanent;
not voluntary, but as involuntary as breathing.
It cannot be eradicated from the mind, any more than can
lungs from the body. !N'ot as much ; for lungs can be abstracted,
though not without destroying the body ; but how can a Faculty
be abstracted from the mind ? The body can thus be destroyed,
but mind is indestructible and immortal. God made and inserted
all its mental Faculties to stay. Only when His stars can be
torn down, Ilis sun extinguished, air and water annihilated.
Himself dethroned, but not till then, can any mental Faculty be
extirpated, or function annihilated, from any one human being.
Right action or wrong, 0 man, woman, child, is your only
alternative. Your choice does not lie between its action and
extinction, for the latter is not possible; but lies only between
its normal exercise, or its abnormal.^^^ Choose ye which ^^^
" Eunuchs lack it. Emasculations kill it."
^0 THEY don't. Oxen evince it ; stags more: They treat cows
differently from each other. Female passion rouses it in them
to attempt intercourse. Its function and of course itself still
remain, though weak. Harem eunuchs love their beautiful mis-
tresses, yet cannot harm them. A self-emasculated Texan eunuch,
known to be such, who possessed a fortune, more than he could
spend, begged a superior woman — why not a man ? — to marry
him, accept his millions, and roll in splendor, because, as he said,
he wanted to make and see some woman happy in its use ; giving
her leave to obtain children where she liked. Her reply is inter-
esting, instructive, and womanly, yet not now in point.
It EXISTS in all ; yet is a thousand-fold stronger in some than
others."^ A river furnishes an exact illustration of our point.
THE CULTIVATION VS, THE CRUCIFIXION OP LOVE. 977
Its water gushes out from the mountains, and runs down
from their snowy peaks and showers, so that its sources cai
never be quenched. Flow on forever it must.
Down its valley alone can it go, never up; nor over into any
other hut its own. Dam it up, turn it here, there, down it keei>a
on going, despite all. The higher your dam, the higher it rises.
Never can its dammed waters be thrown back upon their moun-
tain sources, nor crowded back into its hills, nor staunched.
Dam it much, it bursts your dam, and floods all below, sweep-
ing «oil, crops, fruits, dwellings, beasts, inhabitants down with
it. So damming up this sacred sexual sentiment does all this
damage.^*^*** As let this river alone and it will flow on, and irri-
gate instead of ravaging its vales ; so obstruct not this sexual
river, and it will do man only good, never any harm. What if
its banks are full?— no evil results. What if they overflow? — un-
like a torrent caused by damming, it enriches instead of washing
the suil; enhances, not destroys, crops; vxiters man and beast,
not engulfs them.
Precisely so with love, in every single respect.
Is this really so ? Have we got at the core of this boil aftei
all ? for if so, we CiUi soon take it out^ and easily. And not only
without pain to the patient, but with the utmost luxury. Humanity,
look up, and see whether or not your salvation dawns.
960. — Its Right Action with Culture 1*5. its Wrong with
Restraint.
"You PBEBCRIBE IMPOSSIBILITIES, THEN DENOUNCE non-COmpHanCC.
Your reasoning is clear and correct. We admit and fed its full force,
but are hedged in on all sides, by that very public opinion from which you
argue. Lads and lasecs must be fenced apart from puberty. How can
boarding-school young ladies, or collegiates, exercise Love, except in self
or conjoint defilement? No school-girl must exchange billet-doux with
the fellows, nor even look at any from her window, without disgrace or
expulsion, which ruins her for life."
Society and Christianity should guide, not squelch, Love.
Nothing else remains. Its extinction Qod will not permit,
any more than damming Niagara.*** And yet precisely this they
have been attempting over eighteen centuries'. All laws and
customs, the whole force of public opinion and private practice,
and the whole power of ** Love of Gk>d and religion," with all
^78 THE CURES OP AT^L SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
Other possible means and devices, have done their utmost to cru-
cify it ; but worse than in vain. All its riotings described in ^^-^^^
are Nature's practical answer to this " policy " of " fighting against
God." And this must ever prove thus. Resisting and trying to
crush out tides and winds, would he comparative wisdom. Why
try au}^ longer what has utterly failed so long? Efforts more
jstrenuous, varied or prolonged, are impossible. Who but must
see this ? If this is disputed, it cannot possibly be refuted.
Nominal Christianity originated this anti - amatory war.
** Nominal " only, not real. It dawned on the utmost of sensu-
ality and lust. Roman, Grecian, Persian, and all other worship,
incorporated the utmost of the lowest sexual riotings into their
religion. Yenus and Bacchus were their two most popular deities,
and worshipped more than all the others ; and their worship con-
sisted in shameless, wanton, promiscuous public intercourse, along
with drunkenness. See our previous descriptions of their feast."*^
Drunken debauchery was their piety, lust their pride, and Pathics
their religious ministers, pmV/ to teach and incite to the lowest
lustful {)ractices.
Against this Christianity justly set her determined front.
How could she do otherwise? Christ and Paul denounced " for-
nication, and all manner of concupiscence," and enjoined sexual
purity. This is what arrayed Heathenism against it, and chiefly
induced the persecutions of the earlier Christian martyrs. Nero
at his feasts thrust light pitch-pine sticks all over into tlie
naked flesh of those Christian virgins who persisted in preserv-
ing their chastity, and solely because they would not cohabit pro-
iriiscuously.
The Christian Fathers denounced this public lust, this pious
prostitution, with their utmost zeal ; and in doing so argued that
the sexual impulse itself is the most utterly loathsome, wicked,
and abominable in God's sight, and constituted Adam's single sin,
which "brought death into the world with all our woes;" that
only those who rooted it clean out of their natures could go to
heaven; that this was the devilish temptation and sin; that
virgins alone were pure in God's eyes, and far above married
matrons ; and all they could think of like this. Under this false
idea, still held by Shakers, many of them, Origen, Selsius, Mal-
thus, and hosts of others, knowing that in this sense they were
very great sinners, bound to squelch this sin of sins that tliey
might get to heaven, actually emasculated themselves, and preached
THE CULTIVATION V8, THE CBUCTFIXION OP LOVE. 979
this as a duty to those who would serve the Lord in purity. This
idea ha« come along down till to-day as a Christian doctrine and
practice. The celibacy of the Catholic priesthood is one of its
ancient remnants, and this sexuo-crucifixion by that Church, by
all the Churches, is its outgrowth. It wrote sexual repression
right into all the laws, customs, and usages of all Christian lands
I myself have known hundreds who made themselves eunuchs,
piously thinking thereby to propitiate Christ; escape that hell this
passion as they thought endangered ; and obtain that heaven this
self-emasculation assured ; and tens of thousands who condemne<l
themselves for every sexual feeling as an abomination in God's
holy sight.
What ! God punish us with eternal burning for exercising a
dentiment He creates ivithi7i us? forces upon us t necessifates ? ^
What ! Worship and love as unjust a fiend as this would make
Him ! You stupid dolt, you pious blasphemer, to believe this.
You outrageous libeller, to thus "falsely accuse" our Blessed
Father of all. Let all such here learn the origin and fallacy of
this idea; and turn their "conscientious scruples" from its
impossible extinction, to its possible and desirable right direc-
tion.
Love is crucified, yet should be cultivated.
Use strengthens: Inertia weakens. Action is the great
natural law of all things. This teaches that self-culture b}^ exer-
cise is man's first duty and luxury. All education, juvenile,
collegiate, and personal, is based in it. So is all "training,"
mental discipline, and perfection by that practice which makes
perfect.**^ Is Love an exception ? Is every other Faculty to
be prompted, inspired, and pampered, but this crucified? Pre-
jiosterous ! All should seck^ not shun, the other sex ; and imbibe,
not reject, their influences. It is just as pure and necessary as
Worship, Memory, Economy, or any other Faculty. Would you
not be guilty for strangling Conscience, Appetite, or Beauty ?
And equally Love? God did not make it or you for any such
martyrdom. And will terribly punish its stiflers. As starvation
weakens the stomach more then wrong eating ; as inert muscles
shrivel and fail ; as bandaging the eyea for years effectually para-
lyzes them ; so sexual starvation paralyzes this whole sexual aeg-
ment, mental and physical, more than anything else, even it«
glut, can do. You who have let it ' v idle till this the fourth,
980 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
eighth, eleveutli hour, enter this vineyard of its nurture, and
cJierish it the more assiduously.
"Take care how you thus preach and enjoin 'fornication, and all
manner of uncleanness/ especially to virgins."
Take care how you misunderstand or misrepresent me. You
think enjoining its action enjoins intercourse, whereas this is
only one of its functions. Its ultimate, to be sure, but how vast
an amount o^ prior preparatory action remains this side? The
only sphere for that is marriage. And its only true object is one
sexual mate. Put all these teachings jtogether, and object you who
dare. The fact is, there is no getting by, getting round, getting
over, any one of these doctrines. All are true. Love : But love
right. Its mode of action is not now up, only its fact. Old baches,
old maids, young ones, '' Society," note, and heed.
961. — Spies, Snoups, Eavesdroppers, Watch-Crows, Tattlers,
Scandal.
Sexual Police by dozens stand perpetual sentinels all around
every girl, and conscience within. Father {he knows how it is
himself) would no more allow her to write to, or talk, or walk, or
be with any young man than take poison. "Any lads at that
party to-night?" "Yes ! " " Then Lizzie can't go." If there aint,
she don't want to. She must n't look up or around in church.
"Ogling, ha?" but only on the minister or hymn. Must not
even laugh, lest she be called ungenteel, simply because it ex-
presses Love. No young man must meet any girl more than
twice, but " they 're engaged " or scandalized. Aunt Prude, with
no more love in her "than blood in a turnip," a ceaseless, lynx-
eyed spy, an eavesdropper, "smelling round " constantly for sexual
mice, and making mountains of suspicion and censure out of
molehills of facts. Female society just about interdicted to all
good young men, and they driven to club, or billiard, or harlot
saloons. Many husbands neither show nor feel affection for
wives, and jealously watch that no others do. He starving her
and himself to death ; and she paying him back in his own coin,
with compound interest, while starving him along with herself.
Dogs in mangers, both. Everybody self-appointed volunteer
snoups, watch-crows, evil-eyed suspecters, and maligners, them-
selves frail, and judging that everybody else is as loose at hear)t
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as they know they are, ''wanting only op|X)rtunity ;" which they
are bound shan't he had. Everybody crazy to get what everybody
is crazy to prevent everybody else from getting ! Ilarem women
are no more completely hedged all around on all sides, and locked
in and bolted out in every possible resf>ect, than are all res[>ectable
women in these watch -dog days. Everybody bound to keep
everybody else proper. Every woman remorselessly crucified who
manifests the slightest sexual inclinations till after marriage,
soon after which she has little to manifest.
Serves you right. You who bind this burden on others,
ought to have it bound tighter and heavier on youi-selves.
Watch-crows and dogs should have both over them. Eavesdrop-
pers and spies should be eavesdropped and spied tenfold. Every-
b<Kly incessantly crucifies the sexuality of everybody else, and
gets "tit for tat." Thus much of what is. Next of what
should be.
Everybody should watch themselves, but nobody else. Be
only your own watch-dog. Bark solely at your own self. Do as
you please, and let all do as they like. Let all guide their con-
duct by natural laws, and enjoy and suffer accordingly. Stand
and fall to your oicn master, and let others by theirs. "Who
made thee a judge and a ruler over " any but your own selff Each
be your own sexual policeman, nobody's else. This espionage
of public sentiment is perpetually inflicting the utmost outrage
on all by each, on each by all ; and has f/ot to be abolished. And
charity substituted. And concealment for emblazonment. And
private reproof for public scandal. And culture for repression.
And pride in its proper action, for shame in all its action. The
PVench are right in none ever troubling themselves about other
people's virtue, nor tattling; which women do and suffer from the
most. Tell Mr. Peekaboo to niind his otrn business, not yours,
and you 'II mind your own, not his. Tell Mrs. Blab not to look ;
to sec witli but half an eye only a tithe open ; and to put tlie
best, not worst, construction on wluit she has to see. Rpit to-
bacco juice 8(piare into Mrs. Tattle's face, mouth, and eyes; tell-
ing her "Charity covereth a multitude of sins, while you make
a multitude out of nothing." Tell Mrs. Grundy and Mr. Pro-
priety that the worst watch others the most; while you propose
to follow God in Nature; and to stiind or fall only by the in-
fallible " natural-laws " tribunal, by taking its rewards and pun-
ishments.
982 the cures op all sexual diseases and sufferings.
962. — Sexual Individuality vs. Straight- Jacket Conformity.
Differing Parents necessitate differing children — a white
man's by a negress unlike both parents and races. This diversi-
fying law creates the different fruits, varieties, and relishes,*'*
marital tastes, and supplies.^'^ These diversities should be ex-
pressed, else are useless. Why should, how could lion act like
sheep, frog like horse ? Yet
Procrustes still reigns — still cuts off all too long for his
iron bedstead, and stretches everybody out to its length who fall
short, by " Society " obliging every one to conform with the ut-
most precision to its established proprieties. This girl differs
totally from that ; yet public opinion compels both to act exactly
like each other, and all others ; and expels all who dare express
any individuality. One girl has this sexual flavor, so to speak,
another girl a flavor very different. Then do let each act out her
deliciousness, and those feast on either who like it best. Why
put both into the same straight-jacket of coliformity to ascitic
public opinion, by compelling both to act and do just precisely
thus and so, and be just so nippy, prim, precise, proper, and par-
ticular in all she says ? Take off all these societarian straight-
jackets. These girl patients are neither insane, nor depraved ;
while some are too large for these little straight-jackets. Give
each liberty to act and talk out her real nature ; each beholder
enjoying what he likes, and throwing over the mantle of charity
wherever it is needed, instead of crucifying her summarily.
Repression cultivates hypocrisy. Who can discern the native
characteristics of girls thus habitually strangled ? Or how can
they grow sexually ? for expression ahvays augments.
Loosen these propriety corset-lacings. Encourage each boy,
li^irl, young man, woman, to act out their sexual promptings, so
tliat they are first rectified and sanctified. Correct the fountain,
ihen let it flow forth freely. Human nature is always truly
l)eautiful and all right throughout, and its sexual the most.
Purity is always frank. Children yet in sexual purity ex-
jjress it as artlessly and as innocently as they do kindness, with-
out t\\e least shamefaced shyness. Women, too, in a very i)ure,
exalted sexual state, are as much more free, familiar, forward, in-
sinuating, frank-spoken on sexual subjects, than those on a lower
and more animal phme, as their c:exual status is purer. So
THE CULTIVATION V8, THE CRUCIFIXION OP JjOVE. 983
Let your sexual light shine, and specialties come to tlie
Burface.
963. — Ck)NVKRSATORIES, ALWAYS OPEN TO BoTH SeXES.
Conversation supplies man's best expression of Platonic Love.
This mental cohabitation is far more delicious without physical
than physical without mental. Those who enjoy physical in
silence enjoy but little.^^ It is mainly in and of the soul, so as
to create mind, and takes many times longer to equalize their
male and female magnetisms ; besides being much more luxurious
for the time being, and furnishing an excellent substitute for
physical. Its lusciousness measures its utility. Have not you,
reader, longed for it as for nothing else, and hoped and prayed
for some time, hereafter, if not here, when you could interchange
ideas and feelings on all subjects with gifted friends of the other
sex? How strong is this heart yearning? How little supplied ?
How can it be gratified ?
Associations for all sorts of objects — literary, as in societies ;
religious, as in churches ; pecuniary, as in corporations, partner-
ships, &c. ; reformatory, as in Temperance, the Grangers, &c. ;
gustiitory, as in "clubs,'' &c. — constitute one of man's primary
Faculties,'^® called Friendship.**^ It joins Love, and works best
with it ; and hence makes most friends among the opposite sex.
Love always begins in Friendship, and both united, delight to
converse, men with women, and women with men, far the most.
Places for these sex uo-f r lend ly "confabs" thus become a
necessary human institute. Men will yd hace them, despite Mrs.
Grundy. Not to talk small talk and scandal, as now, but on all
subjects. And on those of this book the most.
Conversatokies, not observatories, nor conservatories, but con-
versO'tories more or less select, chosen much as club-members now
are, adding books, vocal and instrumental music, dancing, prom-
enades, lectures, whatever each conversatory may agree upon, with
A room owned or rented, fitted up to their liking, where they can
always meet some one, yet only their own members and their
friends, or those invited by them, constitute a great human need,
which will soon be supplied. We need not give details, because
each must vary to suit dift'erent tastes. But
Drinks and refreshments ark objbctionadlb, because thoy
materialize what ought to be mentalizcd ; bring with them Clic
984 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
o^ross and mercenary ; would be too much on the beer-garden and
saloon order; and their proprietors tempted to manage them only
to make thorn pai/, and thus cater to grosser appetites ; whereas all
profits should go to support and improve the conversatory itself.
" Only select clubs would do for me and my family." — Mr. Frostcak^
" I don't mix with common people. Only my own exclusive aristocratic
circle will do for me. No Miss Carpenters or Masons near me. The
high-toned or none." — Miss Flora McFlimsy, Then starve on, to death.
Meeting at each other's houses, alternately, will do, if without
REFRESHMENTS ; yet if with, rivalry to dress and " entertain " the
best will spoil thera. And they should be in some one place, the
same as reading-rooms, where any member can drop in any leisure
hour, and find co-conversationalists. A few years will see this
plan universally adopted.
" Alcott's conversations" as a base, intermingling together
music, speaking, humorous and instructive anecdotes, dancing,
plays, any and every thing improving, useful, and amusing, would
bring out all kinds of amateur talents in all their participants ;
be inexpressibly healthful, delightful, inspiring, refining, and
moralizing ; develop all those female fascinations and virtues
now smothered by isolated inertia; close all male resorts; sup-
plant all forms of lust by pure afi:ection and normal Love ; pro-
mote marriages, families, and homes ; bind all together; override
the exclusives ; and immeasurably improve society.
More male and female freedoms, chastened in all being
" before folks," by feeding Love normally, would banish all kinds
of its abnormal and vitiated action.
" A marital hook well baited. We see what you 're up to. You think
by thus bringing us into * close quarters ' in these conversatories with these
fascinating ladies, to help thera entrap us into marriage, ha. No you
don't." — Many Bachelors.
You who lack gender are in no danger; and the more you
have, the greater your danger. We would not guarantee any but
eunuchs ; and say frankly that such institutions would weed celi-
bates out of society, only to multiply families and their products.
This work is similarly chargeable.
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Section V.
GIRLHOOD : ITS DANGERS, AND A RIGHT USHERING INTO
WOMANHOOD.
9G4.— An accomplished, " Female Educated " Ruination.
A WRONG female REARING, wbicli culminates in our female sem-
inaries, is one of the chief causes of those feminine deteriorations
and complaints so common yet fearful.*^'^ Thouirh many of
them originate in the fashions,^' and many othere in disappointed
Love,"* and still others in excessive yet passive intenrourse^ and
errors in confinement; yet the great proportion originate in
wrong girlhood habits. Little girls are handsomer than large,
and they than women ; whereas the reverse should obtain. That
cliubby-faced, rosy-cheeked girl must be pressed into school
almost as soon as she can fairly walk, with her ambition stimu-
lated by every possible motive ; must not be allowed to play, be-
cause she might mix up with Laura Carpenter and Sarah Smith,
who, though good girls, are below her in "social position ;" must
study before, at, and after school, and half the night in addition;
sit most of her time, and in tight dresses, and " practise " hours
daily at the pinno besides; and then be sent to the "Young La-
dies' Seminary," to be imprisoned between brick and mortar
walls; rarely allowed to go out, and then only with a drill
toachor in front and another in her rear, to see that every stej) is
t4iken just so genteelly; must not even look out at her window
lest she flirt; and all to get an "accomplished education." If
the education is accom]>lished, its young lady virtmis are not.
Instead of true genteel young women, they become only bundle*
of mental and physical artificialities. Satan, if furnished with
every means of injury, could have selected no agent of evil as
cficctive as these female fashions, of which female boarding-
schools are but an outgrowth, and one of our country's greatest
curses. They bury girls by thousands, and spoil them by mil-
lions. " Mrs. l*artington " was right in charging " Ike " " never,
on any account, to choose a wife from a young ladies* scmx-Ury;**
for one may almost as well choose from the cemetery as the sem-
inary. Three girls, two only daughters, went from one seminary
986 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
to one cemetery in one spring — educated to death ! And from one
of the best of these seminaries at that; yet therefore one of the
worst, because the better they are the worse they are; for in their
YQvy goodness consists their badness. If by one blow I could
raze every one of them to the ground, I would deliberately give
that blow with a will, unless they are remodelled upon the plat-
form of health first; and our girls educated^ instead of metamor-
phosed into fashionable nonentities. "We little realize their far-
reaching and terrible effects in the consequent feebleness of our
women and children. These hot-house precocities soon become
insipid ; while those ^^\\o have laid a good physical foundation
by tomboy romping, will make good wives, and bear healthy
children. Our present educational system blights all who make
any pretensions to culture, just as they merge into womanhood,
by leaving them too feeble to establish their feminine excretion,
the suppression of which spoils them ever after.^^
This hot-house system must be remodelled. Fathers, mothers,
and lovers, these darling maidens are too precious to be thus im-
molated by wholesale on this gaudy altar of false appearances.
Let those who can trace out eftects from their causes think to
what we are drifting ; and let mammas remember that good food
with plenty of exercise, less art with more nature, less toilet arti-
ficialities with more robustness, less study with more play, less
paint with more oxygen, and less fashionableness with more wo-
manliness, will render them incomparably more fascinating, and
every way better than they now are. Young men, inscribe on
your matrimonial banners:
"Healthy Girls, or no Wives."'"^ Since you induce these
ruinous artificialities, by fluttering around boarding-school ac-
complishments, obviate them by courting merit, not mere ful-
some show.®^^ What an infinite pity that all this educational
pains and expense should be worse than wasted, in only spoiling
earth's fairest flower and most delicious fruit.
Novel reading redoubles this nervous drain begun by exces-
sive study. What is or can be as superlatively silly or ruinous
to the nerves as that silly girl, snivelling and laughing by turns
over a " love story"? Of course it awakens her sexual passion.
In this consists its chief charm. Was there ever a novel without
its hero ? One such would be Hamlet played with Hamlet left
out. Yet how could depicting a beau so heroic, lovable, and
GIRLHOOD : ITS DANGERS, ETC. 987
dead in love, fail to awaken this tender passion in enchanted
readers? To titillate Amativeness, mainly, are novels written and
read. For this they become " vade mecuras," and are carried to
table, ride, picnic, walk, everywhere. Fiction writers are not
public benefactors, or their publishers philanthropists. The
amount of nervous excitement, and consequent prostration, ex-
haustion, and disorder they cause is fearful. Girls have ten times
too much excitability for their strength already. Yet novels
redouble both their nervousness and weakness. Only Amazons
could endure this. Mark this its reason — that Love, womb, and
the nervous system, are in the most perfect mutual sympathy.**
Therefore love-stories, in common with all other forms of ama-
tory excitement, thrill. In this consists their chief fascination.
Yet all amatory action with one*s self induces sexual ailments.'"
It should always be with the opposite sex only; yet novel-read-
ing girls exhaust the female magnetism without obtaining any
com})ensating male magnetism, which of necessity deranges their
entire sexual system.^^® The whole world is challenged to inval-
idate either this premise or inference. Self-abuse is worse, be-
cause more animal ; but those who really must have amatory
excitement will find it " better to marry," and expend on real
lovers those sexual feelings now worse than wasted on this its
" solitary " form of novel-reading. Those perfectly happy in
their affections never read novels ; because real Love is so n)uch
more fascinating than that described. Another cause of female
complaints is,
965. — A WRONG MERGING INTO WoMANHOOD.
Puberty creates the great crisis in every female life. By
developing girlhood into womanhood, it ushers in a new and
greatly improved order of existence.*"- •'* The fullest preparation
is therefore duo it ; along with every provision for rendering its
most welcome advent every way successful. Its usher is the
female courses.*** Though easily suppressed at first, yet once
fully established, only some serious sexual errors can blight hor;
but from such blight complete restoration is difficult, and rare.
If your darling daughter is of any account, as you love her, and
would render her lovable and happy throughout all her future,
see to it that she passes through this trying ordeal just right.
Pre-inform her ae to her prospective monthly advent, and tell her
938 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND ^UFFERINQS.
what to do, and what not, on its appearance. This mock " ini "-
modesty must soon give way before advancing knowledge and
individual self-interest. It has ruined darling girls by myriads.***
Let it not ruin ^-ours.
Fully establishing this excretion requires a vast amount of
vital force; yet at this period she should be growing faster than
at any other. Think how much vitality is consumed by this
rapid organic manufacture, together with her monthly excretion,
equal to so much red blood right from her heart. Then consider
what a drain on her system is made by her study, along with ex-
cessive anxiety lest she might miss some item in recilation, and
her ambition to be first. Could an iron constitution, much less
a weakly, susceptible one, long endure these- four concurrent
drains ? Is it any wonder that most of them blight more or less at
this eventful period, become irregular, and have only rudimental
breasts^ and voices'^^, with too little life-force to develop into
womanhood ? Their restoration is possible, but doubtful ; be-
cause the blighting cause is redoubled. Their womh-foiaitain of
everything feminine is stifled.^ Too pale or red, too fat or lean,
they look awfully, though distressed to death. Their female
loveliness and charm have perished,^^^ and their light-hearted
buoyancy is turned into despairing sadness. They are spoiled,
like dough half-risen, and fallen just as it began to rise. What
marriageable or womanly attributes remain? !N^o wonder girls,
naturally so angelic,^^^ degenerate thus. Poor victimized crea-
tures! jS'ot themselves the cause, but good, willing, obeying
implicitly, they are immolated on the altar of a "genteel ruina-
tion." And all that they may study " Butler's Analogy," of no
more practical life-use than chewing sawdust ; as is much besides
of this ''full course" of girl-slaughter. If it promotes bearing,
woman's only mission, let her swallow it whole ; if not, cui bono f
Principals, where are your eyes and senses ? Where is even your
sympathy? Parents, weep tears of blood over this wholesale
ruin of tbese " birds of paradise." *' A full course" spoils nearly
all, by substituting: exhaustino- studv for invio-oratini? exerci?H\
Almost all girls blight before the^^ graduate. Take them out of
school from twelve to fourteen, unless sure that they have plenty
of vital force for complete female development besides.''^ Give
health the full benefit of all doubts ; for without it what can they
possibly ever do, become, or enjoy?
GIRLHOOD: ITS DANGERS, ETC. 989
Vassar College is a wholesale virgin slaughtei'-liousc. All
concede that going up its stairs literally killed its late excellent
Principal ; and that its six flights are causing female complaints,
esj)eeially j)rolapsus, in all who do not hring it there with them,
and aggravating it wherever it exists! All others follow suit.
And the higher their stories the more they injure.
The entire science of a right female education consists in its
fitting girls for fultilling their specific female mission, namely,
maternity ; which modern education almost spoils. Then curse it.
966. — Sexual Inertia, induced by starving Love.
Inaction is fatal to any and all function.*®^ Love cannot be cru-
cified without irreparable loss.^* And yet modern prudery does
its utmost to crush it. Does this fit its victims for good wives, or
superb mothers? Instead, does it not wither the very conjugal
and maternal element itself? Its suppression renders them so
coarse, gross, and unlady-like*^ that none will tolerate them
"about house " in any capacity. Many, taught that this feeling
is " the unpardonable sin," conscious of being great sinners at
their fii*st menstruation, say to themselves, " My unpardonable
sin has found me out. I must hide it by washing my under-gar-
nients;" which, replaced while wet, suppress their flow, and, by
reversing their sexuality ,**• makes them perfect man-haters, and
spoils for life. Before marriage, sexual starvation ; after it,
excessive taxation. Said the wife of a lawyer:
*• I appreciate my husband's talents and morals, and am an excel-
lent cook, laundress, and housekeeper, yet utterly lack the one specific
function of the wife proper, and fail in endowing my children. My mother
gave me but little, which she crushed out by a prudish education. How
can I prevent my daughters from committing a like ' sin of omission '
against their husbands and children?"
Most sexually dormant mothers interdict masculine society
to a daughter, and reverse this Faculty, by perpetually disparag-
ing "these men" in her eyes, whereas they should nurture it by
expatiating on their excellences. This mental aversion renders
her womb too sluggish to develop seasonably, so that she blights at
the threshold of womanhood ; whereas right sexual culture would
have promoted menstruation.** Her blood consequently thickens ;
her head aches; her eyes lose their glow, no never get it ; and yet.
990 THE CURES OF ALL SKXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
though pale, i>erhaps unduly fat,^ she is goaded on in study till
her nerves give way ; her memory fails ; growth is arrested ; and
constitution linally breaks. She reaches eighteen, even twenty,
less developed and with less woman in her ft)rm and spirit than
is due at thirteen. Of course the beaux pay her no court. Her
father's purse secures her a mercenary proffer and marriage.
With little gender at best, and that little stifled by a prudish
education, this poor girl is yet required to rush suddenly from
extreme sexual dormancy into the opposite extreme at marriage
— impossible — or else lose her young husband's affections. Of
course he finds little more sex in her than in an icicle, yet waits
patiently for her improvement, only to find her growing worse,
till finally, calling himself "sold," he seeks abroad what he fails
to find at home. A family is thus spoiled ! Whereas,
If mother HAD NURTURED, instead of quenching, her naturally
feeble gender, by tastefully adc/rning her for this picnic and that
party and dance,®^^' ^^^ saying,
" Reply courteously if a lad or young gent speaks to you, and make
yourself as agreeable as possible. Or if he calls to spend the evening, in-
stead of shying off, just see how pleasantly you can entertain him. You
had better do and say almost anything than nothing;"
and encouraged her expression of what little lady-like attrac-
tions she possesses, and pointed out this and that admirable
quality in this young man and that, all such masculine company
and admiration would carry the more blood to quicken and
enlarge her sexual organs,^^^ promote her monthlies,^^^ develop her
gender, womb-manize her spirit, clear her head, enhance every
female charm and virtue, and help make her a happy w^ife and
good mother. Mark this heaven-wide difference between these
two educational courses. Mothers, have none of you thus spoiled
your precious daughters, after having been thus spoiled your-
selves ?
Pity our martyrized girls ! Crowded into school while yet
mere tottlers ; denied that girlish, romping heyday as antecedent
to womanhood as morning to noon ; taxed clear up to their ut-
most tension of effort while there; tired at starting because their
morning sleep, the best of all,^^ is cut short ; tired all out all day
by sitting in one w^earisome backache posture, and bent half-
double to relieve it ; tired going home, and refatigued by com
GIRLflOoD: ITS DA.\(JKkS, ETC. 901
nicncing to-morrow*8 task today; sleep disturbed l)y dreamy fears
of jrcttiiiir ''marked down" to-morrow for mis.nn£^ some little
point ; starved sexually by being virtually imprisoned, and thus
driven into self-abuse or sexual inertia, wliicli is even more ruin-
ous to gender ; left too little vitality to bud rigbt out into glo-
rious womanhood; most of them blighted at its threshold; their
heads always aching and heart fluttering from menstrual sup-
pressions ; their Love prematurely excited by this hot-bed educa-
tit)nal ruination, only to be blighted in its bud, to the ruin of
their sexualities ; scarcely one bright, joyous day of free aild
happy girl-life, or one sparkling eye or sunny, girl-like face; lips
parched ; haggish or forlorn ; looking much repellant, instead of
most attmctive ; primped up here, trimmed off there, and " cut-
back" everywhere ; thrust into a physical and mental prison, and
kept in a vise at that ; not half their wombs half grow nor breasts
half developed ; — Great God ! who can help cursing and swearing
to behold Thy premium commodity thus blasted and immolated
by "society I" And
After marriage, worse yet ! And their pitiable children worst
of all ?
Indulge, kot crush out, girlish instincts ; God made them
light. Let them grow.
967. — How TO preserve virgin Propriety and Chastity.
"Your plan would unduly tempt virgin purity; break down
all barriers to virtue by temptations to lust; and make our houses
brothels and children bastards. Their strong passions, along with little
experience and judgment, renders their closest watching the only safe
course ; while yours would ruin theui by wholesale."
Virgin puhity is earth's most precious jewel; and at any
and all hazards to be preserved inviolate. In this all agree.
How to preserve it the most effectually is the very problem.
Not BY watching : because, 1. Watched virtue is never worth
its sentinel; 2. Purity is almost worthless, unless it comes from
irithin, 8. Is of the heart, as is also adultery and forniciition. 4.
Passion finds a way^ when there is the will, despite watching and
guarding, however closely, which promotes clandestine intrigues,
on the principle of contrariety: 5. Must be self-sustaining, if
sustained at all : 6. Passive virtue, originating in tameness or
992 THE CURhlS OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES ANL»^ SUFFERINGS.
compelled by outward restraint, lias no moral character; and in-
dicates a poor wife and mother.
Nature makes absolute inherent and internal provision for
as important a requisite as is female chastity. It, like Love, is
inborn,^^ and self-preserving;^ goes with it, is a part of it,^^
and the stronger it is, the stronger is this its safeguard. The less
of it a girl has, the easier seduced she is. All facts attest this.
Girls most watched oftenest elope, or fall. Exercise strengthens
virtue as much as muscle. Guarding it for her saves her guard-
ing her own; and does for it what always carrying her would do
for her walking. Extremes always produce their opposites. As
ministers' sons are proverbially wildest, because repressed most,
and those brought up most strictly in any respect oftenest surge
over to opposite extremes ; so those girls err most who are
guarded most. As yon lone tree most exposed to surging winds
therefore becomes sturdiest ; so virtue, triumphing over oppor-
tunities, strengthens itself by its own exercise. All well-sexed
females are perpetually liable to temptation. Will not those
brought up to protect themselves resist much the most resolutely?
Making girls their own keepers, by putting them on their sense
of womanly propriety, throws around them their surest shield
of virtue ; and makes them safer without watching than other-
wise with. As watching any clerk makes him not more honest,
but only more artful, while leaving all on his manhood is your
surest protection ; so with all female virtue, old and young, T^ife
and maiden. Find a complete demonstration of this law in^^^.
Hence un watched virtue is safest.
That vindictive scorn with which all virtuous women repel
all attempts on their virtue, is its only guardian ; and as all-suf-
ficient as eyelids to eyes, or skull to brain. ITo man would
endanger it twice. Superadd sexual knowledge^®® to this distinct
injunction, *' Your virtue is your own to preserve," and the
greater their temptation the greater their triumph.
Love is instinctively pure, Platonic, refined, exclusive, though
generally pronounced lustful, and never seeks intercourse till a
strong mutual Love ripens it up, and virtually marries lovers.
Its usual lustful ness is consequent on that very repression we are
rebuking.®^ Don't dam it up, and it won't overflow its virtuous
banks.^^
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Section VI.
THE CUBES OF MALE SEXUAL DISORDERS.
968. — A Right love Cohabitation the infallible curb.
Medicines cannot cure. They almost universally prove useless,
or else injurious. They are no more adapted to reach these cases
than a dose of ipecac and jalap is to assuage a mother's grief for
the loss of her darling babe. That they do no good, is the uni
versal testimony of all honest medical men, and the experience
of all who consult them.
Dr. Walcott, surgeon-general of Wisconsin, a most able physi-
cian, asked by the author if any medicine known to the faculty
cured or relieved seminal losses, replied, with great emphasis, " No,
not one." Dr. N. Allen, LL.D., of Lowell, asked the same ques-
tion, made the same answer. Ask any medical man of standing if
any materia-mcdica prescription can be relied upon to either cure or
palliate involuntary emissions, and he will tell you Ko. Seek
aid even of those quacks who pretend to cure this ailment, and
all will give you medicines for a blind, but always accompany
them with hciilth prescriptions and regimen, which signifies that
they rely for cure on the advice, not on the medicines. I never
yet knew the man who had been cured by applying to any
medical man whatever; and I have seen those by thousands
who have "doctored" for it. You who apply to them but throw
away both your money and constitutions together. Restoration
cannot come through that channel. Beware of balsam copaiba.
It ruins the blood. A New York doctor charged $10,000.
You CAN CURB YOURSELVES. You must DO, instead of passively
folding your arms, to which you are inclined. Grant that a cure
requires hard work : are not life, health, happiness worth work-
ing hard to obtain? If in the Niagara rapids, and certain to be
precipitated over its yawning precipice in case you remained pas-
sive, but could save yourself by powerful effort, would you fold
your hands ? Would you not tax every energy of life to its ut-
most? What will not man do for his life? And your life is at
stake, and the prize of effort.
** But mt cause was self-abuse, which is clearly physical."
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994 THE CURES OP ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
Your sin was mental, not physical. You imagined a sexual
partner in it — was not that mental ? Suppose you had manipu-
lated these organs without any amatory feelings, it would have done
yon not the least damage. Amatory feelings alone brought a
rush of blood to these parts,^^ alone gave the pleasure, alone did
the damage. A lustful, sensuous, vulgarized state of your love-
Facidty effected this entire ruin ; so that your cure must necessarily
consist in obviating this its meyital cause ; and ht^nce a pure, holy
Love for some good, virtuous female is your specific antidote for
this mental cause, and, of course, your cure for this its physical
impairment. I^othing can be clearer. And its effects prostrated
your wwd more than body. It made you sick, qualmish, and dis-
gusted with the opposite sex,^ and thereby killed out no small
part of your capacity for loving. It sapped and rotted the chit of
gender.^ If it had merely prostrated your physical sexuality,
its damage would have been comparatively slight ; but it created
animal cravings, along with sexual disgust and demoralization.
This mental sexuality is what is to be restored. Until and unless
this is done, all restoratives must prove useless. This great centre
principle of all sexual cure will bear the test of all individuals
throughout all ages, and is of incalculable value to mankind, by
teaching those who desire to be restored, or even improved sexu-
ally, just where, and only where, to begin, and how to proceed ;
besides showing why all medicines are necessarily impotent for
good. See hoW completely other acknowledged principles cor-
roborate and fortify it — that Love is the soul of gender ;^^ and
in perfect sympathy and rapport with the sexual organs, kaJ^
Indeed, this is but a corollary of those ; and since those cannot
be controverted, this must be accepted as both a natural truth,
and embodying the great principle of all restoration.
Youu RESTORATION IS SURE and easy, as long and far as life and
constitution remain.®*^ Unfortunate reader, however foolish and
sinful you may have been, never despair; because discouragement
greatly impedes your cure; and your disease renders you more
gloomy and disheartened than you need be.^^^ Even though your
case is bad, you regard it as much worse than it really is. If it
were fatal, you would be now literally dying of despair. The flag
of truce is yet flying. Because you have entered the broad road,
you need not go down to final ruin. The door of escape is yet
open. Few cases are desperate. Most men can be wellnigh
cured.®*® Listen to its application.
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A RK^T Love state alone can cure, as a wrong diseased you.
But this can and will, for to this it is specifically adapted. Since
passion sends a rush of blood to these organs to produce erection,
of course all pure love-e mot ions also divert blood to them, not
with a rush as in passion, but in that quiet, gentle action which
improves. Lust is to them what violent hail-storms are to vege-
tation, chilling and tearing to pieces, besides e^ullying the land in
running off; while Love resembles the gentle, continuous min,
soaking in as it falls, and producing vigorous and healthy growth
— the identical remedy prescribed for healing broken hearts,"*
and restoring the fallen.*^
969. — How Marital Intercourse cures Seminal Losses.
" Involuntary emissions are our evil genius, and have induced heart
and liver complaints, horrid dreams, lustful cravings, dyspepsia, costive-
nees, sleeplessness, prostration, rush of blood to the head, and, worst of all,
incessant melancholy. We have tried all the doctors, and all the pathies,
without benefit. Each in turn has made us worse, till life has become in-
tolerably burdensome. We had rather die than live on thus. This book
tells /roTTi what we have fallen, and to what. * Adam's fall ' was no greater.
But for it, O what we might have been ! Instead, O what we now are.
Early sexual errors, the curse of our lives, cause all."
" From them and their effects we implore deliverance. Surely,
that all glorious * science of man ' which describes them and their causes
thus clearly, can also prescribe their remedy. We gave up in hopeless
despair, and sought the grave as our only deliverance ; but your promise
of relief inspires hope, and nerves to renewed effort. We would gladly
give our all, and mortgage our life labors besides, to be restored. In the
name of suffering humanity, tell us how to regain lost manhood." — Million*.
A LOVE MARRIAGE is your specijir cure, and absoluti-Iy inl'alliblc.
Nature provides simple, yet efficacious remedies for all possible
ills;**® seminal losses, of course, included. This remedy is pre-
cisely calculated to effect this identical euro; goes to the root of
your difficulty; and will restore yon just as surely as the risinu"
sun brings daylight.**'** ^' •"•
Each organ is curable by its own food. Light rightly admin-
istered is the natural cure of imjiaired eyes; a right eating of
a disordered stomach; right breathing of diseased lungs; rigirt
skin action for nervousness; right exercise for i)ro8trato muscVes,
Ac. ; and therefore right female magnetism is the natural food,
996 THE CURES OF ALL, SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
tonic, restorer, and panacea for male sexual impairments; and
male equally for female. They were created for each other, and
cannot be divorced without injuring, nor properly united without
benefiting, both.*** Talking, walking, being with, and loving
each other, exercise, feed, and strengthen gender, just as eating
does digestion, by fulfilling Nature's imperious demand for sex-
ual action.*** ]N^othing on earth restores all organs and reinvig-
orates all functions equally with their normal action. Loving
each other establishes a perfect male and female oneness, and
naturally culminates in cohabitatioi^,^^ which must be only with
each other.^^^ You must seize its most favorable times,^^ and
have all its surroundings in harmony with it.^**"* lN"othing but
marriage can supply all these indispensable perquisites. Occu-
pying the same room, bed, &c., gives a perpetual interchange of
this sexual magnetism, which sends a steady, quiet flow of your
lover's magnetism right to these prostrate parts ^*^ to feed, soothe,
and tone up ; causes a slightly increased flow of blood to them,
which redoubles their perspiration, carries oft' disease, and brings
back health ; while occasional cohabitation brings your identical
remedy right home locally to the very parts to be healed. This
must cure, does cure, as by magic.
Half a century of close professional observation on this
identical point, enables me to prescribe this as an absolutely
infallible cure for seminal losses. Out of all the scores of thou-
sands I ever knew, not more than half a dozen men thus
afilicted, who have married, but were soon cured of spermator-
rhoea ; and these exceptions were caused by liLst in marriage. If
its novelty temporarily inflames and aggravates, nurturing pure
Love will soon rectify this evil.
This is a centre shot, and applies equally to both sexes.
Select a good, loving, lovely, sexual mate, adapted to your
specific requirements ; affiliate and nestle right in to each
other's affections ; love whatever is lovable ; and proceed just as
you would to restore a weak and disordered appetite by pamper-
ing it.
Your partner's gender, its kind and amount, helps or hinders
much. When it is weak in either sex, its cure of the opposite
is less magical ; but the more the stronger it is. Thus, an
impaired man will benefit himself immeasurably by marrying
even a poorly-sexed female, but incomparably more the better
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sexed she is ; and vice versd of woman. 80 that it concerns you
whether you put your gender under the tutelage of this female
as compared with that ; and thus of woman.
" Our capacity for loving is so completely demoralized that we can find
Dothing lovable in woman. To us everything feminiue is insipid, noth-
ing attractive in any one, in all. Beautiful female persons have no charms
for us. We once thought all women angels, but now see nothing lovable
in even their character and virtues."
" Pampering Love is your only cure. Its excesses have benumbed it"'
As a palsied stomach loathes food because in no state to digest it ; so you
loathe woman because in a poor state to propagate : and as the cure for said
stomach consists in finding some dainty edible, and uurturing appetite for
it ; so your dormant Love can be revived only by discerning and appropri-
ating the best * disengaged ' female specimen you can well find, and trying
to appreciate and relish her womanly virtues. The two cases are analogous
throughout. Besides
" You NEED TO COURT MONTHS, perhaps years, before you marry ; mean-
while to see each other often, spend many pleasant hours together, have many
walks and talks, think of each other while absent, write many love lettei-s,
be inspired to many love feelings and acts towards each other, and exer-
cise your sexuality in a thousand forms ten thousand times, every one of
which tones up and thereby recuperates this very element now dilapidated.
When you have courted long enough to marry, you will be sufficiently
restored to be reimproved by it. Come,"
" * Up and at it.* Dress up, spruce up, and be on the alert. Don't
wait too long to get one much more perfect than you are ; but settle on
some one soon. Remember that your unsexed state renders you over-
dainty, and easily disgusted. So contemplate only their lovable qualities."
"My LOSSES ARE INVOLUNTARY. Bad sensual dreams I have no jwwer
to resist obtrude themselves upon me during sleep. The evil has passed
before I am myself. Can we control our ni^ht dreams f"
" Indeed we can, because they generally appertain to our day thoughts
and desires. Brace your will while awake against them ; put and keep
yourself in a high, exalted, pure state of mind, and they will gradually
leave you. I took for my graduating thesis, 'Temptation tempts only
those sinftilly predisposed.' The wickeder one is, the more eiusily he is
tempted. As alcoholic stimulants never tempt .those who have no love for
them, as Christ was not tempted by Satan, because m pure and perfect,
so those easily tempted are correspondingly wicked. This is always true
of all, in all things. Semen comes from a sensual state of mind. That
induces your sensual dreams. Sensual thoughts, and noihing eUe^ cause
them. Rectify that state, and they will never occur. Cultivate gowl, pure
thoughts of the opposite sex by <l?»v. and you will not ho trou])]((l ]»y nighu"
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This great work will take time, yet how all-glorious when
•nee achieved !
Love of the Deity constitutes another paramount antidote. I
speak not as a moralist, but only as a physician. Divine love
and worship are specifically calculated to so elevate and sanctify
the mind as to raise it above this grovelling passion. Those who
would wean themselves from tobacco, alcoholic stimulants, sensu-
ality, this, that, or any other "easily besetting sin," will find
" Thou, God, seest me," that is love of the Divine, tlieir very best
motive and incentive to reform.^^
970. — Objections : Impotence Explained and Obviated.
" Our Impotence unfits us to marry. Our run-down sexual organs
are too lax, inert and dormant to respond under even favorable conditioua.
What if they fail at marriage ? Proposing to any woman would be an im-
position on her, and marrying her, an outrage." — Celibates by the Million.
"You fail BECAUSE YOU LACK LovE for your paramours.'^^ Feeble
desire accompanies and causes loss of power ; its mere fitful, flashy craving
excepted. Precisely herein consists your deficit. Your love Faculty is im-
potent, worn out, defunct, so that you have little appreciation, with much
depreciation, of their opposite sex. Just this is what must be nurtured,
restored."^ Select some good woman — not too good, lest you cheat her —
cultivate gallantry, affection, and Love, and engage. This gives you a
right to be much together, and a right to kiss, fondle, and caress;'^ and
courting thus a year or two will every hour you are together send a quiet
extra fiow of blood to each other's sexucl parts to build them up and pre-
pare them and you for marriage and cohabitation ; then by marrying re-
move all drawbacks, and choose your best time ; and a genuine woman will
bring you to time ; unless your sexual cake is all dough. In your fear of
being impotent lies your chief trouble. In Southern France the supersti-
tious peasants believe in putting spells on each other ; and that a discarded
sweetheart or any enemy can so * spell ' them as to render the bewitched
party incapable of intercourse ; fearing which often does cause incapacity
in the males, however virile otherwise. You or those who understand the
signs of gender states,^*** can admeasure your potency to a dot.
" As to ' imposing on a woman by marrying her, she is quite as hkely to
be inert sexually as yourself, thus balancing accounts,' and both missiona-
xies of good to each other. Yet even though you are the poorest off", your
making her a good husband as to providing home and supplies, would
benefit her many times more than injure. And her impregnation would
prevent her overdraught.*"
'' Our childuen would be poor. We should impose on them,"
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•* Not if you had any. The poorest humau life is an infiDite blessing.
Unless you can have those incomparably better than none, Nature will
prevent your having auy.^'* Leave that wholly to her, and have them if
you can. If you cannot, your wife might not have had another offer."
Female impotence is ten times more common than male ; yet
ten times less observable ; because women can passively receive
intercourse though about dead sexually ; while a like male iner-
tia precludes its administration. The same laws and facts and
cures appertain to both. Male has two kinds and causes : —
1. Testal inertia causes impotence. All the other sexual or-
gans are to carry forward and deposit the semen this testal struo-
ture creates, and act only at and under its autocratic dictum.
They do not — why should they ? — act to deposit semen unless it
first acts to create it. Their inertia should and does follow its,
and its causes theirs always. Of this all castrated animals and
eunuchs are living experimental attestants. This universal fact and
its reason are obvious. Therefore, whatever impairs its creation
of semen, causes their commensurate prostration. All venereal
diseases are terribly paralytic of them, because they devitalize it.
2. Weakness of tue erectile muscles, which pump and keep
blood in the penal organ, is another cause.**
971. — Sexual Nausea and Aversions, and their Treatment.
"All men disgust me. A large, tall, fine-looking, highly impassioned
man loves me dearly, and offers to marry me. I like to go to concert and
lecture with him, because I like to go out; but against the very thought
of intercourse my whole being revolts. He dearly loves to hug and kiss
and fondle me, which I tolerate, yet never reciprocate ; but anything further
I utterly loathe. He says my indifference is just what he likes ; but really
I never could cohabit with him. If we could live together like brother
and sister, or as mere friends, I would marry him. What shall I do?" —
A meagre^ salloto, imnkfm-rh^cked, lojy-jawedf forlorn-looking Teacher.
" Your womb is in a nauskatkd, reversed state towards males, as
the stomach some timfs is towards foo<l. Engage yourself at once — you
will get far the best end of that bargain — and be with him much. Ac-
cept, and try to enjoy and return his caresst^s; and let him magnetize and
inspire you. You are like a starving child, which rejects food because starV'
ing. His Love is your godsent salvation. Receive it. Tell him to be very
gentle and gradual, hut conquer your aezoal prejudic*es. Marry as soon
as you can bring yourself to tolerate his embrace. Mateniity will restore
you."
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" I POSITIVELY LOATHE EVERY FEMALE, as sucli. This makes my case
worst of all. As soon as I fouud myself engaged to one I thought I loved,
I experienced an utter disgust towards her. She is six years my junior,
faultless in figure, called beautiful, and both blameless in conduct and
fascinating in manner. She combines a plump person, luscious bosom,
bright eyes, perfect health, and every physical excellence, with good sense
and a most lovely disposition. I never saw her equal, and am congratu-
lated by all who know us. I could not suggest one improvement in her
body or mind. And yet I cannot endure her proximity. If she takes my
hand, I feel like jerking it from her. When she throws herself familiarly
into my lap, I feel like shoving her out. I would rather she would scold
than kiss me. My wedding approaches, when I am expected to occupy
the same room and couch with her ; but can no more endure either than
lire. I have told her of this change, and she offers to do or not to do any-
thing in her power, even release me. I know I am a perfect heathen, but
can't possibly help it. I impose on her perpetually, and she bears all like
'A genuine woman ; but nothing melts my obduracy. What shall I do? " —
A Professional Patron for millions of both sexes.
" Miserable man ! Pitiable woman ! Your male nature is as rabid
against female as a mad dog against water. You loathe the very food for
which you are starving."
" The CURE ! Telling us that will make you man's greatest benefactor."
Like alimentary patients should force Appetite by Qiit'ing despite
this nausea; select food the least repulsive, smack their lips over
it, and try to coax up Appetite ; and if that fails, say in action,
" You shall feed me. Your aversion shall not spoil all my other
powers. Eat vrillingly, or I '11 make you." You should do the same
by Love. Why have sense and not use it? Nature gives it su-
preme command to restrain rampant passions, lash up laggards,
and direct all aright. Instead of asking your affianced to release
you, say :—
" Some youthful errors, Kate, have so unmanned me, that I cannot
love you as you so richly deserve. God forgive me, and you, blessed girl,
draw out and incite my Love. What if I do shrink from you, be the
more familiar, till I can surmount this total depravity. Turn home mis-
sionary. Be as patient with me as with a sick child, and nurture that
passion I ought to bestow voluntarily.^ I shall intellectually appreciate
and love your female attributes all I can. You be my doctor, and time
my nurse." Yet even you are no worse off than that squeak-voiced, husky,
bloody muddy-faced, sexual reprobate, who said : —
" I BUY AND PAY for scxual pleasures when I want and can afford them,
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just as I do wine ; putting this passion on the purely commercial base of
80 much money for so much fun." — Goat.
972.— PRKMi^TURITY : ItS EvILS, CaUSES, AND COMPLETE CuRE.
" My taking A PLEASANT woman's HAND, or sceiug her in low dress,
even her leaning cosily on my arm, provokes that flash of desire and often
seminal discliarge which kills my pleasure in her society, and renders all
cohabitation physically impossible. I can neither expose my own weak-
ness, nor outrage any woman, however humble, as I must do by marrying
her." — Many Bachelors,
** I AM ALWAYS QUICK, MY WIFE SLOW, in reaching the sexual climax.
This disparity disappoints both. Her non-participaucy till after my pas-
sion is spent, kills my pleasure, which provokes me ; while my exhaustion
after hers rises disappoints and maddens her;** besides rendering <Jur
children poorly constituted, for want of that unity and passional momen-
tum requisite to their full endowment." "" — Many Husbands.
" I EXHAUST AT THE VERY BEGINNING of our intercourse ; which soon
after rouses a perfect passional furore in my wife, which my relaxed con-
dition prevents my gratifying ; and this unsatisfied craving knots up her
muscles, inducing cramps and convulsions." — A Physician.
" My FLASHY PREMATURITY AND wife's SLOWNESS, along With her great
strength of passion, was long her distressing trial ; till a polite boarder
enamoured her so desperately and permanently of him as to cause con-
stant creation, iuflummatiou, and finally lividness in her external organs ;
which endangered mortification. She told me all frankly, and begged me
help her to pray down her unhallowed passion ; which I did, but all in
vain. * Our girl, born afterwards, often has little cat-boils come externally
on her private parts."— -4 Husband^ in his Wife's presence.
" I CAN ENJOY ONLY AFTER first inducing my wife's climax by external
means, and during her subsidence." — A Canadian ConmiUant.
Like cases by thousands constantly imploring professional aid
demand of "Creative Science" relief from this greatest prevention
of marriage, and evil in it.
Rkacuino the climax together is most important, and in a
true conjunction, natural, because that of each induces it in the
other. Those adapted to parent together will be simultaneous;
while different times have the same infuriating effects with non.
participancy,'" and disparity.'*" Conjugal felicity cannot coexist
with it.'"
Tuis 18 PAR THE GREATEST AND COMMONEST cohabitatiug errof in
♦ The balance of their ntory \n mort itiittructive ; but not now in point Thk
prematurity of liusbands fairly drivn many i>trongHwxed wivw mad.
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wedlock, and out ; afflicts nine or more men in every ten ; apper-
tains to amorous women ; and is the greatest enfeebler of progeny,
by preventing the complete marshalling of the parental func-
tions.^ It does not trouble, it rather even relieves passive wives ;
but it grievously disappoints, even maddens, normal ones who
reach their acme slowly, as Nature requires.
Too FREQUENT SEMINAL DISCHARGE causcs it thus: — iN'ature
wants all the parental functions both represented and wrought
up to their highest pitch in every evacuation, so as to endow any
offspring it might create,^* ^ which takes considerable time.
But frequent coition, thus intensified, if prolonged, must benumb,
in order to save, the nerves.^^ Therefore ^t^ature benignly pre-
vents this nervous paralysis by causing this seminal flow the
sooner after passion, rises the greater this nerve-benumbing dan-
ger. This fact and its reason apply equally to all females.
It is curable, easily and completely, by applying these prin-
ciples : —
1. The penal gland, by its friction and swelling, induces
this semen.^^ This is its precise and only office. Every pressure
on its end sends a wave back as far as it can be traced, but pres-
sure on the penis does not : and the farther from its end the less,
nearer, more. Hence
Its rapid frictioa, as in fierce animal cohabitation, hurries se-
men right along f^ while a gentle, quiet procedure, with little
or no motion, proportionally prolongs its advent ; but the more
rapid, the sooner. Of this fact every single sexual repast fur-
nishes an experimental proof.
The Oneida Community prevent issue by the presence of the
male organs within the female, without motion, or else by suspend-
ing motion before coition ; thus continuing intercourse at pleas-
ure, and generally closing it without coition ; namely, with con-
junction, but without motion. Yet this must be veri^ spiritual^
not to create semen, which must be ejected ; for if it is left any-
where between testicle and penal gland, it must be burnt up there
by fever ; which burns out these organs. This none at all can afford.
Yet employing this motionless conjunction to delay the male ad-
vent, and hasten the female crisis, so as to create children, and
finally ejecting the semen, is teetotally different.
Your wife's motion and passion hasten, and immobility and
quiet retard, more even than your own. She is this regulatrix.^
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2. The male's previous caressing, without being caressed, just
sufficient to raise a little passion, then ceasing to let it partially
subside, greatly prolongs its second rise. In short, lust prompts
that personal contact which hastens coition.
3. Platonic Love postpones by lessening this contact ; besides
immeasui-ably enriching. Passion creates that violent action which
soon terminates; while pure spiritual intercommunion naturally
seeks less animal contact, which gives ample time for it to mar-
shal every other function into its triumphal procession, that it
may bestow them all on its products. God's having provided
cures for other sexual errors,'***' shows that He has provided an
antidote for this also. Here it is.
We rest it solely on its facts. Those whose Love is mainly,
animal are always and necessarily precipitant ; but just in pro-
portion as such spiritualize it, or cohabit the more with their
partner's mentalities, the more they protract and enrich. By
this simple but efi'ective means this terminal advent can be post-
poned almost at the pleasure of its participants. Let individual
facts and personal experience confirm or refute this declaration.
The application of these principles will obviate most of this
prematurity ; the last the most. You induced it by vulgarizing,
and can cure it by purifying, refining, sanctifying, and elevating
your Faculty of Love. All elsewhere said about excitability, im-
proving health, &c., also applies here as forcibly as there.**^
974. — ^Lust dwarfs, Love enlarges, the Penis and Testicles.
Large sexual organs indicate sexual vigor, and small, poverty,
in both sexes ;"*'"® unless swollen, or enlarged by fat.*"* **' Horses
having large sheaths are the most powerful and hardy, because
naturally the best sexed.
They can be made larger in most cases. I utter this all-fjlorU
ous truth professionally^ from having A/iotm many successful exi>ori-
iiicntH.
How can mink he enlarged? is a sensible professional question,
anxiously askiMJ by thousands of jxjrsons, to whom its scientific
answer is mo8t^imiK)rtant; because many abstain from marriage
from shame of letting a wife know how small tlieirs are — she
might never know the difterencc: her ignorance might be your
bli??; and she might prefer diminutive to none — and because
most men would gladly learn how to enlarge their own. Pre-
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viously demonstrated principles prove that this can be effected,
and tell how to achieve it.
All non-exercised organs shrivm. ; as universal facts attest.
Keeping aloof from the other sex, dwarfs by inertia. Old bacheo
and maids, and all prudes, and repressionists, N. B.
Overtaxing dwarfs them, just like overworking colts, extra
r»mart, vrilling boys,^ &c. I often predicate erotic passion in both
sexes from Amativeness being small in the hcad^^ w^hich always
indicates diminutive sexual organs ; just as nymphomania con-
sumes the breasts.^
All half-crazed, fitful, fiery action of these organs, as of all
others, burns out and diminishes their size ; just as insanity does
that of the brain and muscles. The Love Faculty is their " lord
and master. "^^ All its states establish like states in them. Hence
all its erratic, vulgar, semen-creating states burn out their vigor,
which dwarfs; while all quiet, elevated, pure love-states send
an increased flow of blood to them, which makes them grow.
Affiliate with some non-amorous, elevated female,^^' ^^^ whose
purity holds in check and sanctifies your passion ; mate, and
thereby acquire a right to love and be loved, walk, talk, and be
much with her; imbibe her female magnetism, — you'll get the
best end of that exchange, — and every hour thus spent with her
will electrify, gently stimulate, send blood to, and thereby en-
large, these organs ; just as a generous diet does animal and man,
and fit you to marry her, without disclosing your existing deficit.
That the healthy growth of all wombs can be effected by this
identical means, is fully proved in ^^^. Several passages prove
that a hard cold taken during menstruation early after woman-
hood commences, chills the whole sexual organism; stops the
growth of the womb, breasts, and nipples, and blights all the
female attractions, so as to prevent marriage and issue.^^ See
this principle applied to the voice, bottom of page 198.
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975. — Venereal Victims fully cured by Themselves. How ?
Calomel and this virus have ruined millions ; and the strong-
est the most. Either alone is awful ; the two together are inev-
itably fatal. Medical men have prescribed calomel in venery for
a century or two, only just now to ascertain that their combined
fatality to all constitutions is absolute and universal. All know
how deadly this virus is, and how liable all salivated persons are
to take a fatal cold during treatment. Put those two conceded
fdcts together, and sujxjradd the decayed teeth, dyspeptic stom-
achs, aching and decaying bones, &c., &c., coincident with calo-
mel, and " cipher out " that " quotient."
Balsam copaiba is a little less bad, but " too bad " for any to
inflict on themselves. Other drugs follow proportionate suit.
Medicines cannot cure, except by killing the constitution's
power of resisting both this poison and drugs.
Chinese courtesans swarm on the Pacific slope, offering indul-
gence for a quarter, which lads who can raise that pittance spend
thus, and their life-force with it; for, being poisoned by a white
woman is horrible; by a Mongolian, immeasurably worse. Words
cannot tell how ruinous. Boys thus poisoned are spoiled for
life. Better buried. Law should interdict what is so deadly.
This virus is curable ! Why not, equally with all other hu-
man ills?**® Even the Bible obviously describes it in its "run-
ning isrsue," and prescribes its treatment ; and ours and its are
quite alike, though ours was hit upon wholly irrespective of its.
Sexual science wrongly ignored it. Creative science prescribes
its eflfectual cure. Two facts shall preface it. An old-time New
York acquaintance, quite loose, met out West, told this anecdote:
" I invited two ladies to accompany me to a splendid ball. They ac-
cepted, and prepared expensively. Meanwhile I had carelessly got this
*bad disorder,' the very worst way; which broke out only a day or two
before the ball. Knowing that attending it just then endangered my con-
stitution, and probably my life itself, I tried my best to get excused, pro-
cure a substitute, Ac; but no ; only ray personal attendance would at all do.
I went, danced till broad daylight, went home with my girls, and retired
with a pain in myj)rivate8 so agonizing that, in sheer desperation, I wrung
a towel out of cold winter water, in which I enveloped them ; and slept till
three P. M. On awaking, and removing my towel, a long string of thick
yellow mucus had oozed out, fastened to the towel, and was pulled out
I FELT no more PAIX. I WAS CURED."
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My bill distributor, first out from a strict home, had been
seduced and poisoned ; complained to my phonographer, who,
showing his swollen and materated groins, interceded with me
not to tax him much just then, and begged me to recommend a
physician ; which I did ; meanwhile telling him only to inquire^
but not to take treatment without consulting me farther. The
doctor asked him twenty dollars, and considerable time ; and
another the same. I said :
"Wear a wet towel over the paining places nights ; mean-
time favor yourself handling trunks, don't get wet," &c.
He kept on at work, and was soon well.
Perspirations, and external applications, embody the only
true principles of its cure.
" Finding I had sperm atorrhcea, I consulted our family doctor, whom
I thought I could trust implicitly ; who prescribed sexual intercourse as my
medicine, and told me where I could find it ; which I took. Coming on
East, he told me to keep on taking this sexual medicine, in doing which,
I Ve got poisoned. What shall I do ? "
Cowhide your physician, and do it up brown ; for his prescrip-
tion has taken half the starch out of your future life; take a
dozen Turkish and magnetic baths to dissolve and sweat out all
of this virus you can ; take the nicest possible care of your gen-
eral health, in sleeping, eating, and living just right ; meanwhile
pick out some good girl for your future wife, but not too good,
lest you cheat her ; escort her ; nestle yourselves into each other's
affections ; engage, be much together ; and by the time you have
courted sufficiently long to rtiarry, say a year or two, you will
probably be well enough.
" If my doctor had given me that advice I should have followed
it ; and could soon have obtained any disengaged hand in C. I solicited ; for
my father is rich, and our house stands as high as any there."
Taking both the Turkish bath and copious perspiration induced
by any other means, with fomenting wet cloths applied wherever
pain exists, are the great cures. You who try it, please report the
experimental results of this prescription.
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Section YII.
PROMOTING HEALTH RESTORES SEXUALITY.
976. — Right Hygienic Habits, Faith, &c.
Whatever impairs or improves the body, similarly affects th«
sexual organs. That law of sympathy already demonstrated be-
tween them, by means of which the latter transmits all bodily
parental states to offspring, necessitates this inference, that injur-
ing or benefiting any bodily function, injures or benefits the
sexual organs. Therefore restoring the health by observing its
conditions recuperates them ; while impairing it disorders them.
Mark this proof.
If those whose nocturnal emissions occur at regular inter-
vals, say about every two weeks, over-lift, or over-eat, or over-
work, or catch cold, or become excited, or drink stimulants, or do
anything else any way injurious to health between times, they
are subject to a relapse that night, though not yet their wonted
time for days ; whereas, if, instead, they had taken extra care of
their bodies, they would have postponed this loss even beyond
its usual recurring time. This experimental fact makes this
inference palpable, that the more care they take of their health,
the longer they postpone these relapses, which gives Nature time
to restore them. Neither man nor woman can improve their gen-
eral health without thereby likewise restoring their dilapidated
gender in proportion ; nor impair their health without thereby
impairing their sexuality. Since when ** one member suffers all
the members suffer with it," to invigorate all the other members
reinvigorates any ailing one, the sexual included.
" The water curb," of which the Author was an early Amer-
ican pioneer, bases its chief cure of sexual ailments on the
application of these general health restoratives ; and to say that
its sexual cures have indeed been amazing, as to both numbers
and efficacy, is far within the truth: and this applies equally to
male and female sufferers.
This dobs not indorsb all water-cure institutions and treat-
ments; yet those conducted on this principle are founded on a re-
storative natural law. Some doubtless injure by applying "too
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much of a good thing ; " yet this militates nothing against the
system itself. ■ Whatever any do to build up their general health
thereby redoubles sexual energy, and vice versd; whilst improv-
ing the sexuality likewise improves the health. Reader, please
duly think out this natural law, and its application to the cure
of all sexual dilapidations.
Inspiring hope cures wonderfully.^^ Doctors and their poisons
often both injure and cure the same patients by the same doses.
There is more practical materialism in these days than men
realize. As far as medicines inspire hope of restoration, they
help restore as if by magic. And sexual patients cling to these
physical appliances like drowning men to straws. By all means
let all such cure by faith — that greatest medicine after all. Yet
if they only thought so, they could recuperate much faster, and
at little expense, at home by personal treatment.
977. — The Mind Cure: Taking nice care of the Sexual
Organism.
That mind controls body, is our cardinal doctrine. The
fact that body was made for mind proves that mental gender
governs physical. Since the sexual organs were created for the
use of the Love Faculty^ and are, therefore, the larger or smaller,
weaker or stronger, as it is either, of course its states control
theirs, — that is, painful Love states create sexual disorders, which
right Love states cure.^^- ^^ Its power over them is absolute.
Therefore it can greatly promote their health, disease, and res-
toration. See this underlying principle proved in ''The Will
Cure."''^ Mark this inference.
Our Loving and nursing these organs benefits them. As we
can send down healing influences to ailing fingers and toes, lungs
and stomach, liver and bowels, limbs and parts — as will power,
saying to an overloaded stomach, " Work away heroically, I 'm
helping you," does help amazingly — so the mind saying to those
organs, " Dear ones, be of good cheer ; I love you ; I sustain you ;
I heal you ; " will build them up. They are inexpressibly pre-
cious, and should be prized and nursed accordingly. All children
should be taught to esteem and pet them as the apple of their eye ;
for surely no others exert influences more beneficial over all; nor
do any deserve more parental care and tenderness.
They should be cared for ; kept well washed and tended ; any
PROMOTING HEALTH BB8T0RES SEXUALITY. 1009
inflammation kept down ; and especially that prepuce which
covers the penal gland*" drawn back, and the gland washed in
cold water every morning ; because a bad-smelling mucus gathere
under it which should be washed away daily, and with soap.
The accumulation of this mucus sometimes irritates this gland,
and even makes it sore.
These organs have lain under disgrace, been called " privates,"
and regardea as an appendage to be ashamed of; whereas just the
opposite should obtain. Only their wrong ^ vulgar prostitution to
mere lust, has given them this mad-dog stigma. Children are
naturally no more ashamed of them than of hands ; and should
not be taught to be. They and their right use are only honor-
able.
978. — Exercise, as toning up all the other Functions.
Manhood and muscle always have been, will be, synonymous.
"Go in on your muscle," and "Go in on your manhood," mean
the same thing ; because to promote either wonderfully promotes
the other. " Manly sports " express this same fact. The word
"he«roi8m,"as expressing all that is bold, dashing, strong, defiant,
enduring, &c., has a like significance, and was used to signify
strength and courage, because all come from this male element.
Rowing, playing ball, gymnastics, especially Butler's mode of
applying the lifting cure, and whatever else develops muscle,
develop manhood.
Read in " Human Science " how exercise promotes sleep, diges-
tion, bowel-action, and every other physical function, and then
mark how almost magical must be its application to the cure of
disordered gender, and practise accordingly ; remembering that
this disease is mainly mental, affects the brain, and nerves most,
and that exercise is its greatest physical antidote. Yet be care-
ful neither to begin too abruptly, nor overdo at first.
A HOME gymnasium can be constructed for fifty cents, which
will yield thousixnds of dollars' worth of health, thus: Take
thirty feet of cod-line, twist, double, and tie on two sections of
an old broom-handle, each about a foot long. Now stand on one,
and lift slowly, steadily, vigorously on the other with both hands,
first before you, then behind, then on each side, with about all
your strength each time, holding on a few seconds, and relaxing
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gradually^ stopping between each lift to "breathe out." The
beauty of the cod-line is that it stretches as you pull, and shrinks
as you relax ; thus avoiding that soreness caused by a dead lift on
what does not give, and calling all the muscles into cooperative and
gradiuil action.
Swinging the arms, pushing them out and then drawing them
clear back, rapidly, breathing deeply each time, will also help
furnish exercise.
Walking, riding, climbing, and all like exercises cannot well be
recommended too highly. But of all single exercises, next to
that king cure, lifting,
The Indian Dance is by far the best. By churning the visceral
organs, it wonderfully promotes their action.
Hunting, fishing, rowing, playing ball, racing, wrestling, spar-
ring, drilling, gymnastics, anything which properly develops the
muscles, will improve this disease, but donH overdo,
979. — Spirits, Sleep, Bowel-action, Food, Meat, &c.
Sleep is most important. Sexual ailments are mainly mental^
not physical ; and such patients have either a wild, or a sleepy,
ov else a haggard look, consequent on sexual exhaustion ; because
the mind is transmitted by the .nerves; with which the sexual
oigans are in perfect rapport. All sexual ailments cause nervous-
nt^s, and most nervous disorders have a sexual origin.*^^
Sleep quiets the nerves more than everything else. Wake-
fulness is one of the chief evils of impaired gender. Retire
regularly, sleep abundantly, and under as few clothes as possible
with comfort ; for any more unduly heat and fever, which tends
to induce a relapse. But you must not sleep cold. If you can-
not sleep enough at night, lie down daytimes, especially before
dinner ; but sleep your fill ; and morning sleep will probably be
found the best. A cold room is good ; warm, bad.
Lying on the back naturally provokes sexual feelings, because
that is one of its impregnating positions ; as the face is another,
and, therefore, to be avoided. Either side is preferable, and right
best, because lying on the left sometimes crowds and oppresses
the heart.
The bowels are especially constipated by sexual disorders ; so
that restoring their action becomes most important. Eegulate
them 1. by eating aperient kinds of food, unleavened bread,^
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froits, especially with their skins, bananas, cracked and boiled
wheat, wheaten grits, rhubarb pie, rye mush, Indian pudding,
onions, and the like, or anything you know which opens your
bowels ; and also lay a wet cloth on them nights, besides manip-
ulating, rubbing, and kneading them*" semi-daily, and they will
gradually resume their wonted action.
A LONG-CONSTIPATED PATRON Said that rubbing, pounding, knead-
ing, and patting his bowels, till the skin became red, always pro-
duced their motion within an hour.
2. Wait on their evacuation, at a particular hour, each day.
Strong drinks tear gender right out of their consumers, by tir-
ing up this passion for the time being, only to reparalyze it after-
wards.
Pure wines, by promoting skin-action, and relieving congestion,
may benefit. We do not say they do, or do not, but whom they
intoxicate they therefore injure. ^^ And whenever they do good,
a little will be much more beneficial than much.
Eat some meat. Abstinence for a time will probably prove
beneficial. As taking horses off from oats and putting them on
grass, though it causes them to run down at first, yet putting
them back renders them stronger than if they had been kept on
oats all the time ; so abstain iiig mostly from meat for a while
will allow the system to sink to its normal level, and help Nature
to rebuild better than if this stimulant had been continued all
the time. Yet the system must not be allowed to run down per-
manently ; and those accustomed to meat should not abstain over
a month or two. This weakening policy, except just while the
inflammation subsides, is all wrong. While pork should never
be eaten, except to prevent starvation, good beef and mutton will
aid, not retard, a cure. But eat sparingly.
Eat leisurely, and discriminatingly ; whereas most sexual
sufferers are dyspeptic, and gormandize voraciously .•^* In short,
take the nicest possible care of your liealth ; cultivate a quiet
frame of mind; refrain from all excitement; enjoy all you can;
think as little as possible about your situation ; and bo content if
you can perceive gradual improvement from month to month.
980. — Local Applications op Water, Electricity, Ac.
Your disease is local, in the sexual organs. Therefore its
restoratives must be applied directly to these prostrated parts.
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How obviously absurd to seek restoration l)y medicines taken
into the stomach ? for they must necessarily equally affect all the
other parts. In addition to that pure Love-in-marriage cure
already propounded/^
Rectify your skin, because, 1, the mind is the main entity
to be transmitted ;^" 2, brain and nerves are therefore in perfect
sympathetic rapport witli the sexual organs; 3, of course they are
especially disordered by false sexual excitement.*^* Obviously the
only sensible means of curing them is through the skin, where
all the nerves come to the surface, and are comeatable. Opiates,
&c., simply deaden, they never cure, nervousness; whereas, 4,
water applied directly to the skin end of the nervous system is
specifically calculated to restore them. Hence,
Washing all over in cold water daily, is your best known
means of stopping your seminal losses ; because it takes out that
feverish nervous action which creates these emissions. But if
your temperature is so low that your system remains chilly and
fails to react in causing a glow, it is most injurious. Secure re-
action somehow ; and next time, after being in bed long enough
to warm your bed-clothes, pass a towel, wrung from cold water,
more or less wet, according as you can endure it, all over your body,
and that feverish heat which causes your discharge will seize this
water, turn it into steam, envelop you in a steam bath, and quiet
your nerves. ]N"ext,
Envelop these organs in this wet towel, passing it well back
between the thighs, so as to reach the prostate gland ; and all
night long this feverish heat will be turning this water into
steam, which passes it off into this towel, and so on out ; while
this steam condenses back to water, which goes back after another
load of heat. Meanwhile their internal heat, in equalizing itself,
keeps coming to the surface, and being taken out.
These processes continued night after night, and month after
month, will finally take out all that false excitement which gen-
erates this semen, and cure you.
A divinity student, told that seminal losses had blurred hia
intellect, and injured his constitution, said :
" I have lately been told this remedy by a fellow-student, who
says it cures all who try it. It has cured me ; and you ought to know
and prescribe it. It consists in wearing a wet towel on these parts nights."
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A CURE I HAVE PRESCRIBED here and everywhere for thirty odd
y^ars; and it cures all who try it faithfully. But mark:
If THESE PARTS REMAIN COLD, REMOVE the cold towel, and 8ub-
Btitute one right hot, and the next day,
Compound a liniment thus : Take of spirits of camphor 1 oz.,
of spirits of ammonia 4 oz., two tablespoonfuls of common salt,
dissolved in water enough to absorb it, and pour in ; add one
quart spirits of any kind — New England rum best, whiskey good
— and wash these parts, and all around them, just before applying
the cold towel. If too strong for the scrotum to endure without
too much pain, dilute with water or spirits till it will endure it;
yet it must be strong enough to tingle smartly. This will create
that reaction which will heat these parts right up as soon as the
cold wet towel is applied.
Note how hot they soon become under this towel. All this
burning heat has come out from these organs, and is steaming
and sweating out their inflammation.
For pain in the small of the back apply as above. See its
cause explained in**.
Rub this liniment all around the loins every night and
morning; because that magnetic circuit around there by which
Nature carries this part of the body forward during intercourse,
has become deranged, which this will help restore.
This liniment is equally valuable when applied to females in
like cases. It establishes that action so necessary to create the
required reaction. These cures are simple, yet ettective.
When fomenting the parts is desired, wind one wet end of a
long bandage around the loins, and the dry end over it, or put a
dry towel over the wet one, so as to keep in the heat : yet gener-
ally it is better to cool the parts by letting the heat pass oft*.
SiTTiNfi in <n]d. s]i:ill()\v water every morning will be bene-
ficial.
Pendant testiclks, analogous to uterine prolapsus, and conse-
quent on a relaxed scrotum, are a serious male disorder. When
they are vigorous, a contracted scrotum keeps them close up to the
body out of harm's way; while their wejiknees leaves it weak,
and they hang down and are often hurt ; to prevent which sacks
are often worn. The voice always tells this state in them.
Learn it, you who would select a vigorous male.
Action in thb scrotum, along with testal vigor, is the only true
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cure. Eeaction can bo made to secure this action. That lini>
meiit just prescribed will cause this needed action and reaction
in the scrotum, which will draw and keep them to their place.
So will Love.
Carry your sexual organs towards the left thigh, where ligature
makes the largest place for them.
Electricity constitutes another physical remedy, even still
more beneficial, if rightly applied. This element is undoubtedly
the instrumentality of all life.^^ This sexual paralysis consists
in electric derangement or interruption ; so that unquestionably
the galvanic battery can be so employed as to reinstate and reg-
ulate this interrupted electric action. The principle involved is,
that the electric current sent with or ^loug down the course of the
nerves, relaxes^ and takes out inflammation ; but sent up against
the nerves, tones up and strengthens. If your sexual organs are
sensitive to this current, they are inflamed, and it must be sent
from above downward^ and out at the feet. Or thus :
When they are sensitive to it, put your feet, with the nega-
tive pole, into^ a basin of water, or else stand on it, whilst you
apply the positive pole to the abdomen, sexual organs, small of the
back, &c. But if they are comparatively insensible to electricity,
and bear quite a strong current, they are partly paralyzed, and
require quite a strong current sent up from the feet to these parts,
and then from these parts up the body to the nape of the neck.
That is.
When they are torpid, apply the 'positive pole to them direct,
but put the negative pole at the nape of the neck ; or rub the wet
sponge with the positive pole over these parts and the bowels,
while you apply the negative pole along up the back, but most
at the back of the head, that \^^ above the positive pole. The
Author has seen and produced really astonishing cures by this
treatment.
The Turkish bath can often be employed to thoroughly revo-
lutionize the whole system ; burst open the closed pores of the
skin ; force the sluggish blood-vessels ; and give a new life lease
by quickening all the physical functions.
All health improvements restore the sexuality. By proving
that the sexuality sympathizes perfectly with all the bodily or-
gans,*^ we virtually revealed one great means of sexual restora-
tion by restoring the general health. Whatever improves or
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impairs the body, equally improves or impairs these organs, and
vice versd. Then
Learn and obey the health laws; rules and directions for
doing which will be found unfolded in " Human Science " better
than in any other work whatever. This health cure principle
applies equally to all females.
Section VIII.
the ctjrk of female complaints.
981. — Prolapsus Uteri. Pessaries. The Bed Exercise.
This is our most important section; for whatever restores
female health and vigor is the greatest of all public and private
benefactions.^^* Be it everywhere known, they cannot come
through medicines. Drugs are not adapted to reach them. The
principles just applied to masculine restoration, also apply to
feminine ; and for the reasons there given. We refer to, instead
of repeating them.*'*^
Jewesses are generally healthy sexually ; rarely ever ailing ;
besides being most loving wives, and perfect devotees to their
children and families ; without any tracings of squeamish pru-
dery. If all these virtues are due to their following Mosaic
injunctions. Gentile women had better turn Jewesses. Jews, we
ought to envy you ; and your good wives deserve good patient
husbands ; which some of you are, while others are quite arbi-
trary and irritable.
Ladies should doctor themselves, instead of running to their
doctor, not by medicines, but by rebuilding their constitutions.
They should first inquire what sexual laws they have broken.
Ascertaining their causes is the first step towards restoration.
pROLAPsrs uteri is one of the most common and wwirisome
of all female complaints; tliougli less painful and dangerous than
»ome. It consists in the womb sliding down the vagina (see Fig.
r)94) more or less, till it sometimes projects into the external
world. This mouth should be about five inches above the labia,
depending something on the height ;'^ yet in most it descends
more or less, consequent on visceral weakness relaxing its suBtaiD*
ing broad ligaments (Fig. o96.)
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The BOWELS settle, also, into the lower portion of the pelvis,
besides becoming knotted, relaxed, and inert.
Pressure from above is the chief cause of prolapsus. Most
wombs could sustain their own weight, but cannot carry that of
all the viscerals besides. Hence removing this weight is the first
step in curing this disease.
A LADY CONSULTANT for female complaints, told that hers was
falling of the womb induced by wearing too many petticoats sus-
pended from her hips, replied :
" You MISTAKE ; FOR I WEAR ONLY TEN EXTRA ODCS DOW. I UScd tO
wear fourteen."
Corsets greatly increase this superpressure, and thus both
cause and augment this ailment. By pressing the ribs together
they squeeze all the visceral organs downward below the ribs,
upon the bowels. When their wearers bend forwards or side-
wise, they add all this powerful corset-squeezing downwards to all
this viscei-al weight, which obliges the womb and bowels to give
way, and become permanently relaxed.
The Grecian bend still redoubles this difficulty, by setting the
rectum out of the line of this pressure ; only to bring it all down
upon the womb and bladder. The rectum needs it to propel and
expel the excrement. Meanwhile it injures the uterus and
bladder, besides pressing upon the nerves and blood-vessels of
the legs, and often causing their numbness and swelling.
A large, cone-shaped privy hole wedges all these upper
organs right down on this poor womb, which sitting low down,
or ON A large vessel, with constipation superadded, greatly
increases. This seat should be flat^ with a long but narrow
opening.
These, adding heavy skirts,^^^ are the great causes of uterine
prolapsus.
The form of the abdomen evinces prolapsus and health thus :
In health it rounds out to the navel, which points nearly straight
forward, as in children ; but in prolapsus it points upwards, be-
cause the upper part of the bowels is shrunken and flattened,
and lower projecting. The stomach and lungs also settle with
the womb and bowels, because their support has fallen, and there-
fore hang suspended from the throat, the consequent irritation
of which causes bronchitis and a cough ; which sends this irrita-
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tion along down to the lungs, and induces consumption. Mean-
while the doctors, ignorant of this its ciiuse, dose for lung disease,
which, if cured to-day, would be brought back to-morrow by this
constant pulling down ; so that the only salvation consists in
restoring the stomach, bowels, and womb to their natural posi-
tions. All dispUicements generate inflammation, which attacks
this whole visceral region, and burns out their life force.
Lying in bed, with the head pitching downward, so that the
weight of the womb shall carry it back to its place, and lie there
thus till it grows fast again, prescribed by some doctors, is awful
— far worse than the disease itself. Lying still seriously injures
the general health, which exercise promotes.
Dr. Buttolph, President of the ITew Jersey Insane Asylum,
and probably the best manager of lunatics in this country, cured
a woman kept thus in bed s-ixteen years.
Pessaries necessarily injure. They are thrust up the vagina
to the mouth of the womb ; and are worn to lift and keep the
womb in its place by its resting on this i^essary. Yet
Pessaries rest on the bladder and rectum ; thus causing con-
stipation by stopping the fteces, and also flattening and inflaming
the bladder. Let common sense attest their injury.
" A DOCTOR, whom I cousulted for prolapsus, caused by weaving, besides
having taken two hundred dollars I had laid by, getting me into debt to
him, and leaving me without any money to pay my board, says he must
have me six months longer, to insert a sponge up my body daily, saturated
with medicine." — A Lowell Operative.
"My DOCTOR inserted a dry hickory pessary for prolapsus, causing
terrihle pain, which I bore till intolerable agony compelled its removal.
Meanwhile haniened matter, generated by svippuration, adhered to both
ray body and the pessary, so that drawing the pessary peeled ofl* the
mucous membrane from my vagina, which it turned itiside out; and when
reinserted, its walls grew together, thus sealing me up, except the urinary
passage, which of course prevents menstruation. Though very fat, I am
perfectly miserable." — A Oiioago Wife.
Take warning from these sad examples. Foreign substances
must needs inflame, and create ulcers. The bowels too must be
held up quite as much as the womb, which no pessaries or ab-
dominal 8upi>orter8 can accomplish. They retard the circulation,
that great restorative, besides chafing. Try this.
So fit tour drawers that the bowels are held up in a sack
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scooped down and out in front, and shaped like the segment of a
basket, with its band carried up over and resting their weight on
the hip bones. That is, swing the bowels in a sack made in your
drawers, and suspended from the hips.
A NEW- MOON SHAPED BOWEL SUPPORTER, with its ends extending
up and around the hips, and broadest from the pubic bone up-
ward, so placed below the bowels that when fastened behind it
supports the bowels, by carrying or resting them on the hips,
made and fitted to herself by any woman, will be better than
trusses or supporters, which arrest circulation.
"Self-contradictory; for you have all along condemned this sua-
})ending apparel from the hips."
Clothes suspended by a band above the abdomen, bear down
on the viscerals ; whereas our sack-and-bandage plan holds them
up^ by raising them from beloio. All of both sexes who require
visceral supporters, try whether this feasible plan does not pro-
mote visceral action. Hold up the pants by a like means.
The bed exercise promotes visceral circulation. Blood is the
great restorer. It alone carries off disease, and brings back life
and health. Therefore promoting circulation alone can restore.
How then can it be induced ? Exercise is its most effectual
means.^^ Most kinds bring down the womb ; but you can localize
it at these parts, thus :
Lie down on your back, with a pillow at the top of your head,
not under it, and a small bolster under the small of your back,
and taking hold of the bedpost or headboard, or a strap fastened
to either, pull away, meanwhile slightly elevating your ab-
domen.
Let Menken's pelvic sash represent these abdominal muscles
converging to the pubic bone, thus supporting the bowels, and
pressing them with every bodily motion. See how this arm pull-
ing must send the motive power along down to the pectoral
muscles, which transfer much of it to the abdominals, which,
attached to the pubic bone, pull the womb and bowels upwards to
their natural place ; besides promoting that circulation which
carries off* diseased matter, brings back and places healthy, and
reinvigorates this entire visceral region, and thereby the whole
body. This bed exercise, practised tri-weekly till comfortably
tired, stopping to rest and breathe, with lifting,^® aided by hot
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and cold compresses,'*" sitz-baths, &c., will gradually but effect-
ually restore all not disorganized.
982. — Visceral Manipulation, Electricity, &c.
, Kneading the bowels is about equally beneficial. After preach-
ing it twenty years, an incident induced its personal application
for a few mornings and evenings, which rendered me as antic as
a colt, brimful of snajj and briskness, light-footed, light-hearted,
and just as lively and happy as the lark. Few can ever practise
it without benefit. In many who digest their food well, those
mesentery ducts which extract the nutrition from the chime and
transmit it to the blood become sluggish or else closed ; which
this mechanical action opens. Its self-performance gives exercise,
and a robust performer strengthens. Old doctoi-s prescribed rub-
bing, of which this is the best form. All weakly women, and
many men, will find its thorough trial to act like magic. In
France, robust women call on ladies to see whether they wish to
have their bowels '* shampooed to-day," showing that its utility
has been long known and practised. It is the chief cure of some
institutions. It is the great Chinese cure.
Prolapsed females should lift and press upwards, so as to
raise the womb and viscerals by very pressure, rather than de-
press them. For prolapsus, rub and press upwards.
Sitz-baths, wet bandages, and other applications of water will
benefit the bowels. Wlien they are hot, or sore, or tender, use
cold water ; but when cold or torpid, use hot. Your own feel-
ings will dictate correctly. The governing law is this:
When these parts have sufficient vigor to react, cold water
is best, because this tones up ; yet it is terribly fatal when there
is too little life-force to react. So water hot enough to cause this
indi8|>en8able reaction also benefits ; while blood-w^arm water fails
to react, and thereby to tone up.
Electricity can also be applied advantageously. When these
parts are inflamed, send the current doxtm the nerves, by putting
the positive pole above and the negative below them ; but when
they are dormant or paralyzed, send it w/), putting the positive
pole below and negative along up the back, or at the nape of tlie
neck.**
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983. — Fluor Albus, Dorsal Pains, &c.
Sexual discharges of whitish, slimy matter, or yellow, some-
times fetid, often copious, &c., discommode and sometimes weaken
females by scores of thousands. What can they do ?
Pursue the let-alone policy, meanwhile keeping the parts well
syringed with water. Probably this flow is but suppressed
monthlies escaping in this form ; because womb dormancy pre-
vents its menstrual exit. To stanch it by astringents is the worst
" policy " possible ; because this clogs all parts by damming up
within the system that waste and poisonous matter which month-
lies should, but do not, evacuate.^^ You arrest it at your peril,
because this throws it back upon the vitals, to cause other much
worse pains and diseases. It is doubtless your great salvation.
A lady thus troubled about her turn of life, consulted her doctor,
who prescribed what stopped it ; which induced a terrible head-
ache and cough, and began to develop her latent consumptive
taint.
Pains at the small op the back indicate sexual impairments
•SJius: Those womb-nerves which connect it with the brain enter
(■he spine at the small of the back; the ovarian, vaginal, erectile,
and other nerves each in their order, at joints below ; so that
pains along this portion of the back signify womb inflammation;
at joints below, ovarian or vaginal ailments, &c. ; whilst the pa-
ralysis of each is indicated by numbness at these joints. This
diagnosis applies equally to both sexes. So never complain of
dorsal pains, unless you are willing to tell knowing ones that, and
where, you are "ailing." A small, retiring joint there indicates a
weak and small womb or testicles.
Optical weakness, inflammations, &c., are often caused by sex-
ual derangement.^^^ A surpassingly beautiful country girl fasci-
nated and tenderly loved a millionnaire, who proflered marriage,
but was refused, because of her bashful fear lest she could not
sustain the aristocratic dignities of his proud circle. This painful
state of her Love, and therefore womb,^^ gradually but completely
destroyed her vision, which added to her declining argument.
But refusing to be negatived, he Anally gained her "consent,"
when her happy affectional state restored her vision.
Near sight, premature long sight, visual dimness, &c., often
have this sexual origin ; as does also impaired audition.
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984. — Miscarriages Prkventbd.
" I HAVE A NICE, COSY HOME, Well fumished, good neighbors, one of the
be8t of husbands, everything to make my life perfectly happy, except ba-
biee ; the want of which renders it a complete blank. I conceive often, but
miscarry about my third month every time. What can I do to prevent it ? "
All BAD, ANXIOUS FEELINGS, all feafs of miscarriage, naturally
tend to induce it. "Worry no more about it. Instead of dreading
it, encourage yourself with, "I '11 see this time if I cannot suc-
ceed." The mind has great control over all the physical func-
tions.*"* Bi-ace yourself by will-power stoutly against whatever
tends to cause it, as if bound to withstand it.
Take as good care of yourself every way as possible. Keep
your mind quiet. Try to rise above your nervousness, and sub-
stitute calmness.
Drink squaw-vine tea, an evergreen growing in most woods,
and forming a ground mat of slim vines the size of "waxed ends.'*
It is called squaw-vine because used by pregnant squaws; some-
times partridge-berry vine, because partridges are especially fond
of its berry ; sometimes one-berry vine, because only one berry
grows in a place, and that between two leaves, which are about
the size of a finger-nail, two growing nearly opposite each other,
with sometimes a red berry between them, about the size of a
winter-green berry, but flatter, white inside, sweetish, and having
many little hard seeds. This description will enable any one to
Ind or send for it. It is sometimes kept by druggists. The
Thompsonian " practice " makes of it a " Mother's Cordial," now
kept in some drug-stores for use in pregnancy. Have this herb
in your house, and whenever you feel those pains which fore-
shadow miscarriage, partake freely of a decoction made by steep-
ing it. Quantity is not especially material, as it is not deleterious.
It will almost certainly arrest the threatening danger. And to
drink it occasionally during carriage will be found beneficial.
Still-born children live hereafter."* You shall see and
enjoy them forever ! How infinitely better off you are than those
who cannot conceive. How infinitely glorious this conceiving
capacity itself, even when not supplemented by full earth life I
Go on conceiving, the oftener the better. Make up in numbers.
You shall know, love, and ei\joy each throughout spirit lifel
1022 the cures of all sexual diseases and sufferings.
985. — Evil Effects of suppressed Menstruation.
It causes many other ailments ; leaves its victims chilly from
thick blood; and aggravates all her aches and humors. But
Her nerves, brain, and mind suffer the most. Nature must
rid her of this surplus somehow, and bums it up by its fevering
and irritating her whole nervous system and brain ; which, be-
sides filling her with neuralgia, aches and pains, morbidizes all
her feelings ;^^^' ^^ unfits her to bear, which makes her loathe, and
loathsome to, men, doubly to husband ;^^® and almost devilish in
spirit, and often actually insane.^ There, husband, is the cause
of much of your wife's pitiable hatefulness ; and, wife, of your
own ; yet you think you are awfully abused. This inflammable,
nervous state sends her thick blood tearing through her brain,
torrent-like, to gorge and lacerate it, only to soften or else para-
lyze it. In short, its suppression is the great cause, its abundance
the great cure, of all female ailments, mental and physical.
It redoubles kidney, bowel, lung, liver, and all other disorders
thus: — Nature must expel this surplus albumen somehow, or let
it kill all suppressed women, whom she helps save through the
kidneys, by turning it into water and ejecting it by copious urina-
tion. If they are strong enough to endure this extra load, they
save their victims, who must otherwise die of dropsy ; the cure
of which is through the skin. But if they are not strong enough,
and the liver is able to help, she makes it carry off a part ; which
extra work often deranges it. If the bowels are strong enough ho
help, she turns this surplus into a slimy mucus, which she casts
out through them by a looseness, which strengthens instead of
weakens, and must not be checked ; because it is your salvation.
If the lungs are strong enough to help, she makes it irritate their
inner air-cell lining, and squeezes it out through into these cells,
which eject it by copious and long-continued expectoration. All
hands think her falling into consumption ; whereas this " raising
by the gallon " and year, proves their strength and her salvation. Yet
if not able to thus help the womb eject in her monthlies, con-
sumption closes the scene. This shows why women are the most
subject to it, and that promoting monthlies cures it. This prin-
ciple applies doubly to the skin. Promoting these skin, lung,
bowel, liver and kidney evacuations thus helps stave off the evils
caused by this sparseness.
THE C?ITRE OP FEMALE COMPLAINTS. 1023
986. — PROMOTINa AND PREVENTINa MENSTRUATION, FLOODING, kc.
Suppressed menstruation is, perhaps, the worst of all female
coraplaints ; promoting which is as important as this function
is imperious.*** In effecting this restoration, medicines are of
little practical account. That squaw-vine, just prescribed for
miscarriage, is also one of the best promoters of menstruation.
It carried off sixty pounds of surplus fat from one woman in three
months ! But the great reliance here also is on Nature, not medi-
cines.
Colds usually cause this suppression, by settling on the womb,
and stifling its circulation.^ Of course, if possible, ascertain its
exact cause. It may have occurred early in womanhood, and
never been adequate.
Sexual dormancy, temporary or permanent, is its chief cause.
This may be constitutional, inherited from a weak-wombed moth-
er.*** It may be due to a stifling of the sexuality when budding
into womanhood, which prevented feminine development in the
start.^ If self-abuse was practised before puberty, or after, this
is undoubtedly its cause.^ In many girls it is caused by exces-
sive study during girlhood.^
Disappointed Love is quite likely to cause this suppression, as
a happy Love and marriage are sure to promote it.**^ Every
woman and mother should scan these and other causes, to ascer-
tain whether one or more of them have induced this suppression,
and adapt the remedy to this ascertained cause.
Promoting womb circulation is the specific end to be secured.
This can be effected best by sudden ti^ansitions from heat to cold.
When the Russians desire the greatest surface circulation, they
heat themselves just as hot as they can bear in a ste^m or hot-
water bath, then dash on ice-cold water, sometimes jumping into
an air-tunnel; thus adding a cold northern blast to the coldest
water, right after the hottest heat endurable ; thereby forcing the
blood to the surface. This is the way Indians cure rheumatism.
Apply this principle to your sluggish womb thus : Covering
up very warm in bed, have an attendant run a sheet through a
wringer out of water boiling hot, and lay on the abdomen just as
hot as can be borne; cover up, breathe deeply, and foment thus
fifteen or twenty minutes. Then repeat this process, and lie
twenty minutes longer. When you get right hot,
1024 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
Wring a towel out of ice-cold water, and, taking off the hot
sheet, put on the cold towel, and cover up. This sudden transi-
tion from this extreme heat to cold will force open the pores of
the womb. Repeat this cold towel every fifteen minutes for an
hour or two. If you fall asleep, sleep out.
The best time for this application is when you begin to suffer
from painful " turns." It will both relieve you for the time
being, and open and promote subsequent womb circulation and
menstruation. Those manipulations, and that bed exercise just
prescribed for prolapsus,**^^ are equally beneficial in painful and
suppressed menstruation ; as is also our prescription for con-
stipation.^^*
Wearing a wet cloth over the bowels by day and night, will
also promote this excretion, provided there is abdominal heat
suflicient to produce reaction. But if this wet cloth remains
cold, and does not generate heat, apply that liniment prescribed
in^*^ beforehand, which will create sufiiicient surface action to
produce reaction, which is indispensable in all cases.
This wet compress will arrest flooding thus : All hemorrhages
are attended by heat. Cooling the parts stops their bleeding.
This wet towel cools them thus : This heat which causes this
flooding, seizes this water in the towel and turns it into steam ;
which carries this heat out of the bowels into this towel, and sc
off, as in the male prescription ; *^ besides those puffs of cool air
let in undep between the towel and body by the movements lift-
ing the towel every now and then from the body.
For a palpitating heart wear a wet cloth over it day and
night. The efficacy of this simple prescription is simply wonder-
ful. It takes out and keeps down its inflammation, which pro-
motes the circulation, and this warmth, strength, and all the
other life-functions. You are going to Mecca doctors when
better ones are at your elbows !
987. — Analysis op Extra Fat, Immense Bosoms, Labored
Breathing, &c.
Science demands another most painful exposition of that ex-
cessive fat frequently found in both sexes, but oftenest in women.
We should shrink from thus unmasking so many, but that thus
pointing out its cause also embodies its remedy; besides being
its first scientific analysis.
THE CURE OP FEMALE C50MPLAINT8. 1025
Sexual dormancy or inflammation is its chief cause, and sexual
restoration its chief cure.*'*^'
Extra pat pairs are rarely prolific, and the babies of very
fat women are often small and feeble; while such mothers usually
give little and poor milk ; because its materials are turned into
fat. Those whom this exposition hits must "stand from under;**
for sexual science "is no respecter of persons," but labels all; and
one of the objects of this book is to show its rciiders how to read
the sexual state of their fellows.*^
Females suffer most from this surplus fat, because they must
continually eliminate that nutritive material which, if not ab-
stracted by gestation, nursing, or menstruation, is turned into
fat. A cold strikes a woman's weakest part lirst. The calls of
nature may drive her out -in a bleak cold night, during her
" turns," to her outside water-closet,* open below, so that cold and
damp winds rush unobstructed up around her pelvis, i:)ers|>iring
with giant eftbrts to unload her system, chilling which obstructs
her monthlies, and clogs every subsequent physical and mental
function of her life ; thus carelessly victimizing a lovely wife
and mother, and injuring all future children; unless it should
prevent her bearing any more. Month after month only re-
thickens her blood, till she absolutely must be relieved, or else
die. Nature, all provident, turns this surplus into fat, which she
deposits first around her womb, thus enlarging her abdomen and
waist.*** But unable to stow all this surplus away there, she
deposits another part at its other door of escape, the mammae.
Yet that outlet also remains unopened by offspring, so that it
fills them out by depositing itself all among their glands. Hence
extra plump and large bosoms signify not sexual activity, but
• An OUTBAOE to which no BUf^ceptiblc woman nhonld ever bo Rubjectetl, nnd
causing an incalculable amount of female di«eaAeK. The female closet rIiouM nlwarn
be both iruide^ and tight below, no that no wind can be forced up. Thifl nubject m
too important to be ignored. F'cmale complaints diminish where water-works allow
inside closets. Country ladies will fiiul an admirable (*ul)stitutc in kovping on hand
some earth or soil, dried by being set into the oven afler baking, and throw a handfiil
into Teasels after each use, and it will alisorb all odor, besides rendering it available
for agriculture. Ashes coal and wood attain tliisend; as does an ezoellent furniture
invention of Mrs. A. J. Barrow, of Boston ; besides enabling occupants to convert the
same room from a daj sitting-room into a night bed-room, aild bed-room into sitting-
room, using the same articles for sitting on by day and sleeping on by night : it by
day having no signs of its being a dormitory — a saTing of ha{f tk* roam and rmi
Her invention is well w«»rth examining.
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102G THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
inertia, at least physical ; while their normal development signi-
fies vigor. But unable to pack away enough in these two de-
posits to duly thin her blood month after month, and year aftei
year,
Nature stows it away throughout the system, thus render-
ing her fat all over, though most about her abdoinen and breasts.
This renders her heavy, plethoric, congested, subject to constant
headaches, backaches, sideaches, and aches all over. Is it any
wonder while all this foreign dead-wood clogs her system? Her
heart also palpitates, not from its disease, but from this thicken-
ing of her blood. Off she rushes to her doctor, and pours down
his injurious doses; whereas sexual inertia causes all, and its
restoration alone can cure her.
The ANCIENTS REPRESENTED DiANA, the goddcss of sexual in-
ertia, as round, plump, short, fat, and fuller-breasted than any
other goddess; thus confirming this principle of fat with sexual
poverty.
Short breathing is now induced by this fat packing itself all
along that pectoral artery which supplies the breasts, both within
and without the ribs, which, closing around the lungs, j)rcvents
their full inflation ; barely space enough remaining for their
ordinary action, but too little for any increase, as in walking up-
stairs, &c., besides enlarging the waist.*^*
A SLOW fever, if she has constitution enough to create it, next
supervenes. Nature, unable to stow away any more of this con-
stantly accumulating material, /^/«'7?5 up 6j/ //Tfr what should be,
but is not, ejected by her monthlies; w^hich, besides creating a
red ffice, renders her nervous fidgety, fussy, morbid, cross-grained,
hysterical, and intolerably hateful \^ which ])ernianently angers
her husband, and engenders a standing family broil ; only to rein-
crease her suppressions, fat, fever, and ugliness f^"^ whereas the
poor woman is sick, and to be pitied, not blamed.
Fat with ashy paleness signifies that the system is siiccumhivff
to this accumulation ; while fat with redness indicates its success-
ful struggle to burn up what it cannot pack away.
988. — How can extra fat Women lessen this Surplus?
Carrying around a hundred pounds, more or less, of this clog-
ging adipose, is most inconvenient and tiresome ; besides render-
ing its puflRng victims short-breathed. This creates the earnest
inquiry, " TIow can it be lessened or obviated ?"
THE CURE OF FEMALE CX)MPLAINT8. 1027
1. Xeep on bearing as long and often as possible; because
this promotes the legitimate consumption of this fut-producing
material, as well as that womb-action which ejects it.
2. P^ATixa LIGHTLY. Of course the more food you eat, the more
material must be stowed away in this form. Avoid ail fat meat.-*,
butter, and sweets; but eat freely of acid fruits, particularly leiu-
ons and lean meat, yet not rich gravies.
3. Take all the exercise you can well endure, so as i^^ '"m-
8ume as much of this material as possible on the muscles.
4. Breathe deeply and copiously, so as to burn up as much
of this carbon ns |X)ssible in the lungs.
5. Keep all the evacuations open, the bowels and skin in par-
ticular, so as to cast out as much waste material as possible
through all the other outlets. Squaw-vine tea will also aid in
its diminution. Sleep sparingly. But
6. Your great cure consists in promoting womb-action, since
its great cause is its dormancy ; for whatever increases sexual
action and restoration will reduce this fat.
7. The true relief of extra fat girls consists in a right hearty
Love and marriage, along with maternity.
These prescriptions will not hurt you, which is something,
and in any event will do you only good. Try them, and " report
progress."
Turkish and other sweat-causing baths cast out, through the
pores, this clogging, loathsome surplus. So will the sun-baths,
exercise, and whatever else produces copious perspiration. Sea
bathing is most excellent
989. — What Forms of Breasts, Abdomen, Ac, indicatb Fem alb
IIealtu and Disease.
** How can we tell the difference between healthy and sickly fat?
Virgins are fat, plump, and rosy. This diseased fat gives both plumpnesH
and color. How can one iA) whether any given female is fitt and florid
from health, or from menstrual suppression ? "
1. By the forms of her breasts. All artists represent their
outlines so distinctly that observers can perceive just where mam-
mal form ends and body form begins, like the plainly visible
edges of a thunder-cloud on a clear sky. (See Figures 630, 581,
684, 640.) But this adi|X)se so infuses itself all within and around
them that this outline edge cannot be observed. «
i028 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
2. Excessive fat renders them soft and pendent. "When the
sexuality is vigorous they retain their natural place and shape^;
but become too flaccid and pendent when it ia not.
3. Their nipple color or discoloration is yevy significant of
sexual health and ailments; as are also their highly magnetic or
unmagnetic states.^^
4. ^N^ORMAL AND VIGOROUS bosoms commencc about an inch apart,
and rise gradually from each other to quite a sharp oval cone ;
but when they run into each other, or touch each other along
their inner sides, they are unduly fat.
5. Very large bosoms signify sexual inertia; while large veins,
even in smaller breasts, signify mammal vigor.
6. Bosoms beginning high up near the collar-bone, are poor; and
their projecting rapidly as they descend, with but little division
between them, indicates barrenness ; while their growing low, we
mean forming low, instead of sagging, indicates sexual vigor.
7. Breasts large at their base, though flat, when on a broad
chest, indicate great sexual vigor, with superb motherhood, run
down somewhat ; while breasts small at their bases, though
conical, indicate only a medium amount of gender, 3^et in a fair
state.
8. Fat between the breasts signifies menstrual sparseness. In
a vigorous sexual state the skin is drawn close to the breast-
bone ; but fat interspersed between the breast-bone and skin, or
between the breasts, indicates sexual dormancy, with deficient
excretion.
9. " Fat, fair, and forty," or the fact that ladies often fat up
about forty, is caused by menstrual sparseness, consequent on that
sexual decline incident to the approaching close of their bearing
period. Those who are well, and remain thin after forty-five,
may expect to be healthier, and live longer, than those who be-
come fat.
10. In women who fat up rapidly, yet feel worse, this extra
fat signifies sexual impairments, not health. This law applies
equally to girls.
11. Extra fat women are poor females, and the poorer they
become the fatter they get ; and the fatter the poorer : and poor
because fat, and fat because poor.
12. On pressing the thumb into the flesh of a fat, pale woman,
if the dent remains deep and white, her circulation, sexuality.
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and health are poor ; but she is the better the sooner the color
uiid form become natural.
13. A DARKISH-LIVID, BLUISH-RED, diffused indiscriminately all
over face, forehead, and neck, signifies this fevered state, caused
by too sparse menstruation.
14. Paleness with pat signifies sexual inertia, without suffi-
cient vitality to create fever. It is far better that the system
resists than succumbs.
15. A deeply-sunken navel indicates suppressed menses, be-
cause it must be anchored somewhere ; is anchored to that front
muscle running from breast-bone to pubis ; is thus kept in one
spot relatively to the spine, so that this fat, by filling up all
around the navel, gives it a deep tunnel shape. A slighter navel
cavity signifies a better sexual state than a deep, which indicates
surplus fat.
16. It puffs out around the pubis, sometimes overlapping it,
and forming a crease just above it.
17. Fat women should never fill out their forms; but should
dress so as to seem smaller and slimmer, not larger in breasts and
shoulders, waists and back. They look badly from being too stout
already ; and should wear next to nothing on their backs and abdo-
mens. A panier on a back already too broad,*^ looks really horri-
ble ; as do full skirts and pufFed-up trimmings on abdomens already
distended by surplus fat. Such should wear as few pelvic clothes
as possible, and those as closely fitted. Strange that a point thui
obvious has been overlooked !
What i*s this analysis of fat worth ? Where has it ever be-
fore been given? Though self-mortifying to many, yet does it
not teach some of the most valuable sexual lessons you have ever
learned? besides accounting scientifically for some seemingly
contradictory phcuoimua?
990. — Nymphomania : Its Causes and Curbs.
Phrenoloov owes to it the discovery of Love, and of course all
those gix^t truths taught in this work.
Sexual inflammations are its great cause, yet their causes are
various. ^
Interrupted Love is one chief cause of womb and scxnal in-
flammation. Sec how conclusively ••• proves that this must be its
t
1030 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
effect in all cases where it does not stifle the womb. Note also **^* ®'
as establishing this identical result.
Girls and women by thousands, tormented night and day by
its wanton desires, on casting back will remember that they be-
gan soon after their severe Love reversal. The wombs of those
who break down under disappointment settle back into a dead-
ened, paralyzed state ;^^ of those who turn men-haters expe-
rience sexual vertigo ;^^ of those who lie awake nights in a
feverish, craving, excited, half-delirious state of feeling, take on
this inflamed action ; which often becomes permanent. Mark
how perfectly this mental mood is calculated to produce this
identical womb-craving ; for all Love-states create corresponding
womb-states.^
The WHOLE system burns right out under this double excite-
ment. Extreme nervousness is its constant concomitant and
effect. It nmst be stopped. By what means '(
1. How NOT? A recent medical conclave advised letting such
a patient have her All; forgetful that its indulgence only rein-
flames, which redoubles wanton desires; just as indulging a rav-
enous appetite increases it.
2. Nor by medicines, which can still this passion only by still-
ing the sensory [)rinciple itself.''*'^ Then how ?
3. Mental diversion from this to- other subjects is the great
cure, as a mental state was its cause. Initiating another Love ia
its specific cure by removing its ca.:se. All said about " Broken
Hearts,"^^' ^applies here specifically.
4. External applications constitute the great physiological
cure. Forcing the blood to other parts will force it /rom these.
All baths which establish reaction by being extra hot or cold,
and especially the two alternating, as in the Turkish, will relieve
it as by magic ; as will soaking the feet in water very hot, fol-
lowed by very cold; and even the cold alone.
5. Wearing a avet towel on the abdomen, extending low down
and between the thighs, will be all the time carrying off this
heat, on the principle explained in ^'
6. A childless rich woman adopted a charity hospital girl of
fourteen, thinking to educate and make her a lady; but could
not teach her; and brought her to me to learn wlf^. " Self-
ahuse, madam," and was told to wear a wet diaper as in menstru-
ation, day and niglit. These parts we:o hot, rod, and swollen-
THE CURB OP FEMALE COMPLAINTS. 103 J
She returned with her in three days with all these signs *K
passion abated.
7. Electricity, by placing t\\Q positive pole along the back, and
negative at these parts, will take this inflammation, with it^ con-
comitant passion, right out.
8. All shamed, self-condemning feelings you must banish by
will-j)Ower. You are to be pidcd^ not blamed. Its cause is sick-
ness, not sinfulness. Fight it oft* resolutely by will and these
physical appliances, instead of aggravating youi*self on this ac-
count. Sexual inflammation is no more sinful than stomachic.
9. Divert yourself. Your whole sexual nature, mental and
physical, is inflamed. You are sexually insane on this feeling,
and must turn the current of your thoughts and feelings into
almost any other channel, but some other in order to get it out
of this. Go anywhere^ do anything not wrong, to rack your
mind off* from salacious thoughts and feelings. Put a strong will
and all the conscience and moral tone you possess over again&t
this morbid craving. Banish all unclean thoughts, and cultivate
sexual purity. Abstinence is as indispensable here as in mas-
turbation, and for precisely the same reason;^ for the more you
indulge in either intercourse or sexual desires, the more you
inflame, instead of sating, this frenzied desire; just as the more
a ravenous appetite is indulged the more rampatit it becomes, be-
cause the more its indulgence inflames the stomach. Appreciate
the other sex for their mental and moral excellences, instead of
sensually.
Seek society, that of the other sex especially; hut in the pre»-
ejice of others^ not alone, lest you tempt and be t<^!n[»t#d.
One thus afkixted, fifty yeare ago, feigned chronic sickness;
prayed and exhorted so like an angel, that ttha wius invi.ed by
pious families to stay with thoni in turn; indulged with her
male watchers ; perpetrated abortion when necesnary ; was ex-
posed; reformed; married; bore children; aud made u good wife,
mother, and citizen.
Males suffer oftenest from these erotic desires; and are cup-
able by appliances precisely analogous.
991. — Tiy Fbmalb Term op Lipb: Advicb ooNCBRNrNO rr.
The close of the bkarino period causes a feminine lifo-crisiji
little inferior to that induced by its comiB|MK}emcnt.^'^ You
iiSMpei
1032 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
whose " turns " wane gradually till they disappear, may calculate
on enjoying perfect health, down to a good old age, whereas their
premature or sudden suspension, especially if accompanied by fat,
indicates a gathering storm of ailments; because womb-decline
prevents due evacuation.
All ADVANCING FEMALES, BEAR just as long as possible, so ua
to keep up your womb-action, and consume this excreti(>n ; and
take the nicest possible care of your health for years before and
after this change, lest you arrest it prematurelj'- ; be much out
of door, and avoid all unwonted exposures and changes; dismiss
care ; "stop worrying," &c. Above all,
Keep your Love in just as quiet and happy a state as possible ;
for all its troubles, like loss of husband, son, father, lover, or male
friend, all hard feelings towards husbands, in short, all painful
love-states, react on the womb, to suppress your monthlies, and
bring on its diseases ; while all happy atfectional states promote
its action and evacuations.^^ Universal fact establishes this sex-
ual law. No exceptions occur except when this apparatus is
sufficiently vigorous to rise above this breeder of female ills.^"**
Sexual inflammations sometimes follow this change, along with
sexual cravings,^*^^ which must be indulged sparingly. Though
that end for which virtue was ordained ^^ has passed, and you can
indulge illicit Love without endangering maternity, yet much
intercourse, in wedlock or out, may derange your nerves. You
had better cultivate its quiet, ripe, ethereal aspect. If its animal
has been needed heretofore,^^ it certainly is required no longer;
for its material mission is fulfilled. That page has been turned.
Like the well-fed worm going into its cocoon to come out a
beautiful butterfly, every way immeasurably improved ; so this
sexual sentiment should mount upward towards its angelic phase
of spiritual Love and intercourse. And this will render you all
the more charming and lovely. This sentiment is not dying,
but just beginning to sanctify and exalt you. Being a true yo^mg
woman will make " the old woman " not a reproach, but only "a
little lower than the angels."
" Then must we forego this God-ordained physical luxury?"
No : yet much of its intense animal indulgence wi41 kill itself
and derange your nerves. Protract by spiritualizing this senti-
ment'-^^ and consume it more in conversations with men, including
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home missionary desires and efforts for their improvement ; wean-
ing them from spirits, tobacco, &c. ; drawing young men around
you ;•* being motherly to boys, &c. And your age justilies your
being mucli more cosy, fondling, and familiar towards all males
than during your more impassioned period. Attest, all advancing
women, whether this advice does not tally with your own "grand-
ma" instincts. As to how much intercoui-se benefits you, be
your own judges. Those general principles applied to elderly
men,"' govern you. Total abstinence may. not Ixj best.
992. — Changing Climates: California: Yolr own best.
A TEMPORARY change of climate sometimes works wonders for
good, oftener for bad. Thus a constitution run down too low to
withstand the sudden changes and severe colds of Northern win-
ters, by going south will often leave that strength to go to recu-
peration which would have to go to fighting off cold north ; yet
whenever there is life force enough to withstand a cold climate, it
invigorates much more than a warm, on the principle that strong
winds strengthen strong trees. And those who go south will
find it about as hard to keep comfortably warm there as north.
I never had as hard work to keep comfortably warm as in Cali-
fornia. Let me winter where winter is acknowledged, and cold
resjKJcted and provided against. No tonic on earth equals cold,
if the constitution can endure it. Walking in the cold five
minutes invigorates amazingly. Or if you can stand but one
minute, try that. The cold-cure, rightly applied, is the best of
all the cur?s. I have preached it twenty years only just now to
begin to prize it. It winds up the clock.
All changes op temperature balance up themselves. All
oold reacts to produce heat, and boat, col <1, ?)>.«fo//r/o. All cold
warms up; all overheat cools off. And even weakly pei-sons can,
by securing reaction, get great good out of an amount of cold they
tJiink unendurable.
California climate is a two-edged sword — it might build you
up as by magic, yet it might rut yon right down. Sudden deaths
there are very common: so arc hemorrhages, rheumatism, and
neunilgia; and in all cases it relaxes. It promotes menstruation.
Those too <*9cci table to endure tlio bracing climate of the Eiist,
there find themselves toned down, rested out, and their functions
•lackened up; yet that done, they had better jkIufd. All who
J 034 THE CURES OF ALL SEXUAL DISEASES AND SUFFERINGS.
can withstand an Eastern winter will "come out in the spring"
far better here than there.
Its ALKALI IN ITS WATERS Created by those volcanic fires which
caused the Rocky Mountains, is just what some need to correct
the acid of the'w stomachs ; yet as soon as this is done, it gorges
the llccr by its surplus. This causes all Rocky Mountain deer to
have livers fairly rotten with disease; as all hunters there aver.
Those with weak livers may go there, but not to stay long.
The kidneys are the most aifected ; because it is rarely warm
enough to produce a good sweat, and generally cold enough, as
does all cool weather, to throw in upon the kidneys those excre-
tions which summer warmth ^expels through the perspiration.
All urinate more, because they perspire less, in cold weather than
in warm. This law applies to California most of the season.
All you who have weak livers and kidneys, stay east.
All who like showers and trees, and dislike dust and droutli,
stay east.
All food is richer and more nutritious for its bulk east than
on the Pacific slope ; as all can try in person. Of this strawberries,
apples, and all vegetables, furnish test illustrations for all.
It is NOT A HEALTH Elysium. It has its advantages and dis-
advantages : what climate but has both ? yet God has not made ?7,
as some aver, the only earthly climate fit for a white man to live
in. I say all this from a personal inspection of its whole slope,
from Columbia to Mexico ; and must take back some things I
wrote in its favor before I saw it. Constitutions there have less
to withstand, yet far less withstanding ^oifJtr.
Consumptives are best off East.
Your home climate, to which you are wonted and your con-
stitution has already adapted itself, is your best, except for a
temporary change. Especially since it gives you all the advan-
tages of home and friends. Climate-hunters make these two
fundamental mistakes :
1. Sudden thermal changes benefit instead of injuring, and
recommend not condemn a climate. God made them, and to blesSy
not curse, those subject to them ; besides having provided their
antidotes. See the law of reaction as expounded in " Fowler's
Journal of Life, Health, Phrenology, and Man," Vol. I., Ko. 1.
2. Constitutions adapt themselves to their clIxMates, which
renders their Aor/i£ climate the best for them.
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993. — Female Apparel ruinous: Its Revolution imperious.
No more healthy women oh children can bless men and each
other till a complete revolution, not reform merely, is effected in
the whole system of female dress. Boston and other ladies are
nobly yet vainly trying to alter this and emend that; yet buniing
them all up^ and originating one on an entirely new principle,
specifically adapted to female locomotion, alone will do. Look at
some of its existing evils.
1. It dampens the feet in all muddy, snowy,and wet weather;
which chills the legs, and strikes the first accessible mucous sur-
face, the female organs, to produce and aggravate ruinous sup-
pressions ;** besides dragging through slush and mud, mopping
up all the tobacco spittle and street filth, &c., &c.
2. It displaces the female organs and bowels, by hanging as
a dead, perpetual, bearing-down drag on them; and all displace-
ments inflame ; which burns out their life-force.®^^
3. It impedes locomotion. Ejich foot must push the whole
dress forward, besides being entangled and hindered thereby. It
renders female motion, naturally light and agile, heavy and
dragoon-like; besides keeping women mostly w^ithin dooi-s; pre-
venting their working in garden, taking invigorating walks and
rides, and taking exercise generally.
4. Going up stairs is awful, especially with a babe, or any-
thing else, in hand. Any woman who should wear men's apj>a-
rel long enough to get wonted to it, had rather ^o lo priso)i than
return to long skirts.
5. It drabbles the under-wear; and necessitates an immense
amount of extra washing and ironing, sewing and mending;
besides comjicHing wearers to hold them up in crossing streets.
6. Its being oi'EN below is its great error. The primal reason
for this should make every woman ashamed every time she
.loffs it.»*»
7. It ruins tub female form and spirit.
8. Its e.\pen8b is perfectly outraobous.
9. It converts women into ladif^ ;^ substitutes the artificial
and l)ypocriti(ral for the natural and real, mentally and physi-
cally; and leaves men only a bundle of artificialities, outside and
in, to love and live for.
10. It discommodes those behind in streets, gatlicringn, de-
scending stairs, Ac, and is a real street nuisance. Ladies, if a
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gentleman steps on your dress, you merit no apology from him,
but owe one to him for discommoding him by wearing a dress
long enough to be trod upon. In descending stairs, with one
hand dexterously bring your trail forward, close to your feet.
11. It blocks up all exit in a rush. That church in Holyoke
takes fire, and burns down, bmms hundreds to death, timbers falling
on them, before they could get out through open doors 1 Why'i
Because long skirts, stepped on by those behind, held these women
fast^ and stopped their moving, unless they first tear off their
skirts ; which blocked up the crowd behind, and kept them there
till the house burned up itself and them. But enough.
Neither men nor women will long endure the evils it inflicts
on it^ wearers, all they love, and the race 1
Woman is their victim, not their author, nor in the least to
blame for their follies or their evils. We blame society, not their
wearers.
How SHOULD woman DRESS? What principles should govern
the required changes in her apparel ? It should
1. Allow perfect freedom of motion to feet, arms, and body.
2. Be suspended from shoulders, not hips.^^^
3. Be as light as possible, and yet be warm enough.
4. Conform to the female figure in its general shape, in taper-
ing each way from the pelvis inwardly.'^^^ This involves a tunic
suspended from the shoulders, held to the body by a girdle at the
waist, and extending lialf way or more down the thighs; with
pants — something as girls are dressed.
5. The more ornaments the better, so that they b7in(j out the
natural form, instead of distorting and monsterizing it ; as do
modern fashions.
6. To this complexion it must come at last, in its general
features. Let female taste determine its details, so that its pres-
ent cruel evils are obviated.
Long skirts, with Ii^orth Pacific weather, cap the climax of
female "ruination." With a clouded, sunless atmosphere two-
thirds of each year; little frost till after Christmas to kill vegeta-
tion ; daily drizzles which keep grass loaded with wet ; " mud
knee-deep;" feet sopping wet; just cold enough not to freeze;
women housed, or else their long skirts drabbled ; feet and legs
clammy cold whertever abroad — purgatory itself cannot be worse
than LONG dresses in that climate. These are the facts. Think
out their efibcts. Live there, you who dare.
CHAPTER m.
FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM: AND HOW TO PROLONG AND
REGAIN BOTH.
Section L
FEMALE CHARMS AND GLOW WAX AND WANE WITH THE LOV8
STATES.
994. — Female Beauty Perennial, not Ephemeral.
The surpassing value of female beauty and bloom has already
been shown.*^^ How to promote them, including the causes of
their impairment, is equally important to all females who would
enhance them ; to all males who admire them, and would possess
a handsome woman to love. This is the thrilling and eventful
subject of this chapter. Mark well its import.
"What men love in Women **^'*^^ should be reviewed here, in-
olading **•, so as to open up this the closing and most important
chapter of " Creative Science," with a distinct idea of their value,
analysis, and " points."
Our world is full of beauty and glory. How beautiful is tlio
rising sun ! No wonder ancient Parsees worshipped as he rose.
Would that moderns arose in season to see him rise, and worship
at the shrine of morning. Flowers bedecked and sparkling in
the early dew, are beautiful and fragrant. How beautiful, how
luxurious are ripe fruits, painted as only God in Nature can
paint, and flavored as lie alone can flavor ! Yet,
A BEAUTIFUL OIRL ECLIPSES THBM ALL,a8 BUnlight doCS Sturlight.
And every element of this beauty is immeasurably enhanced by a
right merging into womanhood.*" Sun shines on nothing quite
as superlatively beautiful, charming, even enchanting, as a splen-
didly-sexed "sweet sixteen," in full sexual bloom; unless it be
that girl fully developed into perfectly glorious womanhood. All
races and nations, throughout all times and climes, have worship-
ped at the shrine of female loveliness. And the more devoutly,
the higher in the creative scale are the worshippers. Only wor
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1038 PROT.ONGING AND REQAINING FEMALE BICAUTY AND BLOOM.
ship of God exceeds it. Jt has turned all men's heads and hearts,
sind literally crazed them, throughout human history. What will
not men do and sacrifice for a really handsome woman ? and wo-
men to enhance their heauty ? What other ancient temples were
as numerous or thronged as those of Venus ? Yet
All women can be much handsomer than any now are, or ever
have been ; for improvement is the law of all things. Only let all
their inherent beauties be once fairly developed, and men's eyes
would everywhere roam over one vast sea of ever-varying loveli-
ness. As in a garden filled with all kinds of beautiful flowers,
blooming in constant succession, go anywhere, look everywhere,
some new flower enchants the ever-delighted vision, only in-
Rtantly to be eclipsed by some other brighter, fairer, more glow-
ing, richer, sweeter still, in variegated succession, some adapted
to one taste, others to others, and all to some; so with women.
Busy cities, bustling sidewalks, crowded churches, theatres, con-
certs, lectures, parties, &c., could be one maze of glowing female
loveliness, beyond anything we now behold, or can imagine —
the plainest then handsomer than the most luscious now are.
Venus was charming, but " the good time coming " will witnes!^
those incoihparably more so. We can now form no more conce]>-
tion of how beautiful, than men a hundred years ago could con-
ceive how fast we now travel, and transmit news. J^one would
then be allowed to go unappropriated by marriage ; because all
men would be overpowered by some woman's charms.
'Girls, young ladies, budding and blooming into glorious
womanhood, full of virgin glow, ecstasy, fascination, are inex-
pressibly charming ;^'^ yet all women can and should grow more
so with age; for the race is ordained to improve, not deteriorate,
like those harvest " headers " which earn/ along as they go all
rich kernels gathered in the past, leaving behind only the straw.
Girls often lack sense, and always experience ; while women often
do, yet never need, lose their maidenly charms. How desirable
the union of girlish fascination with womanly richness and ripe-
ness ? All fruits grow more beautiful till they fall from complete
ripeness.
1. Can female loveliness be preserved ? Can the glow and
charms of young women be materially prolonged into woman-
hood ? Must this sexual bloom wither before twenty, and perish
with the first maternity ? Must it enamour a husband only to
FEMALE CFTARMS AND GLOW WAX AND WANE, ETC. 1039
fade with tlie lioneymoon, and leave its betrayed admirer's yearn-
ing heart desoh\te for life?
No. Infinite Goodness does not thus beguile His children.
01)viously He appended this Divine attribute to woman not
merely to enamour man, but to perpetuate his Love, at least till
his loved one is past bearing. Tliis declaration needs no arg»i-
ment. The causes of this lamentable decline arc human^ and
avoidable, not inevitable. Not only can all f/ounc/ ladies be many
times handsomer than they now are, but" their beauty can be
increased ixt least up to thirty-five; be preserved in all its glow-
ing captivation till past fifty; and then soften off into that mel-
low twilight even more charming than its noonday splendor.
The most captivating beauties of the race have retained both
their beauty and fascinating power over the earth's nobles, who,
besides being connoisseurs, knew about all the celebrities of their
age, till past fifty, some till past seventy.
TfoE following ages of celebrated beauties prove that all
women by like means can retain their virgin loveliness, at least
till fifty or sixty.
Helen of Troy was over forty when she perpetrated the most famous
elopement on record, and, as the siege of Troy lasted a decade, she must
have been quite elderly when the ill-fortune of Paris restored her to her
husband, who is reported to have received her with unquestioning love and
gratitude.
Pericles wedded Aspasia when she was thirty-six, and yet afterward,
for thirty years or more, held an undiminished reputation for beauty.
Cleopatra was past thirty when Antony fell under her 8i>ell; which
never lessened until her death, nearly ten years after.
LiviA WAS thirty-three when she won the heart of Augustus, over
whom she maintained her ascendency to the la.««t. The extraordinary
Diana de Poictiers was thirty-six when Henry H. of France (then
Duke of Orleans, and just half her age) became enamored of her, and she
was held as the first lady and most beautiful woman at court up to the
period of that monarch's death, and of the accession to power of Catherine
of Medicis.
Anne of Austria was thirty-eight when she was the baDdaomest queen
of Europe, and when Buckingham and Richelieu were her jealoua ad-
mirers.
Ninon de l'Enclos, the most celebrated wit and beauty of her day,
was the idol of three generations of the golden youth of France ; and waa
seventy-two when the Abbe de Bemia fell in love with her. A rare com-
1040 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
bination of culture, talents, and personal attractions endowed their pos-
sessor seemingly with the gifts of eternal youth.'"^*
Blanco Capello was thirty-eight when the Grand Duke Francisco,
of Florence, fell captive to her charms, and made her his wife, though he
was five years her junior.
Louis XIV. wedded Mme, de Maintenon when she was foHy-thres
years of age.
Catherine II., of Russia, was thirty-three when she seized the empire,
and captivated the dashing youug Orloff. Up to the time of her death
at sixty-seven she seems to have retained the same bewitching powers,
for the lamentations were heartfelt among all those who had ever known
her personally.
Mdlle. Mar, the tragedienne, only attained the zenith of her beauty
and power between forty and forty-five, when the loveliness of her hands
and arms especially was celebrated throughout Europe.
• Mme. Recamer was thirty-eight when she was, without dispute,
declared to be the most beautiful woman in Europe, which rank she held
for fifteen years.
2. Can Beauty be enhanced as well as perpetuated ? for if so,
let all the world know this fact, and its means. And especially
women, besides learning how to become the more bewitchingly
"stunning" as they advance, so as to prolong their mating bloom-
ing period.
American ladies fade earliest of all. 'No others fade^any-
thing like as soon. We, who ought to show the world its finest
samples of matronly freshness and glory, present the poorest. If
republican institutions, which should develop our female charms,
actually blight them, monarchy is preferable. Why this decline ?
Because
Beauty has its conditions, nearly all of which most cultivated
American ladies outrage. Let them fulfil them, and their
beauty will increase and last longer than in other countries.
What are they ?
We go to the marrow of this whole subject. Ladies, all man-
kind, note this, and read understandingly. Mark its underly-
ing/r5^;?rmci))fc5, their sweep and power, and specific application
to this beautifying subject.
female charms and glow wax and wane, etc. 1041
995. — Sbxuality the Creator and Prolonger of Female
Beauty and Bloom.
Active gender is Nature's great beautifier. Iler floral bloom
displays her richest colors, fragrance, and loveliness. Yet this
whole blossoming process is but sexual conjunction for reproduc-
tion. AH animals are the most beautiful during their mating
season ; as are likewise all birds. Only in his sexual season does
the peacock spread his tail in its completest blaze of glory, and
solely when his sexual passion inspires it, and organs are in
erection ; and thus of turkey-gobbler. This principle applies to
all nature's productions ; but most to her highest.
Puberty is what beautifies virgins. Their sexual development
alone gives them their bloom. And given solely to enamour man ;
and this only to secure maternity. Gender alone creates, sus-
tains, prolongs all female charms, of person, of mind. Enhanc-
ing or impairing it, enhances or impairs them. She is the hand-
somest, loveliest, who has the most ; homeliest, who has the
least. Was not Venus thus beautiful and enamouring because 80
'splendidly sexed? This entire work proves this. Re-read in***
how much younger, livelier, lovelier all females look, when well
courted than before, and old and haggard when scolded. We
need not prove this law here, because the entire warp and woof
of this work proves it from various standpoints.
To INSPIRE male passion is their sole end and effect; and this to
eventuate in reproduction ; every point of female beauty being
a maternal attribute.*^*"^ Therefore,
Promoting health promotes, injuring it despoils, any, every,
all women's good looks ; because it promotes or impairs her
children. See how to preserve and regain it in " Human Science,*'
Part II.
All womb states similarly aflfect all its possessor's looks. See
how conclusively Part I. proves this: so that Part IX., in show-
ing how to restore womb vigor, shows how to restore faded
beauty. No mathematical problem was ever demonstrated any
more clearly than we have proved that all the items of female
beauty and bloom are the creatures and vassals of womb states:
as is likewise female repugnance. See why in ^'*. Therefore,
Beauty and bloom wax and wanb with thb womb statbs
Then what controls these womb states ?
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t042 prolonging and retaining female beauty and bloom.
996. — Love and the Womb in Reciprocal Sympathy.
Love creates and controls the womb ; as the mind does the
body.*'*^ It is a mental Faculty, and the womb is its organ of
manifestation, just as the stomach is of Appetite ; and each is
just as indispensable to, and nugatory without the other.^^ Yet
tins Love Faculty is the sovereign lord, and womb its mental serf.
Life is a mentality ; originates in a mental Faculty ; and
employs the womb in constructing its organic machinery.^
All Love states affect all womb states, just as all stomach
states do those of Appetite. What creates hunger? That
stomach state which demands food. But as Appetite remains
dormant till this state provokes it to action ; so womb craving
for intercourse to secure impregnation, creates and constitutes
Love ; which becomes the stronger or weaker as this womb
action or craving is the greater or less ; for the states of the
stomach and appetite are to each other precisely what the womb
states and Love are to each other. As an active, vigorous stomach
state creates a hearty Appetite, while a weak stomach state leaves
Appetite feeble ; and as a sick stomach creates a loathing of
food, or alimentary vertigo ; so a vigorous womb state creates a
whole-souled, doting fondness, along with intense Love; while a
feeble womb state allows only a weak, tame, milk-and-water
Love state : and womb diseases, by reversing womb action, create
sexual dyspepsia, qualmishness, vertigo, nausea, and disgust to-
wards the male sex. So also womb inflammations create that crav-
ing, rampant, vagarish, lustful, insane state called nymphomania;
which is curable by removing this womb inflammation.®^"
Womb was made for Love, just as stomach was for appetite,
and for nothing else. It is used, and usable, only by Love ; and
by no other Faculty. It is created solely to carry out the ends,
and give eflacacy to the action of Love. Skull is not made for
brain, or both for mind, or sockets for eyes, any more palpably,
obviously, than is womb only for the use of Love. What but Love
ever does, ever can, give to womb that specific action for which
it was created ? Womb always does, always must remain dor-
mant, inert, mere vegetative- life excepted, until and unless
vivified by Love, and summoned to action by it alone. Love
ana womb were mutually created expressly to work together,
<vaeh carrying out the ends of the other ; but Love is the tyranni-
FEMALE CHARMS AND GLOW WAX AND WANE, ETC. 1043
c»l lord over womb. What natural law is any more perfectly
apparent ?
All FEMALE ERECTIONS, by their always accompanying ami
being consequent on passion, which consists in the action of
Love,"^ furnish physical, ocular demonstration of this mutual sj^m-
jiathy of both. We have proved that all male, and incidentally
that all female, erection is caused by active Love;^ that Love
:ilone creates potency in both sexes, by both being invariably in
proportion to each other ; and, finally, that female Love and per-
son always go together,** and are made for each other. Re-read
that more than a " baker's dozen " proofs of these facts, each of
which demonstrates this truth, that all the states of Love, good,
bad, and indifferent, cause like states of the womb. We dwell
thus to make all women literally quake, and all husbands tremble,
over this appalling inference and absolute truth, that, therefore,
997. — All right Love states improve, all wrong impair thb
Womb.
Every thought, every feeling of every girl towards her bean,
both pleasurable and painful, similarly affect her womb ; and in
exact prof>ortion to their intensity and continuance. This is the
necessary result of her Love element and womb being interre-
lated."* Who will stultify themselves by denying this? Then
who but must, therefore, admit this most momentous inference,
that
All pleasant, normal, happy, right action of Love for her
"sweetheart,' throws her womb into a like happy state, by
sending an increased flow of blood down to it to carry off its
humors and diseiises ; to enlarge its growth ; and invigorate it,
prepjiratory to her impregnation by him. This shows wht/
"Woman's Love and person go together."** Love promotes
menstruation : ^ this Love-and-womb sympathy shows why ; and
also why all right Love states prevent, all tinhappy promote,
womb prolapsus** and ovarian dropsy ."• This principle estab-
lishes the law in which those inferences are based.
All painful Lotb states disease the womb. Their being in
symjMithy compels every iKiinful Love emotion to reverse^ abnor-
malize, vitiate, palsy, or inflame the womb; just as this painful
state is either.** Qirls, every hour and minute you " lie awake
nights '* musing painfully over your beau, and his wrong treat-
1044 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
ment of you, breeds female complaints. You cannot afford to allow
these painful reminiscences.^*
" But we can't help having them, any more than suffering pain with
gravel in our eyes. In mercy's name do, oh, do tell us how."
You MUST help them. If your house were on fire, and you in
it, would you stop then to muse thus ? Fright would stop them
then, and this equal danger of blasting your womb for life^ should
stop you now. Read ^ and remember that the law there stated
applies here in reverse.
All women unhappily married, this principle governs you too.
Stop moaning^ or go engage your coffin. Take your choice; for
moaning, regretting, feeling badly, drives nails into it.
Under " broken hearts, and how to mend them," we tell you
what to do ; but simply tell you here not to commit virtual
suicide by indulging Love-griefs of any kind.
Section II.
A LUSCIOUS bosom: how lost AND HOW REGAINED.
998. — Breasts and Womb in reciprocal Sympathy.
They complete what it begins — infantile nutrition. To finish
up its work alone were they created. ;N"eed we any better, any
other proof that they are in sympathetic rapport than this fact,
that they are joint co-working partners — breasts made to help
womb?
Facts by wholesale, pure induction, demonstrate this sym-
pathy. Look at these ranges of them.
They begin their active growth when and because womb
begins its ; they lying dormant while it does, both starting
into action together. And their beginning to grow is an abso-
lutely sure sign that menstruation is at hand. They develop
along pari 'passu as it develops ; and whatever arrests its growth,
also stops theirs. Thus let any girl, soon after womanhood
commences and they begin to grow, catch a hard cold while men-
struating, which strikes to her womb and stops this excretion ;
this same cold also stops the growth of her breasts. Why should
not this stunning it stun them ? Mark this proof that it actu-
ally does. Nature has just laid the foundation for their nipples,^
A LUSCIOUS BOSOM: HOW LOST AND HOW REGAINED. 1045
but stops building. As yet they constitute a mere apex, projecting
but little. They stop forming right then and there, and go no
farther till womb vigor revives. She becomes eighteen, twenty-
one, and has no nipples distinctly formed yet, only a slight rise.
Marriage probably will restore her womb growth, and thereby
her mammal, nipple included. And anything else which revives
womb growth will revive mammary; but it will be mainly a
** rowen crop," an August growth.
Nipples distinctly developed indicate womb development;
they large, it large; they flat, it also undeveloped. This doctrine
is new, but true.
Passion erects every impassioned woman's nipples. Every
single experimental test confirms this. What does this mean ?
The color around these nipples alikewise proclaims existing
womb states. A bright red around them, like a bright red cheek,"*
is an infallible index of womb health; as is their discoloration
of its im|>airment. A good deal of color around them indicates
proportionate vigor and action in it ; while their being colorless
is a sure sign of its inertia. Women have little nipple color
after forty-five, or after menstruation ceases ; after their wombs
settle back into a quiescent state.
Black and blub around nipples, a brownish, yellowish, hue,
saftron color, and all other discolorations, indicate sexual ailments
of some kind; and very dark, a great deal of disease in it.
Men's nipples are governed by this law; and their discolonv-
tion signifies this particular Idiid of ailment — testal. All used-up,
spent men have dark, or brown, or dingy-colored nipples; and
those who have them thus colored, are " poor males."
The breasts indicate all other womb conditions. Thus nym-
phomania, an intense and continued morliid sexual hankering,
eats up the breasts, and leaves the chest of its victims **as flat as
a board." So does jealousy ; which is only another phase of
abnormal Love.
Very fat bosoms indicate either sexual inertia or craving,*"' at
least sparse minstruation. When with passion, it is quick, fiery,
vulgar, burning; because Nature is consuming right around the
womb in this constant fever, which begets this craving, that albu-
men dammed up there by suppressions.*** Such are generally
barren.
Sexual intercoursb changes the breasts. Artists must have
for models those who have ^* never known
1046 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
Childbirth affects them. What better proof is needed of
mammal and womb sympathy than this universal fact, that par-
turition stops the flow of albumen to the womb, and sends it to
tlie breasts ? and that weaning a child restores that menstruation
which nursing suspends ? And they are fullest during this ex-
cretion ; besides often being tumid and painful just before it.
What mean all these facts ? Some law must cause them. Our
principle of womb and mammary sympathy answers. But anpther
conclusive, absolute demonstration of it, "is that
Breast manipulation provokes passion, which consists in womb
action. A w^ife and mother said :
" I NEVER FELT PASSION BUT ONCE, and that was when my husband was
rubbing some ointment on my breasts. But I took good care not to let him
know it."
What a heathen wife, to thus suppress the only " desire " for
her husband she ever felt! She should instead have told him
how to bring out this conjugal and maternal deficit thus acci-
dentally revealed to her.
A WOMAN WARNING FACT. In St. Johns, N. B., a doctor, in tell-
ing how much sensuality and illegitimacy existed there, gave
this in illustration :
"I WAS SUMMONED TO DELIVER an unmarried young woman. The
law compels me to ascertain, beforehand, the circumstances attending her
impregnation, who the father was, &c., that he might be held accountable
for its support. She narrated thus :
" * I*WAS BETROTHED to my child's father. When I knew he was coming
a-courting, say Sunday evenings, I usually dressed with bare arms and low
neck.^^^ He was fond of sitting close to me, which I allowed, because we were
" engaged." He would throw his arm around my waist and snug me up close
to him ; which I thought proper enough, since we were " engaged." He would
throw it around my neck to draw my face close to his, so as to kiss me.
Tliis I also permitted on account of our " engagement." He would carelessly
let his hand slide slowly along down and rest upon my bosom, and gently
press it; which I also allowed ; for I as much expected t(\ marry him as to
live. But this awakened my own passion, which, on one occasion, just after
menstruation, overcame my self-control, and left me powerless to resist, and
at his mercy. He took advantage of that melting, helpless mood, thus
produced, and made me a mother.' "
A LUSCIOUS B06OM: HOW LOST AND HOW REGAINED. 1047
BION, if he and she are at all sympathetic. Who does not know
this ? "What means it ? Sexual magnetism flows out through
them, when touched, more freely than tlirough any other part.
Let all experiment attest, and find its cause in our staminate prin-
ciple, that womb and breasts are in perfect reciprocal sympathy
with each other.
All men instinctively prefacb intercourse by their manipula-
tion ; and impassioned women, before and during it, love to disclose
them.*" God made this fact so as to further His creative econo-
mies. Let those employ it who would promote them, but avoid it
who would avoid them. Their manipulation is proper where im-
pregnation is ; when not, not. Woman note, and beware.
Women by hundreds have assured me personally that by losing
womb vigor, and contracting female complaints, they lost their
mammary fulness, their breasts becoming small, shrivelled, and
flaccid ; but were regained and became large, round, full, and
heavy pari passu with the restoration of womb.
** Why thus pile proof upon proof of this fact and principle, known,
conceded, and practised so universally ?"
Because preserving and restoring the breasts, that paramount
prerequisite of female beauty,**' impinges on it. Our Title, Pre-
face, Introduction, and book itself, have all along promised to
show how to preserve, promote, restore female beauty. That
great promise, think how great, we are now keeping most eflfect-
ually. We have before shown the value of female beauty,**' and
how indispensable good breasts and good complexions are to it ;*•
and now show that both sympathize with the womb. Therefore,
by showing, as we have just shown, how to preserve and restore
womb vigor, we show how to preserve, enhance, and restore female
charms. We pronounce this proof almost infinitely important,
and make fretjuent reference to it.
How COULD WE RKACH thcso telling results without first proving
and illustrating this principle?
099. — All plbasupablb Lovb pills out, painful flattbics, thi
Brbasts.
We havb PROVED that a luscious bosom is a paramount condi-
tion of female beauty,"* and that all the states of Love and tha
womb are in mutual 8ym|>athy."* Our proofs of theee problem!
1048 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
are each absolute; and this necessary corollary is, therefore, demon-
stration itself that all right Love states make the breasts grow
larger, softer, firm, more magnetic, and luscious ; but all wrong
Love, smaller and poorer. This reasoning is just as conclusive
as that any two things exactly like any other, are, therefore, like
each other. It is this. Love is in perfect sympathetic rapport
with the womb : ^ the breasts are likewise in sympathy with the
womb;^^ therefore, all existing Love states similarly affect the
womb, and thereby the breasts. But, next, " to the law and the
testimony " of facts.
Every single fact bearing on this principle proves it. Every
girl, every woman in Love proves it. Every girl, every woman,
while in a satisfied Love state, is larger, plumper, denser in her
breasts than she was. before she loved. "We have shown that all
girls, when in Love, throw their shoulders farther back, and pro-
trude their breasts farther forward,*^^ and doubly so in the pres-
ence of the man they love ; and also that active Love throws the
pubic region, that is, the womb, farther forward, and hips farther
back ;^ both of which all eyes can see, and both are but the out-
growths of this identical law of Love, womb, and mammal reci-
procity. Behold how all parts of our great Love theorem accord
with, and confirm, all its others.
Breasts are far warmer and more magnetic when their pos-
sessor is in Love than when not. Cold, lifeless breasts signify a
dormant womb and Love state.
Disappointed Love shrivels the bosoms of any and all who
experience it. The memory of every woman will attest that
within a few weeks after her Love suffered interruption, or took
on a painful, feverish action, her breasts began perceptibly to de-
cline more and more, 7?an jmssu^ with her Love, and revived with
its revival. Every woman is a living practical attestant of this
universal fact.
Love-sick girls, women, all, come, rouse yourselves from this
drooping, despondent mental Love-mood now rifling your breasts,
and robbing you of this precious beautifier.^^^ And then learn in
"Broken hearts and how to heal them,"**^'^ the art and knack
of arresting this mammary havoc, and restoring already exist-
ing wastes.
a luscious bosom: how lost and beoained. 1049
1000. — Husbands can "develop** and lessen their Wives'
Bosoms.
Loving, praising, appreciating, cuddling, petting a wife in-
creases her Love Faculty, and this quickens her womb action,
and this her breasts.®^ Have your wife's breasts declined since
you courted and married her? It is because her womb has de-
clined; and rebuilding it will rebuild them: and nursing up her
Love will rebuild both her womb and breasts. We said*" that
you did and could aiibrd to ** pan out " in order to beautify a
wife's bosom, and now tell you that all cherishing of her Love
for you does beautify her face and bust, limbs and abdomen.
Ck)me, court her up again, as you used to before marriage; and,
besides reddening up her now pale cheeks, lightening her now
lagging motion, and animating her flagging spirits, you will re-
develop her shrivelled breasts. Stay home of nights from your club-
rooms, billiard-saloons, and -'lodges," to read or talk to her, or
escort her to party, lecture, concert, &c., and you '11 get well
" paid " every time you see her bust ; and your infants will be
better fed. But mark and tremble :
All neglect, blame, unkindness, coldness, &c., by chilling her
Love, shrinks her bosom. Putting together truths already de-
monstrated from •^•*® renders these two opposite results of nurs-
ing and reversing her Love as sure as that sun will rise and set.
1001. — Love Nurtured, Beautifies ; Abraded, Deforms thb
entire Form.
Love and the whole body have already been proved to be in
sympathy, ***^® in order to their transmission by it. Therefore,
by here proving that Love is in rapport with tlio womb,** and
womb with the breasts,** we prove that this identical law which
causes all Love states to similarly affect the breasts, governs every
iota of the entire form corroR|»ondingly. Put together these
three truths, heretofore rendered as lucid as the cloudless noon-
day sun — that gender creates, and all its states similarly modify
the female form ; "• that Love is the only expression nnd out-
working of gender;"* that Love beautifies the female form to
make her love<l and selected for impregnation"' — and this in-
ference is conclusive that all happy Love states beautify every
woman's form, from the soles of her feet to the crown of her
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head: and the more the better sexed, and more thoroughly
in Love she is, and longer she remains thus. We have proved
that powerful gender makes for its own use a large, roomy, pelv is'*'
with a prominent mons,**^ large breasts,'^ thighs,^^*^ &c. ; all of
which, with ever so much more like it, proves that developing
gender by Love, its central function,*^ thereby develops all these
its co-ordinate effects. We envy no one his sense, his very eyes,
who questions those premises, or this, its necessary conclusion,
that Love, normal and active, enhances every single line and
touch of female beauty — makes feet and hands smaller, and
thighs and pelvis larger and finer ; amplifies the breasts, and
straightens up the figure f^ renders the lips larger, redder, and
more luscious ; lights up the cheeks with a crimson blush and
glow angels might envy f^ gives a sparkling brilliancj^ no crown
diamonds can equal ; and makes even plain features beautiful to
behold, and classical- ones even ravishing.
All bridal loveliness proves all this. What but developed
Love creates it? All women well courted prove and illustrate
this truth by being so much better looking and appearing
younger and "sweet pretty "^^* than before or after. All these
truths are but the natural summing up of fundamental principlea
already demonstrated.
Section III.
HOW TO PROMOTE BEAUTY OF MIND AND SOUL.
1002. — Mental Loveliness the great Female Beautifier.
Mental and moral female beauty immeasurably outshines
personal. We do not lower woman's physical charms by exalting
her intellectual and moral immeasurably above them in intrinsic
value. All the bodily organs and attributes were created ex-
pressly to subserve the mentality. All female charms of person
have for their ultimate rationale the transmission, primarily, of the
mind; of the body, only secondarily. " The mind^s the stature of
the man," and all else subservient thereto. Its transmission is
Nature's greatest work. Therefore men love female beauty of
mind more than of person,^^^ and women masculine talents more
than physique,^ and their union most rapturously.'^^
Beauty consists in expression mainly. " Handsome is that
HOW TO PROMOTE BEAUTY OF MIND AXD SOUL. 1051
handsome does," Las passed into a proverb, and expresses a great,
an eternal and ubiquitous truth. The mind forms and J^heu
governs the body ; and forms such a body as it wants for its own
use.*^ A lovely, lovable mind makes its face correspondingly
so. How perfectly apparent that the face is governed by the
spirit, and hideous or inviting as the soul is either. Now we
have shown that
Happy Love beautifies the entire character. It both exalts
and sweetens every mental Faculty throughout all its manifesta-
tions.®^^** But reversed Love revei'ses them all. The face pro-
claims all this. All that heavenly loveliness it superadds to the
soul beams out through the face, form, step, every avenud of ex-
pression, and immeasurably enhances this soul-beauty, the essence
of all beauty. Read again*". Grasp and apply here the entire
spirit of this work thus far, and behold the converging focus of
all its master truths in this beautification of the spirit princi^
pie by a right Love-state. Per contra. Every woman's face is
beautiful to behold while her heart is glowing with Love, but a
handsome-featured woman, when either in its suspended or dis-
appointed state, has a sad and heart-broken, or else a fierce, vixen
look, which pains and averts all beholding eyes. Such a state is
unfavorable for offspring, and therefore disgusting to men."* A
splendidly dressed, but sad-hearted woman looks the worse the
more magnificent her toilet. Calico becomes such by far the
best. Mourning is adapted to the disappointed, but gayety is
incongruous. Keep your heart whole, or else wear sackcloth.
Ladies, what is preserving beauty worth ? Then cherish a be-
nign, pleasant, genial, aftectional feeling towards all mankind, as
your best means of personal beauty. All anger, rivalry, hatred,
jealousy, disgust, scolding, &c., blight, while all warm, cordial,
benignant, kind, sweet feelings improve, your good looks. Iland-
•ome is that handsome feels.
Bbhold that ut I I KFULNW8,** ugliness, depravity of spirit,
even downright ti neaa of aoul,*'*^** created by abnormal
Love. Can faces, forms, actions, feelings, or any emanation of
such be otlier than utterly loathsome and rcpellant? Hideoua-
ness throughout and [>er8onified is the necessary result of all
wrong Love. This, its reason proves the fact.
LovK attracts in order to transmit ; •* therefore those in a
loving or transmitting mood are thereby nmdered beautiful so tia
1052 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
to attract a parental mate ; while those in the reversed state of
Love®^^ must need repel the other sex, lest they transmit their
devilish state to offspring. Here is one of Nature's means of
securing good, and preventing poor and bad offspring."^
Facts attest again that any and all women in a loving mood
are so peculiarly sweet, pleasant, winning, inviting, lovely, lus-
cious, taking, captivating, charming, even soul-smashing. All
eyes, all hearts, are perpetual witnesses. This truth is illustrated
by
How Rachel became Beautiful. The child who draws is already
taking his first les«ons in the beautiful and the good ; and the fragments
of the masterpieces which he has under his eyes teach him not only to imi-
tate the beautiful, but to make himself beautiful. Mile. Rachel told me,
one day, at the Due de Morny's, where I was speaking of her beauty,
"You don't imagine — all of you who think me beautiful now-a-days —
how ugly I was at the beginning. I, who was to play tragedy, had a
comic mask. I was laughable, with my horned forehead, my nose like a
comma, my pointed eyes, my grinning mouth. You can supply the rest
yourself I was once taken by my father to the Louvre. I did not care
much for the pictures, although he called my attention to the tragic scenes
of David. But when I came among the marbles a change came over me
like a revelation. I saw how fine it was to be beautiful. I went out from
there taller than before, with a borrowed dignity which I was to turn into
a natural grace. The next day I looked over a collection of engravings
after the antique. I never received a lesson so advantageous at the con-
servatoire. If I have ever effectively addressed the eyes of my audience
by my attitudes and expressions, it is because those masterpieces so ap-
pealed to my eyes." Rachel said this so admirably that we were all
moved by her words; for she talked better than anybody, when she chose
not to talk like a Paris gamin. " Oh, I forgot," she continued ; " I must
tell you that if I have become beautiful as you say, though I don't believe a
word of it, it is owing to my daily study how not to be uglier than I am.
I have eliminated what there was of monstrous in my face. As I was in
the season of sap when I took the idea of making myself over again, after
the ancestral rough draft, everything, with the help of Providence, went
well. The knobs of my forehead retired, my eyes opened, my nose grew
straight, my thin lips were rounded, my disordered teeth were put back in
their places." Here Rachel smiled with that delicate smile which was so
enchanting. "And then I spread over all a certain air of intelligence,
which I do not possess." She was interrupted by so many compliments,
which were the simple truth, that she could not continue the story of her
imperfections. " Well," she said, " the good thing about it is that I did
HOW TO PROMOTE BEAUTY OF MIND AND SOUL. 1053
not try to be beautiful for the sake of a man, as other women do, but for
the sake of art, disdaining the ' commerce of love,* as the philosophers call
W* Rachel was applauded that evening as never before. There were not
more than fifty persons at M. de Morny's, but they were the top of the
basket of all Paris, a parterre of dilettanti, which is much better than a
parterre of kings. And yet she had not been acting.
A FEW INFERENCES, perfectly patent, must virtually close this
most important section.
1. HvsBANDS, YOUR WIVES* TOILET moneys will go from two to
ten times the further, by making her that much more charming,
in form, manners, conversation, and mind, if you put and keep
her in a loving mood by cherishing and manifesting your own
Love for her. She knows whether you love her or not. Her
interior sense tells her that. Loving her makes her love you, and
this beautifies her figure, preserves and re-enlarges her breasts,
develops her womb, inspires her mind, and gives you far better,
smarter children to love, rear, and be loved by.
2. Begin with your interior spirit, all ye women who would
be handsome in body, and "get married." You wonder why
" the men " never take to, even neglect you. You are in no lovely
mood to draw, are in just that hateful one which repels them, by
wholesale. Your moody, sour state of Love has eaten up your
breasts, blanched your cheek, morbidized all your mental opera,
tions, unfitted you for bearing, and made you loathe and loath-
some to men. Served you right. Go get converted, not by the
revivalists, but by Cupid, Now you are heathen. Go civilize
yourselves.
3. Love troubles can be made to redouble, not efface, your
beauty, of both j>er8on and mind. Re-read*^'. Note the cases of
Eliza White, and that other lovely old maid there narrated.
Then reperuse*" and apply its principle to your own beautitication
by redeveloping a lovely, loving mood.
" More thpossibilitieb. As well tell us to throw pepper in our eyes,
and not feel their smart Your advice is good, but utterly impracticable."
** Mt heart's idol is dead ; or has outraged roy entire female nature,
m that I could not help hating him ; or behaves towards me like a perfect
bruie ; or I have a serious Aear^trouble, which death alone can cure. Must
all such look old, awful, and forlorn?" — Many Ftmalm.
WiLL-POWIR CAN AND SHOULD RULB 8UPRUCB — A Uw We eUe-
10')4 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BIX)OM.
wliere prove. Soldiers in fierce battle rarely feel their hurts at
the time. An Indian band stampeded a dozen oxen on the
plains, heavy load and all, sixbj miles, after sundown and before
sunrise, after an all day's hard pull, that no whipping or goading
could drive over twenty miles per day. How? By terror —
mind triumphing over body. See this law illustrated in®^^, and
other places. Fully realizing that your inverted Love is just
murdering you by inches, and rifling all your human attributes,
ought to rouse you from your accursed mood. Else you should be
pounded. It is suicidal. Don't say you can't help it. 'I know
better. And you ought to do better.
The most beautiful woman I ever saw, from the soles of her
feet to the crown of her head, and the smartest and best com-
plected, had the most affectional trouble long before — lost two
children, one her only son, a human diamond, and I never saw
such love of children — was obliged to quit her sweet home she
had beautified from just fear of being actually murdered every
night, undergo a terrible lawsuit to obtain a Massachusetts
divorce, and the possession of her darlings. And retained her
beauty — even redoubled it besides. Then let none say they can't
surmount afiTectional troubles. Ask you
" How ? By what means, did she do all this ? "
By her IRON WILL rising in majestic triumph over all adverse
conditions. She first saw what was best, what she must do, or be
killed. Saw, further, that all grief, even over her dead babe and
boy, must inevitably unnerve her, and rose superior to both. Saw
that all affectional grief would efiface her surpassing beauty,
which she justly prized too highly to lessen by allowing any such
sentimentalism, and thereby redoubled it.
IToNE OF YOU have GREATER CAUSE for affcctioual grief, nor in-
dulge as little. "What woman has done, woman can do." "Go
thou and do likewise."
1003. — Power of Love over Man not exaggerated.
" You ARE OBVIOUSLY LovE-CRACKED yourself, at least a Love enthu-
siast. You exalt right Love to the skies, and sink wrong to the bottom
of the pit below. You make it the Alpha, Omega, and all the inter-
mediate letters of humanity. Most obviously you overrate it, all around.
Granted that its power is great, yet it is not thus superlative and supreme.
HOW TO PROMOTR BEAUTY OF MIND AND SOUL. 1055
Just think over how vast the variety of effects, each all-control ling, you
ascribe to it. You install it absolute monarch over all man's physical and
likewise mental functions, even over those of beast and vegetable. You
make its science the head science,*" its virtue the climacteric virtue, itA
vice the climax of all the vices, its evil * man's great evil,* its good man's
manmum bonum. All this might barely pass, allowing for exaggeration.^
and hyperbolics : but when you come to make it the * lord god almighty '
over the health too — ascribe most diseases to it, and make it the great
bodily medicine; when you go still farther and ascribe juvenile self-abuse,
and prostitution, and all erim. cons., and all aberrations from virtue in men
and women, in marriage and out to it, and much more like it ; when you go
even farther still and make its wrong states the sole cause, and its right the
only * panacea ' for seminal losses, for potency and impoteucy, for sup-
pressing and restoring the menstruation, falling of the womb, ovarian
dropsy, nervousness, sexual dwarfing, and growth of all males, all females;
make it control the chest, breasts, pelvis, face, eyes, beauty, and ugliness —
you inflate this Love balloon of yours, ascend in it to dizzy aerial heights,
and by or^r-straining burst it and make all cool, sensible people laugh
over your extravagant folly, except what you disgust."
Half a century of profeflsional labor and observation has
forced all these results, appalling for evil and good, upon me. I
saw from the first that Love holds the keys of human destiny.
Taking involuntarily to this theme, facts enforced facts and rolled
Dp one after another of these principles, swelling like descending
rivers, as stream after stream pours in their swollen floods, till
their embodied magnitude fairly astounded me. Nearly forty
years ago I wrote a book on matrimony, and soon after " Warn*
ing and Advice" to youth, despite powerful dissuasivos; wrote
"Love and Parentage," "Maternity," "Manhood," which my
firm suppressed, wrote more because "the spirit moved," and
finally "Sexual Science," every day still adding to the transcen-
dental importance of this great subject; till this Book thus looms
up in all this towering grandeur upon the horizon of truth and
human weal and woe. And yet
Only its fraction is or ever can be given. So far from mag-
nifying, I belittle my theme, Love's power, from sheer inability.
This all you know who will stop to think. You have^^ nil, but
have not traced its effects to their causes. This oonclusive fact
shall conclude.
EvBRY SINGLE RBADBR of " Sextial Science I cver heard of, who
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has attempted to put its teacliings into practice, has become per-
fectly enthusiastic ov^er their results as experienced in each of their
cases. This volume contains moi*e than double the stirring truths
of that, and I rest the issue of its truthfulness, its utility,
exaggeration included, on every single experimental trial of every
single j)oint here stated. All proofs 'of puddings are in their
eating. I hereby challenge every individual experimentist, of
any and every one of them, to say whether any one theme is
3xaggerated. He will go around from neighbor to neighbor ex-
claiming not the half, not the tithe, is or can be told.
On experiment, that great truth teacher, we proudly rest this
issue.
Section IV.
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO ATTAIN IT.
1004. — Rules and Directions for attaining Sexual Vigor.
That sexual perfection of each reader, which constitutes the
only thought of this entire work, demands this summary of its
doctrines for attaining and maintaining sexual vigor, and living
perfect sexual lives :
1. Follow your sexual instincts. IN'ature is perfect ; so is this
its sexual department. The sexuality of animals is perfect, be-
cause its instincts are obeyed. But most men and women are
now in an awfully perverted state, which must first be rectified.
This requires that you
2. Obtain sexual knowledge. Since sexual perfection consists
in fulfilling ]N"ature's sexual requirements, and since reason and
first principles should guide and govern all our propensities, the
sexual included ; therefore, to ham what constitutes a perfect
sexual life is your first prerequisite. This volume gives you the
required information. After learning all you can from its pages,
.mtechise your own manly or womanly natures^ besides learning from
both the sexual errors and virtues of others, and patterning after
as perfect men and women as you can find for models.
3. Kei*> Nature's sexual ends in view, and strive to attain
them. All laws, all organs, your sexual nature's included, were
created to accomplish specific results. Those are the most perfect
men and women who most perfectly fulfil them.
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4. Cherish that exalted regard for the opposite sex wuh
which sexual life opens ; or, if you detect any sexual aversion or
nausea, weed it out.
5. Be careful, at puberty, of yourself, or of your children,
when it ushers you or them into manhood or womanhood.
6. Never begin to love till you can make a life Ow^iness of it;
nor express Love to any one unless you are willing to reciprocate
it throughout all its phases, till its legitimate products are
reared. •
7. Select one sexual object, and religiously exclude all others,
until you break up, and bunj all former loves.
8. Choose one specifically adapted to your existing needs, and
dmg to that one till you mutually agree to separate in peace.
9. Form a second Love just as soon as your first is given up.
10. Let no hard feelings mar any Love once formed, unless
they break it up altogether.
11. Marry the one you love, and who loves you, in spite of all
difficulties, fate included. Interfere with no one's love. Let none
interfere with yours ; parents and children included.
12. Be the perfect gentleman or lady, as well as man or
woman, towards the opposite sex generally, and your loved one
especially.
13. Love with your whole heart and soul. Make no half
way work, no child's play, of it. Nestle yourselves right in all
over to each other's affections. All or none.
14. Make yourselves and each other just as lovely, and
worthy of Love, as ix)ssible. Mould out, instead of scolding out,
a companion's faults.
15. Agree to disagree. Live and let live. Cultivate toleration
and forbearance. Turn the other cheek.
16. Get a divorce only after having exhausted all other means
of living cordially together.
17. Co2n)DCT bvbry sexual repast throughout precisely as
if it were to originate an angel child for both to love and nur-
ture.
18. Sanctify, Platokizb your Love. Supplant lust with Love.
19. Take nice carb of your health in general, anft sexual
organism in particular.
20. Treat a touno wifb, and all wives, as God made them to
be treated.
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21. Be temperate and choice in your sexual repasts, aud on no
account profane or prostitute them to purposes of lust.
22. Put yourselves into the highest human state preparatory
to that greatest life-work — the creation of ofispring.
23. Keep bearing and nursing women in the best physical and
mental condition possible.
24. Follow Nature in the birth and nursing of children.
25. Govern them by love, reason, and duty, not fear.
26. Obey Nature's sexu^ laws as your best means of personal
tx^auty, restoration, and salvation.
1005. — A Perfect Sexual Life; Personal and Collective.
Sexual perfection, individual and communitarian, awaits the
race., in each of its members. What will be its manifestations?
How should perfect men and women treat each other ? How will
they a hundred, a thousand years hence ? Important questions.
Imaginative answers are worthless and unnecessary ; for we have
these sure guides as to how they will, and all should, treat the
opposite sex. We give a few, as samples of more. First, nega-
tively.
1. They will not be antagonistic in any one respect. No
women's croaking, no men's rights dominations or impositions,
will then mar their perfect concord.
2. There will be no isolations — no schools for boys, no colleges
for young men, no " young ladies' seminaries," no Masonic, Odd-
Fellow, or Y. M. C. A. societies, or billiard, or drinking, or other
saloons for men, or soirees for women. Instead, all schools,
colleges, seminaries, medical and theological included, will be for
both sexes ; all societies embrace both. And throughout all the
avenues of all human labors and pleasures, both will intermingle
and co-operate. No laborer will work in any place at anything,
unless a woman works there too, and vice versa; and both will be
paid by their work^ not their sex. Yet men will do all the hard
work, and help woman do hers, she doing the ornamental.
3. No SEXUAL impairments will afflict any one of all those
'' sons and daughters of the Lord Almighty."
4. No PROSTITUTES NOR THEIR PATRONS will disgracc, demoralize,
or rob humanity. This, its greatest human gangrene, will " pass
away forever."
5. Not one- unhappy marriage will stultify and crucify any
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO ATTAIN IT. 1059
married pair, nor legal statutes regulate divorce ; because none
will desire separation, none could be separated.
6. Not one broken heart will then need healing; because none
will be broken ; nor one damsel lie awake from Love deferred ;
nor one young man ever draw out any girl's Love without con-
tinuing it. All Love troubles will be healed before doing any
damage. All will only improve their subjects.
7. No " OLD BACHELORS," no old maids will stultify themselves,
or outrage their natures, any more tlmn starve themselves.
8. Not a CHILD will die, nor Divine Providence afflict any
human being.
9. No husbands or wives will die long before or after each
other ; but both will live fondly together till both are aboat
ready to die.
What will then be, instead of what now is:
L All males will idolize all females, and females males.
All of both sexes will exult in magnifying all the excellences of
the opposite sex, and worship at the shrine of their virtues, in-
gtead of noting one single fault. All croakers will be dead then.
n. All fathers will love their daughters, and daughters
fathers ; and all mothers their sons, and sons mothers ; as well
as brothei-s sisters, and sisters brothers, with a perfectly poetic
fervor, all the way up.
KI. All boys and girls will play together like little angels.
Nor one of either sex abuse themselves.
IV. Every maiden will surrender her virginity to her hus-
band ; nor will any man be found base enough to take any, even
if proffered, except for maternity. Chastity will be the rule, not,
as now, the exception, in both.
V. All pure Love, without any lust, will be felt from all of
both sexes towards all of the other. The self-interest of each
will sanctify the loves of all. All will love themselves too well to
be lustful.
VL Perfect familiarity between the sexes will supplant all
prudery. All will go, be, walk, talk, play, dance, skate, recreate,
work, study, cat, &c, &c., together, without let oi* hindrance by
any; each being the only guardian of his and her oion virtue, in-
stead of, as now, all of all. All spies, all tiittlers, will be dead
then, should be now, socially.
VII. Kissing will abound, more especially between different
1060 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
ages. All elderly men will pet and fondle girls, and women
boys, teach, guide, develop, but never defile. And all kissings
and caressings will be in purity, none in sensuality. All will
love themselves and the other sex, and their "Father in heaven,"
too well to be sensual.
VIII. Quite young folks will almost flirt by wholesale, not,
as now, " jist fur fun," not to get each other in Love only to tan-
talize, but to train Cupid's pinions, keep him back from smiting
them through the heart tillHhey can select just the right one; keej)
this " sacred flame " alive and growing thriftily till they are well
matured.
IX. All who mate will be true to each other, and to virtue.
Jealousy will be unknown. So will all " running round ; " be-
cause Platonic Love will supplant physical ; and this because so
infinitely the most luscious.
X. All married pairs will be superlatively happy in each
other. Not one discordant marriage, hour, " spat," will mar any
married life.
XI. Only children of Love, none of mere passion, will bless
rf/ieir parents and the world ; because all will know that only
Love cohabitations are pleasurable, and so infinitely the most as
to prevent all others by self-interest-.
XII. No penal laws will exist ; because no criminals will
need punishment ; and this because all will be begotten and borne
upon-a plane so exalted as to be " a law unto themselves."
XIII. Compulsory marital statutes will be unknown ; be^
cause unnecessary. Legal marriage will exist to legitimatize
issue, regulate property inheritances, &c., but not to oblige those
Who hate each other to live and propagate together. Law will
not then, as now, compel the creation of criminals, idiots, &c.
All who love fervently will need no legal bonds to keep them
together, could not even be parted ; while those who do not love,
will be allowed to separate peaceably, with honor.
XIV. All seniors will teach all juniors all they know,
theoretically and practically, about this whole sexual and reproduc-
tive subject. All juniors will then start out guided by perfect
knowledge and perfect instincts ; so that they could not err it
they would, and would not if they could ; and dure not. All this
in addition to that special tutelage every youth will seek from
ome opposite sexual elder.
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO ATTAIN IT. 1061
XV. All natural sexual laws will be studied and obeyed,
both from love of them, and the superlative pleasures they
yield. No men, no women, will be foolish or depraved enough
to violate any sexual law, any more than scorch their right hand.
Human selfishness alone, guided by intelligence, will achieve all
this, with " grace," if they have it, without, if they have n*t.
XVI. Only perfect children, rendered so by being begotten
in perfect Love by perfectly mated parents, perfectly carried,
born, nursed, and reared — oh, Aoi/?. healthy, blooming, robust,
lovely, brilliant, " sweet pretty," actually angelic — will then
adorn our earth, enjoy its luxuries, love and obey God in His
laws, and pass on to immortal enjoyment and perfection I
1006. — Concluding Summary, and Appeal.
"Creative Science" opens with promises more and larger,
prefatory and introductory, than any other book ever made.
Has it fulfilled them? Has it not? And much more? Review
in Part I. its foundation and four corner-stones. Do they not
unfold the fundamental principles and basilar truths of !N"ature'8
entire male, female, and creative department sdentificalli/ ? Where
else in all human productions have " male and female " been ana-
lyzed and described ? Behold its vast array of laws, copiously
illustrated by facts, each grouped under its own head, and all
teaching practical truths how infinitely sublime and useful!
Does it not give new eyes, and a perfect touchstone by which to
scan and analyze all men, all women ?
Part II., how true, instructive, enchanting, perfectly glorious!
Oh, if you 'd only known all this before I How exultant that you
know it now ! This infantile Cupid, what a giant in strength !
What an autocrat in sovereignty ! AVlien obeyed, what an arch-
angel! When outraged, what a demon!! What an absolute
tyrant over all human interests, dispensing eiyoyraents the most
varied and ecstatic, or tortures the most manifold and agonizing
man sufiers, according as his regal edicts are imbibed or ignored !
How infinitely great and all-glorious its ordinance of marriage!
What stulticity in celibacy ! What teetotal sexual depravity in
sensuality!
The scienob of m alb and fbmalb attraoiions and repulsions,
and art of choosing a conjugal mate precisely adapted to yourself
in both Love and parentage, how perfectly diagnosed and pr^-
1062 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
Ben ted in Part III. ! Where else is it any more than dabbled
and garbled ? Would it not have improved, if it had guided, your
own choice ? How much is it worth f
Are its Part IV. courtship directions worthy a grateful foU
lowing? Made you none of the errors it exposes, which have
made you miserable for life ? What one of all its directions and
suggestions but are invaluable to all young folks in courting ?
Married concordants, would not following its directions and
suggestions in Part V. have made you immeasurably happier than
now ? and would it not have forestalled and prevented all the
conjugal miseries of all you discordants? besides turning them
into ecstatic pleasures ? If you had followed its first chapter,
would there have been any need of its second ?
Attest, all ye who have ever "known" your opposite sex,
whether Part VI. does not give the real science and art of sexual
intercourse, and creating superb children. What sexual repast
of your life would its knowledge not have enriched? What
child ever begotten but would have been endowed with more life,
and of a higher order, with than without following its directions?
What are its creative knowledge and directions worth to all, mar-
ried and single, prospective parents and their issue ? Will not
all future generations have just occasion to sing paeans and shout
hosannas of praise for being so much better begotten with than
without them ? And every participant for the additional sexual
luxury it shows them how to obtain therefrom? and for the
warnings it gives? Wives, owe you no exultant gratitude for
its reading your rampant husbands sexual lessons, to your life-
long relief? Husbands, teaches it no needed lessons to your
wives, profitable for you ? Its anatomy, how interesting, how
instructive.
Mothers, actual and prospective, is your Bible any more "prof-
itable for instruction and guidance" than its Part VII. ? Behold
the whole science of maternity unfolded, confinement included ?
Young wife, can you at all afford to begin housekeeping without
its knowledge? or get it anywhere else? What is its perusal
by your husbands worth to you ? or its perusal by your wives
worth to you, husbands ? Young married folks, ought you to
begin producing a *^ family " without studying both, these Parts
together? What a God-send to marital beginners, present and
future ?
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO ATTAIN 1\. 106U
Its child-rearinq directions in Part VIIL — are they not
sensible, timely, just what all parents, especially mothers, need
in developing their children's bodies, forming their characters^
and moulding their morals? Wherein they differ from, are they
not superior to, existing modes ?
Ho, ALL YE SEXUALLY IMPAIRED, is not Part IX. your physician,
medicines, and nurse ? Try its prescriptions only one year, and
see how you should dance and laugh while you shout hurrah.
Eureka!! Eureka, hurrah! nine times repeated, with tigers
thrown in, daily, the rest of your lives. Behold your seminal
losses, your female complaints, consigned to the past, supplanted
by sexual purity and vigor !
Lovers of female beauty in yourselves and others, just scan it«
last beautifying chapter. Every female reader will grow hand-
somer and more lovely every hour after its perusal. See how
every shot goes right to its mark's centre. Only see how thril-
lingly instructive, how superlatively useful! Just try its beauti-
fications, ye millinery worshippers.
Female ornamenters — milliners, dress-makers, dry-goodsmen,
et id omne genus — it knocks your occupation, by showing women
the first principles of female beauty, and how not merely to seem,
but to become surpassingly beautiful, without buying and making,
padding and bustling, living lies and splendid shams of false
forms and hair, and all these other bungling deformities and out-
rageous toilet expenses and abominations, which deserve, instead
of admiration, the very curses of every lover of woman, whose
native loveliness they turn into a bundle of hypocritical shamu,
of every lover of his race, every member of which they curse,
and should be cursed by. God bless our women and childreu,
and punish all who injure them.
Woman adjudge it, report your verdict, tell acquaintance*
what you have found, and where; and as far as it blesses you,
bless and "talk up" it and its Author; whose right hearty
interest in you — what improves you benefits all — i?i«pire8 it
throughout.
What onb sentknck, of what paragraph, of what heading, of
what section, of what chapter, of what Part, but is brimful of
common-sense heart truths, sjx^cificany appHioablo to the better-
ing of human nature in general, and your own selfhood in partic-
ular? Was ever as. much thought and fact, philosophy and
inspiration, warning and counsel, or of injual value, crowded iota
1064 PROLONGING AND REGAINING FEMALE BEAUTY AND BLOOM.
any one book ? Goes not every single point right through your
head, straight to your heart, to instruct and benefit every future
life hour ? How vast its array of home facts, and heart truths,
all appended to their great sexual laws, and governing first prin-
ciples !
"Creative Science" surpasses "Sexual," 1. in treating one-
fourth more subjects^ twice as well ; 2. having three-fifths more illus-
trative engravings, and as good again a likeness of its Author ;
8. and receiving double the mental labor. Possessore of that
had better sell it for a song, and buy this at ten prices, if neces-
sary.
What book of this century, o?- any other, contains subject-
matter equally rich in first principles, or promotive of happiness,
or preventive of miseries, in their application?
It must revolutionize the mating, the loves, and the entire in-
tercourse of the sexes throughout. It skips no hard words ; fears
no criticisms ; asks no favors ; gives no quarters to old fogyism
in any quarter ; standi on its own merits ; challenges the closest
scrutiny ; defies all antagonists ; and appeals directly to the heuds
and Iiearts of all who have either, especially feminine. Ignore
these doctrines, live on unbenefited by them, you who dare ; and
you who take offence at them, " make the most of it." They
possess a scientific dignity and power before which all opposi-
tion must quail and quake, which will yet challenge and receive
all absorbing public attention. For originality, truthfulness
to nature, stirring interest and practical utility, they have no
peers.
Many more will live, here and hereafter, besides being much
better endowed, than if this work had never been written; for it
certainly has promoted, will promote, both marriage and repro-
duction ; besides showing parents how to start their darlings upon
a plane of existence far higher intellectually, and purer morally
and affect ionally, than would have been possible without its aid —
ends how infinitely great and all-glorious !
" Where did you learn all these great truths and original principles,
with all these their minute practical applications to our welfare?"
From a very warm heart,'^^ sharp eye, and putting-things-
together head. Observation, Reflection, and Experience together
keep an excellent school, teaching a great many most useful
lessons.
SEXUAL PERFECTION, AND HOW TO ATTAIN IT. 1065
Owe yb its Author no thanks, commendations, benedictions,
for this bold, manly, virile, telling mode of handling his sub-
ject ? He has neither catered to popularity nor even recognized
its existence. Let magazine authors trim sail to catch popular
breezes, and those with more taste than sense patronize these
echo galleries ; but this scientific authorship ranks all else, ful-
fils the most exalted mission of forming, moulding, and directing, not
courting, " public opinion."
Talk and write it up, ye whom it benefits.
After its teachings have taken root in human practice, what
majestic, noble specimens of courtly manhood, perfect in form,
in voice, in gallantry, in spirit, in devotion to all women, but
one most ; what female figures, surpassing Venus and Una, Juno
and Minerva united, in limbs and pelvis, bust and face, poetry of
motion and elegance of manner; what thrilling, ravishing voices
in talking and singing ; what flashing eyes and glowing cheeks ;
what purity, what taste, what angelic loveliness of soul ; what
intensity and fervor of Love and devotion to family, instead of
fashion, and, 0, what children! I shall live to see a few of its
" first fruits " — admire their Physiologies and Phrenologies, and
see from those rare-ripes wliat future human perfection is and
means.
Thank Phrenoloot for disclosing its basilar principles, and
furnishing a standpoint the most superlatively advantageous
possible.
" Cannot this Science, which reveals all these glorious man-improving
truths in this creative department of humanity, likewise unfold others
equally valuable in its hygienic, intellectual, moral, and other depart-
ments ? "
It CAN. It does. See what and how, in " Unman Science."
May this book perfect the rack by unfolding creative and
iH3Xual science ; revealing the natural laws and facts of Love ;
guiding it upon right object ; promoting marriage and conjugal
felicity; showing how to create, carry, bring forth, and bring
up many more and immeasurably better children, and telling
nil how to educe their own and children's manhood and woman-
hood into PBRFKOT HUSBANDS, WIVB8, AND DB80BNDANTS. GOD BLBBl
TOU ALL.
TU£ END.
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