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PROEM. 



ry^HESE pages are designed to commemorate 
the graces and virtues of one tenderly be- 
loved, who was suddenly summoned from the 
Wilderness of Earth to the Paradise of God. 
They comprise appreciative memorials which 
originally appeared as obituary tributes of the 
press, and a few letters of sympathy and con- 
dolence which, however fruitless at first, became 
more and more grateful and consoling to the 
hearts of those whom the iiand of bereavement 
had grievously smitten. 

These contributions are preserved for the 
gratification of personal friends, who will appre- 
ciate the fact that they but imperfectly outline 
the beautiful mission of her whose symmetry 
of person, equable temperament, and rare ac- 
complishments gave the fairest promises of a 
lonof and useful life. 



It is not extravagant affection which prompts 
the dechiration that the subject of this memorial 
was so just, so self-contained, and so solicitous 
for the happiness of those around her that she 
never permitted an elevation of the voice, an 
unguarded expression, or the unjust criticisms 
of others to mar the harmony of her social 
circle. She ever had a kind word, a gentle act, 
or a pleasant smile to soften or beguile those 
transient vexations which are too often magni- 
fied until they roughen the surface of our little 
world. 

The cares and responsibilities of her married 
state wrought no change in her admirable dispo- 
sition further than to cause her character to 
expand and blossom as a beautiful flower, and 
her Christian graces to irradiate as stars, to re- 
flect the virtues of her inner life. She was wise 
and good, natural and confiding. Trusting, not 
in her own strength, she leaned upon her Saviour 
as the final refuge; so tliat when her peerless 



spirit passed into the hands of Him who gave 
it, she was prepared to say, " Father^ not my 
will, but Thine be done.'''' 

While her friends may feel comforted that in 
her triumph over death she has been transferred 
to a brighter and happier world, human nature 
will assert itself in grief and sorrow over so 
great and irreparable a loss. But faith illu- 
mines the dreary way, and softens the asperity 
of affliction with the pleasing assurance that 
" The Love that has stricken, o'er pain sheds 
its ray." 

W. R. C. 




E am tlje usiirncti'an anti tlje life, saidj tfje 
3Lorli. ^e tijat irh'ctictf) fir mc, Hjaugf) Ije lucre tieali, 
get 0!)all ]^e Ii'be; anti tnljosocbcr libetlj anti beliefaetfj 
in me, sljall neber life.— St. John. 

2rf)nt tiau luljirl) men called Ijcr last, gijall 6c Ijcr 
fairUjtiag in ctcrnitg. — Seneca. 



OBITUARY NOTICES. 



DEATH OF MRS. WILLIAM R. COX. 



"XTESTERDAY morning, at six o'clock, Mrs. 
William R. Cox died at the residence of 
her father, Right Rev. T. B. Lyman, on East 
North Street, this city. Her iUness was of brief 
duration and her death unexpected. An infant 
child survives her. She was a lady of rare 
cultivation of mind, and with all the graces of 
the Christian woman. The news of her death 
caused mingled surprise and sorrow. 

News and Observer, Raleigh, Aug. 22, 1885. 



Sorrow to many Hearts. 



N MEMORIAM. 



RARELY have the citizens of Kaleigh suf- 
fered a greater shock than in the unex- 
pected death of Mrs. Fanny Augusta Cox, 
which occurred at the residence of her father, 
in this city, Friday morning, August 21. The 
daughter of the Right Reverend Theodore B. 
and Mrs. Anna M. Lyman, and the wife of 
Hon. William R. Cox, she had the deepest 
hold upon the affections of the entire commu- 
nity, not only of this city, but of many other 
sections of North Carolina, and the news of 
her sudden death will carry sorrow to many 
hearts. 



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She was born at Hagerstown, Maiyland. 
January 26, 1849, being- a member of one of 
the most prominent families of that State. Her 
early life was spent for the most part in Europe; 
and her rare educational advantages in Dresden, 
Paris, and Rome were improved to the utmost, 
giving her an unusual command of modern lan- 
guages and a broad and catholic culture. Her 
father removed with his family from Rome to 
California, and upon his election to the Bishopric 
of North Carolina took up his permanent resi- 
dence in Raleigh. Here she speedily became a 
general favorite, her kindliness of disposition and 
uniform courtesy winning her hosts of friends. 
In January, 1883, she became the wife of Hon. 
W. R. Cox, then as now the Representative in 
Congress from the Fourth District. Shortly 
after their marriage. General and Mrs. Cox took 
an extended European tour, pleasant reminders 
of which occasionally appeared in the columns 
of " The News and Observer." 



Illness of 'Brief "Duration. 



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In Wasliington Mrs. Cox soon became well 
known in society, and social circles looked for- 
ward with pleasant anticipations to her residence 
in that city during the approaching winter. Her 
illness was of but few hours' duration, and the 
first intelligence received by the community 
was the announcement of her death. She leaves 
two sons, — a handsome boy of twenty months, 
in whom her whole heart was wrapped up, and 
an infant. 

News Observer, Raleigh. 




eA cultivated Christian Lady. 



TpVERY citizen of Riileigh who knew that 
"^ lovely, cultivated Christian lady, Mrs. 
Fanny Lyman Cox, the wife of our honored 
Representative, was struck with horror and 
grief at the announcement of her sudden death 
this morning. Mrs. Cox was the daughter of 
Bishop Lyman, and was extensively known and 
greatly admired throughout our State. Her 
friends and family are paralyzed and dumb with 
grief in face of the inscrutable providence 
which has removed the young mother, in the 
prime of her life and usefulness, from their 
midst. We cannot give expression to the uni- 
versal regret with which this terrible blow has 
been received. 

Slate Chronicle, Raleigh. 



A sad Bereavement. 



/~\UR sympathies are extended to General 
^-^^ W. R. Cox, Congressman in the Raleigh 
District, upon the death of his most lovable 
wife, which sad event occurred at his residence, 
in Raleigh, on Friday, August 21st. 

Mrs. Cox was the daughter of Bishop 
Lyman. She leaves two children, the youngest 
a tender infant. 

This sad bereavement not only affects her 
family circle, but will be painfully felt in a wide 
circle of admiring friends and acquaintances. 

Southerner, Tarboro. 



Loveliness of Character. 



rr\RE wife of General William R. Cox, Con- 
-*- gressman from the Raleigh District, North 
Carolina, died at Raleigh yesterday morning. 
She was the eldest daughter of Bishop Theodore 
B.Lyman; she was well known in lialtiniore, 
and greatly admired for her accomplishments 
and loveliness of character. Mrs. Cox had 
travelled with her father, and later with her 
husband, extensively in Europe, tlie East, and 
in this country. 

jNIrs. Cox's mother is a sister of Augustus 
J. Albert, and her maiden name was Fanny 
Augusta Lyman. Li Washington, where she 
spent several winters witli her husband, she had 
made a most favorable impression. Her illness 
was known to onl}- her nearest relatives and 
friends in Baltimore. Father Lyman, of Govas- 
town, is an uncle of Mrs. Cox ; Dr. A. B. 
Lyman, of this city, is a brother; Mrs. Robert 
Gilmer is a first cousin. Besides these, she has 
numerous relatives and connections by marriage 
in Baltimore. 

Sun, Baltimore. 



Assemblage of Excellencies. 



TN the death of Mrs. William R. Cox, wife 
of the Representative from Raleigh, North 
Carolina, her many friends here and elsewhere 
have sustained a loss which will be long and 
deeply felt. During her residence in this city 
she charmed every one with her easy and 
graceful manners, her self-possession and rare 
intelligence. She enjoyed society, and had a 
joyful interest in life, for she was surrounded 
with the manifold comforts and appliances 
which are incident to the most easy conditions, 
and there was everything in her external cir- 
cumstances to make that life desirable. She 
combined a rich assemblage of excellencies. 
Possessing faculties of a high order, fine con- 
versational talents, varied stores of information, 
besides accomplishments as a linguist, there was 



Harnioiiious as the F/ozver. 



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also simplicity of taste, clear good sense, with 
an absence of anything like pretension. She 
was careful of the feelings of those about her, 
and in the relation of a wife, a mother, a 
daughter, a sister, a friend, she united dignit}', 
tenderness, and discretion. 

Her physical, intellectual, and spiritual per- 
son was a fine specimen of symmetry, — " har- 
monious as the flower." Her intellect was quick 
and active, her culture deep, and enriched by 
the experiences of extensive travels in foreign 
lands. She had a woman's appreciation of the 
beautiful in all its forms of manifestation, 
whether in natural scenery or in works of art. 
In the circle of her acquaintances the memor}'- 
of virtues that had such brief continuance on 
earth has left an impression that time cannot 
efface. 

Post, Washington. 



rriHE recent death of Mrs. William R. 
Cox, at Raleigh, North Carolina, has 
touched with grief the hearts of man^^ beyond 
the circle of the family that loved her so well. 

In this universal sorrow it is pleasant and 
consoling to record the nian}'^ attractive graces 
that clustered round her genuine and gracious 
life. 

Endowed with brilliancy, quickness of intel- 
lect, and natural delicate artistic tastes, she 
profited by her unusual opportunities, and by 
periods of foreign residence and travel, she be- 
came versed and accomplished in art, languages, 
and modern literature. These rich endowments 
of nature and culture made her a delightful 
companion to all who knew her; while her 
native kindness of heart, her thoughtful con- 
side^"ation for others, and her refined womanly 
instincts made all her associates her friends, 



Unselfish Uevotioii . 



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and won from many their entire confidence and 
affection. 

Ever sedulously considei'ate of those subordi- 
nate to her, she was beloved by them with the 
greatest warmth. 

Hers was a beautiful Christian character ; she 
lived in the fulfilment of duty, in unselfish 
devotion to the interest of relative and friend, 
and amidst all the duties and pleasures that 
surrounded her, her church and her obligations 
were never forgotten or neglected, and deft 
mementos, the work of her own hands, testify 
to her loving care. 

Verily " her sun went down while it was yet 
day," and a home is now darkened by the 
sudden removal of the one who was the centre 
of its life and light. 

May" the God of all comfort, in His own good 
way and time, heal the smitten hearts, and give 
fullest consolation to those who mourn. 

Churchman, New York. 



Simplicity of iMaiiiier. 



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N Raleigh, Friday morning, August 21, at 
tlie residence of her father, the Bishop of 
North Carolina, departed out of this life into 
a better, Fanny Augusta, wife of the Hon. 
Wra. R. Cox, in the thirty-seventh year of 
her age. 

The impression made upon society by this 
sad and unlooked-for event has been indicated 
in many ways, and especially by the appreciative 
notices of the secular press. Called to a con- 
spicuous position in the eye of the world, and 
having always moved in the most distinguished 
society, Mrs. Cox was singularly fitted to per- 
form with grace and dignity the duties of her 
station, and to add to it the charm of culti- 
vated and accomplished womanhood. Strength 
of natural understanding, simplicity of manner, 
which can only come of good sense and good 



Decision of Character. 



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feeling, decision of character, and a high sense 
of duty were the most important elements of a 
personality in which those who knew her best 
recognized also the softer qualities of gentle- 
ness, patience, kindness, charity. It is not 
possible that society should lose such an orna- 
ment and not feel deeply the loss. 

What she was to those of her own house- 
hold only they themselves can fully understand. 
The gentle and affectionate daughter, the lov- 
ing and confiding wife, the tender and devoted 
mother, the sincere and considerate friend, — 
her life was complete and rounded, though 
short. She gave full proof of her ministry to 
those to whom God had sent her : "• The heart 
of her husband did safely trust in her." 

But in the hour of bereavement we turn to 
other sources of comfort than social and domes- 
tic virtues, however conspicuous these may have 
been. Underlying these, quickening them into 
their most beautiful development, was a spirit 



Piety was Unostentatious. 



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of sincere and rational leligion. Family cares 
and social engagements could never make her 
forget her duties to God and to His Cliurch. 
Yet her piety was quiet and unostentatious, 
not exhibited to men, and known only by its 
sanctifying influence upon her character, and 
b}' those undesigned and unconscious self- 
manifestations wherein the most modest soul 
cannot but show occasional glimpses of its 
inner life to the appreciative eye of friend and 
intimate. 

The closing scene — awful and unexpected — 
might crush family and friends by its sudden 
sorrow, but God prepares His children whom 
He calls. Without fear and without repining 
she resigned her spirit into the hands of Him 
who stood by her ready to receive it. 

." The fear of the Lord tendeth to life : And 
he that hath it shall abide satisfied : he shall 
not be visited with evil." 

Church Messenger, N. C. 



'''Abide tait/i us ; for it is towards evening, and 
the day is far spent" 

''''Abide 7vith me, fast faUs the eventide, 
The darkness deepens. Lord, with me abide. 
When other helpers fail, and €077iforts flee, 
Help of the helpless, oh, abide with fjief" 



THE FUNERAL. 



THE funeral services of Mrs. Cox were held 
Sunday afternoon, from Christ Church, and 
were impressively sad. The tiibutes of respect 
paid the dead, in the attendance, the sympathy 
manifested, and the floral tiibutes, were marked. 
The services were conducted by Rev. Gilbert 
HiGGS, of Warrenton, Rev. Bennett Smedes, 
and Rev. R. B. Sutton, D.D. Rev. Dr. F. M. 
Hubbard was in the chancel. Rev. Gilbert 
HiGGS read the lesson. The choir sweetly 
chanted the burial anthem and the hymn, "Abide 
with me." Rev. Bennett Smedes recited the 
closing prayer. As the procession passed out 
the south door of the church the choir sang, 
"Hark ! hark! my soul, angelic songs are sing- 
ing." The services were concluded at the city 
cemetery, where the remains were temporarily 
placed in a vault. Rev. Dr. Sutton conducted 
these closing services. 

The following gentlemen were the pall-bear- 
ers: Messrs. Walter Clark, S. A. Ashe, V. E. 
Turner, George H. Snow, A. B. Andrews, 
F. H. BusBEE, R. S. Tucker, and C. B. Root. 



LETTERS. 



rriHE following personal letters to members 
of the family of the deceased furnish 
tlieir own explanation. 

They are embodied in this Memoir to facili- 
tate that communion of sympathy which is ever 
grateful to the overburdened heart. 



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Cape May, N. J., Aug. 21, 1885. 

I do not know how to write all the sorrow 
and sympathy I feel for you and for myself. 
We all loved your Fanny next to our imme- 
diate circle, and the shock is very great. My 
dear Aunt, how I wish I was with you in this 
trying hour, if only to press your d'ear heart on 
my shoulder, for I know what overwhelming 
sorrow is so well. I feel so shocked and dazed 
now I can only pray that He whom 3'ou liave 
served and trusted so long will hold you closer 
in His " everlasting arms " than ever before. 
Pa is completely unmanned ; he has been talk- 
ing a great deal about Fanny the past few days. 

J sends love and sympathy, in which all 

join, to you and all your afflicted household. 
Judge Cox, and precious little Albert, too 
young to know his loss. How dear he will 
be to you now, — a link between heaven and 
earth. ... * 



Closest of all Communion. 



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Capk May, Aug. 22, 1885. 

I could not help being disappointed when the 
mail came in, that there was nothing from Ra- 
leigh, although I did not know who was there 
to write. It is so hard to sit quietly here unable 
to do anything for you, and not knowing any- 
thing beyond the distressing, heart-rending fact 
that our dear Fanny's dear, sweet, kind, thought- 
ful spirit is no longer with you, but with her 
loving Saviour. That can be and must be the 
thought now, — not what we are suffering, but 
that the loving daughter and wife and gentle 
friend is face to face, even eye to eye, with her 
Saviour, — the closest of all communion. We 
are all so distressed, for we all loved her as one 
of ourselves. I so hope Judge Cox and Bishop 
Lyman were with you, and will anxiously await 
the particulars. I wish I could know when she 
is to be laid in the grave hallowed by Jesus, 
he having laid there first and robbed it of its 
gloom. I am thinking of you all the time, and 
praying for you and for all. * 



Overwhelming^ Sorrow. 



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Baltimohk, Md., Sept. 2, 188.'). 



What shull I say to express my great sym- 
pathy for you in this overvvhehning sorrow tliat 
has come upon you all ? It was a great shock 
to every one of us — something that is impos- 
sible to realize — that dear Fanny is gone. 

I always associate with her the thought of 
perfect health and strength. It will be a pleas- 
ure to me always to remember her as she looked 
last winter, when she stayed here with her little 
Albert. I never saw her look so pretty ; and 
she was so proud of her baby, and looked so 
perfectly happy, that I like to think of it. That 
she should have been taken out of this world 
when she had everything to live for is truly 
mysterious. I am sure it must be a comfort to 
you to feel that she has been spared pain and 
trouble in this life, and that she now awaits in 
the Paradise of God those whom she loved and 
left here on earth. 



The Precious Legacy. 



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Fanny was such a sweet cliaracter tliat we all 
felt very much attached to her. I do not be- 
lieve I ever heard her say a harsh word of any- 
one, nor heard her raise her voice in anger. 
She was always the same, no matter if we saw 
her ever}' day or only once a year. She had a 
kind, pleasant word for every one. This must 
have been pleasing to her Heavenly Father, and 
the thought of it must be a great help to you. 
But of course this is an hour of such sore trouble 
that it is beyond the power of any friend on 
earth to help or comfort you. I trust and am 
assured that the good God, whom you have 
loved and in whom you have believed all these 
years, will strengthen and sustain you. How 
your heart will go out in love and tenderness 
to the dear little motherless babies, — the pre- 
cious legacy Fanny has left behind her! 

Please give assurances of our sympathy to 
Bishop Lyman, Judge Cox, and all your 
household. 



Bright and full of Happiness. 



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Bai.timoue, Md., Sept. 6, 1885. 

I was so much distressed to hear of dear 
Fanny's sudden death. How dreadfully sad for 
her to be called just when life was brightest 
and fullest ! It is hard for us to realize, when 
we think of the little helpless babies she has 
been called upon to leave, that "all things 
work together for good for those who love 
God." Yet we do and must believe that it is 
so. Dear Mrs. Lyman, I wish I could say some- 
thing to comfort you, for Fanny's sake ; but I 
know of nothing except to think of the beauties 
and graces of her character, which surely now 
has been brought to perfection, the sweetness 
of her disposition, her kindness and generosity. 
Long and intimately as I have known Fanny, 
I never heard her speak ill of any one. She 
seemed always to think the best of every one. 
I am glad, as her life has been so short, that it 
has been so bright and full of happiness. 



One to be Proud of. 



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I\I()XT Alto, 1'exx., Aug 23, 1885. 

The tidings of dear Fanny's death came to 
us through the Phihidelphia " Piess," sent hy 
a friend tliis morning. It is hard to reaHze that 
she is taken, just now when she had so much to 
live for, in the happy days of her life. From 
time to time I have heard of her and of you all 
through my sisters, and I have never ceased to 
feel great interest in the welfare of the family, 
and lejoiced much in Fanny's happiness. 

We do indeed see " through a glass darkly ; " 
but we do still see through faith that " all 
things work together for good to them tliat love 
God;" and however imperfect we are, we are 
still sure of this, that we do love Him. I may 
write, I hope, without intruding upon the grief 
which the first death in 3-our family causes, for 
I loved Fanny as a child ; and when she came 
home, after so many years of absence, an elegant, 
accomplished, and dignified woman, she was one 
to be proud of and admire. Above all, I trust 
she was a sincere Christian, that now she is en- 
joying the rest of Paradise. If, in this great 
sorrow, the sympathy of your friends is any 
consolation to you, be assured you have it. 



Fascination so Peculiar. 



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LiTciiKiKLD, Conn., Aug. 2i, 1885. 

It is difficult for me to realize the fact that 
our dearly loved Fanny has passed away from 
these earthly scenes. After such brief experi- 
ence of conjugal and maternal happiness, what 
a sad, hard separation ! She was gifted and 
fitted, to adorn a home and the society which 
opened to her. The last time we saw our dear 
Fanny she was so bright, so lovable in her joy- 

ousness and prospective happiness. We, B 

and I, were impressed with the charm of a fas- 
cination so peculiar; it fairly transfigured her, 
and we caught the glow. We little thought it 
was our last meeting. It is the first blight, my 
dear friend, that has fallen upon your family 
circle, and it could only be one slip more heavy. 
. . . May you and the Bishop, as well as all so 
deeply involved in this heavy affliction, be ever 
sustained and cheered by the sweet assurance 
that she is "■ asleep in Jesus," and so draw eveiy 
spiritual and sustaining comfort from the hope 
of an eternal and blessed reunion. . . . 



A Terrible Loss. 



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Baltimork, Aug. 31, 1885 

It was witli the deepest sorrow Dr. B and 

I saw in the papers the annonncement of your 
dear Fann3^'s death. Words fail me to express 
my sympathy with you and her father on this 
mournful occasion. So young, healthy, aii<l full 
of strength as she always appeared, a long and 
hai)py life seemed to be her portion. I can 
hardly express the shock with which I read the 
account of her premature and sudden death. 

What a terrible loss she must be to her hus- 
band and family, not to speak of the Bishop 
and yourself. . . . Only a short time ago she 
sent me a lovely photograph of her eldest little 
boy, and I was anticipating with pleasure seeing 
him and his mother during my present stay in 
America. Your son Albert wrote to the Doctor, 
telling him of Fanny's death, and the Doctor 
asked him to come out and see us, which he 
did. When you feel able I should be glad 
to hear from you. We arrived in Ameiica 
last \\eek. . . . 



Happiness too Great. 



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Georgktown, Ohio, Aug. 24, 1885. 



I was shocked and pained to read in the 
New York " Herald " the announcement of 
your wife's and my friend's death. It seems 
so dreadful to think of the happy wife and 
mother gone forever. Your happiness with her 
was too great to hist, and my lieart goes out to 
you in this, your terrible loss. God bless and 
comfort you is my earnest prayer. I suppose 
your wife died in childbirth. . . . For a woman 
to die under such circumstances is unusually 
sad, — a spirit coming, and a spirit going. In 
every way did fortune smile on Mrs. Cox, and 
it seems all the harder to think of her as dead. 
She was so fond and i^roud of \o\\. Please let 
me know if she suffered very, very much, also 
if her babe lives. 

What anguish it must have been to her (if 
conscious) to give up a living presence with 
you, her family, and her children ! j\Iy hand is 
too tremulous to write any more on a subject 
which gives me pain. 



Her Place can never he Filled. 



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Univeusity of Viuginia, Aug. 24, 1885. 

Pardon me for iiitriuliiig thus upon your 
great grief, but I canuot resist sending 30U a 
few lines to express my warm and heartfelt 
sympathy for you in your terrible sorrow. 

1 shall ever mourn her loss, and remember her 
with the sincerest affection as the sweetest, 
most lovable, and attractive of friends, whose 
place can never be filled. 

God alone, in his infinite love and mercy, can 
give you consolation. May you find strength 
from Him to bear this heavy affliction, is the 
earnest wish of your sincere friend. 



Influential and Useful. 



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Wasiiingtox, D. C, Auij. 22, 1885. 

I observe with puiii that Mrs. Cox has been 
taken fnnn yon. Let nie express my sympathy 
in this great affliction. T had not had the good 
fortune to see mucli of Mrs. Cox, but the im- 
pression I received when once calling upon her 
at this place was so favorable that I am disposed 
to feel and to express regret that it has pleased 
the Sovereign Disposer of events to take her 
from a scene in which I had imagined that she 
was to be influential and useful. So much, 
General, in addition to your own more special 
cause for great sorrow. No doubt, however, it 
is all right upon that great scheme of things in 
which we all make part, but to the movement 
of which our souls do not always at once con- 
form ; and when it is said to be "• right," all is 

said that can offer consolation. 

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Black Mountain, N. C, Sept. 3, 1885. 

My husband iind I have felt so niucli pain 
in talking of your loss, we have heen incapable 
of saying any word of sympathy to yon. In- 
deed, the blow that has fallen ui)on yon was 
so unexpected by your friends that one has a 
stunned feeling for you, and fails to realize the 
infinitude of such loss when it is so new. I 
know how you must be staggering along your 
way. Your happiness was so new. I have 
not gotten over being glad for you, and iioiv, so 
soon, it is all changed. Please try and remem- 
ber that all of your friends can bear testimony 
that you made her life like the morning, — all 
sunshine. I do not think tliere could be any- 
thing sweeter for a man to remember than that 
he made his wife, while he had her, hnppy. 
And so you will have to gather up your 
strength, not as you had planned at all, but 
with at least a great consolation in the thought 
of her blameless life, her gentleness and grace, 
and all the joy you brought into her life. . . . 

* 



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Wasiiinijtox, D. C, Sept. 5, 1885. 

It is with sincere sorrow I write to offer my 
heartfelt sympathy in your great loss. I was 
inexpressibly shocked and grieved, for I liad 
not heard of dear Fanny's illness, and the notice 
of her death was a fearful surprise. She had 
endeared herself to her many friends by lier 
lovely disposition, her gentleness, lier unvary- 
ing friendship and Christian character, and her 
loss will be deeply felt by all wliosO privilege 
it was to know her. I cannot pretend to offer 
you any consolation, for I know how utterly 
futile all words are ; but I can offer our sincere 
sympathy. 

My little boys remember her with the greatest 
affection, and expressed so much sorrow when 
I told them she had passed away. 

I would have written earliei', but have been 
ill, and can scarcely write coherently. But I 
feel that I must send you a few lines, to assure 
you of my love for dear Faniu' and my deep 
sympathy for you and your family. . . . 



Learned to appreciate her. 



Ralkigii, Sept. 4, 1885. 

We received the sad intelligence of the sud- 
den death of Mrs. Cox while in the West. My 
famil}' were ver}- much shocked at the intelli- 
gence. Only a short time before they had been 
much with her at Morehcad City, and learned 
to appreciate her more than ever; and they join 
me in extending to you assurances of their 
deepest sympathy. Human sympathy in the 
hour of deep affliction is of little avail to our 
hearts ; but I need not remind you, ni}^ dear 
friend, that a Father's hand has given this 
blow, and He alone can and He will heal the 
wound. 



Loved and Admired. 



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Rock Enon Springs, Va., Aug. 29, 1885. 

You have been so constantly in my tlionghts 
since I lieard of the death of your precious 
wife, I cannot refrain from giving expression to 
my sincere and tender sympathy. I loved and 
admired Mrs. Cox so much that you will not 
consider it a liberty. I hesitated about intrud- 
ing on the sacredness of your grief, but you 
will understand and appreciate my feelings. 
I am truly grieved, and my sorrow is heart- 
felt. ... I am one of many who grieve with 
and for you, and pray that by God's grace you 
may be enabled to bear with patience and forti- 
tude your great sorrow-. Judge H is with 

me, and desires me to express to you his deepest 
sympathy. 



Beautiful Life and Generous Nature. 



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Constantinople, Sept.lO, 1885. 

On going- down the city from here (Thaapia), 
where we live for the summer, I secured my 
mail. What a sad revelation 1 found inside ! 
I handed the unwelcome tidings of your blessed 
wife's demise to my wife, and the beautiful life 
and generous nature of yours was our theme. 
But how can we express the heart's condoling 
sympathy ? I must leave it to the gentler feel- 
ings of my wife, who knew how to appreciate 
the qualities of yours. I intended last week 
to write you a general letter, to let you know 
about our new life under its strange conditions 
here ; but I must await the lapse of time, for 
life in its most charming features has lost for 
you so much of its enchantments. 

Trusting your boy and the child are well, 
and that you have with your innate courage and 
true philosophy mastered some of the sad and 
discouraging obstacles which Death has placed 
in your path, I am as ever, 



MONODY. 



The Young and beautiful lies T)ead, 



A MONODY 

ON THE 

DEATH OF MRS. FANNY AUGUSTA COX, 
Who died at Ralkigh, N. C. August 21, 1885. 

Bv William J. Clarke. 

A VOICE of wailing strikes mine ear, 
-^-^ A query Earth cannot make clear. 
I sadly ask, "• Oh ! why did Heaven 
Take back the gift that it had given ? " 
The young and beautiful lies dead. 
The bright and loving spirit 's fled ; 
Earth draped in mourning, nevermore, 
With sunniest beams can joy restore. 
Ye starry watchers of the night ! 
Ye saw her spirit's upward flight ; 
Wearied she of mortal woe, 
And heav'nward flew, the way to show ? 



"Earth to Earth, T>ust to Dust." 



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" Earth to earth, and dust to dust ! 
Saviour, in thy word we trust." 
Death is not the spirit's night, 
But dawning of eternal light. 
O'er Lazarus laid in his tomb, 
On earth you wept, in mortal gloom. 
Soft as Hermon's dews distil, 
Our hearts with heav'nlj^ solace fill! 
Teach us to feel — our hearts to say, 
" Our Father knew the better way." 

One 's needed for celestial choir, 
He speaks: " My daughter, come up higher." 

Lost one ! on summer ev'ning's close, 
When tired Earth seeks soft repose. 
Thy beck'ning hand from glowing skies 
Will oft be seen by loving eyes. 

New-Beene, N. C, Aug. 23, 1885.