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PROEM.

ry^HESE pages are designed to commemorate
the graces and virtues of one tenderly be-
loved, who was suddenly summoned from the
Wilderness of Earth to the Paradise of God.
They comprise appreciative memorials which
originally appeared as obituary tributes of the
press, and a few letters of sympathy and con-
dolence which, however fruitless at first, became
more and more grateful and consoling to the
hearts of those whom the iiand of bereavement
had grievously smitten.

These contributions are preserved for the
gratification of personal friends, who will appre-
ciate the fact that they but imperfectly outline
the beautiful mission of her whose symmetry
of person, equable temperament, and rare ac-
complishments gave the fairest promises of a
lonof and useful life.

It is not extravagant affection which prompts
the dechiration that the subject of this memorial
was so just, so self-contained, and so solicitous
for the happiness of those around her that she
never permitted an elevation of the voice, an
unguarded expression, or the unjust criticisms
of others to mar the harmony of her social
circle. She ever had a kind word, a gentle act,
or a pleasant smile to soften or beguile those
transient vexations which are too often magni-
fied until they roughen the surface of our little
world.

The cares and responsibilities of her married
state wrought no change in her admirable dispo-
sition further than to cause her character to
expand and blossom as a beautiful flower, and
her Christian graces to irradiate as stars, to re-
flect the virtues of her inner life. She was wise
and good, natural and confiding. Trusting, not
in her own strength, she leaned upon her Saviour
as the final refuge; so tliat when her peerless

spirit passed into the hands of Him who gave
it, she was prepared to say, " Father^ not my
will, but Thine be done.''''

While her friends may feel comforted that in
her triumph over death she has been transferred
to a brighter and happier world, human nature
will assert itself in grief and sorrow over so
great and irreparable a loss. But faith illu-
mines the dreary way, and softens the asperity
of affliction with the pleasing assurance that
" The Love that has stricken, o'er pain sheds
its ray."

W. R. C.

E am tlje usiirncti'an anti tlje life, saidj tfje
3Lorli. ^e tijat irh'ctictf) fir mc, Hjaugf) Ije lucre tieali,
get 0!)all ]^e Ii'be; anti tnljosocbcr libetlj anti beliefaetfj
in me, sljall neber life.— St. John.

2rf)nt tiau luljirl) men called Ijcr last, gijall 6c Ijcr
fairUjtiag in ctcrnitg. — Seneca.

OBITUARY NOTICES.

DEATH OF MRS. WILLIAM R. COX.

"XTESTERDAY morning, at six o'clock, Mrs.
William R. Cox died at the residence of
her father, Right Rev. T. B. Lyman, on East
North Street, this city. Her iUness was of brief
duration and her death unexpected. An infant
child survives her. She was a lady of rare
cultivation of mind, and with all the graces of
the Christian woman. The news of her death
caused mingled surprise and sorrow.

News and Observer, Raleigh, Aug. 22, 1885.

Sorrow to many Hearts.

N MEMORIAM.

RARELY have the citizens of Kaleigh suf-
fered a greater shock than in the unex-
pected death of Mrs. Fanny Augusta Cox,
which occurred at the residence of her father,
in this city, Friday morning, August 21. The
daughter of the Right Reverend Theodore B.
and Mrs. Anna M. Lyman, and the wife of
Hon. William R. Cox, she had the deepest
hold upon the affections of the entire commu-
nity, not only of this city, but of many other
sections of North Carolina, and the news of
her sudden death will carry sorrow to many
hearts.

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She was born at Hagerstown, Maiyland.
January 26, 1849, being- a member of one of
the most prominent families of that State. Her
early life was spent for the most part in Europe;
and her rare educational advantages in Dresden,
Paris, and Rome were improved to the utmost,
giving her an unusual command of modern lan-
guages and a broad and catholic culture. Her
father removed with his family from Rome to
California, and upon his election to the Bishopric
of North Carolina took up his permanent resi-
dence in Raleigh. Here she speedily became a
general favorite, her kindliness of disposition and
uniform courtesy winning her hosts of friends.
In January, 1883, she became the wife of Hon.
W. R. Cox, then as now the Representative in
Congress from the Fourth District. Shortly
after their marriage. General and Mrs. Cox took
an extended European tour, pleasant reminders
of which occasionally appeared in the columns
of " The News and Observer."

Illness of 'Brief "Duration.

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In Wasliington Mrs. Cox soon became well
known in society, and social circles looked for-
ward with pleasant anticipations to her residence
in that city during the approaching winter. Her
illness was of but few hours' duration, and the
first intelligence received by the community
was the announcement of her death. She leaves
two sons, — a handsome boy of twenty months,
in whom her whole heart was wrapped up, and
an infant.

News Observer, Raleigh.

eA cultivated Christian Lady.

TpVERY citizen of Riileigh who knew that
"^ lovely, cultivated Christian lady, Mrs.
Fanny Lyman Cox, the wife of our honored
Representative, was struck with horror and
grief at the announcement of her sudden death
this morning. Mrs. Cox was the daughter of
Bishop Lyman, and was extensively known and
greatly admired throughout our State. Her
friends and family are paralyzed and dumb with
grief in face of the inscrutable providence
which has removed the young mother, in the
prime of her life and usefulness, from their
midst. We cannot give expression to the uni-
versal regret with which this terrible blow has
been received.

Slate Chronicle, Raleigh.

A sad Bereavement.

/~\UR sympathies are extended to General
^-^^ W. R. Cox, Congressman in the Raleigh
District, upon the death of his most lovable
wife, which sad event occurred at his residence,
in Raleigh, on Friday, August 21st.

Mrs. Cox was the daughter of Bishop
Lyman. She leaves two children, the youngest
a tender infant.

This sad bereavement not only affects her
family circle, but will be painfully felt in a wide
circle of admiring friends and acquaintances.

Southerner, Tarboro.

Loveliness of Character.

rr\RE wife of General William R. Cox, Con-
-*- gressman from the Raleigh District, North
Carolina, died at Raleigh yesterday morning.
She was the eldest daughter of Bishop Theodore
B.Lyman; she was well known in lialtiniore,
and greatly admired for her accomplishments
and loveliness of character. Mrs. Cox had
travelled with her father, and later with her
husband, extensively in Europe, tlie East, and
in this country.

jNIrs. Cox's mother is a sister of Augustus
J. Albert, and her maiden name was Fanny
Augusta Lyman. Li Washington, where she
spent several winters witli her husband, she had
made a most favorable impression. Her illness
was known to onl}- her nearest relatives and
friends in Baltimore. Father Lyman, of Govas-
town, is an uncle of Mrs. Cox ; Dr. A. B.
Lyman, of this city, is a brother; Mrs. Robert
Gilmer is a first cousin. Besides these, she has
numerous relatives and connections by marriage
in Baltimore.

Sun, Baltimore.

Assemblage of Excellencies.

TN the death of Mrs. William R. Cox, wife
of the Representative from Raleigh, North
Carolina, her many friends here and elsewhere
have sustained a loss which will be long and
deeply felt. During her residence in this city
she charmed every one with her easy and
graceful manners, her self-possession and rare
intelligence. She enjoyed society, and had a
joyful interest in life, for she was surrounded
with the manifold comforts and appliances
which are incident to the most easy conditions,
and there was everything in her external cir-
cumstances to make that life desirable. She
combined a rich assemblage of excellencies.
Possessing faculties of a high order, fine con-
versational talents, varied stores of information,
besides accomplishments as a linguist, there was

Harnioiiious as the F/ozver.

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also simplicity of taste, clear good sense, with
an absence of anything like pretension. She
was careful of the feelings of those about her,
and in the relation of a wife, a mother, a
daughter, a sister, a friend, she united dignit}',
tenderness, and discretion.

Her physical, intellectual, and spiritual per-
son was a fine specimen of symmetry, — " har-
monious as the flower." Her intellect was quick
and active, her culture deep, and enriched by
the experiences of extensive travels in foreign
lands. She had a woman's appreciation of the
beautiful in all its forms of manifestation,
whether in natural scenery or in works of art.
In the circle of her acquaintances the memor}'-
of virtues that had such brief continuance on
earth has left an impression that time cannot
efface.

Post, Washington.

rriHE recent death of Mrs. William R.
Cox, at Raleigh, North Carolina, has
touched with grief the hearts of man^^ beyond
the circle of the family that loved her so well.

In this universal sorrow it is pleasant and
consoling to record the nian}'^ attractive graces
that clustered round her genuine and gracious
life.

Endowed with brilliancy, quickness of intel-
lect, and natural delicate artistic tastes, she
profited by her unusual opportunities, and by
periods of foreign residence and travel, she be-
came versed and accomplished in art, languages,
and modern literature. These rich endowments
of nature and culture made her a delightful
companion to all who knew her; while her
native kindness of heart, her thoughtful con-
side^"ation for others, and her refined womanly
instincts made all her associates her friends,

Unselfish Uevotioii .

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and won from many their entire confidence and
affection.

Ever sedulously considei'ate of those subordi-
nate to her, she was beloved by them with the
greatest warmth.

Hers was a beautiful Christian character ; she
lived in the fulfilment of duty, in unselfish
devotion to the interest of relative and friend,
and amidst all the duties and pleasures that
surrounded her, her church and her obligations
were never forgotten or neglected, and deft
mementos, the work of her own hands, testify
to her loving care.

Verily " her sun went down while it was yet
day," and a home is now darkened by the
sudden removal of the one who was the centre
of its life and light.

May" the God of all comfort, in His own good
way and time, heal the smitten hearts, and give
fullest consolation to those who mourn.

Churchman, New York.

Simplicity of iMaiiiier.

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N Raleigh, Friday morning, August 21, at
tlie residence of her father, the Bishop of
North Carolina, departed out of this life into
a better, Fanny Augusta, wife of the Hon.
Wra. R. Cox, in the thirty-seventh year of
her age.

The impression made upon society by this
sad and unlooked-for event has been indicated
in many ways, and especially by the appreciative
notices of the secular press. Called to a con-
spicuous position in the eye of the world, and
having always moved in the most distinguished
society, Mrs. Cox was singularly fitted to per-
form with grace and dignity the duties of her
station, and to add to it the charm of culti-
vated and accomplished womanhood. Strength
of natural understanding, simplicity of manner,
which can only come of good sense and good

Decision of Character.

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feeling, decision of character, and a high sense
of duty were the most important elements of a
personality in which those who knew her best
recognized also the softer qualities of gentle-
ness, patience, kindness, charity. It is not
possible that society should lose such an orna-
ment and not feel deeply the loss.

What she was to those of her own house-
hold only they themselves can fully understand.
The gentle and affectionate daughter, the lov-
ing and confiding wife, the tender and devoted
mother, the sincere and considerate friend, —
her life was complete and rounded, though
short. She gave full proof of her ministry to
those to whom God had sent her : "• The heart
of her husband did safely trust in her."

But in the hour of bereavement we turn to
other sources of comfort than social and domes-
tic virtues, however conspicuous these may have
been. Underlying these, quickening them into
their most beautiful development, was a spirit

Piety was Unostentatious.

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of sincere and rational leligion. Family cares
and social engagements could never make her
forget her duties to God and to His Cliurch.
Yet her piety was quiet and unostentatious,
not exhibited to men, and known only by its
sanctifying influence upon her character, and
b}' those undesigned and unconscious self-
manifestations wherein the most modest soul
cannot but show occasional glimpses of its
inner life to the appreciative eye of friend and
intimate.

The closing scene — awful and unexpected —
might crush family and friends by its sudden
sorrow, but God prepares His children whom
He calls. Without fear and without repining
she resigned her spirit into the hands of Him
who stood by her ready to receive it.

." The fear of the Lord tendeth to life : And
he that hath it shall abide satisfied : he shall
not be visited with evil."

Church Messenger, N. C.

'''Abide tait/i us ; for it is towards evening, and
the day is far spent"

''''Abide 7vith me, fast faUs the eventide,
The darkness deepens. Lord, with me abide.
When other helpers fail, and €077iforts flee,
Help of the helpless, oh, abide with fjief"

THE FUNERAL.

THE funeral services of Mrs. Cox were held
Sunday afternoon, from Christ Church, and
were impressively sad. The tiibutes of respect
paid the dead, in the attendance, the sympathy
manifested, and the floral tiibutes, were marked.
The services were conducted by Rev. Gilbert
HiGGS, of Warrenton, Rev. Bennett Smedes,
and Rev. R. B. Sutton, D.D. Rev. Dr. F. M.
Hubbard was in the chancel. Rev. Gilbert
HiGGS read the lesson. The choir sweetly
chanted the burial anthem and the hymn, "Abide
with me." Rev. Bennett Smedes recited the
closing prayer. As the procession passed out
the south door of the church the choir sang,
"Hark ! hark! my soul, angelic songs are sing-
ing." The services were concluded at the city
cemetery, where the remains were temporarily
placed in a vault. Rev. Dr. Sutton conducted
these closing services.

The following gentlemen were the pall-bear-
ers: Messrs. Walter Clark, S. A. Ashe, V. E.
Turner, George H. Snow, A. B. Andrews,
F. H. BusBEE, R. S. Tucker, and C. B. Root.

LETTERS.

rriHE following personal letters to members
of the family of the deceased furnish
tlieir own explanation.

They are embodied in this Memoir to facili-
tate that communion of sympathy which is ever
grateful to the overburdened heart.

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Cape May, N. J., Aug. 21, 1885.

I do not know how to write all the sorrow
and sympathy I feel for you and for myself.
We all loved your Fanny next to our imme-
diate circle, and the shock is very great. My
dear Aunt, how I wish I was with you in this
trying hour, if only to press your d'ear heart on
my shoulder, for I know what overwhelming
sorrow is so well. I feel so shocked and dazed
now I can only pray that He whom 3'ou liave
served and trusted so long will hold you closer
in His " everlasting arms " than ever before.
Pa is completely unmanned ; he has been talk-
ing a great deal about Fanny the past few days.

J sends love and sympathy, in which all

join, to you and all your afflicted household.
Judge Cox, and precious little Albert, too
young to know his loss. How dear he will
be to you now, — a link between heaven and
earth. ... *

Closest of all Communion.

43

Capk May, Aug. 22, 1885.

I could not help being disappointed when the
mail came in, that there was nothing from Ra-
leigh, although I did not know who was there
to write. It is so hard to sit quietly here unable
to do anything for you, and not knowing any-
thing beyond the distressing, heart-rending fact
that our dear Fanny's dear, sweet, kind, thought-
ful spirit is no longer with you, but with her
loving Saviour. That can be and must be the
thought now, — not what we are suffering, but
that the loving daughter and wife and gentle
friend is face to face, even eye to eye, with her
Saviour, — the closest of all communion. We
are all so distressed, for we all loved her as one
of ourselves. I so hope Judge Cox and Bishop
Lyman were with you, and will anxiously await
the particulars. I wish I could know when she
is to be laid in the grave hallowed by Jesus,
he having laid there first and robbed it of its
gloom. I am thinking of you all the time, and
praying for you and for all. *

Overwhelming^ Sorrow.

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Baltimohk, Md., Sept. 2, 188.').

What shull I say to express my great sym-
pathy for you in this overvvhehning sorrow tliat
has come upon you all ? It was a great shock
to every one of us — something that is impos-
sible to realize — that dear Fanny is gone.

I always associate with her the thought of
perfect health and strength. It will be a pleas-
ure to me always to remember her as she looked
last winter, when she stayed here with her little
Albert. I never saw her look so pretty ; and
she was so proud of her baby, and looked so
perfectly happy, that I like to think of it. That
she should have been taken out of this world
when she had everything to live for is truly
mysterious. I am sure it must be a comfort to
you to feel that she has been spared pain and
trouble in this life, and that she now awaits in
the Paradise of God those whom she loved and
left here on earth.

The Precious Legacy.

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Fanny was such a sweet cliaracter tliat we all
felt very much attached to her. I do not be-
lieve I ever heard her say a harsh word of any-
one, nor heard her raise her voice in anger.
She was always the same, no matter if we saw
her ever}' day or only once a year. She had a
kind, pleasant word for every one. This must
have been pleasing to her Heavenly Father, and
the thought of it must be a great help to you.
But of course this is an hour of such sore trouble
that it is beyond the power of any friend on
earth to help or comfort you. I trust and am
assured that the good God, whom you have
loved and in whom you have believed all these
years, will strengthen and sustain you. How
your heart will go out in love and tenderness
to the dear little motherless babies, — the pre-
cious legacy Fanny has left behind her!

Please give assurances of our sympathy to
Bishop Lyman, Judge Cox, and all your
household.

Bright and full of Happiness.

49

Bai.timoue, Md., Sept. 6, 1885.

I was so much distressed to hear of dear
Fanny's sudden death. How dreadfully sad for
her to be called just when life was brightest
and fullest ! It is hard for us to realize, when
we think of the little helpless babies she has
been called upon to leave, that "all things
work together for good for those who love
God." Yet we do and must believe that it is
so. Dear Mrs. Lyman, I wish I could say some-
thing to comfort you, for Fanny's sake ; but I
know of nothing except to think of the beauties
and graces of her character, which surely now
has been brought to perfection, the sweetness
of her disposition, her kindness and generosity.
Long and intimately as I have known Fanny,
I never heard her speak ill of any one. She
seemed always to think the best of every one.
I am glad, as her life has been so short, that it
has been so bright and full of happiness.

One to be Proud of.

51

I\I()XT Alto, 1'exx., Aug 23, 1885.

The tidings of dear Fanny's death came to
us through the Phihidelphia " Piess," sent hy
a friend tliis morning. It is hard to reaHze that
she is taken, just now when she had so much to
live for, in the happy days of her life. From
time to time I have heard of her and of you all
through my sisters, and I have never ceased to
feel great interest in the welfare of the family,
and lejoiced much in Fanny's happiness.

We do indeed see " through a glass darkly ; "
but we do still see through faith that " all
things work together for good to them tliat love
God;" and however imperfect we are, we are
still sure of this, that we do love Him. I may
write, I hope, without intruding upon the grief
which the first death in 3-our family causes, for
I loved Fanny as a child ; and when she came
home, after so many years of absence, an elegant,
accomplished, and dignified woman, she was one
to be proud of and admire. Above all, I trust
she was a sincere Christian, that now she is en-
joying the rest of Paradise. If, in this great
sorrow, the sympathy of your friends is any
consolation to you, be assured you have it.

Fascination so Peculiar.

53

LiTciiKiKLD, Conn., Aug. 2i, 1885.

It is difficult for me to realize the fact that
our dearly loved Fanny has passed away from
these earthly scenes. After such brief experi-
ence of conjugal and maternal happiness, what
a sad, hard separation ! She was gifted and
fitted, to adorn a home and the society which
opened to her. The last time we saw our dear
Fanny she was so bright, so lovable in her joy-

ousness and prospective happiness. We, B

and I, were impressed with the charm of a fas-
cination so peculiar; it fairly transfigured her,
and we caught the glow. We little thought it
was our last meeting. It is the first blight, my
dear friend, that has fallen upon your family
circle, and it could only be one slip more heavy.
. . . May you and the Bishop, as well as all so
deeply involved in this heavy affliction, be ever
sustained and cheered by the sweet assurance
that she is "■ asleep in Jesus," and so draw eveiy
spiritual and sustaining comfort from the hope
of an eternal and blessed reunion. . . .

A Terrible Loss.

55

Baltimork, Aug. 31, 1885

It was witli the deepest sorrow Dr. B and

I saw in the papers the annonncement of your
dear Fann3^'s death. Words fail me to express
my sympathy with you and her father on this
mournful occasion. So young, healthy, aii<l full
of strength as she always appeared, a long and
hai)py life seemed to be her portion. I can
hardly express the shock with which I read the
account of her premature and sudden death.

What a terrible loss she must be to her hus-
band and family, not to speak of the Bishop
and yourself. . . . Only a short time ago she
sent me a lovely photograph of her eldest little
boy, and I was anticipating with pleasure seeing
him and his mother during my present stay in
America. Your son Albert wrote to the Doctor,
telling him of Fanny's death, and the Doctor
asked him to come out and see us, which he
did. When you feel able I should be glad
to hear from you. We arrived in Ameiica
last \\eek. . . .

Happiness too Great.

57

Georgktown, Ohio, Aug. 24, 1885.

I was shocked and pained to read in the
New York " Herald " the announcement of
your wife's and my friend's death. It seems
so dreadful to think of the happy wife and
mother gone forever. Your happiness with her
was too great to hist, and my lieart goes out to
you in this, your terrible loss. God bless and
comfort you is my earnest prayer. I suppose
your wife died in childbirth. . . . For a woman
to die under such circumstances is unusually
sad, — a spirit coming, and a spirit going. In
every way did fortune smile on Mrs. Cox, and
it seems all the harder to think of her as dead.
She was so fond and i^roud of \o\\. Please let
me know if she suffered very, very much, also
if her babe lives.

What anguish it must have been to her (if
conscious) to give up a living presence with
you, her family, and her children ! j\Iy hand is
too tremulous to write any more on a subject
which gives me pain.

Her Place can never he Filled.

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Univeusity of Viuginia, Aug. 24, 1885.

Pardon me for iiitriuliiig thus upon your
great grief, but I canuot resist sending 30U a
few lines to express my warm and heartfelt
sympathy for you in your terrible sorrow.

1 shall ever mourn her loss, and remember her
with the sincerest affection as the sweetest,
most lovable, and attractive of friends, whose
place can never be filled.

God alone, in his infinite love and mercy, can
give you consolation. May you find strength
from Him to bear this heavy affliction, is the
earnest wish of your sincere friend.

Influential and Useful.

61

Wasiiingtox, D. C, Auij. 22, 1885.

I observe with puiii that Mrs. Cox has been
taken fnnn yon. Let nie express my sympathy
in this great affliction. T had not had the good
fortune to see mucli of Mrs. Cox, but the im-
pression I received when once calling upon her
at this place was so favorable that I am disposed
to feel and to express regret that it has pleased
the Sovereign Disposer of events to take her
from a scene in which I had imagined that she
was to be influential and useful. So much,
General, in addition to your own more special
cause for great sorrow. No doubt, however, it
is all right upon that great scheme of things in
which we all make part, but to the movement
of which our souls do not always at once con-
form ; and when it is said to be "• right," all is

said that can offer consolation.

*

63

Black Mountain, N. C, Sept. 3, 1885.

My husband iind I have felt so niucli pain
in talking of your loss, we have heen incapable
of saying any word of sympathy to yon. In-
deed, the blow that has fallen ui)on yon was
so unexpected by your friends that one has a
stunned feeling for you, and fails to realize the
infinitude of such loss when it is so new. I
know how you must be staggering along your
way. Your happiness was so new. I have
not gotten over being glad for you, and iioiv, so
soon, it is all changed. Please try and remem-
ber that all of your friends can bear testimony
that you made her life like the morning, — all
sunshine. I do not think tliere could be any-
thing sweeter for a man to remember than that
he made his wife, while he had her, hnppy.
And so you will have to gather up your
strength, not as you had planned at all, but
with at least a great consolation in the thought
of her blameless life, her gentleness and grace,
and all the joy you brought into her life. . . .

*

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Wasiiinijtox, D. C, Sept. 5, 1885.

It is with sincere sorrow I write to offer my
heartfelt sympathy in your great loss. I was
inexpressibly shocked and grieved, for I liad
not heard of dear Fanny's illness, and the notice
of her death was a fearful surprise. She had
endeared herself to her many friends by lier
lovely disposition, her gentleness, lier unvary-
ing friendship and Christian character, and her
loss will be deeply felt by all wliosO privilege
it was to know her. I cannot pretend to offer
you any consolation, for I know how utterly
futile all words are ; but I can offer our sincere
sympathy.

My little boys remember her with the greatest
affection, and expressed so much sorrow when
I told them she had passed away.

I would have written earliei', but have been
ill, and can scarcely write coherently. But I
feel that I must send you a few lines, to assure
you of my love for dear Faniu' and my deep
sympathy for you and your family. . . .

Learned to appreciate her.

Ralkigii, Sept. 4, 1885.

We received the sad intelligence of the sud-
den death of Mrs. Cox while in the West. My
famil}' were ver}- much shocked at the intelli-
gence. Only a short time before they had been
much with her at Morehcad City, and learned
to appreciate her more than ever; and they join
me in extending to you assurances of their
deepest sympathy. Human sympathy in the
hour of deep affliction is of little avail to our
hearts ; but I need not remind you, ni}^ dear
friend, that a Father's hand has given this
blow, and He alone can and He will heal the
wound.

Loved and Admired.

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Rock Enon Springs, Va., Aug. 29, 1885.

You have been so constantly in my tlionghts
since I lieard of the death of your precious
wife, I cannot refrain from giving expression to
my sincere and tender sympathy. I loved and
admired Mrs. Cox so much that you will not
consider it a liberty. I hesitated about intrud-
ing on the sacredness of your grief, but you
will understand and appreciate my feelings.
I am truly grieved, and my sorrow is heart-
felt. ... I am one of many who grieve with
and for you, and pray that by God's grace you
may be enabled to bear with patience and forti-
tude your great sorrow-. Judge H is with

me, and desires me to express to you his deepest
sympathy.

Beautiful Life and Generous Nature.

71

Constantinople, Sept.lO, 1885.

On going- down the city from here (Thaapia),
where we live for the summer, I secured my
mail. What a sad revelation 1 found inside !
I handed the unwelcome tidings of your blessed
wife's demise to my wife, and the beautiful life
and generous nature of yours was our theme.
But how can we express the heart's condoling
sympathy ? I must leave it to the gentler feel-
ings of my wife, who knew how to appreciate
the qualities of yours. I intended last week
to write you a general letter, to let you know
about our new life under its strange conditions
here ; but I must await the lapse of time, for
life in its most charming features has lost for
you so much of its enchantments.

Trusting your boy and the child are well,
and that you have with your innate courage and
true philosophy mastered some of the sad and
discouraging obstacles which Death has placed
in your path, I am as ever,

MONODY.

The Young and beautiful lies T)ead,

A MONODY

ON THE

DEATH OF MRS. FANNY AUGUSTA COX,
Who died at Ralkigh, N. C. August 21, 1885.

Bv William J. Clarke.

A VOICE of wailing strikes mine ear,
-^-^ A query Earth cannot make clear.
I sadly ask, "• Oh ! why did Heaven
Take back the gift that it had given ? "
The young and beautiful lies dead.
The bright and loving spirit 's fled ;
Earth draped in mourning, nevermore,
With sunniest beams can joy restore.
Ye starry watchers of the night !
Ye saw her spirit's upward flight ;
Wearied she of mortal woe,
And heav'nward flew, the way to show ?

"Earth to Earth, T>ust to Dust."

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" Earth to earth, and dust to dust !
Saviour, in thy word we trust."
Death is not the spirit's night,
But dawning of eternal light.
O'er Lazarus laid in his tomb,
On earth you wept, in mortal gloom.
Soft as Hermon's dews distil,
Our hearts with heav'nlj^ solace fill!
Teach us to feel — our hearts to say,
" Our Father knew the better way."

One 's needed for celestial choir,
He speaks: " My daughter, come up higher."

Lost one ! on summer ev'ning's close,
When tired Earth seeks soft repose.
Thy beck'ning hand from glowing skies
Will oft be seen by loving eyes.

New-Beene, N. C, Aug. 23, 1885.