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MODERN  WOMAN 

HER  INTENTIONS 


BY 


FLORENCE   FARR 
III 


LONDON 
FRANK    PALMER 

12-14    RED    LION    COURT 


Another  fire  has  come  into  the  harp, 

Fire  from  beyond  the  world,  and  wakens  it: 

It  has  begun  to  cry  out  to  the  eagles  ! 

W.  B.  Yeats, 
Second  version  oj '**  Shadowy  Waters." 


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First  published  igio.     All  rights  reserved 


CONTENTS 


PREFACE 

Mr,  Galsworthy's  toy  dog — Jewish  religion — Em- 
i      ology page       2 

I 

THE    VOTE 

Latent  period  before  explosion — Refusal  of  the  vote 
has  given  impetus  to  revolutionary  enthusiasm — 
Thin  end  of  the  wedge  —  Ingenuity  of  women — 
A  working  woman  and  the  hospital  official's 
chivalry — Thirty-two  million  workers,  half-million 
independent  means,  two  million  of  idle  spinsters 
in  England  and  Wales — Our  wants       .         .         .15 

II 

women's  incomes 

Lucrative  professions  for  women — Opera  singing — 
Theatrical,  Literature,  Medical,  Expert,  and 
average  incomes — Other  work — Independent  in- 
comes— Marriage  for  money — Courtesans,  prosti- 
tutes, and  riff-raff — Economic  independence  is  a 
way  of  ennobling  sex  relations — Marriage  often 
settles  down  into  business  partnership — The  work- 
ing man's  wife — Eugenic  advantages  of  economic 
independence — Racial  and  social  ideals  are  opposed 
to  each  other  at  present 25 

III 

THE   VARIATIONS    OF   LOVE 

The  difficulty  of  a  lasting  attachment — Enthusiasm 
of  youth — English  girls  apt  to  mistake  interest  for 
love — The  virtuous  wife — The  flow  and  ebb  of  the 
tide  of  love — Permanent  relations  often  founded 
on  mutual  contempt — Jealousy  of  relations — Mr. 
Harold  Gorst's  Philosophy  of  Love — The  marriage 

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Contents 

tie  must  persist  because  it  suits  one  half  of  the 
population — Six  million  bachelors  and  seven 
million  spinsters  in  England  and  Wales — The 
ostracism  of  the  unfaithful  is  more  often  the  cause 
of  disease  becoming  serious  than  infidelity — The 
emotional  degradation  of  a  loveless  marriage    page     33 

IV 

THE    SORDID    DIVORCE 

Marriage  laws  to  be  reformed — Binding  marriage  in 
the  Catholic  Church — Bond  of  parenthood — The 
bond  between  the  unattractive  people — Heiresses 
— The  childless — The  extraordinarily  attractive — 
Sordidness  of  English  divorce — Restitution  of  con- 
jugal rights — Suggested  reform — Agreement  in 
wishing  for  divorce  should  be  the  first  cause  for  it 
— Questions  of  fortune  or  wealth  to  be  fought  out 
on  economic  grounds — Boredom  the  chief  reason 
that  people  part,  but  too  insulting  to  be  mentioned 
in  public — French  dot — Sale  of  beauty — Sale  of 
helpmate — Fixed  allowance  for  "  bed  "  and  fixed 
allowance  for  "  board  " — The  birth  of  child  should 
automatically  make  a  bond  as  in  remote  country 
places — The  Saturday  orgy  and  prudence — 
Drugging  and  prudence — The  police  court  and  the 
wife's  housekeeping  money — A  romance  of  the 
mining  world         .         .         .         .         .         .         .     41 

V 

THE  GREEN  HOUSES  OF  JAPAN 

Edmond  de  Goncourt's  account  of  courtesans  in  Tokio 
— Urgent  danger  of  delay  in  reform — Fear  of  the 
spread  of  contagious  disease — A  trades  union  for 
prostitutes — The  good  of  Public  Health  in  this 
matter  the  good  of  future  generations — Clean  bill 
of  health  gives  special  susceptibility — Les  A  vane's 
— Anti-social  rage — The  various  moral  standards 
of  women — Dangers  of  promiscuity  not  so  great 
as  the  dangers  of  a  cut  finger  or  chapped  lip — 
The  sale  of  virginity — Intoxication  leads  to 
promiscuity,  but  it  is  not  natural  to  the  average 
woman — The  ardour  of  a  fresh  lover  her  greatest 
temptation — Is  charm  of  value  as  a  racial  factor? 
The  attitude  of  marrying  women  .         .         -53 


Contents 

VI 

BEAUTY  AND  MOTHERHOOD 

The  terror  of  motherhood — Women  will  specialize — 
Lovers  of  men  and  lovers  of  children — A  woman 
has  an  instinct  for  the  right  father  for  her  child  ; 
but  often  chooses  a  bad  lifelong  companion  for 
herself — Useless  old  ethical  codes — Practical  sug- 
gestion for  race  betterment — Sterilization  of  the 
unfit — Education  in  the  laws  of  sexual  health — 
— Motherly  women  with  no  chance  of  children — 
Unmotherly  women  attractive  to  men  and  very 
good  helpmates — Surgical  aid  for  the  tuberculosis 
child-producer  —  Prejudices  —  Intellectual  edu- 
cation .......  page     63 

VII 

THE    NEW    PSYCHOLOGY 

Life  Consciousness — The  Man,  the  Insect,  the  Tree 
are  representatives  of  Intellect,  Instinct,  and 
Torpid  Consciousness — Henri  Bergson  and  William 
James — The  interplay  of  the  three  kinds  of  con- 
sciousness— Motherhood  and  the  vegetative  con- 
sciousness— Choosing  the  mate  and  the  instinctive 
consciousness — The  Matriarchal  civilization — The 
surprises  instinct  prepares  for  intellect  in  dreams 
and  inventions  ......     70 

VIII 

THE    IMAGINATIVE    WOMAN 

Physical  love,  reproduction — Emotional  love,  a 
satisfaction  or  enjoyment — Scientific  curiosity 
about  love — Philosophic  and  sympathetic  under- 
standing of  all  sorts  of  love — Imaginative  love 
makes  the  consciousness  elemental — The  glory 
and  danger  of  imagination — Vicarious  imagina- 
tion in  reading — The  middle-aged  suppress  imagina- 
tion in  the  young — Saintly  beauty — Philosophy, 
Criticism,  Sensuousness,  and  commonplace  life — 
Madness,  Folly,  Drink,  Drugging — The  imagina- 
tive man  is  womanly  in  these  respects — Wein- 
inger's  Sex  and  Character — Forel,  Bloch — Mr. 
Austen  Chamberlain      ......     78 


Contents 

IX 

EXPERIMENTS 

Solitude  and  family — The  home — The  gay  societies 
of  the  past — Solemn  experiments  in  love— Civiliza- 
tion a  protection  from,  or  concealment  of,  the 
animal  necessities — Eating  in  public — Privacy — 
When  truth  is  goodness — Useful  conventions — 
Saint  Teresa  and  her  men  friends — Lead  the  way 
if  you  want  to  make  an  experiment ;  if  you  want 
to  follow  anyone,  it  is  a  sign  you  should  follow  the 
herd page     84 

X 

THE    SAVAGE,    THE    BARBARIAN,    THE    CIVILIZED 

The  Spaniard,  the  Russian,  the  Parisian — Intellect, 
art,  morals,  religion,  and  women — Conspicuousness 
— The  fight  against  the  patriarchal  goat — The 
passing  love — The  necessity  of  many  friends — The 
real  play  of  the  life  to  come         .         .         .         .     91 


PREFACE 

There  is  a  great  difficulty  in  writing  of  the 
women  of  the  first  ten  years  of  the  twentieth 
century.  This  is  to  be  the  Woman's  Century. 
In  it  she  is  to  awake  from  her  long  sleep  and 
come  into  her  kingdom  ;  but  when  I  look 
about  me  I  find  myself  surrounded  by  the 
most  terribly  contradictory  facts.  We  know 
there  is  to  be  a  revaluation  of  all  values — we 
know  that  old  rubbish  is  to  be  burnt  up,  that 
the  social  world  is  to  be  melted  down  and  re- 
moulded "  nearer  to  the  heart's  desire  "  ;  but 
at  the  same  time  we  have  to  recognize  that  in 
spite  of  the  enthusiasm  of  the  alchemists  and 
the  transmuters  of  base  metal  into  gold,  the 
main  body  of  society  is  as  yet  hardly  aware 
of  the  fire  that  is  to  burn  it. 

In  writing  of  this  change  I  have  to  explain 
to  one  set  of  women,  who  will  think  me  out- 
rageously advanced,  my  opinions  of  another 

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set  of  women,  who  will  think  me  absurdly 
conventional. 

I  think  I  had  better  own  up  at  once  that 
as  an  artist  I  am  prejudiced  against  the  ex- 
hibition of  the  necessities  of  nature.  I  am 
like  Mr.  Galsworthy's  little  toy  terrier,  who 
disliked  the  strong  odours  of  real  life.  Yet  at 
the  same  time  I  have  a  passion  for  the  dis- 
cussion of  life  ;  the  salt  of  wit  makes  me  enjoy 
the  strongest  flavours.  So  I  present  myself 
and  my  limitations  to  my  readers,  hoping  that 
my  fervid  faith  in  the  delight  of  the  com- 
munion of  thoughts,  emotions,  and  sympa- 
thies will  make  up  for  my  lack  of  conviction 
in  some  other  directions. 

Before  we  proceed  any  further  I  think  I 
ought  to  point  out  that  the  degradation  of 
women  in  the  past  originated  in  the  region  of 
the  country  round  Mount  Ararat.  The  lower- 
ing of  their  status  occurred  when  the  white 
races  adopted  the  Assyrian  Semite's  Scrip- 
tures. The  Christian  religion  brought  us  that 
curse  cowering  behind  its  gospel  of  glad 
tidings  ;  and  it  is  most  remarkable  to  trace 
the  way  in  which  the  Jews'  religion  crept  into 

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Europe  under  the  cloak  of  Christianity.  In 
heaven,  the  Gospel  says,  there  is  love,  but 
neither  marriage  or  giving  in  marriage.  Are 
we  to  wait  for  heaven  or  the  millennium  before 
the  present  *  tern  of  marrying  and  selling  in 
marriage  shall  be  abolished  ?  Everyone  who 
has  read  a  modern  encyclopaedia  is  familiar 
with  the  fact  that  the  first  chapters  of  Genesis 
are  made  up  of  two  different  narratives.  One, 
called  the  Priestly  narrative,  from  the  begin- 
ning to  the  first  part  of  the  fourth  verse  of  the 
second  chapter  of  Genesis,  and  continued  in 
the  first  five  verses  of  the  fifth  chapter.  There 
is  nothing  derogatory  to  women  in  this  narra- 
tive. The  unpleasant  details  about  Adam 
and  Eve  a  3  in  the  Prophetic  narrative,  which 
is  given  from  the  second  part  of  the  fourth 
verse  of  the  second  chapter  to  the  twenty- 
sixth  verse  of  the  fourth  chapter.  The  Jews 
have  taken  advantage  of  the  confusion  of 
these  two  contradictory  stories  to  fix  the  blame 
of  all  social  evils  on  Eve,  just  as  the  Hesiod, 
influenced  by  Eastern  legend,  fixed  it  on 
Pandora.  These  myths  come  from  the  same 
region,  a  region  in  which  women  were  kept 

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entirely  for  the  amusement  and  service  of 
men,  and  were  humbled  by  every  kind  of 
insult  that  the  Semite  mind  could  invent. 
Women  have  a  very  long  score  to  settle  with 
the  Jews  and  the  Mahommedans.  Even 
Hindoo  women  were  comparatively  respected 
and  free  until  the  Mahommedans  brought 
their  ideas  into  Hindostan.  And  I  am  told 
that  in  nearly  every  city  of  ill-fame  in  the 
world  the  profits  arising  from  the  procuring 
of  girls  are  collected  by  the  Chosen  Nation. 
The  Semites  founded  their  opinion  of  women 
on  fabulous  legends  and  false  science.  They 
assert  that  man  gives  the  spirit  and  woman 
the  matter  to  the  child.  Embryology  has 
now  taught  us  that  the  parents  make  exactly 
equal  contributions  of  chromatin,  or  the  active 
element,  to  the  original  cell  from  which  a  child 
develops.  It  has  taught  us  that,  originally, 
cells  are  capable  of  self-reproduction  ;  that 
sex  is  not  always  a  vital  necessity,  but  often 
a  device  for  securing  variety.  It  has  taught 
us  by  experiment  that  boys  come  from  their 
mother's  right  side,  and  girls  from  her  left 
side,  and  in  a  healthy  mother  the  rhythm  of  sex 

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is  regular.  The  symbolism  of  the  Fall  might 
indeed  apply  to  the  history  of  the  cell  which 
at  first  contains  its  own  force  of  reproduction, 
but  in  the  case  of  a  female  ovum  deliberately 
parts  with  some  of  its  original  power  in  order 
that  it  may  be  replaced  by  the  vital  power  of 
a  male.  The  male  cell  also  rends  itself  apart, 
and  becomes  quite  unfit  for  reproductive  pur- 
poses until  it  can  find  another  cell  with  which 
to  join.  In  the  simple  facts  which  have  been 
observed  through  microscopes  there  is  no 
place  for  the  overweening  pride  of  the  Semite 
race  in  the  virtue  of  maleness  ;  and  I  can 
only  hope  that  it  was  ignorance  and  not  malice 
that  led  the  Jews  and  the  Arabs  to  spread 
false  doctrine*  on  the  subject  of  sex.  It  is  un- 
fortunate that  the  first  patriarchs,  from  whom 
they  proudly  count  their  descent,  had  much 
in  common  with  the  primitive  goat  worship- 
pers, who  were  responsible  for  the  one-sided 
arrangements  for  sexual  contentment  common 
in  harems  and  the  other  patriarchal  institu- 
tions I  have  mentioned. 

In  the  great  mediaeval  revival,  the  real  age 

of    chivalry    and    troubadours,    the    knights 

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carried  their  ladies'  colours  to  victory  in  vain. 
The  old  lies  are  in  our  blood — we  still  believe 
in  Eve  and  her  shame.  White  men  have 
fought  in  the  past,  and  it  remains  for  white 
women  to  fight  now,  and  at  last  rid  their  sex 
all  over  the  world  of  the  ignominy  of  this 
false  doctrine. 


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THE   VOTE 

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Modern  Woman 
Her  Intentions 


THE   VOTE 

> 

It  is  my  conviction  that  all  great  changes 
come  from  a  force  that  after  many  years  of 
silence  blazes  with  emot|  nal,  passionate  en- 
thusiasm. That  long  period  of  torpid  latent 
life,  once  it  is  liberated  from  prison,  gives 
driving  power.  Without  silence  and  darkness 
no  new  creature  can  be  brought  forth.  With- 
out resistance  no  great  desire  can  be  felt.  It  is 
i     the  same  with  the  woman's  movement. 

When  the  vote  was  refused,  the  first  artillery 
for  the  woman's  army  was  forged.  That  little 
request  for  the  vote  might  have  been  granted 
three  years  ago  without  making  any  more  dif- 
ference than  the  borough  council  vote  here, 
or  the  parliamentary  vote  in  New  Zealand, 
Australia,  Norway,  Finland,  and  so  forth, 
has  made  already.  That  little  request,  that 
might  have  pa  sed  almost   unnoticed  had  it 

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been  granted,  has  raised  up  a  powerful  body 
of  feeling  on  both  sides,  that  will  end  in 
one  of  the  greatest  social  revolutions  of  the 
time. 

Whether  women  are  militant  or  anti-militant, 
whether  they  ask  for  the  vote  in  order  to  fight 
the  working  man  or  to  join  hands  with  him, 
whether  they  content  themselves  with  words 
of  approval  and  donations,  or  whether  they 
lose  their  tempers  in  denunciation  of  the  un- 
feminine  behaviour  of  certain  brave  enthusiasts 
— yet  all  the  women  of  many  opinions  are 
alike  rousing  themselves  from  their  former 
deadly  attitude  of  quiescent  acceptance. 

The  most  violent  anti-suffragette  is  obliged 
to  try  to  understand  the  questions  of  social 
reform  in  order  to  protest  against  them.  The 
most  downtrodden  wife  is  hearing  rumours 
that  even  now  there  are  laws  which  might 
protect  her  from  domestic  tyranny.  The 
county  ladies  who  never  read  anything  but 
The  Queen,  The  Spectator,  or  Punch,  protest 
against  the  struggle,  but  admit  that  it  is  time 
that  women  of  property  had  a  vote  now  that 
their  butlers  and  coachmen  have  obtained 
that  privilege.  The  "  too  old  at  thirty " 
brigade  is  carrying  the  campaign  into  the  ball- 
room and  skating-rink.  All  this  is  familiar  to 
everyone  that  moves  in  English  society  to- 
day, and  one  word  of  terror  used  by  men  who 
oppose  the  vote  is  heard  on  all  sides.     They 

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The  Vote 

say  the  vote  is  "  the  thin  end  of  the  wedge," 
and  I  reply  gladly  from  my  side — not  only  as 
a  suffragist,  but  as  an  onlooker  at  the  loves 
and  hatreds  of  the  sexes — I  reply  that  the 
)  wedge  is  being  driven  every  day.  Every  day 
of  delay  in  giving  women  the  vote  gives  them 
a  power  far  more  deadly,  a  hope  more  dan- 
gerous, an  accomplishment  far  more  vital. 
It  gives  them  the  power  of  standing  up  for 
themselves,  freed  from  the  belief  in  the  pro- 
tection of  men.  It  gives  them  hope  in  each 
other.  It  teaches  them  to  speak  for  themselves, 
and  discover  the  force  of  their  eloquence  and 
the  ingenuity  of  their  resources.  It  is  im- 
possible to  go  to  a  meeting  of  the  militant 
party  without  feeling  amazement  at  the 
dexterity  of  all  concerned.  With  wit,  with 
banter,  with  beauty,  with  dignity,  awkward 
questions  are  answered,  coarse,  jokes. 'are  frus- 
trated, and  swift  as  light  the  laugh  is  turned 
against  the  interrupter. 

The  odd  contrast  between  the  scenes  we 
personally  witness  and  the  same  scenes  serve'd 
up  for  breakfast  by  the  daily  press,  is  having 
some  effect  in  breaking  up  the  touching  faith 
of  our  foremothers  in  the  accuracy  of  news- 
paper reports.  Women  are  awake  to  public 
affairs  for  the  first  time  since  the  matriarchal 
period.  They  are  weighing  the  evidence  of 
the  press,  they  are  considering  political  facts. 
They  are  said  to  be  losing  the  chivalrous 
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adoration  of  men.  But  in  contrast  to  the 
politeness  of  men  to  well-dressed,  good-looking 
women,  I  would  call  attention  to  the  attitude 
of  a  respectable  hospital  official  towards  a 
poor  woman  who,  in  November,  1909,  brought 
her  little  boy  as  an  out-patient. 

She  arrived  very  early  in  order  to  be  able 
to  go  to  her  work  with  as  little  delay  as  possi- 
ble, and  secured  a  seat  before  the  men,  who 
came  in  later.  When  the  attendant  entered, 
she  was  made  to  go  back  to  the  last  seat  of 
all  and  wait  for  her  son  to  take  his  turn  until 
all  the  elder  males  had  been  interviewed. 
"  Men  come  first,  your  place  is  at  the  back," 
was  all  the  answer  she  got  to  her  protests. 
So  much  for  chivalry  when  a  woman  is  poor 
and  worn  with  labour.  It  is  pathetic  to  see 
the  working  woman,  apologetic  for  her  poverty, 
apologetic,  for  her  womanhood,  apologetic  for 
her  ill-health  or^any  temporary  need  of  help. 
AriH  T  say  that  the  working  woman's  heroic 
patience  has  been  attained  by  centuries  of 
ill-usage  and  lack  of  chivalry.  Most  women 
would  not  understand  the  idea  of  chivalry 
if  it  were  explained  to  them,  so  little  does 
it  come  within  their  range  of  experience. 
We  have  no  conception  of  the  size  of  the  mass 
we  are  dealing  with.  In  England  and  Wales 
there  are  about  17  million  females.  Of  these 
females,  13  million  are  past  childhood,  roughly 
speaking   6   million    of   these   are   unmarried, 

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7  million  are  married  or  widows.  About 
9  million  married  and  unmarried  women  are 
unoccupied,  or  have  retired  from  business ; 
about  4  million  are  engaged  in  occupations, 
and  trying  to  make  their  own  living.  Of  the 
16  million  males,  about  2  million  are  unoccu- 
pied or  retired,  io  million  are  occupied,  and 
the  rest  are  children.  Now  we  find  from  the 
last  census  that  about  7  million  women  are 
in  charge  of  a  family,  and  3  million  of  these 
are  occupied  in  business  ;  6  million  women 
are  unmarried,  about  1  million  of  these  are 
occupied  in  business,  and  nearly  \  million 
have  independent  means.  Making  allowance 
for  the  very  young,  we  have  about  2§  million 
grown  women  in  a  dependent  position  without 
a  husband  or  an  occupation  in  England  and 
Wales  alone. 

If  one  spends  an  afternoon  studying  the 
census  returns,  one  sees  in  all  occupations  the 
well-paid  businesses  are  for  men,  and  the  ill- 
paid  for  women.  In  general  and  local  govern- 
ment, defence  of  the  country,  and  professional 
occupations,  326  thousand  women  only  have 
subordinate  posts,  but  there  are  nearly  2 
million  in  domestic  service.  Textile  manufac- 
tures, 663  thousand;  dress,  710  thousand;  food 
and  lodging,  300  thousand,  but  in  commerce 
and  finance  only  60  thousand. 

Men  can  no  longer  support  their  daughters, 
and  daughters  cannot  command  good  positions 

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in  lucrative  professions.  There  are  only 
7  million  families,  and  at  least  4  million 
grown-up  women,  unmarried  and  superfluous 
as  mothers.  The  working  man  tells  these 
women  to  "go  home  and  do  the  washing." 
"  Well,"  a  virgin  replies,  "  one  million  of  us 
are  working  at  laundry  and  other  work,  under 
half  a  million  of  us  are  amusing  ourselves  on 
independent  incomes,  and  the  rest  of  us  have 
to  while  away  life  somehow  without  money  or 
occupation,  so  we  are  making  a  revolution." 

The  struggle  for  the  vote  is  putting  heart 
into  the  superfluous  woman,  and  it  is  putting 
the  hope  of  reorganizing  the  market  value  of 
women's  labour  into  her  heart.  We  not  only 
want  work,  but  we  want  good  wages.  If  we 
have  children  we  want  to  be  sure  they  will  be 
cared  for  and  fed.  If  we  keep  house  we  want 
our  wages.  The  12  million  females  that  have 
no  independent  income  cry  out  to  the  \  million 
that  has  an  independent  income,  in  their 
almost  hopeless  struggle  to  win  fair  wages. 
It  is  interesting  to  think  that  out  of  the  total 
population  of  about  32!  million  in  England 
and  Wales,  a  very  little  over  f  million  are 
living  on  independent  incomes,  and  we  find 
that  there  are  less  than  100,000  heirs,  and 
more  than  400,000  heiresses  in  this  country. 
The  rest,  that  is  32  million,  have  to  work  or 
starve  so  as  to  save  enough  for  their  old  age. 
Each  person  that  lives  at  ease  is  surrounded 

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by  sixty-five  people  that  have  to  struggle. 
Each  woman  that  has  a  husband  knows  that 
a  widow  or  spinster  stands  portionless  beside 
her.  Figures  are  abstractions,  but  behind 
these  figures  are  facts  and  problems  that  are 
driving  us  before  them  with  such  resistless 
cruelty  that  at  last  we  are  determined  to  cry 
halt  and  make  a  fight — vote  or  no  vote  ! 


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II 

WOMEN'S   INCOMES 


II 

women's  incomes 

Let  us  say  that  certain  prime  donne  can  earn 
£25,000  a  year  for  a  few  years,  that  the  most 
successful  London  actress  may  receive  a  salary 
of  £5000  a  year,  that  a  successful  novelist  may 
get  a  few  thousands  a  year  by  her  books,  that 
a.  lady  doctor  or  dressmaker  may  make  £1000 
a  year,  and  you  have  admitted  all  that  can 
be  said  in  favour  of  the  present  means  women 
have  of  making  a  large  income  on  the  same 
lines  as  men.  I  suppose  the  average  successful 
singer  is  delighted  with  £1000  a  year,  the 
average  successful  actress  with  £10  a  week  or 
£500  a  year,  the  average  novelist  with  £300 
a  year,  and  the  average  lady  doctor  with  the 
same.  In  an  institution  which  gives  £1000  a 
year  to  its  male  principal,  we  find  the  lady 
superintendent  receiving  £200  a  year,  and 
the  male  secretary  £350.  Women  find  it  hard 
to  get  any  professional  income  out  of  the 
Government  offices,  the  Church,  or  the  law 
courts.  In  the  Post  Office  and  in  all  educational 
work  the  disparities  between  the  salaries  of 
men  and  women  is  well  known.    And  I  think 

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we  may  take  it  for  granted  that  the  average 
business  income  of  an  everyday  sort  of  woman, 
working  hard,  is  less  than  £100  a  year.  The 
income  of  a  charwoman  in  London,  we  know, 
is  2s.  6d.  a  day,  or  a  possible  15s.  a  week — 
that  is,  3d.  an  hour,  exactly  half  a  man's 
minimum  wage. 

These  are  a  few  well-known  facts.  The 
reason  is  that  women  are  said  to  have  "  other 
means  "  of  earning  a  livelihood.  First  among 
these  comes  the  comfortable  possibility  of  in- 
heriting money  from  relations.  Many  great 
heiresses  and  little  heiresses  are  to  be  found 
among  the  conservative  forces  of  the  land, 
for  these  women  have  nothing  to  gain  and 
everything  to  lose  by  changing  the  present 
state  of  things.  They  and  the  insurance 
offices  alike  prosper  on  the  present  foundations 
of  English  family  life. 

Next  comes  the  probably  miserable  alterna- 
tive of  marrying  a  rich  husband.  It  is  a  very 
curious  thing  that  it  is  harder  for  a  rich  man 
to  be  naturally  attractive  to  women  than  it  is 
for  the  camel  to  pass  through  the  needle's 
eye,  and  the  consequence  is  that  women  gener- 
ally have  a  more  or  less  unhappy  domestic 
life  when  they  definitely  marry  for  a  livelihood. 

Then  we  have  the  adventuress,  who  succeeds 
in  making  a  handsome  income  by  the  un- 
scrupulous use  of  her  intelligence  and  charm. 
After  that  come  the  various  types  of  women 

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who  hire  themselves  or  are  hired  out  for  the 
relief  of  excitable  gentlemen.  And  lastly  the 
crowd  of  desolate  diseased  refuse  who  pick  up  a 
living  any  way  they  can,  in  ways  too  horrible  to 
think  of,  by  the  practice  of  vulgar  indecency. 

All  these  incomes  which  are  earned  by 
women,  either  by  their  tenderness  and  charm 
or  by  their  bestiality,  are,  together  with  the 
family  inheritances,  the  real  reasons  why 
women  as  a  sex  are  not  made  economically 
independent  on  the  same  lines  as  men.  The 
father  of  a  family  longs  to  save  his  daughters 
from  the  temptations  of  poverty,  and  if  they 
do  what  he  bids  them  he  insures  his  life  in 
their  favour.  The  husband  prefers  to  keep 
his  wife  dancing  to  the  tune  he  pays  for,  so 
he  makes  her  allowance  dependent  on  his  own 
mood  of  the  moment.  The  infatuated  boy 
considers  he  is  seeing  life  when  he  spends  his 
money  recklessly  on  an  adventuress.  All 
these  women  can  undersell  other  women  in 
the  labour  market,  because  they  have  incomes 
which  make  them  independent  of  what  they 
may  earn  there.  They  are,  in  a  kind  of  way, 
what  the  strike  organizers  would  call  "  black- 
legs "  :  they  make  life  more  difficult  for  the 
women  who  must  work  to  live  or  starve. 

Again,  the  magic  of  love  is  destroyed  by 
the  thought  of  money.  And  love  is  very  apt 
to  evaporate  when  such  thoughts  flame  up  in 
the  mind. 

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The  hope  I  see  for  the  ennobling  of  sex 
relations  is  that  women  should,  by  some  means 
never  yet  thought  of,  become  independent  of 
the  caprice  of  individual  man. 

The  average  middle-class  Englishman,  I 
believe,  looks  upon  his  married  life  as  a  kind 
of  business  partnership,  in  which  he  pays 
money  in  order  that  he  may  not  be  worried 
about  the  care  of  his  clothes  or  his  food  or  his 
affectional  needs.  These  things  once  settled 
and  put  under  the  care  of  a  sensible  woman, 
he  can  devote  his  thoughts  to  business,  to 
betting,  to  cards,  to  golf,  or  any  other  amuse- 
ment he  may  select  to  ensure  that  he  may  not 
become  a  "  dull  man."  The  average  working 
man,  of  course,  not  only  marries  a  housekeeper, 
a  cook,  a  maid-of-all-work,  but  the  mother 
and  nurse  of  his  continuous  flow  of  offspring, 
and  the  butt  of  his  temper  when  the  world 
has  used  him  ill.  -  s: 

If  any  hope  of  eventual  economic  freedom 
isto  come  for  the  whole  sex,  I  stand  aghast  to 
think  of  all  the  antagonistic  interests  that 
will  have  to  be  reconciled.  It  will  be  worse 
than  the  Budget.  The  wives  will  have  to 
stand  out  for  fixed  allowances.  The  mothers 
will  have  to  make  their  bargain  either  with 
their  husbands  or  the  State,  whichever  wants 
their  children  most.  The  housekeepers  will 
have  to  take  their  wages  like  the  other  servants. 

The  women  of  the  adventuress  class  are  a 

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hopeless  problem.  They  are  worth  a  hundred 
a  week  at  one  moment,  and  nothing  at  all 
a  few  weeks  later  perhaps.  Their  trade  is  so 
dangerous.  But  we  can  cheer  ourselves  up 
with  the  statistics  which  tell  us  they  are  in 
England  and  Wales  numbered  by  thousands 
only,  whereas  we  are  dealing  at  present  with 
the  problem  of  seventeen  millions  of  women. 

We  have,  then,  four  classes  of  women — the 
heiresses,  the  portionless  wives,  the  courtesans, 
and  the  prostitutes — who  stand  in  the  way 
of  the  economic  independence  of  women 
because  they  appear  to  be  better  off  under 
the  present  state  of  disorganization.  The 
labour  market  for  women  is  of  course  per- 
meated by  their  influence.  The  rich  women 
who  work  for  nothing,  the  wives  who  "  get 
round  '  their  husbands,  the  courtesans  who 
command  the  "  flesh  market,"  the  prostitutes, 
who  are  ignored  by  the  rest  of  their  sex,  but 
revenge  themselves  on  the  ignorant  by  spread- 
ing disease  and  sorrow  among  the  happy  and 
healthy. 

The  record  of  the  overwhelming  advantages 
of  the  economic  independence  of  women  can 
hardly  be  compressed  into  the  compass  of 
this  chapter.  It  would  make  love  marriages 
possible.  It  is  almost  certain  that  a  love 
marriage  on  the  woman's  side  is  one  of  the 
most  important  elements  for  good  in  the  pro- 
duction of  a  fine  race.     If  a  girl  were  free  to 

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choose  according  to  her  inclination,  there  is 
practically  no  doubt  that  she  would  choose 
the  right  father  for  her  child,  however  badly 
she  might  choose  a  lifelong  companion  for 
herself. 

This  is,  of  course,  true  about  both  the  sexes 
to  a  certain  extent,  although  average  men 
are  much  less  dainty  about  these  matters  than 
the  average  woman.  If  we  could  remove  the 
economic  considerations  from  parenthood  it 
would  help  towards  the  invigoration  of  the 
race. 

The  sad  part  of  this  question  is  that  accord- 
ing to  all  the  great  racial  ideals  women  ought 
to  be  economically  independent,  but,  accord- 
ing to  all  little  social  ideals,  it  seems  inevitable 
that  her  independence  will  be  resisted  to  the 
last. 


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THE  VARIATIONS  OF  LOVE 


Ill 

THE   VARIATIONS   OF   LOVE 

We  cannot  trust  ourselves  to  make  a  real 
love-knot  unless  money  or  custom  forces  us 
to  "  bear  and  forbear."  There  is  always  the 
lurking  fear  that  we  shall  not  be  able  to  keep 
faith  unless  we  swear  upon  the  Book.  This  is, 
of  course,  not  true  of  young  lovers.  Every 
first  love  is  born  free  of  tradition  ;  indeed, 
not  only  is  first  love  innocent  and  valiant,  but 
it  sweeps  aside  all  the  wise  laws  it  has  been 
taught,  and  burns  away  experience  in  its 
own  light.  The  revelation  is  so  extraordinary, 
so  unlike  anything  told  by  the  poets,  so  ab- 
sorbing, that  it  is  impossible  to  believe  that 
the  feeling  can  die  out.  Sometimes  one  feels 
a  great  pity  for  the  lovers  in  England,  because 
young  English  girls  are  very  apt  to  mistake 
a  feeling  of  gratified  vanity  and  the  emotion 
of  a  new  sensation  for  love  of  some  special 
man  who  happens  to  make  love  to  them  at 
the  propitious  moment.  Many  faithful  women 
go  through  life  enduring  the  love  of  a  man 
whom  they  care  for  very  moderately,  who, 
on  his  side,  congratulates  himself  on  having 
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found  a  virtuous  wife.  It  is  lucky  for  these 
people  that  probably  the  wife,  in  her  limited 
circle  of  acquaintances,  will  never  meet  the 
man  who  ought  to  have  been  her  mate. 

I  have  often  talked  to  the  apparently  con- 
tented mother  of  a  family,  when  some  little 
word  reveals  to  me  that  it  is  possible  to  be 
the  mother  of  a  man's  children  merely  by 
putting  up  with  his  caresses  while  one  thinks 
about  some  other  subject.  Is  it  any  wonder 
that  the  race  becomes  more  and  more  anaemic 
and  bored  with  existence  as  generation  follows 
generation  ? 

Other  wives  have  loved  their  husbands  with 
passion,  and  perhaps  for  two  years  their  devo- 
tion has  steadily  increased,  but  the  husband 
meanwhile  has  known  many  ecstasies  and 
wearinesses.  His  love  is  like  the  waves,  which 
follow  each  other  as  periods  of  dullness  follow 
moments  of  rapture.  Hers  has  been  like  the 
tide,  increasing  in  devotion  and  tenderness  ; 
but  the  tide  turns  at  last,  and  the  dancing  of 
the  waves  can  do  very  little  to  stay  its  ebbing. 
I  think  men  are  justified  who  say  that  women 
either  love  too  much  for  their  taste  or  not 
at  all. 

Some  women  say  they  could  love  their 
husbands  better  if  they  did  not  see  so  much 
of  the  unromantic  side  of  their  lives.  The 
holes  in  a  man's  socks  are  not  the  most  en- 
dearing remembrances  in  the  world. 

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The  onty  permanent  relations  are  founded  on 
mutual  contempt.  Brothers  and  sisters  have 
no  illusions  about  each  other,  and  if  they  feel 
any  affection  at  all  it  is  a  steadfast  one.  Alas  ! 
the  close  knowledge  of  weaknesses  very  seldom 
permits  the  affection  to  show  through  the 
contempt.  Married  lovers  have  to  pass  from 
the  state  of  love,  which  is  so  apt  to  be  a  state 
of  delusion,  to  the  state  of  clear-sighted  affec- 
tion.   The  ordeal  is  one  which  very  few  survive. 

Another  tragedy  of  love  is  jealousy.  A  man 
or  woman  is  very  often  jealous  of  the  part- 
ner's brothers  and  sisters,  or  other  relations. 
Those  who  love  wish  to  be  all  in  all  to  each 
other,  those  who  quarrel  dislike  to  have  others 
taking  sides  in  their  quarrels.  This  funda- 
mental jealousy  of  relations  is  ever  apt  to 
break  into  a  flame,  besides  jealousy  of  the 
more  usual  kind. 

Mr.  Harold  Gorst  has  written  a  book  on 
The  Philosophy  of  Love,  in  which  he  points 
out  that  it  is  unwise  of  a  bridegroom  to  take 
instant  possession  of  his  bride.  He  maintains 
that  the  usual  programme,  in  which  a  wife 
shows  all  her  modesty  and  a  husband  all  his 
love  on  the  wedding-night,  is  an  absurd  waste 
of  the  honeymoon,  which  ought  to  be  spent  in 
a  gradual  approach  to  the  supreme  surrender. 
Again,  wives  are  too  apt  to  give  up  the  charm- 
ing resistances  which  are  necessary  to  the 
satisfaction    of    a    man's    emotional    nature. 

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Mr.  Gorst  cannot  imagine  that  a  husband 
would  tire  of  his  wife  if  she  kept  her  right  over 
her  own  body  with  a  firm  hand,  and  required 
wooing  every  time  she  yielded  to  the  wedding 
of  her  husband.  So  much  for  the  man  of  the 
world's  point  of  view. 

The  marriage  tie  is  a  way  of  keeping  people 
together  while  they  undergo  the  various  dis- 
illusions and  jealousies  that  are  inevitable, 
unless  one  of  them  is  prepared  to  give  way 
in  everything.  Is  there  any  better  way  ?  In 
most  cases,  no. 

The  marriage  tie  will  always  exist,  because 
it  is  the  natural  impulse  of  the  majority  of 
young  people  to  wish  to  love  each  other  alone, 
and  to  remain  with  each  other  for  ever.  The 
honeymoon  having  elapsed,  they  very  likely 
find  they  are  about  to  become  parents,  and 
they  spend  the  intervening  months  in  making 
happy  preparations.  Then  the  baby  is  born, 
and  has  to  be  brought  up  until  it  is  old  enough 
to  go  to  school.  If  there  are  three  children, 
they  have  to  be  looked  after  for  about  fourteen 
years.  The  wife  is  now  thirty-four,  and  the 
husband  thirty-eight.  The  children  are  placed 
in  various  schools  away  from  home.  Is  there 
any  alternative  to  the  rather  boring  life  that 
has  to  be  lived  out  until  death  parts  the 
parents  ?  None.  They  are  not  rich  enough 
to  travel  and  amuse  themselves,  so  the  wife 
goes   on  housekeeping  and  calling  on  neigh- 

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bours,  and  changing  her  servants,  and  the 
husband  goes  to  the  City,  plays  golf,  and  reads 
trashy  novels.  The  marriage  tie  must  always 
persist  while  these  people  exist. 

But  what  are  the  six  million  bachelors  and 
the  seven  million  spinsters  to  do  ?  Some  of 
them  are  very  young  ;  thousands  of  them  do 
not  wish  to  marry,  their  sexual  nature  is 
hardly  developed  more  than  a  child's  ;  others 
are  invalids,  openly  or  secretly  ;  and  a  good 
number  are  leading  illegally  arranged  lives 
because  the  present  marriage  laws  do  not 
suit  their  constitutions.  Among  the  grown- 
up population  about  half  the  number  are 
married,  and  the  other  half  unmarried.  Many 
of  these  marriages  are  unhappy,  and  it  is  to 
be  presumed  that  at  least  six  million  of  each 
sex  do  not  wish  to  marry  enough  to  overcome 
the  terrors  of  saying  what  they  want  for  ever, 
and  getting  it. 

Now,  having  regard  to  the  natural  variations 
of  love,  I  must  suggest  that  the  stigma  might 
be  removed  from  those  who  are  not  capable 
of  lifelong  fidelity.  There  seems  good  proof 
that  a  few  millions  of  men  and  women  are 
bringing  misery  upon  the  rest  because  they 
are  treated  as  unworthy  of  social  considera- 
tion. Medical  men  are  saying  that  the  disease 
which  is  undermining  the  health  of  the  nation 
is  dangerous  only  because  it  is  shameful.  It 
could  be  easily  cured  in  its  early  stages  if  it 

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could  be  treated  openly  and  without  ruining 
the  reputation  of  those  whom  it  attacks. 
Even  when  health  is  retained,  reputations 
are  lost  and  careers  are  ruined  in  order  to  prop 
up  the  tottering  institution  of  marriage  by 
making  it  the  only  refuge  for  the  respectable. 
But  until  it  is  acknowledged  that  it  is  not 
respectable  to  live  together  when  the  tempera- 
ments are  incompatible,  there  will  be  no  real 
virtue  in  the  married  state.  Never  to  want 
the  same  thing  at  the  same  time  is  a  more 
far-reaching  cause  of  emotional  degradation 
than  one  violent  outbreak  of  temper  under 
extreme  provocation.  It  is  more  degrading 
to  the  finer  feelings  than  a  temporary  aliena- 
tion of  marital  love.  One  would  imagine  that 
the  men  who  refuse  to  alter  the  divorce  laws 
really  do  believe  in  the  sacrament  of  the 
marriage  ceremony,  instead  of  in  the  sacra- 
ment of  the  true  love,  which  abides  when 
there  is  a  real  compatibility  of  temperament. 


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IV 
THE   SORDID    DIVORCE 


IV 

THE    SORDID    DIVORCE 

I  mentioned  in  passing  that  marriage  was  an 
institution  that  should  not  be  ended,  but 
should  be  mended.  In  the  first  place,  let  us 
inquire  whether  the  marriage  ceremony  is 
a  sacrament,  whether  parenthood  is  a  sacra- 
ment, and  why  marriage  should  be  binding. 
The  Catholic  Church  refuses  divorce  altogether 
on  the  ground  that  the  blessing  of  the  Church 
makes  the  contract  binding  till  death.  Parents 
with  children  are  generally  prepared  to  endure 
each  other  for  the  sake  of  their  family.  While 
women  are  economically  dependent  it  would 
be  pure  folly  for  them  to  advocate  marriage 
for  a  short  term.  Very  few  women  sncceed  in 
retaining  their  attraction  for  men  for  any  con- 
siderable length  of  time.  Ten  years  of  attrac- 
tiveness is  not  to  be  thought  of  in  the  majority 
of  cases.  While  a  man  holds  the  purse-strings 
he  can  always  find  someone  to  marry.  A 
woman  can  offer  nothing  but  her  power  of 
enchantment,  and  most  of  them  have  to  rely 
on  the  universal  enchantment  of  innocence 
which  can  only  be  offered  once. 

But  conditions  are  very  variable  even  now. 

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Women  hold  the  purse-strings  when  they  are 
heiresses.  They  are  as  free  as  men  when  they 
are  childless.  Ninon  de  l'Enclos  was  irre- 
sistible until  she  was  eighty,  apparently  be- 
cause she  was  amusing  as  well  as  fascinating. 
Under  such  circumstances  as  these  it  is  some- 
times wise  to  seek  divorce.  In  England  this 
cannot  be  done  without  outraging  every  feeling 
of  dignity  and  delicacy. 

Unless  one  of  the  married  pair  is  faithless, 
impotent,  cruel,  or  rich  enough  to  leave  the 
neighbourhood,  the  other  cannot  get  a  divorce. 
This  involves  discussing  the  secrets  of  the 
alcove  with  solicitors,  and  a  final  exposure  of 
your  domestic  concerns  in  the  law  courts,  for 
the  press  and  the  public  to  take  or  leave  as 
they  are  more  or  less  painful  to  you  and  amus- 
ing to  them. 

A  very  frequent  method  of  obtaining  a 
divorce  now  is  for  a  wife,  who  would  not 
touch  her  husband  with  a  besom  if  she  could 
help  it,  to  sue  publicly  for  restitution  of  con- 
jugal rights.  To  a  woman  of  any  delicacy 
such  a  demand  would  be  degrading,  even  if  it 
were  made  in  private.  To  be  obliged  to  make 
it  publicly  as  a  matter  of  form  is,  to  say  the 
least,  unpleasant  to  such  a  woman.  The  next 
proceeding  is  taken  when  a  certain  time  has 
elapsed  and  the  husband  has  not  noticed  the 
wife  who  has  to  pretend  to  be  pining  for  his 
forced  caresses. 

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I  confess  it  is  hard  to  realize  the  state  of  a 
woman  who  actually  can  desire  the  society 
of  a  man  who  is  weary  of  her.  I  have  not 
imagination  for  that,  I  am  afraid.  The  law 
was  made  by  men,  and  men  are  said  to  know 
women  better  than  they  know  each  other  ; 
also,  we  have  all  heard  of  the  charms  of  a  cap- 
tured or  unwilling  bride,  so  perhaps  it  is  an 
instance  in  which  men  have  done  for  women 
what  they  would  wish  to  have  done  for  them- 
selves. 

Whatever  the  reason  is,  the  law  is  there, 
and  when  the  husband  has  been  faithless  and 
refused  his  wife's  embraces,  he  has  done  suffi- 
cient to  justify  the  court  in  calling  him  guilty 
of  desertion  and  adultery,  and  a  decree  nisi  is 
pronounced.  Then,  if  no  evidence  of  collusion 
is  forthcoming,  and  the  court  can  make  believe 
that  one  of  the  parties  at  least  does  not  want 
to  be  divorced,  the  decree  is  made  absolute  in 
six  months.  Can  anyone  realize  that  the 
present  divorce  law  is  in  such  a  hopelessly 
stupid  state  ?  There  seems  no  possibility  of 
using  common  sense  in  a  law  court.  To  get 
a  divorce  you  must  not  agree  together  that 
it  is  a  desirable  step.  To  get  a  divorce  the 
innocent  person  must  speak  in  public  of  sub- 
jects no  innocent  person  would  care  to  mention 
in  private.  To  get  a  divorce  from  a  woman 
you  respect  at  all,  you  must  refuse  to  live 
with  her,  and  must  openly  commit  adultery, 

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at  the  same  time  making  no  arrangement 
with  her  as  to  how  she  is  to  get  rid  of  you. 
The  old  complaint  of  the  inequality  of  the 
divorce  laws  for  the  sexes  is  perhaps  of  im- 
portance, but  to  me  it  seems  a  small  thing  in 
comparison  to  the  general  sordidness  of  the 
whole  proceeding. 

Surely  the  one  cause  of  causes  for  a  divorce 
is  that  both  the  parties  want  it.  Some  simple 
form  of  procedure,  such  as  separation  on  the 
first  application,  to  be  followed  by  divorce  in 
six  months  if  the  parties  had  not  made  up 
their  differences  in  the  meantime,  should  be 
devised. 

The  difficulties  would  arise  in  cases  in  which 
the  parties  were  not  agreed,  and  I  am  afraid 
in  those  instances  the  question  of  money 
would  nearly  always  be  discovered  to  be  the 
root  of  the  trouble.  Ladies  would  be  found 
to  be  unaccountably  attached  to  their  hus- 
band's cheque-books  ;  and  gentlemen  unable 
to  separate  themselves  from  a  share  in  their 
wives'  dividends.  But  when  the  question  of 
fortune  or  wealth  enters  into  the  marriage 
bargain,  why  not  let  it  be  fought  out  on  that 
ground  ? 

Divorce  is  always  brought  about  because 
of  the  weariness  and  boredom  one  human 
being  causes  another.  Cruelty,  adultery, 
temporary  desertion,  every  kind  of  outrage 
can    be    borne    if    excitement    and    interest 

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counterbalance  suffering.  But  the  devotion 
of  the  whipped  dog  would  soon  be  exhausted 
if  the  dog  could  find  something  in  the  world 
which  interested  him  more  than  his  master. 
Curiosity  once  fully  satisfied,  tenderness 
balances  on  the  edge  of  the  precipice  of  bore- 
dom, and  may  topple  over  at  any  moment. 

Of  course  the  insult  of  being  considered  a 
bore  would  be  harder  to  bear  in  most  instances 
than  the  accusation  of  wickedness,  so  on  the 
whole  it  would  seem  advisable  to  keep  to  the 
good  old  formula  of  "  incompatibility  of 
temper,"  and  fight  out  the  money  questions 
on  their  own  merits. 

Now  the  merits  of  the  money  question  in 
marriage  have  never  been  properly  arranged. 
In  France  the  wife  has  her  own  dot,  as  a 
matter  of  course  ;  but  the  French  have  so 
carefully  adjusted  their  population  to  their 
pockets  that  we  can  only  bow  in  silent  ad- 
miration of  their  unparalleled  foresight. 

In  England  a  girl  very  often  marries  with- 
out any  fortune  of  her  own,  on  the  understand- 
ing either  that  she  is  beautiful  and  that  the 
husband  is  prepared  to  endow  her  with  all 
his  worldly  goods,  or  that  she  is  so  useful  that 
she  will  really  save  him  a  good  deal  of  money. 
If  she  is  very  beautiful,  her  relations  can  gener- 
ally get  a  settlement  made  on  her  ;  if  she  is 
only  useful,  she  is  lucky  if  she  can  induce  her 
husband  to  insure  his  life  in  her  favour.    The 

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merely  useful  wife  has  very  little  hold  on 
ready  money.  One  week  she  may  get  a  good 
sum  of  money,  another  week  nothing,  for  her 
household  expenses.  If  she  is  clever  and 
managing,  she  will  probably  gain  her  husband's 
confidence,  and  if  he  is  honest  and  has  a  regular 
income  they  may  be  very  comfortable  to- 
gether ;  but  under  other  conditions  the  affairs 
of  the  household  go  from  bad  to  worse,  and 
the  wife  is  only  a  very  inefficient  servant,  who 
may  get  her  keep,  but  who  will  certainly  not 
get  her  wages. 

I  can  only  suggest  that  the  position  of  wife 
and  mother  ought  to  legally  entitle  a  woman 
to  a  fixed  proportion  of  her  husband's  income, 
and  the  position  of  housekeeper  to  a  further 
proportion.  If,  as  is  often  the  case  in  upper 
and  middle-class  modern  marriage,  the  husband 
and  wife  do  not  live  in  the  connubial  state, 
the  legal  allowance  as  v/ife  and  mother  would 
not  be  made,  but  the  allowance  as  hostess 
and  housekeeper  could  be  enforced  as  long 
as  they  remained  under  the  same  roof.  In 
the  case  of  the  poorer  classes,  where  the  wife 
does  the  whole  work  of  keeping  up  the  home 
and  increasing  the  family,  the  proportion 
should  be  very  much  greater,  so  great,  indeed, 
as  to  make  both  partners  think  twice  before 
recklessly  bringing  children  into  the  world. 
Among  this  class  I  think  that  the  birth  of  a 
child  might  legalise  the  union  of  the  parents. 

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This  appears  to  be  an  old  custom  in  many 
parts  of  the  world. 

The  working  man  is  the  greatest  enemy  of 
women's  equal  value,  I  am  afraid.  Among 
the  mining  population,  where  his  wages  are 
high  enough  to  make  him  independent,  the 
woman  he  has  married  holds  a  very  low 
position — very  much  what  middle-class  women 
held  early  in  the  nineteenth  century.  The 
working  man  of  prudence  and  forethought  is 
of  course  limiting  his  family  with  as  much 
care  as  the  rest  of  the  world.  But  the  others, 
who  drive  away  drab  intelligence  by  a  Satur- 
day orgy,  forget  prudence,  and  the  result  is 
that  their  wives  are  always  in  the  pangs  of 
chirdbirth  or  miscarriage.  The  usual  self- 
sacrifice  of  women  comes  dangerously  near 
suicide  in  this  matter.  To  save  her  husband 
from  a  few  moments  of  self-control  she  goes 
through  months  of  drugging,  loses  her  beauty, 
undermines  her  health  in  the  endeavour  to 
exercise  prudence  and  to  avoid  bringing 
children  into  the  world  for  whom  she  has  no 
hope  of  making  provision. 

A  romance  of  the  mining  world,  in  Sep- 
tember, 1909,  is  instructive  reading.  One 
Friday  night,  at  10  o'clock,  the  husband  came 
home  with  two  former  lodgers,  two  old  friends, 
and  one  stranger.  They  brought  plenty  of 
beer  with  them.  The  wife  was  upstairs  in  bed, 
but  she  called  over  the  banisters  to  them  to 

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make  themselves  at  home,  and  returned  to 
her  sleep.  Later  on,  when  the  men  were  nearly 
all  dead  drunk,  one  of  the  former  lodgers 
heard  screams  upstairs.  He  found  the  stranger 
undressed  and  making  an  assault  on  the  wife 
of  his  host.  The  lodger  flung  him  downstairs, 
and  to  his  horror  found  that  he  had  killed  him. 
He  was  terrified,  and  he  and  the  woman  left 
the  house,  calling  to  the  others  to  fetch  a 
doctor  at  once.  Whatever  the  woman  and  he 
said  to  each  other  it  was  tragic,  for  she  hurried 
to  a  pond  and  drowned  herself,  while  he  went 
to  his  sister's  house  and  waited  arrest.  The 
husband  was  severely  reprimanded  for  his 
"  negligence."  A  woman  counts  for  very 
little  in  the  mining  districts,  she  takes  the 
German  position  of  a  kind  of  upper  servant, 
in  whose  emotions,  if  she  has  any,  none  take 
any  interest.  In  the  manufacturing  districts 
the  working  man's  wife  is  generally  a  bread- 
winner herself,  and  she  only  needs  a  little 
enterprise  to  make  her  position  much  more 
favourable  than  it  is  at  present. 

Nearly  all  the  police  court  cases  turn  on 
the  question  of  the  wife's  housekeeping  allow- 
ance. It  is  an  endless  source  of  dispute,  and 
if  it  could  be  regulated,  irrespective  of  caprice, 
most  of  the  miseries  of  married  poverty  would 
cease.  The  poor  are  simple,  and  in  this  truth 
about  them  we  see  the  truth  about  ourselves. 
We  all  want  a  regular  income,  and  very  few 

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of  us  gain  from  being  dependent  on  the  affec- 
tion of  our  family.  Divorce,  then,  is  sordid 
with  regard  to  sentiment  and  with  regard  to 
money,  and  in  these  ways  is  greatly  in  need 
of  change. 


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V 
THE   GREEN    HOUSES   OF   JAPAN 


V 

THE   GREEN   HOUSES   OF   JAPAN 

This  chapter  deals  with  the  subject  of  prosti- 
tution from  the  point  of  view  of  public  health, 
so  that  the  nervous  reader  had  better  skip  it. 
Edmond  de  Goncourt  has  written  some 
charming  chapters  in  his  book  about  Outa- 
maro,  the  Japanese  artist,  on  the  courtesans 
who  live  within  the  walls  of  Yoshiwara.  He 
describes  the  quarter  as  containing  fifty  green 
houses  within  the  walls  and  a  hundred  with- 
out the  walls.  They  were  established  by  -the 
Emperor  of  Japan  in  the  eighth  century  for 
the  use  of  foreign  princes,  ambassadors,  and 
wealthy  merchants.  The  present  walls  were 
built  in  the  seventeenth  century.  The  girls, 
from  all  parts,  are  brought  up  like  princesses, 
and  taught  writing,  the  arts,  music,  and  the 
archaic  language  spoken  by  the  court  in  the 
seventh  and  eighth  centuries,  which  is  now 
the  language  of  the  poets.  The  formalities  of 
the  suitors  are  three  visits  of  ceremony,  each 
with  its  ritual  of  good  manners.  A  green 
house  contains  twenty  first-class  beauties  and 
sixty  second-class  beauties.     They  sing,  play, 

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and  write  verses.     These  are  a  few  transla- 
tions which  give  some  idea  of  their  feelings  : — 

"It  is  only  when  both  of  us  are  looking 
at  it  that  the  moon  is  beautiful ;  when  I  am 
alone  it  makes  me  feel  too  sad." 

"  This  evening  who  will  share  the  sweet- 
ness of  life,  this  floating  body  in  the  passing 
world  ?  " 

"Oh,  that  the  moonlight  might  shine 
brightly  in  the  waters  of  this  life  [the  cour- 
tesan's], but  the  autumn  moon  on  the  other 
side  of  the  clouds  makes  me  long  for  it" 
[wifehood]. 

"Although  I  am  nothing  here,  the  moon 
lights  up  my  heart  with  a  ray  of  consolation." 

"How  often  do  I  part  from  one  whose 
shadow  I  shall  never  see  again  under  the 
moon  of  dawn  !  " 

These  little  moon-women  are  not  the  only 
members  of  the  sisterhood  in  Tokio.  There 
are  the  geishas  who  dance  and  sing,  and  there 
are  the  old  and  abandoned  ;  but  the  horrible 
sordidness  of  the  red  blinds  and  the  draggled 
torn  lace  curtains  one  sees  in  the  streets 
Charles  Booth  has  coloured  red  in  his  maps 
of  London,  is  absent. 

This  question  is  not  a  mere  matter  of  senti- 
ment, it  is  one  in  urgent  need  of  immediate 
attention.  The  pitiless  contempt  of  married 
women  for  prostitution  is  bringing  a  terrible 
punishment,  which  is  ruining  the  physique  of 
nearly  every  civilized  race.      It  is  now  certain 

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that  the  diseases  called  contagious  can  be 
cured  with  the  greatest  certainty  if  they  are 
taken  in  hand  in  the  earliest  stages,  but  if 
they  are  neglected  they  bring  in  their  train 
every  scourge  that  the  flesh  is  capable  of  en- 
during. It  cannot  be  repeated  too  often  that 
if  women  do  not  wish  to  contract  diseases 
themselves  in  the  intercourse  of  ordinary  life, 
they  must  bring  themselves  to  protect  those 
who  in  the  intercourse  of  passional  life  are 
ignorantly  or  malignantly  spreading  the  dis- 
eases. There  might  be  a  trade  union  for 
women  on  the  streets.  In  the  cause  of  public 
health,  which  is,  in  this  matter,  the  cause  of 
future  generations,  family  cannot  separate 
itself  from  family,  innocent  from  guilty,  moral 
from  immoral.  We  can  no  longer  say  :  Let 
those  who  practise  promiscuity  suffer  for  their 
incontinence,  let  them  encounter  the  dangers 
they  choose  to  face,  "  let  their  sin  find  them 
out."  We  know  now  that  from  this  particular 
scourge  of  contagious  disease  the  pure  suffer 
far  more  severely  than  the  impure  ;  and  the 
races  who  have  never  known  the  disease  are 
the  first  to  die  when,  by  accident,  they  finally 
come  in  contact  with  it. 

So  the  clean,  healthy  youth  from  some  re- 
mote country  place  is  in  greater  danger  than 
the  sophisticated  townsman.  And  mothers 
do  not  realize  the  dangers  they  and  their 
young  children  run  every  day  when,  in  their 

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ignorance  of  danger,  they  entrust  their  house- 
holds to  the  care  of  women  servants  who  may 
be  carrying  contagion  without  even  know- 
ing it. 

The  contempt  that  is  shown  towards  pros- 
titutes makes  it  impossible  for  them  to  insist 
upon  proper  sanitation  in  the  quarters  where 
they  congregate.  They  are  hunted  from  street 
to  street,  and,  as  they  get  poorer  and  poorer, 
their  condition  becomes  more  and  more  of 
a  danger  to  the  rest  of  the  town. 

I  cannot  make  any  suggestions  as  to  the 
methods  that  should  be  used  to  make  the 
danger  less  terribly  imminent  than  it  is  at 
present,  but  I  do  suggest  that  the  women  who 
are  uppermost  should  face  the  fact  that  they 
themselves  are  in  danger  because  the  lower 
prostitutes  have  no  civil  rights,  no  trade 
union,  no  means  of  redressing  the  wrongs  they 
surfer  from. 

M.  Brieux  has  written  a  play  called  Les 
A  varies,  dealing  with  this  important  subject 
in  all  its  aspects.  One  incident  is  that  of  a 
young  girl  on  the  streets  who  is  infected  by 
a  man.  She  is  furious  and  in  despair,  but 
before  she  goes  into  hospital  she,  in  her  turn, 
revenges  herself  on  as  many  men  as  she  can, 
for  the  wrong  done  to  her  by  one. 

Can  we  wonder  that  a  woman  who  is  treated 
as  street  walkers  are  treated  should  feel  this 
wild  anti-social  rage  against  the  society  that 

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has  first  made  use  of  her  and  then  treated  her 
as  an  outcast  ? 

It  is  becoming  more  and  more  difficult  to 
say  anything  definite  about  the  moral  stand- 
ards of  women.  Thirty  years  ago  the  chorus- 
girl  drank  champagne  and  "  went  to  the  bad," 
now  she  drinks  milk  and  marries  a  peer.  Girls 
with  beauty  are  finding  out  that  prudence 
pays  exceedingly  well.  On  the  other  hand,  we 
have  girls  with  brains  deliberately  resolving 
that  they  will  not  marry.  They  refuse  to  run 
the  risk  of  living  with  a  man  whose  love  has 
become  a  mere  habit.  They  boldly  say  that 
they  do  not  care  enough  for  love  to  perform 
its  rites,  unless  they  are  animated  with  the 
ardour  of  love.  Passion  served  up  with  cold 
sauce  as  in  the  Shaw-Barker  school  of  sex 
revolts  them.  Enthusiastic  love  is  the  only 
excuse  in  their  eyes  for  going  through  the 
rather  ungraceful  gestures  of  love. 

Bloch  has  asked  the  question  if  we  can  ever 
do  away  with  the  menace  to  public  health 
which  promiscuity  entails  ?  He  seems  to 
think  from  the  evidence  of  history  and  psy- 
chiatry that  men  certainly,  and  women  pro- 
bably, are  not  naturally  unitarian  in  their 
affections  ;  therefore  the  sooner  we  seriously 
wrestle  with  the  realities  and  leave  off  hoping 
for  the  "  something  to  change  nature,"  the 
better.  Above  all,  it  is  most  important  for 
women  to  realize  at  once  that  the  most  inno- 

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cent  contact  with  the  unmentioned  diseases — 
the  contact,  say,  of  a  cut  finger  or  a  chapped 
lip — is  enough  to  endanger  the  health,  unless 
it  is  attended  to  at  once. 

As  for  the  aspect  of  the  prostitution  ques- 
tion entailed  in  taking  money,  the  sale  of 
virginity  and  so  forth,  it  comes  under  the 
general  consideration  whether  it  is  right  for 
any  woman  to  become  the  property  of  a  man 
in  exchange  for  money.  A  woman  who  loves 
does  naturally  become  the  property  of  the 
man  she  loves  for  the  time  being.  The  wiser 
she  is,  the  less  she  will  let  him  know  it.  The 
money  bargain  I  cannot  help  regarding  as  a 
device  invented  by  unattractive  men  whom 
no  woman  would  voluntarily  look  at.  Again, 
as  to  women  whose  love  affairs  are  numerous, 
I  do  not  think  they  would  care  to  practise 
promiscuity  unless  they  were  intoxicated. 
On  the  other  hand,  I  think  most  women  are 
capable  of  several  love  affairs.  I  said  before 
that  their  love  ebbed  and  flowed  with  the 
sweep  of  a  tide,  while  men's  love  glittered  and 
dulled  like  the  shaken  silver  of  the  waves ;  still, 
there  are  more  tides  than  one  in  many  women's 
experience.  We  cannot  read  the  autobio- 
graphies of  the  seventeenth  and  eighteenth 
centuries  without  observing  that. 

That  love  becomes  very  stale  in  time  is  a 
regrettable  fact.  Many  women  distract  their 
thoughts    with    work    or    amusements.      But 

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the  greatest  amusement  of  all  is  flirtation.  It 
is  an  amusement  peculiarly  fitted  to  the 
English.  In  the  Latin  countries  flirtation  is 
admittedly  not  only  an  amusement,  but  a 
vital  part  of  women's  lives.  It  cannot  be 
denied  that,  after  a  time,  a  childless  wife,  or 
a  wife  who  is  not  absorbed  in  her  children, 
begins  to  feel  like  a  withered  rose  tree,  and 
a  flirtation  comes  to  her  like  springtime  after 
winter.  I  do  not  think  it  is  often  her  sensual 
nature,  but  her  emotional  nature,  that  makes 
a  woman  unfaithful  to  a  husband  of  whom 
she  has  really  been  passionately  fond.  Un- 
fortunately there  is  a  charm  about  the  first 
steps  of  a  love  affair,  in  the  half-admissions 
and  the  uncertainties,  which  it  is  almost  im- 
possible to  feel  after  a  year  of  married  life. 
The  truth  is  that  to  feel  a  charm  we  must  be 
in  a  state  of  emotional  exultation  which  is 
above  the  average  exultations  of  daily  life. 
The  great  question  for  the  race  is  what  this 
feeling  of  charm  means,  and  whether  it  is  of 
value  to  the  race,  and  to  be  encouraged  ?  Or 
even  then  whether  the  destruction  of  our 
present  fixed  social  arrangements  is  too  great 
a  sacrifice  to  make  for  the  vital  improvement 
of  mankind?  In  the  meantime,  until  this 
question  of  changing  charm  versus  habitual 
love  can  be  settled,  and  the  value  of  emotion 
as  a  factor  in  race  improvement  be  proved  by 
careful   inquiry   into   the   experiences   of   the 

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parents  of  conspicuous  children,  I  reiterate 
what  I  have  said.  Marrying  women  owe  it 
to  themselves  and  to  their  children  to  do  all 
they  can  to  make  the  conditions  of  prostitutes 
sanitary.  Above  all,  they  should  remember 
the  green  houses  of  Japan,  and  recognize  that 
if  women  are  degraded  it  is  generally  because 
they  have  been  treated  with  contempt,  and 
not  because  they  are  essentially  any  more 
contemptible  than  the  rest  of  us. 


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BEAUTY  AND    MOTHERHOOD 


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BEAUTY   AND   MOTHERHOOD 

"  Americanism  "  is  the  word  sometimes  used 
by  scientific  men  to  imply  the  terror  of  mother- 
hood that  is  coming  upon  women.  The  old 
days  when  Nelson  said  the  two  most  beautiful 
things  in  the  world  were  a  ship  in  full  sail 
and  a  woman  with  child,  are  passed.  Pain 
and  the  loss  of  beauty  mean  something 
hauntingly  horrible — something  of  a  night- 
mare to  the  modern  highly  strung,  nervous 
woman.  In  America  the  question  is  becoming 
one  of  national  importance  :  as  a  matter  of 
fact  some  women  are  beginning  to  refuse 
motherhood,  both  there  and  in  other  parts 
of  the  world.  I  do  not  see  anj^thing  alarming 
in  this.  To  me  it  means  that  women  will 
specialize  in  the  future.  When  the  unnatural 
economic  reasons  for  marriage  have  been  re- 
moved, the  natural  desires  of  women  will  be 
able  to  assert  themselves.  For  centuries  they 
have  lied  and  schemed  and  flattered  men  in 
order  to  wheedle  a  living  out  of  them,  and  it 
will  take  some  time  for  the  weaker  sex  to 
learn  that  it  may  really  tell  the  truth  ;    to 

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learn,  indeed,  that  it  is  necessary  for  the  good 
of  the  race  that  it  should  tell  the  truth.  When 
this  is  done  it  will  be  perceived  that  women 
are  divided  into  two  distinct  classes — those 
that  love  men  better  than  children,  and  those 
that  love  children  better  than  men.  This  is 
natural  enough.  In  ordinary  life  we  can  see 
some  people  prefer  to  associate  with  their 
inferiors,  and  some  with  their  superiors.  At 
present  the  comparatively  free  life  led  by  men 
make  them  far  better  company,  and  therefore 
superior  as  a  sex  to  women.  They  do  not  talk 
as  well  as  clever  women,  but  their  views  are 
wide,  and  as  a  rule  they  know  something 
of  the  general  facts  of  life.  They  are  merrier, 
too,  and  I  have  often  thought,  "  It  is  not  so 
much  that  men  must  work  and  women  must 
weep,  but  that  men  may  laugh  and  women 
must  look  shocked." 

But,  as  I  was  saying,  some  people  prefer  to 
look  up,  and  others  prefer  to  look  down  on 
their  companions.  Some  people,  to  put  it 
more  pleasantry,  like  to  care  for  and  watch 
over  others,  while  others  want  to  be  cared  for. 
So  it  comes  about  that  some  women  do  not 
really  love  children.  They  may  feel  such  a 
passion  for  a  man  that  they  long  to  be  the 
mother  of  his  child,  but  that  is  a  state  of  un- 
usual exultation,  which  in  cold  blood  is  re- 
pented later.  On  the  other  hand,  the  born 
mothers — the  women  who  really  long  for  chil- 

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dren,  to  whom  it  is  a  terrible  deprivation  to 
live  without  children — are  undoubtedly  the 
people  who  may  best  be  entrusted  with  the 
future  of  the  race. 

I  do  not  think  that  we  shall  ever  get  man- 
kind to  carry  out  the  eugenic  ideal  of  careful 
breeding,  but  I  do  think  we  might  come  to  a 
time  when  the  natural  instinct  of  a  woman 
for  the  fit  father  of  her  child  will  be  a  very 
important  factor  in  the  arrangements  made 
for  the  existence  and  benefit  of  future  genera- 
tions. 

We  have  such  a  lumber  of  useless  old  ethical 
codes  to  get  rid  of,  and  such  innumerable 
practical  suggestions  for  race  betterment,  that 
we  hardly  know  where  to  begin.  In  the 
Eugenic  Review  for  October,  1909,  there  is  an 
excellent  paper  by  Mr.  Havelock  Ellis,  which 
explains  a  newly  discovered  and  harmless 
operation  which  can  be  performed  without 
making  the  slightest  difference  to  an  indi- 
vidual's happiness.  This  operation  would 
prevent  him  or  her  from  ever  becoming  a 
parent.  It  is  hoped  that  it  may  some  day 
be  used  in  cases  where  the  heredity  is  hope- 
lessly bad.  It  would  save  a  great  deal  of 
public  expense  in  cases  where  the  dangerous 
person  would  otherwise  have  to  be  kept  under 
constant  supervision.  The  great  benefit  of 
the  discovery  is  that  it  has  none  of  the  un- 
fortunate effects  which  often  follow  from  the 

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practice  of  more  Eastern  methods  of  sterilizing 
the  unfit.  Contact  with  radium  has  also  been 
found  to  lead  to  temporary  sterility.  But 
although  stamping  out  the  worst  class  of  disease 
and  imbecility  in  one  generation  would  be  a 
tremendous  benefit,  it  is  not  the  only  remedy 
proposed.  The  encouragement  and  training 
of  fit  men  and  women — I  mean  the  education 
in  the  laws  of  sexual  health — would  do  a  great 
deal  to  save  the  next  generations  from  many 
ills  that  are  brought  upon  it  by  the  sheer 
ignorance  of  its  parents.  Here,  again,  we  have 
to  fight  the  silly  conspiracy  of  silence  which 
leaves  schoolboys  and  schoolgirls  to  struggle 
through  the  early  temptations  of  life  without 
a  word  of  warning  from  responsible  people 
who  have  studied  the  subject  of  sex. 

There  is  no  doubt  that  the  world  at  present 
is  full  of  motherly  women  who  have  no  chance 
of  becoming  mothers,  and  of  unmotherly 
women  who  have  children  that  they  do  not 
want,  or  more  children  than  they  want.  It 
would  be  a  great  advance  if  these  arrangements 
could  be  readjusted  by  some  slight  change  of 
public  opinion,  guided  by  the  obvious  facts 
of  heredity.  For  instance,  it  is  a  fact  that 
some  women  are  very  fit  to  be  mothers,  and 
are  unattractive  as  wives.  For  others,  attrac- 
tive to  men  as  they  often  are,  it  is  a  sin  to  be- 
come mothers.  A  tuberculous  woman  is  apt 
to  have   a  much  larger   family  than   a  nor- 

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mally  healthy  woman,  and  that  tendency 
ought  to  be  modified  by  surgical  aid.  Even 
these  few  suggestions  acted  upon  would  help 
to  make  the  world  less  full  of  pain  and  sorrow. 

But  we  are  full  of  prejudices  against  these 
improvements.  The  old  marriage  laws,  the 
old  ideas  of  right  and  wrong  remain ;  religious 
prejudice  lasts  far  longer  than  religion  ;  and 
the  world  moves  on,  and  everyone  hears  of 
improvements  that  might  be  made  quite  easily. 
But  nothing  is  done  because  of  a  public  opinion 
which  everyone  supposes  to  exist,  but  is  really 
a  bugbear  invented  by  the  Press  on  the 
strength  of  a  few  letters  from  the  sort  of  people 
who  write  letters  of  protest  to  the  public 
libraries.  A  hundred  letters  impress  an  editor, 
because  he  forgets  the  millions  of  people  who 
do  not  write  letters,  but  pay  all  the  same. 

One  of  the  most  serious  facts  which  is 
alleged  with  regard  to  the  "  Americanism  " 
I  mentioned  at  the  beginning  of  this  chapter, 
is  that  the  nervous  sensitiveness  from  which 
the  women  of  the  United  States  suffer  is 
caused  by  their  education  being  too  purely 
intellectual.  Now  this  is  probably  true.  I 
remember  one  of  the  cleverest  men  I  have 
ever  met,  the  late  Professor  York  Powell, 
Regius  Professor  of  Modern  History  at  Oxford, 
who  was  an  encyclopaedia  of  information, 
and  could  assimilate  the  contents  of  a  book 
in  a  phenomenally  short  time,  told  me  that 

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he  meant  to  paint  up  the  words  "  Damn 
Intellect "  over  his  mantelpiece  at  Christ 
Church.  Intellect  has  been  said  to  be  the 
result  of  man's  struggle  with  material  facts, 
very  useful  as  far  as  material  facts  go,  but 
absurdly  misleading  when  applied  to  the  all- 
important  side  of  our  natures  which  comes 
under  the  consideration  of  the  psychologist. 
The  stuffing  of  one's  head  with  a  lot  of  un- 
digested knowledge  for  purposes  of  examina- 
tion is  not  only  useless  in  after  life,  but  really 
damaging  to  the  vital  apparatus.  I  was 
myself  educated  in  the  colleges  of  Miss  Doro- 
thea Beale  and  Miss  Buss,  and  I  know  it  took 
me  quite  six  years  to  get  out  of  the  shell  my 
education  had  hardened  around  me.  I  don't 
suppose  I  should  ever  have  spread  my  own 
wings  if  the  beak  of  my  destiny  had  not  been 
stronger  than  my  overwhelming  education, 
so  that  it  succeeded  in  hammering  through 
that  shell  at  last. 

In  the  next  chapter  I  hope  to  show  in  more 
detail  how  women  might  be  educated  to 
deliberately  cultivate  their  instincts,  and  use 
them  in  conjunction  with  the  practical  in- 
tellect to  increase  the  power  of  intuitively 
understanding  the  consciousness  of  groups 
and  crowds  of  people.  Above  all,  how  they 
may  learn  by  definitely  guiding  the  vegetative 
consciousness  to  increase  the  health  and 
beauty  of  their  children. 

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THE   NEW   PSYCHOLOGY 

Intellect,  then,  is  only  a  part  of  the  life- 
consciousness.  Henri  Bergson  and  William 
James  have  both  agreed  that  the  other  parts 
deserve  our  respect,  and  demand  the  attention 
of  all  practical  people.  They  are  Instinctive 
Consciousness  and  Torpid  Consciousness.  Berg- 
son, so  well  known  on  the  Continent,  gives  in 
L' Evolution  Crealrice  a  brilliant  outline  of  the 
relations  of  the  intellectual,  instinctive,  and 
torpid  states.  Briefly,  he  pictures  vital  con- 
sciousness as  the  centre  from  which  the  three 
diverge  in  different  radiations.  The  intellect 
which  covers  an  enormous  field  and  can 
grapple  successfully  with  the  superficial  ap- 
pearances we  call  facts,  finds  its  present  cul- 
mination in  mankind.  The  instinct  which 
dawns  in  the  consciousness  as  vision,  and 
deals  only  with  one  or  two  things,  but  knows 
therrr  perfectly  through  and  through  to  their 
deepest  causes,  finds  its  culmination  in  in- 
sects, especially  in  the  elaborate  societies  of 
ants  and  bees.  The  torpid  state  which,  with- 
out external  motion,  like  deep  sleep,  is  most 

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creatively  powerful,  most  enduring,  and  most 
in  touch  with  the  first  beginnings  of  organic 
life,  finds  its  culmination  in  the  vegetable 
kingdom.  The  psychologists'  idea,  then,  for 
the  practical  future  of  our  race  is  that  it 
should  turn  its  attention  to  the  cultivation  of 
these  two  modes  of  consciousness  which  have 
hitherto  been  lamentably  neglected  in  all 
schemes  of  education. 

Bergson  says  that  there  are  many  questions 
the  intellect  can  ask  but  can  never  answer, 
which  the  instinct  could  answer,  but,  un- 
prompted by  the  intellect,  would  never  ask. 

The  practical  turn  psychology  has  taken 
lately  has  a  very  deep  significance  for  women. 
For  the  adolescent  girl  and  the  woman  with 
child  are  the  very  types  of  the  power  of  mys- 
terious torpid  consciousness  which  is  so  little 
understood  by  the  most  learned  men.  The 
ancients  have  believed  that  a  mother's  im- 
pressions stamp  themselves  on  the  child  and 
determine  its  type.  I  mean,  for  instance, 
that  a  woman  surrounded  by  Burne- Jones's 
pictures  would  be  likely  to  have  children  re- 
sembling that  type.  The  whole  matter  is  one 
of  the  deepest  interest,  and  one  guiding  prin- 
ciple stands  out  from  all  our  uncertainties  on 
the  subject,  which  is,  that  a  woman  with  child 
should  not  use  up  her  vitality  in  other  direc- 
tions, that  she  should  for  the  time  being  live 
the  life  of  a  fruit  tree,   and  nourish  herself, 

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and  sun  herself  without  care  and  without  in- 
tellectual distractions. 

It  is  said  that  in  deep  sleep  the  creations  of 
our  imagination  are  conceived;  and  that  the 
state  of  impending  motherhood  should  be 
one  of  rest,  and  the  quiet  enjoyment  of  beauty 
and  peace  if  it  is  to  have  a  good  result. 

I  am  not  saying  all  women  should  be  mothers, 
nor  am  I  saying  that  mothers  should  not  have 
intellectual  pleasures,  but  I  do  agree  that 
they  should  not  have  intellectual  tasks,  and 
above  all  that  they  should  be  protected  from 
worry,  anxiety,  and  irritation.  If  the  care  of 
mothers  became  a  national  question,  I  believe 
the  saving  in  the  care  of  lunatics  and  unem- 
ployables  and  criminals  would  be  incalculable. 

The  torpid  consciousness  is  one  which  women 
who  are  to  be  mothers  should  respect.  I 
believe  it  is  a  state  cultivated  to  a  high  degree 
by  the  Eastern  mystics,  who  have  given  us 
glimpses  of  the  psychic  powers  to  which  it 
can  give  birth.  It  is  intimately  connected 
with  a  control  over  the  emotional  storms  which 
affect  most  people  and  govern  their  conduct. 
The  Eastern  sage  does  not  starve  his  emotional 
nature,  but  learns  to  direct  it,  while  he  is  in 
a  state  of  apparent  torpor.  So  I  believe  the 
wise  mother  might,  if  she  gave  Serself  the 
opportunity,  direct  the  future  character  of 
her  child  in  the  best  sense  of  the  word. 

At    present    the    torpid    consciousness    is 

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hardly  understood  at  all,  but  the  instinctive 
consciousness  has  been  studied,  although  it  is 
talked  of  with  a  contempt  it  is  far  from  deserv- 
ing. I  admit  that  to  some  extent  instinct  is 
the  enemy  of  civilization,  but  at  the  same 
time  civilization  is  the  enemy  of  instinct. 

The  old  matriarchal  village  community 
seems  to  be  the  ideal  state  of  an  instinctive  race 
of  people.  I  do  not  say  it  is  possible  now,  but  it 
certainly  seems  a  good  way  of  conducting  affairs 
on  a  dignified  basis  without  the  family  unit. 

Temperance  with  an  occasional  orgy  is  a 
prescription  ordered  for  a  patient  by  a  modern 
doctor,  and  that  exactly  describes  the  life  of 
the  old  matriarchal  village.  In  the  first  place, 
it  was  situated  near  the  equator,  and  everyone 
could  do  without  clothes.  The  village  children 
grew  up  together  under  the  care  of  the  elder 
men  and  women,  with  no  curiosity  about  the 
unseen.  They  worked  in  the  fields  and  per- 
haps hunted  a  little,  but  they  all  lived  like 
brothers  and  sisters.  They  had  a  central  grove 
of  sacred  trees  in  their  village,  with  a  dancing 
ground  ;  the  huts  were  round  the  grove,  and 
then  the  belt  of  cultivated  land  was  called  the 
"  guardian  serpent."  Beyond  that  was  the 
jungle,  with  paths  leading  to  other  villages. 
In  the  spring  the  Saturnalia  was  celebrated, 
and  the  j^oung  men  left  their  homes  and 
visited  the  other  villages,  scattered  in  the 
neighbourhood   beyond   the   jungle-paths,    to 

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celebrate  the  festival  with  song,  wine,  and 
dance.  The  orgy  lasted  a  few  weeks,  during 
the  blossom  time,  when  there  was  no  work 
required  at  home.  It  ended  in  a  good  deal  of 
love-making,  after  which  the  young  men  re- 
turned to  their  homes  sobered,  and  ready  to 
work  in  their  own  villages  for  another  year. 
Nine  months  later,  when  the  weather  made  it 
well  to  remain  indoors,  the  children  were  born, 
and  were  called  the  children  of  the  sacred 
grove  or  the  tree,  and  no  one  talked  of  fathers. 
The  men  of  the  tribe  cheerfully  undertook 
the  education  of  the  children,  and  maintained 
them  on  communal  principles.  It  sounds 
almost  as  socially  elaborate  as  a  hive,  and  the 
whole  business  appears  to  have  been  carried 
out  on  purely  instinctual  lines.  Perhaps  I 
ought  to  add  that  all  can  read  for  them- 
selves about  these  matriarchal  customs  in  a 
book  called  The  Ruling  Races  of  Prehistoric 
Times,  by  J.  F.  Hewitt,  and  in  Tiele's  Outline 
of  the  History  of  Ancient  Religions,  also  in 
Risley's  Tribes  and  Castes  of  Bengal.  The  life 
was  perhaps  too  austerely  virtuous  for  the  ma- 
jority of  mankind,  but  it  had  its  advantages. 

Instinct  is  an  animal  faculty  cultivated  by 
an  outdoor  life,  which  we  to  a  great  extent 
have  swamped  in  our  all-pervading  intellects. 
It  is  a  power  of  the  consciousness  which  appears 
to  act  without  effort,  and  to  increase  its  power 
as  we  decrease  our  mental  struggles.     Very 

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often  when  after  fussing  over  a  lost  object  or 
forgotten  name  we  cease  to  trouble  ourselves, 
and  employ  our  clamorous  minds  in  some  other 
direction,  the  consciousness  of  the  name  or 
place  appears  like  the  sky  from  which  the 
clouds  have  cleared  away.  It  is  in  the  inter- 
play between  intellect  and  instinct  that  the 
practical  value  of  the  new  school  of  psychology 
will  be  found.  Our  instincts  need  to  be  stimu- 
lated by  the  curiosity  of  our  intellects.  We 
have  an  extraordinary  and  inexhaustible  power 
of  inventing  surprises  for  our  intellect,  both 
in  our  dreams  and  in  inventive  states  of 
meditation.  Some  people  call  these  things 
manifestations  of  the  subconsciousness.  I 
prefer  to  think  of  them  as  manifestations  of 
the  long-neglected  powers  of  the  instinct.  We 
know  that  many  insects  who  have  never  met 
their  parents  in  their  lives,  yet  carry  out  their 
destinies  as  if  they  had  received  the  most 
careful  personal  instruction.  The  truth  about 
instinct  appears  to  be  that  it  is  a  race-con- 
sciousness— a  kind  of  wireless  telegraphy 
which  can  be  set  in  motion  between  sympa- 
thetic centres  without  passing  through  the 
mental  machinery  at  all.  It  almost  seems 
as  if  our  brains,  our  nervous  plexuses,  and 
our  glands  *  each  had  a  manifest  conscious- 

*  As  to  the  study  of  the  functions  of  the  glands,  many 
interesting  discoveries  have  been  mentioned  in  the  medical 
journals  during  the  last  few  years. 

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ness  of  their  own,  and  it  is  not  until  we 
can  set  in  motion  an  interplay  of  the  three 
that  we  shall  gain  all  we  can,  either  from  the 
intellect,  the  instinct,  or  the  torpid  creative 
consciousness. 

When  women  come  in  for  their  share  of 
control  in  affairs,  there  is  no  doubt  we  shall 
make  further  use  of  these  more  feminine  aspects 
of  vital  consciousness. 


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VIII 

THE   IMAGINATIVE   WOMAN 

Now  women  can  look  at  love  from  a  great 
many  points  of  view.  If  it  were  not  so,  Byron 
would  hardly  have  been  justified  when  he  said  : 

"  Love  is  from  men's  lives  a  thing  apart, 
'Tis  woman's  whole  existence." 

Women  can  look  upon  love  as  a  physical 
act  which  enables  them  to  become  mothers. 
They  can  look  upon  it  as  a  sanctification 
or  a  means  of  enjoyment.  They  can  look 
upon  it  as  a  subject  of  scientific  curiosity, 
in  which  mood  they  logically  compare  facts 
and  come  to  sage  conclusions.  They  can 
consider  their  own  temperaments  and  pecu- 
liarities, and  take  into  account  their  per- 
sonal bias  and  characters,  philosophically.  Or 
they  can  use  their  imaginations  to  alter  all 
the  conditions  which  life  has  imposed  upon 
them,  to  transcend  all  the  limitations  of  in- 
carnation, and,  having  passed  beyond  philo- 
sophy, science,  emotion,  and  experience,  bathe 
in  the  love  between  the  fixed  stars  and  comets 
rushing  from  the  spaces  beyond.     They  can 

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take  dim  legends  and  embroider  them  with 
rich  details.  In  a  word,  the  imaginative 
woman  from  her  childhood  has  known  dreams 
of  such  rare  beauty  that  nothing  life  shows  her 
is  good  enough.  She  passes  from  disappoint- 
ment to  disappointment.  She  never  finds  in 
one  place  or  one  person  the  wonder  that  de- 
scription had  made  her  see  in  her  mind's  eye. 

Thousands  of  less  imaginative  women  long 
for  the  impossible.  They  are  fed  on  romantic 
stories  and  live  in  the  more  or  less  common- 
place imagination  of  the  novelists  or  play- 
wrights they  patronize.  Thousands  of  tired 
men  have  this  same  love  of  vicarious  sensa- 
tion— anything  that  lifts  them  out  of  the  drab 
of  their  surroundings  into  a  merry  or  senti- 
mental atmosphere  is  a  relief. 

Life  seems  hopeless  to  the  middle-aged. 
Most  of  them  once  thought  they  could  put 
it  right  in  a  week  if  they  had  a  free  hand. 
They  try,  they  fail,  they  marry  and  spend  the 
evening  of  their  lives  trying  to  destroy  the 
illusions  of  their  children  as  quickly  as  possible, 
so  that  they  also  may  "settle  down"  to  hard 
facts.  To  excuse  himself  a  thinker  will  say,  "  I 
know  the  dangers  of  cultivating  the  imagina- 
tion ;  I  know  that  unless  it  is  nipped  in  the 
bud  this  wild  flower  of  the  mind  will  twine  its 
tendrils  round  me,  cover  me  with  its  shadows, 
intoxicate  me~with  its  fragrance,  and  destroy 
reason    and   physical  health."      In  answer,    I 

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admit  there  are  dangers,  but  on  the  other 
hand  if  the  possibly  evil  weed  is  cultivated  by 
wise  gardeners,  it  may  show  itself  at  last  as  the 
most  splendid  flower  of  the  soul.  The  cultivator 
of  flowers  that  sterilizes  the  bud  and  diverts 
the  life-force  into  creations  of  elaborate  beauty 
has  found  the  physical  side  of  the  religious 
mystery  called  the  Coronation  of  the  Virgin. 
The  imaginative  power  that  has  reached  this 
point  transmutes  human  nature,  whether  philo- 
sophic, scientific,  sensual,  or  physical,  and  it  is 
then  that  the  soul  may  be  said  to  have  attained 
the  regenerate  state  which  makes  for  the  un- 
natural beauty  we  call  perfection  of  culture. 

The  imaginative  woman  may  reach  the  degree 
of  joyous  saintly  beauty,  or  she  may  stop  short 
at  the  next  stage  in  which  she  is  enough  of  a 
philosopher  to  recognize  the  great  variety  of 
temperaments  to  be  met  with  among  her 
fellow-creatures,  and  to  greet  them  all  alike 
with  sympathy  and  interest.  She  may  not 
reach  the  philosophic  or  really  sympathetic 
stage,  she  may  remain  in  a  third  stage,  where 
her  mind  can  coldly  classify  her  fellow- 
creatures  with  critical  discretion,  and  laugh 
at  them  all  cynically.  Or  she  may  not  be 
able  to  perceive  clearly,  but  may  be  carried 
away  perpetually  by  her  own  feelings  and 
sensations,  in  the  fourth  degree  of  unawakened 
ignorance.  Lastly,  she  may  abandon  the  four 
regions  of  beautiful  image  making,  sympathy, 

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perception,  and  sensation,  and  deliberately 
devote  herself  with  common-sense  prudence 
to  the  patient  task  of  getting  her  daily  bread 
and  reproducing  her  species  until  she  dies  of 
it.  On  the  other  hand,  she  may  go  mad,  she 
may  become  silly,  she  may  drown  her  disgust 
with  life  in  alcohol  or  drugs,  or  she  may  irri- 
tate her  feeble  dream-power  with  novelettes. 
These  states  of  degenerate  imaginations  are 
the  worst  curses  of  the  woman's  sphere  as  it  is 
at  present  understood.  Good  hard  work, 
rewarded  by  a  decent  income,  varied  by 
motherhood  and  love,  is  the  best  cure  for 
these  vapourings. 

The  men  who  have  a  good  deal  of  woman- 
hood in  their  natures  suffer  and  enjoy  through 
their  imaginations  in  the  same  way,  and  it  is 
interesting  to  observe  that  a  really  virile  man 
has  no  trace  of  imaginative  power  in  his  com- 
position. He  cares  for  nothing  but  tangible 
reality.  When  men  of  imagination  talk  to 
him  he  has  not  the  smallest  conception  of 
what  they  mean.  I  think  it  was  Goethe  who 
said  that  he  felt  the  universe  in  his  arms  when 
he  embraced  a  woman.  What  I  am  obliged 
to  call  a  virile  man  feels  nothing  of  the  kind, 
he  is  merely  amusing  himself  like  Don  Juan, 
or  any  cat  or  dog.  However,  Don  Juan  is  a 
rarity. 

It  is  very  difficult  to  classify  temperaments 
without    alluding    to    Weiningen's    Sex    and 


Modern  Woman  :   Her  Intentions 

Character.  That  book  has  been  followed  by 
other  classics  on  the  subject  by  Forel  and 
Bloch,  but  I  only  want  to  remind  my  readers 
that  in  Weiningen's  book  they  will  find,  set 
out  at  length,  the  ingenious  theory  that  virile 
men  and  feminine  women  are  the  rarest 
creatures  on  earth,  and  that  the  great  majority 
of  us  are  made  up  of  various  proportions  of 
the  two  sexes.  He  further  suggests  that  happy 
unions  are  those  in  which  the  proportions  of 
sex  in  the  two  lovers  together  make  up  one 
virile  man  and  one  feminine  woman.  For 
instance,  a  man  who  was  one-eighth  feminine 
should  marry  a  woman  who  was  one-eighth 
masculine. 

I  am  told  that  Mr.  Austen  Chamberlain 
repeatedly  made  the  very  careless  statement 
that  "  men  are  men,  and  women  are  women," 
in  a  speech  delivered  in  1909.  He  evidently 
has  not  acquainted  himself  with  the  elementary 
science  of  sex.  Is  it  not  time  that  the  books 
alluded  to  above  should  be  made  generally 
accessible  ?  Then  our  younger  statesmen,  at 
least,  might  come  to  the  platform  with  some 
less  absurd  refrain  than  that  obsolete  inaccu- 
racy. Let  me  assure  Mr.  Chamberlain  that 
German  science  and  research  have  proved 
that  the  contrary  statement  would  be  rather 
more  exact. 


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IX 

EXPERIMENTS 

We  are  all  speculating  about  the  changes  to 
be  brought  about  in  this  century  from  which 
we  women  hope  so  much,  and  a  great  many 
people  are  making  practical  experiments. 
Myself,  I  am  of  that  tranquil  nature  which 
willingly  follows  the  advice  of  Punch  when  he 
says  :  "  Never  practise  what  you  preach,  to 
do  so  is  to  hold  up  your  opinions  to  obvious 
ridicule." 

I  must  confess  to  an  altogether  selfish  con- 
cern for  my  own  comfort.  I  dislike  the  home 
because  it  means  that  one  has  to  live  with 
people  who  are  privileged  to  behave  without 
politeness  in  each  other's  company.  Most  of 
us  share  the  feeling,  I  think,  that  we  like  to  be 
the  worst-behaved  person  present.  This  can 
only  be  achieved  satisfactorily  to  all  when  one 
lives  by  oneself.  My  own  experiments  have 
mostly  been  in  the  attempt  to  modify  the 
solitary  life  with^an  exactly  pleasant  propor- 
tion of  social  life.  I  was  brought  up  in  a  large 
family  until  I  was  twenty-three,  and  I  lived 
the  orthodox  married  life  for  four  years,  so 

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that  I  have  given  home  and  the  family  as 
much  trial  as  seemed  necessary. 
t  As  a  hermit  with  mitigating  friends  and 
enemies,  and  the  various  societies  I  have  helped 
to  run,  my  life  has  been  unusually  full  of 
varied  interests.  I  have  no  regrets,  because 
my  failures  have  been  some  of  my  most  valu- 
able experiences,  and  my  moments  of  bitter- 
ness have  been  the  cause  of  my  greatest  con- 
tentment. 

At  the  same  time,  one  is  horribly  afraid  that 
one  might  induce  courage  in  some  other  per- 
son whose  heart  is  too  tender  to  get  through 
trouble.  One  is  rather  apt  to  dread  the  grey 
life  of  a  patient  woman  without  any  kind  of 
artistic  talent,  who  makes  a  muddle  of  her 
affairs  because  she  religiously  practises  in- 
stead of  preaching. 

Some  people  say  that  example  is  better 
than  precept ;  but  in  the  case  of  social  reform 
and  the  need  of  a  real  change  in  public  opinion, 
my  experience  shows  me  that  precept  is  no 
good  at  all,  if  one  is  suspected  of  inventing  it 
to  serve  one's  own  purposes  of  self-indulgence. 
I  own  I  have  indulged  myself  by  leading  a 
solitary  life  as  described  above,  therefore  I  do 
not  propose  to  try  to  destroy  the  home  and 
family  life.  Those  who  are  suffering  from  the 
home  want  to  do  away  with  it.  With  philo- 
sophic calm  I  can  suggest  improvements  and 
ways  of  escape  that  would  make  it  bearable, 

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but  would  not  destroy  it.  As  a  matter  of  fact 
the  home  is  in  a  very  poor  way  just  at  present. 
Public-houses,  clubs,  restaurants,  the  servant 
difficulty  are  all  devastating  it.  Still,  it  does 
not  do  to  say  we  are  glad,  so  I  register  the 
fact  with  as  long  a  face  as  I  can  pull,  and  trust 
my  readers  will  recognize  the  sad  truth  in  the 
same  serious  spirit. 

But,  to  return  to  experiments,  let  us  go 
back  a  little  in  time,  and  we  find  that  all  gay 
societies,  such  as  that  under  Louis  XIV  and 
XV  of  France,  The  Empire  and  the  Second 
Empire,  practised  every  kind  of  experiment. 
Yet  one  looks  upon  Rousseau,  Mary  Wolstone- 
craft,  Shelley,  and  Godwin  as  the  real  pioneers 
of  experiment,  because  they  made  a  kind  of 
religion  of  their  protests  against  convention. 
Of  late  years  it  has  become  the  fashion  to 
solemnly  register  a  protest  every  time  one 
omits  to  register  one's  marriage. 

It  is  partly  my  stupid  objection  to  public 
indecency  that  makes  me  object  to  the  ad- 
vertisement of  marriage,  legal  or  illegal.  One 
has  to  clean  one's  teeth,  some  people  have  to 
marry,  but  for  the  life  of  me  I  cannot  see  the 
use  of  talking  about  either  of  these  necessities. 
Surely  the  whole  object  of  modern  civilization 
is  to  conceal  the  fact  that  we  are  animals.  It 
is  true  that  we  have  begun  to  made  a  public 
art  of  eating,  but  although  we  permit  ourselves 
to  munch  in  public,  we  disguise  the  nature  of 

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our  food,  and  we  have  sternly  suppressed  the 
more  ancient  freedoms  of  the  dinner-table. 
We  no  longer  think  it  polite  to  go  about  when 
we  suffer  from  catarrh,  and  it  is  seldom  that 
we  encounter  unpleasant  expectorations,  ex- 
cept in  the  immediate  haunts  of  admittedly 
hooligan  circles. 

They  say  that  nowadays  it  is  possible  to 
talk  of  any  subject  as  long  as  one  does  so  with 
sufficient  delicacy  and  avoids  the  words  of 
the  gutter  and  the  club  smoking-room.  Still, 
I  admit  that  it  is  difficult  to  explain  that  just 
as  we  feel  that  every  other  necessary  function 
of  nature  should  be  performed  without  attract- 
ing attention  to  it,  so  I  feel  that  I  would  rather 
not  be  informed  every  time  the  bold  experi- 
menters in  marriage  see  fit  to  take  a  partner. 

When  outspokenness  is  for  the  public  good, 
when  a  "  hushed-up  disease '  becomes  dis- 
astrous simply  because  it  is  "  hushed  up," 
then  there  is  some  meaning  in  making  a  gospel 
and  parade  of  the  truth.  But  I  really  think 
it  is  time  we  accepted  the  convention  that 
men  and  women  seek  each  other's  society  in 
order  to  exchange  ideas. 

Strangely  enough  it  is  often  the  case.  A 
woman  has  only  to  talk  and  listen  well,  and 
she  will  find  that  the  less  she  desires  love  the 
more  friendliness  she  will  receive  from  men. 
Saint  Teresa  of  Spain  was  am  excellent  ex- 
ample of  this.    I  suppose  she  had  more  warmly 

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affectionate  friendships  with  men,  without  a 
shadow  of  scandal,  than  any  other  woman. 
A  perfectly  frank  woman  will  generally  keep 
men  as  her  friends,  they  will  not  dare  to  be 
her  lovers  unless  she  deliberately  ceases  to  be 
frank. 

Unfortunately  experimenters  have  to  be 
original  in  order  to  be  successful.  The  people 
for  whom  I  am  sorry  are  those  who  are  led 
into  making  experiments  which  are  unnatural 
to  them  by  the  hypnotic  power  of  seductive 
example. 

Save  us  from  our  imitators  is  the  cry  of  all 
great  poets  ;  and  the  only  valuable  advice  one 
can  give  is,  if  you  must  experiment  be  careful 
that  you  lead  the  way  and  are  not  seduced 
by  the  example  of  anyone  else.  If  by  nature 
you  must  follow,  it  is  a  sign  that  you  are  a 
gregarious  animal,  and  had  better  remain 
with  the  main  body  of  the  herd.  The  real 
experimenters  are  quite  ready  for  solitude, 
and  when  they  have  found  fair  country  and 
good  pasture  the  rest  of  the  herd  will  come 
over  in  a  body  with  one  accord.  It  is  no  use 
perishing  with  cold  on  the  way  to  the  Pole, 
unless  you  have  the  capacity  to  find  it.  Much 
better  stop  at  home  by  the  fireside. 


S3 


X 

THE   SAVAGE,  THE   BARBARIAN 
THE   CIVILIZED 


X 

THE    SAVAGE,    THE    BARBARIAN,    THE    CIVILIZED 

The  stately  Spaniard,  graceful  as  a  tree  sway- 
ing in  its  dance  with  the  wind,  savage  and 
noble. 

The  Nihilist  Russian,  watching  in  her  lair, 
instinctive  and  ready  to  kill.  Her  hatred  of 
government  marking  her  as  the  free  barbarian. 

The  Parisian,  knowing  the  correct  conven- 
tion of  a  funeral  or  an  adultery,  civilized  and 
logical  to  her  glove-tips. 

Of  the  three  women  the  two  first  are  simple, 
but  civilization  is  complex,  and  it  may  mean 
to  be  cultivated  with  regard  to  intellect  like 
the  Jesuits,  art  like  the  Greeks,  morals  like 
the  Irish,  or  religion  like  the  Arab. 

In  which  way  will  the  women  of  the  future 
develop  ?  Will  she  strive  like  the  frequenters 
of  the  salon  of  Madame  de  Rambouillet  to 
excel  in  intellect,  or  like  Saint  Teresa  of 
Spain  as  a  religious  mystic  ?  We  have  seen 
both  these  types,  and  I  have  no  doubt  that 
we  shall  see  many  shining  examples  of  mor- 
ality, but  at  the  moment  I  cannot  think  of 
any  conspicuous  woman  of  whom  no  one  has 
whispered    scandal.      For    in    these    days    if 

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people  do  not  trip  in  one  direction,  it  is  said 
it  is  because  they  prefer  to  trip  in  another  ; 
and  soon  it  will  be  taken  as  a  sign  of  evil  life 
that  one  should  live  in  a  desert  on  bread  and 
water.  I  mention  in  passing  that  our  late 
Queen  is  usually  admitted  to  have  been  con- 
spicuously moral.  In  the  arts  we  have  seen, 
and  hope  to  see  again,  great  women  novelists 
and  actresses.  In  history  we  have  an  array 
of  splendid  uncivilized  women  immortalized 
from  all  time — Medea,  Electra,  the  Roman 
empresses,  Queen  Maive  of  Connaught,  the 
Russian  heroines.  Whether  they  excelled 
most  as  noble  savages  or  as  gloriously  barbaric 
haters  of  ordered  life,  I  cannot  stay  to  consider. 
For  I  want  the  women  who  read  this  book 
not  to  dwell  upon  the  past,  but  to  look  forward 
to  the  great  century  that  is  waiting  for  their 
alchemy,  to  transmute  its  life  by  giving  it  a 
more  intent  purpose.  Are  we  going  to  be  like 
the  very  badly  dressed  lady  of  title,  whom  we 
heard  the  other  day  imploring  us  to  behave 
ourselves  like  other  people,  just  as  we  dressed 
like  other  people,  in  order  not  to  be  conspicu- 
ous !  Or  are  we  really  going  to  make  some- 
thing out  of  this  brilliant  opportunity  given 
us  by  the  "  refusal  of  the  vote,"  and  the  quickly 
spreading  passion  of  enthusiasm  which  is 
moving  the  women  of  all  nations  to  make  a 
fight  against  the  patriarchal  faith  of  the  goat- 
worshippers. 

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Mr.  Gorst  says  that  the  object  of  life  is 
making  (moral)  love.  I  think  the  object  of 
our  life  is  to  make  experiments,  as  gardeners 
make  experiments  in  floriculture.  I  quarrel 
with  absorption  in  the  family  because  family 
jealousy  is  a  bar  to  that  kind  of  social  inter- 
course which  is  the  only  education  worth 
having,  and  the  only  experience  which  can 
lead  to  any  result  worth  having.  They  say 
in  France,  "  Love  is  a  play  in  which  the  acts 
last  five  minutes,  and  the  entr'actes  for  any 
time  you  like."  If  it  filled  the  whole  of  life  it 
would  only  mean  that  life  would  be  as  short 
as  that  of  the  ephemeral  winged,  creatures  of 
the  insect  world.  Family  love  cannot  absorb 
us  if  we  wish  to  survive.  We  are  complicated, 
and  our  possibilities  of  social  and  political 
intercourse  are  a  subject  of  endless  interest 
and  inquiry.  Let  us  then  start  again  on  our 
voyages  of  discovery,  this  time  with  a  little 
more  purpose  in  our  method  and  delight  in 
our  hearts. 

Women  want  the  vote,  it  is  true,  but  what 
they  want  more,  and  what  they  are  getting, 
is  strength  to  hammer  through  the  prisons 
which  have  kept  them  for  many  centuries 
packed  away  conveniently  for  use  on  occasion. 
They  are  all  coming  out  into  the  daylight  for 
the  first  time  within  our  memory,  and  now 
the  real  movement  of  life  begins. 

We  want  to  change  public  opinion  about 

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divorce,  contagious  diseases,  and  forethought 
with  regard  to  breeding.  We  want  married 
women  to  recognize  the  various  proportions 
of  sexuality  in  each  sex,  to  make  allowance 
for  the  passionate,  and  to  admit  that  we  are 
greatly  indebted  for  our  culture  to  individuals 
who  do  not  desire  to  be  parents. 

In  conclusion,  all  I  can  say  is,  "  Talk ! 
talk  !  talk  !  "  We  are  more  moved  by  one 
conversation  than  by  many  eloquent  dis- 
courses. After  all,  what  is  so  permanently 
delightful  as  communion  of  ideas  ?  So  once 
again  I  say,  "Go  on  talking  until  the  savage, 
the  barbarian,  and  the  civilized  women  have 
found  out  all  they  can  learn  from  each  other. 
Plenty  of  men  will  be  glad  to  help  them  in  their 
discoveries." 


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"  This  book  ought  certainly  to  make  Mr.  Belfort  Bax  readjust 
his  views  as  to  women's  lack  of  power  to  form  '  an  objective  and 
disinterested  judgment,'  for  a  clearer,  more  moderate  and  more 
precise  presentation  of  the  woman's  point  of  view  than  this  of 
Miss  Murby  it  would  be  difficult  to  find.  To  those  even  who 
differ  from  hev  conclusions  will  come  many  plain  statements  of 
fact  which  will  bear  thinking  over." — T.  P.'s  Weekly. 

"We  have  read  many  books  on  the  woman  suffragist  side, 
but  have  not  met  one  which  is  so  forcibly  and  sensibly  written. 
Miss  Murby  has  the  acuteness  to  see  that  the  voting  is  a  mere 
surface  question,  and  she  examines  the  roots  of  the  problem, 
that  is  the  fundamental  relation  of  women  to  society.  We 
recommend  the  book  for  its  reasonableness  and  good  temper." 

The  Leicester  Pioneer, 

THE  LEGAL  SUBJECTION  OF  MEN.   An 

Answer  to  the  Suffragettes.  By  E.  Belfort  Bax 
and  Another.  Wrapper,  6d.  net.  Quarter  canvas, 
gilt,  is.  net. 

The  Author  in  the  Preface  says : — 

"The  women's  rights  agitator  has  succeeded  in  inducing  a 
credulous  public  to  believe  that  the  female  sex  is  groaning  under 
the  weight  of  the  tyranny  of  man.  The  facts  show  these  indi- 
viduals to  be  right  in  one  point,  namely,  that  sex-injustice  and 
sex-inequality  exist ;  for  the  facts  show  the  said  injustice  and  in- 
equality to  exist  wholly  and  solely  in  favour  of  women  as 
against  men." 

"The  'oppressed'  woman  does  not  appear  so  very  'oppressed' 
in  these  pages.  All  interested  in  the  woman's  suffrage  movement 
should  make  a  point  of  studying  this  excellent  book." 

Dundee  Advertiser. 

SEXUAL  ETHICS.    By  Professor  August  Forel, 
m.d.,  ph.d.,  ll.d.    With  Introduction  by  Dr.  C.  W. 
Saleeby,  f.r.s.  (Edin.).     2nd  edition.     Demy  8vo. 
Stiff  wrapper,  is.  net.     Cloth  gilt,  2s.  net. 

The  present  work  consists  of  an  analysis  of  sexual  morals  as 
they  exist  to-day,  together  with  a  variety  of  constructive  pro- 
posals for  the  future.  It  is  a  book  which  must  be  read  by  every 
social  reformer  who  realises  that  the  first  step  on  the  road  to 
progress  is  the  reconstruction  of  human  morals. 

"The  author  discusses  frankly,  but  scientifically,  and  without 
pruriency,  the  rights  and  wrongs  of  matters  sexual." 

The  Hnddersfield  Worker. 

FRANK  PALMER,  Publisher,    14    Red    Lion    Court, 
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